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Red Pill Theorythrowawaydegar/r/TheRedPill01/09/18 11:10 AM
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Thank you man
/r/askTRP04/01/20 10:48 AM
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Man, I'm glad that you are feeling happier and I hope the growth continues but the idea that me or anyone else should immediately text and end their LTR on your advice so that we can hopefully be more like you is fucking bananas. From reading what you wrote you have a long way to go before anyone should even consider asking you for advice. Bruv, you are in your parents house telling other guys how to live. No thanks man. I really do hope things continue in the right direction for you but careful…
/r/TheRedPill03/12/19 08:44 AM
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I have copied the text from a post I wrote on this topic a few years ago. Find the original thread in my history. There was a lot of discussion in the comments. How do you know you should end it? If you are here reading this hoping it contains any answers then you might already know. If you read the posts here and think you would really like to be out in the world doing this stuff and having your own field report worthy exploits then that is reason enough. That is why I ended it. My relationship…
/r/askTRP02/10/19 12:38 PM
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You say you understand abundance but you don't have it ) haven't experienced it as obviously if you did this wouldn't be a problem. Next ten girls you sleep with impose on yourself that you can't see them again. Go do that. No matter who they are just make that your rule. Then you'll get it.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 11:13 AM
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Fuck me. I mean I know we give women a hard time sometines but this is a post that says, "I am going to buy a pizza and want to fuck her on a couch in this warehouse..... That my dad let's me use for banging girls. What do you guys reckon, is she worth my time?" Imagine being a woman and ending up with this as your dating pool. Fucking abysmal. Also hilarious I suppose Not shitting on you OP it just made me laugh.
/r/askTRP28/06/19 11:29 AM
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I don't think it's insane to quit the gym. Quitting exercise would be insane. You maybe need something new. It sounds like going the gym feels like anothe life chore getting in the way rather than a break or something you enjoy. I get that. I had that with boxing. 15 years. 4 times a week. Fucking done with it. I took a year off and started lifting weights and had a great time. It was fun. I looked forward to it. Now I'm bored of weights and back boxing and started cycling. Mix it up. You need a…
/r/askTRP03/06/19 11:24 AM
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You sound whiney. Not trying to be a dick but I'll bet its nothing to do with how much you weigh. You kind of sound like a bitch. Like, you know what you need to do (workout) but in acknowledging it you also note the excuse for why you can't (work gets in the way). You also talk about how your so successful but can't a get a girl and are fed up. I mean.... Its just not attractive. By all means work on the weights and the gym but I think you need some work on insecurity and self esteem as well. R…
/r/askTRP20/05/19 10:20 AM
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Maintain eye contact with all men. Ignore all the women, it will make them want you. Dont drink. Focus on finances and lifting. F close.
/r/askTRP27/02/19 11:08 AM
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She really wants to fuck you.
/r/MGTOW25/02/19 09:14 PM
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She plated you. Happens. She sounds cool. Move on. It's dead.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/19 03:45 PM
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Hahah christ, bit harsh. He came for help. For op I'd say it doesn't matter if your hobbies are unique but just give a fuck about them. Whatever they are, anything. I've hooked up with girls after talking with passion about stuff that you wouldn't think would work. You just have to care and let her join in. Some examples. B Horror Movies Why Airplane is the funniest film ever made. The Spanish Civil War Stretching and Rehab Frasier (the TV show) Just care about what you are saying. The content i…
/r/askTRP24/02/19 08:35 PM
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Her - What do you do? You - Me? A whole bunch of shit. Taking it easy just now until the next thing starts. You know how it is. Its likely not about the job man. I know one guy who is essentially homeless. Sleeping on couches all week and doing some shifts as a bouncer. Fucking differenent high quality women all the time. He's charming as fuck and makes them laugh. They don't even care what he does.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 06:40 PM
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This
/r/askTRP05/02/19 05:19 PM
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You are in the market for other 19 year olds then.... You might not be again. Think about how you spend the time. Is having shit like this play on your mind to the point where you turn to the Internet for help really the best use of the time? Best of luck.
/r/askTRP05/02/19 05:18 PM
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Mate, long distance and entertaining nonsense like this? What are you doing? What a massive waste of time. Are you young? I don't mean to be dismissive but long distance and dealing with this stupid shit. It's not lasting is it. Get out there.
/r/askTRP05/02/19 04:16 PM
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The word plate is misused a lot. Sounds like you were her plate. She was a girl you were involved with and it meant more to you than her. You were the plate. If she was the plate, you wouldn't know she made out with someone and even if you did know you wouldn't remember it a day or two later. It wouldn't be in your head. You made it all the way to asking the Internet for help. Not trying to be mean here but she plated you. Keep an eye on it and next time think, who is the plate here?
/r/askTRP29/01/19 01:10 PM
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Asking the question? It's already over. Save some time. Get out there.
/r/askTRP16/01/19 03:13 PM
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Nice contribution. Solid words. About a year ago I wrote a fairly lengthy step by step for breaking up with a girl who you actually like. If anyone here is in that boat (seems to be REALLY common) check my post history for "bullet points 2". I would link it..... But honestly, I have no idea how!
/r/TheRedPill28/12/18 02:09 PM
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"this one" I don't follow sorry?
/r/TheRedPill01/09/18 11:28 AM
