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I just want someone who’d hold my hand
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 12:06 AM
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I would let? I wouldn’t let anyone rape anyone. You’re not a very good writer and that hinders you in these conversations. Believe it or not, some women weigh more than 120lbs, and some men weigh less than 200lbs. You talk about the trends as if there aren’t exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:13 PM
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Yes. They can. You’re comparing apples to oranges, I’m comparing humans to humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 02:23 PM
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How can you, in good conscience, uphold these double standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 02:14 PM
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I guess that’s just the natural progression of language.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:26 PM
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It’s interesting to me that “incel” implies the person is also a misogynist but “misogynist” does not imply the person is an incel. We all know that some of the most deplorable men are the ones who are getting the most. It seems like women WANT to call as many men as possible a misogynist, I guess that’s what makes them feel better about themselves when bad stuff happens. It’s always tempting to blame your problems on someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:32 PM
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Yeah, I’m not a virgin so I don’t feel as bad about myself as I would if I was. But it’s curious to distinguish these definitions and seems different person-to-person. I suppose it’s just human nature to try to direct one’s narrative in a way that makes them feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:28 PM
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I’ve been chatting (online and anonymously, so not really chatting) with people in my school and it seems I’ve completely misunderstood the term incel. I thought incel was an abbreviation for involuntarily celibate. I am a man who wants sex but doesn’t have any, so as embarrassing as it is, I thought that made me an “incel.” It turns out that actually (within my community at least) “incel” has nothing to do with involuntary celibacy. Incel is synonymous with misogynist, jerk, creep. I am not tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:15 PM
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Because they’re hard to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:15 PM
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Personally, and I know it’s pride month I want to be clear I mean absolutely no disrespect to these people on a human level, but in terms of me as an individual looking for a romantic sexual partner bisexuality is a bright red flag for me. I can’t really explain it, it’s not like that’s some magical trait that tells me all I need to know about a woman. It’s not a dealbreaker, just an impossible-ignore-flag. I guess it just puts someone in a box that I perceive as meaning her sexuality is likely …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:52 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/ea8f91nm7m6b1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&v=enabled&s=5c1c895bf68b20408e550c9f70338d7b52168d77 Silly meme. Probably been posted here before. I think it’s fun little boiled down version of pill ideology
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:43 PM
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When I had a girlfriend in high school it was like 100x per year. Dated for two years. I’m terms of casual sex outside a relationship, in the last three years there has only been 1 time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 04:01 PM
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I’ve heard the “a girl looking for a partner is like finding clean drinking water in a swamp, a boy looking for a partner is like looking for drinking water in the desert” analogy. I’ve heard it used by both men and women. The thing no one acknowledges is that you can do something about it in the swamp. You could have a water filter or iodine tablets. You could boil off the contaminants. It rains in swamps. What can you do in the desert? Keep digging through the sand I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 08:27 PM
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I’m so happy with the body positivity here, but I just gotta ask, does anyone actually prefer larger? I won’t even lie I’m packing 7.2” and it’s one of the only sexual assets I have going for me. But is it actually not so much of an asset?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 07:31 PM
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Yeah probably honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:47 AM
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That makes sense. I do appreciate how active the sub is, even if it’s stuff I don’t necessarily agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:49 PM
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I always thought this is more of a dating sub than a social sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:46 PM
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Interesting. The second I succeed in dating I will delete this account.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:45 PM
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I consider myself somewhere between red and purple, call it a sunset magenta pill
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 06:11 PM
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To be honest I have a hard time believing that anyone who is active on a gender debate sub is actually successful with dating. If you’re so successful why don’t you just go out and succeed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 09:02 PM
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Only my own
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:55 PM
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I’m the same way. Props to you for admitting it. I try to admit my bias and how my anecdotal experiences influence my ideas too, but everyone here seems to despise getting personal about things. As if personal experiences shouldn’t be relevant. But they are very relevant for every single one of us here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:59 PM
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I’m 22, attracted to 21-25
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:23 PM
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It makes complete sense to want a pet but not a kid. It makes zero sense to want to have a kid in todays world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:59 PM
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Dude cracked the code
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 02:32 PM
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Disagree, I’m a fan of forming a strong bond through openness and vulnerability. But whatever floats your boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 06:38 PM
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Likewise ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:26 PM
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I never said women don’t. It’s so easy to type things like that, “find your own validation” yes that would be great. People who can do that are well adjusted adults who probably wouldn’t be caught dead on a subreddit like this. I am insecure. I am starved of validation, connection, and intimacy. I am working on myself but these are still very real struggles. And when I look around in real life they seem to be universal struggles. Maybe I’m the only here who can be honest with themself and admit …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:22 PM
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I just provided an in depth analysis of why it makes me feel bad about myself. The gist of it is that I am insecure about the validation and attention I receive because it is 0. Without any kind of validation, for years, it begins to wear a person down and it affects my sense of self worth. I keep doing what I’m doing but I have no reason to believe it’s the right thing to be doing because other people seem to ignore it. And don’t come at me with the “oh you’re insecure? Just don’t be!!” Bullshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:12 PM
