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That's usually the few things that RP gets right. Like a broken clock that tells the hour correctly twice a day. It's not RP, my sweet summer child. It's common knowledge for normal people. It's a thing that properly socialised people who are connected to reality already know. And we are baffled of why you present it like a breakthrough or a secret.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:09 AM
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Many are. Or at least they have other issues. Some people here are broken beyond repair. I still debate in my head why tf i am here. In my mind i'm helping by sharing real life stories or knowledge. Real life that some seem like they have no contact with. Even if they go outside, their minds are disconnected from the real world. It's an awful place to be in. I'm a normie as normie as it gets. I am very against RP because i saw a friend of my husband's almost going on that slippery slope. We both…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:59 AM
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That's why figuring out what people in general want is stupid and meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:03 PM
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I think they are wrong. I also think they don't understand what "a good man" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:39 PM
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Bad boy with a heart of gold = is very kind with people who are nice to him and mean if someone does him wrong Fat, but with muscles under the fat and has a belly. Built somewhat like a hyppo. Some guys are naturally muscular. Don't need gym to achieve that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:37 PM
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Real. Why wouldn't it be real?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:13 PM
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Just had a discussion with someone else about what a good man is. A good man is "a man suited for me" or "a good match to me". So a good man to me is charming, funny and charismatic. See how i didn't mention anything about doing something for others? Yeah. Co i don't fuck a guy just because he beings meala to the homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:03 PM
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Ow, these sweet summer children. No wonder they are so off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 03:00 PM
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Wtf? Where did you get that idea from? Sure, some are, some aren't. But gentle giants are a thing and women see them as cute and fuzzy and hugable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:59 PM
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You made the mistake of thinking muscular guys are also aggresive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:21 PM
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Wait till vibe and creepy are explained to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:12 PM
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Not to mention how nuance is lost. Hence they had to invent emojos
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:59 PM
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I posted stats for 2024. You posted for 2019. I choose to believe relevant, recent data.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:58 PM
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I have an issue with how much people rely on text messages. My parents rent apartments. They are old, not tech savvy, don't read texts on rent apps. They specifically write in the ad: no text messages. Call for more info. What do people do? They text. Anything to avoid a phone call
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:48 PM
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I read, 45% start online (which doesn't necessarily mean dating apps) http://forbes.com/health/dating/dating-statistics/ Please stop spreading disinfirmation
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:46 PM
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...i thought they knew this, but then i checked what sub i am on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:40 PM
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Same. They tried to pressure me to make a FB account. They quit eventually as i am very against social platforms like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:36 PM
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I can understand wanting something and not being able to obtain it. But rage sure won't get anyone closer to their objective.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:33 PM
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I respect your take
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 01:23 PM
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Neah, it's huge turn off for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:36 PM
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No, more than half of the relationships start irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:33 PM
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So...men act like trained dogs? Human says "sit", eog sits and then dog receives a snack? What happens if man improved and still no gf? What happens if the man is naturally gifted, needs no improvement and gets a gf without effort, just by being himself?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:32 PM
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Fuck knows. Some go for hook ups. What does that have to do with LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:23 PM
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Is a woman always a reward? Can she be something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:22 PM
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Yes, i think many people have types.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:21 PM
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Because i like bellies? I like men on the fat side. Why i like them? Idk it's like liking the color blue and hating green. It's what i find appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:07 PM
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You don't believe in naturally charming men? In natural social butterflies? In natural humorous people?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:56 AM
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Yeah, my preferences might sound weird, but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:52 AM
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A good man for me: extrovert, charming, charismatic, humorous, a bad boy with a heart of gold, helps friends, has a job, makes his share of chores, has muscles covered in fat + belly, doesn't go to the gym, plays games, no chest hair, no baldness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:37 AM
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?? Vibes and stature are not the same thing. Creepy skinny dudes vs big gentle giants
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:28 AM
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So like a dog. Yeah, no thanks. I don't treat my husband like a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:40 AM
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Answr my question
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:31 AM
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So like"good girl, here's a muffin"? Like you train dogs?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:20 AM
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So like trained dogs? Human says "sit", dog sits and receives a dog snacks?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:52 AM
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And we're not talking about bullies. I'm talking about social skills which create vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:15 AM
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Natural is better than coached or simulated or obtained by surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:14 AM
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Why is it a reward? What makes it a reward? You completed a quest and bam! You get a reward?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:13 AM
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Those play a bigger or smaller role, but are not enough
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:01 AM
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No? Good men are born like this. They don't need to put in any effort as that's who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:50 AM
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Taking a piss also feels nice. Do you consider it rewarding?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:30 AM
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I am aware that stupid/naive people exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:28 AM
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Nothing gives me the ick more than "traditional", except "religious".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 08:08 AM
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Yeah, i know. I just want to see how f'ed up in the head he is. It's always the funniest to hear it from their own mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:46 AM
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What makes a relationship a reward? What is the thought process here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:39 AM
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What do you mean by "get rewarded by women"?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:22 AM
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If you're the kind of gentle giant, she saw you as a teddy bear. Which is not a bad position to be in. Your comment actually struck me how wildly different men and women perceive a petdon sometimes. Coz if you look in the mirror you see muscle and maybe strong and dettering and look like you can fight a bear. But the vibes and how you present yourself makes her look at you like a cute toy, huggable, harmless and dare i say like a big child that needs nurturing. At least i experienced this and i …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 06:49 AM
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Because men focus on finding a woman while women focus on finding a compatible man. Compatibility is what keeps the relationship going. It's a smart choice for those who seek LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 06:43 AM
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Then don't get married. Marriage isn't for anyone. One of the reasons i married is that if i die, my husband gets my properties so he doesn't end up homeless (we're not in US).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:33 AM
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I've seen this over and over again. All their married life the wife was the only one to cook. At old age, the wife dies. The husband resorts to cooking eggs and eating salami, which isn't a die fit for an elderly person. Then he neglects taking his medication or going to checkups because there's no wife to remind him. So he dies in a few years. Men like this need to stop acting like children and start taking care of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:28 AM
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Very serious question, sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:15 AM
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Well, i am not a native EN speaker and to me "putting someone in his/her place" implies using force. Some dude said he'd walk away. I don't see how this would make a "putting her in her place". I don't see your reaction as a "putting in her place" and frankly the way you said it is something i associate with educating a child. It is very confusing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:15 AM
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How would you say it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:24 PM
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And what makes this a "put her into place"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:23 PM
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And how will this be communicated or expressed. I'm asking what exactly would you do in any of those scenarios?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:11 PM
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How do you suggest women should be put in their place?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:29 PM
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Yeah, i don't enable dulusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 03:18 PM
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Is THIS what you understood from my comment? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:55 PM
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Each time people ask wtf is this "accountability", the answers vary. Nobody knows what it is because it's not their idea. It's spoonfed into their brains and they just spit it out. Actually, it is vague on purpose so gurus can relate to more men since each man has his own interpretation. This way, gurus can extract more money. So, i don't give a shit about "accountability".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:50 PM
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I absolutely think couples should live together before marriage. But the marriage discussion should appear prior to moving in together.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:18 PM
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Some people have f'ed up lives, but turning to drugs/alcohol is only going to deepen their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:16 PM
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But also it's bad if there is no marriage in sight. That's how women end up as forever girlfriends. Wife benefits at girlfriend prices...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 01:54 PM
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There's a scale of selfishness as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:45 PM
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It's more like those people want a good life for their children. Bringing a child in uncertainty is selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:29 PM
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Financial unpredictibility plays a role. I might have money now and have a child now. But will i still have a good paying job in 3 years? In 5 years? 10 years?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:08 PM
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No, but all dwarves are short.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:04 AM
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But...dwarfs are short
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:27 AM
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Speak clearly then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:20 AM
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Yes. Dwarfism is a partially a genetic condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:17 AM
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I agree 100%. It's so sad to see young men go down that slippery slope called RP that will consume them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:40 AM
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That's not my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:17 AM
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So my original question again: How does truth seeking reconcile with not reading the linked post in order to answer a question related to that post?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:09 AM
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You read the linked post and you detected jealousy in any of the top comments? Can you point to an example of a comment that has said jealousy?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:02 AM
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What does this have to do with the post linked?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:59 AM
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How does truth seeking reconcile with not reading the thread and commenting for the commenting's sake?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:48 AM
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It was navy. No point in having a wet tshirt competition if it's not a white tshirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 02:25 PM
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I remember some post made by a lunatic about clothes and he insisted that women should never expose themselves at the beach or at the pool. Obviously, people pressed for examples of what would be acceptable for women to wear at the beach. And dude linked what was essentially tshirt and shorts lmao 😭😭😭 Men and women laughed at him, PR men didn't even try to take his side, it was that insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 12:52 PM
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Idk wtf happened, i also think gen z is too stressed, too tense, too serious. My biggest shocks were 2 women and a man. Women 1: looked 35 tops. And i talk about flexibility, style, the way she spoke. She was 50, her son was older than me Women 2: looked 42 tops. Body, face, flexibility, just very fine wrinkles and no marionette lines. She was 63. And a guy who looked tense, wrinkly, forehead wrinkles, looked 33. He just turned 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:18 PM
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I guess it's nor.al and expected for some people to look younger than their age and other to look older than their age. But what i think happens is that there used to be that only 10% of young people look older than their age (number pulled out of my ass) and now 30% of young people look older than their age (number also pulled out of my ass). Also, it doesn't affect just women, but also men. It also depends on your social circle. You can't know the age of people on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:12 PM
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You're a core millennial. Idk how widespread it is, but i guess there are enough cases to actually make some waves. I think this video explains it quite well: https://youtu.be/oKwVFd-p1GI?si=NujAmzfBfIv8ngXY
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:00 PM
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Idk wtf happened with late gen z looking older than millenials. They say it's the clothes, the procedures and stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:36 PM
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Um...no
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:29 PM
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Neah, that's a taste of their own medicine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:03 PM
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I prefer pragmatism. That person has genetic issues and so do i. I don't find it mean. Adoption is always a possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:00 PM
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That "should have chosen better" is loaded with bitterness
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:58 AM
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Not sensitive, but pragmatic. I also have a condition that would be passed to my children. So i choose not to have children and remove defective genes from the genepool.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:39 AM
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They are mostly right. There are a number of things that i disagree with them, as expected. I don't think the men listen, honestly. At least i tell them that some are unsuccessful because of auyism or other conditions, yet they choose to continue to blame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:37 AM
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A sensitive soul will see anything as mockery.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:32 AM
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I see women being kind to men who tell stories about being cheated or the ex not letting them see their child. In similar situations, men lash with "should have chosen better". Some ladies here have very strong arguments. Men choose not to listen to those arguments because it doesn't sit right with their ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:31 AM
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I haven't seen women mock the men here. Although i see the men mocking the women. And without these women, it would be an echo chamber. The power is in the argument. The stronger your argument, the more power it has.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:18 AM
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What inequality?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:56 AM
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Nothing would make me make the first move
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 12:41 PM
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Nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:41 AM
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Different women value different things. And the way those things are perceived is highly subjective. This is why dating is confusing, it's not a one size fits all. I'm going to say i value loyalty. My gypsy neighbor will say money and status among peers as loyalty seems very optional to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 07:12 AM
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Also, it's half marriages, not half people who marry. We sometimes hear about someone divorcing spouse #3. Statiatic will count 3 dovorces, but it's not 6 people involved, it's 4. And some of the spouses could be previously divorced themselves which in turn affects the number of people divorcing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 06:55 AM
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Ofc they do. How else do you think momogamy works?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:44 PM
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So you praise single mothers, eh? They single handedly save our civilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:36 PM
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Nobody is devaluing anything when they reject someone. Whoever thinks that needs a serious checkup for anger management, delusion and drawing the wrong conclusions. And since that person is delusional, even more people will avoid them because we tend to avoid delusional people. Not a plesent company.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:32 PM
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??
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:24 PM
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Nobody dates out of empathy. And i certainly wouldn't like a man to date me out of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:16 PM
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No, i just don't like fit men or men who wear a tailored suit
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:01 PM
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Funny, charming bad boys with a heart of gold, no gym goers, has a belly, doesn't wear a tailored suit or a watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:51 PM
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I didnt scroll down, only saw one picture. She just needs a better style, but otherwise, she's fine. Indeed those guys are average, just not the average i would remotely consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:31 PM
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Scrolled down, i see what you mean now, but it just takes a better style. Those matches depend on what she wants. If i put my preference into the mix, none of those would be even remotely into consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:27 PM
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D'oh, who tf wants to date someone they don't find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:23 PM
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It's a possibility that they are. I mean, look at you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:21 PM
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I am very confused by this. Whoever argues a gorgeous woman can't get dates is delulu. None of the matches looks good, imo. We know what shirtless pics are for and we roll our eyes if we are looking for a relationship. Such a weird "experiment", but please don't delete the post. I want to link it each time men complain that their matches ghost them. Maybe it was a man catfishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:47 PM
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They like me from the beginning or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:52 PM
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I know what i want and i want it yesterday. Worked so far, no "pump and dump" whatever that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:52 PM
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Indeed, others would have been fastee
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:48 PM
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If the date is not asked for within the first 2 weeks of meeting each other, i am not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:35 PM
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I understood that reference simply because i hate that song and i find it obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:27 PM
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We used to make fun of and smack them behind their heads when people started talking shit. Now they are allowed to use the internet and there's no smacking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:15 PM
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Not even all women. Somehow i find her vocals annoying. Not a fan of her songs either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 06:11 PM
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Clearly you don't work for VW dealership and don't reinstall software for cars with less than 7k km.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:58 PM
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Sure, explain this to me after 6 software reinstalls.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 01:18 PM
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It's not the washing asuxh it's the ironing. And excuse me for not having a dishwasher.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:58 AM
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Yep, men don't really do it anymore and it's fine. Some cars are really complicated. Some guys don't like mechanical stuff, etc. But what rubs my gears is the claim that they fix it all while working overtime or insane hours like 80 hrs/week or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:12 AM
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Our car is still in warranty. It would be stupid to even try to fix it since it would void the warranty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:04 AM
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Nope since he is very slow. Please stop making up excuses. I think i know my parents way better than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:00 AM
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Ow i'm sure they overblowed how hard these fixings were. That until more women lived alone and had to fix them themselves. That's when they realised that it's not that big of a deal in many cases. Once you changed a pipe yourself, you can't accept "i fixed a pipe so you clean all the house and do laundry and cook" as an excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:59 AM
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She's a teacher. Same as my dad. They built it by themselves, only getting help with the foundation and pillars. There was no actual construction crew.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:54 AM
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I find it very funny how they list mechanical work. Sweetheart, with the new cars it's usually software that breaks a car. The electronics fail more often than mechanical parts. Plus, the manufacturers overcomplicate things in cars. On some models you need to remove the gas pedal in order to change the air filter. Plus, those who live in apartments don't really have the space where they can disassemble a car. They act like they take the engine out on a daily basis. And that's when you know they …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:52 AM
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*in irl You might wanna meet my mother. She did even more "man" jobs, including brick layering and adding a roof to a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:46 AM
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Or changing a power socket or fixing a sink. Especially with the amount of tutorials we have on YT. I even troubleshooted the issue with our previous car and "forced" the mechanic to change the part i was very sure it was faulty, despite that he said it couldn't be from there. I was right, car was fixed. Funny how 4 mechanics didn't know what the problem was.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:43 AM
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Yes, sweetheart. I do more than half of those things. Especially the heavy things that need to be carried since he had a surgery and is not allowed to lift heavy things. I work in IT, i can troubleshoot my own computer. The car is still in warranty and any fixing is done by the dealership where i call for schedule. I clean the yard when there is grass and we don't have a lawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:37 AM
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As much as he puts me first. It's a funny thing in our relationship. I put him first sometimes totally neglecting myself in the process. But he also does the same. The amount of times we have to remind each other to slow down, take a break, relax is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:32 AM
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Neah. If you're permanently online you might get to this conclusion. Sure, there are bad apples, but there are some fine men out there. This post reads misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:54 AM
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Doesn't change the fact that creepy women don't get approached. Maybe equally creepy men approach them, idk. But not normal guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:46 PM
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Funny how the creepy coworker i mentioned before was dumped by her bf once her behaviour became creepy, nobody approached her and people would ask what's wrong with her. But i can see the delusion if i switch seats with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:28 PM
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You think a creepy woman gets approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 02:04 PM
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Crazy look in the eyes only applies to men due to traditional social conventions? So why was my female colleague creeping everyone out from our floor?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 01:47 PM
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Staring, crazy look in the eyes, approaching a stranger when there's almost nobody around or it's dark outside and prolonging the conversation past asking for directions/time, overall clothes coupled with attitude. This applies to both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 12:21 PM
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It couldn't possibly be that i referred to a favourite RP talking point which is don't date single mothers because the child takes much of her time and she won't have time for you. Link this with OP who claims that children take just a little time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 10:10 PM
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You sure about that? You think that's what i meant?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:11 PM
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r/lostredditors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 04:52 PM
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It's "giving up some of your time" only when the discussion is about the women. If the discussion is about child support, it's astronomical figures and decades of the man's life. If they cared so much about children, there would be queues at single mothers' doorsteps. And none of them would complain about dingle mothers not having the time for the new partner. After all, it takes only a bit of time to care for a child. This is why i can't take RP men seriously. The discourse changes depending on…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 03:51 PM
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The poser sounds like a robot trying to learn how to be human. Or like a quest in a game. "Hang out with friends twice a week for 1,5 hrs" Reward: Socialised (title).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 06:35 PM
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The difference is that OP states small not micro. And i am not willing to discuss off topic with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:33 PM
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OP said small, not micro. Don't move goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 11:21 PM
