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Every couple you listed is middle aged. This is a very difficult stage of life. Your health starts to falter, women are going through menopause, men are going through hormonal changes, midlife crises, teenage kids, people are worried about retirement, aging/dying parents, confronting your own mortality, etc. People do cheat and fight a lot at this stage of life, but I think it mostly boils down to general middle aged stress and ennui and doesn't necessarily mean the marriage is loveless. I saw m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:07 PM
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From The Path to Power by Robert Caro A woman would put her clothes into the first washtub and wash them by bending over the washboard. Back in those days they couldn't afford store-bought soap, so they would use soap made of lye. "Do you know what it's like to use lye soap all day?" they'd ask me. "Well, that soap would strip the skin off your hands like it was a glove." Then they'd shift the clothes to the vat of boiling water and try to get out the rest of the dirt by "punching" the clothes w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:06 PM
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It's the way you have to insert it. A female condom has to be pushed all the way up to your cervix and form a suction. In terms of invasiveness and discomfort, this is more akin to getting a pap smear than having sex. It's very clinical and often painful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:58 AM
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If the women you're dating are 30+, a lot of them are probably off of hormonal BC for health reasons. Chance of dangerous side effects increases significantly after 30 and especially after 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:54 AM
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Also, as someone who's done both -- my IUD insertion and removal were more painful than labor and it's not close. Probably the worst pain I've ever experienced. Of course, I had an epidural for labor, which isn't an option for IUD insertion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 12:37 AM
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lol yeah I started typing an answer then noticed the username and went, oh, nevermind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 08:48 PM
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That's what she's saying
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:02 PM
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I assume the ban would be for non-medically necessary circumcisions for minors, not just a blanket ban of all circumcision. Just like plastic surgery laws in a lot of places. Your kid can get facial reconstruction surgery after an accident or for a cleft palate or something, but a cosmetic nose job has to wait until they're 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:40 PM
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This is my experience too. I'm the mother of a boy (soon to be two) who didn't circumcise and my husband isn't circumcised. This is something we both feel pretty strongly about and I've participated in anti-circumcision groups online. Those groups are comprised almost entirely of women, and many of them are there looking for info to try and convince their husbands not to circumcise. This is reflected in the couples I know IRL too; in every single couple I know who had a conflict about this, it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:33 PM
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but that would be like an evolutionary advantage to eat so little and still be gaining weight. That would mean your body is more efficient. I mean...yeah, female bodies literally are more efficient in terms of calorie expenditure. That's the tradeoff for lower muscle tone and higher body fat. It's an advantage in some ways and a disadvantage in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:06 PM
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My guess is they walked their child to daycare, dropped them off, and are now walking to work/home/wherever with the empty stroller.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 06:02 PM
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He didn't write it. That passage going around is fake and it's honestly worrying how many people can't tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:24 AM
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Neither of us are really big on lavish gifts or spending big heaps of money on each other so idk. I'm more about daily acts of love and service than big grand gestures. The only thing I can really think of is when his mom died of cancer on Thanksgiving. I left Thanksgiving with my family and drove across the state (~12 hours) to be with him. He insisted that I stay and enjoy the day with my family but I wanted to be there for him so that's what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:42 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:18 PM
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science has shown us Women & men share nearly identical sex drives Science has shown no such thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 03:37 PM
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My husband and I both went into our marriage with no assets so a prenup would have been pointless for us. But under different circumstances, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:43 PM
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Big ones are really uncomfortable, and it starts to smell and itch if you don't switch your pad out every few hours, so it just makes sense to downsize as your flow gets lighter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 08:24 PM
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I already police myself in that department so I wouldn't have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:39 PM
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when you talk to another man Like, in any context? Like he gets jealous when I share small talk with a male cashier or have a professional call with a male coworker? If so that's too far, I wouldn't want to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:28 PM
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James and Michael both sound good. I guess the caveat with James would be how his jealousy and possessiveness manifest. So absent that info I guess I'd go with Michael.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:14 PM
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Oh ok. Yes I'd say that's correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:37 PM
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I'm confused, are the first thing and the third thing not the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 04:28 PM
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However the overriding ethos of our sex life is that I get mine first, and then he follows. Same. This just makes the most sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:39 PM
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If he tried and it just didn't happen it's no one's fault, sometimes it be like that. If he didn't try, it's his fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 03:18 PM
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For context, I have a toddler and two very furry pets. -vacuum Once a day, rotating rooms. -mop I mop the whole floor (kitchen and bathrooms) once a week, and spot-mop with the Swiffer in between as needed (usually at least once a day) -dust Weekly or so. -wash the windows Lol like... never -clean the toilet Weekly -clean the mirrors Weekly -clean the bathroom sink Wipe it down daily, clean with disinfectant weekly -clean the shower/bathtub Wipe down daily after my son's bath, disinfect weekly -…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:57 PM
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There's no way you could possibly know that and I sincerely doubt it is the case. Taylor is worth maybe a billion, and half of that is in the valuation of her catalog. Elon is worth 250 BILLION. Unless you have receipts there's no way you're going to convince me that Taylor has more cash than Elon does. And when you're a multi multi multi billionaire, debt is meaningless. It's a tool that you leverage. Elon Musk is not hurting for cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:27 AM
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Sorry I have to be an annoying swiftie and nitpick, but Taylor's wealth is not mostly cash. Most of her wealth is in the valuation of her music catalog which would only become realized if she sold it, which she will never do. Another huge chunk of her wealth is in her real estate portfolio and businesses. Obviously she has a lot of liquid cash too, but I would bet on my life that Musk has way more than she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:23 AM
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Honestly I never believed in soulmates/love at first sight/any of that stuff, and I still kind of don't...but yeah, I honestly do think it was love at first sight/first interaction with my husband lol. I can't really explain it, but meeting him felt like getting struck by lightning. We didn't get together for over a year after that initial meeting, and I was completely obsessed with him the entire time. The first time he kissed me I thought "This is the last man I will ever kiss." I can't explai…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:38 PM
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This is spot-on, I think. When women say "we started as friends" they mean "we met in a low-stakes social context and the relationship escalated from there." I have this funny theory that a lot of confusion on this topic is because women don't really have a word like "buddy." Men use that word to describe other men who they are on friendly social terms with but maybe don't have a close relationship or spend a lot of one-on-one time with. Women don't really use that word, especially for men (it s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:24 PM
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It's an internet/stan culture meme, not really a feminist thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 03:13 AM
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I've only ever heard this used as a joke, like when Ariana Grande homewrecked with Spongebob. It's like yeah what she's doing is bad but I'm not going to criticize her for it (usually because they find it funny/entertaining/juicy gossip)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:33 PM
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Why do the guys in these hypotheticals always earn minimum wage? Are we 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:27 PM
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Cowboys aren't really muscular, they're usually lanky guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:36 PM
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I do not like them at all and have never dated a man with one. They cover up the part of a man's face I like the best (smile lines, dimples etc.) But I don't think my opinion is particularly representative. A lot of women like beards, and IME the women who are into them are REALLY into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:32 PM
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Dairy farms never looked like that. But my dad is a cattle rancher as are my in-laws and their ranches do look like this. My dad recently had to hire a group of cowboys to remove another rancher's cows from his land and drive them back across the river to the other rancher's property.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:27 PM
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This is definitely a regional thing and I'd say even a subculture thing within that region. I'm from Texas and spent my 20s hanging out at country bars so I saw a lot of cowboy types and girls going after cowboy types. But if you ran around with a different crowd and hung out at different places (which I also did) you didn't really see that. It's a sizeable subculture in some states but it's not something every woman wants. It's interesting that it's a thing in South Carolina though. I associate…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 02:28 PM
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I think checking it as a rule before entering a relationship is weird and I probably wouldn't be comfortable with that. But over the course of a relationship you tend to learn each other's passcodes and get access to devices. I leave my phone unattended all over the house and my husband could easily look at it any time he wants. Maybe he has. I don't care, I don't have anything to hide.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:15 PM
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I have no idea how many contacts I have in my phone, probably several hundred? I never delete contacts so I still have people from like five jobs ago in my phone, plus my cell is also my work phone so I have tons of clients' numbers. I regularly text my husband, his sister, my mom, my dad, my brother and two friends. I'm in a couple of discords, I'm not sure how many other people are in them. If you mean DMs on discord I have two people I DM regularly. I'm also in a group chat on reddit with thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:12 PM
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Sensuality
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 05:40 PM
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At 35-43 he needs to make peace with the possibility of marrying a divorcee, possibly one with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:09 AM
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This is only a problem if you consider "friend" to be the deepest and most profound human relationship, which I don't. I would hope my husband has a different dynamic with his male friends than he has with me. We are "friends" in that we enjoy each other's company, but there's a lot more to our relationship that goes beyond just that. I don't want him to love me as a friend first and foremost, I want him to love me as a spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 04:10 PM
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Silence your phone when you don't want distractions. Later when you're not busy, check your phone and reply then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:08 PM
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I think people make playlists for each other now instead of mix CDs. Or a shared playlist that you both add songs to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:28 PM
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I haven't
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:22 PM
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My teenage years were basically all the responsibilities of being an adult (well, not all, but a lot) and none of the freedoms. I was expected to get a job as soon as I legally could, and I had to pay for pretty much everything except housing and food. I bought my own clothes, paid my own phone bill (once I was allowed to get a phone, which was my senior year), bought my own car, paid for my own gas/car insurance etc. I moved out at 17 and went to college without any financial help from my paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 11:09 PM
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What causes that desire? Is it something completely random? Why wouldn't you desire to be around someone who "checks all of your boxes" like OP said? I don't know. It's one of the great mysteries of life. You just click with some people and not others. And yes, that intense connection is the foundation of every relationship I've ever had. The rest is built on that foundation. You singled out the sex thing and disregarded what I said about a psychological connection. It's an amalgamation of thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:15 PM
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An intense desire to be around them, being in sync physically and psychologically, an intense sexual pull, feeling a thrill in their presence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:09 PM
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Chemistry is literally the #1 most important thing to me in a relationship. It's a nonstarter without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:13 PM
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I mean being in a cohabiting relationship, which I have been for the last 11 years, pretty much means you can have sex whenever you want. Sometimes it's daily, sometimes it's a couple times a week, sometimes it's none. Depends on a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:13 PM
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No, it's an example of a failing organization trying to bring in new demographics to keep itself afloat and also trying to distance itself from the abuse scandals that have become synonymous with its name.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:34 PM
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He's hilarious on social media and probably would have had a funny profile so that would have caught my attention. But he takes really, really awful selfies so I may not have found him attractive unless he posted candid pics.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:44 AM
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They theoretically can, but they are statistically way, way, way less likely to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:12 AM
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Seriously I can't believe this stupid discourse has lasted like two weeks. Enough already.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:17 PM
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Exactly. You're more likely to experience violence at the hands of someone you know because that's who you're more likely to be around and be in a vulnerable position with. If women spent prolonged periods of time alone with male strangers, they would be attacked more often by male strangers (and indeed the statistics about violence against sex workers bear this out). There's nothing about knowing a man that makes him inherently more violent than a stranger, he just has more opportunity. This ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:33 PM
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Men either refuse to lick pussy or only do it out of obligation. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 12:51 PM
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I'm a millennial and in my experience they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:18 AM
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Are women conscious about this issue what do they do to alleviate that? This is the whole reason there's "day makeup looks" and "night makeup looks." You tend to go heavier and more dramatic for environments with low/atmospheric lighting, and more natural for everyday environments. But some people use makeup as a fashion statement and don't care if it doesn't look natural or "good" if they're trying to achieve a particular aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 01:37 PM
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Three.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:56 PM
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I far far far prefer brown or hazel eyes. Green eyes sometimes. Blue eyes squick me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 10:03 PM
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I've been on this stupid sub (under a few different usernames) since like 2015 lol The real inflection point came I believe in 2019 when r/incels and a bunch of similar subs were banned. They all flocked to PPD since it was the last "safe space" on reddit to discuss these topics, and ever since it's just been incel/blackpill whack-a-mole. That has really dragged down the quality of debate here. Also the average user here used to be older; there were very few college-aged people here, let alone t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 10:43 PM
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I haven't noticed that. But it's been happening on every sub, including a small private sub I'm a member of where I can literally see from the comments that more people are active than the little ticker says. So I do think there is a site-wide glitch happening. As for PPD, quality of posts here has gone way downhill over the last few months. I used to be very active here and hardly comment anymore because most people here now are insane and impossible to have a productive convo with. I'm probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:57 PM
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I think it's just a reddit glitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 08:41 PM
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Because the women having children aren’t following it. The women following it won’t pass on that belief. This is illogical. Beliefs aren't genetic. The women following the current 4B movement were birthed by mothers who didn't follow it, so there's no reason to think that can't happen in future generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:27 PM
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And yet they don't. The vast majority of violent crimes, with and without weapons, are committed by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 01:25 AM
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I'd say number 2 except I'd probably preface it with "Can you do me a favorrrrrr 🥺" because I'm annoying. I think the reason boils down to ask culture vs. guess culture. I am very much a product of an ask culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:04 AM
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Yes. And antidepressants are commonly prescribed for off-label uses too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:18 PM
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Evolution isn't about what's beneficial to the individual, it's about what's beneficial to the species. Women have long gestation periods and human young are dependent on their mothers for survival far longer than other species. A bond that ensures the father will stay around to protect them increases the child's likelihood of survival to reproductive age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 04:29 AM
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Sex is the most intimate act, two people can share. Casual sex, has little, to no intimacy. Don't these two statements contradict each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:26 PM
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Also there are these things called books that tend to reflect the cultural attitudes of the time in which they were written.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:39 PM
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The ongoing debate about this on Twitter has been a sight to behold. I have never seen such a nothingburger inspire so much deranged discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:09 AM
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It's troll bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:53 PM
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If you have pets or kids you mostly talk about them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 01:04 AM
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My reaction is "Congrats on not having a job but I can't relate"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:20 PM
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A fair game isn't one in which everyone wins, it's one in which both teams/players have the same chance to win. That's a pretty universally agreed-upon definition of fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:14 PM
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It's important to me because I am close to my friends and family and wouldn't want to date or marry a person they don't like or get along with. That's just asking for a life of conflict or misery for everyone involved. My friends and family are good judges of character and if they think someone is bad for me then I take that seriously and take it into consideration. It's part of the vetting process. I don't care what they think about his looks or other superficial qualities, I care that they res…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 08:54 PM
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I say this about my husband all the time. He is a much nicer, more patient, more generous person than I am and it makes me want to cultivate those qualities in myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 11:54 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 03:19 PM
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A sex partner is a person you've had sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:56 PM
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My husband and I talked about those on our first date. I had never had them or even heard of them so on our second date he brought me a bag of them, and now he randomly buys them for me all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:56 PM
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Presumably you don't just walk up to her and kiss her out of nowhere. If you're on a dancefloor I assume you're dancing with her. That's the "sexy attention" that aroused her. It doesn't have to be words.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:11 PM
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No, most of them never tried. Of the ones who did, I slept with some of them. They were all "given the chance," I hung out in a mixed-sex friend group practically every night for five years and people hooking up was normal. They could have shot their shot at any point if they wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:50 PM
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You and your husband for partying with Trisha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:30 PM
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I have never been more jealous of anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:26 PM
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I wouldn't pay $1000 for something like that because I am poor, but the reason people pay more for designer items is because they are usually more well-made and last longer. A K-Mart purse starts falling apart in a year, whereas people carry designed purses for a lifetime and they hold up and usually even come with a warranty if you need to get them repaired. In reality, a designer item and an item from K-Mart are never "the exact same" no matter how similar they look. They are made from differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:15 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:39 AM
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I'm extremely averse to exercising with/in front of people so personally I would never want to go on a jogging date.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 04:30 AM
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He didn't win an Oscar, he was nominated for one and the awards haven't happened yet. The movie was nominated for 8 awards and one of the actresses was nominated for best supporting actress. It's just that the lead actress and director weren't nominated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:03 PM
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lmao WHAT
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:34 AM
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I hate the whole "girls girl" thing. I don't owe you my loyalty just because we're both women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:30 PM
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This is the answer. Funny enough I am a natural blonde married to a Mexican.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:19 PM
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Probably around 3 years. We started dealing with some serious life stuff (unemployment, death of a parent) so that's when the relationship went from being more fun and lighthearted to more of a serious partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 05:14 PM
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I could have written this comment. Lost it to my college bf and convinced myself it was okay because I thought we would get married (we'd been dating like two months lmao - I was 19 and an idiot). I had built it up in my head as this monumental, meaningful thing but afterwards I was just kind of like "...huh. That's it?" But because the sex itself was disappointing but because I thought losing my virginity would be this life-altering event but I pretty much felt the same. Once I realized I wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:29 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:47 PM
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I don't think it can be quantified, but I think there's more room for lighthearted affection toward grandchildren because you feel less of the burden of responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:11 PM
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I make a distinction between cheating and infidelity. Cheating is sexual infidelity. But there are other types of infidelity. All cheating is infidelity but not all infidelity rises to the level of cheating. a guy's wife accusing him of cheating because he bought a bicycle for his female ex-classmate's 6yo son I wouldn't consider this "cheating," but depending on the context I might consider it a form of infidelity. That's a pretty generous and familiar gesture toward a non-related woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:00 PM
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I find that sex is very out of sight out of mind for me. When I'm single I can go months without thinking about it. But the more sex I have the more I want. So being in a relationship and having regular sex keeps my sex drive stoked and makes me want it more often. I've also found that my sex drive has increased in my 30s (I've been with my husband since I was 23, I'm 35 now)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:49 PM
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That's what I meant too. The question still stands - how could a MM or FF couple be "unicorn hunters" if unicorn literally means a woman willing to have a threesome with a MF couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:17 AM
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Isn't the couple being straight inherent to the concept of "unicorn"? I thought the word unicorn in this context literally meant a bi woman willing to have a threesome with a straight couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:10 AM
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Before we were married, we split based on income. Now that we're married we share one account.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:36 PM
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I've never thought that about a man I didn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:38 PM
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17 tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:04 AM
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I think China is now the largest market for entertainment so that could be part of it. Asians are an increasingly influential minority group in the US too. And yeah the popularity of kpop/kdrama/etc. is probably a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:04 AM
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Men going through divorce are notoriously nice and magnanimous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:01 AM
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The red pill sub didn't even allow women who agreed with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 08:16 PM
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I think it's the same thing. Assuming that people hate you is assuming they're spending a lot more mental energy on you than they actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:20 PM
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This is actually the advice that helped me the most in dealing with my social anxiety. My therapist said "You would be shocked at how little other people are thinking about you." Once I internalized that, I had a lot less anxiety in my interactions with people because I knew once the interaction was over they weren't going to spend the next week thinking about what a stupid weirdo I am. It's very freeing. Social anxiety is a kind of narcissism when you think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:07 PM
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I would break up with him immediately. That's a no go for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:51 PM
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A lot of American high schools have "career and technical education" tracks where kids can work on a professional certification while in high school. I used to work at a high school that offered cosmetology, welding, firefighting, auto mechanics and CNA certificates. They could go to work in the field right out of high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 10:17 PM
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when I dated a volatile man child that yelled at me constantly I turned into a bitch that yelled back Same. This is soooo true. My ex and I used to get into screaming matches and throw things at each other. I am not a shouty person! I have NEVER acted like that with anyone else. In 12 years together my husband and I have never once raised our voices in a fight. Some people just bring out the worst in each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:13 PM
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I'm obsessed with Kylothee and the meltdowns it's causing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:56 PM
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No they don't. And you can opt out of every test and screening.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:46 PM
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Sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 02:48 AM
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Basset hound
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 09:34 PM
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Once every month or two seems pretty normal. I consider myself fairly emotional and I don't cry much more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:45 PM
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That can happen, especially if you have a hormonal imbalance that was exacerbated by birth control. And some women go years with no symptoms. I only say so because that "getting punched in the stomach from the inside" feeling during sex is very familiar to me (I have endo) and a common symptom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:11 AM
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You may have endometriosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:45 AM
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I think maybe people are talking past each other. Most women don't need penetration for physical satisfaction aka orgasm. Penetration is mentally/emotionally stimulating but not usually as physically stimulating toward orgasm as clitoral stimulation (exceptions exist, #notallwomen etc., just speaking generally). But I do agree most women need both to feel completely satisfied/fulfilled and wouldn't be happy with exclusively non-penetrative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:05 PM
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I don't really consume any media through the lens of wanting to be the main character/narrator/protagonist. If characters are written with verisimilitude then I will often find them relatable, and that's true of male or female characters. But I can't think of ever reading/watching something and trying to insert myself into the story. To use your example, I think Walter and Skylar are both sympathetic characters in a way and I relate to both of them on a human level. I probably relate to Skylar m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:11 PM
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It kind of sounds like you were the one arguing for the sake of it. All she did is say what kind of cars she likes and you started being critical.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:53 PM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:03 PM
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Yes, we knew severe autism existed. Mild autism was not diagnosed as such back then, it was diagnosed as a separate disorder (Asperger's) or most often not diagnosed at all. You will need to provide evidence that cases of severe, nonverbal/nonfunctioning autism have increased rather than more mild cases now falling under the autism spectrum and inflating the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:18 AM
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It absolutely does explain it. When you expand the diagnostic criteria for a disorder, more people will qualify as having that disorder and be diagnosed. Initially, the autism diagnosis was reserved for severely disabled people. What used to be called Asperger's or "functional autism" was a separate diagnosis. Now it's all folded together under one diagnosis, ASD. That's why autism diagnoses have increased - the disorders those people would have formerly been diagnosed with are no longer recogni…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:11 AM