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Good luck finding a human being without insecurities. Some are better at hiding insecurities than others, and some a great at just flat out denying they’re insecure (seems like you fit in this category). But insecurity is part of the human experience no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:35 PM
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A while ago I commented something similar I’ll try to paraphrase that again. This is nothing but personal anecdotal experience so it probably doesn’t mean much to anyone but idk I wanna share anyways. I am the type of guy who is more attractive folding laundry on a Sunday afternoon than I could ever be at a bar / club / party on a Friday night. I’ve got my candles, my records playing, great meal planned for the evening, all clean and showered, playing with my cat, and actually doing the laundry …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 06:12 PM
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I would do anything to become more hookup material than husband material. I guess I’m not either bc of how lonely I am but I definitely lean towards the husband material side, and it fucking sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 05:38 PM
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Yeah like I said pros and cons. Truthfully I have no idea what it is actually like 100 years ago beyond statistics, and neither do you. It is different tho. A lot of our problems today are invented problems. Micro stresses that didn’t exist before we had so much time and freedom. But in terms of being valued by society on no basis but gender, women are now valued more than they ever were and men are valued less than they ever were. I am making no commentary besides that. I am not saying I wish I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 06:10 PM
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I don’t think this is as simple as you make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 05:51 PM
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Yeah that’s what I’m saying. Going from supremacy to equality is a downgrade, going from oppression to equality is an upgrade. Obviously equality is the goal here. Supremacy and oppression are horrible social issues and they were rampant historically. I’m just pointing out the differences from now, where we are closer to equality than ever before, and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 05:49 PM
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Exactly my point about why it’s harder to be a young man today than it was in the past. All these challenges a young person must navigate and balance today didn’t exist 100 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 05:47 PM
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I mean more and more studies come out about the damage excessive porn can cause. I’m sure you’ve heard the trope “I can see more pussy in an hour than ancient emperors saw in their lifetime” That definitely has pros and cons but I would not agree with you that is an objective blanketing “good thing” I guess we’ll just have to watch the future and see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:56 PM
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Not without being screamed at “incel!!!” I’m not saying men have it the worst, I’m saying they have it worse than they have in the past
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:53 PM
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I’m curious how did it benefit you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:52 PM
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A man who does not have much sex by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:51 PM
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Yeah that’s what I’m saying. 2023 is different than other year in documented history in terms of gender dynamics as well as lots of other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:50 PM
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You say that likes it a good thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:36 PM
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Who’s we and what did we fix?? I’m not sure if you disagree with me and are just being a bit petty about it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:31 PM
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Not quite what I said but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:29 PM
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I’m not talking about 10 years ago I’m talking about all of documented history
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:28 PM
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Throughout all of documented history, there has never been a better time to be a promiscuous woman and there has never been a worse time to be a sexually conservative man. I am not saying this is a bad thing. This documented history I’m talking about is full of discrimination, oppression, and violence against women. So by saying “there has never been a better time” i am not saying better means “good.”But I do think it’s true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:17 PM
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I doubt people will believe me, but I do all of those and have for about a year. Absolutely no success.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 09:21 PM
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My point is you shouldn’t even try to comment on the stores pineapple stock unless you are sufficiently confident about your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 11:00 PM
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Full circle back to my first comment where I said I would feel insulted if she made me wait longer than other guys, that is a random standard I have as a man. The standard is that I would want to believe she is sexually attracted to me. There are lots of things that might cause me to doubt her attraction to me and “withholding” sex is one of them. Your standard is that we should all wait three months, mine is that we shouldn’t. My only gripe here is that your post suggests we all abide by your s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:57 PM
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Highly dependent on each individual and their relationship dynamics, but you cited FDS as the platform for your post so let’s go with that. “No 50/50 stingy ass men! Treat me like the queen I am” Men are expected to invest more money than their counterparts. This one is cut dry and indisputably answers your question about investment. “I want him to be capable. Fix stuff around the house, protective when necessary. Fit” Men are expected to invest more time into pleasing their partner. Men prefer …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 08:28 PM
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No one insists shit! If you read something and interpret it as factual, that’s on you. 1% of what’s said here might be factual. That’s why I’m saying don’t take things at face value. Understand that this is a human behind these words, a human with thoughts and opinions to share. And lots of humans get lots of things wrong. That happens and you can’t stop it. You, Lilith, are one of the biggest culprits of this I’ve seen. You select a single line from every post and assume the OP thinks this is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:38 PM
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It’s not really a preference it’s a grammatical standard. Some teachers are fine with it I’m sure. But, at least within professional non-fiction writing, this is the rule. I am well versed in the rules of academic writing in the context of philosophy. We make claims there and back them up by cited readings. The “I think” part is a given. If it wasn’t then you wouldn’t be in a collegiate philosophy course. Obviously this subreddit is nothing like professional non-fiction writing. I guess I just w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:55 PM
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Relationships come with far more investment from men. It’s a double standard. I’m not trying to dismiss that women have the right to be conservative with sex if that’s what they want, they totally can and there is nothing wrong with that. All I’m trying to say is that you are not considering the male perspective. Ideally I’d like to see a compromise, but you seem to want women to get whatever is best for them are no matter what. That must seem utopian from the female perspective, but it doesn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:46 PM
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Yes people take comments at face value and don’t put any more thought into it than that. That’s exactly what I’m talking about tho, they shouldn’t do that. It shouldn’t need to be labeled as personal opinion, that should be assumed. This idea is more critical towards the reader than the writer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:14 PM
