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-TheCaptain/r/askMRP05/03/16 04:53 AM
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-TheCaptain/r/askMRP30/03/16 04:02 AM
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-TheCaptain/r/askMRP21/03/16 04:43 AM
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-TheCaptain/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:26 PM
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I've got and will. Thanks.
/r/askMRP11/04/16 12:19 AM
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Thanks, dude. This is very helpful. I like the Opera Man tip.
/r/askMRP11/04/16 12:19 AM
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That's a good link. Thanks. According to it, I have 16% BF and am considered fit. I'm not there yet, but I'm well on my way. I have read MMSLP, but have largely ignored it since finding this sub and focusing on NMMNG and WISNIFG. I will go through it again. Thanks.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 01:55 AM
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Thanks, screechhater, this is a simple straightforward advice that I needed to hear.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 01:50 AM
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Thanks, dude. When you say Action Plan, do you mean more than Lift, diet, clothes, hobbies?
/r/askMRP10/04/16 01:49 AM
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Yes, I have accepted the very real possibility of divorce. We live in Asia. I have a plan on how to win full custody. It is not foolproof, but it stacks the deck in my favor. It will be nasty.
/r/askMRP10/04/16 01:48 AM
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It doesn't work both ways, man. Thanks for pointing that out. This is your problem. You have this lust for a woman you claim is worthless. You realize you cclearly have some broken mental models here. If she's really worthless in your life, why do you want to fuck her so badly? So she either does add value to my life or I don't really want to fuck HER. Yes, to the broken mental models. Any advice on how to sort them out? Say she was still worthless, but let you use her vagina as a receptacle for…
/r/askMRP09/04/16 02:20 PM
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Our marriage was failing before I found MRP. Over the past months, since my son was born, I have not been good at offering comfort. That coupled with me being unattractive and a drunk captain has fucked my marriage. As to years together and body fat, they are about the same, 9 months.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 01:54 PM
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I think I haven't been good at beta comfort...for a long time. I was never a very strong alpha, but I can be a dick. Over time, enough was enough. Our future together is uncertain.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 01:47 PM
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Yeah, I'm being cool about it.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 01:45 PM
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175cm 74kg I'm not sure about my 1RM, but on StrongLifts, I'm currently at 5X5 at these weights. Bench: 57.5kg Squat: 82.5kg
/r/askMRP09/04/16 01:45 PM
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OK, so if I initiate sex tonight and she rejects me, I cheat on her? I think I know what you're getting out, but it seems extreme.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:29 AM
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Maybe.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:24 AM
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I know that she's not attracted to me. No doubt. I am in much better shape. She's mentioned it herself. I still have a way to go, but the point is SMV is increasing. Does this mean I don't initiate until I'm more attractive?
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:24 AM
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Thanks, I'll keep this in mind.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:22 AM
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2- Lighten up and laugh at her. You know when she is about to do something stupid and you catch her @ it ? Get this frame of mind 24/7. Lighten up and laugh life is good Make sure and show it. (Stop letting her see you wanting sex). Thanks. Your reply is helpful. Some others have commented that I should let my desire be known. How does that fit with your 'stop letting her see me wanting sex?' 3- Ramp up her mind early in the day. Do not telll her "I want you" at the last minute Show her as other…
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:22 AM
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I'm not sure. She does some housecleaning, but I consider this something I can pay someone to do. Its value is low. What I've been telling myself and that I'm not beginning to doubt is that I want a crack at saving my family. I found MRP 2ish months ago. The decrepit state of my marriage became known to me 6 months ago. I'm at the end of my rope and nearly ready to nuke the whole thing, get her out, fight for custody and get on with my life.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:18 AM
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Replace SHE with I, answer that, and you'll probably have all the tips you need. Her value in this case is obvious, you want to fuck her. Yes and no. That's POTENTIAL value. Right now, she's not fucking me so there's no value there. Fuck...I want to fuck. Right now, I want to fuck her. I want an amazing sex life and, right now, I want it to be with her. I'm not sure when the 'with her' will peel away.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:10 AM
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Haha, that's rich. When I re-read this I realized that I didn't emphasize. It sounded right in my head. It would better read: Yes, HER brains....HER brains. I wanted to highlight that I want sex with my wife and not any woman. (Although, now I am beginning to question this.) I failed. As for owning my desire to fuck? Yeah, I'm still maturing in that department.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:05 AM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:00 AM
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Thanks. I've read the sidebar. I'll go through MMSLP again.
