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It doesn't necessarily kill it. My couple has stayed a lot of fun, like a rich social life, music, party, and sex anywhere anytime very easily before children. Even now, it casually happens that the evening yoga my man an I do regularly leads to sex in the middle of the living room. Because it's fun. Jfi, children are very little and can't really get up by themselves. This is gonna change as they grow up. We're very careful to not traumatize them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:52 AM
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I know he does. And I know what he's done is legit and deserved. It's normal, or should be. But still. No solo daddy with 2 young kids in the location they are right now. No dad friend doing the same to relieve their partner around us, whatever their work situations are. I feel like it's still pretty rare. Plus, the year has been tough for him too, like death of a mother hard. He deserves a break too, and took care of me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 12:28 AM
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Of course they are better partners. The thing about a relationship is to take the person as a whole, with their flaws, and to accept that there is no power or entitlement to have over an other human being. A "strict" partner is someone who's gonna lead the relationship into constant lack of trust, conflict, and probably abuse. Who wants a partner obsessing over irrelevant things that don't even concern them ? Who wants a jealous partner who's gonna harass you for the slighter fun you want to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 10:04 PM
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Honestly I'm so grateful for my man right now. I went to the spa of the best hotel in town today, with the year subscription he gifted me to my birthday, on a day off children and family work he offered me by taking the kids to a vacation in order to grant me few days of quiet time to myself. A whole week. This man wants me to relax. He wants me to rest. He wants to relieve me and take his part. He has seen me struggle all year, stretched between the children and my job while he had to travel to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:03 PM
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Yeah look isn't the whole thing. I very like beard and body hair. I like a guy taller than me but I'm very short, so any adult man passes the threshold. I like enough assurance to talk his idea, be assertive when necessary, not constantly doubting himself. Looking at my man driving the car has always turned me on, don't ask me why, I drive too but I still find it hot. I like the way he's emotionally balanced most of the times, not loosing his shit and owning it when I'm constantly driven crazy b…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:31 PM
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So cool !! Yes a perfect Sunday ! What are you gonna play ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 11:46 AM
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I play bass guitar, mostly jazz, funk and afrobeat. My SO plays "head voices", saxophone and clarinette. We used to have a band but... our new band doesn't really allows any active night life right now ! I was considering study about some standard today because my older kid is very interested to play and sing with me. What do you play ??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 11:04 AM
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Excellently to be honest. I'm treating myself with a very good and perfeclty rare cooked bavette. My SO took the kids in vacations for a week to catch up with them because he travels a lot for work, and to give me more time for myself I've ever had in like 4 years. I work out, I read, I play music, I do many things around the house we never have the time for. Living my best life really. I'll be joining them thursday for our family vacations in the mountains. Life's really great.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 10:52 AM
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I'm sorry. I don't know you, your age or your precise situation but from my bit of experience, showing a mix of interest and attirance can lead to that, sometimes. But to be honest, my SO and I met on an app. We met in person after maybe 10 days of chatting, talked very early about the shared expectation of meeting a real partner, mostly because he didn't want to loose his time of be led on, and had a lot of luck to be such a good match. If you mention friends and ONS, maybe you're not as isolat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 11:56 AM
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Why don't you ? (No malice in my question,)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 11:39 AM
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I woud never do such a test to my partner. It's dishonest, it's lame, shameful to do really. I trust my partner. And I know very well what opinion he has over cheating ans those who do it. So if anything changed in our relationship and was making him to think about it, he woud try to fix it or leave. Not cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 10:40 AM
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There is such a thing in France where I live. Some sort of civil union, like a lighter mariage. My partner of 10 years and I are not married, but we did "pacs" about a year after moving together. That was fine and enough for a time, but now that we have a house, 2 children, and the worry to plan the future, we project to get married once we'll be out of the babies/toddler tunnel. Plus, planning an actual wedding sounds like a headache none of us want to endure. We often joke about going to Las V…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:06 PM
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To be fair, that's understandable to a certain point. Body image and even proprioception take such a hit during pregnancy and post-partum, added to the demanding job of taking care of a newborn, that they are probably drained of all energy and willing to take care of themselves. It takes a lot to keep trying while your body feels like it's falling apart. Litteraly. At the moment, I can't even do long walks (like 2-3 km) without being in pain for several days after. My uterus feels like it's fall…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:55 AM
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I don't lift, I usually do yoga and running, but hormonal changes and abdominal issues after 2 c-sections, like diastasis etc, had made me loose all muscles and strenth. I'm weak. I can't do a plank right now. I'm just lucky that my baby has consumed all my extra fat breastfeeding, while I was overeating like crazy and never really met my caloric needs. I'm not that happy about my belly but it's not so bad for a young mom with abs issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:52 AM
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Hey guys, I think I'm a milf. Whole week at a family park being stared at at the pool. With my toddler and my 1yo baby . Husband was at home, working and enjoying the peace and quietness by himself. I must admit this bring some little joy into my heart, not being a mother only. Still feeling attractive after being hit by the motherhood tsunami. Gaining and loosing 20kg twice in 3 years, losing muscle mass, anemia, 2 c-section scars, some little stretch marks, breastfeeding breasts and all. That'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:41 PM
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I don't ask my man to take out the trash. He does it by himself when it's full. If he's caught elsewhere and didn't notice, or didn't have the time, I do it myself or ask him to do it when he'll find the time, but asap. On one hand, him saying no is not an option because it needs to be done and me asking him means I won't make it on time. On the other hand, if he can't do it because he's on something else, let's say, an urgent work task to prepare or already late to take both our children to sch…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:59 PM
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I do ! Wall my ass...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:24 PM
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I turned my exhausted mom of 2 babies self into a hot girl in one choice to buy a new dress closer to the body than my usual ones. It's so mad, I've been hit on twice in the 15min bicycle drive I have to go to work, and twice again just walking 5 mins to grab a lunch. I have lost all interest to appear "hot" in the past years, I just moved on to a more age appropriate and comfortable style. I've forgotten about that reality of men in the street. Not sure how to feel about it. I think my SO liked…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:56 AM
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My SO was not sure I was born during the last full moon eclipse. There are few moments like this where our age gap shows. I was, actually. I was a child and him a teenager. Sometimes we get some dirty looks and comments, especially because I've always looked younger than my age while his hairline took a hard hit the last few years. Adding to the fact I'm mixed colors (I would probably pass as black in USA) and he's white. I hate being taken for a trophee wife or our couple for a transactional on…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:04 PM
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Doing good. Dissipated my mom guilt for taking my sons to daycare and school childcare. It's sunny and hot today and both the programs for the day were all fun with water play, ice cube play, indoor swimming pool and trampoline at the park. I'm pretty sure they are having their best time right now. I'm alone with them this week, I've slept 3h last night because the baby is teething and can't sleep. I really needed a quiet day. I'm even gonna take a nap and have a coffee with other moms before we…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:55 AM
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How so ? Little boys are obsessed with their penises even before 1yo and know a whole lot about it by the age of 3 or 4. At least mine do. There are children books appropriate for every age range and even teaching lessons in schools where I live. That's how I discovered and could confirm that male anatomy and sexual functions are way more documented than female ones, from the very start of their education.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:42 AM
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Having terrible pelvic pain and pressure since a small 5k run last sunday. It could be related to the endometriosis-like disease I have been diagnosed this winter. Or I could be pregnant, considering the intense fatigue I have faced these last few weeks. And the mood swings. And the libido variation. And the fact that my boobs are slighty bigger than before, while I have started weaning my baby and they should sadly deflate themselves. I'm too afraid to go for a test. Wish me luck PPD !
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:17 AM
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I don't care. But there could be an issue with their respective timelines... That being said, one of my best friend is 8 years older than her SO and everything's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:08 AM
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Very nice ! I may stole your idea... My kids are crazy about brocolis, so a brocoli pasta meal could be a real hit in my house !
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:34 AM
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My favorite mug is a big one about 600ml. Because I'm breastfeeding thirsty and have a lot of herbal tea in the evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 01:47 PM
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My husband is 7years older than me and that's about the bigger gap I'd find normal or acceptable. We still belong to the same generation. So a man in his 60's, even now at almost 35 yo would be a hard no, no matter what good shape he is. Damn, that's my father's age !
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 01:44 PM
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Should I keep breastfeed my 1yo or switch to a (presumably) easier life ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 06:31 PM
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Your profile is nice. But it's hard to know anything significant about yourself with it. Maybe I'm too old for this or have different expectations but I woudn't know what to talk about with you if we matched.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 07:00 PM
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The girl in your example has been raped "multiple times in her life". She's processing her trauma. Let her be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:12 AM
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If you say so... I hope you do
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 12:56 PM
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It has nothing to do with abortion. Anybody aware of the reality of children in dysfunctional families or foster care realizes what's at stake on this matter. And for the record, few weeks developping embryo is not a child. If people like you really cared for children, they woudn't be forcing them into a life of suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 11:53 AM
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Not really no. It doesn't even care about children well being you know... Look around you honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 07:19 AM
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Yeah... Society doesn't care about people's personal feelings in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:14 AM
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Yes. It's just that my husband and I always believed we would be very happy with 2. Recently we found ourselves unable to donate all the infant stuffs we don't need anymore. The idea of a last baby, a bigger family, was planted and is now growing in us. Considering our ages and our plans for the future, we should go for a new pregnancy very soon, like this year, and I truly wonder how I'm gonna keep up with my very little children while pregnant and working. I'm afraid we put too much weight on …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 12:04 PM
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Feminism gave me the freedom necessary to even ask myself if and when I want children or not. If and how I can enjoy the wonders of motherhood. Fertile as I am, I'd probably have had around 10 children by now without feminism, and I'd feel so bad about it that I'd probably hated all of them, my own life and myself. So no, I think you're very wrong on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 11:58 AM
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Already overwhelmed with a toddler and a baby, a job I adore, some educational projects.. I should be content with my family as it is, enjoy the baby season of my 1yo and look with confidence for the easier future I'll have when he'll grow up. But I'm obsessed with the idea of having a third. I want another pregnancy so bad. I want a last newborn. I want some more of the chaos children bring at home, and watch them bond, fight and reconcile, play and go nuts together even more. Am I crazy ? Do I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:29 AM
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Yesterday evening, kids finally at bed, I jumped in the shower and the husband followed through. He'd only been there for 5 mins before the 3yo entered the bathroom yelling : Am I awake ?! Did I sleep ? These kids always know when hubby and I are alone together. That became a running joke. Like we know we're gonna be interrupted as soon as we start. That's the real reason why couples with kids struggle. Not the workload, not the lack of sleep... Just the fact that kids always know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 06:36 PM
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Was is not a totally ironic post ? It sounds so comic really !
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:59 PM
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Yes, that's hard. But unfortunately, everyone needs to own its personal burden in life and try to do the best of it. Some are more advantaged by life, some are not. That's unfair. There is no reason you woudn't have more space to grow and overcome your difficulties. Hang on !
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:29 AM
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Smart !
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 06:25 AM
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Congratulations to both of you ! Sisters in dual c-sections girl ! 1 year post partum it feels like nothing happened ! Wish you to go home soon !
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 01:00 PM
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Of course yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:35 AM
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Maybe the benefits are... Love ? Building a family with a man you love ? Find an accomplishment in that ? I did vent about it few days ago on this sub but I dont regret my choice. I'd even like to have another child I we can !
