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I agree with other posters. I completely understand that men notice and look at other women, but this behavior is awful in my opinion. If you've asked directly for what you want (please stop sending me those photos), start sending him salary numbers of higher earning men/positions and say "this is what I want you to make." If he gets upset then tell him that's what it feels like when he sends you those photos, despite reassuring him you are appreciative of what he does make. I say this with a he…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 06:17 PM
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When you give a gift to someone, what do you want them to do? Enjoy it and show gratitude! Smile! Doesn't it feel awesome when you give someone a gift and they love it? You see them wear it, use it, replace it, etc? It's a great feeling. Would you want them to hide the gift out of fear of losing it or give it to someone else because they feel guilty? No! You want to see them enjoy it! So if you are given something that feels like a gift, what should you do? Enjoy it and show gratitude! When you …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 07:05 PM
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OYS: Me 38, Husband 38, Married 12 years, 4 kids ages 7-11. WFH full time. Fun - 9/10 Going well! I am really enjoying hobbies and added a new one this week! I have an event this weekend and I am getting excited and nervous! Family - 9/10 Going well! Adore my husband, solid marriage. Love my kids and it's amazing to see them bloom. School is almost out and we will have some great family time with visitors and activities these next two busy weeks before ironing out a summer schedule for the famil…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 10:55 PM
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Ask him what his expectations are for this situation! :) I see you mentioned this a few times in the comments and in the original post. You can't fly blind and expect to do well. And if his expectations aren't in line with your wants/abilities, then it's better to know before going in. (If he doesn't know what he wants that's not good. Same, if you don't know what you want that's not good. Be clear with yourself too.) Good luck!
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 10:29 PM
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I have a six figure job but I'm now working from home and I *finally* have actual work/life balance. All my kids are in school but having someone at home has been amazing for our family for many reasons. Just a thought, with your experience have you considered being a telemedicine provider? It might not be six figures but it would be something and you could probably work from home.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 10:24 PM
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I have a husband, four kids, and pets. We strip 5 beds weekly. And then youngest still wets the bed occasionally so sometimes it's bedding for another "bed" or two although usually the sheet saver pads keep that somewhat down. On Saturday mornings (sometimes Friday night) I sort everything and make sure everything is right-side-out before washing. I then do laundry Sat/Sun and sometimes Mon depending on how busy the weekend is. I think there are usually 11 loads. Husband, Me, Older 2 Kids, Young…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/21 09:28 PM
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How do I find my worth and find true joy in serving him and my family when I still feel like I do an unfair share of the work? Am I just proving the point about the worthlessness of the "modern woman" with my perceived laziness and entitlement? Have you made a list of everything that needs to be done, what you want, what he wants, and who does what? I would get crystal clear about the situation in your mind of how you are feeling and what you want. Then go to him and ask for his feedback on the …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 03:24 PM
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Oh yes, there were times I was worried I would find no one. I told myself something like, "Well, if it's marry someone I don't match well with or be a cat lady, I'll be a cat lady." (I don't particularly like cats). I played Cat Powers "where is my love" song on loop one particularly depressed weekend. I did not know my husband was The One. I almost passed his online profile because I thought he was short. I'm glad I ignored that hamster flash. We also had a very awkward first date. Yes I had he…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 02:29 PM
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Like others have said, this is your issue. I would not talk to your husband about it. Being needy and insecure is unattractive, period. People age. Even those younger nurses will not look like younger nurses someday. So regardless of belly skin or not it's an issue you'll have to deal with as you age. This is a great chance to do that. I know what you mean - even when I was at my fittest there was still stretched skin that wasn't going away and it was demoralizing. However, humans are imperfect.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/19 04:36 PM
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1 You can't ensure you won't get stepped on and taken advantage of again. You can check your motives and expectations...very honestly. If you have an expectation you will feel terrible. (i.e. "They never reciprocate.") That's what I've seen with codependent/doormat behavior - mine and others. We think if I do A the other person will do B. Even if B is only "they will thank me" that's still an expectation and if they don't do B then your A feels like it was taken advantage of. So you have to figu…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 02:21 PM
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I understand why you feel "behind". I think everyone feels that way at some point. We are bombarded with images and news of how awesome other people are doing. Unless we're close to someone it's much more likely they will share good news rather than bad news. Well, the time is over. That was the past. I don't know if you "wasted" the time or not but it is what it is. I think college was the worst time in my life as well, but I did meet my husband and turn myself around because of college so in a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 01:58 PM
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Aw! My worst breakup I literally couldn’t eat for two days. I journaled SO MUCH. I kept going over the reasons why it needed to end. I asked God/Universe to help me. I didn’t try to stop the grief or deny it or hide it - I felt it and accepted it. And I knew the relationship logically wasn’t going to be what I really wanted in the long run. I kept myself busy. I stayed accountable to friends so I didn’t reach out to him. I made notes of what kind of person I didn’t want to be (girl who threw her…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 02:01 AM
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I did’t/don’t like talking to people so I looked at dating as a way to practice social skills. (I also became a waitress for the same reason.) It helped take the pressure off of finding someone and made the process itself useful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 01:55 AM
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I wanted multiple kids and I wanted to be done by age 35 at the very latest. My husband wanted all kids out of the house by age 55 so our youngest would be born around age 35 at the latest as well. So that meant with an approx 18mo-2 year space between kids, and barring fertility issues, that I would need to be married mid 20s. Which is what we did. I was done with kid #4 at age 31 and I'm so glad I did that. Every year it takes me longer to physically recover from things and I am very appreciat…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 09:09 PM
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I am sorry this is happening. I know what a punch in the gut it is for someone to criticize things about you that you can't change. (I am no longer with that guy.) If you are his first girlfriend and he is 27 that is a huge red flag to me on top of the rest of this. To answer your question if you want to speak to him I would tell him this: I want to be with you. I love you and I want to be happy together. I am happy to do what I can to make you happy. I don't like it when you comment on my appea…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 04:08 PM
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Aw, I'm sorry to hear this! I remember being 24 and thinking I would end up being a cat lady (and I don't like cats that much.) It is AWFUL to be searching like this. Perhaps consider widening your dating sites to bigger geographic areas? Consider moving if you really match with someone online? Consider moving anyway? There are younger congregations in big cities so perhaps seek those out for the social opportunities? My husband is more liberal than I am but our daily behavior and values are sim…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 03:52 PM
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Make a list of what you have to offer in a relationship and your behavior. THEN make a list of what you're looking for and make sure it matches so your expectations are realistic. You're in this sub so the exercise shouldn't be too hard on you. (LOL When some nonRP acquaintances/friends did this it was DRAMA - "oh, so I want a man who does the dishes, makes 6 figures, and is at least 6" tall but my 6 figure college debt, full sink, and jeans+sneakers style isn't going to attract such a man!?" Th…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 03:18 PM
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My perspective: Al-Anon and ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) can be full of very enabling people who choose victimhood over setting boundaries and defining/working for their wants - but that is why they are there so it's like being mad that hospitals are full of sick people. If you keep going find someone who scares you because they are direct, honest, and care and ask them to sponsor you. They exist and they are the best sponsors. If a woman has a reputation as "tough" she's a good candidate.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 10:52 PM
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