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Not likely...and especially not by giving him attention(narcissistic supply). Move on. Stop being "friends" with toxic people.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/25 02:18 PM
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I feel bad for the guys that can't ab/use and discard young women...so so sad for them...do you see why no one cares about your "predicament"? Did you have a father and mother together growing up? What about sisters? Would you like them treated that way by men? Facing the potential of pregnancy and STDs for what? A ONS that she probably wouldnt even enjoy? Are you crazy? Why would any sane woman risk that? And here you are shaming women who have casual sex when your desires are "ick"(to put it m…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 06:40 PM
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Outspoken and opinionated Boss Babes have more test, so I would say being talkative is more masculine. https://www.sbs.com.au/news/article/behaving-like-a-boss-increases-womens-testosterone-levels/03tu8tzjl
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 05:18 AM
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So you think the govt is better off raising the kids that result from polyamory than one mother and father through monogamy? GTFOH
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 11:18 PM
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I don't think being socially awkward "like Elon Musk" is the problem. Maybe he's narcissistic or rude to women in other ways? Elon jokes a lot about not having success with women but I have a feeling he does have success. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:56 PM
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I'm sure part of the problem is they are probably embarrassed IRL having such strong mental associations with typical woman to porn stars.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:31 PM
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No. The context in which children are created matters. For both the women and their children. You have a pure misogynist take. The young guys can't get their rocks off as easy. Who cares? If they were effective men interested in marriage,they will get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:57 PM
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Well you are average for your age because that's what happens to bachelor men in their late 30s typically. You may still talk to friends on the phone or online gaming, but you only see them maybe a few times a year. That's why men age out of "dating for fun" at that time too. Because it's less exciting for a woman if a man has no social life. So then a man has to treat women as more serious prospects....she becomes the friend he sees all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 03:21 PM
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Ok? So you make 100k a year and yet can't pay for a site that makes your intentions look more serious? 🤔 Otherwise get an active hobby with your friends-like volleyball. My husband was into that especially when he was single. But I met him on a paid site. 🤷‍♀️ He was making 50k when I met him and he could pay for that, now he's making 140k so...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 06:00 PM
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So you have nothing to offer a woman besides sex. Pass...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:45 PM
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Sure it does. Because if a woman is seeking a serious relationship she might take other things about you into account-personality, career, values, etc. She may place less importance on model looks. If she's just out to use a male body(rare in women's mentality), she's just going for looks. Of course she would try for even above her level and she would get him because men are easy! I hear that all the time on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:41 PM
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What are you looking for? Hookups, STRs or marriage? The reason "average men" might not have as much success as "above average men" is probably because both are looking for the same thing(casual) and the woman thinks hey why wouldn't I go with a more conventionally attractive guy if that's all I'm getting out of this deal? You might have to go on paid sites that indicate you are serious about seeking marriage-it would give a better impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:55 PM
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To give you an example, I was recently banned from r/redpillwomen for being speculative over suspicious male actions. BUT, as a woman you will not be banned or have comments removed for saying something misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:22 PM
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Redpill women are exactly like Andrew Tate in that they are misogynist not misandrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:20 PM
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They aren't red pill. And they probably aren't misandrist. If you want an example of a "red pill woman" it's Pearly Things who says to expect a "high value man" to cheat. They are huge into female subservience in all aspects.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:50 PM
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I think it's because Red Pill men and Red Pill women think men who I guess are supposedly "high value" because they are well off(enough) and they could commit to marriage one day to a certain level of woman(?) should be allowed to shirk the consequences of slutting around so to speak in the meantime.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:00 PM
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Yeah I think so too. Men would be wise to just better themselves and lower their expectations in one way or another. Red pill women are beaten down, (hopefully temporarily)brainwashed and desperate women. If a man wants an equal earning partner(because teh economy),it would be silly to expect more from her in other areas of your life. Tbh I don't follow RPW subservience and I am a SAHM and have never been close to a Boss Babe. 😆 If I were a Boss Babe, well my patience for mens entitlement would …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:30 PM
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But then again OP is not trad....looking at her post history she's a stripper/escort so she's probably trying to be a GD or sugarbaby.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 09:49 PM
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She said drinks....that usually means more than one. Also, a truly HVM can pay for a first date dinner at a casual restaurant even in this economy. Alternatively, going on a coffee date sends a much better signal. If you need to rely on alcohol to "loosen up" that's not a good sign.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 09:45 PM
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He wants to see you drunk and vulnerable to making bad choices? Yeah probably wants something casual. 😕 That's just my first impression from that suggestion. I'm traditional not red pill as well. I would recommend switching to a coffee date to see his reaction and if you do go for "drinks" just sip one drink slow. Don't have too much on an empty stomach. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 07:57 PM
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Lol of course he's not that great. Seems he's moved on to find another temporary thing which is probably what most women would put up with him for. Don't give so much to undeserving men so early.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 12:27 AM
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Weird someone downvoted this. Of course she should ask financial support. He created the child too. If he didnt want a child, he should take responsibility and wrap up or not have sex. Doesnt take a lawyer to figure that one out. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 08:12 PM
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That's true. Redpill seems more closely aligned with Islam
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:57 PM
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It's the influence of a religion and it isn't Catholic...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:55 PM
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If you are late blooming you probably weren't all that attractive to begin with. Usually pretty boys in their 20s might get more rugged/fill out a bit in their 30s/40s. Those are the late bloomers. But um to answer your question...NO. Absolutely fucking not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:16 AM
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I'm confused. If a woman get an orgasm from oral that doesn't need to be the end of the sex. Is that what you think, OP? Also, it really doesn't matter the size of your D. Many women cannot come from D alone and if they do on occasion, it's not consistent like your orgasms surely are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:26 AM
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Not weird at all. Preferable for the women who want children to move on....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:21 PM
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I was not physically attracted to men in their 30s when I was in my early 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 03:00 AM
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Because it's a good life if he's a good man. That's why it is soooooo SO important to vet in this day and age as there are not as many quality men. If you are religious that might help focus your search. There are some things not as important(he doesnt need to look like Bradley Cooper lol), but if he doesn't share your most important goals and values in life including being a SAHW/SAHM, not helpful or considerate, then move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:51 AM
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Not if those young men weren't marriage minded. Women want commitment, not to go on the CC. Most "young men" are frat boy types that just want to add to her numbers and decrease her relationship value. Not a problem at all. Go women. Men grow up, get a career, think about marriage/family, then you will get sex on the regular....or at least more often than "young men".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 08:40 PM
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It's fine to have expectations. This is early on...he's not going to change for you. He barely knows you. This is probably just how he treats women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 09:15 PM
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Lol you don't get it. Undeserving means a man thinking that showing a woman "a good time" with/without his money while he isnt marriage minded....it doesn't matter if rich or poor. If he's just a fuckboi/casual sex guy he's not worth it. I will be promoting high standards of vetting for my daughters.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:25 PM
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Nope not then either. What exactly are you after sir? There are ladies that do that sort of work for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:49 PM
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If he's an avoidant man, he's likely to engage in negative behaviors besides not taking initiative when "in a relationship". I wouldnt bother tbh....
