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So no one is going to bring up the rampant abuse and trafficking of women in porn? The epidemic of porn induced erectile dysfunction? Advertising boner pills to 20 year old men is perfectly normal? All of these are the most cited reasons in FDS discussions for staying away from men who watch porn, where is the proof to justify your argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 12:37 AM
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Catholics don’t go out to preach in public, but they do hold vulnerable women hostage when they have pregnancy related complications that threaten the lives of mothers. The Catholic Church holds practicing physicians hostage by restricting d&c procedures to save a mother’s life. A woman in Minnesota developed a severe infection that almost killed her because the hospital that she presented to denied that she was having a very obvious miscarriage and discharged her home instead of performing a d&…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:09 PM
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It’s just desperate men who exoticize women they hope are “submissive” and I’m sure there are women that play the game for money or a chance to get married and move to America. But as soon as they lock it down, they show these chumps that they are just as strong as other women. I love seen men having their sexist utopia shattered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:47 PM
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Oh lord I am going to need an In Living Color binge one of these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:15 AM
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I’m amazed you put so much time into low effort wordplay, as if your point is at all justified. When women couple with men and start a family, they are on the hook for the majority of household work even though they work as many hours as men. Women provide tens of thousands of dollars in unpaid labor because men are too fragile to participate in regular household responsibilities. Women assume primary caregiving responsibility for children and elderly parents. This is all based on recent studies…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 01:57 AM
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I’m not outraged, I 100% don’t care when people feel the need to mischaracterize FDS to justify their baseless assumptions. If you feel salty that women play the field until we find a man that meets our standards, that’s not my problem. I’m just explaining the reality of dating to you. If you refuse to accept it, die mad I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 01:24 AM
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So you can’t admit that your assumption that FDS endorses cheating is wrong. Your only recourse is to insist that your own personal preferences for dating are universal rules that women should obey. If a woman dates by her own rules it’s obviously something to be shamed. Women don’t need to ask men for permission to date the people they want to date. If you’re threatened by women looking out for themselves, that’s your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 12:45 AM
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Happy 40th. I hope you have a great time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:35 PM
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Sorry, I can’t explain other people’s thoughts as well as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:45 PM
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When people are in a committed relationship is when they are out of the singles game. It’s highly encouraged to wait until a man proposes, but like anything else, a girl can make her own decision about when she is entirely off the market. Dating multiple men with no agreed upon commitment is not the same thing as cheating. Without the exclusivity discussion, women are totally within their right to date around.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:38 PM
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Where did you acquire the credentials to tell someone that their own personal philosophy and self-concept is a lie? Did Mansplaining University bestow the unquestionable ability to tell people what they are thinking in spite of their attempt to correct your misconceptions? I’m happy you are personally getting your rocks off by fashioning yourself as some bargain bin Sherlock Holmes for purely your own benefit, but this is a debate forum. That means that we exchange ideas and argue the point of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:06 PM
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Physical violence is objectively more harmful than emotional pain. Which one can lead to death or permanent injury? I had an old acquaintance who was in a physically violent relationship, and her husband ended up killing her in their house (that she was paying 100% of the mortgage on because he was a loser who decided to live entirely off her hard work instead of finding a job when he got laid off) and then dumping her body next to some nearby railroad tracks. Their three kids are essentially or…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 09:02 PM
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Yes, please tell women what they really think, we have no clue. The poster said directly to you that she was not identifying herself as a feminist. What’s not sinking in? Why do you reeeee so hard at a woman identifying as a feminist anyway? This is a silly diversion from the poster’s main point. What does forcing the issue accomplish?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 08:55 PM
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Yup sure it’s women’s problem that men behave in pitiful ways to get female attention. It’s been over 10 years since I’ve had a roommate, yet most men I meet live with 2-3 roommates, don’t care to level up, can’t clean their shitty apartments, and I’m the problem? Lol! It’s not my responsibility to make men act like adults. Where women have invested in ourselves and can take care of our own, men are the most shameless dependents as soon as they lock down a woman. It becomes a race to drain women…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 08:49 PM
