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Weekly OYS #14 Stats: Mid 40s, 173.2 lb, 21.0% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 5x175lb, SQ: 5x220lb, DL: 5x230lb, OH:4x120lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Health & Diet Down two pounds this week. I’ve been tracking calories which is helpful for me to gauge my diet and getting back to a more limited diet. Daily morning cold showers are a staple. Sleep has been a bit lowered the last few days but was generally solid this week. Action Item: Cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/25 12:31 AM
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No. My guess is there is validation seeking or approval seeking underneath it. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/25 09:41 PM
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Weekly OYS #13 Stats: Mid 40s, 175.2 lb, 21.3% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 4x175lb, SQ: 5x200lb, DL: 5x225lb, OH:4x120lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Health & Diet My weight hasn't changed much the past two weeks. I'm hovering around 175lbs. My next goal here is under 170lbs. Two things need to change - more exercise / cardio and calorie tracking. My sleep has been a bit better. Setting a goal to be in bed by 10:30pm isn't working for me…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 03:38 PM
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went back to being a puppy Yep. I see that now. That’s what I thought you meant but wanted to be sure. I am working on using that anger for a DNGAF attitude. I will give that “my game” attitude a go too.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/25 07:10 PM
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Thanks. A useful outcome of the anger phase. I read that post before but it resonates more now and feels like I'm just getting into this phase.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/25 10:48 PM
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I gotta agree with the committee thing; don't do it. Some dumbass will run his mouth to his wife and it will get back to your wife. Do your own thinking and don't say shit, you need to learn to deal with this on your own. Why? because you are all alone in this. the number of times i thought about talking to a friend, and it still pops up, but i sure a fuck don't do it. You won't gain anything from it. I have a few a good buddies that I would trust to keep their mouth shut. Different cities, my f…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/25 10:42 PM
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why punish her for doing what you wanted. Hmm.. I'm not sure I understand this. Are you referring to me punishing her by giving her love and affection? That's the problem, you think it's your job to "woo" her, she doesn't want to be woo'd she wants to fuck a valuable man Yea. I'm still building that mental frame. It helps being at a point where I'm questioning the relationship to stop being so up in her frame to think that I need to "woo her". https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6og…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/25 10:24 PM
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Are you a communist and you need the committee to approve your breakup? Usually here is it’s codependency but ive never seen discussing with friends. I was planning to reach out to discuss logistics of "how" more than "should I". But, a few days later, I realize that I am still in the deciding phase. Oh and you have home ownership throple? Yes - bought with a friend who lives in a separate suite as home prices here are through the rough. 2/3 me and my woman and 1/3 friend. I can’t even form the …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/25 09:57 PM
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Weekly OYS #12 Stats: Mid 40s, 175.8 lb, 21.3% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 4x175lb, SQ: 5x200lb, DL: 5x220lb, OH:5x115lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Health & Diet I loosened my diet restrictions this past weekend and introduced corn, dairy, potatoes, etc and I’ve felt bloated and gained a few pounds this week. Sleep was a little bit on the shorter side 6-7 hours a night. Action Items: In bed by 10:30pm on work nights. Exercise Gym 3 tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 03:57 PM
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I'm starting to spend time wondering if I should continue to be with this woman. I do think there is still some work for me to become less beta that I know would just rear it's ugly head again in my next relationship. Start doing more for you separate from her, friends, family, work etc This is familiar theme and what I need to be doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 04:26 PM
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She's resisting sex, and you want to woo her? First problem. It's become a chase and you give your power away. I actually don't want to woo her. But my hamster was wondering if it's an approach to "initiating". I won't be doing any wooing this week. Focus on your desires for a bit, and grind. Do fun shit, bring her along. This is where my focus needs to be. Last week u/Ambitious_Buddy_6723 said to me Hopefully you are starting to see yourself as a valuable man who is worthy of pursuing what he w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 03:41 PM
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Weekly OYS #11 Stats: Mid 40s, 173.2 lb, 21.3% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 5x170lb, SQ: 5x205lb, DL: 5x210lb, OH:4x110lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG, Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Health & Diet A daily cold shower first thing is good for me and back at it everyday. Eating decent through the week and I gave myself one cheat meal which was pizza. A friend asked if I lost more weight (he had seen me since I lost ~14 pounds. I’ve been stable at 172 - 173lbs. I would lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 05:51 PM