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 04:37 PM
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I was mainly talking about transactional mentality in some men. Oh he paid for dinner? Hes spent a few dates with her? He now feels entitled to sex...well who cares? Let him feel angry. If he's a good guy and that into her, he will wait until she's ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 01:56 PM
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I think it upsets people...particularly entitled feeling men. But I will be telling my daughters better to have memories of an man being angry at being turned down than have memories of giving it to an undeserving man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:30 AM
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I think single childless women tend to be cautious when dealing with men approaching 40 or beyond. So his prospects have probably dried up unless he's dealing with divorced women with children or just women who want to use him. But then again women could get young men for just that sort of deal....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:15 PM
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Fuck bois are not necessarily high value because their schtick only tends to work with young insecure girls or women that wouldn't want them for a relationship with continual sexual availability anyway. You can be a gymbro fuckboi with no intelligence, swag, money or wit but she will get bored easily with that. Taking advantage of insecure or traumatized women...that's not high value. Neither is bagging fat and unattractive young women. Just because you can get numbers doesn't mean they are qual…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:43 PM
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About some women, I dislike Flakiness Trauma dumping...especially when I hardly know you Backstabbing Envy Gossip Not knowing much if anything about current events Not changing destructive paths Exclusiveness in groups Extreme immodest clothing in settings specific to families with children When they condone bad behavior from men because he's so "high value". Riiiiight....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:36 PM
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No, misogyny is spread by red pill men and red pill women. I've heard RP men and women say that if a man is a provider he's "owed" this or that in the bedroom....whether it be bjs everyday, nothing for her, opening up the marriage, threesomes, you get the picture. Oh and she better just keep her head in the sand if he's cheating on her. It's disgusting...I had to leave RP women reddit after hearing all the extreme subservience and Stepford Wife behavior. Women ARE more emotional you got that rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:17 PM
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Well that's just silly and lazy thinking. Meanwhile those guys go after specifically beautiful girls thinking they deserve them because they are "nice". 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:09 PM
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RP: Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. BP: If a woman doesn't have monogamy with her "HVM", there is nothing in it for her as his resources could/will be spent on other women/their children, and it puts her at risk for STDs. In other words anything outside of monogamy, decreases his relationship value. A high numbers man and a high numbers woman could both be psychologically damaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:02 PM
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What are some things that a provider man might think he is "owed" because he's the provider that some women would put up with(at least until they crack) and some women wouldn't ever put up with? That's probably your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:53 AM
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Well yeah plus she said "he wanted to discuss taking care of HIS needs. How we should try something new like a threesome." I mean...that's for his "needs"? He's putting that on her that he needs to f another woman within marriage? He's nasty. And OP wrote in a previous post he hardly spends time with his kids. That her and the grandparents live together taking care of the kids while he's out working and socializing after work. He sees them maybe an hour a day. He is not acting like a good man...…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 09:05 PM
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I think the red pill community has to quit thinking the way to a happy relationship/marriage is complete subservience of the woman...as in having her do things she doesn't want to do to please/keep him(as in, threesomes, opening up the relationship/marriage, bjs everyday, no pleasure for her) and insisting on her being super agreeable all the time when he isn't being thoughtful or agreeable himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 02:40 AM
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No the 2nd man...you were his sugar mama. He said "you love love and I love money". He was with you for sex and provision. He broke up with you because he could tell you were a nice lady and he felt guilty for using you/wasting your time, but he was not into you in that way. Another thing...Most men do not care about long term compatibility if you meet their short term goals unless they are absolutely seriously searching for their wife to soon get married to and have children. I'm sure you met a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 09:16 PM
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Well there are various reasons that it didn't work out with each one of those guys but they had one thing in common. They were trying to make exceptions for this or that about you or them and they couldn't. So I'm not sure why you are posting. You either learn that you will need to meet a unicorn or change your path in life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:42 PM
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Well-thought experiment- if a man is "not looking to have kids/family" and has adequate self esteem and abilities and doesnt need your money, do you think he cares to settle down with one woman who may not be his ideal visually? I think it's pretty rare that men with options who don't value a future family settle unless they are poly or swingers.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 07:26 PM
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Right? Big difference between a threesome while pregnant with twins and...just having sex with your wife and not a 3rd partner? How does he not get that?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 07:13 PM
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Men aren't demisexual so stop looking at things from your POV. So low self esteem men get with you and you pay for them? It's not that they are actually ugly it's just that they feel like a loser because they lack abilities in other areas of their lives. They have no success with most women so say they feel ugly...they may feel that way or it may just be manipulation to get you to feel sorry for them and give them things. Also your OP was confusing as to whether you or he wanted kids. Well, it's…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 05:07 PM
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You obviously aren't selective though. You might be selective in the looks dept(gay man and sugar baby), but you aren't selecting for traits in a man that will provide for a family.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 04:58 PM
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These relationships sound like sugar mama type deals. Even if a man is strong/attractive, doesn't mean he is Alpha. He could be the one relying on his looks to get sex/provision from a woman. If you want to know how a man really feels about you, you need to be on a more even keel in the looks department. As another poster said, losing weight will get the attention of more men. It's also better for your health during pregnancy if you aren't obese, so better to start now.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 04:44 PM
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I will only suggest you need to stop settling. You are settling for obviously not good guys(openly poly guys while you are NOT). I don't know about you, but if I were you(a divorcee with 2 kids), I would concentrate on my 2 kids and not keeping up with a sleezy fuckboi. Don't you feel too mature for that? Most women aren't virgins at 30, but please stop selling yourself short.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 10:43 PM
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Lol no definitely not single. I've had 5 kids. And I had sex during pregnancy(the best sex ever) and my husband initiated sex soon after pregnancy. I just recognize his behavior as odd to put it mildly. Men are still very horny even with lack of sleep. Women are different in that way... Hey good luck to her though whatever is going on....she has to be the one to communicate with him, not us redditors.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 03:50 PM
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She was pregnant with triplets. It's incredibly tone deaf to suggest a threesome at such a physically and emotionally vulnerable time. What she's supposed to feel all sexy compared to the other woman during the threesome? Come on. What a disgusting, disrespectful suggestion. Most wives consider it cheating and even outside of pregnancy would not be OK with it. Post birth restrictions last for 6 weeks. This has gone on for over a year. He's getting those sex "needs" met somehow.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 03:39 PM
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He will have the audacity to ask for a threesome but not ask for sex with his wife for over a year. Hmm...
