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In any environment soon as a man turns the conversation sexual, just ask him for money. He’ll either leave you alone or give you the money. Win win situation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:59 AM
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Why don’t more men make more money?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 07:32 PM
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This is what I was thinking. All throughout history dating was always shaped by what men thought was a beautiful woman (hour glass figure, slim, long hair, nice butt and breasts, young face etc). Women just had to deal with it and did all sorts of things to become more “beautiful”. Now women are doing the same, emphasizing what physical traits (Tall, big D, muscular, etc) they find beautiful/attractive on men and they don’t like it. It doesn’t feel so good when you’re treated as not enough, espe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:33 PM
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Fuck no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:48 AM
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You guys and your fantasies. The hot slim Stacy just so happens to hit it off with the balding 5’2 janitor. Lmaooo how pathetic. To answer your question hell to the fuck no. Looks matter and no woman wants to be surprised on a date with a grotesque gremlin looking man. Personality matters once attraction is established.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:21 AM
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This is still wanting women to lower their standards. They’re still lower standards that you want women to have whether they’re realistic or not. And who is the judge of them being realistic? Some random guy on reddit? The only men who even entertain this idea are the sexually unappealing and unattractive men. Many Men have this idea that most people should be attracted to most ppl of the opposite sex and that’s not how attraction, appeal or arousal works, I blame history for this. Most men neve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:02 PM
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Size always matters, 6+
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:10 AM
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The women that have this expectation are very attractive and as usual these men want the very attractive women to lower her standards for him. If he offers 50/50 upfront, those very attractive women are out the door so they want to shame those women with the hopes that she’ll offer 50/50 instead. This also allows for the men to maintain their dating pool size.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:19 PM
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This is one of the lamest most pathetic things I’ve ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:50 PM
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Poor looks (bad hair, ugly teeth, facial blemishes, too fat, lack of muscle definition, no sense of style) has no charm, charisma or passion, can’t flirt properly (this is a big one). Awkward, socially anxious, neurotic, low self esteem (these are mostly for the younger men) Those are some reasons they’re not sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:07 AM
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Get some sex appeal and you’ll be lusted after. The average man doesn’t exude any type of sexiness. That alone will put a man above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:57 AM
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You’re just not sexually attractive, simple. It could be anything from your looks, your mannerisms, or attitude. Also women are typically cordial and/or kind to average men. Men see that as being invisible because they strongly desire women while women view it as indifference because the desire is not as strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:26 AM
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Just because no woman wants you doesn’t mean women are chasing 5% of men. That’s what this post is really about, being unwanted and undesirable and trying to blame women for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:17 AM
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Look your best (clear skin, style your hair to fit your face, no receding hairlines or balding if so cut it, white straight teeth, work on your smile), have a semi active lifestyle, have interesting stories to tell, cool hobbies, dress your best (be stylish), be very charming and charismatic, know how and when to escalate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:42 PM
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I have some friends that like bald men so it’s not the end of the world. You just gotta do what everyone else does when they have unattractive features, put more emphasis on the attractive features you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:38 PM
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Probably because you portrayed yourself as confident. No woman wants a (for lack of better term) bitch. It’s arguably the worst thing a man can be in the dating world. A lot of Women will take a confident asshole over a polite pushover that displays anything a little less than ultra confident. The goal is to find a man in the middle tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:06 AM
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I think this op needs a little more substance. What exactly are we debating? We can’t debate your anecdotal claims. What propaganda are you referring to? Is there also propaganda in the countries you’ve been to but since you benefit from it, you don’t view it as propaganda?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:42 PM
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Sounds like an extremely miserable world that most of us probably wouldn’t want to live in
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:14 PM
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Men’s dating strategy has always been to somehow pressure/shame/coerce/guilt women into being with men. The wall is 1 example of that. Single woman throughout history have always been painted as the worst thing a woman could be, right next to being a hoe. What modern dating shows is that at women’s own discretion and the pressure dwindling, women would rather be single than deal with the average man and that number grows every day. Look throughout history, the patriarchy and traditional dating w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:10 AM
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Right so trying to extrapolate the normal activities in every day dating onto the casual sex scene is being disingenuous. We’re specifically talking about those who participate in the casual sex world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:52 AM
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Perhaps your world. Casual sex is a small percentage of dating anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:35 AM
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It’s only unusual to ppl that don’t actively participate in casual sex which is arguably 90% of the men whining in this sub. It’s completely normal that some ppl are arousing but not compatible in everyday life. This also exists vice versa. That’s what men here call a beta. They don’t have to rationalize anything because they’re getting exactly what they want. Casual sex with a sexually attractive man, big dick, and no attachments , no having to be his therapist, clean up after him, cook for him…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:26 AM
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A woman having casual sex with a man solely means he’s sexually attractive. It doesn’t automatically mean he’s compatible for a relationship nor that she wants a relationship with the man. A relationship needs sexual attraction and compatibility. Casual sex only meets half that criteria. Relationships actually have higher standards than casual sex because ideally you have to be attractive and compatible which most ppl can’t meet both. Most women who actively participate in casual sex have experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:28 PM
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No. Women desire men just not how men desire women. There’s a risk to reward assessment when women deal with men sexually. Men keep trying to impose their sexuality onto women and that’s the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:39 PM
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I never argued otherwise. My point is if men want women to put in effort then he’s not needed and she’ll just masturbate. They can make themselves cum without having to deal with the downsides of having sex with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:38 PM
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They’re pathetically selfish, entitled, bitter, on the spectrum and insecure all wrapped in a pretty bow. All of this nonsense goes out the window when you mention an act to them that they’re not interested in doing even though she did it with previous partners. You can say that you pegged your ex’s and he needs to bend over and let her go to town. Or that she watched all her exs fuck other men and he needs to get on Grindr and get busy. Then the excuses will come.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 04:49 PM
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If telling themselves that is what helps them sleep at night then hey 🤷‍♀️. I actually don’t care how to describe their social skills Because either way the outcome is the same. They’re on no one’s dating radar whether their social skills are low, poor, or “nonexistent”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 03:42 PM
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I guess you can say they have very low social skills and to men that have zero social skills that can be seen as socially fit. I’ve personally never seen a man with social skills be a jester because they know how to read the room and just move onto the next woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:01 PM
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My response is clear. Men are bigger losers/failures for being unchosen because being single to them is a death sentence. It’s not necessarily because they’re single. Society doesn’t care they’re single but they care when they make their singleness everyone’s problem because ppl get hurt. Women on the other hand accept being single and move tf on. As you can see I commented on the auto mod because I wasn’t necessarily debating against your op. Just mentioning why men are currently considered fai…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:24 PM
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The rock thing was an exaggeration. Point is they don’t fit in socially with most people who date. Their problem is they want to make their unattractiveness someone’s fault. It’s no one’s fault. Accept you’re unattractive and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:16 PM
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Because ppl that actually date know there’s nuance to it. No one cares what an incel has to say about dating, not even other men. He barely can get a date clearly but yet is the expert.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:08 PM
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You know you’re right. Incels are not attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:04 PM
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If you’re attractive and can arouse a woman yes there will always be at least 1 woman out there for you no matter if you’re good or bad. Attractive men always have options, it’s just a matter of if they’re good or bad options. Elliot Rodgers was very attractive and yet he was an incel weirdo. Incel men are just are the worst to be around and ppl would rather they go away. Not even incel women want to be around them. They’re the lowest of the low in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:43 PM
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Most of these guys are unattractive so they have no other option than to play jester in the hopes of getting a crumb of p*ssy. Then they blame women like it’s their fault they look like a troll doll and have the social skills of a rock.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:27 PM
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Unattractive men should be unselected. Attractive men should be selected. Whether they’re good or bad is irrelevant to attraction and arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:14 PM
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Absolutely. Women would honestly encourage men in general to instead please themselves and leave women completely out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:08 PM
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Exactly, so why would women put effort into something they can do and enjoy alone? If men don’t want to put effort into making a woman cum then she really doesn’t care to have sex with him. He’s effectively sexually useless to her. Then men would complain (like they do now) that women don’t want to have sex with men. Well yes because men don’t want to put effort into pleasing her so it’s pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 01:23 PM
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Women putting effort in to making herself orgasm involves literally herself and the man is honestly not needed. He can watch her I guess. How many men would be okay with that arrangement? Probably not many since they’re not getting anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 12:21 PM
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Men took away women’s autonomy FIRST and women just wanted that back. Men on the other hand berate, shame, and sometimes physically attack women solely for not dating them. That’s my point and it’s not the same. Your jealous rant about men that are desirable just screams bitterness and it has nothing to do with my comment. My point is Men can be single in silence and no one would call them failures, but they wont. They create 1000s of post on Reddit, Twitter and Tik Tok, shaming women for being …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:21 AM
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I think men are considered losers for being unchosen because they make being unchosen everyone’s problem and they make it seem like being single is the worse thing that could ever happen. It’s not necessarily because they’re unchosen. They have a lot of anger, bitterness and resentment towards women and usually lash out about it. That’s why currently in dating unchosen men are seen as losers/failures. I understand incel men want that narrative to be flipped which is why this post exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:46 AM
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Who’s labeling these men as decent and “the best men”? It’s clearly not the woman. Unconfident cowardly men are not the best or decent enough for the relationship they desire, that’s what’s not clicking to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:33 PM
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Nothing as long as they don’t talk to me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:21 PM
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Another reason why women should avoid insecure men 🤢
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:39 AM
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Since when have men been so insecure about their own attraction? I must only be around men that know they’re attractive because this is so odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:33 AM
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I just told you why , you’re just being pedantic. Also yes , attractive, masculine, nice, caring, exciting are a few off the top of my head. Most socially adept people learn this in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:24 PM
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Because if they’re being asked what they want in a man, they’re going to say what they want in a man. Nice being a baseline doesn’t mean you have to negate it when having a conversation about what you like in a partner. Being attractive and good looking is also a baseline and many women mention that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:08 PM
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Because if they’re being asked what they want in a man, they’re going to say what they want in a man. Nice being a baseline doesn’t mean you have to negate it when having a conversation about what you like in a partner. Ppl are not inanimate objects like wheels on car so the comparison is futile and def shows how linear some men think. That also explains the disconnect between “nice guys” and women. Being attractive and good looking is also a baseline and many women mention that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 05:06 PM
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You didn’t refute anything. None of the unwanted undesirable men here have yet to substantially prove that being a criminal helps you in dating. You’re just another bitter unloved troll who lives for resenting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:22 PM
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Sounds like they need to vent to their friends because no one on the internet cares when you have to insult others to get your point across.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:16 PM
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It is a baseline, ppl that you meet on a regular basis are typically nice. When you go the doctor and check in with the receptionist When you work with your co workers When you meet your long lost cousin
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 03:18 PM
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Rarely is a man just airing out their grievances about dating. Especially on reddit, complaining easily turns to insults, belittling, and entitlement once you let these complainers talk long enough. Also, if it’s constantly, ppl in general hate complainers. Either try and fix your situation or accept it and move on. Ppl have very little tolerance for ppl complaining all the time and especially men complaining all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:55 PM
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I understand that the only men who truly believe that being nice is a good strategy for dating are the socially inept men and those men are generally unattractive. Most of the socially adept learned in school that being nice is a baseline for all relationships (friends, co workers, associates, classmates, family etc). Being nice is not sufficient for any relationship in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:37 PM
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I mean I’m not obligated to relay any info to him and I want to have a good time. I can have a good time with men I don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 03:39 PM
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Exactly because a lot of men feel very entitled after paying for 3+ dinner dates and I’m not obligated to tell you that I already knew upfront I didn’t like you but I’m only here to kill time and for free food.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 02:40 PM
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Ppl don’t get into relationships where there’s power dynamic and Considering men are free to leave relationships at their own discretion, I highly doubt that they’re in relationships with women calling shots. Just sounds like something you made up to justify your bitterness and resentment that you have towards women and dating. Your turn boo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 02:52 PM
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How you know the woman calls the shots? You’re basing that off of what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 02:14 PM
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That’s not really power if men are in control of it. I’d argue men have the power because the dating dynamics change based on how they approach dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:59 PM
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Women have no power. Men can stop pursuing women right this second at their own discretion and we wouldn’t be able to do anything about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:50 PM
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I read it and it’s smoke in mirrors. Your post assumes men that have attractive traits such as being charming, charismatic and funny are terrible for women in the long run because they never had to work on themselves. You’re also assuming men that are boring who lack attractive traits are better for women in the long run. You use the word “could’ve”, he could’ve turned out great. He also could’ve turned out terrible. He barely acts like he likes the woman because he takes you a cheap date and do…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:55 AM
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This goal men have of trying to claim charming, charismatic and overall attractive men as being awful but portray boring (unattractive) men as the greatest thing since sliced bread just reeks of envy and jealousy. This is just another rehashed post of “choose the unattractive guy over the attractive guy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:33 AM
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I’ve done this by saying “you’re probably just unattractive” and they didn’t want to believe it and began berating me. Not worth the trouble, find out you’re unattractive on your own
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:15 PM
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Every woman’s 10% of men they’re attracted to is not the same. Also, not every woman cares about looks. I have some friends like that but me personally if you’re ugly I don’t even see you. Another thing is when asking women about their preferences you have to specific. If you want a woman to desire you strictly for your looks then say that when asking advice. Don’t ask “how to get a woman to like me”. Ask “how to get a woman to sexually desire me solely off of my looks”. You’ll get better answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:37 PM
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You know someone can be nice and charismatic? Being nice is an ideal baseline for all ppl in all walks of life (Dating, Career, Friendships, Family etc.). No matter what I always want to meet a nice person whether they’re a potential date, potential employer, long lost family member, new friend, co worker etc. The problem is that being nice is basically the only option self proclaimed nice guys have because nothing else is desirable about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:04 AM
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Yes it’s not their fault a man is undesirable. Just like it’s not men’s fault a woman is undesirable. That’s just what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:06 PM
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Well this circles back to the OP about why women aren’t happy that men are trying to become attractive. Because they take their anger and resentment out on women and yes that’s pointless because it’s not women’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:47 PM
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I mean it’s no one else’s fault you were/are undesirable so being resentful and angry at others is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:31 PM
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No just improve yourself without being angry and resentful. Pretty simple. At the end of the day no one really cares that you’re improving yourself to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:31 PM
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Women wouldn’t even care if it didn’t also come with bitterness, resentment, disrespect, emotional outbursts, anger and in extreme cases assault. Seems like men can’t work on their attractiveness to women discreetly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:09 PM
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Why is the opposite of boring always asshole/player? There’s like an entire middle ground. You can feel the resentment and jealousy that a lot of these men have because they’re boring and undesirable but need something and someone to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:54 PM
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No, I find most men to be okay/neutral/average looking. When a man is good looking, cute or handsome it definitely stands out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:57 AM
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The problem is they’re not desirable. It’s basically a slap in the face to be undesirable to the people you desire most. Their only option is to be needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:51 PM
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Well a few countries have legalized prostitution and I know in some of those countries men are still lonely and struggling to date even while having legal prostitutes available so it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Either way I really don’t care what happens. I just hope to see some advocacy very soon and less whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 10:45 AM
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Some countries have legalized prostitution, so men can use that as a starting point. Men need to advocate for this. And the point of advocacy is for people to promote their ideas for what they believe will be a benefit to themselves and society. So men should probably get on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:41 AM
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Nope if that were true most women would be your definition of a “pick me” . That’s what most women desire anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:53 PM
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And they’re treated just like any other woman. They’re not given the world
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:27 PM
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There actually is. But the point is the pick me’s that do get picked do not get the world handed to them. If they did most women would be a “pick me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:22 PM
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Women have nothing to do with this so your little rant is irrelevant. Additionally that’s the point of advocating. Men need to get enough of their own gender together and promote how prostitution can be a benefit to themselves and society. If they can’t do that then clearly it’s not a big enough issue for ppl to support them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:17 PM
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I’ve yet to see a man treat a “pick me” right and I’m highly certain most women would agree. OP mentions that men “would” give the world to a pick me but if that’s the case why aren’t they doing it right now? There’s a plethora of pick me women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:58 PM
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I would imagine it means the man isn’t sexually attractive or doesn’t exude sex appeal but that makes sense in a friendship anyway. Being sexually attractive typically means you present yourself in a sexual manner to attract someone. I believe the guy most likely isn’t doing that with his friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:19 PM
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I hope to see some advocacy for legal prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:56 PM
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It sounds like the solution is that men should pay for it. They should advocate for getting it legalized. Men get what they want and women don’t have to deal with a man who’s just using her for her body. But instead The man lies and deceives and then women are blamed for the man’s deception. Women have to be subjected to dealing with men who are only interested in fulfilling their own desire while simultaneously ignoring the women’s desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:42 PM
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Women say this all the time I think this is fine but both parties should be on the same page when entering relationships. This is why relationships become unstable and eventually enter a dead bedroom. You should make that known to your potential partner upfront so they can decide if that’s the relationship they want to enter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:27 PM
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Maybe RP theories are the exceptions to the rule. Again y’all pick and choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:28 AM
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RP picks and chooses when to apply their theories and they ignore the real life examples that disprove their narrative. Jeff Bezos a high value man who settled down with a single mother in her 50s. Jason Momoa a high value man, married a woman who is a single mother and older than him. Hugh Jackman a high value man, married an older woman. Shannon Sharpe got duped by a teenager thinking she actually wanted him and she only wanted money and a lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:20 AM
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Men will say this while simultaneously wanting their woman to genuinely desire them. You either get lower standards or genuine desire, you can’t have both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:21 PM
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Did you break your arm with that reach?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:44 PM
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The point is men have control over their own actions. You don’t have to chase women or live for their validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 05:30 PM
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Men willingly base their entire lives around the approval of women and hate that women use that to their advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:33 PM
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Women are definitely not taken seriously when mentioning their boundaries or standards. Men are constantly offended and feel the need to shame, guilt and insult women. The only difference is that it holds no weight because women will always support women and women will go after what she wants. Men don’t support each other the same and they’re expecting women to be the supportive ones which is not going to happen, at least not on a large scale. Also, they care more about validation from women tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 11:53 AM
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Struggling to date and get women to genuinely like them has a huge effect on the male psyche. They resent women and take out that frustration on basically every woman
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:54 PM
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Think you need to tell OP that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 04:02 PM
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They care otherwise they wouldn’t mention it constantly 🤷🏾‍♀️ keep the same energy all around
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:25 PM
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Yes. Men happily rejoice at the fact that men built the world even if they themselves contributed nothing to building the world. They’ll take credit. So keep the same energy for the men that’s also destroying the world. You gotta take the good with the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 02:37 PM
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Women want an attractive man. Attractive ppl attract ppl. Unattractive ppl attract no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:44 PM
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I remember a couple months ago on Twitter. Men were using Grok to remove women clothes in pictures they posted. On twitter there’s already tons of porn and naked women so it’s mind boggling and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:17 PM
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Because socially awkward men are generally unattractive. Attraction comes first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 01:50 PM
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The problem is they’re not only introverted but socially anxious and awkward. Those traits work against you in the context of dating because dating is a social experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 06:37 PM
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Women are dating unattractive men. You guys keep trying to put all women into 1 basket based on whatever argument you’re trying to make. Tomorrow we’ll see a post on how women are only getting in relationships with men they’re not attracted to and how they’re all beta males.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:37 PM
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I mean if you were only good to get a specific outcome then you were never “good” to begin with. You’re no different than those other guys you just don’t have the privilege and courage to act upon your bad behavior and you’re envious. If a woman was to get with a guy who was only good to get an outcome, it wouldn’t end well anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:17 PM
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That’s not always true otherwise men wouldn’t complain about being the beta husband who she’s not attracted to. More than enough women don’t think with their lower parts but y’all focus on the few that do because that’s what you desire from women. Men want to be that object of desire but unfortunately many can’t. Some women get with men for their attraction and some get with men for their values. The goal is to find someone that has both but if we actually did that, most ppl wouldn’t even be her…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:09 PM
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Sounds like they’re just dating men that are attractive and that can include toxic men. Attraction boils down to what you desire and arousal. (Things you have no control over) Attraction doesn’t necessarily match your values (things you do have control over). If a man is relying on being “good” he’s going to have a hard time because it’s a neutral position, it doesn’t do anything in the context of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 10:56 AM
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Staying single is an option
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:03 PM
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I didn’t realize struggling with women would cause men to spiral so much, these posts just keep more insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 11:12 AM
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Some women definitely keep their options open and have rosters, that’s what dating is for. Until someone mentions that they want to be exclusive then they’re most likely dating around. Women rank men based on how useful men are to her personally and how good they make her feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:42 AM
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My mind goes to sex after interacting with him multiple times on multiple different occasions. I Gotta make sure I’m comfortable around him before I even consider sex. When I see an attractive man , my initial thought is wow this man looks amazing, and I just admire and appreciate sometimes compliment him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:57 PM
1

