Flairtor Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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0	Why Waiting for Women to Come to You Never Works Just shoot your shot man, this is the problem with overthinking. Don't give yourself the opportunity to talk yourself out of it, just act.	/r/seduction	20/01/25 10:47 AM
2	Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around? Might I add that cold approach is about having the freedom to choose someone that you want yourself instead of getting stuck with whoever you were saddled with by chance. Actually taking action gives you the potential to have more choice in who you end up with and who you actually want to be with instead of who just happened to be attracted to you.	/r/seduction	09/09/24 12:15 PM
2	Never had a girlfriend, how to turn my life around? Brother, cold approach is not common anywhere, I'll tell you that. It's a numbers game, a game of luck. Those guys you're resentful for having hot girls despite being ugly or average probably naturally and subconsciously picked up the skills to get girls as they grew up. You did not, thus you have to try harder. That or they got lucky and you didn't and while you can wait around hoping to also get lucky, your odds of luck falling in your favour go up phenomenally when you expose yourself to more…	/r/seduction	09/09/24 12:13 PM
2	Whats holding you back from getting a Girlfriend? Honestly, just meeting people. You're not going to meet anyone if you don't leave the house and when you leave the house, the number of activities where you can meet your particular type are likely limited.	/r/seduction	30/06/24 04:28 PM
3	Dating is just sales. As true as this is, I do think it's sad how business like dating has become. It's why people are able to be so cold and detatched these days because we're viewing each other as products to be sold on a market instead of people to form connections with.	/r/seduction	17/04/23 11:06 PM
5	Transman culture shock? No one will give a shit about your emotions or how you feel. All women will treat you with suspicion, some will treat you like scum. You will not have a support network of people for when you need it. Prepare to be very much alone all the time chronically. You are an island that people will use for support when needed never gaining that same support, a lone tree that goes unwatered and uncared for despite the shelter that you provide etc. This is what it means to be a man, Goodluck.	/r/MensRights	13/02/23 10:51 AM
1	Play into your archetype I wonder what about Elon Musk people find attractive.	/r/seduction	27/10/22 06:56 PM
1	Play into your archetype Bro is there a place that I can look into the stereotypes and archetypes so I can lean into man? I mean I have one I subscribe to and live by but I'm not sure if it's what I am if that makes sense.	/r/seduction	27/10/22 02:37 PM
3	Truth bomb - sleeping with women won't better your life by itself Truly this is the advice of all time. No one has ever heard of this before. I especially loved it when you contented everywhere and interested everyone and all of reddit stood up and clapped. Thank you for changing my life.	/r/seduction	25/10/22 01:49 PM
1	Seduction is easier than people think I'm sick and tired of the one shoe fits all advice given here😂 That works for you, cool, recognize that that is actually terrible advice for many people because some people can't read social cues, some people are not bold enough to act, some people are not good at progressing things and things will not just fall into their lap.	/r/seduction	19/10/22 08:58 AM
15	HUGE TIP: If you lack the confidence to cold approach, just smile and wave. 7/10 times they will start a convo Where are you living where this is socially acceptable or happens? At best, they'll smile and wave back before nervously backing away, at worst you'll get a mixed look of confusion and disgust.	/r/seduction	09/10/22 02:59 PM
1	Sliding into Instagram DMs how to ? If it makes you laugh, try it. If she's into you and she has the same type of humor as you it'll work.	/r/seduction	09/10/22 02:56 PM
3	Sliding into Instagram DMs how to ? Imma be honest, to start with you need to recognize that if she finds you attractive anything you say will be genius and if she finds you unattractive she will act as if she didn't see it,so try not to stress too much about what you say as even a simple hi, "state intentions here" will work. That said it doesn't hurt to put some effort in. The first thing you should always try to do and go to is use observational openers. Look at her profile for hints at her personality and open with that. Her a…	/r/seduction	06/10/22 06:13 PM
