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PURGE WEEKDisasterid/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:23 PM
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Disasterid/r/MGTOW11/04/20 12:42 AM
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I mean honestly at the end of the day the issue remains that one doesn’t really get to choose who they are attracted to? Personally I’m a lesbian and thriving but ik a fair amount of straight women who are rarely attracted to anyone just due to like how brain is wired.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:43 PM
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1.) no, it’s already an issue without having an exact thing to point to, though in my opinion I’d guess it probably has a lot to do with a lack of emotional support within male-male friendships. 2.) I’m a lesbian, but I do my best to provide emotional support to my friends and that includes men that are my friends 3.) for reasons stated above, no 4.) there is no correlation between me and my girlfriend’s intimacy and whether or not male suicidality is caused by sexlessness
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:35 PM
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Another incredible day to be a lesbian
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:40 AM
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1st example is not a pick me, that’s parental alienation lmao 2nd example is not a pick me, that’s a crime (though it is complicated as very few SAers who did do the crime are convicted so this take just lacks nuance imo) 3rd example is not a pick me, just an example of what it means to have a choice To me, and I think most, a pick me is a woman who puts down other women for the attention and admiration of other men. For example: a woman who makes fun of her female friend for “wearing so much ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:17 PM
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Alright. I’m down with the “words have no meaning anymore” argument honestly. Maybe the only solution is for OP to define what they mean by slang buzzword type words within the original post? That seems like the easiest way around this plight
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 04:47 PM
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I fear you are missing the whole point of the term pick me. It’s the kind of girl who tells you you’re wearing too much makeup because men like natural women. It is the kind of woman who puts other women down in front of men so she looks better in comparison. A pick me is not a woman in a loving relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 04:35 PM
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I mean if you get irrationally angry when you see lesbians that seems like a you problem? They were never on the table as potential suitors to begin with for men. But maybe that’s why.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:15 PM
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Hehehe yeah my girlfriend is quite anxious generally (hence the GAD) but not when it comes to relationship security? Idk exactly what we’re doing right but it’s working :3
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 10:48 PM
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Yeah I'm in an open lesbian relationship and honestly a large portion of my social circle is nonmonogamous lesbians. It's actually chill as hell over here, despite what OP would probably think. Probably partly because people that are cool with nonmonogamy probably also tend to be less neurotic. I would love to see OP at a function for that social circle lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 09:11 PM
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“entitlement is the highest of the sins” Idk man have you ever heard of murder?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:06 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:09 AM
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Humans are animals and also evopsych is barely a science. Two things can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:00 AM
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“Would you rather have a horrible drawn out death or be raped and then have a horrible drawn out death”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:35 PM
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I mean this sub exists so I don’t think so
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 07:17 PM
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It does look like a straight woman wrote it mostly because they (as far as I am aware) tend to pretty highly value these things in men while men often say they don’t care about career or education (I also don’t know if this is true I am a lesbian). This rhetoric is also just generally pretty common in the hetero world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 05:48 PM
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This piece of advice is actually pretty exclusionary because I actually am a cosmic horror invented to torment men…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 06:15 PM
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I think you missed the part where they referenced “wrapped unused tampon.” Not arguing, just clarifying. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:12 PM
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Oh my god how have I never realized this? Genuinely thank you for putting this into words
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:52 PM
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This is the best response I’ve seen omg. I feel like the normal response would just be like “What are you feeling insecure about?” And then address it specifically. Turns out actually hearing what someone is saying and responding to that specifically works???
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 08:21 PM
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How similar is your job to Mario?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 12:21 PM
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True! That’s why my ideal scenario is marry a best friend who I know would be great as a child rearing partner. We prenup and can do whatever we want romantically on the side and get tax benefits. Eventually we may want to coparent and we will be open and honest with the child and model healthy conflict and friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 05:24 PM
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Nah, marriage is good for taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 12:41 PM
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Probably not the intended demographic but: 1: truly don’t care as long as it looks good. Like I think unnatural colors and natural colors can all look great, but if it’s a bad dye job/haircut that’s not great. 2: doesn’t matter 3: 4’11”-5’9” 4: slim-chubby-muscular 5: I mean it’d be great if she made more lol, more money is good. 6: doesn’t matter 7: 2-30? 8: don’t really care as long as no stis 9: preferably agnostic or atheist but spirituality doesn’t bother me at all 10: bi or lesbian 11: pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:07 PM
