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Aggravating-Ad-5793/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 02:21 PM
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It's interesting that the highest divorce rates are lesbian couples. The lowest, gay men, and heterosexual couples in the middle. ... Interesting.
/r/MensRights31/10/25 09:23 AM
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Women are hypergamous by nature. Men have a biological imperative to spread that seed far and wide while women have a biological imperative to secure the highest value male possible. This need to monkey branch accounts for the fact that women file for 80% of divorces. 90% among college educated women.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 01:34 PM
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Cheating on her part. And love is a myth.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:23 PM
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When you let your wife walk all over you, she is going to lose respect for you and that usually leads to cheating. Sounds like she is gone and even if you got her back, it would only be a matter of time. Just remember, in your next relationship, stand up for yourself. If you change jobs, it should be to advance your career, not because your wife told you to. And I certainly wouldn't be cutting off friends, unless I truly believed there was a need to do so. And when they start acting irrationally…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 02:09 AM
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Your originally divorce decree should answer your question. Did she retain any interest in the house?
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 07:13 AM
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I threw mine out of a Blackhawk helicopter flying over the Tagab Valley in Afghanistan.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 11:08 AM
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I think they all get the same handbook, telling them what accusations to make during divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 08:12 AM
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The irony is that while she was attempting to get me fired from the military for imaginary offenses, I refrained from reporting her affair with a contractor. (My Ex was a GS15 at the time. ) I wanted her to be able to pay child support. However, if I had turned her in, she very likely would have been fired as there may have been a serious conflict of interest. So while I was protecting her income, she was going after mine, even though it would have hurt our kids tremendously.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/25 11:40 AM
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Take the kids. Get the deal in writing. That will give you proof she doesn't want the kids and doesn't want to support them. Child support is always modifiable, so you can seek it in a year, after you have firmly established yourself as the sole caregiver.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/25 10:00 AM
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Just be glad she didn't make false allegations about you to law enforcement and your employer. My wife, at the time, became so enraged that I wouldn't stop the divorce after catching her in a year+ long affair, that she reported me to my chain of command for having "unreported foreign contact" after I had lunch with my former Afghan interpreter when he legally immigrated to the United States. When they laughed at her, she reported me for not supporting my dependents even though my entire paychec…
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/25 10:52 AM
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Sounds like she was having an affair and didn't want anything from the marriage because she was in "limerence" The new guy didn't work out, so she came back to her backup plan.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 11:06 AM
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Do fifteen-year-old incels worry about marrying 304s?
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 02:55 AM
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I'm not sure it is her that needs to wake up. I mean, she has it pretty good. Sounds like you are the one stuck supporting an ungrateful Harpie, who is at least trying to cheat.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 09:36 AM
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That sounds like part of your property division. While it may influence the amount of alimony, technically alimony is a separate thing. They can get a portion of your retirement and alimony sometimes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/25 12:35 PM
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Are you paying alimony, and it just happens to equal 32% of your military pension, or did she get 32% of your pension as part of the property division?
