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I suck ass at taking pictures. I look goofy, but I feel like I am a good looking guy otherwise and have plenty of confidence in appearance outside of pictures at least. Also, in general I suck at making a good profile or sharing on it etc. So I 100% could see this happening to me and not being an issue at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 07:57 PM
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I am going to have to disagree as someone dating someone from a tinder match. I was always against dating apps, but getting old (27) and busy with work and life. I used tinder, had a few hook ups, then met my current GF. Didn't kill the excitement at all. We met hung out, went on loads of dates before having sex for the first time about a month in. Plenty of sexual build up, getting to know each other, and excitement was present. Plus how does it kill socialization? When we first met we were onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:41 PM
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however when someone shows me red flags, Im immediately out. Too what extent? The odd's of you finding someone with zero red flags is almost impossible, because everyone has issues.. Especially at your age. Not saying you should look past them all, but some are totally normal and relationships should work as a team to tackle them for each person.. You sound like the problem and probably have plenty of red flags yourself. When I got with my girlfriend or any girl for that matter. The goal is too …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:44 PM
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This is objectively false and based on assumptions. Some men prefer thicker and fat girls. Some men prefer old girls even if they are young.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:40 PM
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Sounds like you have a desperate desire to sympathize with women without legitimately considering the situation. Pregnancy is hard, and as a man, I will do everything to help sooth the struggles, but I will not sacrifice my say so in MY child's life because of a 9 month inconvenience. I know that sounds like I am minimizing something that is stressful, painful, and leaves lasting effects but it really doesn't matter because nothing in this world should trump my say so over MY child. Put it this …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:43 PM
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No absolutely not. I would understand that it's my responsibility to carry the baby, and maybe want a bit more say so (atleast during the pregnancy phase), but ultimately I would understand the man's decisions would be based on the child. Therefore, we both have a say so. If the child is born, we both 100% have equal say so. ​ Actually, a conversation I had with my girlfriend as we are trying to have a baby. She understood completely. It's OUR baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:25 PM
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That's true, and I am sure pregnancy is extremely challenging, but it shouldn't completely destroy the mans say so in the equation completely. Yes, it impacts her body, yes it should be in the equation, but ultimately we are talking about the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:17 PM
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I'm not saying that psychologically i consider myself ugly like many people have as speech. This is not a subjective thing. I'm legitimatelly unattractive and either have been said directly or indirectly. Behind my back or next to my face. Either because I'm not facially attractive or because not tall enough. Most of those girls that I looked for, I ended knowing on school that went for tall dudes (6' or more) or were way more facially attractive like me and again, I didn't look up for the "trad…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 07:53 PM
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I start to believe in this life that I need no longer to be a good guy and treat like shit the crap out of females out there, no matter what and just use them. Wrong. You're 100% doing something wrong, but this isn't the solution. The solution is to consider where you're going wrong. Are you just too socially blind to pick up on the subtle hints? I don't deny reality, I understand that these people exists, but these people (including you) always have reasons why they think they cant succeed. whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 07:08 PM
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never heard of any girl caring about a college degree. Not to say having one isn't a plus when they consider a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:39 PM
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I don't want to sound like a dick.. But you gave up.. No reason you've gone 32 years without any of that. Doesn't matter if no one likes you or finds you attractive, because 100% someone does and will. You stopped looking. At this point you can continue to make excuses and live lonely, or take some risks and put yourself out there in various ways. Doesn't matter to me, but you will never convince me that you just got unlucky or were unliked, because even the uglist, meanist, dumbest people can f…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:37 PM
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That's your perspective. Doesn't mean I can't put children first and have a successful relationship. It's about communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:32 PM
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100% disagree. My girlfriend told me she was pregnant last night and the first thing I said to her is "you're now number 2". I said I will always have your back, love and support you. But as far as I am concerned my number 1 will ALWAYS be my children. I wont abandon our relationship, and believe I still need to put a lot of effort into it. But children come first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 06:11 PM
