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FDS TRANSLATES MENhopelesscanary/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:03 PM
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A disrespect for boundaries which may or may not be subtle. Can range from groping you out of nowhere to insisting on sex acts despite your reluctance or enthusiasm. deviant sexual desires like public sex, voyeurism, anal, degrading things all the way to some obscure niche shit like farts or something. fixation on a particular body part beyond a healthy appreciation for what you have. Claiming to be a "boob man", "ass man". sex feels soulless during sex their gaze fixates on you like a camera do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 01:01 AM
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I used to be in your daughter's position where I rejected my mother's FDS-oriented advice and dismissed it as antequated. Something I wished my mother did instead of lecturing me about how this or that diminishes a woman's perceived worth was to point out, from a place of compassion and care, how much more women have to lose and how men and women don't have the same approaches to dating. I say this because centring the argument on the woman's "worth" came off as old-school misogynistic to me whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 10:43 AM
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If you end up in 4 good 3-month long relationships as opposed to one shitty, painful, excruciating 12-month long relationship, good. You're winning This is something I struggle to internalise. In my youth I'd hear men talking about "serial monogamist" women that hop from guy to guy and I felt like having a shitty long relationship looked better than short term ones, and I get too attached to someone with familiarity and time even knowing they are subpar. I was way too passive and felt a sense of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:47 AM
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Hahah Queen move, seriously. He brought it up in the car on purpose to count on you falling back on being nice and letting yourself be trapped with him since you're in the middle of nowhere together. He got exactly what he deserved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:39 AM
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If men were visual creatures you'd think they'd look better as a whole. One of my exes has the audacity to tell me this when he had unflattering haircut, unflattering glasses frames, boring clothes and didn't decorate anything of his. "if men are visual creatures, why do you look like shit?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 02:05 AM
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I was about to give in to my ex's requests for anal because I felt I owed it to him because he was a "good guy" and I did it before (he kept asking even when I told him I never enjoyed it and I only agreed very, very unenthusiastically). I would have went through with it if I hadn't learned FDS and it was starting to sink in, and I realised I didn't have to do that for anybody. Whenever I turned down a sexual act "without discussion" he would sulk. When I didn't feel like sex he would press me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 12:23 AM
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Women over communicate because they project their own good faith onto men, and most men don't deserve this. When women learn that many men are not acting in good faith, it makes all the difference. It's a tall barrier for most to jump over, but the view on the other side is worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:23 AM
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I used to constantly yield when exes would hound me for "closure" just so they'd leave me alone. My recent ex has come to hound me (for the second time) because I started dating someone else. The first time I wrote an angry paragraph because he pestered me to that point. Now I wield my silence as a weapon because these entitled pricks don't deserve another breath from me. It hurts him and I'd be lying if I say I don't feel a little bit good about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:18 AM
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The art of non verbal communication is lost on these recent generations. When did it become normal to cOmMuNiCaTe someone into treating you with basic decency? Why is it always on us to spell out every single thing and never on him to use his fucking brain and meet us in the middle. I've found myself resenting a man even after we "communicated" and "talked it out" and I couldn't figure out why. I now realise that I resented the argument even happening in the first place, that I really had to spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:13 AM
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As an Asian woman that has observed how these men speak in Asian groups, here are my personal observations these men are often self-hating and had issues dating in their youth, usually pinning it onto their race. Look for resentment towards Asian women and a recent history of dating white women I think these men often had an ugly duckling phase when they were younger, resulting in them having a less than satisfactory dating life (usually in high school, college). Often they later get into doing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:15 AM
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Men will always take advantage of women when given the opportunity and without consequences. Even when there are laws against sexual assault they will find loopholes through coercion, etc. During wartime when normal laws go out the window, they rape the women because they can. You have low life men fantasising across the globe about taking advantage of women fleeing for their lives right now. These men are given the slightest leverage and already salivating over the prospect of preying on vulner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 11:00 PM
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I also want to add points for how closely involved he is with gaming culture, and how his personality traits when gaming can seep into his behaviours. Does he throw around slurs without abandon? Does he speak to you the same way he talks to his bros if you're not good at a game? Does he know how to moderate his language to consider your feelings? Does he have a band of gamer bros always on discord that he never steps away from? Is he always tapping away on his phone to his online buddies, does h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 11:49 PM
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I don't trust men that have too many female "friends" when they clearly bring nothing to the table in a female friendship or nothing in common. I've noticed men that genuinely get along with women tend to have more female socialisation in the form of: having higher EQ and are not emotionally stunted, more expressive generally considerate and in tune with how their words come off also gets along with men just fine, the point is they get along with everybody ability to adapt a more feminine commun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:41 PM