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:29 AM
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Oh they surely are. On paper. But you're supposed to keep working through mostly the whole pregnancy because it's "not a disease", while feeling sicker and weaker than ever and demanding your body to do the most consuming task. Then you're supposed to be content with a ridiculous maternity leave, if you have any depending on your country, and go back to work like never has changed whereas your body won't be fully healed before years, and your life has been turned upside down. Add the fact that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:01 PM
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Yeah... As a european, I'd say you give a strong crusader's vibe.. you're like, a millenium behind bro
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:33 AM
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Yes exactly. That's so hard. That's the reason why I offer some help to my very pregnant friend while exhausted myself. I need community so hard right now. It has to be possible to build some, somehow...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:44 PM
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Thanks ! Yeah i'm in France but my baby's nanny is from Sénégal too and she told me how she raised her child with her family and momfriends, even breastfeeding children of each others sometimes... That's a whole different world...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:41 PM
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Thanks. Yes they will. My husband goes to work in a other town 1 week/month. Every single time, my "big" 3yo boy behaves like we are a team. He dresses the table, helps with cooking, plays in his room quietly when I put his brother to bed. It's amazing to see this little boy understanding solidarity and volonteering to make the family life work. That's what we try to teach him, but to see it happening is baffling. He's so young and already so wise. Baffling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:00 PM
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I understand. It's scary. We were naively confident in ourselves and bet that we'd make it work. We were right, we do. I need to vent right now, I'm very tired, but I still won't trade my life now with my old life. That's a very personal choice, you'll make the good one for yourself I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:49 PM
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Yes it was a choice and still one of the best of my life. My children are my little mates, they are fabulous people and it's a real joy to meet who they are becoming everyday. It is truly the most world rocking experience of all, and the extra work is going to evolve as they grow. I won't be cooking purées and cleaning little asses forever. What I hate is the disdain the social discourse have about parenthood, motherhood especially. How it's supposed to be nothing. How we're supposed to function…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 01:43 PM
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Natality is dropping, yada yada. Meanwhile all my momfriends and I, bravely growing little humans with our very substance of bodies and souls are struggling like hell because we are doing alone something that takes around 10 people to do. We do it while also working and trying to keep our couples, our friendships and our family life alive. All of us lonely, overwhelmed, overworked, forced to compromise with bonding time with the very children we are doing all this for. This week I was alone with…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:02 PM
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Then it could still be platonic friendship or romantic love including attraction, yes. Why do you ask ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:06 PM
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Well.. that's the kind of affection I have for my girlfriends, as a woman. Friendship or maternal love fall under your definition, but romantic love not so much... That one always comes with sexual attraction and desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:20 PM
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Wishing you the best ! Is it your 1st pregnancy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:58 PM
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I am in decade long relationship full of love, support and growth we a man I adore. We have 2 children and maybe more in the future. If I believed in soul mate, I'd be convinced to have found mine. It feels like it. I just know that's a delusion. But you can believe whatever comforts you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:14 PM
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I'm an atheist. The soul mate myth was already considered as such in Platon era. So the whole first vision of love sounds pretty naive and delusional to me. The 2nd still sounds too cynical. I think you should read some philosophy, some poetry and also some humanities to educate yourself on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:33 PM
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I don't know how deep in the grief I would go, I'm actually concerned for my mental health and even my own life if the worst should happened. But realistically, I woudn't have the luxury of letting me go because I'd need to stay strong and present for my 2 very young boys grieving their father. That would be cataclismic for the 3 of us, and unfortunately, we would probably struggle financially a lot too, as I've prioritized my family life over my career for the last few years, working part time.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:18 PM
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You replied me with this yesterday and I think that's very nice of you to cheer people up like you do
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:51 PM
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You replied me with this yesterday and I think that's very nice of you to cheep people up like you do
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:50 PM
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That's a very unlikely scenario. But if some ex of his were to "brag" about how good he was to her, I woudn't really focused on "what" she's describing but mostly on the fact that she clearly didn't move on. Because why would she tell me this otherwise ? I'd think : whatever girl, I'm the only and last one. Wish you the best !
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:06 PM
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Hubby left town for his monthly workweek in another city. I'm working home and meal prepping while the 3yo 's at school and the baby's at daycare. I hate solo parenting for a whole week.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:11 PM
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Never. If you look for someone to build a life and a family with, don't waste your time with people who don't fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:02 PM
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My man has going bald over the years... But what can you do ? He's still the love of my life and a great life companion, just with almost no hair. Meanwhile we had 2 children and even if I'm still fit, my belly is marked with 2 c-section scars, my boobs had gone down a floor or 2 (also because they are bigger than before) and I can't even run at the moment because it's hurting my pelvic floor. That's just life, and time running. I'm glad we spent it together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 12:05 PM
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But... Do you get them ice creams and chips ? My kids are not angels, but they don't really have a choice on the matter. They have 4 meals a day, barely no snack and no "safe option" most of the times. They eat decently well, but very often they just have the white rice, a yoghourt and a fruit because they didn't like the veggies/protein/sauce. That's ok. Children of developped countries suffer from a too rich diet anyway. They won't end detrunished because of a light diner once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:44 PM
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Nah.. most of the time we overestimate how much food kids actually need. What they need is us stop projecting our anxiety over their appetite.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:24 PM
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He's just the perfect match for me. From the 1st date it has always been so simple between us. We understand each other, we share so much passions and interests, and most of all, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable to each other, we talk about everything, we support. Whatever happens. It's an emotional intimacy I've never have with anyone before. About him, I love how smart he is. Very smart, like brilliant. How curious he is, how dedicated to a certain ideal of knowledge and widdom. We had so m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 09:37 PM
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Today is our 10th anniversary as a couple. Because we are parents of 2 babies, we had the most common weekend day of all, but managed to go for a hike in the forest the whole morning, which is great. I got my man an amazing ring because we went for a civil union 9 years ago and never gifted him one. It was sold as a "man engagement ring", gold and 2 very discreet diamonds. I'm gonna gift him that highly symbolic ring with absolutely no ceremonial at all. We are tired and will order pizzas as soo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:26 PM
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I absolutely did while I was dating, for the very good reason I didn't want to feel like I owed anything to my date. I was way more comfortable doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:36 PM
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There is a third choice to the full agreement/apragmatism dilemma, it's called compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 12:47 PM
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I wasn't. I also woudn't trade them for the life I had before their births. They're my family and the most important people in my life. It's not even about them, or the actual parenting. It's about being forced to put aside a career I'm passioned about to become a housemaid. It's boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:52 PM
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It's Mom rage day. The nagging wife joke is just normalized lonely mothers dying of boredom while doing laundry and cooking diner. So. Depressing. Accomplishes nothing. But you can't let your children go in dirty clothes and eating junk right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:16 PM
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Same situation here. Except I won't marry at church and won't need anybody to "walk me down the aisle". But still. To invite my Dad at a social event and exposing him to alcool would be a 100% disaster. Good thing is he probably agrees with me and woudn't come anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:02 AM
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Thank you. Yes we're fine, he's 1yo now and doing like a champ. Yes, domestic work really does feel invisible. I'm actually (trying) to work on a article about motherhood psychology and what I'm studying right now goes in the same direction as your reference. Like many women I thought I could easily "have it all" and keep working as a psychologist part time while having children and go back to uni to start a phD. Turns out it's more difficult than expected. Even with a supportive and well intent…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:23 PM
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Yeah it's all about perspective. I'm not that much of a control freak, and he's far from being incompetent. I was resentful this morning because I'm used to manage the house and the kids alone ~1 week/month and generally don't let things slide. I must rest and avoid lifting anything, including the baby, but I'm still home entertaining the kids and helping him through the routine. And yet he's struggling. I know I'm not being fair it still annoys me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:13 PM
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I totally fall into this category lol. Not because my husband is a monster, but just because he's not used to take the daily household charge. He doesn't know better, he forgets things, he didn't think x or y was important. So we missed some important info from school this week and our little boy didn't have a costume for the school party today. It's not a big deal but I'm honestly so sad for him. What you're describing is exactly what happened to me after the birth of my 2nd child via c-section…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 10:28 AM
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I usually praise my husband for the partner and father he is but I recovering from a surgery right now, I'm quite in pain and realizing he won't take care of everything like I would do. Guess we're trapped in gender expectations and stereotype roles like everybody else after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:36 AM
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Love it !
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:29 PM
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Thanks !
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:03 PM
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Few hours before a surgery I expect to greatly improve my sex life. All my life I've thinking that teen years trauma was causing the pain. Then midwives explained to me that it was just too soon after baby. Over and over while the months kept going. I doubted myself a lot for just wanting to enjoy making love with my husband. Turned out I had several ovarian and uterine issues that are going to be adressed tomorrow. I'm scared but hopeful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 09:59 PM
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Personnaly I do think shaved faces men have baby faces, and I dont really like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:17 AM
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Oh yes I think you're reffering to the choux we traditionally have at weddings ! Like a mountain of choux glued to each others with crusty caramel. It's called a piéce montée and it's just my favorite thing in the world. But it's rare to find them at the regular bakery. Regular choux are chouquettes, little choux with sugar, or éclairs, filled with cream. My vanilla chouchou was a sort of mix of the two. Delicious !
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:38 PM
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Not really. The chou pastry was soft but covered with sugar... nuggets (?). Like a chouquette. The pastry was filled with a vanilla cream and also whipped vanilla cream. Sorry I'm trying to describe it but I clearly lack specific vocabulary in English. It was a bit like this but bigger and filled with cream. (This is called a chouquette). <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:46 PM
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Brand new from the boulangerie close to my work, the Chouchou vanille, best pastry of the week. Like a vanilla cream puff. But French.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 02:20 PM
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Yes, my man is the most important person in my life. Our children are too, equally. But our relationship, our mutual trust, our emotional and physical intimacy are the reason why we decided to have them in the first place. And the reason why it's so good to be a family of our own together. None of this would have sense without the deep ground of our love to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 02:19 PM
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Hormonal treatment is no joke. There are risks and side effects that must be balanced with the potential benefices. It's not be given lightly, especially to young children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:44 PM
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That's absurd. You don't play with your children health just for them to be more attractive. Statistically, from being born in a wealthy well educated household, having access to good alimentation, good health care, good education and lots of extrascolar activities, no screen (for now), and dedicated parents, they are always on top of having all their chances to grow up successful and well socialized. It would have to be enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:37 AM
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I'm not the one who decides to give them hormones. Their pediatrician does, and that must be for an actual medical reason. They are not delayed or failing to thrive, they are just not very tall. That's not a disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 07:24 AM
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Lol that's not how it works
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:07 PM
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It's determined by (father height + mother height) +7 /2.. It sounds like a joke but it legit appears like this on babies height curves. I hope you're right and it doesn't mean anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:42 PM
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Oh ok, thanks. I know, and you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:49 PM
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It's fun because I'm an actual psychologist and I agree with you about the principle. Still, this stuff doesn't have the space in my head and in our family life that my post could let you think. The real anxiety their father and I had were about their weights at birth and in newborn stages. We definitely over compensated with the efforts we put into feeding them (especially me with the breastfeeding and the constant cooking) but that's something we explicit for them and we have learnt to let go.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:46 PM
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I'm not talking about this with them. I'm starting to introduce my first born to "big boy" responsabilities and encourage him to gain autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:24 PM
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Oh yeah. Well I don't agree with the masculinist non sense happening here but I believe things are more nuanced than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:21 PM
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I'm not a native english speaker, I've just look to the meaning of "get a grip". Are you implying some lack of self-control, like "hysterical" behaviour or something ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:19 PM
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What's blue pill anyway ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:17 PM
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It's not ideological. It's a "what if ?" anxiety regarding my own children. Both were born in difficult conditions and underweight due to my body not being able to maintain a healthy placenta until term. So we've always been worried about their development, weight and height. Now that we're sure they're healthy, the worriness and probably the guilt project themselves on something else. I've been mocked as a child for my shortness, and I was a girl. My concern is quite understandable I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 11:15 AM
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Thanks :) Yes as a short woman myself I never gave an f about men height as long as they were taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:37 AM
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They're very young, 3yo and 1yo. We do everything good, breastmilk, homemade food from organic scratch, sport and activity play. Where I live growth hormone therapy is not available as an "esthetic" treatment. It's only for children suffering an actual growth delay. My sons don't. They just have the genetic of their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 10:35 AM
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Yes, we try. That's really an everyday life long challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:44 AM
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My 2 sons are predicted to be 5'7 tall at adult age. I'm a petite woman, my man is average 5'9 tall. Will they be ok ? You guys here are terrifying me. On the other hand, a great friend of mine who's 5'7 tall, athletic and a smart woman is married with a same height handsome man who's objectively a catch. Like a doctor, very sporty, very smart and totally into his family life. She never thought twice about his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:40 AM
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My grand mother was born 1929. She was the youngest of 9 siblings. Her dad was a war wounded man from WWI and he died when she was 3. A year later, her widow mother of 9 died from "grief", whatever that means (I'm thinking suicide but we'll never know). She grew up hungry in a catholic orphanage run by sisters who freely beat and abused children, during the WWII. She stayed there until her 21th birthday because that was the majority at that time, married my grand father the next year and worked …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 07:17 PM
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From what I understand, white gold is an alloy of yellow gold and silver or nickel, added with a rhodium plate, which is the one giving its bright color. Grey gold is an alloy too, of yellow gold and palladium, without a plate. That's why they look different, grey gold is warmer than white gold, less bright and shiny. That's what I liked with the ring I chose, but I had never seen this sort of gold before.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 04:39 PM
