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The analogy most used actually speaks to the point you are making if you actually think about it: "For women it's like dying of dehydration in the stranded in the ocean; for men it's like dying of dehydration in the desert." In the former case, you can work with what you have. You are surrounded by water, with some effort you can convert it to drinkable water in several ways. If you put in that effort you have more water than you can even hope to drink. In the latter case....there is simply no w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 01:45 PM
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The ones they enjoyed the sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 12:50 AM
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Women fuck men they are physically attracted to. Has nothing to do with ideologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 12:00 AM
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Thanks for being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 12:00 AM
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More self delusion like women in 95+percent of cases don't choose who they fuck or don't fuck based on physical attraction. Can many of you just please fucking stop the bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 11:59 PM
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I cosign this, because it would stop men from flooding women with free validation and attention. It would make our interactions more fucking normal. Every decent looking woman is a minor celebrity now and 70 percent of men are cartoon dogs swooning over a pie on a window sill in the form of any said decent looking woman. It's fucking ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:20 AM
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Did you take the SAT? Many use it as a make shift iq test.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:14 AM
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The smarter dudes i know are more likely single and miserable, then the 100 iq himbos are happily married with 5 kids lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:13 AM
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all of this nickel and dime shit melts away if you just own up and accept dating is a competition especially on the male side. You want some woman to "just" like you for who you are? Why? You maximize what you can maximize and then you have access to what you have access to. Then the personality compatibility determines which will actually work. Is that sort of backwards? maybe. Doesn't matter. I wish we could all drop the pretense, in a non hostile not nasty way, but honestly women as a whole r…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:12 AM
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Yes...its becoming routine because that is how men are. It is different than how you are. You don't have to fully understand it but you have to accept it. It's okay to be discouraged.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:07 AM
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That is rarely what happens because men don’t typically talk about their feelings. Me and others are talking about our feelings in here. We are being met by some good ole womansplaining. We are largely saying if theres a romantic rejection the friendship is probably over and we are being told these feelings are invalid. Above you are describing what you find acceptable like, the guy needing space to fix their feelings. You are okay with scenarios that result in the friendship continuing. You nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:06 AM
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I feel like those overlap a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:20 AM
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Sure. Again I ask why you are more worked up over the rejected guy ending a friendship vs the several other friendships that just spontaneously end during your lifetime. Why is he handcuffed to be your friend forever when no one else is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:18 AM
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Re read the comment you are replying to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:09 AM
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I never said it was. Few men in here did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:06 AM
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I ask again where this determination to keep the rejected male friend comes from. Where is this dedication to the 1st semester dorm mate you never spoke to again after spending a bunch of time together for 3 months. This is a control and power thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:05 AM
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I find this shit hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:04 AM
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"punishing" is an interesting spin. "storming off"....turning down a romantic advance is not "doing anything" to the guy on the girl's end. Treating a girl as an acquaintance and not a friend is also not "doing anything" to the girl on the guy's end. Male-male and female-female friendships ebb and flow and fade out all the time. Again, I ask, why a different onus is put on maintaining friendship in this scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:00 AM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:56 AM
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This is such a canned accusatory cliche clapback on this topic it's such a waste of mental bandwidth to even read.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:45 AM
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Agree 1000 percent. Lessons learned somewhat too late lol. Saying certain sensitive things in person...it goes out into the atmosphere then just evaporates. And that can be a very good thing. It's just....way more powerful in general too. It's sorta weak to broach some topics not in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:44 AM
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Lol whole response sounds like a thinly veiled threat. This is the sneaky shit i am talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:42 AM
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Anything is possible lol. It happens, u hear about it. Friends first then romance...small chance. Friends....romance rejected...then romance accepted...That is a real unlikely one and I doubt it lasts for long hardly ever. That's some romantic comedy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:39 AM
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8 billion people to be friends with too...besides this guy she rejected. We are reading from the same book in a different language. All relationships need to be based off mutualism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:34 AM
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I understand the seeming silliness of doing an indirect song-and-dance to fade out the friendship instead of just formally declaring its end like a peace treaty at a war summit, but what's logically desirable and what actually seems to work are just different. Yeah, youre right here. Context matters. Even the format. Honestly over some messenger app is less effective than in person, for example. And in many instances, gotta play with the honestly a bit, soften what youre saying. But overall, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:31 AM
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Scotch on, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:30 AM
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WTF is FNM?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:27 AM
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lol....this is an easy retort. Think of alllll the men in the world not “meeting her needs" right now because they have no interest in being her friend. Now add one more. How hard is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:23 AM
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She expects him to behave as he does with the billion other women who have no romantic interest in him. A large large percent of these women he is in no way friends with. So there ya go.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:21 AM
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Caveat: assuming your initial talking points in good faith is true, and this is an attraction that developed over time and not just a guy sleezing his way through the guise of friendship. Being deceived is certainly more justified room for feeling upset/betrayed. Sure, but at the end of the day you just gotta get over a friendship ending, just like someone has to get over their romantic advances being rebuked. It's a dumb strategy when a guy does this but it's not a fucking war crime. Honesty fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:12 AM
