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That makes sense, but for the people who see leagues as a way to “rise or climb” like men it might be healthier for them or some of them to think of it like that. If there are “levels to this shit” that means a man can try to find things to get to the next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 12:15 AM
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Yes sadly agree women just think he can change but so do men tbh with women too its sad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:05 AM
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OP what your missing is that this isn't women specific. Even in video gaming this is seen people in general have issues with accountability. Your honing on women but what about men who choose known cheaters because they are hot, or toxic women because they are hot, or men who let themselves go in a marriage because “I married her and provide she should like me as enough now” This goes both ways. Yes its true some women make horrible choices with men BUT I bet if you track that you will find that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:03 AM
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LOL what? Literally only 15%-25% of men actually work out and exercise regularly in the us and prob less have a decent physique literally getting decently muscular is at minimum top 20% which is all you need to make most women give you a shot lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 04:40 AM
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Because only 20% of people in the us have a gym membership and plenty don’t even use it. That means being fit puts you in top 15% of men lmao it’s so broken and most men don’t abuse it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:07 AM
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Bro I think most people realize that at this point. The bar is in hell all women want is a nice body at least to get in the door lmao why do we guys get upset over this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:05 AM
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this is horrible advice lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 06:14 PM
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yep men have it on easy mode they just are not competent enough to realize it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:54 PM
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i agree with your take but women have the same demands in other ways, as men we should be happy the bar is so low, literally work out and women will view you as a higher tier or value guy despite what you offer that’s pretty impressive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:45 PM
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idk if therapy will help him people like this need to feel control over their life, i would just say go to the gym consistently
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:04 AM
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lmaooooo honestly as far as getting your foot in the door this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:28 AM
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While I agree with you OP the issue is autistic men are inherently polarized. If you’re a high value autistic you will inherently chase greatness in security, fitness, competency. So yes the men who realize how broken these three are will not struggle at all especially with other autistic women. But the men who don’t know or even worse are lied to intentionally/unemotionally by those closest to them are cooked. So it’s not like these men are acting entitled they just were misled but some are gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:28 PM
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That makes a lot of sense tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 08:30 PM
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I don’t think anything is cherry picking, there is a pattern here that is worth discussing from a non emotional standpoint especially with gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:44 PM
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This is why I have openly stated that I want to encourage my child to be in therapy when I have one likely in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:16 PM
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What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:41 PM
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I can’t wait for this thread to blow up. Thank you for making it. I’m excited to read the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:12 PM
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One of the best post if not the best on this site. Sums up the entire issue currently and what people are afraid to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 06:28 PM
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Doesn’t apply to me i’d let her peg me if that’s her thing who cares if it makes her happy idc
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:02 AM
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Again this is just close minded thinking at its best
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:07 PM
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The thing your missing here is people who perform mental gymnastics like this tend to apply them in other areas. You have to make peace with some people can’t uhhh be super self aware to see the irony in this thought process and take it as dodging a bullet that could bite you in the ass later in another area if you were to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:46 PM
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Please send me your deleted comment i need that back it was something i wanted to save
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:52 PM
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Being direct fixes that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:17 PM
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so how would u recommend men get better at masking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:08 PM
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are these your issues or theirs and what would be your advice for how to overcome this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:07 PM
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Preselection aka you assuming because i’m on here i’m not like the good quality men who are not on here
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:22 PM
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Okay then you just are another person who relies on pre-selection lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:44 PM
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I am that guy. I am focused on self improvement and I am genuinely nice. The idea that you think that however based off me being on this subreddit shows how close minded and biased you are towards being unable to think outside the box.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:59 PM
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Its most certainly looks. I have a career in process, am kind, communicate well, want kids, am financially secure etc. Its my looks. I check every single box except looks. And once I check that one all of a sudden everything will change because that's how the world works
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:47 PM
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I'm average my personal prospects are extremely high I have a career etc I'm passed over due to one reason
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:40 PM
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The average woman does not want to date the average man
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:34 PM
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If its that easy you could solve the single man crisis
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 03:02 PM
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Not a red puller but a realist. I recognize that a lot of red pill concepts exist within modern day but people are too low elo to be real about them. The same skills that let me get to diamond or higher in video games are the same skills people lack irl. Accountability for one. I don't think Red pill is the way but I accept it got quite a few things right about people and I find when people deny or say those things don't matter they end up the most unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 02:59 PM
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That can be true sometimes yes, but other times it’s also just being a delusional person. Either way, instead of saying men are unattractive and ending up single at 30 somehow as a woman do the work to start to find other men attractive aka the healthy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 04:24 AM
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which is hilarious because a guy willing to invest that hard should be considered valuable not worthless but i don’t expect high level thinking from most people tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 01:02 AM
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Nah that’s just a lack of a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 09:23 PM
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They picked men who had no morals then. A real man isn’t leaving his wife when he becomes established especially if she treats him well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:41 PM
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Or maybe women have horrible choices in men on average at times, and can’t notice a man until he is the total finished product and worth far more than investing when he was a start up but growing. I know me personally I am that guy and I’ve seen women around me ignore me, or worse choose other men who have let them down constantly. I see it with some other men as well it’s weird in my eyes but I consider it a elo problem. Like I said objectively women make terrible relationship choices it seems …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:37 PM
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LMAO this is just not true. Like cmon now. Women choose clearly horrible men quite often, men they have to pay for, men who cheat on them, abuse them etc. All while ignoring the guy who wants to give her the world just for chasing feelings lmao cmon now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:15 PM
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That’s a lie lmfao, it’s because they don’t feel the thrill from the safer man. That’s all there is to it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:07 PM
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Because when you find a person who is into you and decently attractive around your age and no kids and is willing to be a “partner” it’s a rarity. Something many people don’t realize these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:26 PM
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Sure would
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 03:48 PM
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yep crazy good deal
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:36 PM
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Your asking for too much self awareness from people. Reaching this level of thinking starts from a young age imo, and most people in america don’t have the ability to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:03 PM
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I support this
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:58 AM
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Yeah and a lot of people can’t perceive getting there or getting it done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:22 AM
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Men should learn to just keep it simple. Tell women this is a test run, like a game we split the first 3, and if this makes it to 4 and you still are feeling me then I know this is going somewhere so expect me to pay majority for the rest of how long this lasts. Then she knows your standard is to pay but your not also wasting money on just any women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:58 PM
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The looks threshold isn’t crazy but to get there the perceived work is crazy. For me I’ve got about 90 days of consistent work till I get there. But that’s 90 days of discipline as well
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 07:22 PM
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If you’re already married that’s different. We are talking about men getting feet in the door
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:07 PM
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Not really, you hit the nail on the head earlier. The issue is the looks threshold is such an outlier or rather not balanced with the mean that it means when guys hit it, they go from 0 women to 80 women, and then that’s when they DO intentionally not put in effort with women because they don’t have to. If a woman wants that high effort she needs to be there before he has 80 women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:06 PM
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that’s just not true at all
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:03 PM
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I support this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:58 PM
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Gender D is tough but it sounds like your handling if it as best you can
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:57 PM
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LOL i just realized what that means
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:55 PM
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Yeah but it’s a trade off a post 30 woman loses a lot of power and has to work twice as hard as the man usually so just let it go and be glad you get to be on top for longer if you put the work in
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:51 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:56 PM
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sounds awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 10:47 PM
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Because she is a loser to society but men don’t select for appeal to others as much as women do we don’t care about facebook if she looks good to us and treats us right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:36 PM
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I’m with you if she can do the basics and wants to play maid and take care of the home, we can more than likely reach an agreement tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:35 PM
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This isn't a woman problem this is a parent problem. People need to stop putting this stuff on one gender. The truth is this is the cycle don’t care HOW it started but it starts. One woman grows up with issues she dates loser men, has self esteem, trauma bonds etc, finally gets pregnant, becomes a single mom or has a toxic partnership—-raises that child in it and THAT girl will seek what feels familiar on a subconscious level that she will not ever adknowlege and the cycle continues. same goes f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:25 AM
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Biggest issue with hypergamy is its not being pushed back into reasonable levels with good parents and you just end up with bad parents bad kids loop. Wanting the best you can get is fine, turning down great because you think you can do more is stupid. Many women today are playing deal or no deal down to the last case even tho statistically they already won at above average even if he isn't chad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:44 PM
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great post totally agree i’m tired of people being so disconnected to understand attraction principles don’t come easy to everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:19 PM
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And this is less to do with people and more to do with society etc. If women or men to do the work and challenge their irrational thoughts towards attraction and traits they can be happy. Sadly most if not at least 50% of people can’t do the work and won’t be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:24 PM
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Trauma cycles if parents fuck up kids fuck up. Behind everyone single woman choosing shitty men is a mom who chose one:
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:20 PM
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i agree except part of the issue is women being delusional that they can do better than others
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:21 PM
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Trans issues has nothing to do with the democrat owrty
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:24 PM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:51 PM
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ok your trolling despite a man who is black is telling you otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:37 PM
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it has nothing to do with her being a woman, when she chose time waltz people got excited, they thought maybe she was going to be different and separate herself from biden….yeah no she ran on i’m just gonna keep doing biden stuff we are doing good work!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:36 PM
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It’s either the democratic party lose to someone like trump now or they lose forever to republicans who actually do what their base wants as opposed to this moderate democrat(republican lite) shit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:33 PM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:29 PM
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those issues were what made her lose she was so bad that i personally wanted her to lose so the dems get their shit together
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:29 PM
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biiiiingo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:28 PM
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America is a mess lmao but it’s so bad that it’s kinda very easy to be good in it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:26 PM
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it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 02:59 AM
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Send me a DM with your discord we can get you to emerald at a minimum in the next 1-2 months skill wise easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:27 PM
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That sounds tough. I'm once again sorry you had to deal with that. I clicked on your profile to see if there was any context on that story but side note noticed you were looking for advice playing lol. Side note I coach people to higher elos like diamond all the time, if you want ill do it for free, I have a lot of respect for veterans as my family has several thank you for your service.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 05:51 PM
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Okay let me know clarify what Im stating is a standard based on a belief about a person that could justifiably be wrong is not a good standard. Judging a man on how much he spends on the first date as a sign of how he will treat you down the line is flawed. What if he is finacially responsible and wants to not blow money on a first date when there might not be a second? What if he believes women expect the bar to constantly raise so spending X value on date one means by date 3 he is spending XXX…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:10 PM
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My point was misconstrued I think. I was saying don't let what happened to your mom taint your view of men and relationships. There are signs that if you are watchful for you can find to spot these dangerous men, that is what I was saying. I'm not blaming the victim because its not their fault that life is unfair and they found that situation, but Im saying even tho life is unfair we can take action and learn skills to avoid these u fair situations so they don't affect us. By learning and being …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:58 PM
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There are always signs. This narrative that people push is so damaging and Im sorry you have been subjected to it. Its the same thing as men fear mongering other men saying they grew apart….from their wives or fell out of love. When the facts are it wasn't random it happened due to negligence, lack of accountability, and communication etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:02 PM
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Please reread my post
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:57 PM
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Yes. Your mother failed you. Its a damn shame our generation dealt with so many shit parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:49 PM
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I believe there is always signs take care and learn there is always signs and if you don't see them ask others
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:30 AM
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Er no not healthy men at least unless he has a super good job he doesn't not want u afking at home
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:28 AM
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Environment if you have competent parents you avoid a lot of stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:08 AM
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That doesnt happen often and even if it did you set documentation in place to protect yourself from it. But yeah poorly choose men def do use their women as starter wifes, avoidable by neither party taking each other for granted and good vetting and communication just skills most people lack. Picking a good guy is very easy. It requires competence and deep understanding of the market which a lot of single women lack as they want to feel special not “win”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:01 AM
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Lmao. I'll let you read my response as the same applies. If you are that closed minded on subjects like these you got a lot of growing to do mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:16 PM
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Okay a verified standard is a standard is a standard because breaking the standard means its clear that its a difference on a key scale. My standard of if you are going to be late text me and let me know. Breaking this clearly shows a lack of respect for the other person. Your standard of a guy should pay. Because if he doesn't it means he won’t in your relationship. Your standard is based off an unwritten rule that is not clearly understood by all parties involved that could be a lack of commun…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:15 PM
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Because its not a verified standard its a mind reading one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:10 PM
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That's a strange jump. Perhaps he isn't wasteful and isn't going all out because he doesn't know you yet to waste resources on you lmao. I love when men/women project unsaid standards that don't hold up if everyone did it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:48 PM
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None of this stuff matters. If you want a happy healthy relationship be fit and she will be putty in your hands. Everything becomes cute and sexy when your fit. The icks become something she ignores easy. The reason for this is most women I have seen who are not in happy healthy relationships have not done the self work to push past toxic messaging or self work to realize what really matters, they let their feelings dictate life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:46 PM
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yeah I would sounds dooe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:03 PM
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Latter but by 25 I'm picking a guy who is on the fast track to making good money has good morals and is willing to get Iinto fitness. We both sign a contract for staying fit, regular therapy, and go 50/50 and live a happy life till he cheats and I take all his shit, or he doesn't and we stay happy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:02 PM
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Great post its the latter for most people. However it's the latter UNTILL they realize it should be the former. For women this tends to hit at around 30 since they see a huge drop off in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:58 PM
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That woman is a major example why men hesitate with women who are 30 and older. Her entire youtube page is shit show, she has vods on narcissistic parents, how she is happy to have no friends, how she is an introvert, and to top it off she is gorgeous. You can bet 1000% she has had great suitors and turned them down as she got older, been in toxic relationships, and is reached a point where the great guys don’t want the older woman who refused to get her shit together while younger. No offense b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:36 AM
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Honestly, I would be very hesitant honestly. She has really played around for quite some time. I would have a lot of questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:17 AM
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Personality is subjective if two people can be good honest strong friends of opposite sex they can be good couple long as they are hot/attracted to one another Personality is a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:47 PM
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So you show cleavage and skin to impress other women and feel confident?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:46 PM
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Once again that's not a good response. People who talk like that with so much confidence that it couldn't happen to them are the ones easily swept up in it. You don't go play with fire just because its around you always and never tempts you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:45 PM
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Wdym
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:44 PM
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That is NOT the same thing as going out with your single girlfriends who are dancing with men and stuff while u go “yeah that's not peer pressure at all!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 07:43 PM
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Its very relevant actually if you are a married man or woman who hangs with singles tget do more activities you may not want or need to be engaged in. And peer pressure is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:49 PM
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If your dancing with other women who cares but if your dancing with other men….