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Considering how cycle, pregnancy, post-partum and breastfeeding and hormonal birth control affect libido in one way or another, my guess as a woman living the fluctuations would be that the answer resides in specifically feminine hormones : oestrogenes, progesterone, prolactine etc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:26 PM
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No it's not white gold. White gold is yellow gold plated with rhodium. Grey gold is an allow directly colored in the mass. It doesn't lose its color over time. And the color was nicer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:59 AM
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We are ! But this anniversary feels more symbolic and emotional than the others
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:22 PM
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We have a civil union already. He told me not too long ago that he was planning to propose properly some day.. it would feel like I'm stealing his moment or something...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:21 PM
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Today I bought a ring for my man. Labelled as "male engagement ring", a grey gold band with 2 symetrical discreet diamonds, one white, one black. It's absolutely gorgeous. I'm not proposing him, but it looks like it. We will celebrate our 10th anniversary next month. I had a personal appointement at a very confidential salon with the jeweller. It was an awesome experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:41 PM
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My man has an average look, average height, not muscular, not a model face, slighly underweight. He had already started to discretly lose his hairline when we met. But he was always driven, smart, successful in his (academic -> broke) field and very passioned when talking about it. He plays multiple instruments, has a band, reads tons of novels and philosophy, scientific litterature too related to his job. In an other word : he's interesting to talk to. When we met he put a lot of efforts into o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:28 PM
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Clothilde I love you. You're the most extraordinary butch farmer woman, the most dedicated to a fair affordable organic food for all. I love everything about your tiny exploitation, your local distribution through non profit associations. I love how the price I pay yearly supports your work and allows you to provide a share of your harvesting every week. You don't have children but you're truly a Mother Nature, nurturing your high quality veggies 365 days a year and feeding us 46 families who ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:33 PM
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"oh well..." Immediately loose interest for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:23 PM
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Take him there as a gift, like for his birthday or your anniversary ? My SO used to gift me some nice romantic weekends before we had kids, because he earns more than me and is able to afford it. I was uncomfortable with it at first, but I understood he was genuinely happy to do it with time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 10:13 AM
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I get your perspective and it makes perfect sense. Married or not, he's fully dedicated to me and our family anyway. But I'm few years younger than him, I'm a POC while he's white, and we live in a pretty conservative and racist area. On top of that, our children are bright white. I heavily feel the weight of the looks we got when we go out together. I hope I'd be more respected if we were married. I should not give a fck but you know, everyone has their vulnerability points.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:52 PM
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Well not really. He went out of his way to "propose" me to have a civil union just 1 year after we started to date, around the time we move in together. And we were happy with that for years, until we had a first child and started to think about securing our assets and planning baby's future. But we were also buying an old house and restructuring it to welcome our new family, then we had an other child. In our very secular culture, civil union already makes us a family with most of the advantage…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 01:49 PM
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I would propose to my man in a heartbeat. I mean, almost 10 years mark, a civil union, 2 children and a plan for a 3rd and last in 2026/2027. We don't even need a proposal or a ring at that point. But he told me several times that he wants to do the whole thing properly. We also thought about not being pregnant or breastfeeding for the mariage, because I want to feel hot and be able to drink and dance all night.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:36 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 08:10 PM
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France. Boobs are sexualized too, but probably not as much. I breastfeed anywhere, anytime and generally no one bats an eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:08 PM
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We didn't do a real budget yet, but from what we've seen so far this could be affordable. The house is already big enough, we'd save the cost of 2 daycare + some afterschool care, I could keep my job... I don't know, maybe that's just a daydream and we'll realize we can't afford it. We're in France, we have lots of privileges and policies to help families.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:04 PM
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Why ? They are bigger than ever and perfectly fine
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 06:53 PM
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Some old guy stared at me breastfeeding my baby while helping my toddler eating at a Macdonald today. I didn't have time to feel anything about it, as I was performing my advanced motherhood skills, minus the crappy lunch. They all have the usual organic homecooked balanced diner tonight. The 3yo was so happy with his cheeseburger, it was worth it. My hubby wants a 3rd baby and we'll consider having an au pair to help me at home. It could be fun. Edit: maybe the old guy was more impressed than h…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 06:11 PM
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My son has never watched TV at all ! Yeah, to avice him to ask nicely about being friends sounded a middle ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:40 AM
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Why hypergamy ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:38 AM
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My sweet little 3yo has a crush at school and talks about this little girl every day. I spoke to the mother yesterday, she doesn't reciprocate at all. Actually, she complaints about him and his attention everyday to her parents. He's only nice to her and she didn't tell him she didn't want to be friends... I oddly felt that because he's a boy, it was socially expected that I asked him to let her alone. I'm sad for him, because the misanderstanding starts so early. I told my son to clearly ask he…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:58 AM
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1m73-75 is not super tall, is it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:03 AM
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I'm a petite, like 5'1 tall. Guys my height are usually no more than 13yo so the question hits different with me ! My guy is 5'8 which is the average height where I live. It feels tall and manly enough, he's about 20cm taller than me. He's very lean too, like former runner type. It's totally fine to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 07:42 AM
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Glad to dissipate this for you !
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:23 PM
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I bet most people have done it in their early childhood before knowing what it was. It's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:09 PM
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Oh man that's so common... At least for children not raised in the shame of their bodies. From my experience of having 2 little boys, penises start to become interesting around 7 monthes or so. LONG before any idea of anything about it. It probably just feels good to touch it. Then start the questions to the Dad about it being hard sometimes, and what's this ? Hubby and I take it very gently and answer questions simply, without judgement. We just say that's not to do around other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:01 PM
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I can't talk for womankind as a whole but I never experience what you describe. The hottest man in the World doesn't get me horny just by his sight. I can appreciate the aestetic, but desire is a whole different thing. It's so funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:50 PM
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Honestly the primary parameter of my libido is my cycle. Horny the first 15 days with a peak on ovulation day, then slowly decreasing over the last other 15 days with a strange surge just 12h before my periods. I mean, do you guys really believe that women are just passively responding to attracting stimuli ? Like we don't have our own drives at all ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 11:57 AM
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My SO is 7yo older than me. I'm mid 30's, he's early 40's. We met 10 years ago. We are partners, lovers, friends, parents, companions. He's my person and I'm his. This mindset is doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:43 AM
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No biggie.. fertility is what it is. We'll be less people and we'll adapt like life always did.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 05:08 PM
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That, and also enough places in day cares, schools, infrastructures in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:50 PM
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Yeah that sounds a realistic and solid measure. We are apparently taking this direction too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:31 PM
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France. We were the fertility champion of Europe until now, the state is trying to keep it that way, but it won't be enough in my opinion. People need a deep change to trust the future again, and it sounds unsolvable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:29 PM
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Many are childfree, some others like ourselves need some changes in the social infrastructures to make it sustainable. No one is forced to have children, especially here where birth control and abortion are granted and affordable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:27 PM
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Me neither. Around Europe we still are pretty unlucky on this matter, compared to many neighbor countries. But it's evolving in the right direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 12:25 PM
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My country is studying the creation of a "birth leave" of 2 monthes for each parents, on top of our existing maternity leave (2 months and a half) and paternity leave (1 month). They try to adress the fertility issue, plus some other ones like preventing PP depression. I'm so glad. Hubby and I are contemplating the possibility of having a third baby, this could weight in the pros.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:17 AM
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I'd prefer the 2nd option, by far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:58 PM
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Not necessarily, but she should try to conceive asap
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:19 AM
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I became more organized and increased my tolerance for overwhelming feeling. Also, I had to let down some non essential issues and toxic relationships in my life to stay focused on what's actually important to me. I don't let too much chaos happen at a time because I know how difficult it would be to deal with it later.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:06 PM
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He would look better with a beard, longer hair and some body hair too. Personnaly, I find imberb men look like big babies and no amount of muscle can dissipate this impression lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:07 AM
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Not sure about this. I've been back to my previous (under) weight after my 2nd pregnancy even faster than the first time. Mother of a 3yo and a 8mo, I keep losing weight and just need some more abs for it to be totally unnoticeable. My friends and women of my family are the same, except for the one who were already overweight before children, but you could say they got back to their previous shape too. You guys totally overestimate this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:03 PM
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Yes, the 2 scenarios are totally different. I think my husband would react the same. He would be very surprised, and probably worried tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:20 PM
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Just here to say that I'm pretty amused reading this post because I actually flash my boobs anywhere and anytime needed since a while now, without my husband battling an eye. Breastfeeding mothers do this 10 times a day, each time their babies are hungry. I've become pretty competent to go through my day with a little one attached to my body. And I really dont care that something can be seen. To answer your questions, I dont care how men dress. I dont really look at them. And I woudn't care for …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 03:11 PM
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Pint is my new regular glass of water
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:57 PM
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What thought ? Feeling desire towaard someone ? No not per se. Just don't be a dick about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:11 PM
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I'm an atheist, I'm not particularily trying to follow the Bible message here lol. But your citation is backing the idea that fantasy is already a form of cheating, which was not the subject of your OP. I don't believe in thought crime in general. I think a world where people are guilty for their intimate thoughts would be a living hell. So no, masturbation has nothing to do with cheating and privately fantasizing about someone doesn't equate objectification, because this someone can't feel obje…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:15 PM
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The concept of objectification doesn't "attack" anything. It is descriptive of an issue women face in society. But to answer your question, men can fantasize and masturbate all they want in their own privacy, but they're expected to not bother anyone with it. Nobody wants to know what a stranger rando does with himself at night. Nobody wants to be involved without consent. So it's fine as long as they keep it to themselves and don't act weird when interacting with women. Just for you know, many …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:10 AM
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So much. Mine returned only 3 months post partum, despite the fact I'm breastfeeding my baby and have been full of milk like crazy since the beginning. All my mom friends have been period free for months, sometimes years. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:18 PM
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Some of mine : * Uneducated * Complotist and/or antivax * Shallow * Religious
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:29 PM
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More like " Guy A looked very confident when we flirted but have been so shy and self conscious in intimacy ! Guy B came so fast but was a gentleman about it and didn't let me go until I was content too" etc. Or how attractive they were or were not, how sex improved over time with a guy, if hé was or was not a serious prospect for more than casual etc. In teenage and early 20's years it was quite often discussed among us girls. 10-15 years later, not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 04:28 PM
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From experience as a former "party girl" with a lot of girls friends same minded at that time, I'd say <2-5% Most of the time dick size was not even mentionned when we talked about sex or our partners. Except when the guy was in one extreme or another. But it was rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:28 AM
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Was anxious today waiting for the results of a pregnancy test, only 3 months after the birth of my 2nd baby. So relieved it came back negative ! I wasn't gonna go through my 3yo first year of school and my newborn's first year of life while pregnant. No way. Hope we'll be in a place to welcome a 3rd in a few years tho
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:47 PM
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My partner is a lot like this and I've always loved it. It could be a turn off from someone you're not that in love with, like suffocating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:18 PM
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Because we already spent most if not all nights together anyway, as well as our free time, so the maintenance and cost of 2 appartements made no sense anymore. We were at the point where going home meant get back to each other at the end of the day, have a nice dîner together and cuddle every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:01 PM
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I'm gladly dealing with it right now. It's totally worth having a family. But your way to minimize the physical cost of it while you'll never get to deal with it yourself is quite annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:48 PM
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Most normal women enjoy nausea, heartburn, headache, fatigue, mood swings, insomnia, weight gain, variety of pains including breaast, back, pelvis and ligament, plus the occasionnal stretch marks ? Are you sure ? Because there are just some normal pregnancy symptoms that every pregnant women experiment on a daily basis for 9months. I don't even talk about possible complications, and birth, of course. This experience has nothing to do with the joy to welcome a baby, the love for your family or an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:21 PM
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Being preggo for the 2nd time and very uncomfortable rn myself, with some issues that put me in rest leave from the beginning of the 2nd semester, I hear you and I hear you well. I'm thankful and lucky for my partner being such a good support on every aspects. That being said, what we can observe here in our European countries is that birth rates are higher where culture and social infrastructures allow mothers to keep their autonomy, instead on relying solely on their partner. I'm not sure that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:56 AM
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You have absolutely no Idea what you're talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:11 AM
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Well, she has to want it as well, you know...?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:45 PM
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Yes, why not ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:37 PM
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Thanks ! Apparently it could have an effect on the cervix dilatation too. Sperm contains an hormone called prostaglandine which is used as a med in the ealy stages of induction. Not to say that make you hubby cum is the same to receive an actual treatment, but it can only help right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:04 PM
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Earlier in the afternoon I thought I could maybe be leaking some amniotic fluid and felt very ready to meet my baby soon. So exciting ! Turns out it was probably just the "gift" of my hubby whom I had sex with like, 2-3 hours prior. Surprisingly abondant considering how active and in love we are these days. OBGYN told us intercourse could help inducing labor, we took it seriously lol. I feel a bit disappointed right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:46 PM
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Why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:07 PM
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I mean it's not useless, but bot magical either 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:23 AM
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I don't. 6 dates/day is so much more sugar than I can handle lol. I managed to keep my weight under control so far, I don't want gain 3kg in the last 2 weeks. I do raspberry tea, sex, colostrum expression and even a little pumping, long walks, doable household and cares for my 2yo which is a lot on its own. Should be enough righ ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:18 AM
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Light erratic contractions started yesterday after a very active 5km walk in the woods. O Great Goddess of Womanhood and Fertility, in your infinite kindness, please grant me with a spontaneous labor in the days to come instead of a programmed c-section in 2weeks like my med team planned.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:39 AM
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Married at 21 ? OMG people...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:28 AM
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Thanks !
