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Ok, I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:53 AM
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Heading back for more work on my tattoo this Saturday. Super excited.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:46 AM
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I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:21 PM
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Why improve my situation when I can just lay in bed and blame women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:13 PM
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100%. It’s that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:03 PM
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Amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:02 PM
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This takes a lot of ownership man. Bless up. Hope things shake back for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:59 PM
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When Sunday comes, I’ll be asking if all of you worked out this week. Go get it in. 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:56 PM
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I personally don't think it's a bad thing. Both people should focus on/prioritize looks, especially when choosing a mate you may spend long amounts of time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:10 AM
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All completely fair points.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:02 AM
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All completely fair points.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:02 AM
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I saw the thread about if any of our beliefs have changed/been affirmed since being here. I'd say I can acknowledge a few things. To balance this out, I'll weigh things evenly for both genders: Observations towards women: - A lot of average women do get looked over/ignored in favor of the hot ones. - If 'Alpha Widow' is a thing, then so is 'Stacy Widow'. I know several 20's/30's+ dudes who have success with one hot chick and now simply can't see themselves with anything lesser than. - When women…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 11:32 PM
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I’ve seen those situations before and what I notice is that there’s almost always an enabler involved. As in no one to shake them up and hold them accountable to their personal health. Along with taking out all of their feelings/issues through food. I think a mixture of excessive comfort/ pain avoidance brings overweight human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 09:51 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cy8vBOcBYe4/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:19 PM
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What’s with the spike in threads about inexperience?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:28 PM
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Routine reminder that no one is forcing you to be in a relationship with a woman who isn’t hot for you. Also, you’re worth a damn, so be kind to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:02 PM
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Lol ever had tried the Optimum Nutrition brand? Delicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:59 PM
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I normally would do the shakes because they’re faster, but I’d feel weaker. Food is definitely making a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:39 PM
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When I'm chased I immediately fall down. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:36 AM
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Looking forward to tomorrow's workout and building up the 🍑 Also, food is >>> protein shakes (at least for me). My muscles are soaking up the nutrients like a sponge.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:29 AM
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Q4All: If you could have a second boyfriend/girlfriend//husband etc. would you do it? Yes or No? Let's say both of them would be 100% fine with the setup, exactly what you like, no jealousy problems, don't care how you sort your time between them, etc. (Note: This quesiton is for fun only. Please answer the question directly, and don't take seriously.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:20 PM
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A friend of mine joined Facebook dating, and she posted pictures of the kinds of messages she’s receiving. Yeah, it really is that bad out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 08:38 PM
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Let’s go!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:12 PM
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Why would a normal woman put herself through that? Why wouldn’t she just marry someone she’s actually into?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:40 PM
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I’m gonna go with a crazy guess here and say no lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:39 PM
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How I imagine a betabuxx marriage: Wife: “Alright, me and my boyfriend Chad McChadderson are off to the baseball game. Might get my back blown out later. Who knows.” Husband: “Have fun! I left $500 on the counter to cover tickets and dinner for the both of you. I’ll have a warm bath ready when you’re back home 😍” In other words, I just don’t think this a problem in 99.99% of relationships lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:49 PM
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Everytime I hear the word "simp" I'm reminded of this video
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 08:47 PM
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NYE party was a hit. Wishing all of you blessings many times over for 2024.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:22 AM
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Wishing you the same many times over.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:18 AM
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Thank you. It really means a lot. I wish the same for you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:18 AM
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Learned how to play Mafia last night. Another cool game added to my list for future gatherings. Here's to continuing to increase my value in 2024. 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:58 AM
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One example was a halloween party lol. Numbers can be lower if it isn't some big day that people celebrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:51 AM
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I totally get that. That's why I'd recommend using a place like Meetup.com. It already has the foot traffic and people looking for things going on in your area. It helps you speed up this process very fast. Otherwise, you'll definitely have to get more involved in other groups/communities in your area and do a lot more connecting that way. I recommend using the first option to give yourself better/quicker traction. Also, it doesn't have to be 30. Even the first 2, 5, 10 is a huge win. You'd be s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 01:49 AM
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This would be a lot to type out but I can give you the gist of it. Decide on the type of community you want to build Go where the traffic is. This brings the volume to you, instead of you desperately trying to find people. I think Meetup is vastly underrated for this. Gets tons of inbound traffic and sorts people by interest. Give your group structure. Think about the purpose your group will serve and add that to your group description. Your community will thank you for this. Create a Townhall f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:52 AM
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It’s gotten me a few dates I’d say, and a lot of people come up to talk to me. It can be a lot of fun. I also make it a priority to be a great host. I check in on people, make sure they’re having a good time and try to make everyone feel welcome. The exchange is that it can be hard to build deep connections with people because I’m running everywhere. It can be tiresome at times. With that said, I love hosting, and gathering people to have a great time. My goal is to get to a point where I can th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:31 AM
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Hell no lol. I’m visually underwhelming, just assembled a few resources together over the past year. It’s finally starting to bear fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:14 AM
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Hosting a NYE gathering tonight. Venue is dropping black/gold balloons at midnight. Should be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:08 AM
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Gym imo. Because of the following: It forces you to get out of the house You have access to the weights needed to continually progress You may meet a few regulars who you can chat with
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:16 PM
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Yup! You’re moving your body. Great job.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:15 PM
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All good. Find 20 minutes this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:58 PM
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All good. Find 20 minutes this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:57 PM
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Never too late to shake back 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:57 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:46 PM
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<image> I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:51 PM
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Hell yeah. Shoulders/upper chest will be a big focus of mine next year.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:50 PM
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And Swum. Lol. Good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:50 PM
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You still moved your body. It counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:49 PM
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We’ll count it 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:49 PM
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I’m a fan of more input-oriented goals because they give you increased odds of getting the outcome you want. I’m also a fan of starting small. Like for example, if losing virginity is one, what if instead we focused on dates being the goal? Then from there, think about the inputs required to get a date. For example, if you use apps, then there are a few things it could be, such as: learning how to take nice pics finding your style/archetype having a few casual convos a week & learning how to ext…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:44 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:32 PM
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Seems like odd questions to get butthurt over.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:56 AM
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Everyone should read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 07:27 PM
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Stronger physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, or all of them? I have an admiration for the arts. If you can’t find a community of writers/artists would you be willing to create your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 10:05 PM
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I’m thinking of creating a cold email lead generation business. Mainly due to my experience in marketing/copywriting. Cookies sound like a good idea. What’s your favorite kind to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 10:03 PM
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Which do you have more of? Ins or outs?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:44 PM
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Anyone else doing any journaling/self-reflection this time of year? Spent some time making a few observations looking back at 2023: - I'm facially well below average, but I think I have the potential to become a 'gather a crew together & everyone has a great time' kind of guy. - I want to give baking a go. It would be sweet to build up a rolodex of delicious grub I can make. - I've been thinking of starting a biz for a long time, and I haven't done it. The fact I still think about it this long m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 09:39 PM
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Don’t let it make you too self conscious. I believe it’s actually a great sign of good health overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:50 PM
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He come the “see you next year” jokes. They need to die in a fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:31 PM
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My business idea for 2024: I’m going to open an AFBB helpline.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:48 PM
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I think more people would enjoy working if they did what they wanted to. The problem is for many that likely means leaving serious comfort zones.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:43 PM
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Q4W: This ever happened to you? https://preview.redd.it/i95y4nra599c1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=14c3aab0372d6a091f802e9e34fdf05bfe70bc32
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:27 PM
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Normal answer: Being able to understand how someone feels and relate to them. PPD answer: Sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:26 PM
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For the single fellas: Don’t forget to workout your sexually dimorphic muscles this week (lats & shoulders). You deserve a mean V taper. Also, be kind to yourself today. The world is hard enough. Don’t make it harder by beating yourself up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:22 PM
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Interesting. Maids seem like such a cheat code in this scenario. If I get a bigger place, I'm definitely hiring one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 11:13 PM
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Is it really this common for adult men to not clean after themselves and let their partner do the work? I'm surprised more people just don't pitch in and hire a maid to help clean - especially since most people don't like doing chores at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:28 PM
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Loneliness isn't exclusive to either gender. Beyond the projecting, you'll discover that a lot of people are alone for a lot of reasons despite what the latest published article says.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:06 PM
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Have we figured out what puts someone in the top 20% vs top 10% vs top 5%?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:14 PM
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Hey my friend, I'm in my 30's. At your age is where I began to go through the worst of it. If I had the ability to figure out a way to change things sooner, I definitely would have. So my insight to you would be this: Get yourself in the gym 3-5 times a week, a face/beard/skincare routine. Start watching your calories. Take a multivitamin, etc. Make this mandatory. You NEED to take care of yourself so that you can start reinforcing the idea that you matter. No one else will take care of you like…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:59 AM
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We’re only responsible for our decisions when it’s convenient for us. (Also just a reminder this is sarcasm in case it gets lost)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:53 PM
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We only have agency when it’s convenient for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:25 PM
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No. He doesn’t really have a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:25 PM
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Ladies, please stop forcing men to be in relationships they definitely didn’t ask for. He may look happy, but if you look reallllly close, he actually isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 04:17 PM
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I think your upbringing has more to do with this. The cold reality is that a lot of men will have a below average upbringing for one reason or another. A ton of scenarios can contribute to winding up in a place where they don't do well with women in their 20's. For example, I'm a late bloomer myself. I grew up in a household marked by a lot of abuse, isolation & depression. No dad at home as he turned me away. A lot of stuff that had nothing to do with me, but did it affect my self-esteem? Absol…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 11:48 PM
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You didn't provide a rational reason why you think the # of women interested in you would be incredibly low. So I figured that thought process was coming from an emotional place. Either way, I do believe happiness is invaluable. If you are happy now, that's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:48 PM
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He looks like someone threw him into the dryer for 20 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:42 PM
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Hopefully, it's nothing too bad. Don't overdo it and stay hydrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:40 PM
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Why is 25 the cutoff point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:39 PM
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The ladies are brutal today😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:36 PM
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This is sad but I know insecurities aren’t exactly rational. I believe dating is difficult for a lot of reasons. Please don’t give anyone your time/effort if they aren’t returning it. You deserve happiness too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:35 PM
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Ouch. May be time for a new doctor. Sounds like this one doesn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:20 PM
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Can someone help me understand... What's the point of dating a woman who displays little to no sexual interest in you? You know she can't force you to stay, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:17 PM
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Is it pretty chill?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:26 AM
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I am taking this time of year to reflect on my goals, the things I've done, the challenges I've faced, and how much I've grown. There's been some good, some bad and everything in between. This year has been a lot about healing, & understanding myself. While that will be lifelong journey, I think I made serious strides here. Also special shoutout to u/NJFlowerChild for linking me to a resource that's helped me come to terms with my past in a healthy way. 2024 will be a year focused on more self-d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 01:42 AM
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https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2023/12/24/loneliness-epidemic-u-s-surgeon-general-solution/71971896007/ Spot on. Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:38 PM
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Enjoy brother. Those days are special. Only had 2-3 in my lifetime so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:11 AM
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lol it's all in jest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 12:29 AM
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Is that a yes or a no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 11:04 PM
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Is that a yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 11:03 PM
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Scenario 4 women : You made lunch for your man one day. He takes it with him and heads off to work. When he comes home, he tells you someone beat him up and took his lunch. Question: Do you still view him the same after this? Yes or no? (Note: Please answer the question directly. Not what your man would/would not actually do in this scenario.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 10:56 PM
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Will the self improvement thread ever return?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:22 PM
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Scenario for men: You’re swiping on a dating app, and you come across a woman who only has pictures from the neck/shoulders up. Question: Do you assume she’s fat/very overweight? Yes or No?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:13 PM
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For this scenario: Yes or No?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:51 PM
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For this scenario: Yes or No?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:51 PM
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For this scenario: Yes or No?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:51 PM
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This is an extremely important point. Your environment can play a dramatic role in dating success. Everything from apps to meet up in bars. You can do everything right and still struggle a bit simply because there’s there’s way more men than women in your area. If I was a single woman looking to settle down, I’d head west where there’s a shortage of women in average and men are more likely to mate guard/commit. For single men who want to maximize their odds, I’d head east where most big cities h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 06:14 PM
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Scenario for women: It’s late at night, and you’re sleep with your man. All of a sudden you hear a window break in the kitchen, and it wakes both of you up. Then your man grabs his pillow, leans over and asks you to check and see what that noise was. Question: Would you still view him the same after this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 05:43 PM
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I sometimes think people naturally attracted to those they view above their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 04:24 PM
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These are my people. Don't be surprised if it actually happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 08:42 PM
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Ok, I'll give this a read today and see if it does. Thank you for supporting a random internet stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:28 PM
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Thank you. It’s something I’ve been working through for a while. I’ll definitely continue to.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:19 PM
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Looking back at it all, I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:58 AM