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Idk how these cases are treated in court. I think it also depends on the country's laws. How i see it regardless, it's 2 drunks having sex. I base this on the fact that they were both equally drunk and neither remembers the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:57 PM
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Up your finger and tongue game. Why do we need a post for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:21 PM
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How many are on the basis of DV?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:00 PM
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"Darling, i understand that you are slightly unhappy that i cheated on you and now my secretary is pregnant, no need to divorce, it's a minor inconvenience".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:15 PM
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You know how some guys are more muscular naturally. I mean that's how they're born. Add some belly fat on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:39 PM
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As i see it irl, rip indeed. They all struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:58 PM
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Hey, thanks. Good luck to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:55 PM
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So maybe you can explain the sunglasses one, but that is *very" weird and neurotic. It reads autism if you ask me. refusing sunglasses in places where they are permitted
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:52 PM
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I met my husband when we were 18. He's everything i mentioned in my original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:23 PM
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19,5 bmi, both men and hetero women liked my butt. I've been very slim all my life. I'm 34 and still fit into clothes from when i was 16. I can circle my wrist with my thimb and pinky and there's still spa e to rotate the wrist. And the pretty part, both men and hetero women called me beautiful. I just think i am pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:52 PM
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Funny, charismatic, extroverted, loyal, great in bed, naturally developed muscles with a belly, no baldness, no chest hair naturally. I'm pretty, slim, great ass, great cook, devoted, supportive, i can do/help with handywork, good with investments and good economics knowledge, good with paperwork, i have (and will inherit) 2 houses, 2 appartments and 3 condos.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 07:13 AM
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To me, it matters. It starts raising eyebrows after 22. It starts to be weird after 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 11:42 PM
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It's also what can not be explained through statistics of studies. I usually say "you can't bring math to petry". It's just feelings. I guess this is "true love" and finding "the one".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:37 AM
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Yes, i understand your point better now. Perhaps this is the ideal for many and this is what they seek. It's also the point where marriage makes sense although i can't explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:22 AM
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Yes. I know one, it's my cousin. And i am very judgy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:16 AM
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A very interesting point! There would be one more example i'd like to add. Relationships where both give their best, there is no tab and use as fuel the sentiment of appreciation towards the SO + the sentiment of knowing your SO feels the same. And vice versa. Idk the prevalence of this relationship, it's the kind i have. IMO, it's the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 12:07 AM
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I'm not sure i understand
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:38 PM
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Look at the answers. We have 3 major types of answers (mostly). Never be vulnerable. Anyone who's properly socialized knows that in a LTR, your partner is going to be supportive and an emotional prop when times are hard. Be vulnerable from the beginning. That's like it's date 2 and you start crying. There's a time and place for everything. The normal answers: see what type of person she is. How she behaves with others, what she says, what she tells you. Then slowly open up as she opens up as wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 04:17 PM
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I'm implying that dropping emotional bombs on 2nd date won't get you a 3rd date. There's a time and place for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:56 PM
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When i say guys here aren't properly socialised, it's an understatement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:40 PM
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Good thing now we have egalitarian relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 02:12 PM
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Lucky guess? About 10-15%
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 12:22 PM
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Radfems are coocoo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:58 AM
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That's the man the manosphere tries to pass as average. Influencers actively try to convince, and succeed, unwanted men that they are average. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10732311/
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:45 AM
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Who they want doesn't want them. Because of what i said previously. There aren't many women who want an autistic man child with a pokemon collection who plays Baldur's gate. And that is not an average man. Idk what radfems scream that they want, i don't follow that sort of content. But it's the same for them. Ya got streetlight hair, sheven eyebrows and unshaven armpits and legs, unmadicated bipolar and an alcohol addiction. Not many men want you. And you're not average either. Get a grip
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:22 AM
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They're not compatible. It's a bad idea for them to form a relationship between them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:00 AM
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Up to a certain age, most people are paired up. What's left is a bunch of good dating options who may or may not be compatible sprinkled with bad dating options (addicts, losers, people with disabilities, outcasts). It's the same for women. Some are single because of obesity, mental illnesses, social outcasts. The equivalent of your average RP man is the average radfam woman. Guess what? They don't mix well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:53 AM
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Please stop trying to pass losers, men with disabilities (psychological included) and social outcasts as average men. It's unfair to the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:37 AM
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If you also eliminate TikTok...that means you eliminate all sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:16 AM
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You missed my point. You can choose whatever. But if you choose not to date that person because of their condition, it's not immoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:37 PM
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I think the majority of men naturally have some charisma. Sure, the % of men with insane levels of charisma is not high. Honestly, i think men score higher for charisma and humor than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:08 PM
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Bro, if you stop making out in order to seriously ask me if you can grab my butt, i'm leaving. If you stop in order to fake ask me (tongue in cheek style which requires a dose of charm with a scoop of humor + a funny face) if you can grab my butt, you better also grab a tit as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:55 PM
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My husband uses me as an excuse when he doesn't want to go somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:27 PM
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Meanwhile that dude probably put in years of work to impress you on a first date Not always. Some are born with it. Like natural +100 charisma. The thing is, guys who don't have it don't understand why they need to improve because the naturally gifted one didn't need to improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:05 PM
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You mean to say that women can't accurately describe what causes them raw sexual arousal, so they use the most approximate concepts? Pretty much. Not only it's hard to put feelings into words, but you also need a scoop of creativity to try to describe them. Plus, idk if languages even have enough words to describe nuances. And i really mean it. I come from a non-EN country and we sometimes resort to EN words to describe something because the EN word has the correct nuance and there's no word in …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:58 PM
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Context, my friend. Context. But yeah, if her tongue is deep down your throat, grab her ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:16 PM
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Nor is it disrespectful or unkind or creepy. It's sexy, exciting, cheeky/cocky and definitely not boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:26 PM
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Absolutely! I know at least one who would have been horrified by that. This is why women's preferences vary and there's no magic formula. This is the essence of "be yourself" and "read the room".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:16 PM
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I addressed a part of your comment. So it's you who changed the subject. RP men have no accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:04 PM
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Not only this, but i don't think languages have enough words to describe all the nuances. It's also a matter of perspective. In this post, there's a lady who said she feels a "glow" at her G spot when she's aroused. I'd rather describe it as feeling the need to fill up a hole. (As you can see, i am not very creative). I'm pretty sure we describe the same feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:02 PM
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I remember your post when you freaked out after you grabbed her butt. I told you i'd think "what took you so long?"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:53 PM
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Irrelevant for the subject at matter. This was not my point and i already considered it to be true for the sake of the argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:33 PM
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I think it depends on the country, but in Eastern Europe/Balkans this is hapoening more often than you'd expect. Even in my case, i'm 19,5 bmi while my husband was 40,5 bmi. He lost a lot of weight due to some health issues, but on his last check up, the doctor said he's still in the obesity range. I disagree and i think he looks just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 03:23 PM
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just be useful enough to her that she wants to mate with you over others The construction workers are very useful to me. Yet i don't want to mate with any of them. You sure this is it? Don't you think it's reductive to say the least?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:35 PM
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What makes me entitled?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:06 PM
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Not only it's a huge challenge to understand a feeling and where it's coming from, but frankly, i don't think languages have enough words to encapsulate that many nuances.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:47 AM
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I think you nailed it. There needs to be a motivator that makes a woman take that leap of faith. And that motivator is a rather complex process that can't really be rationalised to the T.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:06 AM
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Because those factors that are out of your control make it difficult for the majority of people to want to spend their life with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:30 AM
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It would be immoral to bully someone with a condition. It's not immoral to not date someone with a condition. Thia applies to both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:28 AM
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Accentance is liberation. If a relationship is still achieved, it's fine. If not, it's fine as well. It feels a little odd because we do all this effort to integrate and accept everyone into every facet of society regardless of factors they can't control like race, gender, disability etc. Integration, yes. Don't turn down someone with a condition if they can do their job. Don't exclude them from society if they can fit in. That's what integration is. What integration isn't: date them no matter w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:00 AM
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most men, autistic or not, are raised, trained, and conditioned to believe that women are their moral superiors Debatable, but i'm going to assume this is true. The moral aspect would be to feel sorry for what that person is going through. Which most women do. So not dating autistic men is not a disapproval of women's morality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:53 AM
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It's not a blame issue. It's an acceptance issue. And acceptance doesn't require blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:30 AM
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After a certain age it becomes weird. And it's not just young people seeing it weird, it's also old(er) people viewing it weird. Example: one of my husband's friends had a gf who was a virgin in her 30s. Hubby mentioned this to his parents and his parents' spouses. All 4 of them (people in their late 50s - early 60s) raised eyebrows and asked why and what's wrong with her. And indeed, something was out of the ordinary with her. I suspect she was aromantic or something. Barely hold hands with him…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:44 AM
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I think I may be responding differently to different people based on their tone. Now here's how i know this is a lie. Ypu became spiky with the feminist egalitarian lady who i know for a fact has very good, compassionate takes and never uses a bad tone. Just like i said: the mask drops. Sounds like a pretty common word that could be used anywhere from school to business to everyday life. No, not really irl in normal day to day life, especially in dating. Not to mention that i do not live in an E…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:09 AM
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Is...THAT what you understood?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:04 AM
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I think that what some people think 'RP' is, is actually just the grifters. Grifters are grifters, RP is RP. And feminism is feminism while misandry is misandry. Yet those 2 are confused a lot because of grifters. Hence i don't consider myself a feminist so i don't accidentally get bundled up with misandrists. You, on the other hand, keep the RP label. I have not attempted to put on a face of any kind for any purpose. Ow you did. I saw other comments as well. A polite, immutable, fake masculine …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:02 AM
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It could be a PUA, it could be a genuine charming man. This is why i correlate this with the other gactors at play. Charming + asks what i bring to the table = 👎 Charming + easy going, fun to be around = 🫦 I've seen self declared PR men spit lots of crap around here. Ask your grifters why RP narrative is so different. Also, plenty of RP men are egocentristic so it kinds checks out. Anyone who expects more from women is an RPer now. Okay. Well, thank you for your answer. Have a nice day. Aaand th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:00 PM
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RP men being charming or charismatic?!? They wouldn't be RP in that case. Something like how lucky i am to meet him or things like this. Or telling me how there's a line of girls waiting to date him. Accountability, complaining about how women aren't what they used to be, beta, alpha, sigma, men lead, men created this world
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:40 PM
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First i'd look for possible hints: fit, keeps a cool mask like emotionless or stoic, lack of charisma, charm, humor and wit. Then I'd look for nagging, backhanded compliments, questions like what do i bring to the table. Also, i'd be wary of his language if he uses any manoshpere buzz words.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:20 PM
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I like bad boys with a heart of gold. Charismatic, funny, witty, with street knowledge. Who has sexual experience and is interested in a Lady and Tram kind of dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:00 PM
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It's not a revenge fantasy. I am one of those women who can't be with a late bloomer. Even had a bf kind of like this so i know I don't like the type. I explained in a different comment, bur i'll say it again. It was a video of Miley Cyrus and ahe said that the moment she had sex, ahe couldn't put the Hannah Montana wig on. I understand her. That being said, i know for a fact that other women would be ok with a late bloomer. Especially if they are late bloomers themselves. But one thing is certa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:40 PM
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Yes. I am one of those women. I saw a video with Miley Cyrus and she said that as soon as she had sex, she couldn't put the Hannah Montana wig on. It didn't feel right. I understand her. I had 2 virgin guys. None gave me an orgasm. Married the first guy who gave me an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:27 PM
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Same thing i heard from other guys. Had a girl with experience for the first time. Very patient, gave many tips on what to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:00 PM
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Get a gold digger who agrees to make a child. Pour what's best from you in that child.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:21 PM
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Irrelevant to the topic at hand, which is "didn't have time to date, i focused on studies".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 06:08 PM
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How can someone change their circumstance if they don't acknowledge what the issue is?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 06:05 PM
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?? He didn't use shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:50 PM
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If a career prevents you from having a normal life, it's a bad career or you're not fit for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:50 PM
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I feel like school is easier on the US. I had a colleague who had to transfer to the US for a year. He said the things he learnt in school there were 2 years behind from what we learnt at school. Perhaps high school knowledge here is like college there. Also i think college is 2 years in the US, but we have the Bologna system (3 years) in EU.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:49 PM
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In a few edge cases. Now look at this sub. Ya think that's the case here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:40 PM
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I understand not everyone is the same as me. But i don't understand the need to lie to yourself about the motive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:39 PM
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Then should have picked an easier career, not stem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:38 PM
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There's always time if you really want to. I just don't like dishonesty
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:37 PM
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My points derived from a comment. In none of my comments do i address the OP directly, else i would have commented under OP. As you can see i commented under a comment addressing things in that comment. It does matter who they blame. Because afterwards, they discover the shithole that PR is and start talking about accountability of women without being accountable for themselves. if you haven't had romantic or sexual experiences by a certain age, you're either irredeemable, or a less appealing pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:35 PM
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Still doesn't address any of my points
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:25 PM
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It's nuance, not semantics. Again i met my now husband in high school. We both graduated high school, passed a difficult exam, went to college, graduated. After that i entered the second college, worked throughout the 2nd year, planned the wedding in the 3rd year. We both dated to marry hence we are now husband and wife. Also, we met daily. And we are not the only couple in this situation in our circle of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:24 PM
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I worked (commuted) while in college. Didn't prevent me to see my then bf (now husband) daily. And i mean daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:20 PM
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I mostly agree with the OP. A late bloomer is not my cup of tea. And it's never a bad thing to own your mistakes. Else, you don't learn anything from them. Ya think it's better to blame women, society, the dog, the birds, a political party, chem trails or the moon for the fact that you lack romantic skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:18 PM
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My point exactly. It's not healthy to delude yourself. You start believing that crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:15 PM
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You hold hands in the park at 15 and share a bottle of coke. You don't need academics and a stable financial situation for foolish teenage romances. Hormones override values more often than not. If he believes in dating only for marriage, he's not my type. But, again, it's not a case of "i focused on studies". It's a case of "my religion/values prevent me from dating if it's not for marriage". I have an issue just with the lame excuse "i didn't have time, i focused on studies".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:14 PM
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Is it now? How often do you think it happens? Parents died and you take care of your younger siblings - how often?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:09 PM
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More often than not, it's just an excuse. There really aren't many male teenagers raging with hormones due to age who aren't interested in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:07 PM
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No need to save face over the internet. Be honest. "I couldn't figure out, i had really bad teeth before braces, i had a huge nose before rhynoplasty, i had social anxiety". It's fine. You know what was going on and you're not deluding yourself with "i focused on studies" but actually really wanted to date. Else, you start believing this crap and delude yourself even more + risk sounding dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:04 PM
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Then say "i didn't feel like it". My issue is with using "i focused on my studies" as an excuse. As if studies prevented you to date, but you wanted to date deep in your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:57 PM
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Is Informatics (IT) part of stem?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 01:10 PM
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Whether or not most stem guys didn't have gfs in high school is debatable, but i'll take what you say as truth. My point is they didn't have a gf not because they focused on studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:50 PM
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Ow it did happen to you. But i don't think you are normal. You have severe psychological issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:36 PM
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Where is the incentive to be decent or be better ? One's self desire to be a good human being. As for you, get help. And a fist full of medicine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:23 PM
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No, you haven't. LOL is not addressing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:20 PM
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You understand that all the women i talked about who got a degree AND had a social and romantic life are partnered with *men" who also got a degree AND had a social and romantic life?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:20 PM
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That is disgusting and asshole behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:10 PM
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Are you going to address any of my points?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 12:05 PM
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I am norml, average. It's perfectly reasonable to be able to graduate high school and also date. To graduate college and also date. Multiple people around me did it as one. Even getting a phd while working and having a small child.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:46 AM
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Congrats! Idk either. We also have married friends who met in high school. They also graduated high school, college, master's degree, one of the girls was a valedictorian, also enrolled in Erasmus with job prospects to work for the embassy in another country. Another girl even has a phd. I am baffled by this "focus on studies". If it needs THAT much work for a college degree that others are able to obtain without sacrificing their social life, romantic life, etc, then maybe you shot too far and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:29 AM
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TL;DR
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:24 AM
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I never understood the entire "i focused on my studies" narrative. I met my husband in high school. We both graduated high school, went to Informatics faculty, graduated. After that i enrolled to a second college, economy. Worked all throughout 2nd year. Then for the 3rd year i didn't work, but planned the wedding. I graduated highschool, passed a difficult exam, got 2 college degrees, worked and planned a wedding all while meeting my then bf/fiancee (now husband) every day by the age of 25. Idk…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:12 AM
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0,1% tazarotene currently. Used 0,1% adapalene (Differin) and 0,1% tretinoin in the past. If you want to start, check r/tretinoin
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 10:42 AM
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I find it fun. I'll never turn down Monopoly, Catan, Cards Against Humanity or Poker. Depending on the mood, maybe even a game of Chess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:50 AM
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In his head? A billion times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 09:45 AM
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The power of lasers and tretinoin 😌. Magic, i'm telling you. Takes off 5 -7 years off your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 08:02 AM
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Omg i am obsessed with that song
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:40 AM
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Omg, i love Catan. Still, my all time favourite is Monopoly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:14 AM
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Chapeau
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:20 PM
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If she likes you, she'll wonder wtf took you so long. If she likes you, but she's the withdrawn type, it could be too much. Personally, i'd wander wtf took you so long.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:07 PM
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Both are favoured. Sometimes one, sometimes the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:32 PM
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I don't think they are aware that the screamers and those women aren't in the same social circle. Sometimes not even in the same country or time zone. The likelihood of them meeting and her to ask for empathy are close to 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 07:03 PM
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That's not luck or rare. It's literally what i see around me as well. They meet, they fall in love, they build a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:48 PM
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Yet, those are the motivators that snowball most relationships. You want to make things work because you love your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:37 PM
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This! The way feelings are neglected is astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 04:25 PM
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Post a light hearted rant on daily thread. Let's see.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:58 PM
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The tone. Because men wait too much, bottle it up and when they rant, they explode.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:50 PM
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The problem is the attitude towards the problem. Rant with humor, not jaded. Don't put everyone in the same basket. There are bad apples, golden apples and everything in between. Understand that you might have a problem: a face only a mother can love (Charles of Habsbourg type), or mental illness or physical deformities. That's tough to be in that position, ngl. It's a big chance you might not find anyone. Then, talk to friends. My husband has 2 friends who struggle to find someone. They talk op…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:44 PM
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Guys are not a hivemind. And PPD is not representative for all things in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:35 PM
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Good addition: eyes and microexpressions. That's how we got the resting bitch face. Too bad, some people call this "mindreading" instead of what it is: "reading the room". I've met a few as well. Most memorable is an ex coworker. She was very creepy. Tiny, skinny girl, just skin and bones, but would freak out everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:32 PM
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It's mostly in the eyes for me. Even when someone links a picture, it's always the eyes. Some people see it, some don't, some see it only sometimes. This is also part of the reason why some guys don't have any luck. A disturbed mind is seen through the eyes. It's how you see "personality" in pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:12 PM
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en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvia_Seegrist We avoid creepy people for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:06 PM
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Yes, it has a generic component to it. Pic 5 is creepy, ngl. Yet, many pics from that era are creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:59 PM