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In my experience as a woman talking to women, it is almost exclusively used negatively. It denotes a sort of desperation and immaturity when used by women. They are not considered desirable. Though I will say that you’re right about one thing which is that if they were unattractive they would be called a creep or perv. Lookism is a thing and it’s super shitty, being attractive does lessen creep to fuckboy, though fuckboy is still a dig.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 02:49 PM
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I mean ideal first date is meet up, either split a big sandwich or each have our own medium sized sandiwich, I pay, we walk around after and hang out, then go out separate ways unless we both want to keep hanging out. I’d like to actually know someone before we decide how to proceed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:30 AM
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I’m a lesbian. That would be amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 02:33 PM
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You don’t need skills to fuck a woman. It’s all come down to the size and shape of the dick. Lesbians: cackling in cunnilingus
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:54 PM
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Idk man you just seem to have some odd ideas about masculinity and femininity
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:49 PM
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No. 1.) I find red pill values very repulsive 2.) This guy seems really into the beach and I really really dislike the beach 3.) I like people that are more in touch with their femininity (ie not this dude) 4.) just overall is not my type and I would find his lifestyle insufferable. His cat is really cute though so that’s a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:13 AM
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Yeah there was actually a study about this and from what I remember, the percentage for both genders was VERY similar. I think women had a very slightly (like under 5%) higher number than men but it’s still a phenomenon for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:02 AM
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Wait so you can’t seriously date women with a multiple previous partners but you also can’t seriously date women who stay single? Who are you supposed to seriously date?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 10:48 AM
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You Have to be trolling because I cannot believe someone does not know basic human anatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:46 PM
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Bro hybristophiliacs are weird asf. No one is defending them lol. A lot of people do, however, prefer to date someone with similar morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 12:47 PM
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Girls night girls night
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:51 AM
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True!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:06 AM
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It’s because you’re an alpha male unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:35 PM
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In all fairness many of those super famous kpop people (both genders) will faint and vomit on stage, require frequent IVs, and are kept on an extremely restrictive diet and overworked by their management company. It’s not a gender thing for me when it comes to the Kpop stuff, it’s just often a very unethical business unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:32 PM
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As a feminist I can wholeheartedly say this prose for a movie is disgusting. This is my first time ever hearing about it, hence not speaking up prior. Calling things like this out shouldn’t be divisive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:22 PM
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Holy shit I never knew this existed but that’s terrifying and awful
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:20 PM
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I’m the ladies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:03 PM
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Bro then do it. Trust me when I say women here do not care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:02 PM
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Oh my goodness these cats are fantastic <image> Let me add some
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:51 PM
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What makes her shallow in your eyes? That she’s attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:44 PM
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I think it would go horribly but I think we should do it to debuff both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:40 PM
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This is what purge week should be used for
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:34 PM
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I’m on the lookout for a human headed winged lion myself 😩
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 10:30 PM
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Idk I only date men with more feminine qualities. Like shy is cute in my opinion. Also letting me give them eyeliner is a very positive quality lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:20 PM
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Easy fix: develop severe dysmorphia and that way you will never really know what you look like at all and your entire perception of yourself is based on what others have told you!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 10:05 PM
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Great idea for everyone. Maybe it’ll help people see women as people as well. Now get everyone in on it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 06:14 PM
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Idk most of the women I’ve talked to about it seem to find it fairly pick-me and cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:03 PM
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??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:43 AM
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That is actually so funny
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 12:41 AM