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I believe you, but in terms of academic writing it’s objectively incorrect. No personal pronouns allowed in college essays.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 06:10 PM
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Valid. I have seen how birth control can affect a woman but I have to acknowledge that I will never truly understand what that feels like. I could never truly understand pregnancy either. I know these are very real concerns and I think they don’t get acknowledged enough on this sub. These are objective challenges for women in modern society and I don’t really know what else to do but sympathize. I don’t think any guy realistically and explicitly says “sex for 3 months is a must before dating.” J…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:59 PM
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When I was in 8th grade English class I learned a very important lesson. I would always conclude my essays with “I think this means that…” “I’m my opinion, …” “I believe this us significant because…” My teacher pulled my aside and said “bud, don’t use that language. I see your name at the top of the essay. I know who’s opinion this is, I know who is thinking these things. Instead of “I think” say “this is.” It is a given that this your opinion and not factual. If you provide a fact, that will be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:21 PM
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I think men and women have very different opinions on this and nothing can really change that. What if a guy told you “we have to have no-strings-attached casual sex for 3 months, then and only then will I consider you for a long term relationship. You can get a taste of dating, maybe coffee once a month. And ofc I will not be in any other long term relationships in this vetting period, so it’s fair.” And you keep throwing around “well, just assume that she makes everyone wait 3 months” that is …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 05:06 PM
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If she waits three months for me but not for everyone else, that makes be believe that she thinks I am “3 months less sexy” then all the rest. That’s kinda insulting and not a good start to a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:57 PM
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What’s like saying all straight men cheat? Do you mean when I said two bi girls have cheated on me so I’ve developed some concerns? If I haven’t made myself clear, I certainly do not believe all bi girls cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:45 PM
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Dare I say it is? How blasphemous of me to claim that sexual orientation just might have some bearing on sexual behavior. ….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:21 PM
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Well a name has absolutely no bearing on behavior. That’s an ineffective analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:07 PM
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Ofc not, and if it was just one instance it wouldn’t be nearly as big of an issue for me. But the fact that it’s happened back to back, and those two relationships make up for 100% of my relationship experience, I suppose it’s left me a bit jaded. Maturing is acknowledging bias, not entirely ignoring it. Ignoring bias is easy to advise but difficult (impossible) to actually practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:51 PM
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I don’t really associate the two tbh. I have my standards / preferences for each and I compartmentalize those independently. And there so many other factors that are for more important than either of these. Imo there is no amount of looks that could make up for a triple digit body count in the context of a long term relationship and I wouldn’t dip below my looks-standards just bc she is “pure”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:37 PM
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I think a very large percentage which is unfortunate given this preference I have, in reality I’ll probably have to completely disregard this preference. I wouldn’t say 100% of women are bi tho, I’d say around 75% are at least partially bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:21 PM
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Bc I’ve dated two bi girls, both cheated on me with girls and thought it wasn’t “really” cheating, both came out as full lesbian after we split and it left me feeling completely invalidated. Both of them made me feel like the whole relationship was fake and I was just some obstacle to overcome in her empowering sexual journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:18 PM
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I think I’m in the minority here but if a girl is bisexual that’s a red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:12 PM
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Maybe it depends on age. I am kinda young, 22, raised in the Instagram era and to me an Instagram follow means next to nothing. Who I follow is just a list of everyone I’ve ever met and gotten close enough to exchange a username. I don’t unfollow anyone and I don’t notice if anyone unfollows me. I would say it is not necessary for my future wife to have unfollowed every one of her exes on Instagram, and I don’t plan to unfollow mine (I definitely would unfollow my exes if it was a big deal to he…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:30 AM
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It’s a tough term to define for me, I go back and forth on whether my loneliness is actually of my own volition. I have two good buddies, each with girlfriends. One of them has been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. The relationship started in the heat of covid and they both attend different universities. She’ll visit him occasionally, but I’ve seen the drain long distance can have on a man. I don’t want anything like that. The other is dating a girl who is pretty crazy and has s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:47 PM
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❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:38 PM
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Spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:45 PM
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Yes but it doesn’t always feel like it :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:45 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:44 PM
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What does PUA mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:06 PM
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If the world has taught me anything in my 22 years here, it’s that I don’t deserve anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:18 PM
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“Feminism” and “patriarchy” are counterproductive terms. Before my hot take I want to clarify what these terms mean to me. Feminism is gender equality. Its aim is an even playing field with equal opportunities for all genders. Feminism is for authentic fairness. The patriarchy is systemic sexism that has been embedded into modern society so deep that it’s a challenge to get rid of. It’s existed throughout history and inflicts gendered prejudice on everyone, and it comes from everywhere. Based on…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:51 AM
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I don’t think they’re inherently less respectful, more so that attractive guys know when to be respectful. The fact is women are attracted to moderate and well timed disrespect. As much as people might disagree my mind can’t be changed on this. You’re in a recreational competitive environment with a girl you’re into - give her some heat. Some light-hearted trash talk. This is a time where you should treat her like one of “the boys.” The boys are disrespectful to each other sometimes. Girl you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:05 AM
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Im excited to finish, I’m definitely hooked on the show. I’ll probably finish the whole thing after work today. It was just a lack of respect across the board for pretty much all characters, everyone is petty and angry and while I’m glued to the screen I just cringe at the thought that some humans are actually like that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:28 PM