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Don't see anything disagreeing with me in here. I did not say anyone is forced. There is definitely a subtle pressuring for the rejected to maintain friendship. I agree, obviously, that it's a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:09 AM
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You're here participating in a very non productive way. Why are you here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:06 AM
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Huge generalization.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:06 AM
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Your reply to someone else is still under the OP I made. You are saying that a guy's change in feelings isn't the girls fault. Great. I didn't imply that in my OP. I did say there are instances where the rejector, male or female, acts in bad faith by keeping a person around as an orbiter when they know they still want something else. These are two different things. An over-arching point to my post is that just as a guy has to accept his desire for romance isn't going to happen; a woman may need …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:04 AM
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Some of them do. When the friendship is 100 percent platonic on both sides....its an awesome thing. I have a few of them. It's so so obvious when its like this. That's why i have doubts women don't know when it's not. Almost everyone has that "feel." I think some women play dumb because it benefits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:52 AM
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Going down a different rabbit hole here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:45 AM
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Why does it even matter if the guy wanted to back-door into romance through friendship. It's ill advised and wont work, sure. But if he tried that, it doesnt work, so he doesn't want to be friends anymore....so what? It's some egregious betrayal that someone was friendly to you then stopped because the relationship wasn't going in a mutually desired direction? You, everyone in this thread, everyone in the world, has had friendships just end. Sometimes they just end. Why can't you accept them end…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:43 AM
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I'm not really sure if it's actually desirable most of the time though. Friends come and go - it's a truism that most people won't stay friends with most people from their high school. Right. And people just accept this. But when someone wants to end a friendship under the scenario i described, its presented as such a big scumbag move. People stop being friends sometimes because they move less than 50 miles away lol. No one bats an eye. Theres something....up... with women being so determined to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:40 AM
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Typical brick wall that is built in these discourses. The misery of being rejected out weighs the benefits of the friendship. "I don't get how...." you may exclaim. I get it. You may not be capable of getting it. We do not process everything the same way. Some women experience this too and react like us men do....so they get it. It's not a good friendship if one party wants a different type of relationship. Idk what else you want me to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:36 AM
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I think i get what youre saying. If you are appealing personality wise to be someone's friend, you could in theory be a romantic prospect but you are missing the physical and success levels they demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:31 AM
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Again....why are you so determined to keep these men in particular. You didn't answer MY question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:28 AM
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You are probably right in most instances. There should be an undeniable physical/sexual moment....doesn't have to be sex. A kiss, shit even a real obvious held look. There was some physical contact in there....and i think women should be REAL careful with that because it can very reasonably be taken the wrong way especially when the other signals are there. But yeah...there were some moments that towed the line. It just didn't add up to a romantic acceptance. Shit, i even had several peers our s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:27 AM
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The bottom line is the friendship has to feel great for both involved. It may hurt as the girl to lose the friendship but the shit feelings of being rejected may override everything else. This isn't ....negotiable. Romantic desire isn't negotiable either is it? Would a man be in the right to demand to negotiate desire with a woman? No, it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:23 AM
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You're not a bad person unless you act with intentional malice or with bad intentions. People's feelings get hurt in all kinds of relationships. It is unfortunate. I hope everything settles out at least in a neutral way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:21 AM
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feelings isn’t logical. Feelings, especially romantic ones, are not exactly logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:20 AM
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Many women always reply this way and i detect an absolute refusal to acknowledge men process this differently than they do. if you just accept that, in a lot of different areas, you would be on the path to some empathy. Men, or women, are not "pathetic" for wanting to continue a friendship with someone they harbor romantic feelings for. It would be disingenuous to do so. As they say, plenty of fish in the sea; in the same vein, there are limitless options of people for you to be friends with bes…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:17 AM
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Saying the friendzone exists is the most horrible take on the friendzone. That is quite the argument, John.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:13 AM
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In a roundabout way you are describing a way to "escape" the friendzone...which you also deny...but I do agree. A guy could be rejected and freindzoned and up his level a huge amount and there is a chance the woman would change her mind. But also...maybe not. If i put myself in a different position in life and all that I could see her coming around but I wouldn't want her in that scenario. Relationships are all a bit transactional on a sliding scale but thats just....way to conspicuously transac…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:12 AM
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Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:06 AM
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I asked her on a date. And i made it clear i meant a romantic date and she declined. You're right it's not conducive at all to friendship but i feel she's determined to maintain it. Just isn't gonna work. I just want her to treat me like the other guys in our friend group she's just acquainted with. It's unfortunate. She's a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:03 AM
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Fair enough. As long as we recognize all parties have this right to refusal it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:59 AM
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Oh it's okay. Happens. Sort of in-process. I do not initiate contact with her ever currently; she did for a while in a minor way but when i stopped replying she kind of got the hint.... but in person among a friend group she still seems to want my attention. I don't think it's malicious but it's a bad situation. We need to have another conversation soon but there's not a lot of opportunities for that. It will all work out but the end result im sure will not be friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:56 AM
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Block may come off as harsh, but just like im saying the rejected can end the friendship, the rejector can say yeah i know this wont be a good friendship and say lets not continue. I think you probably made the right choice and it was for the best. For you and the guy. He would have most likely been an opportunistic orbiter and not a friend. If he really expressed he could remove all his romantic feelings for the friendship maybe you could have given it a chance but tbh i find that really really…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:52 AM