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Nope, we’re tired of dating unmotivated losers who feel sorry for themselves because some chick hurt them ten years ago, and according to them, it’s now ok to act like a cheesy piece of crap in order to get laid. Instead of being a stand up man, they pretend to be one to get laid because it takes less effort to pretend to be successful than to go out and make something of themselves. Also, meeting a genuinely successful woman triggers these men so hard. They neg, try to manipulate women, control…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:44 PM
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You’re a feminist because you used the word “we.” Because that’s exactly how that works apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:29 PM
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First of all, cheating is not the same as divorcing, and shouldn’t be used as an example of toxic behavior. Divorce is legitimate, it’s legal, and many times the only solution to relationship problems is to end the relationship. As far as advocating cheating, I’m going to need an example of FDS advocating cheating, because I’ve been a regular visitor to that sub and I’ve never seen women rooting each other on to cheat on the person they are with. I’m open to admitting error if you can show me an…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:25 PM
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And this is what male privilege looks like, everyone. Equating cheating and asking for money to literal violence. Which one ends in death or permanent physical harm? So many women have been physically assaulted by dates, boyfriends and husbands, and they silently move through life without your knowledge, and in the end, you get to operate on pure ignorance because we don’t walk around with a broach that identifies us. It’s easier to minimize what you have never experienced, and don’t care to und…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 07:19 PM
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Yup love it. I’ll add that some women are such hard-core pickmeisha’s that having any male presence will cause them to go into competition mode because they don’t know any other way to interact with other women besides trying to look better, and it takes time to re-wire that behavior. It takes effort to learn how to accept support and offer support to other women instead of giving in to the patriarchal conditioning that leaves us competing with each other for some lazy ass man that’s most likely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:07 PM
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Cool :) we could get a discord going so we can all chit chat, and of course anyone else in the area would be free to join. Let me know if you ladies are interested 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:37 PM
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Lol “ sexpats” I have never heard that phrase and I love it. I remember when I was on an old forum and two guys piped up that they just love women from Russia and Thailand. According to them, American women are not as feminine and friendly. They both at some point posted pictures of themselves and, you guessed it, total creeps. The ESL teacher in Thailand was especially creepy, he had anime pictures on his profile that sort of skirted the line of what is appropriate on a philosophical debate for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:32 PM
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I’m in the Pacific Northwest. Holla.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:58 PM
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I feel bad for OP. Between her mother being sick, and father being extremely mentally ill, she doesn’t have any support, so in a way it seems like she is trying to cling on to the last two people she can for support. Her scumbag boyfriend is manipulating her when she is in a terrible psychological place, if anyone deserves to be snapped on, it’s him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:53 PM
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Honestly, I don’t even date in my town, I travel pretty often to big cities near me and that is where I do almost all of my tinder searches, and it’s because of these idiots. They wear potato sacks, have white boy dreads, work as unicycle jugglers during the summer and weed harvesters in the fall, and when they are behind on rent money for the couch they’re staying on, they ask their elderly parents who live on a fixed pension to pony up the cash. They’re pushing 40, no car after a couple of DUI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:40 AM
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I’d love for this to get pinned so that every hateful incel and misogynist can see that we are achieving recognition for our strength. Real strength. Not violence, not abuse, not terrorism that they depend on to get attention. Good on you Liz for being quoted. Imagine how many women out there that you’ve helped. Thanks to all of you for your contributions. And men, I’m sorry to announce that acting like a piece of shit is no longer an option. Grow up, stop strangling your dicks on porn and blami…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 11:18 AM
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Congrats, my sis. It takes a lot of courage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:50 AM
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This is gold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:11 AM
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I LOVE this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:43 PM
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I’m sorry, I’m in a mental place where I can’t be held responsible for my actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 03:15 PM