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Kinda true. I think i might need to reflect about this more. Good food for thought. Pic 3: I do setup rules. About me, my life, my expectations. Also, i have rules that i go by when choosing to keep in touch with someone. You gossip, we can't be friends. But i guess this ia valid for multiple people. It's not something out of the ordinary. Pic 5: Also, i was raised very modestly. I'm not dreaming about mansions. We have money, but you wouldn't guess from the outside. I'm also an introvert and to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:35 PM
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3 or 5
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:18 PM
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You doubt that social interaction is healthy? Ow my, makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:12 PM
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And healthy ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:07 PM
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I'm confused because i know cases where both parties know about the past. They are getting married in a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:54 AM
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I comment about wtf i want when df i want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:50 AM
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It's funny coz one of my husband's friends is getting married with his ex-gf's ex-bff. They know all the crap from the past about each other. Including meeting ex-bfs and ex-gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:24 AM
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E expect some people to find me boring and others to find me interesting. It's normal that not all people get along with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:15 AM
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Never had any of those. Just sandpaper sex and i would dump the guys afterwards. My husband is the only man who ever made me orgasm. Actually, the only person since i also do not masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 11:04 AM
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I am very confused by this. My husband knows my entire sexual past. Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:54 AM
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Married woman here. In high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:48 AM
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From the second article OP posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:35 AM
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I'd be very tall and very skinny. Kinda rich and perhaps bald. I don't think i'd drawn in women because i would need more witty comebacks and charm. Plus the kind of men (women in this experiment) would see me as a nerd lacking street knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:41 PM
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Yet, they want 18 year old female teenagers to find 30+ male adults attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:39 PM
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I know there are. They don't know that there are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:21 PM
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Please stop spreading disinformation. Retinol, especially tretinoin, is studied, safe and efficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:13 PM
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You have men who never even held a woman's hand. Their sexual experience is none or close to none. They want someone with a similar experience as them and to live their adolescence through their partner. Also, Ephebophilia. Also, there are more chances a teenage girl is more naive and easier to groom. Or has less money and can be bought.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:08 PM
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Ofc, people look at her because she has a nice soul, not because she looks put together https://youtube.com/shorts/gUXPSKpXS4I?si=snyf4XeecQVRPw8e
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:00 PM
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Everyone is mesmerized by someone who looks put together. Even a dressed up goat will draw admiration.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:32 PM
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Damn women and their (checks notes): face creams, bras and actually knowing how to dress to look put together. Let's say everything is done for men's attention 🙄. Why aren't you using cosmetics? Why aren't you also dressing in a flattering manner? What's stopping you from being put together?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 01:23 PM
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Porn addict talking about morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:30 PM
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Because data is often times misinterpreted, some studies are biased and frankly, statistics can't always paint the reality accurately. Reality is multi dimensional, a study is unidimensional. It simply can't capture the complexity of a situation/relationship. And i always say: love is poetry. If you want to bring math to poetry, you set yourself to fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 04:02 PM
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I think in writing, they just throw one word to encapsulate multiple concepts because people tend to want a shorrer message. Let's be real, it's not fun to type, especially on a phone. Plus, people don't read huge blocks of text.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:35 PM
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It means mostly having similar tastes, preferences, and activities. If one likes clubbing, they will want to go with their partner, but the partner hates clubs. This is an incompatibility. One likes asian food, the other likes mexican food. Ordering and cooking food becomes a challenge. Another incompatibility. One likes comedies, while the other likes horror movies. How are they going to watch a movie or go to the cinema. Again, incompatibility. Both need to be on the same page. Else, they won'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:08 PM
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I would do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 07:14 AM
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I'd say around 60%.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:20 PM
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Yes. Also, "i've seen many women" is code name for "i watch rage bait videos in a compulsive manner and i need podcasters to form an opinion and put it in my head".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:08 PM
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This guy worded it better than me. All credit to him. https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/Jx8KaAJn6E
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:57 PM
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Each and every one is entitled to trust whoever they want. If they want to talk to a tree, so be it. It will be a problem if they expect the tree to answer 😶
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:42 PM
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I think this is what many women here mean when it's talked about money. Minimum wage in college or immediately after when you grab any job that lets you gather experience in your domain? It's fine. But still being stuck in that position 10 years later...it looks bad. I think it's similar to hotels when you go on vacation. In your youth, you'd sleep anywhere, even share a bathroom with 10 other people. With time, you want a better accommodation. Not a 5* hotel, but maybe 2-3*.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 07:06 AM
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It depends on age. Let me give you my example: In high school i dated the whole range: guys who come from mkney. A lot of money. And guys who's family was dirt poor. At that age it didn't matter. My now husband, then bf had a similar situation as me. Then 2008 hit and his family lost everything. We were in college by then and the financial situation still didn't matter. I knew my family had another apartment where we could stay, we just needed jobs. Now i'm close to 35. If I were looking for som…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:49 AM
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That responsive desire is so accurate. I didn't know it had a name. And indeed, it checks out in my case. I need to be charmed in order to start having that desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 06:23 AM
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When i say some guys view women as aliens...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 06:45 PM
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Already married
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 04:28 PM
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But haven't you heard that around here allllll men have huuuuge incomes and are breadwinners and rich and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 03:22 PM
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I don't give a shit about any of those. I want charisma and humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:58 PM
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Or go even further and say they can pay a housekeeper and a prostitute. So they don't need a woman at all. Then proceed to chase women and complain that they get ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:54 PM
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Pretty much
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:28 PM
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Woman here. The insults vary: hypergamy, slut, whore, hoe, land whale, gold digger, lizard brain, mud shark, bitch,
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 02:08 PM
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Guess it depends a lot on location, but idk any tattoo places that work late at night (presumably the late hour at which one would leave a bar or a club).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:30 PM
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Id's say personal charm, charisma and humor
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:35 PM
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Just mentioned mythology and left it there
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:24 PM
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Rather ask if a woman ever loved em, even platonically
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:50 PM
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Question for rp men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:42 PM
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Yesterday we had a guy base his ideas on mythology. Disney sounds better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:36 PM
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So a few women out of a huge line. It's great to hear that just a small % of women do this. It would be a huge problem if this was happening often and was done by many. As you described, it just means that there are only a few outliners. Second point i'd like to make is that perhaps you never went to a highschool where the default smoking place for students is the girl's restroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:50 PM
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Then link the article if you have better information. The article posted in OP doesn't say anything about any bail amount.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:19 PM
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Articlr doesn't state any bail amount. Pulling information out of your ass is damaging. Just like false rape accusations are damagining.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:09 PM
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It's an elusive term that is parrited around, everyone has their own definition and none thought about it themselves, but the guys in the podcasts mention it, so it must mean something. Just like accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 08:32 PM
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In the 30's it's kind of too much. Maybe it happens to a handful of people. In their 20's, sure. It happens to many. I got police questioning me and my then bf (now husband) what classes did we skip. We were 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 04:42 PM
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That's what you get when you are pushed to get married fast, young, without proper vetting, not take feelings/love/tingles into account and divorce is frowned upon.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:09 PM
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Whoever even thinks about being a SAHP, especially without being married, should first read this post as well as the numerous updates from this lady (click on her profile to see the updates): https://www.np.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/6ejpHYdUdH
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 05:48 PM
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Ya know, i've been with my husband for 16 years. We never had the exclusive/monogamous discussion. If I went out with another man in a romantic setup, would you consider it ok because although married, we never had the monogamous discussion and suddenly I feel polyamorous? Coz sure as hell that would be considered cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:12 AM
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Didn't work when i said what I want (and perhaps other women want the same thing, not all of course). I was accused of wanting a dance monkey or comedian. What i think you neglect to take into consideration is the rage of a man who doesn't have any or part of the qualities i list.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 07:06 AM
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This is quite good advice. And i'm glad women started doing this in order to protect themselves from men with red flags. Grups like Are We Dating The Same Man might have saved a few women the headache of dating bad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:53 AM
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Ow that's awful, i'm sorry. Idk what's up with this guy, he does have a twisted mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 11:13 PM
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Not even. A few were really pretty, but others were really meh. One in particular has Hermione Granger hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 11:01 PM
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Guys's good looking and social skills are as high as they get. Idk how the hell he picks them. Or how he finds them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:58 PM
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I've been in a 16 year relationship. We fought a lot in the first 4 years, not proud of all this. We cursed, yelled, everything under the sun short of physical violence. That many women at the height of their emotions can say the most awful things to a man and take advantage of his vulnerabilities, and wont think much about it and go with their day like nothing happened. But not this. I never took advantage of the things i knew about him. Also never picked on things from the past. But none of us…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:56 PM
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Very similar to what one of my husband's friends stories. Only mention is that the guy i'm talking about mostly had somewhat obnoxious and quite frankly hard to like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:46 PM
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Same reason a face mask put on at home is not the same as a mask at the spa/derm. Atmosphere, people, cocktails, music mixed by a professional, being with other people in the group. It's an experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:38 PM
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Spill the tea. I am actually curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 10:34 PM
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But once they research, it shatters the sand castle. How will they moan and whine that they are oppreased/victoms/not respected/whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:14 PM
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Not only Unacceptable behaviour (in public or not), but that's not going to make someone want a relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 12:22 PM
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I never rejected someone in an embarrassing way. However, i had one case where the guy started screaming at me in the middle of a very crowded street. Also, he wouldn't let go of my hand. I really hated this encounter not only because i don't enjoy being screamed at or pulled by the hand, but i also hate scenes in public. So embarresing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 12:03 PM
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Yeah, life's tough for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:21 PM
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Yes, there is empathy. I often mention my husband's 2 unlucky friends. I feel for them. Good jobs, house, car, but no gf. I know the reason behind their lack of success, but there's not much i can do to help them. I feel for them, though and i hope they will find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 11:12 PM
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No, hence I used the AutoMod. Because my intention was to raise a different question, not directly answer. After all, men are very intelligent, they can figure out a silly woman's response.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 10:36 PM
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Maybe 10% of women do the casual sex, ons, etc. And like what? 0,5% of these women go for celebs. Why focus on 0,05% of women? First of all, I commented under AutoMod for off topic. Because although i did provide an (indirect) answer to your question, i also raised another question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 10:30 PM
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I am so confused by this. Are they out of ideas for fearmongering? First of all, the whole idea of casual sex is so inflated. Maybe 10% of women do the casual sex, ons, etc. And like what? 0,5% of these women go for celebs. Why focus on 0,05% of women? Like, that's negligible amount of women. I really don't get this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:58 PM
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Doesn't negate the fact that he can come with witty comebacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 09:46 AM
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We'll use big fonts
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:21 PM
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It's ok, we can type.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:16 PM
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This is so sad. I hope people will come to their senses and ditch this practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:51 PM
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I think the only reason they still exist is old customs. I hope the practice will stop in the near future
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:26 PM
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It does feel like they think only really hot women deserve a good treatment and then whine that average women also want the same treatment. "She's less hot, she should be happy with scraps". Thank god, i think ess and less average women would put up with this bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:58 PM
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Unfortunately, yes. Arranged maggiages exist 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:54 PM
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Poor manlet or not, but he has his way with words. That usually increases attractiveness. A lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:44 PM
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Wish i saw that warning before entering the sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:33 PM
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Not russian, but close enough. Because everyone fixed their own shit in the previous generations so skills were passed to the children. Usually the father fixed things, but almost always kept a child around to keep the light, bring this and that. Invitably, kids learn how to fix things. Idk how the trend is in Russia, but my guess is that usually the male child was summoned to help fix things. Just how the female child was summoned to help cook. The best thing is that i see the trend of fathers …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:18 PM
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I'd argue that a neighbor can fix some shit for a bottle of vodka.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 07:10 PM
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Not in my case
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:55 PM
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A (translated) saying: you eat a sack of salt with someone before you get to know them. People show themselves with time and by being in a life situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:53 PM
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30+
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:51 PM
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I often say that the truth, but i think it extends to reality as well, is not flat, but more like a cube. It has more faces depending on the angle you look at and multiple (sometimes antithetical) things can be valid at once. Usually i provide the example of birth. Birth is a wonderful, unique thing for everyone (as in each person's birth is unique, you don't get to be rebirthed). Also, it's a bloody mess that most people find repulsive and gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:47 PM
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Idk what is IOI
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:35 AM
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That's just female nature. Hypergamy. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:26 AM
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Although i agree from a citizen pov, from a city planner pov i disagree. City planning is for optimizing the space, optimizing traffic and other rules like building height, even colors, overall aesthetics. It's a similar situation with highways. Those are not built for ordinary people to go on vacation. Those are built for businesses and logistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:22 AM
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Yet, it infuriates them when they are sent outside to touch grass smh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:06 AM
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Does anyone else have the feeling that some men on this sub are like aliens who arrived on Earth a few hours ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:01 AM
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If the boxes that matter are ticked and there's chemistry, yes. Even if it's chemistry, i'm not going to date a violent criminal for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:40 AM
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Wouldn't even date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:34 AM
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Or a Willy Warmer
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 09:15 PM
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CBD oil
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:05 PM
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What i find awesome about men is how they act when they are faced with good homemade food. Hovering the plate, happiness in every bite / spoon, the satisfaction after they finish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:44 PM
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Someone needs to post a statistic about the spike in google searches for bear statistics. Bears, so hot right now!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 11:26 PM
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And many men call themselves breadwinners when they make 5% more than the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:28 AM
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Yes, there's like a bare minimum that each woman has a bar set for, but it's not money per se that triggers tingles.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:37 AM
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And here comes charm and humor. And those can trigger the tingles and all that comes with it. Yet, some men here insist that it's money and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:07 AM
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I had a look at r/AsOneAfterInfidelity It's a sub for couples where one of them cheated, but they are trying to reconcile. They are the most invested to find out the "why" and did the most work to find the "why". I've seen it boils down to having mental issues, usually BPD, being a sex addict, egoism and not thinking about your spouse at all and simply because they could. Also, it appears that there's nothing that the betrayed spouse could do to prevent cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:02 AM
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The content they consume makes them neurotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:48 AM
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I think i already answered
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:53 PM
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Not accepting cheating doesn't mean owning
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:47 PM
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Nu-uh. I don't own anybody and nobody owns me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:41 PM
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Add problem solving skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:43 PM
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No chest hair. Like naturally no hair on the chest
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:39 PM
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There's boundaries and there's "let".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:36 PM
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What do you mean by "let"? Do you own her to "let" her do things?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:29 PM
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Because if she's going to a gas station at night most probably she's going alone, not to mention it could be in a sketchy place. While the trip to Mexico is with a group and they are going to public, populated places. Idk why this is even a question. I thought men are the logical gender, they could have figured this out by themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:03 PM
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What? Vetting based on compatibility? I think that's the best strategy for a long beautiful marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:41 PM
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More like, whatever those people have, i don't want it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:28 PM
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Don't really care. If they want to play sugar daddy and those women want to play sugar baby, hey, everyone gets what they want. I don't think it affects western women at all. It's not like women flock to date them, so nothing is lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:19 PM
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Married my bad boy. He wants me to be smart, opinionated and ambitious. He also wants me to have high regard for myself, never be a doormat and wants me to be happy. He pulls his weight at home and i can always count on him. Yes, these exist as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:16 PM
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I was confused at first, but then the puzzle made sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:35 PM
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The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Seen this validated way too many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:48 PM
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In general, we agree. I think where we don't agree is how many men are able to talk to women and how many aren't. I'm not invalidating your observations. Different people, different circles. In mine it was pretty much the other way around. Most of the guys could simply go, flirt, use charm and voilà. Still, you gave me some food for thought. It could be that most older folks (30+) had these skills better developed vs. the younger crowd (20-30). Perhaps the truth lies somewhere between us, depend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:46 PM
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Idk why you brought rich or lying in this discussion. It's very hard to follow you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:40 PM
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Ofc, because i'm not making a 6 page essay. Long story short: girl had eyes for this friend. Husband sent friend to talk to her, told her what to say. Husband knew the girl and knew how she would like to be approached. Friend ignored advice and did nothing. Friend single
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:38 PM
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What i wrote besides that, is it true? About food, sex, eyc
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:36 PM
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In fact, I have set my standards sky high because I’m low key hoping no man meets them and I never have to get married Unless you're in some sort of f'ed up country, this came out very nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:35 PM
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🙄 it's not how it played out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:31 PM
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What wasn't accurate from what i said?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:26 PM
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Strong character men do go for strong character women or who have the potential to develop a strong character. It's weak men who go for weak women. Like, have you ever seen a power couple irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:21 PM
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I gave an example of someone who didn't let someone else help them and that obviously didn't work out. I'm transmitting knowledge that sometines it's ok to let someone help you, especially the ones who care about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:19 PM
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Damned if you help, damned if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:09 PM
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Yes, many. And what do they have in common? Most of them struggle romantically despite being tall, rather handsome, having money, house, job, car, nice and friendly. Simply put, they seem to have everything going for them, except romance. And if you can't put 2 and 2 together about what's wrong with that person, it's the skill of talking to a woman. And this includes charisma and humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:05 PM
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First of all, i didn't talk about physical power, so half your comment is off topic. It's about mental power and the potential of having mental power. That's where confidence and self esteem has its roots.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:01 PM
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What does this have to do with my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:58 PM
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O was dead serious. Look up some subs and maybe you get some books recommended. Idk any, i would have listed them, but yeah, it's my idea of a starting point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:52 PM
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Yeah, i know. Those are unstoppable. And you can tell things are working between them. They're partners in crime lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:32 PM
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What i find is that weak men want a weak woman. Strong men look for strong women or potentially strong women. And then they will do some mental work with her so she won't be a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:15 PM
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You might want to reread this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:09 PM
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Well, they don't actually like average women. Example: https://www.np.reddit.com/r/AcneScars/s/IfX54pY3Jr
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:05 PM
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Sir, this is a debate sub, not an advice sub. Perhaps it involves psychology knowledge, practice, spontaneity, being able to read the room, being able to read people, and creativity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:03 PM
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I bet on "huh" here and "shut up" in the dms
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:49 PM
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As i've said. They look for shortcuts
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:47 PM