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:26 PM
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Yes for sure. Nothing wrong with that but does dancing pertain to dancing with her single girlfriends? Or dancing with random guys
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:25 PM
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Agreed. Women hit 30 and its clear they are on the down trend if they hit it single. Men not so much long as they are putting in the work
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:04 PM
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You don't need it sadly because as long as ur physically up to par people will be biased towards what you say and lean it towards it being good
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 06:02 PM
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Depends on context. Spamming sexy Instagram thirst trap photos would be frowned upon, and tank tops I doubt it but depends on where I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:55 PM
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Because the idea is that the behavior you engage in is a representation of your freedom+signaling you are single+maturity at a stage in life. When you get a legitimate partner that is when you start considering transitioning to the next stage. You can still do some of the stuff from before but not as often essentially in theory
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:42 PM
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Single mother one child that's not hard to come back from if you work on your mental
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 10:34 PM
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Yes that's how gender D works they quite literally feel uncomfortable in their own skin and they want to put on a different skin or kill themselves A person with real GD would be suicidal even in an island as the gender assigned at birth
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:28 PM
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Thats extreme and you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:25 PM
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Lmao okay your trolling if that's fun so be it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:24 PM
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Yes and No but the issue is the damage is done. Imagine how it feels for men to have their developmental years essentially traumatized by hearing backwards messages seeing women close to you be used broken and when you the guy who genuinely likes her for her to be rejected for reasons you COULD fix but no girl ever is honest about. Like this produces either Bruce Wayne type men who are traumatized don’t trust others but are genuinely kind OR you get most of the time men who snap and become Joker…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:21 PM
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That's fine I bet you didn't resd
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:14 PM
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Idk what your saying
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:13 PM
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The answer is one you didn't list. A merger of sorts women become more aware of chasing toxic men/men out of their league, start looking for the best they can reasonably do at their relaxed state. For example I know a woman who isn't super fit but she works out 3 days week is reasonablly healthy. That's her base. She needs to look for a man within reason if that not a chad who is ripped and works out 5-6 times a week. Anyway by women becoming more self aware of the cognitive biases and pitfalls …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 08:36 PM
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Attraction is actually negotiable as fuck. Its all about your brain the same way some women think tingle toxic relationships are their thing prior to getting help to get over it via therapy. The point isn't to ask for woo is me points. The point is to point out the inconsistencies in logic, BECAUSE when you do that to a human mind it starts the process for re-evaluation. If a famous celebrity no if all celebrities started a movement towards height being unpopular you would see a shift because pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:13 PM
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Agreed I wish people realized people who are trans have a difficult path to walk they don’t need others beating them down
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:13 AM
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Then he was too available prob
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 12:01 PM
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In practice. Okay is that friend still close to you? Most people can't self do this. Best exercise to see what I mean is ask 3 of the very closest people who have seen at least 3/6 of those relationships you had to describe what it is that they have in common. Again not just superficial but what is your “type.” That friend of yours you rejected might have noticed this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:40 AM
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Yes it felt a certain way. In practice tho its different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:31 AM
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Women tend to say things like that sometimes which leads to some underlying pattern. I know someone who said the same thing and when it was broken down it came down to her choosing two types of men highly attractive fit black men, or conventionally unattractive other races of men because deep down she felt if she was better and more attractive than them they could never leave her. This is what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:24 AM
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Its deeper than that. There is a set of boxes that if gun to your head you prob could be honest about
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:04 AM
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Love is always checkboxes its just boxes people don't like to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:58 AM
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That's weird, he went in aiming to lose, for a guy that fit Im not sure why he played it like that. This sounds more like a guy who was a wet door with you which made you never build attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:53 AM
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So he had the first part. He either showed you too much attention I guess and maybe your the type who doesn't want it to be easy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:52 AM
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Was he very fit when you rejected him
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:39 AM
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Okay did you tell him when you rejected him how to improve himself in the future or did you feed him the standard “not a good fit/no spark/be yourself the right on will come”?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:34 AM
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You didn't answer the question. I know its uncomfortable but for autistic people who tend to be the men on this site, its much easier for them if you break your NT form of thinking and saying things without saying things and just be direct. The sooner ND/autistic men and women learn we can treat life like an rpg as opposed to how NT feel their way through life the better life gets for the autistics ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:29 AM
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If you hate it for him be honest did you leave him better off. This is another reason men end up filled with hate. Women who they trust the most reject them and lie to them, saying “just not a good fit” When all they really need is some tough love and some real advice. Go lift, high protein the more attractive you are the easier dating will be etc etc. But if I had to guess you rejected him said you don’t feel the spark and we got another lost man out there about to either go full incel or red p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 10:05 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:56 AM
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You want the truth this is it. Go to the gym 3-5 times a week for one year. Eat high protein. Your body will make it so humans expectations of your social skills go waaaay down because your body is a buffer. That’s it. That’s the most autistic answer I can give you. Your playing an rpg most can’t see and you can cheat and win in it because most refuse to admit its an rpg.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:56 AM
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Then with them all you have to do is appeal to their logic (feelings) and you win. The self aware autistic woman is drawn to good body and autistic guy. The unselfaware is drawn to same thing but doesn’t know why. Find a girl who engages in uncool not “feminine” things. If she is doing something that the fsm wouldn’t approve of unless majority of women are doing it you got a good shot at her being autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:35 PM
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find an autistic woman and all these problems vanish
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 12:23 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:13 PM
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I wish some men could realize that logic is powerful but the human emotion is part of what makes us human, sometimes you have to accept peoples differences and shortcomings etc and just make it work. But yeah your right I guess its a cognitive thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:50 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:27 PM
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What I find interesting I think is men can’t accept that some women would rather live in peace and just not know. If she didn't cheat the baby is yours why does she NEED to know you did it, and why can't she just be human and not be okay with the implication she did it? I have been falsely accused of sexual harassment as a young boy it was horrible and made me doubt my own reality, I would never want a woman to feel like that, if I do a test its for me alone and she doesn't need to know unless t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:08 PM
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Oh you got plenty of time you are straight chilling. I finish my masters next year at early 30s you are fine honestly. The black thing is because as black people we have a cultural background and experience that other races are not subject too. And I understand that as certain hairstyles looks etc do not work for some women aka they don't approve of them from me so I need to look a certain way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:29 PM
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As a black man I just wanna say the fact your honest about the stuff crossed out is proof you bring something to table self awareness and a desire to work on yourself How old are you if you don't mind me asking, and dw I'm not hitting on you I'm obsessed with another girl atm but I just feel maybe self disclosing myself might make u feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:09 PM
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Well said Misty
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 05:53 PM
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what the guy above said was right women don’t want to be treated like friends tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:30 PM
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I think this goes back to men being lied to that best friends doesn’t lead to relationships Men just wanna be loved but learn friends isn’t that. Tbh tho it is it’s just men are lied to why it doesn’t work when in fact it works really fucking well So men place no value on friendship cause it never worked anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:27 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:53 PM
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no you need SA for that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:36 PM
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personality plus SA
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:36 PM
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Okay you are def a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 10:06 PM
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This is funny i feel like you’re trolling me. Please show the exact statement where I said your personal experience not your claim all women experience this is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 10:02 PM
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Are you trolling? You’re literally playing victim for some reason. You made a claim all women experienced this I said not all women. This is not helping your case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 09:59 PM
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i see if u want some advice no matter what in a LTR if ur seeing long term future get in couples therapy at least 4 times a year minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:44 PM
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Are you trolling? That is not what gaslighting is in this context. I’m pushing back against you saying autistic men always end up with their wife playing mommy and all the other roles unwillingly not your experience the fact you accuse me of gaslighting you tho is a bit of a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 08:43 PM
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were you actively in therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 04:03 PM
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Social relationships matter that’s why
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:07 PM
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She just randomly cheated after years together?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:07 PM
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Yes it’s an important concept it’s about choosing your words in a way that respects others?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:26 PM
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Because tact is a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:21 PM
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LMAOOOO this shit had me rolling
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:17 PM
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Bruh two of the goat anime’s and you didn’t like them that’s kinda wild, I bet you didn’t watch many episodes, why the hell did she become your ex she sounds like a keeper don’t tell me u fumbled the bag
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 02:14 PM
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jesus ur ex likes anime and you said no? thats all i need to hear def not a good fit, you had the keys to the castle my man
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:54 PM
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It’s a guide both sexes can follow as a man it would make things much easier why would i care
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:49 PM
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Yeah and once again the issue ur ignoring is autistic people DO have empathy also your source is from 2019 mine is from 2022 find something more relevant please. And I bet if i go look at that studies limitations it’s based on oh fucking boy. m a woman married to an undiagnosed autistic man. In my experience, he cannot either feel or express empathy when I am sad, worried, or even enjoying myself. His reactions are purely analytical: if I’m sad, he’ll list all the reasons I shouldn’t be (or this…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:30 PM
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That’s not true at all, and PLENTY of women do those things for men in general. I personally hate clothes shopping and figuring out what to wear in terms of very well picked out outfits if my future wife wants me to dress nice i’ll give her a card a limit and tell her to go nuts. That’s the closest thing i think to mommy mode for me. AND again TONS of men have their wife go into full mommy mode cook clean pick up their shit etc that’s not an autistic only problem that’s a shit man problem but su…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 01:18 PM
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No because physically I'm not at the level required yet, I have stated this many times already.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:53 PM
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Well D day is febuary 1st. So assuming that day goes exactly how I plan Id say 1 year of dating and then prob proposal after that so prob maybe sometime in 2026 wedding
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:50 PM
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Chemistry includes phyisical attraction and emotional, I said this already. But you said friendzone which means you already met the emotional aspect of being great to be around. You are emotionally fulfilling if you are in the friendzone otherwise you wouldn't be such a close friend. I have no increase in my confidence, I told her from day one the plan what I was doing, that I fully think I'm right in my assessment of how she views me and other men. And no other women are not in my sphere doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:47 PM
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I'm not dating her I'm not at the level I need to be yet, I've got 6 more months of training before I physically hit the totality standard I need. And we are not talking about personality. If you are friendzoned by someone and they actively enjoy hanging out with you, personality is not the problem contrary to the misinformation women push.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:45 PM
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Okay what your not being transparent about is how value plays into this. The reason something or someone loses or gains attraction is they possess qualities you VALUE. Okay so when you tell men "I don't feel the spark" that doesn't do anything they just roll the dice again. When men understand it not as a produce of FATE but of one that they have agency over and can change with hard work...THEN you have something you can work with. ONCE again spark/chemistry are BUZZ words that stand for "what I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:37 PM
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Because being treated like a brother is because of a few reasons. Lack of sexual attraction. Sexual attraction comes down to physical and emotional. Assuming she isn't toxic and enjoys your company the emotional is COVERED. So that leaves physical. Why is she not attracted physically? Because she feels in her heart she can do better physically hence why you are not attractive to her. Emotionally and Personality wise you wouldn't be BEST FRIENDS if you didn't have that. I'm literally doing this e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:29 PM
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Did you even bother reading my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:23 PM
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Mist, you know I respect you and enjoy talking to you but I want you to really consider for a moment that what if these were just "bad experiences with bad men." The man you described has described traits that I know myself an autisitc friend of mine would never display, would we make a mistake, sure, would we even maybe misjudge a feeling or situation when younger and less experienced yes, but to blindly dismiss another's experience or even a partner that's just too far. The autism or autisim i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:23 PM
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i agree with this, for all it’s worth every “random divorce “ i see is never random
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:57 PM
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Chemistry and spark isn’t real it’s just do you find he is valuable market wise and would other women want him
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:53 PM
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If a person man or woman HF cannot have empathy then that’s not an autistic thing that’s a them problem. Your experience sounds horrible but quite frankly you are not really describing how this is any different from men wanting to fix issues. For the sake of your statement please give me a scenario in which these ND men displayed no empathy. I will say this if they truly don’t feel it towards a woman they “love” that’s an issue in itself. Also you have been with two autistic men, both who were m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:51 PM
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It’s more that people judge others by their own limitations which to be fair most people are limited as fuck so finding someone willing to go the distance even with direction is low
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:21 PM
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Because I am convinced that women have equated autistic men to low functioning stubborn non self reflective hard stuck autistic men. Let me say it this way. The autistic bad experience is from the point you describe, the neurotypical bad experience can be the same thing but he just can do social stuff well while being a terrible partner long term, no self reflection no ability to clean after himself etc TLDR i think women are saying all autistic men are bad without realizing autistic men CAN be …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:01 PM
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High functioning autistic men have empathy you can cherry pick sources if you like but yes they have empathy. Murders having forms of disorders including autism does not mean autism = no empathy Faking normal social behavior? What an ableist comment. A group of autistic men and women’s behavior socially is vastly different from neurotypical they are not faking anything if anything the autistic men and women of this world have to cater to YOU they have to fake it for you. And one more the same qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:57 PM
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Autistic men are the best to date long term, and women are raised with long term values. Social skills only matter in a short term context of impressing other neurotypicals they are not what makes or breaks home life and autistic men can mask easily for short term they have empathy so idk what that take is what’s most interesting to me is people don’t realize the way most neurotypicals value social status etc earlier in life falls off the older you get so it’s not even a long term quality with s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:12 PM
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Your calling autistic men failure from the start is the issue what’s more humorous to me tho is NT thing autistic men are an issue when in fact they can be the best men to date as there are zero mind games and tons of communication
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:57 PM
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Imagine blaming autistic men lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:54 PM
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You demonstrate low empathy lol but your point is essentially its not my problem till its my problem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:28 PM
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Goku follows his passion and is not sex focused at all, she chases him and is obsessed with him because he leads his own life vegeta is just inherently toxic from start but gets better somehow krilloan literally is willing to risk the entire universe because he stands on a value that that woman isn’t so bad and deserves to have a chance to live it’s pretty wild
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:11 PM
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lmaooooooo tbf those stories are as red/purple as u can get
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:11 PM
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feel like your trolling so i’m not sure if i should respond as that’s not the case it’s more like women have stock and keep holding out for the biggest payout possible which doesn’t happen an instead the stock fluctuates between very good high points and very bad lows and instead of selling at a high point they refuse to sell and keep getting stuck
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 08:12 PM
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because it’s about making decisions on a open market
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:34 PM
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More like wallstreet. And it requires skill to navigate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:51 PM
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Not true. EVERYONE has to think about this one day. But by thinking about it now you’re ahead of the curve. #The reason men and women let themselves go during a relationship is they don’t know they never had to think about it. As a man exploiting this current dating system i’ll give you the cheat code. https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sjyp6p5C4MYfXVvx0HSpd?si=W_uygpF9S_WaFUDJ-zpnzA&t=7 That’s it. This girl i’m obsessed with proving that her intial take of me is bullshit i’m living it. 6 months …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:09 PM
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if a woman jumps ship easy she is fucking stupid fuck do u care it means she is bad at life and u dodged a bullet she’s probably gonna continue to fuck up when it comes to dating it’s not ur problem people gotta stop taking baddies problems personally
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:03 PM
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u picked a shit woman idk how u wanna blame all that other stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:59 PM
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Incels are not even on your radar If you are a single woman your main issue is ignoring chad usually And that’s easy once you do some deep diving and reflecting
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:57 PM
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I think you are overthinking this. Some women who are SM are not delusional in that way. They KNOW getting another good man to sign on board is very lucky. They also “value” you for that. If you tack on being attractive you might be chillin
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:56 PM
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The toxicity in terms of toxic mindsets. Example dating apps are toxic for most women and make them over inflate themselves, toxic friends or social media make them think they are missing etc, toxic mindsets on how a secure relationship should make them feel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:55 PM
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Okay that’s just not true. Women do it all the time when they remove the toxicity that is bringing them down it takes critical thinking and work something many people can’t do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:44 PM
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woah pal little far what ur describing is a toxic woman not ALL single mothers act like this i’m currently persujng one myself and i know she wouldn’t act like this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:43 PM
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I'm saying framing it as men saying drop your standards is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:33 PM
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If you get a horrible scar, or something happens that makes you uglier your self acknowledged value might lower People in dating are trying to get the BEST they can. That's why attraction isn't real its based on making people feel like they got something valuable. I'm literally in the midst of proving my theory correct right now as we speak. The point is women think of it as lowering their standards, but in truth its asking realistically in this market what is my value and what am I REALLY worth…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:31 PM
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If she pulls that u just walk lok
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:14 PM
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False attraction is value related
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:09 PM
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The easiest fix is having a good father figure from day one and if not then telling men the truth about why you don’t like them i had to not only figure this shit on my own i had to then deal with the moral dilemma of wanting to lash out/use women after i get to the attractive state because anyone of them could have told me years ago it wasn’t my “personality”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:48 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:21 PM
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Speak for yourselves i fucking love ALL those things and pray my future wife dabbles in it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:36 PM
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agreed i don’t support it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:25 AM
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Eh that’s fair i can agree with that for HS
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:25 AM
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Ehhhhh you don’t get with someone expecting them to change CORE VALUES. A cheater or lier or maturalistic person is someone you don’t worry about. BUT someone who hasn’t maximized their potential in VALUE but is in progress is different. a guy in grad school to be a lawyer with good grades should be viewed with some of the same attraction as a lawyer not saved till the end and he reaches final goal
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 01:06 AM
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not at all potential is a quality that exists and very important in dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 12:59 AM
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???????? that’s one of the exceptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 11:09 PM
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If women in our life tells us we are fine just the way we are and we trust them that’s how it goes the women are wonderful effect is real there is a reason men end up bitter at red pill if every woman you trusted and were into said ur fine just not their type you wouldn’t think you weren’t fine u would think you can’t do anything it’s not about being rational it’s about TRUSTING the women in our lives to be honest with us it also plays into why men end up using women and dehumanizing them becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 07:25 PM
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nah because men would visually see it at first most men don’t do the second process and see the unhot stuff at first
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 07:19 PM
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true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 07:11 PM
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oh yeah no it’s stupid hence why i quote purdue anyone woman who does this shit is instant red flag and turn off for me because it means she is very emotionally led and in her feelings i usually run away
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:03 PM
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You miss an opportunity with a woman who wants you to “pursue her”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:00 PM
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If a man hears a woman say he’s fine and the right girl will come along instead of saying you need to lose weight you are not hot enough, what do you think the man will believe? This is why men get mad at women, if you just told men the problem they would actually go fix it, but instead women want to straight up lie to men for ages and think they are not contributing to the problem There is no test when men are not given a fair chance at it, i believe GOOD fathers fix this problem but single mot…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:42 PM
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I never said hot = player i said hot + single is = player with few exceptions men have a thing for this called the crazy hot scale but if a woman is single there is a reason she is, too picky, kids, toxic, delusional, drugs etc or fat if she’s hot it’s usually one of the above because men should be trying to hit on her etc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:26 PM
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The ocular pat down is an interesting thing. I’m glad you mentioned that because a lot of women fail it as well. What is more interesting though is the fact that women móreso seem obsessed with denying it’s existence as if the admitting it and letting others know it exists is a threat to them if everyone was aware of it as women tend to be i think i could agree it’s a test but it’s not a test when u don’t know it exists it’s a bad faith test as for the second part no, no one wants to be a fixer …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:24 PM
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then u don’t pay attention to the nuances of life i guess because most people are insanely predictable show me 10 couples at random and ill show u the patterns and trends
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:13 PM
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yes they are soooooo much fun until years later the couple is in a therapists office trying to figure out how to “communicate” years later
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:09 PM
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i can hack it but i like the idea of women putting a man to the test instead of judging them most men will fail still as i deeply believe most r shitters but the idea of finding a few diamonds before they become full blown resentful chads is appealing who seek to harm women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:08 PM
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All hot single men are yes bad. This is how it works. You don’t find a hot single man unless he recently became hot, left a toxic relationship and has done the work to figure out why he got in it, or he is a player, or he just moved to a new location idk how this is new to you, this is just how markets work good products get snatched off shelf if u see something that looks good that is undiscovered either it JUST came out OR most people have realized it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:06 PM
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i think the games that neurotypicals play and do to each other for the sake of fun and excitement burn away as they get older and more mature etc so i just skip that step that i find boring say what u mean and let’s move on
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:04 PM
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Here is the best answer to most women problems or rather problems men have with women set the standard tell them what you won’t deal with and then play ball either she matches or you move on i’m autistic so i tell women straight up i don’t enjoy mind games tell me directly what u want or ur risking not getting it some agree some get upset and those i just move on from if they want chad instead of me that’s fine i know im better long term idc
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:58 PM
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yeh most people not good at that skill it requires high critical thinking tbf and u have to realize that if u do have potential you are the minority not majority most people do not have potential so when they judge u it’s usually a reflection of how they see themselves and then how they project and perceive it to be the same for others
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:50 PM
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yeah sheep mentality if a woman can’t notice a man in progress that’s her L
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:08 PM