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:04 PM
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My partner earns 5-6 times more than me, mostly due to our respective fields and their differences. We have a 2yo and I'm 9mo pregnant with the 2nd child. We both work, we both pay, but not to the same proportion of course. We have a shared account for the family finances, we agreed on the amount we needed each month and stick to it. Since the birth of our 1st child I have been working a little less hours, took a larger part of the household and childcare because it was more convenient and also …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:56 PM
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He doesn't "get me" pregnant to begin with. I have to agree with it because, you know, I'm the one in charge regarding birth control. Now having demonstrated such a jerk behaviour, I'd consider not giving this man the gift of a child. Also, I really don't want to be a single mother. So yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:55 PM
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I'll bite. 1m75 so 5ft8 is that it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:41 PM
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Sex every day during ovulation week did very good for us. Good luck to you and your partner !
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:16 AM
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I've never really though about this in a decade, so I guess... No ? I'm probably not, I'm mixed races and quite "original" in my own way. From what I know about his past, I'm not even sure he has a type in the first place 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:57 PM
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I can easily admit that there are men out there who are more attractive than my husband. I mean, obviously... We're not in our "prime" anymore. Also, our family life, our child and my pregnant self got the top priority of his free time, so he doesn't get many left to take care of himself... But there is no man on earth I'd rather be with than him. My love and my attraction for him are not dependant of these factors. I was more horny 10 or 15 years ago maybe, but not more attracted to my shitty b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 05:12 PM
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Not necessarily. There's virtually no minimal amount of alcohol that is safe for a foetus, as their liver aren't functionnal yet and the whole shot got right through their developping brain. One time is apparently enough to cause the syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 11:36 AM
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I'm fine. It's official, my maternity leave starts today and I just received my salary while I was not sure to get it. For today I plan to try a new recipe from my Ottolenghi cook book. Some roasted butternut with corn and feta cheese. I want keep healthy for my last 6 weeks of pregnancy, eating well and staying active, which is harder and harder as the time goes, but I'll try. I've gained 13kg so far and I'm pissed off, as I didn't want to get past +15kg for this whole pregnancy and I'm not sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 08:00 AM
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Yes. Because prostitution is human exploitation in most cases. Also, it says a lot about the desesperation of the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:02 PM
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Just reacting to say my hubby and I matched on OLD because of our shared litterature tastes, and Dostoïevski was one of them. This makes you highly fuckable in my opinion. Also, I'm a mixed woman and never had issues with black men. There's a statistic for everyone buddy !
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:40 PM
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Not perfect can be perfectly satisfactory. If you accept to live in reality instead of fantazy. I suggest you be careful with that mindset you have, or you'll just constantly discourage yourself to feel any joy in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:13 PM
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Lol sorry, you never know on this sub ! 😅 Yes I appreciate these poses a lot too. I'm used to doing yoga and there are particularily interesting as I'm pregnant right now
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 08:17 AM
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Well, it's very good to exercise and stretch your back so... Yeah it feels good. But did you mean something more sexual ?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 07:11 AM
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If you say so...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:18 AM
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I come from a country where abortion is now protected by constitutionnal law and where men need to actively claim a child as their own for their paternity to be effective. None of this very us problematics concern me personnally, and I agree with the OP that men should have some form of choice to become a parent or not, in case of unplanned pregnancy. My argument was that in a country like yours, everybody being forced to parenthood, as authoritarian as it is, was maybe the only option fitting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:58 AM
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Yes that's what I said. Abortion is not a granted right anymore. Thanks for the précisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:36 AM
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Coming from another place, I don't understand this logic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:24 AM
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You're right. But in a country like yours where abortion is at stake and there's no safety net for women who would choose to keep an unplanned pregnancy if she could, what solution is there really ? USA puritanism is making it harder for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:38 AM
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They're just haters. You can perfectly be strong and independant even in a couple with children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 09:23 AM
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I buy my eggs directly from a local farmer, with an annual subscription equivalent to 3 euros/6 eggs/week. Same with veggies. It's all local, organic, and support her business against the weather and bad harvest hazards. Well she had some foxes on her propriety so I had only 3eggs/week for some time. Now that she has increased her livestock again, it's more about 8/10 eggs a week and I don't really know what to do with them !
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:10 AM
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Not really. I just thought OP was missing the fact and his statement was incomplete. Technology, medicine and fertility control have largely freed women from their condition in the west. I'm personnally really happy and grateful for living in this era in a country where women sexual rights have even been protected in the constitution. I don't complain about it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 05:00 PM
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Being a woman is not a disability by itself, but being tied to the feminine condition of child bearing can fairly being called like that. In a world where women have no power over their fertility, and more often that not, no power over their sexuality either, they're enslaved to their biology and they have a real disadvantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 12:23 PM
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Sex is usually totally fine during pregnancy, even recommanded as some healthy feel good bonding activity. I just entered the 8th month, hips are now hyperlax, uterus is preparing for its big performance by having random contractions, ligaments are under a high pressure because of the weight of the baby and the womb. So having some pain is expected at that point, especially in a 2nd pregnancy not that far from the first one. I kept walking 10k steps/day until now and I've been recommanded to slo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 07:45 AM
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Not at all. Maybe the last weeks or so it had happened. Some night I even thought I had gone into labor, but it was a false alarm. This time it started really soon. At first it was manageable, the pain came right after orgasm, but it progressively appeared sonner and sonner until this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 07:36 PM
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I'm so annoyed to have contractions the moment my man tries to touch me. I still have 2 months of pregnancy to do, the idea of stopping sex so soon, and have to wait 6-8 weeks after birth to get back to it, so almost 4 months total, is revolting. I'm not afraid of going into early labor, all my health check ups are good. But it's really too painfull to ignore it. I tried to just pass through and keep going, it didn't go well. Tonight I'll try to take the anti spasmodic medications I was prescrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 06:53 PM
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Oh I'm sure you know plenty of women who did this, not only cheating while trying to conceive but also not using condoms, not even in their fertile days, right ? Of course you do...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:24 PM
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Yeah, because sleep with the wrong man while in a relationship and trying to conceive is a common and comprehensible mistake. Oopsy...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 01:13 PM
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No need ! With my high n-count and the proven fact of micro chimerism, he'll test negative even if he was the one who actually impregnated me ! That's the beauty of the whole thing 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:48 PM
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Oh so nice. What are you going to grow ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:54 PM
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My goal is to maintain 10000 steps a day til the end of the pregnancy. Midwife today told me my hips pain won't get better if I keep going like this. I can barely walk tonight. Sex has become pretty unpracticable since I have painful contractions as soon as my man touches me. All of this is so frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:50 PM
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You'd have every chances with a girl slighty younger than you. That's how it worked for my partner and I. He was 32 when we met, I was 24. Because both of us shared the same life style and environnement, the age gap was not an issue, we actually related a lot to one an other.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:36 PM
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Yeah exaclty. I was about to ask the same thing !
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:53 PM
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Too inexperienced in life and relationships. I'm in my 30's, I've spent a decade with my partner, we have 2 children and obviously have learnt and grown a lot together. Assuming I'm single again one day, I wouldn't be interested to meet someone who can't relate with my experience at all. I'd prefer some divorced father who I could share more with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:22 PM
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None of them are relationship material, so I'd rather date the player, have a funny date and night, go home and never call or think about him again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 06:12 PM
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In my world, the only dumbasses are the one judging people for leaving someone they find boring and unappealing, aka they don't love. I mean, if that's really what you feel about your partner, you shoudn't stay. There's no reward, no medal, no pat in the back at the end for the "sacrifice". Just your time waisted and lots of regrets. A marriage is a mean to build a life with someone you love. Without this condition met, the love, the wish to stay together, said marriage loses its purpose and has…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:32 AM
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Wow it sounds crazy. 14 is so old !