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Have i said otherwise? You said you can't find women without makeup. I just left 2 subs where there are pics without makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:46 PM
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Idk what other women think, but i know it's not that. I know a guy, he can sweet talk a business deal like no other. But when it comes to women...flat line. What i have a problem with is men dismissing charisma like it's not a big deal. Nu-uh, it is a great deal. Sometimes a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:44 PM
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Sir, prostitutes approaching potential customers don't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:45 AM
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Word! Some are even so delusional that they think there's a special formula or incantation or master key to unlock access to a good woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:33 AM
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I'm not framing it as just talking to people. Lots of men can talk to people but sort of block out when it comes to talking to a romantic interest. Talent also has to be cultivated. Like ooera singers don't magically hit perfect notes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 11:02 AM
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It's a different skill. You don't flirt with family members.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:52 AM
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It's also why i think they will divorce down the line. Sex is the only thing that meeps them in that relationship. Otherwise, they don't have much in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:32 AM
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Thank god not all women are like that. I don't like spoiled brats. Also, you kind of rat out that guys only want really hot women. I thought the consensus was that they are looking for average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 10:01 AM
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I genuinely believe lifting is way down the line and charisma is way up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:58 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:53 AM
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I don't think we can reach common ground as our ideas are very opposing. Still, mind that it's very likely that we live in different socities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:48 AM
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Boy, u sure are looking for a needle in a haystack
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:44 AM
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One of them is a sex addict and his fiance is a nymphomaniac.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:43 AM
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Boy, those podcasts sure brainwash people. It's the damn charisma and humor that makes a man attractive. It's part of the reason OLD doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:42 AM
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I'd say it's charisma
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:36 AM
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I find him highly charismatic because he is highly charismatic. Taught charisma to his chaddy friend as well. Be yourself is not a bad advice also. If you try to be someone else, you come out as fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:35 AM
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Is it this or is it that is what pushes our buttons? Note that the same lines don't work for all men. If it doesn't feel natural, it comes out very fake. Hence the clown and weirdo comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:32 AM
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I give advice on what works on wifey material, not some hoe you fuck on a saturday night.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:20 AM
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Yes, something like this. A lpo giving advice on the topic he's pro and knows what 100% works in that particular case.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:18 AM
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Eh, some people simply don't want to be helped.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:16 AM
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I agree that it depends a lot on what each person's shortcomings are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 09:07 AM
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I agree with this, but... My highly charismatic husband has a very uncharismatic friend. They've been friends since high school. Now, my husband tried to knock some sense into him. Tell him to go to a girl, say this, do that. Those were girls from school that they both knew so my husband knew how to push their buttons. It wasn't a blind shot. His friend did nothing. "Neah, i won't go talk to her." He would even pretend not to like her even though it was obvious he had the hots for her. how do yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:59 AM
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You know how plastic surgeries make the perfect proportikna face, but in the end the person seems ugly because it's like too perfect and that comes out as fake and fake seem ugly. That's what happens with muscles as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:52 AM
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I will not argue with health benefits. But those gymbros don't ingest various powders for health benefits do they. Tennis and swimming has health benefits and yet, the hym is "just lift, bro".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:50 AM
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I love me a man with a belly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:45 AM
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I'm trying to reach the younger audience. Maybe there is still time for them to do something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:45 AM
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Having a shape, yes, if you are overly obese. Past a point, being fit has diminishing returns. If you lifted like crazy and after 3 years you still get no dates, it is possible that fitness was not the issue to begin with. But you wasted 3 years focusing only on lifting and not working on your charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:43 AM
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but why dont those men also improve in social skills? because it takes balls And shall i add, more work that doesn't have cheatcodes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:35 AM
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Why none of our married friends ever went to the gym? How do you reconcile with this?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:33 AM
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Nothing makes a person rage more than telling them they don't have what the other sex finds attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:32 AM
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Suit yourself if this is the hill you're ready to die on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:29 AM
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There's a point where appearance can't save you and make all the pull without some charm. No, you're not going to be like those natural charming people. But half charming is sometimes enough to vibe with someone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:27 AM
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I think it is to a degree. You're not going to reach god tier, that is pretty much born with high charisma, but practice makes perfect, observing charismatic people helps, but that needs to be adapted to your personality else it comes out as fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:24 AM
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Why not work on both at the same time? Why waste time?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:21 AM
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Yeah, there's not much hope for those.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:19 AM
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Shallow or not, i'm not in the market for a neurodivergent guy. It raises an eyebrow because average people start having relationships and sex during highschool. At 22 for example, most even graduate college. If you hear about a child not walking by the age of 3, would you think it's something wrong with that child? If a child is not talking by the age of 6, would you think it's something wrong with that child? So it appears there is in fact a timeline of development, of life stages and experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:17 AM
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I'm confused now. The cuddle, the feeding is just for one guy - the one she loves. How did you get to 3 guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:10 AM
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I'd argue that past a certain point, being fit is affected by diminishing returns and charisma will weigh a lot more. But then i prefer a man with some belly but very charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:09 AM
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Wish i knew. I'm trying to explain and provide examples and give elaborate explanations to men who ask in good faith. Maybe, maybe, something reaches the destination. Sometimes there's a dead end for them that is very difficult to overcome. And there are multiple factors. What i think weighs the most is that after a certain age, whoever is partnered is out of the pool. And the men and women that are left are simply not compatible with each other. Those women are not what these men want (justifia…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 08:06 AM
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I'm sure you can provide an example
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:53 AM
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Where did you get these ideas from?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:51 AM
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I find it sad that sooo many men downplay charisma and humor. If they would work on that instead of JuSt LiFt BrO, they would be much better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:51 AM
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I'm an atheist so anything religious doesn't appeal to me. I guess there could be a bunch of women, a small % who want that, but i'm yet to see it in my circle.of friends. However, you made a generalising post about a small % of women. You still didn't answer my questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:48 AM
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"Lead" like on a leash or what? Lead me where? Lead me how? Lead me why? Lead me when?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 07:39 AM
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Lol, she'll do all of that and some men still wouldn't propose.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:59 AM
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I'll say it depends on the age. At some point it starts to raise an eyebrow (around 20-22), then both eyebrows (25-27), i think it becomes weird past 30. I apply the same standard for women. The reasons why a man is still a virgin don't quite interest me. There's a good chance i'll find them as turnoffs and wouldn't date that guy anyway, without even knowing he's a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:57 AM
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Ow, we understand men. Feed them, sex them, listen to them when they have something on their heart, let them know how much they mean to you, spend time with them, hug them, cuddle them. The tiny little problem is we're not doing all that for any man, just for the one who gives us "tingles". So you either turn on a woman's engine or you continue beating the meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 06:18 AM
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This is not the topic of this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:09 PM
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Well, post the question. Maybe the context below for clarifications. As you worded it, it was confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:58 PM
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Ma'am, you might be in the wrong post.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:51 PM
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I interpreted that as the last image, the one with makeup compared to stage makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:16 PM
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Do you have feelings for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 02:03 PM
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She didn't refer to the first 7, though. Also, what she pointed is true. Last lady has makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:53 PM
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r/tretinoin r/acnescars
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:44 PM
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Sir, that is still makeup. OP asked for no makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:31 PM
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It was just a question for men to post images of women without makeup. Some men posted images with obvious makeup. Women commented that there is makeup in those images. Some men responded correctly and posted images without makeup. You made a comment that women don't reply to the comment that mostly included images without makeup. I told you that is because that comment was according to what OP asked. It was on topic. You: but but but ??? I still fail to understand what is confusing for you and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:28 PM
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You can always correct someone when they are in the wrong. Those men could still believe they look at a no makeup picture. Also, what can we discuss about when OP just asked for no makeup pictures and the men actually followed a request and didn't mistake red lipstick for matural lips.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:18 PM
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It's actually about not responding to the question. OP specifically asked for pictures without makeup. Posting pictures with makeup, but trying to pass them as "no makeup" is not what was requested.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 01:09 PM
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Sir, there's makeup in the "no makeup" photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:56 PM
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Because they are actually without makeup. What other commenters did was point out that there is makeup in the images that men tried to pass as no makeup. Except the last one. That has makeup on
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:47 PM
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And doesn't have any surgeries or fillers
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:43 PM
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And then they call them average. And then say men are attracted to average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:41 PM
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Now watch some explanation stumbling about well, acktually, a lil bit of makeup for correction is not makeup, it's natural, but enhanced 😃 All this while clean girl makeup and skincare as makeup has been the go to trend in the past years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:00 PM
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I would bet on this as well. For example the inability to understand creepy behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:47 AM
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This is so weird. Why would you want war and land grabs? I think we should all have basic respect/decency. Other than that, you can admire whatever qualities you consider important. Doesn't change the fact that everyone else can have an opinion about your choices in what you admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:09 AM
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This doesn't make any sense. There are women who don't use makeup, who use drugstire makeup, who use high end makeup. Same for cosmetics or hair products. First of all, i am a big advocate of sharing the bill. Second, how can a man know if the woman uses products and how much they cost. Third, she would use a small fraction of each product as you don't slather on an entire tube of mascara in one go. Also, a woman usually can use products, but can decide not to use any at the date. Does it still …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:41 AM
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Had a neighbor, her husband insisted she stays at home and won't let her apply for a job. He was violent, alcoholic and would deny her to buy anything for herself including necessities like tampons. Imagine begging your husband to give you money to buy tampons and for him to say no. I was 7-8 years old when i heard the story. One of the most motivating things in my life to always have a job and be financially independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:17 PM
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Yes, trained in martial arts. The overwhelming majority of women are not trained in martial arts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:03 PM
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Indeed, it's so weird. Perhaps it stems from insecurity, need of control or some trauma. Some sort of anxiety to not lose someone you put your hands on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:57 PM
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?? I spent my childhood with a violent father which my mother never divorced out of fear he would kill her. I don't think you understand how easily a man can overpower a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:54 PM
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Idk the case, but for each woman who overpowered a man, i'm pretty sure i can find 10.000 who were overpowered by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:47 PM
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First of all, I wouldn't go to a club with just my husband. We would go as a group and this includes some of his friends, including my cousin. Now you see, my husband and some of his friends grew up in a tough neighborhood. So idk how to put this lightly, but if someone would try anything funny with me, the press and the ER would also be involved. And it wouldn't be the first time either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 01:40 PM
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Or did. Just read a post about a dude who was upset because his gf outed him that he doesn't wash his hands after using the bathroom. So she said he took too little time at the restroom, he must have not washed hia hands. Indeed, he admitted he didn't wash his hands. Eye rolling in such a situation is not disrespect. Waah your hands after using the restroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:59 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:35 AM
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It's overated. You will appeal to some niche, though. If that's what you want. I think they are sent to the gym because many people are past overweight and in the obesity territory. In this case, please go to the gym for your own sake. Also it seems like a somewhat achievable fix with easy instructions. Lift and ingest some powder. Doesn't matter that the dude's problem is that he is extremely shy. Lift and the shyness goes away 😃 Personally, i don't like these very muscular looks. It looks unna…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:58 AM
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Don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:30 PM
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A pregant lady pig
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 01:22 PM
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Lol, and there would also be a grill, or more like a Gryll. I'll see myself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:15 AM
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Since you said "bring", this means i can choose. So i'll bring a man that i choose and a pig that i choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:54 AM
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And a skin lamp
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:59 PM
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From the news: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/a-third-of-male-university-students-say-they-would-rape-a-woman-if-there-no-were-no-consequences-9978052.html
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:48 PM
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Playing dead works fost most animals except wolves and i forgot the other one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 03:08 PM
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I'm quite certain why all the buzz, though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:23 PM
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Here's an article about this: https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2016/03/29/uncertainty-about-the-future-is-more-stressful-than-knowing-that-the-future-is-going-to-suck/?sh=6f63a485646a
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:23 PM
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1/3 of men would commit rape if there were no consequences. He can kill me, blame the bear and there would be no consequences. While playing dead is quite effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:22 PM
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Maybe, maybe not. Shall i remind you what i said about uncertainty?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:19 PM
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Maybe it is maybe not. Now we are circlejacking back to what i said in the first place: sometimes uncertainty is worse than certainty. At least with the bear i can play dead. With the man, i am raped and dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:59 PM
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A woman doesn't have a fighting chance, not even against a healthy teen male. He was a stranger until we met...at an adult's house, an adult that my parents trust, an adult that already vetted him and knew his family and plus there were other people around. Can you tell the difference between "already vetted guy and other people around including an adult" vs. "strange man in the woods and nobody else around"? Coz if you can't tell the difference, there's no point in continuing this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:52 PM
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It's about the place and context where we met. An adult who my parents trust already vetted him before and there were other people around. See how that compares to "strange man in the woods and nobody else around"?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 01:24 PM
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It is the result of mismatched couples. When one is submissive by nature and the other is a violent tyrant by nature, that is a mismatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:10 PM
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My mother would have divorced my father if he wouldn't have threatened to kill her if she leaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 12:03 PM
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Trusting the environment where we met and the people who introduced us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:48 AM
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Ofc. So many mismatched couples remained from the times when women had to marry someone as soon as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:42 AM
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I blame autism and functional illiteracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:27 AM
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Ofc and ot depends a lot on the type of people that you keep around you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:27 AM
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Familiarity and building trust. Uncertainty is sometimes worse than certainty. The man you live with, who you've known for years and you were there for each other in better and worse is not a random stranger as the man in the story. Idk how you can't figure this out. I thought men are the logical gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:22 AM
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Ofc bachelorette parties are the wild ones. They're so wild that The Hangover movie is inspired by / refers to / exagerrates a bachelorette party as they couldn't find the inpiration from bachelor parties. The boys are too tame. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:18 AM
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Ow yes, you have a very good point. We wouldn't be compatible at all. None of us would be happy in that relationship. We can still be friends ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:46 AM
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My parents and grandparents gave me wine with sparkling water at 4. Welcome to Eastern Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:44 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:18 PM
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What made you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:11 PM
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And that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:43 PM
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I don't think everyone knows what it means. I see bad boy equated to jerk and that's not true imo. Bad boy = not scared to slightly cross lines because he's sure about his charm, very confident, had a rough life, maybe even been in a few fights, isn't a doormat, has keen intelligence (street knowledge) Lady = doesn't fall for any kind of charm, low n count and only in relationships, well mannered, maybe a bit high society, can present her to parents and they love her, drinks with moderation, int…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:56 PM
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Let a gal dream she can change the world, god damn it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:50 PM
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We both say we got lucky to meet so soon. The thing is, i said that's just my personal opinion on what i like. I think it's a good thing if men here see various views women have. You'd imagine not all women want what i want and will not agree with my preference. It has worked out for some of our friends. Different dynamic ofc, one that suited their personalities and wishes. It's funny how we had 2 colleagues at work. Separately, they were both unsufferable. After some years, they got together an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:35 PM
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Why is it self-interrested? Why is it wrong to want to be happy with a person you want to make happy who wants the same things as you want? And it's not a system i propose. It's what i wanted, what i got and what worked for me. It's what he wanted, what he got and worked for him. He's a bad boy who wanted a lady. I'm all into Lady and Tramp dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:17 PM
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You gave me some food of thought. You see, when we went on our first date, he had no tshirt on, but a hoodie with a partially unzipped zipper. Now, that plushy skin of his, plus the cleaverage got me very much interested and attracted, ngl. Yet, when we actually met, he simply closed the control access that i dialed to ask me to wait for him to finish his cigarette as he figured we were going to the same apartment. Now that's a line that was crossed, sounds rude, but he played it so cool, it was…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:08 PM
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That's because you're normal. Get out of here while you can. After a while, it becomes addictive and comes back for laughs. Or to study mental illnesses
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:33 PM
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r/Waiting_To_Wed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:20 PM
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(Personal, subjective opinion) Easy: the prospect of being alone doesn't sound that bad. When i wait for him to initiate i vet for charm, charisma, humor, extroversion. How else am i gonna see if he (mods and many others are gonna love me for this /s) has the balls to ask me out. Shyness is very unattractive. Same with fidgeting, being too soft, too sensitive, too sheltered. I like it a little rough, not too much, but maybe just enough. I like the build up, slowly at first and then faster and fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:10 PM
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This! And i also need to add proposing for marriage. I've seen women do this, it's also a bad strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:44 PM
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I see your point, but i looked for charm, charisma, humor, extroversion. These qualities you see from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:15 PM
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Thank you! Finally someone gets it. Idk why some here just turn the issues on all sides just because they lack the qualities to make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:37 PM
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It's normal not to fit with many people on an intimate level. Why do you think it's called The One and not The Many.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:32 PM
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No, not really. Ya think he'd still be here if we weren't happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:07 PM
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So many assumptions. Have you ever heard of puzzle pieces?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:06 PM
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Courting ia not marriage. I talked about his side because OP is a male. If a woman posts, i'll talk about the female side.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:10 AM
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I described the tango in a comment. You must have missed it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:43 AM
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What happens when you marry the alpha? He becomes beta kr what? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:29 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:07 AM
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Ow, the men hold the entire economy rhetoric. That's just a pathetic way of thinking. Society will be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:57 AM
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Now you're just justifying potential violent behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:28 AM
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Truth is a cube. Multiple things can be true at once depending on the angle you look from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 09:06 AM
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When you bring maths to poetry, you're killing the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:56 AM
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What you fail to understand is that when it comes to initial approach, a woman usually cracks the door open and invites you to a tango. Now you can enter the door or stay outside. If you enter the door, you begin a dance of reprocitation. If you step on her toes, you're out of sync, she'll invite you out the door. I won't address the "what i bring to the table" inquiry. There's a balance in our relationship that took us years to achieve. We're quite a team actually. But to address your burning c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:47 AM
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It's a circlejack at best because no matter what they want, scream or rant, if someone doesn't want to be with you or doesn't need to be with you, that person will not be with you. Crossing this line gets you in the fellon territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:15 AM
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Idk why you think i make no effort. I'm in a 16 year relationship. Ya think it just happened with no effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:09 AM
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Other than self reflection on the issue of standards, there's not much else to do. Can't tell a heart who to love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:08 AM
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Because it's not something i want. Most i did was crack the door open. Best filter to out the men i described above.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:01 AM
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You are absolutely right. And it's a good thing there's now the opportunity to be with someone you truly love. Marriages out of necessity or because of society's pressure are doomed to fail or be unhappy. And this will reflect on their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 08:00 AM