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Before birth control, women were having kids until they died or hit menopause, whichever came first. Go back in your family history and see how old your great-grandmother or great-great-grandmother was when her youngest child was born. Chances are she was well past "prime" breeding age. Women having children in their 30s or 40s is not new; it's just novel that women are now having their first child at that age. What's also novel is the expanded diagnostic criteria for autism and other disorders,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 01:14 AM
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Relationships are a dynamic between two people who inspire certain behaviors in one another, for better or worse. I don't think that different behavior in one relationship vs. another is necessarily indicative of how much someone values those partners. There are many factors at play. Ultimately you just have to decide if you're getting what you want and need out of the current relationship. I don't see the utility in measuring it against how they treated past partners, because you are never goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:53 PM
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It may be a correlation, not a causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 11:09 PM
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The question is misframed and contains built-in assumptions I don't agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:47 PM
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My long term relationships all started as casual flings/hookups. So yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 03:14 AM
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The cause and effect goes the other way. Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime because they have less innate fear and are more likely to put themselves in dangerous situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:48 PM
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I don't understand what morality has to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 02:34 PM
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They probably want to meet up for a drink first.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:36 AM
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Obviously if you eliminate a large faction of people your pool will be smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 03:35 AM
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I flipped through my friend's OKC matches and told him to message this one girl because I thought she seemed cool and I wanted to hang out with her. Now they're married.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:16 AM
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Good looking. I really don't care if they look like me (which is good, because mine doesn't)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:13 AM
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Probably about 3-4 hours a day because I have a toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 11:33 PM
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Look for a local Buy Nothing group
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:18 PM
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If female enjoyment of sex determined population size there would be a lot fewer cats and ducks in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:57 PM
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Not every trait has to be evolutionarily advantageous. As long as it doesn't sufficiently stop organisms from reproducing, a trait will persist. I think the female clitoral orgasm evolved to prevent injury and infection from penetration. So men's bodies are built to orgasm during intercourse, but women's bodies are built to orgasm before. But ultimately the female orgasm isn't strictly necessary for reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:54 PM
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Looking For Somebody To Love by the 1975 is literally about Elliott Rodger lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 02:59 AM
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Me. I love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 07:41 PM
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Most one-on-one client services are expensive. Getting a manicure or a massage is expensive too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:02 PM
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Lol my thoughts exactly. Spend five minutes on stan Twitter if you want to see female (and gay male) hero worship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:03 PM
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Dating, sex and romance are inherently social endeavors. You don't have to be a social butterfly to be a normally socially developed and socially competent person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:02 AM
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ignoring the most obvious explanations as to why such a man has been alone all this time: that he's unattractive, that he suffers from social anxiety, that he lacks the necessary social skills. These are bad things. These are the things it's a red flag for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:50 PM
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And anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:51 PM
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Yes, most white babies are born with gray-blue eyes. Their permanent eye color doesn't set in until 6 months-a year when they start to produce more melanin.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:46 PM
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Or if you aren't aware of the fact that many many many white babies have blonde hair and blue eyes at first and both get darker over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 05:36 PM
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No, that pretty much describes all my hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:09 AM
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No. I go years sometimes without wearing earrings and mine have never closed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:00 PM
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I actually have a very vivid memory of this day because my childhood dog died on the same day. I had just turned 9 earlier that month. Our dog was 16 and on her last legs, and my dad had planned to take her to the vet to be put down the next day. So I was really sad that whole day. I remember waking up in the morning and my mom was watching the news about Princess Diana. I was really confused because I didn't know princesses were real, I thought they were just fictional things in movies, like a …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:56 PM
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A baby is a relationship amplifier. It will strengthen the parts of your relationship that are already strong but it will make whatever problems you have 10x worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 02:17 PM
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I don't think that song is really about making excuses. She's not describing criminal or immoral behavior (unless you're a religious extremist, I guess, and consider partying immoral). She's just saying she's changed as a result of the passage of time. Miley is also singing from the perspective of growing up famous which is a whole other layer to the song. My guess is this post was written by a young person who lacks the perspective being described in the song. Miley is in her 30s, and so am I. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:49 PM
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That's not true. There's an entirely separate criminal justice system for juveniles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:42 PM
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People in this sub really need to work on developing a fully-formed thought before making a post about it, 90% of the posts here are incoherent streams of consciousness
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 07:38 PM
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When I started dating someone else six months after dumping my ex, he sent me a Facebook message saying he couldn't believe I'd moved on and "replaced him just like that." Mind you, at this point he was literally engaged to the girl he cheated on me with (I didn't find out he was cheating until after we broke up for other reasons). But somehow in his head I was the one who "monkey branched" because I had the audacity to date another guy any amount of time after breaking up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 02:40 PM
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I mean, that's true of working moms too. It's more the mom factor that's preventing you from doing those things than the stay-at-home factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:14 PM
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It doesn’t matter how much someone enjoys their job, they’d be happier if they were self-employed and making their own hours (working whenever they want, like I do). I have done both and I am absolutely not happier being self-employed and choosing my own hours. I find it stressful. I'd rather work regular, set hours -- even if it's more hours -- and know exactly how much money is hitting my bank account every two weeks. I like the consistency of being an employee and am not interested in ever be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 05:12 PM
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It did, and everybody melted down and shat their pants when it became daily, for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 12:32 AM
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Lol my thoughts exactly. I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who "forgets to eat"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:48 PM
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Pair bonding is a real neurochemical phenomenon that has been observed in some animal species (not humans). A soul tie is made up woo-woo that has never been observed in nature because souls aren't real.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:13 PM
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I usually woke up with a raging headache and then puked for five hours
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 08:51 PM
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I think it's less about climate change and more about the way cars are built now. Modern cars are much more aerodynamic than they used to be, so bugs get caught in the wind stream and fly over the car instead of into the windshield. But yeah, back in the day your windshield would be covered in bugs. I remember on road trips my dad would have to stop and squeegee the windshield occasionally to get all the bug splatters off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 02:46 AM
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In the age of self publishing, anyone can be an """author"""
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 06:35 PM
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Prenatal paternity tests can be done at 7 weeks. A lot of women don't even know they're pregnant by that point and early miscarriages are often mistaken for periods. At most he would be paying for a week or two's worth of child support between when she first knows she's pregnant and when she's able to get the test. But either way, I would assume no man would be required to pay without a test, since that's how child support for born children works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:05 PM
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I'm pretty sure the prenatal child support is for medical expenses associated with the pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:57 PM
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You have to account for the fact that a lot of married couples are old though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 05:17 PM
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No, just don't talk about it around her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 04:53 AM
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Probably 5 years in either direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 12:27 AM
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They're generally part of the same social milieu. Not always but often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:07 PM
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No. It mostly makes me confused because it's so far removed from my experience. I mostly chalk it up to different environments and probably my body language has something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 12:16 AM
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There's an understood "no girls allowed" when men are hanging out together. I'd never invite myself along with my husband and his friends unless I knew other wives were going to be there. My husband has a friend who always invites his wife to their group hangs and it pisses the rest of the guys off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:25 AM
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If it's just me and my female friends then no I wouldn't want him to come. One man in a group of women throws off the vibe and no one wants to be the person who can't do anything without their bf/gf. Plus he wouldn't have any fun either. If it's a mixed sex group that includes my friends plus their boyfriends/spouses or other male friends, then yes I'd want him to come.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:23 AM
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How is this an example of someone invalidating a man's experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:52 PM
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I was factoring in the PMS as well. What about PMS? PMS happens during the luteal phase which is when most women's sex drive is the lowest, because that's when progesterone is highest. Early sexual maturity and early menopause doesn't say anything about women being less hornier than men You're the one who brought it up as evidence of women being more horny than men which makes even less sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:46 PM
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The menstrual cycle is always raging at them to go get fucked so they can have babies in the prime of their lives. They have multiple sub phases each month and a very little window to relax and calm down. This is pretty much completely backwards. Women have one window to get pregnant every month and it lasts 5-6 days. The menstrual cycle isn't "always" telling women to get pregnant, for about 3/4 of every month it's literally impossible to get pregnant. They mature sexually earlier than men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:37 PM
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This is exactly what I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:13 PM
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It was glitching this morning but I updated the app and it's okay now
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:27 PM
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Extremely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:08 PM
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Babies and toddlers are very expensive because they grow out of clothes constantly and they need diapers and wipes which obviously run out quickly and are not cheap. Diapers and wipes run you about $100 a month. Obviously that isn't a problem once they're done potty training, but by that point they're eating more which eats up most of what you would save. And again, new clothes are pretty much constant, at least several hundred dollars a year. Then there's health insurance which I already mentio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:25 AM
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I don't make lots of money. My child doesn't have any conditions, but he's a toddler which means he gets sick a lot and gets a lot of ear infections and things of that nature which require antibiotics. Kids go to the doctor a lot. Plus kids need regular checkups, vaccines, and after a certain age, dental cleanings and eye exams. But even if none of that was true, his insurance would cost that much because that's how much it costs to add a child to my plan. I don't know of any plans that cost les…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 04:02 AM
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You have to pay for health insurance, genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:51 AM
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My kid's health insurance alone costs nearly $300 a month. That's not getting into food, clothes, diapers, toiletries, daycare, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 03:51 AM
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Yes, just like I've forgotten most things about friends I haven't seen in years. People have limited mental bandwidth, the older you get and the more new memories you form, the more the old ones fall away.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:39 PM
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Botox, fillers and plastic surgery used to be the purview of celebrities and upper-class "kept" women. Normal everyday women getting that stuff en masse is a relatively new development.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:37 PM
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Q4All: I've noticed women have thoughts, emotions and inner lives. What gives???
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 07:21 PM
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Yeah, this conversation is pretty much a moot point in those states because abortion is effectively outlawed in those states too. I don't think financial abortion should be possible in places where actual abortion isn't. Realistically, financial abortion is only feasible in places with generous abortion laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:16 PM
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There used to be a rule that you could ask Q4M, Q4W, Q4RP, Q4BP or Q4All but you couldn't get more specific than that. I don't see it anymore actually so maybe that changed at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:15 PM
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The window for financial abortion should fall between the time when you're able to get an in-utero paternity test and a few weeks before the abortion cutoff. There should be enough of a cushion for the woman to still seek an abortion after the man financially "aborts." Otherwise he could rescind financial support at the last minute and she wouldn't have time to get an abortion. You also have to factor in that all this paperwork will take a while to go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:11 PM
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I thought it would be obvious that I copypasta'd your comment and changed money to body as a rhetorical device to show you how stupid your argument was.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:03 PM
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Because people can speculate and use their reasoning skills to answer a question even if they don't have personal experience with it. And asking questions to hyper-specific groups like that is against the rules on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:42 PM
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I literally said that I think husbands are entitled to have sex with their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:41 PM
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No, I do think it's a problem, just like I think it's a problem for women (and men) to cheat. Both are acts of infidelity and disloyalty to your spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:36 PM
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It's also her body to do as she sees fit so he should have no problem with her using it to have sex with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:32 PM
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It shouldn't, I'm just explaining why you're not getting many answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:32 PM
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I don't think there are any other wives in this situation on this subreddit, is the thing. It's a very unusual situation. Most women here work, and the ones that don't seem to all have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:29 PM
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As a matter of fact I do, unless she's sick or injured in some way. But I'm talking about the legal realities of marriage. When you get married, your money and property literally become your spouse's money and property, and vice versa. That's what marriage IS. Your spouse is quite literally entitled to your money and resources, legally speaking. Because it's also their money and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:14 PM
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omg my dad's lore is crazy, I'm still learning new things all the time. One time he was talking to my husband and just casually dropped "Yeah, back when I was getting my flight hours for my pilots license..." and my husband was like, "What? Pilot's license?" He asked me if I knew my dad had his pilot's license and I said nope lol. (He used to fly a crop duster before I was born - who knew)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:43 PM
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Same. I also used to photoshop my report cards lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:38 PM
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I didn't say anything about paternity fraud so idk what inconsistency you're perceiving. Rape by deception was just a really weird and illogical place to take this conversation. There are probably other legal avenues it could theoretically fall under.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:27 PM
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Literally yes. Marriage makes the husband and wife a sole economic unit, that's one of its main functions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:24 PM
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I'm pretty sure rape by deception only applies to cases where the person actually misrepresented their identity, e.g. identical twins switching places, or a guy coming into a dark room pretending to be your boyfriend and having sex with you. I don't think we want to set the precedent that if you lie to your spouse about anything you're raping them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 04:18 PM
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Apparently such behavior has never been even attempted to prosecute under monogamy laws Well, you're not finding this because having a family with a mistress isn't illegal. Monogamy laws are about official spouses. If you're not actually married to the other woman, you're not breaking any laws so there's nothing to prosecute.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 03:15 PM
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Then shouldn't you be able to answer this question yourself? Most people here aren't going to have experience with this dynamic, it's pretty unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:55 PM
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It means that people are sticking to the subject matter of this subreddit. There are other places on Reddit to discuss mental health in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:36 PM
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I mean, this is a sub for discussing sex and dating dynamics, not mental health. So any conversation about mental health that isn't centered around sex/dating dynamics ("genitals") is going to be off topic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:31 PM
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Ok, we're just having two different conversations and I'm not interested in the one you're trying to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:29 PM
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Like I said, I'm speaking from experience as a shy person. Sure occasionally someone will enjoy doing it. There are exceptions to everything. For the most part, it makes people uncomfortable and frustrated, and at the first opportunity they will shift their attention to someone who's easier to interact with, because that's a better social experience for them. You can talk about what humans "should" or are "meant to" do all day but I'm talking about the reality of how most people feel when intera…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:19 PM
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I am a cripplingly shy person so you're preaching to the choir here. I'm not saying it's morally bad. I'm saying it creates an unpleasant social experience for other people, which is what people mean when they say "bad personality." People don't like having to do the work to pull someone out of their shell, and shy people aren't entitled to others doing that work for them. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 01:04 PM
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It makes you boring and difficult to interact with and makes other people feel uncomfortable around you. It can make you seem aloof or untrustworthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:47 PM
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I think she's renting which means this guy would be her landlord
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:41 PM
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????? Obviously all violence should be taken seriously. I'm not saying the violence didn't occur at all. I'm saying that the stat, as written, does not tell us whether men or women are more likely to abuse their female partners, so using it as evidence that lesbians have worse relationships is a fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:04 AM
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I didn't make assumptions, I literally said we can't assume because the stat doesn't say. It says that women in lesbian relationships are more likely to HAVE experienced intimate partner violence at some point. That could be from a male or female partner, and I'm sure it's a mix of both. YOU guys are the ones assuming it's female on female. What "platitude" did I make?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:40 AM
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No? Stats say what they say. If the stat was that lesbian relationships are more likely to include domestic violence, I would take that at face value. But that's not what it says. This is just reading comprehension. I'm not adding qualifiers, I'm reading what the study actually says.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:29 AM
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Well, there's also no danger of getting the other party pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:57 AM
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The statistical fact is that women currently in lesbian relationships are more likely to have experienced domestic violence. It's a fallacy to assume that all or most of that violence was at the hand of another woman, especially given that most women in lesbian relationships have dated men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:11 AM
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I'm not denying that lesbian couples can be violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 12:08 AM
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He's 2 and a half so he's only just being introduced to the concept of Santa
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:22 PM
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Sorry I can't get past your repeated use of the word maiden
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:21 PM
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Gay men are notoriously non-monogamous. Technically that isn't disloyal if it's an agreed-upon arrangement in their marriage, but that's not a dynamic most straight couples or lesbians are happy with. Lesbian couples tend to come from similar backgrounds and demographics as the straight couples who are most likely to divorce -- they marry younger, belong to lower socioeconomic strata, etc. Married gay men tend to be older and wealthier, which are traits that correlate with lower likelihood to di…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:53 PM
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I have in the past so clearly I have it in me. I'd like to think I wouldn't anymore but who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:49 AM
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Dark haired/eyed skinny hyperactive imps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:46 AM
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My brothers used to sit on me and tickle me until I cried and threw up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:44 PM
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I don't think that so I guess I'm not the target audience for this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 03:35 PM
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Not a piece of shit, but stupid and IME likely schizophrenic
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 03:30 PM
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Men are 5" taller than women on average so it makes sense that the average couple would have a ~5in height difference
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:02 AM
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I look like Aubrey Plaza if she was blonde, my husband looks like young Javier Bardem
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:31 PM
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My weekday breakfast is overnight oats with yogurt, fruit and chia seeds. On weekends we have a bigger breakfast like breakfast tacos, waffles etc. I like to eat a big/late breakfast and skip lunch. If I eat cereal it's usually for dinner on nights when I'm lazy but hungry.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 04:28 PM
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Did you see your father flirt with or be physically affectionate with your mother? Yes. Did you see your mother flirt with or be physically affectionate with your father? Yes, but less so. My mom in general is a more cold/less expressive person than my dad. If there were problems, what were they and how aware of them were you? Too many to list, and very aware. Did your father ever talk badly about your mother to you or in front of you or to her in front of you? Yes, all the time. Did your mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 06:18 PM
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Well first of all I don't think it's possible to assign custody in a prenup, at least in the US. But assuming it was, no, I wouldn't. I don't think kids should be used as a bartering chip in their parents' relationship. Assuming no abuse or addictions, I would want my husband to have partial custody because I would want my son to have a relationship with his father. I'm certain my husband would feel the same way. We both love our son and want what's best for him, which is having a relationship w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:04 AM
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OK, again, I probably worded this poorly. I don't mean (and my mom didn't mean) that they are the source of all of your acute joy. Obviously I can enjoy taking a walk in nature even if I hate my husband's guts and wish he were dead. But from a holistic life standpoint, your choice of spouse can either make your life as a whole easy and enjoyable or tedious and miserable. You literally share your life with this person, as long as you're both alive and married you will never make a major life deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 09:30 PM
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Ok, that was careless phrasing on my part. I don't remember exactly how she worded it. But what she meant was what I said in my second comment -- that your choice of spouse has the capacity to make the rest of your life either happy or miserable, and that it's a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. If you don't think that choosing the person you share your life with, share a home with, raise children with, merge finances with, and get old with is a decision that has major impacts on your ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:58 PM
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That's not what she meant. She meant that it's a decision that will impact every single aspect of your life, for better or worse, so you need to choose carefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:48 PM
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My mom told me that the person you marry will be responsible for 90% of your happiness or misery for the rest of your life. I think that's pretty good gender-neutral advice that I'll give to my son, and my daughter if I ever have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:37 PM
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Same. I work out for cardio and joint health. My workouts are pretty light (I mostly just walk a lot, lift 10lb weights and do body weight exercises) which is enough to keep me healthy, feeling good and help with my back pain. I'd have to up my game a lot for my workouts to have much of an effect on my appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:02 PM
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Only athletic thing I've ever been kind of good at is swimming but I never competed or anything. I have long limbs and big feet so that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:00 PM
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I have only ever owned Androids and so has my husband. I couldn't care less what kind of phone someone uses, I just personally don't like Apple products. When I was teaching high school ten years ago I noticed that phones had become a status symbol the way clothes and shoes were when I was in school. You definitely took a social hit as a high school student in 2013 if you had an Android instead of an iPhone. I'm baffled to learn that this is an attitude some people have apparently carried into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:48 PM
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I'm in my mid 30s and my libido is the highest it's been since I was a teenager. That's a pretty recent development though, early 30s were different because I was dealing with hormonal issues and pregnancy etc. I don't think it's universal. A lot of women do experience a peak in their 30s but others don't. It depends on health, hormones, how her body recovers from pregnancy/postpartum, perimenopause etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:33 PM
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That is how it works. Baby boomers were born 1946-1964. Your grandmother is technically silent generation but on the cusp. Even by your own definition your grandpa is not a boomer as WWII was still going on in 1940. He's solidly silent generation. But ok, your parents are older gen X, not boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:39 PM
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Boomers are in their late 50s-early 70s. Your grandparents are silent generation. Your parents are likely boomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:07 PM
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It's hard to answer the first question because my brain doesn't really think in percentages, and also because once I find one guy attractive I tend to hyperfocus on him and ignore everyone else. It's not that he's the only guy in the room who could potentially be attractive to me, he's just the one who happened to spark my interest first. As for the second question, they're just neutral. I don't have the mental bandwidth to walk around forming opinions on random people I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:12 PM
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It's very rare that I find someone "repulsive." Like, they have to have terrible BO or some kind of festering sores or something to reach that level. Most people, men and women, are just neutral. But there was never a shortage of attractive men. Whether I take note of them depends more on my mood/headspace and the environment. The same guy can be neutral in one scenario but catch my eye in another.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:35 PM
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Above average
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:09 PM
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I did have to self improve to get interest from guys. I wasn't fat, but I was awkward, cripplingly shy, weird and ugly. I had to improve in all those areas to have a successful dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 09:06 PM
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Not if they also work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:46 PM
1