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 03:16 PM
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That's great he is taking care of your physical needs to rest. The thing is, men are still horny(!) even if they are up all night with the baby. Men have a lot more testosterone which gives their adrenals a boost. So how is he dealing with his sexual needs for over a year?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 02:45 PM
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If he's a simp most likely he's ugly and being extremely hypergamous in the looks department. Guys with single moms tend to bring about more single moms-casual sex/fuckboi types, not this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 05:31 PM
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I'm surprised she wants to be barefoot and pregnant.What? No Louboutins? 😆 There's just so much to make fun of this obviously fake post. I want to see the guy in such a scenario though. Does he look like Shrek and she like Ana de Armas? What provider with options would put up with this?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 04:11 PM
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It's excruciating because it's fake.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 03:50 PM
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Unless this guy is a lot older or unattractive and OP is just a 10. I can't even see an average looking man with a provider income putting up with this behavior from a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 03:08 PM
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I think a woman could get an attractive Alpha with money or average looking Beta with money if she plays her cards right. Most guys cant even achieve Beta Bucks provider type value unfortunately....and if they can't achieve it, they can't foist their crazy RP expectations upon their mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:10 AM
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Yeah among bitter, emotionally avoidant men which RPM reddit is full of. Mental illness in men is common-1/5 men are diagnosed with mental illness. Think of all those who don't get diagnosed and use sexuality against women.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 05:36 AM
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Exactly. Most men can't even achieve beta bucks level of value to women. LOL! 1/10 men in the U.S. make 6 figures or more. It's hilarious when average to below average men talk about how their woman needs to show him something she brings to the table-something MORE than other women when those men aren't special themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:01 AM
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Do you want to deliver a baby vaginally one day? Because that seems like it could cause some issues down the road. He might just have a micropenis. It's not unheard of. I doubt a large penis could make an impact on vagina size. Lol At any rate, you should probably stop sleeping around with these low level guys...go into nun mode for awhile.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:36 AM
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Did you ever consider this guy was emotionally disturbed? Your encounters with him seem scary. Best not to think about "leagues" when a man is not interested in commitment in general.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 12:31 AM
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A young man who's attractive enough to have sex is not necessarily an Alpha as he took advantage of you. You are not Alpha widowed, but you should take some time off of involvement with men in ANY capacity. I think you are too desperate for male affection. You settle too easily for disgusting behavior. You need to work on your health and your self-esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 10:26 PM
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Is he married to her? Whats the guarantee for her while he "builds his career" hardly ever being around to build emotional intimacy, but I bet he still wants physical intimacy on the regular. Sounds like it's a HUGE risk for her to give so much to a man not even her husband. I can't see a scenario where a man would even need to be gone that often to build his career unless he's a business owner. If he chose her as his WIFE, yes she should do wifely things to help him out. If hes barely around he…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 09:41 PM
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It's been said here many times by RP women/MODs. I think there is just a lot of bad behaviors RP men condone like spinning plates, faking interest in LTRs to get laid that it can be hazardous for women seeking true traditional commitment. She would more than likely be hooking up with a user for a short term situationship. RP men should not be confused with traditional men.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 08:52 PM
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So the wife should still do all the housekeeping/laundry for her man while she also works full time? 🤔 Also, if a man "kicks his wife to the curb" when he finally hits provider status because she didn't carry the entire burden of housekeeping/laundry because she was working full time/perhaps also caring for children, then he is still not HV- he's not a good, traditional man. Or is this woman in question not even his wife? In that case, she has certainly put herself in a precarious situation-havi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 07:43 PM
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I feel like those tasks are something most women would agree to IF their man were HV(an Alpha or Beta provider). So women would in fact bring something- those things-to the table IF the man was HV. People like Fresh n Fit mischaracterize women...and they act like a HV man is common-why it's ALL of their listeners in fact! How convenient. 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 06:16 PM
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Only with men who are ok with ruining their marriage/family life through divorce IF they are at that higher level of earning. If a man is traditional AND a high earner AND divorce is unacceptable to him, he won't act that way. And for those men who make the same amount of money as or want/need their wife to work, well. ... desires to cheat on their wives with no repercussions are a pipe dream for immoral low level to average guys.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:39 PM
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I'm not RP, but I've heard RP men and RP women are different and that RP men are not who RP women should be dating. Take for example, "Fresh and Fit"-very popular among RP men. They said men should be allowed to cheat on their wives because of their biological imperative to spread their seed and their libido tends to be stronger, etc, but their wife must remain faithful. You don't have to "accept" anything about such ideas. If a man loves you and is traditional he will remain faithful. I hate th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 04:10 PM
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Bad idea to watch porn at all while masturbating. The reason for these common disordered sexual behaviors due to porn use is because the men feel entitled to the male-centric pleasure they see on screen. They don't want mutually satisfying sex because...well, they would have to accomplish something themselves. That's why I have always said RP women stop with the BJ-only pampering of your men. Make him prove his sexual prowess. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 05:42 PM
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You have time. I took a couple years off at your age because I was getting involved with really bad men and only started dating again at 29. So please take time to take care of yourself in all ways. And once you start eating healthier foods/making recipes and finding a form of exercise you enjoy, you'll feel motivation to keep going with health journey. Consistency is key. I don't think you would need years away from dating like me, but I only dated a few other men before I met my husband at 29(…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:28 AM
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Depends on the type of HVM you are looking for. There are many kinds. If you want a family man/provider/average build man, you'll be fine. First ask yourself what kind of man do you consider both attractive enough, accomplished enough, and comfortable-find a balance. That is your HVM. Many women develop stretch marks during pregnancy as well as varicose veins. Womens bodies would not always look perfect even if we didnt gain a lot of weight from overeating and lose it. Do you want to have childr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 08:32 PM
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Right but I've noticed that RP women give waaaaay too much to men who don't reciprocate and then they are like "this is fine...." until after years of the same stuff happening finally lose their shit and post on reddit. I can't imagine giving BJs every day(actual work) to a "low libido" man, only to find out he's actually just watching porn instead of being able to have mutually satisfying sex with me. I mean...truly some ladies here give too much. The worst part is when they say they get nothin…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 04:23 AM
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Unserious men can take advantage of a woman even if she's more attractive than them....especially when she has a mental health condition that usually results from some insecurities and society/media has romaticized sexual freedom for women. I would suggest therapy for you and couples therapy. Also you may need to compromise at this point to have biological kids. Would you rather have his level of good looking or higher earning but less attractive?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 03:49 PM
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My husband and I wanted a lot of kids so strategically, for us, it's better to have someone to cook and clean for all those people at home. If I had the same level of career as him and couldnt be available to clean/launder for our large family, it would probably have to be an au pair, nanny, or maid. So another chunk of money out the window. We would probably also need to get more take out/fast food/quick prep. Thats quite expensive for a large family as well. My husband makes a little less than…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/24 03:03 AM
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You should have kept refusing this last time. If you want the easy way, just dump him. Porn is focused on male pleasure pretty much only. I heard the stat that most porn is videos of BJs. Your SO does not want to get better. If anyone needs more "head", it's women, not men. Most women do not orgasm from PIV alone while non pornsick men orgasm from PIV if not 100% of the time, pretty close to it. Your SO just wants a subservient, not someone different but equal.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 11:09 PM
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I've been to many places considered cheaper. I'm not talking the most expensive restaurants out there. I'm talking cheap/mid Chinese or American restaurants and the guy(police officer salary)acting put out. Even men who make more than what I did wanting to split dates.... That tells me they either did not want the ability to provide or were not serious. When I met my husband for the first time I suggested Starbucks. You know what he did after we had that coffee date? He suggested we get dinner t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 07:29 PM
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You should definitely quit free apps because most of those guys are looking for casual sex/situationships even if they are "open to a relationship." If you are religious at all, try a religious app or an app you have to pay for at least. That should weed out most of the unserious guys.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 07:13 PM
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I definitely understand where you are coming from. Yeah most Western men are not sole provider or "Alpha" or even "BetaBux" material. Many men do not even want to be the provider. Many are looking for more money coming from the woman they marry. Thats why they get all huffy about paying for dates even when a woman is more attractive than them and has displayed interest in him in many ways. I was very lucky to meet my husband who was not always a sole provider but who I knew was intelligent enoug…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 05:43 AM
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First mistake- dating a man who idolized Andrew Tate. When has Andrew Tate said anything that benefits women? I mean...truly? Just dump his ass. He's hoping for some semblance of Andrew's life by using you to save money. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 11:44 PM
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I don't think it makes you unmarriagable. It's more about your present mindset. Have you regretted it? Have you matured? Have you calmed down the impulsiveness in regards to random men? Judging by your posts, I'd say you have. The same standard goes for men. If they've been promiscuous, essentially used women and don't regret it when they finally decide to marry, then I don't think there is much hope for an easy or happy marriage. I think such men usually end up cheating on their wife in one way…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 06:47 PM
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Who cares if you "scared him away"....there are hints he doesn't want commitment and he gave you one. I guess he could have gone one step further and flirted with other women in front of you. By 4 months a man should know what he wants from any woman he dates....Id say within one month of dating he should know. On to better things!