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:15 PM
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Firstly, you clearly don't have the same definition of a mariage as someone like Dry-Ad3452, because what you describe is actually a cake walk under certain obvious conditions : if you love your partner, if your share some common projects and plans for the future, if you genuinely desire to built your life together. On that ground, it's pretty easy to put this particular person, your partner, over your immediate desires. That's the principle of most LTR, married or not. But this case is not the …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 06:15 PM
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By law a child can't be alone at home under 14 ??! Dawn which country are you living in ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:57 PM
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I didn't cry today but could have. 7mo pregnant, exhausted and I have slept only few interrupted hours due to my 2yo son being really sick the whole week, with the highest fever and a bad cough. He spent the night glued to me in our parental bed, crying and waiting to be hold while I was having contractions and all sort of pains from the fatigue and the bad posture. This week we have been to the doctor twice and he has been able to spend one day at day care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 05:07 PM
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What is marriage supposed to be ? A duty ? A guilt trap ? Why should anybody stay in a dead relationship, dead bedroom and be miserable ? For what great purpose ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:37 PM
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That's true even where the couple has children imo. Imagine putting the responsability of your own misery over your children's shoulders. And for what ? No that's unfair for everybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:21 PM
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33F. I cook from scratch home made cuisine for the family and myself on a daily basis, mostly French cuisine because that's where we are but I'm fond of asían and oriental savours so I'm learning right now. I've always been a foodie always loved it and was around my grandma a lot as a child when she was in the kitchen. This took a more serious turn when my baby turned 6 months and started to eat solid food. I couldn't stand the idea of giving him unhealthy or untasteful food. I started to get or…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:18 AM
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Yes, with the right partner it's worth it and also a lot of fun. I hope you'll reach your goals and get to have the family you want at the right moment for you. It's very exciting despite the exhaustion haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:11 PM
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Being a mom is great but think twice. Like every evenings, I've just spent +1 hour in my toddler's bed trying to put him to sleep, while 7mo pregnant tired and having contractions from the upsetness and the bad posture. I try to hold my big baby in my arms, tiny baby in the belly kicks like he wants his space back, or maybe the two of them are already determined to drive mummy crazy during bedtime lol. Anyway, as much as babies are cute and the love is incredibly deep, I miss a lot of things fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:03 PM
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What I did notice is how my SO can have a boner over the most little and unsexual touch. Like a kiss on the cheek or an innocent hug. It's so flattering. Also, I wish my body would work like that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 05:40 PM
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Nah. The ones keeping doing this for decades are the ones not fitted or not interested for relationships in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:52 PM
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Don't mistake actual women with whatever stereotype of pure and naive little flower culture is selling you. We are very capable to look for some fun instead of a relationship, and we often do. Do you really think every early 20 something is looking for a husband while partying with her friends and worrying about her next exams ? That being said, unreciprocated feelings happen and are hurtful, but not to the extent you'd thik. Women who play that game take rejection way better than men complainin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 04:32 PM
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I'm not sure what your question is. 20 people is not that much if you were more interested in lighthearted fun than serious relationships for a couple of years in your youth. It doesn't mean these people stay like this forever. They generally grow out of it, 1st reason being it gets old very fast and doesn't fullfill the need for genuine connexion. Most men and women around me have had the same kind of experience and are happily in love with spouses or LT partners now that we are in our 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 03:40 PM
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Lol I've slept with ~20 men and I feel great thank you. Actually I don't think about them that often. Don't even remember all the names.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:35 PM
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You have no idea how difficult it can be for mothers and babies. It's not as innate and natural as you'd think. It needs to be learned, and comes with a lot of potential issues such as troubles in latching and stimulating enough, supply regulation, health complications... It can be really challenging, especially when you add the painful sleep deprivation due to baby nursing every 30min-2h or so on top of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 10:00 AM
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2025 goals and resolutions : Distance myself from my toxic mother for good Give birth to my 2nd baby Successfully breastfeed him Enroll myself in a research program Get a new job in a public hospital
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 07:44 AM
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We're not that far actually But I'm too lazy to prep crêpes for breakfast. More a goûter stuff for the kiddo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:18 PM
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Bretagne ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 11:50 AM
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The child would presumably be about 10ish yo or more and it'd break my heart to think about them growing up without knowing their father for so long. I'd support my SO who wouldn't be at fault is your scenario, but would be legitimately very upset, and I'd try to make our family work with that new parameter. Coming from a massively messed up family, having grown up without a father figure and knowing how lacking family stability is hurtful for children, I'd genuinely do my best to welcome this n…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 07:00 PM
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SO and I are so fucking done with our families and the struggle to raise a toddler while going through a pregnancy, that we didn't plan to have presents for each others this year. All our efforts went to the kiddo, especially because he's able to realize what Christmas is about now. Our present to ourselves as a couple is to not bother, don't add this issue to our mental load, and have some time together. Tomorrow, SO has taken his day off, we put the babe at daycare and we spend the day in bed,…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 08:01 PM
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My SO is around 143lbs on average while my healthy weight is 105lbs. 6mo pregnant I'm 125lbs rn. I can't start to believe what the american average actually is. That's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:22 AM
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I don't know how the law is written in your country, but in mine, age of consent being 15 doesn't allow relationships between teenagers and grown adults. It is nuanced enough so the first kid reaching majority in a young couple doesn't suddenly become a criminal, while the kids stay protected against grooming by adults. These laws are about allowing kids to have sex together, not offering a free pass to adults. Age gap matters a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:15 AM
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Mmh, yeah probably ? I mean, 6 years have passed, I had a whole love story and a new life going on since. So I can handle the umcomfort of the situation like an adult and support my child. The weirdest about this scenario is the timeline. Like no, it's very unlikely I'd accept to marry a guy I've just met after the break up and have his child right away. It took my SO and I 6 years to be sure we were ready for a child and we're not even married yet lol. So I probably don't have a 6yo boy right n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:11 PM
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Yep. That's the thing. I'm 6mo pregnant. Just discussed my birthing options with my obgyn today. I'd still prefer have a vaginal birth because 1st baby was born through C-section and it took me about a year to recover from that. As terrifying at this can look, most of the times it goes well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:51 PM
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You never give any argument for your claim that mariage is a substitute. About the rest, in my country Defense represents 11% of the state's expenses.The vast majority of the budget concerns social security and solidarity, all together pensions of retirement and health care. Like the rest of the population, I benefit from it. I'm currently put at rest for several monthes by my doc to avoid pregnancy complications until birth, and keeping my salary. All my health cares are free or ridiculously ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:56 PM
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I am not married. It's not a substitute for love, you are missing the point completely. Your statement is still giving credit to the very ideals you try to denunce. People tell each other that mariage is a proof of love, the real commitment etc and there are wrong. But it stills true that mariage, by giving a legal status to a couple and playing by the official rules, do offers some concrete advantages to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:27 PM
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You like it or not, but mariage legally implies a duty to support your spouse, whatever you feel about them. Meaning even if you're pissed off and hate them, you still have an obligation to offer support until you're divorced. It's not about feelings. Same way parenthood legally binds you to care for your children, even after their majority. At least that's the case in my country. I'm not married by the way. I'm in a decade long LTR and just beginning to consider mariage because now that we've b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:40 PM
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Government legal framework has nothing to do with your feelings. It's about having rules to organize life in society. So yeah, supporting each other is a legal duty. Like you can't let your spouse become homeless, you can't let them starve, you can't let them in the need of care without offering your help. You're legally bonded by any debt they contract during your mariage unless they are recognized unresponsible for their actions etc. They have the right to sue you for not supporting them and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:19 PM
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"Till death do us part" obviously implies love. Nope. The phrasing is old and has historic, legal and religious implications that spouses are one and undivided by body (they sleep together), possession (what both families own) and souls before god. That's all. It's certainly obsolete now. How does getting a corrupt government involved in your relationship "secure" anything for anybody? It secures money for women if they get divorced, but that's about it. Government can be corrupt. But mariage pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:42 PM
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Yes, you're somehow right, love doesn't need mariage. But that was never the purpose of mariage to maintain love. The vow is not to love you spouse until death, it's to support them until death. My SO and I have spent the last decade together. We are waiting for our 2nd child. We are very in love, very attracted to each other and very happy in our current life. We are not married yet, we just had a civil union which is not a big deal in our country. Half the living together couples, including th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:30 AM
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Nuance ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:03 AM
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Very easily. I had several hook ups when I was single. I stopped and never thought about again when I met someone I felt in love with. We're about a decade long together and very happy. Nothing simpler, really !
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:14 AM
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Honestly I'd lost respect for any man engaging in a fight instead of trying to deescalate and resolve the situation peacefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 06:10 AM
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What do you mean ? I love his face and hair ! Would definitely be my style if I met someone his type when I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:29 AM
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Is waking up a hubby in the middle of the night with the intention to have sex consider a SA nowadays ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:30 PM
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It was a positive experience. I used it in addition to a rich social life, just for fun.. I didn't take all of it too seriously for a long time, had some hook ups and ONS when I felt like it, and finally met someone exceptional I had a genuine connexion with. It was 9 years ago, I'm currently pregnant with our second son, we're in love and everything goes perfectly well. I can tell with confidence the experience was great for him too, and before you jump to crazy RP theories : he's not a Chad, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 05:42 PM
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Attraction between two people is not only related to look. It can be shaped through the evolution of a (friendly) relationship. For me, it has always been about the feeling that a guy and I shared a special understanding, some similar insight, some trust to talk freely together and relate at a very personal stage. I have been very infatuated with guys that were not that attractive, even some ugly ones, just because we had great conversations together. But yeah, if your friend reacted like that, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:11 AM
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The first condition is a latent attraction between you and the friend. Usually you do nothing about it because you value your friendship or for whatever reason, until you do almost unconsciously, and enter the phase where there is an "organic, unpredicted" closeness happening and make you closer each days. You just keep going, and miraculously, you two seem to always end alone together, each times. At that point you're just one opportunity away to kiss each other and end in a bed together.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 10:00 AM
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One night, usually drunk, you hook up with one of your friends after a party or something. It's nice and good. After it's done you talk about keeping things very cool and casual between you two. Next night out, you do it again. And again. Once things are comfy like that, you can occasionally text each other to hang out and have sex outside of social events. Congratulations, you have now a FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 09:50 AM
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Did you noticed a tendance in the distribution of sexes among the children you helped conceive ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:25 PM
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6 months pregnant, gained 6kg, starting to feeling big. My waist, arms and legs look pretty small, but my hips are SO wider now, to the point it's weird. As I was complaining how the fat seemed to have stocked only there, my SO suggested it was just my body broadening itself to prepare for the birth. Considering how petite I usually am, that would make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 11:34 AM
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People experiencing this level of blandness in their mariage are the ones ending divorcing or cheating. You're describing a dead relationship. They are unfortunately common, but it doesn't mean they're meant to be considered the norm. Familial love doesn't replace romantic love, it coexists with it. Familial love is about warmingly welcoming your little child in your bed at 5am because he needs a hug with mommy and daddy, while wishing he had slept a little longer and gave you the time to have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:54 AM
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I'm not dating this man, let alone marry him. My partner and I are more passionnate than that after 10 years, a toddler, professional challenges to come and a current pregnancy. This relationship you describe has never been alive in the first place. It's empty, and it has nothing to do with the guy's ex or anything external.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 08:13 AM
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Thank you Mine is depressed each year, I want to cheer him up a little
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:10 PM
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Are you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:42 PM
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Masculine men are not stone hearted or inhumane. They need to feel loved, appreciated and cherished like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:34 PM
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So today's my SO birthday. We have a 2yo and I'm 6mo pregnant, I feel terrible today because of the shot of whooping cough vaccine I receive yesterday making me a bit sick. Restaurant is not an option in this context. BUT. For tonight I have a full homemade meal, except for the cake coming from a very fancy pâtissier. A nice pull-over, funny GameBoy socks and tickets for a concert in january I really hope I'll be able to attend as gifts. A card with a drawing from the little one inside. I can't …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 02:56 PM
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Not at all. Especially because I have always felt comfortable enough to breastfeed anywhere and anytime I needed to without being bothered. Actually it happened just one time at a café and I was able to defend myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:20 PM
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There's no such thing as a "too loose" vagina, unless we talk about complications following very violent births and post partum health issues or other pelvic/abdominal accidents. Plus, you don't wear a fleqhlight, come on dude. Have you any slight idea what a vagina is and how painful trying to do this could be ? So to your questions, I'd think my partner is insane and a full ignorant. I probably won't stay with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:05 PM
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I know both situations, there're pretty similar when we talk about very little children. Except you don't take a break from your own child, you don't have shifts and working hours like you have in a job. The affective involvement and implication are -obviously- incomparable too. That's exhausting, and hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:24 AM
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I don't see how you can oppose the 2 notions. There are not mutually exclusive Nobody questions how working in a factory, being a gardener, a nurse or a care for elders/little children are "hard" jobs. Not complex or complicated, but physically demanding and mentally exhausting. That make them hard jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:31 AM
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It's not complicated, it's not complex tasks. It's not a high pressure job, until you take the big picture into account, which is to raise one or few well balanced, competent and happy human beings to be part of society. It's hard like a physically demanding, repetitive job can be. Very often it's unrewarding and seems insignificant, even if there are good positive into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:50 AM