Ah I see. Good for you then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:04 PM
1

Most companies don't offer full benefits to part-time workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 09:14 PM
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"yasslighting" is very good
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:25 PM
6

Do you mean executive assistant? Executive consultants are people who work at like McKinsey I thought?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:13 AM
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I use "femcel" more as a personality descriptor/archetype than as a woman who literally can't get anyone to have sex with her (because I agree that doesn't exist)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:07 PM
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I've got bad news for you, you're still watching porn
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:00 PM
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Asking someone to be dominant seems like kind of an oxymoron. Personally I have never asked a man for this in general and it's not a relationship dynamic I'm interested in. I have asked my husband to "take the lead" on certain things because I either don't have the bandwidth or I feel he's better equipped to handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:51 PM
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Women can definitely glow up (I did) but going from femcel to Stacy would require a personality transplant and, as a wise man once said, those aren't yet available.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:44 PM
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This isn't a logical question. I could just as easily ask if this isn't a space for fat feminists then why does every man here call me a fat feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:23 PM
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This isn't a logical question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:22 PM
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This isn't an incel space and never has been, there have always been women here, it's never been intended to be a "male" space.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 07:04 PM
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You don't have to take them anywhere. You can buy a home test kit. You just swab their cheek and send it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:36 PM
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Mutual friends
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:15 AM
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That I had to pick a flair for this sub and people have too many baked in assumptions when you flair as blue or red so it's easier just to pick the neutral pill
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:19 PM
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Yeah I'm familiar with the podcast, and I think he did know (he literally told fans he was going to get himself canceled right before he did it lol), but it's just wild to me how easily offended people are these days and how many people were just straight-up lying about what he said, attributing other people's quotes to him etc. But he's on a really successful tour in the US right now so just goes to show how little internet cancelation really means.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 09:28 PM
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Low self esteem, guilt, conflict avoidance, worry that he'd hurt me or himself if I broke up with him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:42 PM
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loool I have that too. I'm always like "I haven't been crying, this is just what my face looks like"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 07:42 PM
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The controversy was so wildly overblown it was crazy, and most of the things he was accused of saying weren't even him, it was the hosts of the podcast (which should be easy to distinguish because he's English and they're American). But once the internet decides you're Bad there's no talking sense into them (believe me I tried, I love him, lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:51 PM
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It was this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pwhy6Vyh1kM
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:48 PM
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IOI's usually happen at parties, bars, social gatherings etc. Not when people are walking down the street trying to get somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:49 PM
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He's a shitty, lazy teacher. And being a student isn't a profession so it's nonsensical to say a student is being "unprofessional."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:18 AM
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It's called having a personality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:51 PM
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Why can't a man just walk up to a woman and tell her he wanted to talk to her cause she's hot? Why does he then have to pretend about caring about all the random stuff she's saying and entertaining her for hours when he just wants to be intimate with her? So...he didn't want to talk to her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 10:03 PM
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What's "bad body"? Just not fit or like really obese? Also how short is short?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 08:27 PM
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He was 17 and worked at Taco Bell.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:20 PM
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I like glasses but I came of age in the mid 2000s emo scene where they were a bit of a fashion statement. All my celebrity and IRL crushes wore glasses. That's a personal thing to me though and probably very generational, generally speaking I think you're better off not wearing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:00 PM
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I've been on a few different types of birth control. They all had negative effects on my libido, some more than others, but the type of man I'm attracted to never changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:54 PM
1

Men talk about "getting pussy" all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:36 PM
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Pretty much never. We're a very physically affectionate couple and it often just escalates to sex rather than someone "initiating" out of the blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:29 PM
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I feel largely the same. I sometimes get on a kick where I find cooking really fun, but it never lasts. But it's not like I have the option to just stop cooking once I no longer find it fun, so most of the time it's just annoying drudgery. I especially hate it now that grocery costs are so high because I feel like I have less room to buy exotic ingredients or be creative. I think I'm a pretty good cook regardless but getting joy out of it would sure make it a lot less annoying to have to do ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:20 PM
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A mama's boy isn't just a guy who talks to his mom or even has a good relationship with his mom. It's a guy who's spoiled by his mom or whose mom is overbearing/controlling and who basically lets his mom run his life, who takes his mom's side over yours, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:07 PM
1

I have a policy of blocking any minors I come across on social media, but blocking is against the rules here too so...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:51 PM
1

This would require the retirement age to be 40-50, otherwise grandparents would still be working when grandkids need childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:57 PM
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I care about similar values and compatible personalities. I don't care much about shared interests and hobbies, and in fact I kind of like to not share those things so I can enjoy my interests in peace (and I need to be with someone who lets me do that which is where compatible personalities comes in).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:49 PM
1

It absorbs the blood before it has a chance to leave your body.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:28 PM
1

Do you not know what a tampon is?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:20 PM
1

Sure. Although I don't think I've ever met a man my age with the same name as my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:11 PM
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Sharks being attracted to human blood is a myth. And if you have a tampon in you're not going to bleed in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:10 PM
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Speaking for myself personally, it's not outright impossible but pretty difficult to relax enough to be seduced and sleep with someone without alcohol, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:54 PM
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It's not possible to have "separate everything" in marriage just by virtue of how marriage works. Even if you keep money in separate accounts, it's still a marital asset and belongs to both of you legally. Putting that aside, this is really only feasible for wealthy people, or people willing to live way below the level of what they could afford together. Kids would also complicate this arrangement. How do you decide who gets the kids and when? You'd basically have to work out a shared custody ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:10 AM
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The food is bad and it's ridiculously overpriced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:57 PM
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It wouldn't be my first choice by a long shot, but if I really really fell in love with a man who had a kid then I probably would. Or if I reached an age where finding a man without a previous marriage/kids wasn't realistic, or if I got divorced I might be open to a blended marriage type situation. If I did though I'd still want additional kids of my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 05:42 AM
1

Into your shirt or the crook of your arm.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 02:31 PM
1

No they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:06 PM
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Shower regularly, brush your teeth twice a day and shave your face. I don't care about much past that, and tbh anything much past that starts to ick me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 07:05 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 02:09 PM
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Love to see the Astros lose and especially love to see them lose to my team ♥️💙
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:35 AM
2

A few years ago I broke my ankle and had to wear an orthopedic boot for six weeks which caused my calf muscle to atrophy so I had to go to physical therapy to build it back up. They made me do a lot of resistance band exercises. You can probably look them up on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 05:05 AM
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No, this woman is not a journalist and not everything posted on Medium is journalism. Medium does not "hire" anyone, it's a freelance blogging platform that anyone can post to as long as they adhere to certain editorial standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:02 PM
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You don't understand what that term means. It's not journalism in the traditional sense of the term. Some journalists post articles on Medium but not every writer on medium is a journalist. This particular writer does not claim to be a journalist anywhere that I've seen, she's a freelance writer/content creator who makes money from affiliate partnerships and OF content.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:01 PM
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Social journalism is a media model consisting of a hybrid of professional journalism, contributor and reader content. Her writing would fall under "contributor content," not "journalism."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:57 PM
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She literally does not call herself a journalist
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:46 PM
1

Are these people claiming to be journalists? Medium is a blogging site.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:42 PM
1

It's hard to shed an ideology you were steeped in from birth, especially when your family and community still believe in it and you know you are still being judged by those moral standards even if you no longer hold them yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 09:41 PM
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I don't watch any sports except baseball. I'm not sure if there's even a professional women's softball league but if there is it's probably not as accessible as baseball and I'm too lazy to seek it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:14 PM
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I played piano growing up and I can play a little on guitar and ukulele. Not great at any of it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 02:05 PM
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Yeah lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:50 PM
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Well I was going through A Lot during my pregnancy. It was during the pandemic, my husband got laid off, I was worried about getting laid off, one of my best friends died, several other loved ones were hospitalized with covid and other medical calamities, we lived through a major natural disaster... basically my pregnancy coincided with the worst year of my life. And on top of that it was a complicated pregnancy and I was at risk of premature labor/losing the baby. So it was just a lot and my br…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:39 PM
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It quite literally is lol. I always wanted kids and was excited to be pregnant but the physical experience is uncomfortable and embarrassing. I kind of disassociated during my pregnancy tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:15 PM
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Have you ever considered typing a sentence without using the word "bro"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:39 PM
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Ah yeah I guess that's true
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:50 PM
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I'll stop commenting on posts about online dating when 20 year olds who have never been in a relationship stop commenting on posts about marriage, divorce and childrearing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:44 PM
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Major dealbreaker. Actually not even a deal breaker because there wouldn't be a deal in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:42 PM
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Pretty sure that would be a murder charge, not manslaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:58 PM
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Hospitals these days have so many measures to prevent this, and in many hospitals unless your baby has to go to NICU or something chances are the baby won't leave your room for your entire stay. The chances of this happening are way overblown. Maybe 40 years ago when they whisked the baby off to a nursery but not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:42 PM
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Mods = Gods
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:47 PM
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I don't believe they legitimately think that they will literally, physically die if they don't have sex. That's pretty easily disproven by the fact that they are not currently dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:26 PM
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I mean that's fine, but at least argue with what people are actually saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:33 PM
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I drink about 80oz of water a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:27 PM
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Seems like a strawman. When people say sex is a need they mean a psychological/emotional need, not a biological need. You won't die without it but most people (particularly men) will feel unfulfilled without it. Similarly to how friendship and social support are emotional needs for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:26 PM
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So now it's narcissistic for women to date their looksmatch instead of men more attractive than them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:54 PM
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I do, but I unfortunately can't trust him not to die (or vice versa) and that's really when the benefits of marriage come into play.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:19 AM
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Should have watched MTV Cribs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:42 PM
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You weren't able to figure out on your own that rich and famous musicians existed? Did you not own a TV or radio?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:11 PM
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That means these women are pretty one-dimensional too and are probably pretty evenly matched with these men. You only think they're more interesting because you're a straight man and find them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:40 PM
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Thank you! I hope you can get some help and relief too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:32 PM
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Okay food for though, if it’s a baby switch sorry why does it have to be his blood that does the test? Also couldn't they still switch the baby after they do the paternity test?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:06 PM
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Ketchup, mustard, grilled peppers and onions
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:02 PM
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Ugh, I'm sorry. I had surgery in 2018 and had tissue removed from my bowel and one of my fallopian tubes. Have a lot of scarring on my tube which caused me to have trouble getting pregnant but finally did and had my son in 2021. I was feeling a lot better post-surgery and baby, but this year my periods have started getting a lot worse again and I'm having a lot of the same issues so I'm worried it's coming back. Also having trouble getting pregnant again. I'm seeing some specialists about it soo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:21 PM
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There's no screening for endometriosis. They have to do exploratory surgery to diagnose you. You would definitely know if you'd had that lol But yeah, there are other explanations. The same hormones that cause the uterus to contract during your period cause all soft organ tissue to contract, which is why women sometimes get bowel pain or diarrhea during their periods. Might just be IBS or something though. Sorry, stomach pain sucks :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:16 PM
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I believe most states have a window of a year or two where a married father can contest paternity and get out of child support. For unmarried fathers, they have to do a paternity test before the court can order child support, unless he's been raising the kid for years. So either way, there are ways to get off the hook as long as you're acting quickly after the baby is born.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:14 PM
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Don't feel bad. Nursing is actually a pretty common second career. People become nurses at all ages. I used to work in a nursing department at a university with a lot of non-traditional students, and we had a lot of nursing students in their late 20s, 30s and even 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:07 PM
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Yes, and then I was diagnosed with endometriosis on my bowel which explained a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:05 PM
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No test is run on newborns by default. You have to consent to every one. So it would still probably lead to arguments. The test likely wouldn't be covered by insurance so a mom who knows her husband/bf is the father would want to opt out, and if he argues about it you're back to square 1 with it causing friction in relationships. The simplest solution that's already available* is for the man to buy a test at a pharmacy, do it himself for his own peace of mind and not involve the mom at all. *I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:36 PM
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Yes, progressive liberalism is one value the upper socioeconomic classes tend to hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:53 PM
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It's not that important to me, but most women for whom it's a requirement or strong desire come from a socioeconomic background where being college educated is the norm. It's a class filter, and college education is a good proxy for a lot of other traits they desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:02 AM
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My ex definitely did this. I think men do this more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:09 AM
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I just skimmed the post and missed the second bullet point. But my answer addresses it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:28 PM
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True I think they just ask you to unblock them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:09 PM
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Blocking people is banned on this sub. Stupid rule but it is a rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:06 PM
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I remember one time a dude on this sub (one who generally has reasonable takes even if I don't always agree with him) tried to argue with me that the patriarchy doesn't exist even in theocratic Islamic countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 11:06 PM
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If it's a secret then it doesn't really make a difference to me does it? I guess if the question is which one would be easier to deal with once the secret is out, it would be the female friend who secretly hates me. I would just stop being friends and talk shit behind her back, which is kind of fun and I wouldn't feel guilty because she hates me already. The male friend, assuming I don't share his feelings, is a more awkward and delicate situation to handle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 10:55 PM
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Why is that a legitimate reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 10:53 PM
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Basically. It's a holdover from when reddit was extremely male-dominated and not as female friendly as it is now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:22 PM
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yeah lol, he's not really a great example of good outcomes from "finding your passion early"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 06:19 PM
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3 cups in the morning, or 3 shots of espresso if I make a latte.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:13 PM
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I don't understand what any of this means
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:13 PM
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This isn't uncommon at all? They don't need to be in the same room at the same time to compare them. If you knew a woman when she was married to her first husband and still know her after she marries her second then you know both men. Most single moms didn't get knocked up by a random who did a disappearing act immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:10 PM
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Never in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:42 PM
1

I don't think I'd care.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:42 PM
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"Popular" has always been an interesting concept to me because, at least at my high school, I found that the people who were considered to be "popular" weren't necessarily the most widely-liked people, and vice versa. By the strictest definition of the term, my best friend was one of the most popular people in our school. She was cool, interesting, outgoing, charismatic. Everyone got along with her. But she was also weird and a slacker, alternative, genius-level smart but academically lazy, her …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:52 PM
1

Flair checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:08 PM
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Extroversion 3 Emotional Stability 34 Agreeableness 83 Conscientiousness 55 Intellect/Imagination 2 I'm an ISFJ but only a slight preference for F over T.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:08 PM
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I have a really bad habit of this. I think it can be kind of rude at times, and I don't really like it when other people do it to me, so I try to be cognizant of it and feel out when I'm being helpful vs. just interrupting their train of thought and not giving them time to articulate their thoughts and choose their words carefully. I get what you're saying about the validation though, it's a good feeling when they're like "yes! thank you!" and you have a meeting of the minds. My brother has apha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:01 PM
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I like those pictures because it gives me a better idea of what the fit of the garment is like. It's more helpful than seeing it on a model, especially since a lot of the model pics on Amazon are photoshopped. It can also give you a better idea of the color since the actual color of the garment is often different from what it looks like online. I don't think these people are trying to get scouted by modeling agencies lol, they're just trying to help other people who are thinking about buying the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:41 PM
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Cancer or autoimmune disease probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:04 PM
2

I can't fall in love with someone without sexual attraction and chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 08:31 PM
1

That song isn't by Simple Plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:39 PM
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Lena Dunham and Matty Healy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 04:17 PM
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Many women after a certain age do have osteoporosis, and women lose bone density with every pregnancy in addition to having less bone mass than men to begin with. Men also have greater muscle mass, a higher center of gravity and 20 times more testosterone than women in addition to just being skeletally larger on average. Male puberty makes a person stronger. There is nothing about female puberty that makes you stronger, and in fact many female athletes' careers are slowed or ended by puberty bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 03:50 PM
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Yes. I love the way men's bodies are so firm and substantial. When I hug a woman and feel how delicate and squishy they are I'm like "yep I'm definitely straight" because I can't imagine finding that erotic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:42 PM
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Happened several times when I was in high school. It's awkward for a while but eventually it blows over. My town was too small and friend group too insular to cut out every guy I had an unrequited crush on.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:36 PM
1