1	My "text game" is my weakest part of my game. Is "Playing With Fire's" paid resources ($295) with the money? Reading will do nothing for you, watch the free videos sure, but the best way to improve your text game is to be texting as many women as you can, romantically and non romantically and flirting where you can. That will improve your text game drastically.	/r/seduction	29/09/22 11:12 AM
4	How many of you on here have actually improved with women after spending time on here? What rules did you apply, where'd you meet her and how?	/r/seduction	22/09/22 08:19 PM
2	How many of you on here have actually improved with women after spending time on here? Tbh I haven't improved by being here, I've improved by going out there and learning in the real world. No better teacher than reality, regardless of what theory you learn here.	/r/seduction	22/09/22 08:14 PM
0	Why Cold Approach doesn’t Work Lmao you are so of base its not even funny choomer. It's more than just belief although that prevents you from sabotaging yourself. It's also dependent on the girls mood and circumstances and if you're even her type to begin with, I say this as someone who cold approach actually works for from time to time.	/r/seduction	22/09/22 11:33 AM
1	Once I realize a girl doesn’t find me attractive, she will no longer get my attention. Absolutely, you don't get relationship benefits and effort if you're only a friend.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 06:43 PM
1	Does the phrase "strike while the iron is hot" applies to dating? As a rule, make the date within 2-3 days. Enough time that they can get to know you and he comfortable enough to meet you without pulling the I don't know you well enough card, fast enough that they don't get bored. Despite what people might tell you, setting up a date within 3-5 messages won't work unless you're on a dating app or they really vibe with you or find you attractive, you'll know when to do what.	/r/seduction	16/09/22 04:45 PM
8	Any recommended books to destroy neediness? Imma be honest. No book will actually destroy neediness. Living life and getting the shit beat out of your heart over and over will kill neediness. Or if you're lucky, reaching true abundance, but the first scenario is more likely.	/r/seduction	12/09/22 04:10 PM
1	How the hell do people do this Work on your ego, self esteem and confidence brother, it's clearly lacking. Approaching a girl should not leave her any worse off than before. At worst, she'll be mildly annoyed or weirded out or perhaps even amused, at best you made her day. You're going in with the wrong mindset.	/r/seduction	04/09/22 03:16 PM
1	How the hell do people do this Bro you are so unbelievably wrong it's laughable. Getting signs of interest isn't so clear cut so most guys asking girls out take a chance and if she's uninterested they move on till they find someone who is interested. You're assumptions are very wrong, there is a good amount of guys who do this without success in the past and go on hope and randomness, it's not always the way you describe. Also sorry to say, asking a girl out is the least of your problems, that's the easy part, it's every part…	/r/seduction	04/09/22 02:47 PM
1	If having hobbies makes you attractive to women, why isn’t attractive if a guy is into video games and Reddit as opposed to more traditional hobbies? It is attractive friend, to the right woman.	/r/seduction	02/09/22 10:55 PM
5	the approach anxiety is way more complex than what u might think Approach anxiety is just a sub layer of anxiety. Once you've actually approached at least once that day it goes away for the day.	/r/seduction	02/09/22 10:58 AM
1	How to get girls at college without playing sports? Walk around campus. Seriously, there generally will be a few girls that you find attractive if you walk around inbetween classes. If cold approaching is too much or too nerve inducing, going to the cafeteria and just asking if you can sit with girls there is also a very good way to get to know some girls. I also hear that the library is a great place but I've never tried there. Finally there's the events and parties that colleges usually host on the weekends.	/r/seduction	02/09/22 10:03 AM
1	A girl who ghosted me reached out again I say give it a shot, you don't lose anything.	/r/seduction	29/08/22 02:34 PM
2	Girl not ordering any food, drinks etc on dates? I understand, but burning bridges isn't the answer either.	/r/seduction	29/08/22 02:29 PM
10	Girl not ordering any food, drinks etc on dates? People on reddit in general are trigger happy blockers tbh. Love cutting contact for any and all reasons because apparently that's the "healthy" thing to do instead of talking things out and trying to make things work first. It's sad because it's a sign of people today being too scared to be vulnerable or tolerant with others in that their first response to literally anything is to cut contact.	/r/seduction	29/08/22 09:53 AM