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Yeah, I can see that making sense actually. Maybe it’s just that feeling that you “always have a way out” even though you don’t plan on using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:46 AM
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Yeah. Sounds like intrusive thoughts. I honestly doubt they ever go away 100%. However, there’s a lot of research supporting that playing Tetris helps you process those thoughts in a healthy way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 05:11 AM
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Yes, but not nearly like I did in 2017 when it was at its peak. I figured if I still made it to this point despite those hard years, it’s proof I’m built to endure. So now I do what I can to make the most out of what I got. My hope is to be an inspiration to other men going through what I did, and to also be a sounding board to let people know that not every child gets the same start. Some have it hard for reasons that had nothing to do with them. They were just born into it. And when it’s all y…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:43 AM
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I’ll repost: It’s basically all I knew. Constant stream of regrets, dealing with neglect from my mom, dad turning me away at 17, almost winding up in foster home twice, being envious of family/friends who had stable lives, etc. Death sounded like pure relief so many times. Its been a long, long road but it’s getting better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:28 AM
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Agreed. Been doing a lot of serious work around living in the present. It gets a little bit easier day by day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:10 AM
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That’s exactly it man. It’s basically all I knew. Constant stream of regrets, dealing with neglect from my mom, dad turning me away at 17, almost winding up in foster home twice, being envious of family/friends who had stable lives, etc. Death sounded like pure relief so many times. Its been a long, long road but it’s getting better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:08 AM
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After a lot therapy, it turns out my depression followed me since I was 10 years old. One of the toughest parts about growing up with a below average childhood is coming to terms with the past. It gets a little bit easier year by year.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:45 AM
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Have any resources on where to look?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 11:12 PM
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I won’t lie - They do make me curious, but I’m not versed in administration & the safety side of things (long term effects, getting a quality product, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:27 AM
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Workouts are going well. Chest is getting bigger. Hitting shoulders hard. Been hitting the hip thrusts so now I’m starting to build a lil cake back there. Good momentum so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:51 AM
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Q4W: On a scale of 1-10, how true is this? https://preview.redd.it/3mpt3or1fb7c1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dea8aa58ea0a072cd5cdfe4c086624b78e12e44a
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:58 PM
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Hmmm it's holiday season. I imagine the lack of traction is probably a mixture of people traveling, spending more itme with fam/friends, single awareness season, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:15 AM
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"I'm driving today"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:10 AM
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Good work on the physique, man. Is TRT all you take?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 03:04 AM
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Using “Chad” as the reason for a lack of results is nothing more than a proxy for laziness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:00 AM
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Hypertrophy workouts are no joke. It’s like my muscles just soak up everything I eat. Not used to this feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 12:19 AM
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Everyday won’t be a good day and that’s ok. You being alive is proof you’re built to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 06:59 AM
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Haha yep I got mine in. On a bulking routine and it’s going better than I planned for.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:15 AM
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Q 4 Single Men: Do you genuinely feel you don’t have any options when it comes to women? If so, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:00 PM
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This sounds like someone I would not spend a lot of time around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:01 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:16 PM
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If you don’t, then what’s the alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 11:44 AM
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For the single men: If you didn’t have luck with the opposite sex growing up, there’s no point arguing with other people as to why. People don’t really connect with situations that exist outside of their paradigm. The unfortunate fact of life is that every child isn’t socialized the same way, in the same environment, and under the same circumstances. If you had a below average upbringing, it’s not your fault. All you can do is make peace with the past, and do the best you can today.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 06:02 AM
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I think there’s an equal amount of both
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 12:18 AM
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For the single gents: If she’s taking forever to reply, or you always have to initiate the convo, you should probably let her go. You deserve to be around women who are interested in you as well. Remember: If she wanted to, she would. Be blessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 10:14 PM
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For the single gents: May you have all the great sex you can handle, workout 3-5x/week, dress as well as you can, take care of your mental health, drink some water, don't let anyone add unnecssary stress to your life, remember women get loney & horny too, read a good book, take that trip, and most importantly - be kind to yourself. You matter. Be blessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:15 AM
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This is why I dislike these rage bait threads/subs like AITA. They're always based on implications & assumptions. You never get the whole story, you never get exactly what was said in the interaction, yet people still proceed to paint a caricature of the parties involved and fill in the gaps based on their past individual experiences. Why? Because they just can't help it, and they eat it up like candy. It's so instinctual it's scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:03 PM
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A little humor for the day ​
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:13 AM
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​ https://preview.redd.it/ba3riabobz5c1.png?width=1348&format=png&auto=webp&s=93c334e5cd20a3fdc57119c6ca8ad306e9e58830
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 03:13 AM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 04:46 AM
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Had a girl sent me nudes today. I idn't reply for 2 hours because I got busy. Turns out she blocked me because I didn't reply fast enough. It caught me off guard but made me chuckle. Q4W: If you sent a guy nudes and you didn't get a response from him for a few hours, would your first thought be he didn't find you attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 04:21 AM
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Q4All (Single people only): At this point in your life, which do you want more - Casual sex or a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:56 PM
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This made me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:45 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:44 PM
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Random observation: I find white nail polish to be quite sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:30 PM
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I'm apart of a self improvement forum for men. After a 2 solid years of work, one of the guys went from dateless, to a now basically constant stream of casual sex. The advice he followed? The same advice that the women & successful men have been giving here all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 02:06 PM
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How is 80/20 supposed to work if 59% of single gen z men & 48% of single millenial men have never approached a woman in the past year?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 11:19 PM
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Grey is a very specific color
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:29 PM
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Q4All: You know what it's time for... Did you work out this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:43 PM
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I can see the thread now: "Went to stick my tounge in my girls ass. It was NOT a beautiful bright pink like I saw in the Super Slut 3000 movie with 4k resolution & 3d surround sound. What do I do?"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:20 PM
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Yeah. It's a realism sleeve, so it will need a lot of details. Didn't hurt too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 08:16 PM
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Everything worth having in life requires paying the equivalent price.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:23 AM
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Session 1 out of 6 done with the sleeve. Super happy with how things are turning out so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:19 AM
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Skulls, roses, a snake, and other cool themes. Looking forward to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:56 AM
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Yep. All realism. Artist already drew up a sketch which came out really well. Excited.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:05 AM
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Starting on my sleeve tomorrow. Can't wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:29 AM
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Yes and yes. Least_Ride explained it best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 09:30 PM
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Q4M: “If she was really interested, she’d make it clear instead of giving hints.” True or False?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 09:28 PM
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Q4All: What dark thoughts have gone through your mind recently? No judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:51 PM
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Self improvement does work for men. The real problem is accepting that it will take over 90+ days to see noticeable improvements (body, style, hobbies, etc). Since results aren’t immediate, it just gets dismissed as not worth it. Just because you don’t have a cute face doesn’t mean you’re below average in everything else. You may actually be a great story teller, musician, etc. All of those things can be attractive to women in their own way. Pride keeps most men from improving their results. Not…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 03:20 AM
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I’m considering that exact color
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 02:31 AM
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Q4W: Thoughts on these boots?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:31 PM
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Im 5’ 11”. Im content with my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:56 PM
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Around 22%. Def not where I need to be. Still working on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:53 PM
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What would that be?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:44 PM
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So after examining a few resources, and reflecting on life experiences. I’ve concluded that my facial features are very likely below average. Given my mom’s been the one who mostly told me I’m handsome, the fact I’ve never been approached in any environment, and the volume of rejections up to this point, it’s safe to say there’s not a lot of broad appeal here. With that said, I don’t want to waddle in negativity. I’ll just accept it and focus on making the most I can out of everything else. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 06:15 PM
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Observation: I see a common frustration here is that women aren’t being completely honest. However, I can’t blame them. They’ve probably seen the reaction from a few people here and concluded “keeping it real” will only cause them to spiral.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 05:54 PM
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Ah yeah. That’s where it gets trickier depending on the niche. What kind of group were you trying to start?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:58 PM
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They can work if they’re run well. I run one in Seattle. It’s a bit of work behind the scenes, but things get really cool when you start running into regulars.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 06:57 PM
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Q4All Part 2: How do you determine if your face is average or below average?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:23 PM
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Q4All: If you’re in shape and not fat, does that make you above average?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:47 PM
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Welp, no good morning for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:35 PM
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If women really had a line of dudes waiting to date them, why would so many be on dating apps at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 04:26 AM
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Q4All: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 06:39 PM
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Talked to a couple friends of mine last night. They were both complaining that men would talk to them for weeks without asking them out. Just goes to show the dating app game isn’t all golden on the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 03:15 AM
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Q4W: Men are more passive/risk averse these days. True or False?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 04:34 PM
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Read bell hooks
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 09:05 PM
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Yeah. Just asking out of curiosity. I was on a department meeting today and one of my coworkers told another guy that his lady friends found him hot. Never happened to me before, so it made me think of that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:08 PM
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Oof - Welp, I think I know where I fall lol. Thanks for the insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:02 PM
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How do you know if you have an average vs below average face? I’ll take it the fact I have to ask isn’t a good sign lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 09:44 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:54 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:30 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:17 AM
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The numbers are in: Had close to 300 people show up to my Halloween Event. Other people also offered to help me keep growing the group. I’m eternally grateful. Never imagined I’d be here 9 months ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 05:10 AM
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Thanks for this
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 10:08 AM
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Just one of those nights where I'm processing old regrets. I dwell on them far less than I used to. Sometimes I wonder where I'd be if life took even a 1% different turn when I was 13.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:07 AM
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Don't let it eat you up. As much as I believe in looking on the bright side, I also don't think you have to be happy all the time. Just allow yourself to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 03:12 AM
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Yes. You should be open about everything. That way you & your therapist can get to the root cause together and build from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 11:20 PM
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We'd save a lot of time if we just admitted this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:17 PM
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Interesting. Didn't consider this one lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:12 PM
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Is the Passport Sis movement a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:06 PM
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Q4W: “ If he wanted to, he would.” Agree/Disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:22 PM
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Being angry at the women you wanna have sex with must be a special kind of hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:10 PM
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Yes it does
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:09 AM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:49 PM
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Has the passport sis movement begun?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 09:57 PM
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Doesn't complaining about a problem, yet doing nothing about it eventually get old?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 12:24 AM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 09:58 PM
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- Two dates scheduled for the next week. One of them texted me out of the blue to gauge my interest. Never had that happen before. - Hit a new low on the scale. Getting rid of the facial fat really does make a difference. - Outline of my abs is slowly starting to show. - Sticking to my diet & fitness routine. - Halloween Party I put together should have a nice turnout tomorrow. I'm excited. I'm going as a pirate. Intention, assertiveness & courage really does change things for a man. One day of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:34 AM
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Lost 85 lbs so far. I look like a completely different man. I'm nowhere near where I need to be but losing the face fat really makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:28 AM
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There are no guarantees. Even still, men manage to find women in all kinds of scenarios. Success leaves clues. So does failures. Trying to place every single woman in a set box is unproductive, and it simply doesn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:19 PM
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It’s all good man lol. Appreciate the support either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:44 PM
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Just wanna thank everyone who commented on my post for the support. I’ve definitely come a long way. Therapy and constant investment in mindset has done wonders for me. It was just one of those days where I realized how far I’ve come and it really hit me. Let’s keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 01:30 PM
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Just a late night musing: I do feel for some of the guys here who feel they had no shot at this dating/life stuff from the beginning simply because of their upbringing. As someone who grew up on the other side of the tracks myself, I know what that feels like. I became the man of the house at 2 years old. Mom grew up depressed. House was always a mess. Left me with rotting teeth for weeks on end. Basically became a second parent for my siblings. Almost got taken away to foster care several times…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 04:44 AM
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What’s the woman version of beta buxx?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:47 AM
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When the teacher asks "What state has the initials AK?" Don't say "47"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 12:21 AM
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Why would I read what the actual study says when I can blame women instead? Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:59 PM
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The wrong men, yes. The right men, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:02 PM
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What point are you trying to prove when you misquote a study for the 100th time?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 08:01 PM
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Weekend was eventful: - Got a consult for my tattoo sleeve. Art work begins on Nov 28th. - Date went well. She's from LA and up here for school. Went for the pull. Things heated up until she started crying because she missed home. Her best friend is there and she hasn't seen her in forever. So we just chilled and shared stories. - Soial event went well. Had close to 100 people come out. We got to jam out to some live music and have a hell of a time. The vibes were so good that night. I got to ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:31 AM
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The anal prolapse in 4K is crazy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:34 PM
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Pretty sure the mods know what’s going on and they’re trolling us at this point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:20 PM
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What type of long sleeve do you prefer on a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:23 PM
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Out of curiosity, what do you like?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:20 PM
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Hm. This seems like more of a street style to me. I’d like something a bit more form-fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:20 PM
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Thanks. In the process of overhauling my wardrobe. I may give this cut a go.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:17 PM
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Hm, what style of long sleeve do you think looks good on a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:07 PM