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yep i know it’s why im trying to give her a shot with myself but will she take it? dunno ill find out in february but by then i believe i will be the best option she will have/ever have in terms of value and commitment if she rejects me because she thinks she can do better she is doomed and ima go be chad for a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:45 PM
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i hope not they r trash imo for not noticing his potential
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:43 PM
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you are correct some people need to be protected from themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:41 PM
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Makes logical sense to me this is how i intend to raise my future daughter to view dating anyway because va voom men are usually toxic or power crazy or married chances of you stumbling on some self made high value man is random as fuck unless he just Recently got there within last 6 months to a year otherwise he’s a player
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:40 PM
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I think this is a great solution tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:37 PM
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yep my best friend is like this sadly she is about to turn 30 still single and ugh but i got hopes between 30-30.5 she will turn it around if not tho she’s lost i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 03:32 PM
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basically this if a woman is single for too long it’s her own design if she isn’t fat
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:36 PM
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cap
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 08:22 PM
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I mean it’s not even a shocker or a big deal most women have the same mindset towards single dads lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:36 PM
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this does happen we just don’t say it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 03:06 PM
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lol humanity is so doomed no wonder many couples are unhappy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:49 PM
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very toxic way to live and most people who do this end up alone or in dead marriages down the line
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 12:31 PM
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Well fucking said
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:24 PM
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Lmao the lack of accountability from parents and that includes mom and dad for how they can impact kids is crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:21 PM
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as a man who is in training to be a therapist and also has his own therapist i can say you are pretty much spot on the truth of most of men’s issues is the same of women just a lack of accountability and horrible child raising done to them as a child causing rippling effects on their adulthood the DIFFERENCE between men and women is due to the nature of dating women can avoid dealing with issues due to this early prior to 30/kids and men cannot as they feel the effects from like 18+ lots of men …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:20 PM
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This sounds like you don’t trust men which could mean several things that fall in line with the stuff that men avoid by dating you tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:04 PM
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yeah most SM imo come from people who make really stupid fucking decisions thinking a child will fix a person or make a man want to be better
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:57 PM
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yeah it’s crazy hypocritical they are not willing to date single dads LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:54 PM
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u must be a high value one then who knows how to date with a child and also have good morals it’s not common but it does happen however age etc play into it not sure how old u are
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:53 PM
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yep sadly this
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 05:51 PM
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of course they can i think my friend might do it tbh once she puts the work in to change her mindsets but like i will say it’s not common imo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:30 PM
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yes either the woman picked poorly or the man got to a point where he wanted to cheat both things are avoidable in my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:18 PM
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but not everyone is stupid enough to have a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:03 PM
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this is a very valid point but at the end of the day if u have many examples telling u it’s fucking toxic, people on the outside warning u at some point it’s ur own ego
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:02 PM
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u can predict when people are shitters and NEED to change to have a stable kid with that’s how most SM fuck up
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:01 PM
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yes it’s not just a woman thing but this post was about women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:01 PM
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if it’s a good dude who stuck his unprotected dick in crazy i feel the same way towards th me dude it’s not gender based but usuallly it’s dad being a deadbeat and mom thinking a child will make him change i know multiple fucking SM who think that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:48 PM
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men who choose toxic women are fucking morons if ur a happy dude or healthy dude and u choose a toxic woman ur inting look my best friend and the woman i wanna marry is a SM, i get it. i’m telling u right now some of her toxic egotistical narcissistic patterns are extremely unhealthy and honestly i would literally not date her unless she was in some major therapy to address that before hand fucked up people make fucked up decisions and without doing the work they are doomed to repeat it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:46 PM
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you are the outlier and if a man knew the dad “died” it’s different than things didn’t work out a man cheating and leaving etc is scary for other men because without his side of the story they have to wonder if u played a part in it, maybe u lost attraction easily, made it difficult to communicate etc but yes your story is one most men would be fine dating it’s not a bad choice it’s a sad life situation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:43 PM
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no idc i care that they actively choose men who emotionally stimulate them with toxicity and then think a child will fix them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:40 PM
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behind majority of single moms is an idiot decision to get pregnant that has ego and recklessness behind it those same qualities are red flags for healthy relationships and most single moms don’t do the self work to move past that type of mentality that led to it and are prone to getting pregnant again
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:40 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:36 PM
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yes it’s not hard to tell most of the time when ur dating a loser he is a loser most deadbeat fathers are deadbeat in many other areas other than “he’s soooo hot” these women become single moms because they believe a child will change the man it’s a shitty mentally
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:34 PM
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yah im saying it justifies being rejected by then because they r the type who became a single mom by choosing a dumbass partner
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:31 PM
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they r worse in most cases aka single mom
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:30 PM
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Lmao and this is why men are unattractive. Who would want to raise kids with such a defeatsst mindset? My gosh if half of the men watched anime and really internalized some of that strong mindset stuff you would do a lot better
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:54 PM
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Not only do i not care i welcome it. I’m doing it now and it feels amazing to know it was never my personality or type or spark bullshit it was never fate dealing me a bad hand and me feeling powerless it was literally i was unfit—-something i could fix in 6 months to a year 7 months later i’m down to 17% bodyfat and almost 30 lbs less and the woman who told me i never had a shot is starting to do very very odd things towards me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:40 PM
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If i saw his face 9/10 he’s fat are you projecting? are u fat also no flame just asking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:32 PM
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That’s not what i mean at all. If you can’t tell someone the hard stuff you will never have a happy relationship because you will expect the hard stuff to self work itself out. If you can’t tell him why he is unattractive you are not a real friend first off and second your not able to carry the trait needed for a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:32 PM
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His weight impacts his face. Women don’t like dad boss i’m not even getting into this delusional take again. If he got fit his facial structure can change it happens all the time to women and men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:30 PM
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The scavenger hunt isn’t real. Be fit Be financially secure Have a career Don’t be toxic Know how to communicate Have passion Be decent dresser Obviously have car and house if you can do that you already appeal to 80% of women cause most men can’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:29 PM
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then you are doomed to failure/bad relationships probably and that’s me being blunt cause we are online if u can’t tell a friend why he’s unattractive or keep it real with him and push him in some directions ur not gonna be able to have real convos with a long term partner where u call them on their shit u want mind reading which is a trap MANY women fall into and why i only date autistic women thankfully to avoid that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:27 PM
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yes this is why a lot of marriages fail also women do not learn how to keep it real with men if you want a strong marriage start it out by saying if you or i get obese we are going to get divorced—-that sets a tone for the truthfulness that will exist in said relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:23 PM
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short answer yes long answer it’s because she didn’t think he COULD change when women say ur not attractive but won’t tell u why it’s not the fear of “if he changes and i still don’t like him omg” it’s the feeling that he won’t change if you actually change it’s ACTUALLY worth more than starting out that way no human being has the ego small enough to watch someone self improve to something they like for them only to watch another woman walk away with it that’s just basic psychology people claim …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:20 PM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:18 PM
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biiingo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:17 PM
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which is why women don’t raise strong men usually but that’s another issue for another day sometimes hearing “you are dog shit and need to fix your shit” is what it takes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:16 PM
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agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:15 PM
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No. DO tell the man because then he can do one or two things accept it or fucking improve. Walter bonds wanted to play for the nba and the coach said he couldn’t. The coach said you can’t jump you can’t shoot from x spot etc He spent all summer fixing those things came back and the coach told him yeah you can make it. Just because SOME people are weak and can’t handle the truth doesn’t mean you get to decide for them OP. I have the same issue with my friend irl atm, and guess what I just said fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:13 PM
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this is actually just a human failure—-if the wife said i’ll be happy if you get fit many men would do it it’s just people lying to each others
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:03 PM
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People have fluidity. The issue is some more than another. I’ll give you example i just went clothes shopping with my female friend i hope to be attractive to if i level up. I can’t clothes shop for shit but I gave her money and she picked me out a few outfits. So with her influence she can dress me how she wants and i don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:08 PM
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such a horrible take it’s such a projection
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:34 PM
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the point is women won’t give a man the chance to become that by laying the cards out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:34 PM
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okay let’s try this again he’s effeminate (personality) but fat he’s ur type he just needs to slim down is my point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:29 AM
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Because people have different ideas about what is authentic. I don’t like getting hair cuts. But if my future wife was extremely turned on by them i’m indifferent and would glaaaady do it. Different people are indifferent towards changes people have a weird view of people being static. I think majority are but i think people too easily discredit those who are not. People should let the person decide if they are static on the variable of attraction not decide for them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:01 PM
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That’s def not it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:49 PM
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You can change traits and develop traits
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:48 PM
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this post is 100% true it’s not shame it’s reality people just don’t like living in reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:55 PM
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Because men are not attracted to status some women are just not objectively attractive as others women like status and it boosts men up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:50 PM
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yes Nts live some interesting and sometimes coinflipy type lifes it’s why when they get divorced they say “we grew apart” and believe it ur autistic be happy it means u see people’s bullshit for what it is i can’t say i need to get fit so i’ll be attractive to this woman it makes people cringe i have to say i’m getting fit fire ME and idc what the result is cause i’m strong and confident!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:55 PM
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some men just want women to realize they cannot have it all the reason some women are unhappy is not because a man isn’t attractive but they can’t be greatful for what is good enough they want the expensive ps5 when a ps4 is cheaper and still plays most of the same games and is fun just not bragging fun
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:48 PM
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that’s NOT HOW DIVORCE works lmao that’s some stupid myth men tell each other if a woman “wins” divorce it’s because the man doesn’t want to get dragged for his shit in court most divorces end in both parties either doing MUD and getting nothing because it all goes to lawyers or one spouse rolling over because they cheated etc women do not EASILY choose divorce that’s some dumb low braindead speak that men preach because they are too stupid to see the truth behind it divorces is NOT simple
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:25 AM
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if a woman has an incentive to divorce u chose wrong divorce is horrible and anyone who says it’s worth it or downplaying it is lying to you, it’s the death of your own existence etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:12 AM
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yes but when you truly love and value someone that doesn’t happen is the point, that stuff builds up over time people don’t just “wake up” and say they are unhappy that’s just the lies people tell themselves idk why but it’s a neurotypical thing for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:05 AM
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no they got married because it felt right but on paper if u asked others prob or a marriage counselor they would say this is not the best idea people go into marriage thinking it’s a solid deal only to realize it never was from the start due to the foundation of their relationship and how it functioned people who are extremely happy with their relationship just see marriage as a title nothing truly changes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:58 AM
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the graph was made to show she wasn’t into me because i don’t possess the qualities that the men she was into does which were mostly physical despite her saying it’s a “spark” thing etc and ever since i’ve made progress in that direction her treatment of me is night and day and i’m not even there yet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:57 AM
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True and after I secure my spot knowing in my mind and others I'm a great guy I won’t care A rejection is an assessment of a man or woman value Once you get that you can either improve or accept it I chose to get better so that if she does reject me she doesn't speak for other women who I know want me I have another female friend who thinks my friend doesn't deserve all this effort and wishes she could find a find a guy who is willing to radically improve himself like I'm doing atm for my friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:28 PM
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And she felt same way about another guy who did what I'm doing then said “whyyy am I sol attracted to him now???” to me and some of her other friends People always call the people who do stuff others don’t got the courage or willpower to do crazy till they succeed that's how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:22 PM
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Its still value just twisted value based on mental issues. I don’t wanna talk about this much but the same way I like the fake boobs look of some women or big hoops on women is the same concept they feel towards aspects of younger. Its sick and I don't condone it so please let me we don't bring up those type of people to argue again
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:20 PM
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She hates it about me. She truly wishes she was attracted to me, we have talked about it she just doesn't think it could change. We have tons of shared interests and she has gone on record a few time saying some of the times she has spent with me has been best moments of her life etc. Its just no “spark” which I know why which is why I'm aggressively fixing it on a personal level mostly fitness tho
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:19 PM
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Call it what you want I just look at data and call it facts
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:15 PM
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No I've been one of her biggest friends and that's why I wouldnt drop her if she was with someone the issue is when I'm the best option and better than anything she will statistically ever get again
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:15 PM
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Define it however you want if she passes on a hvm who is committed to loving her then that's her L
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 08:14 PM
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And attraction is the only thing that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:42 PM
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Correction thinks you are delusional when you fit the same specs as all the men you like and has pushed himself to achieve those things and is a man most women would kill for in terms of all categories not just provider etc She also is turning 30 and a SM so yeah Its just facts What I'm doing if it works is simply a romantic story if successful and if I fail its a creep move People fail to recognize the bias in story telling This isn't the first time a guy purposely “glowed” up to appear like a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:33 PM
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Ur crazy if u think I don't see her as a fantastic friend. I wouldn't be just devoting my life for a year straight to consistent self improvement for just any person, its because I value her so much that I wouldn't WANT her to settle for a Lowe version of me just because she feels she can't do better, I went her to feel like she got a great prize and something other women WISH they could have
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:23 PM
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That is now how it plays out in function when you compare how people match up truthfully and value each other
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:21 PM
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I plan on it but first I want to be undeniably better than any other guy so I know its her loss and not mine Cause at that point like I said multiple other women will want me so its no biggie but I need to know 100% I gave it my all so there is no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:20 PM
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Of course and her answers are no spark, no attraction etc. But I made a graph of all her partners she ever had and the qualities they shared PHYSICALLY and they all matched up. She was shocked to see that but admitted they did. Then I told her if I got the same qualities she would as well with me however she got offended saying its not that simple ignoring literally there have been instances where a guy did this she knew and it worked for her. Point being I don't expect people to be aware enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:14 PM
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No she doesn't ur correct but she also can't do better either soooo its not my problem idc She will never find another man willing to push themselves to this level with her in mind etc obsessed about giving her what she truly values etc
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:08 PM
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If I am a high value male who is fit has money desired by other women then yes she is not smart for letting me get away. Its that cut and dry. If she passed up on something many other women want because she thinks she can do better which she can't then that's on her not me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:06 PM
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I think they can yes, but I think if you are best friends it should always have the potential to evolve into more. You meet the personality part of the equation aka like the other person. You also know they are safe and not going to just misuse you. That only leaves attraction. And attraction when broken down comes down to rarity and value. If a man meets the qualities of a rare man that women would crave over that means he is a catch. Its that simple majority of men and women function like that…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:58 PM
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But on some level there is truth. They are and were rejected for not being good enough. My friend irl if she chooses not to date me after I have become without a doubt an upper tier man is going to be dropped as that's an insane level of rejection Its one thing to reject a man who needs to improve but its another to reject a man who is top tier and has worked their but off to prove it that other women desire
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:30 PM
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Your chances of divorce go down if you get married based on using logic and feelings not just one or the other like most people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:25 PM
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Imagine calling men pussified lol that’s such an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 12:45 PM
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Yeh u def should communicate that with the men but eh to each is own
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 12:35 PM
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bond is established it isn’t easily broken
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:47 AM
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Don’t get fat either of you, communicate, and never take each other for granted
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:19 PM
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basically this but it’s a personal loss it’s not your problem
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:46 AM
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i read that all parents make or break their kids early on
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:07 PM
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yeh fat acceptance is bs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:09 PM
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what is usp
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 05:24 AM
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You have a brain OP congrats your one of the few don’t really get debate premis thi
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:09 PM
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She CAN make herself higher value it’s not impossible most don’t tho, so usually it’s him settling or he really likes her in general
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 07:08 PM
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it’s not about the x fact—-again i would LOVE to sit on a discord call with u and pick ur brain
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:45 PM
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ur entire history of comments is literally you making remarks downtalking others insulting them belittling them or mocking them yes you have no karma also u are literally a alt to stir up shit in fact ima just report u
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:41 PM
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u too troll lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:39 PM
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They did not say they are damaging society. They said the men who do this are lying to themselves and society is lying about it. And once against as an autistic person I agree. A man or woman’s first choice is not a single parent. Assuming it is just delusion mostly. I personally want to date a women I know who is one and even then she will know on some level i’m “settling”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:37 PM
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When a woman rejects a man she is saying he is not attractive, he is not valuable enough to her, and she thinks she can do better. Fine. If this same woman goes off and becomes a SM with an obvious shitter. Now she is exposed to not only not be a good judge of character but also someone who can’t process outcomes well. Men take that personally and project the feelings of not being good enough on them. It’s just how men think about these things. I’m not even justifying it just explaining it. As i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:26 PM
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you need a good therapist and you need to really deconstruct your mind the fact you always say you don’t know your feelings is a huuuge red flag because it means your feelings dictate you if ur with a man and he feels great for a year but you meet a new man and he feels 20X better you might go to him citing feelings you REALLY need to figure this out in therapy you might have a real disorder and this is just concern no flame i like you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:20 PM
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single mothers get hate as i said before because they not only rejected the good men as if they were not good enough but chose worse men so men have hate at them for that i have already said this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:18 PM
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that’s not how that works the process if about breaking down WHY you are attracted to this person if you literally cannot write down a few paragraphs of qualities and traits u like about someone that means they mean nothing and can be replaced by the next person easily
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:13 PM
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single mothers share a lot of the same traits if u take a single mother and place them next to a woman who has had tons of sex but never gotten pregnant u can tell the difference one knows A+B=C the other feels like it might be diff
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:12 PM
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okay ur def trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:10 PM
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are u trolling first you said my post was narcissistic and bad then i explained it’s how neurodiverse people see the world and u are now saying u don’t know what i’m talking about where did i lose you if ur a childless woman your first choice is not going to be a single father over a man you can build a family with if that’s the case then that brings that man down a peg and he must make up for it it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:10 PM
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sexuality is different than just thoughts it’s in a brain chemistry level not thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:08 PM
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it’s the burden of being neurodiverse we see the world by input output and patterns you NT see it as feelings etc if i see single mothers settle constantly after not doing it then so be it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:05 PM
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please go look up what cbt is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:03 PM
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it makes sense, if a “good man” actually dates a single mother she is lucky, especially if he’s moderately attractive the sad truth about SM is in order for a man to choose them over other women it means she needs to have “more” The issue is most SM after childbirth use the excuse of childbirth to not get “tight and right” So this means physically they can’t appeal to the higher tier men so they must eventually settle or stay perma single THEN they need to find a man who actually has good father…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:34 PM
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men take it personal instead of mentally changing the thought. single mothers are repulsive because of the thought “she chose a shitter over a good guy like me that never would have done that she is sub human trash who is a moron” in fact it should be “she chose a shitter over me, she didn’t have a good head on her shoulders to begin with i dodged a bullet and honestly shouldn’t take it personal someone with that low level thinking did that…maybe she grew from it and will get it together now but…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:28 PM
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fuck no why would i date below i’m 6+ months consistent fit i’m not taking a woman who can’t match my energy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 10:19 PM
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because it’s not a problem limited to ND. if you can say love me at any weight or you don’t deserve me at my best you are a fucking moron and that’s almost 80% of the world saying that these days
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:24 PM
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If you get fit looks can change and do impact this zzzz so many people think looks can’t change crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:21 PM
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cbt says hi thoughts influence feelings change the way you think change the way you feel aka your feelings are not random they are based on actual tangible thoughts u think a guy is attractive for reasons and then u feel it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:15 PM
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yeah it’s crazy but if u say this out loud people get but hurt and say “find someone who loves u for any weight” bruh idc about that if i’m trolling and let myself go i should have that have repercussions in my relationship but that street goes two ways that’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:04 PM
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this is not true at all, but this is how many men end up in unhappy situations women can want a man to have responsibility but at the same time that comes at a cost which is she must hold an ammount as well, otherwise u can just replace her
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 04:01 PM
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This is sad but true. I’m not gonna nit pick here but stay thin life is easier
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:59 PM
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all of this is just not true women want good men but don’t get how to find or how they are made and men are just lost with no guidance
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:57 PM
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huh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:56 PM
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that’s not true
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 03:55 PM
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Go check out dating over 30 lmfaoooo Post 30 men inherently know something went wrong with the girl if she couldn’t lock down a guy before hand either she has a kid, or kept dating toxic men, is toxic etc either way at that point she either will settle for a DBR or self improve like crazy to where she can get a good guy which would require mass self awareness that most people don’t have
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:57 PM
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yah with a man u will have a DBR with in a few years it totally is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:50 PM
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Of men who want to FUCK