Ok, you can believe your YouTube videos and I'll believe basic facts of anatomy and physiology.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:50 AM
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Absolutely not. Most women, even very fit women, do not have the upper body strength or bone density to take out a man with a punch. She would break her own hand before she did any real damage to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:44 AM
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Sure, I could be stronger. But even if I was stronger than I am now, most men would be stronger than me. My brother might have to use two hands to restrain me instead of just one. Elsewhere in this thread I posted some charts about benchpress numbers for men vs. women. Women's "advanced/elite" numbers were similar to the "untrained/novice" numbers of men of the same size. Women being the sex that bears young creates huge differences on our physiology that can't be overcome with weight training. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:27 AM
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My "gender" doesn't, my sex does. Are you unaware of the differences in physiology between male and female mammals? This sub has to be the only place in the world where men will argue that they're NOT physically superior to women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:19 AM
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Yeah, duh. I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:15 AM
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That is very obviously what she meant by this: I am not going to target men with physical disability or minors, so I could have a physical advantage over my partner. She's saying that for her to have a physical advantage over a man, he would need to be physically disabled or a minor. Nothing that she said implies that ALL short men are physically disabled or minors. Your poor reading comprehension is not her, or my, problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:43 PM
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It was the obvious implication of her original comment, but since people kept misconstruing it she clarified here: I'm talking about minors and disabled men because a healthy man below my height is going be stronger anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:40 PM
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She's not saying that all men shorter than her are physically disabled or minors. She's saying that for a male to be weaker than her at her stature would require him to be either physically disabled or a minor. A healthy short man is going to be stronger than her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:04 PM
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It's disturbing how ignorant people seem to be about the basic differences in male and female physiology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 06:00 PM
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"If a woman is stronger than a man she is stronger than him" yes, obviously. Most women, even if they lift/train, won't be stronger than men even if they don't. Compare the male and female charts here: https://www.healthline.com/health/exercise-fitness/average-bench-press#average-for-men Advanced/elite for women is barely stronger than untrained/novice for men. A woman benching 100kg (220lb) would have to be a 200-lb elite weightlifter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:41 PM
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No. A woman who lifts is usually still going to be weaker than a man who doesn't. https://boysvswomen.com/
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:15 PM
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Women being weaker than men isn't a "gender role," it's inherent to our anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:10 PM
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My brother is shorter and smaller than me and can immobilize me with one hand. Women do not have a physical advantage over smaller men unless the man is disabled in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:43 PM
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Interdependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 09:01 PM
1

And not just say but actually practice the religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:14 PM
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It's not unheard of, lots of people don't lose their virginity until freshman year of college. Hard to have opportunities before then if you have strict parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:59 PM
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19
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:36 PM
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Not everyone with a degree who has debt and I would assume most people trying to start podcasts have degrees too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:28 PM
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I mean, for every podcaster who makes a decent living doing it there are dozens who don't make anything or have an audience to speak of. I don't think it's any less risky than a journalism degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 03:33 AM
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Theres also a laziness element. No waiting for the bottle to warm every time. Just shove it in there and it shuts up. This is what tipped the scales toward breastfeeding for me. When I had my son I wasn't gung-ho about breastfeeding or not, but I figured I might as well try it and see if it's something I wanted to continue doing. I didn't care for the physical sensation of breastfeeding and just how laborious a process it is, but the convenience factor outweighed everything. Especially for night…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 08:41 PM
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In my experience, older women tend to be wary and protective of young men in relationships with older women too. I think after a certain age women just sort of develop a maternal mindset toward people younger than them in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:14 PM
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Higher ed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 08:00 PM
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He's gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:58 PM
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Everyone who knows me irl would say the exact same thing about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 04:36 PM
1

I'm a cunt online cause I don't want to be a cunt IRL Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 04:32 PM
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I think people know that it's called Disneyland or Disneyworld, they just call it Disney for short.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:39 PM
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Quoting Cormac McCarthy is the quickest way to my heart. But yeah, all of this makes sense. When he's not around, it's easy to mythologize him. It's probably a form of self preservation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:32 AM
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I have never wanted a big wedding, expensive ring or trips to Dubai or Disney. If I wanted those things I wouldn't marry a man who wasn't willing to give them to me, regardless of what he gave to other women before me. I'd be much more upset that he didn't disclose that he was married multiple times previously. Edit: If he "blows" in bed why am I marrying him in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:47 PM
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Favorite: cat Least favorite: too many to list, I hate most animals. Maybe cows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:32 PM
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This is not my experience at all. In my experience people make every excuse for their abusive/absent dad even to the point of blaming their mom for his abuse/absence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 11:31 PM
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Nicole Kidman
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 09:47 PM
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Outside of a sexual context that's just not what the phrase "hooking up" means. You don't say "I hooked up a fish," you say "I hooked a fish." You would say hooking up when you're talking about attaching two things together, e.g. "I hooked up my monitor to my laptop." So why would the sexual connotation be the first and not the second? It's called hooking up because it's an attachment/connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:16 PM
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dependent on a job (which most of the time just sees them as a number on a screen) vs being dependent on a husband who loves them. Ultimately you're still dependent on a job, it's just your husband's job instead of your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:11 PM
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"Average" is a wide range, and there are some men who fall into that range who I find attractive and some I don't. Sometimes it's physical, sometimes it's a personality thing, sometimes it's just an intangible "not feeling it" that probably has as much to do with me and my mood as the guy himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:48 PM
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Yep. I say this as a very shy/socially anxious person. I basically did exposure therapy on myself by working customer-facing jobs and forcing myself to go out and meet people even when everything in me was screaming not to. You have to fake it until you make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:09 PM
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Yeah that 25% seemed way too high to me too. Either this is returning a lot of false positives or he's matching with a bunch of porn bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:16 PM
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His deranged fans are jumping on it because they don't want him married to anyone, that's really what it is. The age gap thing is just a convenient excuse to pretend they're on some moral crusade and not that they're psychos who think they have a chance at fucking Chris Evans. Same exact thing is happening with Timothee Chalamet/Kylie Jenner right now and there's no age gap there. Fans are just nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:23 PM
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Exact same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:13 AM
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This is how I "dated" 10+ years ago and how all my friends dated. We were part of a big coed social scene who partied and drank together all the time. Crushes and hookups happened and sometimes those developed into relationships. The situation was ambiguous until it wasn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:12 AM
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Most people are neither significantly attractive or significantly unattractive, so just by dint of being average-ish, most people will end up with someone roughly "looksmatched." Also people tend to date within their own age group, ethnicity and socioeconomic class which all contribute to looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 06:57 PM
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I have two brothers, 7 and 9 years older than me. I think my dynamic with them probably colored how I interact with men and receive love from men. Otherwise I don't think it had much of an effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:42 AM
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Less money yes, unemployed no unless it was just a temporary thing and he was actively looking for work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:05 PM
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My husband is also one of seven. They lived in a three bedroom house so his parents had a room, the girls had a room and the boys had a room (there were four girls and three boys). He stayed with his aunt and uncle a lot when he got sick of being in a house full of people lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:42 PM
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Both your ages We're both 35. How long have you been in your relationship? 11 years, married 6. How often do you have sex now? 3-4 times a week generally, sometimes more or less depending on various factors. We mostly have sex on the weekends though, like multiple times Saturday and Sunday and not much or any the rest of the week. Just because of our schedules. How often when you started your relationship? When we were first dating we only got to see each other once or maybe twice a week, but ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:03 PM
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They wish. Steve Martin is a silver fox.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:06 AM
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Keep lying if it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:48 PM
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Clean shaven
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:24 PM
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My husband goes out of town for work quite a bit. When he's gone my routine is pretty much the same because we have a kid so he takes up most of my evenings regardless. Main difference is I listen to music without headphones and usually just scrounge around for dinner instead of cooking a meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:13 PM
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It's not usually middle aged people who fall for these things, it's elderly people with varying degrees of dementia.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 04:12 PM
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Hershey kisses. They have foil instead of plastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 04:07 PM
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I didn't say anything about casual sex? I am choosing choice D which you labeled "none of the above."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 06:24 PM
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None of the above. I wouldn't be happy in any of the given romantic/sexual scenarios so I'd rather just be alone. I might not be happy then either but it's easier to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:05 PM
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These days most grandparents are still working when the kids are little enough to need daycare.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:13 AM
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Small fish in a big pond
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:46 PM
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lol I don't even have to go looking for this comment, I know exactly who wrote it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:42 PM
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I don't think they do universally. My friends are split like 50/50 on liking beards or not. And the women who are into beards are REALLY into them. Personally I am not a fan of beards because a man's jaw/chin/dimples/mouth lines/etc. are my favorite part of his face and I don't like it to be covered up. Plus beard hair reminds me of pubes and it feels gross when kissing and there's nothing nastier than watching a man with a beard eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:39 PM
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I found out after we broke up for other reasons. My friend caught his gf cheating with my ex and based on the timeline she gave him when he confronted her they were sleeping together before we broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:46 AM
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Also, I'm pretty sure the stat is that lesbians are more like to have experienced DV at some point. Many experienced DV with a male partner before they started dating women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:34 PM
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I can't compute "attracted but not excited." Attraction, chemistry and good sex are exciting. I don't need to be taken out on a yacht or whatever if that's what you mean by "exciting," but I need to get butterflies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:31 PM
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Do you think the SNL writers room isn't full of men making crude, repulsive, embarrassing jokes?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:29 PM
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By media I mean the press, not social media. TMZ, People, Today etc. are all using sources from Joe's side. He's playing offense. (Although a couple of articles from Sophie's camp seem to have come out since I wrote that comment.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 12:03 AM
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Probably the ones who are trained in improv can
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 10:47 PM
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The entire media narrative right now is coming from his side. Who knows what the truth is. Even with a normie couple going through a divorce you'll have competing narratives, let alone with celebrities who have to put a PR spin on everything. No one will ever have the full story. I just feel sorry for the kids. It looks like this is going to be a nasty custody dispute between parents on two different continents.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:47 PM
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She has 10 albums and half of them were written when she was with the same guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:19 PM
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I think a couple of years. I've been on reddit on and off since 2008.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:53 PM
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When I like a guy, I completely lose interest in anyone else to the point where I don't even notice them or think of them as options. So even if it's not "official," I focus my energies on that one guy, and any other man is just an unwelcome distraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:00 PM
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No. We didn't have any assets to protect when we got married so no point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:49 AM
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I don't remember ever having a big epiphany moment or last straw, I just never really believed. I guess if I can pinpoint one thing it was realizing that the world was full of religious people of various faiths who were just as convinced as the Christians I grew up with that their faith was the correct one. The whole concept of "faith" kind of fell apart for me when I considered the fact that all those people with steadfast faith in different things can't be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 02:48 AM
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I'm from an area where horseback riding and rodeo is a big deal and those people tend to gravitate to each other. I'm dubious about your claim that the gender ratio in those hobbies is that lopsided toward women, that hasn't been my observation. "Blue 90s Chrysler" would be a good analogy if she said she was into a man who rides a very specific kind of horse but that isn't what she said. She probably isn't looking to get a "ton of results," she's looking for a specific type of companion, one who…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:53 PM
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Is this a serious answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:34 PM
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I mean, lots of men are into riding horses. It's a pretty big lifestyle thing so if that's something she's really into it makes sense to look for someone who shares that interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:32 PM
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I'm the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:02 PM
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Probably like 10. But I got my license at 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 02:57 PM
1

What if a guy kissed your gf on the mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:29 PM
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I mean yeah if she works and he does literally everything else that doesn't seem fair. My friend with a SAHD husband still does a lot of the childcare and cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 08:52 PM
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We're both 35. He's 6 months older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:22 PM
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Lol I was born and raised 80 miles from Lubbock, went to college in Lubbock and am moving back there later this year. I love it. I do like Albuquerque a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:43 AM
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I've lived in a rural area (west Texas/eastern New Mexico, very very rural), a major city, a small city and now a suburb. The last two are the best of all worlds to me. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 02:17 AM
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I don't live in a city now but no, I wouldn't move to a rural area. I grew up rural, my parents and in-laws still live rural, and it's just not the life for me. I like suburbs or small cities (<250k).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 12:39 AM
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Non-negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:30 PM
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Whichever one gives me butterflies. I've never had that feeling for two men at once so won't be hard to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:52 PM
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He didn’t specify anything to do with sex so I don’t know if it involves that. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:56 PM
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She may not have even ovulated. Women skip ovulation all the time for all kinds of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:22 PM
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Because unless you're actively tracking your ovulation with daily body temp checks, you don't know what the "right time" is. It's guesswork and it's very easy to be wrong and end up pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:42 PM
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One ex is a chef, still single, last I heard had a bit of a substance abuse problem but that was several years ago. He moved across the country and I haven't seen him in like 15 years but still in contact with his sister and other mutual friends from high school. One ex married the girl he cheated on me with after dating her for like six months, she tried to stab him, he tried to overdose on Tylenol, they got divorced and now he's remarried to someone else who seems very sweet but who knows. Las…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 03:33 PM
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I imagine it would be difficult for an older woman to "get sex" from the 70th percentile of young men. That's not really a typical situation though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 08:05 PM
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know an underwater welder. He went to school for computer science but was unable to get his degree when his firstborn came so he started welding because it paid well and he could start asap. You absolutely can't start underwater welding "asap." You have to get a welding license, which takes several months at least, and additional training and certifications on top of that including a commercial diving certification.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 05:54 PM
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Or just meet in person ASAP so you can just see what the other person looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:10 PM
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The contradiction is Andrew Tate claiming to be conservative and religious while living a hedonistic lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 06:24 AM
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It's largely because men have options for blue collar work that doesn't require a degree (plumbing, HVAC, oil field etc.) while the equivalent "pink collar" jobs (nursing, social work, teaching , even cosmetology in some places) do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:42 AM
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I LOVED IT. I am a huge Wes Anderson fan and I think it's probably the best thing he's ever done.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:39 AM
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No, not "maybe," it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:49 PM
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It was a man who organized that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 12:45 PM
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I don't want to hear anything about any women he hooked up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:24 PM
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It's important to me in a relationship, in the abstract it really isn't which is why I easily went a year without sex between relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:52 PM
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I went without sex for nearly 7 months during pregnancy and postpartum. I was on total pelvic rest which meant that I not only had to avoid PIV but literally anything that could cause me to have an orgasm. I still did stuff for my husband. Other than that... I lost my virginity when I was 19 and since then I think the longest I went without sex/sexual activity was nearly a year between my most recent ex and my husband. During pregnancy it was a struggle because my husband and I have frequent sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 05:25 PM
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That's acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:19 AM
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More fodder for my theory that people who own unconventional pets (anything besides dogs, cats, and sometimes birds and fish) are fucked up and not to be trusted. I have never once been proven wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:10 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:20 AM
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We have half of our guest room partitioned with a room divider and on either side are our respective office spaces and personal decor that doesn't fit with the rest of the house. On my side I have a bunch of cat figurines, floral print (my husband hates it so I try to confine it to my personal space), my Taylor Swift merch collection, a bunch of pictures of my son and nieces, a wax burner and my treadmill.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:43 AM
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My ex did a lot of manipulative things, but one of the worst and more obvious ones in hindsight was any time we would fight, he would talk about being suicidal or talk about how whatever he did that I was mad about was a pattern of behavior he developed because of XYZ traumatic childhood event. He would play on my sympathies and my desire to protect him to get me to forgive him. I tried to break up with him several times and he would always threaten to kill himself so I would end up feeling guil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 01:31 AM
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What are you going to do to prevent pregnancy while "waiting it out"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:19 AM
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The faith people on this sub have in high school students to internalize and implement the things their teachers tell them is truly heartwarming.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:40 PM
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Literally most full-time jobs? Administrative assistants at my workplace (entry-level job, no degree required) make 48k which is $4000 a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:23 PM
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maybe because lesbian sex is actually celebrated No, it's because being penetrated by someone you're not attracted to is universally disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:20 PM
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Sure. Doesn't matter to me and it's not something I ever gave a second thought to before I came to this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:12 PM
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Europeans/Americans <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 06:24 AM
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Like someone else said -- it's a magnetic pull toward the other person. Just a rush of chemicals that makes you excited to be in their presence and makes you crave it when you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:26 PM
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This whole series is the gayest (and by gayest I truly do mean most homosexual) shit I have ever laid eyes on
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:09 PM
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I think it's reasonable to conclude that if you find sex with your partner boring unless it involves various accoutrements and contrived power dynamics, you're not that into them 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:21 AM
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I'd argue the opposite, that if you start incorporating weird BDSM shit to "spice things up" it's because your partner doesn't do it for you anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 01:22 AM
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I have always had a thing for guys who wear glasses. My husband wears glasses and I've begged him not to get contacts. However I don't think my tastes are typical, and they're largely rooted in me growing up in the 2000s emo scene where thick framed glasses were a fashion statement. You will have wider appeal especially among young women if you don't wear glasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:30 PM
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This seems kind of misandrist. You're implying that the more masculine a person is the less they're capable of love and hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:36 PM
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I'd choose my husband and my mom would want me to. He's my life partner, and he's young, and my kid needs a dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:34 PM
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Ah ok, that makes more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 11:29 PM
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Really need people to stop making this guy think his "female women" joke is funny
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 05:15 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:47 AM
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In 1950 only 10% of women graduated with a college degree. 90% of men graduated with one. Do you have a source for that? I have a hard time believing there was ever a point in history where 90% of men had college degrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:22 AM
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Guilty of what exactly? Have you actually read the lawsuit? I have and most of the accusations are pretty flimsy in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:19 AM
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I only started drinking coffee a year or two ago. I don't think I got less stuff done before I drank coffee, I'm just not as sleepy while I'm doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:54 PM
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Helps me wake up in the morning. I like the taste and aroma and I like the ritual of making it. I'm not really sure what the benefits or disadvantages are besides that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:47 PM
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I have an old fashioned espresso pot that you put on the stove. Got it for free from my neighborhood Buy Nothing group. I make myself fancy lattes all the time, I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 05:16 PM
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Thank you! I'm a mastermind 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 04:19 AM
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I don't mind him not being a high powered career oriented person, I'm not either and don't really like those sorts of people. But no kids is a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 04:04 AM
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My husband is a welder. I like tradesmen. I wouldn't date a server or barista at this point in my life (mid 30s) but did when I was younger when those jobs were more age appropriate. But those jobs aren't typically what's meant by blue collar.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:42 PM
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My best friend got married at age 20. A few years later when she was pregnant with their third child her husband started developing schizophrenia. Over the next couple of years his delusions and behavior became increasingly erratic and dangerous. One time she came home to find him taking an ax to their living room wall (they lived in a duplex and shared this wall with their neighbors) because he thought it was bugged. Another time he kidnapped their baby and she didn't know where they were for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 04:03 PM
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No, I'm saying as a heterosexual woman I can say that I have attractive female friends but that doesn't mean that I, personally, am sexually attracted to them. I feel the same way about some of my male friends. Acknowledging that someone has objectively attractive features isn't the same thing as subjectively experiencing sexual attraction to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 01:42 PM
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Sometimes you just don't have sexual chemistry with people, or sometimes people can be attractive objectively speaking but not your type. To me it's not really different from saying I have attractive female friends but I'm not attracted to them. I can visually see that someone has pleasant features but that doesn't mean I respond to them sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 05:14 PM
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Those same women when Lizzo is accused by women: "That just doesn't seem like her. I don't think we're hearing the whole story." Where are you seeing this? I hang out in a lot of female-dominated music/pop culture spaces and the vast majority of people there are dragging Lizzo and anyone who defends her gets downvoted/rebuked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:07 PM
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Probably not. Most of my female friends are bohemian hippie free spirit woo-woo types, which is a quality I enjoy in women but find annoying in men and really wouldn't want to put up with in a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:05 PM
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1 in 3 is a lot, it's 30%. That's significant. It's not "most."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:02 PM
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I mean I think he writes for magazines and stuff too, but yeah, people make a lot of money doing pop culture commentary on YouTube. He has one of the largest followings on the platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 01:02 AM
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He's a music critic on YouTube.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:41 AM
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Blue eyes is an instant 0 for me, I cannot
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:39 PM
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Hate this mofo so much
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:37 PM
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Most people I know don't talk to their parents about their sex lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 08:01 PM
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r/badwomensanatomy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:43 PM
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I'm very close with my mom, she's my best friend. Not as close with my dad in that we don't like talk every day and do a lot of stuff together like my mom and I do, but we still text often and I love him a lot. My parents are still together, they'll celebrate their 47th anniversary later this month. Their relationship has always been very tumultuous, for much of my upbringing they straight-up hated each other and only didn't divorce out of pure stubbornness I think. But they're in their 60s now …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:16 PM
1