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Yeah I suspected the Rational Male would be a common answer. Likely what I am looking for but thought to double check. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/18 11:20 AM
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Really enjoying bouncers tales.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/18 03:33 PM
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I agree with everything you say. Your experience sounds exactly like what i wrote about when I posted here. Great work. I say that not just because I agree it and it resonates with me but because I think you phrase just how easy it can be really well.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/18 10:08 AM
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Thank you for saying that. I appreciate you taking the time.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/18 10:39 AM
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I think a lot of what was said here is fair. My take on it. Read the sidebar. Read a few posts filtered by top of all time. Internalise the content. Go out and live. Find out how the world is for yourself. I've no interest in the fan fiction type stories that get told here seemingly non stop or theory posts from people who we don't really know if they are actually doing well. Having said that I still think this is a good jumping off point for going out into the world. So I am thankful for it. Bu…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/18 08:03 AM
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Contiki is essentially a bit orgy. It's great fun. I've had sex with countless backpacking girls from years spent on that scene. A lot of them are open about having boyfriends at home. Yeah, this is over. No doubt about it. Would be better if you could do it before she left. But doesn't matter either way. She isn't coming back to you anyway. Sounds like you moving out whilst she is away will be a relief for both of you.
/r/askTRP23/05/18 01:35 PM
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I waited like a day. Just got started right away. Same age roughly as well.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/18 10:21 AM
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Forget about it man. You won't remember this relationship later on in your life. It won't even count to you. It sees a big deal now, it won't be. Just work on all the stuff you read here for the future.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 11:40 AM
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You say "talking" a lot. Am I right in guessing this is an online thing and you didn't meet in person?
/r/TheRedPill23/04/18 08:19 AM
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Yeah it's a fair comment. But. I don't view these trait as negative. If women leave men because they want to, I'm good with that. Just how they are. If a man leaves a woman because he wants to. Fine. Its not bad. It's not good. It just is. I have zero anger about women. I like them. They are great. So I don't mind if this behaviour reflects some behaviour they do.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/18 08:52 AM
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Your genuine actual real life in the real world advice to ending a 3 year relationship is to ghost?
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 11:50 PM
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Nicely said. Really good. Thanks for that.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 04:07 PM
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Hahhahaha I don't know why people are down voting as I assume you are joking!! Ghosting someone who lives in your apartment is certainly a unique approach!
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 03:09 PM
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Someone saw fit to gold this. Thanks! First time.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 10:53 AM
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Those things make it a bit harder on her but none of them are reasons to stay if you don't want to. As for the guilt. You have nothing to feel guilty about if you are being honest. You can feel sad to see her sad, it would be weird not to. You have nothing to be guilty about though. The opposite. You've done the right hard thing.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 08:33 AM
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I don't mean this in a dismissive way as people round here often do but....... Have you read all the stuff on the sidebar? If not you pretty much have to. Make a day of it. Few hours. Coffee shop. Get through it.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 08:17 AM
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This a thread about breaking up with a girl when you initiate it. So it won't contain answers to things that aren't that. But some of the post break up stuff could perhaps be twisted to fit.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 07:58 AM
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I'd be sad. No I wouldn't, I don't do that. I'd then be fine. No other choice. I'd get on with stuff I wanted to do. Cheating is horrible advice. Good contribution.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 07:57 AM
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Totally. Nothing I say applies to that situation. I would not think this way in a relationship where I had kids. I should have said that really.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 06:48 AM
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OK man, I don't mind. Its all good.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/18 08:02 PM
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Exactly. The first line. What you want. If you are honest about that and act accordingly you can't go wrong.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/18 07:51 PM
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Exactly. To be honest, you did it in one paragraph. I agree completely. Just takes me a shit load longer to say it!
/r/TheRedPill19/04/18 07:50 PM
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If I wanted to, then yeah. Like don't get me wrong. That sounds good. Hopefully I wouldn't want to. But if I did want to then I suppose I would.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/18 07:49 PM
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"I just go blank bro" What does this mean?
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 02:55 PM
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OK. One day though you are going to roll with a dude who is just freak strong on his first class and realise you can't get your normal high % stuff. It happens to everyone. I use to hit triangles a ridiculous amount. I rolled with a new guy and I literally couldn't get my legs together round his fucking traps and he just shrugged everything off. He was some power lifting monster. He had no neck to choke! It's good though. It's good to know it's out there. In the gym that's fun. In a bar or a str…