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:49 PM
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Because those make it seem like unfixable problems. Let me give you a real life example that should sum this up. My grandfather helped me pick out one of my first cars, he is getting sick now. If he….anyway this car I want till I die one day. If the engine explodes or it gets in a wreck it’s a 2009, the mechanic will say. “It’s totaled get a new one” Some people think this means it can’t be fixed but it’s saying the work and money to get it fixed would best be spent on something new. Because I l…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:49 PM
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Well your wrong, she gets no commitment at this age and most men start avoiding her but think what u want
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:41 PM
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Uhh personally as a man we want you to say the truth. I can’t fix the type, i can’t fix my personality. All those answers you gave are gaslighting basically. Now if you tell me i’m not muscular and need to get to 14% bodyfat??? Okay we can work with that. I can tangibly get to that goal, THATS why just tell me the truth and let me work, don’t have 20+ women saying “not my type” I have a long time friend who told me the same bs, and 6 months later i’m much fitter and she is much much nicer to me,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 01:37 PM
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mlm?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:11 PM
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I have to agree with this to a degree
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:15 AM
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This. Improve yourself and they look stupid as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:55 AM
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Follow the checklist of self improvement one of those things is holding him back. For me it was fitness
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:54 AM
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u would have gone to therapy if he was not worth loosing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 08:44 AM
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if he was a catch u would have risked it for him or done the work to try it idk why this concept is hard he wasn’t worth the effort
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:50 AM
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for women the wall is 30 but it can be pushed back if they are fit childless etc if they have a kid tho? and or not fit yeah it’s the wall 100% same for men tho tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:38 AM
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interest is bs anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:33 AM
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it’s never a one off
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 04:27 AM
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Its a human thing, some people truly can't mentally access those types of things and not feel bad People would like to believe they want to be loved no matter what weight they are but when faced with ideology that they can't do the same for others…..its hard for some reason idk its just a human thing lot of people have very “self centered/focused” on what they feel need etc
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:20 PM
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Not good enough to date, there are qualities they don't have that makes them a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:00 PM
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If u don't like him its because he isn't good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:53 PM
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No they don't sex is not the issue it's the act of being told ur not worthy of that kind of love
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 07:32 PM
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In correct personality that is fine in a good lifelong friend is thecaame ub a partner ur talking about casual themed friends Aka friends who fur under x setting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:18 PM
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Then you don’t know urself tbh because that's a catch 22 if someone can't figure out what they like look for in a person trait wise
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 06:16 PM
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Friends are always dating options in fact they are SUPERIOR because you know the person actually likes your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:28 PM
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Its just a lack of depth I know what I like in women down to the tiniest point because I've taken some time outside of “it feels good surface level thinking”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:27 PM
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The problem is people think people can't become attractive and write them off mentally it shows a lack of depth or understanding If someone is your reaaaaly close friend and you are not feeling it you need to be honest about why, perhaps they would correct it to meet your needs It bugs me people feel like that's not worth it One girl I know said she would be attracted if I had better clothes idc about clothes but if we dated I would give her money to make me a ken doll she was shocked I was so o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:26 PM
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The issue is you can improve or change things if you knew what they were, if women told me they will only date me if I had muscles I would have built them years ago that's motivation enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 05:24 PM
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U don't want sex because u find the man sub tier
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:31 PM
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Its because the rejection means they are not good enough as a person for them and that is what hurts the most
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:19 PM
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No the difference is being valued as a partner and being seen as attractive enough to not want to be with someone else who u think might be better one day
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:17 PM
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Its more your rejection meant he was not good enough in your eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:15 PM
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And they don’t like him because he is looked as not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:13 PM
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The spark is not out of your mind people just either don’t have the mental depth to explore it or prefer not to. The qualities you find attractive you know you do. The men who you feel nothing for you KNOW why and if a person was going to kill you for lying you would say it and usually its something they could change
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 04:10 PM
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Its because a woman who is not attracted to you thinks you do not deserve to be a father on some level
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:54 PM
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That's just not how real life works. Women say this because they need an out when it happens. If a glow up or significant attraction based physical or status changes women need to be able to say “he is a new person” The issue is women don't get how common or easy this is so they give statements like never etc
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:53 PM
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For the record this alsos means the man is not good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:47 PM
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yeh that’s usually just a half lie people say imo just like we grew apart
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:58 AM
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The idea comes from the nice guy feels if the woman chose him back then he would have proved he was better by improving over time. What these men fail to realize it’s it just not realistic, for everyone who says they have potential and can improve there are 99 people who said the same thing and never did it. I agree women need to be better at recognizing it in action but that’s a parents failure tbh for not pushing back against society. If a woman was fed hoe math lessons growing up as simple tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 03:57 AM
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do you just hate men like i can’t figure out your deal
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 10:48 AM
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Yes men will tell you via actions. My looks will work because i will say openly i don’t want a relationship and women will still give me sex thinking they can turn my mind i’ve already turned down two women trying this with me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 08:52 PM
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i feel you are trolling but okay how exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:34 PM
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yes actions outside of being hot
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:26 PM
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i plan on doing the same aka abusing looks when i get them which is what tons of men do unless it works out with this one girl idk how this is contridicting anything
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:03 PM
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no i’m not i just type and don’t use periods looks comes first that’s how the real world works when men realize this they tend to abuse it, i plan on doing the same tbh unless i am pleasantly shocked by it working on a girl i want
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:46 PM
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it’s really not looks comes first then the other stuff that’s how you become a catch that’s why so many men abuse this to use women because it is in fact that easy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:41 PM
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nope because i haven’t become physically attractive enough yet almost there tho on the home stretch
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 06:34 PM
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Women are not taught to ignore the signs, they are usually taught the opposite but people don’t like to listen and think they will be the 5%. It’s a lack of accountability until it’s too late. And as far as divorced women go that’s different to a degree, if both people were on same page going in and openly and deeply connected that doesn’t tend to happen either People becoming single mothers is usually a self inflicted issue If you pick chad or w/e and get “fat” and they cheat that’s self impose…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:05 PM
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almost every deadbeat dad showed prior with his actions he was shit he may have acted like shit but if he says i’m not shit women will believe him if he is cute once again it’s a feelings over reality issue
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:05 PM
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no laying with shit men causes this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 04:01 PM
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that’s how the friendzone works
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:14 PM
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my existence is fine but women inspire me just as i inspire myself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:14 PM
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input output is how people work psychology is a thing because people are creatures of habit subliminal messaging is a thing also it’s a game
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:13 PM
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throwing out moral standards for the hot guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 03:12 PM
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women’s views of fuckable is far higher than men which is i guess the issue in theory
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 01:27 PM
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Because you don’t wanna think of it like one but it basically is if you write down how it functions off of input output
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 01:26 PM
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the delusional behavior that leads to single moms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:37 PM
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excellent answer
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:36 PM
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they are not uninteresting they are not hot
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:25 PM
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life is a video game that’s how it all works in the end play to win or don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:06 PM
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perfect comment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:04 PM
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it is that’s the only differ
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:58 AM
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Because women go through this cycle and don’t learn till they become single moms
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:54 AM
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I don’t think that’s true I’m inspired because of her and that’s my fire but even if I can’t get her i’m still inspired because i know some woman will value my hard work i’ve put in on myself to be top tier
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:39 AM
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it’s okay to find a woman who inspires you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:35 AM
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Ehhh this isn’t quite true. Truthfully that’s low mental sheep thinking. You don’t want people like that in your life ANYWAY lol. The truth is a man needs to find a woman that he wants to be his best FOR. And pushes himself to his max for. Women want to be that woman, and yes when men get options they can abuse that but it doesn’t mean they have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:19 PM
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Have the qualities of a fictional hero u look up to. Be fit. Be financially stable. Genuinely care about others close to you. Care about making the world, and your kids life’s better for them after you pass in the actions you take and do. Bet your partner well and have respect for them and expect the same. Be willing to have moments of honest brutal truth with your family/kids. Pretty much it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:34 PM
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Yes it’s real but people don’t like when humans can be broken down to patterns or science it feels “vapid of emotion”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 02:02 PM
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Do you need to talk m
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:13 AM
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great post sheila take the award
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:07 PM
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while your at it please give the autists back all the great inventions we have given u NTs because we can think outside the box
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:04 PM
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agreed op seems very odd
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:04 PM
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not really what IS correlated is autistic kids learn and function differently on average, and currently most social systems are built for NT who just “get it” if u have an experienced autistic person who is well adjusted teach younger crowd it’s much easier
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:00 PM
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I see. Maybe i’m one of the individuals who doesn’t fall into that category. Second question, what are your views towards body positivity and people like lizzo?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:56 PM
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No shame because I’ve seen your results and they are great, but do you think for some people it’s a strength of will/being raised a certain way to view food? I could have done it but instead i became obsessed with a goal and have been just working out like crazy most days
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:38 PM
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Lol but seriously this take is an excuse for not trying. If you IMPROVE you will see results if you cannot accept that then don’t bother, and stay stagnant it’s people who make posts like this who never try
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:28 PM
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If every man tried and maxed out you would be correct but 80% of more don’t understand that hard work can be a determining factor when others won’t do it lmao. You can have all the genetic potential but if you leave it at that while the guy with less than you maximize his into fruition you still come out on top Women want a man who can do that i’m doing it now and if i’m correct the end of this year will prove my theory
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:06 AM
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Okay we arw assuming both the man and woman are not total morons or shitters. Now will a hvm accept anything less than the best from his partner? No because if she slacks he can find another She will rise to him or fall
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:13 PM
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biiiiingo you find strong feminist women and then boom look at the man she dates typically it’s all u need to know
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:37 AM
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Women improve after men improve. That’s how it goes. A man is invisible improves and then women want him, to get him THEY have to improve it’s the cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:34 AM
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i think they are dying tbh and won’t be a thing in 10 years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:21 AM
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i think we are getting close to that point tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:20 AM
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LMAO this is a good one. And yes i’m picking tree lmfaoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:12 PM
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I highly agree with this post. I’m not alpha and never will be, the idea of being domineering over others grossed me out. I am however very focused on my goals and passions while also being soft when warranted. I think more autistic men and women would do better if they stayed in their own lane tbh. And this isn’t hate against NT but it’s really difficult when communication is a key part of relationships if you and your partner have two different styles. To an NT it can be seen as over communica…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:37 PM
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then you move on if it doesn’t lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:54 AM
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Biiiingo As I get more attractive I become more liked
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 07:09 PM
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Yh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:46 PM
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ty but again im invisible untill im not, my belly isn't flat yet so its still somewhat there but once its gone its night and day, body transformations are weird but not TRULY WTF noticeable if you see someone all the time, unless u haven't seen them in a long while
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:17 PM
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Oh boy. Here goes this one. Most women wanna date up. Also men scale visually weird. I'm a 6 atm. When I get to 14% body fat ill be a 6.5 when I put muscle on that I'll be a 7/-8. Currently most women would find me invisible tbh. So am I unattractive? No but do I stand out not at all, by end of this year I will tho I'm currently 17% Last year in November I was almost 30
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:58 PM
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So don't add weirdo is my point it has implications
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:48 PM
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I answered it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:48 PM
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And what u refuse to admit is the latter stuff you mentioned is in a feedback loop with BEING visually attractive lmfao. If your visually attractive something as simple as cutting the yard can be seen as masculine because its visually attractive. The latter skills are insanely basic if u have the feedback loop of being VISUALLY attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:48 PM
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No that being said if weight is an issue make it known from get go. Have a real honest conversation about weight gain and how it affects sexual attraction etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:45 PM
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Aka it got uncomfortable for you so you backed out. And charm is all in perception but ill leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:44 PM
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all of these things do not matter because they literally are based off looks i’ve run this experiment irl so many times i have a friend who tells horrible jokes borderline offensive who is considered funny by women someone else says then who isn’t as attractive and it’s offensive once again and this goes especially for women, you do not have a camera on you to watch your behavior so being aware of these two concepts is uncomfortable because you usually learn the truth one is the halo effect(we n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:40 PM
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then leave out weirdo it’s a word that has implications of socially akward which tends to be a person who means well asshole doesn’t give a fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:32 PM
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It’s just a random lie and a stupid one humans tell
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:25 PM
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he doesn’t turn her pussy off that’s not how that works which is what i said if he is handsome she will make it braindead easy he would have to be completely disrespectful to her emotions, an asshole to fumble it if he is truly attractive and follows the 3 laws of dating anyone vet well don’t take them for granted communication
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:25 PM
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that’s not a cringy weirdo that’s a asshole don’t do that basic human psychology issue of in group vs out group mindset what ur doing at this very minute is trying to claim that the “asshole” must be cringe and our group no he’s just an asshole + unnatractive if he was kind but un he would be friendzoned if he was good looking but attractive he would be the horrible guy ur dating but can’t stop fucking as he mistreats you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:23 PM
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Looks quite LITERALLY give you interpersonal POWER. Because everything is enhanced. Words can’t do that or rizz not as easily or consistently that look other women get when they look at her man ain’t there from rizz it’s there when he LOOKS good female arousal is a lie it’s mostly looks based yes u can rizz but eventually what matters is looks and do you two actually have decent shared interests and connection rizz falls off
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:21 PM
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That’s not how psychology works. I’ll give a example. If you have watched himym. Barney develops a crazy plan to woo a girl who has rejected him. On the surface this is cringe cause bro just find a new girl! But deeper down and this is important if it SUCCEEDS it’s now an insane accomplishment and romantic as fuck. Human beings perceive others in success and failure. David goggins is cringe for working out so much because bro “it’s not that serious” Until he achieves greatness and people go from…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:18 PM
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That’s called being stupid. And no a cringy weirdo is different from a guy who does normal non attractive things sometimes but isn’t overall attractive , people get those two mixed up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:13 PM
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OP in your fantasy world maybe. But go take a look at reddit threads from people who lost weight or got fit. MANY people complain that the people around them say “your personality” got better etc when they are exactly the same way. It’s a concept people are not cognitively aware of. Social skills do not truly matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:12 PM
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getting the girl doesn’t mean shit if deep down she acts like he’s lucky to be with her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:10 PM
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it does all the time but the halo effect makes them seem fine
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:09 PM
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doubt it and then if you compared it would prob make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:07 PM
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this is exactly what happens i know two women currently who act like this, and it’s not a woman problem it’s people who don’t want to do the work and self reflect on their base choices and how there is a pattern there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:06 PM
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gonna call cap on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:04 PM
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social skills are braindead easy if you can hang out with 2 guys and chat u got em
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:03 PM
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yeh it’s craaazy i’m literally doing an experiment irl atm with a girl who claimed we didn’t have a spark and proving her wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:02 PM
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Once again it’s not that deep. None of what you listed is hard in practice and that’s why MANY people get friendzoned or end up with being BEST FRIENDS with women. If your best friends with a woman or have accomplished this you got enough skills to date her your just missing looks. For Autistic men and women they don’t possess the natural skill of raising that social barrier to be attractive at various times they need the looks component and that’s okay. Cause the looks component is vastly bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:00 PM
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Unless your fit none of this applies. When you are not fit you are severely under leveled in a game sense so you never had a chance to see if your skills could kill the boss aka attract her
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:07 AM
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Yes this is almost always true and it’s usually just looks because being fit is not hard it’s just a hard thing for most people to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:18 PM
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This ONLY happens if billy is a shitter or got with a person who is toxic. If billy self improves his mind, body and becomes a man other women look at and desire his wife does not DB him and he does not end up divorced. Billy tends to think I love “her” that should be enough without understanding if you TRULY love her you would improve yourself to give her the best you could inside and out I've been training 6 months straight to get fit and lose weight and put on muscle to be in the best physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:23 PM
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This is my only issue tbh. If the “beta” gets his life together and becomes a prize other women would want he avoids this most betas are shitters tho tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:10 PM
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The only comment that makes some fucking sense. This has nothing to do with aspbergers and more to do with her staying with a total shit show of a man
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 10:29 PM
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thissss
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:34 AM
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good for you, it’s nice to see some healthy people what op describe is a cycle of toxicity that exists
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:34 AM
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That's not irrational to look for red flags that's called being smart. You should always be aware and looking for reasons. This person is single prior to you for one of the following. Toxic, can't choose healthy partners, recently overcame one of the previous and is now looking for a good partner OR someone died. That's pretty much it especially past 25 I would say for women and 28 for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 04:53 PM
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That is def not what that is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:40 PM
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I think you are brain-dead. This whole post is an issue, GF of 20!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:46 PM
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Nah red pill is legit it's what toxic women want
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:45 PM
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Okay what's this disorder called
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 01:32 PM
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Chemistry is just a buzzword for physical people are just afraid to say it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:31 AM
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A lot of those couples are miserable nice try. get fit matters most
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 02:18 PM
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men* and the truth is just be fit which is what women say sorta they say they like dad bods but not really
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 05:36 AM
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Marriage only gets hard if you fuck up the three most important things. Communication, poor vetting of a partner, taking partner for granted(not valuing them/letting urself go)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:54 PM
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red pill as a concept is a joke tho the truth is just be attractive aka fit it all comes from there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:20 PM
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Sounds like they failed one of the three checks of relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:26 PM
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Easily fixed too which is crazy just put in the work
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:22 PM
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i’m convinced these men just like crying tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:20 PM
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You are picking terrible men. That’s why. https://youtu.be/QLXhUKVd4fo?si=7sO-LShbVvWblmke
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:38 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:49 AM
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They can be broken down. Lol. Take sweet tea. I love it it’s a great feeling but the feeling of unsweetened plus splenda is about the same and WAY better for me health wise
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:08 PM
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It’s because to think of things on a deeper level it’s difficult for majority of people
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 06:19 PM
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it’s part of being the average human
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:56 PM
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? no? chocolate feels better because it’s made of sugar which makes your taste buds respond better that’s us why chocolate feels better vs broccoli now that we know that we can say okay i WANT to enjoy broccoli more because it’s healthier how can u impact it to make my tastebuds respond better i can HIDE it in other savory items, i can add cheese, i can even add SUGAR to simulate the chocolate taste reaction with more health benefits because it’s not that chocolate tastes better it’s that the su…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:56 PM
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Horrible way to live and just another deadbedroom in the making. People call marriage work for that reason. It’s ain’t work when you cut the bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:49 PM
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Sigh. Feelings have MEANING behind them. Feelings are not just I feel this. It’s I feel this because it means THIS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:48 PM
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if a man does this he is a shitter
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:47 PM
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sounds insanely toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:46 PM
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it’s called toxicity and it’s become accepted as a result of many factors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:44 PM
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No the issue is once again a lot of people would rather sail on the sea of life letting wind of events guide them 65% Then there are people who use sails to manipulate the wind of events on the sea of life. 20% Then there are people who build a motor and use that to travel the sea of life how they want. 15% you are in the first bracket
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:31 PM
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Provision is on a subconscious level but it is one ingredient for the spark. Not monetary also but just looks wise and how others view you through them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:09 PM
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It’s very easy. However it’s something most people don’t do. It’s the same reason food addiction or addictions work sometimes. It feels good so I want it. It feels good and I want it but then I feel bad later. It seems like it feels good but it makes me feel bad. It feels bad. That’s the progression of thought and how you avoid having feels drive you into bad shit. Most people stop at first sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:48 PM
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looks matter much much more presentation is everything many examples of glow up effects many women and men have gotten depressed after glowing up because people treat them so differently and say they love their personality etc when it’s just bs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:13 PM