25	What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin? From experience, regardless of what everyone will tell you, lie. Bump it up to 2 or 3 or even 1. Because most women either have doubts or lose interest when they find out that you're a virgin but are totally cool with men with little experience as long as there is experience. Those outliers that people talk about that get more turned on when they find out you're a virgin or are willing to tolerate and help you, that only applies to girls that are extremely attracted to you already, I'm talking h…	/r/seduction	28/08/22 02:10 PM
5	Tips for cold approaching in college Focus on one a day and see success not as getting her number but as opening your mouth and saying hi. That should drive you nicely and once you get enough momentum you can increase that amount.	/r/seduction	23/08/22 11:49 AM
1	[deleted by user] "Why wouldn't you want to know a catch like me" then smirk.	/r/seduction	19/08/22 06:08 PM
1	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero Well, regardless of what anyone else tells you, why not do both? Go to a hobbie or interest meeting and become a regular. Get acquainted with the people there, get used to talking to people and make friends. While you're doing that, talk to women with the intention of being friends first, if at any point you realize that you like them immediately ask for a. Despite what other people may tell you, making friends and getting into a relationship are two totally different skills that need to be deve…	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:47 PM
1	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero Honestly, no, but the social skills you get from having friends helps a lot.	/r/seduction	08/08/22 06:05 PM
6	Absence makes the heart grow fonder Only if they actually want you, if they're on the fence it almost certainly drives them away.	/r/seduction	31/07/22 03:08 PM
2	[deleted by user] You just gotta interact with them more y'know? Some will like you, some won't, a lot won't find you to be their "type". Its really just luck of the draw. This works for all women not just white women, but there's a certain archetype of person that'll be attracted to the archetype of person you are, find them and home in on them. You'll find out that they hang out at certain places, go to certain places etc etc so start frequenting those types of areas with those types of people and your chances …	/r/seduction	07/07/22 10:54 AM
2	THE NUMBER 1 REASON YOU LOOK LIKE A CREEP Bottom tier advice, I think most men have the common sense to start with hygiene and it is most certainly not making them look like a creep. Come on man, put some effort in.	/r/seduction	28/06/22 01:12 AM
1	Live with 2 attractive bartenders, here are my thoughts I very much agree with this, it might not work for everyone but the ability to effectively and honestly express and communicate your intent and actually getting to know a person will take you a long way in getting closer to women and whatever you're looking for(sex/relationships). Vulnerability is a powerful tool because so few guys are willing to expose themselves like that.	/r/seduction	30/06/20 01:06 PM
1	Do NOT waste time getting girls on social media 5 is better than nothing. I don't think it's a waste of time and I get success on social media, about 1/10 times.	/r/seduction	05/06/20 11:07 PM
1	How do I stop taking virtual rejection (getting left on read, getting left on delivered, getting ghosted...) so personally? Stop expecting replies. Send a message and literally forget that you even sent it, to the point that if you get a response then you're suprised that you got one. Then you won't take it personally at all, you're letting it affect your ego too much by "expecting" a response.	/r/seduction	23/05/20 06:36 AM
0	Men, please don't be like this guy at the club I see this shit happen all the damn time, some guys just need to cool it tbh.	/r/seduction	04/01/20 07:39 PM
1	Let's get YOU a wingman! I doubt there's anyone even remotely near me, but I'm in Randburg South Africa, more specifically Fontainebleau, if anyone happens to see this, let's push each other to do our best.	/r/seduction	22/09/19 08:01 AM
1	If you're ever worried about your success rate just remember every day you don't approach your rate is 0% Hey, could I also get a link?	/r/seduction	29/04/19 06:57 AM
7	From hopeless to abundance: how pickup changed my life. Where.... Where do I start?	/r/seduction	04/02/19 03:27 PM