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I respect how comprehensive this is, even if I don't agree with it all (like the engineer one). The rest are specific and spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:29 PM
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This is an excellent point. "I'm the prize" is a good stepping stone away from "I don't deserve anything", but everyone should strive to become priceless in the end. I also appreciate those pointing out how the phrase reinforces an internalised misogyny as it's still objectifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:01 AM
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My ex didn't do jack about his snoring and expected me to wear earplugs, which are uncomfortable to sleep in. Told me his exes would "get used to it" or even came to appreciate it because it was an indicator that "he's alive". Fuck that nonsense, I'm a light sleeper and it wasn't soft consistent snoring either. Every snore sounded like a pig struggling to breathe in a different way so I couldn't even treat it like ambient noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:13 PM
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I've noticed this too. I swear every movement, including the woke ones, are rampant with misogyny and it goes unnoticed. You call a gay man that offends you a f--got, you'll be called homophobic. You call a black person that offends you the n word, you'll be called racist. You call a woman that offends you a b--ch, then it's overreacting to call you a misogynist? Even though b--- has lost some power because of casual use (boss b--ch, I'm that b--ch, b--- please etc), it's still used as a slur ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:36 PM
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They are wholly uninterested in the woman's inner life or her as an autonomous being. This is underrated and one of the lesser evils of the average man. The average man is not outrageously abusive or even outwardly misogynistic in a hateful way, but many don't truly see us for the person we are. Often I've felt like they look at me and only see what they want from me, but when I express any quirks or traits outside the "girlfriend" package, it feels like their eyes glaze over as they wait for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 10:45 PM
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Groping a certain part of me when he had the chance but acting cutesy about it like a pervy anime character 🤮. Making brain-dead counter-arguments instead of engaging when I wanted an intellectual debate or generally when I spoke of my beliefs. Insisting on sex saying I "can just lie there" even when I said I didn't feel like it. Showing subtle misogyny in the way he talked about women that displeased him. It took nearly a year for everything to sink in, culminating in my gut screaming at me to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:35 PM
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Watch how he reacts to women that disagree with him or otherwise displease him. Even if she is in the wrong it's a red flag if he calls her slurs like "btch" or "whre", any phrase/remark that would not be said about a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:22 AM
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This is why spaces like fds matter. Instead of just repeating the symptoms of abusive behaviour, we actually dissect their sources, precursors and origins. Everyone talks big about how abuse and battery is bad but when you point out clear precursors for disrespect that lead to said battery and abuse, everyone will say you're overreacting or need to lighten up. Violent behaviour doesn't spring up in a vacuum. This is a man venting his anger and hatred physically at his wife. People will turn a bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:32 AM
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I will always give women the benefit of the doubt for having a high "body count" because they were likely misguided, naive or were pressured by some guy at least once. Men with a high body count got there deliberately and most definitely see women as consumables. What's more likely: he encountered soo many women that pressured or coerced him, or that he's simply a sleazy dog? I am not sorry for holding this double standard 🖕🏻.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:12 AM
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Women now have so much more freedom to leave marriages/relationships, yet feel like they must squander this freedom to stay with men that clearly hate them or are indifferent at best. How utterly depressing that progress comes at such a cost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:06 AM
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Underrated point. If you're running into problems that require "communication" within 3 months, it's not worth it. Everything should be exciting and smooth sailing at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:11 AM
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Great post, this really hits the nail on the head. If you've experienced blatant mistreatment like verbal abuse or stonewalling, you easily mistake this type as a HVM. They make you feel like a bad person for asserting your boundaries ("you shut me down like that without discussion", "you assumed my intentions which hurts me"), and will instigate drawn out talks where they invalidate your reasons for wanting/not wanting something in the name of cOmMuNicAtiOn. I've noticed a tell-tale sign of thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:14 AM
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I too have had the misfortune of dealing with the Man That Could Not Be Woken. Worse when he told me to wake him up, yet when I tried shoving him, everything etc he would refuse to get up even though I KNOW he was awake. When I gave up and went back to sleep, I would wake up to being yelled at for not "trying harder". These fucking man children do it on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:48 AM
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Not controlling his strength. If you playfully wrestle or playfully hit him with a pillow he fucking goes 100 and body slams you on the ground. This is him taking out his anger and hate on you. Watch him start laughing after and say he was playing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:35 AM
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These are the same types that complain about modern women being sl-ts and blaming the downfall of western civilisation on them. You are participating in the very degeneracy you are complaining about. You're no fucking better, in fact you're worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:26 AM