/r/askMRP09/04/16 12:00 AM
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Damn, that went so far over my head I didn't even feel a draft.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:57 PM
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This is a great response, thanks a lot for your time and attention. Pardon my skepticism, but this sounds like it would never work. Just lead her to the bedroom and get busy? This seems dangerous, like it could cross a line of consent...do I keep going until the hard no? Even if it's obvious she's not into it? And if she rejects, then OI and no talking.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:55 PM
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Explain? No, attraction cannot be negotiated. I lift. And in good shape, better every day. No begging anymore, bro. Not butthurt either. I've read and am implementing the sidebar pre reqs.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:47 PM
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Right. I will. TV and movies are not something either of us do much. This was a rare occasion.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:45 PM
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Great tip, and I have that book on my computer. I'll put it in the queue. When you journal, do you do a stream of consciousness? A prompt? Any method to the madness?
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:40 AM
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Right, I need a reframe. Thanks for your input.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:39 AM
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Yes, I will read it again. I need to finish WISNIFG first.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:38 AM
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So these moments of vulnerability have the potential to be a source of strength and power?
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:36 AM
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Before this crisis with my wife, I thought I had a lot of self-respect, character, and determination as well, but now that I feel vulnerable, it is revealing some hidden insecurities. The thing is, it feels like I'm playing a joke on myself, feeling insecure. It's like if I could just shut off my fucking Hamster, my high quality would be evident. I know that I'm a good man. With lots of things to improve of course, but, Inshallah, lots of years left in which to improve them.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:35 AM
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This is very helpful. Thanks! Based on your photo and some others I've googled. I'm somewhere between 20 and 15%. Ideally, I would like to add muscle mass and cut fat at the same time.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:33 AM
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Kind of, it's not clear enough that's for sure. Now that my life is all chaotic, I'm confused. I get that even in chaos what I want should be clear, should be the guiding star, but I'm fresh off the blue pill and I ain't got a scoobie doo. This is the idea of a mission, right? Can you say more about mental models?
/r/askMRP31/03/16 12:29 AM
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Thanks, I do know that I'll be fine, but parts of me are not on board.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 02:10 PM
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I haven't. I'll look into it. Thanks.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 02:09 PM
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Got it. Any sources you recommend for proper diet?
/r/askMRP30/03/16 01:44 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for that. I'm working on the first and second one. I'm not sure how to work on my vision. I mean, I have ideas about where I want to go and who I want to be and how I want to get there, but it feels like such a pipe dream.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 01:43 PM
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This is a great post. The reframe to connection is interesting. I'll play with that and see how it feels. Thanks!
/r/askMRP30/03/16 01:41 PM
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Yeah, I'm lifting regularly, doing Stronglifts and cardio on off days. I look forward to the SL, cardio, not so much. Diet is probably my weakest point. And wardrobe is getting better, a few pieces each month.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:26 AM
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I have been lifting regularly, a la StrongLifts. Doing cardio on off days.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:25 AM
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Yeah, the mommy thing is disturbing as fuck.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 05:24 AM
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Just read this, solid advice. Thanks.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 12:52 PM
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If she offers no access, she deserves no exclusivity. She's looking for strange dick, checking out, moving to a different room, and you are sitting in here rationalizing her behavior through the lens of I was a drunk captain. Stop defending and rationalizing her behavior. Yes, you're right. i am defending her. Fuck that. I'm tired of being such a pussy. Stop trying to do things to fix the marriage and attract your wife. Instead, think about everything you do as, "will this help me fuck other wom…
/r/askMRP23/03/16 02:18 AM
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Off topic: Would you share some of the techniques you're using to maintain frame? I see the book recommendation, but my reading list is long enough already.