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I don’t have to be sexually interested in someone to criticize their behaviors and attitudes. I just think I have far more respect for the women I sleep with than you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:52 PM
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Not mad. Just grateful that I’m a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:46 PM
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Ew. “Claim.” They aren’t your property, they are friends with benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:43 PM
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This concept is so obvious that I feel like you just want to show off that you sleep with women lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:40 PM
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Not to mention that they also seem to hate women who seek sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 02:36 PM
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oh yeah a niche kink that whatever genders participate in. Great argument
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:47 PM
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I’m gonna put two points into Create your own and make her a woman (trans or cis idc). I’m gonna spend one point in 6 feet tall, one in very wealthy, and the last one is muscular body. I am now dating Lady Dimitrescu.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:55 PM
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Ngl you probably should just not date women with non-straight hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:43 PM
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People don't think it's misogynistic to have preferences as you have now been told countless times and somehow can't understand it. If you were to voice those preferences in a misogynistic way like "Women with hairy armpits aren't REAL women," THAT would be misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 03:03 PM
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There is THIS correlation which is weird though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 02:53 PM
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Yeah sorry I forgot your personal beliefs are more accurate than scientific studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:54 AM
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I know these sorts of filters are already screwing with esteem. I’ve seen countless friends of mine that are girls begin in middle school with whatever Snapchat filter and constantly use them and through highschool they slowly switch to face tuning every photo they post on Instagram. Some of these women are absolutely stunning naturally but can’t see past the artificial “better” version of themselves. I kinda knew they’d ruin my self image so I never used them but it does make me sad. It’s the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:48 AM
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Just read your flair and you’re a lesbian yourself lol oops
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:06 PM
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Yes. When you’re a lesbian, you will see your exes in the future if you engage in queer spaces. It’s not too bad though because I still like my exes as people. The useless lesbian thing stems more from being nervous around people you find attractive and not wanting to screw things up so you play it cool and then realize that you’re just not playing it at all. Bisexuals are cool and I have no issues dating them. Nothing redpill applies whatsoever though lmao. We don’t see the people we’re trying …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:00 PM
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I mean imo the dudes who ARE obsessed with sex and can’t have it for whatever reason should look into this cool little coping mechanism called sublimation. It’s a win-win
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:21 PM
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Doesn’t make it a good idea
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 11:31 PM
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I mean. Firstly just don’t get blackout drunk because it’s a bad idea period. Second, don’t have sex while blackout drunk but by that point you aren’t really making good decisions so refer to step 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 11:23 PM
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Yeah I was diagnosed with BPD at 13 fucking years old because apparently that’s more reasonable than maybe trying to figure out if I’m on the spectrum. Lo and behold, went to DBT and the only remaining symptoms are the ones that overlap with ASD. I LOVE THE MEDICAL INDUSTRY!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 03:49 PM
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I think you may be experiencing tunnel vision from feeling attacked by people telling you you’re wrong. Just know that most people are actually relatively normal and have reasonable views. People are disagreeing with you saying that all/most women think this way because they don’t. Not because they think that men actually are all terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:31 PM
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You’re probably making a joke but are you not doing the exact same thing she is in the last paragraph? She’s crazy for sure but if we used all the crazy men to point at and be like “See?! All men are crazy!” That would be incorrect and a flawed argument. We kinda just need to recognize that there are better and worse people in every group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:27 PM
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I do feel that you are cherry-picking here because most of the women on here have very different views and the ideology that you are describing only applies to a small handful of users
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:21 PM
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“No I don’t hate him because he’s a man, I hate him because he’s poor” Jesus Christ this woman needs to get checked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:16 PM
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Yeah so your previous point of “it’s indicative of social issues” is a nothingburger? You’re admitting that it’s popular because it’s outrageous. Not because everyone agrees with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:15 PM
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It’s popular because it’s ridiculous. Things get popular because they are extreme and unusual. People go viral for accidentally burning their hair off with a curling iron all the time. People go viral for screaming in Walmart. Is that indicative of a social issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:13 PM
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I mean nothing on this entire subreddit really applies to queer people. We just like to look in and see what the heterosexual relationship circlejerk subreddits are talking about. So far, it’s pretty terrible looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:03 AM