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 01:16 PM
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Often they are the most dangerous! Sparring with someone my size with good skills I usually do just fine and it's fun. So big fucker on his third class going all out. He might catch me some flailing arms all over the place. Michael Bisping said the exact same thing. He's pretty good and even he feels this way.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 01:09 PM
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I don't train much anymore. I do teach a lot though and I've seen Blue belt confidence in maybe 100+ students. It always makes me cringe. It's part of the journey though. If you stay with mma you will read your post in 5 years time and you wont agree with what you wrote.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 12:47 PM
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The point is its a dangerous way to think. Nobody should get in street fights and the mentality of the post could get someone hurt.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 12:46 PM
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10+ years of Muay Thai over here. The feeling you have can be described as blue belt confidence. Training does not mean you can take people who don't. A dude bigger than you who is just rougher and from a harder place will fuck you up even if he has never been to a fight gym in his life. The most technically skilled person does not always win fights.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/18 08:05 AM
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Woah. Dark. I am here because I heard there was pussy and weight lifting......
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 09:21 AM
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For anyone legit scared of flying read Flying The Easy Way. You can read it in an hour or two and you will be cured when you put the book down. You will t even know why or how. That was my experience.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 10:59 AM
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Do whatever the hell you like man. Good for you. As long as you do the other stuff why not have something that is just for you. It would be easy to say don't mention it to girls but I disagree. Provided you are totally confident and happy with yourself just go for it. Own it completely and you can be into pretty much anything and it be attractive. Talk with passion about something and it will be attractive.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 11:33 AM
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The best I've ever seen is a friend of mine. He just dead pan says, 'I am 6"2' He is 5"6. MAX. I've seen him talking to girls who are being a bit shitty about height and obviously trying to make him feel bad. He goes with, "Yeah must be tough for the little guys. I'm 6"2 though. Tall guys like me have things pretty good." Its hilarious and it works so so well for him as girls normally laugh.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 12:37 PM
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Not sure how else to write it down man and said pretty early on it it was going to be about what I have found useful. Tell me what you do that works, without talking about yourself though? I think you'll find it's impossible.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 08:04 AM
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Hahahahaha ridiculous I've never notice the parallels of what I was saying.... Until now of course. Thanks for that!
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 09:25 PM
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Ah wait. I checked your comment history. I shouldn't have bothered responding. Nothing to see here folks.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 09:12 PM
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I don't know if it's for men who are insecure. I don't feel insecure. I didn't before I lifted. I don't now. No more than anyone else does I'd say. Suggesting people who do things you don't are insecure is maybe a little...... insecure, no? Lift. Don't lift. Whatever you like mate. I've done both. I prefer life with it.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 09:12 PM
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Yeah, agreed a lot of people could save time by reading the sidebar. Not just reading it. Making it internally true. To the point where you don't consider it. It's just fact. The sky is blue. I don't need to remind myself of that. It just is. That's good sidebar aims.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 06:33 PM
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Thanks man, been here the whole time just not posted. I appreciate the words.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 05:53 PM
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You are coaching after 3 years? Is that normal where you are?
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 03:08 PM
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Great post man. This place could use more like this. You recognise what's going on. You seem in a good place. Ride it until the wheels fall off. Don't hate it. It's not bad. It's not good. It just is. Best of luck to you. Update us.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 08:11 PM
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Ah thanks man, I had no idea people were still reading this!
/r/TheRedPill08/02/18 09:06 AM
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Don't follow you. You mean, I AM thinking in terms of changing the world when I'm trying to bang random girls? Honestly bruv, I'm not. Not even a little bit. I don't subscribe to a lot of the redpill stuff about THE WORLD. I've taken the useful stuff about how to have sex a lot. I'll have that. I use that. It works really really well. The rest of it. I'll pass. Not for me. Maybe saying its not for me and not minding if it is for other people and how they do things it is a redpill mindset in acti…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 04:35 PM
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I do take the points but when it comes to random girls I suppose I just am not thinking in terms of changing the world or the politics of it all. If the guy got his outcome then I suppose that is all that matters.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 01:42 PM
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It's not fear. There are lots of things I don't do that I am not afraid of. Im not afraid of smearing shit on my walls but doing it just to show that I'm not scared of it seems silly and gives me something to clean up. I just don't understand how having a girl come over to piss her off and have her leave without fucking her is a victory in a place that talks about sexual strategy. It's being talked about like its a win over all women. Show em who is boss type of thing. But in the real world we l…