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 10:32 AM
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They love to file baseless restraining orders. They love even more to trick you into violating them. Block her completely.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/25 04:57 PM
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Women are hypergamous by nature. That's not meant to be critical. It is just human nature. Women have a biological drive to secure the best "protector and provider" possible. The day that they think they have something better lined up, you're history. The fact that the family law courts will give her 50% and sometimes much more only gives her more incentive to monkey branch.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 09:20 AM
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Four years. Everytime we had a deal, she would back out at the last minute.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/25 01:46 PM
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There isn't enough money in the world.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/25 09:18 PM
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I'm a surgeon / DJ.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/25 02:16 AM
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It's because women are hypergamous by nature. A woman getting divorced in her 60s, deep down believes she can do better.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/25 08:40 AM
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Is she asking to see you? If you divorced on good terms, more or less, and she wants a visit, then sure. But if your divorce was not amicable, your visit may cause unnecessary anguish.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:59 PM
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She's almost certainly cheating. Down deep women want a protector and provider. If they earn more than a man, they eventually stop seeing him in that role and will start looking for someone else. Your illness and possible loss of income has probably influenced her. Look for to just coincidently start dating a Professor at her college a few months after you split. Odds are she's already involved with this guy. Lawyer up, Fight for full custody. If your money and work have gone into the house, arg…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 12:31 PM
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Still cherry picking facts, because your argument, like your mind, is weak. It wasn't just a birthday and Christmas now was it?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 08:53 AM
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You're entitled to your own opinion but not your own facts. It wasn't just missing a single birthday now, was it. And an 18 year old is an adult.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 02:11 AM
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Adult children are not owed anything. Treat a parent like crap, and don't expect to inherit their money. It's that simple.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 03:51 PM
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Respond with. "Yeah Okay. Now tell me what you're wearing?" That should shut her up.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 11:29 PM
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Time to change the will.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 12:31 AM
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You definitely should regret it. First of all, if reconciliation is your goal, begging makes that less likely because it makes a woman lose respect for you and see you as weak. Women aren't attracted to weak men because instinctively, they don't see weak men as protectors and providers. Begging causes you to lose self- respect, and women will not respect a man that doesn't respect himself.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 01:15 PM
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If you are now divorcing the mother of your "older" children, when did you have your younger children.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 07:52 AM
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They can be pure evil. My Ex tried to get me fired and jailed with false allegations. At the end of the day, I was still employed on the day she was fired. I was still free on the days her mug shots were published and she gets supervised visitation at my sole discretion.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 07:28 AM
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Do you mean, "feed her"?
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 01:38 AM
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Renting makes more sense in this market.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 06:54 AM
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Sounds like only back to date of petition.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 01:59 PM
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The State didn't get a cut in my case.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 01:58 PM
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In my state, back child support only goes back to the date that the receiving parent filed a child support case with the court. So, even if you have been separated for two years, and she only filed a child support petition three months ago, the back pay would only extend for 3 months. I'm not saying any other state is the same. And you should definitely consult a family law attorney in your jurisdiction. Some things are too important to trust to Reddit
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 01:57 PM
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Sadly, you played right into her hands. First of all, she was almost certainly already cheating. "Nothing happened until right after we separated." Is the second most used cliché in the cheaters handbook. Right behind "He's just a friend." Not disclosing her affair has allowed her to shape a narrative to explain the split so that you are the villain in the story. Many people won't believe you because you've waited so long to come forward, but some will, so expose the cheater. Also, if the AP has…
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 10:36 AM
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I remember one of the networks interviewing people with a wide range of incomes and filling status for the purpose of showing how the tax cut benefited the rich. Unfortunately, everyone the interviewed claimed to have benefited.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 06:23 AM
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You hit it, now quit it before you find yourself dividing that 401K again. 😄
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 09:52 AM
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Men Going Their Own Way.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 12:09 PM
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I would just sit down at the bar and lick my eyebrows, and women would buy me drinks. Never understood it, but hey free whiskey.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 12:08 PM
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If your wife starts hurling baseless accusations of cheating, she is very likely the one cheating. Just remember, everyt ime you meet with this friend, you may be giving your wife ammunition. If you must meet with her, take a 3rd party witness.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 09:18 AM
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In most cases, only the spouse betrayed you, but the AP also intentionally caused an innocent person pain, destroyed a family, traumatized children for life etc. Blame is not something that has to be divided. Two people can both be 100% to blame.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 11:18 AM
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That's like a bank only blaming the stealing teller and not the person she was passing the stolen money to.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/25 11:15 AM
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She is your Ex for a reason. She probably thought the grass was greener, but after riding the carousel for a while, she's not able to lock down a quality guy, then she sees you moving on, and she panics. If you take her back, you will just be doing this all over within a year or two.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 03:09 PM
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I think you might be confusing "better" with "better looking". A cheater that treats you like crap isn't better than any woman that doesn't do those things.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 09:52 PM
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And "remain friends" means I want you as my backup plan in case the new guy doesn't work out.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 06:46 PM
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Does she want you to be the kind of friend that still pays her bills and gives her emotional support and maybe stay there for her to run back to if whatever fantasy she's living doesn't work out. I would reply. "You had me at divorce!" And then cut ties with her block her on everything and enjoy the rest of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 06:45 PM
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If my ex being happy meant that she would leave me alone then I would be all for it. On the other hand, if her being miserable would mean that she leave me alone, I would be all for that too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 12:37 AM
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Do not try to buy her cooperation with a divorce settlement that's slightly in her favor It will not work and it will cost you money. Talk to your lawyer and offer her what she would get in court not anymore
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 01:14 PM
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It is better for children to be from a broken home than in one. Don't confuse someone being sorry that they got caught and being remorseful for what they did. Ultimately you have to make your own decision but in my case I gave her a second chance and then a third chance and then a fourth chance until finally I wised up
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 02:58 PM
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I've blocked her on everything.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 08:36 AM
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They need attention and validation like plants need Brondo. It's what they crave.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 08:18 AM
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In a few months, when someone you know sees her holding another man's hand on a park bench, she will assure you that she, "... only met the guy after you separated and she wasn't looking, if just happened."