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In my case it's a preference. If he can't approach (especially if the woman shows that the door is at least cracked open), it's not the man i want. I read it as: not confident enough, not enough socialised, potentially introverted, doesn't know what to say, how to say it, how to flirt, how to read signs, too shy and misses opportunities when they show up. All these make him a bad match for me. How is he going to keep the flame going during the relationship, i like to be charmed and flirted with …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:49 AM
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Special occasions should go by good manners standards, but these are rare, special occasions. In day to day life, i'm more than happy with flexibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:31 AM
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Word
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:26 AM
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Sir, you're a rare gem with deep understanding of interpersonal dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 06:58 AM
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I think it's rather easy. Feed them, sex them, hug them, listen to them, let them know how special they are, spend time with them. The only thing is, you're not going to do this for a man you don't love, aren't compatible with and doesn't pull his weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 06:40 AM
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Yes, i did. Sorry, EN is not my fiest language
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:30 PM
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Idk what should stay, but letting women pass first through the should go. If you're near the door, just go. You're slowing everyone down waiting for me to pass and potentially blocking the door. Just use the damn door.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:08 PM
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That's where compatibility and how you communicate comes into play. Casually describing the drama is fine i guess. Maybe even have a good laugh about it. Making it a big thing if the implications are not severe is whining.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:05 PM
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That trauma dump is not a definitive line for every woman. I think women have a hard time being with a man they perceive mentally weaker than them. And some women had a rough life, but somehow managed to stay on their feet (more or less) and find some stability (more or less). When a man who cries because his sandwich was stolen in 6ty grade and 3 colleagues made fun of his bowl haircut, it's hard for her not to laugh and see him as weak when she grew up with alcoholic parents, but that strength…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:53 PM
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Personality: charm, charisma, humor. A man they like to be around. A man who is there for them, to listen, to laugh, to spend time together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:48 PM
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I think most men follow these influencers and for those who follow, it just shows their type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:44 PM
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I'm not gonna judge them that they have a type. I myself have a type. What i want is for them to be honest about it as many of them follow completely different women compared to their gfs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:42 PM
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My statement may not be true in your case, but it's true in awful many other cases
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:28 PM
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Have i said otherwise? It' not like all men have the same type. Hence the different influencers. Some prefer the bikini girl, others the anime girl, others the nerdy chick, other the big titty goth girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:23 PM
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I don't have any social media either. Keeps me sane, perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:21 PM
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Nooo, ofc they don't. Those bikini influencers with millions of followers are followed only by women and bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:16 PM
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Men have a type. It's whatever type of woman they follow on insta just for her looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:31 PM
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The only way to make your point is to find a case in a French court where the father was accused and found guilty of breaking this law by submitting a 23andme sample.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:13 PM
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23andme is not a paternity test. It is able to show paternity, but it is not a paternity test per se. C'on, summon that logic, will ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:03 PM
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Show me the gun. The article posted above doesn't even mention consequences, just what types of tests are accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:01 PM
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Show me the gun. The article posted above doesn't even mention consequences, just what types of tests are accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:01 PM
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Says nothing about it being a crime. Even if it was, submitting samples to 23andme doesn't fall under this law. Neither going to your nextdoor neighbor to make the test there. C'on boys, try harder. You're the logical gender aftetall.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:48 PM
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And they wonder why we pick the bear as comments show they mostly thought about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:42 PM
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The most atheist person i know is the eldest daughter of a priest who has 8 children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:33 PM
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I've observed both sides as a standbyer. Most people find someone eventually. For some it takes longer, others hit it off pretty quickly. But the reality is, some will end up unpartnered. There will always be (more or less justifiable) grievances from both parties. It's always been that way. So PR will perhaps morph in something different as soon as most followers will realise it's deceiving. Radfems will continue perhaps. I feel like they've been pretty constant.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:25 PM
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I got out of a series of relationships, especially one that was on again, off again and it's a bad idea to fight fire with fire. So i took a break. No sex for 2 years, had a few dates with a guy after the first year, but we weren't on the same page. Then i met my husband. And i know of similar stories from friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 05:06 PM
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It's never expected to stay in an unfulfilling relationship. Go, leave, find the one for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 04:17 PM
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Ewww Also, idk why people assume that comment was about me and my husband. I explicitly said it's in cases of sexual incompatibility where the handjob is requested. But again, many men here aren't in relationships, so how can they understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:53 PM
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That was a boob. I type so bad i wonder how i don't captcha codes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:16 PM
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I'm married. Not interested in others. He's taken as well, so don't even try.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:15 PM
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It's not a 2 min handjob. It's tens of minutes of work and then he wants enthusiasm and for you to undress and wants to touch a book or grab your ass and it's going on and on, doing something you didn't want to in the first place. If you're happy with a 2 min wank while i can scroll on my phone and not pay any attention, i have no problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 03:06 PM
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It's the ability to manage your emotions and understand the emotions of the people around you. Clearly, OP is having a tantrum over the opinions of people on the internet. The internet, man. That low.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:17 PM
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Reread what you wrote as slowly as you require. Look up a few terms if you need additional information about what they mean. So, anyway, i started learning how to do polygel nails and i enjoy the process so much. It's only my second set and now i used cat eye nail polish, but i struggle with those magnets, i can't really make them gather all the glitter to reveal the design. Also, i think i need some black nail polish under the cat eye polish because the cat eye is more jelly and i want better c…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:12 PM
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This is what lack of emotional intelligence does to people. Sad, sad little creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 02:04 PM
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It's bad that it happens. It's not a society issue, though. If it happened to 25%, 30 or more, then you can start to talk about society issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:28 AM
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Yes, it's an issue for those individual men. If the 2% of children are unknowingly raised by other men than their fathers, that's a very small % to be able to call it a society problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:44 AM
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It's not a cultural or societal issue. It's just an issue for individual men who don't even fuck to brgin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:39 AM
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What does this have to do with the subject at hand? You're derailing, logical boy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:02 AM
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And once you find out it's not yours the non conventional way, you go to court and do the official one. I thought men are the logical gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 07:48 AM
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You didn't really address my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 07:10 AM
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Get 23and me tests. Plan a family trip in a different country (hello EU and easy travel) and get a test from there or order online.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:09 AM
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You sound like a self fulfilling prophecy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:47 PM
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Go to a derm. Lots of procedures nowadays, this is quite easy to fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:02 PM
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There's a saying in my country: You take (put) a 💩 in your mouth and then refuse to let it go. This is how this topic is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 05:41 PM
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Same here, but with chores. The more he does, the more i do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:04 PM
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Excuse me, but hot gf - shrek bf is (was) kind of a norm in Eastern Europe / Slav countries / the Balkans. Or men in more Western countries are worse than Shrek? (This is a half joke, half truth)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:50 PM
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Obviously they do, else they would go for disabled women. Or the nastyest obese single mother OF failure who has an alcohol and drug addiction and she would take them out of desperation. They do in fact have at least one standard. To receive what they crave the. It's usually the feeling of knowing that you are loved (however each individual drfines it). Other times it's to have a child, other times to receive validation from society, to feel complete, and other reasons perhaps, that i can not th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 07:26 PM
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Really now, there's even an entire post: https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1birpfu/men_of_this_sub_do_you_believe_that_most_men_have/ Remember one thing: i talked about men who lie that they have no standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:44 PM
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It's either functional illiteracy (and i have a hunch that somehow it is a factor for these unsuccessful men) or plain bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:41 PM
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Count yourself, i did the search for you. https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/search/?q=I+have+no+standards&type=comment&cId=1a9c64da-4c76-4fa6-864b-493536890c34&iId=a07aee25-c1cb-49fc-bf36-f539d2e2a808
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:46 PM
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What I say: "men (who) lie about not having standards" What you understand: "yOu MeAn MeN sHoUlD nOt HaVe StAnDaRdS" Now you see why nobody takes you seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:03 PM
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It's rare for a woman in a relationship to have friends who are also in a relationship? How does that work? Once she gets a bf she ditches her friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 03:15 PM
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Why do you automatically assume their friends are single? Why can't some friends be single and some in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:48 PM
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Ow dear god, let me guess, Russia is a world power. If we bring delusion to this thread, at least let's go all in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:51 PM
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No, he's advocating for men to take accountability for the lie that they don't have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:48 PM
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Because they are (mostly) men who don't dance, can't dance, don't have who to dance with, don't really have a conventionally fun group of friends, never went to a club with their girlfriend or other couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:47 PM
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A synonym for wit is keen intelligence. Intellicence has different forms. An intelligent person understands this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:31 PM
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I like humor that comes from wit, not mindless ramblings. At this point i think you are purposely obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 01:30 PM
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You haven't read the second definition, have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:55 AM
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Sir, if the only humor you know is shit talking, your life must be very sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:45 AM
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Ofc. But men here look for mathematics in poetry. And since keen intelligence (wit) can not be quantified, they refuse to understand (or don't have the mental capacity) that wit is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:44 AM
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That is not the definition of wit. wit noun the capacity for inventive thought and quick understanding; keen intelligence. a natural aptitude for using words and ideas in a quick and inventive way to create humour. No wonder men here confuse bad boys with jerks. They can't even get the definition of wit straight, not to mention using wit to understand the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:40 AM
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EN is not my first language. This is why i refer to it as intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:04 AM
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It's a different type of intelligence. Non convensional and non academic. And i value it more than academic intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:00 AM
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Some people consider the world flat. Should we discuss what some nutheads think or what the majority of people think? I know the level of wittyness I want when i see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:53 AM
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As a smoker in highschool, the restrooms were the most used places to smoke. I usually used the girls' restroom and there were a few boys who would join. I think the highest mark of "you're not weird as a guy" is being accepted in the girls' bathroom in highschool when smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:50 AM
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This is because unwitty men equate intelligence just with academics. The famous xx% of MIT students are virgins. Yes, honey, you are highly intelligent when it comes to academics, your diploma is not making me want to bang you. Wittyness (idk if english has a word like street intelligence), however...that's a whole different story. Also emotional intelligence not to cry at age 30 that some kid made snarky remarks about you some 18 years ago. It's ok, it was a long time ago, let it go and move on…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:38 AM
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All this reads as "I'm a sex addict, so all men are like me, there is no other way".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:55 AM
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The question should be more smart and more witty. Plenty of people have quite an impressive education (MIT, phds), but aren't witty and have no street or life knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:18 AM
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I can't upvote this twice. Lack of communication and stonewalling ends a relationship and kills the romance. I can't stress this enough. Communication is important all throughout the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:39 PM
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Neah, i picked the dress that suits me. But i know you'll try to twist the truth so it fits your narative
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:42 PM
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We are definitely not in poverty. We both work in IT and i have a more than generous family inheritance. I just think it's stupid to pay lots of money on a dress that i wore just one night. I wanted my man that night, not a fairytale party.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:43 PM
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Meaning?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:34 PM
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If those guys didn't help you with advice, those aren't your friends. My husband has 2 friends who struggle although they are really good people, who care about others, kind, get their shit together and their lives figured. Their problrms: boring subjects (especially one of them will give you a 4 hour php tutorial), lack of confidence, fidgeting when talking to women, neither knows how to flirt, neither is charming, neither is funny, neither is charismatic, one of them has these robotic movement…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:25 PM
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My whole honeymoon + my wedding dress were less than $1000.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:23 AM
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Ya know how rp men parrot that "noooo, if you find a good woman, you respect her and even if she becomes older, you remember her as young and you respect that etc etc". Yeah...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:38 PM
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I never lied as there was not much to say. I married the first guy who gave me an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 11:35 PM
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It's a fucking nightmare and i love it. With all the balkan influence my country has. I'm talking about this in terms of men's clothing: https://9gag.com/gag/aBdAB1P?utm_source=copy_link&utm_medium=post_share
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:27 PM
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I understand. I'm just saying i've witnessed the opposite. Just because she's attracted doesn't mean she'll treat you nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 05:18 PM
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No. Not if she perceives you weaker than her. Not if she has her own issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:57 PM
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I'm confused by some words, i'm not a native speaker. I'm in Eastern Europe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:48 PM
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So this couple was together for some years, he loved her dearly, gave her the best possible treatment, attention, everything. Alcohol and her mental instability got the worst out of her and they split. She was the one to contact him to be fuck buddies after the split. Conclusion: just because she's attracted to you, doesn't mean she'll give you the best treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:44 PM
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Nice without a spine is useless. A woman pretty much won't take a guy who has less mental power than her. She's shy, he can be shy, but less shy than her. So you and your friends might struggle, but i think what i said is part of your unsuccess
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:22 PM
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Here: https://www.np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/AkdLlElu0C
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:19 PM
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It's the shape rather than the material. And the whole idea of a suit. And the shoes that are required for a suit. Can't stand chinos as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:17 PM
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Still doesn't explain HOW and WHAT FOR
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:02 PM
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Always rushing. It's not good
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 04:00 PM
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Well then, it's settled. Why the vitriol?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:59 PM
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Then why does he feel personally attacked if a woman drops bad habits (is accountable)?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:58 PM
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I would give you 20 if he can explain coherently why it bothers him a woman learnt her lesson (one would say she was accountable for her actions) and doesn't go for losers anymore. Because the way he sounded so far is like a speed driver who suddenly had a speed limit bumpers on his favorite road.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:57 PM
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And the relationship ends if she ever goes back to old habits. You know you can leave a relationship, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:39 PM
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Incoming either no answer or a word salad. $10 says it's word salad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:38 PM
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Man, please reread her last paragraph. Honestly, just read it and don't reply now, but think about it, sit on the idea one night and just process it. Post or ask for clarifications, if needed. This message comes from a friendly point, a person who has some life experience and can recognize a valuable piece of advice. Take care!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:30 PM
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So rigid and reminds me of my father.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:43 PM
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Body language is crazy important to me. The mimic, the posture, flirty gestures and looks. Clothes are also important, for example i don't like men in a suit. Get a hoodie, some snickers and a cool tshirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:13 PM
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Yes sweetheart, even married women have abortions. Ya think abortions are only done by unwed women. LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:09 PM
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Yeah, you won't find a definition because they just repeat what the podcast says, but the podcasters don't explain it. So men repeating this like a parrot have various definitions based on their misfortunes. It's just a word salad full of biases, delusion and rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:59 PM
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Don't bother listening to that crap. Also, you won't find honest answers here. RP guys here will pretend those RP influencers are grifters while quoting them in other comments. If you call them out to correct other RP men who listen to grifters that those ideas are not RP, they chicken out while also talking about women's accountability (whatever that means coz no man has explained it coherently here). They will invoke not being able to control what other people say, but expect feminists to cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:31 AM
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Bingo!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:11 AM
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Personally, it wouldn't impact me at all. You would see protests, men having vasectomies, women having tubes tied and less marriages. Women would start getting illegal abortions, some of them would die.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:13 AM
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Society always puts pressure, but it's less and less taken into account. When did we move the goalpost to leaders?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:07 AM
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So what is this elusive accountability? Let's hear the third definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:05 AM
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Society has less and less pressure. Love dictates more. And by default, love wants monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:48 AM
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They replied with different definitions, basically proving my point that they don't know what it is, they just repeat it like parrots.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:47 AM
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It still is the default. And it' not because the desire of a stable society. Nobody thinks "i'll enter this relationship for society's benefit". It's because when you love someone, you're not willing to share that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:20 AM
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Monogamy is still the default.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:12 AM
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I'm 2
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:08 AM
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Ow i understand this. My husband's friends treat me like a cool dude with long hair and they talk freely around me. But the reverse is also true. Endless seething about women will not change women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:03 AM
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Never date a man who spins plates. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:52 PM
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Stonewalling and refusing to acknowledge what i said. Men 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:18 PM
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You are stonewalling on purpose. I said no rp man knows what "accountability" refers to because they just hear it in podcasts and repeat it like a parrot. You said your definition. Someone said a different definition. If you 2 actually knew what it is, you would give the same answer. Herd mentality, parrotting something out of a video.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:11 PM
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But why are your answers so different? It just proves you don't know what it means, but repeat it like sheeple. Herd mentality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:33 PM
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And they talk about the herd mentality of women. Pfahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:55 PM
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Friendzone is just a rejection. Everyone encountered some form of rejection (stretched word) in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:44 PM
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Some dude answered something very different. LMAO, nice way to out yourselves you don't actually know
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:42 PM
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That's misandrist and bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:24 PM
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I stepped in when someone was trying to steal from a young girl's pocket. I got death threats by the pickpocketer. There were over 50 people in the bus station. Only one woman defended me from the death threats.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:59 PM
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Nobody answered this because the podcasts don't explain it, just mention it. So guys can't explain it because it hasn't been explained to them. It's some vague word salad, highly interpretable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:32 PM
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However, it is reasonable to call 911 and report the aggression.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:26 PM
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I think that there are bad apples in both baskets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:12 AM
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Hey, i felt that. Get that onion off my plate!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:50 AM
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They took it themselves i guess. How can someone control another person's actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:32 PM
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Where are the groups of teens gathering at the entrance of a block of flats, chatting and eating sunflower seeds?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:00 PM
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Imo both mysoginists and misandrists are on the same level of evil. Different sides of the same coin
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:33 PM
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Depends. Useless for something specific that they are supposed to do (as in their job) yes, i even told them to their face. They no longer work there, i wonder why. My father considers his father useless as a father figure. Rightfully so, actually. But my grandoa was very much needed at hus job.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:07 PM
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Calling any gender (as a whole) useless is wrong on way too many levels. Calling individuals useless (like my father calls his father for objective reasons) is a case by case situation and sometimes it's well deserved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:51 PM
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And is this the conclusion you reached?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:49 PM
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I agree and i blame radfems for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:48 PM
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I agree that at least i don't need a man (want is a whole different story), but i don't agree that men are useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:45 PM
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Have you read beyond the title?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:39 PM
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I do have a problem with radfems because they bring nothing but shame to the idea of feminism. Somehow they took over the word feminism, made a joke out of it and now real feminism suffers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:28 PM