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I would. But wont at the same time for many reasons. The obvious one being, I am in a relationship, but also never had issues getting laid. The second reason is the type of people who would even be offering... If it was some hot girl, with no experience selling sex, and was a one time thing, 100% would be in. But I wouldn't pay for some street hooker.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 02:19 PM
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Women can be socially inept and get sex, relationships, etc. by just being a little more available or using an app. (because men are way more abundant because they are always fucking horny) Attractive top men can pick girls as they want but they still need to be socially mature. (same can women) Women who are socially adept arguably have more options, but most of them still expect the man to take the initiative on the dynamic. (see the first questions answer) Autistic or not socially adept men, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:08 PM
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I don't really think they are idolized? But in the context of stepping up, women tend to do it a lot more then men, so you plan to blame them for being respected for that fact? Why? Because men can't take responsibility? This is a stupid post.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:03 PM
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Uhm excuse you, My mom did a great job, and my dad could've been apart of it if drugs werent more important to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:02 PM
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Is it though? I was raised in a shitty town, where most of my friends became drug dealers or addicts. The ones that didn't (like me) hardly have more then 1 or 2 kids max or zero. The ones that turned out ghetto have like 5 each..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 07:01 PM
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True from the perspective of people that choose shitty cheating girlfriends I guess. But plenty of girls are loyal. But this sub isn’t where you will find conversation about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 10:13 PM
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oh 100%. Plus people leaning right get terrible labels as soon as they say it. Though I agree with a lot of leftist ideas, I can't get over the racial stuff and how it's been twisted. I mean one of the instances that pushed me right was a group project in class and we were deciding who should present our work. The black student in the group said "I can't do it, he wouldn't care what I have to say because I am black" Which blew my mind because it was like the second week and the class before that…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 07:30 PM
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Not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:56 PM
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Nailed it. Literally one of the main reasons I lean right, and that grew in college, though I went to a very left leaning college.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:47 PM
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Idk considering the whole post was about how you cant have an opinion on people who aren't actively into you. If you can't get it from that. This is a pointless conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:39 PM
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Read the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 04:16 PM
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Unless OF girls are lining up for you, you rejecting them does not count I wasn't talking to you bud. THIS IS LITERALLY THE TITLE UNDER WHAT I AM POSTING ABOUT. ITS CLEARLY SAYING YOU DON'T GET TO HAVE THAT STANDARD IF THOSE PEOPLE DONT WANT YOU ANYWAYS.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:36 PM
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Thanks for your insightful input.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:18 PM
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I mean in my own life I would never really need to say it? Unless, a girl I was talking to dropped a secret onlyfans account on me a few weeks into talking.. Plus I have a girlfriend who lives with me so it's a mute point.. I am just saying people are allowed to have standards, even if they aren't being swarmed by the people they wouldn't date..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:14 PM
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Personally, coming from a broken home I wouldn't care if my partner's parents were together. But I get the perspective, because people with parents together see that it CAN work. It's probably easier if your parents divorced to do it in your own life, because you know that's an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:45 PM
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I mean you can totally say "hey, I wouldn't date a girl who is on OF" without having them lining up at your door.. It's not a requirement. This reads a bit like a salty OF girl ngl. ​ I mean I know for a fact plenty of OF girls would date me. I wouldn't date them though, and even if they wouldn't date me it wouldn't change my perspective. Kinda dumb argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:42 PM
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Lets not forget it could be as simple as YOU initiating turning him way more on then if he did it.. (my guess is it's this since you said he seems way more into it when you start)I mean I get this perspective, in my situation, my girlfriend does like 30% of the initiating, I do the rest. But when she does it I get way more turned on. Recently, she has been very in the mood, so she has begun to try to start sex way more often, which has resulted in me asking or trying a lot less because it's kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:37 PM
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Bro I said I’m not assertive with women when making first contact. That doesn’t define my level of assertiveness. I choose not to take that approach. I am very assertive outside of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 05:23 PM