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Remember that this is not just a checklist to meet external goals. It is an entire lifestyle overhaul, and every major lifestyle change starts with putting in 100% effort, and seeing almost zero results. That is why being a high value woman or man is hard and not everyone achieves anything more than a low value lifestyle. It’s not that for some people it’s impossible, it’s that people do not have the persistence to set aside low value behaviors that may feel good right now (eating junk food, blo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 04:19 AM
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This hurts to read, I feel terrible for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:24 AM
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I don’t know the best approach, but here are my thoughts: if a man wants to get serious with you he will tell you without question that is his intention. Even if he says he wants to lock it down with you, ask yourself if this man has what you are looking for? If there is anything about him that is not ideal, can you accept it and let it go, or are there dealbreakers? Do you want to have a ltr? Marriage? I am strictly in the dating until married camp, so for me, just being exclusive to no end is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:21 AM
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I think we all know creatures like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:12 AM
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This is pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:11 AM
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I use products from The Ordinary. Look them up. Super high quality for a really low price. Also I subscribe to a couple of beauty boxes and try different products all the time so my routine is all over the place, but I love it. It’s a relaxing nightly ritual. Also, I try to stay away from people who make me raise my eyebrows with wtf behaviors, so OLD sites are rarely visited anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:47 PM
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I don’t know you, but I know you don’t have the time for this bullshit. He gets an emotional crutch and free access to sex. You get an emotional cripple who will dump you when he has his own place because he’s “confused” and “needs to find himself” (aka fuck other women). Next, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:00 AM
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God this is totally my issue. I'm a fairly open person, can endure through some personal inconvenience without needing to complain about everything. I generally like to listen to people instead of directing conversation, and if they have an idea on when to do on a particular night, unless I know I will absolutely hate the activity, I will generally go and have a great time. ​ Apparently somewhere in all this, I come across as someone with no standards and they can act like the trash ass person t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 05:37 PM
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That man’s knees look like two old dudes that can tell you what it was like to live through the Great Depression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 08:43 PM
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Our sub exists to help women adopt a different approach to dating. If it’s not for you, peace. But I’ll tell you what’s definitely not a female dating strategy: being sexually inappropriate with your brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:23 PM
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One guy took me to lunch and grabbed the bill....then asked me to Venmo him for my part? I Venmo'd him $1 for "the audacity". This is true queen energy, love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:17 AM
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Good for you, sis. I'm sure he's out there making some other woman miserable. But that is no longer any of your concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:30 AM
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Lol, what a LOSER!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:29 AM
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Do you want to hear some low-down dirty shit? My ex from 15 years ago found me on Facebook and contacted me through messenger. The last time I spoke with him, I was walking out on him after I found out his pathetic ass was cheating on me. The message was innocent enough, just a general hello, and I was not in a full-blown FDS mindset so I replied hello. He apologized for his behavior and I told him whatever, it was a long time ago. I asked him how he was doing, and he said he is getting married …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:23 PM
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That’s right. Get your dusty ass out of my sanctuary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:39 PM
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Agreed. Not even interested in a FWB if I get no actual benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:36 PM
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Ok so a few of the posts there are literal word for word copies of posts from FDS, with the genders reversed. I can’t see that place as anything other than a creation to troll idiot men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:54 PM
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Thank. You. Ladies, stop playing into this bullshit. I was dating a guy last year and the first and only time we had sex, he reached out and started choking me. What the fuck. I told him I don’t like it, and he justified his behavior by saying most girls that he’s been with have loved being choked. Right. 🙄 Just because some spineless pickmeisha didn’t stand up for herself, doesn’t mean a guy is allowed to literally assault someone without warning. Ugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:09 PM
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Oh god I’ve met several men who insisted that they were going to teach me how to have multiple orgasms and squirt. Yes big daddy, please teach me about my body, I have no clue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:20 PM
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Relevant meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:51 PM
