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Tsvanya/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:25 AM
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I think the advantages and disadvantages roughly balance out, and the only thing left is the gender imbalance in your demographic. My community is super nerdy STEM people, so the gender imbalance is in my favor. In the wider college educated community women outnumber men, so men have the advantage. I don’t know enough about other communities to say either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:18 AM
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I don’t remember how to do it anymore, but I remember taking a class where I was taught to calculate the median the college level way, and it’s more complicated than just taking the mean of the two middle numbers like I was taught to in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:07 AM
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Fun_Push7168 is right. They also have good approximations of what percent of people lie on surveys of various types and work that into the margin of error. These results are way too significant to be substantially influenced by people lying. I’m not a statistician, so mostly what I know is that they spend a lot of time thinking about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:56 AM
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Comparing this to guns is inaccurate because there are so few virgins in that age bracket and so many people who don’t own guns. The CDC also found that in the first 5 years of that age bracket less than 5% of men and women are virgins, and in the later parts of the age bracket it’s down to 0.3%
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:42 AM
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Thanks! It is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:30 AM
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If there are two numbers in the middle you find a number in the middle of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 09:08 AM
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That's a really good point. It's very hard for women to achieve an orgasm. So many women have never had one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:56 AM
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But so few people have had sex with enough people for that to matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:52 AM
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Oh yeah I see how that might skew the data. I wonder how many of these men are having sex with prostitutes or just having casual sex. That shouldn't matter too much for the vast majority of us trying to find a partner. should we really be jealous of people with more than 15 sexual partners? A lot of those people probably have commitment issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:49 AM
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Why do you say 40% of males aren't able to reproduce? According to this AP article only a quarter don't have children by the time they are in their 40s. This is more similar to the 15% of women who have never had children in their 40s according to this Statista data. https://archives.stgeorgeutah.com/news/archive/2019/06/16/apc-census-reveals-percentage-of-us-men-who-are-fathers/#.YvtWhnbMI2w https://www.statista.com/statistics/241535/percentage-of-childless-women-in-the-us-by-age/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:38 AM
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People are making a great point that the study omitted virgins, but I'm not sure they are common enough to make a difference according to this article in The Atlantic. "The CDC also reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25 to 29 and goes as low as 0.3 percent for virgins ages 40 to 44." https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/on-late-in-life-virginity-loss/28…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:20 AM
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But how is that possible when it's median not mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:14 AM
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Oh that's a great point! Sorry I didn't notice that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 08:12 AM
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Studies can certainly be wrong, but someone who dismisses one by one of the most reputable sources as meaningless without even looking at their methodology to figure out if they made a mistake is less trustworthy than studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:59 AM
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Oh wow interesting! I've started to learn that there are people like that. Personally finding my soulmate and building a life together is by far one of my most important goals in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:54 AM
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In my community they do, but apparently they don't on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:50 AM
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The ways have a lot of flaws though, so it's a good thing to wonder about!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:49 AM
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I've talked with the people that design these kind of surveys, and they know some people lie on them. They have ways of working around that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:40 AM
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Also it's median, not mean, so we don't have to worry about a few men skewing the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:38 AM
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It's always possible a study is wrong, but the the CDC is one of the most reputable sources out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:37 AM
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Having more sexual partners was essential for finding out what I like. I've had 4 and will be a much better girlfriend to my next boyfriend because I've had this experience. I know what I'm interested in, and what I'm willing to compromise on. Being comfortable with sex also gave me the confidence to be bold in ways that men really seem to like. I wasn't inventive with my first couple boyfriends. I was just figuring things out. Normally I don't use anecdotes, but I thought this would humanize th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:12 AM
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I don't consider human mating to ultimately be about procreation, so maybe that's why our perspectives are so different. I'm not sure if I want a child. I can't have kids biologically (I would do adoption or surrogacy), so I never felt genetics mattered much. I consider mating to be about having a life-giving partner that helps you achieve your goals, whether that be career, children, or whatever else you two want. I googled that and thanks there is definitely research that has found what you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:55 AM