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Not a quote but a salient point. The root of an abuser's behaviour isn't anger, mental illness, traumatic childhood or whatever. It's entitlement, a mindset problem. It's not their chemical imbalances or their experiences - it's their values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:25 AM
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Same except mine told me I was being "extreme". That, amongst other brain dead arguments he gave when I tried sharing things I've learned is why he's an ex now. I'm glad your one listened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:38 AM
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I understand and support the message behind this post. I think if you were to put this into practice, it'd be better to remove sex out of the questions and see if he names women anyway. Otherwise, he might catch on and name-drop what makes him look more progressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:38 AM
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By kingdom he means his slum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:44 AM
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Not even my shittiest bfs acted like that post-coitus. If he wants you gone after sex he fucking hates you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:46 AM
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I totally get that. It was more to draw a similarity between the two. One could also say that handmaidens were groomed from birth by family, society so it's not entirely a conscious choice. In a sense these women are also slaves to social programming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:29 AM
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Here's my way of interpreting it. Atwood's Handmaids were used to breed and maintain the legacy of Gilead. Handmaidens similarly uphold and continue "breeding" the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:27 AM
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I've been seeing terms like "hit the wall" and the idea behind the "cock carousel" used openly by young men on Facebook now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:05 AM
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Before introducing my friend to FDS I first scoped out her views to see if she'd be receptive. You may have to accept that she's not ready yet or never will be. What I recommend is instead of simply pointing to the sub is to direct them to the handbook or specific text posts (or tiktoks if thats what she likes). I really think FDS shines through the text posts rather than the memes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:18 PM
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A HVM would not demote you for asking him out because his respect for women isn't dependent on something like this. If he happens to like you, he'll still be good to you. If not he will politely reject you and not mock you once you're gone. However, a hvm will also be able to ask out a woman he's interested in as well. The point of waiting for a man to ask is to filter out the weakest and most passive men that are at best lukewarm towards you. Then you are left with the ones that at least want y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:25 AM
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And to think this is the best case scenario, that she gets turned down rather than get used for guaranteed sex. We really will get absolutely nothing from asking men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:10 AM
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They're boring because their entire personality is sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:28 AM
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Men have both men and women sticking up for them. Women only have women overwhelmingly. My experience differs maybe because of my age and environment, but I do see men making posts about mens' issues independently now and then. Even then I don't engage beyond thinking "good for them" because it's not my fight and they have enough women virtue signalling for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:36 AM
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And just because it has become normal, doesn't mean it's right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:44 AM
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Gonna add to the softboi list has majority female friends despite having no female dominated hobbies or jobs because he "just gets along better with girls" every argument he will run and cry in the shoulder of said female friend(s) thinks he's not like other guys because he doesn't use you for sex, but uses you for your money, time, emotional labour and support listens to sad/angry music and gets intense about it like he's an edgy anime protagonist manipulative as shit thinks being depressed mea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:36 AM
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I think that one has a better chance of being genuine. But he could be flattering you or love bombing, so best to make him elaborate on how you inspire him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:26 AM
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Thanks for that. And yes, I was writing it with people more new to FDS in mind and thought these were subtle signs that needed to be said :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:24 AM
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Inb4 mad scrotes saying "wow so we can't compliment women on their personality either!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:47 AM
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Thanks! Yes "you calm me down like no one else" would be a great addition. It's important to read between the lines for compliments rather than being starved for kind words as you said ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:42 AM
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I'm not autistic but I relate to every word here as I didn't get socialised the same way or enough as most women, or I rejected it as a stubborn child. Here are some things I've noticed and researched back handed compliments or 'banter' guilt tripping, even if playful sharing too much mundane information in one go (overcompensating for dishonesty and trying to distract you) forcing familiarity too quickly (asking or sharing personal things very quickly, rushing the pace of the relationship, LOVE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:15 AM
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Passionate and public verbal declarations of love. Growing up as a child I would see this happen in movies and it'd be framed as romantic. While I wasn't a die-hard fan, I still accepted the idea without thinking. Eventually it happened to me from a manipulative NVM and it was nothing but embarrassing and pathetic. In real life, when a man feels compelled to yell "I LOVE HER!" in front of company, it indicates a turbulent and dramatic relationship. Now anytime I see such actions I cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:03 AM