Being too awkward and shy. Lack of charm, wit spontaneity and charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:28 PM
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If you look good enough anything’s possible
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:24 PM
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Probably biological Women don’t have a sexual urge for most men like men do for women. I thought we knew this already. Women don’t even find a lot of men sexually attractive. This post is basically saying how you’ll use a woman at her lowest in the hopes that you can obtain sexual gratification from her. That shows how much men are motivated by sex, that’ll they connive their way in the hopes to have sex. Women don’t have the motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:35 PM
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For me it’s the man’s looks and I solely mean his face. (Proportional facial features, no significant blemishes, not balding or receding hairline, no long beard, nice teeth). If you don’t look good enough for me in the face, then it’s an automatic no. If he pushes then I’ll entertain him for a while and get to know his personality. Once that threshold is passed, he has to be charming, and/or charismatic and extroverted. I don’t like awkward shy introverted men. These lean into the personality tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:51 PM
2

I’ve yet to see this men not approaching phenomenon. I highly doubt the men that are confident, charming and extroverted are participating in this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 08:52 PM
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Men can begin to criticize women for their performance but we know they won’t because that’ll probably lower their chances of having sex which they can’t afford to do. Also, I think many women don’t care about pleasing men sexually because sex isn’t as important to women as it is to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:24 PM
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I’m not approaching a man that I don’t find attractive, that’s just not happening. Men can follow the same rules they choose not to and that’s their prerogative
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:58 PM
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I’m happy to approach, just have to find a man worthy of being approached. Women aren’t going to approach a regular joe if that’s what men are expecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:33 AM
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I agree with you. Plus women risk a lot more once she’s pregnant. If a man doesn’t love you more then he could potentially leave you while pregnant possibly jobless. Men aren’t as vulnerable in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:32 PM
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This argument can be made for women too. The man should be more into the woman and she won’t have to lift a finger or question her position in his life, he’ll make it well known. Naturally the women will just mirror the same energy. Only 1 person benefits from this unbalanced dynamic either way so it’s not healthy whatsoever. Ideally both parties should be equally into each other and put in equal effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:34 PM
4

What are some real life examples that prove your point because this fantasy island you made up isn’t it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 09:25 PM
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Women standards include the “full girlfriend treatment” upfront so he wouldn’t even be her BF in the 1st place without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 11:54 PM
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No I wouldn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:16 PM
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I mean Chad doesn’t have to ask for advice and that’s what a lot of the men here compare themselves to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:39 PM
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If you have to ask for advice, you already lost
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:29 PM
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The woman questions if the man even likes her with low effort and investment. Women should never go on a date with a low effort man because a low effort man shows upfront that he doesn’t take the woman seriously and just wants to waste her time. If the man wants to be low effort and investment that’s fine but stay to yourself. He should stop asking women out and stop wasting ppl’s time. No one wants to be around some low effort low investment and low value sad man. Not even men worth a damn want…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:40 PM
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If that was true then your entire post would be pointless because low effort/investment would be standard
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:46 PM
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Just like women rarely get positive returns with low investment/effort men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:13 PM
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This works both ways. A man that truly desires you will spend money, and put a lot of effort into trying to impress the woman. We see it all the time. Low effort and low investment just means the man doesn’t genuinely like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:04 PM
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Probably not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 06:42 PM
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I tolerate all approaches as long as they’re respectful but a guy I would say yes to is a guy with a cute face, not bald or receding hairline, not fat, No beards, some muscles, avg height at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:33 PM
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I personally don’t care where especially if he’s my type. If he’s not my type, I’ll just politely say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:04 PM
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Either earn more money or Get muscular and become extremely charismatic and charming. You basically light up the room when you walk in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:53 PM
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Why don’t these men mention to the woman whatever sexual fantasy upfront? It seems they never care about these things until she mentions it which screams insecurity & jealousy. Comparing to women, women usually expect certain things upfront. They don’t necessarily care what you did with the ex. For example some women expect money to be spent on them in a specific time frame and in their head they already have a barometer. I think if men came into the relationship (or fwb, casual etc) with the ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 09:06 PM
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This whole post reeks of bitterness from someone who probably can’t get a date. You’re just looking for someone to take your frustrations out on
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:13 PM
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Fault means someone is responsible for a wrongdoing. It’s no one’s fault if a man can’t get a date. Someone being denied a date is not a wrongdoing. If a woman gets “used” this implies she was led to believe 1 thing and the outcome didn’t happen how she was led to believe it would happen. This can be considered a wrongdoing depending on circumstances and context.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 09:48 PM
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I believe the biggest problem with settling is sex. Men advocate for women to settle so they can get through the door but they never think about what happens once they do get through the door. That woman is not having sex with you or at the very best it’ll be duty sex like once a year. Men think women have high standards for nothing but status, ego and to show off to her friends but a good chunk of those standards is for our sexual attraction to the man and that’s just something you really can’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:08 PM
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I thought men don’t like using their money and resources to attract women? It makes them feel like they’re being used and not genuinely liked or appreciated. Now we’re saying men are the prize because they can accumulate resources to attract women, hmmmmmmmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:09 PM
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The looksmatch thing is really nonsensical. There’s no objective way to determine one’s “looksmatch” so that makes the whole thing BS. It’s just a way for men to play victim because they feel entitled to women they’re attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:45 AM
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I always have a good time when I go on a date. When I’m on a date and having a good time I’m comfortable, conversation is flowing, he seems interested in my life by asking questions. I would say what determines if it turns into a 2nd date is if there’s romantic chemistry. I’m not sure if there’s a lot of signs to determine if that chemistry is there or not. I believe you’ll feel when it’s right.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 02:46 PM
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I don’t think it’ll work for unattractive men. Being a jerk will definitely make things worse. Also sounds like your friend was way too over invested in someone he barely even knew or spent time with. That’s a turn off. I think men put too much stake in being “nice” when that’s just a baseline of how you should treat other ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 11:38 AM
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To answer the title, no I don’t it’s proportionate. There’s more women who desire a big 🍆 compared to the amount of men actually who have that (6+ inches). I do believe women like the idea of a big 🍆 and not the reality plus it’s a way to make men feel insecure about themselves which some women get off on
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:59 AM
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Men once again advocating for women to lower their standards and be with beta men they don’t like
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:40 PM
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She probably just wanted to give you a chance. Men go on and on about lowering standards and giving men a chance before being shot down, well here you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 03:54 PM
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It’s just a long drawn out smoke in mirrors way for men that are jealous of “chad” to blame their lack of desirability on women. Why else do you think they scream from the rooftops for women to lower their standards and be with men that they don’t find attractive? That’s the only way a lot of them would get a banging looking woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 11:32 PM
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I personally like a more stylish man so yes I would still care despite everything else
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:26 PM
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Because it’s exciting. There are men that enjoy that stuff too. Men that have a lot of motion absolutely post about it on social media. These are the men that are attractive to a lot of women because they’re exciting, social and fun. If a woman has to neg her man to get out the house that just means they’re not compatible. She likes to go out and he doesn’t. I personally love an extroverted man who loves to go out. Life is too short and I don’t really need a partner if we’ll just stay home all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 04:34 PM
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There’s no objective way to determine one’s “looks-match” so that already makes their argument flawed. If Billy fails to attract any women then technically all women are out of his league just like how if Sandra can’t attract Chad, then Chad is out of her league. But Billy’s failure to attract any woman is of course women’s fault. They just think it’s unfair that Sandra can probably get a decent man while Billy can’t get anyone. That’s no one’s fault, it’s just the fact that men desire women mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:56 PM
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If you’re also attractive then yes. Your dating success is based on how attractive you are, not how good you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 04:05 AM
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Now that I think about it, you’re right. Caring is just something positive about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:45 PM
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Yes women want the confident, extroverted, charming guy. This isn’t news. Also that man can be very caring. No one wants an insecure soft spoken (in my experience soft spoken guys are always very nervous) low confidence, low self esteem caring guy. His unattractive traits outweigh the attractive one (caring).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:57 PM
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Those guys are probably just not attractive to women or at least to the women they want. Even if those women overrate themselves that’s really their business because they can’t control who they think is attractive to them. Women want to be with someone attractive just like men do
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:43 PM
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Well you can’t control attraction and men want their woman to genuinely be attracted to them so I don’t see the problem here
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:39 PM
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They want a man who’s visually appealing, attractive personality and not a slop. Maybe those guys aren’t as attractive to women as you think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:06 PM
0

Nope, I would want to date around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 10:14 PM
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I think “approaching” just moved to instagram and Tik Tok DMs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 11:00 PM
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The only thing I don’t understand is men want to be genuinely desired but at the same time want women to lower their standards. If I lower my standards, I’m not naturally desiring you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:17 AM
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I think women don’t put effort into men they don’t like and it’s a guy who kind of won’t stop bugging her (I’ve been through this). If she likes you, she’s doing everything to impress the man. I’ve seen it and I’ve personally done it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:31 PM
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Not my type, too bulky and usually those men have the ugliest face which is a hell no for me. I like fit but not looking like the hulk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:23 PM
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I’ve never been abused but I tolerated annoyances from men that weren’t handsome. Meeting a handsome man is rare in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:14 PM
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I would assume because they think a beautiful woman should be with a good looking man. There are women (such as myself) that believe looks matter the most and Personality matters once the looks threshold is passed. There are also women who believe that looks doesn’t matter and personality is the most important (my friends are like this) so it also depends on the type of woman judging.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:57 PM
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It’s fun. Meeting new ppl/learning about new ppl is fun. Trying out restaurants and activities with someone you have romantic intentions for is fun. Then while you’re on the date, there’s flirting, banter and escalation, sometimes you get butterflies. The whole experience can be exhilarating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 12:54 AM
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They don’t genuinely want a solution or compromise just to complain and play victim. Eventually Darwinism will catch up with those ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 08:34 PM
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NYC
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:05 PM
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A lot of women in my city spin plates and date multiple ppl very casually but that’s pretty normal here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:55 PM
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B, I like being social with friends so.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 05:12 PM
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Women also have eyes and they’re clearly not for you so yeah. Looks matter bcus women want to be with someone at least average looking since sex is involved. Looks contributes to a man’s overall attractiveness. That along with height, charm, masculinity etc. Men have more avenues to be considered attractive to women so if you have absolutely zero options then hey I’m sorry to hear that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:40 AM
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Maybe you’re not as good looking as you believe you are and women aren’t going to put up with an ugly man just bcus. Men put up with ugly women bcus they want sexual access as I said before. You guys pick and choose when women have these options. Men go on and on about how they could fuck women they’re not attracted to and they fuck zone women and women only have sexual options etc. So those “options” aren’t true options bcus according to men, women options are just sexual options.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 11:57 PM
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Well your looks and height are apart of you so. Men are not less shallow, men get with women solely for sexual access and they put all their cards or most of their cards into a woman’s beauty compared to women who spread their cards out more evenly with looks, height, charm, personality etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:41 PM
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Love is very conditional and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Men aren’t out here unconditionally loving women they deem ugly so yeah. Also you do have control over your education and social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:18 PM
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So my point still stands
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:35 AM
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A lot of men do a lot of conniving things just to get sex, and women are the victims. With that in mind it turns women completely off. Wanting sex itself isn’t the problem, it’s what they do to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:45 AM
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Whether they do it before or after the relationship the outcome is the same , ending up alone. That’s my point. Not every man is desperate and pathetic enough to have a woman to the point where they’re dealing with nonsense such as this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 10:09 AM
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Projecting your insecurities onto someone else and wallowing is what ruins the relationship and that’s my point. They end up alone bcus no one wants to deal with that. It sounds like the men are projecting their insecurities and wallowing before even making it to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:17 AM
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And then they get dumped when their partner finds out they’re insecure and not working on themselves just like the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 04:41 AM
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Their consequence is ending up alone
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 12:15 AM
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I think men are allowed to have insecurities but ppl expect them to be working on them at the very least. For example many insecure short men wallow in their insecurities and make being short their entire personality. No one wants to be around that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:32 PM
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I think that’s totally fair. I was just saying why some women do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:58 AM
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Women share details with their friends because they enjoy gossip. Yes size matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:39 AM
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Never heard of it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:22 PM
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It’s just overlooked and she focuses on what she likes about the man. Everyone does this because no one is perfect. Everyone (or at least the overwhelming majority of ppl) is going to have something in their partner that they won’t like and tolerate it because their good qualities/traits outweigh the bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 12:33 AM
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Yes. Also the height thing depends. If you’re good looking with a fit body and charming, social, masculine then the height will just be over looked.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 03:34 AM
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Well that’s what happens when you take away women’s autonomy in dating and relationships and then give it back to them. Now the playing field is completely leveled and there are no handicaps for anyone. We’re basically in a no holds barred match but for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:09 PM
3

Based on an outdated study
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 03:06 PM
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I absolutely agree. Their complaints really are just noise. In real life they’re not on anyone’s radar and just taking up space on the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:12 PM
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They want to impose their sexuality on women. Men will literally have sex with anything and they want women to be the same. Desperate Men will take any relationship as long as they have the possibility of getting sex and women don’t work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:10 PM
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The obsession with Chad is astonishing honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:02 PM
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Men complain right now about women being whores and having a high body count but honestly it’s really the unattractive men no one cares about it or likes that’s complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:28 PM
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The point is women are moving on their own accord. What unattractive men think and believe is completely irrelevant because they’ll shame you either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:26 PM
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No it seems like unattractive men are upset that they have no handicap to help them and have to rely solely on themselves to get someone to like them. There’s no more pressure from society and women can make their own money. Also, that’s not how sexual attraction works and as usual men are trying to impose their sexuality onto women. Avg and below avg women standards are right where they need to be because they’re based on what turns her on and what she’s comfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:15 PM
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You can’t win either way. If women were to have a bunch of sex with every man, they’d be complaining about women’s body count and women being whores. At the end of the day ppl will have sexual relations with ppl they want. If no one wants you, sad to say you’re probably unwanted and that’s no one’s fault. It’s just what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:33 AM
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If you struggle socially, that alone makes you below average. Most of the men that struggle to date (in this sub and in real life) usually are socially inept and/or isolated. Dating is a social activity you have to socialize. The average person is not a socially awkward/inept/isolated person that can’t read the room or understand social cues. We all learned this in grade school.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 05:56 PM
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I think men should ask “what are women sexually attracted to” instead of “what are women attracted to” because that will give them the answer they are looking for. As men constantly stress, sex is important to them, ok then you have to be direct. If you ask women what they are attracted to they will give you an overall general picture and sexual attraction is a small factor of that. Men are looking for what is sexual attractive to women and that’s different. Personally I think most men aren’t se…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 03:53 PM
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All I will say is you can definitely start lying , no one is stopping you. I personally don’t think it will help because if it did, men wouldn’t be complaining about struggling so much because men are already lying in the dating market. Things like height and income being the biggest lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:53 PM
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I guess they can’t believe it because the women don’t want to have sex with them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:52 PM
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I mean down the road can be tomorrow, the point is you’ll eventually have to deal with it later. If that’s not incentive enough for you, then don’t do it. Look at the dating market now, men already lie and it hasn’t helped anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:33 PM
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I believe the incentive is not have to deal with repercussions later because of the lie. I think lying will just cause problems down the road. I rather avoid them upfront by being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 01:18 PM
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I think men and women just value different things in a partner and that’s fine. If you want hookups or fwb then you should go after that. Just like if women value a relationship she has to find a man that also values that too. This trying to convince others to conform to values isn’t going to help anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 12:29 PM
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Women absolutely do admit they care about attractiveness, looks, height, money. You constantly see videos upon videos and media posts of women admitting these things. Unfortunately this triggers men because they know they don’t fit the mold and they project their resentment and anger onto women. No one wants to really deal with that so there would be some women that hide it to not have to deal with the nonsense. If you haven’t seen it yet I’ll be the 1st to admit I like tall, cute, muscular, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:10 PM
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I always thought the idea behind “date men problem solved” is that the man never liked women to begin with and is more so an undercover gay man so he pretends to like women. A lot of women see on social media men being in a relationships with women but cheating on her with a man so that reinforces that idea. I don’t agree with the shaming but just explaining the mindset behind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:59 PM
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Well I’ve yet to see any male advocacy. Im not sure what MRA’s are but incels are definitely not getting any compassion from women. I know that for sure. They have too much of a bad rap sheet especially nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:58 AM
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Probably not at the moment and I believe that’s due to a lack of understanding of men’s issues and sometimes being taken for granted. If men were to begin to advocate for themselves this would help women have a better understanding of their issues. With a better understanding and less ignorance, they would be more willing to be supportive. As long as men are genuine, then the support from women would grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 12:10 AM
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I think ppl have compassion for men in their personal lives. I think if men are looking for compassion in general, they would have to start with providing compassion to their own first. Women will follow suit. We should see men in power, men at the top of the food chain and men that are players providing compassion to their fellow man, then I think we can get somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 11:53 PM
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A lot of the guys that use the term “bad boy” are scared to even flirt with women so their definition of “bad boy” is extremely skewed. A bad boy to them is basically a man that exhibits the carelessness, confidence and self esteem they wish they had. He could simply be a guy in a club that grabs a woman and dances with her on the dance floor. Notice how men that aren’t bitter, actually get women and happily date don’t use the term “bad boy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:35 AM
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I never understood the “threat”. “I want to be married badly but the man I want doesn’t want me so let me get with a man I don’t want but he wants me and make his life miserable”. Is that really the outcome you guys want? Honestly considering how desperate some of these guys are , they probably think that’s better than their single life but I digress.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:38 PM
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Probably, I guess it’s good for everyone that women are becoming more single
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:41 PM
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I would say women crave a man that has everything she finds attractive because most men are like a puzzle missing many pieces.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 01:13 PM
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No one said it would be reasonable. You guys seem to have the highest expectations ever but constantly complaining about everything being rigged against you in dating. You can just not do it 🤷🏾‍♀️ Idrc since I’m not the one crying for a crumb of pussy. Maybe just give up so there’s space for the ppl that don’t have to get online asking how to get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 02:32 AM
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Well you usually flirt and escalate the flirting , then when the vibe is right ppl usually start touching on each other kissing and then it goes from there. Strangers make out in the club all the time. There’s not really a manual to this , you just have to go with the flow. Oh yeah and don’t forget the alcohol. Edit: I would not recommend this for someone who is socially awkward, shy, scared of rejection, low self esteem, low confidence, autistic or just can’t read the room. Your social awarenes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:54 PM
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Your car, the back room , the park, the bathroom. That’s usually where these drunken sex escapades happen. Sometimes ppl leave a club and go to another club bcus they know they can fck there but I guess if you live in a small city that may not be an option for you. Just work with what you have
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:00 PM
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1) buy a section it’s usually quieter 2) and 3) you don’t need to go home to do this, if you’re actually social, charming and flirty none of this really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 09:12 AM
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Ppl literally do it all the time and you can go to the club and see ppl chatting in the club. If you can’t do that then oh well I guess. You also have the option to buy a section where it’s typically quieter and invite women over so you can chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:25 AM
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I think it’s best to ask a friend who knows you personally. They would be able to provide the best advice and see you work it in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:03 AM
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It’s not guaranteed to work for everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:52 PM
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Go to the most popular clubs in your city, get some alcohol in your system, chat with different women, flirt heavily, be very charming and take it from there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:33 PM
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Dating is a social activity. Ppl that have personality traits (introvert, shy, asocial etc) that stray them away from socializing will always clash with ppl that don’t have those traits. That’s just what it is. Ppl do give grace to those who are introverted and asocial but there’s a limit bcus it can interfere with building the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:42 PM
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In my personal experience men are the ones offering dinner dates ($100+ at least) as first dates and they’re insulted if the woman pays. Some men are just happy to treat a woman and there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:00 PM
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I have never done this. If someone is nice to me (attractive or not) I don’t think anything of it because ppl should be nice to one another anyway. Plus in my experience men flirt very directly, they don’t really do subtlety so being nice wouldn’t really be flirting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:09 PM
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Yall really get on here and say anything
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:04 PM
5