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 12:43 PM
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So anyone you disagree with is on their first day or somehow not informed? Come on man. Contribute to what people are saying rather than just typing out a tired trope. There likely isn't a right answer, no one is wrong.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/18 08:50 AM
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Nah man I get it, it's all good. I would not expect everyone to agree all the time. Yeah for sure when just some girl is coming round to drink wine I'm looking to have sex. The power and all that, I'm good.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 09:01 PM
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Yeah it all makes sense. I suppose. Just different. So if I have a girl over to drink wine, I'm trying to bang her. In fact if we are at that point it's almost a given. I've the right to take a phone call, sure. I've the right to do anything l like but I suppose this type of "dread" just isn't my goal so that's why I don't see the point in it.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 05:09 PM
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I personally wouldn't answer my phone for a long conversation if I was sitting drinking with someone (male or female). It just seems kind of rude. Not sure I'm on board with the message here. Not totally sure on what the message is. You had a girl over who left angry. That seems like a fuck up. I mean yeah she came back but a lot wouldn't.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 09:56 AM
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That might be part of your problem right there. Is the boss bad? Does the landlord actually have it out for you? Or have you made up these slights then got angry about them. Its more likely those people are just people like you trying to get through the day. Week. Months. Years. The boss may be shitty at times. He likely is frustrated by someone above him or something out with his control. He likely doesn't like himself when he gets frustrated either. The landlord maybe is just doing what needs …
/r/askTRP17/01/18 04:35 PM
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Mid 30s HB9 Genuinely no idea what that even means.
/r/TheRedPill28/12/17 12:27 PM
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Nice work man. Great summary.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/17 05:19 PM
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I think we agree on that actually but my word choice was poor. I think what you say is better...... And then in turn when will be attracted to it. Good point.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/17 09:08 AM
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It's new mate. I hope it lasts. Took a fair bit of work to get the positive approach but now it's making pretty much everything in life easier so maybe it balances out in terms of effort.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 11:33 AM
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I don't think the length of text is an indication of the hassle. Keep in mind a lot of the text was stuff like clip your nails and don't smell like shit. Have some wine in the fridge. I mean, that's not a big hassle. Someone could stretch a description of oral hygiene and tooth brushing technique into a whole book. Doesn't mean that you stop brushing your teeth, "a whole book! Fuck that, too much effort."
/r/TheRedPill03/11/17 10:33 AM
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Why delete it? Own it. Like I say, it's a success story.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/17 08:48 PM
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The one thing I take away from this post is you've done amazing! 25 and virgin who had never even kissed a girl, realising something is wrong and then fixing it. That's huge. That's bordering on incredible progress. A whole bunch of people never even realise there is something wrong. And a lot of them never even try to fix it. Hardly any of them do. You did it all. Yeah, girls..... Some are hot, some stick around a bit and others don't. Who cares. Your post to me reads as massive celebration of …
/r/TheRedPill31/10/17 07:55 PM
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I wrote that quickly and it maybe didn't do what I was saying justice. What I mean is I find the initial list reductive. So. If someone asked, "how do I get in shape?" Two answers, one more useful than other I hope you agree. Be ripped. Details of a weights program. Dietary advice. Supplements advice and a map to good gyms. They are saying the same thing but one is more likely to lead to success right? I think and hope the initial post was closer to answer 2 than it was 1.
/r/TheRedPill30/10/17 11:30 PM
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I don't know how you took that from what I said. My comment was about your approach rather than the methods. So when someone says to me "have good frame" I think, ok and how do I do that? I don't think all you need is "good frame."
/r/TheRedPill30/10/17 11:11 PM
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If you want takeaways you can't use, absolutely use your list. It will work for not working. Alternatively, using your numbering.... 1 Make yourself as attractive as you can. 2 Do simple things that make sure you aren't seen as unattractive. 3 Take some form of physic exercise and have passions.. 4 Jusy try your best. It's all you can do. Read the stuff and give it a go. Nobody is unbreakable. Everyone fucks up. 5 ???? I don't know, maybe a positive approach? A self believe? Have fun with it. 6 …
/r/TheRedPill30/10/17 08:19 PM
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Hey man, yeah I can see it sounding fanciful. I never expected it to be so easy. That was kind of my whole point of writing the post. It's been so easy it surprised me to the point I wanted to share it. 5 in 5 days is utter nonsense. Agreed. I will say though, not 5 new pickups and sex. Not five first dates. 5 different girls 5 days in a row is what I meant. Some I knew before. Some tinder. Still ridiculous. Ultimately, the words are there. People generally speaking seemed to have liked them but…
/r/TheRedPill18/10/17 07:42 AM
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Exclusive. I won't do open. Few reasons. Types of girls who agree to it are not generally speaking for me. I want a girl who is into me. I'd like her to be unwilling to share. Maybe it's my own hangup but a chick who didn't mind me banging other girls? I won't feel that loved by her. The countries I tend to focus my dating on have what I term old country values. They aren't putting up with that shit. Generalisation of course. I'm not convinced I could deal with it. I'm not just having a relation…
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:28 AM