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 12:17 AM
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Yeah he sounds greedy, full of himself, and manipulative. Pass.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 04:23 AM
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I definitely think being religious makes it easier to be traditional-from seeking a mate that is like-minded in wanting a trad family to having your children want to pass on same traditions/morality etc. If there is nothing concrete on which to base your morality, then it can be subjective which is kind of the opposite of traditional. Of course, you can be a SAHM without being traditional or religious per say although SAHM is a traditional role. So I guess it depends on the definition of "tradit…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 11:47 PM
2

Has Guy B made a move on you yet? Kissed you? If you like him and he likes you why wouldn't he invite you to the holidays? If he finds you attractive and interesting and (maybe most important) hes dating to marry, he would want to show you off to friends and family. My husband only dated me for a couple months before I went to holiday parties with him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:00 PM
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So you have been intimate physically with Guy A? You are attracted at least enough anyway? Then go with Guy A. You should stop dating though. I feel kind of bad for Guy B but maybe he sensed you weren't ready to be exclusive so didn't invite you to the holidays? Guys are pretty quick to invite women to holidays if there is enough mutual interest expressed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:31 PM
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Hmm...well it is kind of weird the new Guy B didn't invite you to any holiday get togethers. He doesn't seem that serious. I'd give Guy A a shot. Edit- I will add, that you probably shouldn't get into physical intimacy really fast with Guy A just in case he's resentful and just trying to finally prove to himself he can get you that way.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:47 PM
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Having read your post history, if Guy B is the guy you were dating 4 months ago, then you should choose Guy A. Guy B sounds like he doesn't really want to be a dad again or take that risk/responsibility?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:34 PM
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Hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:53 AM
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Oh I'm sure he doesn't have any LTR experience. I think he has lied to women or given them the wrong impression for sex though, no doubt. He can talk plans and love, even introduce a girl to friends/family within a month's time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 07:33 PM
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Eh...introducing you to friends/family even/ making "plans"/ saying "I love you" ....all of these things can be pretentious especially in men. If you are a man of charm, money and influence your friends don't care how many gfs you introduce them to. They are not going to call him out if he changes his mind about you for any reason. Just be careful... Many rich men wait until the last possible moment that they would ever want to have kids to have kids. Since he has disposable income, he could be …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 05:16 PM
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You don't know that he didn't string women along. Even if it was a casual sex thing for him, he could've been talking about his "future plans" with any number of those women. Just because a man has money doesn't mean beautiful women will settle for just casual sex with him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 04:31 PM
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Elon Musk is a genius and its great he doesnt give an f about stating his opinion but his kids don't necessarily like him. His first kid-also a boy- is now a transwoman...he wanted to be so unlike his father and his plan for him. Nick Cannon is also an example of a toxic promiscuous rich man with many children with multiple baby mamas. Those kids will never experience have a stable present father figure in any of their homes. Then of course, Andrew Tate. Same situation as Nick Cannon. 10 kids wi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 02:41 PM
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Exactly. It's a bit narcissistic of him to think he can flip a switch on his "novelty" habit because his friends are marrying. And the fact he doesn't regret his past makes me suspicious of a change of values/habits. When a man starts seeing women as people and not just....orifices, of course he would regret it if only because his actions have hurt others. And no doubt has that man hurt women. Seems like he has a plan for the appearance of him changing though.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 03:20 AM
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Yeah the first mistake was you going on the roof instead of him. I'd never go on a roof. That's a masculine role. You should steady the ladder. Does he need to study up more on handyman skills on YouTube? You can be "nerdy" but masculine and knowledgable in handyman skills. They aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 09:08 PM
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You need to move on. If you "convince" him, I almost guarantee you will be doing all the work of raising a child.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 08:07 PM
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Oh. I see. She definitely needs to not be looking for a man right now. She is involved in self destructive behaviors. Not the best time in life to discern what a high value man is. OP should take time off from dating/men and invest in herself and find some spirituality.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:57 PM
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They do exist in your age group but they tend to be religious. You tend to find them in religious groups at college.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:39 PM
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I hear ya. I'm married to a great man now who happens to be ambitious, earning 6 figures now but not at the time, and over 6 ft. But before him I dated a bunch of Sigmas and they act just like that. Just toxic. Those are the men who will be alone unless they get therapy...or something. They are definitely not Chad... they wish....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:35 PM
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Of course there is. I told OP some details. The whole world just doesnt need to know my life story. Haven't you ever seen a girl and wondered why is she with him? Yeah it happens....but it's usually not a great idea for her unless he has some things going for him that give him confidence. Insecure men do not act right...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:35 AM
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Yes some women like us are more open minded in our attraction, but I don't think it pays to be quite so open minded since men don't understand it themselves. They are so looks based with attraction so those not on our level or those without body or even height, money/career going for them are insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:15 AM
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You are so right. I always get downvoted for saying this, but I have dated men below my level and they were asses. Many women are down to Earth about dating, but maybe it's to their detriment. Better to date on the same level than deal with insecure or unstable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:57 AM
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I don't think him watching porn would make him want sex. Most porn is actually BJs...the industry is very male pleasure centric. Yes men who are off porn enjoy PIV and BJs are not as necessary. And they also care about female pleasure more coincidentally....which is something that should be considered more if men want more sex. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 01:47 AM
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He sounds porn sick tbh. He sounds like a passport bro and a user. I'd be finding a way back to your country.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 03:31 PM
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So true. Many average or even below average guys look for hookups/STR but they have to lie about wanting a LTR to get an attractive enough woman for them in their view. That's why women don't feel that bad most men are "lonely." They know that even some less attractive guys have used women above their level.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:34 PM
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Realistically, most SAHW/SAHMs are not doing everything that has to do with running a household by themselves anyway...especially if they have babies or toddlers. Many do have husband's that help after dinner with cleanup. Some (if well off enough) have "mothers helpers" come in. I bet that's the case for many trad wife influencers too. Certainly once kids are old enough, they also pitch in on chores. Chores are definitely something the whole family participates in and flexibility is needed. Man…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 07:17 PM
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"Financial" abortion is dumb...how many women would such a man do that to? As many as HE wants? HE needs to be the one to take responsibility for his sexual decisions. Not the taxpayers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:54 PM
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If a woman doesn't give bjs is she entitled to cunnilingus when her husband will get PIV to completion afterwards? Yes she is. Women deserve orgasms too and not in exchange for something extra for him....especially when there is much other stuff to take care of in a busy life. This is an example of a relationship that goes both ways...not a relationship of men getting extra. 😏
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 06:51 PM
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What about a woman who doesn't get an orgasm often from PIV but men do everytime? She should only have an orgasm if she gives him BJ too? Do you realize how fucked up that is? That is truly misogynist. And a man like that is greedy. I'm more of a trad/con woman, but this is just too much.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 06:11 PM