If ppl expect natural desire and sex to happen in a relationship then all of this is really irrelevant and being single is probably a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 07:38 PM
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Nope, sounds like a life of misery. Having a man has never been that important to the point of being with someone that’s sexually unattractive. That’s why a lot of women rather be single than settle for just anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:57 PM
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I’m not sure where this idea came from that women can’t love but men can. Men ain’t loving any woman that’s ugly or that’s not having sex with them so they’re no different than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:51 AM
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You’re actually right, being bald and short is not a skill issue. Having no dignity and living with a victim mentality is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:50 PM
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That’s a skill issue that they need to work on if they desire certain dating outcomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:43 PM
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That’s when you leave them and find someone who’s willing to give you what you desire. They clearly didn’t like you enough. The point of dating is to find someone who’s willing to give you what you desire. If you desire sex up front then find someone who’s willing to give it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:32 PM
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I think it depends. I don’t think being introverted is a deal breaker for most ppl as long as you’re a true introvert and not someone that’s socially awkward that’s masking as an introvert.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 08:40 PM
2

You explained it perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:56 PM
1

Well you have to be desirable to get someone to desire you, that was my original point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:53 PM
0

How exactly do women get away with it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:42 PM
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Is this not the case for everyone that dates? Most ppl don’t find most ppl they date ideal for a LTR. You usually have to go through multiple ppl. I personally believe most ppl aren’t even compatible but that’s where compromise comes in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:50 PM
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I’m not even sure how 2 equally anxious ppl would meet and mingle in the 1st place. Also I believe if you have other things going for yourself then she won’t condemn you for being anxious. But you really can’t think you can be anxious, introverted, shy, boring etc and think someone is going to like you. You need some attractive qualities to balance out the unattractive qualities. That’s for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:38 PM
1

Resentful, Jealousy, Bitterness. A lot of insecure men don’t feel worthy if they can’t have a beautiful woman so they project that onto beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:25 PM
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I noticed a lot of introverted men are very socially anxious/awkward and sometimes I wonder if they use being an “introvert” to cover for them having social anxiety or being socially awkward. Dating is all about finding someone that matches your speed, if you like to read and stay home then you have to find women that like the same thing but the catch 22 is if you’re both homebodies then you’ll struggle to meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:42 AM
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If y’all would just date ppl that actually like you instead of groveling for a crumb of attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:07 AM
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Just be attractive, don’t be awkward and entertain ppl that actually like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:41 PM
2

This description sounds like Chad could be someone like Drake or Jason Momoa.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 01:48 AM
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I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with wanting your partner to desire you, but that’s the thing, the person has to already be your partner. I think the men that spew this rhetoric want women in general to treat the majority of men that they don’t even know like “chad” and that’s just not happening. Ppl should understand being single is always an option if you’re not getting the treatment you desire in a relationship. You can’t force ppl to treat you how you want to be treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:19 PM
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It’s not unclear, until both parties agree that they’re in a relationship then everyone is single. Your post shows bias. Women participate in the rotation dating just like men because of the less emotional investment and if they find someone worth investing in then they’ll move on with that person. Women desire sex too, especially the women here. No one wants to waste time investing in a relationship that’s probably not going to go anywhere just to have sex so the women move exactly how the men …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:49 AM
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I’ve lived in nyc my whole life and I can tell you the men here are mentally exhausted, anxious and jaded. This is just some selective bias because, the men that struggle in dating look up to these men. I think most women overall are more jaded from the men they actually have relationships with, not the men they’re hooking up with or go on 1 or 2 dates with. So some of them decide to have a rotation of men and continue to participate in this lifestyle where there’s less emotional investment. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:44 AM
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I’ve lived in nyc my whole life and the men that are involved in that lifestyle are lonely, anxious and jaded as the women. This is just some selective bias because, the men that struggle in dating look up to these men. Hooking up is a matter of being somewhere at the right time with the right amount of alcohol and/or drugs. Hooking up has an effect on both men and women because you can see that ppl do it to hide from the fact that they’re lonely, miserable and/or yearning for someone that actua…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:26 AM
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Men don’t hate gold diggers they hate that they can’t afford them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:38 PM
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If women have to drop their standards, sex is going out the window along with affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:58 PM
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It’s like every other post is a different version of “women need to lower their standards and date men they have absolutely no interest in”. The way that some folks here think you can force someone to like someone else (man or woman) is crazy and a little pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 03:35 PM
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The men here believe men have no agency in dating and everything is at the mercy of women. Very victimized mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:11 PM
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Most men are average and unremarkable just like most women are average and unremarkable
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:25 AM
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It’s not skewed because those men are nowhere near top 10% men tho. They’re not top anything. They’re average at best just like the women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 09:16 AM
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I def agree plenty of women are wiling to tolerate bad behavior (low standards) from men but not bcus they “look better”. It’s moreso just to say they have a man bcus women are pressured to always keep a man around. An ugly man that has a passable personality wouldn’t be on the app to begin with. Women are definitely out here dating ugly men with an ok personality, it’s way more common than the other way around. Having bad style and a bad personality makes a man less attractive. Women determine …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:14 AM
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The low standards is that they’re willing to tolerate very bad treatment and mediocrity just to have a man. So I guess you can say that they basically have no standards. The men that look average but have a shit personality and shit style, that arguably brings them down to the same level that women are at.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:20 AM
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I have and those women being obese and ugly doesn’t negate my statement that the men are very average and unremarkable. Many had no sense of style, faces were regular or just plain ugly. Many of the fit guys were ugly which I’m not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:46 PM
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It’s not skewed because it doesn’t work the way men want it to work. On the dating market women determine men’s value and men determines women’s value. Men say women overestimate their value, well men do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:06 PM
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Most of the men on that app from a woman’s perspective were incredibly average. All the tea app proved is that women have incredibly low standards and will put up with a lot of crap from unremarkable men. If you’re truly struggling you’re way below average and not on most ppl’s radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:42 PM
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Also the more activities you’re involved the more stories you have to tell which helps with deep conversations and becoming a more interesting person. You start to get layers and that’s what also makes a person not boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:17 PM
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Not wanting to go on weekend trips means he’s not adventurous and/or curious which are a personality traits. Also it depends on where you go and what you’re doing. Yes he can make time for it, ppl make time for things they want to do. Monotonous means dull and lacking variety, doing something once in a while adds to the variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:09 PM
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Some ideas of a family where the mom and dad works full time and still can have fun and be interesting are Weekend trips with the kids, Cooking new dishes for the family to try, trying a new hobby out of your comfort zone, DIY projects, home improvements/projects, binge watching a foreign show, learning a new skill, building upon a skill you might already have This doesn’t have to happen everyday but once in a while is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:35 PM
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Living a very monotonous life. No interest in trying new things and/or experiences. No passion and very predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 03:09 PM
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The tea app just proves that women have low standards and as long as you’re not a social reject, you should have no problems getting women or a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 02:38 PM
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I’ve done this and turns out there’s always a reason why they don’t ask you out. In my case they’re introverted and/or shy and I don’t like those traits in men personally. I like extroverted men. Also with men constantly approaching it’s hard to feel the need or want to approach a man. Usually it just goes downhill from when you approach the man compared to the man approaching you. Another thing is for women to risk rejection they’re not going to just ask out anyone like men usually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 12:05 PM
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Everyone gets shamed. Men lose their marbles when a woman says “6ft”. It’s all over the internet and there are even subs of men wallowing about not being 6ft so I’d say the shaming is pretty even.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:44 PM
4

Women don’t have much motivation to sexualize random men. Especially if they’re not even sexy to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 01:14 AM
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I’m describing the men with absolutely no sexual attraction, desire or energy to women who’s desperate for women’s validation but hate them at the same time. They’re doing nothing but whining & crowding the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 10:08 PM
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These guys be the most awkward, shy, weak shut in with absolutely zero charisma, can’t flirt, can’t make eye contact, scared to make a move and then expect women to immediately desire that. Like what is there to be desired exactly? Do they even think about what do they have that’s sexually desirable? So much lack of self awareness and at the same time self absorbed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:37 PM
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So just date women that desires you the way you want to be desired. Is that not the whole point of dating? To find someone you’re compatible with?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:04 PM
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Like once a year maybe. I’m just not that visually attracted to most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 08:36 AM
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I think women are just used to men’s sexuality since it’s been the standard since forever. To be fair men are also struggling with accepting women’s sexuality since women have been more open about it in the past few decades. For example the height thing literally have some men ready to kill themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:50 PM
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I honestly can’t tell you since I’m not a man. I think women value leadership traits in men and a lot of these qualities fall under that umbrella.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:03 PM
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I personally think your reasonings are fine but in general women view them as unattractive because Lack of initiative plus This is grouping all women together, how do you know she feels that way? Men don’t like to be pre judged based on what other men think or say. So that’s unattractive. Everyone gets rejected that’s apart of life. If you’re getting rejected a lot maybe he needs to self evaluate but that indicates something is off. Another lack of initiative also missed opportunity
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:54 PM
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I agree and those reasons still fall under the umbrella of “unattractive” to most women which is the whole point. Not approaching signals something unattractive about the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:20 PM
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I’m a little confused, I’m under the impression that most men initiate/approach, I mean that’s been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:22 PM
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Ok I assumed approach included initiating as well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:10 PM
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I think it’s just as simple as women don’t find men that don’t approach attractive because it usually signals another trait they don’t find attractive. Men that typically don’t approach don’t do it for a reason. That reason usually includes, being shy, being awkward, being afraid (women like courageous men) and just a general lack of social skills. Women in general find these traits unattractive. I’m not saying it’s right but that’s what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:34 PM
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It’s probably just as simple as she makes him feel good. Ppl that are bitter and neurotic make dating way more complicated than it has to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 01:02 PM
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Comfortable with yourself, don’t need anyone’s approval, not a neurotic, don’t feel the need to prove your worth to women, very competent, cool calm collected. Idk who Leo Skepi is but maybe he’s the type to fake confidence. There are women that still like that type of man like the Leo guy but that doesn’t negate women liking a genuinely confident man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 04:34 PM
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A lot of what you wrote sounds like something you personally experienced and you’re projecting that onto my comment. I’m not trying to hide anything and say something like “yeah you can be ugly and lusted for just have a great personality!” Na babe you need good looks first.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:36 AM
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I thought I was pretty straightforward. If you need further explanation please see below. Good looking face: Combination of genetics, grooming and hygiene. Somewhat fit physique: exactly what it says. That means you should be in the gym, maybe maintain a diet but woman should be able to see some muscles on you somewhere. Be confident: You accept who you are (hobbies, lifestyle, looks etc) and the woman can take it or leave it. You’ll still be happy regardless of outcome. Be flirty/escalate sexua…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:13 AM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s true
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:47 AM
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They feel entitled. Notice you’ll see those same type Of men use the term “look match” bcus they believe that they should be able to get a woman solely based on nothing. Of course their look match is determined by no one else besides him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:08 PM
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Have a good looking face, somewhat fit physique, be confident like you’re comfortable with yourself and you’re not begging for some outside validation, be flirty and know how to escalate sexually without being awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:32 PM
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All of women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:17 AM
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Yes that along with looking good. For me you have to have both.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 02:46 AM
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Can you link your source because it would help
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:27 PM
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I don’t think about them at all. I would assume they’re probably shy or awkward which generally women don’t find attractive in men or maybe they don’t want to be bothered by women and dating and that’s completely fair. Regardless it’s probably in women best interest to entertain the men who initiate and approach 1st.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:49 PM
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I think the issue is more so getting them to go out and be social. If they were social, the setting wouldn’t really matter imo. A lot of young adults have social anxiety and are very socially awkward so that has to be addressed first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:36 PM
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Probably because in general women don’t see their position as advantageous. There’s some drawbacks that women deal with in dating and they believe they hold more weight than not being able to get a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:02 PM
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Probably the 1st one because he initiates the romance by being flirty. I assume the 2nd guy would just be platonic I guess? Since he’s not flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 04:34 PM
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Exactly, many of them believe the government needs to get involved and want women’s rights restricted all because he can’t get a date. They tend to compare not having a relationship/sex to not having a job. It’s really their mindset that’s the problem and why ppl have no sympathy for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 12:31 AM
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Anything abnormal I would reject. Abnormally big and Abnormally small
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 08:01 PM
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I would imagine if you’re undesirable to an extent and know that, it’s probably feels like a shot at you personally when women describe all the traits they want in a man and you have none of them. That builds resentment and they lash out by trying to shame women. These type of men would love for women to lower their standards and settle for them because that’s probably the best he can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:39 PM
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The women that are giving you advice are most likely not the same women you’re approaching. They’re different and have different opinions regarding approaching women. Maybe you should trust your own judgment (because it sounds like you’re not confident in yourself) instead of relying so heavily on random ppl who you don’t know. You need a level of discernment. Cold approaching doesn’t sound like something that you’re comfortable with so that means you should probably try something that’s more co…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 05:13 PM
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People are going to give advice based on their life experiences and what they think works. Advice always vary and should be taken with a grain of salt unless they’re a person very close to you. Imo ppl very close to you and actively in your life would probably give the best advice. Please understand women are different. I personally have no problem with a man approaching me in any setting (grocery store, library, club, bar, garden etc) for me it’s more about how you approach. There are women tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 04:50 PM
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I don’t think a lot will change. Maybe more single ppl and less babies but we have that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:33 PM
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I believe you’d get a relationship like this as long as there’s mutual genuine attraction between the 2 partners. The problem is ppl are with ppl who they’re not genuinely attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:02 PM
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Men want to be naturally desirable which is fair but you need to have something that women naturally desire. That’s just what it is. A lot of these men will literally hate women because she desires a big dick and that’s the problem, she’s allowed to desire whatever and you shouldn’t take your insecurities out on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:33 PM
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I understand that the research represents a decent amount of women. Me personally, prioritize looks. If I can’t look at you then I really won’t care that much to pursue anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:18 PM
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I truly do believe many men would knowingly rather be settled for than alone, that’s why they push this agenda so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:33 AM
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I just don’t understand why can’t these men just date the women without kids. Why even put yourself through all of this unnecessary mental gymnastics for someone you deem not your type? She has a kid Oh that’s not what I want so I will move on Really simple Just seems like again another roundabout way for undesirable men to blame their undesirability on women. Honestly ppl that think like this probably shouldn’t breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:25 PM
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This assumes that women would approach men how men approach women. With women approaching men that will not be the case because women aren’t motivated by sex like men are. Men play the numbers game. Numbers game doesn’t benefit women. Women will only shoot their shot if the man is entirely worth it, like he has to be the full package or majority of the package. I don’t see how this would make men happier because they’ll just hold a lot of resentment for not being approached. Men desire women muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:09 PM
5

Tall men with big dicks are always top tier.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 11:31 AM
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As someone who tells men why they’re rejected, trust me they will spiral. Even for things they can control they want to argue with you and berate you and many women can tell you that. So yes I believe if you tell men how unattractive they are, they eventually will spiral and it’s not really worth telling them. They’re on their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:04 PM
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Most already know why they’re rejects. You see them all the time refer to themselves as ugly or hideous, short, whatever. But let’s say he doesn’t know When he goes to the gym , changes his diet and realizes he did all that work for nothing because women thinks he looks like a fit crypt keeper then he’ll definitely spiral. Unfortunately you can’t “solve” everything wrong with you and that can send ppl insane if they keep getting rejected over something they have no control over. Then that one un…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:28 PM
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Please, if a man gets rejected consistently and every woman tells him it’s his face, He’ll eventually spiral. You already see these men spiraling on the internet because of the fact they’re rejects. imagine witnessing that in person because you happen to be the 146th woman to tell him he’s rejected because of his face.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:50 PM
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Seems like you two are compatible and that’s the point of dating. Too many ppl want to impose on others what they should and shouldn’t want. If a woman doesn’t like coffee dates and likes an expensive well thought out 1st date then she’s allowed that desire. If the man doesn’t want that then he moves on, very simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:30 PM
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We talk first get to know the basics of each other, plan a proper date then go on date. I wouldn’t invite them for coffee for any reason because it’s boring and shows minimal effort. Out of all the things to do, your 1st choice is a coffee date? That says a lot about the person. Unless you live in a town where there’s not much going ok then I’ll make an exception. This is only complicated for ppl that either don’t date as much or who want to put in minimal effort because dating is a project to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:16 PM
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Not really. When you’re talking to them prior to the date (through phone calls, text messages, video calls) you usually ask “what do you like to do for fun” or “what are your interests”. Sometimes ppl ask directly “what’s your ideal 1st date” and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:49 PM
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Probably because they’re boring and show minimal effort. Dating can be and should be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:24 PM
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If a man is this obsessed with his size then yes yours is too small. Let’s move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:57 PM
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There’s only something wrong for ppl who are undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:12 PM
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Well my anecdotal experience matches the algorithm so I’ll continue to believe that 🤷🏾‍♀️ It’s not a bad thing anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 02:13 PM
5

You can easily go on a place like twitter or instagram and see women talking about how much they like a big dick. This is just a case of someone that goes down the rabbit hole searching for something and they find it. The general consensus is that women like big dicks, that doesn’t mean women who don’t like em or care for them don’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:40 PM
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I would take it if I can spend it to help others but since I can’t I would not take the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:11 PM
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Who even determines the look match? How do we know that they’re truly a look match? What is it even based on? Women and men are attracted to different things in each other so what exactly is supposed to “match”? There’s no objective scale that lists everyone and their “looks match”. I can easily say Jason Momoa is my looks match and insult him because he’s not attracted to me. That’s basically how a lot of these dudes sound. The whole concept is insane honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:26 PM
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Men are absolutely free to get their closest friends, make a reservation at their fav restaurant or go fishing or go to an amusement park etc and have a good time and emotionally bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:29 PM
5

I mean is this not considered moving the goal post, the point is that it happens. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:24 PM
1

He has to be at least cute for me to be physically attracted. If cute is above average, then no, being average in the face with good grooming will not make me physically attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:22 PM
5

Making her laugh a lot Having a big D/Giving good oral Watching her kids/cleaning and helping around the house (she was a single parent)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:03 PM
4

Makes sense. I appreciate your input
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:57 PM
2

I just don’t identify as one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:37 PM
5

I understand that and I agree with the core aspect and I still choose not to identify as one and that’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:37 PM
2

I’m not really interested in modern feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:18 PM
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Money is not the only redeeming quality, it’s not my problem that you don’t believe that. Understand that different types of women exist. Regardless, I was talking about what I’ve personally seen women date unattractive men for. Yes I’ve seen women date ugly broke men for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:49 PM
3