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But if you’re being you and she or he is laughing a lot at your jokes and listening intently to your stories and standing close to you and making time to hang out (not in a candlelight dinner way but in a “hey let’s go grab some pizza and a beer” kind of way)….time to move in for the kiss. lol when it happened to me....she did more than half of this and it resulted in a rejection. Maybe it was timing. But point is...you kind of never know until you ask. Girl could do ALL of that and still not ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:49 AM
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Yeah. Women don't like being friendzoned either. They don't have as much of a problem with it because it happens less, and they have more options to move on to when it does happen...but sometimes they freak out same as some men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:45 AM
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Yeah. It's like inverted rock-paper-scissors. The only way to win is if both people throw out the same thing. It's doomed otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:43 AM
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The irony is that when I was friendzoned by a guy friend he gave me the whole “so were we even ever friends?” Thought only women used that line. Exactly! It does happen to both sexes but men more often. It sucks to be accused of that, but for some reason its the standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:41 AM
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possible and desirable For most men it's not desirable. We don't process this thing the way you do. It does sometimes work out but those instances are on the margins.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:33 AM
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I think your neurodivergence allows you to see things other females are not seeing, or they see but subconsciously tuck away to the subconscious because the.... gentle exploitation you are describing benefits them. I do not think it's malicious or premeditated. It's not completely one-sided either. Like in the second para I can envision and have seen, been involved in, party to etc. this dynamic. Men and woman who don't actually make good friend candidates being around each other because there's…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:27 AM
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No i think we are good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:22 AM
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Shit happens indeed. Same way people aren't compatible romantically, they may not be compatible as friends, and latter can be the result of the former. If that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:19 AM
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Bow out then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:17 AM
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I have seen ppl say its not real all the time. In like every post talking about it on Reddit, and elsewhere. Calling this a strawman is a big stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:15 AM
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"No shit" to all of that. There are scenarios where it can't be applied. There are scenarios where it should have been and isn't applied. The discussion is mostly about the aftermath.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:13 AM
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Don't agree with anything here. None of the above needs a negative connotation. Idk where that is coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:11 AM
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I don't disagree with a lot of this. However, I do see, all over the place, people saying the friendzone isn't real. Yeah it's on the rejected to decide whether the terms offered are ok or not but as I said I see it being vilified if they choose to walk away. No one is entitled to a romantic relationship but were not entitled to friendship either. And as ive said a bunch in here, friendships end all the time for various or no reason at all. But yeah I also think the rejector can and often does t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:08 AM
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I find it hard to believe I am strawmanning you because i am mostly agreeing with you....
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:57 AM
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Yeah. No strongly lopsided friendship works and this is like the worst example of one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:56 AM
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Yeah that's another sub topic of it's own. A lot of time lets just be friends or the like is a lip service. There's just so so few instances where this whole suite of dynamics works out. The offering of being friends with rejection should just be phased out; if you are going to be friends it will just naturally manifest, just like it does in all other scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:55 AM
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The problem is if the romantic desire remains, even a little bit, it will be miserable. It's understandable if you can't fully identify with this, but it's how a lot of men will feel, and some women experience this too, but men and women are different. There are some things that women reconcile in a way i don't fully "get", but i accept its how they process it. Put simply: most men suffer in the friendzone. Friends after rejection should be the exception not the standard. Women don't like this I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:51 AM
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I am "bitching" about something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:47 AM
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Yeah. This is a big part of what i'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:45 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:44 AM
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1. It isn't considered real because the man puts himself in this position, while attributing being in this position as something done to him by the woman. In other words, even the concept of the friendzone is friendzoned men rejecting their own agency. I said it is valid that you put yourself there. It can also be as real as any other concept. They are not mutually exclusive. 2. I can't say the woman is never a dick, but it is typically quite rare. Typically, she's either ignorant of his feeling…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:41 AM
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As someone who has had many platonic female friends, I've honestly never seen a normal "friendzone" relationship. It's almost always one person falling the other around like a puppy (it's blatantly obvious they have feelings for the person), while the one with power in the dynamic abuses it. I agree. I think we all know these friendships are doomed, but if the friendzoned decides to terminate it they are very often negatively characterized.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:31 AM
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The debate is: that it's "not a real thing." its as real as any other concept we use to reconcile interpersonal relationships, such as the example I gave. Both sexes/sides of the friendzone can be toxic. I almost only ever see the man who was friendzoned being negatively characterized. I fleshed this out in the last para. Overall the expectation of friendship working after romantic rejection is unrealistic. As I said, more realistic to be acquaintances. I think that standard itself is toxic. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:28 AM
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I don't think i have any disagreement with this statement in the OP or in this reply. edit: now i do since you added the selfish part. Idk where you get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:24 AM
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You do understand it because you just described it. The analog i presented is the situationship. He or she doesn't want a romantic relationship, just sex; you either accept that or move on. Very apt analogs but no one says there's no such thing as a situationship. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:16 AM
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Not necessarily "the top" but women's goal is to the the "best" guy they can get more so than men. They end relationships over this desire, they reject guys they are actually attracted to for this reason. That valuation is slightly different for every women. Most men aren't really like that as much. They want a woman they are attracted to and that they believe cares about them. There are obvious exceptions. More simply, you could line up 50 women all at least attractive to a man, some more so so…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:06 AM