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I appreciate the reflection here. I'll continue to sometimes add a "social" category to my OYS to track my social activities and it's useful to read back and see that I'm often just going through the motions here. It feels like a reflection of my mental home life state. I'm going to choose to not take action here right now and I'm okay with a limited energy on external social life. I rather direct any external energy outwards towards joy and fun (which may include socializing but not have social…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 02:56 PM
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when you least want to do something is when you most need to do it. Don't negotiate with yourself, just fucking do it. I agree and when I have the right mindset it's easier to. I started sliding and it got easier to choose the comfort path. It happened very insidiously and I've shifted it. A morning cold shower helps remind me to take the harder and better path. not a fan of this. Why? because you have to learn to stand on your own two feet and self soothe. 99% of the time accountability groups …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 11:50 PM
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Dropping a hammer over and over again is not gonna do you good if you don't understand the technique. I appreciate that idea and I think there is benefit for me to "just initiate" and get out of my head with it. My woman is overwhelmed in general and feels guilty about her lack of sexual response and sexual desire. I have found myself catering to her emotions by not initiating so she doesn't get upset. Or I don't initiate because I'm scared of dealing with negative emotions. Then go socialize, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/25 11:26 PM
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Weekly OYS #10 Stats: Mid 40s, 172.4 lb, 21.3% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 5x170lb, SQ: 5x205lb, DL: 5x210lb, OH:4x110lb Books: WISNIFG (reading), NMMG, Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, PFP Health & Diet My weight has been pretty stable +-2 pounds the last few weeks. I’m still on a restrictive diet and it’s getting easier for me. My energy and vitality has been slowly returning after my system was kicked inside out with my candida cleanse. I’ve just started bringing back cold showers in…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/25 09:17 PM
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Weekly OYS #9 Stats: Mid 40s, 175.6 lb, 21.9% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 5x160lb, SQ: 5x195lb, DL: 5x195lb, OH:5x100lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG, Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Health & Diet I was out of town with my partner for the last 6 days last week and staying with my parents. We didn’t have access to a kitchen or a stove as the kitchen was being renovated. It was also my first time eating out in 7 weeks. Overall, I stuck to my diet pretty damn good. Burgers…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 03:34 PM
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The answer is clearly more sex will help get rid of it. Yet, I have resistance to it because it's easier to ignore it than deal with it. I find myself wanting try and list reasons out and justifications but I think ultimately, I'm just scared of any unpleasant feelings that may come up.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 06:35 PM
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It’s mostly I haven’t felt like it. There is less of a fear of rejection / I only initiate when I think it will be safe and more of sex has some legacy baggage that I don’t want to deal with. Coupled with my sex drive has been low and my mood has been low. This feels quite hamster-y to me. I do feel like I am recalibrating on many fronts so I am just letting it be. Thanks for the piece where you went through something similar. Definitely questioning life a bit but trying to not get lost in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 09:42 PM
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Weekly OYS #8 Stats: Mid 40s, 174.2 lb, 21.9% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Lifts: BP: 5x165lb, SQ: 5x175lb, DL: 5x185lb, OH:4x95lb Reading: WISNIFG Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Two weeks since my last OYS. Health & Diet I’m in a lowered state after completing a 6 week candida cleanse. I’m in a period of rebuilding my system. I was experiencing a crash (fatigue and brain fog) right before meals if I delayed my meal by even 30 mins. This was happening for the past few…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 08:22 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'm heading back to the guide and starting from the beginning and will be focusing on the basics: Read, STFU, Lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 06:03 PM
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Weekly OYS #7 Stats: Mid 40s, 176.2 lb, 21.9% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Recent Max Lifts: BP: 5x175lb, SQ: 5x225lb, DL: 5x220lb, OH:4x125lbDeloaded Working Sets: BP: 165lb, SQ: 215 lb, DL: 200 lb, OH: 105lb Reading: TWOTSM, Praxeology: Dread Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Female Psychology Two weeks since my last OYS. Health & Diet I’m 4 of 6 weeks into my candida cleanse. I’ve got sick (detox symptoms) these past two weeks and it seems to be lingering. Developed a cough, brain fog,…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 06:42 PM
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Stfu, lift and sidebar. Will read some anger posts. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 01:52 AM