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Haha what a myth. Men can lay back during PIV too. Alphas tend to want to lead a lot of the time though. There is an orgasm gap so if he's resentful about no BJs( pornified man most likely as the majority of porn involves BJs), and thinks a woman shouldn't receive oral sex to orgasm because its gagging/uncomfortable to give him that sex act, he is just a bad lover. Never had this problem with my husband. In fact, he told me to not worry about it. Men who actually love a woman get it. Too much "p…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 05:36 PM
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I can tell by your post you definitely try very hard to please men. I was like that at your age too. Sometimes I think it's better to balance what we give with what we get. There is absolutely no need to do sex acts that make women gag or feel uncomfortable when men get more than enough pleasure from other things. Also, longterm...should tired moms with headaches feel compelled to give BJs? Then you have some guys expecting them every morning as Ive seen some reddit posts complain about. Lol No …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 05:11 PM
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Yes I hear you. That kind of set up of sex leading to something more is kind of romanticized by TV and movies. It has been for a long time. It's not the truth. I had my time too believing guys liked me when they didn't. Our looks cant get us a relationship when many young men-even below us- are looking for variety. To answer your question, a guy will commit long term when he is ready and when you fit what he values in a wife. You might find more serious men on paid dating sites, but you are so y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 05:20 AM
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Yep...I lived in Kentucky for a couple years in my early 20s and many of my peers were already married.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 03:00 AM
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No I don't think so. Those men tend to go on niche sites to find like minded religious women. I think incels are irreligious guys who go on the big free sites like Tinder and hope to hookup as easy as the Alpha guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 12:38 AM
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Ignore the TRPers who say that. You are not used goods! But for your own emotional well being, do not engage in that behavior anymore because it doesn't matter if a guy is below average looks or a 9, he could be using the idea of a potential LTR with him as a means to get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 09:30 PM
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BJs to help secure a man....I don't know about that advice. I think a lot of women do that out of insecurity because of mens porn addictions not their own enjoyment. But hey I never found it necessary but I'm sure some women do enjoy it. It would be more of a necessity for some women to receive it than vice versa. The rest was pretty good advice. I think the looks stuff is a bit overboard with the injectables though.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 06:39 PM
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No it's not lazy. I don't think this guy is for you OP. He's doesn't actually seem like he's interested in putting aside his past behaviors. Just look at his actions. They say more than his words about a future-any guy can say those kinds of things for a short term thing. He probably said them to that ex he lived with/traveled with.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 05:49 PM
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Sounds like a low effort man who was hoping to use you. You did nothing wrong even if you have anxiety about dating. I know that not all women(especially nowadays) who are virgins at 24 are religious, but if you are, you might have better luck focusing on men from your religious background.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 04:14 PM
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Well this might disappoint you to hear because men all want to be the hottest guy in the room right? But average guys are less drama. You feel more security and feel safer being vulnerable with them. They have less ego about their looks, are more complimentary towards their SO, and more ego about their accomplishments.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:18 PM
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Because general free dating pools of women tend to be more immature plus some of the HLV men on those free sites might say they are looking for a LTR to trick immature women into spending time on them. You are competing with a LOT of men on those free sites. A woman who actually spends money to find those values in someone else is willing to forgo some looks. And you don't have to compete with as many HLV men that are commonly only going to free sites as they don't have to try as hard to get imm…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:08 PM
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If a woman is willing to pay $s to find commonalities she isn't going care if you're not an 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:57 PM
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Narrow down your search to women who have also narrowed down their search based on things they value.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:55 PM
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Depends on what the man also values as he tends to be the pursuer. Guys tend to think more women to date is better, but is it? When the woman also has an entire secular dating market she's willing to try out? Many RP men here are "dating" women they only find physically attractive with nothing else in common on Tinder or other free "dating" apps in the hopes of getting cheap casual sex. If you are serious about finding a LTR leading to marriage(what most women want and what most men might cure l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:31 PM
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Being able to secure dates and romantic opportunities for LTR/marriage. Now does that mean easy casual sex? No. Because women by and large don't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:49 PM
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Yeah I definitely don't think the average(looks, income, etc being average) guy struggles with dating. Now after a certain age-if his looks are deteriorating and he's still kinda average, not much advancement plus he's still pursuing casual sex or STR, THAT is when you see the drop off in his quality and quantity of partners. I think many RP guys are that type of guy or just the ones that never can pick themselves up to bare minimum in the important aspects. Women are better off being single tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:24 PM
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I don't know...sounds like they are excusing bad behavior which is part of the problem. If they aren't religious, they probably follow societal norms of hookup culture. I would take it as a red flag if they aren't religious.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 08:07 PM
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Sure but things are pretty easy to track on the internet. The same for actual licensed establishments-although even they can have crimes that go unnoticed for many years because a service is legal. Local governments can be beholden to keeping the "services" their constituents seek without interference from authorities. Take the abortion doctor, Dr.Kermit Gosnell. The only reason the police found out he was killing 3rd trimester babies after birth was because he was selling prescription pain meds…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 03:34 PM
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And it will take a lot more work to find out the crimes when prostitution is legal. Is allowing children to go on for months or years in sex trafficking instead of days or weeks worth it to have it legalized? Nevada has legal prostitution and is the 2nd highest state for human trafficking. Do you see the connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 01:57 AM
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And you have a huge child trafficking problem. So much so that the U.S. gov mentions it on their website.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:28 AM
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Sub is hopeless because of coomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:51 PM
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False comparison but I'll give you the background checks. You are effectively legalizing pedophilia as the customer does not know her age for sure and the cops logistically can't inquire about all their ages either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:50 PM
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If prostitution is legal cops won't care to check age. They'll have no reason to investigate prostitution at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:45 PM
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What don't you understand? If it's legal, then cops will not care to investigate it and won't be able to logistically check the ages of all young looking prostitutes. So underage prostitutes would definitely go unchecked.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:43 PM
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No. Not everyone is a pedo. However just because you want to indulge in your vice with of age women, does not mean the scenario in question will not happen. It absolutely will if prostitution is legalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 11:36 PM
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Too easy for pedos to get their rocks off that way because upon legalization, cops will not logistically be able to card all prostitutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:55 PM
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I found my husband on a dating app, but it was already focused on common religion and you had to pay money for it. Those free dating apps just understandably attract coomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:15 PM
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Right? That's all that they seem to care about. Well women don't care. I think women just have to leave the horndog apps like Tinder, OK cupid, and POF(is that still a thing?) behind. Women and men sadly need to pay $ to curate matches based on shared values and that's the only thing that can determine if a man is serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:06 AM