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"women behaviour is the normal and healthy behaviour and male behaviour is broken behaviour that needs fixing". Nail on the head lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:00 AM
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lol....the latest iteration of "no guys, the problem is you're not picky enough." Both sexes being more picky does not result in more connections. That math does not work out. It's an equilibrium. If men were as picky as women, women would be less. The ideal is if we are the exact same amount of discerning. Men are just different about this and it's not just about sex. If the women isn't repellent personality wise and is attractive, we are open to considering something developing between us. Lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 02:58 AM
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Few men imply they care about personality the most. Many women do, and then in reality women are way more discerning when it comes to physical attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:40 PM
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That is a sunny picture to paint but in general as time goes I think women are less and less receptive to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:05 AM
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Stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:28 AM
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Not wanting your partner/spouse to act completely independent of you is not controlling. Should husband/boyfriend: Just decide he is going on a week trip without talking to his partner? wear paint covered sweatpants to an event his partner cares about? post things on social media that are extremely offensive to his partner and people he/she cares about? hang out at the strip club with his single buddies every weekend till 3 am? ​ The point you are making is goofy and in a reddit vacuum.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:26 AM
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Classic reddit comment that has no transference to the real world. It is normal to have expectations of how your partner behaves if you are dating them. This is what actually happens when people are together all the time. It is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:22 AM
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You would not say ridiculous shit like this if you didn't have the absolute security of knowing that would never ever happen. If men completely ignored women for a full year women would go insane excluding a small handful of outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:19 AM
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I wish men were able to group think as effectively as women. Women legit bend reality to their fucking whim using group think and social media. This is an example of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:18 AM
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Men have plenty of emotions but are EXPECTED to stifle them. They are overtly expected to stifle them by other men, and covertly expected to stifle them by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:15 AM
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The worst is them thinking many woman find Jason Mamoa, or The Rock hot. Not one woman I know irl is attracted to that. lol. Yeah women being attracted to Jason Momoa is a big conspiracy/gaslight. The fuck are you talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:11 AM
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They are shallow if they sort out men based on immutable physical attributes. And many do. That's what shallow means.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:09 AM
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Women are much less receptive to being approached in person because of the apps. And why wouldn't they be? Have weird, unscheduled usually awkward interactions with men of any quality vs scrolling through 100-1000s of dating applications complete with stat sheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:06 AM
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"Dear." lol. The subtle condescension.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:04 AM
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I really wish us men had the group willpower to straight up ignore all of you for like 2 years completely and see how you feel by the end of that 2 years. Majority of you women would go absolutely apeshit insane. The view of this post falls into a greater topic I have been thinking about. Men are not allowed to be mad, hurt, resentful. That is such a fucking pigeonhole. Ah women as a whole only find 20 percent of you worthy of dating WHY WOULD THAT MAKE YOU MAD DERP!? like cmon are you fucking s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:03 AM
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Women don't want to be approached they want to sit in their tower on their dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:56 AM
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Majority of men who end up in real happy relationships don't get there by cold approaching that shit is weird and somewhat desperate by default. The successful male daters meet most of their romantic interests via social circles and dating apps. When men are attractive and have a social circle they have access to those options. Women in social circles give subtle or even not so subtle "go ahead" cues to encourage men to do this. If you are an ugly man you very possibly have never been sent one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:01 AM
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I think in most cases if the woman is going to be expected to take care of the home near 100 percent the understanding is the man will take care of the income near 100 percent. A woman being expected to do all household talks and have a full time job is rare I think, because it is obviously unreasonable. Do you know women who do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 10:07 PM
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Yeah. No fucking shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:56 PM
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I feel like I see this a lot more with celebrity men but no examples are coming to mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:31 AM
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What is the context of these people posting themselves over on incetear. What is the purpose of that sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:20 AM
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I think there a lot more involuntarily single women than we at least thing; however, much like the 5'2" balding grocery store bagger single man is invisible to a lot of women, the 280 lb, homely single chick is also invisible to a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:15 AM
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And it is both.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:07 AM
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All it boils down to in 90 percent is they are attractive people and they have success with women/girls from a young age. This builds a lot of confidence and comfort pursuing women. You can't really fake confidence in most cases. The inverse is guys who get no attention as young adults in HS, none or very little in college and so on. There is the odd case of a guy who is not so attractive being confident and having a silver tongue but for the most part just a positive feedback loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:05 AM
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I feel like these points are obvious. Where the disconnect comes in is where they consistently date the same type of guy and the COMPLAIN about all men due to their bad experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:03 AM
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Most recent rejection I didn't give this person anything or offer any favors or anything before asking her on a date. We had known each other for a long time and gotten along. She said no, I didn't blow up. I said I respected her for being honest blah blah. She offered the ole LJBF which I did say yes to. This part I do regret because it was dishonest. I know it's lip service from her and not something I can be happy with because I want more. This feeling, and the underlying resentment towards s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:30 PM
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Authentic would be a good start.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:21 PM