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I agree, it gave me an unsettling feeling about how people bottle things up and take them out when they shouldn’t. It is a fictional show and I’m sure that’s part of the intention of the writers, crazy people are fun to watch. But it’s the kind of show that reaffirms my choice that I never want to get married lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 03:27 PM
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I have seen white lotus, both seasons, and loved it. I agree with all the classic tropes being portrayed, it’s interesting to see it all play out in long form opposed to a stupid tiktok clip, or even real life, when you get to know the characters and their opinions a little more. You kinda see why they are the way they are and what they do about it. For beef tho I really think Ali Wongs character is exemplary of the anti-traditional marriage. I don’t consider myself traditional at all, I would c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 02:42 PM
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Anyone seen the show beef on Netflix? Curious what people think of it in the context of ppd
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 02:15 PM
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She said “males and women” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 01:35 PM
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I know I know but I also don’t believe it for some dumb reason. I’ve been going to a lot of concerts and I just awkwardly nod my head lol. I turn around and see that half of the people don’t even have their eyes open yet I’m still worried they’re judging me somehow. I know it’s bs but I can’t escape my paranoia. I’ll hear some laughter in the crowd and immediately think I’m the butt of a joke, “look how awkward that guy is! He either needs to not dance or he needs to actually let loose. I get se…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:55 PM
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Haha yeah alcohol definitely loosens me up. Unfortunately that usually results in even more embarrassment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:37 PM
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I feel this. But I don’t feel accountable for it. I genuinely cannot comprehend the relevance of what she says most times. She’s a very poor debater who will highlight specific words you said and selectively dissect them in any way she likes. You can tell her she misinterpreted your words and she’ll tell you she didn’t. Then the conversation goes nowhere after that. She debates the definition of words, not ideas. I’m sure we don’t disagree as much as it seems online, it’s just her communication …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:32 PM
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Seems I’m opposite most people though I do feel the same way. I’m not religious at all and I’d have reservations about someone who’s extremely religious (not necessarily a dealbreaker, but it’s a bit of a red flag to me)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:23 PM
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The rateme subreddit rated me a 7/10 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:20 PM
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As a a man who refuses to dance, I agree. It’s so hard tho I am just not comfortable in my body like that. Sometimes I’ll do it alone. But I’m not at the point where I can really release my inhibitions in front of a bunch of people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 01:06 PM
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They are psychos! Or maybe I’m the psycho!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:24 PM
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I’m 22, so old enough to ponder these topics but too young to have any real experience. Idek anything tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:19 PM
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I consider myself a child and yet I have been involved :( by own hands for sure, but it’s been hard for me to escape the sentiments commonly discussed on this sub. I see them in real life and I don’t know how to understand them so I come to places like this. Even tho it does not help at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:15 PM
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Not true according to the demographic survey
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:47 PM
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Dudes aren’t trying to reinvent the wheel, modern society in which I grew up has already done that for me. And I’m not sure older gentleman realize the magnitude of that. This is likely bullshit quote but I’ve heard it regurgitated a few times - “your grandpa had to do 1/4th the work to get a girl 20x better” Also, I don’t know any sources about this, but I seriously doubt tinder is the same today as it was 10 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:38 PM
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I’m 22 and it seems like most people here are 30+. Some are even married but I don’t think a person who’s been married 10 years to their high school sweetheart could tell me anything relevant to my situation. I think dating at my age is wildly different than dating at 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:22 PM
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"It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.”- Socrates Probably never actually said by Socrates but it’s a good quote
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:17 PM
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Is there a similar sub for a younger demographic?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:13 PM
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You said girls communicate clearly and boys communicate vaguely. Yet you have not once been able to communicate clearly to me. You said (paraphrased) clear communication is superior (100% agree with you there) but you also implied that girls are better at this than boys. Better and superior are synonymous. (A synonym is when two words mean the same thing) So you implied that because you are a girl you are a better communicator. Which is evidently false.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:10 PM
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You are simply not superior. Sorry hun. That mindset will not accomplish anything for you, then again I have no idea what you are even trying to accomplish. I disagree with literally every single rebuttal you just posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 05:59 PM
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Maybe you’re just painfully awkward with guys? Maybe you aren’t willing to try to see from the perspective of the writer? Maybe guys and girls are different and they have different communication styles? And maybe girls communication style is not just inherently superior like you make it out be?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 05:47 PM
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Maybe you suck? Does it take two to communicate?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 05:01 PM
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As hard it is to believe to most women here, I am not looking for sex first. Yes - the girl can give me what I want in the form of love and passion and romance, so I understand that that’s something to strive for. I guess the disconnect is that women seem to expect all those things just for who they are, whereas men seem to work for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 12:33 AM
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Men are also human beings (shocker I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:52 PM
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Because the advice is frequently backhanded. It’s always “you have to approach, you have to pay, you have to be good enough.” The consensus among girls seems to be that they already are good enough. It’s the men who need to do the work, women consider themselves “the prize”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:18 PM
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Why does every single post on this sub read like “men must conform to modern women” Nothing feels mutual here. Men complain and women invalidate complaints, men ask for advice and women say you just have to this, this and this and this. Without providing any logical reason about why a man should do those things. Why doesn’t it feel like women make an effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:02 PM
2