Hip-waist ratio
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:14 PM
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The sensation of looseness isn't a myth, but calling it "loose vagina" is a misnomer. It's a weak pelvic floor and it doesn't come from having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:11 PM
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I've been around evangelicals all my life and have never once heard this phrase outside of the internet. The mental real estate this non-concept takes up for some men in these spaces is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 05:44 AM
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Yeah lol this is a lesson I learned when I was like 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:57 AM
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I am not woke and would not date a man with woke opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 08:33 PM
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This couldn't be farther from my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:11 PM
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Silicon Valley and Hollywood are like 400 miles apart. I just don't think these people cross paths that much because their industries are based in different places. And if they did, one or the other would have to uproot if they were to get married which would put a damper on their careers. Again this isn't a concern when the same city is both a financial and entertainment hub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:33 AM
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Total shot in the dark but I wonder if this has to do with location. Our celebs tend to be on the west coast while our billionaires are on the east coast. So they probably don't run in the same circles or cross paths as much as they would in, say, London, which is both a financial and entertainment hub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 04:17 AM
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If you were born in 1996 you're the youngest possible millennial. The oldest millennials were born in 1981. So about half of the cohort is in their late 30s-early 40s right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:51 AM
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Millennials are already in their late 30s and 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:42 AM
1

Know your worth, queen!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 09:19 PM
1

Food service
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 08:12 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:26 PM
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For women, weight loss is 90% diet. Exercise hardly moves the needle at all. Women who are into pilates usually are into a whole healthy lifestyle that involves dieting too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:22 PM
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Cardio gives you muscle tone, improves your posture, helps with digestion (less bloating), etc. At the same weight, the person who does cardio will almost definitely have more muscle tone and a slimmer look than someone who diets and is sedentary. Plus cardio is good for you for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:21 PM
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Yeah I'm gonna need a source on that one, I'm highly skeptical.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:36 PM
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It feels good and I like it. I never understood why I should not do things I enjoy when I'm young just so I can be slightly less ugly when I'm old. I tanned in the sun constantly in my 20s, I turn 35 in a few weeks and I don't have that leathery look. I think that comes from extreme overuse of tanning beds. I'd probably look a little better if I didn't tan in my 20s but so what, I'm past the point in my life where I care about looking hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:36 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/t1h094wkeifb1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=be98d0e86ee4343b2362a74bcbf7138df5411d57
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:30 PM
2

I know exactly what you mean!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 07:07 AM
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I wouldn't want to be a guinea pig but after it's around for a while and FDA approved and all that, and assuming it has the taste/texture of real meat, I'd be all for it. I'm already halfway there because I don't eat any meat off the bone. I have a pretty big ick factor when it comes to meat that looks or feels too, well, meaty lol. So the meat I eat is mostly processed to hell and probably not much more natural or healthy than lab grown meat would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:49 AM
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Yikes. She's got a beautiful face too, what a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:45 AM
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No, she cheated on her husband with a costar who is married and has a baby. She was also friends with the wife and had met and held the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:17 AM
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Matty Healy has an edgy sense of humor but he's a genuinely great person and he worships the ground Taylor walks on. I also think they're still dating on the DL but that's another story lol. Her fans were acting like complete psychos for the entire month that relationship was public and slandering Matty for things he never even did or said, she was right not to cater to a bunch of freaks on Twitter over showing loyalty to someone she's known for a decade. Taylor's only ever paid the most basic l…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:22 AM
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I'm not the biggest purplish possum fan but I'm pretty sure he'd be the first to say that he's successful because of looks/height. That's like kind of his whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:13 AM
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Yeah. Sometimes I take him outside in the afternoon and let him play in his sandbox or something while I get work done on the porch. But lately it's been too hot for that. Thankfully he is really good at playing independently. I have nieces and nephews who would be impossible to stay home with and get any work done at all because they need active supervision and engagement. And thankfully my job is flexible enough that I can get work done in the evenings or schedule client meetings for days when…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:47 PM
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Yeah. Lol. I do this two days a week and I get no work done until my son goes to bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:14 PM
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Yeah. Maybe leaving someone in that condition is easier said than done. Honestly I just don't understand how it gets to that point in the first place. It's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 10:55 PM
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None. Haven't really been in any environments conducive to men approaching me for me to reject them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:33 PM
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I would (and have) date a mildly overweight person if it was distributed well. I wouldn't leave my husband for gaining weight unless it got to like My 600 Lb Life levels. I can't guarantee our sex life wouldn't suffer though. I am not overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:30 PM
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Are you asking if I would make you specifically a sandwich? No, I don't know you. If you're asking if I cook for my husband, yes, all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:03 PM
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We spend about $500 a month on groceries for our household which includes two adults, a toddler and two pets. So that's roughly $16 a day for all of us. We very rarely eat out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 05:04 AM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:56 AM
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Supply and demand baby!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:15 PM
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I'm not smart enough to work smart so working hard is the best I can hope for. I'm also not really looking to get rich though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:41 PM
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I don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:35 PM
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Well I assume that most people aren't great at judging height precisely, so I take the 6'1-6'2 claim with a grain of salt. But there are regions of the US (mostly the Midwest and I think also parts of the South) where 6' is average for white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:34 PM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:28 PM
1

Couldn't this just be explained by the fact that white men tend to be taller than ethnic men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:26 PM
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In college I had a gaggle of gay friends and sometimes went to the gay bar with them. There was always this older man who would just stand off to the side and survey the scene for a long time, and then he'd approach a younger man, take him aside, talk to him for a bit and then either leave with him or not. Usually not. One time I asked my friends what this guy's deal was and they told me that he would approach younger men and offer to pay them to come home with him and shit on his glass coffee t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:24 PM
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My mom and my sister-in-law. And my son but he's a toddler so it's a different kind of closeness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:20 PM
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5'5 is not "average Joe," that's significantly below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:07 PM
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Yeah, I speak from experience lol. It's a work in progress for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 01:06 AM
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Talk to me or have mannerisms and a vibe I think is alluring. I can't really list specific actions, I know it when I see it. It also has a lot to do with me and my mood and the environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:24 PM
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whomst
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:28 PM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:13 PM
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Sounds like this is feedback he's getting from friends and family too, not just girls he tries to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:43 PM
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Assertiveness. Standing your ground. Having the courage of your convictions. Saying no unapologetically. When people say you are "too nice" they usually mean you're nice in a way that's a detriment to you, because you're a pushover and let others take advantage of you. Being "too nice" can also often make people view you as untrustworthy because they will assume you're not telling them the truth, you're just telling them what they want to hear. And then you will turn around and do the same to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:49 PM
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Well I mean, you yourself admit that it's not every girl. I don't think anyone's claiming that no woman dates or prefers older men. But in general people tend to date close to their own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:04 PM
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Your phrasing is confusing. Are you saying you see girls dating older more established men or men their age?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:49 PM
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I find the average man neutral until he behaves or interacts with me in a way that gets my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:05 PM
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Funny timing, I've been on a big Elliott Smith kick lately. I've been a big fan of his since high school. Also he was totally murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:44 PM
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Ah yeah that might be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:40 AM
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If they deleted it it will just say Deleted. Unavailable means they have you blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:33 AM
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Yeah you do. I'm blocked by a user on another sub I frequent and their comments show up as Unavailable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:32 AM
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He had a gf when we met and another girl orbiting him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:23 AM
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Sure. I feel like in the 21st century it's unrealistic to expect a man to not watch it at all. Just don't make it my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:20 AM
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I think so. Lots of people do it. There are RN to BSN degree tracks specifically for working RNs who want to get a bachelor's (usually because it's required for a supervisory role, or because they want to go on to NP school which is a master's degree). There are several nurses in my family and the only one who has a bachelor's is my sister-in-law who took that route because she wanted to be a NP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:04 AM
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I think this depends on the state. In my state you just need an associate's degree to be an RN.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 01:46 AM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 04:36 PM
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My mom has always been my best friend and that's even more true in adulthood. Aside from my husband and son, she is my favorite person. I love my dad and we get along fine now (wasn't always true), but we are not particularly close.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 04:38 PM
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An estimated one in ten women have endometriosis and even more than that have PCOS, I think around 20%. Both of those conditions cause painful periods, and birth control is the first order of treatment for both. Most women also have some hormonal acne especially in their teen years. I haven't seen anyone claim that "all girls are on bc for basically no reason."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:31 PM
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I never said it's given to everyone by default. I said it's prescribed off label to girls and women who aren't sexually active. Those health issues you mentioned are very common and it results in a lot of women being put on birth control even if they're not sexually active.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 11:08 PM
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To prescribe birth control off-label? It's very much legal and happens all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:57 PM
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They are. It's very very common.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 09:36 PM
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Mental and physical health problems, untimely deaths of friends and family, financial troubles, infertility, unemployment...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 03:34 AM
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Most age gap research shows 7 years to be when birth order sort of "resets." Which is to say that a child 7 years younger than their closest sibling will experience life more like an only child and have personality traits of an only child, because the gap is so significant. (As the youngest child by 7 years I can confirm that this is very true for me.) Sibling age gaps shorter than 7 years don't seem to have much significant effect on either child. I think depending on life stage, 5.5 years can …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:18 AM
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Not my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:12 PM
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And most women don't have naturally straight hair, so if that's "all" that's required that's going to be a lot of salon visits and home styling to achieve that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:49 PM
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The man. I'm married with a great sex life. We've steadily had sex 4-5 times a week for the last 10 years except for when I was on pelvic rest during pregnancy and after birth. I am always down when he initiates, but he almost always initiates. Because sex is simply "out of sight, out of mind" for me. I don't wake up wanting it like he does. It doesn't take a lot to put me in the mood, but "the mood" is pretty much a constant for him. This has been true of all my past relationships too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:04 PM
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If it was something they tried once, realized it wasn't for them and don't want to do again I'd be fine with it. If it's a lifestyle they're still into and open to then no.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:14 PM
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OP is a guy but yeah, I'm not sure why so many people cling to this narrative when it's so obviously not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:42 PM
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Never been in one and never would. Don't care what other people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:58 PM
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Anxious avoidant
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:26 AM
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Aubrey Plaza
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:41 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss :(
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:35 AM
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Neither I nor anyone I've slept with have ever "brought up the topic of sex," you just make out and things escalate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:34 PM
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I adore Post Malone. Could also take or leave The Weeknd although he has a few songs I really like and I think he is talented, just not for me really.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:29 PM
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Like snot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:28 PM
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They mean lines of credit in general, not credit cards per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:43 PM
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I have for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:38 PM
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There are certain points in my hormone cycle where I just crave sex qua sex and get turned on at the sight of my husband's body. But in general yes, being the object of his desire is what turns me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:27 PM
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It's never happened but I would be annoyed. I'm really particular about food, I want to pick what I eat. Plus on a date I'm cognizant of how certain foods will affect me later on in the evening which isn't exactly something I'd want to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:10 AM
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I didn't really "date" like that. I hooked up with guys in my social circle and if we had chemistry and liked each other then we'd start dating. I did meet my ex online and we had sex the second time meeting in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:45 AM
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Lol I have the same thing! Idk what it is. Probably something worth unpacking but...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:32 AM
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I have in the past and I'm sure I will again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 11:02 PM
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Well I'm not trying to make any sort of comment on how much people do or do not "value" it, but it objectively is a bigger investment and commitment. Otherwise you wouldn't have to go through the legal process of divorce to dissolve the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:46 PM
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Well yeah, that's why people get married. Your spouse is legal family.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:36 PM
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I've seen both.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:57 PM
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No, that's not all a relationship is and it's especially not all a marriage is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:56 PM
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Have seen multiple men in my life do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 05:36 PM
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"Friends with benefits" usually describes a relationship where it's just friendship and sex, with no other emotional entanglement or obligations, and the parties can easily cut and run when they're tired of the dynamic or want to pursue other options. Not really what you want from a spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:34 PM
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Just have bigger tits than a man, it's not hard. I mean...yeah. It's not like having bigger boobs than a man (who has no boobs) is a high bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:22 PM
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Your body decomposes. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 02:51 PM
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Yes it would be weird, and not good for the baby for a variety of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:37 AM
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One of my best friends since first grade is a guy. We're practically like siblings and my parents even call him their third son (I have two brothers). We've been friends through every life stage and were roommates for a while in our 20s. He introduced me to my husband and I had a hand in him meeting his wife (he gave me his phone and let me swipe through profiles on OKCupid for him; I found a girl who I thought was cool and I wanted to be friends with her so I told him to message her. They're ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:15 AM
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B. If the sex is that good then I'm obviously plenty attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:06 AM
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When I made more I paid more. Now that we're married all our money goes into one account.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:22 PM
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I am okay with splitting bills proportionate to income. I wouldn't date below my social class but I myself am of a pretty low social class already. I wouldn't do the last thing because that isn't something I even do for myself or know how to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:06 PM
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Depends on the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:52 PM
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Yeah, but on the other hand, if a kid tells you he's going to kill himself and then does and you didn't intervene, or if a kid is being physically/sexually abused and you do nothing and they wind up killed, sex trafficked or whatever, that's not great either. I don't disagree with you, I'm just not sure what the solution is. And teachers frankly aren't qualified and don't get paid enough to deal with this stuff alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:01 PM
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Yes, if a kid tells you they are self harming or being abused you are required to report. If you don't you can lose your job or face legal action yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:42 PM
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Right lol, this seems like a no-win situation. If you leave with no explanation then you "ghosted" and "blindsided" them. But if you give them a reason then you're trying to "control them."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:14 PM
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I mean I don't "want" to define it any particular way, I'm genuinely trying to understand the distinction between setting a boundary for yourself vs. for the other person because this isn't a concept I've encountered before. And I never said anything was "above criticism," I'm just trying to understand this new (to me) definition of the word boundary. So saying that I won't put up with a person talking to me a certain way, that's setting a certain boundary for myself? But saying I won't put up w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:41 PM
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Then what is "setting a boundary on yourself"? I guess I don't understand. Can you give me an example of what that would look like? To me, "I won't put up with X in a relationship, my partner is doing X, so I'm leaving" is setting a boundary for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:36 PM
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Alright, then being "controlling" doesn't really mean anything and people shouldn't care about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:09 PM
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I said couch the second time because I don't want to get bogged down in details. It doesn't matter. We're discussing the behavior and whether or not it is controlling. So again, can you tell me how I COULD leave this relationship without being "controlling"? Or is there literally no way for me to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:04 PM
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Yes, we both agree I'm wrong for being with him in the first place. But here we are. I have made a mistake and am dating a man with an intolerably ugly couch. The couch is very important to him and he won't get rid of it. I can't live with the couch. There is no compromise to be reached. So answer the question. How do I tell him this is my reason for breaking up with him without being "controlling"? Saying "You shouldn't have dated him in the first place" isn't an answer. In the analogy, I AM da…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:58 PM
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I'm not a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:38 PM
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Ok, let's say I think he has ugly taste in decor. He's always liked this style of decor and I thought I could put up with it or influence him to have better taste, but it's a year into the relationship and he's not budging and we're thinking of moving in together. I tell him I can't look at this ugly decor for the rest of my life, so if he's going to insist on keeping it then I will have to break up with him. Am I being controlling? And if so, how could I express my reasons for leaving the relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:32 PM
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why even get into this relationship to begin with? I don't know why he did it, it was dumb, I've said that like three times now. I don't understand how that factors into whether or not he was controlling. fact is, he attempted to have her change her lifestyle so she could be with him - that’s what makes it controlling Ok, let's use my analogy from another comment. I start dating a guy who is a smoker. Maybe I thought he would quit or maybe I thought I could put up with the smoking but it turns o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:25 PM
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He did set the boundary on himself. That's why he exited the relationship. If I get into a relationship with a smoker hoping they'll quit and they don't, and I decide I can't put up with it so I break up with them, that's not me being controlling or exerting that boundary on them. That's me saying "Ok, I'm not willing to tolerate this" and leaving. Was I stupid to date the smoker in the first place? Yes. But that's a separate issue from me being controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:22 PM
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I agree he was dumb to get into a relationship with her in the first place. I just think that's a separate issue from whether or not he was being controlling. “hey, stop doing this thing you love or else we won’t date” is controlling behavior So then setting any boundaries for what you'll put up with in a relationship is controlling. He is allowed to leave a relationship for any reason he wants, including reasons you or I think are dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:16 PM
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I don't see how what he did was controlling in any way. He laid out what his issues were and said that if the behavior didn't change he would exit the relationship. He wasn't threatening or aggressive in any way. He even wished her well and said no hard feelings. I think the particular things he took issue with are pretty dumb, but that's really neither here nor there. People are allowed to leave relationships for reasons I think are dumb. But I don't see how that makes his behavior controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:11 PM
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it's up to women to save the world, but they can't do that if they're cleaning the porch all day and God knows what else, laundry, dishes, cooking whatever. That stuff is fine when the world isn't on fire. Why doesn't this equally apply to women who have jobs? Most women aren't communist revolutionaries, whether they're "trad wives" or not. And even when "the world is on fire," people still have to eat, wear clothes and live in clean environments.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:41 PM
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I can understand it in situations like that, or if you don't have transportation. I'm more talking about people I know who do it for lunch/dinner multiple times a week just for convenience. The expense is crazy, I just don't understand it. Even if you've been drinking or can't drive for some reason, ordering a pizza is way cheaper than UberEATS.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:57 PM
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It absolutely blows my mind that anyone uses these services.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:43 PM
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It is though. It's one of the few places on reddit where people debate controversial stuff. Yes that's right. It's a debate sub, not an advice sub. You can take information you glean from the debates here and apply them to your life the way you would apply advice. But the purpose of this sub is not "advice" and never has been. It's a place to debate topics related to intersex dynamics and specifically the red pill, which was never limited to just dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:27 PM
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This isn't an advice sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:02 PM
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I am interested in romance, love, dating and sex as subjects. Have been for as long as I can remember. It's never been clear to me why I would lose intellectual interest in those topics just because I'm married.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:00 PM
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Yes it did. This was about ten years ago when I was in a really bad place. I was in therapy (CBT) for about six months and it helped me cope with a couple of difficult life situations that were going on at the time and just in general helped me identify my triggers and redirect the thought patterns I was getting stuck in. It also helped to feel like I had someone holding me accountable for working on myself. I still have a lot of anxiety and it's a constant effort but I'm more equipped to deal w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:21 AM
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To get a handle on my anxiety because it was literally ruining my life and killing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:20 AM
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We've all been there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:26 AM
2

"When you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath and count to four." -Daniel Tiger
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:50 AM
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It takes me half an hour to even dry my hair. And an effective "simple, natural" makeup look takes more than ten minutes. Besides, it's fun and men appreciate when you put in effort for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:21 PM
1

To stop being pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:05 PM
2

I have baby blue rn
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:52 PM
1

The vast majority of states already don't have permanent alimony. I'm surprised Florida still did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:31 PM
2

He's a welder and I work in e learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 05:28 PM
1