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Lol @ women arguing they would not choose man B when statistics show man A is out of the running immediately on OLD based on the height. Please stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:07 AM
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The 9.5/10 has wayyy more value then her 550k a year. Women don’t understand that men aren’t into the same things they are lol Bingo. the 550k is a complete non factor, more like a negative really.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:04 AM
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Wrong lol. It is hilarious you think you know men and wrote the second paragraph. Men do not care about how much women make for the most part. And added with the other issues of woman B, her making that massive amount is going to be a big problem unless the dude makes more. You are applying how you think to men. Please believe me. Most men are picking woman A.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:01 AM
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Man B is out there on the OLD app! I just know he is!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:00 AM
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I can't speak for women but I am choosing woman A and it's not even a remotely hard decision. I can't even imagine anyone picking B male or female. One thing to note tho is we don't give a shit about how much the woman is making in most cases. Or the height excluding outliers. the 7/10 means she is attractive to us and that can take many different forms.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:59 AM
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If we are all fatter, men and women, then it is a wash.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:51 AM
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Dating within a social circle with two people who know each other somewhat due to mutual inclusion in the circle or some other organization used to be the norm. Now it's two strangers brought together on a dating app that is the norm. It has not been good for most of us men and women I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:48 AM
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I don't just for the sake of it but I see this woe as not justified. I made another comment in here pointing out why.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:45 AM
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At the margins being too picky and not picky enough are bad. I feel this should be obvious and so are the representative examples. It also makes accepting any faults harder in a person who is real sitting in front of you when you have a virtual megasphere of potential matches. I feel like many people, particularly women, will throw the baby out with the bathwater very prematurely because the guy in front of them is essentially competing against an idealized online avatar of their perfect man who…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:43 AM
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Brain rot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:39 AM
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Doesn't have to be marriage but real commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:37 AM
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I love how the minimum for the 22 year old cute barista is fucking prime Indiana Jones. Don't be boring. Go find the Temple of Doom already.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:35 AM
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And these apps skew towards people who are good at advertising themselves and the arms race nature creates complete bullshit facades. Like who tf is exciting enough to meet these expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:32 AM
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Any post I have made on here just asking to acknowledge a male specific woe in dating has been , mostly, invalidated by the women who responded. There were a small handful empathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:27 AM
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The guys that only want that give out those vibes and women know it and ignore it. If you are looking for a guy on tinder and have this woe lol wtf do you even want anyone to say? That's like being upset you couldn't find vegan options at a butcher shop. Having much easier access to dating and physical/romantic affection is an advantage. No asterisk. As others have commented the chance of real romantic compatibility is smaller than physical compatibility. It is a numbers game and having more opp…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:25 AM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:52 PM
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It is not fucking fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:04 PM
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Glad you are married and happy (enough).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:21 AM
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Damn dude. Did we live the same life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:03 AM
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Bruh. I am brown-ish too and other MEN my whole life have called me ugly. But as I said in a prev. comment in here, when I was in my prime a handful of very attractive women let me know otherwise lol. Maybe this is a minor phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:00 AM
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"OMG yassssss gurl. SLAY!"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:57 PM
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It could matter a little bit how you see yourself lol. I thought confidence mattered?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:56 PM
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Not even close to below average lol. Dude is attractive overall physique and face. Plus the stats he added, he should not be struggling. His physique alone is like 95th percentile.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:52 PM
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All good lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:58 PM
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I do not consider myself attractive now because I am overweight and wear it in my face, and I have lost my hair. But when I was younger in college I didn't think I was attractive then either, but I got a lot of indisputable evidence otherwise from some attractive women. Not all women, but some liked the way I looked, so it is true not all women like the same thing. Funny thing is, men always told me I was ugly lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:14 PM
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I am not sure what that has to do with this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:04 PM
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Lol and yet again, the response to male difficulty is try harder, do better. Thanks. The thought never ocurred to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:30 PM
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Yeah....no shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:27 PM
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The post I made was basically to solicit an acknowledgment that men can't actually realistically let themselves be seen as vulnerable, weak, or down because there are harsh consequences. The majority (not all) of the responses from women completely invalidated that it was a real issue. It was basically some womensplaining. We are telling u this is what we face. Mansplaining also of course is real and exemplified by the misunderstanding of female sexuality you mentioned. Like in my post I wasn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:25 PM
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Probably best bet is to lean into it like you do. I am not that sensitive I just have moments like most people and feel required to hide it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:20 PM
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Look.....at how much work this ends up being. Holy shit. The majority of guys that have a lot of success dating do not have to work this hard. They are just greenlighted via subtle cues from interested women. And obviously, we know MOST women do not have to put in this effort. Their effort is just picking from the offers. For guys that it doesn't come so easy to, this is like the effort of second job. To essentially drag someone into dating you who isn't actually fiercely desiring you. What a sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:58 PM
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Submit your resume on the online dating apps. That is literally what is preferred now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:52 PM
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I have no interest in this but I hope it works for the men who take this route.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:51 PM