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Another thing is that he may have LL because he is not a fully realized man. He's not providing, you are doing the entire masculine role, he's doesn't even have consistent work, and he lies! Yeah a man's not going to feel very sexy like that. Most early 40s men who provide have very high libido because they feel accomplished. Unfortunately he sounds like he has some mental issues that will not improve until he gets a job and supports himself...at the very least! He needs to move out too. You sho…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 04:09 PM
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Just dump him and never look back? He sounds like a bum who is taking advantage of a woman who underestimates her worth.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 01:47 AM
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Doesn't he also have 10 children with as many baby mamas or something? I think it hilarious(not really tho) that people think his lifestyle is attainable. That's what casual sex gets you debased RP guys-baby mamas, being broke, never seeing your kids, and being alone at the end of your life. No HV woman will settle with a old man with a bunch of baby mamas or venereal diseases.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 12:02 AM
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Probably for the best to date like-minded people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 11:16 PM
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Probably not like women who specifically seek out casual sex, no. But most women do not seek out casual sex. They seek out relationships with men who are on their level of sex appeal...or lower. So if they have sex with those men and it was only casual sex or STR for him, it makes it very unworthwhile for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 07:56 PM
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Well and betas are usually ambitious and smart enough to have sex as well. If they are somewhat good looking all the better. The idea that a man is only Alpha Chad or Beta No Sex is a myth. Not all Betas are looking for revenge as they did the exact same thing and regret it like most women do in regards to casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 04:24 PM
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I'm arguing against (de)based and redpilled-putting manwhoring on an alpha pedestal. I have no problem with tradition. Being a man whore/dead beat dad by looksmaxxing isn't some accomplishment or amazing discovery. Those who just spread their seed around to various women can rarely afford to take care of them all-unless you are Nick Cannon or Elon Musk, or course. Then there is just the fact their offspring will not have a present father because he has multiple children with different women. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 12:20 AM
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You must not get sarcasm. I was referring to you using physical fitness as a means to get sex for coffee dates not that exercise is addictive. There isn't anything wrong with coffee dates. I actually suggested a coffee date and walk at an open air mall as my husband and I's first date. We had a lot more dates after that and he was generous with his money when he made a third of what he does now. He actually took me to a restaurant after that evening coffee date too as he wanted to keep talking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 11:00 PM
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Lol yeah exercise was what I was referring to. Mmhmm...which is something you should be doing for your health and wellness anyway. Not for a chance to be promiscuous. My husband is a software engineer and lifts. I also exercise regularly. We also have 5 kids! Do something with your life, stop treating women like shit and acting hedonistic. Or just be a lonely old man because of your sexual addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:39 PM
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Good for you. I think you will find that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:55 PM
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You are promoting something that will cause men longterm psychological and behavioral problems and they too, could "die alone" if engaging in addictive behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 07:54 PM
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No because many people here think women should behave themselves while men can be(heck, its even the pinnacle of male existence didnt you know? 🙄)whores and treat women badly. That will never lead to constructive conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 05:34 PM
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Im not sure why no ones said it(maybe his $s), but I don't think he's serious about you. I saw he's Egyptian from your posts. Aren't they typically more traditional men? He's acting like an ass pointing out and following girls. Also, what is wrong with being a SAHM unless you yourself make tons of money? Daycare for 2 kids can cost what some salaries provide. I also don't think he needs to take your virginity in order to be serious about you. Once again, does not sound like hes acting traditiona…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 01:34 AM
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That's what they call "based and red pilled". I recently learned about it. Basically, men take advantage of an already immoral society with hookup culture and expectation of sex early in relationships, to get casual sex and move on to the next. Some even lie about wanting a LTR or love bomb. I suppose a woman could do the same with going after the man for his money, but women tend to be more empathetic. That's why I consider myself purple pilled because men should also behave better.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 08:51 PM
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If anyone takes this sort of mentality from a man, it will be maybe a slightly religious, modern breadwinning woman who underestimates her worth, and will not be having procreative sex. If she has kids with him, it will probably be just as many kids as she can take care of by herself, because let's face it this guy sound like a child himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:37 PM
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No you are still going to need a lot of money to support many kids(procreative sex, as you say) in this economy. And the idea that religious women have starfish sex. 😆 Like I said...you are repeating ideas you hear from media and don't know any trad or religious ppl most likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:20 PM
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I can tell you don't know many trad or religious women. Lol No way are they taking this guy on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:06 PM
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Tinder is a hookup app. Not the standard of attractiveness of women that men expect in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 07:22 PM
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"Like" women. We don't care about that type of "like"...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:37 PM
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Oh sure. If an entirely selfish empty hedonistic life is what they think of as goals the fuckbois will win. But their offspring will be sure to suffer a lot more than the so-called "betas". It's just kind of interesting to me that no consideration is made for the mental strength of their respective progeny in this male heirarchy. Especially when there is such a mental health crisis in the West.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 05:17 PM
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I get that, I just don't see why these men are called "alphas" or Chads by TRP like it's the goal to be that guy. Really? It's the goal to just spread your seed and abandon your kids? No the Alpha is actually the guy that ensures the physical and emotional well being of their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 04:12 PM
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Great post. I have always felt...for relationships...that women actually go for men slightly below their level as far as physical attractiveness goes. It's probably a bit different for casual sex, but the men involved in casual sex might only have looks going for them and nothing else. What I don't understand is a loser/dead beat dad with only his looks going for him that gets casual sex supposed to be considered a "Chad" or alpha? Seems counterintuitive-like something low IQ people would promot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:51 PM
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Oh...my bad for giving them a chance. I should've seen the narcissist label on their forehead. Lol *went on dates...married now to a unpretentious man. He's more social than I am, but I didn't get with him for social cred. It was because we have important values in common and he's a talker and I'm more of an introvert. When 2 introverts date it's kind of awkward tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 10:11 PM
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Not sure why I was downvoted. I don't agree with it, but men who exhibit narcissistic tendencies expect entertaining, boisterous, and attractive women. I was once called unassuming by a date. That was my downfall. Lol Oh well...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 09:38 PM
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There are plenty of men that seek a socially entertaining woman too. And it's not just her appearance that matters...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:40 PM
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Try Christian dating sites-there are many for different denominations. I met my husband on Catholic Match.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 05:04 AM
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Ok. Thanks. I no longer have to worry about that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 11:18 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:43 PM
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Hmm...what differentiates a "scumbag" from a genuinely interested man in the initial stages of dating? Women are just better off holding out on sex for as long as they can because men lie about their intentions...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:40 PM