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Weekly OYS #6 Stats: Mid 40s, 176.8 lb, 21.9% BF, 5’10”, 3yrs w/ 40sF Recent Max Lifts: BP: 5x175lb, SQ: 5x225lb, DL: 5x220lb, OH:4x125lb Deloaded Working Sets: BP: 160lb, SQ: 205 lb, DL: 195 lb, OH: 95lb Reading: TWOTSM, Female Psychology, Praxeology: Dread Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male Diet & Exercise: 2.5 of 6 weeks into my candida cleanse. Feels like I’m in the grind phase of this now. I’m usually hungry in the evenings if I have a low carb dinner. Weights coming down which is…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 04:28 AM
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> If you want help from people here, don't (knowingly) waste our time. This was my big take-away from your first comment. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 06:31 PM
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> What makes you stay in an LTR with a woman you don't want to have sex with? I feel like I'm generally re-wiring my relationship with sex right now: Killing that part of me that seeks validation through sex, eliminating how much I let fantasy and porn fuel my own sex drive, reconnecting with my primal sex drive. As for me not wanting to have sex with her, there is a lot going on for me that I'm sorting that I mentioned above. I do find her attractive - she isn't a whale. We do have some baggage…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 06:27 PM
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I hear you about the length and the benefit of distilling. I will do so for the future. It was a benefit to me to write all this out as a way to review my thoughts and process but it was a pain to post and I don't need to show all my work.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 07:20 PM
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Candida cleanse are bullshit. Been got by a grifter When I first mentioned I would be doing a Candida cleanse and a food sensitivity test I got similar feedback. I had already completed the tests and bought the pills. I'll see how I feel after I finish. So far, my energy this week is feeling good and strong. Better than before. Hard to map causation to correlation though. Before you hamster yourself in circles here just pick a direction you want go and start heading that way. Thanks. Having a mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 06:37 PM
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[3 of 3] Lazy and lacking initiative The opposite of this for me is to be driven towards my purpose and mission / vision. This shows up as me being a bit dull and not excited about the items I’m doing.. I’m doing shit because it needs doing and not having a sense of excitement about it. I’ve been lately focusing on improving myself (diet, exercise, mental work here) and keeping that as my focus but I need something else and bigger. My step here: Review the sub for mission / vision / purpose info…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 09:20 PM
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[2 OF 3] Mental: I’m noticing I’m starting to feel lighter and not as reactive towards my partner. I’m giving less fucks about her mood and her being upset about little shit. Instead I’ve been being playful and joking. After writing this I noticed that there is a part of me that is still looking for her to laugh and I have a covert contract that I am doing this to shift her mood. I’ll work on letting that go and just doing it because I want to and I don’t care. u/FutileFighter asked me some ques…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 09:17 PM
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Weekly OYS #5 Stats: 44 yrs, 178 lb, 23.5% BF, 5’10”. 3yr LTR w/ 40F Lifts: BP: 5x175lb, SQ: 5x225lb, DL: 5x220lb, OH:4x125lb (currently less as I just deloaded 20% due to detox and a week off) Reading: TWOTSM, Female Psychology Read: NMMG,Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, It’s been two weeks since my last OYS. Diet: I started my Candida cleanse a week and a half ago. I also removed any items that were on my food sensitivity list. Mainly: eggs, brazil nuts, potatoes, rice, diary. Eggs are the o…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 09:14 PM
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u/FutileFighter pointed it out to me in my last OYS that it was weak to make sexual jokes. Relevant post for me - thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/25 05:15 AM
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Weekly OYS #4 Stats: 44 yrs, 181lb, 24% BF, 5’10”. 3yr LTR w/ 40F Lifts: BP: 5x170lb, SQ: 5x220lb, DL: 5x220lb, OH:4x125lb Reading: NMMG, Rian Stone YT, MRP, AskMRP Read: Praxeology: Frame, Rationale Male, Lifting & Sleep: 3 workouts this past week (1 lifting, 1 HIIT, 1 home cardio style) HIIT class was fun - with some guys I know and it kicked my butt good. Doing different exercises with a focus on a single side at a time was good for adaptation. My normal movement patterns are barbell only. My…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 04:58 AM
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CarboHYDRATE I had a chuckle at that. I nodded my head to all your points. I feel like I've (accidentally, without awareness) built this container that has allowed her to be sensitive and shutdown. I can reshape it what I want and have her adapt to fit and fill it or not in which case it's not the container for her. Ownership & Direction needs some work for me. I'm pretty good at accountability, and have decent discipline for action. I don't feel any stronger or fitter than when I started a few …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 04:49 AM
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Thanks for these points. I didn't know carbs cause you to retain water. I'm not low carb specific but targeting overall calories and protein specifically. Yea - I can see that jokes are weak and without confidence especially compared to the that direct masculine sexual energy. Quality of sex is your responsibility Yes - I can feel that and we have some baggage in our sex that I want to shift and break through but I don't yet have the frame / sexual energy. I don't think she is actively negative …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/25 05:45 PM