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Good on her lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:48 PM
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Yet again, boils down to the prompt to "do better." This is the only feedback men get ever lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:07 PM
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I am not saying it's their responsibility to do anything. I am asking to acknowledge the male situation and that despite being encouraged otherwise, men cannot appear weak or vulnerable without potentially harmful consequences socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:22 AM
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I am saying if they threw a full blown tantrum it's one thing but being emotionally overwhelmed is not that uncommon for adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:21 AM
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Not what I am saying so I don't have much of a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:19 AM
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I don't think I said it was an expectation by men. The opposite, I am saying men are skeptical when they are told their mental health matters or it is okay to open up, because they know there are consequences and that they are always being assessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:55 AM
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Not what I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:53 AM
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Full blown tantrum flailing arms on the ground and screaming? sure. But I am certain almost every adult gets emotionally overwhelmed at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:46 AM
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I've seen many men get lost driving, and it's a great character study moment. Some flip out, some are very calm, some are cheerful and make the best of it, some literally ruin the entire day over it and blame you...I'm sure you can guess who most of us want to be lost with. This isn't ridiculous, you shouldn't be more terrified of our judgement than of who you really are. If I knew I was shitty when challenged, I'd be more concerned about that than getting found out for being shitty. Do you not …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:43 AM
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Yep. Part of what I'm talking about. It doesn't even have to be a partner. If you show weakness in front of women it is a risk. That is a hard expectation to live your entire life with. It is crazy how many responses in here don't get that basic part of the point im making.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:39 AM
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lol. Sad. This mentality is what we have to consider resorting to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:34 AM
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Yeah the point you are making is fine. Can you just acknowledge the actual issue many of us men are talking about here though? We are alone with our problems all the time. Even with a partner. Yes therapy therapy. That is really the only option we have to go pay someone to give a shit. Like the tone of most (keyword MOST) of the comments from women in here is discrediting how we feel and saying it's not even valid. The ONLY reason the men in here are talking about it is because it's anonymous.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:31 AM
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Oh for sure. The men I know that are the most successful at dating are simply....good at dating, and exuding a certain façade.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:23 AM
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I'm not writing it off. I am saying in the face of it is unreasonable for men to truly believe they can have their mental health issues taken seriously. A conscious showing of weakness is a dangerous thing for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:20 AM
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Yeah. I'm calling BS on this not being a double standard. Women will be the arbiter on their man's behavior being therapy worthy then they themselves will act completely unreasonable themselves and expect support or acceptance. Do you think most women when feeling down or depressed for an extended period would be satisfied with their man just saying "Uh...go to therapy."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:15 AM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:12 AM
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The ceiling for me is saying to myself "lol. what a fucking dick."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:11 AM
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lol. Yeah. A macrocosm of this is that in general if a man expresses difficulty dating in general he is told to basically try harder and do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:03 AM
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I don't think the expectation is outrageous and that is to be understanding when your partner is not at their best, be it briefly hysterical, appearing weak, ineffectual etc. You would not like being cast aside for that either. As I said in other comments, it's different if it's a recurring persistent thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:02 AM
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This is what I am talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:57 AM
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lold
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:38 AM
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Very fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:30 AM
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That sounds....oddly specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:25 AM
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But I am not even suggesting they can help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:24 AM
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I feel like a shit load of men and women have had light road rage. And I am someone who doesn't really get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:21 AM
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lol I feel like overt admission of fierce homophobia is a little different than what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:20 AM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:05 AM
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I think the suggestion women compare men to their father is very believable if not necessarily demonstratable. Same as men who make some comparison of women they date to their mother. I don't think has to be taken to the gross extreme in either case of women wanting to literally fuck their dads and vice versa; although, I am sure there are instances closer resembling that on a sliding scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:57 PM
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I appreciate the candor on this comment. Especially the last bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:51 PM
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Not exactly what I'm saying. Even if it is subconscious how can you expect men to believe they can be vulnerable and at the same time know they may be punished for it, even if it isn't a conscious punishment? I am not so much asking to not react this way, I am saying you can't act this way and simultaneously pretend men should be comfortable being vulnerable. It's double-talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:48 PM
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Did you getting the ick that one time result in anything significant? Or did you just move on and not judge her as a whole based on the one time you saw her at her worst?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:47 PM
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Yes. I am not implying a conscious cruel choice. But based on the reasons you outlined, how can men be confident being vulnerable when they are at risk of being punished? And I am talking about the stories we see where a woman see's her man looking like a doofus or "not the leader" once and bails. Men do not do that to women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:45 PM
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Lol got irrationally angry. Sounds like being a human. If it is constant that is different. I have seen many grown women throw adult temper tantrums, and men too to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:42 PM
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Isn't that more of female Oedipus than Electra? Electra is when a woman is actively competing with her mom for her dad's affection. I think that happens too but isn't what we are talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:39 PM