Yes you absolutely have to be good looking in the face for me. I will not be with someone who is ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:10 PM
3

No I’m not
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:05 PM
10

Is women in group bias also innate ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:40 PM
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I’m all for men building stronger emotional bonds amongst each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:11 PM
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For me personally the physical attraction has to be there but yes there are women that will date a man who she’s not physically attracted to because he has other redeeming qualities. I’ve seen it happen relatively often.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:38 PM
2

Probably for stability & lifestyle, like when a young woman marries a wealthy old dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:17 PM
5

Well either way she’s not sexually attracted to him and that’s the point and probably why she cheated. To me personally if the sexual attraction isn’t there then she most likely settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:44 AM
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Trust me I firmly believe women should only be with men they’re attracted to but hey maybe the “women need to lower their standards” mantra got in their head
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:33 AM
3

Maybe for the stability or for the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 03:19 AM
4

Maybe those men aren’t sexually attractive or the man stopped being sexually attractive which is why the woman cheated, to get the thrill of being with a man they’re sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:17 AM
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I think from the male pov they believe what they want in a woman is more “reasonable” than what women want in a man. That’s where the disconnect and the sense of entitlement stems from. I do agree that the market decides if you’re attractive or not. If you did what you believe is necessary to become attractive and you’re still not getting what you desire, that just means you’re still not desirable enough for the person you want. This happens for women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:06 PM
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Pretty rare. When I do see a man that I’m attracted to I genuinely think my eyes are playing tricks on me because it doesn’t happen often. I usually have to look at him a couple times before I confirm I’m attracted to him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:50 AM
4

Women only shame weirdos and creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 04:26 PM
2

I assume because he’s attractive and would prefer that over an unattractive son
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:00 PM
7

I wouldn’t want a misogynist son so I’d choose B
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:35 PM
1

I wouldn’t want a misogynist son so I’d choose B
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:32 PM
1

This just sounds like men need to enforce their standards. have a mind of their own and only entertain a woman who genuinely likes them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:39 PM
5

I mean men that don’t provide also want the same things as men that provide so it’s in the women’s best interest to get with the man she gets the most out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:20 AM
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I don’t understand some men’s obsession with wanting to be settled for. It’s so disingenuous because men are always complaining how they don’t feel genuine desire from women. Understand that women are different from men and women lowering their standards means they’re not attracted to you whatsoever. There’s no amount of “women can lower their standards a little and maybe he can be 5’6” instead of 5’9” and she will still be attracted” NOPE if she lowers her standards she’s just tolerating your e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:19 PM
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Women obsess over aesthetics because they want to be physically attracted to their man and strongly desire him. Without the physical attraction, there’s really no point to being with the man imo. If a “good” man is invisible that most likely means he’s physically unattractive. You don’t need to look like Henry Cavill but you also can’t look like the hunch back of notre dame. Women want a physically attractive man who is also good to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:41 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/wzklsz1ufyqe1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=220804063133f0e7e7294c6debef59198a005892 Jason Momoa can never not look good to me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:39 AM
2

You are right. “Choose me because no one else will”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:36 PM
1

The “choose better” advice is never genuine advice anyway. Look at the ppl who give the advice. Always take it with a grain of salt. When women are told to choose better it basically means choose the ugly “nice” guy who’s awkward, shy an engineer and can’t get a girl to like him. It’s never choose the cute, funny good man who’s a store manager.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:21 PM
1

If you’re cute in the face I can work with the lack of confidence and height but I’m absolutely not bothering with a man who’s ugly and has low confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:33 AM
2

Not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:34 PM
2

I like excitement or intriguing dates/outings like going to the museum or the botanical garden, the library (the library always have fun events going on), roller skating, escape rooms, a jazz bar, ax throwing, arcades etc. I live in a very active city so there’s a lot to do. I don’t mind dinner neither because I like to eat. I prefer the guy makes the 1st move but I’ve had men offer a date but don’t know what they want to do on the date so I’ll offer suggestions. I always offer to split the date…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:26 PM
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New experiences & traveling and I don’t think men value the same things I do
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:16 PM
1

We all want someone to genuinely desire us, the problem is some ppl are just not initially desirable and it’s no one’s fault but that’s what it is. If you’re unattractive and still want a partner then yes you have to jump through hoops to make up for you being unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 09:59 PM
8

It’s not even just dating anymore, employers do this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:24 PM
1

I agree with you, ppl are very selfish nowadays. It’s unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:03 PM
2

I’m not saying it’s right just why ppl do it. Ppl are going to do what feels the most comfortable for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 03:41 PM
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Ppl ghost because they don’t believe the person is worth the extra effort of ending things properly. Basically “ I don’t owe you anything” mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:01 PM
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Yes there are women that care about their partners. Maybe you’re not attracted to those women but they definitely exist. I think everyone only cares about their own self interests because ppl are afraid of being played so there’s definitely entitlement in both genders. Everyone wants to be the player and not the one being played.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:02 AM
5

Absolutely nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:27 PM
2

As someone who lives in NY, my friends and I are regularly approached (by men and women) when we go out. We went roller skating and there were a lot of young ppl interacting and having a good time, taking pics etc. I appreciate the fact that social media hasn’t ruined things too much. Don’t get me wrong there were still ppl staring at their phones but it wasn’t everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:46 PM
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Idc for them because idk them but some women like them because they’re basically not a bitch and tend to be more exciting, more interesting , more masculine, more stoic, confident and have more courage than your average man. Some women haven’t been exposed to a decent masculine man in all their lives so they go after easy targets which are bad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:53 PM
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We like compliments, just not creepy ones. You look great in that dress ✅ Your ass is fat in that dress ❌ Also a lot of guys are just weird asf, they’ll give a compliment and will eye fuck the hell out of you. Men know how to turn an innocent interaction weird very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:49 PM
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Effort matters after attraction has been established because at that point we’re building a relationship and ideally we would put effort into each other to build said relationship. Women aren’t going to put effort into men until attraction is established because it’s a waste of her time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:00 AM
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Everything I said in my original comment is researched
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 09:04 AM
1

Ok and my anecdotal experience is the opposite, now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 08:42 AM
1

I’m not sure what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 08:40 AM
1

This is true
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 03:24 PM
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Some women are definitely choosing to not date at all. It’s a slow process but many more will get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:50 PM
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I think women are slowly getting there, that’s why they’re probably more likely to end a relationship, the birth rate is going down and the percentage of single women increases every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:34 PM
5

Where exactly? Where are the men like Jason Momoa, Chris Brown and George Clooney the top of the desirable chain with no biases and there’s substantial proof that they’re 100% desirable telling women to lower their standards? A post from an anonymous user doesn’t count because we don’t even know who you are nor do we have any way to prove your position isn’t biased.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 09:17 PM
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Basically you don’t need another person to make a living. Ppl have a lot more freedom nowadays to do what they want and what’s necessary to make a living. The harsh truth is that undesirable ppl are basically on their own. Most of society does not care about undesirable ppl and that will not change. They unfortunately have to figure it out on their own because dating is not seen as necessity, it’s a privilege. Dating involves the autonomy of another human being and you can’t regulate that withou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:35 PM
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I agree, I think the “lower your standards” advice comes from a place of disingenuousness. You don’t see men that are attractive that have fun dating around, or men that find relationships with women they’re attracted to and love telling women to lower standards. It’s mostly men that struggle, resent women and are undesirable to the average woman who believe women should lower their standards. How else will they get their crumb of pussy that they can’t get on their own accord?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:45 PM
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When you think about it, dating and being able to find someone who likes you and finds you attractive is a privilege but too many ppl believe it’s a right. You can’t force someone to like you or accept you. You have to offer something that they want. If you don’t offer it then you get nothing and that goes for everyone. We’re in an era where ppl can live relatively decent on their own so no one is getting together unless you’re absolutely worth being with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:59 PM
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Weird. Prior to leaving, does the person even know for sure you like them? The gift and the departure speech is unnecessary. I don’t think relying on hints is a good idea, use your words because we’re adults. It just seems like the one with crush wants to make the other person feel bad because they’re too much of a coward to admit their feelings. It makes them feel better about the unrequited love they possess. Overall this is not the right thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:47 PM
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Socializing/meeting people in person is just always better. You get to see firsthand their body language, how they interact with you and others, hear their voice. It’s easier to hide behind a mask online as well. Overall it’s just a more authentic experience compared to meeting someone through a screen. So that plus everything else you listed is what deters women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:27 PM
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I think women are more honest about their preferences otherwise you wouldn’t have ugly men seething telling women they’ll be a cat lady because she wants to wait for prince handsome charming. Undesirable men just want to blame women for their struggles. Telling the truth doesn’t change anything. Shorter men know the truth and yet they’re still upset at women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:06 PM
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He’s just visually unappealing. Women befriend men that are visually stunning and that usually turns into her liking him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:51 AM
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The attraction just isn’t there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:05 PM
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Lack of attraction to the guy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:01 PM
9

Whatever you say man
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:31 PM
8

Life is what you make of it. My life doesn’t suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:06 PM
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Yes absolutely! I more so don’t like that women get the blame for when an undesirable man can’t get a woman. Because some men are unwanted now those men don’t want to live and want to cause harm and ruin to civilization etc. Society is doomed and women are to blame blah blah blah. If that’s the case then Society will be doomed. If women have to be with men they don’t want for men to want to maintain society then I guess this society ain’t worth maintaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:03 PM
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I’m just tired of women constantly being blamed because ugly billy is unwanted. I really don’t care what men do, spin a million plates. As long as women aren’t blamed then have a blast.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 09:47 PM
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They don’t care because all they know is that they’re unwanted by women so the only conclusion is that women like terrible men because they don’t want him. Lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:37 PM
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Nothing is better than women being able to express their true desires after suppressing them for so long. Men just need to find new purpose and stop relying so heavily on obtaining women like we’re trophies. If men’s only reason for wanting a civilized society is so they can have a woman then they’re pathetic. Imagine putting so much of your sanity onto a whole other being that have their own wants dreams desires and thoughts. Then women get blamed and even sometimes killed because Billy Bob is …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:25 PM
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There’s not really a solution so all you can do is let them be. You can’t control other ppl. Just move on. It just comes off as disingenuous because undesirable men only want women to be more humble for their own selfish desires. They don’t actually care about the woman and what she wants. They just want to have her. It’s like saying all men 6ft+ need to humble themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:11 AM
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Sounds about right. She’s taking the 1st step to choosing better by dumping the guy she’s incompatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 04:36 PM
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If someone has to give you a chance they’re probably not sexually attracted to you so guys should also consider that when they give this “advice”. A lot of the men who need to be given a chance to even date are not any better than the assholes that can date. They harbor a lot of resentment, they’re awkward, and sometimes weird, mentally unstable, porn obsessed, low self esteem, and overall miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 02:33 PM
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Another tactic for unattractive men to try to shame their way into getting an attractive woman since they know they can’t compete for one but desperately desire one. They should take their own advice, lower their standards and get with women they deem unattractive but they won’t and it’s hilarious that they expect women to do that. These are the same guys that cry when their women doesn’t desire them, well duh she lowered her standards for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 07:44 PM
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I don’t get tired of them, I love them unless they’re extremely inappropriate. I’ve had some that were inappropriate but I just ignored it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:08 PM
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So accept the cards dealt to you and stop blaming women. If men will continue to blame women then women will continue to encourage men to stop revolving their livelihood around women and do things for themselves. Leave women completely out of it. If men can develop a solution that places the responsibility and blame on themselves then we’re all for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:08 PM
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Either men need to accept it by working with their nature and continue to impress women or go cold turkey, stop seeking validation from women and play video games or whatever. Either way this is a problem that men need to resolve with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:07 PM
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Yes I agree. Men can definitely validate each other and then they won’t need women’s validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:23 PM
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That’s fine, I’m just tired of women being blamed for men dating woes. If that’s what needs to happen, I’m all for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:21 PM
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Men just need to be released from the shackles of women approval which they have to do on their own. You’ll never be happy doing things for the approval of others, whether that’s men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:57 PM
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I’m in nyc so that’s where I’m meeting them at.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:19 AM
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You’re right. Women don’t like to be commodities but unfortunately that’s not the case and will never not be the case most likely. I believe women are just reacting to being commodified and it’s men who made women commodities. Basically a chicken and egg situation. I don’t think women are transactional and therefore men expect sex. It’s the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:58 AM
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Well then women will move accordingly and will continue to expect men to pay. That’s just what it is I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:37 AM
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But the expectation is there regardless. If the expectation wasn’t there then there wouldn’t be women expecting men to pay. Address that expectation 1st and then everything else will fall into place including women expecting men to pay/being transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:08 AM
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Men expect sex regardless of who’s paying and how the date even goes and I think that’s the core of issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:44 AM
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Do you want women to give men attention the same way men give women attention? Or do you think it’s better for men to go cold turkey and stop giving women attention for nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:49 PM
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People put their own interests first and then get with other ppl who put their own interests firsts and it becomes a cycle of self absorbed behavior. That’s why dating and relationships are in the state that they’re in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 08:40 PM
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I don’t think it’s a red flag. This is honestly very common for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:42 PM
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You’re right women have absolutely zero incentive to change. There’s always a man willing to deal with her BS. Men can just wake up tomorrow and choose not to change for women but because they basically worship sex, then that’s not going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 11:18 PM
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I think That’s fine, men are free to invest in whatever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:22 PM
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You’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:42 PM
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Not everyone will experience genuine desire unfortunately, that’s just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:38 PM
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I think that’s fine. I personally would not be with a man unless he’s fine cute or good looking. Unfortunately there’s going to be a lot more single ppl but hey it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:30 PM
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Modern men want to be heavily desired off their looks alone. Unfortunately the overwhelming majority of men are neutral looking (have always been and will continue to be) and will never generate that desire by existing. I believe men wanting to be desired this way is solely a modern age thing even though I could be wrong. Looks aren’t necessarily as important because if women relied solely on looks, relationships would almost be nonexistent lmao. How often do women go through life and see a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:03 PM
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I would do nothing. Women seem to dislike men being motivated by women because Once men start doing things solely to get women, the ones that are unsuccessful become deranged and feel the need to spread their misogynistic hateful misery everywhere. At least before the internet they would just hide in a basement now we all have to see their existence online.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:55 PM
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I guarantee her DM says otherwise. As someone who lives in a large city this is not the case for the women here. That’s why they have rosters.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 12:10 PM
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Ppl only advise self improvement bcus that’s the only thing you have control over in the dating world. If you desire a relationship or just someone to show interest in you, you have to increase your chances by self improvement. If you self improve and still struggle then the unfortunate truth is you’re not someone who’s desirable in the dating world. If you don’t want to self improve then you don’t have to, doing nothing is always an option but it comes with consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:32 PM
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As long as sex is involved in relationships, ppl will date according to their shallow preferences. No one wants duty, passionless, stick and board, dry as a desert, limp dick sex. Shallow preferences contribute a lot to the hot sex in a relationship. Ppl really need to let this topic go, or maybe we need a pinned post about standards/preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:36 AM
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Like the men do in this subreddit 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:27 PM
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Omg I’ve heard that so many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:01 PM
1