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Weekly OYS #3 Stats: 44 yrs, 183lb, 24% BF, 5’10”. 3yr LTR w/ 40F Lifts: BP: 4x170lb, SQ: 5x215lb, DL: 5x215lb, OH:4x125lb Reading: NMMG, Praxeology: Frame, Rian Stone YT, MRP, AskMRP Read: Rationale Male, Physical: Hitting the gym 3x a week. This is a non-negotiable for me. My mind doesn’t even consider not going. I’m starting to break new ground and hitting some new PRs and getting close to my PRs for all my lifts Still dealing with arm / shoulder issues after a wonky low bar placement in squa…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 05:32 PM
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> She likes things clean... why the fuck are you discussing it and negotiating? I originally wrote a bunch of DEER shit... I don't have a great reason for why other than it's how we have communicated about issues in the past. Although, that approach hasn't been working. I'm gonna let this sink in while practice some STFU. but I think it's because I'm trying to change her instead of me. > Duty sex is passively submitting Yea. It's where I am at. I am taking it as an improvement over a rejection. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 05:28 PM
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> PSA: these are voodoo nonsense. Guessing it was an igg test? If your doctor sold this to you without warning you its stupid, it's a bad sign. Find a new doctor. Good to know. It was a naturopath. Double checking the type of sensitivity test but I'm guessing it was an igg one. I've been questioning the accuracy of the results.. > This is nonsense too but the diet might make you lose some weight, so go for it. That's one benefit I'm looking for from that diet. > Read "no more mr. Nice guy" now. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 05:16 PM
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I am the fucking problem. Thanks for the hits. It took a few to get that through. I resisted the idea that I'm the problem. It's all my fault. There was (still is?) a victim part of me that doesn't want to take complete responsibility. Today, I feel that 'I am the problem' as a source of strength because I can fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 04:59 PM
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>She doesn't have any sexual energy *with you*. Agreed. I'm working on changing myself. I also see myself as the type of man that will support my "crew" in improving themselves. I don't see this as dramatically different than helping her with a gym plan and motivation. I'm definitely seeing the reflection and message of it being as negotiating desire and talking about sex. I'll be reflecting on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:30 PM
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How did you know we are meeting weekly? It's at 11am though because it better aligns with the stars.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 03:43 PM
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That is the exact thing that drove me back to RP. I tried to initiate and got rejected. Luckily I made the connection that it was because she didn't desire me. It was a rough wake-up call. I don't think I'm trying to negotiate desire here. I'm working on her to rebuild her sexual energy. She has a whole shit show going on with dental work right now and she is in pain, closed up, etc. I suppose I do have a slight covert contract / expectation that if she opens up her sexual energy that she'll sha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 03:38 PM
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Weekly OYS #2 Stats: 44 yrs, 184lb, 24% BF, 5’10”. LTR w/ 40F Lifts: BP: 5x160lb, SQ: 5x185lb, DL: 5x200lb, OH:4x120lb Reading: Praxeology: Frame, Rian Stone YT, MRP, AskMRP Read: Rationale Male, I was rule 9 banned for my first OYS on Dec 3rd. That was a hit to my ego but useful. I tried to post a week or so ago and was unable to then. Physical: Gym 3x a week. Getting close to my all time PRs for several lifts. Dealing w/ shoulder / arm injury that is flaring up with heavier weights on my squat…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 07:37 AM
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OYS #0 Stats: 44 yrs, 186lb, Dating 40F for 3 years, no kids (planning) Lifts: (Estimated starting weight) BP: 115lb, SQ: 135lb, DL: 135lb, OH: 75lb Been away from the gym for a few years. Background: Learned of MRP years ago but never internalized it / did the work. At that time, it helped give me the balls to get out of a LTR. About a week ago after initiating and getting turned down I realized she doesn’t desire me. Also admitted to myself that I’ve been unhappy, co-dependent, and in her fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:18 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: 44 yrs, 186 lb, Dating 40F for 3 years, no kids (planning) Lifts: BP: 115 lb, SQ: 115 lb, DL: 135 lb, OH: 75 lb (restarting after a few years) Reading: Rationale Male, MRP, askMRP. Physical: Last week was my first week exercising intensely in a while and my body is sore. Great to be in the gym and surprised at how sore I was after a light squat; sore to the touch. Feels good to workout. Tweaked my back / hip overdoing it at dodge ball and competition with the guys this weekend but …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:17 PM
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Weekly OYS #1 Stats: 44 yrs, 186lb, Dating 40F for 3 years, no kids (planning) Lifts: BP: 115lb, SQ: 135lb, DL: 135lb, OH: 75lb. (Estimated starting weight as I've been away from the gym for a few years.) Background: Learned of MRP years ago but never internalized it / did the work. At that time, it helped give me the balls to get out of a LTR. About a week ago after initiating and getting turned down I realized she doesn’t desire me. Also admitted to myself that I’ve been unhappy, co-dependent,…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/24 05:30 AM
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