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I didn't mean dont talk at all.. I meant talk about whats happening and your interest in whatever you joined. ​ Just don't go straight to "Hey, you're pretty" or "hey, want to hang out after" But discussing the topic at hand is normal and shows you're interested as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 01:57 PM
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Oh I’m very assertive. I just don’t feel the need to do it at all times. It’s not something I need to prove for the sake of being assertive, I choose when and typically it’s when someone thinks they can be assertive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 01:31 PM
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Lol so naive my man. You’re speaking like a pick up artist bro If you feel the need to force being a leader you aren’t a leader, it always came natural to me. It was never a question, never a doubt. And I highly doubt you have me beat. I don’t feel the need to imply I’m wining, because I have nothing to prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 11:44 PM
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I thought maybe that was confusing lol. I meant don't come in with the sole intent of talking to women and start doing it immediately, it's weird. Find a interest in it, then slowly move into making friends will be a much safer approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 06:25 PM
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Personally, I would have to disagree. I got a shit ton of crazy stories. Also, I like the girls that would find that repulsive. Hard to get is my bread and butter. Not that I am doubting it works for you. I have friends that were the same way, and had great success.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:55 PM
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That's what someone doing it wrong would say.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:47 PM
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Bro how does being a high value man matter? This isn't highschool.. Example: I did really well in highschool, shit I took the prom queen home, and partied and hooked up a lot. One of my best friends, not a bad looking guy at all, had no desire to hook up though he did party. He has had sex with two girls, one of which he is married to. He is a completely happy, and successful guy. I am not married, though I am successful and in a happy relationship. ​ My point is who cares anymore. You need ONE …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:41 PM
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I disagree. I was never that assertive and never had a problem hooking up or dating. Personally, I would start out friendly, and gauge the reactions to our conversation then insert some subtle hints like a compliment or something and ramp it up. I always thought this would be the safer method as it gives me a chance to see how engaged she is. I totally agree with the back off immediately part though. Plus I am sure this works, but I was always cautious because I don't want to come off as the sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:31 PM
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Pro tip for any guys thinking about joins something like this to meet women. DO NOT GO IN TRYING TO MEET WOMEN OR TALK TO THEM. Let it come naturally, sure talk to them whenever, but don't go straight to hey want to hang out. Try to find a genuine interest in whatever group you join, because it's very likely she already loves it enough to join a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:00 PM
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From my perspective a social circle hasn't really done anything for me in terms of finding women. I dated 1 girl my whole life that was in my social circle. I have had a group of friends 6 (all males) that I have known for 10-15 years ranging. I am in my mid 20's now, but I never really met girls through them.. Social media and dating apps have always been my go to. That or when I was in college. I have personally never done it, but I would imagine if you went out of your way to present yourself…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:58 PM
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I don't disagree. But I think people can still put in effort to build genuine confidence. Your past doesn't have to define you. It's not easy, but 100% a worth while endeavor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:46 PM
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Oh I don’t need assured brother. Confidence has got me more girls then I can count. I have had girls say I wasn’t attracted to you at first, but after we hung out. 100% agree on the cockiness part. I’ve crossed that line and could tell it was a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:58 PM
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Well that depends on the situation. If it's someone in a situation like at college in a classroom. Confidence might not be enough, but it doesn't hurt. If she is at your house or on a date though, she probably likes/trusts you enough to come this far, therefore confidence could very well be the deal breaker. If she sees you don't value yourself. She will not value you. Which can come off in very subtle ways, which is why those who struggle with lack of self value really should learn to value and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 06:05 PM
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True. I actually find it more attractive the longer it takes. I am not sure I would date a girl that let me have sex with her on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 05:53 PM
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Also, make sure you don't give them too much power. If you feel undeserving of the girl, it will show in your behavior. Instead, you should feel like both of you are lucky to be around one another. Confidence is key. One of my biggest if not the biggest rule I have dating is that the girl will see me how I see me. But obviously, arrogance is where it becomes too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 05:45 PM