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What type would you say is a bit more modern?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:02 PM
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Q4W: Thoughts on these kind of shirts?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:49 PM
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😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 10:24 PM
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Since we're on the topic of dates, I try to have mine towards the evening either near/on a weekend as much as possible. I don't really do coffee at all if I can help it. I just like to grab a drink & see where things go. I love creating as much sexual tension as I possibly can. It gives both of us time to look & smell good. Harder to do that when you have a list of appointments you gotta get to. There's something sexy/alluring about nights/evenings that mornings/afternoons can't beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:24 PM
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Nice. You may have to up your calories a bit for the new muscle you’ll build.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 05:16 PM
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Let’s go. What kind of job?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 04:01 PM
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Q4All: You know what it’s time for… Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:22 PM
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I stepped on the scale and holy cow - I'm back to my college weight. Except with a lot more muscle now. I'm almost lost for words. All the diet and workouts are slowly paying off, day by day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:01 PM
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I stepped on the scale and holy cow - I'm back to my college weight. Except with a lot more muscle now. I'm almost lost for words. All the diet and workouts are slowly paying off, day by day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:01 PM
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Thanks! The one I'm more interested in is actually the one I suspect is more likely to fall through lol. She has a great smile, however I caught some radio silence from her end yesterday. I'll reach back out tomorrow to see if we're still on for Sat. If not, no worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:57 PM
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2 dates scheduled for this weekend. Let see what pans out Got a new host for our social group. He set up his first event. Solid. Hosting a crew to support one of our guys as a music show tomorrow Finally outlining my business idea with a friend. It’s coming to life. Continuing to read my mindset book Invested in a professionally- built meal plan One day at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 01:23 PM
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Have you been sent to jail for approaching?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 10:55 PM
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Given that almost half of Gen Z and Millennial men haven't approached a woman in the past year, who is pointed towards, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:17 PM
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I've heard you don't actually have to do all of that, as the algorithm will adjust your rating accordingly to feedback from your new pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 10:48 PM
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My mood today.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:56 PM
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That's just what preying on insecurities does to people. When you say "Women would rather share a chad than get monogamy from an average man" then manufacture an example of that, men pile on simply because it aligns with their fears that being average isn't being enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:04 PM
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Got to talk to a few of my friends yesterday: One mentioned how she'd kill to find a loyal man. One just got married and is frustrated because she feels like she's raising two kids (her husband & his brother) One is losing her job this month. Just a reminder that women have problems, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:49 PM
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Regret is a tricky thing. It’s easy to hate yourself I’ve things that didn’t go your way in life. Maybe you didn’t have the sex/love life you wanted up to this point, or get the job you want yet, etc. That can make it easy to blame yourself and wonder what things would be like if you made different decisions. However, let’s say on a different lifeline, you did make those decisions. Maybe you would’ve had a better love/sex life in your early years. Except as we know, no life is 100% good all the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:39 PM
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Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 12:14 AM
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Officially dropped another belt loop. Can't deny it anymore - my body is changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 11:47 PM
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That’s a huge win. Definitely give yourself some credit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:44 PM
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Good momentum this week: - Bought new meal replacement guides. - Stuck to my diet all the way through this week. - Re-calculated TDEE to measure new calorie intake levels. This one was huge. The activity factors are way too generous. - Created new tracking sheet to monitor weekly average body fat/weight numbers. - Bought a body fat measurer - Got in touch with a good friend to hang out this weekend, and another tomorrow morning. - Planning a day to go scout new venues for social events. - Our li…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:15 PM
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What? I’m not a showstopper at all. I barely get a match on dating apps, and my pictures consistently rate below average (I posted my stats here before). Very much a late bloomer. Have a lot of things I need to fix and change. It’s hard work but it’s working. I’m just here to have fun, and be a somewhat voice of reason in threads so I can hopefully help someone along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:54 PM
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You gotta fight to tell yourself a different story. As in changing things through action. For example, you may be facially unattractive (my mom was the only one who would usually call me cute growing up) but you can still lean out your face to shoe off your best features. Social anxiety can only be solved through immersion. What if you started out by just saying hi to one person a day? This isn’t incel-ish so don’t apologize. It only is when you blame women instead of looking inward. The actual …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:50 PM
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It’s been fairly sporadic. A few here and there, but nothing much in terms of consistency. I’d still consider my overall product/presentation well below average for now, so I don’t draw a lot of interest. For now, i’m just glad for the opportunities that do come my way. There are still quite a lot of things I need to work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:42 PM
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Don’t mind me, I’m waiting at the finish line for Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:25 PM
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Reality Transurfing is the greatest mindset book of all time
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:52 AM
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You should up that. Too big of a cut will throw your emotions/hormones/etc out of whack. How big of a reduction are you doing based off your TDEE?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:20 PM
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I went outside to the gym today and saw three things I simply couldn’t believe: A 6’ 5, tatted, jacked, social man in the gym today. However, there was a problem. He was actually married?! Why would he do that when he has millions of women to choose from?? I saw a baddie with an average guy. Does the guy not know he’s probably being beta buxxed? Several average couples just existing together. None of this can be right. Who do I report this information to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:05 PM
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That involves personal responsibility. Not happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:09 PM
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I view it the exact opposite of “man up”. It’s coming to terms with your feelings towards the things that didn’t go your way. Not bottling them up and becoming resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:53 AM
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Reddit just asked me if this community contains content “intended to arouse”… uhh… in what context?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:17 AM
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Even if it’s true, and even if there are certain men who attract a broader variety of women than others, different women find different men attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 03:09 AM
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They're referring to this one: https://datepsychology.com/risk-aversion-and-dating/ Though I'm not sure how we're defining 'struggling' in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:59 AM
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I hope this helps someone. I think a little renewed courage can go a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:52 AM
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I truly think if men were more willing to let go of the past, they would give themselves room to become truly special. The time that group of women laughed at you, let it go. Those times you got rejected by every woman you asked out, let it go. The times you got teased/mocked by dudes who did much bette with women, let it go. Sadly, many of your harshest experience like these come in your formative years as you're understanding your identity. As a result, if you don't have the experience of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:46 AM
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Same article that those numbers were taken from. Not sure why the focus is just on 18-25
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:16 PM
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It’s not just 18-24 btw. Millennials are struggling just as bad. Almost half of men overall simply aren’t engaging with enough women to make something happen. There’s been a tidal shift towards an increase in risk aversion. To your point in the second half, I do agree with actually. However, I do think there needs to be more of an overall push for male circles where these issues can be shared, instead of bottling it up until it becomes hatred towards people who did you no wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:29 PM
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I think it’s a combination of things: People are just becoming more health conscious in general Having less fat on your face can really transform your overall presentation and increase self confidence / dating prospects Rising food costs (along with everything else) are likely playing a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 03:53 AM
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haha yes, I must do my part to make sure you all become amazing chads/stacies. Remember to hydrate during your session.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:45 PM
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My barber said “Dude, you’ve gotten skinnier. Look at that jawline”. The process is working.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:15 PM
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My barber said “Dude, you’ve gotten skinnier. Look at that jawline”. The process is working.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:09 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 08:57 PM
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I make rules for Becky and break them for Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 05:54 PM
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I agree. It’ll be hard to rate that in a category here though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:30 AM
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You actually strike me as one of the most rational here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:19 AM
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Just had an idea: There should be a PPD awards at the end of the year. People should be nominated for a variety of categories, then the community votes for the winner. Some category ideas: Mr. Misogyni Ms. Misandry Most popular Least popular Most unhinged Most controversial Best debater Chad 2023 Stacy 2023 Chadlite 2023 Stacylite 2023
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:50 AM
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Alright, it's official: Everyone's N-count has gone up by 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:07 PM
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Definitely. Everyone has their own things. I just believe one thing that can be tough for men to manage is the anxiety around performance. For example, struggling to get hard during sex. That’s a uniquely male thing. Despite it being a natural occurrence, it can leave psychological impacts if it’s not managed properly. To the point it intimidates you enough to stop trying. That can lead to a spiral. These are the kind of topics I wish were discussed here. It would definitely add a fresh dimensio…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:03 PM
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One of the hardest, yet most important, things to do as a man is to learn how to manage the pressure to perform. Women get nervous before dates, sex, etc. too. It's not all on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 07:43 PM
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Q4W Part 3: Have any of you ever laughed, giggled, or joked with your friends about a man that approached you in a respectful, socially calibrated way?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:20 AM
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Q4W Part 2: Have you at least ever made a TikTok about a man who approached you in a respectful, socially calibrated way?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:13 AM
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You can guess whatever you like my friend, it’s your accusation. Not my job to convince you otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:24 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:23 PM
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Given it’s not a CMV, I can participate as needed. Why do I need headpats from people I never met before?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:18 PM
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I’m right here. You guys can address me directly. Also, I wasn’t born with a woman’s titty in my mouth. I have to work hard because I’m not a pretty boy. I’m just tired of men giving their power away and feeling helpless. That doesn’t help at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:00 PM
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No one says men are at fault. However, they are responsible for the results they get in anything, just like everyone else. If you never try, results are guaranteed to be 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:56 PM
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Yep. Risk aversion is the problem. Not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:38 PM
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Q4W: How many times have you reported a respectful, socially calibrated approach from a man you weren’t attracted to? Edit: It seems like most are saying they’ve never reported any respectful approaches. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:29 PM
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My thread on approaching is going as well as you can probably expect. Turns out most aren’t even trying at all (which is fine) but then to turn around and blame women is very weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:28 PM
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The only thing you “love” is Chad. Reporting this comment for blatant misandry 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:26 PM
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So in other words, outside of the workplace, the majority of approaches happen without incident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:03 AM
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Did you keep reading the article to find out where most of the reports happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:48 PM
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The findings actually suggest that risk aversion is the problem. As in men aren’t willing to risk rejection. That actually seems to be the problem more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:48 AM
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Most complaints come from work environments. Aside from that, the complains drop dramatically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:30 AM
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Yes, but it’s also a huge driver to keep me pushing forward. The hardest part to accept is the time lost. However, the exchange is that you become really driven to make the most out of your time. Ultimately, I think over a long enough time, the rewards will far exceed any lingering regrets. For example, I’m leaner now than I ever was in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:35 PM
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About half of single men haven’t approached a woman in the past year. How are men supposed to have more sex if they don’t interact with women? The math isn’t mathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:01 PM
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I’m actually eating less than ever and it feels like my energy is increasing. I’m curious if this holds up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:58 PM
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Bars
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:52 PM
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Who has an unhinged take for us today?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:52 PM
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I bumped Death Of A Bachelor for a quite a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:51 PM
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Bruh I love Sabaton. 🤘🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:41 PM
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Yo 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:19 AM
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What’s one of your go-to workout soundtracks? Mine is this: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=yO-ZyGzqoRY&si=z3CVLkxmiyVzu_aX
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:49 AM
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I agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:05 AM
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5’ 7. Call me Mr Schmeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:03 AM
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Men should compete for women. Women should not reward underperforming men, as that hurts the future of our species. Change my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:33 PM
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Grabbing drinks with a cute "post-wall" veterinarian tomorrow. Don't worry, I'll be sure to put her in her place for daring to exist past 25. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:26 PM
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Thanks. At the end of the day, you can only control your actions. So I just choose to focus on what I can contrl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:26 AM
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This isn't a preference I hear often. I'm the eldest, and I recently went out with a woman who was well older than me but the youngest in her family. Definitely a different energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:20 AM
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oof - yeah I almost never go that long. Just a quick 10-15 minute burn at the end of my workouts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:12 AM
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3x/week. My primary focus is on calorie control, as it turns out those activity calculators overshoot way too much. It stalled my weight for a few months. Now I'm starting to burn again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:58 PM
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-Social event has 200 RSVP's so far -Had a couple of dates fall through, but that's ok. Pitching one with another. -Got VIP cards ordered -Connecting with a venue about hosting a live music event -New gym cut is going well. HIIT also done.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:09 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:34 PM
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Put me in the commercial
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:01 PM
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I respect the difference of opinion with the n count stuff, however, I have nothin’ but love for every woman I’ve shared my bed with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:58 PM
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Haha yeah it’s definitely a pain. You can 100% do it though. I believe in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:05 AM
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Definitely counts as a workout. Give yourself credit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:04 AM
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1-2-3
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:03 AM
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https://legionathletics.com/weight-loss-calculator/ Thank you. Give this calculator a shot. Just be conservative on the activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:42 PM
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1747/day (28% reduction). I used this calculator: https://legionathletics.com/weight-loss-calculator/ Note: It's safest to underestimate your activity level. I used to use "4 to 6 hrs/week" but it's more like "1 to 3 hrs/week" when I factor in my rest I take during workouts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:29 PM
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After getting feedback on my calorie intake, it turns out the TDEE calculator I've been using was way too generous. Primarily, I overshot the activity factor. Got feedback from a fitness trainer, and it helped me tweak my numbers by about ~375 calories/day. With new projections, I'll be at 14% bodyfat by 3/14/24. Won't be a perfect road, but we'll get there one day at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:24 PM
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Absolutely. Focusing on the negative was great for survival 50,000 years ago, but it stops us from growing in many valuable areas of our lives today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:56 PM
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Being the oldest is no joke. I'm the eldest of 3. All I can say is don't quit on your brother, and keep being there for him. Cheer him on when he gets stuff right. Encourage him when he messes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:52 PM