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I'm a woman, I'm not lifting and I'm pregnant so my advices are not so accurate but what's generally recommanded is 1/3 of veggies + a fruit for dessert per meal every day. It's important to get enough fibers and the correct amount of nutrients.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:29 PM
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Lol it doesn't sound better with the genders being reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:24 PM
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I'm 14/15 and not even that social in the first place. Most of the items are pretty average social experiences for both genders. You knowing none of them sounds like you've been particularily unlucky or facing some special issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:52 PM
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Not necessarily. My SO and I talked about our exes pretty soon in our relationship, and very comfortably. Like we did with everything else. Past experiences were important parts of who we were when we met, they obviously had a great influence over what we expected from this new relationship and how we were ready to navigate through it. How are you supposed to connect with someone without talking for real ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:20 AM
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Yeah, until they don't have a choice and need urgent medical attention. Midwifes are on the same page as doctors about this. At least when they learn their practice from science.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:19 AM
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One year between pregnancies is generally what's recommanded by obgyns
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:44 PM
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That's adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 03:36 PM
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I'm starting knitting a blanket for my 2nd (unborn) son just today ! It could be hard to find the time with his toddler big brother around but I can't shake out of my mind their convo in the future if only the first had this special gift from mom and not the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:26 PM
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I love my small boobs. I thought I was disappointed about them until my first pregnancy and breastfeeding experiences. Having bigger boobs sucks, they get in the way and they're not even prettier. My regular boobs don't know anything about gravity. They just float by themselves without the need of any bra. I'm pregnant again and missing them. Hope they'll bounce back after that baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 05:54 AM
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Just no. My personal experience : 10 years with my SO, 10 years of having sex 1-4 times/week. Not one time he willingly left me unsatisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 07:32 AM
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He gave me 2 kids so not too bothered by this. However, we're both fans of classic SF and even had a project to write some novel together a few years back. So I guess we would have make it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 11:04 AM
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My best friend of high school got pregnant young, like in her early 20's. We're in our early 30's now. She broke up with the father before the 2nd birthday of her son I think. There were no real social stigma about it, even less for not being married, because we live in a pretty secular, socially liberal country. She got help from her parents and the state, as she was entitled to. She managed to get back to her nurse school when the child went to preschool, got her degree and is now settled. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 05:23 PM
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Reddit is too american to me, and PPD way too bigot and prudish around sex and relationships. I'm not white either, but this must have very different implications where we respectively stand. Anyway, manosphere sounds so dumb, I'm sorry to say it that clearly, but it's astonishing how foreign it is to any man's daily life in my circle. And before you think about it, no, I'm not navigating around models or "chads" people. More like educated average good guys, not that wealthy, definitely not hitt…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:01 PM
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Yeah yeah whatever. When you'll be ready to consider some other sources that Reddit echo chambers maybe you'll realize how out of touch all of this sounds
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:49 AM
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I'm not. To want to be desired is valid. But their RP beliefs about AFBB is wrong and yes, somehow stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:29 AM
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I've always had a pretty high libido, with and without hormonal birth control, even higher during pregnancies. The only exception when my libido went down was during breast feeding, and it was a common side effect of BF hormone. I''ve been "promiscuous" while single, alternatively to LTR with once a day/every 2 days sex all my life until having a child. It became a bit rough to keep that pace with the arriving of our 1st, not because we didn't want it anymore but because the lack of sleep and fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:35 PM
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I don't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:14 PM
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Lol, depends if we're in a public or an intimate situation. I like randomly run my fingers into his beard, chest and belly hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 04:23 PM
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I get it, but I think you're wrong believing "safe" means less exciting or desirable. For a whole lot of women including me, safe means the exact opposite and allows so much more freedom and explorations in terms of sexual life. That's why it sounds ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:08 AM
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I had a 14yo boy baby sitter for a while when I was a child. He was the little brother of my former baby sitter..all things went well. I would consider having one for my boys when they'll be older. As most people, I recognize I have some bias in this regard, but I could totally imagine a young man babysitter taking my sons to their after school activities and surpervising their home work until I go home. It could be nice actually for my young sons to have some big brother figure like this. I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:02 AM
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Nah, you sound like you have no idea what's being in a LTR actually looks like. All this is very far from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 10:50 AM
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Lol that's insane. How delusioned one needs to be about relationships and people to have such "boundary" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 07:22 PM
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They are not entirely responsible for their ignorance. Girls and women are not enough educated over their own anatomy, especially regarding this pelvic/perineal issue. I'm aware of that because I'm at my second pregnancy in a short time and educated myself over the subject. I didn't know any of this 2 years ago. You should ask for the reasons behind your answers. It's knowledge. They debunk some very common mistakes people make, like thinking that piv "loosens" the vagina. It could be the contra…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:07 PM
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Probably. A factor could be how tonic and responsive are the muscles of the pelvic floor and perinea surrounding the canal itself. As any other muscles, they can be trained and worked out. They can be reeducated after pregnancy and birth. It's well known that tonic muscles in this area, with a better sense of sensitivity and volountary mobility improve the quality of sexual life for both partners. Maybe that could answer your question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:50 PM
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I don't know, maybe ? But the thing is that resting vaginas are very small, like only few cm long and large. They are capable to expand greatly, as much as the size of a new born like mentionned earlier, and to get back to normal after a period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:25 PM
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I have no power to forbid him to so...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 11:25 AM
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Oh you know what I'm doing. You got me, Obscure Debate Lord. It sounds so dramatic, I love it. Please do more of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:52 AM
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Lol, you can't really clarify your own statement isn't it ? Maybe because it makes no sense ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 08:39 AM
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Dude, calling masturbation cheating is insane, no matter who claims it. These woman are controling. It's ok to see it for what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 06:02 PM
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I can't believe we're having this conversation. How "body autonomy" is a relevant category in case of cheating ? But to answer your question I'd say that no, it's not. What's problematic with cheating is not that said partner has sexual pleasure not involving their SO, it's that they have some with someone else. Do you understand how it's different from masturbation ? Something one do to itself ? Here're an analogy for you. Can I forbid my husband to eat any food not cooked by me ? Can I threate…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:11 PM
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Don't you really not understand how masturbation can not be an accurate analogy to cheat, as the problem with cheating is to engage with an other person ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:41 PM
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Ok so explain to me how eating your boggers is the same as having an orgasm. What's the hidden link between the two ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:38 PM
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Masturbation is not "having sex".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:20 PM
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You have boundaries for yourself. Not for other people. You don't even know the meaning of the term oh my god...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:19 PM
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Was thinking about the long list of Church's violent conquests and slaughterings actually. All driven by "good christian morale ". The Enlightment is just the name of a stream of thoughts occuring in the 18th century, promoting humanism values over religious ones. It had a great influence across Europe. Very accurate for our little debate actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:16 PM
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Your comparison is a bad faith one. The issue here is about accepting that your SO can have their own intimacy. Respecting someone's space is a boundary you're not entitled to cross when you're in couple, because it's not "subjective" or "personal", it's the basis of human dignity. Leave if you find yourself incompatible with you SO, but stop pushing such an abusive rhetoric about relationships. You're never in the right while trying to control someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 02:10 PM
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Picking your nose in public ? Yeah sure. But doing it in the privacy of your bathroom ? No sorry you're wrong. Or by that logic I can forbid my husband whatever care I dislike, like taking a bath after a bad day or shaving. How does that sound to you ? Anyway what I mean is that if your "boundaries" imply to restrict someone's body autonomy, you should say so and accept to appear like a controling (insecure maybe) person. At least that way you're not shaming anyone for their own intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:54 PM
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No, I'm sorry, relationship doesn't justify restricting someone over their own body autonomy like you suggest it does. Masturbation, with or without porn or toys fall into the sovereignty of people over their bodies, exaclty like showering and going to the toilets. It's private and the business to no one, not even the partner's. Such "boundary " is in fact totally abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 12:06 PM
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It's a betrayal of the friendship she and I have. Not that hard to understand really. Regarding strangers being hurt not even knowing their circonstances, yes, I tend to think every strangers' happiness is not one's responsability. So my friend sleeping with a married man while she doesn't know his wife or family is a different situation. He's the one responsible for his own mariage and family. The same way it would occur to no one to blame my husband for the broken friendship between my friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 01:44 PM
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Firstly, my husband would never fuck any of my friends, or anyone else really. But to answer your question : a friend of mine trying to seduce my husband would be a very bad friend don't you think ? Betraying my trust, being invited in my home, meeting my family and finally hurt us ? In that case yes of course, a women doing this to someone she knows, especially a friend, is betraying the trust given, just like the husband. I still believe the bond between wife and husband is deeper and more hur…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 12:07 PM
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First time I go out wearing yoga pants, and actually going somewhere social like my therapist's, not just the park or the forest near by for a long walk. Leaved my little suburb this morning, took the train and the sub to the city center. I decided that mid pregnancy I deserved to prioritize my comfort over my looks, and also that my 5kg of weight gain were totally acceptable for my term. Bump is bumping freely. I feel so good and comfy I can't believe I waited so long to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 10:49 AM
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Your moral is not as rightful and virtuous as you think. If you look attentively, you'll notice how virtue signaling people and moral defensors always have been at the beginning of the most inhumane things done in History. You take your moral so seriously that you're ready to dump your own friend for a lack of discernment, ignoring that they are already going to suffer fully from it and be "punished" enough by the poor end their situation is gonna have. That's not a way to treat the people you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:31 PM
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The deception and betrayal are on the one who breaks his vows and his wife's trust. He's perfectly aware of what he's doing, he knows how hurtful and cataclysmic it would be if discovered, he's the one trading his own family for an exciting moment. Why would anybody should care about it more than him ? It's not society's or "women as whole"'s burden to prevent men from cheating their wifes. But I guess I don't judge cheating that hardly in the first place. Most of the times it happens in already…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:09 PM
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Yes totally. We European come from a very different place regarding social values. How do you explain it ? I'm thinking maybe the long tradition of philosophy and secularism ? The century of Enlightment etc ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 07:36 PM
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As amoral as it sounds for this very puritan audience, nope I wouldn't judge my friend for sleeping with a married man. She doesn't own anything to anybody, she's not the one lying and cheating. The man's mariage is not her responsability. I would have mixed feelings about this : sad for her because she sabotaging herself and will suffer when she realize the relationship is going nowhere, annoyed because if she's my friend I'm convinced she deserves better and is capable or a better judgement, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 06:11 PM
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Being a fairly good cook, I generally sort this out very graciously by inviting people at home for a diner. I'm in control over the budget, and let people bring whatever they like. The broke friends get the beers and little things for the "apéritif", more comfortable ones choose to take wine or dessert. We have a great time and nobody's spending more than they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:23 PM
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Are you 3yo or something ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:24 AM
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You need to know if you're talking about the best sex or the best relationship. There are not the same. OP was talking about the best sex regardless of the quality and investment in the relationship. But still, it's really hard to compare one or an other, as different contexts and timelines lead to different experiences. Edit : typo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 02:59 PM
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I am, in the rare cases of a medical necessity at that stage, basically the foetus being non viable. It exists in my country as medical abortions, which are different from simple abortions limited at 14 weeks top.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:26 PM
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Seing the finish line of my 3h complex recipe right now. Including the veggies prep, I started this in the middle of the afternoon in the hope it would be ready for diner tonight. I was wrong. We will have it tomorrow. So disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 05:13 PM
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Yes it totally is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:43 PM
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Yes ? But that man I never think of would never had become my BF or husband in the first place. So what's the problem here ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:01 PM
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Lol what's the unit of measurement generally used for orgasms ? It'd be so fun to have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:25 PM
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Yes, on what basis ? What criterias ? Is he totally missing the absurdity of the comparison like you are or is he smart enough to understand that different experiences with different people at a different time are impossible to compare ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:20 PM
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No, I describe the sex good because we have a very deep connection. Because he can read in me like in an open book and I want him to. Because I still find him hot after a decade, more even than before now than he has added being a consistent partner to me and a terrific father for our children to the things I admired in him since we met. It has nothing to do with him paying for everything or making "moves". Yes, I need to feel loved and desired, so does he, but it doesn't need anything special t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 01:16 PM
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Him leaving me doesn't answer the question. How much time is enough for it to become comparable ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:54 PM
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You do you. We just don't look for the same things in life. Lots of people try to grow over their first immature urges instead of indulging them, like get through the delusions and idealisations of their youth to become a bit wiser and tolerant with themlselves. Seeking validation a dead end for men and women the same. Hopefully you'll get that at some point and start to have more meaningful interactions with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:51 PM
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What ? How so ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:23 PM