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Aye, noice. My gf measured my dick yesterday 6.5. seems like a good spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:47 PM
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Thanks Friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 07:41 PM
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This 100%. I was just in this situation. The girl I am dating now almost 8 months. I couldn't tell if she liked me or anything in the beginning as she never wanted to have sex or even kiss me, but wanted to come over damn near every night. Well it turns out she has a complicated relationship with sex and had never cum before so now she is almost 360ing her desires. She is really into sex and wants to cum damn near every night. All it took was a bit of learning what gets her off, which was compli…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:40 PM
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Men 100% shame it more. Didn't you have guy friends, that's constantly what guys say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:35 PM
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I mean I have been in the same situation like a lot of times, some girls will say "oh I understand, it's just sex nothing serious" Then the next day be like "why don't we go on dates" Open communication is good, it's my motto but even then sometimes girls can find a way to be confused. Not really going to convince me otherwise, because I have experienced it like 6 times, though I had plenty of girls that respected it and kept it purely fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 07:46 PM
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Gotcha so he was like half leading on.. Still SMH though. One foot out the door stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 07:37 PM
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True. But so are guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:20 PM
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I have never been the guy to that extend but in highschool I got a couple girls hopes up by acting a bit more interested then I was. I later decided at all costs I would always outline that and shut down anything romantic unless I feel it. I didn't like the way it made me feel before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 06:20 PM
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It's not always that simple. from like 18-22 I mostly kept it casual, almost always said "hey, I don't really want anything serious" followed by "I just want you to know, so you don't get the wrong idea" I mean really spelling it out and several girls still managed to get the wrong idea. Which was crazy to me because I didn't just say it once, if I saw something that made me think they like me a bit too much I pretty much always shut it down and said the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:41 PM
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Idk a lot of people have a deep desire to find someone special and meaningful. I have no doubt it will be monetized I mean it already has with things like tinder, but I can't see it going too extreme because spending money to date someone will cheapen the romance significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:37 PM
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Don't tell anyone we came to an agreement. I don't think rational conversation's are allowed on the internet. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:23 PM
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Okay I see what you're saying. You're saying this comes before that so it wouldn't matter. I am just saying in terms of situation it's a more important/risker situation when they are fucking but the terms of the relationship are not outlined. So we are both kinda right I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:57 PM
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Still more important. Because if it's that low of an attraction then the relationship hasn't even begun in the slightest and no lose no gain. If you're fucking, but don't want a relationship then one people could be risking getting hurt unless the relationship is outlined as just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 04:24 PM
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You keep saying it's for women like it changes anything. I am saying literally the same thing as you just in a more understanding/less harsh manner. If you can't take criticism just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:45 PM
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Regardless the other commenter isn't wrong. The wording you choose is practically saying don't bother giving them time to grow, you should date them at their peak.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:26 PM
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It's more important. A girl is going to take the hint if you aren't trying to fuck soon enough that you don't want to date. It's a lot harder to take the hint when you want to/are fucking but don't want to date. atleast more important from the girls perspective for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:07 PM
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I have kinda lied. I try not to lie and instead just withhold the truth a bit. Typically, because it's when I get a feeling it's bothering her. My count is 18, which I guess is a lot. Also, I do it sometimes because I don't want to be considered just sex (unless I do) I wouldn't lie during a FWB situation, more for dating. However, my current girlfriend knows my past as I wanted to try being honest (not that I feel it caused a huge problem in the past) I just wanted to because I am getting older…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:04 PM
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This heavily depends. Boasting can be annoying, but that depends on the motivation. I don't boast, but I would totally feel really proud of my girlfriend achievement or something and want to bring it up. Not really a boast, just a proud boyfriend moment. But I would be mindful not to cross the line into being annoying and bragging .