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Q4All: You know what's time for... Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:50 PM
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No worries, I won't look too deep here. She said she'd be out till Sunday on a trip. If there's no comms between EOD/tomorrow then I'm moving the boat along.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:48 PM
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I think because like most things in life, there's a luck factor involved. However, that luck is less of a variable if you put in the effort to find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:45 PM
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Option 2. I'm honored that she'd love me, but I have a solid sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:44 PM
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New week: -Health: Adjusted calories in diet to account for TDEE variance. First step: Remove pb from shake and keep rest of calories the same. -Women: -Date scheduled for today. -Russian date may be a dud (no comms for a while) but valuable learning lesson around speed. Scheduled the date a bit too far out. If she comes around great, but the machine stops for no one. -Talking to a veterinarian to gauge interest with plans to pitch date. -Social: -New event this weekend. 176 RSVP’s. -Setup live …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 06:28 PM
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If there’s another n count thread next week, everyone’s n count is going up by 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 04:18 PM
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So did we just give up on the self improvement threads? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 01:05 AM
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I don't get called cute or anything, and my photofeeler photos usually get rated sub 5 (6 represents average on there). So realistically, 4/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:01 AM
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Yep - Several times. The show just goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:12 PM
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Unpopular opinion: Competing for women creates better men. Women settling hurts everyone. They play a very important part in ensuring our species moves forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:28 PM
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The boy must die so the man may live.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:28 PM
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The biggest one is probably an increase in risk aversion. Another to consider is dropping testosterone levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 07:25 PM
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Your environment does matter too. With dating apps, there are more men than women. That will drastically skew your results, also increase selectiveness on their side (simply because there's more to choose from) - it's just the market at work. Meanwhile, if you moved to a place like NYC (Where single women outnumber single men) - things may change way faster than you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 11:08 PM
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Me: logs into ppd mega thread First comment: “Fat people have no excuses” Me: 🚶‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:57 PM
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I basically started it because it can be hard to break into communities here in Seattle (people keep to themselves) so it can be a tough environment to acclimcate to for people not used to that. Here, it's refered to as the 'Seattle Freeze' I created the group to combat that problem, and it's been growing quite quickly. It's great to see.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 06:39 PM
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I normally don't have to rush. My work day starts at 8 am, so I try to be at the gym for 5 am.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:48 PM
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Yeah. It helped change my life actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:17 PM
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I run a social group out in Seattle where newcomers/existing residents can come out and make new friends. We hang out at bars, restaurants, and different venues - that way we're also able to help support local businesses. The VIP aspect is for members who routinely come to our main group and want a more intimate experience (think back to the days of house parties).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 03:16 PM
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Before. Always. Less crowded and it's my first win for the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:55 PM
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I think it's best to focus on inputs. Therapy may not help you directly increase your SMV, but it can help you identify/remove blockers that are stopping you from doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:54 PM
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Added HIIT to my routine this week Approached a few gym bunnies - They were taken but we had great convos. Recruiting new hosts for my social group Created new VIP group from my social group Building up a side business 2 Dates planned for the weekend Reading Reality Transurfing to help keep improving my mindset Lot of work to do, but we're making progress one day at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 02:31 PM
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Q4All: Did you work out this past week?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:10 PM
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Welcome back. Now prepare to get more expert opinions you didn't ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:37 PM
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Just completed my first ever circuit of hypertrophy workouts. 1 month in. I used to almost always train for strength instead of muscle size. My god, my body is changing in front of my eyes. Can’t wait to see how things look 6 mo - 1 year from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:45 AM
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Are people really hating on fat women that much? They seem to do just fine from what I can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:51 PM
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haha I feel that. They're huge for my mental sanity. I'm also envious of your swimg game. My swimming skills are ass, and I hear that's one of the best workouts you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:31 PM
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Sounds like you're just choosing to run instead of face those thoughts head on. For example, it's easy to scroll & reaffirm your current mindset. It's tougher to face your fears and find out the truth. Looks do matter. In addition, most men don't maximize their looks at all. You may look like a completely different man with a better haircut, lower body fat, and new style. However, the only way to know is to do the work to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:24 PM
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I'd say I think there are a lot who both do & don't workout. No judgment eithe way. I just like to check in and see if everyone is taking time to take care of themselves. Your program treating you well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:21 PM
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💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:08 PM
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What’s your goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:07 PM
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Doesn’t have to be just the gym. It can be any kind of dedicated movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:06 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:46 PM
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For the men: There's nothing wrong with enjoying a fun, active sex life before settling down (if that's what you want). If you aren't currently, you may need to build up your sex appeal -- and that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:44 PM
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Most of this stuff just comes down to communication and knowing the game you're playing. If you want casual, you should expect casual outcomes. If you want relationships, then you should expect those type of outcomes. You can spend your 20's fooling around and still find a relationship in your 30's. Men & women do this all the time with no problems. Every man should be able to enjoy the journey of exploring his sexuality & understanding what he likes/doesn't like. This is absolutely something po…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 10:30 PM
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Popular/unpopular take: I don’t see anything wrong with men pursuing women. Especially if it maximizes their odds of success. Expecting a woman to step out of her feminine frame is a losing endeavor. In addition, what you won’t do, another man will. I rather compete than sit on the sidelines.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:05 PM
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If it’s in all caps, it must be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:44 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:41 PM
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For sure. I’d agree with that. There was a girl who had a small crush on me once at my heaviest. However, if you want to maximize your dating/sex opportunities, remaining fat usually isn’t a winning formula, unless you’re exceptional in some other capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 06:06 PM
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Haha. By the way, congrats on the Tinder results as of late man. All that hard work is paying off.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:59 PM
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I used to be quite fat myself. I wouldn’t say I got looked at with disgust. Moreso that I just got overlooked in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:58 PM
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Yeah. I think it’s prob because of the social shaming that came with stating preferences. I think times are changing in that regard tho. Everyone deserves to find their partners sexually attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:57 PM
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Completely doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:55 PM
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Absolutely. If it’s something you truly want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 05:55 PM
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Whatever your heart desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:57 PM
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Remember that everyday is always a new day to get better. It doesn’t matter if you mess up or lose progress, you can still win if you keep moving forward. Be kind to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 04:47 PM
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Aren’t you the one that said your pussy was loose a few days ago? 🤔 I don’t think you’re a woman homie lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 04:16 PM
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Any final thoughts on N count before we wrap up here? Anyone learn anything new?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:29 AM
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conceiving
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:21 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:15 PM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:12 PM
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***Here's a repost that I think fits well here*** I'm not over 35 yet (close) but I'd say I can relate to this pretty hard. Mostly because it reflects a lot of my life up until recently. First thing I want to say is that you're not alone in feeling this way. There are a lot of men out there who I'm sure are going through similar things. When life doesn't go your way (especially with women) it's easy to feel like things are over. You go to high school/college & see men connecting with women no pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:07 PM
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Lol no. I just like to do a synopsis of the posts I see on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:49 PM
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I believe life gets a lot easier when we stop expecting a gender behave how we think they should, and just embrace individual people for who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:48 PM
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Just keep stepping up to bat. Eventually, you'll hit a homerun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:43 PM
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Is that codeword for "the trashcan"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:40 PM
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Don't we have a self improvement thread around here? Maybe you can submit your profile for review.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:37 PM
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I have a complaint to file against women I don't like, and they have no idea I exist. Where should I send it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:36 PM
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No. I'm unmarried, leaning towards never getting married. I see no reason to complain about women wanting to stay single. The ones complaining about women staying single simply want a relationship, but don't have the courage to admit they're struggling to find one. It's easier to blame women than look inward.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:31 PM
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How many times have we heard of women claiming to have vaginismus, only for them to discover that it was only with the previous guy they were with? I have never heard this once in my brief time here. The posts here are truly unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 07:28 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 02:38 PM
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I'm at the finish line waiting for a particular woman. She has no idea tho. I also don't know where the finish line is, but I'm here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:51 PM
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They can't smash each other tho. .... Unless?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 11:49 PM
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Q4All: If a passbort bro announces that he's leaving the country, but no one's around to hear it, is he still a passport bro?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:31 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:21 PM
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Ok, this made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:39 AM
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Q4All: What's on your list of goals for 2024? Some goals on my list as we enter 2024: - Explore sailing as a hobby - New tattoo sleeve - Shave another 5-10% bf - Overhaul wardrobe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 02:06 AM
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Only way this changes is if people stop getting on the apps. Most of the women have. Most of the men haven't. These apps are built to make money. Case in point: Have you ever noticed how little they help men improve their profiles? Why don't any of them say "Your profile ranks below average to other men of your demographic. Based on your ranking, we recommend making changes xyz". Yes, this could hurt self esteem temporarily, but it at least empowers those men to see where they can improve. Datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 11:49 PM
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It all usually stems from a combination of low hanging fruit and a desire to preserve a feeling of self-importance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:30 PM
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Friendly reminder, men can get fuck-zoned too. Like men, most women aren't dumb and usually know when something isn't going anywhere, so they keep it casual. This isn't a gender thing. Relationships come with a price, and so does the casual player lifestyle. For whatever game you choose to play, prepare to take the good with the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:55 PM
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N is the 14th letter in the alphabet. Thank you for your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 12:46 AM
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I can see how it happens. I think people tend to admire those who excel at things they're struggling to (in this case, getting a handle of your sex life). When you don't have a problem with something, it can be difficult to relate/understand those who do. Coming from a below average upbringing myself, I get it. I personally have empathy for any man who is struggling to get a handle on their sex life. The empathy stops when that struggle shifts to blaming women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:42 AM
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Careful. Rumor has it if you say that word three times in the mirror, the ghost of Chad appears.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:39 PM
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Q4All: How do you objectively determine if you're facially below average, average, above average or elite? What's the barometer to determine this? How often you've been hit on? How nice other people are to you? Something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:26 AM
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Shhhhhhh you're catching on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:03 AM
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Is this gonna be a problem in the future? Why does this make me happy? Ultimately, that's up for you to decide. I've always been of the belief that water finds its level, and don't see much point in trying to convince someone to not be attracted to something if it's who they are. If you get fulfillment out of your current dynamic, then by all means, continue on. Otherwise, if you want to change, then you'll need to put in the work to expand your horizons - a good therapist can be a starting poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:00 AM
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Q4All: Did you work out this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:48 AM
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Revenge fantasies are easier than doing the work in real life to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:41 AM
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Packing up for the big move. Looking forward to reinvesting the savings into other goals. From below average to average. From average to above average. From above average to elite. I'm going all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:24 AM
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Plot twist: You're right - it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 07:02 PM
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Well ‘gross’ is relative… What is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:25 PM
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I’ve spent my birthday today reflecting on the things I’ve accomplished, and doing a long, hard look at the parts of my life that are still below average. Now I have a game plan to continue my improvements for the next year. We can’t choose where we start, but we can decide how we finish. Let’s go.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:25 PM
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The savagery is off the charts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:52 PM
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I suspect this is fabricated for various reasons. Many of these kinds of posts are perfectly woven to create arguments. In the instance it's real, he's not wrong to demand 50/50, but given they're fiance's, it's weird that this convo is happening only now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 08:44 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:54 AM
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I’m ready to risk it all😌
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 10:32 PM
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u/FineDevelopment00, u/AstronautLoveShack, u/saraimarsena
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 08:12 PM
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The problem is that many people in general usually overestimate the amount of work they think they're actually doing. For example, thinking they're in shape when if they gave a shirtless pic to their trainer, he would actually say you're quite overweight. Or just putting on some new clothes thinking that's enough to be stylish, when they've invested little in ensuring they fit properly, they're tailored, they're establishing some sort of archetype so they stick out. Or talking to a new woman onc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:28 AM
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Yep. Majority of colleges sport majority women now. I once read it's getting so bad that several schools are hiding their gender demographics. In other words, your son could be set up to have a hell of a time if he's likeable/sociable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:58 AM
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Instead of trying to make big changes, start smaller: - Wanna speak to that girl? Don't put pressure on yourself to get a number. Just make it a goal to say hi. - Wanna get in shape? Don't worry about the perfect routine. Make it a goal to simply drive to the parking lot. - Have trouble maintaining great eye contact? Don't try to overdo this. Just try to hold it one second longer than you're normally comfortable with. Small things add up in a big way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:50 AM
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You can change. Just keep going one day at a time. Remember to be kind to yourself in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:15 AM
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Q4All: Out of curiousity why are you really here? Is it just because of the entertainment value or do these discussions evoke a primal feeling you can't shake? No judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:41 AM
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Admittedly, I would say above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:32 AM
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1000%. It's nice to trust an expert to handle the details. I just show up and do what I'm told. Did you up your protein intake, btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:27 AM
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I told my trainer I want to grow my upper body area. He said "I can turn you into Captain America if that's what you want " lol. Now we're shifting from a performance routine to a bodybuilding one. I'm excited.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:19 AM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:06 AM
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I got some OLD stats back: - 14 matches. 9,289 incoming 'no's' (women who rejected my profile) - Best face pic is rating 4.7 out of 10 (below average). OLD isn't my only source, but I'm also get a pretty high rejection rate in person (granted most of them are the bf objection). I have some work to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:11 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 02:52 AM