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That's good you don't. The reason you stated sounds reasonable as it had to be early on you found out that band preference. Im more talking about an established relationship where the woman sees weakness in a man and just cuts bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:37 PM
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I think men don't want to be thrown out like the baby with the bathwater because they showed vulnerability once.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:35 PM
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Definitely seems true. But the thing is, all those fathers have flaws. Even the best ones. I think a projection of an idealized image of their father gets used as a comparison vs the guy in question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:33 PM
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Thought it was Ozempic.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 11:04 PM
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I think majority of men just want a woman they are attracted to overall and then the rest of the criteria comes in to play. Most men have very few deal breakers with female appearance besides like yes, being obese. But then there are men who do like that. But the men who like bigger girls also are more than willing to have sex with not so big women. Women's standards seem very hardline by comparison and a lot of the attributes are immutable, like height or hair etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 11:01 PM
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I wouldn't attempt to give advice to a woman because I am a man. I think the advice men say is bad advice from women is when they advise men. Women should take advice from romantically successful women; men should take advice from romantically successful men. The inverse is going to be more prone to bias and idealism. I have seen so many women give advice on what they value and want in a man and it literally is completely mis aligned to the men they date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:47 AM
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Not interested in sex with a complete stranger. I honestly don't think many men actually are. The men who do this are outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:41 AM
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Yeah there is the expectation to at least pretend you are just looking for something casual to begin with otherwise you are seen as needy or desperate. No mfer, I do not want to date around and have sex with a bunch of different women I want intimacy with one woman. The fact that gets you labeled emotionally stunted is wild. And in the above is a big misunderstanding by women of what many or maybe most men want. They want intimacy. Intimacy includes but is not limited to sex. Sex is only part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:42 AM
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Hilarious to ask seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:39 AM
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I think promiscuity is gross in general. But I am not attracted or interested in men, so it is not something I give a shit about much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:35 AM
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The attraction was there from the start. It has to be, barring an enormous glow-up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:32 AM
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Yeah I think it is a volume thing. And for every dude who gets more and more desensitized to rejection, I think there are like 3 dudes who get more and more hurt with every rejection. If you are the latter and receive your 50th rejection or whatever, likely you are gonna lash out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:25 AM
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The type of person that is completely unaffected by rejection is sus to me. I don't think that's normal. It should hurt a little. Men get rejected a lot more, so there are more stories of them reacting badly about it. Also there is an unrealistic expectation of stoicism for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:23 AM
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I mean that type of experience is definitely more memorable in a bad way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:22 AM
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I don't think that many people disagree with this. But at the center of the bell-curve, most women look better at 21 vs 30. and even more so 40 vs 21. But yes, many 30 year old women look outstanding, sometimes better than they themselves looked at 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:16 AM
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BE A GIGA STOIC CHAD
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:14 AM
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I don't think we are participating in a war here, but if a gendered discourse or dispute is somethin you don't like this may be a bad sub to participate in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:50 AM
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None of it is anyone's fault so long as we are honest. I think many times us men have a suspicion that we are turned away due to a perceived dating value, rather than the true compatibility between us and a woman. Of course, one could argue that compatibility can and should be influenced by said value. Maybe that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:45 AM
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We are all swayed by trends, and attraction is non-negotiable for both men and women. But I think we can agree that trends impact women's preferences more than men. Or maybe we can't. It seems pretty clear to me, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:19 AM
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Has literally nothing to do with "being an idiot."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:10 AM
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I actually don't think that discredits that they are unable to control who they are attracted to. It reinforces it but that it also influenced by the external. You can be impressionable and not in control simultaneously. It does discredit that it is a wholly personal and individualistic preference, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:09 AM
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I think its always non negotiable; however women's attraction is highly influenced by the external. No woman wants a man who no other woman wants, even if in a vacuum she does find him attractive. A man wants a woman if he finds her attractive, and probably doesn't care that no other man wants her. He might even take comfort in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:04 AM
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The difference is few things become legit deal breakers to men appearance wise, besides like weight or hygiene or teeth. A man will not rule out dating a woman with a normal sized ass because big asses are in lol. Meanwhile, women straight up filter out all men under a certain height, because the trends of dating economics now dictate their value is too low. 99 percent of men like skinny women, fat asses, a mix of the two, something else entirely, short girls tall girls etc lol. When I look at a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:52 AM
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It is a fucking joke so you might as well. A joke that isn't very funny but a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 03:05 AM
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Well thought out and well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:09 AM
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FWIW, I have actually drafted several of these messages in the notes app. I do try to keep them short but they never end up being brief. But again, I find the act of sending one of these messages then blocking this person dramatic. And I am going to see them occasionally. It would be weird in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 08:10 PM
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Yeah it was sarcastic. I made the thread you are referencing btw lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 07:02 PM
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People silently end/ let friendships die on the vine all the time when no romantic advance was made/was ever going to be made. But a guy who does that after rejection is an incel/nice guy/ manipulator. FFS.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:58 PM