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:58 PM
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Very soon (but be wary if you're the type to fall easily, then I would wait to decide) Me and my current girlfriend had dated like almost two months and talked for about 4 before we said it. This should be a conversation being hard prior to saying I love you in my opinion. so a few month in you should both have agreed to commit to one another. About 1-3 years depending on the couple. Atleast one to have a good feel, I would suggest living together for a year atleast too. This question depends to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:55 PM
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I have had like 8 FWB situations. It's depends a lot. Sometimes the first few texts or the girls picture is enough for me to only want to be FWB. Other times I gauge it off our first in person conversation (typically how I do it) I am picky in terms of personality, so as soon as I feel we are not compatible (usually mean's she isn't the hardheaded, opinionated type of girl I like) then I think this will be FWB only.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:51 PM
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It's weighted. Appearance just has a lot of influence on the scale, however it's totally weighted girls and guys are willing to look past shitty aspects if it's outweighed by good. But appearance is one of the most influential things on the scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:46 PM
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If you're actively dating someone or in the talking stage, you need to be able/willing to walk away. Not saying you should walk away, but sometimes when a fight or issue arises. You can't be a chicken and say sorry all the time, sometimes you got to grow a pair and say "if that's how you feel we can be done" You run the risk of losing her (you probably wont if you're already talking). But you show that you aren't going to be a push over, which is good as it's less likely she will leave you. NO g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:43 PM
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I think your wording was just poor. I would say "don't date guys based on their ambitions, if they show no actual desire or drive towards achieving those goals" Plenty of guys especially young are going to need time to grow, but some guys are generally all talk and no gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:40 PM
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Adding to this. The care, attention, and time is what will make the girl attracted. Owning a cat you don't give a shit about will do the opposite, girls likely subconsciously see the caring nature you have and think "he would do that for me too"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:37 PM
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Personally, jokes are how I got majority of the girls I have been with. I suggest starting with more vanilla jokes that get a bit more risky as you feel out her sense of humor. Because making a girl laugh can go a long way, so I would just feel it out at first and if she liked it/laughed you kinda have an idea where you can go with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:34 PM
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That's a risk you always take? I mean obviously the guy likes those jokes, for all you know he wouldn't be interested in a girl who didn't find humor in dirty jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 02:30 PM
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Oh no.. You said the truth.. This /r is full of complaints about women's standards, and no one wants to admit they would fuck a walking bag of trash.. Also, women typically have lesser sex drives, because biology so we can cut them some slack, they don't have to worry about their dick doing the thinking for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:53 PM
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Gotcha. It’s illegal here so I have no idea, but I imagine that same thing happens here too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:50 AM
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Like std test?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:48 AM
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The guy didn't seem to mind and seemed flattered though. If it upset him I would agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:13 PM
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It's totally fine depending on the circumstance. It's absolutely not okay at the start of talking to someone, or even a month or so in. It's okay after a few months and both people are actively dating, then it's pretty normal, but getting angry when they don't agree is not okay. I pout a bit when my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex, does it always work? hell no. It does sometimes though, and i don't get mad or anything if it doesn't. She does the exact same thing to me, sometimes even jumps o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:09 PM
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How does it work? Do you just show up to a building pay and then go have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:06 PM
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I don't understand your first part? Why can't you be in a relationship if they legalize prostitutions?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:02 PM
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Not typically something a girl would announce. Plus I have met plenty of girls with the same mindset as me. They would have a fun one night stand, but don't want to rush into sex with potential dating partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:39 PM
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Typically I just pay attention to how attentive she is, is she looking at my lips a lot?, is she laughing at small jokes, has she touched me? any indication in what she says? Those are some of the factors I would say are important to consider. Especially, the looking at lips part (huge indication someone wants you)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:33 PM
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That's when you say "hey, are you not interested?" Could've solved the problem 10 dates ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:31 PM
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I don't always make a move unless you include asking. I typically ask because of being raised in the age of consent standards (not a bad thing). I usually say hey, could I kiss you or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:30 PM
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Compatible in what way? like sexually? I feel like that's obvious. but in terms of general compatibleness I have had some really really good sex with people I found myself not even slightly (non-sexually) compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:27 PM