Bro just go the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 03:58 PM
2

So weird to me when asexual people tell sexual people they don’t need sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:17 PM
1

Just jokes lol I know some genius chads. Some who have an advantage in the system and truly know how to use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:19 PM
1

Low IQ tends to be a common quality of chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:36 PM
1

Chad is 100% personality 33% looks. Chad is “rizz,” “game,” “assertiveness,” “entertaining” A 7/10 could be a chad, a 10/10 could be one who moves in silence. If you think “chad” automatically means 10/10 and nothing else, why would you use the word chad when you could just say “10/10 guy”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:31 PM
1

“Chad” is a made up term with vague connotations so I’m not sure what our disagreement is beyond the definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:22 PM
1

Firstly 90% is not a disqualifying statement it’s more of an affirmative claim based on my own observations. Muscular tall introverts could certainly be chads but I haven’t met guys like that. Definitely not saying extroverts are objectively more physically attractive. It’s more so that the opportunities where attraction is typically pursued, bars, clubs, parties, require a degree of extroversion to even enjoy attending.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:47 PM
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Maybe the qualifications of being a chad change over time, but for me as a 22M, when I hear chad I picture a 6’2” frat bro, drunk and shirtless dancing on a table while all the girls are clawing at legs trying to dance with him. No chance an introvert would ever do that, and unlikely an introvert would be invited to the party. Also, those examples are celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:44 PM
4

I think 90% of chads are extroverted
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 07:17 PM
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Because I’m medium-ugly and shy. I can make a fine 7th impression but I am physically incapable of making a good 1st impression when I meet someone. Another big reason is that I’m pretty comfortable being a loner. It’s been that way for a while and I’ve gotten objectively good and being alone. I’ve learned what I want / need from other people, and decided that I’d rather have no friends than bad friends (same for gf). Sometimes I’m not sure if it’s actually so much of a decision because I do get…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:12 PM
5

I saw a funny clip on insta of these girls interviewing boys at a frat party and they ask “how tall are you?” And then immediately after the guy answers she pulls out a measuring tape. Every guy overestimated their height by at least a couple inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:11 PM
1

Virginity as an attractive trait makes sense in theory, but personally I’m not attracted to it all in practice. I definitely agree with wanting someone of similar values. The functional difference between a virgin and a 1-3 body count is zero in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:36 PM
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Q4M - who actually wants a virgin?? This trope is thrown around so often, “men have high body counts but only want a virgin” Firstly, these are two entirely different men. I don’t think any man actually has both a high body count and wants a virgin. Secondly, I don’t know a single man within my circle who prefers a virgin. I myself don’t prefer a virgin. So, men of ppd, do any of you admit “I could never marry a woman who’s not a virgin”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 05:15 PM
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Her tone always comes off as very “Pick-me” imo but it is nice to have a woman acknowledge that men have problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 07:38 PM
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Did your generation not invent all those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:09 PM
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I learned a new word today, thank you. Limerence describes exactly how I feel. This sort of involuntary infatuation, like a painful obsession that I’ve been sitting quiet with for so long that it’s festered into something I can’t explain. I do tend to self isolate when things get tough, I’ve been more conscious about that lately and I know how unhelpful it can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 10:26 PM
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Agreed. Easier said than done tho. I’ve made efforts, and lately it’s only resulted in bad experiences and bad memories. I know I just gotta keep trying and make a stronger effort to get out of my comfort zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:59 PM
2