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 11:06 AM
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You are lucky. When a man is the sole earner. It just increases the amount of alimony he has to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 11:34 AM
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The way she quickly and calmly said, "I'm done" and then immediately starts acting single, makes me think she was probably already cheating and she sees your transgression as justification for what she was already doing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 01:42 PM
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If you make enough money so that seven thousand dollars a month in alimony is even a possibility, then you need to be seeking legal advice, not reddit advice
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 07:45 AM
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I always thought it was a fake holiday.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 07:39 AM
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I have met many humww3ans who do not believe in aliens. However, when we break out the anal probe, they all become believers. Oh, and in case you didn't know, Taylor Swift is one of us. I am not talking about the original Taylor Swift who had numerous country hits. That TS was real. However, the pod person that we sent down to take her place isn't quite as talented, so we had to switch her to pop.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 04:01 PM
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She certainly tried. I just told her that a year in Afghanistan had not made me desperate enough to touch a filthy 304. No telling what I might have caught.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 02:24 PM
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Did the female judge and your wife high five after the hearing? This is why getting married just isn't worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 09:41 AM
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She was never able to get her a fair partner to commit to her. I knew this would be the case. As he had his own newborn daughter with his girlfriend and he didn't want to support my three kids. She has periodically begged me to take her back. Needless to say, I have declined her requests. She alternates between vague apologies while still denying cheating on me. Even though I had proof that they spent a week together in a hotel room in las vegas while I was deployed to afghanistan. After I got b…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:23 PM
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My Ex made several serious allegations against me after I refused to forgive her cheating on me. Fortunately, the allegations were all conclusively disproven during the investigation. The irony is that I could have gotten her fired if I had reported her relationship with a contract co worker, But I did not report her affair since her termination from her job would have interfered with her ability to pay child support..