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Post the video if you can find it. I've seen a lot taken out of context on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:25 PM
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The article doesn't support the claim you made.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 03:23 PM
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Why people in a bubble forum about a mental illness doesn't think straight? You see the same thing on the short men sub. Body dismorphya is a thing. Also, it grinds my gears when people start a post with "i saw a post/video/whatever" and then don't link it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:59 AM
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I mean sure, you can make all sorts of assumptions, that's on you. But having a preference is not a discrimination. People of any race are not discriminated against when it comes to relationships. Same for fat, short, bald, ugly, poor, you name it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:27 AM
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Relationships are inherently discriminatory. Jobs are based on skills and knowledge and race has neither. Perhaps acting is one exception due to staying true to the original story (either a book or a video game or real life events).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:08 AM
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Racial preferences are not racism. What a word salad you made there...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:40 AM
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Thus is clean girl esthetic: https://www.google.com/search?q=haily+biber&sca_esv=268bc2f0954a79d8&sca_upv=1&udm=2&biw=360&bih=618&ei=hAEqZoelBPL5i-gPs6ycsAU&oq=haily+&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIgZoYWlseSAqAggAMgUQABiABDIEEAAYHjIEEAAYHjIEEAAYHjIEEAAYHkisJ1DoDViCIXABeACQAQGYAXWgAbISqgEEMjIuNLgBAcgBAPgBAZgCB6AC2wWoAgDCAgcQABiABBgTwgIEEAAYA8ICCBAAGIAEGLEDwgIKEAAYgAQYQxiKBcICDRAAGIAEGLEDGEMYigWYAwKIBgGSBwMzLjSgB581&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp Again, your perception is biased by what is attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 07:12 AM
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This is so funny because my language is very colorful when it comes to cursing. You can cuss for 20 minutes straight without repeating yourself. You can make things up on the spot about someone's dead relatives, crosses, gods, blood and onions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:58 AM
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You know how the internet feeds what you like. That says a lot about you. "Clean girl" has been viral for years. Here, i picked a random article about it: https://vogue.sg/clean-girl-makeup-tiktok/ Or ya know, do a search on the platforms to see how popular it is. Or check r/decadeology which is a sub for trends that dominate time periods and you'll find "clean girl" as the estethic for the past years.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 06:20 AM
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God, pretty much this. I am a really big advocate for 50-50 pay on dates, but if some dude came to me demanding this, i would cancel any plans. It's not about the message, it's about how it's discussed and how the problem is raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:26 AM
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I'm sorry. Sometimes an event like this (a breakup in this case) is a wakeup call. Like a slap on the back of the head.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:59 PM
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The trend for the past years has been clean girl makeup and skincare as makeup. But i guess the podcasts aren't up to date with trends so they repeat the same old story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:46 PM
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II expected more maturity from a 40 year old. Leaving someone at the door is rude. You can refuse someone in a more elegant manner imo. You're entitled to refuse anyone, but yoy'te not sntitled to being an AH. Bob here is hurt by the refusal (obviously), but keeping him at the door must hurt a hell as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 10:32 PM
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I also married the only guy who gave me an orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:42 PM
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Ehh, depends on what you're looking at, the question, context and so on. Again, i need to see the post and the comments you refer to in order to say that's shaming or not. Cobtext and the way an issue is presented and the tone and the way everything is phrased always makes a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:04 PM
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At least i do relate. And asked specifically about their entire history, i bet most women here had an unpleasant sexual encounter in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:53 PM
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There's a 40% gap between male and female orgasms but somehow no woman on PPD has ever had this problem I had this problem with ex bfs. Part of the reason why they are ex bfs. If you would ask me, i would say i am very pleased with my sex life with my husband. That doesn't mean i am pleased with my entire sex life. This is why you get these answers. It can totally be true that women here are sexually pleased...by their current partners, but not by all their partners (past + present).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:42 PM
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I think they are venting, but some do have psychological issues. I can only speak for myself. I am being honest on the internet, this even got me in trouble a few times. I think that what you have here is some very different groups of people. Vocal men who are terminally online, who live life through statistics, some were sheltered, some were bullied, some have autism, some are very young. Then you have a group of women who tend to be older, married or in a LTR, who have a very social life, who …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 02:31 PM
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Lmao, i always called out shitty behaviour, got me in some trouble on some subs. Nice deflection, though. Thanks for agreeing that the story is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:04 PM
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I know women aren't angels. But i also know this story is fake and someone bites it 😹
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 09:46 PM
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This sub is wander land for a psychiatry student for mental illness samples.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:42 PM
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That marriages are not financial transactions...so your entire post is nothing but delulu content
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:31 PM
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I did ignore money, else i wouldn't be married to him. The driving factor for marriage is love (for me), not money. I have money for both of us. I don't give a shit about money. I touched the other parts as well like doing something else. I don't want a tired husband because i put him to wake up early to make breakfast. We have money, we order. Sleep is more important than hE mAdE mE bReAkFeSt ThAt MeAnS hE lOvEs Me. I don't want anything that would put any pressure on him just because he brings…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:19 PM
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I'm bringing a house, a brand new car just for my husband, the same salary for the same working hours as my husband. You actually think i should put my husband through extra stress just because there was a financial crisis in 2008?!? Wtf is wrong with you?!? We both pull our weight in our marriage. We both try to give 60-40% so that when one can't do more, the other picks up. We are both tired, we are both stressed, our health is declining. You want me to put my husband who had a surgery to pick…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:00 PM
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Ehhhh, honestly none. I'm older than any of these guys so that excludes all of them from the beginning. Yet, i'll list what i find off putting about each. Choice 1: baby mamma drama + OF + waay too many past partners + has a child Choice 2: his job (i would be dead worried at home because of a potential accident) and constant missing from home + his beliefs (women should stay at home moms) + most probably wants kids and i am childree Choice 3: virgin + autism + anime (looks like more than casual…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:03 PM
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Is the face though? Honestly, i'm not sure it's the face necessarily. But more like the faces you make (mimick), or certain features that are striking (eyes, beard). When i met my husband he had a cap on his head and combined with the posture, i couldn't really see his face. I could have walked past him after the first encounter and would not recognise him. BUT! He has a very soft, plushy skin, especially on his chest. I mean you can just look at it and you know it's soft and plushy and i found …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 08:11 AM
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Yes, this. I see personality so downplayed on this sub by some of the users, it's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 08:00 AM
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Multiple reasons. Sometimes dancing is flirting, closeness. It's fun and we love having fun. It's sociable, a lil extrovert, catches an eye. In a club, a woman might not even see (literally see as in vision) a man standing in a corner or at a crowded bar. But on a dance floor, she will notice you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:48 AM
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Well played i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:36 AM
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I did not expect the truth to be spoken by the user of this account
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 07:23 AM
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Some magnesium supplements perhaps?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 05:17 PM
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Fidgeting. I can't stand the constant movement especially shaking and moving his fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 01:54 PM
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He's creeping. I'm leaving
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 12:37 PM
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Post this on CMV sub. But if you stonewall there, your post will be deleted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:38 AM
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Why am i a jerk?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:58 PM
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Sometimes you can't see the forest because the trees are in the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:28 PM
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Whatever floats your boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:26 PM
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I just defined it. Please reread my comment, i don't think you got the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:15 PM
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That's my house. I help unload and carry the materials to the construction site. I WFH, when the truck arrives, i take a break, help unload, then go back to work. Sacks, bricks, insulation, iron bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:12 PM
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25 kg sacks I work in IT as a project manager. Before any speculation arises, there are no gender policies in the country or within the company.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:50 PM
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What does the title have to do with the body of the post? I'll answer the title: i find it hard to have respect for a man who's weaker (physically, emotionally or mentally) than me. If i can give a helping hand on a construction site and lift heavy stuff, i expect a healthy man to keep up. If i can cope with day to day crap, stress, job (i work in STEM), etc, i expect a man to keep up. If i can deal emotionally with deaths and illnesses of loved ones, i expect a man to keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:28 PM
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I'm 34. I see any man below 30 as a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:02 PM
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That's not cruel. That's "i forgot to take my medicine and my weird personality comes out, also i am socially stunned".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:07 PM
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The funny, charismatic one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:30 PM
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Settle down = marry Settle for = accept someone you consider subpar
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:59 PM
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Depends on what you want to attract. In my case, i never bothered (and look down upon) with people who are flashy, especially men who pose with cars or really fancy places. The same goes for flashy brands, logos, gadgets. I have money, yet i value modesty and a flashy man is a huge turn off. Actually being flashy is a dealbreaker i never bent. No exceptions. I can also explain why, especially with cars. An expensive car is a bad investment. Their value goes down, a loonatic hits you and gets it …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:21 PM
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The odcasts, obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:00 PM
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Social courtousy i guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:59 PM
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Boy, you sure are a nice person
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:50 PM
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A woman just choose to go sexless and dateless and just spend time in quiet solitude and “work on herself” after a break up Hello, i guess you never met me, nice to meet you. A year later i met my now husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:40 PM
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As lazy as it seems, it's true. In any kind of relationship, things work only if both parties pull their weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:39 PM
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I think it boils down to: if she wanted, she would.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 05:22 PM
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I didn't downvote you, idk why you accuse me, but ow well. It could be the type of women you choose to swipe on. A friend of ours met his 34 year old virgin gf on tinder. I think it's a mixxed bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:56 PM
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I think moderation is the key in life. And i frown at casual sex. I will not argue what's best, i'll argue that most women don't engage in casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:47 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:45 PM
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Because it's a debate sub and outrageous takes need to be backed up by serious sources, else it's just delusion. You being in a group of people who do this has nothing to do with the general population. As an analogy, an adventist person might think most people are adventists because in their circle all people are adventists. In reality, they are a minority. Hence, the delusion and requirement of a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:45 PM
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That's bad, honestly. I hope you grew out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:36 PM
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Source? Other than podcasts, ofc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:29 PM
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Hmm...i wonder what the tag "looking for something serious" is for on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:25 PM
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Ofc it looks like it's most women when podcasts only show rage bait content
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:36 PM
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Diversity is great. People having diverse preferences is precisely the reason so many people partner up in this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:20 PM
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Yes, a small minority of women have casual sex. Talking as if most women engage in casual sex is delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:09 PM
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That's diversity, not anarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:07 PM
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Yes, sweetheart, there is no magic formula to find your soulmate. Each woman has her own likes and dislikes. I like men with a belly. I have a friend who likes guys who are ripped. And another friend likes guys who are just skin and bones. I like bad boys, another friend loves sensitive, introverted guys. There ks no anarchy because you can't tell your heart who to love. You either fall for that person or you don't. And who you fall for is often times surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:03 PM
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If only women who have ons, fwb, etc are relevant to their lives and these men want to fuck...why the fuck do they bash them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:36 PM
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Never had any of those. And irl idk any women who engaged in this behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:29 PM
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I find it crazy that some men here think most women fuck left and right and have situationships and fwb and ons all the time. The women who do this are a minority. Idk why they obsess over a minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 01:56 PM
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A bar is a meeting place. Unless it's a known singles bar, assuming everyone going there is looking for someone is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:26 PM
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I'm not a mind reader.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:39 AM
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What is this supposed to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:12 AM
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I think the most sane answer came from women. If this promotion includes shares of that company i would understand having a postnup just for the shares as i would understand the company's concern about who might own a considerable amount of shares in the company. But, if the postnup includes anything besides the shares, i'm out. This cannot be compatible with our relationship as it's been from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:47 AM
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And sometimes standoffishness is not a bad thing. Nobody can cry that they got led on when the other person was standing off from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:32 AM
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It's about balance and consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:19 AM
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We acted as a couple, yet i got hit on. Sometimes he gets hit on although it's clear we are together. Again, imo the zodiac comment is not rude. The rest is just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:43 AM
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Are the suits as complex/shiny/sparkly as a dress + jewelery? You need to create a balance. A man in a formal suit looks bad if he wears sneakers instead of formal shoes. Everything needs to be from the same story. Same with a woman with long formal dress, makeup, heels, jewelery and a birds nest of a hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:41 AM
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The first comment about the zodiac was funny. The next one was weird. The fact that she expected a stranger to know that her habit of playing with her bracelet was her signaling she wants the conversation to end tells me she is really really young and doesn't know how to behave. Not an excuse, but a motive. I also take into consideration that the story is fake. What i don't agree with is the expectation to be hit on when going to a bar. I've been hit on when going out with my husband and i clear…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:35 AM
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Um...read the title of this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:20 AM
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Well, apparently i am insecure on the rare occasions i wear makeup🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:17 AM
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You are right. The Loop keeps looping
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:44 AM
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I don't usually wear makeup. On the rare occasions when i do, it's either because i feel like doing my makeup in that particular day or for a special event. As for special events, this is a whole different story. You have a special occasion dress (which tends to be more shiny, sparkly, complex than a regular sun dress), you have heels, you have hair done. This requires makeup in order to look put together. Makeup is part of the look and the look is not complete without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 07:43 AM
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That's rich coming from a person with this many posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 05:05 PM
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This is precisely my case. I have a house + yard since before marriage. We are now building a new house and will demolish the old one. The new house is being built during marriage so my husband should own half of the house, but not the land. Since his contribution is about 40k and mine and my parents is about 80k, if shit happens (it won't), i'll give him a condo valued at over 47k which will undoubtedly cover all the money he put into the new house.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:52 PM
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My comment was for men who are convinced women marry knowing they will divorce later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 01:22 PM
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I think it depends a lot on the country's laws. In my country, whatever assets you have before marriage, those are considered personal assets and are not shared in a divorce. Whatever asserts you inherit or are donated to you during marriage, those are also personal assets and are not shared in a divorce. The default is combined assets during marriage (whatever you buy while being married), but this can be changed when you officiate the marriage or any time during matriage. The other option is i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 10:29 AM
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"I don't know her."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:34 PM
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Weird. It's as if women ride the cock carousel at the same time their libido is non existent
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:22 AM
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Just because it's lower, doesn't mean it's never.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:10 AM
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If it didn't happen to you, it happened to others
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 05:51 AM
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Equating assault with harassment minimizes the assault victim experience. Neglicting to address harassment minimizes the harassment victim's experience and can potentially lead the perpetrator to escalate to assault because the harassment went unpunished.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:27 PM
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Becaaause...it's awkward to have to stay with the parents for a while and/or a coffe on the way to the bedroom to have sex? D'oh!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 06:16 PM
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Bring her here, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:22 PM
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Minimizing victim experience, negating the rest of sexual attacks like unreported rapes (including minors who are afraid to seek help), attempted rape, sexual harrasment on the street (touched inapropriately in a sexual manner, including pedophilia). Plus grooming and cat calling. Your comment is disgusting. I don't think you can comprehend a woman you love (platonic or romantic) who loves you back, coming home to you to tell you someone attempted to rape her and you answer her tHeR's OnLy A sMa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:21 PM
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According to common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:05 PM
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Your comment is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:49 PM
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Ofc it was bad. Would you like to assist to your mother being beaten? I'm very happy women no longer tolerate this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:48 PM
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Things evolved to the modern relationships i described. The cheating and beatings are no longer tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:30 PM
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Assuptions? These are irl examples, my parents included. Idk a single marriage between our parents generation that doesn't include beating or cheating done by the husband. Not one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:19 PM
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I only referenced our mother's situation. Don't get me started on grandma's situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:03 PM
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😂🤸
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:02 PM
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So basically "idk how to adult, tee-hee".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:52 PM
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I never said expect. I said that a man who starts lying should not call himself honest, kind or nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:22 PM
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Proves that when trad wife is discussed here, everyone understands something else depending what is trad in their area and explains the disaccord between sides. I explained what is considered trad in my country and for obvious reasons women no longer accept this. Modern relationships are based on equality and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:46 AM
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Religious nutheads don't divorce here. They just stay in an unhappy marriage no matter what. So there's no leaving spouse, child support or alimoney.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:38 AM
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That's a religious wife, not a traditional in my opinion. And to me, that's worse. She's a doormat not only in front of her husband, but also in front of the community and religion. Note that we most likely come from different countries and cultures. In my country, what i described in my original comment is considered traditional. What you described is a religious nuthead. Both are looked down upon by large massed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:19 AM
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Traditional woman: has a full time white collar job, only she cleans the house, cooks, does laundry, ironing, dishes, all chores, helps with repairs, taking care of the children, is either beaten by the husband or cheated on. Modern woman: has a full time white collar job, shares chores, cooking, cleaning, washing dishes, raising children with her husband. Will not accept being beaten or cheated on. Basically: a traditional wife is a doormat. A modern woman is an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:31 AM
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Sex is never a reward in my opinion. And whoever sees it as transactional is a hoe. Male hoe or female hoe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:19 AM
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They can adjust all they want. But shouldn't consider themselves honest, kind and nice. That train has left the station. Also, don't put words in my mouth. I never said they are trash, i said that we are not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:18 AM
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What does that have to do with what i said?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:15 AM
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Reward with what?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:53 PM
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That says something about them. Hope they don't consider themselves nice, kind or honest. That would be ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:08 PM
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I told you my reason. At 34, no relationship kind of screams red flags. What did he do as a teenager? Why no relationship then? He missed too much. He can get FOMO. A man i see myself with (hypothetically, as i am married) is funny, extroverted, charming, drinks, smokes and parties. Such a man wouldn't have been single all his life. I'm not eager to have children, but i am eager to travel and enjoy my life with a man who also wants to travel and enjoy life. I wouldn't be compatible with the guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:05 PM
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Let's agree to disagree. My choice is a guy with 3 relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:03 PM
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I don't see these relationships as practice. Since OP does not provide any insight, i'll be subjective. I'm 34, he's 34. He had 3 relationships until this age. Not bad. He doesn't waste any time dragging a dead relationship. Cool. The relationships ended on good terms, no violence, no hard feelings. Great. The one with 0 relationships did what? Sat on his ass. Got stuck in this i don't drink, i don't smoke. Too shy, too boring, too vanilla for my type. Maybe he had a few flings, but never lived …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:41 PM
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As per OP's explanation: those 3 previous relationships ended because they fell out of love, grew apart etc. That means he knows how to discuss feelings, be mature about it, be honest, doesn't drag a relationship just because it's comfy etc. This screams integrity and green flags. No relationship means to me: shy, introverted, waaay too picky, not fun, doesn't go out, no charm, no humor. A relationship with him will not last. All red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 04:08 PM
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Give me the one with previous relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 03:58 PM
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Had a discussion with my husband. He said that if i can't escape from a very insistent dude, i should give him my number so i can get out and i can block him later. Imagine having to give such advice to your wife in order to escape creeps like OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 10:01 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 02:32 PM
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Has nothing to do with this. You can wait for your match and no for alimony in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:43 PM
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You do you, buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:37 PM
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The financial situation refers to money, not free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:28 PM
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One doesn't exclude the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 12:22 PM
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Smooth, ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 09:09 AM
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Ofc i comprehend. Because men with houses and cars before marriage are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:56 AM
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Indeed, OP didn't, but you brought the "rich man" in the argument. Scared to own it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:30 AM
1