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Spicy chicken sausage is a hack. 18g protein per link. 4 links in a pack. 72 G protein. Mmmm…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:54 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:04 PM
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I identify with turtles. 🐢
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 07:29 PM
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☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:27 PM
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Reports will usually do the trick. You won't have to say anything, his acct will likely get flagged, and may lose access from Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 06:03 PM
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I agree with this. Many dudes would drag an average woman along, yet bust it wide open for a Stacy in a heartbeat. To pretend otherwise is delusional. The simple fact is, as always, most people want the best they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:16 PM
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Not really at all. I think in a world of echo chambers, it’s more important than ever to pull back and examine the environment you’re in. Anonymous message boards will be different from real life interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:02 PM
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Ladies, please stop having sex with other men until you meet me. Then at that exact time is when I need you to be a complete freak for me only. You’re supposed to know all of this in advance by the way. Otherwise I’ll become a beta bux, and my life is over. Thx 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:51 PM
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I officially accept that my workout progress is paying off. I’ve never seen this much separation in my shoulders/vascularity ever. Hard work really does pay off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:14 PM
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Very important. It’s those little things that remind you that you matter. Favorite form is gym time @ 5 am when the world is still asleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:47 PM
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🥇
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:13 PM
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Some more 'harsh truths' pertaining to men to balance things out: - Many men try to lock down women all the time after casual sex - Many men get emotional when a woman won't settle down with him - Many men get 'stacy widowed' - Many men will upgrade their woman when/if the opportunity presents itself - Many men monkey branch - Many men want to settle down and don't want to spend years chasing casual sex Life becomes a lot easier when we stop treating each other like foreign objects, and just rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:12 PM
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Breaking: Average guy leaves wife for Ariana Grande. Becky fling, Stacy ring strikes again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 08:53 PM
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I disagree on the pornsick stuff. There are a lot of very kinky people (both men & women) who are into a huge variety of stuff. Provided everything is consensual, I don't see a problem. However, I do think it's best for these type of people to marry each other. In this case, if this man has a specific set of desires that his wife won't give him, which is very well within her right, and compromises can't be made - it's best for both parties to leave. Sex takes two.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:16 PM
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Breaking: Average guy leaves wife for Ariana Grande. Becky fling, Stacy ring strikes again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:11 PM
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As long as you’re alive, it’s never too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:47 PM
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It's never too late to get better. Just focus on improving one small thing per day. Do that over a long enough time and you'll move mountains.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 03:12 PM
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The problem with this great post is that it will get brushed under the rug because it requires effort. Everyday, people of all backgrounds decide to change their lives for the better, and they do. Simply because they chose to try. I'm one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:45 PM
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89,000 more single men than women in Los Angeles
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:41 PM
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Your suspicion is spot on. That's exactly why there are more women in NYC. As a result, more men enjoy quite active casual sex lives that they probably wouldn't elsewhere -- simply because they're spoiled for choice. It kills the need to settle down. (Not for every man, obviously.) I don't live in london so I'm not sure, but if it has a big finance sector, I wouldn't be suprised. If those are the ratios, men will be way more apt to spend more money on average to court a woman. They're also more …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:20 PM
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Some are, some aren't. Most of the men I know who do well with women are practical, though. They know they need to have their shit together, (looks, charm, presentation, interesting lives) because they understand women have options and they have to compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:14 PM
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She sounds like a simp. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:12 PM
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Male Hypergamy: Becky fling, Stacy ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:10 PM
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Definitely worth a look, especially if you're in places that lean heavier one way or the other (Seattle/NYC)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:08 PM
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Looks for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:07 PM
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Date-onomics continues to be a solid read. If you're doing all the right things to find dates, but still not having much luck, remember to check your market. Even a ratio like 120 men/105 women in your city can make a massive difference. Especially if more men than women continue to move to said area. (Vice versa for flipped genders.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 10:01 PM
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I looked up London's gender ratios. It's 155 men/100 women. She definitely has room to be finicky simply because she can. She'd probably sing a different tune if she was in NYC.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 09:57 PM
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I know several men who are sexually successful and juggle a few women simultaneously, and they all say similar things. Red pill is too extreme. It's taken a few truths that have been around forever & repackaged them as revolutionary concepts. The 'harsh truths' aren't really that harsh. Most people want the best they can get. It's that simple. The 'chads' are as sexually successful as you think they are. However, all of them don't want to play the field. Some do get married. The 'chads' also are…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:00 PM
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Not necessarily. For example, in NYC many pockets are more female-heavy. This means more single women are avaialble across the board, than single men, no matter the environment. This can easily make things like tinder/hinge/bumble/bars/social gatherings significantly easier to find available women for dating/sex. Envirionment isn't talked about much with this stuff, when in fact, it plays a major role. Especially during & after college.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:54 PM
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This gets a bit overlooked. I'm in Seattle as well, and it definitely leans male-heavy. I even have a social group that's open to both sexes, and without fail, the male/female ratio holds a solid 60:40 / 65:35. It's wild. You know it's also bad when several women in the group ask me where the other women are haha. Obviously there are opportunities everywhere, but your environment 1000% plays a factor into how often you run into available men/women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:19 PM
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One of the things I appreciate most about my gym routine is that I can see it in advance. When I see the hard work coming, I can feel my body immediately pulling back, and asking myself "Do we HAVE to do this?" -- all the feelings of wanting to run away. Yet when the day comes, I tackle them head on because the reward is so much greater than a better body. It's staying committed to the hard things, even when you don't feel like it. It's feeling the dread/discomfort & doing it anyway. It's keepin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:02 PM
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Bitter is an interesting word. I'd say it's a bitterness towards themselves that gets projected onto the men/women who had successful experiences when they were younger. The reality is that, as much as we may hate it, everyone is socialized differently. Most average people have average lives, and generally find people to date/have sex with in their 20's, etc. For those who don't, it can be for a whole host of reasons: - No dad at home to learn from - No access to other men who are doing great wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:56 PM
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The expectations are according to what you want. If you want a shot at above average experiences, you'll usually need to have something above average about you. An above average body can be acquired with that routine. A lot of women love skinny men. I know several skinny men who do quite well. In terms of bars & clubs, and ratio of women, your environment also matters. If you're in a place that leans more men, it can make it harder to run into single women, and vice versa. A few percentage point…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 09:24 PM
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A friend of my friend got paid $180 by a guy who wanted her to watch him beat his meat. Another friend of mine got paid $300 for feet pics. For everyone wondering why women 'have it so much easier', it may be time to look at the men for the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:53 AM
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Promiscuous woman minding her own business: Man who "hates" promiscuous women yet secretly wants to smash them: 😡
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:03 PM
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hot wife This can mean a couple of different things. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:00 PM
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From yourself or others?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:17 PM
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Correct - That’s why we have to work for what we want with no guarantees that we’ll get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 11:06 PM
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If you feel you don’t deserve love & attention from yourself, then there’s a negative story you’ve probably told yourself for way too long. This is where therapy can be beneficial. It’s not about creating miracles, but coming to terms with the past in a healthy way that doesn’t limit you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:55 PM
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The more time you spend worried about what other people are doing, the less time you spend improving yourself. Give yourself the love & attention you deserve.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:08 PM
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Gotcha - no worries.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:46 AM
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There's nothing wrong with expecting what you give out. The complete disgust about competing for a man intrigued me. ​ If I recall correctly, you were the one who used to talk about never being rejected right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:30 AM
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Why is that? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:07 AM
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Interesting. Competing for what I want really doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:49 PM
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I sniff my bread when I pick it up from the grocery store. Don't ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:13 PM
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🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:57 PM
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You don’t miss. Love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:23 PM
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Yup. Finished mine earlier today. Same days every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:22 PM
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Good job. You did what you could. Don’t over-exert yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:16 PM
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Hell yeah!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:11 PM
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No worries - safety first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:10 PM
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That's dope. Keep up the good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:08 PM
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Don't beat yourself up. Even a brief 10 min walk counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:08 PM
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Keep it up. You’re a winner.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:59 PM
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What prompt are you using? lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:58 PM
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No sweat. Let's aim for 1 day this week.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:57 PM
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4.5 hours? You're a machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:57 PM
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Q4All: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:49 PM
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haha I live in Seattle as well and the amount of 'I have a boyfriend' objections I've received is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:37 PM
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The weird part is that most women don't sleep around in the first place. I'm not sure how we got here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:57 PM
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Been reading Date-onomics, and it sheds some very interesting details on the impact of gender ratios in dating. Even the smallest differences can add up in a major way. It also shows interesting insights into human behavior depending on the area. For example: Women tend to lock men down at higher rates where the competition for women is higher (i.e. many sites along the west coast like Seattle). Women's preferences also tend to rise, given the increase in suitors to choose from. Men tend to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:47 PM
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Looksmax is a large claim. Did you ever get your beard trimmed/style put together?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:41 PM
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Therapy is pointless if you aren't willing to put in the work to change. Somehow, this is the part that everyone forgets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:36 PM
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You are wise to focus on your shoulders to increase visual sex appeal, just don't overdo it. Those muscles are small and can tear easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:35 PM
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Because we need to be the victims, otherwise we'd have to face our problems... and we certainly can't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:15 PM
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For me, it sounds a bit naggy. Mostly because I'm more of a 'sufficient but not perfect is ok' kind of person. So I'd have a very short fuse for someone like this. With that said, they are married - and ultimately it's on them to navigate this in a way that's fair for both parties. Working and managing a newborn is no joke. Hopefully they figure it out soon. They're going to lose some sleep for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:13 PM
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I think one thing we all should stop doing is letting the opinion of a bunch of random people sway us away from what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:02 PM
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No. Just respect boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:00 PM
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Sounds like you both are doing your own thing regarding trips, so I'd say no. I'm not married, but hopefully you guys are going on trips together at some point. Otherwise, this seems like it can evolve into a 'tit for tat' thing over a long enough time horizon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:59 PM
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Could be several things: They're just minding their own biz. Not a personal slight against you. There's nothing remarkable about you visually that's grabbing their attention. You're only focusing on women you want and ignoring the ones you don't want (who very well could be looking at you).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 07:50 PM
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Well don’t dismiss yourself just yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:31 AM
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Got it. As hard as it can be sometimes, don't let her drain your energy. Especially if you don't know her that well yet. You got this. 💪
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:19 AM
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Is it still on?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:16 AM
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Was there supposed to be a date here or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 12:11 AM
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I'm still laughing at the "I don't see average men having sex personally, so I don't believe them" thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 10:19 PM
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Did you miss the part about how women aren’t seeing most profiles anyway before they get overwhelmed with likes?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 06:01 PM
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A perfect explanation of dating app ratios.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:40 PM
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Except men aren't in general because of an increase in risk aversion. Women being on their phones/headphones isn't the source of said risk aversion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:33 PM
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Why would she commit her life to a man she isn’t attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:57 PM
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Why would a woman willingly have sex with a man she isn't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:53 PM
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"I am not seeing average men having sex all the time" - What are they supposed to do? Send you sex tapes? The takes in here grow more unhinged by the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:25 PM
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If you have a vouyership kink, just say that my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 07:29 PM
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West coast will be very male heavy. It improves as you head eastward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 07:25 PM
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I'm in Seattle currently & considering a move to NYC/Chicago in the near future because the market is very male-heavy here. Obviously there are still opportunities here, but it's alot tougher when there are simply that much more men than women. This isn't to say you should consider the same, but I would take a quick look at the gender ratios of whatever city you choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 07:22 PM
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Q4A: Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:01 PM
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It's the only way to argue. Focusing on the facts takes away things to argue about, and we simply can't have that. The ironic part is the push back against anything that actually solves problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:59 PM
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Bought some creatine. Time to shift gears. 💪
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 01:05 AM
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Always thought you were a man for some reason. Can you expand on this comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:16 PM
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Q4W: What do you think about this line of clothing? Too tight? Just right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:07 PM
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Gotcha man. You do you, but this seems overly complicated. Just say hi, get to know her a bit and keep things platonic. If you don’t want that, no worries. Just continue about life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:39 PM
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So what’s the point of trying to ignore her exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:24 PM
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If she has a bf why can’t you just be platonic friends with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:14 PM
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And I’ll say again: How do you know if you’re not her type if you never approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:56 AM
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Gotcha. So how many times have you been abused?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:46 PM
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Yes. The study simply highlights that there are (very understandable) risks in doing so in the workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 08:25 PM
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None of the stats I posted support this whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:14 PM
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That’s ok to do with women you aren’t attracted to. For the ones you are attracted to, it’s better to make your interests known sooner than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:48 PM
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But chemistry isn’t a shakeup or reliable thing. The only way to find that out is to talk to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:45 PM
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I agree with this. Anything worth having involves effort and risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:27 PM