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This is really it. They want to feel like we’re sweating them because they’re sexy shit. But really it’s just a matter of following through with plans. If a person can’t do that much, I’m kicking them right out of my orbit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:02 PM
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Diabetes induced glaucoma from all that choclate pudding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:27 AM
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This is absolutely foul. Who would swipe right on that hoe ass, shiny headed man-boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 12:16 AM
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Also they usually work stupidly long hours for really shitty pay. All of the things I don’t want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:06 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:56 PM
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r/nobodyasked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:55 PM
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I think you are becoming aware of the fact that you have a hard time establishing your boundaries in relationships with men, especially men you really like. And that is a hard thing for a lot of women to do, so you are totally not alone in this struggle. I would suggest you focus on yourself for a second. Forget about the risk of him walking away, because if the only way you manage to keep this man is by accommodating his whims, and silencing your own emotional needs, this relationship will drai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:24 PM
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This is the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 10:05 PM
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I have thought about this before. I came across a quote once that women teach men how to behave in a relationship. We set the tone. Unfortunately, the sex positive movement seems to have prioritized the sexual experience for men over women declaring and maintaining their boundaries - you mustn’t be a prude, after all. We won’t change men, but we can change us. Stop forgiving low effort fuckboy behavior, walk away and never contact someone to turns out to be a LVM. If women shifted their focus fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:58 PM
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I am starting to adopt this approach lately. I used to go on dates until it felt like it was time to go home, but 2-3 hours seems like long enough. The later the date, the more fuckboy behavior I tend to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 09:46 PM
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I appreciate women who explain and then mercilessly block these kinds of leg humping men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:06 PM
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I like the Baggage Reclaim with Natalie Lou podcast. While it’s not specifically for women, she’s very helpful with processing emotions with not just dating, but also with other life stressors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 09:58 PM
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I absolutely do not date men from OLD who already have kids. They usually fall into one of three categories: 1.) the “I resent all women, and instead of going to therapy to process the end of my relationship and acknowledging that most people have been through bitter endings with people they loved, I will just gaslight all women with gestures that dupe them into thinking I’ll ever consider a real relationship and instead, I’ll treat them like rent-a-thots” LVM 2.) the “please take this screaming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:45 PM
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I know it, but honestly since I have adopted a take no shit attitude about dating it’s been better. As soon as I feel like I am wasting my time with a LVM I am done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:36 PM
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I agree with your point, it can go either way. I get hounded by low effort leg humpers no matter which way I approach online dating, to me it seems like the only way to truly get what I want is to ruthlessly cut off anyone who says or does anything that doesn’t make an effort to give me what I want and is overall low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 10:17 AM
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I think if you turned literally this into a dating profile: Men have always been extremely respectful to me and I never accept less than my standard. However, I DONT want anything serious right now. I’ve been in back to back relationships my entire 20’s. Maybe in another year... In this current moment, I want a lover. Someone who is a gentleman, understands his role as a man, courts me, showers me with admiration and gives me great orgasms. You might be pretty successful. Of course, you still ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:21 AM
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OP, read this. You deserve consistency. I dealt with this nonsense when I was with my first serious boyfriend and in the end the lack of consistency hurt so much that it made me leave. The way you feel now seems unsustainable for a healthy relationship where you both feel loved and respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:41 AM
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I also got the impression that this guy becomes infatuated quickly and that he is emotionally unstable in his relationships with women. He declared love very shortly after he broke up with OP, and sure, these things do happen sometimes. But this feels more like a pattern of artificially inflating his feelings toward someone, and then those big empty feelings deflate when reality sets in, he bails, then he gets his newest hit of dopamine from the next woman who comes along. ​ My theory is that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:46 AM