Stats came out for my country a month ago, women outearn men and we have one of the highest % of women in it/engineering and whatever is bundled up in high paying jobs. Also, the receivers of government aid are 52% men. We don't have laws that force gender ratios before you speculate anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:26 AM
5

And how is it when the woman has significantly more properties?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:11 AM
8

Sooo...you're like those 35 year old career oriented boss women? Sounds like a match. Similar financial situation, hard working, understand each other when you have to work weekends or overtime in a stressed period, have lots of crazy work related stories to laugh about coz you both seen some shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 08:10 AM
3

No, not german.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 11:00 PM
3

That's an unsocialised person in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:10 PM
5

Autistics might gather in echo chambers, so the prevalence is higher in these groups. Most people do understand role-play, flirt and so on. What i think happened is some people have been online for waaay toouch. The pandemic and wfh further widened the gap between socialised people and less (or non) socialised people. And the ones unsocialised tend to gather online and create echo chambers. Add pure assholes, unlucky ones, emotionally immature ones and the ones with past trauma and you get the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:00 PM
22

But peace, companionship and love (among other things) make me happy. And i think i'm not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 08:17 AM
6

I wouldn't call it insecurity about the size, but (valid) annoyance with an inappropriate comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 07:54 AM
32

Revenge fantasy. Fear that they will be the old men with dogs so they project this on women (the famous old cat lady). Hoping to be picked. Frustration with their own insuccess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 01:22 PM
28

I'm not a native EN speaker, but i thought: Settle down - serious relationship that will lead to marriage Settle for - compromise for someone you didn't want in the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 07:55 AM
7

Is it though? If an asshole tries to get in a woman's pants and straight up goes to her saying "girl, are you gonna suck my dick and fuck with me?" and she refuses and he curses her back, is he manipulative? No, he's just an asshole. You'd expect him to curse her for refusing judging by how he asked her to have sex with him. There's no hiding of intention or personality. But when a NG™ wants to get in a woman's pants and plays it nice and friendly and makes a move and is refused, he starts cursi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:08 PM
24

And...i mean you have to start the conversation somewhere. Maybe this leads to common interests or hobbies or mutual acquaintances you didn't know they are mutual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:00 PM
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Love the way you spin it. I compared a straight up asshole who doesn't hide his assholeness and he doesn't try to manipulate other people's perception, with a NG™ who tries to use manipulation in order for other people to not see his assholeness. In this case, the NG™ is more manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 03:57 PM
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No. NiceGuys™ are worse than straight up assholes. At least this type of asshole is true to himself. He doesn't hide his assholeness, doesn't care. You know what you get. With the NG™ there's some pretending, some manipulation, some hiding. He's also an asshole, but tries to hide it (often failing miserably). I have more respect for assholes than NGs™.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 03:23 PM
3

Iceland doesn't even have an army. It contributes to NATO only financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:33 PM
9

"Happy wife, happy life" is bs. We go by "happy spouse, happy house". Or like i like to phrase it: if he's happy, I'm happy. If he has a problem, we have a problem. And vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:21 PM
6

We have this exact setup. Sometimes we lift one foot on the edge of a desk and hold feet as you would hold hands.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:18 PM
2

It's usually the other way around: he's the one asking me to bring him x, y, z. If i'm the one asking for something, it's option 2. Or both. Something like: i'm really thirsty, could you please bring some water? I wouldn't use just option 1 because we usually stay at our computers and we avoid having liquids at the desks. So using just option 1 isn't specific enough that i would like him to bring me a drink. Plus, i like clear communication and option 1 isn't clear in general, let alone in our c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:13 PM
11

No, not really. Plenty of adults staying with parents and mommy does laundry and cooks for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 03:26 PM
1

I'm underweight. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 03:14 PM
22

It's great actually. Being wanted is far better in my opinion than feeling needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 02:44 PM
5

The person i replied to mentioned multiple issues and the solution for those is already available: vasectomy. You decided to cherry pick and argue just on cherry picked issues. You're unhinged. Have a good day!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:49 PM
4

Sperm bank that can store his sperm and have a child by IVF later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:36 PM
8

Vasectomy is a solution. It's done by both men with children and men without children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:16 PM
4

Condoms prevent STDs, so no, male condomless BC will not entirely solve the issue, but indeed it would prevent some unwanted pregnancies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 12:06 PM
5

?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:57 AM
4

Everything comes with a risk. But you get the liberation you wanted. Or chemical castration. You get liberated from the desire. Unfortunately, the solutions for men are more extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:56 AM
0

Sooo...vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:46 AM
1

Solution: vasectomy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 11:32 AM
1

Earrings, chains, bracelets, rings. Nothing beats a cuban chain (as in the design of the link itself) and a princess cut stone Filed nails
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:49 AM
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Apparently that is a shelter for the homeless men with mental problems and addictions and it would be built in the vecinity of several school. I can see how the proposed location of the shelter is unfortunate. From the article: The proposed shelter would take the form of a 32-room hotel, which will primarily house adult men with mental health and addiction problems. Locals say they are concerned over the location’s proximity to several schools and its potential to make traveling at night unsafe.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 05:50 PM
5

And don't they want that? Sure, they might also want to present her to his parents, but lso want to fuck her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:30 PM
1

So...you agree with what i said. No problem them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:41 PM
3

Sure. When he fixes something, she can cook and clean alone because he was busy doing something else. When nothing needs fixing, he can pick up cooking and cleaning as he's not busy with something else. I don't see the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 12:10 PM
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I'm sorry you haven't seen good relationships. They do exist out there, i am an example of a person who has a great relationship. I know 2 more couples that are happy and head over heels about each other. This should be your goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:11 AM
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Bad. If she has a father who she admires for obvious and objective reasons, she knows how a good man looks like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 10:52 AM
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If that post isn't fake (i still believe it is), the dude is overdramatic. He didn't want details spilled and I don't see "he makes me happy in bed" as details. Blowing up a 5 year relationship over this is immature, weird and overreacting. Imagine complimenting someone and he blows up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:44 AM
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I'll try to split this and touch more aspects than your post. Looks: it's usually something i found physically attractive in that man. Could be eyes, could be hair, could be style of clothing. In my husband i found his tits and chest very attractive. Very plushy skin, looked so soft (it really is) with a healthy glow and he has nice boobies. He had a cap on his head, i couldn't even see his face. When we met a few days afterwards, he had no cap on but i recognised him because of the titties. Mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:19 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:53 PM
1

...? It is actually something i discussed with my husband in the past. Idk why it triggers you, i can only imagine, but your comment is unhinged and disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:03 AM
1

Frankly, i have no desire to live one second more than my husband. When he goes, i must also go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 01:37 AM
5

Average like Margot Robbie? Ow yes, all that negging backfires.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:30 PM
2

Idk if feminine is a good choice of word. How i see it, or how it is in my case, i can't be with a man who has a weaker character than me or a weaker personality than me. And it's not about not showing emotion, but the way he expresses those emotions. Attitude is one hell of a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:06 AM
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Men should stop chasing women who don't reprocitate. Efforts should be done by both sides. If he insists and insists, it will not make her budge. Just pick up your backbone from the ground, clear the dust, put it in place and move on. She is not interested. She won't be. Don't make a fool out of yourself. Move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:33 PM
4

I wear my husband's hat. Or his necklace wrapped around my wrist as a bracelet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:40 PM
6

Awwww
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:37 PM
0

Tons of reasons why one would be single (being a bad person is also included, but not limited to). If single = a bad person, you're going to have to explain to half of this sub that they are bad people. But if you stalk her profile to check if she's single 10 years later, you're weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 08:03 PM
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The point is that if you are a man enjoying your newfound success in your 30s, you can also get the satisfaction of seeing bad things happen to bad people. Sooo...revenge fantasy. Also, just because she rejected him, that doesn't make her a bad person. One could say she's a good person as she didn't lead him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:50 PM
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Lmao, "still ugly and single" means she was ugly and single when she rejected him in the past. Then you say why would you want her. Same reason he wanted her in the past i guess idk. Anyway, most probably she forgot he exists and never thinks of him. I for sure don't even remember the names of all the guys i dated, let alone the ones i rejected. Perhaps she will remember about him if some algorithm suggests "you may know this guy" and she's luke yeah, i want to get in touch with him now. Gotta s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:52 PM
0

And still won't date the guy she rejected in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:41 PM
-1

What more? More ppl who agree with the protest. I would comment as well. Even better, they're a 20
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:23 PM
2

I always say: funny guys are dangerous. Could be ugly, you close your eyes when you laugh. And laugh and laugh and suddenly you have no pants on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:50 PM
1

Do you think it's obnoxious to ask people on the street to rank themselves or others?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:40 PM
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I already addressed this in a different comment. Good thing humans are a tiny bit more complex than a google review. Not much, just a tiny bit /s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:48 PM
2

Well, this is what the protest is about and this is what OP is defending.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:38 PM
2

Good thing humans are not cars. Good thing humans aren't objects. Funny how men who complain they're below average or a 4 or a 2 or a whatever also enable a ranking system, then complain about it. Pure comedy! You can keep your scale, it means shit for anyone protesting asking people on the street about it. Because what you fail to understand is that you have no power over others.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:34 PM
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It's a protest against asking people on the street. Putting numbers like labels on someone's forehead. Having your personal opinion about someone is a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:30 PM
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Lmfao, omg, this is pure comedy. Female fragility vs a man having a meltdown over a protest. You can't make this shit up. Anyway, should anyone ask me, i'm a f'ing 20, i'm the best, i'm fab 💅. And all y'all are 20s, the best and fab. Coz humans should never be ranked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:27 PM
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Um, perhaps people with OCD rank shit, i am not familiar with the illness, but i know they tend to have compulsive obsessions, hence the name. Ranking moves is not like ranking people. Ranking products by awarding star based reviews is not like ranking people. Get off games, get off the internet. It's not healthy for you. A human is much more than an inanimate thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:16 PM
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Nooo, men who don't have a life do this. The others go on with their lives, live and let live, enjoy the company of loved ones, don't care about scales and minute decimals of a human's looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:08 PM
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Boy, this issue sure touched you. Taking care of your health is one thing, good for you for losing weight. I am in no business of promoting obesity, quite the contrary. Knowing you're not the prettiest is also fine. We all have defects, smaller, bigger, whatever. Asking people on the street to rate someone or themselves is stupid, should be stopped, shouldn't be promoted and this is what should be protested by saying you're a 10, you're a 20, you're the best in the f'ing country, in the world, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 04:06 PM
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Accepting and knowing you may not be the most prittiest is one thing. Enabling and perpetuating a system is not healthy for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:50 PM
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Why enable a stupid rating system that adds nothing in one's life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:45 PM
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Same. Saying you're a ten is a universal protest and shouldn't be seen as something else. If it is really meant, you can tell if it was a serious answer thanks to being able to read the room. But in most cases, saying you're a ten is a form of protest. And i encourage all men and women to protest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:38 PM
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Sounds like you view relationships between men and women very confrontational. Do you happen to watch FnF? As this might explain it. That is either a recipe for awesome casual sex or they are simply not interested in each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:44 PM
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The amount of guys who show their true colors after marriage or after the wife is pregnant is astonishing. There's a saying: you eat 20kg of salt near one person before you get to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:21 AM
2

Divorce is more than acceptable in many cases: cheating, domestic violence, any form of abuse, addictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:13 AM
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I am married and i got married with the idea that it's for life. I got the idea that staying for the kids is wrong because i grew up in a dysfunctional family, even begged my mother on my knees at 11 to divorce my father, all this happening in front of him. I was unhappy precisely because they stayed together. I still wish they divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:11 AM
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Divorce is not something that is done in the impulse of the moment. It's something that was considered, weighted, analysed. There are some remote cases when there's remorse? Sure, i guess. But it's not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:06 AM
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Meaning? I know the saying but i fail to see where you want to go with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:15 AM
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No, people shouldn't suck it up. People shouldn't be unhappy. Instead, people should make time and work on their relationship, closeness, intimacy (physical and emotional). People should be kind, understanding, supportive. This is keeps the love over decades. What we should also do is get rid of the stigma of being divorced. This is partially what kept so many unhappy marriages going. Staying for the kids is always a mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:08 AM
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Nothing can bring a block faster than unsolicited dick pics. No further discussions. No exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:32 AM
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Met my now husband when we were 18, still in high school. Both got our high school diplomas + a big exam afterwards. Both got in at the same faculty, after that i graduated from another faculty (also while working + commute in the second year), and we both worked in STEM. And we would meet daily. Some friends also met in highschool, both graduated, both went to faculries, she was away in the second year in a different country in ERASMUS program, they also found time for their relationships. I ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:27 PM
1

My comment was about the grifter called Pearl
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:17 PM
11

Funny they refer just to murder, but don't take into account rape, theft, being touched inaporopriately, catcalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:55 PM
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I also think the numbers would rise if women wouldn't take precautionary measures. How many times didn't we avoid a certain area? Call a friend or someone in the family to pick us up instead of a taxi. Postponed going to the store at night and waited for next day's daylight. Put good locks and chains at the door. Pepper spray. Share location and call multiple times if it's a longer trip. Telling family when we arrived and our plans forward. Sometimes they point out to dangers we didn't know abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:29 PM
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Imagine how it is for a woman half your size. And it's normal to care about your safety and the safety of your loved ones. According to some guy here, you and your parents are morons for taking precautionary measures.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:14 PM
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It's normal. He wants to know who is taking me to my destination. I want him to know who's taking me to my destination. If something happens, he can go to the police and they at least have a lead. It's for my safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:31 AM
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Other husbands from our circle of friends are also morons? Fathers who look after their daughters are also morons? Men on this sub who tount that they offer protection when in a relationship are also morons?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:45 AM
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"everyone is crazy except me" Why do men in this sub tount "protection" as something they provide? Protection from who? T-Rex? NO! Other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:44 AM
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Um...that's most husbands in my circle of friends. You know what you need? A daughter. You'd better understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:43 AM
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It's enough to walk at night in the parking lot and have a man behind you to feel uneasy. Ofc, nothing might happen, but the feeling is there. If there is no fear, why does my husband ask me to send him the license plate of the driver when i take a taxi? Why does my husband ask for the details of the Bolt or Uber ride? Why does he ask for location if i leave the house alone? Why do i do this gladly as i want him to know where i am and feel better if he knows where i am? Why does a man fear for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:30 AM
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Dates..pfff. I've been sending my husband the licence plate each time I took a taxi. Now i share the details of the ride from Bolt. Each time i leave the house alone, i share my location with him, even though it's just walking and not getting in a car with a stranger. If there's no danger, or it's that low, why does he feel better if he knows where i am and who is taking me to my destination? Why do i feel better if i know he knows where i am?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:18 AM
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Well, if there is no danger, then the protection provided by a man (a selling point men use in dating and tount in this sub) is useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:05 AM
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I have a theory that they played too many games. They are used to completing quests for a reward. "Bring 6 berries and you receive a green item and 650xp". So they treat dating like a game. Only thing: they don't know the quest. Because there is no f'ing quest. What they could determine are shallow things that (most) shallow women want. But there aren't that many shallow women to go around and those women certainly don't date them. So, now they turn to studies, graphs, etc which they (often) don…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 10:57 PM
1

There's "understanding" and there's "pretending to understand in order to get views and money from people i lie to with a straight face and i talk shit i don't believe in".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 09:44 PM
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Those sound like men who aren't adapted socially. "Like" doesn't equal "obsession and knowing every minute detail".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 05:29 PM
3

I see that as uneanted men want to see a woman who "understands" them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 05:00 PM
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Please note that the person you replied to said nothing about Pearl's looks, but about her actions, what she says, how she doesn't put her money where her mouth is. You, however, brought her looks into discussion. This is why TRP members cannot be taken seriously. They deviate, put words in other people's mouths, spin words, do some mental gymnastics and pat themselves on the shoulder afterwards for a job well done. No, this is how one makes a fool out of oneself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:13 PM
0

I've been with my husband for 16 years. I'm not struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:17 PM
3

Our preferences, hobbies and interests should naturally align. It boils down to compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:19 PM
2

Indeed, women's standards are on the floor and they still struggle to find a man for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:11 PM
1

To some yes, to some no. It's all about compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:06 PM
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We had some good conversations at the beginning. But as the subjects fried down, there was not much left in common. Our incompatibility made them look boring to me (and perhaps made me boring to them).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 12:05 PM
3

Hello, neighbor! I live in a big city. I actually expect more people outside in smaller cities. Could be the weather for now, indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 04:04 PM
3

Romania. Yes, there are people in parks, but less. I started walking a lot for health benefits and streets seem empty. Had this discussion with my husband as he also remembers those streets full. I'm talking about big streets, not some streets between houses. Malls are full though. Same for pubs in old town. But it used to be that people gathered in front of block entrances - not anymore. Or at some statue. Not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:51 PM
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Yes, but in pubs mostly. And they go with their friends. I see less interaction between groups unless someone from one group knows someone from the other group. I see less hanging out in front of blocks. I see less hanging out "at the statue" (multiple statues being hanging out spots).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:47 PM
5

LMFAO
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:40 PM
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I'm in Eastern Europe / Balkan / EU member country. decline in community social spaces Yes, there were some hot spots where teenages would gather, now they're empty. So few people on the street, even in parks. People stay inside a lot. ever-increasing cost of living Yes, economy is rough at this moment. unhealthy work-life balances No, not really. Pretty much everyone has a 40 hrs/week job. It's quite rare to work more than this. Also, there aren't really part time jobs. At most, there are summe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 03:35 PM
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I don't necessarily see anything wrong here. How they looked at her - if they couldn't take their ryes off her boobs when talking to her How they engaged the waiter - they could have been rude End of the date - if they proposed to have sex after thr date Mannerism - they could be burping or sucking their teeth or talk with their mouth full
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 08:16 AM
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I understand that pick me girls are presented as women who understand men and are on men's side but in fact pick me's come in all shapes and sizes and will attack a woman who minds her business in order to make herself look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:10 PM
2

Just insulting, no, it's not pick me. Insulting to make yourself look better is pick me behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 09:03 PM
2

A pick me would throw other women under the bus. It's pick me at a larger scale. Lebanese women are not like western women. Also, https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick%20me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:36 PM
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Puck me - would throw women under the bus. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick%20me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:34 PM
3

I'm talking about the kim that she's pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 06:56 PM
7

Sir, that is part of the definition of pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 06:17 PM
21

Also, some pick me vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 03:47 PM
5

You're being pedantic and full of yourself. Call it what you want, unless that person who just"gets by" wants to be a translator, they're fine. You may be smart, but you're not humble or kind. Perhaps some Am I The Main Character syndrome? There's a sub for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 07:08 AM
3