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 11:08 AM
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Often the separation is just to cover up cheating. I think if both parties agree that you can both see other people, then it's clearly not cheating. I also think if one party is obstructing. the divorce process so that it takes years, then all bets are off. But it is also important to look at what state law says. In my state, for example, adultery is adultery. It does not matter if the parties are separated. In states that have fault grounds for divorce. This can cause problems.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 11:59 PM
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It sounds like you have a simple choice. Tell the truth -or- Lie to your children solely to benefit your ex,. while she spins a narrative that makes people believe that you are the bad guy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 10:51 AM
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When my ex would make crazy baseless allegations that I had been cheating, It always turned out to be that she was projecting her own cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 10:42 AM
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You may want to talk to another lawyer. I would think that any lawyer worth his salt could demonstrate to a judge that you have already went above and beyond the Call of Duty and that she continues use and abuse you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 10:35 AM
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True. That's why young men shouldn't date single mothers.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 06:52 PM
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Not unless the kid is 30 and financially independent.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 07:04 AM
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I missed many Thanksgiving Christmases and birthdays while deployed over the years, and it sucks. I got full custody of the kids, so haven't experienced it since except on a couple of occasions.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 05:31 PM
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When whatever she has going on falls apart, don't take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 01:48 PM
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I'm in that 30% as well. Only so much of a violent alcoholic serial cheater that a man can take.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/22 01:17 AM
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Probably because women have no shortage of other offers. Let's face it, any half-way decent looking woman gets hit on constantly. I believe many women believe Chad or Tyronne is the Prince Charming that will sweep them off their feet and make life wonderful.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/22 09:53 AM
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How can you be this far into the process and not have an attorney? Whether or not she can withdraw the lawsuit unilaterally after a certain stage will depend on the laws and court procedural rules wherever you are. That's why you need to talk to a local attorney. However as a general rule I think it is always wise to counterfile so that even if the cheating spouse withdraws her petition you can still go forward on yours. Again it may not be possible for her to withdraw it especially after a cert…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 09:15 AM
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It's just not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 12:21 AM
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In my case their mom actually showed up drunk at a custody hearing. I realize not all Dads have a spouse that is going to be so cooperative in making your case for you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/22 04:41 PM
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For me it was about 10 seconds after the 1st time I caught her cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 10:06 PM
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I did not mind that my wife had a much higher body count than me when we 1st met however after our divorce for her serial cheating I subsequently read studies that showed women with a high body count before marriage have a very difficult time bonding with one man. So it's not simply the idea that a woman has had sex with multiple partners that is a turn off for guys it should be the realization that the high body count shows a shows a need for male validation or a strong desire for variety and n…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 09:22 AM
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I should tell my story there and see how long it takes me to get banned. I discovered my wife was cheating for a year while I was on deployment. A year long custody battle ensued and at the end of that battle the judge ordered immediate full custody for me with only supervised visitation at my sole discretion for my lying, cheating alcoholic Ex. I'm sure I would be very popular on that sub😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 09:15 AM
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That is good although the bank or finance company will still consider you to be on the hook, But if your ex does not live up to the agreement at least you have a binding document that you can enforce. Hopefully when you remind her that you can take her back to court and get get a judgment against her she will do the right thing because sometimes you can spend quite a bit of money and enforcing those agreements. If you are forced to take her back to court because she is not honoring the agreement…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 05:07 PM
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Unfortunately the agreement with your ex does not change your agreement with the bank so you are still on the hook. However you can probably Sue probably her if you end up happening to make any payments to save your credit. If the agreement you have what your ex was incorporated into a court decree then you can take her back to court and enforced it that way. If it is just a gentleman's agreement you may have a hard time
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 12:03 PM
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I could be wrong but I think Will Smith's involvement with other people only occurred after his wife opened the marriage without his consent
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/22 01:11 PM
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A previous female presenter at the Oscar's made a thinly veiled joke about Will Smith being a cuck, and he didn't react but it had to be humiliating. Then Chris Rock makes a joke that even Will Smith seem to laugh at, But then his wife says something to him and he jumps up and slaps Chris Rock. I think the real thing he was mad at was that he had just a few minutes earlier been humiliated by the previous presenter. Then when his wife gave him the opportunity to defend her honor, even though she …
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/22 12:48 PM
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My Ex wife wanted full custody, so we went contested. Now she only gets supervised visitation at my discretion. Of course it didn't help her case when she showed up at the hearing intoxicated.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/21 10:41 PM
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She may want full custody just to avoid paying child support.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/21 10:38 PM
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I told my cheating ex that I would prefer she Included a name change request in the final divorce decreed to restore her maiden name. She started crying and said that she did not want to have a different last name than our children so I said fine. Not that I really had much of a choice but it's not that big of a deal.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/21 10:28 PM
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Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it!
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/21 10:43 PM
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That is the question that I would love to have answered. My then wife would sit at the kitchen table look across from me and try to convince me the guy she was screwing was a great guy and that I would like him if I gave him a chance. I just wanted some insight into the thought process. What must have been going on inside a her brain to make her believe that was a rational statement. Maybe she believed that if she could in some way get me to become friends with the affair partner that would equa…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/21 01:46 PM
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