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Hey I get that going on a vacation with a guy sounds like a big deal, but you can literally make friends with other women who love to travel, and go on trips with them. That way, you're not dependent on your connection with a new man staying the way it is in order to look forward to a fun vacation. Find your girls, and this kind of scenario will mean nothing to you, because you know you have other, more secure people to go on vacations with. Good luck out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:53 AM
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Haha! this one made me laugh for a good while! Bye bye Brian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:49 AM
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Good luck to you two, I’m happy for you sis. Rock them earrings!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:37 PM
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Yeah sure, but stick to your word. If you want a serious relationship with someone and you don’t like having casual sex, don’t sleep with him. If you like him as a person, go on dates with him. But just remember that he is only looking for casual relationships, which doesn’t seem to interest you. So you should be dating other people too. Keep looking for the guy who wants the same thing you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:48 AM
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He’s a racist piece of crap human, and I doubt he’s with her because he genuinely cares about her. She’s just a fetish to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:18 PM
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FuckboyFree2020 LevelUp2020 I will be entertaining absolutely ZERO shitty male behavior. I’m happy to say I recently gave a date the boot after he went full fuckboy on me. Good luck out there, David, I’m sure there is a pickme out there that will be impressed by your abs enough to lower her standards, but I’m not the one. Peace ✌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:10 PM
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I’ve had men act in weird ways due to my career. One guy used to boast to his friends that he’s dating a nurse who is a charge RN in a trauma ICU in one of the busiest trauma centers in a big city. As if my skills reflected on him in any way whatsoever. This guy was a trust fund man-child who has not had a job in years. Then of course you get the creeps who sexualize my job. Then there are the emotionally crippled men who have never done anything meaningful with their lives and work shit jobs th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:25 PM
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Lol, I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:24 PM
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Never again unless we are engaged. I have my own life and if a man wants to be a part of it he's going to need to show that he's serious and not just trying to kick his dirty ass feet up on my couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:22 PM
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This was a great show, thanks for linking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:01 PM
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Love 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 12:03 AM
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Oooh, he’s a mid 30’s male who is a fan of anime and gross sex, where shall I sign?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 09:25 PM
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Momma’s boys are people who depend on their mothers to help them with situations that grown adults can take care of on their own. It’s not about respecting their mothers, more like having a parasitic relationship with her. Asking her for money, letting her control aspects of their lives, are examples that I’ve run into. They usually become both dependent and resentful of their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:26 PM
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I don’t reach, I say thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:22 PM
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Aside from the obvious no fuckboys, no secretly married or poly, no liars: no heavy drinkers or drug users no self pity or self destructive tendencies no couch creature lifestyle not socially inept he must make within $20k of my salary no mommas boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 02:16 PM
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I agree. One the one hand, it's a television show, so the writers need to create tension for the characters or else it wouldn't be interesting enough to watch. But as a women in real life, Carrie Bradshaw irritates me to no end. I have a friend who is very similar - will put aside her dignity to get attention from men, and honestly as absolutely gorgeous as she is, she doesn't get much more than a few dates because she is so desperate for male attention. ​ Personally, the older I get, the more l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:30 AM
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Or he understands and will say anything he thinks you want to hear to get you back. Do not engage. If he apologizes, everything that comes out of your mouth should be a statement that reinforces your decision to end the relationship, and kills the conversation. The time for earnest troubleshooting of the relationship is over, he fucked up. ​ I guarantee you if you take him back it'll be the same old nonsense in a month's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:16 AM
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This reminds me of my very first serious boyfriend. One day while we were hanging out he says to me that “all women are whores unless proven otherwise.” I was completely taken aback, I mean, I had friends and a sister and none of them were “whores.” I asked him if he thought I was a whore before we got together and he said no, of course not, I was the exception. Sure buddy. His whole little group of friends had equally sick ideas about women. One of his friends had a smoking hot and totally love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 01:46 PM
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I’m so happy I found this sub. It helped me clearly define problems with dating that I was seriously confused about. I’ve also decided I am extremely happy on my own, and I’m not going to be working to build a relationship with people who don’t have their shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:10 AM