I am still so hung up on my ex from years and years ago :( ik this probably isn’t the place for this but I don’t have anywhere else to say it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 09:55 PM
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Because I don’t even think my roommates and I are all that clean. I live with 4 other guys in a neighborhood that’s predominantly fraternity, sorority, or party houses. So I guess the cleanliness standards are just low. But it feels odd to see a girl surprised at what I consider near the minimum for a comfortable living space, meanwhile the messy frat houses have more girls over in one night than I will all year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:24 PM
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On the few occasions where I have girls over they always comment “this is so clean for a boys house!” and that grinds my gears.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:12 PM
2

I hope to get to this point sometime soon. I’m working on it. Too passively sometimes, but this kind of self improvement is always on my mind. With a little more discipline I believe I can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 05:26 PM
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I opened up about my concern with her investment in our relationship. I really tried to start a calm and respectful dialogue where I could express what I felt. But she gaslit me and completely disregarded every emotion I expressed. We split a few weeks later and then she came out as lesbian. I asked and she admitted she was never sexually attracted to me, she only used me for her own emotional security.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:25 PM
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Red - addicted to weed, pretty introverted and shy, don’t get out much, dropped out of college to work a 9-5 at the age of 22, generally pretty isolated, not many friends, awkward no matter what but especially awkward around girls, still not really over ex despite being 4 years ago, ugly physique Green - always calm and collected (weed lol), passionate and very proficient at my main hobby (music), great relationship with my family, invested when I’m in a relationship, not ‘nice’ but kind, idk ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:40 PM
3

Normalize explaining acronyms
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:33 PM
2

Part of me knows that I will find someone someday, but there’s this really tough sentiment that I’ve mentioned on the sub before and I’m just not sure how to get over it. What if I become so lonely that I do something rash (like jump off a cliff) before I find someone. Plus there’s the sentiment of being a backup safe option instead of a genuinely attractive option. But my main problem is definitely just not getting out enough, thank you for the list of activities. I know a few more but it’s jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:32 PM
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I’m that friend too. All my homies talk about how they want kids, big house, pretty nuclear stuff and they call me out for my differences all the time. They frequently try to change my mind, and it’s all in good faith, but they haven’t been successful yet. I don’t think I’ll ever get married and I don’t particularly want to. I would love to have a close partner to go through life with but I have doubts that will happen and even if it does I’m not sure I want to deal with all the technicalities o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:12 PM
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I agree with you. Those are the type that have already arranged their backup before ending their current relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 08:41 PM
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It’s projection, as is nearly every single thing on this subreddit, but yeah that’s what I’ve experienced. From the girls I know, their Instagram comment sections are full of praise, they embrace and compliment imperfections, they simply use the word “Love” more which I think is telling. I agree with some other comments that some “fear of being gay” plays in with guys, and that doesn’t seem to be an issue at all with girls. They will have bff cuddle sessions, comfortable with nudity around each …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:50 PM
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No I am a man and other men have, many times, put me down for various things like being skinny, weak, shy, introverted, just plain ugly. I have also watched it happen to other guys. Women seem way different. They seem to stand up for each other with body positivity and emotional support more than men do. My post asked why are men mean to each other, I made no claims about men being mean to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:32 PM
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Why are guys so mean to each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:58 PM
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People watch sports to see the pinnacle of human physicality in action. If there was a short person NBA league the game simply wouldn’t be as interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:27 PM
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It would be “are men concerned” not “do men concerned”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:46 PM
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I wasn’t there for the first wave but it made a resurgence last year. I think it got banned bc of all the hate these people spewed behind their shield of anonymity lol but it’s kinda fun stuff to read
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:35 PM
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Have you guys heard of YikYak? It’s a kinda dumb app where everyone is assigned an anonymous emoji icon and they can post “tweets” that only show up to people within a couple miles. I’ve noticed a lot of ppd / pill topics seeping into YikYak in my area and I think it’s so interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:14 PM
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Fair but we gotta look at it like it’s a spectrum. Everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum and yes the extreme at either end might not be neurotypical. But there are without a doubt certain trends in each persons’ personality and it’s important to have language like introvert / extrovert to identify those trends. You’re getting hung up on the extremes using terms like “”true” introvert”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 03:17 PM
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Gatekeep introversion 2023 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 03:10 PM
1