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You are vastly underestimating how people work and what spark is. I feel no spark for her I can replicate what i feel and want for her easily by shifting my feelings to disgust. But again people do the shift all the time. Friends for years someone has a glow up and all of a sudden magically “i feel the spark”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:11 PM
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mine is logic based and the history with her is much higher value than a new woman i also subscribe to the ideology of have one woman have them all. which means when i meet her requirements excluding delusions i will meet others too so if she STILL isn’t interested in me after busting my ass for a year to become a more fit and better guy then i know she is just stuck other women hear what i’m doing and are shocked because deep down they wish a guy would do that for them so if she does reject i k…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:01 PM
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but that is still logic looks are crazy important
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:53 PM
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Because we have the most history together and we know each other better than most people know us it just sucks i gotta do this alone without her to make her lightbulb go off
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:52 PM
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it’s fitness i know a bland guy everyone loves but it’s because of his looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:49 AM
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Okay i’ll give you an example. A woman in my life who was not “attracted to me” does not feel spark. I logically know I have known her a long time know her tastes in men and tell her. If I do X you will feel something for me and it will grow. She doesn’t believe me. I am about little under halfway through my body transformation and wether she is aware or not (she isn’t) she has started treating me differently. She randomly texts me, she sends me memes, asks me about my day etc. Treats me much be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:48 AM
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And that spark is manufacturable it’s not hard to create it. Men who learn how can do it to many women, why is it so hard for you to accept this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:39 AM
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The spark is limmerece and why most relationships fail
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:35 AM
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You can in fact logic your way into it. But you have to swallow pride and ego. That means accepting harsh logic not feels good. I want a woman to love me= For me to maximize this I need to be sub 14% body fat and that’s ok
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:34 AM
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u like toxic men it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:32 AM
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prob not fit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:26 AM
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did u not watch vod
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:08 PM
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tell me you didn’t watch the video
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 05:07 PM
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agreed i know a girl who is like this with a man who she matches it is what it is if she’s happy i’m not judging how she was before the girl i like and hope to marry is a massive pick me is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:57 PM
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we have to approach because u guys wrote the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:24 PM
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sad but true i cannot stand people who lie like this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:11 PM
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bingooo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:07 PM
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i didn’t say anything about being dumb how about you follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:58 PM
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you didn’t follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:57 PM
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they are not tho which is the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:55 PM
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It’s literally been at least a few days since the last one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:42 PM
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Did you even follow the prompt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:41 PM
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as a man who is doing this now i can tell you it’s really that simple it’s the same thing as getting drafted, just self improve and you will get noticed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:51 PM
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a bear vs a man is not a comparison i love women and respect and care for them but if a woman told me she is choosing a BEAR i would immediately see a red flag for that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:54 PM
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and you are the biggest threat to your children what’s your point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:42 AM
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most men don’t rape tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:27 AM
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assuming men are going to rape you when the chance is basically 1% or less based of basic math is kinda crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:23 AM
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i swear i agree this woman hates men i feel truly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:19 AM
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Because again it’s horrible men will rape or women but if your doing things to be in a bad situation?? It’s the same thing as a person living paycheck to paycheck because of a shopping problem and then getting a major expense and freaking out sorta point is rape is horrible but we live in a soviet where bad people will make their move if you put yourself in horrible circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 05:14 AM
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Sad but prob true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:34 AM
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yes women are vicious when their feelings are involved
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:38 PM
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go to 2x and post a thread on sex workers or porn that’s what it would be like. better yet search those threads there it’s insanely toxic on both sides and women ripping each other apart
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:25 PM
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well spoken
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:50 PM
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because statistically women choose bad men yes we know
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:51 PM
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this is delusion at its finest
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:51 PM
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congrats you willingly don’t want kids that’s different that settling for not having kids/partner because you can’t find one
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:50 PM
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your trauma is showing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:49 PM
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??? avoid bad men and bad situations don’t assume all men are bad somple
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:48 PM
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sure that too she isn’t ignoring the bear for long tho
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:59 PM
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choose evil? and unreliable?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:58 PM
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yeah those intimates are bad men chosen we all know the pick better thing women don’t do or if they do they tend to be happily ltred
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:40 PM
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oh so u truly think the MORE time a man spends around a woman he is more conditioned to harm her as he hasn’t really had experience around her before as opposed to a bear? you either got deep trauma or are a committed troll i suspect latter
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:31 PM
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who the fuck is happy to see a woman die? okay i can slightly understand from a point of hurt maybe woman stupid and choose bear she died she’s a dumbass while at same time woman who is terrified of being raped chooses man finds some boring nerd and they talk star wars till they leave forest yeah a guy observing that might take some pleasure in the hate filled dumbass woman who picked bear dying not to say it’s right but it’s humans there is a reason idiots in cars is a subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:30 PM
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that’s not true at all in fact i would argue it’s LESS assuming the two interact as people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:28 PM
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Teaching them to be cautious of certain situations sure. But projecting your trauma in that you fear every man is not okay. Again your missing the point your choosing certain death by bear vs over a 90% chance of living fine scot free because some men are bad it’s borderline insane
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:27 PM
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hell are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:26 PM
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The more time you spend around a bear the more likely it eats you, they don’t because they are not conditioned around you as a human, you keep your distance and leave area it’s cool, but if your in the area for too long aka 24 hours with them in a small forest
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:24 PM
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It’s the LENGTH of time that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:23 PM
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Yeah if this doesn’t sound like a woman who hates men idk what it could be. Bad men give signs they are bad men women just ignore them. That’s what men are talking about but instead of accepting any stance of reasonability some women would rather say all men are bad, it couldn’t be i’m a dumbass who ignores the toxic signs i’m picking bad men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:22 PM
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yeah follow is not the original question that would change everything u def would prob still pick man tho
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:21 PM
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sounds like a common issue but i’m not gonna go into it at least ur happily married
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:20 PM
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Because your trauma cannot be projected onto others it’s unhealthy. Your distrust of men imagine if you projected that onto your child? See the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:16 PM
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Don’t be stupid or make bad choices and get assaulted. Obviously there are exceptions but going home drunk with a guy u meet a bar is the start of many cases
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:15 PM
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she asked me for national parks statements on bears not men and most MEN are not gonna give you unwanted contact the fact women wanna take a 10% chance of death vs a 99% chance is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:11 PM
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you really hate men jesus it shows and yes the statistics are HIGH in favor of choosing man to be better plz educate yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:10 PM
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which is why rational women not dealing with trauma or issues or misandry answer man like so many women i know who looked at me like i’m intellectually disabled for asking them an obvious choice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:09 PM
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there is no follow in the original question it’s just alone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:07 PM
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https://www.nps.gov/subjects/bears/safety.htm
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:06 PM
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the man was never following you in the question wtf r u talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:02 PM
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your delusion is sad women just lie to women cause desperation isn’t pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:02 PM
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yeah go look up how and what factors matter in bear attacks educate yourself https://youtu.be/RWAuWiTWRLA?si=aVvJXRxDQ4CyVEIQ
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:01 PM
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it’s a false statement as fuck and shows you don’t understand bears a lone bear will fuck you up and WILL approach you because bears leave people alone when they are not conditioned to them, the LONGER your around them the higher it goes up aka hours. men approach alone women not to trap them unless they have bad intentions they do it because socially the group of girls is HARDER to select one to hit on as they all feel sleighted your not talking to them and they will discredit you or attempt to
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:59 PM
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right it’s about taking certain death vs a 10% or lower chance to get raped or die in same manner or far worse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:56 PM
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too vague if you had male friends ask them on your take on your standards women lie to women men will tell u the objective truth
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:55 PM
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that is totally different in so many ways
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:54 PM
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The data is on social relationships and how people do in isolation. Women friendships are not = to men. When you are the single female who gets invited as third wheel/can't hang out with the couples that's when you realize damn your really alone, when you see couples having kids you realize damn i’m alone for all that talk yes women unless they meet what i said above they are miserable without men unless they can unhealthily make their kids their whole life like most single parents do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:54 PM
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Bears do NOT just see you as a threat you are opportunity for free meal the fuck? Your not a threat your food lmao. Again the point is your trying to make rape worse than dying horrifically to a bear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:51 PM
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I mean you guys chose the bear over the man
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:49 PM
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Considering the vast ages of the man and the fact that you can kick him in the nuts, poke out his eyes, stab him etc Only 20% of men or lower are even remotely fit. And from that pile now you need a small % chance of who would harm. The reason this question is deep is what it shows is women BELIEVE deep down men are evil and opportuniests and with no one to catch them would hurt a woman, which says a lot about the men these women associate with. Or how they were raised etc
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:45 PM
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If ur in that forest for 24 hours with that bear it can and will eat u
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:42 PM
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Men are focused on rape because women made it about rape saying they would rather die than be raped, which is asine tbh because your basically saying rape victims are better off dead
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:41 PM
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Your standards must have been quite insane then if you had accepted that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:40 PM
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This isn't a game of would you rather, it's a dumb question with an obvious answer. Here is another one would you rather have a black guy with no shirt be walking behind you at night or a white guy with a gun on his side.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:39 PM
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People recover from rape and can move on to have healthy lives it doesn't impact everyone the same especially if you do the work in therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:34 PM
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Tell me you don’t know anything about bears who run 25 mph and climb trees without telling me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:33 PM
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The chances of that man doing ANYTHING are far less than a bear eating you. You are choosing certain death in a painful way vs basically a 90% chance to live vs 10% chance of dying in a painful way or way worse way. It's just stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:32 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:28 PM
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You can defeat a man you cannot a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:28 PM
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It's because it's a stupid would you rather with an obvious answer but shows how much some women have internal work to do regarding how they view men. My best friend (prob future wife) is stuck on bear despite her friends coworkers etc explicitly explaining why bear is insanely stupid. If I were to take it deeper, it's more than likely because she has never known a good man tbh and is projecting the abuse etc they dealt to her onto this question
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:26 PM
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Wrong redpill is an over reaction men have to good women not helping them, and bad women lying to them or using them. They don’t realize they need to learn what good women want and instead walk the path of manipulating and fulfilling thr wishes of toxic addiction that bad women want while hurting good women when they cross them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:24 PM
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That's not how humans work but sure lets pretend all data and science shit don't show proof that's not how the majority of people work
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:21 PM
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Cool aunt is not the original plan it is a place people reach when they realize the cards were not for them and it's hard for many people to settle into it. If your happily not dating there could be a few reasons. Unresolved trauma/Widowed and can't move on/Delusions of standards/Picking wrong guys etc Or maybe you are just a random woman who just hates dating and truly dislikes men enough to enjoy being alone without any reason or underlying issue that should be treated?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:55 PM
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It's def the majority, they just are not vocal because to say it would mean that the narrative of “we don't need men” is a lie. Single women are not happy unless (they have a child to love through or multiple pets OR have mentally accepted they are the single forever “cool aunt” otherwise The woman is asking where the good men are/Is she really worth a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:41 PM
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I think it's a lie that deep down many women regret or know its a lie to admit it. Women cry about being single randomly all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:33 PM
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Lmaooo not the point and if you miss
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:30 PM
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and if you miss?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:29 PM
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Some women like it. It can be hard for men to know what healthy women want. Also maybe in their eyes you are great. Point is a lot of men ditch their friends when they get a happy girl it’s just a thing guys do. At least early on. I think you should talk to those men or future men when you feel them getting to clingy and dare to wonder what is making them feel like they need to do that with you or that it’s acceptable behavior to you in their minds
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:27 AM
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Are you introverted? ND? Maybe your picking NT men who can’t understand you. But either way it’s good you have learned from this now, I think it might help before you cut and run from men who start dropping friends to ask them why they feel like they need to do that with you. Maybe it’s something that can be explored once you know reason, like maybe they feel anxious because your so great or something who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:02 AM
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she said most men are violent and pushy there is nothing to defend bro she let her real thoughts through
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:00 AM
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a gun isn’t taking down a 1200 lb bear quickly before she charges you disembowels you before succumbing to her injuries
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:58 AM
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Horrible take and just not true. This is misandrist as fuck and if a man said most women are bitchy it wouldn’t fly
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:57 AM
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You can have as many as you want imo, but if they turn south it means your picking poorly. Also these men i do not believe did not show ANY signs of being needy children from start. If you asked your friends and family they might have seen it while you had love goggles on. Second I have seen you post here. Perhaps there is something extremely independent about you that makes men feel “left out?” and should be explored. Unless your happily taken now, maybe some self reflection if you come off a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:55 AM
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Your man could NOT take a bear
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:51 AM
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tbh it says something about the men you choose if that pattern happened AND if those men demonstrated more than one instance of that and you didn’t instantly cut ties and choose better no?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:47 AM
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I hate to say it but yes Misty is correct here. I have studied bipolar 1/2 recently and I can tell you as a therapist in training you REALLY need to do the work to keep it in check, exposing others to your major depression + hypomanic or even manic states willy nilly is NOT healthy for anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:45 AM
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Assuming we are stuck together i pick woman, the law of nature says eventually she will fall hopelessly in love with me as we are stuck in proximity and she has no other options
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:22 PM
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Totally agree with this one by far. I wish we could give gold stil
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:37 PM
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If you are say 31-35 man you should be aiming 29-30 woman give or take 2 years. Idk why a deep 30s man has a problem with any woman 25-28 if she has no kids 29+ is where it’s usually a woman with horrible judgment or is too picky and destined to be a cat lady
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:52 PM
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I heavily disagree. It’s totally fine if the woman has learned from kid 1. If she has 2 run tho. RUN. And make sure from the moment your getting serious you are NOT tolerating that second citizen “my child” shit where you are spit on for being step
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:21 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:26 PM
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Not the former
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:26 PM
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it’s because women say otherwise and avoid telling the man the truth which is also sad because many men can FIX a physical problem they can’t just “become fun”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:55 PM
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the checklist works when it’s real that’s how people work for most people it means your a catch people LIE about it tho and ignore the hidden physical part of the checklist and wonder why it fails lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:53 PM
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She chooses better instead of hoping a child will change him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:43 PM
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Because they are boring and safe irl. And just because they say something perceived as mean online doesn’t take away from that. If they say something meant to hurt or belittle or truly mean in a mean fashion be alarmed tho. Example. My classmate has a horrible guy atm, he treats her like a sleeper, she keeps hoping for more with him and he is using her for months now. You are wasting your time and should look for better. (truth and not mean) You are dumb women suck because they chase chad. (mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:40 PM
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finally a logical woman
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:31 AM
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Okay those are just trash men in general. genuinely well meaning guys are not like that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:05 AM
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Get fit that’s it pretty privilege will carry the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:53 AM
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if u let a guy do that your misplaying he should be marrying u in 2 years tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:52 AM
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it’s usually chad because the women men pick arnt boring safe guys typically
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:50 AM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:37 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:29 PM
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They self sabotage
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:29 PM
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naruto failed a shit load before he succeeded? that’s fine and he worked his ASS off if you work your ASS off you will usually succeed men just don’t wanna work
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:28 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:04 PM
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yeah it’s pretty toxic and makes you think women have fucked outlooks etc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 01:52 PM
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dating on the spectrum is easy if you get fit and stay in your lane aka only date autistic chicks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:21 AM
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how has the redpill affected you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:18 AM
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what a stupid take JUST GET FIT
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 05:13 AM
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preselection
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:58 AM
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you are a joke op this is not made in good faith women are not harpies who only desire hyper masculine men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:37 PM
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this is a woman bashing post it’s claiming women are set in ways selfish and want very manly men who fit a stereotype not offering any wiggle room for what is attractive or masculineish
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:36 PM
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no one said you did
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:29 PM
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they had it and lost it probably due to him taking her for granted
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:26 PM
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Lmao yeah because you banging her and tossing her away cause you didn’t want her is comparable to her lusting after her husband giving great sex being a co-operative partner and having a strong family? Bruh get over yourself. If you think getting a short period of fucks with a woman is comparable to a high value man in the future getting all of the relationship shit plus sex later my god you must value relationships low also this is hella double standard because shit if your fucking so many rand…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:32 PM
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Lmao, not every woman is an ex party girl and even then that doesn’t make you a beta bucks. That shit is a state of being/mind. If you view yourself as less than your wife, and just security but not truly attractive but think it’s okay because you are “nice” THEN you are BB. But if you are striving for your best and get to a point where people around you notice your progress, you bet believe your sweet ass she notices too. And there is nothing more attractive than a man who is improving himself …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 03:31 PM
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Beta bucks is easy to avoid. You can be beta personality but what motivates you, drives you pushes you, there needs to be a fire somewhere. Be agreeable and communicate sure but at same time be fit have a great career and strive to be supportive it’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:57 PM
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bro you need therapy or you are a troll you post this self defeating shit constantly you must have zero rolemodels or some type of disorder idk
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:48 PM
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idk if she’s a clinger but that’s a lot of time around someone your dating can’t really live ur life during that time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:45 PM
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why would you want someone your just dating around THAT much
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:45 PM
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i’m saying women find men who get other women hot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 01:44 PM
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as an autistic man this conversation is self defeating
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:32 AM
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tbf she means more than that like you can drop ANYTHING to come to her prob more than twice a week
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:28 AM
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it’s called preselection lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:26 AM
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preselection is a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:14 AM
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u/TSquaredRecovers People are extremely predictable and follow patterns. The only exception is a person who tends to SEE the pattern and actively thinks to avoid that thought processs/behavior. Psychology is a thing for a reason. Patterns are a thing Person in that comment thread blocked me so I can’t say anything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:19 AM
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Uh actually i’ve experienced quite a bit of it. The point I was making is the picture you are trying to paint of this guy is full cap. I bet right now if a bunch of guys here saw him they would be like yep that makes sense. Outside of looks people do NOT shift personalities after knowing them for a long ass time. You dated for at least 6+ months or longer before actually moving in together, if you vetted him appropriately for toxic traits that are not tingle traits aka sexually appeasing ones yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:33 PM
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u do win lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:22 PM
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Okay. That’s pretty telling. He was a good “conversationalist”. Looks matter a LOT unless your looks are not up to par. Maybe you guys were looks matching or something despite you calling him mid. Your lack of experience also is another clue. If you were as attractive as your saying you are you would theoretically have plenty of experience UNLESS your childhood back—— Oh you had CPTSD nevermind been through that. This whole thing is moot. That shit changes your views and stuff from “normal woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:22 PM
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Physical flaws are one of the MAIN reasons relationships end lmao. Because they cascade into other things people just mentally downplay them for some reason. Great conversations? Cmon now. That’s not how attraction works. You cannot “be friendly and have good conversation” that’s why the friendzone exists you can have fantastic conversations with people and still not physically like them i would wager subconsciously you knew that and that behavior he could feel but never describe which also furt…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:43 PM
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okay so let’s be real this guy was not lookswise “mid” he was lookswise fine but personality wise he was shit there is no rational reason you would put up with an unattractive male for 3 years who is also bad looks this is a case of he was abusive probably hot at the time and eventually his shit became too bad to deal with and u left now with a mentality of “man he was a shitter” looking back this is different from dating a mid or average looks threshold guy in the MOMENT two of my close female …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:03 PM
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that’s not the story i was calling cap about i was talking about the “mid” guy you gave a chance to
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:40 PM
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You can improve that stat lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:39 PM
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why not just try going all in for one year minimum and see if things change
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:43 PM
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Or maaaaybe reflect from each loss???