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Wouldn't you do that same? as a man I do that. Usually within few hours of hanging out I know if it's going to be sex only or potential for a relationship. I am picky, so typically sex but that seems like a normal judgement to make about someone or the rare no sex and call it quits because u suck can happen too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:26 PM
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Not really.. I hate these terms, but I have had sex on the first/second night majority of the girls that have come over. I only date girls that make me wait, like my current girlfriends who made me wait like 3 weeks now here we are 7 months dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:23 PM
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You literally quit doing it because of the lack of reward. I inferred a few things yes, but my point stands
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 12:24 AM
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TBH it's normal. I even sometimes think about going back to casual sex and doing as I please, but that's just another test of your love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:09 PM
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Gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:01 PM
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from making friends with girls or holding down a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:56 PM
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You're at a dangerous crossroads bud. Sounds like that urge has come in some form. If you leave your girlfriend and try it out you run the likely risk of regret as sex is fun, and cool to do with other people, but it's just that SEX. Once it's over all you can think is was that 1-2 hours worth it? On the other hand, you might commit to your girlfriend and regret dating her at some point then regret not trying casual sex. Do what makes you happy, but don't do it thinking sex will replace love bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:56 PM
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Fair enough. When you frame it like that I would say yes. I learned a lot about people in my youth/college days from casually hooking up and FWB situations. I mean I learned ALOT about sex, but also a lot about the differences in women, and preferences they have, and how some idea's I have about women are not universal as well as some methods of impressing them. Personally, I think it helped me weed out personality traits I dislike when finding the girl I am with now too. Is it a must? Absolutel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:42 PM
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Stupid question. I choose to date my girlfriend because I love HER. It's a lot more fulfilling to spend time with her, then when I used to have hook ups with random girls at parties. It's all about the person. My best friend is a pretty good looking dude, would literally have girls come home with him after parties and would just go to bed. Some of the girls even I was jealous of I am talking 10/10. He would avoid sleeping with them, but as soon as he finds a girl he likes he wants to date her. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:26 PM
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What holds you back then?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:17 PM
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I can confidently tell you. If you take red, blue, purple or any other pill seriously you likely aren't going to have any success dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:16 PM
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You got it all wrong bud. Accepting yourself is great, but you should've become okay with all the goals you originally described without the rewards. You should work hard, many people do care deeply about personality, you should be a good person. You shouldn't be waiting for a reward for thinking these things, but I promise you accepting yourself as a loser is a worse fate then dropping the reward accept of your original perspective. Also, drop the forums. You want new experiences? go outside, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:14 PM
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This one is so huge. I see so many people coming up with giant generalizations in this /r. In reality, I have failed to impress a girl over some of the smallest dumbest reasons. I accepted I did something silly, not deeply inspect every aspect of the genders to figure out why she MIGHT not have liked me. It's extremely nuanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:08 PM
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I have always strayed away from befriending girls outside of casual group settings. It's a lot more complicated then guys, plus the ones I tried to be friends with and have deep convos, hangout, etc usually ends up complicated or having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:02 PM
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Man. Had sex with like 6 girls in the like year or so I had it. Not saying it will work day one, but it one avenue open, then try other avenue's. It's like fishing the more poles you have out the better, and sometimes it doesn't matter you don't catch shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:00 PM
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Grow a pair. Take risks. Stop being a child. Your life will improve dramatically. Obviously, your life now isn't sustainable nor will bring any happiness. Download fucking tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:50 PM
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Literally never too late. Grow a pair download a dating app meet girl be nice and fuck (probably do some dumb/weird stuff because first time) but who cares. Now repeat minus the dumb/weird stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:49 PM
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Not really, I have had plenty of girlfriends/sex and hardly had female friends outside of girls that were just apart of the group not like actual friends though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:45 PM
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A lot hasn't changed then. View = pointless and a bit salty sounding. Just download tinder bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:47 PM
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Probably because many of the guys here spend more time analyzing every instance of failure in their dating game instead of moving past it like normal guys. I mean I have a pretty good dating history, my body count is 18. My point is I have had all the ghosting, uninterested girls, and various other instances. However, I moved past them and chalked it up as whatever it's her lose. Dating is not easy, but you can't be so hard on yourself or the girl because she ghosted you. It's life, for all you …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:35 PM