No. $1MM is not very much money to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 02:39 PM
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You’re totally right that I should be able to talk to a lot of people about a lot of things, but I’m shy and introverted and quiet most of the time. I suspect a lot of other people in this sub are too. Sometimes I just can’t talk to a lot of people about many things. And it’s definitely not just women that I’m shy around. It is something I’m working on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:25 PM
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There was a post about “telling men to treat women like people is bad advice, it’s abuse and gaslighting” and I thought I made a good comment but the post was deleted :( Just curious what people think of my opinion on this if anyone cares to read. My comment - “Abuse is out of the question, and gaslighting is too strong a word as well. I wouldn’t use either of those. But I agree it’s bad advice. Personally I don’t really know what it means to treat people like people. I am awkward no matter who …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 05:12 PM
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Abuse is out of the question, and gaslighting is too strong a word as well. I wouldn’t use either of those. But I agree it’s bad advice. Personally I don’t really know what it means to treat people like people. I am awkward no matter who I am talking to, and that’s something I’ve been working on. But is it not natural to feel a little flustered, have some butterflies, be exceptionally awkward when you’re talking to someone who you’re attracted to? That seems like a natural reaction to me. Like h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:34 PM
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I think I fit in the capable of relationship category, but I wish I fit in the capable of hookup category. I’m a guy who’s very shy at first so the 5th or 6th impression I give is exponentially better than the 1st. I genuinely believe I’m more attractive folding laundry on a Sunday than I could ever be at a bar or club. It’s not easy for me to meet people, including women, and unfortunately that loneliness only perpetuates my reluctance to connect with people. Do I believe it could get better so…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:49 PM
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No, only 2. Also I define body count as penetrative sex, if making out / feeling counts then it’d be 4. I’ve only had sex with women I was in a relationship with, never had a one night stand. Out of the 4 “relationships” I mentioned I had sex with 2 of them. I use quotation marks because the other 2 I don’t consider as serious as I was pretty young.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:53 PM
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What’s your romantic history? Just curious about the experiences of people in this sub. Mine is mostly from a few years ago, I had two pretty childish relationships in high school and then one serious one lasting 1.5 years. We separated and each went to a different college. Then I had one very casual relationship my second year in college. I had sex with the serious high school girlfriend and with the casual college friend w benefits. That casual was the latest and that’s almost two years ago. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:22 PM
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I think I fit this category, I’m a guy who’s very shy. The 5th or 6th impression I give is exponentially better than the 1st. I genuinely believe I’m more attractive folding laundry than I could ever be at a bar or club. I am very lonely which only perpetuates my reluctance to try to connect with people. Do I believe it could get better someday? That I might find a great loving girl? Yeah it’ll probably happen. Eventually. Here’s the problem - what if I become so lonely, so disregarded, so invis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:00 PM
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Could someone explain why this whole thing is called red pill / blue pill? Wtf does any of this have to do with the matrix. My understanding is that red pill is really focused on improvement; making yourself look more attractive, go out and practice real social situations, pay lots of attention to those who are doing ‘better’ than yourself in whatever area you’re looking to improve. Blue pill focuses on acceptance; be yourself, discover your identity, believe you’re enough, be patient. I suppose…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:46 AM
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Who tf said that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:26 AM
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Fair enough. The obvious answer for having the conversations I’m looking for would be to have friends. Still working on that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:19 PM
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I lean liberal, but no askreddit is not at all what I’m looking for. I’m very interested in discussions about sex and romance. I totally agree that ideas should clash, that’s how we learn new things. I’m probably not phrasing it right; yes I do want to hear from people I consider more relatable but I’m certainly not looking for an echo chamber. I’m really looking for a smaller, more consistent community. One where we can agree on some things, disagree on others, respectfully exchange experiences…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 06:08 PM
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No you’re wrong you’re exactly who I want to talk with. I don’t want to hear devout humans spewing conversion ideologies, I don’t want to hear from traditional conservative “body count is everything” “absolutely no one should have casual sex” types, I don’t want to hear from “my 15 year relationship is perfect, we married right out of high school. so clearly I’m a master” types
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:53 PM
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I’m a 21yo male living in a big college town in the US. I think the “college experience” (though it’s very unrealistic in terms of the real world) could be a valuable Petri dish to observe a lot of the phenomena discussed here. So I’d like to interact with people in a situation more similar to my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:48 PM
1

Are there any smaller PPD subs with a more niche user base? There are so many people here that I struggle to relate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:52 PM
2

At least it’s an original opinion. Not one based off a fantasy novel.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:49 PM
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Everyone has all sorts of pressure all the time. Your oblivious bias is laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 08:57 PM
6

What’s funny about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 07:36 PM
1

Yeah highly likely. I honestly tried tho lol. My execution needs work for sure. You win some you lose some
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:31 PM
1

Only 1 at just under 2 years
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:07 PM
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I do wish there was a way to find a smaller more consistent PPD community. I see so many posts that aren’t relevant to me or my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:49 PM
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I agree, but the interest is more complicated than the signals. Personal anecdote that some probably think is irrelevant - one time I was at a bar and I thought I got some very strong signals from a girl. I could be wrong, let me know if these aren’t actually positive signals, but she -bought me drinks -wanted to wear my sweater -complimented my looks (said I have nice teeth, eyes, “you look like this hot actor!”) Now I was in a group but these signals felt directed at me individually. She didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 03:37 PM
1