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I do. But maybe not for reasons that I even anticipated or could ever have expected. I've received a lot of messages from people in relationships. A lot! Too many. It's... Eh Yeah, mental! So I figure I'll write a post on my experience of realising I wanted to end an LTR, ending it, the aftermath and how I feel now after the fact. It won't be advice. I'm not qualified to do that. It will be, "here is some stuff that happened. Maybe it's relevant maybe it tells you what to not do." It will also b…
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:23 AM
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I'm aware I still haven't responded. Weirdly I have received a silly volume of messages asking me how to end an LTR. I did not expect that to be the big takeaway from this post. I thought guys might pop on a new shirt and remember to clip their nails. Now I'm trying to think how to word responses to people in happy relationships that they don't want! What I'm saying is, I have decided to have a go at addressing this in a whole new thread. I'll try and do it soon.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:20 AM
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Healthy carelessness is a great expression! I am getting there. Healthy carelessness is what I want. I can do it when I focus on it. I. E. "remember now, we don't care about this and that's fine. It doesn't affect us. Carry on it's all good." I want to reach it being my immediate response without me needing to remind myself and have the inner dialogue. I'm moving in that direction. It's good. I'll get there. Rejection? Eh. I don't mind that much. I get it. I've met girls I don't want to date. I …
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:17 AM
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No problem. Thanks for reading and for the words.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:10 AM
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I really appreciated your response. Thanks a lot for taking the time to write that.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:10 AM
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Yeah, I could be better at that. I think from time to time I struggle with the shame of just wanting to have sex. I shouldn't feel any! It's fine. I should be OK with being perfectly honest about it but there is a weird guilt associated with it.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 10:09 AM
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Yeah I'd be wary about an unscreened girl from the Internet knowing where I live!
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 03:35 PM
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The racing thing is a nice way of putting it. I think this place had helped me with not fearing the outcome as people are going to do whatever they are going to do anyway. I won't worry about it and I'll be fine either way.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 02:32 PM
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Thanks a lot man that's a really nice thing to say!
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 02:31 PM
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Thanks man. I think I'll spend all my airport time writing something down. It's been fun.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 02:30 PM
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No problem man, I'm glad you enjoyed it. I'm a bit surprised as I kind of wrote it all to pass time on a plane. Quite a few people have read it now which feels odd!
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 02:29 PM
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Thanks for your words. Yeah for a first date with someone I know / I've met I think I would suggest apartment. Never managed it from tinder which is reasonable I suppose!
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 02:28 PM
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From context I gather it is the number of people she has had sex with.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 09:08 AM
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It fucked me up to be totally honest. The actual chlamydia, take 4 pills and forget about it. No symptoms. Something I didn't know I had is now gone. But it led to me developing a bit health anxiety. It made me realise I can get stuff. Like it is possible for me to be sick. I started having ridiculous irrational thoughts about HIV. I'm a straight white male, western world, non drug user, having sex with the middle classes..... I mean I'll be fine. But all that logic was out the window for a litt…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:34 AM
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Or maybe they can sense you really like their look and it comes over somehow. I don't know. Something in it because you are able to pull girls other guys want to but can't.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:24 AM
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Yep. I've spent most of my life the opposite. Long hair. A waist I can get my hands around and sharp features. I'll get scared. She would never want me! Big ass in leggings on the way home from her workout I can talk to her no problem. I'll talk to her as I don't even fancy her really so it's OK. I think it comes from the shame we are all made to feel for sexual attraction. I can't articulate it but I think I know what I mean. Someone else maybe can.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:22 AM
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Oh shit! Well done. I've never tried to make an effort to QUIT as such. I just try and think, should I watch some porn or read a book. I'll try and push for read a book. I don't always manage it though. Fuck man, I like Asian girls and we don't have many in my town so sometimes I get the itch.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:08 AM
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Got you. I try not to as, honestly, not all these women are great! This run has been good granted but don't get me wrong I sleep with average girls as well. More average than great over my whole life. Solid great period just now. But I'd rather fuck a 6 than watch porn. The problem. If I've watched porn, I won't have the motivation to fuck a 6. I'll pass. I like feeling horny so I try not to watch porn.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:06 AM
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I don't follow that refference. Was Don Jon the movie with JGL watching loads of porn?
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:02 AM
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Don't get me wrong sometimes I like nothing more than going to a coffee shop, getting on that sweet sweet WiFi and just texting up a fuckin storm. I class hanging about as a hobby of mine. We can't be superhuman production machines all the time and that's cool. Right now. Sitting with an espresso on that public WiFi typing shit here on my phone and having a lovely time.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 07:57 AM
5