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This is why I believe in equity/liberation rather than equality. We should be forging our own paths to be better, not compete with men in being degenerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:50 AM
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Wow he's so quirky 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:58 AM
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I remember being irked when someone referred to a woman prostituting herself for drugs or food as a "sex worker". How dare you lump a 16 year old in the Philippines selling herself to survive with 26 year old Becky from North America charging $10 for nudes to "explore herself" ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:38 AM
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Wow men are such ❄s. They should learn to take a joke and stop overreacting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:46 AM
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This is what's wrong with the "everything is valid uwu" movement. A teenager is picking up violent and dangerous ideas about sex and the woke crowd are telling OP to overlook the beginning signs of abuse because the victim cOnSeNteD. The top comments are disgusting, but there are a few sane ones towards the bottom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:40 AM
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long distance polyamorous That's a lot of words to say "single"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:41 AM
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Unfortunately, a lot of women crave the intimacy you get in relationships, and as a result are willing to rush the dating process and get overly comfortable too soon with someone who hasn't earned it. They like to brag about first dates that are activities you'd do as an established couple. Like, NO I am not going to have a home cooking date, hike, watch movies at home with takeaway, or get mcdonalds with a guy I barely know romantically! Where is the common sense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:21 AM
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Oh, they flirt with women on discord too 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:13 AM
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It's always the ones with no ambition and drive devaluing the importance of money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:58 AM
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He wants to play the feminine role, but still calls himself the captain. Man's a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:56 AM
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Lundy Bancroft is the author of the book "Why does he do that?" which is everything you need to know about abusive men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:08 AM
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Only on reddit are men effeminate enough to want flowers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:52 AM
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These feminine hobbies are benefical for your body or mind and produce something valuable to be enjoyed. There are masculine hobbies that do this too, but the men who mock feminine hobbies are the ones that prefer to rot in front of a screen all day producing nothing, yet they think they're better than you... For some reason. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:19 AM
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Reading this made me itchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:16 AM
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MBTI has little to no scientific basis. This is coming from someone that has tested INTJ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:34 AM
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Conversely, some prefer girls because they hold girls to higher standards. They believe girls are more sensible, servile, obedient and docile than their rowdy male counterparts. I can't see why anyone would have strong gender preferences for children except to impose harmful and antiquated stereotypes on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:49 AM
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Re-entered university (with distinction marks) which he forced me to drop out of, reconnected with friends he isolated me from, lost 5-6kg from taking up swimming, volunteered, new job, picked up new interests and trying a new hobby, took control of what I wore, improved my skincare, walked freely outside, learned freely, looked people in the eye without him breathing down my neck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:57 AM
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v for very
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:19 AM
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You'll never find an FDS equivalent on Facebook. I know groups that have the "take no shit from men" energy and discuss similar female issues or level up tips, but they wouldn't endorse FDS tactics and are often full of porn-loving libfems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:29 AM
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When (LV) guys say they have no emotional support networks, they really mean "I don't have a pretty girl to take care of my fee fees :(((" . I have witnessed guys pushing away fellow men reaching out to him because he wanted a girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 04:20 AM
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I'd say it's a red flag if he doesn't have a female-dominated hobby or job. Straight guys that have all/vast majority female friends often are manipulative, overemotional and prey on women's caring nature by the "woe is me" sad boy shtick. I think it's worth asking why he doesn't get along with an entire sex whether it's his one or the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:09 AM
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If he dies, he dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:48 AM
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Sounds waaaaay too intimate. I was floored by how everyone was telling this woman it's ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 01:55 AM
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Men on reddit: women all secretly hate each other and their friendships are fake Also men: we're less happy when single compared to women because women have better support networks They should keep their narrative straight 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:11 AM
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💯, I hate this narrative that just because a guy is ugly he'll have a hEaRt oF goLd and treat you better by default. Ugly men can be and often are worse for the reasons you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:03 PM
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