/r/askMRP23/03/16 02:05 AM
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This is a very helpful post. Thanks for your time and attention.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 01:48 PM
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You know allot of problems tend to be nonexistent if you just fuck her good. That's awesome. Yeah, I would love to fuck her good, but she's not having it. The last few times we had sex, maybe a week ago, 10 days ago, were pretty good for both of us. Read sgm if you haven't already done so and get dominant with that slut of yours. Just make sure she knows you love her after its all over and she might just move back to your master bedroom. My first instinct is that I'm not ready for that. Becoming…
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:35 AM
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Women will try to force you out of your bed but they rarely move out of their bed unless they are getting the D elsewhere. Emotional my ass. She has a vibrating dildo if that counts. I've found no evidence of any contact with her and the OM. Last contact that I know about from sleuthing was ~4 months ago. Is it possible that she's able to contact him and hide it from me? Yes, it is, but it's not probable. She's not a very sharp tool.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:33 AM
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You really should do some sleuthing and surveillance to see if there's more than just 'daydreaming'. I have and found nothing. Channels are monitored. This is now her choice on keeping a "daydream" in the forefront of her mind. Right, because my MAP won't have any effect if she's got someone else on her mind.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:30 AM
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Thanks, I will implement now.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:29 AM
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I get it. Thanks.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:28 AM
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This one month thing started on Saturday. The previous thread was the last time she pulled this, which ended with us agreeing that, for the sake of our son, we'd give it until November to see if things would change. Look..she is still dictating. IMO this is a huge indication that you are still solidly more concerned about her I'm concerned about her for my son. Maybe I'm talking in circles, I don't know, but I'll sit with that. The longer I'm in this thread, the more I realize I've put too much …
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:28 AM
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Got it.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:24 AM
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The short and sweet...she laid down the ultimatum. No matter what you do, no matter how good a captain, no matter how much you improve from now until then, she will see it as something you did because she played the divorce card. I see. Make sure your attitude of doing whatever is best for your son...including staying with a wife that doesnt respect or follow you and is looking to branch swing, is actually internally what youre shooting for...and not some act of heroic falling on your sword for …
/r/askMRP22/03/16 12:24 AM
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What's the magic?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 12:17 AM
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Great post!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 12:12 AM
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Thanks Loner. If you have more time and motivation later, ID appreciate your opinion. On.my first thread, you were already very helpful.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 02:47 PM
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And he needs to be willing, and prepared to lose her or I guarantee he will. I hear ya.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:22 PM
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He should just ignore the deadline and whatever else she says, and improve, be awesome and have fun. This is my strategy for now. If I get my legal ducks in a row, I might become more aggressive. Ultimately, I want what's best for my son, and that's probably going to mean spending time with his mother. I don't want to cut her out of his life, no matter how much I want her out of mine, UNLESS she demonstrates a serious danger or selfishness.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:21 PM
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The best killers on any battlefield are the ones who truly believe they are already dead- get it into your head that your marriage is dead and your frame will get infinitely stronger This resonates with me. "You threaten me like that ever again and I will have papers for you to sign in the morning. I will fight you with everything I have, I will raise our son alone, and other people will benefit from this same passion. Do you understand?" This can be helpful, but not yet. I need to have a seriou…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:18 PM
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I see way too much worry and anger, and too little optimism and upbeat energy. You're right. Maybe she won't want to jump off a moving train (it might be going somewhere exciting) and she'll extend the deadline. Maybe she'll leave but come back. Maybe she'll leave, and then you'll find a girl that is better for you and your son. It will work out well, and the less you obsess over her the better it will work. I appreciate this a lot. I've got a lot of doomsday scenarios in my head in terms of los…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:16 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. I feel strong and calm.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:14 PM
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Thanks for that.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:13 PM
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Should your XO threaten mutiny again, you must coldly demonstrate the consequences of that mutiny, before allowing her to choose to follow your lead, or swing from the yard-arm. Right, but what I don't get is how do I show her the consequences, me nexting her, when that's what she claims to want? It seems by her wanting to leave, I've lost all of that leverage.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:13 PM
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Exactly. Learning this is a priority. In a month, all the ducks will be in neat little rows, and I will make the choice that is best for my son and myself. She is validating so many RP maxims.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 01:12 PM
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Yes, I got it. I know that I can raise an awesome kid, even with a broken family. It's just less likely. The past 2 days, he's been really clingy to both of us, and it's difficult not to think he knows something is going on. Game is probably my weakest area. Like I mentioned in one of the comments in the backstory, I'm a good at game and flirting unless I'm actually attracted to someone. Then, I'm all elbows. But wardrobe is being upgraded, made a purchase last week, haircut changed 3 months ago…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:41 AM
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I am definitely in a strong position--cheating is illegal here, her long-term residency is dependent on her marriage to me. There might be a loophole for her having a child in the country, but if this does go nuclear and she wants to stay, she'll probably have to accept a properly shit job to do it. I don't know the specifics about the laws here, though. Not yet. I will in a week.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:37 AM
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Thanks, a lot! Record everything Ok...just document it myself in a database. Any way to make it official? No matter what she says or does, do not move out of YOUR house - possession being 10/10ths of the law etc. This has been my position from the beginning. Thanks for the confirmation. Dante Nero (of the Beige Phillip fame- disciple and friend of Patrice) had a good bit about a divorce threat- essentialy: Should she ever bring up leaving you again, you give her a 'trial run' at being without yo…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:19 AM
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In other words, you have one month to complete what most men can't in a year, because she wants you to. No, she definitely doesn't want me to. I want to do this because a strong family unit is the ideal situation to raise a child. Look, I get that I'm in her frame on this. It seems like a Catch 22--hold frame and kick her out, guaranteeing that my son doesn't get a strong family unit OR leave the ball in her court and see what she decides. Why do you even want her to stay?I Because of my son. Ha…
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:16 AM
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Thanks.