Ah fuck it, if not here then where? I won't be able to help but it might be worth typing it out. I don't understand introversion as I've never felt it. Does it come from a fear of what people will think? Anxiety?
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 07:55 AM
5

So I've got a friend who is about 5'5. He does more work than me. By attrition. He just plays it as a number game and makes jokes about his height. "Some girls say they don't like short guys. Must be tough for them. I'm 6 foot 2." What? "You heard me. I'm 6'2" It makes me laugh every time I hear him telling a girl he is 6'2 with a straight face. Again though, I couldn't possibly offer any advice on it as I just don't know. I've seen him do that though and at the very least it always gets a laugh…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 07:53 AM
6

Yeah it removes the fear of approaching a lot!
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:37 AM
2

Wow, thanks! I really like number 3.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:36 AM
20

Oh I get shit for being skinny everywhere! My friends are big fucking dudes. I catch shit for being little all the time. Its good though, I stopped caring. I just don't enjoy weights and smashing calories so I just decided to not bother. If a girl likes a massive dude who deadlifts a house, she won't like me. That's OK.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:35 AM
5

Good points on the wine. Terrifying point on pregnancy! Thanks man.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:33 AM
2

You're welcome man. I do it at the University night classes. Once a week and I use italki a few times as well to do a lesson online with a Skype tutor.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:32 AM
6

Thanks man, I appreciate the review.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:31 AM
7

I've had 2. Both have been anything but cancerous. Low N counts and great people. Most of my happiest times have been travelling or doing stuff with one of them. Again though, I agree with a lot of what you say in that the bad ones are not worth having.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:31 AM
5

Ending it was one of the hardest things I ever did. But. As soon as I had I felt amazing and knew I had done the right thing. I am getting a flight today. I'll use it to write a fairly lengthy description of the hell I put myself through and how to torture yourself about something that is simple and happens all the time. I'll reply to this comment.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:28 AM
7

That is the idea. I maybe could even think about eating more and doing this lifting I hear so much about.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:26 AM
7

Yeah that was just a silly turn of phrase to illustrate a point.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:25 AM
6

So I recently met a girl in a bar. My phone was dead so she took my number. She text me the next day, Sunday. I message back to arrange to meet her one week later, the next Saturday. That was it. No jokes. No memes. No chatting up a storm all week. I'll message her on about Thursday to confirm plans. For first couple of dates I don't communicate or play about with them when we aren't physically with each other. I also tell them, "I'm terrible at responding. I'm trying to use my phone way less." …
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:25 AM
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Eh yeah but in a fairly average way. I am outgoing but I am not a caricature of confidence and energy.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 05:18 AM
3