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:41 PM
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Then they don’t watch enough anime lmaoooo Anime is all about that try your best and you MIGHT succeed Idk why people would rather not try and fail than never try at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:39 PM
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league of legends
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:22 AM
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that ends older u get
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:21 AM
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cap you are leaving something out
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:20 AM
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glance of first one and it’s it’s woe is me shit second one is even worst i used to read that shit it’s just fat people talking tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:17 AM
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Letting yourself go leads to it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:11 AM
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If a woman loves ur body she will lust for you naturally that’s how this works
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:09 AM
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League can teach you a lot about basic human psychology. If you understand the behaviors and beliefs of people irl, you can navigate it better. But yes many MANY women are delusional and over value themselves but many men are also delusional and undervalue how much work they need to do to become a man of quality. The men women want don't match them typically value/level wise so without more work a woman can’t secure them but most don’t want to do the work
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:57 AM
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Biiiiingo. Thats why you don't bother or waste time. I play league I get men or women who will decide all the time if they are not the main character doubt the best on the team and carrying they don't care and want to go next. A team game, where winning doesn't matter to them in a RANKED environment, and instead just doing the best that game matters. If that isn't delusion idk what is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:52 AM
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Redpill is garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:50 AM
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You sound like a delight
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:48 AM
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Then you are probably delusional. Standards naturally fall in the absence of choice. They only don’t fall when you think you can do better but usually that's a false assessment in the absence of hard work and a real objective look at yourself. My friend has this issue she still thinks she is a catch and at her 23-25 year old level despite being a single parent now and almost 30. She lose points for age and points for the kid. She is objectively a 6.5 now probably for most quality men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:43 AM
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I say this time again men are doing this thing where they want delusional women to feel bad for being delusional Bruh that's WHY they are delusional A woman who cannot find a man and has good choices is inherently flawed so is a man like this let delusional people who feel they deserve the very best with no work ethic be delusional lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:38 AM
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Desperation doesn't matter if you are a high level thinker. If they are desperate but objectively a catch it's fine
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:26 AM
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Aka they were fat and should have lost weight but w/e as a side note i deep down inside so not like women or men who act like this they know physically the person isn’t enough and usually it’s weight based and can’t just speak up the lack of transparency disgusts me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 04:53 AM
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u/MistyMaisel please share your thoughts no cap tho dude you are just picking bad women AND not being attractive to the ones who can show respect and not be crazy you need both parts that’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 06:57 PM
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I think they are saying women feel more entitled to safety than men. Which I guess maybe you could say that. It’s sorta like a conqueror killing men first then raping the women but leaving them alive and just leaving the children alone or even raising them to be wells off. We just sorta expect children - women - men in that order to be protected
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:57 PM
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usually there is more to that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:54 PM
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how would this even happen
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:14 PM
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You sound southern as fuck the way you typed that. But i agree if someone invites you and it’s a implied or explicit “date” you kinda do need to pay for them in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:42 PM
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Lol this bill thing is so overrated. pay or don’t pay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:38 PM
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Dating is easy literally just get fit lmao. Five months in and women show me hella more positive feedback
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:36 PM
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Yes sadly that’s how some people work
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:56 PM
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the gap is MASSIVE the DIFFICULTY however to bridge the gap is quite easy and takes a year at max
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:44 PM
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Yep. All of this is to say dishonesty ruins dating even more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:43 PM
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I’m saying posting in general is just not something i agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:42 PM
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They are inflated in a sense of what women want from a guy. The basic standards have gone up for what a “good guy” needs. It’s not even a BAD thing pragmatically. What you don’t want happening is a woman “settling in her 30s” because that’s a bad marriage etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:04 PM
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These men are not being truthful with her either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:00 PM
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Sadly true
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 04:59 PM
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It does when the gap between top 20 and bottom 80 is so massive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 04:59 PM
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Standards have become inflated for sure, but they are also fall? I think when women get older and try apps and realize they are not working or rather they are not getting the same kinda of responses from them their standards fall rapidly tbh from what I have observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:40 PM
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Its just what many women want deep down inside. It's not a big deal its a human nature thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:39 PM
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I kinda have to agree with this but to be fair men don't make it any easier by abusing the "power" of being a top % man either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:38 PM
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It is because we are currently in a serious turmoil situation relationship-wise. Now that women have free choice many fathers that were "decent enough" back then are dogshit tier now. You have the sons of these kids, or sons of these single mothers absolutely fucking clueless, who will either figure it out randomly, or be dogshit fathers eventually in unhappy marriages. All of this is to say its our parents faults but this generation is just lost. The pill theories are an attempt to sorta figure…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:36 PM
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LMAO you gotta admit he stood on business and that is to be respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:32 PM
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Count me out by Kendrick lamar is my go to at the moment. My idealistic [when I get the committed partner song tho] is Mirrors by Justin Timberlake and Fresh Eyes by Andy Grammer. Not sure why but those last two really apply I think to my future partner if it's who I think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:31 PM
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Fake? No. I think a lot of it is fake, I have seen people literally post happy family photos just a few months from divorce. It disturbs me. But it is not all fake, but I refuse to contribute to the scene unless its a TRULY significant happy moment I want to preserve. Proposal/wedding/graduations/MAJOR vacations/milestones not hey I'm smiling today with the fame here is a great pic of our happy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:29 PM
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You really think men who take care of their bodies don't naturally age better on average?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:27 PM
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people seem to think travis is the one but i doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:00 PM
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My issue with that is it can make others feel depressed to not have the same thing it’s why i refuse to do it tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:57 PM
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I regret clicking on your profile as a straight man now. And yes I hate social media i post on it like once every 3/4 years, usually bad pics intentionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:54 PM
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I wish i knew how divorce works when both members care about each other genuinely like each other and are physically attracted to each other
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:51 PM
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lmfaooooo okay that was a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:48 PM
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Well yeah but attraction matures in different ways past just visual hotness. And thank you. I’ll probably make another update every few couple of months.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:44 PM
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Maybe i should rephrase it it’s different from visual love it’s like loyalty and respect and admiration for what you have built and the history that trumps that whole visual “hotness” love. That being said you can stay fit and still age gracefully
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:42 PM
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ahh i see and yeah they fascinate me as well tbh the idea that people have different views on what makes relationships work is interesting to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:10 PM
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I’m impressed at how well you shake off comments like that. Also that you even found this reddit of all places. How did you stumble on this subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 12:04 PM
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Love is replaced with loyalty over the time a different version of love. It’s different and it’s an evolved state tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 11:40 AM
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yepppp bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:45 AM
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Ehhh. I do think men can age better but, most don’t. I think men SHOULD stay with their wives when they get older. Dunno why that’s a bad thing but I do agree most men are shit, but at least that makes things easier for those of us who want to achieve. Oh and P.S. Misty my friend who I “am in love with” is starting to respond more favorable among other things…towards me with my weight loss journey and fitness movements. 5 months almost down 7 to go. Just remember you said i was wrong and a naysa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:41 AM
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why is this a post anyway IA?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:33 AM
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all of this is avoidable if you just stay FIT
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:54 PM
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A relationship is constant validation for some, it is also a major life goal box checked off like kinda owning a house
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:14 PM
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Hell nah
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:25 AM
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Fuck the mental health he is a 3 time Superbowl champion who might be remembered as Taylor swift break up inspiration for her hottest album ever. https://youtu.be/QgxKv9gzwt0?si=CU6uo5lluAa3t9jo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:23 AM
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Being another Taylor swift breakup song is not what any man wants
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:19 AM
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It's looks. If a woman or man wants you as a close friend and has a good time with you it's looks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:14 AM
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Yes you don’t wanna be another statistic
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:14 AM
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Ideally yes but in practice a person who has had multiple relationships is choosing poorly or a poor choice themselves And even IF it's the former it still means they are a poor choice for choosing poor choices cause their judgment is off
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:13 AM
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It's just there needs to be a distinction between dudes essentialy or ur just another random
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 11:12 AM
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Looks are the primary reason stuff like the friend zone exists
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:34 AM
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No offense but I think its more than that. She is an EXTREMELY risky pick. She has been through guys and wrote songs about her breakups it's very odd for him to want to be another dude in that roster
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 10:31 AM
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Latter physical attraction matters
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:10 PM
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Lose weight and you might be hot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:07 PM
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Rape???
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:06 PM
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Well it might be your niche of guys? I forgot are you the girl who likes gothic dudes or maybe I got you mixed up. Also what is fatphobia pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 10:43 AM
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Confidence is bull to the shit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:58 AM
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It's unspoken. Society tends to not say things you need a very close non judgmental but objective and pragmatic person to have these kinds of discussions. I told my friend this and he damn near well wanted to punch me for being a dick, and the girl I said it too said it hurt her feelings but deep down she knew it was true. Again people know its true it's more can they accept it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:58 AM
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Women over 30 can't men inherently don't want them A woman at 30 is on a low level repulsive to some men as its a showing of a major failure to invest and capitalize on good man If you got to 30 single or as a single mom you have extremely shitty choices in men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:44 AM
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I think this place is a reflection of true unconscious society. Stuff people know but hide from themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:42 AM
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A woman cannot change this easily at all
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:39 AM
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Single woman. She is FUCKED and the men to pick from are gonna date down in age
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:38 AM
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Bad parenting causes this but it's common yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:32 AM
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Been there just get a male therapist tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:25 AM
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Lifting makes you less bets for many reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 08:17 AM
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Looks is usually the main issue
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:46 PM
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? Not sure what you mean by this at all. If i even get to marriage with her. I got 8 months to go well 7ish
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:39 PM
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Men suck at explaining this typically so no. The only answer is get fit. As that fixes most issues
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 09:34 PM
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Girl i like is probably a mix of the two
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 02:56 PM
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i feel the same way about this girl currently in my life but like…idk everyone is NOT like that. And i’m not even dating her “yet”. Just because the motivation should be there doesn’t mean it will be even with a partner which can do damage to the other person when they realize not good enough for that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:09 AM
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okay and u want people to take that risk why? why can’t someone show the respect by doing the work before hand so they don’t risk brining issues to a relationship or at LEAST be in the process? just being able to say i got x problem but i’ve been working at it for months now and have done some work on it is a nice way to show you know and care about your issues i’ve been doing it regarding my fitness and it’s starting to pay off in regards to women in my life——just the effort and work can show
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:29 AM
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they damage others or can be impossible to work with at times
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:22 AM
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No because autistic women mask. masking is more or less copying understand subtle shit still is hard for them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:15 PM
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Because it’s a task. People can also seem happy but it’s the private
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:14 PM
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yes she is because her masking is not sustainable in private so then the guy is confused because the mask isn’t her and he lashes out or she keeps it up always and meltdowns randomly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:13 PM
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She doesn’t really understand the drain ND people put on NT who can’t explain things subtly or the drain and push for MELTDOWNS a ND practicing social skills aka sometimes overclocking their brain can do to them her examples of autistic men are also kinda insulting as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:12 PM
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NT + ND is a bad idea. GOOD LUCK THO! Tell me how it goes when you communicate too directly for him and he wants you to “just get it”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:10 PM
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Nt men are very unhappy with ND women usually tho
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:07 PM
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Okay this is what your not getting. ND women in my experience are even MORE uhh affected by visually appealing men, wether it's conscious or unconscious for some. That means your looks tend to carry even MORE weight than NTs but on some level it's about pragmatism for them. Not women may check personality/social standing more. But NDs want the looks and interests/expressions more.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:06 PM
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ND women who MASK sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:01 PM
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She is 100% correct. Autistic women and men just instantly connect. The women need to not be fat and the men need to not be above 14/15% bodyfat and it's pretty much a match depending on interests
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:58 PM
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It's actually the women just mask better and go undiagnosed iirc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:56 PM
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Autistic men need to date autistic women problem solved
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:55 PM
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Whole thing is bullshit. I’m currently in the process of proving this shit isn’t real and all the friend zone is is telling you 9/10 get fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:19 AM
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Yep get fit get financially stable etc etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:51 PM
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no point in that till you get fit tho
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:05 PM
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no the red pill is about looking at women as children with no accountability etc
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 12:56 PM
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ur trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:21 AM
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yes it is, it’s pretty much the root of all cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:21 AM
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if your afraid to fail then you already lost
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 11:06 AM
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sounds like they didn’t get fit in mind then
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:34 AM
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I’m saying people who have the tendency or capability to cheat have some of the same trendy qualities. Mind reading Cheating comes from lack of needs met, if someone can’t communicate that actively early on and have mind reading expectations like “you should have known” or get upset when unspoken needs are not met it’s a tell tale sign
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:34 AM
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7 years to 5 years younger personality confident and polite sex —once to twice a week interests-gaming and anime and working out values-not trad con fully i treat them with respect and high value and they in turn the same—constantly want to give each other the best appearance-toned low bodyfat or even muscular both are hot on women for me kids 3—one to two girls one boy to two boys but at least one girl/one boy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:31 AM
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just post a pic op it’s very simple
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:26 AM
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Cheaters actually do display a few tell tale signs before
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:13 AM
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As a man you can have it all if you just get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:11 AM
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many people LOOK happy but suffer behind closed doors
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:11 AM
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there is no red pill what there is is waking up and realizing people have wants and needs and if you want to succeed romantically you need to ask what exactly do they TRULY want
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:09 AM
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Getting fit is not that hard
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:05 AM
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Fuck no, If I let it get that bad then clearly I don't know, I know and don't care, or I know and I'm working on it actively. Either way her telling has a 1/3rd chance of being bad if I know and don't care. And if I know and don't care then I don't care about her which is a BIG issue. I refuse REFUSE to get fat in a relationship, or have a dad bod, at the same time I REFUSE to accept less than I give. Obviously pregnancy is a thing but that's a full on excuse that many women have admitted to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:12 AM
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CAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:09 AM
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I think its just the motivation...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:09 AM
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you say that but then for some reason women LOVE to have gym glow ups AFTER a break up…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:58 AM
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If i’m fucking up and not doing well with my erection or not lasting long enough for her i want her to be honest. Let me know so I can get my shit together i don’t got time for soft feelings or people giving me half truths tell me what the fuck is the truth so i can get on it with the quick ess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 02:56 AM
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It comes down to looks but i’ll deal with this later
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:48 PM
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The face is not a big deal just get fit lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:47 PM
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Pretty much all you need these days. Too much dad bod lies going around. I think some women doubt how much men lifting do for them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:42 PM
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this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:33 PM
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Because it’s the same concept as beauty and the beast. I’m sure you know this movie. Beast is a dick till he finds someone who treats him differently than the dick he acts like. This internal issue COULD be overcome or seriously lessened by gaining acceptance and validation from women WHICH is gained by getting fit first. He gets FIT first women warm up to him, he realizes they don’t hate him, his hate for them wanes, then it’s some minor internal work to release his remaining negativity. What y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:13 PM
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The only advice any man needs is go to the gym get a fit body you are proud of by working at it for 1-2 years and pursue your own passions that are going to make you financially stable Everything else is subjective. Just NEVER have a dad bod despite what ANY woman says
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 05:55 PM
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weirdo, how’s the engagement btw
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:55 PM
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TRP is definitely not where dudes should go for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:50 PM
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why flame
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:49 PM
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Totally agree it’s mind numbing. Do the work and THEN complain if you fail like damn. You don't get what you wish for, you get what you work for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:48 PM
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Biiingo
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:45 PM
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then go get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:43 PM
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This is exactly what I’m trying to explain to you as well. u/HumpsyDumpsy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:42 PM
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I agree with you completely, but you are missing my point. Please reread what I said. I agree there seems to be some internal work to do. But to judge how much is impossible until a person is attractive. One of my friends makes some really crude jokes at times and girls will laugh, however if he were not attractive they wouldn’t land. So he COULD stop with the bad jokes OR he could keep doing them because he only gets positive feedback for being edgy even tho it would be offensive if he wasn’t s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:38 PM
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You are correct it is a variable to some degree, it’s sort of like a fighting game. For some women low kicks are their weakness for others hi punch’s are. BUT what DOESNT change for either sets is damage. Increasing the overall damage regardless of weakness is what will give the best results. Aka getting fit. From there you can worry about if you have specific levels of connection or if you were friendzoned before then you probably will “magically!” be out of it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:17 PM
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I agree and disagree. I think you could be right but my biggest issue with this, is people unfortunately do not understand the difference between treatment when you have pretty privilege and you do not. So he MAY hate women and have all this hate, only to find out upon becoming attractive the hate he thought women had towards him and other men just vanished. It’s sad but true. He probably does need to do self work on the house that is his current self internally BUT it’s impossible to judge just…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:14 PM
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I just don’t understand man. This unattractive issue can be changed in one year minimum of just working out consistently and getting high protein why are men still upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:22 PM
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Bro just get fit LMAOOOOO
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:11 PM
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Tbh this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:10 PM
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Your 7-8 shares the same qualities as majority of women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:10 PM
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People deny it tho which is the issue
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:09 PM
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agreed tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:49 PM
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Picking wrong men then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:47 PM
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Please tell me your story
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 01:19 PM