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Yeah well I’m just glad I haven’t met them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 08:44 PM
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If you’re referring to wanting to have bodily autonomy, that is not a gender war, that is fighting for rights. That isn’t men vs. women. That is people vs. legislators.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:58 PM
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Maybe you should find more interesting and rational women to hang out with then? As Safinated said, women are not identical clones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:31 PM
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… I’m just not sure that’s true lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:27 PM
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I mean honestly the “gender war” barely exists and only affects a small number of terminally online people. For most people, AI and escorts can’t really provide true companionship so turning to that sort of stuff will probably be a niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:26 PM
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Lol at podcasts and tiktok street interviews proving that it ain’t just online
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:20 PM
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Breaking news: Not all women are attracted to the same thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 03:10 PM
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I’ve never heard a woman say this but maybe I live under a rock
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 01:56 PM
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Okay first off definitely don’t try to pick up people at work. At least try to befriend them first and talk about that stuff outside of work. For the other places I think they’re fine as long as you have the social awareness to see when someone is clearly trying to not interact with people such as wearing headphones. Also be willing to accept that someone may not want to talk with you (and this goes for everyone not just women). Talking to women you haven’t met in any of these places isn’t a pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 01:53 PM
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1% or even .1% is still a massive amount of people believe it or not. There are a lot more than 100 people in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 12:19 AM
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This is not very comforting, I must say. Idk but for some reason people being attracted to my face feels much better than people being attracted to my body. Which is weird. I’m not sure why I feel that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:57 PM
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I mean locus of control largely stems from behavior models in early childhood (especially parents) and there may be influence from genetics. It’s possible that this theory could have something to do with gendered socialization. That doesn’t change the fact that an external locus of control is VERY present in those who identify with the blackpill.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/23 09:22 PM
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I'd be deeply confused because while I work very hard on my glutes and look in shape and proportional, my ass is in no way a thing to behold. I'm thin and work out so I look proportional and stuff but gatdamn I am not blessed in that area.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 02:04 PM
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Yeah obviously it’s fun to get compliments on your makeup (I tend towards more gothic makeup but sometimes I do colorful pastel type deals) because it’s really just wearable art. Not everyone uses it that way but self expression is probably my favorite part about makeup and it feels great to be validated in that. It’s also quite ritualistic for me and it makes me feel ready for the day. Also, people just smile at you all day and it feels great! Even when I don’t go out at all, playing with makeu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:43 PM
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This is actually a fantastic idea and I hope you’re able to meet some cool new people to hang out with :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:33 PM
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Nah, eye contact with anyone makes me nervous to begin with. Now a person I don’t know is staring at me and I make eye contact with them and I look away and back and they’re still looking? That for me would be an anxiety-filled experience no matter how attractive that person is! Maybe that’s just me being socially inept though lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:13 PM
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This is a question for men but as a person that is not a man who likes women: Sharp lines with a little bit of edge is super attractive to me (Like suits on women are just incredible) but honestly as long as it's got an edge to it, I'll probably think it looks great on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:14 PM
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I also think that the blackpill entails an external LOC tbh
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 02:51 AM
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One interesting thing that I’ve recently come to see is that in order to be an incel, the person needs to have a distinctly external locus of control. Meaning that the reason they present as perpetual victims likely stems from the fact that they believe they have no control over anything in their life. Therefore they would be much less likely to work on themselves or take accountability because they truly think they have no agency in their lives. I think this also affects how sensitive they are …
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 02:51 AM
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All of these comments were making me think the exact same thing. How are some of these people so unaware?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:23 PM
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Idk but as an xx chromosome haver I do think profile 1 actually looks great! I think having a personal and good sense of style is actually a great visual indicator of showing that you take time for yourself. (If it’s just a bunch of expensive stuff slapped together that’s much less charming though.) I don’t know why people think men shouldn’t seem like they’re trying to look nice. I don’t see why they think that putting in effort somehow makes lesser. Maybe they just get something that I don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:41 AM