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The responses on my post about approaching are quite interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:53 PM
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Who no one can describe to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:52 PM
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Thanks for your input here. You shouldn’t have to do anything that makes you feel like a man or puts your emotional health at risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:52 PM
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How do you know that’s not you if you don’t try?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:46 PM
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Have you been abused for approaching yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:46 PM
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As long as you understand you chose to quit and that it was your decision to make, it's all good. No woman can force you to sit on the sidelines.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:17 PM
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So we're saying they're not reporting more approaches to the cops simply because the cops wouldn't take it seriously? Why are we moving the goal post? (P.S. We're also debating the actions of 18%. The overwhelming minority.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:13 PM
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Yes, it's sometimes very cruel and painful, but that's only if we let it consume us. In order to hit the ball, you have to swing, even when you strike out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:10 PM
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Well, yeah. It's the same for men. This positioning assumes that women all find the same kind of man attractive. That's not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:09 PM
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Numbers say the exact opposite. Most aren't reporting men at all. Of the reports placed, most have gone to HR.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:07 PM
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This didn't really challenge my view. It's just trying to put the onus on women. Why aren't more men trying?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:05 PM
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All fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:04 PM
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Odd. I made another small edit. Did that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:57 PM
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Did you see where half of those reports were made? To Human Resources. The numbers fall off steeply for basically any other venue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:54 PM
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You gotta try. You can't score if you never play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:52 PM
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I did. I have no idea if it worked lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:49 PM
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Yes because men approach more. Higher standards for what? Sex? Arguable. Relationships? Hard disagree. How can women have a deadlock on casual sex if men willingly participate?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:37 PM
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How exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:01 PM
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Men do the same thing when it comes to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:33 PM
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How exactly do they control the dating market?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:31 PM
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We could def get more into the nuance, but I think the bigger thing here is that most men aren't approaching at all (cold or warm). You can't score if you don't play the game at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:58 PM
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Curious: Are any of you into BDSM?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:45 PM
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Uh oh, someone better hide this quick. Turns out most women want to be approached and most men are not approaching. Most men who are approaching are having some success.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:43 PM
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Fairly good study. This should be bookmarked here. Reality is the majority of women want to be approached in the right way. Risk aversion is hurting men, which is hurting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 10:30 PM
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Agreed. They help me think.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:58 PM
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We’ll likely increase it with time but that’s not a focus yet. I’m tracking incremental improvements to see how my body responds accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:57 PM
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Added a brisk 15 min walk to my fitness routine. 3x per week. Fat burn picked up. Diet still consistent. It's amazing how the smallest of changes can have such a huge impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:53 PM
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Sounds like another rage bait post. I don't pay much attention to those anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:56 PM
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Why do I believe this ? Besides personal observations, every time I have been up front and honest with a woman how I feel about her or what I want from her and get rejected , the woman in question has respected me for being honest and up front, and their opinion of me as a person increased from that point on. Say it louder for the people in the back. It's better to just be upfront. Yes you may still get rejected, but you'll always be respected for having the balls to make your interest known.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:52 PM
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I need me some shape. Tiny & think does nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:06 AM
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The problem is that we have to be clear on what 'efforts' means. There's one part of it that's attractiveness-related. There's the other part that involves talking to enough women to find a connection. Both are extremely important.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:20 PM
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1st :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:04 PM
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100%. It's worth it under the right context. Therapy on it's own doesn't do much if you aren't willing to change. The point of it is to help you process things in a healthier way, as well as challenge old, harmful stories you've believed about yourself. You don't need to be under therapy forever. It's just a great resource to have for the times you do need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:03 AM
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Nothing wrong with this at all. Sounds like a healthy relationship to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 07:03 PM
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If there is a wall then a lot of these moms didn't get the memo because my goodness. 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:56 PM
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Yes. Love is also knowing when to let go.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:56 PM
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It just sounds like regular dating, man. I would focus more on your own self awareness. Let's assume these women have enough options to not waste their time with ugly men. There was something she liked about you. The only way for her to confirm this is to go on a date with you. If it works out, great. If not, no worries. Chemistry is a tricky thing, and it can't be forced. Just keep going on more dates, and make time to reflect so you can see where you can improve. You got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:50 PM
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I've posted my picture on a few rating sites, and holistically, I'm barely scratching a 5, so I'm teetering below average. That's ok. I still think I'm charming, funny and have a great body. I'll just have to do more work in the trenches.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:36 PM
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Thanks. You're a sweetheart. May you have everything your heart desires as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:32 PM
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If you look closer, that was true for every race except one: Black women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:31 PM
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So as a guy, it is rather pointless to even bother approaching if the ladies have already made up their minds within a first few seconds whether or not that man is a "potential" prospect. Well, yeah. That's how this works. Not every woman will find you attractive. No one woman will find you attractive if you never make your presence known. How can women control a dating market? A market requires two parts to function: Someone with a product. Someone who wants said product. This makes it sound li…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:29 PM
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If there is a wall then a lot of these moms didn't get the memo because my goodness. 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:24 PM
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I agree with this. My mom went all in on a marriage she had every right to annul for ~30 years. She stayed until her spouse passed. Marriage is no joke, and I think a lot of people realize that only after the fact. So it's good that people have a way out. I certainly won't propose to anyone who doesn't go above and beyond anything I could have ever hoped to have. That's more important than the feeling of being married. I think if it was taken more seriously, marriage and divorce rates would drop…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:09 PM
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I agree with this. Marriage as an institution is very much archaic. The vows are only a formality, and good to the extent that the two parties want to uphold them. Times change & people change. I think the divorce rate would drop more if marriage was viewed through a practical lens, rather than an over-romanticized one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:00 PM
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People will usually be hostile towards anything that makes them seem oversimplified, or that they aren't more than their base desires. I think it's simply better to treat human nature for what it is. There's a reason women often like rich, tall, charming, strong men. There's a reason men often like slim-figured, curvy, nice women. Even on one of my casual dating apps, there's a sizable number of women who say they they're size queens, want a big dick, etc. I'm sure women probably get bombarded w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:57 PM
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It's always easier to blame something outside of yourself. It's a lot harder to look inward & take responsibility to go after what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:50 PM
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Marriage doesn't have any guarantees. I would marry/have kids knowing there's a risk of financial impact down the line. That's what the whole "for better or for worse" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:45 PM
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Controversial take: This Jonah Hill stuff blew way out of proportion.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:29 PM
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Is there a woman version of AF/BB?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:12 PM
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If you’re going fishing, gotta find the pond first. Where would they go to have fun? Then it will be a matter of talking/flirting with enough to find an opportunity. If you want to save time, you can always speed things up on tinder since you can filter for bi, or use another site like Feel’d.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:12 PM
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My plans are a little less nefarious than his. I just want to have fun and pull of something crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:03 AM
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It would involve a considerable amount of networking over a few months, and the right capital for a venue. Main thing to nail would def be making sure the women were properly incentivized to participate. The rest of the crowd would follow. I'll have to think on it more.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:23 PM
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I'm thinking of hosting a swimsuit pageant. Never done it before, but it could make for a fun project. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:59 PM
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Probably ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:23 AM
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🤔😏
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:18 PM
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😔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 07:21 PM
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Hey ladies, please don’t have sex with any other men unless it’s me. Otherwise I’ll become a betabuxx. Thanks 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:02 PM
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I created a post to help some people out and it got dismissed because of a line they didn’t agree with. It’s why I maintain that women aren’t the problem. They never were. Learned helplessness is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:56 PM
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If these are the choices: Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:09 AM
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Dropped If that one line is your escape route, then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:57 PM
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It's just that there's so little you can do to bring it up to a probability where it might seriously work out for you. That's how it is for most men these days. Can't predict scenarios you haven't explored 100%. No way to know this for sure until you try.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:53 PM
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For any guy who is a late bloomer or feels like you've fallen behind, I'm here to say there's hope. I wrote a comment on another PPD thread that details some of the changes I made along my journey so far. Hope it helps you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:07 PM
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I can smell that through the screen. I’m sure it was good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:12 AM
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What was on the menu?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:51 PM
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I actually agree here. I'm a part of a self improvement forum and you'd be surprised how many men want hotter women after they start getting some success. Almost every single time they get some traction, the new goal becomes to sleep with baddies - the same woman that most men want if they had the choice. The ironic part is how few actually talk about their plans to level themselves up to break through the competition required to get with that caliber of woman to begin with. It truly is a sight …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:49 PM
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You just covered a thousand threads in one sentence. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:35 PM
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Did we discuss casual sex today? Just checking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:00 PM
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Gym bunnies are my kryptonite. I talk to several. Got to go on a date with a few. I have a high admiration for the discipline & work ethic. Obviously, their bodies are quite sexy. They're pretty strict on their routines, so I keep the convos short. However, contrary to popular belief, they're a pleasure to talk to. Just respect their time & it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 05:15 PM
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I agree. Confidence is something that compounds through gradual wins over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 11:23 PM
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Two things: I've noticed quite a surge in threads regarding scenarios where said thing rarely happens. - Are people really discussing on the first date how many people they've had sex with? - Or who slept with who first at what time? I think discussions around things that are more likely to happen would be way more productive. Like actually defining what an average man or a Chad is so we have some rubrics to build from. Why do so many of these convos paint men as being so helpless & unable to ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:30 PM
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Didn't have a dad at home. I had my grandad & uncles. Tried to learn what I could. Still figuring stuff out as a I go.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:24 PM
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Is someone actually shaming you or are you making deductions from their preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:57 PM
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Yesterday is done. Today is a new day to grow and get after it. Let’s do this 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:43 PM
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It's a balance. Negativity helped us survive as a species. However, we're not under the same threats we used be thousands of years ago. It takes an active mind to learn how to handle negativity. The first step is simply being aware of when you are, then learning how to extract the positive. It's a muscle you have to build.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:15 AM
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LA Fitness has been my gold standard. Literally has everything I need. I would love a more old school type of gym, but those are quite hard to find in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:16 PM
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Talked to a few gym bunnies. All good conversations. Hit a language barrier with 1. I think learning Spanish would help open up more opportunities - especially in bigger cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:38 PM
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I got a 5.04 - 5.1 for most pics. Best I got was a 5.3. Looking at the distribution, it looks like 6 is average, which would make me below average. My dating coach said I won't be able to coast by on looks, so it lines up. Oh well, gotta keep trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:30 PM
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Hm, I dunno about this take. I don't think regular guys really are this helpless. I think this comes down to a lack of self esteem & putting women above them. I personally would never involve myself with women who aren't interested in me. That means parting ways with my dignity, and that's a hard stop for me. Also, I don't think the search is that awful for a normal man. What I do think is awful is for a man to squander his potential because he's overly worried about a woman's approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:51 PM
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What kind of dating experiences? Good? Bad? Or Both?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:37 PM
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Hmmm... All 4 of these sound like convenient copouts to me. Maybe the real answer is "I don't want to think otherwise because that will force me to work on proving myself wrong."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:25 PM
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Sure thing man. Always open to support.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 09:43 PM
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To the dude who posted about feeling stuck in life as a 37 y/o, but kept getting your post whacked - Send me a DM. I'd love to offer some insight on what I've been doing as a late bloomer. You can change, you just need the courage to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:51 PM
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I'm not over 35 yet (close) but I'd say I can relate to this pretty hard. Mostly because it reflects a lot of my life up until recently. First thing I want to say is that you're not alone in feeling this way. There are a lot of men out there who I'm sure are going through similar things. When life doesn't go your way (especially with women) it's easy to feel like things are over. You go to high school/college & see men connecting with women no problem. You want to, but it seems like you're trapp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:51 PM
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Such a thing doesn't exist, unfortunately. If he's not a significant other, I'd lower the expectations a bit. Otherwise, that will be your true source of misery, not the guy texting you back. I believe men are clear when they want something or are afraid of losing said thing to another man. If he's interested, he'll come around. If it's been a few days and you try again (things happen) with no luck then you have your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:41 PM
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Negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:37 PM
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Cowards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:35 PM
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#2 for me at this season of my life. For a couple of reasons: It increases the odds of #1 happening should that time ever come (falling in love with someone you don't find sexually desirable seems odd) Love is a two way street. You can't force someone to fall for you. It's rare, and I rather not live my life solely for the rare moments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:08 PM
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It's a lot to keep up with (a 700+ page book) but it's helping me understand a lot of life lessons such as not over exerting yourself for the things you want. I highly recommend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:41 PM
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You can improve your life but only if you allow yourself to. It involves a lot of humility and awareness which is good for the soul.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 01:59 PM
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Pumped out 330 max on squat today at the end of my routine. Sure I could've got more with fresher legs. Not bad for weighing 199. We'll keep eating well & getting stronger. Been on a routine of really looking after my body/mind lately. There's a lot more I want to accomplish, but one day at a time. Off to read Reality Transurfing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 07:38 PM
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Good stuff. I'm 5' 11" so I still have a good bit of weight to lose before I start looking the way I want, but things are definitely improving. 15% is my next big milestone. Keep up the good work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 07:34 PM