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If she can’t I will happily walk away knowing I tried. I also will know I’m the best she’s ever gonna get as well tho
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 12:49 PM
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this is just doomer speak lol get fit then worry about the rest
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:55 PM
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The real issue is a lack of direction. If a lot more men had the understanding and simple guidance when it came to life and what healthy women really want it would be a much higher pairing rate. The issue is this was lost during the previous era of women being in terrible marriages or with men who wore horribly unattractive for survival. We are feeling the effects of those times now and it’s why so many men are clueless and fathers are too. Of all you had to do was get fit to make your wife sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:54 PM
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True currently I love someone who doesn’t love me back in a sexual way. However my gamble is I can change that. People need to realize sometimes if you DO love others you are willing to take gambles and risk it to demonstrate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:29 PM
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Which is why it sucks for women. Also it doesn’t help that women who do figure it out by 30 who genuinely were damaged and that’s why they made the choices and rejected the men they did along the way are mixed in with women who just had a inflated sense of self and are settling once they get a wake up call. But yes that’s why it sucks for women more than men. And why I try to explain to men you have it much easier overall if you would just get fit first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:26 PM
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only misty would say that is your name from pokémon btw
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:23 PM
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hmm good point
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:05 PM
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doof?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:05 PM
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The issue with women being attracted to toxic men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:04 PM
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A good quality-great quality man. Keep in mind low quality men can easily become good/great if given some direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:19 PM
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You can love yourself and love others
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:13 PM
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LMAOOOO i love that for you bro i can’t wait to get there by end of this year
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:13 PM
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I went from 216 to 197 in 4 months and look and feel a hell of a lot better. So I get it my plan is to get to 180 tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:12 PM
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Both actually. Women have a lot of their “investment value” physically and psychologically speaking into their pre 29 years. It feels very good for a man to get some of those years as they are less stressful and a time to get to know her and enjoy life without the kid timer ticking down.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 05:01 PM
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true but the feedback won’t be as negative if your fit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:15 PM
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no lmaoooo i want to be honest with my future kids and tell me exactly how many people int their lives what to watch out for and how to avoid it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:12 PM
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yep. it’s why i tell people i dislike the idea of improving your social game when it’s modified by pretty privilege get fit FIRST THEN you will have a real evaluation of where you stand
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:11 PM
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I just wish men understood that being lean and muscular is a cheat code. It’s the same effect some women have on men when they get boob jobs or make a fat ass in the gym. But men can do it with low effort and it takes about 1 year realistically assuming you were not maybe near 270 to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:07 PM
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Yeh the theme park fans are something else
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:06 PM
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If you take a young child and shove certain concepts in her brain she never can get affected by delusional concepts most people get affected by.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:05 PM
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Your not a disney fan. Once you understand it or step into their shoes you get it. It’s a magical place for people who are true fans where they modern world just doesn’t exist anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:04 PM
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Great post and agreed as fuck. You can get down to 14-15 just with cico cardio and some lifting
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:01 PM
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Because women choose. Women have the power of choice to approach or sit back, but either way they choose from a hand of deals presented to them, which depreciates at a rapid rate past 29 or if they have a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:50 PM
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misty context plz on what this man beneath you rant is about
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:44 PM
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This is average for Disney lovers. GOMD literally drove to disney on a friday night at 9pm 9 hours to florida with a friend, got there spent whole day at disney on a one day pass and came back next day around 3 pm back home
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:40 PM
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Go nuts but be safe fuck do I care for?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:38 PM
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Men don’t know what women want. They can be ready for all that but not exactly know the steps to get there. Being fatherless is a real thing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:37 PM
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I miss Reddit gold
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:25 PM
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This. This is all it is. People will deny it but it's fact. Most humans also do not consistently regular their natural tendency to treat pretty people better. It's why sadly black tables in service industry are looked as less same kinda logic. It takes a VERY self aware person to admit this and then try to actively self regulate those tendencies and thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:25 PM
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There is a difference between a casual friend and a friendzoned guy. The latter has more in his favor ASUMMING they are actually friends and really get along well on some deep personal level. Yes. Being put in the friend zone is the same thing as not making that basketball team because you lack the ability to make a lay up. You can shoot, dribble etc but you NEED to figure out what your missing to make the team. It requires a real objective look. But usually it's just get fit tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:23 PM
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Yep. Long as your a man other woman want she will not only feel like she landed a catch she will project those feelings onto you to make you a catch or feel like it rather
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:21 PM
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https://gyazo.com/491cc5ff78320a39ff73401d3fd7e623
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:18 PM
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Incorrect. My personality is average/fine but average. Financially I am stable but can do more, which is why I work at least 5-6 days a week now, saving money for when I get my career started after my degree. My looks however were subpar. I was 27-28% bodyfat, skinny but damn near well a horrid sight belly wise if I took my shirt off. 4-5 months later I'm around 17-18% body fat and I still have a lot of time to keep training and working till December of this year. Looks matter. This is how the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:17 PM
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It's more tied into women because regardless of what any lying delusional super optimistic person will say women have a lot of their relationship [investment] value tied into 28 or lower. There are exceptions like 30 or lower but the 29/30 really need to be competing with some good stuff. Beyond that the depreciation rate is heavily man favored For women that's the fun years before a man has to evolve into the father role that's what women don’t get. It's not just looks it's also the general flo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:11 PM
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Yes, the best way to break this down is how many servers in certain places would prefer white tables, over black tables. Its just due to experience and its sad but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:38 PM
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Bingo and most women who are single over 30 have this issue sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:32 PM
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I agree but a lot of men are not taught correctly this matters, same with women who are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:01 PM
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Some men yes, but others really do need a push. For me my inspiration is making one girl as happy as possible with myself, if that fails well it is what it is, but that's my intention. Not every single guy who maximizes himself wants to abuse the success that comes with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:58 PM
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Yep thats how people operate, then they get stuck with sunken cost type shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:55 PM
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I agree but on the flipside a LOT of people cannot handle the truth. Its just the facts of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:55 PM
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Bingo, thats how men can go from the friendzone to prince charming randomly. [Not randomly they just figure out what makes them unattractive, usually its body btw.]
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:28 PM
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It makes both people unhappy. It makes women unhappy to realize the way they viewed life as if "their 30s" were going to be the perfect time to find a really awesome guy was a thing was in fact not a real thing, or VERY hard to do. It also makes men unhappy because they miss out on women with a lot of potential who just have been fed lies by society on how the system works. With men there is something strange about getting a woman's best years that carries onways because men value that time, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:17 PM
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So, funny thing about that. Women TEND to be sorta self aware of certain things such as value[ or how much attention other women will give a man]. This concept of dread is very real. Some women either just run from it and can't handle the pressure or they step up. But to answer the question the man is usually shit which leads to the woman becoming shit to match him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:13 PM
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Be fit and if gets easier
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:44 AM
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It's dsm 5 Tr now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:43 AM
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autism isn’t even bad if you can deeply self reflect autism is bad when you are stuck in your own ways people sometimes say i’m a dick irl BUT i am unable to currently truly assess this because i am not super attractive YET. what a average man says is mean but what an attractive man says is funny i want to accurately judge which case the things i say are truly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:35 AM
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No offense but is your friend fat? And yes there is a formula for men and women. Starts with don’t be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:33 AM
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It’s more than that and not all below average men know what women need and not all above average know either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:25 AM
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Yep. It’s like climbing in ranked in league. Yes it’s true sometimes people are just shit and you lose, but if you are in a role with decent agency and YOU are underperforming you need to fix that first. Luck is hard work made real.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:16 AM
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No. That logic is the same reason why we DON'T ignore single mothers and leave them to fend for themselves without government care. When systems let people fall into their own problems and just ignore them you end up with a much bigger problem. Because these individual problems for example say the single mother with no government assistance because SHE fucked up, leads to a child who tends to have a bad childhood, who can turn to crime, who can make others like YOUR life unhappy. If on a scale a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:07 AM
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The system of human psychology. This is how people frame this wrong. What you just said is why relationships end. I feel compelled to want to "improve myself" to the point where I have given it my all and know I can make my best pitch. I also want to present to her a product of myself that in theory she should recognize is a cut above other men, while also is attractive to her. If you truly care about someone you want to give them something they deep down love. As much as people want to pretend …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:02 AM
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Attractive men can and will sleep with women who are unattractive for x reasons, which can be looks, personality etc. Still they want someone they feel is up to their value and values them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:57 AM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:55 AM
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Yes, majority of men in relationships are actually shit, [settling] is the ways that women do it is too much of settle, not a relaxed settle but a "at least its something" till its just not worth it anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:55 AM
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Men can easily be attractive to women due to many men being failures. If you are fit have a good career prospect, and are not abusive or toxic and financially responsible with no serious vices that’s basically all you need for most women. Unless she is delusional ofc because most men are shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:14 AM
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All top tier men want top tier women. That’s how the system works, there are very few exceptions. In my case i’m on my way to being a top tier man, but right before i peak i plan in asking a girl i know who wasn’t attracted to me 4 months ago in 8 months if she wants to take a shot at me, if she says no after me improving for one year that’s her chance gone idrc. the point is that’s a niche case most men who get to where i’m going are going to only look for the best deal they can get i’m going t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:05 AM
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Luck is just hard work made real
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:01 AM
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That’s exactly what that means. That’s how the human brain works and negotiations etc. People want the best deal they can get. If you are offered 10 years versus 20 years you take 10 and make peace because it’s a better deal. Same thing as 40 vs 80. It’s how human psychology works. People become UNSATISFIED when they think they can get more
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:58 AM
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Right but they wouldn’t have this issue if they accurately judged this stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:45 AM
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Leads to women wasting their best years in delusion and then when they wake up they have inherently lower value
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:43 AM
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That is utterly just not true in terms of high level dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:41 AM
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??? It's a real term. Also masking takes INCREDIBLE ammounts of energy. Your brain is literally in a mode that your in when your taking a test that's for 50% of Your grade to put it in Neurotypical terms. MASKING is not easy and autistic women who do it WELL will meltdown and crash so fucking hard once you start dating them because instead of just doing it publicly they have to do it during their down and rest time now too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:40 PM
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Great post thank you for sharing. Men who Act like ND women have it easy are delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:35 PM
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Not to mention autistic women meltdown really fucking hard once you get alone with them over time and they get exhausted from masking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:33 PM
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I can spot autistic women very easily they follow a lot of patterns
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:32 PM
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What's your point? Autistic women are also very braindead easy for autistic men to get. Just get fit and start the checklist there the rest comes after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 03:32 PM
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be fit and autistic women will love you it’s that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:54 AM
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huh??? you said her? she tried to get you to go bi?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:54 PM
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i think this is a larp
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:03 PM
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I’m not talking about you? I am saying in general if you (aka a person who complains about not being able to get women) says they don’t have time for the gym…. etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:02 PM
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LOL that genetics shit is a whole lotta shit. Sure in terms of peak fitness/easiness and maybe career but outside that it ain’t no genetics shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:15 AM
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You know how you avoid beta billy just get fit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:08 AM
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You def can see radical enough visible change in one year depending on starting bf. If you can’t go to the gym buy dumbbells and do home work outs. If you don’t have 20-30 mins to work out at home okay you do not have time for a gf anyway so why are you upset?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:06 AM
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Getting reasonably fit is not hard it is in the kitchen yes but the kitchen part is not crazy hard, count macros and try to avoid crazy bad stuff often. Cardio (can be walking) 6 days a week and lifting 5 days a week
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:29 PM
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Yes it's called being bad at the game of dating. There is no difference between women who do that and men who are hard stuck in platinum and below complaining about their team in league, or men who complain women don’t like their personality It's crazy. Men if a woman can be your friend REALLY good friend you are attractive to women, just work on your looks. Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you had a competition for 1 million if you gave it 75-100% effort for one year what can you realisti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:02 PM
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Eh no. The thing is what has happened is most PEOPLE don't critically think. For example an intelligent woman finds those traits repulsive because she has rewired her brain to find them repulsive. She knows those traits lead to bad moments and bad relationships so they are not attractive. A low value or low thinking level woman can't do that. She feels base level attraction and lets her brain turn to goo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:55 PM
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What happened
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:52 PM
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Biiiingo. Lots of women do this it's very sad but it's a lack of a father being real with them tbh imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:51 PM
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Yes unhealthy women do unhealthy things y'all gotta stop using bad examples. These women are just as bad for marriage long term what do you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:49 PM
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I think it's more about being realistic. For example there is a woman in my life I want BAD. I have basically outdone her in every category but one and that's fitness which Im doing as we speak. When I finish that category in 8 months she can either take a shot with me then assuming she is still single (which she prob will for various reasons) or not. But if she passes on me at that point I'm moving on. Statistically her chances of finding a man like me, who is willing to care about her and love…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:46 PM
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He prob cheated on her lets be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:38 PM
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Relationships are far less complex that that at their base form. Be fit, be kind, and genuinely like the other person, also have same goals/interests/morals. Also know how to actually communicate and don't tolerate mind reading. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:31 PM
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Basically this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:10 PM
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Ehh it is a puzzle but it’s a puzzle very easily solved. Just get fit first then go from there. Majority of women want the same thing But if you want a woman on easy mode get a ND woman
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:09 PM
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It depends on level of thinking. A pick me girl tho tends to want the same guys as other women so THOSE men want high value women that isn’t a pick me an average guy would love her tho also men really need to realize the diff from average and high value man is just being fit
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 09:52 AM
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If you want to overcome this you need to be high demanding and have high standards make her prove her love over time through effort not just sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:39 PM
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Women will gladly take a man 5-10 years older if he’s the full package maybe not you but that’s besides the point
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:35 PM
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If it means they lead fulfilling lives, and their partners feel like they got a amazing lucky catch the ends justify the means. Those kinda of takes are what separates the winners from the losers imo
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:57 PM
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For me it's more about “power” and at the same time satisfaction. Give them what they want and they give you everything you want and then some.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:44 PM
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lmao no it’s supply and demand once you are what they want you can charge absurdly for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:03 PM
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Be what women want deep down
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 05:45 AM
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The point is for RELATIONSHIPS. Opening anything doesn’t mean shit it’s just sex without commitment of i gotta live with you. Yes 30 and higher women are already down the 8 ball vs 25-29 women, if you hate this it is what it is. That being said it can be made irrelevant if you use your brain as a 30 year old woman and get serious as a 30 year old competent woman is worth more than a 25 year old foolish one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:25 AM
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Which is why men get rejected and told they are just friends. If she can’t brag it’s just not worth her effort
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:24 PM
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status def makes you more attractive and idk who destiny is but obviously there can be random outliers and you are not def born attractive or not many things factor into this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:13 PM
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why do u have a female avatar as a man randomly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:11 PM
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that’s why you go younger the older woman missed out it happens
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:08 PM
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It’s something that doesn’t matter. If you are saying you need the rush of a person you don’t know that’s a red flag since it means your prone to staleness. If your saying it just doesn’t feel the same that’s fine they eventually feel the same once you know and trust the new person as much as a close friend as once again the best relationships are where the partners genuinely like each other OUTSIDE of sexual attraction/sparks solely because that eventually fades
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:02 PM
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It’s not about the money when you dick ride and meet a celeb. It’s about being in the presence of that status and interacting. If i meet shannon sharpe i’m not thinking about his money i’m thinking about his achievements and how epic it is i got to meet him. that feeling is the spark but on a lower scale
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:51 PM
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Status 100% can override other features. Looks are not everything they just tend to matter a lot and have variables easiest to manipulate for average person
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:49 PM
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? That isn’t sexist or gender based. It’s human based. Play to win or don’t play at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:48 PM
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If you find it exciting and pleasurable to be around that friend it’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:47 PM
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I guess? But if you know you can be better and have those guys in the palm of your hand that you want why not do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:09 PM
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yes that is a checklist of values yes that is the spark you are correct the issue with society today is people want it to be magical not manufactured because they want to feel special main character type shit it’s the same as a woman being give a beautiful wedding ring loving it and loving you then finding out it’s a fake diamond and loosing her shit still looks the same no one can tell BUT she doesn’t feel special someone or people who understand how to create value in their lives and how to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:06 PM
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BINGO that’s why i say if your friendzoned by a close friend you are either too low value or they are delusional. Fix your cracks in your armor that other women might call out and if it’s still a no she/he is delusional or it’s a static deal breaker (politics religion childfree)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:04 PM
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Yes and no. If you are actually really good friends then it’s a lack of value. I tell people this all the time but they refuse to accept it. Idk why humans get so but hurt to know rejection is usually just you are not good enough in their eyes. This is not only fixable it’s VERY easy to exploit. Because once you do it usually you are above them and you have all the cards
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:00 PM
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100% cap. Settled and bad men sure but true catches no sir. What your describing is what happens when a woman actually is able to temporarily or permanently settle for some guy or is attracted to some static niche. What I’m talking about is women who can’t or are not ready to do that and who want real men they feel special about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:56 PM
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status is a factor of attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:19 PM
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You are not attracted to them because their is something in you or them that makes them less valuable than a “catch”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:20 PM
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If he is better than you in EVERY category the spark(value) will 100% be there. Because you as a human being will recognize that the chance of finding a man as good as him is lower than finding one higher. He is a catch and a man that all your friends will openly shower you with validation saying they wish they had him? That’s the spark that’s all it is. Can you show this person off, do you feel you got a catch if so you feel butterflies and giddy for being in their area. The spark is the same t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:17 PM
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you do not get friendzoned by telling a woman later if you are a friend and she is attracted to you, it doesn’t magically go away, you remain attractive despite friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:14 PM
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no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:53 PM
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no, you do not get fz by telling a woman later, that’s a myth
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:53 PM
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If a man is interested he’s going to let you know, if a woman is interested she is going to let him know but subtly i friendzoned a girl who i once tried to date who sorta dumped me for her ex when she came back not just because she passed on me and made bad decisions but she seems to constantly make them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 02:07 PM
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Eh that’s not how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:19 PM
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that’s not how it works at all lol either you both value each other and something happens or one of you doesn’t to the other and nothing happens
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:15 PM