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I mean I understand that a majority of men don't have these sorts of thoughts so not necessarily as a whole? It has made me more wary of men that use rhetoric reminiscent of red pill ideals now, though. I definitely do dislike some of the men here but I understand that the internet is not the real world and that talking to real life people is helpful to restore faith. I also think that over time, I have lost much of my prior attraction to men, definitely. I'm bi so that works out just fine for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 01:13 AM
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Don't admit to being a sex pest on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 12:59 PM
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Yeah I mean the Atlantic also told people to stop eating breakfast to save money. I’d take any of their articles with a grain of corporate salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:58 AM
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Ah yes because insulting random women that you don’t even know for arbitrary things that don’t even affect you is you standing up for good morality. Mind your own business and don’t get mad when people do what they want. Not everyone has to meet YOUR standards of what YOU find attractive. Egocentrism isn’t a virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:54 AM
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My take is that preferences are fine, great even. Stick to them but don’t degrade others for simply not meeting those standards. Date whoever you want but don’t shame others for high n counts or weight or whatever. Basically don’t be an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 05:50 PM
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Hey, as a person with BPD, I just want to say that is not at all how bpd works. You got bpd because of childhood issues (often neglect or abandonment) and it was solidified in your teens. BPD can make it harder to be in a relationship but it can not be caused once you’re an adult.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 05:43 PM
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Based. Please talk to real people lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:50 PM
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gasp but everyone knows that uhh women and men can’t be friends or have positive interactions ever! Seriously though, most of the arguments on this sub can be debunked by talking to people in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:57 PM
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The people on this sub are so dramatic. They just need to touch a little grass and speak to real life people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:22 PM
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Literally. This idea of the “huge divide between men and women” is so chronically online. Go outside and meet real people because most of these “problems” aren’t actually causing issues for most people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:19 PM
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I definitely resonate with this. I’m bisexual but at this point, hearing what men have to say about women and all, I am not really interested in men anymore. It also has to do with some of my previous relationships. The ones I’ve had with women have all been great and the breakups have gone well, whereas the ones with men tend to lack communication, emotional maturity, and breakups always suck. I do feel thankful that I wasn’t born heterosexual often because of this sort of thing lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 08:42 PM
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If there are receipts, compile them to show they were the one at fault. Of course I would be upset with my parents for believing their side over mine. If for some reason evidence does not win them over, I would be convinced that my parents had been swapped out for doppelgängers tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 03:31 PM
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I mean if you enjoy going to the gym, you may enjoy going to a weighted reformer Pilates class. It’s more weight training as opposed to mat Pilates but the demographic is still predominantly women. In my experience it’s a very social community as well and even if you can’t find someone you mesh with, you’re at least getting a fantastic ab (and everything else) workout.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/23 06:53 PM
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And I literally have as much emotion as if im sitting down to pee. I dissent to this because peeing gives me much more dopamine than any of these half baked regurgitated opinions that are posted here lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:34 PM
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Source? Or is this more of a feelings thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 07:20 PM
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Do you believe that love is a finite resource?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:26 AM
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I guess I shouldn’t assume that lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:46 PM
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Well that’s good and I wish you good luck in your treating people well endeavors
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:59 PM
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This is called negging. Hope you grew out of that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:47 PM
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I just explained this. It is called a fawn response. Many people who have experienced abuse have this response to danger and it means that rather than trying to escape or fight, they will ‘tend and befriend’ the person they’re scared of in order to make them stop their current behavior. Read a psychology textbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:00 PM
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Oh my god. He is punching the wall and you can’t see how that would be frightening to her? Is he punching the wall out of frustration towards her because that is so much worse
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:54 PM
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No? Relationships require healthy communication. Not turbulence. Craving turbulence in a relationship is not indicative of anything healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:49 PM
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It’s called a fawn response, which is a fear based response. What this guy calls ‘naggy and bossy’ may just be her voicing her needs and he doesn’t like that. I’m not saying he is intentionally abusing her, but this sort of behavior is very much concerning in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:48 PM
11