I earn more than my husband. It's literally not an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:43 PM
1

Private sector almost always pays better than public. Most professional jobs get weekends and holidays off and you get PTO, so while you don't get summers off you get a roughly equivalent amount of time off that you can use whenever you want. I've never heard of teachers getting pensions after 20 years; my state has the "rule of 80" which means your age and years of service have to add up to 80 in order to retire with benefits. So if you start teaching at 23 you can retire in your 50s. And in my…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:35 PM
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Some also feel that if they invite one cousin, they must invite all Yeah, this is the thing. It kind of snowballs. It's hard to know where to draw the line between which cousins to invite or not. Or maybe you're not close to cousin Bobby at all, but Aunt Sally is his mom, and she's your mom's sister so you have to invite her, but Aunt Sally will be upset if her kids aren't invited, etc. Shit like this is why my husband and I said fuck it and just went to the courthouse lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 04:21 PM
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What’s “a lot”? The vast majority of my teachers in middle and high school didn’t work the summers. Or if they did it was an handful of times in an 25 year career. If you worked summer school 4 time in 25 years I don’t think you can brag on that. Most teachers I knew worked at least part time in the summer. I waited tables in the summer. Some taught summer school or tutored, some did contract work (you can get paid to write lesson plans etc.), some wrote or edited tests for testing companies, et…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:42 PM
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Yeah and I mean it's not like you can't go back to school for another degree if you don't want to teach anymore. That's what I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:26 PM
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I'm an instructional designer. I'm a former teacher and so are most of my colleagues. I know former teachers who have become researchers, project managers, office managers, marketers, small business owners, speech pathologists, corporate trainers, etc. etc. It's a very transferrable skill set actually. Most teachers end up leaving the field and doing something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:23 PM
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Speaking as a former teacher - summers off is a perk of teaching, but it's not enough to make up for the things that suck about the job. Teachers really don't get much more time off than any other profession, they just get theirs all at once instead of choosing when to take it through the year. There are downsides to that too. Plus, a lot of teachers work other jobs in the summer, so they're not taking the summer off anyway. Now most of them are frankly not talented enough to get a better job or…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:56 PM
1

Yes, I love him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:18 PM
1

Somehow young men were able to develop libidos before free high def streaming porn. I think he'll be okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:08 PM
2