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Objectively sure but i said to you were they catches/ objective catches can be “nice guys on paper” that’s not what i’m talking about i’m talking men that you know other women would literally feel bad they missed out on
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:12 PM
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Because to you they were not catches
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:09 PM
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You must not understand status is attractive to women looks are not everything it’s just an easy thing to fix
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:06 PM
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Okay good responses and memes i’m gonna not respond to your trolling anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:03 AM
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Because you didn’t value them. The spark all it is is value. They make you feel special by being in their area. You feel special and different that they interact with you. Also i would be willing to bet there is more with those avoidant friends but it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:02 AM
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Women tend to universally like the same things. See pre selections No woman wants a guy she can’t make other women want. If one woman rejects you they all will by default because it means your missing that thing that makes her think other women will want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 11:00 AM
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yep
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:57 AM
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If your rejected by one woman your rejected by them all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:55 AM
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spark isn’t real and if they have relationship issues those tend to be friendship burdens affecting the friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:52 AM
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You are not getting it. Once again sexual attraction is a given if your value is high enough. If a man is rejected and the next day is signed to the NFL ignoring money that status alone is attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:51 AM
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Yes being fat is just one thing if you are true friends something is stopping you from the next level it’s very simple figure out what it is if you care but it’s not something you have no control over usually
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:46 AM
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Friends first is much better imo and safer if you can be good friends it’s def got relationship potential always unless static issues
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:23 AM
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? I think you truly missed the mark on what I said. Let’s say i’m really good friends with suzy. Suzy weighs idk 250. She loves anime, gaming and we go to movies. She makes a move on me. I’m attracted to suzy (1/2) because we are friends and i love spending time with her. Many men here say “no spark/i’m not feeling it” same as women. The TRUTH is i’m not 2/2 with suzy physically attracted because of her weight. If she loses weight and has a glow up in a few months or a year i will be “obsessed” …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:15 AM
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attraction always matter as two single people of opposite sex who have a pref for opposite sex should be romantically attracted to each other by default always if they are TRUE friends not i “tolerate” you friends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:05 AM
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Yes there are several static reasons for incompatible people like that, childfree, politics religion
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:04 AM
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Okay, religion is one of the static reasons for incompatibility it makes sense. Not feeling the spark/not attracted is not a true reason
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:03 AM
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It’s different when it’s sexual preferences
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:59 AM
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Compatibility livestyles??? what
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:58 AM
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It lasts very long usually as long as both parties are aware why the original rejection took place
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:41 AM
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It’s not sexist tho not really, if your actually legit good friends you do not view them as a catch if you reject them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:39 AM
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Sounds like his value in your eyes was quite low
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:37 AM
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i’m just saying it’s not transactional not really it’s being honest, when people DONT do this it ends in divorce or deadbedroom a i hate my fucking roomates habits, they make dishes never take out the trash and seem so unfocused if they fixed those things if i told them once and they did it bam i wouldn’t hate their habits most men and women live with the habits they hate and can’t say anything in dating it’s weird but it’s common point is u want honestly not “idealistic” love
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:50 AM
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Spark isn’t real. It’s a buzz word for value. I don’t wanna get into this but anytime you feel attraction it’s usually because of something you value or cherish romantically about someone that is different than others. And makes them a “catch” For men this can be worse because a woman who gave them validation in a sea of none can be enough for “catch status aka you noticed me first!” Friendship is a free pass to a relationship if you are a catch. If it’s a static reason your not like religion, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:42 AM
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Dating apps don’t matter. If they matter she is delusional. If they mattered “she wouldn’t be single” Women deep down kinda “know” their level truthfully. So let’s say your a 6? And she’s a 7. She’s hoping for an objective 7.5. Someone she can show off to others and be like “I got him and you didn’t!” She isn’t truly looking for chad unless she’s delusional because if she was good enough for him she would have had him already Also ANY women with single mom kid(avoid 2+) are also objectively far …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:38 AM
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Well the issue people are missing is friendship is exactly the same as partnership tbh. It’s actually essentially a part of the recipe. If your rejected you should 100% be taking it personally because you are not in the realm of the best she thinks she can do OR she is delusional and you have a delusional friend/romantic interest. Pick one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:30 AM
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It’s fine if she and he both feel the other is a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:26 AM
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If you are truly nice you care about what she wants. She wants a fit man are you fit? Then you are not nice because you don’t care about her needs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:25 AM
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why did you swap sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:23 AM
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Yep getting fat is basically where stuff starts to go wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:20 AM
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Nah it’s totally natural. Let’s look at stocks. Majority of people can’t even bother with them because it takes using brain power they don’t actively use. Your asking a woman, who is trained from a young age that certain types of honesty is rude, to reject a guy because he is too fat to say “your too fat, there is a good shot if you become fit i’d like you but i’m not totally sure” Most people can’t do that. Imagine if men did that? There would be no body positivity movement etc. Point is people…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:18 AM
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Yep, it’s kinda one reason ND people should just stay with each other for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:09 AM
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Both people usually do lol. It’s just are your “high enough level”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:06 AM
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You are not high enough value in her eyes point blank
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:06 AM
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Your missing the bigger point. The friendzone is “self inflicted” by the person not being high enough value. It’s not real, most people and yes there are some exceptions but most women will have feelings for a friend who becomes a famous star. Now you need to find the POINT where you are objectively without a doubt a catch of a man comparatively and then you are no longer a friend-zoned man Because a partner should be a friend. Figure out what your missing in terms of how good she thinks she can…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:05 AM
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north america lmao and okay well if ur the bimbo type okay hey live your life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 12:26 PM
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And you are pink pill? 😂 Next you you will say you are NA i really hope you are not tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:22 AM
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Oh okay. Still 30k karma is insane how often do you be posting like wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:17 AM
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Huh? Arnt you a woman? You are a man with a troll title? the plot thickens
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:45 AM
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are you really talking about not being on reddit when you have 30k karma???
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 06:03 AM
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I can agree with this tbh. The ammont of men I see not willing to do bare minimum of work to improve their fitness, money, mental etc is astounding. Even if you do 100 push ups a day and count calories that's enough over time tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 01:32 PM
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The issue with this statement is once again your imagining the 30% of total men out of 100 who are even hot enough to then have this requirement
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 11:44 AM
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Being creepy isn’t real. either she is attracted to you (physically) and will cognitively spin your negative traits into positive ones or she won’t
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:12 PM
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this is just stupid the ops post in general, holy shit just walk up to her and introduce yourself and see if you have common interests and then ask her out all that other stuff is so extra and dumb wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:48 PM
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Huh? I deserve to be able to brag in peoples face who said i was wrong? if i listened to them i never would have succeeded it’s very simpel
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:18 AM
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it’s true i can’t fault them for it think it’s more tho sexually successful and high in demand men only want one thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 03:22 AM
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yeah as a man i truly don’t know why guys get burt hurt over this it’s in your favor anyway because when you price your bit creepy ur given bonus point anyway and once ur not “creepy in a woman’s eyes” it means she prob more likely to like u
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:11 AM
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great answer i am black and i get afraid if i see a man begins me with a hoodie on i get it it’s not a big deal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 02:04 AM
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and the 14% means women will like me instantly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 04:14 PM
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For me the 14% is needed for this girl
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 06:34 PM
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well guessers sound like they live horrible i would avoid all relationships with them i know people like this it’s a fucking nightmare
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:08 AM
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for me it is 14% body fat 20k in the bank that’s when i know i’m probably ready i have other check marks but there are the most nearest major 2 of most importance
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 09:04 AM
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Set a goal obtain the goal then your ready
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:54 AM
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I'm okay and happy with it but the people who told me I would fail should have it thrown in their face they were wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:13 AM
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1
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:45 AM
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They told me I would fail I get all rights to brag
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:43 AM
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But she should have the option to know that's the issue and actively try to change it if she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 09:39 PM
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Sadly I have to agree. You can be sad about your life but like Walter bond says you need to have a SHARK mindset. If it sucks figure out a plan of what your going to do to change and make it better moving forward
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 08:19 PM
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I know a few
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 04:53 PM
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? Black don’t crack?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 04:51 PM
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Former. Okay few things though. You are saying she has some crazy opinions of things. These viewpoints lower her value in your eyes and might in most means eyes which means she is objectively less value than you. Yes looks matter but it's more than that. Also looks can represent value outside of just the look but the qualities that it takes to obtain said look. However you did say one thing that is something common. People assume for other people what sort of change is too much/too great and not…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 03:12 PM
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I am autistic yes, but this stuff has major application. Here is what the issue tends to be. A lot of people( majority of society) operates on a it just is type of mentality. It just IS hard to play pro football so don’t do it. The people who succeed are the ones who say. Why? What in saying is processes that exist within dating that people consider just IS. I'm going into the WHY, which for some removes the fun and excitement. I think the best common example of this you might get is this. In MM…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:35 PM
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Everyone in your sub group type should be attracted to you at a minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:26 PM
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I don't think we are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:23 PM
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Tbh and this might make you laugh I literally am borderline at what you just listed lmao. But that's neither here nor there. These aren't easy to swallow concepts and most people would rather not think about them because it is kinda “manipulating” how humans think and feel. You remove the spark’s magic that women feel by breaking it down to its essence value. Ask yourself a serious question. If YOU were a woman would you date you, over say staying single and looking for better. If the answer is …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:22 PM
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Yeah ND women are typically well liked by everyone because they are manipulating NTs because they follow a pretty braindead set of rules for social interactions which makes it very easy to “play their game” Or the ND woman rejects all that noise and is a massive loner/homebody. Former is extremely prone to meltdowns tho because running at that level of processing in public means omega shutdowns in private cause your battery isn't just empty it's in the negative Any woman with color in her hair i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:15 PM
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Because that's how this works. People generally agree on certain subsets of characteristics that are generally attractive across the board. If you have 0 you have none. If you have 1 you have all. Women are not willing to be with a man who they feel other women won’t desire in some way. This means if you have 1 you have multiple essentially. But no you don't want ALL women to want you I mean you can but it's not the end goal. The end goal is to make sure the subset type of woman you want desires…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:05 PM
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Through a deep DEEP understanding of how human beings operate and true real reflection. I will write a fully detailed manifesto on this in December but the gist of it is. Attraction is based on being a catch to someone. Being a catch is based on rarity. Rarity is a comparison to how frequent and the ease of finding something else. Things that are higher value are harder to find as often. Other things go into this but that's all u need to know. Raise value of product, raise satisfaction, raise de…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:58 PM
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Because a man shouldn't be aiming to be two distinct women’s tastes. He should generally be the best value for HIS taste. So if a man wants fitness obsessed autistic homebody wife he needs to be the best possible man who she can get for that lifestyle It's very simple. Figure out the type of woman you want. Be the highest quality partner she can feasibly obtain for that type she is. You basically can't get rejected because the spark isn't real it's all based on your true value number in her cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:47 PM
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Depends if both parties are single Depends on if the party they are attracted to are attracted to their sex And bisexuality has stigma that may lower the value of the person. But outside yes it's value related like all things
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:42 PM
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If your incompatible it's value based. Teo close friends who get each other and enjoy each other….are great partners unless the value they see in each other is off romantically
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:04 PM
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If I won after being told it wouldn't work I deserve to brag. That's the perks of being right. Everyone who said you were wrong looks like an idioot when your right
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:03 PM
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Commit one year to pure self improvement in order to earn their love and approval. If that's not enough then understand the person is delusional and will die alone. Move on and laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:01 PM
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ND women are very easy to spot but they also mask well. The current girl of my focus is ND as fuck. Huge fake social butterfly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:53 PM
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Then you should improve to fix that. If you have one woman you should prob have majority of them that's just how it works. Women want to date men other women want
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:27 AM
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You win by obtaining the relationship. After that you keep improving and making that woman feel lucky to have managed to find you as the needle in the haystack ofc if it was someone who rejected u before u also can humble brag they were wrong about u
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:05 AM
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Not at all. That is the final goal of any true friendship on equal value of good quality. If either of you are single and don’t want to fuck the other it’s a value issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:01 AM
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Acceptable reason and it means his value wasn’t the reason why at first
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:00 AM
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That’s not how it works. Good friends find them attractive have high values and they are a catch objectively means you have a strong relationship in the making
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:48 PM
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And if i win….
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:22 PM
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not as frequent no
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:22 PM
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It could….but if I'm RIGHT then its worth the effort. I will be a literal beast for proving every doubter wrong, improving my value and making the girl feel foolish for assuming less of me. Just a shot at that and making her realize she was totally wrong and have to say. “I was wrong in how I judged you for romantic value…you got far better then I thought possible. I’m sorry and would love for a second shot with you” That’s the stuff of dreams and even if I can’t get it just the chance at it mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 11:02 PM
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He wasn't for you because of some hidden value that your notnrevealing for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:58 PM
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I'm in therapy already doesn't change the fact that I need to self improve like crazy in order to show this woman and other women that I'm a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:57 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:56 PM
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Not if I level up and get a higher value and win
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:52 PM
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I wouldn't talk about them like that. If you have to talk about your achievements more than once your just bragging. You mention them once as a resume and let the other person know your value simple
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:52 PM
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Sexual attraction is based on values. Glow ups are a good evidence of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:50 PM
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I am anything but self loathing the heck? I'm working my but off and have been the last 5 months and will continue for the next 9 months till end of this year to accelerate my growth and become a higher value person who makes this girl realize that I am the best if not prob one of the best people she will ever have the opportunity to date Def not self loathing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:26 PM
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? Being great in all areas of my life will make me unlikable? Having a desire to be the best and make my partner feel like the luckiest person for being with me is a bad quality??? It's def not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:25 PM
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Everyone thinks in values they just do it unconsciously. I do it consciously because it's far more powerful and you can really understand it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:18 PM
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It's to have that as an option. That means I'm enough essentially and will make the woman with me happy because she knows I'm a catch, that's a very important reason to raise value, if other women don’t find you attractive none will
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:18 PM
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Because it's hidden. Autistic women tend to be much better at masking and thinking its normal, but they are extremely prone to meltdowns and hyper toxicity within their relationships so it's not worth it behind closed doors unless the NT male can bridge the gap which is hard as FUCK for NTs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:16 PM
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If you don't want to with a good friend who you enjoy being around whole heartedly it's because they are too low value aka your not attracted to them. I'm running a whole irl experiment on this by the end of the year I should have proof it all comes down to value and your ability to prove your “special”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:04 PM
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You cannot be high value and be passed over it doesnt work like that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:58 PM
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Correction friends of opposite sexes And I think if you are great friends the only reason attraction is not there is due to perceived lower value If two best friends are stuck on an island they will become lovers always because the value meter doesn't matter anymore only thing that matters is the other person there is no one to compare to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:48 PM
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I despise red pill it doesn’t change the fact that all attraction is value based
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:43 PM
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If you are both single it’s a value thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:39 PM
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The lack of sexual attraction is the key marker aka lack of value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:38 PM
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It’s just problematic because it’s things people don’t like to talk about because it feels shallow processes that humans do are sometimes too horrible to talk about so they are compartmentalized if a man is rejected by a woman and she learns he has or is about to have a lot of value that he demonstrated hard work to get it’s over she instantly is attracted all attraction is based on value
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:32 PM
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Women do the friends first thing tbh. But that’s neither here nor there. The truth is at the end of the day the only thing that matters is value. Value high enough women want you, too low your repulsive
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:30 PM
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To be fair. I can understand why he dropped you guys as “friends” while dating. Your friendship is an insult to him as a man which means you either misjudged his value or are correct. Based off his actions though I guess you were correct. For many men however the assumption can be wrong such as myself where I’m going through the same issue with a friend who is a girl. However I intend to defeat her and prove her wrong. That guy tho sounded like a douchebag that your judgement radar was correct o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 09:15 PM
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It’s called friends first. Sometimes it’s friends first concept other times it’s you are not high enough value to be a partner but i like you so i will keep you as a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:52 PM
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Idk why this upsets you. Any CLOSE friend should be relationship potential if his value is high enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:33 PM
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If you are just a friend you are a friend because your value is low in her eyes or his that’s just how it usually works
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 08:31 PM
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i ageee with this it matters quite a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:04 PM
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it’s complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:03 PM
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it’s complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 07:03 PM
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Okay so he was a shitter that’s not really a friend anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:34 PM
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If you are THAT great of friends there is some specific reasons why you haven’t gotten together or tried on either of your parts
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:33 PM
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Then his value of you or yours of his must be low romantically for some reason, or you have some incompatible non fixable issue that neither can compromise on
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:21 PM
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That will catch up to you, but if he is a hours per day gym rat type person yes the incompatibility can be there. Essentially you want prob a fit guy who is more grounded than that which is understandable he is on the extreme side of things based of what you describe. If he was going for say hour-2 4-5 days a week and you found that unreasonable yes that would be you def being lower value objectively
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:19 PM
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This is a situation where incompatibility is not fixable which totally makes plenty of sense. It also is values both acknowledge cannot be reconciled without one making serios unwanted change this is not a case of value as both parties are aware of why it “won’t work”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:17 PM
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No in fact if he’s obese your higher value HOWEVER if you both are two district different lifestyles which you sound like you might be introverted as fuck and he isn’t that’s not a value thing that’s a difference in lifestyles
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:05 PM
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Once again your making the rude choice of deciding for someone else what they are comfortable with. Because YOU dislike something or an idea of evolving in someway you assume others must be the same. That’s why once again glow ups are magical because someone did what you dismissed as not feasible and that alone is impressive to the average short sighted persons mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:55 PM
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it means they don’t romantically value you which also means on some level they don’t think you are worth it if they did u would be a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:42 PM
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ur not single tho so it’s prob easier hopefully he isn’t either
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:41 PM
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Wow he must have been total shit in your eyes what a horrible existence for him to live to be valued so low
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:39 PM
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not to mention if u just want friendship he’s too low value for u so that’s an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:39 PM
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