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I know very social people who are still single. I know anti social people who are taken. Ultimately in order to find someone, you need to engage with people in whatever capacity you can to increase your likelihood of success. A great social life is not a guarantee that you'll find someone. Like anything in life, there are things you can do to improve your odds of success, but guarantees are impossible to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:34 PM
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I don't really put those in the same area, it's just that those things wreck my progress. When I eat a good bit of sugar, my cravings get borderline unbearable. When I eat things like pizza, I just binge. At this stage of my journey, avoidance works best for me until I get experienced enough to understand how my body functions best. As for everything else: BF - 19.2% Sleep - Averaging 6.5 hrs Training Schedule - 3x/week
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:28 PM
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Been without artificial sweets/soda/pizza for the past month now. My gains are growing in the gym, vascularity is improving, and face is leaning out. A lot really can change in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 06:17 PM
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Q4W: If a man respectfully approaches you/expresses interest in a warmer environment (bars, social events, social groups, etc.) and you turn him down, do you still view him differently for being brave enough to shoot his shot?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 05:49 PM
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I agree with this. Asking 100 people without any calibration from someone experienced in the game can be tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:57 PM
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Yeah, I can shed some light here. The first thing I did was find someone who wouldn't tell me what I wanted to hear, and present the facts as they are. I knew if I built up any kind of ego around the things I needed to change, it wouldn't work. I also found someone who was where I wanted to be when it came to women, money, life, mindset etc. So when we first met, he had to lay the facts out as they were: I was fat. I shouldn't be expecting much attention, let alone online, until I get in respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:21 PM
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Had a great session with my dating/life coach on Sat. He talked about how I’m now at a point where I qualify to enter the dating race as a serious contender. My consistent work on mind & body has been paying off. It feels good to hear that from someone who is no bs. Next step now is to just keep going and doing the boring work that got me this far. One step at a time, one improvement at a time. If you feel like you’re behind in life, you may have to dig deep to find out why. But once you give yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:04 PM
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Yeah that’s fine. The higher protein intake alone is going to be a huge gamechanger for ya. Plus protein keeps you fuller longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:21 AM
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Nah, just over eating will make you fatter. Not the carbs. Regarding the grains stuff, the bigger thing is just to listen to your body and do what’s best for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:01 AM
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Nah they’re no bad at all. They’re great sources for fuel during your workouts. If there’s anything, I’d reduce fat intake and keep protein/carb strong
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:50 AM
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Yeah that’s pretty low. I’d crank that up and cut back on the fat intake.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:44 AM
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You don’t need to go that ham yet. Even .5G/lb bw will make a massive difference if you’re currently not taking in enough protein as it is
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:26 AM
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I don’t think you need to go that ham yet. I would just try to get around 1g protein/lb body weight. I know a girl at my gym who did a complete 180 when she started increasing her protein intake.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:06 AM
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Oof - I would give high protein a shot instead of high fat. You protein to build muscle, and more muscle means more calories burnt at rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:45 AM
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How's your sugar/alcohol intake. Also 1 or 2 lbs in 3 weeks isn't bad. It's like half a lb a week roughly. Is 1200-1300 cals a deep cut for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:15 AM
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If your body holds on to water/fat like mine does, I'd suggest not focusing too much on the exercise calories. Unfortunately, that metric is just too unreliable. The better thing is to just make sure you're eating at a maintenance & rapidly expand your time horizon. I'd find a good baseline for cutting based on your height/weight then start there. If you cut too much in calories too fast, your metabo will crash, and the cravings will be nuts. I'd just cut back, ride it as long as you can, then s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:10 AM
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What venue?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:32 PM
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Of course rejection isn’t consequence free. You either use it to improve or let it consume you. Rejection keeps apart what isn’t meant to be together. If you’re being rejected 100% of the time, then the only common denominator is you. I want to have quality sex/relationships with women. I also know I’m very unlikely to get approached. So I’m willing to risk rejection to get what I want. Rejection is just a normal part of pursuing what you want in life. P.S. There’s also good sides to this. For e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:51 PM
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Titanic: 2 People: 0
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 07:18 PM
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I don't think it's really hard for women to admit they care about looks because everything shows they do. There is no shortage of studies that support the fact that the importance of physical attractiveness runs almost even between men & women. Yes "Women love with their ears and men with their eyes" isn't true. It never was true. Now let's ask the real question... Since we know that looks DO matter, what are we willing to do to make the most out of what we have?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:54 PM
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If you present yourself as just a friend, you'll be treated as just a friend. If you present yourself as a sexual option, there's no guarantee the feeling will be returned, but rest assured, you'll be viewed as the guy brave enough to hit on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 02:14 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:23 PM
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Don't forget the sundresses this Summer. 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:09 PM
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It's ok to be assertive, fellas. Go get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 07:09 PM
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We're on dial up. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:21 PM
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I'm taking my passport and going overseas because the women are more submissive/feminine over there. Hello? Ladies?? Don't you care? Isn't anyone gonna stop me?!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 10:14 PM
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Last night was fun. Damn. Assertiveness pays off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:41 PM
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5, but only with people you’re feelin’
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:40 PM
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Do it. Go all in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 05:46 PM
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PPD fellas, go say hi to that woman that’s been on your mind lately. You never know what’ll happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 05:15 PM
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Much love back. You like what you like. No need to explain yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 01:54 PM
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Man, maybe it’s because of the upcoming blackout but a lot of the takes here are purely unhinged today lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 09:57 PM
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I’ll keep a lookout in my DM’s 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 02:14 PM
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Being upfront and expressing yourself in sexually respectful way sure does make life easier. One thing I notice is that most women (I interact with at least) expect it and are open to it if they’re feeling you. May as well lean into it and go all in. Life can be beautiful when you try to improve. Go be great today 🤘🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 01:48 PM
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Oh my 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 09:55 PM
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I think the important thing here is to just take action so you give yourself a chance to prove yourself wrong. Especially for men, the reality is if you don't hunt, you stand a very real chance of being single/sexless. This means you'll have to take risks, or you won't be rewarded at all. Women get a bit more luxury in this apartment as many don't have to stick their necks out that much, but that's life. Most don't do it because it doesn't make them feel feminine. I think this is why traits like…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:13 PM
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Realistically: - Forgiving themselves for their less than stellar upbringing/faulty belief patterns. Just because you didn't grow up like most average kids, doesn't mean you're broken. -Hitting the gym 3-5x/week -Controlling their diets -Therapy -Getting a better paying job -Pursue new goals -Find a support group w/ people going through similar changes -Get style/presentation together -Approach women for practice -Learn photography to take better pics for apps I don't think women are interested …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:01 PM
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So because they’re average height & weight, had sex with a few men, and developed “masculine” traits, they don’t deserve a relationship? This is an incredibly weak argument. Just sounds like this just bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:01 PM
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This brings up a good question. Did anyone ever agree on who represents ‘Chad’ in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:58 PM
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Cheers to you, slim thick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:55 PM
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Being upfront and expressing your desires really does cut through a lot of the crap. It’s amazing. The responses I get are also amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 06:09 PM
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Yes. I'd also recommend taking a dose of zinc & magnesium as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:35 PM
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I think there are pros and cons to it like most things. Just be polite & respectful. Worst that can happen is you blow out (like she yells at you or brushes you off), but it will open up your opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:15 PM
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Uhh thanks. No way I considered that already.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:30 PM
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Q4W: How can I study/understand the female gaze? Any good reference points?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:55 PM
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Another woman told me I was hot today. I'd never thought I'd be here this fast - especially when I still have so much to improve on like my style, social stuff, etc. However, I guess it just goes to show what can happen when you see things through. 1.5 years ago, I was extremely overweight, anxious, depressed and dealing with the repercussions of a childhood I wouldn't wish on anyone. Now, with enough hard work, dedication, faith & belief, fantasies are becoming a reality. I'm grateful to have m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:19 PM
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Confidence can be gained. First, on a fundamental level through your values & what you stand for. Next, by setting goals & accomplishing them. This doesn't always mean massive goals. It also means doing the little stuff you said you'd do. Finally, it can be gained through sheer endurance. The more you accomplish, the more your confidence grows. However, goals aren't always reached on day 1. Sometimes they take weeks, months or years. It can be gained, but you must put in the work to cultivate it…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:14 PM
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Two new approaches done today in gym. 1 number but has a bf. One bail due to language barrier. Opted out of another I was 50/50 about. It’s journey/thrill of being a man: Gotta hunt if you wanna eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 02:36 PM
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The TRT injections got me feeling like a new man. Got another date scheduled. Good wins all around. It’s never too late to get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 03:18 AM
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Self esteem is the culmination of all the good things you build in your life. Keep investing in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:38 PM
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Third. I need a bronze medal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:10 PM
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My observation of PPD so far: Women: PPD Men: "My penis got hard for you, why aren't you grateful?😡"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:14 PM
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Yes. I've given up a lot, but the four biggest things were: My ego Laziness Entitlement Self Neglect So far, it's been worth more than I ever imagined.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:59 PM
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Yesterday, a woman told me my body is gorgeous. I’ve never received a compliment like that in my life. Just goes to show what just some effort, patience and faith can do. All I could think about was what I’ve given up to get here. I have more work to do, but the little things like that are always super encouraging.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:29 PM
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The second match I had was some women which called me a pimple faced ugly creepy Incel terrorist. And I should kill myself. Did she actually call you this or are you exaggerating?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:43 PM
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First :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:09 PM
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Q4PPD: Did you work out last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:38 PM
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Regret is a tricky thing. It means you're self aware, yet holding on to something potentially harmful. Regret is ok as long as you learn from it. However, make sure it doesn't consume you. If you're alive today, that means you have another shot to build the life you want. To act differently & think differently. The first step is always the hardest, but the most necessary. Moving forward is what ensures you don't get stuck again. Onward.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 06:38 PM
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You’re assuming it will take you 10 years to fix this stuff. What if it happens a lot sooner? You can only control the day you’re in. Nothing else. Make the most of it and put in the work you must to get what you want out of life. If you let your past dictate your future, it’s over. Don’t give in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:32 AM
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The cellulite 🤌🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 11:07 PM
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I don’t know if you’re actually in this situation or not, but if you are, don’t let the answers here stop you from trying. The pressure for men to perform is very much real. Don’t let it consume you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:07 AM
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I think it varies greatly. You will be sexy to some & invisible to others because you don't fit their tastes. In terms of overlapping attractiveness, I think this is why it's best to focus on what helps most on average. For example, on average: Being in shape > Being fat Dressing well > Dressing sloppy Being sociable > Being isolated Taking high-effort good pictures for apps > Taking bad pics w/ no effort (For men) Talking to woman > Hoping she approaches you Basically, controlling the things yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 05:37 PM
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If there’s one thing my coach is drilling into me is this. Body fat matters significantly for your looks. A lot of the men he knows who kill it with women are ~15% bf (the healthy bmi range for men). You don’t need to be in world-class shape for dating/sex but success leaves clues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 09:49 PM
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80/20 = I want to simplify sexual dynamics to solidify my hopelessness instead of trying. C’mon man, it’s time to let this go. Everyone wants to have sec with people they find attractive. Different people find different things attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:34 PM
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Someone posted this study, which I think is highly underrated & highly accurate: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2018/02/12/in-experiments-researchers-figured-out-what-men-and-women-really-want-in-a-mate/ ​ Both sexes value attractiveness almost equally Both sexes have 'shallow' preferences/tendencies Women are not the more noble sex, so stop pedestalizing them. Men love to shoot for the same hot women, which is why the beauty industry is so massive. In short, neither gender is perfe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 03:59 AM
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Yeahhhh... I'm calling Chris Hansen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:43 PM
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Yikes. He’s a gent for hanging around (I wouldn’t) but it sounds like a date #2 isn’t happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:59 PM
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But I’m afraid I’ll never have my shit together Good news: You never will. You won't today. You won't 10 years from now. You won't 30 years from now. You're a human being, and as such, you will always be imperfect. Knowing this, you're now free to set aside time to do what matters most to you right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:17 PM
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Why should the advice be the same? Also how to we know women aren't telling other women to hit the gym if they wanna improve their attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:15 PM
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Most men aren't hitting the gym either. Nor are they fit. Nor are they healthy. Most of America is overweight. So is the argument that average women's expectations are getting out of hand, and that average men can't get average women because they want the elite men?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:37 PM
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I agree with this. The reality is, you're probably competing against other messages at the same time. Best thing to do would get to get the number a lot sooner (because of what trynabtrad is saying) & it helps isolate attention a bit more towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:31 PM
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Okay, so women aren't entitled to be attractive or desirable at 40+. But 40 year old men are entitled to virgins and 20-something. That's today's lesson. Yes. If y'all can just not come out of the house when you pass 40, that would be great. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:28 PM
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Unfortunate truths that make life better: - Chads have it better than you think, and worse than you think. - Many average/below average men can become their own 'chad' version, if they let go of chad and focus on their own growth. - You probably have above average traits. You just aren't willing to put in the effort to make them flourish. - Women like attractive, fit men. Men like attractive, fit women. - Everyone wants the best they can get, and they will try to get it. - Nobody owes anyone any…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:26 PM
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Men can only learn and improve by working on themselves. That's the exact process. You can only look better physically by going to the gym. You can only get better in conversations by speaking to other people. You can only get a better career if you're willing to obtain the skills for said career. The bottom denominator here is effort. All of these things require effort. Dating women also requires effort. Approaching, going on dates, flirting, etc. A crap ton of inputs to create a chance at gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:19 PM
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Fellas, where do you buy your t shirts from? I'm looking for something that fits my form a bit better in the upper body area.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:15 PM
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Based on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:05 AM
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If you're a late bloomer, that's ok. Don't let anyone shame you for not having your fun earlier in life. All kids don't grow up equally. This means some reach certain 'finish lines' much faster than others. With that said, don't be upset with those people who don't understand why you haven't done certain things at a certain time like everyone else. They've lived a different life, and that's no one's fault. Instead, spend that time doing what you want to do, and being true to you. You don't owe a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 01:12 AM
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Some of these moms are lookin 🔥🔥🔥 today. Happy Mothers Day 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:26 PM