In the post it describes her as being a ‘kitten’ after these events and he does it to stop her from being ‘naggy and bossy.’ What about this description doesn’t scream that he’s looking for her to be complacent? This is manipulation 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:45 PM
3

Low self esteem isn’t an excuse to purposefully screw with your partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:41 PM
14

Okay so I think the thing you may be missing here is that this dude is scaring and screwing with is girlfriend in order to make her more complacent. She is having a ‘fawn responses’ (an instinct to prevent harm) to this which may seem like a good thing but inevitably she is going to realize what’s happening and the entire thing is going to crash and burn. Relationships are built on mutual respect and a sense of safety. Not fear and instability.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:40 PM
9

Tate is a human trafficker…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:25 PM
1

Honestly dude I have bpd and I find that in relationships I lose my sense of self and become very… malleable? It’s caused me to just be okay with being treated terribly because of how infatuated I can be. It’s my own problem and my own mental illness but the way I can be the most stable is by being alone and keeping even most platonic relationships very surface level. Dating just isn’t a good idea for the way I’m wired so I just abstain. I’m still young so maybe I will improve and be able to res…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:47 PM
1

I’m so sorry for your loss but he was a 1000/10
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:30 PM
7

Nahhh I think glasses can be super cute, these guys just need to get glasses suited to their face but if they want to switch to contacts that’s cool too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:13 PM
1

If she’s happy, I do not care lmao. The power dynamic here actually appears pretty balanced tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:08 PM
5

If you think the Olsen twins are not still absolutely gorgeous (sure this is an unflattering pic) your standards are much higher than you think
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 03:02 PM
3

Alexandrite is far superior and diamonds are soooo vastly overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:48 PM
2

No but sex trafficking is!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:46 PM
13

Most of the dudes in this picture just need to grow out their hair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:44 PM
1

This is such a weird excuse to roleplay. Why is this what you are spending time on?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:33 PM
1

Are those women in the room right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:57 AM
1

I don’t even remember who my first love was? Maybe this one girl when I was like 12?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:11 PM
1

Usually when I go out I am complimented by women (usually super respectful and when it's flirty it's still super complimenty) but sometimes men do get weird when I am in a super public place but it's usually like "You look cold, lemme warm you up" or some weird stuff like that. I think I may have tuned it out because if someone isn't making direct eye contact with me I usually assume they are not talking to me, so people around me actually have to make me aware that someone just hit on me. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 04:03 PM
2

This is actually very sweet and super respectable. I doubt you will have too much trouble finding someone :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:07 PM
3

There is no way this isn’t irony
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:03 PM
1

EXACTLY! THE PEOPLE DIAGNOSED WITH BPD ARE REALLY NOT THE BORDERLINES TO WORRY ABOUT!!! (Most of the time at least, some people are just shitty people)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:40 PM
2

Yeah I was diagnosed far too young, which meant I enrolled in DBT before I had even hit highschool lol. I tend to have much more self awareness because of the diagnosis and amount of self examination I had to go through while my peers hadn’t had to do anything remotely similar. Was I terrible before treatment? Yes. Was I also hurting and in a terrible environment? Yes. I still split and have fps but I’m aware of it and what’s happening so I can properly deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:32 PM
1

Not sure if you’re aware of this but individuals with BPD can be treated make huge improvements in their mental state and behaviors. This doesn’t change the fact they have BPD. It is a disorder born from neglect and not so great childhoods and to qualify as borderline you only have to meet 5 of 9 traits. Those presenting with borderline can suffering from vastly different experiences. The difference between a treated and untreated borderline can be huge and therefore treating them as if they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:31 PM
0

yep, this take sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:04 PM
3

Oh my gosh the difference between treated and untreated BPD is so clear that I honestly don't understand why they group the two together lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:03 PM
0

The guy on top was talking about everything actors go through on set. Not an everyday guy. Idk if you are secretly an A list celebrity (if so my apologies for misjudging) but this set of standards probably isn’t really what you are expected to live up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:54 PM
-1

Ok. Is Chris Hemsworth in the room right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:47 PM
1

What is a natural woman by your definition
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:21 PM
3

Who is suggesting you take steroids
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:16 PM
3

Honestly if anyone asks me that it kinda feels like a job interview
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 02:18 PM
1

I <3 midmaxxing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:03 PM
12

Oh absolutely he’s a well groomed fairly normal looking guy. I think the problem with that was that 1.) People already dislike him due to some controversy stuff. 2.) it’s the internet. People are going to be cruel just because they can. And 3.) He had a media campaign building up to the face reveal which I believe gave people inflated ideas of what he looked like
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 11:02 PM
13

What are you even talking about lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:16 PM
2

Lmao one time my ex got a call from the girl he was cheating on me with during sex. Fml
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:56 PM
1

I feel like a good self esteem boost for anyone is to compare yourself to how you were in middle school and early highschool lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:47 PM
0

What
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:29 PM
1

Lmao what are you even trying to say rn
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:27 PM
1

I <3 anecdotal evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 02:16 PM
2