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How much time are we supposed to give a man to become our best before we conclude he's not ? Like, if I break up with my SO after 10 years, should I expect my next boyfriend to surpass him even thought he didn't have a tenth of the time my ex had to get to know me and how my body works, to build a trusting and loving relationship, to get through life together etc ? How would that be even comparable ? Don't you see how absurd it it ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:18 PM
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Masculinity getting validated is the childish and disappointing part. It's an issue you have with other men in your own head. It has nothing to do with your SO or her actual past experiences. Plus, if you rely on being the best to feel appreciated, wanted and loved, you'll never be satisfied. You'll never feel secure with yourself and others and you'll be alienated to a constant obligation to prove yourself to not fall down. Why ? Because the best is subjective, it's only a feeling. At the end o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:11 PM
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They're allowed to, but it's quite immature yes, because the best is not quantifiable, especially in the sexual area. It means nothing, it achieves nothing, it doesn't garanty that your SO will love you more or stick with you in a LTR. Plus, it's so easy for a guy in a LTR to feel like the best. I mean, he's the one she chose in the first place. He's the one she actually loves. If everything goes well, the connection and knowledge of each other grow with years, so the longer the relationship, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:47 AM
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I don't compare my exes. This kind of competition exists only in guys' imagination before they mature and find their own peaceful spot in masculinity. So it's very unlikely I'd express such opinion in the first place, also because even if the sex was amazing with someone in the past, the reasons why it ended still surpass the good memories. I'd be disappointed if my SO was serious about the importance of "being the best ever". It's childish and shows a total lack of understanding of what makes s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 11:31 AM
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Both. Without stability and comfort we have no future, but without passion and excitement we are nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:18 PM
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No. We talk about how years, life, pregnancy and birth has affected or is currently affecting our intimacies with our men. Mostly to complaint about how frustrating it is for us, and how they are angels to be so patient and supportive about it. My most recent anecdote is how a friend of mine told me about having erotic dreams every nights involving her partner because they had to restrict sex at the end of her pregnancy. Funnily I've experienced this too for other reasons. We're far from what yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:53 AM
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Women are not becoming more traditional at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:35 PM
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Men in trad dynamics have all the power in the relationship. No need to look too far to make this observation first hand, even in your country. But if you're blind to see it, you can always search for what's happening right now in traditional/religious eastern countries. About the knee, you just sound very emotional and over reacting about it. Men do it because they think it's funny. Women are amused by the folklore too. Nobody takes it seriously or extrapole some metaphorical signification abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 12:43 PM
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Most men are not traditional. On the contrary, most people nowadays date in a more equal state of mind, splitting bills for example. And the man putting down a knee is just a nice act, a rest of a past folklore that people like because it gives some special solemn vibe to the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 10:45 AM
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Oh my god never in my life have I had that time and interest each day for cosmetics. Blessed and cursed generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 12:09 PM
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Because you reach a point in life where you want to protect what you've built with your partner, or each other for the future. But I tell you this as someone in a 8 years LTR just beginning to think about getting married. It's totally possible to take your time and see if marriage starts to mean something to your relationship at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:54 AM
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Loose skin and stretch marks can happen but won't necessarily. Like they don't happen to every teenager going through puberty and a fast growth phase. Genetic is the main factor, but also the actual weight you take. You're not supposed to explode or enter into obesity. You're supposed to take 10-15kg, essentially the baby weight and some reasonable extra fat. Most woman I know including myself look exaclty the same after the recovery of pregnancy, or with a so little difference that only their o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 09:23 AM
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The whole "cost of pregnancy over the body" is exagerrated. A balanced diet with enough nutrients is all you need to avoid most of carences caused by pregnancy, and you're encouraged to get supplementation anyway. Same for the general health of the body, it takes some time after birth but things get back to normal, because pregnancy and childbitth are physiological functions, not a pathological state. Now it takes some efforts, like sticking to a healthy lifestyle, some physical activity, a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 07:48 AM
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I have never seen his wife, she doesn't work in the shop. But considering the recipes, nutrition habits and family life he talks about, I imagine she's a lot like him and they both enthusiastically enjoy being foodies together lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 04:09 AM
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One of my favorite character in my local area is the guy from the cheese maker shop. He's a huge obese guy, a happy husband and father and a absolute expert. He has a daughter the same age of my son, he always offers some slice of cheese to him, we talk about baby/pregnancy friendly options for cheese, he gives advices of conservation and recipes. He's so nice and friendly. My country is pretty fatphobic and guys like him generally don't find partners. But there's an exception for the cheese guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:51 AM
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In a more ancient greek way, I'm about to start the Sysyphe myth in the train and feel a bit like it too. Absurdity and contingence of life bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:06 AM
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My man is 7 years older and making more money than me. I have one foot in each water, because very often some people look at us with some scandalized pity, probably because of our age gap which is aggravated by the fact I look really younger than I am. There's no predatory dynamic between us at all, it's true love. But at the same time, I do find those men claiming their "preference" for naivety and inexperience in women very concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:31 PM
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How are the men escaping from their responsabilities without consequences being fucked in that case ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:03 AM
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Yes, and these results have nothing to do with bias of sample testing, like men doing the test are the one suspecting something, visibly with good reasons, in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 07:01 AM
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Everyone should have a personal bank account with their own money, independently of the joint account of the couple/family. Just because you need to separate what's shared and what's only yours. Reddit is the only plateform where I have heard about the Go Bag. I don't understand why you would have one in a healthy loving relationship without past events of violence. Same as paternity test in a faithful couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:41 PM
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To check if your spouse is cheating on you after it's done is not a precaution. Precaution in this case is in the vetting and mostly during the years you hopefully spend with her, you know, building trust, before beginning to conceive. Frankly my man is quite happy about his situation and absolutely sure of even the dates of conception of our child and of the one I'm pregnant with right now. You see, the idea that I could have sneakily met and fucked an other man just the week I was ovulating, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:35 PM
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Well with that logic, don't go in a relationship at all, because the risk is too high. Don't take your car. Don't leave your room, not even your bed. Who knows what hazard you could expose yourself to. I have higher standards for myself and the kind of relationship I want with my partner, and so has he. By the time we actually got to conceive, we had sorted out all the doubts and uncertainty we could have had. We were solid and mature as a couple, aka ready to welcome a child. I've never had a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:09 PM
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It's not the state's problem per se. Your state pushes more for forced paternity because of its ultra liberalism regarding social solidarity. Mine had historically been quite different, like a providential state, with a strong natalist policy allowing every parents financial support depending on their ressources. So naturally, the broken single parent whose coparent has disappeared or can't pay child support will get more help from the state than the comfortable couple. But that's a bit more com…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 10:35 AM
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Exaclty. Plus, by the time you start to have children, your relationship should be mature enough and be long past the stage of uncertainty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 10:20 AM
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Because if my partner really thinks I could have cheated on him and go through a whole pregnancy with another man's child, the relationship is not what I thought it was. I'm the one really disappointed on him for not trusting me, and I realize we have nothing to do together at all. I hope a man like that would ask me for a paternity test at the early stage of the pregnancy, giving me the opportunity to abort, because I wouldn't want to put a child into such shitty relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:55 AM
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How is that the state's problem ?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:31 AM
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What should do a man, is avoid having children with someone he doesn't trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 08:25 PM
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Not at all. Paternity is not something someone else declares for you. A man needs to declare himself a father in order to be one, no one can do it for him. So there's no such thing as forced paternity in the first place. On that basis, state doesn't care if the child you decide to claim is yours or not. It's totally irrelevant, because the whole regime lays on the will of the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 05:52 PM
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Our regime of filiation is declarative. Genetic infos are not even relevant for this matters. The law doesn't require for a man to be a child's genitor in order to declare him a father. The declaration is all filiation needs. Good reason or not, introducing genetic tests would create the need to rebuild the whole régime, and nobody really want to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:42 PM
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Thank you lol These guys are so delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:36 PM
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Once again. France values genetic infos and privacy way more than US. Like just to test your pregnancy for general diseases like trisomy, it's a whole process with many forms to fill for acknowledgement and consent for the 2 parents. Plus, paternity here, legally wise, is declarative. A father needs to actually claim a child in order to be taken into account. He can abstain and never been bothered by responsability, which is more freedom of choice than what's offered to many men in the word. So …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 12:18 PM
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I think you miss the point of mariage. The security most people are talking about is not to protect them from one another, but against life and its unfortunate events. You both protect yourselves in case of disease, or death. You protect what you earned and built. You protect the family you created, and what will go to your spouse and children one day. Also, in order to start putting the efforts into said life projects and plans, many people need to feel safe and secure about their partners' sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:57 PM
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That's not enough, that's useless if the couple can't afford any social service because they're too expensive anyway. She can't access any healthy care, she still has to work at old age because what she gets for retirement is not enough to live etc. And neither can her spouse. It doesn't make sense. For it to be realistic and actually possible, you need to think of a system built at a more collective and long term levels. For example, as I am currently pregnant with my second child, and not in a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 12:35 PM
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If each spouse only have half of the safety net they'd have independently ? That's just not enough for them to access any social security service, because what's left to pay would be too expensive anyway. Or do you mean one contribution should garanty both adults (and the children) their whole treatment ? That's close to the ideal of a providential state that exist in my country, for example, but its's another story to make the system work and keep it balanced in a context of population growing …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 11:32 AM
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I don't get what you mean. So each spouse gets half of everything ? How is that better ? Especially in a system like yours, where social security is mostly individual, it sounds like getting married assure you to fall in poverty ? Other countries manage it more or so by allowing a social minimum to SAHP. It can be very acceptable or not enough depending where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:51 AM
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You have no idea what you're talking about if taking your little brother to an amusement park once in your life is the closest you got to parenting lol. Childrearing is work. It's the most meaningful work if you want, and that's true, but still. It's the heaviest responsability one can have in life, before work, before couple or anything. Nothing compares to that, certainly not a hobby lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 11:30 AM
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I don't understand how you come to this conclusion with what I wrote. Did you read ? Being gentle, attentive and loving is being unconfident and not good now ? I mean, as long as you're in this state of mind you'll probably never have any genuine connection with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 11:56 AM
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What he wanted and what he liked was to share something sensual together, feel a genuine connection into pleasure, be real and vulnerable instead of "shooting his shot". He was really attentive to my comfort, to how I felt, to my consent and boundaries. He was able to understand my body language, and he cared. So he learnt pretty quickly and easily how to become "good". In another word, he was not fucking me, we were making love. Not for everyone maybe, but we both are very romantic and affectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 10:05 AM
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Average doesn't mean ugly. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:26 PM
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Exaclty !
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 04:12 PM
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You're the one saying ugly here. And if "starfish sex once a month" is all you can think of when a woman says she never has enough of her man, it's just sad honestly. You should expect more from life, but that's just my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:40 PM
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By objective criterias, and as I speak to PPD population who have a very precise idea of what a "handsome" man is, I think he's not the most* handsome I've ever dated. But the thing is I coudn't care less. I'm attracted to him, we're in love and our relationship is great. Nothing else matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:31 PM
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Why is that important ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:27 PM
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He's not. I wish I had met him sooner and avoided many shitty experiences, but I just didn't. When I fantasize about it, him being my first and only love etc, he reminds me that with our 7ish years gap, he coudn't have considered me as a potential partner before we met when I was 24yo anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:23 PM
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Not what I experienced. Sadly, the 2 most handsome guys I slept with were very mid sex experiences, no orgasm at all, even a little painful due to lack of arousal. I didn't even want to see them again. I have had great lovers, always average guys I had a special connection with, and I can say that I have at least 1 or 2 orgasms each time with my hubby. He's not your wet dream alpha man, not that tall, not that built (not even at all), a bit nerdy and intellectual, but for the past decade I coudn…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:12 PM
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I personnally don't believe we're rude. I'm even very helpful with tourists when given the occasion. But I understand why our attitude can be misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:42 PM
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But it's not being an asshole. It's minding our own business and having no social benefit to démonstrate some overly friendly behaviour to strangers. Which is often perceived as rude from other cultures like the US one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:38 PM
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We're rude. Because we don't pretend to care when we don't. We don't sugarcoat. And our définition of politeness is about being respectful and give some space to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:18 PM
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Can you explain how the nutrition advices have anything to do with success with women ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 01:08 PM
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Man that's so hilarious. Not sure our values align, neither our definitions of masculine or valuable men as they highly dépend on your culture and social class. Just few examples. All the long breastfed babies I know are kept in a very anxious and dependant bond to their mothers, and seem unable to progressively discover their bodily autonony like the other toddlers do. I'm surrounded with babies the same age of my son and it starts to look like a pattern here. Also, the boys who bend the rules …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:18 PM
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Not really. I don't really know what I do on this sub. I joined out of curiosity about red pill because a patient of mine had spiraled into it and I wanted to know what it was about. But I get caught by how offensive the rethoric was, and how miserable were the people sharing it also.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:57 AM
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Nice trick to have them share equally ! I'll remember that !