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I had some pretty rotten teachers in school. When I started nursing school I was severely depressed, and even though I made pretty decent grades, I was very withdrawn. My teacher told me during my last evaluation that I might not be a good fit for nursing, even though I was nowhere near failing out, in fact I was outperforming about 2/3 if the class. Anyway, here we are, almost 15 years since freshman year, I have been in charge of one of the busiest trauma units in my city, I had also taken lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 04:12 PM
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Yep I get it, there are the rare exceptions walking around. I’ve been on a lot of dates, seen a few apartments, and there is a very strong pattern of the lifestyles of men who make gaming their central hobby, enough so that I won’t even bother. I’m in my late 30’s and there are a lot of bad choices a guy needs to make in order to get to my age and make gaming their primary hobby. A little idle time spent playing video games is ok, everyone needs their downtime. But wasting the majority of your p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 02:09 AM
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Omg finding this in a man’s house would make my lady bits seize in terror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:58 AM
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I’m honestly wondering if any ladies here have ever met a gamer that is also a high value man. It’s one thing to play video games a couple of hours a week, or even spend a day laying around the house gaming once in a while, but every single man I’ve met that was more than a casual gamer had some combination of mental health issues, porn addiction, Peter Pan complex, socially awkward, broke from buying gaming gear, irresponsible, emotionally immature and disconnected from reality. Their apartment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:50 AM
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I had a guy do this, after he dumped me because I was waiting for him to go on a date, and he was HOURS late, he calls me to tell me that he is at a nearby lounge and to meet him there. Well, I fell asleep and didn’t get the message for about a half hour, and so I wake up and head over there. He blows up on me about how inconsiderate I am, and we got into a big fight in the middle of the street, I told him his behavior sucks and that was the end of the night. Then a few months later I get a mess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:03 AM
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Thank you for this! I think it’s a little easier to let go of the fear and live it up right as you cross into your 30’s, but I’m 38, and even though I love my life, I still have the moments of crippling “what if I am wasting my life” moments of anxiety. Most days I am proud to be a single woman who has done very well for herself, and continues to invest in bettering my life. Other days I doubt myself for not shacking up with my first love and going down the marriage > kids > suburbs escalator, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:17 AM
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Maybe his dick was totally shit, and he felt overwhelming shame when his dirty “little secret” came out? I met a guy like this once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 03:04 AM
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I am a fellow nurse and in the prime of my career. Right before I chose to pursue nursing as my profession, I was with a man who was 10 years older than me, and I was 100% financially dependent on. I lived far away from my family, and basically the only joy I got out of life was the things he would buy to essentially bribe me into staying with him. I was his house maid, his accountant, a baby sitter for his children, and, occasionally, I was a person he fucked when I got home after doing everyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:00 PM
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Woah what happened there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 09:21 AM
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Omg this sounds exactly like my ex. He used to congratulate himself for being a smart person, which he was, but he never did anything meaningful with his intelligence...which in retrospect, makes me question how intelligent he was in the first place 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:09 AM
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It’s important to focus on the man’s behaviors in those situations where a guy doesn’t have his financial situation 100% together. I met a guy who spent the majority of his 20’s working on a weed farm, which is almost always an immediate “no” for me. But he had a goal to strike out on his own and works his ass off every day toward that goal. When you see the makings of a successful person, you know it. He was honest, reliable, showed up to dates on time, and a pretty humble person (we had a lot …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 02:03 AM
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I’m 38 and agree. The dirty secret men do not want you to know is that being single is fun! I’ve moved around the country, went on fun vacations with my girlfriends, and I’m no longer made to feel like I need to answer for where I’ve been, or deal with a jealous, insecure man who has not worked as hard as I have and does not enjoy the same level of success as I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 12:27 AM
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There are some guys out there who are such losers that the only power they have left is the power to hurt the women who try to date them. Don't ever give these assholes the time of day, don't give them the benefit of the doubt and when they play their games with you, the last thing you should do is waste the effort to tell them how their behavior affects you. As the post says, they know. The hurt is intentional. ​ I'f you're feeling pain and need to talk it through, call a friend to go out with.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 10:08 PM