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My ma still holds out hope for me getting married one day. I don't currently have the heart to tell her that her marriage really turned me off from the idea since I was a kid. I'm not ruling it out, but after seeing the 'for worse' part for most of my life, I'm simply not in a rush. It would take someone beyond incredible for this to happen. I admire her big time for sticking by her vows to the end, though. Big time. For those of you who ever feel that pressure, remember that marriage is no joke…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 08:46 PM
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Just want to remind all of you that you're doing a good job. You're not perfect, and never will be. As long as you try to improve, that's all you can control. Have a great day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 04:34 PM
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These n count threads are inflammatory. Primarily because they don't solve anything. Men - Already faced with social pressure to be sexually experienced. (Huge source of psychological ED btw) Women - Already pressured to be chaste so they're taken seriously as a partner It would be one thing if the threads were about positive ways to break from these social pressures, yet it never is. Just intentional shaming & projecting. Starting to think many of these threads aren't for "debating" -- they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:22 PM
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The problem here is that it sounds like the relationship is contingent just on how many people she slept with, and not the myriad of other things involved concerning chemistry. This post just seems inflammatory, specifically worded to get reactions & doesn't really invite any sort of actual discussion. Yes, I know it's a debate sub, but I really believe the talking points can undergo a massive improvement. Honestly, what view is there to change here? This seems like basically an n-count post, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:58 PM
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Absolutely. The challenge is, negativity is a spiral. It’s easy to get stuck when those thoughts consume you. As long as you can find a way to move forward so you can carve a new path, that’s what matters most.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 12:33 PM
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Amen. It just goes to show how much we’re socially conditioned to have our entire lives figured out by 30. When te reality is, we spend most of our lives outside of our 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 12:28 PM
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I do it. It works on those who are interested, doesn’t work in those who aren’t. I don’t fault a man for taking initiative when the opportunity presents itself (as most women don’t approach, so he has to, otherwise he’ll risk being single/sexless for a long time).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:48 AM
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It doesn’t matter what age you are, you can change. You’re not doomed, you just have to trust yourself enough to try. Anything worth getting is worth fighting for. Even if you didn’t have a great childhood, your path is not set in stone. You can grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:45 AM
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As a late bloomer myself, this is a bit of a fatalistic view. I do agree that those years are super vital, however, every child doesn't grow up the same way. Most go on to follow the standard timeline of life super fun life in the 20's, kids in late 20's/30's, settle in then go from there. For those of us who grew up on the other side of the tracks, (from broken homes, marriages, etc.) things don't quite play out the same way. While other kids were off having fun, you were probably still dealing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:35 AM
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At least for me, it of course started with motivation. I lived most of my life very overweight, and I wanted to fell confident in my skin for once. The women part obviously played a part. It was apart of my initial motivation, but that faded quickly. After 90+ days in, you really begin to face the true reasons why you're in the gym. Yes, looking good is a plus. However, I've also learned that it does loads for my mental health/self confidence. It also helps you build character. Getting up early,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:26 PM
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Keep going, brotha.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 07:35 PM
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All of this could be avoided if everyone was just upfront about what they want. If you wanna sleep around, just do that. If you want a relationship, just do that. I don't see the point in all this covert activity. Just be upfront about what you want, and make a plan to get it. This would save everyone a lot of headaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 06:19 PM
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Did you guys workout this week?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:35 PM
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Solid write-up. ​ It looks like a fungus taking over your face. The savagery.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 05:33 PM
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How do I get a custom flair?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:53 AM
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Is there a woman equivalent to AF/BB? Becky bucks/Stacy fucks?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 10:39 PM
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The thing that would do the most to repair gender relationships an immediate ban all dating apps and social media. Yes, including Reddit. I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:10 PM
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Chads aren't born - They're made
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:56 AM
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I'm thinking of creating a thread titled " 'Chads' are made, not born." then watching the world burn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:05 PM
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Controversial take: Aside from those blessed with elite genetics, I think most 'chads' are made, not born. Some of the best looking dudes I know are also some of the hardest working. I don't think it's a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 08:12 PM
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Ladies: How would you describe the fitness level of most men you've been sexually attracted to? Is there a particular theme among them or does it typically vary?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 06:47 PM
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Sounds like he’s trying to smooth things over. I think it’s better to just attack it head on. From 350k to waiting for money to come in sounds like something is up. He may feel emasculated, but finances affect both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:41 AM
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Had 170 people show up to my social event. I’m so grateful. The tough part is keeping up my social stamina towards the night because I have quite a few 5:30 am workouts during the week. Any ideas on how I can improve that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:26 AM
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I think this could be solved easily if men only focused on women who were actually into them. You guys know you don’t have to settle for women who aren’t into you, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:25 PM
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Amen to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:42 PM
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I can't see the post, but I presume the guy found out the kid he was raising wasn't his because his wife cheated on him? Then he got mad and just cut all ties from everyone? Now everyone's mad he refuses to keep raising a child that's not his? If so, I guess I'm part of the few who doesn't think he's the bad guy. No one should have to raise a child that isn't theirs. I agree it's the noble thing to do, but people also have the right to protect their personal happiness/resources in situations lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 11:50 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement, brother 🙏🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 03:07 PM
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Self improvement is hard. Some days it feels like one step forward and 3 steps back. Especially when you’re a late bloomer. Yet I keep going because I know I can build an elite life for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 05:12 AM
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Not true. I'm a part of a forum with men who coach other men on how to do just that. The problem is, they don't let anyone wallow in bitterness & anger, so degrading women isn't allowed. They're clear it's going to take some hard-ass work with no guarantee of results. As you can imagine, it's not an attractive offer, but it is for anyone who's ready to take responsibility for their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:48 PM
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I think PPD threads would be 100x more productive if everyone was just honest what they’re after. If you want casual sex, just say that so we can discuss action steps to make it happen. Same for relationships. I think this would add a new dimension of discussion. I also think we should still consider the self improvement thread idea, where people can submit what they’re trying to improve and get community feedback.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:29 AM
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It could also be energy/vibe or rbf. I approached one girl with rbf but I liked what I saw. She said she doesn’t get approached much because of her rbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:10 AM
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Pancakes?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:04 AM
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PPD Women and Men - Look in a mirror and repeat after me: "You are completely powerful." "You are unstoppably confident." "You are growing more and more confident each day." "Nothing can stop you." "You go for what you want and you get it" Go forth and conquer 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:13 PM
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I got a cake day notification. Do I get anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 04:33 AM
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Every human acts in their own self interest first because they need to survive. They also have their own personal hopes & dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 07:15 PM
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I think it would be more efficient for that man to become casual sex material if that's important to him. This would be way more productive than worrying about women who 'sleep up' and expect that all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:36 PM
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I think overall, there's just way less of a need to settle down, and the social pressure to do so has dropped significantly. Everything around us moves exponentially faster than we used to. People are becoming more independent and putting their needs first. A spouse isn't needed. These are good things. As a result, marriage & birth rates are plummeting. This is good. I think people should start being true to themselves and going after what they want. Whether that's casual sex, dating or marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:56 PM
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88th
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 01:43 AM
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I don't think broke men ruined dating, as many broke men have, and will always, be successful with dating. I also don't think simply out earning someone is enough to qualify as stepping up. I think one of the main things that's changed has been women gaining equal financial/social freedom, and with that came different expectations. These aren't the days of old anymore. Let's call it for what it is: People have access to potential mates at a level that I honestly think our internal biology wasn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:17 AM
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In my eyes, it's better to try & discover the truth, than not try & wish you did when it's too late. I appreciate the good luck. I wish the same to you in whatever challenges you take on. You got this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:02 AM
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Yep! It will be public for two reasons: I'm not afraid to put myself out there. If it brings hope to even one person who has gone through similar things I have in the past, it's worth it 1000 times over.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 02:17 AM
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The journey of a late bloomer is hard, but I know it will be special as long as I continue to improve. I'm 33 at the time of documenting this. I will definitely return to this later. Current goals on the radar: Improve style Improve photo skills w/ a photography class Taking my real estate investing mentorship Cutting bf down to 15% Starting up my YT channel to document my personal journey Grow my social group in Seattle to 1k members (500 currently) Have more dates + sexual encounters Got a lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 11:54 PM
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You said so much in so little.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:30 PM
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My date yesterday told me that I was way more handsome in person. Her reserved demeanor opened up immediately when she saw me. She said I need better pictures. Guess who’s signing up for photography class🥲 But really, it just goes to show the whole 80/20 thing is way more about rating pictures. Most men don’t take good ones (including me) thus low results. If you want more matches, gotta improve the packaging. Let’s get it. 💪🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 05:22 PM
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How many women have you talked to this year?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:32 PM
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I don't think it would be that bad, BUT I think it would be helpful for the person submitting their info to clarify what they're looking for (casual sex/relationships) so people can modify their advice accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 10:09 PM
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I think a self improvement thread would be a solid addition here. Like a “Self improvement Saturday” where people can submit their details and what they’d like help with. Then people can give actionable insights to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 12:43 AM
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Unfortunately, as much as this sucks, this is only one layer. None of this really tells us about how they’re interacting with women as far as flirting, asking them out, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 10:13 PM
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It’s not like every woman decided to be entitled one day. Sure, there are some, but that’s not all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:29 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:46 AM
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Met a girl at my social event I put together. We hit it off quickly. Cranked up the assertiveness, and now we're on date #2. I'm doing things now that I would've never imagined in the past. For the men out there who are genuinely working on themselves, keep going. You're progressing faster than you think. If you ever feel frustrated when trying to improve your dating life (or life in general), just remember blaming women is easier than... Going to therapy Crying (healing) Facing anxieties Being …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 08:06 PM
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I don't think chasing women is a waste of time. I like women. I want them. I'm sexually attracted to them. I want them in my life. I will do what it takes to get what I want. If it wasn't for sex, sure, men probably wouldn't bother. However, that's just a scenario that will never happen because human nature has created a sexual dynamic between us. Women wanting you pursue isn't a bad thing. It very likely makes them feel feminine, and that's ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:39 PM
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It doesn't really tell me anything about men or women. If she's having sex with you, she clearly finds you attractive. Why complicate it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:36 PM
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If this is the route you choose, that's fine. However, you can't create new possibilities if you aren't willing to explore new possibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:42 PM
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If every woman looks the same way, then the problem much more likely that you're viewing them with the same lens. Instead of presuming they find you disgusting, why not approach them and see if it's true? It's easier to avoid the anxiety by assuming no woman wants you to approach them. It's much harder to face your anxiety & discover the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 10:06 PM
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So if you haven't tried to approach women, why did you spin up a narrative that isn't true?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:40 PM
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How many times did women call you a creep when you approached? Be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:34 PM
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How many times have you tried this before you guaranteed that this would happen with everyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:19 PM
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If the lesson here is: We like what we like and we don’t need to justify everything — I agree. With that said, there are skinny men who like big women, and short women who like short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:09 AM
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96th
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 05:16 AM
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A 7 is relative to different women tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:17 PM
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I saw a ppd thread where a guy thought he was looksmaxxed. Women and men offered advice around losing weight, styling hair, etc. Said advice was rejected because he thought there was nothing else he could do, or that it wouldn't matter. Just goes to show others can't help you unless you help yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:01 PM
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Hmmm… I think it has more to do with capitalism taking advantage of men’s natural desires, and placating them to the point they don’t want to do anything difficult to get their sexual needs met.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:01 PM
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Why not just communicate like an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:43 AM
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Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 08:24 PM
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PPD Men locked themselves in their own cage & gave women the key. The problem is: Women never asked for the key.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:42 AM
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Yeah, the gender ratios here are absolutely not in a man’s favor lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:06 PM
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I moved here from Louisiana, and yeah, Seattle can be very insular in the social sense. I definitely find it harder to connect with people myself. With that said, I’m the fighting type, so now im working on building a new social meetup group. It already has 200+ members in 4 days, so that’s exciting. I think joining and consistently being part of communities is key. Long term, there probably comes a point where living here won’t make much economic sense. Given I can get a lot of house in many pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:04 PM
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I think it’s important to highlight that if men could get laid whenever they wanted without commitment the number of men seeking relationships likely would be smaller imo. I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 12:49 AM
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How about 'bussy'?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 02:05 AM
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Looks like he’s just being friendly. Sounds like you’re attracted to him, and it’s making you look for things that may not be there. Just chill and be cordial.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:51 AM
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PPD Men - Did you workout last week?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:45 AM
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She looked at another man while I was standing 50 feet behind her 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:20 PM
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Human nature is hypocritical, ugly and not meant to be logical. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you will free yourself from constantly questioning human behavior. Relationships are few and far in between for most people compared to hookups. Sex drive is a powerful force that doesn’t care about your marital status. Are you sure you really want a long term relationship? Why would women doing casual stuff on the side bother you if that’s not what you want anyway? Maybe you can take a similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 08:18 PM
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Both
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 04:34 PM
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We’re supposed to be desirable regardless of how we look, because women definitely don’t care about that stuff. It’s simple. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:37 AM
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I love how this post turned into middle age men getting roasted for completely avoidable stuff. This place is hilarious 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:34 AM
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The 7 steps cracked me up, not gonna lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:02 AM
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I recommend a therapist, brother. These are deeper problems that will hurt every area of your life without professional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:06 PM
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Is that women aren't honest, or is it that men won't listen?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:00 PM
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I'm someone who's lived most of his life without confidence. The only thing that fixes it? Doing what you're afraid of and achieving goals. Yes, early conditioning from supporting parents is always valuable. For many, that's enough to build a solid foundation. However, just because you didn't have that doesn't mean you can't build it. Confidence is built through effort, not the outcome (you can't control that).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:35 AM
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