Seriously? How many people do you know that have killed 1+ bodies?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:19 AM
1

Probably, but cmon. Never in my life have I met someone who has a kill count. I could imagine maybe in the military the gut reaction to “body count” would be number of kills, but I don’t think there would be any confusion in among any non-military population.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:16 AM
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Body count
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:09 PM
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In a perfect world sure. But it’s not gonna happen. Humans are both emotional and logical. Emotions are illogical and logic is emotionless. And don’t get me wrong I don’t have any better way to think about these things, projecting logic onto emotional situations and recognizing trends is the only way I can try to make any sense at all. But it’s still projecting and we can’t forget that. When someone seems completely devoid of logic yet they are convinced they’re doing things right, that’s an emo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:05 PM
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I agree the number is just a number, nothing behind that. But it’s the reaction to the number that’s emotional. I just think using “n-count” begs for a harsh, clinical, scientific reaction instead of a human-to-human conversation. The number is the buzzword but the context, personality, and emotion is the real conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:50 PM
1

I also like body count. That’s the accepted term within my circle at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:42 PM
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I strongly dislike the term “n-count” it sounds so formulaic. Like this is not an algebra problem, you don’t meet someone and try to solve for n. I think this kind of vocabulary perpetuates the problem that is using logic to explain emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:10 PM
1

I guess everyone is just an actor. Some better than others. I just feel authentically horrible and don’t know how to act like I’m not anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:58 AM
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I guess I just haven’t broken through that threshold
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:57 AM
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I’ve always been so bothered by the “fake it til you make it” approach to confidence. Isn’t that just being an inauthentic person? I’m sure there’s a balance and certain things are better to fake than others, obvs don’t fake everything, but I still think at a point it’s just having a fake personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:45 AM
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This is delusional logic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:25 PM
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All OP was looking for was casual discussion, which I suppose is sacrilege on this sub. Mods can’t filter out all the misandry and misogyny yet they take shit like this down. OP raised concerns, acknowledged they were from his own perspective, and asked what other people of thought of those concerns. I did not think it was a rant in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:10 PM
1

This was a great post, why was it removed?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:00 PM
1

Yeah this hurt to read. You said it yourself, the guys’ game is to make a move. The girls’ game is to watch a guy make a move.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:29 PM
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21m, it is impossible. At least it’s never happened. I’ve had two gfs in the past so I must not be absolutely hideous but I am short and skinny and shy. I’ve been told I have nice hair and pretty eyes and a pleasant, calm demeanor tho. I’m at a college where hookup culture is very prominent but I can’t participate. And it’s not from a lack of trying. I’ve been working on the shy and the skinny, albeit passively sometimes. But there’s nothing to be done about the height. I don’t especially want c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 08:44 PM
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Probably true. And I’m really only trying to discuss not to put people down, but those people simply don’t know what they’re talking about when they make claims about sex. I’m no expert, I’ve been with two people and I’m a few years older than your. It was wildly different than I expected it to be. One brought me closer to my partner than I ever thought I could be, and one ruined a friendship. It can be exciting, boring, euphoric, stressful, comforting, scary, I guess my point is maybe when you …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:03 PM
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No offense, but if you’ve never had sex, how can you make claims about sex and what it means to other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 01:46 PM
2

If the tables were turned, the women might the ones who are frustrated. That’s not hypocritical that’s just how ‘turntables’ work lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 06:34 PM
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Yeah I never get approached. Absolutely never. So guess I just gotta swallow a hard pill. I would disagree with some of the other comments though - sure most men might not be approached by lots of women and that’s just nature but some men are definitely more approachable than others. Just the other night I was out with a friend and he got approached countless times. I literally lost count. Estimate around 10 girls independently came up to him, complimented him, and participated in this stupid th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:30 PM
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How do you guys gauge your ‘looksmatch’? I truly have no idea where to put myself. Some days I feel like 7 and some days I feel like a 3. I have had just enough validation in the past to believe I’m not absolutely hideous, but presently I feel like I’m not even considered by anyone on the whole 1-10 spectrum. As if I’m below even a 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 05:25 PM
1

Good on you, I’m 21 maybe I’ll get there soon
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:19 PM
1

Fr it’s not binary. Lots of kinds of hair
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 09:52 PM
0

Piggy backing, what about really long hair? Do women see men with long hair as too feminine? Does a guy with really long hair give off similar energy as a girl with really short hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 08:56 PM
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Beauty - 6.9 - at least it’s a cool number Age - 17 - actually 21 BMI - 19.7 - actually 21.3, gotta bulk fs Gender - Man - correct Life Expectancy - 81 - fucking doubt it lol Online dating - horrendous, maybe a match every couple of months. Tinder usually shows single digit likes. A few times I have leveled the conversation up from the dating app to snap or text, but I have never actually been on a date with someone I met online. Frequently get no response to my messages or ghosted completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 12:13 AM
1

What is TRM?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 08:55 PM
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