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Mmmmk.That's your opinion that it isnt morally wrong to have casual sex. Im wondering on what exactly do you base your "morals"? I find casual sex both morally wrong, irresponsible as the potential for pregnancy is there and STIs, and not satisfying. Best sex has been with my husband. And on top of that, I found most fuck boys do lie. It has everything to do with whether you have matured and grown. You haven't matured if you can't think of women as individuals to cherish, not use. You are stuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:22 AM
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I don't know. I couldn't judge your behavior from the internet. I suppose some extroverted girl might like to not let you get a word in edgewise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:11 AM
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No you can't be in a loving relationship "tomorrow" because you are much like a porn addict-addicted to the novelty of sex. You could never give up the novelty and if you want an open polygamous relationship, your "love" will be sure to out-cuck you and you will be all torn up. It would be a sight to see. It happens all the time with guys like you. That or you would just cheat on your wife or have a porn addiction. Incels shouldn't try to be fuck boys. They are liars. Being a liar to obtain sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 03:05 AM
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Is that something to aspire to as a non-Chad? Just using a bunch of women and being a lifelong bachelor instead of ever becoming a grown man? This is part of why women don't care about incels. All the incels that want to be fuck boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 11:04 PM
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So should women feel bad they can't use more women or something? IDGI...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 10:36 PM
1

Oh yeah? Well even "Chad" got rejected by a future cat lady after she used him for a ONS back in the day...are Chads sometimes rejected for relationships? If I married Chad I certainly married the nerdy sort of one who doesn't have a high sexual value career. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:37 PM
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Who is "Chad"? Is it just a guy with some sexual prowess? I mean, really....
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:24 PM
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No I'm not. Shorter mid guys with mid careers have been asshole users just as supposedly "chad" tall guys can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:09 PM
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Well...they could have. There are no further chances. Ask my husband if you won't take my word for it. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 06:59 PM
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Well if he's nice as in demure, that is more of a feminine trait. Women like men who aren't asses, but can still speak their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 05:50 PM
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I mean...I think people would call him a beta buxx here. He does have some alpha characteristics, but...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:53 PM
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They were not men of substance and/or they were not good men. It had nothing to do with their height.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:51 PM
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Yeah...there I edited my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:47 PM
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Hmm...I never said they had to over perform in other areas. Lots of men dont reach their full potential until after marriage, but there are a lot of good indications that he is made of the substance to get there. It's not just that these men are short, or even short and chubby, but there is something lacking in their aptitude. Same goes for tall guys. You can be tall and not have anything going for you...not talking $s, but if you are an idiot/loser/whiny baby/manchild, women will not want you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:39 PM
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Oh I know many Trump supporters are prochoice. I guess I'm referring to more conservative ones who usually just have to support a guy like Trump because he's the nominee.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:15 PM
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Some shorter men are truly jerks or if not, think...chubby ginger guy while I'm fit and take care of my appearance. Sometimes we need a little attraction. Not saying he has to look like Bradley Cooper or Henry Cavill, but I ended up with a guy that looks vaguely like James Spader when he had hair, with a dad bod.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:12 PM
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I guess I don't understand. Are some average to below average men upset they can't use women for sex? I've been used by below my level men for sex. The ones who lie about seeking a relationship. If a woman is to just seek sex only of course she will prefer to go for an attractive guy. Women take on all the responsibility of casual sex and for what? Something she could get by herself. But the question is, why do you seek such women ? If you are looking for "dating" as in leading to marriage, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:05 PM
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Hmm...interesting. I guess I broke that stereotype. I married a 6'2" slightly more extroverted "geek" with an Associates degree who earned median when I met him, but now makes over 6 figures as a software engineer and I'm a SAHM. I definitely have dated short guys and below mid to mid guys all while I was fit and I'd say looking good. 😅 Those guys had jobs like cop, or insurance adjuster. 😆 They just did not want relationships and pretended that's what they were looking for or they were not conf…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:40 PM
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I don't think conservative men are looking for prochoice women for serious relationships though...and if they aren't looking for serious relationships they would probably just lie or not even mention politics. It's a good idea (when seeking serious relationships) to go for people with similar values.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:24 PM
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Back when I was dating, definitely not. That's a pattern of novelty and it will be hard for him to stop much like a porn addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:16 PM
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Yeah I think the dating strategy of being a jerk to her sometimes is dumb as hell. That's a good way to get her to move on fast though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:12 PM
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I've given men chances anywhere from my height(5'7") on up. They were either not good men wanting a serious relationship or did not seem confident or ambitious. My husband is 6'2". That's just the way it turns out sometimes, but it was never for lack of giving shorter men chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:03 PM
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Nah I think women are pretty realistic if they seek marriage. The fact is that plenty of non Chad guys without tons of money also act terribly with women. They want to act like "Chad" not be in a serious relationship. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:51 PM
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Back when I was dating and very serious about seeking a relationship leading to marriage in my mid-late 20s, there was a lack of good men. In the general secular pool of men, they were either just mentally messed up men, or like you said too casual and not interested in a relationship. These were not "alpha Chads" either. They were at or below my looksmatch. Just regular ol' mid to below mid looking guys with mid jobs. Not high earners. The religious guys were a bit better, but I was not compati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:44 PM
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Depends on some things and those factors are not always predictable....is SAHM's mental health ok? How many children will she be taking care of during the day while also doing ALL the cooking and cleaning? It's easy to say "she needs to do all chores since I'm the breadwinner" but if you intend to have a large family with young children that's not always feasible or just to put all that work after the kids go to bed on your wife. If she's going through postpartum mental health or physical issues…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 08:33 PM
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Well I think that's a matter of preference of body type. He could looksmatch with a pretty curvy girl but he might not like that. He could have also looksmatched with a fit girl. His hypergamy probably had more to do with him wanting a high earner, and an extroverted socialite. He didn't want to pair with what he would consider a "gold digger".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:21 PM
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I'm guessing it was more that he wanted a career driven and hot girl....or popular/extroverted girls which tend to be sorority girls. Some of those sorority girls are kind of mid in the face. I think he could've gotten a girl who looked like a sorority girl, but maybe just had a bit more demure of a personality. He was probably the type to reject trad pretty women as they "might be after him for his money". 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:51 PM
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Judging by his many posts, it's clear he doesn't understand women...lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 11:26 PM
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No it doesn't. Most women(smart/mentally sound) don't want to have a serious relationship with a guy just because he's good looking. If he's a loser other than being charismatic and good looking that shouldn't make him an alpha. You think most average to above average looking women want to financially support that guy? Nah...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 09:21 PM
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Miserable people try to break up other people's good things...if he was as good looking as her, someone would say his personality is too soft-spoken or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 08:45 PM
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People(without religion, a higher calling) have no checks to their selfishness so it's more fickle for most people in relationships. People are less empathetic than ever. If your partner isn't inspiring rom-com, Instagram worthy entertainment and feelings, it's time to move on. If you have a disagreement, over their behavior, well they are just not for you. It couldn't be that they might need to look inward and think about changing. 🙄 I agree with you, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:43 PM