I mean the two are not mutually exclusive
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 12:56 PM
1

Woah. Take it easy that’s a little quick
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:55 AM
5

Sounds like a bunch of Bull to me ;). No but seriously if you think it’s that hard to talk to girls it’s definitely a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:18 PM
1

Why not
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:10 PM
1

I just meant that it’s a really nice thing to do which at least for me is a very good attribute in a person I want to date. An action being cute is really not necessarily a bad thing. It generally just means that someone did something really sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:25 PM
1

Aww I think like a small bouquet of flowers is really cute but if it’s like massive it’s more of a “where do I even put this I’m on a date”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:08 PM
3

Alright so I feel like for tutorials It’s going to take longer because you are also talking to and showing things to the audience. I do dramatic eye makeup, lips, and nose contour pretty much every day (I don’t really go for foundation or lots of skin kinda makeup because I have clear skin and don’t want to clog pores) and to be honest it take 20-30 minutes if I’m like relaxing and not in a rush. It may initially take a while but once you get into the swing of it, makeup takes a much shorter amo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 12:35 PM
-2

Because people like you don’t learn. You are only here to feed your ego through something you clearly lack knowledge on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:38 PM
2

Not with that condescension buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:30 PM
1

Okay so both trans and cis women are women. Trans women are trans women, cis women are cis women, short women are short women, tall women are tall women, but they are all women and trans is just an adjective
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:23 PM
3

I think most people in general will agree that an insult after rejection is salt in the wound and at least a little cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:39 PM
3

yeah I feel like a simple "thank you but you're not really my type" or even just "no thank you" would suffice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:36 PM
2

if you do it right it literally only takes a few minutes fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:52 PM
1

I don’t think this makes you a pick me but in fact an intense people pleaser
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:31 PM
3

That’s a very private you problem that is now on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 05:26 PM
1

I’m under 115 and therefore do not exist at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:56 PM
1

I think there’s a lot going around about the idea that you don’t want your judgement on the relationship clouded by weird sex hormones which I think may have something to it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 09:38 PM
2

Honestly (17) I read this subreddit because it’s a good little doomscroll to remind me of how Some men like to think about women as well as to see how high my BS tolerance is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:19 PM
6

She sounds like a piece of work but the ex husband also doesn’t sound too peachy either lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:22 AM
5

Being first gen in the states helps so much with not finding people with the same names as my family members! Not too many Ebbe s anymore lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:05 AM
1

Incels.is
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:23 PM
2

Oh if you want me to respond to your post: the amount of intercourse someone has, has no bearing on their morals and it’s shitty of you to resent other women for exercising their free will. Sorry that men don’t think you’re as pure hearted as you truly are ig
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 08:02 AM
2

Oh if you want me to respond to your post: the amount of intercourse someone has, has no bearing on their morals and it’s shitty of you to resent other women for exercising their free will. Sorry that men don’t think you’re as pure hearted as you truly are ig
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 08:01 AM
2

‘Idk what y’all are on’ as in people can’t have different experiences in life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:49 AM
2

I mean I’m talking about if that’s someone’s like first or second question to me bc that to me signifies something interesting lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:46 AM
2

I like to say that I have a much higher body count than I really do bc I don’t want to be seeing someone that wants someone inexperienced lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 07:40 AM
2

Lol my most recent ex was 5’5” but he was pretty enough and cheated on me with like a lot of people so he did okay “getting bitches” wise
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:44 AM
9

Pretty much but “No mah woman only like one type of man which is why woman no like me!!! It couldn’t possibly be my personality!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 05:35 PM
15

so... women are virtue signaling by participating in an anonymous survey?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 05:28 PM
1

If they abused you, you shouldn’t blame yourself. That says more about their character than it does yours. I’m really sorry that happened to you and I’m glad you’re doing better now! You shouldn’t blame yourself for other people’s choices on how to treat you. Similarly, you shouldn’t blame other victims for how they were treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 10:35 PM
1

I don’t actually think that. I think the same goes for men. If a man has a bad experience with a woman and she’s shitty to him I’m not going to blame him because... (drum roll please) victim blaming is really not a good thing to do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 10:20 PM
6

So... we’re blaming women for having shitty experiences with men again?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 11:39 PM
3