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That sounds so tough that it might not be worth it. I'm still avoiding dating to focus on my career. It's very difficult to stop myself from dating, so I use porn, romantic movies, etc to keep those urges from interfering with my life. But it does sound like a good plan for when I'm finally ready to date, so thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:45 AM
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Yeah but it shouldn't be a deal breaker. Out of all the weaknesses someone can have, I know intellectually that I may end up having to settle for worse ones if I don't fix this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:38 AM
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Can you share the source of these statistics? Also, I haven't heard about men having to pay child support even when they aren't the father. That sounds awful! Can you share the source on that? I really think that you're underestimating the emotional toll of the betrayal that applies to both genders when someone is cheated on, and the frequency of men abandoning their families after a divorce (an example of how being cheated on is often worse for women). Do you really care that much about passing…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:30 AM
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This has not at all been my experience or the experience of any woman I know. Relationships take a lot of skill and effort no matter your gender. It's frankly insulting to all the hard work we have to do to dismiss it like that. Furthermore, libido is not a finite resource that gets used up. In fact more experience can often make a woman have more libido because she knows more about what she likes and is more confident. It sounds like dating has been a frustrating experience for you. I'm really …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:11 AM
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How do you know that's a good way of predicting fidelity? Naively I would have expected someone who dated more was more experienced with relationships and therefore be more likely to be faithful. They would likely have built better communication skills and have tried out enough different things that they could be sure who they settled down with was the right one. Also, why do you feel that infidelity has a higher cost to men than to women? Infidelity is so awful on so many levels that the one as…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:38 AM
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Can you share the source for that? Is the same true for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:26 AM
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I get that we have imperfections like that leftover from evolution, but I always considered it a flaw that we should be working on. Is that how you feel, or do you still see value in these standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:19 AM
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What is the purpose of these standards? Why do you consider them valuable?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:16 AM
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If we just wanted sex sure, but that's rarely what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:10 AM
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Is there a double standard where it's considered bad for women to have had a lot of partners but less bad for men to? Why isn't more experience considered a good thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:58 AM
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I don't know enough about the community to answer that (I just joined a few hours ago), but great question!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:51 AM
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What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:48 AM
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I refuse to give up! The most success I've had is in forming deep in person friendships with normal looking guys. I think about the things I like about them. I haven't made the progress I want, but I've made some.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:36 AM
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I appreciate the compliment! but I'm still taking a break from dating to focus on my career. I don't picture myself dating again for another couple years. Also, u/cruciod what do you dislike about me?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:27 AM
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For my age bracket (30-34) a BMI of 24.9 is the 27th percentile in the US. https://dqydj.com/bmi-distribution-by-age-calculator-for-the-united-states/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:09 AM
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The media is so toxic. I used to be fine dating overweight guys, but then I took some years off dating because it was hard balancing my career with a disability. During that time I only thought significantly about sexuality in the context of the unfair male beauty standards presented in the media. Now I find myself no longer capable of being attracted to average looking guys. How do I fix this? Currently my strategy is to improve myself so I have more options on the dating market, but I'd much r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:51 AM
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Why do people consider it a bad thing if a woman has had a lot of partners? For me the more partners a man has had before me the better: It means he has more experience that I can benefit from. Do people apply different standards to men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:29 AM
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It's really awful that people don't work as hard to reduce unfair male beauty standards as they do those on women. They are just as toxic. I took several years off dating to focus on my career, and the media is so terrible about promoting unrealistic male beauty standards that only thinking of sexuality in that context has really increased the value I place on men's looks :( I don't even know how to fix it, so I'm upping my looks game to be a better candidate for the kind of guys I'm into now in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:54 AM
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A loving husband hands down. I'm an engineering college student and was previously an HVAC technician so I can take care of myself money-wise. A loving relationship is priceless. Even if money is more your goal, a great relationship makes it so much easier to be successful at work. Edit: wait, is it true that this is an arranged marriage? That's super creepy. Of course I'd take the money then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:32 AM
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