/r/askMRP08/03/16 12:13 AM
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Cheers.
/r/askMRP08/03/16 12:13 AM
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Most tools work, but you have to use the right tool for the job. Agreed. So it's just a matter of me getting my head around the different tools, how they work, and when best to use them. Love, attraction, and arousal are not logical. They can't be negotiated. I get it. I do. Until recently, I believed that the conscious commitment we made to each other would trump any inclinations that were deleterious to our relationship. I see now I was believing like an idiot. Start having fun again, on your …
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:44 PM
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Wow, thanks so much, cj_aubry. I am humbled by your commitment to help me. I'll make the spreadsheet now, and put your plan into action. This anger thing is a big issue for me. I've always tried to play it off, to pretend to not be angry, but it leaks out when I'm not paying attention. I'm starting to think that this may be a major cause of my failure to properly captain. Even when I was a kid, I had an "Irish temper". Again, many thanks.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:37 PM
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Since we've been together, we've been on the move. For the first 7 years of our relationship, the longest we stayed in any one country was a year, and that was long. Now, we've been in this country nearly 5 years, this city nearly 5 years! It's long for us, but if anything, we have more of a social network than we've ever had. This putting down of roots has also been tough for both of us as individuals because we were so nomadic before.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 03:01 AM
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This is deep. I get it intellectually. In the heat of the moment, I'm not sure. I imagine it's a slow process of becoming more aware of my reactions so that I can eventually stop them before they start? Am I missing something? This feels very heady, but I think that's not enough to actually make a difference in my life. So by choosing to release anger, even the anger towards myself, I'm empowered to make more manly choices because I've not switched into a reactive mode that transfers my power to…
/r/askMRP06/03/16 02:24 AM
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What you're doing is trying to placate your wife. You're absolutely right, and since reading NMMNG, I see my approval seeking and caretaking. The other day, I was in a great mood specifically because she was in a good mood. Objectively, I could see what I was doing. I felt like a little kid, happy that his mom isn't being unstable. I fucking hate that about myself. It makes me want to vomit. What actions are you taking? I am lifting. I am reading. I am meditating. I am pursuing an independent bu…
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:36 AM
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You've basically upended her from one. Do you mean that my failure to lead has upended the social network that is our marriage?
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:29 AM
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Agreed.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:28 AM
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You're right.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:28 AM
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Thank you. I'm still getting my head around this idea of frame. I can see it in other people's relationships much easier than I can in my own.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:28 AM
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Failing to acknowledge that this is your fault. You're right. Intellectually, I can say that I understand this leadership, alpha attraction dynamic, but experientially, I have little idea of what I'm doing, and a part of me has a problem with accepting responsibility for someone else's behavior. I want to believe that I am connecting and communicating with her mind, that there's a rational person in there who will make a logically sound decision. But I do understand that's not the case most time…
/r/askMRP06/03/16 01:26 AM
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Thanks, I'll focus on this.
/r/askMRP06/03/16 12:59 AM
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Yes, I will keep lifting. I remember how much I love it. I'm starting to feel strong again. Any other ideas on how to speak to that need? Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askMRP05/03/16 08:04 AM
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Thanks for the words. I think you're right that my situation falls more into category 2. When this all started, my wife complained of me being too intense, too serious. And I took that feedback and loosened up. I probably still have some way to go, but I am focused on being more light-hearted. I did deliver it in a strong way, with authority. Refuse obvious compliance tests, but make sure to do it without aggression This is where I need to focus, I think. Her complaints have been that my standar…
/r/askMRP05/03/16 08:03 AM
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Thanks a lot. I'll keep reading and learn to STFU. As for the passport, I'll keep it in mind. If I take that action now, it will nuke everything, and we're not there yet. Also, after checking with some friends, it may be possible to block my son from exiting the country without my written permission. Once I verify this, I will feel much more comfortable with the whole thing. Losing the attraction of our LTR's is more common than piss on this sub. If you can start taking control of the beta minds…
/r/askMRP05/03/16 06:13 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. What you say about writing makes sense. My idea does seem more incredible in my head than on paper, but Stephen King once said: "there's no such thing as good writing, only good re-writing." Lifting. Yes, I know you're right. There's no good reason I'm not. This too shall pass.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 02:27 AM
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Shit I haven't owned yet. Lifting. I keep putting off my exercise regime. No good reason. Time Managment I could be getting a lot more done. Writing: Halfway through a novel and then I got stuck. I put it down and haven't picked it back up yet. Sex: During a fight ~2 weeks ago, my wife said sex makes her anxious and wanted a moratorium on it for the time being. I'm new to MRP so I agreed, thinking that placating her was the answer. Not sure how to proceed now, other than MAP. Get better and bett…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 12:55 PM
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