You’re absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:52 PM
2

If you say so hun
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:32 PM
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Understandable. I think you can better results scrolling social media tbh. That’s why so many men seethe because women honestly boasting online about how they like tall good looking men with money and whatever other shallow traits they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:28 PM
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Wow a study done with 150 women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:24 PM
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Well then men have their answer on why some women aren’t honest and this op is pointless
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:16 PM
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The point is they exist somewhere. Idc about a weird porn obsessed subreddit that fetishize small boobs. The point is ppl have their preferences and most of us have been rejected due to something we can’t change. The rest of us just move on with life. Most ppl don’t care if you think it’s a problem because you and everyone else can’t police other ppl preferences. Go where you’re wanted even if that’s another country. Men want women to be honest, well here you go.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 02:12 PM
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As someone who’s been rejected for having small boobs and made fun of by men, I agree. Ppl like what they like and are allowed that. You can’t change ppl preferences. Just move on. There are women that will happily date a shorter man. Unfortunately you can’t tell these guys with low self esteem that bcus they already have their mind made up and their biases won’t allow it. They rather wallow in self pity and blame everyone under the sun. No one wants to be around someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:53 PM
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I never said it was equal nor do I or women care if it’s equal. Ppl like what they like that and includes men. Yeah it’s tough being around such men with low self esteem who never stops wallowing in self pity. It’s very tiresome whew !
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:34 PM
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And here we have Exhibit A
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:32 PM
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Women admit their shallow preferences if they have them, why do you think men are up in arms throughout social media? So many examples on different platforms of women turning down men because he’s short, has no style or bald and men are ready to basically off themselves and say women will be an old cat lady. Even in this subreddit you see it. I do agree sometimes women berate men for shallow preferences but nowadays I definitely think men literally take it to the next level. Just the height thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:23 AM
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Ppl are allowed to have their thoughts, opinions and feelings and that includes RP ppl. I think as long as they don’t hurt, disrespect or insult anyone then they’re not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:43 PM
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Unfortunately ppl will always have their opinions. In reality It really doesn’t matter what someone else thinks of your preferences. At the end of the day you’re the one who will be choosing that person to date not the ppl shaming you. Women constantly get shamed for having height preferences but they still chase after those men because that’s what they want. The shaming can only get to you if you allow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:34 PM
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Yes , we can’t force men to like what they don’t like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:18 PM
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I think the “gender war” is because ppl are policing other ppl standards expectations and preferences way too much. Ppl are allowed whatever standards they desire. If you don’t meet them or agree with them you move onto the next person. Staying single is also another option.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:17 PM
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I mean they can play war but far away from the rest of civilization. Either way seems like men are fucked because women are not going to assist in men’s loneliness on a large scale, especially since women are almost just as lonely
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:11 PM
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That’s all you can do. You can’t force ppl to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:09 PM
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Move on
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:12 PM
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I mean it happens to all of us, you just have to move on unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:09 PM
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So this is a matter of the ppl you want don’t want you. Ppl are allowed whatever standards they desire. The truth is you’re just undesirable to the ppl you want. This goes for men and women. Beggars can’t be choosers, maybe those who are struggling should take their own advice and go after the people that want you. Instead they want the ppl that they desire who is clearly desired by others to pick someone who is clearly undesirable and unable to compete. Makes no sense. Ppl that are undesirable …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:50 PM
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To a certain extent yes they can. Now whether you can become desirable to the woman you want is another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:41 PM
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Well by definition if they were actually decently desirable that means someone has to desire them no? The truth is they’re just not desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:38 PM
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It’s really simple, Undesirable ppl are undesirable for a reason. Choose better is just smoke n mirrors for “choose me” or men like me because they clearly can’t compete.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:32 PM
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I think ppl have their standards for a reason which they’re allowed to have. Someone lowering their standards on their own accord is fine, I just don’t like men policing women standards because they’re undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:07 AM
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I always thought it was odd that men want women to lower their standards on looks but complain when they’re not desired by their woman. Looks contribute at least 50% to your overall desire. I don’t think women (or men) should ever lower their standards unless they’re not content with being single. In that case do it so your SO doesn’t feel settled for. IMO Lowering standards just turns into resentment later. Let women have high standards and either price themselves out the market or she’ll find …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 01:27 AM
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I’ve already seen this happening. It’ll get more popular as more women end up single. I’ve even seen some women get together buy a house and basically live as roommates. Just give it time
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:17 AM
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The point is they have to make themselves desirable. Whether what they have is desirable or not is at the discretion of the employer. It’s not fair but it’s what is. What does this even have to do with the original point
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:23 AM
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It’s true though, They have to make themselves desirable to employers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:17 AM
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That’s great, You just have to be a good enough catch to get the woman you desire, just like everyone else on the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:11 AM
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But that statistic is about ppl who already have kids. That statistic falls under the umbrella of ppl that have children which is 50%. Specifically black women, About 55% of black women have children so you have 45% to work with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:55 PM
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The point is you genuinely don’t want to and I don’t think you should. You clearly have a lot of resentment and bitterness towards them and you prefer an attractive woman without kids which is completely fair (I prefer men without kids too). Attractive women without kids exist but they probably don’t see you on their level. The same way the attractive men don’t see certain women on their level. Only half the population has kids so they’re absolutely out there. Almost Every man on this planet wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:35 PM
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You don’t have to date a single mother, there are attractive women without children. It’s just a matter of if they want you back. Honestly it seems like you don’t want to do the same thing you’re advising women to do in your op. You don’t want to lower your standards and date a single mom, which is completely fair. I just want you to understand this is exactly how women feel when told to lower our standards. It’s depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:25 PM
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I’m black too, you can always just ignore single moms especially if that’s not what you prefer. This is what women do anyway or at least try to do, ignore the undesirables.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 11:05 PM
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Why single moms? Have they done anything to you personally
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:46 PM
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I think it’s just an expression not to be taken seriously. Honestly It seems like you’re talking about someone very specific but your OP is generalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:24 PM
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Dating is a personal thing so it’s really not anyone’s business. It’s mostly Ppl that don’t get picked who want to make it everyone else’s business because they’re not being chosen. They’re not obligated to listen to anyone. If they don’t listen that’s their problem only. Especially if they didn’t ask for anyone to advise them. If you’re tired of seeing women complaining block them and move on. I do the same with men who complain about women constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:21 PM
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Women are not exactly content being alone. Alone is just the better option. Social media is used to express yourself so that’s what women will do, just like men express themselves. I don’t think it’s that deep in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:13 PM
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Idk if it’s common. Even if it is common, that’s their business. I think it’s possible but not probable. Women rather be alone than deal with someone who’s not optimal. Women don’t get fulfillment with men anything less than her standards. Usually that’s how she begins to resent him and eventually leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:04 PM
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Well women have the standards because that’s what will make her happy. Anything less most likely will not make her happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:56 PM
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It is possible. I just gave general examples, it depends on the woman what exactly she wants the man useful for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:50 PM
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Be of use. Ex: cut the lawn, fill up her gas, pay for dinner, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:31 PM
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In general, someone cute/attractive in the face, masculine, confident, knows what he wants, charismatic, charming, useful, funny, caring, has a sense of style, well groomed, and selfless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:15 PM
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That could be true. The standard to be above average is pretty low tho. Just don’t be overweight and have a toned physique and boom you’re already above average. That’s not enough for women to not want to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:02 PM
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Because what they’re really upset about is them not being picked. The “women should lower standards” is just smoke n mirrors for “women should pick me”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:45 PM
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Women raise their standards because they want to be with the most idealistic man so the relationship is worth pursuing and maintaining. Anything less than isn’t worth it. Women don’t necessarily want to be alone but it’s the better option of the 2 worse options. If women options are be with a mediocre partner who you’ll probably have to have duty sex with and invest time and effort into a relationship vs being alone and not having to deal with another subpar person then women will choose the lat…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:29 PM
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The difference is struggling men haven’t even got to the point where they’re even dealing with another person, it’s literally just you. The only person that can change their circumstances is you because you don’t have another willing partner you’re involved with. Women are complaining about men they’re already involved with. The problems definitely differ so they require different solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:26 PM
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There’s only but so much of the “top” men to go around, women lower their standards to casually date otherwise they wouldn’t have a date every other day. Plus you’re not going to find every standard you want in a man so lowering standards is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:13 PM
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This should be a discussion instead of a debate. There’s nothing wrong with dating around because it can be fun. Maybe if those men lower their standards enough and move to a large city, they might have a chance at dating around. A lot of the women that date around lower their standards anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:53 PM
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If person A confess their feelings and it’s not reciprocated by person B but person B still wants to be friends, it’s person A responsibility to remove themselves from the situation. How is person B being manipulative if all person B wants to do is maintain the friendship? Buying gifts, hanging out, doing favors, giving/receiving compliments are all things done in friendships and in no way indicates someone is being manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:44 PM
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A lot of men are just in distress due to their struggles in dating. Ppl are more lonely, bitter and sexually frustrated. I think it’s unfortunate that ppl are lonely but it’s not fair to spread your misery bcuz you’re lonely. A lot of them want women to feel what they’ve felt, undesirable. Thats why they bring up post wall. That’s all they can do because they have no power in the dating market. Granted, it is completely fair for men to go after whatever women they like. I think women choosing to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:40 PM
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As someone who lives in a very large city, I agree that some women have basically a roster and for a variety of different purposes. It’s really only the super attractive who do have a roster though. It’s the same as super attractive men. Women are told that we should expect him to spin plates if we’re going after a good looking man over 6ft man. If that’s the case then men should also expect a very attractive woman to spin plates. That’s the game
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:06 PM
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I’m saying you can plan out a date that doesn’t require you to spend a lot of money. A picnic, a walk, a scenic drive, hiking etc. It’s always the thought that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:47 AM
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It’s really simple, you balance a lot of things in life. From the food you eat to budgeting, your time on social media/screentime, etc. Women just want you to apply that balance to the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:34 AM
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I think what women want is a balance. It seems like men think it’s all or nothing. If she thinks you’re going to the gym too much, that means just balance the time at the gym with whatever else you have going on. If she believes you’re working too much, create a balance where it’s not too much but not too little. Also, dates don’t always require money, be spontaneous and plan a nice dinner date at home or a walk to the park, sitting on the beach etc. Women just want a balanced effort in a relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:23 AM
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Are these thousands of men reporting their experiences to you? You’re using this so called thousands of ppl to judge the millions of women and that’s my issue with your claim. They’re still a relatively small population that you’re extrapolating onto everyone. If you’re failing at dating it is very much a you problem. Not because women have a narrow type. And since you mentioned that you tried sugar dating, The fact that you can’t even pay someone to tolerate you says a lot about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:59 PM
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You’re the only common denominator in your dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:37 PM
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I would rather mop the ocean with a strand of hair than be force to marry and depend on some guy. If the world ends because men can’t get women then I will gladly accept that fate. It’s always funny how lonely men threaten civilization and the future of society when they can’t get women. Are we really sure that men don’t need women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:49 PM
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You confirmed that all of these mixers that probably happen all over the country have thousands of women and at each and every mixer they’re not interested in the men there? You’re also using these mixers to generalize the rest of the population of women who probably don’t even know these mixers exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:38 PM
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What’s the population
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:11 PM
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So you’re using a small population to generalize everyone? Sounds like a sure way for one to victimize themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:33 PM
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Based off a mixer?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:17 PM
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Because deep down they still want women who are cat ladies and promiscuous to settle down with a Billy Bob so he won’t be lonely and miserable. For every single woman there is a single man. They don’t want women to be single because that means there’s a lonely man out there single and he’s suffering. You’re right they are miserable which is why they feel the need to spread it unnecessarily. If RP truly did work and RP men actually found a woman who loves, desires and cherish them, cat ladies and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:49 PM
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How does women not engaging with men at mixers prove that women’s type is narrow?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:46 AM
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Idk, ask them. Maybe they’re bored and need something to do. Maybe the men at the mixers aren’t their type. I don’t go to mixers nor do I know ppl who do so I can’t give you a solid answer. I would imagine women who attend mixers are a very small percentage anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:21 AM
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Friendship can help with loneliness. OP even mentions focusing on friendship while embracing being single
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:13 AM
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I’m not arguing in bad faith because the point is single means unattached and you have the option to embrace that. You CAN, you just choose NOT to. Nothing more or less. I agree with OP and that we should encourage men to embrace being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:46 AM
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That factor doesn’t change the fact that men have the option to embrace being single, unattached. Whether men choose that option or not is up to him but OP is arguing we should encourage men in general to embrace it, which I agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:39 AM
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That’s not the point tho. The point is Men have the option to freely embrace being single and as OP stated, we should encourage men to embrace singleness and find fulfillment in it. Whether they have access to sexual validation does not change the fact that men can willingly be single and can embrace being unattached.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:36 AM
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Embrace Being single? Yes I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:56 PM
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Yea
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:33 PM
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Just not interested in a romantic connection. The woman that are interested in a romantic connections will absolutely engage with men with romantic intent. Most Women engage with men for professional purposes and/or friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:25 PM
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Whatever men crave it’s on them to discipline themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 11:09 PM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 07:54 PM
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Well OP is encouraging men to do exactly that so we’ll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 07:54 PM
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To a certain extent you’re right it is coping. I think eventually once you accept your singleness then you don’t have to cope anymore. Coping is a mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 06:03 PM
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Embracing single life is exactly what it says, embracing being unattached. You’re making it more complicated than it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:46 PM
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Well like I said Women are still learning to embrace singleness. It’s not a streamlined process. By definition they’re still single though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:22 PM
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Have you tried posting in the more older male dominated subs? To see what they think. I’m excited to see men embrace singleness, I think it’ll be great for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:20 PM
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I think the only way men can fight back against what society tells them is if they collectively decide to embrace singleness. I don’t believe the overwhelming majority of men want that. As far as I can tell the only men that want this is mostly younger men. You need all men onboard.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:05 PM
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I genuinely believe that men by nature crave women validation and intimacy and it’s not something imposed on them by society. That’s the only part I disagree with. Besides that, I do think men can learn to embrace the single life like women are doing (I think women are still learning to embrace being single). You don’t have to worry about anyone besides yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:50 PM
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He’s dying and he’s still worried about dating?. Lmaooo I absolutely would not help him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:13 PM
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Man what the hell
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:16 PM
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And once the resentment kicks in he can leave the relationship. Now he doesn’t have to deal with it and look for someone who desires him how he wants. It seems like men are more so looking for justification for their insecurities and not solutions. This can all be avoided if men with this insecurity stay single or get with the woman who desires them but I would imagine that’s a very small list.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:56 AM
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The anxiety is easily avoidable. All you have to do is find a person that desires you or leave the person who’s currently agitating this feeling of insecurity and find someone who desires you. It’s incredibly simple. I said this in a previous comment, at some point men that harbor these insecurities need to stop wallowing in self pity and take action. Do what’s best for you, but it seems a lot of them don’t even want to do that. At the end of the day your partner is fully allowed to have that bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 08:47 PM
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Understandable but you can’t project your insecurities onto someone else. I would imagine being with someone who offers no passion or little passion is depressing so the man is just torturing himself staying in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 07:47 PM
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Maybe it’s best these type of men don’t have Relationships and don’t have children because this is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 06:00 PM
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Raw desire does exist, but that’s not necessarily the point. The point is to find someone who fulfills your expectations for passion and desire. If you can’t find that, maybe you’re not as desirable as you think. No one’s fault really but that’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:59 PM
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That sounds insane honestly. They barely have any relationship experience and they’re basically day dreaming about being mistreated. I see why they’re alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:32 PM
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I would suggest just leaving the relationship. Life is too short. Go out and find someone who desires you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 05:27 PM
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I absolutely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:35 PM
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Understandable but the answer is incredibly simple, leave the relationship. You can’t change desire and if it bothers him to where he feels unfulfilled, there’s no point in continuing the relationship. The relationship from that point will always be unstable. He should go out and find a woman who desires him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:35 PM
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Lmaoooo you are so right!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:31 PM
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I think The only men that are worried about this are the men that are undesirable and low self esteem. They want to blame the woman because they’re undesirable. At some point these guys have to take matters into their own hands and stop wallowing in self pity. The men that know they’re desirable or even have a shred of self esteem wouldn’t even entertain this mess. You believe your partner doesn’t desire you, you leave the relationship simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:51 PM
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He should leave the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:42 PM
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This question is asked every other day. It’s like the guys that ask this are expecting some magical answer even though they already have their mind set. Why even be in a relationship if you’re so unsure about your partner’s desire/passion for you? You’re Just bringing in unnecessary stress and baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:28 PM
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No, I would just end the relationship. It doesn’t make sense to be with someone who is insecure about their love for you. I personally don’t want to deal with someone like that, it’s less of a headache to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 10:18 PM
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I think it’s because men on average are visually stimulated much more than women are. Most women are not visually stimulated by men, probably by their man but not men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:15 PM
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Very common. An object of desire isn’t necessary and imo sometimes pointless because it’s irrelevant to the goal. It’s like when your body itches, you don’t think about anything when you scratch yourself, you just want relief. Same concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:51 PM
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It’s basically lower your standards but you have to somehow be sexually attracted to the man you lowered your standards for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:08 PM
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Women don’t care that much about dating men to feel the need to lie to them about their preferences. Men have the potential to be dangerous no matter what women say or do. The fact that it’s implied that men would become more dangerous if they learned the so called “truth” says a lot about men more than women, and is lowkey misandrist but idc I’m not a man. Women like tall successful good looking attractive men, which is why men are constantly berating women and telling them to lower their stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 09:55 PM
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Women don’t need to lie to men. Men that struggle with dating just need someone else to blame for their own shortcomings. This is an indirect way of doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:01 PM
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Just like the men that get rejected once and blame all women for his own shortcomings. Maybe just maybe those ppl are a subset of everyone and don’t represent every woman or man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:53 PM
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Yeah I think the woman equivalent to you would prefer to stay single because there’s no point in being around you. Women tend to be more social especially around the ppl that they like & care about. From a woman’s perspective If there’s nothing to gain in being with a man then the relationship is pointless. Not saying what you desire is wrong but expect it to be almost impossible especially if she’s attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:58 PM
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I think it’s rare for women to like and be with a man solely for his existence unless he’s some superstar. I believe even introverted women want to talk to their man and build/maintain a bond. I think even if you built a bond with this woman and eventually you guys stopped talking in the relationship, she would just leave because women typically don’t like men solely for his presence. If that’s the case most women would rather be alone tbh because what’s the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 12:14 PM
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Yes in regard to dating. Ppl just over complicate it and men that struggle in dating just want something to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:14 AM
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I agree, attractive men still approach as well as highly confident men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:08 AM
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I think too much internet and lack of socialization in person has caused more damage. True feminism regarding dating is just women having the option to choose whatever man they desire and being able to live a relatively decent life as a single woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 04:58 AM
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But it’s okay for these men to vilify all women based on a few women complaints and some men poor experiences in dating, mhmm. This is why ppl should just mind their business bcus You don’t genuinely care , just like the rest of these guys. It’s all smoke n mirrors. You need to spread your bitterness bcus you guys so desperately need to blame someone for the resentment that you still cling to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 02:10 AM
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Who are you and why should women care about what benefits you? Lmao less crime, less taxes the way you guys indirectly blame women for everything is pathetic. No better than the women that do the same. Maybe you guys should get together.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 10:39 PM
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And you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 10:03 PM
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What they want is for women to choose them. What else do you expect from those type of men that resent women, are sexually frustrated and need someone to take their misery out on? Just do what makes you happy in your dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 06:04 PM
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Money and status only matter to unlikable guys with no motion with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:35 PM
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It’s absolutely brutal. I believe most of us is doing the best they can with the circumstances they’re in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:52 AM
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And usually the cities with very low col have a dull dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:23 AM
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Nyc baby
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:15 AM
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As someone who lives in a city where the average rent is 4k+, living with parents doesn’t bother me too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 08:36 PM
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Have an attractive face and we’ll go from there
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:43 PM
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I really do appreciate your honesty. Most of us enjoy getting compliments from the sex you’re attracted to as long as it’s not creepy or anything. I don’t see anything wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:02 PM
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Why is this question asked so often
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:56 PM
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I don’t think women find most men below average, it’s just their looks are not enough to turn our heads. Men perceive that as below average. Men’s sexuality has been treated as the standard sexuality for almost forever. This is why men constantly use their sexuality as a guide to women, which is wrong. An okay looking man will not ignite a desire in women because women don’t work that way. Women’s attraction to men takes in multiple traits, how he talks, what he talks about, how he walks, his en…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:41 PM
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I’m confused. Are you talking about asymmetry in that men find more women attractive and women find a smaller portion of men genuinely attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:21 PM
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Ok I see If I had to guess, I would say it probably stems from women finding most men just okay looking. This is not enough for the modern man. As far as I can tell, Modern men want to be heavily sexualized and desired by women and women’s attraction to men just doesn’t work instantly like that. It’s like women wanting men to be attracted to their success and degrees etc Men’s attraction to women doesn’t work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:07 PM
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How do you know for sure it exists in real life ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:43 PM
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I think men outnumber women because they want the easiest and quickest way to get women. Firing up a dating app is much less effort than putting yourself out there in a bar or something. Also dating apps are strictly about aesthetics. Looking good, being physically fit or close to being, having the nicest car, having the most luxurious lifestyle or close to it etc etc. It’s basically another instagram.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:31 PM
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Most men are okay looking. Women’s attraction to men isn’t symmetrical to men’s attraction to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:15 PM
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Prior to Trump winning I barely even thought about men in general. Now that Trump has won, I still think of absolutely nothing about men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:27 PM
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Because they enjoy wearing the makeup and it doesn’t hurt anyone. Let them wear what they want. Based on OP, You only want them to stop wearing it for your own desires which is very selfish. This is why I said you should personally encourage the women in your life, leave everyone else alone. They’re not bothering you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:48 PM
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I don’t think we should encourage women as a whole is my point especially those who are comfortable with makeup. Let the few ppl that it bothers personally encourage their dates, that’s your business but don’t bring everyone else into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:15 AM
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As someone who doesn’t wear makeup at all, I think the men who have an issue with makeup should bring up their concerns to their potential date. Let the men who have no issues with makeup and the women who enjoy makeup mingle and do what makes them happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 05:58 AM
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A lot of women have stories of giving the “nice” guy a chance. A nice guy and an asshole are basically 2 sides of the same coin one just is a wolf in sheep’s clothing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:51 PM
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Men have to decide which is more important, to be desired or to have women lower their standards. You can’t have both. I don’t even think men back in the day cared so much about being desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:18 PM
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It’s a good thing that they get the ick, you don’t need to date anyone that shallow and you cut your losses early. I don’t think it’s a good idea to lie because forming relationships on a lie is never an ideal situation. It’ll just cause issues down the line especially if it’s a deal breaker for the woman. At the point both of you will be more invested and it can get messy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:26 PM
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Sounds like a stunt for advertising OF. I don’t see why because some women decide to do what they want with their lives and body that we all have to suffer by going back to the rigid norms of patriarchy and religion. That’s her life and business
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:24 PM
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Negative. I think Online Dating is not worth the effort. I prefer to meet someone in person. The connection feels more genuine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 06:07 PM
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I’m aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 06:00 PM
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That doesn’t mean their relationships are fulfilled but yes this is my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:38 PM
1

The issue is “stable” average relationships don’t have much of an appeal anymore because the average person is mediocre.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:24 PM
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Well what mountains are you suggesting to be moved for men? I’m open to hearing about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:06 PM
1