My best friend and I always intentionally got in the way of the balls so we'd be out of the game and could sit on the floor and talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 12:08 AM
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Yeah basically. What happens if you fall behind on the reading? I mean there's no book club police that are going to come after you, you'll just probably have a hard time following the conversation that week. Or you skip that meeting and catch up for next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:49 PM
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I'm not currently but have been in the past. You... talk about the book you're reading, that's kind of the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:40 PM
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I'm a parent of a son and I plan to monitor his internet use very closely until he graduates high school. I know it's easier said than done and they can access stuff anywhere etc. and he will probably get his hands on it one way or the other, but we plan to do what we can and be pretty strict parents in this regard in our own home.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:56 PM
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My grandma unfortunately didn't make it :( But, she was very advanced in age (93) and had been in pretty terrible pain for the last couple of years so in a way it was a relief. She was ready to go. Just hard to adjust to one of the main characters of your life being gone. I had just visited her right before she got sick and we got some quality time together so I was glad I had that time with her before it happened. The thing with my dad was really scary. Something very serious happened very sudd…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:52 PM
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But if dad is actively facilitating that is pretty gross Not just gross but often the first step toward sexual abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:16 PM
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Because before it was banned incels would just spam "Cope" after everything. It's pointless, bad faith and doesn't further conversation in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:15 PM
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change/challenge my view
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 06:06 PM
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Similar thing happened to me last month. Dad was in the hospital and nearly died, got out, the grandma went in. Hope everybody comes out of it okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 04:08 PM
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Not accurate at all. I don't pay attention to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:11 PM
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No, I'm funny and everyone knows it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:18 AM
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But I guess, if your goal is just sex, personality doesn't matter much. There's not much talking. Disagree, personality is still the most important thing even for just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:22 AM
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I grew up before social media. Metal heads and emo guys painted their nails. Usually just black though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:21 AM
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Casual sex often leads to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:11 AM
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Some women find it fun and enjoyable, idk why it really needs to have a "benefit" beyond that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:52 AM
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Based and Dunbar's number pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:48 AM
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yup, same. My mom always said if you're entertaining multiple guys you don't actually like any of them that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:29 PM
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Women with lots of tattoos are fine with being associated with that lifestyle and fine with filtering out men who are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:58 PM
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Men. Pretty much the only slut shaming I've ever received was on this sub or similar spaces, and it was all from men. I don't remember ever being slut shamed irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:08 AM
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He appreciates me and tells me so all the time. This is very important to me. He is hilarious. He takes great care of the people in his life. He's a great dad, brother, son, son-in-law. He is very protective. He makes me feel safe. He is very much the yang to my yin. He's a calming, stabilizing presence. I always say I'm in a mixed optimism marriage -- I'm the worrier, the pessimist, the catastrophizer; he has a relentless faith that everything will work out, sees the good in every situation and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:38 PM
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We're making a similar move for similar reasons in the fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 04:55 PM
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Bad things only happen in capitalist countries, so true bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:06 PM
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I like how redditors just assume everyone agrees that capitalism is a big bad boogeyman
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 01:07 AM
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When little boy falls and has a booboo, he wants his momma. If momma is in surgery, he won't be happy. This is true of literally any job. Do you think a waitress can just walk out mid-shift because her little boy skinned his knee at daycare?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:11 PM
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Your scenario didn't say anything about him being out of her league. It's hard for people to follow your argument when you leave half of it in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:40 PM
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This is the most backwards logic I've ever heard in my life. If he's the one who struggles to get laid, why should she be grateful to him for fucking her? I'm not asking from a place of indignance, I genuinely don't understand your logic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:33 PM
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I don't understand the "despite." Women want that reassurance because men fuck who they can. We want to know he's actually into us, not that we were just the closest willing warm hole.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:19 PM
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I started playing a game where if I see someone post virulent fat hate I go into their history and see how many pages back I have to go before I find a "I used to be really fat" comment. It's usually not more than two.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:29 PM
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At the moment yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:14 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:09 AM
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That's not the only thing that's changed. One big thing that's changed in the last 20 years is that symptoms of menopause are largely no longer treated with hormone therapy because it was giving tons of women cancer. Instead, those symptoms are now often treated with SSRIs prescribed off label. You see a huge spike in SSRI use in women at the age of menopause, and that's because they're prescribed to treat the mental and physical symptoms of menopause.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:39 AM
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I don't have a problem with men filtering by weight. I never used OLD so it's kind of irrelevant to me. If I'm dating a guy I assume he can see me and determine for himself whether I'm too fat for him or not. I'm not sure why the specific number matters. I hardly ever weigh myself so I wouldn't be able to give an accurate answer anyway. I could tell him what size I wear but that's probably meaningless to most guys, and again I'm not sure why it matters, he can use his eyes and decide if he's hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:14 AM
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Also: SSRIs are prescribed off-label for many conditions that disproportionately affect women (migraines, IBS, fibromyalgia etc.) SSRIs are prescribed to treat symptoms of menopause such as hot flashes, which we used to treat with HRT before we realized that was giving a shit ton of women cancer
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:22 AM
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Instructional designer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:46 PM
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Nah, 4-5 inch height difference is ideal. That way he's still taller than you in heels but not so tall that you look weird together or it makes kissing/sex physically uncomfortable. So for a 5'6 woman 5'10 or so is just about right.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:44 PM
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My impression is that there isn’t really much difference between male and female desire for sex. Your impression is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:41 PM
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Yes I gathered that, I'm curious what you were trying to convey by saying it like that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:25 AM
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If she's on all that government assistance then she never actually sees that child support money. The government takes it to recoup the money she's getting in benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:09 AM
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What strange phrasing. Why "two women and then four or five others" instead of "six or seven women"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:06 AM
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You as a man are not "aware" of the nuances and intricacies of intrasex dynamics between women. All of your interactions with women have been as a man so you're working from a different perspective. That perspective is not useful to a daughter who has to interact with women AS a woman. Do you think a mother can teach a son how to interact with other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:49 PM
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Report the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:30 PM
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What does a dad know about interacting with women as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:23 PM
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I'm not sure a dad has much to teach his daughter about how to interact with other women. Leave that to her mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:12 PM
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Yes, it's just a habit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:33 AM
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I'm not on birth control now but I was for 7 years. I didn't notice any changes in who I was attracted to, just my arousal response in general. I was with my husband before, during and after birth control and was always attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:21 PM
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Yep that's my experience too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:20 PM
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Her memoir was really interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:50 PM
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I have two English degrees and this wasn't my experience at all, but then it's been a while since I was in school.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:36 AM
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Women have better eyesight than men and are better at distinguishing between colors. We're less prone to genetic defects due to having two X chromosomes. Women's bodies have more fat stores and are slower to burn calories so we are better at surviving starvation and famine (not really relevant in the modern world but was at one time) Obviously our bodies are optimized for childbirth, which has its pros and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:29 AM
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I agree with him although I'm not sure how much this varies across cultures. But in many traditional families the woman does the household admin which includes paying bills, hiring contractors, buying household items etc. Husbands usually decide on bigger purchases like cars etc. but the day-to-day purchasing decisions are usually made by the wife because she's the one running the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:22 PM
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Jesus that's so sad. What a fucking moron that lady is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 06:19 PM
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In the age of birth control, number of children had is not a good indicator of amount of sex had.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:14 PM
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Yes, married
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:36 PM
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It's impossible to get everyone to like you no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:07 PM
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yesterday morning
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 09:06 PM
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It's so disgusting, I don't believe anyone actually likes it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:48 PM
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No, they're not all like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:04 PM
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Proving that actors are hired to tell a story onscreen and sometimes human stories involve romantic or sexual scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 04:51 PM
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People don't become Hollywood A listers to be voice actors. It's perfectly valid not to want to date an actress for this reason, I'm just saying I don't think people who are actually in that business think about it the same way you do. I don't think Tom Holland is shocked or bothered when Zendaya has to kiss another guy on screen since he's an actor too, to him it's just part of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:44 PM
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That pretty much means you can never be a lead in a movie again.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:09 PM
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Oh yay our weekly round of this question. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 02:42 AM
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Like I said, there were opportunities and they are not timid guys. If a guy I hang out with for 15 years shows no qualms about trying to sleep with women he's friends with, but never tries anything with me, it seems silly to assume that he's just uniquely intimidated by me for some reason. And I'm not talking about elementary school, I'm talking about high school/college/young adult friendships where we were hanging out and getting drunk together every night and people hooked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:54 PM
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Obviously yes, when people hit their limit they break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:30 PM
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Learning to live with your partner's bad qualities is part of what makes a relationship work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:27 PM
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Any couple that's been together for 10+ years or through multiple life stages has worked through problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:24 PM
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My bfs never had an issue staying hard with them 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:23 PM
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"Be easygoing and let them have their way a lot of the time, don't argue, don't ask for much" is how you should be treating your children? Maybe if you want to spoil them and turn them into assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:06 PM
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No reputable church or clergy member is going to ordain a sham marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:13 AM
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Try the skyn condoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 03:36 AM
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And I try not to interact with the incels because it's pointless, they're boring and I suspect most of them are teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 07:31 PM
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That he's single would be implied. Not single=in a committed relationship. If someone asked one of Joe's friends if Joe was single, they would say yes, even if they knew he was casual sleeping with someone. If she's not his gf, he is single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:06 PM
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Why would he tell his bench press buddies that the girl he's casually fucking is his gf?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:56 PM
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Joe from the gym also isn't going to say he isn't single
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:54 PM
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We are both happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:45 PM
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I've been with my husband for 11 years and married for 6. Still very happy. I guess something could happen in the next year to cause us to go from very happy to divorced but I doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:26 PM
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I'm married and it's been excellent lately
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 05:23 PM
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Dangerous way of thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 01:39 AM
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It's generally considered rude to yell at strangers in public for any reason
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:10 AM
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Yes, because I wanted to
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 08:01 PM
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Not really, we all have our own lives that we run ourselves. I can't really think of a scenario where I'd need to defer to my siblings or vice versa so I don't really know where a hierarchy would come into play. I'm the youngest of three and the middle sibling is objectively the smartest and most successful so I guess he's at the top of the hierarchy in that sense. My oldest brother is pretty severely disabled and needs a lot of help from the rest of us so I guess that might put him at the botto…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:20 AM
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Worker. I don't know what "motivate your answers" means but I assume you mean something like explain. I like to make my own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:35 PM
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I had the same thought but apparently Pacino insisted on a paternity test and it is in fact his.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:34 PM
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The thought of a six-year-old at a Nick Cave concert is sending me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:08 AM
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No it’s white women that have a fetish for blacks. Which is why they fuck many more blacks than Asians. If you walk around a city you will see BMWF and WMAF. Honestly, no, in my city I see more white women with Asian guys than black guys but that has more to do with the demographics of where I live. Anyway, the vast majority of people of both sexes date intra-racially. I'm confused though because your initial comment was about cuck fetish stuff but now you're just talking about women with boyfri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 06:04 AM
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You asked people to talk you off the ledge so that is what I'm trying to do. Your fear and obsession with this topic stems from your porn consumption. The fact that you just rattled the name of a website that posts this kind of stuff just proves it even more. This is entirely in your head because you are consuming this type of porn. The women who are actually doing this stuff in real life are like a fraction of a percent but your porn habits have convinced you it's rampant. White women are doing…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 05:16 AM
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Tattoo that says you love black cock. Some get permanent tattoos of this. And you've seen women with this tattoo in real life? Or in porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:40 AM
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Like I said, this is barely even happening outside of porn. To the extent that it is, some are just catering to their husband's fetish for whatever reason and some (a much smaller number, imo) are genuinely into it. Seriously. Turn off the porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:08 AM
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They're real people in contrived scenarios meant to cater to fetishists. Tom Holland is a real person but that doesn't mean Spiderman is real life. Most women would be horrified and sickened if their husband asked for something like this. A fraction of those would go along with it because they have low self esteem or don't want to lose him or whatever. The women actually into it are vanishingly few.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:59 AM
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Turn off the porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:54 AM
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Fetus: an offspring of a human or other mammal in the stages of prenatal development that follow the embryo stage Do you really not know the stages of human development? This is like fifth grade biology. I agree that it is a human life form. So am I also to assume that you believe that abortion is the killing of another human being? Yes. I consider it justified homicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:52 AM
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I went to her show in April. Her set is 3.5 hours long. I peed when I got to the stadium and didn't pee again until I got back to my hotel room. I don't understand these people who can't go a few hours without using the bathroom. I did put liquid IV in my water which helps you go longer without peeing because it promotes fluid retention. These people are amateurs smh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:47 AM
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They are fetuses. It's a human lifeform at a different stage of development. Just like an adult or an adolescent isn't a baby, or an embryo isn't a fetus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:24 AM
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Indifferent
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:13 PM
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Well you didn't exactly "prove" it but I'll take your word for it. Although I'm not sure expect is the same as demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:46 PM
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They demand to be taken out for $300 dinner dates on a first date. Demand? Really? I want to know if a random woman has ever come up to you and demanded a $300 dinner date. "I'm a woman and you're a man; I want dinner, YOU OWE ME A $300 DINNER DATE!" Has a woman you've ever been on a date with, and you wouldn't pay $300 for her dinner, demanded a $300 dinner from you? I'm not talking here about trying to get you to pay for her dinner. I'm talking about her explicitly saying to you "I talked to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 04:54 PM
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No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 03:01 PM
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I've never even done A
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 02:56 PM
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Thinking that your brothers interact with you the same way they interact with their girlfriends is odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 02:23 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:50 PM
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I'm not but my husband is. Not sure what you mean by "immune to all this nonsense." I guess if anything navigating sex dynamics just comes more naturally to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:40 PM
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It's the point at which a woman's prettiest days are behind her. There's no set age, it varies from woman to woman and it doesn't mean that overnight she becomes ugly and unlovable. But there's a point in every woman's life, usually by her late 20s, where the glow of youth is gone and her attractiveness has peaked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:23 AM
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I just don't think anyone should sit there silently while someone is disrespecting their spouse. Weak shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 03:16 AM
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I would want my husband to step in and defend me or remove me from the situation. On some level I think my dad would want that too, or at least respect him for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:32 AM
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It would depend on the circumstances. If I had been neglecting him and it was a one off thing I might be able to get over it. I don't think I could forgive an ongoing affair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:44 PM
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Taylor Swift and the show Girls
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:49 PM
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It’s hard to travel with your whole family People travel with their families all the time. Do you even have time to travel now when you're so focused on work? it’s hard to work 24/7 while having a family Well, yes. No one should be working 24/7. I can’t imagine marrying by 30 that is impossible Don't do it then, but there's a good chance you'll run out of time to have kids. Biology doesn't wait. It sounds like you don't actually want a family that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 02:00 PM
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If you want kids with someone your age, you should aim to be married no later than 30. Which means you should be seriously dating by your mid 20s. Unless you work on a submarine, there's no reason working should mean you can't date. Learn to walk and chew gum at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 01:31 PM
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Probably easier in some ways and harder in others. It's hard to say though. I have two brothers and their lives have gone very differently because they have very different personalities and temperaments.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 04:31 AM
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vomit
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 09:59 PM
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It's very rare that I see someone I think is truly ugly. Most men are just neutral until they interact with me in a way that catches my attention. I do have a type though, and I guess a non-type (I don't like blond men or men with blue eyes). The latter is very rarely able to get out of "neutral" territory for me, but it has happened occasionally, and I still don't find them ugly per se.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:33 PM
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My best friend of 25 years takes days to reply to my texts. It's not personal, people just have busy lives or aren't in the mood to chat/hang out sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 03:25 AM
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If you're in the US, nursing programs are not that competitive. It's not like medical school. Just take a couple pre-reqs, get your GPA up and apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:28 AM
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This doesn't really seem like a relevant post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 12:09 AM
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Ideal tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:26 PM
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That's so fucking true
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 12:57 PM
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Important to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:28 PM
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If it's a one off incident I'm a little hurt but rationally I know it probably doesn't have much to do with me. If it was an ongoing issue I'd assume he wasn't attracted to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:11 AM
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I think Manson Family/Jonestown/Heavens Gate/Waco etc. kind of turned people off to the whole commune idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:10 AM
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r/purplepilldebate
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:43 AM
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Yes. I've always been more into musicians anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:52 AM
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cinematography You have to be joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 06:51 AM
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You can just tell sometimes that it isn't going to happen. It's usually hormonal, sometimes your body just doesn't respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 02:34 PM
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cannot easily be taken away Except by the inevitable passage of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:59 PM
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Collarbone and shoulders
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:31 AM
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Yes they very often are, but I think these numbers don't come from social science studies but rather from demographic info collected by the porn sites themselves from user account info.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 09:00 PM
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I would also posit that a lot of these self reported "women" are not actually women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 02:39 PM
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Not interested in being part of someone's kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 12:02 AM
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I met my husband in a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:14 AM
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Yep I've said the same thing. New reddit is so aesthetically horrendous I can't even stand to look at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 06:46 PM
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Pretty much every guy. Guys are blanks until they interact with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 03:44 PM
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ISFJ, 6w5
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 06:56 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 02:32 PM
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Statistically, probably so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:35 AM
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Because I'm interested in the subject matter. Human sexuality and relationships have always been something I was fascinated by. I don't understand why being married means you would lose intellectual interest in this topic. I'm not here for dating advice and never have been. I was on this sub before I was married, but I was dating my now husband when I started posting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:29 AM
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No way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:26 AM
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No. Thousands of kids are subjected to horrific abuse by the "proper families" in the foster care system.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:20 PM
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Diana was the side piece tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 06:56 PM
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It would cause problems whether he did it in the past or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:01 AM
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Hank Williams, noted loyal husband
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 06:46 AM
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I always cringe to death when couples write their own vows. I like the classic traditional ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:48 AM
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My answer is the same as yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 02:10 PM
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B
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 02:08 PM
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It's not effortless but I wouldn't say it's hard work either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 09:19 PM
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I took my husband's name. I wanted our family to share a name.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 09:18 PM
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You're a man right? Women don't really work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:17 PM
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They do this when you're at risk for premature labor because orgasm can trigger it. I was under this advice during my pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:14 AM
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💯
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 04:00 PM
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Sure I agree with all of this. To be clear, when I say "have sex when he initiates" I don't mean just lie back and let him stick it in dry right then and there. I mean have an open and generous mindset toward your partner, don't interpret his sexual advances as him asserting his selfish needs. Interpret it as a bid for love and connection, relax and be open to it. If he's a good partner he'll do what it takes to physically prepare you for intercourse (and if he doesn't, again, why are you with h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:57 PM
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Foreplay exists. I'm not suggesting you just let him stick it in dry whenever he wants. I'm suggesting that if he initiates sex, you should relax and be open to it and you will more than likely become aroused enough for sex. And again if you have a lot of trouble getting aroused even with foreplay...why are you with this guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:55 PM
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Because it's hurtful to neglect your partner's needs, because it's good for the relationship, because the female sex drive is very fickle and responsive so waiting until you're "in the mood" can often create a negative feedback loop where you're NEVER in the mood, whereas having more sex will often do the opposite and put you "in the mood" more often. Like it or not, sex is the main way men experience love, so to deny him of it more than once in a blue moon is deeply hurtful. inb4 "well what abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:17 PM
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The opinion that usually gets me dragged by other women on this sub is that women in LTRs/marriage should have sex pretty much any time their partner initiates whether they're in the mood or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 01:26 PM
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I think I'm extremely average. Yes, I do both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 12:15 PM
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Several years ago my mom told me that when I was a teenager she worried about me because I wasn't rebellious and never got in trouble. She thought that was abnormal and there was something wrong with me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 02:39 AM
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I mean, I don't think there's any reason you can't focus on your friendships while pursuing your goals. I guess it depends on what your goals are. But I think just naturally as time goes on most people have other relationships and things going on in their life that take priority over friendships. I don't think it's a conscious decision people make, it just happens naturally. If you do find that your friendships are getting in the way of your goals though you should probably examine that. I guess…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 09:24 PM
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Most of my friends have been in my life for 20+ years at this point, but even so, their place on my list of priorities has dropped significantly as I've gotten older. My friends were my life in my teens and early 20s. But once I got into a serious relationship, got a "grown up job," got married, started a family and had to start taking care of older family members with health issues, I just had less time and emotional energy for friends. And it goes both ways - my friends are in a similar spot i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:41 PM
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I like vacuuming and mopping. I HATE making the bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:01 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:54 PM
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Christian Bale ♥️♥️♥️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:51 PM
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I know all my great grandparents' names and have memories of four of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:54 PM
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Yes, that's pretty much the only way I've ever dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:26 PM
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It seems like she's not really a big deal anymore but I thought Belle Delphine was really pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:56 AM
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Right that's what I said, the feelings aren't platonic but the relationship itself is unless/until it becomes something more. I've also had fleeting attraction to friends who I knew wouldn't be good relationship partners so I didn't want to pursue a relationship even though the physical attraction was there. Ultimately I valued the friendship over the possibility a sexual or romantic relationship with that person. So I don't agree that attraction means you necessarily want more than a friendship…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:58 PM
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Only when listening to Britney Spears' 2003 banger
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 09:20 PM
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Daily
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 06:45 PM
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I don't understand why people think this video is an example of a woman trying to "have it all." This woman is 36 and says she's been divorced for three years, which means she divorced at 33. She said she has embryos with her ex-husband, which means they had tried to do IVF while they were married. People don't just start out with IVF, especially in their 20s. You do IVF after a year or two of failed attempts to get pregnant. This likely means they were trying for kids in her mid-20s and she cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 03:53 PM
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I wanted to get married within the next few years and have kids at some point. He wasn't anywhere near ready to get married and wasn't sure if he ever wanted kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:01 PM
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Lol if you've got Taylor Swift tickets you will have no shortage of women of every demographic who would be willing to go with you. Just be prepared to prove the tickets are legitimate. I'd probably try the local sub of the city where the concert is. I've gotta say though I'm not sure a concert like that is a great first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:24 PM
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Maybe try to find someone on a fan page of whatever artist you're seeing (Reddit, Facebook, Instagram etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:44 PM
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I prefer the texture of bacon cooked on the stove, plus I use the grease to fry my eggs and potatoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:43 PM
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First guy's mental health deteriorated throughout the relationship and so did his treatment of me. He did and said a lot of fucked up shit I don't want to get into but long story short picturing a future with him filled me with blood curdling terror. So I broke up with him. Second guy, we weren't on the same page about the future, what we wanted and when we wanted it. He broke up with me. Amicable breakup, no hard feelings, just didn't work out. Those were my only two relationships before my hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:36 AM
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Yeah that's how getting hit in the cervix is too. It's your whole pelvic area that hurts, and down into your legs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:39 PM
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I think getting hit in the cervix is a similar type of pain. It's a very acute, deep pain that can be debilitating for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 04:29 PM
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No one's saying it's bad, it just isn't the norm in the modern west and hasn't been for decades
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 03:15 PM
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For my husband, yes. For a "partner" or boyfriend, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:06 PM
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If it's like a sports medicine deep tissue type massage I don't care if it's a man or a woman. If it's one of those more sensual massage places I'd prefer a same sex masseuse but it's not a huge deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 11:31 AM
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I have both, but it's not hard for me to understand why someone would want pets and not kids. Pets are fun and cute and silly, and they give you an outlet for nurturing and caring for something but with much less responsibility. First of all, you don't have to carry your pets in your body for nine months and then give birth to them and live the rest of your life in a body that was affected by that process. You can have pets as a single person without issue. Of course you can be a single mom too,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:57 PM
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Ok dude I'm just explaining what fault divorce is because someone asked. We can drop the word forced if you want. The fact of the matter is that if you couldn't prove some approved form of fault (abuse or indefinitely being the main ones), you were not legally allowed to divorce them. Do you prefer that phrasing? Keep in mind that this model was in place before cell phones, video cameras, etc. which means these things were much more difficult to prove even if they were happening. Also, no, she d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:12 AM
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My brother had to separate his pet duck from her ducklings because she was breaking all of their necks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:47 AM
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Under fault divorce you can be forced to remain married to the person, which means you are legally and financially entangled with them even if you physically leave. Marriage isn't just living with someone. No one who divorces gets a "free house." If one spouse gets the house, the other spouse gets the equivalent value in other assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:45 AM
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No it doesn't. This is some kind of aspirational fault divorce model that ppd likes to speculate about. That's not how fault divorce as it actually existed worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:36 AM
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I probably wouldn't have said no for all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:33 AM
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Fault divorce means you have to prove that your spouse committed some transgression (infidelity, abuse, abandonment etc.) in order to divorce them. There is a trial and if the judge doesn't find sufficient evidence you can be denied your petition for divorce and forced to stay married. It led to a lot of people forced to stay with abusive spouses and a lot of false allegations of innocent spouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 01:30 AM
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Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:45 PM
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He was crazy, verbally abusive, threatened to abandon me on a dirt road in the middle of nowhere late at night in an era before cell phones, stole from me, tried to kill my cat, cheated on me, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:44 PM
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I basically did. My ex boyfriend looked uncannily similar to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 11:39 PM
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I know this feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:58 PM
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i don’t require emotional safety or connection to acknowledge physical attraction, but i require connection to feel and act on sexual attraction. Yes, this is me exactly. I can be attracted to someone and desire them sexually without much or any emotional connection/safety, but I won't act on it because I'm highly inhibited and won't feel comfortable until we've established some familiarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 06:53 PM
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Why not try to meet and date girls at school instead of on the apps? That would knock out the third criteria, probably the second too, and likely the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 05:22 PM
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I sometimes vent to online friends if I'm frustrated about something. No one we know irl. It's never about sex though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:49 PM
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It's not an idiom. More like a colloquialism.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 01:18 PM
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Right. Hooking up with friends was very normal in our social circle too, and in fact I did hook up with some guys I was friends with, because they initiated it. So I have to assume that the ones who didn't just weren't that interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:37 PM
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I plan all my meals for the week on Sunday
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 05:34 PM
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Most of my male friends have been in my life for 15 years or more at this point. They knew me when I was single. If they were just biding their time waiting to fuck me they had ample opportunities, and my friends aren't timid when it comes to chasing women so there's no reason why they wouldn't make a move if they wanted to. I'm sure they're attracted to me on some level because they're men and I'm not hideous, and I'm sure if I offered many of them would have taken me up on it because, again, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:20 PM
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I just got lucky I guess. I've only been to one therapist and she was awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:52 PM
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Yeah. We wanted a small wedding, 50 guests or so, but even that was going to cost us upwards of 12k between the venue, catering etc. So we just went to the courthouse with immediate family and took them out for BBQ afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:36 PM
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Yeah. I think there must be a lot of shitty therapists out there because the way some people describe therapy is so not my experience. CBT helped me immensely.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:25 PM
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I'm sure declining marriage rates are part of the problem, but I also think people who are getting married are having more modest weddings than they were 10-20 years ago. People used to have these gigantic weddings with a dozen bridesmaids and now it's more common to see a little backyard wedding with two of or three bridesmaids who just wear a dress from TJMaxx or something. There are also tons of options now to rent bridesmaids dresses and even bridal gowns. Between the two of us, my husband a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:12 PM
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I'm the shyest of my friends by far. I had to actively work on my social anxiety before I could date. Shyness is off-putting to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:48 PM
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Boomer ass take
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:53 AM
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He has a school age daughter and is ten years into his career. He can't be that old.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:37 AM
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Alexa play Mastermind by Taylor Swift