They are SUCKING out our brain cells when they INJECT vaccines!!! Didn’t you know? Smh my head...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/20 11:35 PM
2

I mean why do we need marriage anyway? I'm not trying to be a dick, I'm just genuinely curious why it's seen as being necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 05:16 PM
1

I see you on so many posts and gotta say I am a big fan of your views
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 06:35 PM
2

Nice straw man, though I don’t think bashing religion is cool
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:32 AM
2

Lady, Trans people have existed for millennia, most trans people don’t detransition. Please stop cherry-picking examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:48 PM
1

Alrighty ma’am, I understand that you have no decency towards your fellow humans so there is no point in having a civil discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:09 PM
1

Hey dude! Just wanted to clarify, gender and sex ARE separate but some folks would rather change their sex to feel more comfortable. I would appreciate if you didn’t use the word tranny because it’s really pretty harmful! Trans women are women, trans men are men, please respect others! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:06 PM
1

Alright if you’re happy with that and it doesn’t hurt you or anyone around you, that’s wonderful!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 07:29 PM
1

The fact that you feel the need to repress your emotions to impress a girl and so people see you as “manly”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:56 PM
0

It’s about one in four, the reason why is due to dysphoria and not being born with the correct genitalia
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:55 PM
3

Hey! You kinda suck! Let people do what they want cause it’s none of your business and sex changes make them happy!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:47 PM
0

My guy you definitely need a hug and/or therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:44 PM
1

EXACTLY! It’s about the music and the style! Not the sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:13 PM
1

OR people who just don’t agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 05:12 PM
1

I can’t tell whether or not you’re being genuine so I’m just gonna assume you are. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 03:13 PM
1

B r u h
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:54 PM
2

Hey Bruv having bpd doesn’t necessarily make you toxic, treatment does wonders.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:53 PM
4

There are other circumstances possible but if you just wanna demonize her that’s cool too
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:46 PM
1

Idk man not all goth and/or alternative ppl
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 02:02 PM
2

Eh fair enough, only advice is that you should only call them sluts if they’re into it tho ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 06:45 AM
3

Nice generalization there! Next time keep it to yourself!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 06:35 AM
1

I mean everyone here is downvoting me because they don’t like that I’m sticking up for my community so it certainly doesn’t feel like love around here
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/20 02:56 PM
-1

Yeah that’s not a good idea but there are a lot of us that Do go to therapy and Do work on ourselves a lot so whenever I see things like this I just get scared someone new will start hating us.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 03:05 AM
2

As a bisexual, this is a ridiculous mindset. If you can't be faithful to your partner while having other people of your preferred gender around, you weren't faithful in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 02:28 AM
-5

Hey there, just wanted to say that borderline personality disorder shouldn't be labeled as a red flag. That really hurts everyone in the community and we're already marginalized and stigmatized enough as it is, :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 02:21 AM
2

Or maybe, you care about job title and are pushing it onto others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 02:18 AM
0

I’m not a dude either but I am actually a victim of rape and I think it’s fucked up that y’all don’t respect people enough to actually talk outside your little ring of misogyny.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 05:10 PM
-2

I’m not even a fucking lady I just think everyone should be treated with the same respect and dignity but people on this sub clearly don’t believe that.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 04:44 PM
0

Last time I checked google was free
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 04:34 PM
-4

Hey bucko, just because it oftentimes women don’t report it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I’m sorry you’re stuck on this echo chamber of a sub but if you really wanna research you can do it yourself :)
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 04:24 PM
-9

https://medium.com/@alpenglowmemory/the-dating-game-is-it-easier-for-women-bd3aeacf72f0
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 06:31 AM
-12

Yeah that shit generally is different for each individual but whatevah.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 06:18 AM
-20

Ah yes much easier for women because most certainly the wage gap doesn’t exist, misogynists like you don’t exist, and because they’ve never once been slut shamed. But yeah, at least 1 in 5 women isn’t sexually assaulted. Now this does not mean that men have their own set of challenges, but their inherent privilege does generally allow to lead easier lives.
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 05:03 AM
0

Give who anymore ideas?
/r/PussyPassDenied17/08/20 04:55 AM
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