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Congrats? sex is cool
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:30 PM
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Complete submission from either side of the relationship is a bad thing. We should all sometimes be submissive, but if you're completely submissive it's often easy for the other party to take advantage and it doesn't lead to a healthy successful partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:52 PM
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I mean maybe she doesn't give a fuck.. You're assuming this girl cares about the guy. It sounds like a weird way to rationalize the fact that you cant get a date. I have had plenty of hook-up situations and I have found that girls that are actually interested in dating are much less likely to give up sex. Instead, they tend to make you wait. So most girls that come over and are fine with hooking up aren't usually that heartbroken about the fact that nothing serious was ever planned. Shit girls t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:40 PM
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Bro if I wanted girls I’d get girls. Lots of factors are at work outside of attractiveness. I have never had issues getting females. I mean shit I slept with the prom queen on prom night. But thinking looks are all that matters is cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:15 PM
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Many factors at play such as where you live bud. Big city? possibly. My point is it's not purely looks. Though obviously being objectively attractive helps. I consider myself attractive, always well liked, slept with the prom queen on prom night, and when she won homecoming queen. I had my pick of women and my body count over 20 yet im not swimming in tinder hookups. (brag i know but I am trying to prove a point that it doesn't matter) Also, I do a shit job of presenting myself online so that's …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:52 PM
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How many people need to say you're wrong? Try listening bud. It's obvious you haven't had much experience. This is basic stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:30 PM
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"There are countless facts about you that may affect how people see you. Not disclosing information is not dishonest." Wrong. Not disclosing your desire for a no string attached situation while leading someone on is indeed wrong. No one is asking for your damn blood type, simply what you're after in terms of relationship so they dont waste their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:27 PM
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Honesty. This has been me. Though, being honest comes with the bad too. Sometime you tell a girl that you aren't looking for anything serious and why followed by her saying "okay, that's fine but I don't want that so we should stop seeing each other." Which I think is largely why people avoid being honest but it's better then being a piece of shit and leading someone on, which in that case you deserve the "jerk" title.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:24 PM
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If you put in the effort to find it you will! Plenty of people agree with you. I am sure a girl right now has the same perceptive as you but yall havent met yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:06 PM
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This shows no proof. For all we know we could be too average with a basic bio. Which killed his odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:04 PM
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It totally is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 06:02 PM
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"I’ve gotten a pretty good understanding of them from the internet" You're literally on this /r saying that? Huge red flag. Don't sweat your virginity, lose it if you want or don't? Tinder exists. Plus some girls will understand your virginity if you're genuine when you explain possibly this it's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:41 PM
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nope. Some men want drama, some women want drama. Why is 75% of this /r attempts at huge wide generalizations that give some answer to why they can succeed with women? It shows were the real problem lays..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:38 PM
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As shitty as the sounds. I guarantee 100% you're apart of the problem. You don't go 100 dry unless you absolutely are a part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:33 PM
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Obviously, all women are attracted to certain men.. It's called preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:31 PM
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Even then it's not that simple. As someone who has always felt attractive, one of my girlfriends was both prom queen and homecoming. I think I did pretty damn well. However, even talking to plenty of girls in these settings I have never felt 100% certain on what to say even in my mid 20's today...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:30 PM
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This is only slightly true. Majority of the time when I was certain I was correct. Yes, occasionally you misinterpret it but that's why you don't open up with "can I take you behind the dumpster" after she touches your arm.. Instead, you play it slow until more evidence of liking you is available. Worst case if you don't jump to the extreme, you simply say "I am sorry, I thought you were interested". ​ Pretty simple stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:27 PM
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Facts. Personality can go a long way. Shit I already like the guy from your description.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:22 PM
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Facts. Ugly men get bitter and already accepted the "no chance" fate therefore even if she was going to give him a chance he ruined it before it happened. I've seen plenty of ugly dude pull really pretty girls because they don't fall into this bitterness hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:08 PM
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This is giving me minor incel vibes.. I have never an issue attracting women and I can say without a doubt majority of women are looking to date even if it starts with just sex. A minority of them want casual hookups and even then that's temporary usually inspired by a break between relationships or a rebound. Out of like the last 10 girls I have talked to only 1 wanted to continue a friends with benefits relationship longer then a month or so. Most want to date or decide to move on. Even my cur…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:03 PM
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