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I did not have this option because I met this person when we were both children under 10. And the road to reconciling and realizing the attraction decade+ later was complicated and confusing. Not saying you are wrong when two people meet as adults. You are right 100 percent. It just doesn't represent all the circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:55 PM
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Yeah. I feel so. I think some of the more insistent opposers to this rationale are subconsciously of that mindset because it benefits them for men to stay in the "friendship." Seems obvious. It's a resource.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:51 PM
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Yeah it's heartbreaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:27 PM
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No lol I didn't. Why are you giving me a homework assignment I don't even know who you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:27 PM
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In some cases we don't want to come off dramatic. We may not want that last message to come off as a last ditch effort to sway the person. Why is this last declaration that I am going to not contact you so essential? Like I said, "Ghosting" is probably the wrong term. If this person reached out to me I would probably reply, especially if it was important or something. But outside of that I am going to just leave them alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:22 PM
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There just may not be a good answer for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:19 PM
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You rejected these men in question?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:18 PM
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ITT: The disbelief and refusal to consider that men operate on emotions sometimes and aren't stoic romantic schemers just huntin' for poontang all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:15 PM
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Ghosting may be the wrong word solely due to the negative connotation attached. Gradually moving away may be better for the woman, but it is probably better for the man to just go no contact. Again, why is the man expected to sacrifice here instead of putting himself first? And in the long run, will the gradual fade away really be better for the woman? I again feel the expectation for the man to suck it up is rooted to a disbelief that men feel emotional pain. In my case I really wish I could st…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:10 PM
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Oh yeah very good point. "Ok I just wanted sex but I won't get it but Ill remain friends because it costs me nothing." No, it does cost us something, it is painful. And sex was not the sole objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:08 PM
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Why are you assuming all these scenarios fall into this category of "nice guys." What does that even mean? In my case I did not expect or feel entitled to anything because I was "nice." I did not know if my feelings were reciprocated. They turned out to not be and I accepted it. This person did not owe me anything. However, in the wake of the rejection the relationship is altered and I can't stick around as a buddy because it will not feel good. It's shocking that this is unrelatable for women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:06 PM
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I find that a lot of comments in here from women are not really taking our perspective into account. You are looking at this through your own lens. And the interpretation is always the same and with the same central misunderstanding, that being that men do not operate on emotion and are stoic and planning everything out. Become friends -> over time develop romantic feelings -> Get rejected -> drift away because it's painful otherwise and the friendship dynamic is altered anyway I am not lying th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:01 PM
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I never said they can't be friends but after the rejection it is most likely over.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:51 PM
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Yeah. Just unfortunately how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:06 AM
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More than you think though just want sex. You likely have more interactions with men like this because they are actively trying to work their schemes with multiple women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:49 AM
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Well, no I didn't lol. For more context in my case I met this person when we were children. You could retort and say I should have revealed my feelings immediately when I became aware of them and started feeling more than friend-like towards this person but I would reply that different emotions can compete. They can also be confusing. There's also the fear of the outcome of rejection competing with the fear of never taking the chance. Did I have subconscious plot of sexual coercion when I was 10…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:30 AM
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Yeah. I get your perspective and find it genuine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:24 AM
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Never. Yes. Although I would say just developed romantic feelings for. You can't be in love with someone you never were in a relationship with. How this proves I chose to is still unclear. Isn't it more plausible that because I spent more time with said person as a friend that lead me to feel more strongly for them? Vs a scooby doo villain plot from the start?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:19 AM
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I fear this is probably true with some women. How many who knows. "Oh he's just my friennnddddddd!" She knows he likes her. It is validating and she controls how far the relationship goes or doesn't go. Feeling powerful, desired, and in-control feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:14 AM
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I am not saying that's impossible, but to paint everyone of these scenarios as intentional by the guy is not accurate. I think this roots back to the misconception men don't operate on emotion (besides punching drywall), only rationale. Like anything they do is some calculated plot and long-term plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:13 AM
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I'm not mad about how this works or resentful towards them. It just is how it is in most cases and they should try not to be resentful too. It's a mutual loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:09 AM
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lol maybe im idealistic but I would say it's always "accidental" when someone falls for another. Deciding to do it....is hard to imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:07 AM
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He was your friend and now he isn't. Doesn't that happen sometimes in 100 percent platonic friendships for seemingly no reason? Here, there is a reason, even if it doesn't make sense to you initially.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:06 AM
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I don't even know what the argument you are making here is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:01 AM
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You couldn't handle your feelings without sacrificing our friendship Correct. We can't in many cases. So what you are asking is to endure discomfort on another's behalf. That is not the foundation of a good friendship. Just like a potential romantic relationship, it should be mutually enjoyable and beneficial. In this scenario it no longer is. Emotions aren't arithmetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:59 AM
9

Lol that is an absolutely mad interpretation of what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:56 AM
7

You're telling me you know I was in a friendship intentionally as a sham? lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:52 AM
6

Only one I can agree with is never reveal your emotions and I ain't happy to agree with it. But real talk....we all know or will come to find out that results it it being used against you. It's fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:51 AM
1

I see humanity in literally everyone. It is a personal vulnerability that has been exploited lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:10 AM
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