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:38 PM
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Unfortunately my only bartender friends worked at places like Applebee's and Outback Steakhouse. Not exactly party spots.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:26 PM
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My parents had a horrible marriage when I was growing up and I often wondered why they wouldn't just get divorced. I'm now convinced they stayed married out of pure stubbornness. But they made it through that rocky road of middle age and came out the other side very close and happy, and are now enjoying semi-retirement and being grandparents. So I guess in the long run it was a positive example of weathering the hard times and growing stronger as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:25 PM
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There are cheap ways to be social. When I was in college we had the drink specials memorized and would go to different bars every night depending on who had the cheapest drinks. Or a bunch of friends would pitch in for a keg that would last us all weekend at someone's house. We hung out at dive bars so there usually wasn't a cover, if there was it was $7 at most. We went to a lot of free campus events, art walks, music showcases at the local record store, basement shows that were cheap or free, …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:10 PM
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I wasn't living with this friend during that relationship or breakup, and in fact the friend was on another continent during that time. He moved in with me for a few months when he returned to the states because I had a spare room and he needed to find a job before he could get an apartment. I've been friends with this guy since we were toddlers and nothing has ever happened between us. We are both married now and still friends. I do understand that most guys would be uncomfortable with a girl h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:08 PM
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For the second half of my pregnancy I was on pelvic rest which meant not only could I not do PIV, I couldn't do anything that felt good for me at all. That really sucked and I took care of my husband in other ways as much as I could but obviously it put a damper on our sex life. Then we had our son and waited the doctor recommended six weeks to have sex again. I didn't want to wait longer than that because I do think sex is important and I think it's important to keep doing it even if you're not…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:04 AM
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There was no thinking, I was brainwashed by feelz. I didn't really have a plan B for if it didn't work or we didn't get together, I just met him and was obsessed with him and that was it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:48 PM
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In the summer of 2010 my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me after taking a job in another state. Basically we were not on the same page about the seriousness or trajectory of the relationship and I was in denial about it. As a result of the breakup and other stressful events going on in my life, I was extremely bummed out and depressed for several months and basically never left the house except to go to work. At the time I was living with my best guy friend who was always trying to get me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:41 PM
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I think it's borderline cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:55 PM
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OP is a man and I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 10:30 PM
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Making out with heavy petting/grinding.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:44 PM
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Men can be happy with small amount ... of food. hahahahahahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:25 PM
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I simply insert the Encyclopedia Britannica disc into my CD-ROM
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:00 PM
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wow what a unique and fascinating perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:56 PM
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When we were living together before we got married, my husband and I split bills proportionate to income. We did this at times when I outearned him and at times when he outearned me. Now that we're married, all our money goes into a shared account so there's no "splitting."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:00 PM
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I don't know. I've never tried to do anything like that and can't really put myself in the headspace of someone who would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:56 PM
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I wouldn't. Revenge isn't something I'm motivated by or care about. I'd just move on with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:13 PM
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My husband and I are big fans of his and saw this show live (not the one that's actually on netflix, but he did the same act in our city). It was...awkward. It felt more like a PR thing than a comedy show. I do understand he's in a difficult spot trying to rebrand himself after his divorce and all the mess of the past few years, and I'm sure that's a difficult needle to thread. But it was uncomfortable to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 08:50 PM
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Except for the whole Great Depression and world war thing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 07:23 PM
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I love auctions and estate sales. My white whale for the last couple of years has been an antique secretary desk but I can't find one quite like I want. At this point I have resigned myself to waiting until my grandma passes away and getting hers, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:27 PM
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I love it! What a find.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:24 PM
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My parents owned a restaurant for many years and were willing to accommodate good long term employees. That's been my experience working retail and food service too, and my husband's experience as a tradesman. For example, after we had our son my husband requested to go down to four ten-hour days so he could be home with our kid one day a week, and his boss (he works at a mom and pop metal shop) was willing to accommodate. Obviously there are some limitations if the business only operates at cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:30 PM
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Post pics!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:26 PM
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I married a man who loves me and treats me with care and respect. My son also has good role models in his uncles. A good example is the best teacher.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:21 PM
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I hate when I say something and someone's like "Well that's just your opinion!" Well yes, who else's would it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:54 PM
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Pretty much any job is more willing to accommodate and work around the schedule of an established employee who's proven themselves to be dependable and valuable. That doesn't just apply to white collar work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:20 PM
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instructional designer — as in, you design instructions? I design e-learning courses. who makes more? Me, but not by much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:20 PM
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I'm an instructional designer. He's a welder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 07:49 PM
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I'd probably tell his dad and let him handle it as he sees fit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 03:51 AM
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I find holding a sleeping baby very soothing and relaxing. Otherwise no, not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:15 PM
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Yes, otherwise they'll be looking for you/worried about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 02:06 PM
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My best friend discovered that her husband was cheating on her (which she had suspected for a while) when she found a dental dam in his coat pocket. She was less shocked about the cheating than the fact that people actually use dental dams.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:17 PM
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They weren't married
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 06:06 PM
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Meanwhile there's a 6'3 guy here who claims to be a virgin because of his face
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:20 PM
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Well no, but I don't think I would stop loving my husband if he developed dementia either. But people stop loving their mothers for other reasons. Regardless, my mother carried me in her body and gave birth to me. Our love was borne of a biological bond. You have no such bond with an unrelated person. I love her because she's my biological mother which in itself is a sort of condition. For unconditional romantic love to exist then there would be no reason to love one person and not another. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:41 PM
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I don't understand what it means to love someone if you exclude their actions and how they make you feel. That's literally...how we experience other people, by interacting with them and having an emotional response to those interactions. What else is there? Besides looks, I guess, but even attraction is a physiological response which is a "feeling" at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 04:17 PM
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In addition to the ID bracelets, I have to imagine baby swapping was a bigger problem in the past when they drugged women out of their gourds for "twilight sleep" childbirth and then whisked the baby off to a nursery. Of course under those conditions you'd have no idea wtf your baby looked like and if you were leaving the hospital with the wrong one. Now you give birth sober, they let you hold your baby immediately and it spends most of the time in the room with you. I think most parents would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 03:41 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:27 AM
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Buy a house in 2013 you idiot.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:26 AM
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Oh, good for him then
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:41 PM
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Tinder’s self-proclaimed “most swiped right man"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:29 PM
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I'm pretty sure there are only a couple hundred creators on there who actually make any money.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:53 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:34 PM
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I'm aware. I lived there for ten years and live in the Austin suburbs now. It's an incredibly safe city with one of the lowest violent crime rates in the country. I don't believe for a minute that this person was having guns pulled on them over "minor things" with any regularity unless they were involved with a gang or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:32 PM
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What people also don't understand is that none of those tests babies get at birth are mandatory. No test can be made mandatory, and none are performed by default. So you'd still have to sign a waiver for a paternity test even if it's one of the standard tests offered at birth. Women who know the baby is their husbands will say "Well we don't need to pay for that test, we already know." It will solve none of the problems people think it will.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:27 PM
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The vast majority of people never travel outside the country in their lives. Many never even leave their state.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:17 PM
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I'm a born and raised Texan whose family owns livestock. Never had a gun pulled on me or had one of our animals shot. I have to wonder what kind of company this person is keeping if this is a common occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:59 AM
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Most people who request STD tests do it before sleeping with someone for the first time. People usually don't ask for one in a committed relationship unless they suspect cheating. So, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 03:24 AM
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You can go longer between washes with long hair because if it's dirty you can braid it or throw it up in a bun. You don't have those options with short hair. Short hair has to be washed more often and needs at least a little bit of styling every day. It's much less forgiving. The only thing you really save time on with short hair is drying, but again, you're washing it less frequently to begin such so you're not blow drying it as often. (And a lot of women with long hair let it air dry, which ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:46 AM
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I don't. I think both people should give 100% all the time. That will look different at different stages of life. I might be making more today but maybe I'll get laid off in six months, or maybe I'll have a complicated pregnancy or get sick or injured in some way . You never know. It seems myopic to hold the income disparity over your spouse's head as if circumstances can't change. We're partners and we're in this for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:05 PM
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https://goatmilkstuff.com/products/goat-milk-soap-purity-oats?variant=39563864670282
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:57 PM
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It's toward the end of the school year, which in most US schools is May.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 05:03 AM
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Meeting through friends and family doesn't negate meeting while drunk at a bar/party though. I met my husband drunk at a bar but mutual friends introduced us. Pretty common scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:46 AM
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Literally met my husband drunk at a bar lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:03 AM
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Is that because you have had other relationships? where your behaviour has changed over the course of your life? To a guy who hasn't had that experience you do realize that it would be impossible to understand. Yes, I do realize that and I've always assumed that this topic was a fixation for people who don't have much or any relationship experience. For people who have had multiple relationships with multiple people, it doesn't make a lot of sense. Is he supposed to accept her view on this matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:58 AM
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If my wife used to have sex like everyday in college and initiates only weekly with me, its not an insecurity to be concerned about my role in her life. Wouldn't you be concerned with a low frequency of sex regardless? I can't understand how the ex factors into it. The other examples aren't equivalent because it's concurrent treatment. If my husband was treating another woman better than me RIGHT NOW, yeah I'd have a problem with it. But I can't understand comparing two different relationships t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:22 AM
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Every relationship is different. He probably does things with/for me that he didn't do with her too. (Well, there are for sure two huge things we've done with each other that we've never done with anyone else -- get married and have a kid.) If I'm happy with our relationship then what he did in previous ones doesn't matter. And if I'm unhappy with some aspect of the relationship then it's not like it's okay just because he never did it with anyone else either. I will never understand this line o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:34 PM
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Or you could just get a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:39 PM
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There's no love like the love of family. Friends don't even come close. I love my family more than anything in the world and I always want to have family around. My spouse is part of my family but one person can't be everything. I don't care about "cost effectiveness." What a miserly way to go through life, figuring out the most "cost effective" way to "obtain" love. kids love their parents less than the other way around too. That's fine and that's how it should be. I said "to love and to love m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:55 PM
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Because I want people around to love and love me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 01:34 PM
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I don't know that I get "angry" about it but I definitely want dishes done before I go to bed. I'm the one who wakes up in the morning and makes coffee and gets breakfast/lunch ready for the kiddo, and I can't do that if the sink is full of dishes, and usually I need some of the dirty dishes to make the next meal so I end up having to do them anyway. The dishes aren't a big deal in a vacuum but shit needs to get done around the house and getting behind on anything just snowballs and makes every …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:57 PM
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What's the functional difference between an ice cream date and a coffee date?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:35 PM
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Yeah I've seen this going around, that guy's ridiculously hot
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:13 AM
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Ed Sheeran wrote that song anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:10 AM
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Every time I hear about old people it's people who were born a long time ago
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:52 PM
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TONS of liberals own pits. They seem them as downtrodden and misunderstood goodbois who get a bad rap. Adopting a pit from a shelter is a virtue signal on par with having a nonbinary child in liberal circles. My dog was attacked by some soyboy hipster's pit a few years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:44 PM
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Heat rash/eczema/dermatitis. I get that too. A corticosteroid cream will take care of it. Also as a preventative measure you can put deodorant or baby powder on the areas where you tend to break out, it will absorb the moisture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:04 PM
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If you need any help as you navigate your Swiftie journey let me know. I literally have powerpoints.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 02:29 PM
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Yeah, that weekend was the first time she played the 1 instead of invisible string which in retrospect was pretty telling. It was incredible. Having been a fan since the beginning it was really awe inspiring and nostalgic to see a career-spanning show like that. Really drove home how multifaceted and prolific she is. I cried a lot, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 01:14 AM
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I was at the last concert she did before this news came out. I'm a huge Taylor fan -- I believe that was my 8th time seeing her live -- and all night I kept thinking that she didn't seem like herself. One of her rotating acoustic songs that night was "The Lucky One," one of my favorite deep cuts, and all she said before playing it was "This is a song about how horrible being famous is." She's never that terse onstage, I was really shocked. Then this news came out a few days later and I was like …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 11:33 PM
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My point is that new washing machines are not that big, a lot of the newer front load machines can wash less at a time than the old models.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 08:30 PM
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As opposed to women in the past who had shelves full of cookbooks. What's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 08:22 PM
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My husband broke our new washing machine by trying to do your "wash everything together in one load" method.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 08:18 PM
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I'm still convinced it's only a loud minority of women online who want jeans/pants with larger pockets. I have been saying this for YEEEARRRSSSSS. Women don't want functional pockets on their clothes because loading up your pockets fucks up the silhouette. Like come on Becky are you seriously telling me you want pockets on your clothes so you can load them up with your phone, wallet, keys and tampons? Be so serious right now. Girls want pockets so they can put their hands in them and look cute a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 05:56 PM
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This happened literally yesterday with the shooter in Kentucky. They interviewed a few of his college teammates and they were all "such a nice guy, last person you'd ever expect to do something like this."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 05:10 PM
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Wikipedia can be edited by pretty much anyone at any time. It's an okay jumping off point to find sources but it's not a source in itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 05:07 PM
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Man: Why is everyone posting in this format all of a sudden Woman: Yeah I dunno it's pretty annoying Man: Yeah it is. Oh also you forgot to say teehee Woman: Teehee
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:00 PM
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Flirting is a word used in more languages than english and it means the same thing everywhere. It evidently doesn't, because no English speaker uses the word flirting to encompass any expression of sexual/romantic interest. It's a very specific type of interaction. If it's not playful and lighthearted it isn't flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:06 PM
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I know you are ESL so you are just going to have to trust me on this. "Flirting" in English means a playful, lighthearted interaction that's suggestive but indirect. It's even used in other contexts, e.g. "I've been flirting with taking a trip to the Bahamas" would mean "I've been thinking about taking a trip to the Bahamas, but I'm not serious about it yet." Once it becomes serious and direct (e.g. "I'm planning a trip to the Bahamas"') it ceases to be flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:50 PM
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No. Confessing is not flirting because it is straightforward and emotionally heavy. Flirting is neither of those things. Flirting is suggestive and playful, not direct and serious. I suppose there is a way you could confess your feelings in a flirtatious manner, but generally "confession" implies something more heavy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:42 PM
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No. Confessing is straightforward and has emotional weight. Flirting is lighthearted, meant to titillate and intrigue with some plausible deniability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 06:41 PM
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It's objectively not assault. Maybe harassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:05 PM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 04:00 AM
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10k probably
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 03:57 AM
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As long as he was gainfully employed in a job I find respectable. I have a masters degree, my husband has a bachelor's but doesn't use it (he's a welder). It wouldn't matter to me if he didn't have one. Woman with a degree/man without a degree pairings are actually pretty common in my social circle. Among my friends I can think of five pairings like that off the top of my head. I will say though that most of us are first generation college students from working class backgrounds. I think when yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 09:18 PM
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It's fine. If the store doesn't allow it they'll have a sign up saying so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/23 07:49 PM
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I've experienced childbirth and had to sign a consent form for every single test my baby got. None of them are mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 05:48 PM
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Maybe these women aren't geniuses themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 01:38 AM
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This is exactly how I feel. Newborn phase is boring and exhausting, 6-9 months through toddlerhood is great, early childhood is annoying, early adolescents are straight up not human and by 16 they're chill again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 04:08 AM
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Instructional design
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 01:06 AM
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I sucked at math in 4th grade. The first grade I ever got that wasn't an A was on a long division test and I made a 30. I remember it vividly. From that point on I needed math tutoring to scrape by with a passing grade. I made great grades in all my other classes in school but I cheated my way through math (and anything math adjacent like chemistry and physics)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 12:55 AM
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I've never heard of this. Most white people at most have a cleaning lady that comes once or twice a month. Some wealthier people might have a nanny, and often a nanny will do other domestic tasks like laundry, meal prep and light cleaning, but there isn't really a separate word for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 09:32 PM
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Second guy, he sounds funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 08:42 PM
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Swarthy men with dark hair, dark eyes, boyish looks and impish personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:41 PM
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I do it 2-3 days a week. My toddler is rather unchill but my job is very chill and my hours flexible. I do like half my work in the evening after he goes to bed, and I try my best to schedule all my meetings at naptime. But yeah, it isn't easy or ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:40 PM
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i consider myself agnostic but open-minded, i honestly appreciate the community aspect more than anything. OK I mentioned this before already but yeah if this is you then definitely check out a UU church.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:38 PM
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That sounds like Catholic, Anglican or Orthodox. If you're in the US you could try a protestant church, most don't do all of that. If you're not quite sure what you believe yet and just want to get a feel for it, you might even try a Unitarian Universalist church.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:36 PM
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I wouldn't date a guy for seven months without some kind of commitment. What he did with other women is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:59 PM
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lol yeah she'll really be living like a queen on 24k a year
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:58 PM
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Couldn't the same be said for any landscape?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:57 PM
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2k/month seems pretty reasonable for a stay at home mom of 12 years until she can find employment. Most alimony is temporary and in many cases it only lasts until the divorce is final.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 08:41 PM
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If she's pregnant no amount of plan B pills is going to abort the baby. Plan B is to keep her from getting pregnant in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 06:59 PM
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Evolution. Human females are incredibly weak and vulnerable, especially when pregnant and caring for their young. Historically women relied on their tribes/communities/social networks for survival and sustenance. For most of human history being ostracized from her community literally meant death for a woman and her children, so the more socially oriented survived to pass down their genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 06:25 PM
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America is better than other countries, Americans are better than other people, ergo American women are better than other women. It's called the transitive property look it up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:50 PM
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This is a pretty normal conversation among parents of boys. People want to know what you chose and why, and they're quick to offer up the same info about themselves or what they would do if they hypothetically had a son. IME women usually say they defer to the dad, and the dad is always the one who wants it. Of the couples I know who had conflict about it, every single one was a case where the dad wanted to circumcise and the mom didn't. (For the record neither my son nor my husband are circumci…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 02:47 PM
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Except men don't want their women fucking anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:51 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:42 AM
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Taylor Swift hasn't had ten boyfriends. She's had five, maybe six, real boyfriends and a couple of media PR relationships and/or brief flings. Taylor Swift has been with her current partner for seven years and counting. Taylor Swift has been a touring musician since she was 15. If you've ever known touring musicians of either sex, it's a lifestyle that's notoriously incompatible with maintaining a long term relationship, given that you're essentially in a long distance relationship indefinitely.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:02 AM
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Women, as a general rule, don't approach. That's not a you problem, it's just how it is and there really isn't anything you can do to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:08 PM
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Yeah this has been going on forever on every social media site. Pretty common experience on Facebook or Twitter to see some random business showing up in your timeline that you don't remember following, then upon further investigation you realize it used to be some funny account about cats doing stupid shit or something. It amassed a large following as a meme/humor account, then sold to a (usually scammy) business for an auto-following of 100k
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:45 PM
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I remember a guy here once posted a pic of some lady in a bikini who had a gigantic ass and fat rolls on her back. I said she was fat -- pretty, well-proportioned, but fat -- and the guy had a complete meltdown and kept insisting she wasn't fat because he does NOT like fat women 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:36 PM
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I'm seriously starting to suspect that men in these spaces think a prostitute is any woman who has sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:41 AM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:05 AM
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He's in the southern hemisphere I think
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:05 AM
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No, I think she drank more than she realizes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:17 PM
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When I was a kid I went hiking with my mom and told her I was scared of mountain lions. She said "I'm not" and I asked why and she said "Because I don't have to outrun the mountain lion, I just have to outrun you."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 01:18 PM
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Yeah, exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:31 AM
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Not realistic if you're breastfeeding. Desirable, sure. I never had any distrust of my husband alone with the baby and was happy for him to take on baby duty whenever he could.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 08:49 PM
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It can but not necessarily. Like if two brown-eyed parents both have the recessive blue-eyed gene, any given child of theirs will have a 25% chance of having blue eyes. I follow a woman on Tiktok whose child has a rare genetic condition that will most likely kill her before puberty. She, and most/all people with this condition, will never reproduce. She was born with her condition because both parents were unknowing carriers of the gene. She has a sister who does not have the condition but does …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:12 PM
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If you've ever been around babies it's obviously genetic. It's pretty apparent in the first few months of life whether a child is introverted or extroverted. As for your second question, there's nothing stopping introverted people from reproducing, especially in the ancestral evolutionary environment where you had to live among other people to survive. Introversion doesn't mean being a total shut-in recluse in a cave, it just means you are more internally oriented person. Plus, there are tons of…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:47 PM
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Yeah, it's usually the wives of very wealthy men who carry those luxury handbags. Poor girls carry counterfeits lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:43 PM
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Yes I'd agree that cultural Christians are most Christians. Your post specified conservative Christian virgin girls who to me bring to mind something much more niche. It's probably due to my upbringing and exposure to those types that I draw a distinction between the two. There is a whole universe of Christian women who are serious about living their faith, and they're not meeting Chad fuckboys because their entire social life from the time they were babies has been curated to consist only of ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:38 PM
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Well like I said, these guys weren't strangers to me when we started dating, so it moved a little more quickly. But yeah, if you're starting out with a total stranger I don't think there's really any way to know within the first couple of dates. There's a good chance even he doesn't know at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:02 PM
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The best tell is how quickly he wants to integrate you into his life. My second date with my husband we went to a sports bar to watch UFC with some of his siblings. Within a week or two of dating my college bf he invited me to his hometown and to meet his best friend. A guy's typically not going to want to introduce you to other people in his life if he just plans to fuck and run. (In both cases we knew each other socially before we dated, which is in itself a pretty good screening tool, so the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:53 PM
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I thought Jeff Bezos was the richest man in the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:05 PM
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Yeah, OP seems to be talking more about cultural Christian types. I'm like you, grew up in a strict religious community (not Mormon, but similarly insular) and went to a college affiliated with my church. Of course there were those who deflected and left the church, myself included, but the ones who took their religion seriously married young to another religious person, often one they'd grown up with in church camp and homeschool groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:25 AM
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Call the cops
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:16 PM
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lol I was the opposite, my mom was constantly encouraging me to take more pride in my appearance, take better care of my hair, wear a little makeup etc. and I did sometimes but I hated it. I do wish I had honed those skills a little earlier. And yeah, it's crazy expensive, and unfortunately the quality of the products you use really does matter so if you want your makeup to look really good you're usually going to have to cough up more for higher quality products and brushes. (That said, I just …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:02 PM
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a skill with that little time required to learn This is really understating the time required to become really good at makeup and styling. I've been wearing makeup since high school and I really only became good at it in the last couple years in my 30s (and even then, I'm still nowhere near Tiktok GRWM levels of skill). I still am not good at doing my hair, only so-so at styling outfits and completely inept at doing my nails. This stuff can be learned to an extent but like a lot of things there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:12 PM
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I've never seen any of the women in my family get into physical fights, even minor. My mom said she used to fight with her sister when they were teenagers but that's the only example I can think of. I have two brothers and they fought all the time, from the time they were little kids. My oldest brother and my dad got into several physical fights too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 12:57 PM
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It's happened before. It hurts at the time but life goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:58 AM
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Well, phonetically, you wouldn't expect "lose" to have an "ooh" sound. You'd expect it to rhyme with close or hose. Loose makes more sense phonetically, so I can see why that would be confusing for a non-native speaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:12 PM
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Sensuality and good makeout skills. A guy who enjoys making out and makes it a full-body experience isn't likely to be a dud once clothes come off.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:41 PM
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My husband and I were introduced by mutual friends. The guy I dated before him I met on Tumblr (lol) Guy before him, we had a class together and I crushed on him all semester, then I went to a party with a friend and he was there and I found out my friend knew him and I asked her to introduce us Guy before him I met through high school theatre
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:55 PM
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I grew up in one of those households that people say the kids would be better off if the parents divorced. My parents fought and yelled at each other all the time, constant tension, making kids choose sides, always walking on eggshells trying not to flare up our parents' tempers. Many times I wished they would get a divorce. Now that I'm older and have the benefit of hindsight as well as seeing what their relationship has evolved into after they got out of that rough patch (which lasted many yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 03:53 PM
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I'm a romantic (except I'm tall and romantics are supposed to be on the shorter side, but otherwise it fits me to a tee). I wish I were a theatrical romantic or some kind of dramatic. I like being curvy and feminine but I wish I had a little more edge. I especially hate my sloped shoulders and how fleshy my face is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:40 AM
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So it sounds like the black pill IS that it's temporary, which is the opposite of what you said two comments ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:59 AM
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I see this claim a lot. Which Disney movie was about "unconditional love"? In most Disney movies I can think of the prince had to win the princess over or prove himself in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:54 AM
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I don't see how the idea that women's love is conditional would be contradicted by having daughters. As a parent I'd think you'd WANT your daughters to love conditionally. Unconditional love (to the extent that it exists) is very dangerous for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:48 AM
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Lol my thoughts exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:58 PM
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This is survivorship bias. A huge portion of those grandparents who married in the 50s were the no fault divorce boom of the 70s and 80s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:53 AM
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I remember they handed one out at the end of one of our abstinence only assemblies but I don't remember if I signed it or not. I was an edgelord so I probably signed "Hugh Janus" or something
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:17 PM
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Any actual source for this? It sounds correct intuitively but most violence against women comes from acquaintances or partners (which women have a choice in). How do we know that women’s precautions have an impact? Most violence comes from acquaintances and partners because those are the men most often in a woman's proximity. There is one group of women who frequently find themselves isolated with male strangers -- sex workers. Look up those violence statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:08 PM
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CSAM is child porn
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 07:14 PM
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Same, never heard that name in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 03:01 PM
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Interesting. So for you it's not a physical representation of your love for your partner? Not really. It can be, but not inherently. Just like cooking for someone can be a great act of love but sometimes you just do it because you need to eat. By comfortable, do you mean physically or emotionally? Emotionally which makes it physically more comfortable too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:45 PM
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No you're the first person who's ever been annoyed with their significant other
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:43 PM
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If she's experiencing drastic hormonal shifts around her period she's probably not on birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:41 PM
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She was also beautiful, talented, generous and smelled incredible, basically the best person in the whole world probably
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 02:17 PM
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I prefer sex in an LTR because it's more comfortable, but I still just see it as something fun to do, not anything particularly special or meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 01:51 PM
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Literally who
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 12:18 AM
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I second this. Vertical mouse changed my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 11:07 PM
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It blows my mind that this tradition is even still a thing (to the extent that it is, which I doubt is much at all) in the age of cohabitation. "Sir, I've been playing house with your daughter and fucking her raw for five years, may I please have your permission to marry her?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 07:40 PM
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Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 04:27 AM
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The rule of thumb is half your weight in ounces. I'm a woman who weighs 145 lbs and I try to drink 70-75 oz a day, and I don't count my coffee. The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is drink two 12 oz glasses of water. And yes I pee constantly lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 02:56 AM
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I've been listening to the "Back to the Beach" podcast. If you're a millennial and remember Laguna Beach on MTV, it's two of the people who were on that show watching every episode and providing commentary. It's really interesting insight into how reality TV works. The show wasn't scripted, but it was very cleverly edited and entire storylines and love triangles that didn't exist in real life were created for the show through the magic of editing. They would also set people up to be in a certain…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 05:47 PM
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Infant is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:19 PM
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Those are the top 1 and 2 professions for women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:06 PM
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That's crazy. My son will be 2 in May and he will sit and watch a TV show for maybe 20 minutes before he gets bored and wants to do something else. Same with my niece who's the same age. My older niece will watch TV and Youtube for longer stretches but she didn't start doing that until she was 3 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 06:49 PM
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We should start shaming men for lifting weights since it's easier for them than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:32 PM
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I've used it twice and bought it both times. Didn't even discuss it with the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:29 PM
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Kids, yes. 18-month-olds not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:21 PM
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I'm not saying he shouldn't work. I'm saying he needs to either help out at home after work, relax his standards about how much she does at home, or hire help. Newborn stage is survival mode. She literally does not have time to take care of a newborn and an under-2 toddler (I'm not kidding when I say this is NONSTOP work in and of itself), keep a spotless home and keep up with her own sleep, fitness and hygiene too. According to OP, after a few months postpartum she lost the weight and started c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 04:15 PM
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I know what you meant but at first glance that sentence read as you being pregnant with a tall, handsome, successful toddler.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:51 PM
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The first year of a baby's life is an all hands on deck situation. That's especially true when you have an 18-month-old in addition to the newborn. That's pretty much the worst age gap possible for two kids. Feeding, burping, changing, bathing, soothing, supervising and cleaning up after two kids under 2 is literally around-the-clock work even when you don't factor in other domestic chores that have to get done. If the kids are being taken care of (which it sounds like they are) and he comes hom…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 02:44 PM
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I am that type of person. It's probably "lame" but I've never cared about that. Not everyone can be the main character, I like being supportive of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:11 PM
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Yeah. I can understand forgiving and staying with a cheater, but if you're going to do that, shut up and never tell a soul. It should stay between the two of you. Once that info gets out you have no control over what other people do with it and you just end up owning yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:33 PM
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Too bad, no takesie backsies
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:42 AM
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Feminists invented cold weather, so true bestie
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:39 PM
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Yeah, that's really terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 03:55 AM
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