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tomblitz73/r/askMRP06/02/19 04:24 AM
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The conflicting time interests are apparent to me also. This is something we'd have to lay out on the table far in advance and plan accordingly. Both of us have very busy lives as-is and I'm sure it would only get more intense. I will not be a stay-at-home dad under any circumstance. Thanks again for your wisdom.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 09:04 PM
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Agreed - and this would mean instant loss of respect for both of us. Another commentor pointed out and I agree, that the better way to have handled this would have been to take a "let's focus on the relationship and agree to compliment eachother wherever possible" approach rather than the "take it or leave it career vs. relationship" mentality. This is my fault for not setting a more cohesive foundation and direction earlier in the relationship. She simply followed my lead.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:18 PM
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Cheers to you for the very thoughtful and well-articulated response. I do agree on your point of confirmation bias and negativity coming from many members in TRP community. There are interesting statistics to counter that 50% divorce rate figure... and academic studies of census data have shown if you control for (1) both partners having an education of at least a Bachelor's level, (2) combined income of >~$60K, (3) no kids before or from prior marriages, and (4) congruent religiosity or lack th…
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:04 PM
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Thank you. As mentioned, the self-defeating nature of this does not escape me in hindsight. I have strong friendships and parents that have been happily married 45 years but they are very much not red pulled and are disconnected from modern dating and relationship dynamics. What is your definition of "putting in work" here?
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:14 AM
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How did this work out for you? Did you meet/marry before medical school? Would you do it again? I'm a very autonomous person naturally and spend much of my time working and enjoying the limited amount of solitude I have. Wouldn't want to be together 24/7 even if it were an option.
/r/askMRP07/02/19 06:05 AM
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Consider that she's asking you to do something for her that, well, she's not willing to do for you. And that makes continuing with her a nonstarter, even without all the rest of it. This is what bothers me the most. At many points she told me she wished she were rejected everywhere, if not accepted locally, so that she could stay with me and we could plan next steps together. I have encouraged her to prioritize her career as we are like-minded and I would have done the same if the roles were rev…
/r/askMRP06/02/19 06:53 PM
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Thank you for your thoughts. My understanding with divorce law is pre-nubs generally only protect assets/property before the marraige (in which case, I have the upper hand) while wealth acquired after marriage is open-season (likely more equitable resolution, although she will be a debt-free student living off a very modest stipend for 8+ years). Regarding your second point, though, if I relocate from a mindset of following her frame then I will get the punishment rightly coming to me.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 06:09 PM
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Thanks guys. Income is about $135K with essentially no debt. Short term plan is to bust my ass for a long term foundation, financial freedom, and early semi-retirement (read: part time work similar to as the group is describing).
/r/askMRP06/02/19 05:39 PM
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She applied thought-out the country with emphasis on staying in the area with me. Unfortunately, this was the only school that accepted her.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 05:20 PM
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Not gloating, stating facts. And yes, it's obviously not fun. My goal has been to pay off all debt and establish an investment basis by which I can retire early, have a much healthier work-life balance, giving myself the free time to go back to school and spend more time in personal hobbies.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:45 PM
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To clarify- that is worked 2-3 different jobs (full time salaried, contracts, and consulting) simultaneously at 60-70hrs/wk. I have supervised MDs and PhDs with my lowly Bachelor's degree and know for a fact my income is higher than several of them. Not the end all, obviously, but this has been my life's pursuit for the past 10 years.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 03:24 PM
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Thank you the balanced and grounded feedback. Judging from your post and related, it is apparent my problem is more so a lack of clear cognitive direction more so than a relationship one.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 02:39 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts. This is a feasible solution for the short-term. If she seeks other dick, however, I would end it no questions asked.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 01:59 PM
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After a period of casual dating in my early and late twenties, I do not feel as though I am missing out on anything sexually. After working 2-3 jobs and developing my career and income substantially during the same time, I am also very confident a life solely dedicated to my career will not satisfy me. At the this time in my life, I am increasingly valuing the importance of close friends, family, and long-term stability. Independent hobbies and a sense of career purpose are still musts, however.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 01:55 PM
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I understand maintaining frame will be critical and not impossible. It's interesting because there appears conflicting advice from the community favoring both outcomes as the obvious choice.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 12:26 PM
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The program is 8+ years in duration. Likely to be followed with further moves for residency and fellowship. My emotional interest will decay far sooner for me without sexual reinforcement and there are many other plates to be had without the baggage and flight ticket bills. Or were you suggesting I tell her this as a matter of dread / something else?
/r/askMRP06/02/19 12:06 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts. Agree everyone is replaceable. At this stage, I see it more as a matter of quality vs quantity.
/r/askMRP06/02/19 11:49 AM
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