I don't know about that but it's certainly nice of you to say it or feel it!
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 10:42 PM
7

Knowing that's a problem might be part for he way to fixing it. At least you know that's an issue. Is there anything you'd like to join or take up that you never have?
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 10:41 PM
5

I've often wondered...... Is mental masturbation a good thing? Never been sure what the phrase means.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 10:03 PM
6

Why not man? What stops you? Like, what part of it causes you stress?
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:56 PM
12

Ah they love it. It's a good way to have a roll around and get physical with a girl at a party as well. I've lost count of the number of girls I've wrestled with in kitchens.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:41 PM
5

Yeah I wish I could but truth be told I didn't always. I think I'll be better in the next one. Maybe if I do that I'll try and document it a bit. Having said that a big part of it is carefully only entering relationships with girls who don't test me too much and whom everything feels easy with. I've had failed relationships. I've never had a BAD one. I've seen good friends live through awful relationships and knew I would never do it.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:37 PM
9

Thanks man. Unfortunately I think I gave too much on my first post. I've nothing left to say! I suppose field reports of dates would be cool as I've enjoyed writing this and going back and forward in the comments with everyone.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:30 PM
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Hahah that might be a regional thing. That's a pretty common way to talk here. Group Chat. "Out for a few beers later. Who is keen?" "Keen for sparring at 2pm?"
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:25 PM
10

Yeah judo is always full of tough dudes. Judo and wrestling. Two of the toughest sports you can do. You are bound to end up hanging out with animals at either of those activities.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:21 PM
6

Man, if I knew how to answer that i would. It's the part I struggle with most as well. I think its the toughest bit for everyone. I struggle to answer as it feels like no two are the same. I have no plan. I suppose the best way to put it is I make the most of every opportunity and I say yes to invites. If people invite me somewhere its very likely I'll be there. I go to shit that I don't even like the sound of just to see what happens when I get there. Want to come to a 3 hour talk on the histor…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:20 PM
12

It doesn't feel big. It feels like, "I can get laid now pretty much when I want." (not with whoever I want! But on any given week I could have sex pretty easily.) Who cares? But I realise the real win now is the "who cares?" I've been chasing the, who cares, I just didn't know it. I genuinely hope and think if I can do it anyone can. I've been dealt an average hand and played it well enough. Really possible for most people with not huge amounts of effort.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:15 PM
6

But I should say I want it to be as good as it possibly can be for the ones that are here. It's helped me immeasurably.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:12 PM
6

That's a good point. A lot of the girls I meet tell me about their guy "friends" who are in love with them. I like this community the size it is. I don't want all guys knowing this shit as then I'll have to adapt and do something different to stand out.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:11 PM
11

Thanks a lot man. I hear that a lot about American girls. I've only been to the US once and I found it the easiest place to have sex with strangers. Like I found them all quite outgoing. One of the few places I've been where girls do the approaching and it's obvious they are looking to fuck. I'm from quite a reserved place though so the contrast was noticeable. I was also visiting and on holiday so I accept that's not a good indicator of day to day life.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:08 PM
4

That's been a huge step for me. It's freeing.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 09:02 PM
14

Martial arts. Take up Muay Thai or BJJ. Ignore all the social weirdos that martial arts attracts and just start trying to train an hang out with the gyms main guys. You'll quickly have a friend group of manly guys who will know women etc. That's always my go to when I'm somewhere new.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 08:58 PM
13

Studied here. Work here. Train here. So yeah pretty much everything I do is here. I travel a lot as well. 6+ times a year so meet loads of people that way as well.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 08:56 PM
18

Thanks man, appreciate the comment.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 08:15 PM
60

Yeah, I think the be an asshole thing comes from if you can pull off the playful asshole with teasing and shit. Being straight up unpleasant isn't the way I want to live.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 08:15 PM
14

Haha! Yep, had that thought many times!
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 07:30 PM
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Agreed. I will say though, I like women. I like them a lot. Girls are great. I don't subscribe to the whole thing of never have an LTR etc. Some of the best times in my life have been spent in love with someone who loved me too. But, no relationship and no girl is way better than the wrong one or a toxic one. Playstation is better than a shitty relationship. The right one is great though.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 07:27 PM
26

Yeah man, it's one of the best realisations I've ever had. Asking out the type of girls I like and finding out sometimes they say yes was huge. Or more, learning yes was an option.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 07:24 PM
60