Nobody can do anything. You're a woman and you want w/e chad you want? I can't give birth a 30 year old chad for you. You're a man and you have autism. I can't fix it for you. You're a woman in a small city? I can't move you to a big city. You're a man and you are awkward? I can't make you a social wizard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 10:06 PM
5

I say let the market regulate itself. It's ok to be imperfect since life and humans are imperfect. I am a big fan of "get over yourself/your ego", "sucks to be you", "you made your bed, now sleep in it" and "the dildo of consequences often comes unlubed". As heartless as it sounds, the "problem" (i see no problem that there are imperfections in an imperfect world, it's actually expected) consists in individual problems that vary from individual to individual. It's up to the individuals to solve …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:21 PM
0

Same. It's such a weird question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:46 PM
-1

Insecurity is one of the worst traits in both men and women. These people need endless talks and effort to constantly reassure them. It's tiring. Plus the constant whining and negativity. Instead of enjoying a mutual hobby, having fun together, planning your life together etc, you lose time stating for the 1000th time that they're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 09:11 AM
1

My husband can fight, but he never seeks trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 08:32 AM
1

Everything except well educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 06:57 AM
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It will be difficult for OP to have any relationship if he cries "disrespect" each time he doesn't get what he wants. At some point, any woman would get fed up with this attitude and just leave. OP needs some serious introspection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 11:39 PM
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I don't think OP is aware that some (nonsexual) chemistry is needed between friends. Those people need to rhyme in order to be friends. I don't think this was the case here. I think she was respectful to end the date as soon as she made up her mind so there's no leading or ghosting or whatever involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 11:31 PM
1

They break in slowly, but you always see improvement. That's when you know you're on a good path. Ow, but we did get wrinkles and grey strands of hair in the process. But be honest, would you ever throw away your favourite pair of shoes? The one that you wore at every happy and every unhappy event in your life? We were 18 when we met. Now we're 34, almost 35. We spent together almost half of our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:05 PM
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Ooow, we both have big personalities that sometimes collide or cause friction. And we are very prone to say it and not bottle it up. But we do have a rule, never going to bed mad. No sleep until we make up. Also, i have a saying: it's ok to have some salt&pepper if you also have milk&honey afterwards. We respect each other. None of us accept being a rug. He humbled me. I humbled him. Now that you mention the pandrmic, that was the best thing that happened to our relationship. We both started WFH…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:01 PM
3

women with big personalities needed men with even bigger ones Completely true. I'm in this boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:40 PM
1

I left another reply for you about the shoe analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:32 PM
1

Perhaps i should phrase it like this: it's like a new pair of shoes. New, gorgeous, fit your style, your dream shoes. But due to being new, they give you blisters. Are you going to throw away the shoes or break into them? I chose to break into them and now that i've been wearing the shoes for 16 years, these are the most comfy shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:30 PM
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Ow we're the happiest. No more arguing for years now. We loved each other and we were determined to make it work. The thing is, when we had to be a team in front of what life threw at us, we were the best team. It was usually stress from the outside, me slowly opening (i'm an introvert and he called me "a tough nut to crack" - he's right) and him not knowing how to clearly express his thoughts. It required communication, lots of it, and a will of steel to make it work.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:23 PM
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Been with my husband for 16 years. If anyone from the putside would have seen our fights, especially in the first 4 years, they would think we would end up strangling each other. So none of your stories particularly scream to be that they got married just to get married. There's a time frame between you knowing they have relationship problems and you seeing them married. And many things could have happened in that time frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:44 PM
4

This is a whole different discussion. We were talking about women who don't have that je ne sais quoi and they try to fake it and it ends up in disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 06:01 PM
1

Indeed, it's typical for people to prefer niceness and kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:52 PM
3

He scratches his balls, then she scratches her balls...ow wait
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 05:48 PM
6

No, you're getting downvotes for the way you phrased it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:50 PM
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What do i understand from your story: A. Be yourself - if that sassyness isn't typical for you, isn't natural, you can't really pull it off. B. When you have no idea what you're doing, you come off as awkward at best and bitchy at worst C. This is what happens when you take advice from the internet word by word. Each person is a particular case. It's not a one size fits all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 04:28 PM
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Ok, i'll ELI5 this to you: OP: more women are psycho than men OP: provides a study that states that 24% of men are psycho and 12% of women are psycho Comments: um, bro, the study states otherwise from what you said in your post. OP: shocked_pickachu_face.jpg OP: deletes post
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:10 AM
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Ooor he stated in his OP that more women than men are psycho, provided a study but only read the title which was More women are psycho than previously thought, but the body of the study stated that men are teice as psycho. Why do you keep ignoring the fact that some delusioned and biased RP man tried to state something and provided a study that proved otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 09:00 AM
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Option a. Option b is not even taken into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 08:29 AM
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Then why did he deleted the post if he was right? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:46 AM
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He phrased his OP as there are more psycho women than men. And posted a study which contradicted his OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:26 AM
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I totally agree since i've seen far too many people not even read beyond the title. One RP man posted a link to a study saying there are more psycho women than it was previously thought and he was so pumped up and happy that he finally got those pesky women. Only after multiple people pointed out that the number of psychi men is double and they tend to become physically violent when women are verbally violent he realised it's not the flex he thinks it is and deleted the post. LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 06:42 AM
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For any happy couple you know who had an arranged marriage i can provide an article about honor kill that reached international news.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 06:41 PM
5

You know, i accepted some bs before that arranged marriage isn't forced. Now let's see what Wiki says: Arranged marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are primarily selected by individuals other than the couple themselves, particularly by family members such as the parents. In some cultures, a professional matchmaker may be used to find a spouse for a young person. In some communities, especially in rural parts of the Middle East, North Africa, and South Asia, a woman who …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 05:23 PM
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The Vann diagrams overlap overwhelmingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 04:10 PM
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That's an arranged date, not marriage. This is an arranged marriage: "hey habibi you will marry this man in two years because his father promised me ten camels"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:05 PM
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It actually reveals more than they think. For one, clean girl makeup was the go to trend for the past years. And skincare was basically a trend as well. But this post is also revealing because as much as they say they hate makeup, it's women with heavy makeup that make their heads turn. And heavy makeup is always visible and you can tell the woman is wearing makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:48 AM
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Bro thinks 2 thin strokes of eyeliner and a dash of translucent powder to make spf less shiny is gonna totally change a face. Ahahahahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:13 AM
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Telling women to lower their standards, but packing it as "accountability".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 02:12 AM
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I don't think you guys should be harsh on yourselves. With some people, you're more inclined to be friends. You're not broken for not finding her attractive, there's nothing wrong with that, it's just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 12:50 AM
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Yes, regular looking. But they were probably above average in things like charisna, humor, talking skills, social awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 12:33 AM
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Coping mechanism i guess. You know the story about a certain fox and certain grapes, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 12:21 AM
2

I'm ISFJ, my husband is ESFJ. He's exactly what i want, what i need, what completes me. I know it's true vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 12:02 AM
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If i'm not attracted to him, that's a friend, not a husband. I'd stay single. I don't want children either so there's no pressure for me to be with anyone. I also have no desire for sex unless i'm in a relationship with someone i'm attracted to and that desire for sex needs to be built up. So no pressure to find someone. Anyway, weird post because it assumes good looking guys don't offer commitment, which is not true. And it also assumes that ugly-ish guys offer commitment, which is also not tru…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 11:55 PM
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This still doesn't explain why only women are blamed if both men women are willing to jump through hoops.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:48 PM
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Has nothing to do as someone's character can somewhat be objectively judged. Both ugly and handsome men can be evil. Both ugly and handsome men can be angels.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:51 PM
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Then why bring the beauty 1-10 scale if both ugly and handsome men can be bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:46 PM
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Now, yes. 35+ years ago...not really. It's a good thing less women accept lazy men. Or at least leave when they don't lift a finger after multiple discussions.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:39 PM
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Nothing other than he seemed lazy. She was right about the lazy part. My grandmother pressured her to marry because he seemed so nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:24 PM
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My grandmother was the one who pressured my mother to marry my father. Mom loved him but she wasn't sure about marriage because he seemed lazy. Spoiler: he doesn't even change a lightbulb.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:05 PM
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Indeed, yet in practice people lie, people deceive, people don't have time to read books about psychology, some people are shielded until later in life, some are plain stupid. Theory sounds great.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:01 PM
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Because they are love bombing 99% of the time, but that 1% of the time when they're abusive...they're abusive. I've also seen my parents laugh. I've also seen my mother with a black eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:54 PM
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My father posed as being nice and all for 4 and a half years. The first time he revealed hia true self was when be beat my mother the day after their wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:52 PM
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My mother stayed for 35+ years with my violent father. The first time he beat her was the second day after their wedding when he switched character and revealed hia true self which he hid for 4 and a half years. She stayed because she is afraid of him because he promised to kill her. I do see this happening as he would lose his servant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:48 PM
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How do you reconcile with the fact that sometimes the true character is revealed after moving in together, sometimes after the wedding and sometimes after having a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:43 PM
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Mind if you show a % as in " x% of women go for violent men." Is it 10%, 15%, 100%? What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:13 PM
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As if she lives in a cardboard box because she's poor. Money differences no longer matter in any way when both make enough to entertain their desired lifestyle. Having $1mil +- doesn't even affect the budget. Bro is perhaps going to be known as Simone's first husband. Hopefully i'm wrong and she'll be happy, but the dude came out as an ass by pretending to not know who Simone is. We are talking about a guy who makes a living out of sports and who most likely gets news from sports in his socials …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:39 PM
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A woman with great cooking abilities who considers this her biggest achievement who is not praised by her husband is settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:00 PM
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Any woman who partners with a man who doesn't acknowledge her achievements is settling (same vice versa). Simone included. Bless her, if that's where her heart is, i hope she will have a happy marriage. What i do not believe is him saying that she doesn't know who she was. And the lie and the superior attitude are off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:27 PM
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I'm in an Eastern European country. Simone is the best gymnast of all time. And in my country, Nadia Comaneci is the absolute sweetheart. There are multiple moves that are named after her. I think she can perform moves specific to men that require immense strenght, power, technique. Also she broke World Records. She went to the Olympics. Owens who?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:42 PM
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Tell me your highschool bully got the girl you were simping for without telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:08 PM
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Ehem...i need to quote you, sir: Outliners don't make the rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:12 PM
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Not to mention personal style and fashion. One woman might prefer the type of men who wear tailored suits, others prefer more relaxed casual outfits, others want a man in grey swatpants, while others prefer rap fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:03 PM
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Statistics as well, not only surveys. They reduce romantic relationships which are poetry and feelings to abstract mathematics which are empty and hollow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 05:55 PM
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If my grandmother had wheels she would have been a bike. OP talks about lust, tingles, sexual desire, you talk about money. See, this is what RP men can not be taken seriously, they move goalposts and discussion to better fit their biases. For real, at least have the decency to stop talking about accountability if you lack a backbone in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:55 PM
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High n-count women are bad, but also women are bad for not fucking men they don't desire, which would increase their n-count. I wonder if they view with disgust a high n-count woman who only had enthusiastic hookups with men generally perceived as undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:39 PM
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Each person has preferences and "nice to have" and they vary from person to person and evolve throughout age and learning through experience. Some people are shallower, others are deeper, some are in the middle. Some have types, others have dealbrakers, it's a mixed bag. One thing is certain, without attraction and compatibility, there's no happy, fulfilling relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:28 PM
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Please reread my 2 comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:27 PM
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Not this one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:25 AM
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A man pretending to be a woman is catfishing, not transphobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:25 AM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:07 AM
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I never hooked up in my life, not even considered it a possibility. These are the ones i saw, for example one of them is my cousin.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:40 AM
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The only things that were consistent in 100% of the cases were being a good company, knowing how to talk, when to talk, reading the room, charismatic, humorous, extrovert, having impecable personal hygene, good dancers, having a personal style when it comes to cloths or accessiories. Height varied, handsomeness varied, fitness varied, money varied.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:30 AM
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I value being humble more than being able to throw a punch. I guess different people have different values.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:14 AM
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Like I have a list, on that list is 5 important things... I can live with 2 or 3 compromises on those important things. If you can live without them, that means they're not important. Nobody should compromise on things that are important to them. Either reconsider and relabel a thing as not important and then compromise on it. Or keep it on the important list and do not compromise on it. For example an important thing for me is pulling his weight when it comes to chores. It is something importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:05 AM
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Are we in the same sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:59 AM
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SMH, i hope they will learn from their experience and never make the same mistake twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:38 AM
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You guys need to make up your mind because this sub gives mixed signals. Either women need to lower their standards or pick better men. Coz when you're lowering your standards you start picking awful men (neurotic, addicted to porn, insecure, butt ugly, jobless, without motivation, morbidly obese, violent, lacking empathy, not willing to do household chores, not looking after children).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:32 AM
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Yep, that's when women gain clarity and leave the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 08:02 AM
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Congrats! You had enough brain to put yourself first, to do something with your life that you are proud of. If this comes off, please understand EN is not my first language. BUT, what you didn't do is learn to stay humble. Martial arts usually teach you this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 07:39 AM
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Agree, it boils down to behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:52 PM
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It's not just behaviour. They don't have a style (dress like my dad), they don't respect themselves enough to get a good haircut (haircuts make all the difference). They sort of do everything to exclude themselves from most groups, slowly becoming outcasts. They don't work on accepting things they can not change and changing things that they can change. Until it's too late. And then they struggle. And then they're bitter. It's a sad story if you step back and watch the trainwreck that their life…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:24 PM
0

Working out until near passing out and doing it just for validation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:04 PM
1

Have you read my initial comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:48 PM
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Because of the pick me vives that people who seek validation have. Because they lack a backbone and bend backwards to obtain validation. And imagine the effort done is for mostly women they don't even know. Because they seek validation in the public, not from their mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:41 PM
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They mean a lot to my dealbreakers, d'oh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:18 PM
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I think the biggest simps are guys who get ripped just for women's attention sake. Not talking about staying in shape or exercising because it's a body you want. I'm talking about women being the only motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:14 PM
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Why do you care so much about syrangers, people you'll never meet. Let them fuck. They made their beds, they'll sleep on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:53 PM
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Not only these aren't just my anecdotes, but they're also my boundaries and i suspect many other women's boundaries whether you like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:51 PM
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I don't care about either group. I'm married.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:48 PM
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Neah, you'll dismiss it and stonewall.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:47 PM
-2

Sounds like having a spine, stabdards and dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:40 PM
2

Teachers for subjects that were included in exams.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:39 PM
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I made that promise to myself at age 8. When I didn't even know the word "feminism"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 09:16 PM
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A woman who grew up with a mother who worked her butt and a lazy father will take that piece of paper on which the study is printed and if it's not rough, she'll use it to wipe her ass. She knows what she saw from a young age. And she keeps her promise to never be in her mother's situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 08:23 PM
2

Good take
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:14 PM
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This is my experience as well, although my mother had the same job with the same amount of hours and the same pay as my father. Yet, my father was so lazy he wouldn't change a lightbulb. This behaviour was very common and it's no longer accepted by women. About god damn time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:58 PM
1

My estimation is 10% of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:54 PM
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We started after my cousin who's also a very close friend of my husband received a horrible diagnosis, plus a few other deaths in our families it was a horrible year. We just like gathering people we love at least a few times a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 05:23 PM
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I responded to whoever assumed i have a lonely life sitting all day inside, just playing video games and scrolling YT or socials. Indeed, they are not impressed with the shakerz but with the delicious cocktails he makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:41 PM
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Yes, we can afford to pay. And we want to hold these parties and gather everyone. It's becoming a trend and now this is how they organize their birthday parties. Two more friends are in the process of building houses and took into account party space lol. Even one neighbor started to hold similar parties. You know, some people live irl while others gather studies to learn about irl. Funny thing is these people think they know more about irl than the people who actually have a life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:05 PM
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No, why would you reach such a twisted conclusion? Some of our friends we know from kindergarten. We're talking about 30 years of friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:52 PM
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Sooo...you're not leaving your bedroom. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 12:15 PM
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Funny you say this. I am the host at parties. My husband is the barman with shaker and a bar and everything, a friend of his is the dj with dj mixer and all the equipment. We invite all our friends, we pay for everything, decorate the entire yard, bring lasers, smoke machine, lights, we have cocktails, dance, we have funny eyeglasses, hawaii necklaces, glow sticks and we are building a house designed specially for parties. And we do this a couple of times a year. How about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:54 AM
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Neah, it's laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:20 AM
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Men with no prospect of fucking anything and no friends worry their imaginary gf slept with their imaginary friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 11:14 AM
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Those guys are making money selling delusions. They know their audience and their audience's preference. They show videos of hot OF girls passing them as the average. And then they show undesirable men and pass them as average.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:46 AM
1

I am an ateist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 07:15 AM
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Even worse idea to have children out of wedlock.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 12:33 AM
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This is something both RP and BP can agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 12:31 AM
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No, what twisted idea is this?!? First of all, i am an introvert, he is an extrovert who understands my need of me time to recharge.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 12:30 AM
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5 years older. A man 5 years younger than me seems like a child to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:28 PM
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Hmmm, for the older couples i know (parents friends and family), in only 2 cases the husband helped around the house, but these 2 were cheaters. Out of the 2 cheaters, one had an easier job with a smaller pay. I see you triggered and it's laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:22 PM
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On average... But in my case, my father worked the exact same hours for the exact same pay and the same exact job as my mother. Perhaps you missed this part. And despite all of this, he wouldn't lift a finger around the house. I think you purposely miss certain things when you read.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:09 PM
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Exhibit A
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 09:20 PM
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The wife works a full time job + does all the chores + takes care of the children. At least this is how it was in my family. And before a nuthead speculates that my father worked a harder job or better paid, they had the exact same jobs with the exact same pay with the exact same hours all their life. And no, my fatger didn't repair stuff around the house very often, hence i started changing the lightbulbs at age 11 because he is really lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:14 PM
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Saaame
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:23 AM
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Raise 2 fingers maybe? ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:15 AM
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Let's do an experiment. Gals who prefer men with a little belly, raise a hand 👋 And gals who prefer a man with visible abs raise a finger.👆
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:00 AM
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I was shitting on manosphere for their wild and conflicting takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:54 PM
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I consider that I have a strong moral compass and i know what makes me tick. Height and money ain't it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 03:53 PM
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