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:39 AM
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Well, by the time he'll be using social media, Reddit could be totally forgotten and I probably won't be on it anyway. Is that because we're talking about sexuality here ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:36 AM
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Lol why ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:29 AM
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So I'm gonna be a mom of 2 boys with a 2 years gap. What should I do with them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 09:52 AM
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That's not universal. My SO values my education, he admires some of my qualities and competences, and he's proud of me for my achievements. He's quite smart and intellectual, he has many hobbies and interests including science in general and his career field. He was always looking for someone who could understand and share his taste for knowledge and like, culture. That person was me. Maybe this girl should look for someone like my hubby. They do exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:28 PM
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1) Dinosaurs were extinct thousands of years before humanity were born. 2) Prehistoric peoples were way smaller than us. 3) how is that unerealistic man attractive in any way ? I mean, I'd probably call an ambulance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 07:14 AM
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The actual mistakes are to not understand the question is not well intended, to answer it anyway, and most of all to feel guilt and shame for that number. Frankly it's totally ok, and a non issue for most people outside the US obscurantist bubble. (Talking about the West of course)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:17 AM
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Enjoy your loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:51 PM
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No need to go home made. Abortion is a constitutional right here. Children a choice benefitting society as a whole, and some of us actually live in human sociéties. Don't be jalous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:14 PM
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No. That's untrue to the point sub in my city has reserved seats for vulnerable users, including pregnant people. Politeness and civility are an important part of our culture. Nobody let a pregnant woman on her feet in a public transport here. Same with elders, unable people, and sometimes even children. Not everybody live in your atomized dystopia.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:10 PM
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Walkable is really nice and good for your health. I think I coudn't live in a place cut for cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:06 PM
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Dépends where you live. You don't go around Paris in a car. That's the most inefficient way to move through the city.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:35 PM
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They're all crazy. They probably would never worry for a pregnant wife falling and losing the baby, but they'll be glad to find normally nice people ready to offer their seats while they'll be old and impotent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:32 PM
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She insisted the next stop was hers
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:29 PM
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An old lady very nicely offered me her seat in the sub today. Not even 3 months pregnant but I'm petite and it's my 2nd pregnancy, so my belly is already huge. Some middle aged man looked at me very badly for accepting to sit, but he didn't offer his own seat to give the priority to the old and pregnant women. Really a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:03 PM
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I'd be fine. I'd find a spot at the end line to watch him finish and encourage him. 5k is not long, he'll be back in half an hour or something. That's totally ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:07 PM
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Whatever age people have their kids, most western couples don't want more than 2 anyway. Plus, you should know that there is a trend in 50-70 yo right now to live their lives fully now that their children are adults, certainly not bother to help with their grand children. This generation largely benefited from their parents' help because that was the common family mindset at the time, but they're not ready to pass through what they got. They're done and purposely useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:44 PM
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Not at all. When I was still dating, I used to purposely chose some nice but cheap places to have a coffee or a drink, just to feel free to pay for my conso and leave if I felt like it. It seemed more confortable for the guys as well. Very casual et relaxed. FDS rules sound like a failure recipe to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 11:08 AM
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France, and I think it's pretty similar in most european countries. The importance of bonding right after birth is well documented and applied, I think, in most maternities nowadays. They encouraged us to spend the first 48/72 hours wrapped with the baby in a kangaroo style, which we did. Mothers and infants are separated only when it's really necessary. I'm surprised because I had the impression you US people were more aware of these things than us.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 06:06 PM
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As I said. Nuanced answer. Talking about it with their partner and expect him to be open and comprehensive ? Sure. Obsessively mistrust him, checking his phone and his localisation, not believing his word when he has only be trustworthy to her ? Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:08 PM
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Not in my country 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:03 PM
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I think the answer to this issue is more nuanced. Your relatives are powerless regarding your personal problems. As nice and comprehensive they can be, with all the good will they have, they can't compensate your issues, they can't repair you or making the journey for you. So yes, in a sense, it's your problem and you shouldn't expect your partner to accept a paternity test just because you woke up some morning with a new subject of anxiety. If a family event was enough to fragilize your ability…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:02 PM
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Here the difference of pov regarding relationships. I don't consider checking phones normal or indifferent in a couple. I've never done it, and I would be very angry my SO had thought about it. Why ? Because it shows a lack of trust that put in question the foundation and significance of the whole relationship. Frankly, what's even the point of a relationship like that ? To need proof and verification shows that this relationship is not working well. I certainly wouldn't have a child in such a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:13 PM
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No issue of trust involved while bearing a man's children, putting at risk her health, her career, her potential future and quality of life. Yeah, sure. You sounded very aware and educated on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:05 PM
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Yeah, not so bad but not a representative sample either. I'm not saying women never cheat, but this particular case is rare and doesn't deserve such an obsession. It's easily resolved with a simple and non-gender advice : don't have children with someone you don't trust. If you're fond yourself unable to trust anyone, don't have children AT all, cause you run to a catastrophe anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 11:01 AM
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Just curious, where are your numbers come from ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:54 AM
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What are you talking about ? The good practices recommandations are to avoid to separate a new born from its mother as much as possible. Most babies litteraly never leave their mother's sight the whole stay at the hospital. Genetic testing are already done during pregnancy, fyi. The need to verify has already taken you far from trust. It's unfortunate you don't realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:53 AM
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Implying a child could not be yours is equivalent to tell your SO you don't trust her in the matter. Someone who does won't think about testing it at all. See, you test for STDs at the beginning of a relationship before you quit condoms. That's normal, you do it in order to be sure your partner didn't catch anything BEFORE they met you. No cheating implied, no one's feelings hurt. Now what about demanding your husband to test for STDs after years of mariage, before you start to conceive ? What d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:44 AM
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Yeah that's so unpleasing to hear ! But who knows, maybe your children if you want some could restaure the balance some day lol. Genetic can be so funny .
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:28 AM
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Yeah totally. In our family it goes to the absurd point that me, a brown eyes/skin/hair poc (mixed races) gave birth to a perfectly blong hair blue eyes porcelain pink skin baby with exaclty the same eyebrows as his father. I'm regularly mistaken with the babysitter, but that's an other story lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:19 AM
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Oh I'm sure LOTS of women cheat AND keep a baby with a father uncertainty. That so common. As to have a child, trustworthy conceived or not, inside a dying relationship with a man you cheat and plan to leave in a mid term. Come on. In what way such a scenario would benefit a woman in the first place ? I mean, do you realize how vulnerable and dependant to your partner a pregnancy and an infant make you ? How so much more difficult it makes the décision to leave, to live on your own and face the …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 10:14 AM
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The whole paternity test debate is absurd, because in good conditions and healthy relationships, a guy doesn't even doubt his paternity at all. He doesn't need more proof that his partner didn't cheat him. He already got them and decided to trust her. Plus, I'm sorry but from an hypothetic cheating women perspective, the best course of action in case of an unexpected pregnancy with a doubt about the father is to abort. No question here, why even think about keeping this baby ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 09:51 AM
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Around 200e/week in France. But it doesn't count for the weekly pack of organic veggies I take directly from the farmer, because I pay her annually. Not sure but I think I remember it was about 25/28 euros per week.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 06:17 AM
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It is ! Hopefully I only have 2-3 weeks to endure before the energy and normal appetite go back !
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:14 AM
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Why is that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:07 AM
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I have been obsessed by nutrition since the beginning of my pregnancy. Now at 2 monthes, I managed to gain only 1kg despite needing to eat something every 2-3h to limit the nauseas. Nuts purées are my new craving. Hazelnut and yoghourt for breakfast this morning, veggies in a peanut sauce with rice for lunch. This brights my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 05:51 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:35 PM
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Surely yes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:02 PM
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As a french woman in a 8 years long relationship, not married, mother of a 2yo and pregnant, let me answer your question. First of all, western Europe countries are largely secular now, with a very light traditional and religious pressure to marry before forming a family. Also every couples have basically the same rights and duties regarding each other and their offsprings, married or not, as long as they live together and have children of their own. Child support is granted the same way, and al…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:28 PM
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For tonight it's céleri remoulade for starter, zuchini and camembert pie with green salad and summer fruits for dessert.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:25 PM
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Up to you to understand what's explained here, or not. I don't care about countless stranger men probably lacking basic understanding of human interactions, and becoming bitter about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:29 AM
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See how you're blinded by your egocentrism. Male side is not the "regular" one, it's just the masculine one. One of two options. Now no, not really. I've never really been turned on by the view of a man, even my partner naked in the room just after shower etc. Doesn't mean I'm never turned on. At all. But it goes a different way. I'm more sensitive to contact, for exemple. Sometimes he just needs to barely touch my neck or have his hand on my back. Sometimes it's the warmness of his body while I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 08:49 AM
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Lol I'm a woman and I have screwed up attachment. Still can't relate to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:26 PM
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Lol I'm a woman and I have screwed up attachment. Still can't relate to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 08:26 PM
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I don't understand why you wouldn't hook up someone you would marry. It makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:52 PM
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You could be the one lacking comprehension my dude, because you totally miss the importance of emotional bond and partnership implied in any relationship. The point is not : sex, LTR, children or whatever. This could be achieved in good and bad relationships, with incompatible partners or even unenthousiastic ones.The point is to achieve it with the good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 07:46 PM
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Very simple : for us to be in love and happy together, for the relationship to last long, maybe forever, and to grow to something meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:16 PM
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I don't know where you live, but come on, unless it's a country very repressive against women like India or some states of the Middle East, you're supposed to be able to leave home without a chaperon. You'd be surprised how satisfying freedom can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:43 PM
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Well, I think we can and we should expect better from society and human race in general, than the simple and dumb Law of the strongest. Nothing to romanticize about any natural state, what we do as a specie is to create culture, including ideals like social contract and respect of the personhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 05:25 PM
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Yeah, I won't go for camping alone either. I love my SO and all but these hobbies are meant to allow me some alone time. Plus it's revolting to think we need to be taken care of, like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:53 PM
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Nah it's ok. Just think about how low is the probability you encouter an actual weirdo during your run/hike/walk. Most people in the forest are nice and fit retired couples hiking all day. Lots of people who work out, minding their own business and enjoying the scenery. It's pretty ok. Well once in a while my path crosses some nudist group of hikers, wearing just socks and shoes. I admit it feels a but funny, but they cover themselves and try to stay discreet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 02:23 PM
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As strange and biaised your question is, I'll bite. I'm proud of what my hubby and I are doing together, the way we navigated mostly smoothly through years, building something we cherish and want to put our joint efforts to. Except to that, the only thing I can think of in terms of proudness is a funny anecdote that happened in my early 20's. I met a guy in a concert in my city, he was a tourist and was coming back home the way after. We had some sort of a love at first sight, spent a very fun a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 08:35 PM
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Most women have at least 2 children and managed it, so I guess I'll be fine 🙂 Thanks !
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:44 PM
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What a nice thing to say ! Thanks a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:42 PM
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The tricky part is to avoid the multiple childhood illnesses your first born constantly sneezes, coughs and cries at you, because they can hurt the embryo, while having extreme fatigue and a lower immune system ✌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:12 PM
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Yes, from one man I'm committed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:07 PM
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I'm 2 months pregnant and a mother. I took my 2yo to the doctor today for a fever. I think the intern who examinated him hit on me ? I'm somehow proud, cause the guy was super attractive, even if it's really dumb to play this game with a so, so much taken lady. I mean, my body is litteraly inhabited by the offsprings of another man right now. He kept saying I should come back next week, I had to emphasize how hoped I wouldn't need to. 2nd pregnancy and second time I notice that men hit on me mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 12:53 PM
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I'm perfectly fine with the decrease of testosterone of my man over time. 10 years ago we used to spend our weekends in bed and enjoy ourselves constantly. Now that we are parents in addition to be lovers, we just dont have the same amount of time or energy to do so. That's ok. That's just life going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:29 PM
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Speaking from personal experience, it's not about avoiding it, but not giving a f. For the last 8 years, that we spent together, it felt more important and meaningful to get, then rebuild, the house of our dreams and have children, than spend so much time, money and energy in a wedding. It just sounded like a waist, to be honest. We met respectively in mid 20 and early 30, we were hoping to have children before being old parents. And from a highly secular (mostly atheist) culture, and a society …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:30 AM
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Yeah, I really liked the novel too !
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:02 PM
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