I personally don’t think settling is a good thing. I believe it causes more issues down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:05 PM
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Men aren’t going to get a wife by existing. They have to become what women like so women have a reason to want to be with you. As far as I know, men don’t want to do that because they believe the standard is high or not worth it, which is fair. That’s why I propose the solution of men building a purpose outside of family and amongst other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:41 PM
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I don’t see why that would be necessary if everything stems from lack of community.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 04:37 PM
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We see posts like this often. It seems like men issues stem from not being able to date and have a family. There’s not a solution as far as I know because women will only be with a man that she truly likes and is attracted to, nothing less. I think the best solution is the older generation of men should help the younger generation of men to develop a sense of identity outside of a family. Build more intimate communities amongst men and help them create a new purpose in modern day society. Societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 03:15 PM
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Clown activities
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:47 AM
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The women you date have nothing to do with me, please move around because you’re not even here in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 11:10 PM
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How are you gonna tell me what I’m attracted to lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:59 PM
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They would be extremely sexually attractive even if they weren’t famous or rich. I mean look at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:51 PM
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Idk Jason Momoa & Henry Cavill definitely seem like some nice sweet gentlemen and they exude sex appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:08 AM
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Maybe I’m misunderstanding the reason why this argument was even made but it seems this whole argument is based on the premise that wanting attention from certain people in a certain context is a bad thing. Yes women desire attention only from men them deem worthy and attractive. This post implies that’s a bad thing and that it’s something that’s not obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 01:20 AM
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Unfortunately a lot of men that are angry can’t stand to see an attractive woman flaunt their attractive body and they can’t do anything about it. If a man isn’t getting any and you see an attractive woman flaunting whether intentional or not, it’s easy to become enraged because from his perspective she’s taunting him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 09:24 PM
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The typical “nice guy” lacks masculinity, courage and is basically a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:49 PM
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A lot of women have a story of giving a guy who she thought was nice a chance and it usually ends with him not being as nice as she thought. So on top of being ugly, you’re a dick disguising himself as a “nice” guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:24 PM
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You can’t improve dating sites because the problem isn’t the sites, it’s the ppl on the sites. Improve the ppl and everything else will fall into place.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 05:12 PM
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I’d be friends with the average person. Hopefully in my state of NY, the average person might be slightly better than the average American person nationwide. I’d argue most ppl don’t want the average person as a partner, that goes for men and women. With each generation the standard to be average gets lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:37 PM
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I think most ppl believe it’s not worth it to invest in someone else, which is why there are more single ppl nowadays and ppl just have bunch of short term relationships. I don’t think it’s just a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:58 PM
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They basically want women to be shamed for not picking them because they’re such a nice guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:51 AM
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Doesn’t this apply to everyone? It’s basically ppl learning from their mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:32 AM
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She’s not sexually attracted to billy is my point. Men complain about dead bedrooms and will happily skate into one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 08:59 PM
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The only reason some men care about average women that believe they’re owed top tier men are men that think they’re owed those average women. They want women to be with what they call their “looks match” for no other reason besides the men deeming her his match and she should have his babies. This is the same entitlement they dislike in women. Their solution is basically an indirect way for women to go back to depending on men, they just don’t want to directly say it. That’s why they bring up ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:47 AM
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He can leave, I’ll choose social media and find another man who’s ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 12:50 AM
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I think women approach but only men they find really attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:30 PM
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I don’t see why either would be intimidating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 01:43 PM
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Lowering superficial standards is a great way to end up in a dead bedroom and men know that so they complain because men want to be highly sexually desirable. Superficial standards includes what you look like and how tall you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 12:55 PM
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If women go after men that’s good looking and overall attractive, then men complain that her standards are too high, women are shallow, women need to give the average joe a chance etc If women lowers their standards then she’s settling for beta billy and men still complain. I think women can’t win either way regarding their standards so go after what you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:19 AM
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Absolutely, I have no issue with men approaching me no matter the setting. As long as they’re respectful which most of the time they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:40 PM
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I don’t see why they would need to. I’m in a large city and If you got to a bar, rooftop restaurant or lounge, men are literally everywhere. The women are also there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 02:45 PM
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A lot of Men want casual sex but shame the woman who participates in casual sex. I don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 08:40 PM
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It depends what the husband does for the wife. Like for example does he pay all the bills?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 08:19 PM
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I’m just hoping the violence against women will lessen with AI girlfriends so I’m all for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:02 PM
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“Therefore you should stfu about that past certain age”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:48 PM
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I didn’t have a problem with the anecdote, I just said we can exchange them all day
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:41 PM
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My overall point is based on lived experiences and experiences of others and considering most ppl aren’t virgins after a certain age. I don’t think my opinion or anecdotes are more valid than others but others seem to think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:39 PM
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See the conversation was going good and you had to say stfu. That wasn’t even necessary but I can tell you’re sensitive and easily offended. Hysterical.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:34 PM
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I gave you 1 anecdote to combat your 1 anecdote, I think that’s pretty even. My overall point is based on lived experiences and experiences of others and considering most ppl aren’t virgins after a certain age. I don’t think my opinion or anecdotes are more valid than others but others seem to think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:32 PM
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The guy my friend was dating was a 30 yo 6ft handsome guy and a virgin. We can exchange anecdotes all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:17 PM
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Not knowing how and don’t know where (inexperienced) can be seen as a bad thing at a certain age which is my original point. The rest is willingly choosing not to date. I believe both genders blame others for not winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:54 PM
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I guess that makes sense if you’re not interested in dating whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 07:08 PM
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Do you think being passive is a good thing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:41 PM
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Oh and your anecdote is more valid? Lol the jokes write themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:39 PM
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Being a virgin especially late in life is already not the norm. The reason why someone is a virgin is the red flag. Most ppl aren’t interested in finding that out, so they cut their losses once they hear virgin depending on age. I think most ppl would agree especially in real life that after a certain age there’s a reason why someone is a virgin. You don’t have to be a piece of shit, you can just be weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:57 PM
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It’s not usually looks. Personality & mannerisms are the cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:43 PM
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That’s fine, you don’t have to agree. My point still stands though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:42 PM
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A lot of dudes have this mentality and then wonder why they barely have a social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:31 PM
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The age part is the most important. If you’re in your 20s I’m not even talking about you. I never specified the age and considering my original comment was talking about a 30 year old man, it’s implied the age I was referring to is 30+. I made sure that my comment referred to a certain age group. Usually after a certain age being a virgin is odd and it can mean something is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:13 PM
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We know firsthand in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:42 PM
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The empathy they want is smoke and mirrors. What they want is sex and for women to give it to them just because they exist. That’s why women lack empathy for sexless men. Try giving a man in real life empathy for his sexlessness, he’ll mistake it for interest and assume you want to “cure” his sexlessness
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:29 PM
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This seems more like a rant than a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:26 PM
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And some ppl I know literally are virgins because they’re insufferable to be around. Now what? That’s why my comment specifically said “usually” and “after a certain age”. Obviously I wasn’t talking about every virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:19 PM
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There’s a balance between promiscuity and virgin which most ppl maintain pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:56 PM
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Usually after a certain age, besides religious reasons, ppl are a virgin for a reason. That reason is usually not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:37 PM
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He was really good looking and because he was a psycho. They only lasted like a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:35 PM
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I have a friend that dated a guy who was a 30 yr old virgin but she later learned why he was a virgin. He was very obsessive and insecure. He had a lot of resentment for women and was very angry. Also he was just plain weird to me and clearly lacked proper social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:29 PM
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Again the debate is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:28 AM
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The debate is pointless since men believe women are lying and already have their mind set. OP is not looking for an honest debate. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:39 AM
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I believe The only ppl that can help create a safe space for young men are other men. The only problem I see is I don’t think enough men genuinely care unless they’re making money off of the men suffering. Women don’t care because they don’t see that men are making an effort to help other men and that’s why young men don’t have support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:41 PM
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This has also been my experience. The truth is they don’t want the truth, just to be coddled and victimized.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 08:14 PM
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Size Matters Height matters Face matters Job matters Wallet matters Hopefully that helps
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:01 PM
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Because they’re miserable ppl. RP attracts ppl who are miserable, unloved and unhappy and feel the need to spread it to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 04:26 PM
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How can we even have a decent debate if you start off saying you don’t trust the women to self report? You’re not even looking to debate in good faith from the jump so this post is just BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:58 PM
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Women can get a lot of their needs met outside of a relationship with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:45 PM
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I personally think social media has caused the most issues with dating. Ppl lack social skills and barely want to go out and have fun. They rather stare at a screen all day and talk to AI. We’re in a transition phase where adapting is important. I think many ppl will adapt to the new dating market but there will be ppl that will be left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:40 PM
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Yeah that’s not happening, maybe men could put that effort into controlling themselves instead of having women indirectly subjected to their sexual desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:56 AM
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Yeah that’s not happening, maybe men could put that effort into controlling themselves instead of having women indirectly subjected to their sexual desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:31 AM
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So I guess women will always have an upper hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 07:19 PM
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Many ppl nowadays just want immediate gratification then wonder why relationships don’t last.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:27 PM
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Many ppl truly forget that because their bond is built on superficiality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:26 PM
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Whatever their attraction to the person was built on wasn’t sustainable. Looks aren’t everything and even if someone is super good looking you get tired of them if they’re not fulfilling other things
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:50 PM
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Every time I see a group of young men together, it always ends up being less of a support group and more of a woe is me/women bashing club. I think that contributes to the lack of support young men receive because they have a poor image amongst ppl that don’t know what they’re going through. Young men stereotypes are what’s holding them back and they have to prove that they’re not a stereotype like every other marginalized group had/have to do. I think if young men actually band together and adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:31 PM
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Men can stop chasing women and the upper hand women have would vanish 💨 into thin air.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:10 PM
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That’s good , men shouldn’t do absolutely nothing they don’t want to . Have fun.!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 09:06 AM
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For the average person yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 11:03 PM
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12/15 A lot of my socialization stems from effort. Once you make an initial effort everything trickles down from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:16 PM
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12/15
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:02 PM
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I’m not attracted to dad bods. I love a slim fit man that’s 6’2” and up. He’s like Superman to me lol. I don’t understand why a woman would be insecure about a man looking so good. It’s so damn hard to find a good looking man, when you do find one that’s fit and beautiful I would show him off like a trophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:20 AM
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He just needs someone to blame. If you keep running into women with so much issues going on, the only common denominator is you. It’s the same logic as when women keeps running into narcissist assholes. She would be considered the red flag. Why don’t they apply that same logic to themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:37 PM
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Probably can get your bills paid and the man can provide a fun lifestyle for the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:42 PM
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Tell them to get off the apps, stay out women’s inbox, and stay out the bars as well since they’re overcrowded with men and men have had enough 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:23 AM
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Tell them to get off the apps too they’re overcrowded with uninteresting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:14 AM
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What makes this more hysterical is many are bitter because they can’t get a date. Dudes out here are against serious topics because they can’t get a fucking date. Like wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:05 AM
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I’d try it see if I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:50 AM
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I don’t see a problem here. Men have the option to get their money up and you can get a woman that way. The point is men would not get with a woman who doesn’t meet his standard of whatever his standard is. Now women also date with that same mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:52 PM
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You actually do care because I’m here agreeing with you and you’re still here ranting talking about women being shallow and abusers and shit. Who gives a shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:28 PM
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No one said looks didn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:48 PM
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I believe that women nowadays are more shallow and superficial but I think women just adapted to how men have moved since almost forever. No matter how ugly a man is most men before and now would absolutely never get with a woman who he believes is unattractive and could not offer him what he would want in a relationship. Now that women can pick their own partners, women adopted the same mentality. Also, if the average Billy had the options of Derek Jeter, they would plow through women too. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:29 PM
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Honestly I doubt it and I don’t see why they would want to. It wouldn’t make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:48 PM
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That’s fine, we don’t really care
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 12:05 AM
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American Women have no incentive to change
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:52 PM
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You just have to strike up conversation with someone. A bar is great because ppl are there to mingle. Being fearful is ok but you have to have courage otherwise it’ll reflect in your body language and she can be turned off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:48 PM
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Yeah you have to get out and socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:31 PM
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I’m not sure if this counts since it actually went somewhere. Once in my entire life. I found this guy at a restaurant I get lunch from pretty attractive but because he was work I didn’t want to bother him. One of his co workers actually broke the ice and surprisingly they told me he thought I was attractive as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:23 PM
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A lot of different factors go into what makes men attractive. It’s not as rigid as a lot of insecure men think. 5’9 or 5’10 is usually a decent height for most women. For some women the taller the better but she’s satisfied with under 6ft if he has other things going for himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:59 PM
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I don’t understand what this has to do with anything I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:49 PM
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Yeah you’re definitely on something, not worth entertaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:46 PM
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That’s not necessarily a bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:46 AM
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I don’t think that’s a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 11:46 AM
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If that’s what helps you sleep at night
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:27 AM
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Yes women want to have sex with men they’re attracted to. Surprise Surprise
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 08:00 PM
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American women aren’t changing, just date women from somewhere else that fit your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:24 PM
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Idk ask the men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:46 PM
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Possess traits that make you stand out and partake in activities that are exciting, interesting or inspiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:40 PM
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The orgasm gap doesn’t stop women from having relationships and sex with men. To a certain degree they enjoy if they keep doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:37 PM
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So basically men can’t do better on their own. Men can only do “better” when women are disadvantaged i.e Having to depend on men for basic survival, no bank accounts, etc. There’s nothing stopping men from trying to make more money. On average men make more money than women anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:54 PM
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The 4B movement won’t work because women enjoy having sex and relationships with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 03:39 PM
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You’re either ugly or boring to the women you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:52 PM
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Too complex. Most of us aren’t thinking that hard because it’s unnecessary. Is the person attractive? Yes? We have sex. It’s really simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:29 PM
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I think they overcomplicate it because then it justifies why they’re struggling so much to get sex or get the amount of sex they desire. It’s very weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:24 PM
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Do Women think he’s attractive? Yes ? Have sex That’s it. Why do you guys make it so much more complicated than what it is? I don’t get all of these theories and concepts for 2 grown adults having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:18 PM
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Honestly I think it’s better for him to just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:23 PM
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The 4B movement is not happening here anyway. It’s just the small demographic of very weird men & women with the loudest voices who focuses on this topic because they’re already miserable and they’re trying to make everyone around them miserable. The rest of us that actually have healthy/decent relations with the opposite sex don’t even see any potential change happening amongst the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 05:43 PM
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It’s well known that women have high standards. You guys just keep changing the narrative depending on the argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:03 AM
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Bruh none of this is happening in reality and if you stay in women spaces, they actually been saying stuff like this since forever. Also I thought women standards were too high before, and women needed to lower them now you’re saying women are now having standards. Furthermore hasn’t sex decreased in the past couple years? So which is it? Are we picking and choosing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:53 PM
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6ft is barely enough nowadays, they want 6’2” minimum. It’s crazy out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 03:16 PM
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I think men should be able to marry who they want, as long as it’s not exploitative. Holding them here hostage is not a good idea and it’s no different than when women were basically forced to be with a man to live a decent life. Ppl shouldn’t be restricted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 06:55 PM
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Women like sex with attractive men. That will forever happen until the end of time no matter what goes on in society or in her personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 02:28 PM
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I don’t think anything will change with the dating market. Women will keep engaging with attractive men because they’re attractive and men will do the same. The men and women who struggled will continue to do so. The only ppl who care about this 4B stuff or hoping for a drastic change in the dating scene are ppl who were barely a contender in the dating market anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 02:13 PM
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Well hopefully the youth get what they desire now that they got the presidential outcome they wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:41 PM
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Honestly I think ppl are free to have their beliefs as long as they’re respectful. I’ve never met any radical extreme leftist or conservative. The men I meet usually are very rational with their beliefs and still have respect for women. That’s all I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:24 PM
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That’s very interesting and very creepy. Sounds like a great plot for a netflix series
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 12:56 AM
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Omg lmaooo why the name of your town is lowkey cute. I’m in nyc 🗽
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 12:29 AM
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Yeah I live in a large city of 8 million ppl. I’m pretty comfortable with the way things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 12:19 AM
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I wasn’t looking for anything to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:56 PM
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As a black woman that lives in a very large liberal city absolutely nothing changes for me and the outcome of the election is not surprising to us anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 09:44 PM
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In my experience creepy guys can’t read the room, are awkward and push way too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 05:14 PM
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You can learn competency, it’s just means having skills knowledge and the ability to do something. You just need a basic level of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:25 PM
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I think women want someone that’s competent. You don’t necessarily need a degree for that but it does show a level of competency. Me personally idc if you have a degree or not, just as long as you have a high school diploma or GED and you have a basic level of competency.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:11 PM
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I think for ppl to decide if standards are reasonable or not they need to first decide if attraction and sexual desire is something that’s important in establishing a relationship. A lot of women standards are based on what they are genuinely attracted to and modern men want to be sexually desired. It’s easier to lower standards or make standards more “reasonable” when you take sexual desire off the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 03:27 PM
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When did I say women don’t date average men anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 05:00 PM
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This all sounds like a lot of cope sir. Your reply also doesn’t help.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:29 PM
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Lol there’s no loophole. Women just date men they’re attracted to and either cut their losses when finding out they’re not compatible or continue to deal with them. It’s really simple. Surprise! women want to have sex with attractive men lol. I think it’s neurotic that men think of these long thesis’s of how women date but can’t solve their own dating issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:15 PM
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Be reincarnated
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:31 PM
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I think you should casually date. Then if you happed to run into someone who’s worth the investment then you can move forward
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:45 PM
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Women that are beautiful, gorgeous or fine as hell typically has some man in the background. Men find the same type of women attractive so it’s not hard to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:09 PM
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You’re probably right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:42 AM
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I’ll give you that. Yes there’s a reason he’s like that but you can’t bring that into a new potential relationship. That’s called baggage and no one wants to deal with. He had an opportunity to date again and potentially have sex, so why screw it up by going on weird rants about chad with a yacht? He’s 30+ so he has to learn eventually or he’ll forever be a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:39 AM
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Seems like he just had another chance to get off that path and messed it up but he doesn’t see it that way. It’s all unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:25 AM
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The guy with the yacht since he’s not going on unnecessary rants about women fucking other men. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:23 AM
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Probably just a little less weird lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:21 AM
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Idk why he felt the need to tell her. She didn’t have an issue with it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:19 AM
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I don’t think his women fuck chad rants are justified sorry. It’s extremely unnecessary and explains probably why he’s unwanted sexually. Just saying what most ppl think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:18 AM
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Girl I said the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:08 AM
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I think he’s a virgin because of his mentality. He had a GF and my friend who were both ok with his virgin status. It wasn’t until he started his rants that they were turned off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:07 AM
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I told her he was really cute because he is. There are women ok with him being a virgin but he’s more likely a virgin due to his mentality. My friend was ok with his virginity until he started his unnecessary women fuck chad rants. Lol It’s really a mental thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:04 AM
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Ok I understand
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:00 AM
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My friend started casually dating this really cute guy. Come to find out he spews pill nonsense lol. I’m just looking at his face like how did you end up down this path with a face like that and a lot of money? She told me he’s a virgin but he’s been in a relationship before and he goes on and on about how women are ok fucking a dude who owns a yacht and fucked 10 girls in one day but not ok with a virgin 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:57 AM
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It’s a privilege to have someone like you back ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:30 AM
1

What is female privilege exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:20 AM
2

I just found out my crush likes me too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:20 AM
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Finding out your crush has a crush on you is such a great feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:04 AM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:08 PM
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I personally don’t mind. In my experience the most common thing is to buy a drink. Sometimes they’ll send the bartender and the bartender will tell me who bought the drink. As a courtesy I’ll go up to the guy and thank him so that’ll start a conversation. Sometimes A guy will sit next to me and start chatting or offer to buy me a drink. If you’re on the dance floor, men will just start dancing with you and after that they’ll start a conversation with you. You can’t really be shy or awkward in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:22 PM
2