No insight as such man. But I can tell you about the last good one I met and maybe you can take something from that. Girl from an eastern European country. I was drunk off my face. Rarely am I drunk and out in bars but this night I was. I was high energy drunk and saw her walk past me. She was exactly my type so I said........ "Well you look foreign as shit, what are you?" I am not suggesting this as a line or course of action to take! But we ended up talking from that and by chance I know a fai…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 07:16 PM
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Thanks man, yeah I did worry it could be a bit braggy but to be honest most of it is stuff from this very community.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 06:57 PM
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Yeah, cooking is an excellent addition. Cook something simple but slightly out the ordinary. I cook a fish dish I learned in Thailand. Easiest thing in the world to do but is different and adds to the fantasy she builds in her head. Get your own place man. I often wonder, "have I actually got better at all this or do I just have my own place now." Total game changed.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 06:56 PM
60

Thank you. Appreciate the kind words.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 06:50 PM
82

Thanks man, that's a nice thing to read.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/17 06:50 PM
20

I've been doing Muay Thai for about 15 years and fought pro bouts in a number of different countries. I coach now....... I don't relate to feeling like I can beat up a drunk ass hole in a bar. He might be tough as shit. I know enough to know that you never know. Careful with feeling that way. It might get you fucked up. I say that with all the love in the world. Not to put you down but to hopefully help you avoid a dangerous mentality that some folks who do martial arts get.
/r/TheRedPill29/09/17 02:02 PM
1

I don't know man. I mean this to come from a place of trying to help but......even I am getting vibes from you man so God only knows what women are picking up on. I'd be willing to bet you might be coming over as creepy or super fucking needy. Post some text screens? Again, really, not trying to be dick and I may be well off the mark. But I got a definite weird vibe. Might just be the way you write or something.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 02:58 PM
5

One more. I won't iron shirts. I'll say I'm going to. I won't. It's a hassle. Who has that time. Shirts don't go with regular laundry. Seperate basket. When it's full-ish whole basket goes over the road to a dry cleaner for washing and pressing. Do 10 at a time. Usually a discount for every 5 shirts. Do this. You won't iron. It doesn't cost much. In fact depending on your hourly rate you might be at a loss by doing it yourself. Always being in a pressed shirt? Again, better looking and I did not…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 08:05 AM
2

ASOS I just bought 10 plain colour t shirts. I don't know how much it was but, not much. The fact it's a cost I've not remembered tells you what you need to know really.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 07:55 AM
1

Essentially. I'm surprised how often people need to remember. Shit, I do dumb/sloppy shit sometimes out of laziness and always regret it.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 07:55 AM
1

Always. I notice when a girl smells good, makes sense it would be the same. Plus men are fucking horrible. If women use stuff to smell better men for sure should.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 07:54 AM
1

Nope, its free. Order comes with a pre paid bag and shipping label for returns. Just fill out the form shove it in the bag and carry on with your day.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/17 07:53 AM
2

Yeah fair. That works too. Do SOMETHING is the point and make it routine. Everyday.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 11:44 PM
20

I'll add regular haircuts to that list. Don't wait until it looks shitty to get it cut. Go do it before that point just make it part of your schedule. Maintain rather than fix.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 11:43 PM
3

I just do electric trimmer all over. Take time. Do it proper. Them shave neck and above beard line with a wet normal razor. Or if I have something to go to like a wedding, weekend away or holiday or something I'll go to a Turkish barber. We have 1000s in this country and get them to sort it for cheap.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 11:42 PM
6

I tend to do ASOS. Because I can but a whole new wardrobe for not THAT much money. Stuff being new and fitting do right is better than a brand. ASOS also have easy returns so buy in bulk. Try it all send back stuff you don't want to keep. Seriously, throw out old t shirts and go buy a bunch of multi pack plain t shirts. Tiny step. Simple. You look better.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 11:39 PM
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Good post. I like this a lot and thought to post something similar. Just real basic stuff you can do that takes very little effort. Some stuff I'll add that makes a surprisingly big difference or compliments stuff you've already brought up. I hate shopping so I do it all online. Shop whilst looking at the blogs and Instagram accounts. The fit is as important as the clothes so order lots and send back what doesn't work. Iron your shirt. For real. Iron it. You think people don't notice. They do. O…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/17 05:04 PM
1

S'wrong
/r/seduction08/02/17 01:00 PM
5

Older guys (25+) HEY MAN! What the hell?
/r/TheRedPill08/02/17 10:50 AM
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