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Then you must know that a man has the autonomy to not sexually pursue a woman he's not emotionally interested in. Women don't need to provide anything other than who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:16 PM
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Usually high value women who feel they need to train a boyfriend to behave, end up letting him go and upleveling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:00 PM
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Virginity does matter and it's gross for non virgin, and especially non- religious men to prefer virgins. If you are a virgin, thats a totally fine preference to have in a spouse. If you are religious, seek out a woman with the same values/religion and work on that career building as ladies that maintain virginity tend to be the traditional/future SAHM types.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:11 PM
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Many women like more extroverted men who like to talk more. Im a more traditional woman and I have a husband who is more extroverted than me. We have great conversations because we have values in common. What values would you share with a woman in your ideal LTR? Maybe you are more suited to an extroverted women? I would think "modern" women would tend to be more extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:44 PM
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Sounds like you can't offer interesting conversation so you are blaming it on women. Which indicates you don't like them and don't see them as unique individuals. Work on that and you might have more success in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:42 PM
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Would there be less shame if she just had an abortion? The root problem is that men expect sex in all sorts of relationship statuses. Maybe women should just not give any of them sex before marriage and make that popular in culture again. It's not just a woman problem, it's also a man problem where they take advantage of a cultural norm disadvantageous to women because they weren't raised to respect women's feelings and lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:35 PM
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IME, most women generally do not even extend friendliness to other women who they should feel more comfortable with, so why would they extend friendliness to a man who may have bad intentions? So many men say they are lonely but in reality, they just want sexual experiences. There are truly some creeps out there... gamma men who've had chances with pretty women for LTR but wanted to attempt a harem instead. Now they are alone at 45, 50+ years old because of their own bad choices and behavior. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:04 PM
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I don't really know her other than from that movie she was in and her recent drama. Did she always show her bare ass and bump it up to other males even before the baby?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 08:02 PM
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That's his work, not his free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:24 PM
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I don't think most celebrities are good marriage material.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:44 PM
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Three things can be true at once. 1.Keke Palmer is not relationship/marriage material. Women should stop dressing and acting provocatively. It says something about her morals if she wants men lusting over her exposed body. And don't play dumb, that sort of nakedness is chosen for a reason. Abuse is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 04:48 PM
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No he's a high earner alpha and knows what's good for wife=good for his family. He's the provider. I don't know if many men help their wives but they should even if a provider. Beta males have low IQ and/or poor male role models so need alpha women to problem solve for them. If they do any chores it's because they are scared of their wife. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 12:01 AM
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Because sexual success is all they care about-not their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 11:35 PM
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If you are a volcel male virgin...nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 11:27 PM
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Yeah....I'm not entirely sure all the incels have never had relationships with above looks match women. So I don't really feel much compassion for those types. But some of them have issues right off the bat with image and self confidence. I feel worse for those guys, but like you said it's not womens fault there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 08:29 PM
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If you are a shorter man, you need to looksmaxx. Try to have some wholesome hobbies(not bar hoppin) that could be unisex. Be kind to a woman, but speak your mind on issues. She's going to find out your opinions on things eventually, right? Lol Nurturing feminine trad women types want providers. So offer to pay for dates if you are interested in a more traditional relationship/marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 08:04 PM
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Interesting. I'm a SAHM of many and my husband is pretty alpha, but for the last couple of holidays we've had(albeit small gatherings at our house), my husband made the meals. I had to tell my mom I usually make dinner most of the time at our house because it was a bit embarrassing. Lol I was either very pregnant or just had a newborn the last couple of holidays. I think there are plenty of alpha men who help their wives with domestic chores when they see there wives are struggling. He also is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:24 PM
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Of course. Are you comparing a wife's priorities to a thot's? 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 04:25 PM
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Yeah if your career has nothing to do with handyman tasks, but is high earning and you still are adaptable and good at learning basic handyman tasks, you are a problem solver(and will save tons of money). Those Renaissance man types usually pair with all around feminine women because they can handle the stress of problem solving on their own. Men who don't have handy skills would probably do well to seek out alpha females who may or may not look their ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:42 PM
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True...a "kind heart" is great when you interact with others, but that's not the end all be all. There has to be more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:33 PM
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Are we talking about mature women with a young family here, or just some sort of thot?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:05 PM
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Um...yeah red flag especially unwillingness to provide. Lots of men want to be the babies nowadays instead of their wife having actual kids, or they have issues/addictions that require their wife to be the breadwinner because they can't hold a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:54 PM
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Well many men...are not good with handyman skills that men of the past generations used to have for instance. Now alpha women have to figure out mechanical stuff for them. Not saying all are like this because some men take it as a matter of pride to have that role.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 04:43 AM
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Why don't you just work on finding a woman at a younger age with traditional values (as such a man who would be celibate for 15 years surely has), get a degree or valuable skill, work your way up the ladder, marry younger, have lots of married sex and call it good? Seems kind of strange to want to be near middle age and marry someone much younger and with different social maturity and who has not much in common with you except lack of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:30 AM
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Are you religious? Just saying...there are a lot of religious women that are looking for providers. Take care of yourself and keep putting yourself out there to women who are in the right mindset to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:12 AM
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I think a lot of today's men need alpha females because they are not good enough problem solvers on their own(poor or absent male role models). I think men as a whole are still attracted to feminine appearance, but not the traditional feminine role. Some are still, but those men are usually very self confident Renaissance men types.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 01:26 AM
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I've had well-off men ask to split dates. And my husband who was not well off at the time paid. What he's saying is pretty accurate IME.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 01:07 AM
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True...it's kinda sad women feel like they should enable a man to feel like she "owes" a man if he pays for dinner by splitting it or paying for it all. Dinner should NOT equal owing sex and women need to stop perpetuating that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 12:48 AM
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True, but definitely not right....
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 11:45 PM
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Doubtful. Andrew Tate teaches pick up artistry and has like 10 kids with as many women. He can only afford them all because he's very rich. A successful man making 6 figures can't even afford what AT is selling. Plus the kids will never see their dad. So no real male role model which was the problem with most incel beta men in the first place! It perpetuates the cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:33 PM
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