I would just stay single. As a woman with no kids I value excitement & height in men a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 04:16 PM
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He’s a person who seems nice and has a base line of respect and kindness for others. A good man for me personally would be Genuine, respectful, caring, ambitious, charismatic, charming, exciting, funny, confident but I’m aware men like this barely exists especially adding in cute, tall and makes a great living. No they wouldn’t change, I would just stay single Most men I meet usually meet about half or less of the traits I would like in a man. I found some of them attractive depending on the tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 03:39 PM
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and I completely understand. I hope be finds peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:16 PM
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Does anyone outside of this sub even know about these tiers? Dating is nuanced and the tiers are pointless. Just seems like another way to make ppl more miserable. Just go out relax and meet ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:53 PM
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I don’t understand the point of these tiers and placing yourself in one. Especially since it’s not like most ppl on the dating market who actually date know about these tiers. It seems kind of neurotic and a sure way to make yourself even more miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 04:04 PM
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If you’re ugly, just show off your money and exciting lifestyle. If you’re ugly and boring then maybe dating apps aren’t for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:40 PM
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Nope, the interview style date is odd and would of turned me off immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:57 PM
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Yes money is perfect to make up for ugliness and boring hobbies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:41 PM
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High value men have a lot of things women want. They have a little bit (or a lot) of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:40 PM
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You’re right I always say you can’t have multiple struggles. You have to pick a struggle if you want to date. You can’t be ugly and have boring hobbies. You have to make up for the ugliness. Just like you can’t be ugly and broke. There needs to be a reason someone likes you and wants to be around you. If you have nothing nobody wants then you can’t date, it’s simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:32 PM
2

Men need either a little bit of everything or a lot of few things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:52 PM
1

Men should do hobbies that they genuinely enjoy. The unfortunate truth is that some hobbies will attract women and some won’t that’s just what it is. In general you have to have something that attracts the opposite sex to you. The problem is men want women to be attracted to them (arguably) solely for their looks because that’s why they desire women. Unfortunately women’s attraction to men doesn’t work that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:18 PM
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Adam seems more exciting since he travels and always making plans. I Prefer him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 02:15 PM
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Yes humans can be studied and are studied. That’s not the point though. As stated in OP ppl don’t end up being friends and having relationships because they reduced each other to a science project. Also, the majority of ppl that socialize don’t do this. Suzy and Mark that’s going to the bar tonight doesn’t have a 5 page thesis about how to meet ppl. They just go and do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 08:09 PM
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The point is they’re not obligated to get into a relationship they don’t want to. Don’t want to be married or in a monogamous relationship? You don’t have to. You can be single forever. Want a FWB? That’s fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:33 PM
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Going out, meeting ppl and getting to know them is fun. Socializing in general is fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 07:21 PM
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There are men that think socializing and dating is fun because it is. Especially since nowadays you can do whatever you want in dating, spin plates, fwb, monogamy, get married whatever. It’s not because I have it easy per se but because you have a chance to meet new ppl from different walks of life and have a good time. Humans are social creatures so it’s something we’re born to do. Many guys unfortunately don’t know how to simply have a good time with people and too stuck in their own misery to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 06:21 PM
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Yes girls like Pokémon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:29 PM
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Can’t even Imagine being with someone who gives their money to web streamers. That’s not a past partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:36 PM
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Please don’t impose your dating life onto mine. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:21 PM
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You’re comfortable analyzing but are you comfortable socializing too?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:41 PM
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Yes I socialize the same with men no matter what they look like. I also approach men to socialize (in a social setting of course).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:52 PM
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The manosphere gets more odd each day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:41 PM
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Like I said you guys know how to make socializing miserable for yourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:38 PM
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It just shows how they view women. Don’t even see them as different beings with hopes dreams desires and emotions. Just an object that they need to study. If they just go out and actually socialize like humans are supposed to do they probably wouldn’t have to over analyze everything. Socializing & dating should be fun especially when you’re young, and a lot of these guys know how to make it miserable for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:09 PM
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I guess context is needed but When men have accomplishments they’re acknowledged regardless of what he looks like. Women don’t have that privilege. Women looks are always the topic of conversation even if she ended world hunger there will be countless articles about how she needs botox or to lose weight or she’s the gorgeous woman that ended world hunger, something related to what she looks like regardless if it’s a compliment or not. On a large scale there’s barely ppl harshly judging men looks…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 09:29 PM
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Unfortunately this is commonly talked about but I envy men Not having to worry about pregnancy. Kids are nice until you realize you have to be pregnant for 9 months and be the main parent for the early stages of their life. Pregnancy scares me. Also, I envy how men can look anywhere from super ugly to super handsome and they will always be treated with respect as long as it’s earned. If a woman is super ugly she’s harassed and if she’s beautiful, she’s still harassed. Women looks are always the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:58 PM
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Women are delusional but average men that are overweight and balding making 50k deserve young beautiful women just because. The jokes write themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:55 PM
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Maybe you don’t want to acquire these characteristics because of your circumstances but that doesn’t change the fact that it can be acquired and or modified.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:08 PM
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Women also judge men’s Confidence Masculinity Status Charisma These can be acquired and/or changed at any point in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:27 AM
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You forgot a few Women also judge men on things that can’t be changed Income Confidence Status Charisma Masculinity Men also judge things that can’t be changed Skin color Boob size Butt size What type of family she comes from (single parent household) Both genders have things they judge the opposite sex for no matter if they can change it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:14 AM
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You didn’t know? Women will move the globe for ChAd according to the guys here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:49 AM
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Not all ppl that are awkward are creeps but being awkward plus lacking self awareness would make someone creepy. Awkward ppl are very visible usually because of their body language so ppl who don’t know you are already weary of you. An example of creepiness is not giving someone personal space or constantly touching someone when they look uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 02:39 AM
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Understandable, it all depends on the person. I like to casually flirt with certain guys so sometimes I’ll just flirt with them and they’ll flirt with me back. Small things like this is why dating is exciting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:16 PM
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You find them attractive and when you see them you feel a sense of joy. Thinking about them when they’re not around puts a smile on your face. Its just overall euphoric when you seem them & think about them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:58 PM
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Haha that’s interesting because I feel like I have a new crush every month lmao. But I definitely hope the best for you in your love life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:44 PM
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There’s definitely a difference in what I feel between friends and a romantic partner. I think ppl that think the only difference is attraction usually lack experience which is good because that means all you need to do is get some experience under your belt. The truth is If you desire a romantic relationship you have to be romantic otherwise there’s no point. Your love language is fine, it’s just finding a partner who’s willing to do that on the 1st date is very hard. Unfortunately it seems lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:29 PM
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There has to be something that differentiates between a romantic partner and friend. That’s why being romantic is important. What you find romantic is fine but in the early stages of dating it would probably be even harder for you to inspire feelings because what you listed are things most ppl can get from a friend. You shouldn’t buy gifts if you genuinely don’t like to do that but you personally have to figure out romantic gestures you like to do that also will inspire romance in the potential …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:01 PM
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I understand and your feelings are completely valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:53 PM
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Understandable
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:47 PM
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If it feels fake does it mean you don’t really like to be romantic? What romantic gestures have you done?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:47 PM
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You’re right, it does depend but You have to know your date. You usually get a feel of if the woman likes spontaneity & excitement prior to the date when you’re talking to each other. Also whatever you’re changing to has to be a better idea than what was planned. Like if you planned to go to an Italian restaurant but you know her favorite cuisine is Thai food and you know a banging Thai place. I don’t think she would be mad. Getting to know the person prior the date is very crucial.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:46 PM
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Romance is important because otherwise you’ll just give off friend vibes but at the same time you don’t want to be overly romantic. There’s a nice balance that you must maintain. Don’t make it awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:38 PM
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That’s unfortunate, who wants to date someone that treats dating as a business.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:31 PM
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Being very spontaneous is key. I’ve had multiple dates in the past 2 weeks which we planned something but when I got there we changed course and did something better. Being very playful. Joking around and sharing funny stories takes away the seriousness of the date. If you decide to plan something, do an activity that’s not just dinner is much better. Escape rooms, go kart racing, salsa dancing, roller skating, bowling, pottery etc Trying something new together Having a mix of casual laid back d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:30 PM
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Being very spontaneous is key. I’ve had multiple dates in the past 2 weeks which we planned something but when I got there we changed course and did something better. Being very playful. Joking around and sharing funny stories takes away the seriousness of the date. If you decide to plan something, do an activity that’s not just dinner is much better. Escape rooms, go kart racing, salsa dancing, roller skating, bowling, pottery etc Trying something new together Having a mix of casual laid back d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:29 PM
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Women rather share this guy because he’s offering something they can use which is his status. Status is very important in this generation. The guy in the photo is really basic looking and definitely not a chad based on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:14 PM
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I truly admire how some men really know how to make dating fun and exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:06 PM
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He’s not chad, just has clout and money (maybe).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:01 PM
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The jokes write themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:06 PM
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How you hating from outside the club, you can’t even get in
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:59 PM
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I’ll be obsessed with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:58 PM
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It’s always the wrong ppl/person obsessed with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:44 PM
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Someone awkward who can’t understand social cues and boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:19 PM
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Instagram has these weird AI chats and I don’t see the point in chatting with someone who’s not real on instagram out of all places. It’s crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:16 AM
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I definitely felt this. I went on a date with a guy that’s 6’4” and it just felt so good just to stand next to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 11:30 PM
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A lot of men don’t think it’s worth the investment especially with relationships being so fickle nowadays. Also, most ppl (men & women) move with the goal of wanting to get their needs met first and putting in as little as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:12 PM
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Most of these are not red flags. More like preferences. I don’t mind men under 6ft, Ideal for me is about 6’2” I don’t mind video games As long as it’s not a micro P As long as he can take care of himself, don’t care how much he makes If he’s purposely unemployed, that’s a red flag I don’t mind introverted. Extroverted is ideal for me Being inexperienced is fine as long as he’s not awkward or weird Virgin at 25 might be a red flag unless it’s for religious reasons. Love a man who’s willing to do…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:09 PM
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It’s basically dudes that’s hating from outside the club and they can’t get in.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 08:13 AM
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I assume the safe option is someone who’s not sexually attractive. If you have nothing to offer besides safety then it makes sense why you’re a safe option. Men want to be sexually desirable but have no sexual desirability. The same logic applies to women who men fuck zone because they only offer sex. I understand completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:42 AM
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Nothing. I don’t think most ppl believe this is a big enough issue to address outside of reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 06:46 PM
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That just means men need another purpose which it’s their responsibility to find. Saying men work to hopefully get women, puts an indirect pressure and accountability on women because if he’s unsuccessful, women are blamed. Men need to understand that for most of history women needed a man to live a relatively decent life. Women never got to exercise what they truly wanted in a man because men needs were basically prioritized and they needed women rights subdued for most men needs to be met. Men…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 12:01 AM
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Idc about below average men because they don’t represent most men. It’s not even about the casual sex to me. It’s the mindset. Casual sex is fine as long as there’s clear communication between both parties. Most of the time that’s not the case. Since society doesn’t have a common goal when it comes to relationships anymore, honesty is important because different ppl want different things. A lot of modern average+ men aren’t honest with themselves or with women (or men if you’re gay) on top of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:14 PM
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Not any different than men downplaying men’s overall role in the poor dating market or putting the blame all on the mythical Chad guy. They don’t want an honest conversation neither, just want to be a victim. Women standards aren’t necessarily delusional, many men are just undesirable & unwanted. If you’re really that guy, she wouldn’t even care.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:30 PM
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Being stoic, direct, ambitious, protective & courageous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:55 AM
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Women have no incentive to support men if their own gender won’t even support them. Also you basically called most men awful human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:50 PM
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Masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 03:40 PM
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The same reason why men flash money, cars, jewelry, & expensive vacations then get upset when women want them for their money, cars, jewelry, expensive trips.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 11:11 PM
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I think ppl treat dating apps like social media so that’s probably why they upload group pics. It’s all very weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:22 PM
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I think it’s weird. I’ve seen men only upload group pics. How am I supposed to know which one is you? I personally think it’s unnecessary to show you have friends on a dating app. I just like clear photos of you that show your whole body and face.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 08:35 PM
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You have bars, the beach, the arcade, museums, yacht parties, brunch, roller skating rinks, food markets, Botanical garden, pottery class, concerts, comic/anime cons, go kart racing, barbecues, mini golf, books & art store (specialty stores always have events going on) . There’s endless places to meet anyone honestly. I think a lot ppl either live in a town where basically nothing happens (which this doesn’t apply to you) or they are very boring and don’t want to go out to social venues.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 07:38 PM
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The terrible pics thing is so true. I’ve seen super blurry pics, pics where guys hide their face, pics of men looking down, pics with multiple ppl in the photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:36 PM
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This is so true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:57 PM
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Probably lack of effort would be the biggest red flag. If you’re putting in and she isn’t more than likely she’s stringing you along.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:50 PM
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Context is needed. Women usually have these type of responses because the guy approaches awkwardly or says something crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 04:15 PM
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At the end of the day we’re all shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 01:41 PM
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I wouldn’t feel offended. Like hey if you feel that way then do what you gotta do. Plus if there’s a lack of passion & excitement I wouldn’t see a reason to continue the relationship anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 09:06 AM
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There are ppl with low standards but they dont want those ppl. If you won’t lower your standards for the ppl that want you, why would you expect those with high standards to lower their standards for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:20 PM
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They only focus on it because it gives them something to blame for why they’re undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:53 PM
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I mean if you can change your social awkwardness, dating will get at least 5x better for you. Being socially awkward makes dating that’s already hard even harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:18 PM
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Not necessarily, I think many unattractive women know they’re unattractive so they just accept it and stay single. Many Unattractive men seem to think every man should be able to have a partner just because and that’s not how it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:49 PM
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If you say so bud
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:36 PM
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Yes if they’re ugly, nothing matters really.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:36 PM
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Are you saying that these men have personality traits that women find attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:53 PM
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You’re right, I always say the world will keep spinning regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:28 PM
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Unattractive men can’t do anything with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:26 PM
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The point is They’re attractive, it has nothing to do with them being a criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:24 PM
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It’s always so crazy how a lot of unattractive guys claim they can’t even approach women because they’re facially challenged or just overall unattractive but seem to think they can get away with treating women like shit or be a bad boy and all of sudden women will be all over them like butter on bread. I tell them to rob a bank, get a couple of federal warrants, maybe slap a woman on the street and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:13 PM
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Haha that is so true 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:08 PM
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You’re absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:08 PM
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I can understand adding an inch to yourself lol. 6’2 I would say is good enough for me, 6’4”+ is a tad bit too tall but I’m not 100% against it. I have 2 friends one that’s 6’3” and another 6”5 so i have an idea of what those heights look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:07 PM
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You got guys that are 6’3” lying about their height, so that bar is gonna go up soon lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:03 PM
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6’7”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:01 PM
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I definitely understand if you’re like 5’8” but this guy was already tall lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:00 PM
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I know but when you experience it first hand it’s like wow. Mind you this guy already like 6’3”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:58 PM
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I didn’t realize there would be men that would lie about their height. I understand though. Edit: I think it’s unnecessary when you’re already tall. This guy was already like 6’3” but said he was 6’7”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:54 PM
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I only see men called incel on reddit and sometimes twitter in niche communities. It’s definitely not a popular insult. It’s also used when men are using their manosphere points as to why they’re struggling. I see way more and more support for men struggles especially if they have valid good faith complaints.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:21 PM
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Men can blame their looks, they currently do it now. Especially when it comes to height since most men are under 6ft. Honestly now since the pop the balloon shows are going viral, you literally see women turning down men for height, looks, clothes etc. Those women get dragged to the ends of the earth because men should be given a chance despite his looks. I’m beginning to see more support for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 11:21 AM
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Is my husband 6’4”+ cute, with a high status job, 6+inch dick, buys me anything I want, and a full head of hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:28 AM
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Is my husband 6’3”+, cute, with a high status job, 6 inch+ dick, and buys me anything I want?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:59 AM
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Is my husband 6’2”+, cute and with a high status job?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:32 AM
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Is my husband 6ft+ and cute?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:05 PM
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Dating is all about feeling someone out to see if they’re a good match. Emotions & feelings don’t care if you’re a catch or not. Also, you may view yourself as a catch but does she feel that way? Either way you shouldn’t beat yourself up because it happens with everyone. Just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:24 PM
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I need both for long term. I think choosing one or the other eventually the relationship will fall apart
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 02:21 PM
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The gym won’t fix everything but it’s better than being ugly and having an ugly body.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:47 PM
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Oh is that so? Oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:20 AM
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HA! That’s hilarious. Just let the women chase the attractive men. The world will keep spinning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:01 AM
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And after you show women how shallow they are, what happens next?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 10:35 PM
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Let them be shallow that’s their business. Men are allowed to be shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:00 PM
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Let them be shallow , that’s their business. Men don’t even think twice about unattractive women but women are supposed to care about unattractive men. Comedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 08:58 PM
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Women understand stats they just don’t care because being single is always an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 08:30 PM
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Just more tainted ppl and their unnecessary baited opinions. This is how they get you. Ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:16 PM
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This is why it’s comedy when some men insist women should lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:52 PM
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They care because it allows a lot of unloved men to shift blame to women as to why they’re unloved and unwanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:09 PM
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These are the same guys complaining because women settled for them and there’s a dead bedroom right around the corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:35 PM
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I love to dance 💃🏿 and meet new people
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 02:01 PM
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Hey we just it accept it man. That’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 01:52 PM
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But will she actually like this man and love him long term ? Remember she had to lower her standards for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 01:45 PM
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Yes let me pair off with a man I don’t even like and grow to resent because I need him for retirement. I’ll make sure to mention that’s the only reason I’m dating him and see how far that gets me. I think a lot of us rather be broke & die than be with a man we had to lower my standards for. That’s the point. We’re not saying we don’t want a man, we don’t want a man who doesn’t meet the standards. Relationships involve sex and our lives are intertwined. Being with just any man is awful from a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 01:43 PM
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Women do not benefit from lowering their standards. Lowering standards mostly benefits men. Why would women lower their standards when they could just be single?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 10:34 AM
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If you’re broke, at least be cute. You can’t be broke and ugly, pick a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:41 AM
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Many don’t deserve empathy because of their long entitled rants about how women are ugly whores who are used up after 30 and every attractive man is a 5x federal warrant asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 10:29 PM
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It’s a way to cope with not being picked as well as being unattractive to the women they desperately want validation from. “These women are shallow whores” And they don’t even know you exist Jimmy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:20 PM
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If he’s paying for everything, I wouldn’t even care what he did with other women. With a certain caliber man that’s expected anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:07 PM
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No one is forcing men to approach so they can stop and say “fuck you” whenever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:29 AM
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I thought men wanted raw desire. Doesn’t building wealth, status and resources for women to find you good enough to tolerate go against what men truly want?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:15 PM
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At the end of the day the ones that get it will move forward and the ones that don’t will just be left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:25 PM
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I don’t think it’s because you’re a man. But you have to self assess to understand why you’re always alone. Are you fun to be around? Do you know how to make conversation? How do people react (body language) when engaging with you? Do you invite ppl to do activities with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 05:27 PM
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I’m not denying his experience. The study does not state specifically young men don’t approach because men are ashamed of their sexuality. OP is applying his experience to the men included in the study.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:03 PM
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I wasn’t aware of this since it’s not my personal experience. I would bet money that the reason most young men do not approach is because they’re socially awkward and lack self awareness which leads them to act very weird around women. Not because they’re ashamed of their sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:18 PM
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Because the point is there’s no problem with the advice. It’s with YOU 🫵🏾😂 But women are blamed because these men are struggling, miserable and resentful. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:34 PM
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Honestly no one cares to be genuine and help anymore because you get posts like these. The ones that are successful will continue to mate and those who struggle will be left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:29 PM
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I think they’re a lost cause because of their mindset. You can be fixed but there’s no amount of advice that soothes these poor men souls until they change their pathetic mindset, so in that case yes there’s no helping you. My overall point is that women shouldn’t be blamed because you’re pathetic in dating. The advice isn’t bad, you’re just a lost cause, but yet women are once against being blamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:25 PM
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What differentiates bad advice and good advice if it’s possible good advice can lead to being unsuccessful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 06:15 PM
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I personally think there isn’t much that can help these struggling men, not even if god himself gave them advice. Many of them are a lost cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 05:45 PM
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Maybe struggling men are the ones who need to be fixed
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 05:26 PM
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So this argument can be applied to men as well. Women shouldn’t be singled out for bad advice. Also, if that’s the case why are they still struggling?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 05:24 PM
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It’s the equivalent of telling a struggling man to give flowers to a girl he likes. That doesn’t benefit him and it probably won’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:35 PM
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Tbh I don’t think this is a case of bad advice, this is a case of there’s not much that can help these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:33 PM
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There’s clearly a disconnect because all men know the struggle and men supposedly give better advice than women so why are some guys struggling still?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 02:11 PM
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This is true 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:57 PM
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I thought successful men don’t know the struggle because they never had to struggle? I’ve had men tell me that. Now you’re saying the opposite. How exactly do successful men know the struggle of a man who’s unattractive & can’t get a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:53 PM
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So who exactly is qualified to give struggling men advice? It seems like these men are picky with who can give them advice that’ll satisfy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:42 PM
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Does it not also depend for women too or is all women advice terrible?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:13 PM
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Wouldn’t advice from a man who’s good with women also come from a place of ignorant privilege? Unless you plan to get advice from men in the same position as you, which would defeat the purpose anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 11:59 AM
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I would define toxic as being very harmful or consistently unpleasant
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:18 AM
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And almost half of women homicides are from men who she used to be involved with or is currently involved with 🤷🏾‍♀️. The point is toxic people exist everywhere. If you only attract toxic women in your home country, I think that you’re most likely toxic too. People that’s the most toxic always claim everyone or most ppl around them are toxic & they’re magically the exception. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:56 PM
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American Women now prioritize themselves. That’s really the basis of how women date. This causes clash (which is what men probably see as toxic) because men also date this way, the only difference is men always dated this way. This isn’t really a toxic American woman thing. This is a toxic ppl thing. Men are out here killing or physically abusing women for being rejected but using that as a basis to judge all men or American men would be wrong even though this post does the same for women. Peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:26 PM
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Men should do what’s best for them, the same way women prioritize themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:56 AM
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Nope, we learned this in school if you missed that boat you’re on your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:54 AM
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It feels good sometimes. They usually compliment you a lot, sometimes they buy you things. You can tell they just enjoy being in your presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 10:20 PM
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Me personally I would just block you but you should shoot your shot because they might be ok with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 05:18 PM
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We love to see it ✨
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 04:21 PM
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“We need to start normalizing…” No we don’t just go ahead and do it, nobody cares. 9/10 it’s normal and ppl are already doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:02 PM
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You did not say that. A diligent hard worker who is kind and loyal does not automatically mean he’s charming, charismatic funny and useful. I would guarantee the guy you’re playing second fiddle to is masculine, charming, funny etc and probably whines less and of course not boring. Of course he gets the panties wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:22 PM
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You can be charming, charismatic, useful & funny. These are traits that women find attractive and they don’t require money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:31 PM
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You can always be more than just your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:30 PM
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I always thought it was insane to play the long game, just go meet someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:22 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:21 PM
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There’s less of a safety risk when meeting women. Men are shamed much less for being single and playing the field/having multiple partners, I mean it’s a running joke that men have a 2nd family on the other side of town. Women will never be allowed that grace. I personally think men are judged less for being shallow. It’s ok for men to want a beautiful sexy cute woman who just looks pretty to him. We all know Most men will never entertain a woman who he believes is ugly. Women can’t want a good …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 11:07 PM
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You were unattractive and now you’re attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 09:59 PM
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Money isn’t always everything. Solely based on looks, a lot of billionaire men are average looking or just ugly. No hot woman wants to wake up next to Mark Zukerberg longer than 6 months. He looks like an alien. If you want a hot woman for long term, you being hot will get you farther than having money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:17 PM
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I didn’t watch the press conference so I just thought it was your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:19 PM
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Yes And why do you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:08 PM
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I’m so happy my mayor has been indicted by the feds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:04 PM
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He even bought me a drink lol. I’ve been hit on by women too. Idk what’s going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:02 PM
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My gay friend invited me out, but it’s pretty normal to see women in gay clubs. Especially since there’s so many.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:00 PM
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I assume they were Bisexual but yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:59 PM
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I remember a video on Ig I saw saying if women want to not be hit on by men, they should go to a gay club. I actually did this because there’s a lot of gay clubs in my city and it didn’t change anything lol. I guess it depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:52 PM
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100/10
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:00 PM
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😂😂😂 I’m leaning towards the Thai place too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:00 PM
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From the Thai place I was thinking of getting their lunch special which is basil fried rice with shrimp and a salad. From the Japanese spot I was thinking some sushi probably but I’m still undecided with what exactly I want from the Japanese spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:59 PM
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Thai or Japanese food? Trying to decide what to eat for lunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:37 PM
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They were probably trying to see if the attraction would build and it didn’t. Also, she might have a better option.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:33 PM
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A lot of men enjoy trying to humble women because they believe we’re beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:08 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:05 PM
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If I had to guess, Like 2% of men are against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:47 PM
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Maybe the struggling men can go after a homeless woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:23 PM
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I have never hooked up with anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:17 PM
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Yes I would. There was this guy at my gym who was about that height (I’m 5’6”) and he was soooooooo attractive. He had a girl but my god he was smooth, charismatic, charming, confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:48 PM
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We’d have to go out together so I can see how he talks to women. I’d bet money it’s how he talks to women, then we can go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:51 AM
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Go outside, socialize and be a fun person to be around, stop being awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:44 AM
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You’re arguing in bad faith which is why you’re being dragged all over your post 😂😂🙃🙃 I love to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:22 PM
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They don’t like those people that’s why they’re ignoring them. Yes I did say what I said and meant what I said. 🫶🏾Your interpretation is Irrelevant. 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:18 PM
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My comment implies that women want to be with a man by choice that she likes. Really simple. If she has no choice that means she’s forced to be with a man she doesn’t like and eventually resents, that’s why she doesn’t want to breathe near him. Whether you interpret that as hating all men is a you problem. Most women in relationships right now are with those men by choice. That’s all we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:09 PM
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😂😂😂😂Women just want to be in a relationship with a man that she actually likes and is attracted to. Idk why this is such a big deal. Men want the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:55 PM
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YAWNNNN You’re just Another SOCIETAL COLLAPSE POSTER who wants to roll back time to where women didn’t have a choice and dedicate their life to being with a mediocre pathetic man she doesn’t even like. It’s all smoke and mirrors anyway, you guys don’t actually care about society you just care that men are lonely and horny and women don’t want to be a maid sex slave for men who offer nothing substantial. Cope is waking up to a someone you don’t even want to breathe near and convincing yourself it…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:14 PM
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Ok so women will stay single, landlords will keep their apartments unoccupied and companies will hire no one, THATS THEIR CHOICE which is also an option. Clearly they don’t like them enough if they’re being ignored. It’s not self sabotage, ppl just overestimate themselves and being without is better than being with/having someone mediocre 🤷🏾‍♀️ that’s why companies, landlords and women move exactly how they’re moving in modern society. No one cares what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:03 PM
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Why should Landlords, Companies, and Women not wait for their best option? They don’t benefit from choosing someone that’s not their best option. That’s why landlords rather keep their apartments empty, companies rather not hire someone and women rather be single. Is it fair ? Nope but that’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 06:48 PM
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In reality everyone settles so it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 06:24 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:51 PM
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I mean if we’re assuming she settled then it’s easy to assume he settled. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:38 PM
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Thank you so much for this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:23 PM
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Yayyyyyy 🫶🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:22 PM
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You’re right, it can be a hard pill to swallow
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:21 PM
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It such an insult to average men, and I thought struggling men would be the biggest advocates for average men but all they do is tear them down. How is that any different than what they accuse women of doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:21 PM
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I think i know exactly what photo you’re talking about 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:14 PM
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An ok looking face, no abnormalities, nothing on the face stands out (like perfect cheekbones or having a very droopy face). Maybe plain faced might be the wrong word
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:10 PM
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I acknowledge dating is terrible but that’s for everyone. I’m referring to men at least 25 years old because by then you’ve had enough time to settle into adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:07 PM
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Yeah I’ve seen men who’ve never had a girlfriend 25+ describe themselves as average The average man is married lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:04 PM
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I like to think I’m relatively average but I’m not overweight so idk
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:02 PM
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Maybe you should do that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:01 PM
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I can describe one for you, I don’t have a pic. 5’10”, overweight, relatively social, plain face, is married or has a girl friend, makes about 50k-60k, has a small social circle (2-4 friends).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:01 PM
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I mean he settled too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:58 PM
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There are just certain traits about men that are objectively above average. Doesn’t necessarily have to do with being a hive mind. If I said Henry Cavill was above average and another woman said he was below average, men would seethe and never stop complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:58 PM
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Maybe for you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:54 PM
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Yeah average looking men are not ugly they’re just not cute either. Women call it “okay” looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:53 PM
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The average man is married though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:52 PM
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5’10”, overweight, relatively social, plain face, is married or has a girl friend, makes about 50k-60k, has a small social circle (2-4 friends).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:52 PM
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You’re not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:49 PM
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Trust me we know what guys are way above average. We also know what guys are below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:48 PM
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What is that fate exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:44 PM
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Probably can’t get all her needs met in one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:39 PM
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Do you think you’ll move eventually?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:38 PM
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It’s a shame how some guys describe the average man. Conflating average men and below average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:34 PM
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That would be anecdotal because in my experience it’s the opposite. It would be unfair to judge all women based on your personal experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:10 PM
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I definitely can see why you say that. It just doesn’t make sense to me, it just screams insecurity and misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:09 PM
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And there are women that will give wonderful advice. You could just ignore the women giving bad advice, it’s not hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:47 PM
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I think they give great advice in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:42 PM
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You don’t need to justify going after young women just do it. It’s like women making 10 posts about why men that are 6’4 are better than men 5’10. Just go after what you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:30 PM
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Anyone struggling just needs to go a place where ppl are socializing. The choice of venue doesn’t matter just as long as men and women are mingling. Dating revolves entirely around being social.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:26 PM
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There’s always going to be toxic ppl, that’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:53 PM
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I think this just explains toxic relationships between some women but it doesn’t represent all women relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:41 PM
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I think there’s no hope for struggling men. They’re not satisfied with any advice given but constantly complaining about being alone. Doesn’t make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 12:40 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 10:45 AM
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As a whole women really don’t care about what you want them to do because I mean who are you exactly to demand anything? The only ppl this bothers and who wants this acknowledgment are unwanted men and social rejects who are irrelevant anyway. I’ll tell men whatever they want to hear. I find this hysterical anyway. You believe women love bad boys? Yes women love bad boys and maybe you should stop trying because they will never love you. Is that good enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:23 AM
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Lmao undesired men think because they’re unwanted then that means women automatically like an asshole. Honestly I will happily tell men to their face what you just said, I have no issues personally 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 07:01 AM
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You’re probably right
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:16 AM
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That’s what I thought
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:13 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:10 AM
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I’ve been to Thailand but in May so it was super hot. Everything being cheap and great weather sounds amazing I’m so used to the opposite lol. I’m in New York where it doesn’t snow around Christmas but it’s just cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:52 AM
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I hope you have a safe flight ✨ And definitely enjoy yourself, you deserve it. I always wanted to experience a hot Christmas 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:29 AM
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I don’t think I’m mean here, I just say what is and sometimes the truth hurts unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:27 AM
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Thanks I appreciate that 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:25 AM
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Tis the season to be jolly 🎶🎶🎶🎶
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:21 AM
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You’re probably right, thank you so much 🙏🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:20 AM
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Bottle of perfume, I told him I like Chanel
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:19 AM
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Lol I don’t think it’s that many
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:15 AM
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Most men are simps
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:14 AM
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Yes you’re right 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:14 AM
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Not at all, just greet him. Ask him how he’s doing and if everything is ok. That’s really it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:14 AM
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I can easily say the same about the average woman so hey
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:05 AM
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Is it too early for Christmas music because I definitely think so but clearly others don’t lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:04 AM
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This guy at work told me he wants to buy me a gift because I’ve been so nice to him and I’m wondering if I should accept it. Feel like it’ll give the wrong message.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:01 AM
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We both learned something new today
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:54 AM
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Called sluts, selfish, cat ladies, miserable, too fat, too ugly, a bitch, if you’re pretty you’re automatically an OF creator,, men telling women nothing matters in our lives besides women being barefoot pregnant and raising a family, we deserve to be abused for choosing wrong, we owe men our bodies, called gold diggers, too emotional, illogical, we deserved to be raped for not giving some men a chance, shamed for having high standards but then also shamed for not being attracted to the man, sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:53 AM
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It doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:44 AM
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Thank you, I knew I wasn’t crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:28 AM
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I don’t know who that is but that is literally insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:27 AM
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I’ll happily tell men that women like tall attractive charismatic men and if you’re not that STOP trying 🤷🏾‍♀️ Is that what they want ? Let me get other women to shout from the heavens. I just say what is, whether you perceive that as crapping on struggling men is your own problem. Women are always crapped on and have been for a while now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:26 AM
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You’re right, there’s absolutely no problem & again my solution is to stop complaining 😊 I don’t really care if they accept that or not, the world still spins.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:19 AM
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No man needs to simp, simping is a choice. All men simp for the right woman. All women are trying to find the man who is masculine attractive and wanting to simp for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:16 AM
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Each man would have an assigned duty/role . 1 guy can be the bill payer, 1 guy can be the take me out guy, 1 guy can be for cuddling, 1 guy can be just because he’s tall (6’3”+), 1 guy can be the good looking guy who tells you you’re beautiful everyday and so on Lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:11 AM
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Hey if that’s what you believe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:07 AM
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Lol based on what criteria
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:01 AM
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Women like an attractive masculine man who simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:00 AM
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Even if every woman on earth admitted this, men would still be upset and it wouldn’t resolve anything on a large scale. All it does is shift accountability because now unattractive men feel justified in blaming women for their loneliness and being undesirable (even tho this already happens). Ive told some men women like good looking men with money who’s tall and their blood literally boils.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:46 AM
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Having a crush on someone for 10+ years is crazy as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:40 AM
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I love seeing ppl get a glow up and play the field. I don’t blame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:28 AM
5