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He is possibly seeing other women, and at this point you have not defined your relationship with him, so he’s free to see whoever he wants. If you want more from him, tell him. Ask him what he is looking for, and if your relationship goals do not align with what he wants, move on. Be ruthless. If you’re not feeling like you’re getting what you need from him, find someone who makes you happy instead of anxious. He may say he’s not ready to go all-in with you, but it’s up to you to decide if you’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 01:47 PM
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Yes...these guys give off big dick energy. A word of caution: some guys with big dicks are awful in bed because they feel they don’t need to work to please their partner. Usually these guys are boastful of their larger size, and will tell your about their big dicks without ever having asked them. But big dick men with true confidence are super fun 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 08:10 AM
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Unfortunately we live in a world where we need to pretend that we don’t like fun sex if we want a serious relationship. If we have too much fun, we’re viewed as not being relationship material 🙄 Then we hear stories about women being starfishes, pillow princesses. Well...if we can’t let loose and have fun without men defaulting to simplistic 1950’s cliches, they are getting what they ask for. Men want to have fun sex, then marry the starfish because she’s “wholesome,” then they lament the dead b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 08:00 AM
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Perhaps in the future you can front-load the conversation with education instead of personal attacks? Literally no one who is mentally stable will accept your message when you immediately jump to attack other women. The only people who will be open to listening to what you have to say are other people who need a place to channel their hate in a similar manner. This is not "radical," it's mentally destructive to tap into such hate-filled rhetoric. For all the strong opinions around here, there is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 03:32 AM
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You have been rabidly attacking your peers in this post and telling them to leave this sub well before I added my opinion. This is a sub for discussing dating, not a place for you to cram your opinion on porn down other people's throats. You want to end the mistreatment of women by...mistreating other women? Good luck with that cognitive dissonance. This is a place for us to discuss our struggles with dating, and you are invading this space to beat your drum and verbally assault other women. By …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 03:16 AM
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Your efforts are not effective. It turns out when you attack people who don't agree with you, they are highly unlikely to stop to consider your message. I doubt very much that your intention is to get people to reconsider they porn use. As long as there are people out there who watch porn, you have an excuse to attack them. Otherwise, why choose attacking versus educating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 03:00 AM
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An entire generation of women have been raised with the message that porn is ok, and in order to be truly sex-positive, we need to embrace porn as a tool for sexual arousal. So it’s unrealistic for people to think every woman is aware of the abuse that going on in major porn production companies. Some people truly have no idea and have never even thought about it beyond the lack of obvious negative effects in their own lives. Here’s a great opportunity for women to educate each other, and yet mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 09:52 PM
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So your only forms of validation are which women you can get to sleep with you, and which guys you can beat up. I’m usually pretty grossed out by men who act like this. It screams codependence, and is a tell on just how shit the sex will be - not worth it. The only women you’ll hook with your attitude are emotionally crippled women who will eventually blame you for their unhappiness because you can’t keep the mask up forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 11:46 PM
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Telling a woman what all women want in order to make a point is leagues away from a valid point. I can tell you that as a woman I value men who truly know who they are. Those men exude real confidence, and give and feel love that comes from acceptance, not fear of rejection and dying alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 04:24 PM
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You have the sum total of humanity’s knowledge at your fingertips. A 30 minute google search on codependency and maladaptive sexual validation would be a great start. But again, you’d need to prioritize your mental health, and many people don’t want to put in the work to fix their maladaptive behavior. I’ve met these types of men out in the wild, they wear masks, are inauthentic, and will literally say anything to get laid. Then when they are rejected they shatter into a million pieces, become a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 09:39 AM
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I'm not sure if you've been paying attention to literally all of human history, where men tell woman what to do with their bodies and put a lot of energy into legislating their opinions of what women should do with their bodies...somewhere between the days of women getting beaten for having their periods, and our modern day assault on reproductive rights, we've basically internalized the everyday struggle of men telling us what to do with our bodies. So it doesn't seem as if the males of the wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 02:06 AM
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