What solution do you suggest? I would love to hear it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 12:49 AM
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Your personal experience just reflects you not average men. You may not even be average, a lot of guys here love claiming they’re average and they’re really way below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 12:13 AM
3

Maybe stop complaining, that’s apart of accepting being single and they’re definitely told that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:42 PM
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Is that statement based on anything substantial outside of your personal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:32 PM
9

The reason why doesn’t matter because it’s not justified regardless of the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:26 PM
23

Either accept your terrible option or be single. No one has sympathy for these men who complain later since they’re so desperate that they’ll take anyone with a pulse. You made your bed now lay in it. Also, You guys really love to insult the average man. The average man is not some desperate guy with 1 terrible option & in 5 years he’ll meet another terrible option. That’s below average men and social rejects.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:13 PM
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Basically If she shows red flags move on. You choosing to deal with someone toxic because you lack options doesn’t justify being with someone you know is bad for you. Everyone is told to vet better whether you have 1000 options or 1 option. No one is excluded from this criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 05:00 PM
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I think you should ask the guy above me that since he wants the playing field “leveled”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:30 PM
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Sounds like something men need to get up and advocate for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:49 PM
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So go after average women, they make average money which is lower than what average men make.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 03:30 PM
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Is this a confession that men can’t do well in dating unless women are hindered financially? If so I’m glad that women have the same opportunities that men always had. For the most part this is only an issue if you’re unattractive because then you have no choice but to rely on your wallet to get a woman. This sounds like a personal problem. In modern society both men and women can now get together without having to need each other to survive and that’s more ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:24 PM
4

It’s basically over for some men, due to multiple factors that range from how they look to how they act. There’s no advice on this planet that can help those guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:45 PM
3

At least you’re honest with yourself and know what works for you. I admire that in men. I definitely wish the best for you in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 10:38 PM
2

I Still prefer west because I mean the west is home and I’d be more comfortable dating where I’m from.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:14 PM
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Awww I wouldn’t do that because I would just straight up ask if you’re gay or not, I don’t need to imply anything. Plus why would I insult gay men like that? They’re not odd like the men obsessed with chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 08:47 PM
18

There’s not enough advice in the world to help some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:41 PM
7

The west. I can imagine the standards are even more strict in Asia because of heavy family influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 08:55 AM
1

I know that lmaooo. That’s why the rate of singles are increasing. No one wants to be settled for. Just play the field and have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:30 PM
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Happy Singles Day ! What’s your favorite thing about being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:19 PM
1

Thanks, I appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:18 PM
1

For the men obsessed with chad, it’s not ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:12 PM
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Yeah ok
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:06 PM
1

It would make more sense to ask the ppl literally involved in the relationship. Women absolutely love tall good looking attractive charming men but they can like other men if his face is good looking enough or pockets are deep enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:42 PM
1

Idk beggars can’t be choosers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:36 PM
1

Idk maybe ask the other 99% of men that still have relationships with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:33 PM
1

Doesn’t justify their weird obsession. Maybe they’re just unlikable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:29 PM
0

Not to the point where you can’t just live life because chad exists and is better than you. Men observe this chad guy then seethe because they can’t be him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:14 PM
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Women being obsessed with chad makes sense since we’re attracted to them. Men here are obsessed because they don’t want to do anything in life because chad can naturally do it better than them or something weird like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:12 PM
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Of course we love a good looking attractive man. That’s what gets the panties wet. Idk why men are obsessed with another man though. Its weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:06 PM
2

I noticed this too, they’re lost causes that’s obsessed with Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:32 PM
4

You should just do what’s best for you and what works for you. If that happens to be approaching women on the street then go for it. You don’t have to take the advice that ppl who don’t even know you give. This is why it’s always recommended to get advice from friends & family.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 03:26 PM
1

Not really, I’m a little sad today
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 01:29 PM
1

Having a new crush is always so fun because you’ll flirt with them for the 1st time and they’ll flirt right back and now we’re basically married.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 11:55 AM
3

Leave the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 07:26 AM
1

It’s absolutely no ones fault if you’re unsuccessful in dating. The reality is in dating you only have control over your own actions so you have to keep changing things up to see what works if you desire the outcome of having someone interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:12 PM
2

To be honest, dating is effort and If you’re juggling multiple men it gets tiring after a while. It’s much easier to focus on one man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:49 PM
1

Understand that women aren’t men. There’s no point in being with a good looking man that has money if he’s not going to spend it on the woman. A regular man that’s cute is good enough & less headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:28 PM
1

I’m not referring to the passcode to your phone, you can add a passcode to the apps on your phone. So you’ll have to unlock the phone and then unlock the app to use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:19 PM
1

I just stay logged in and keep face Id on my phone, less of a hassle personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 06:10 PM
1

Not saying it’s not a possibility because anything is possible but being realistic, I don’t think that’s always the case, especially for iMessage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 06:06 PM
1

You’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:41 PM
1

I don’t think a lot of ppl do that, especially for apps that don’t need it like iMessage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:27 PM
1

Lol i’m not overweight. Man how are you doing? How many ppl lost today?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:26 PM
2

Oh it’s you! the weirdo that tells everyone they lost 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:17 PM
1

I’m not talking about the passcode into your phone or your accounts. You can set up face Id or a passcode just to enter into your messaging apps or any app on your phone. It’s an additional step.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:16 PM
1

Ok thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 05:12 PM
1

You can post a picture of yourself if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:45 PM
1

I don’t think someone that’s intentionally guarding their social media and message apps cares about creating an atmosphere of loyalty and trust. Also, if your partner already has the passcode to enter the app then that defeats the purpose of having the passcode to enter the app to begin with unless you have other ppl going through your phone then it’s understandable but most ppl don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:44 PM
1

Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 04:09 PM
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