166112 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Post separation solo vacation recommendations		166112	/r/Divorce_Men	02/09/24 06:19 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up. And know there is nothing wrong with that! Feel what you need to feel - only then can you heal.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 10:47 PM
7	Took a woman out for supper for the first time since the split and I'm all messed up. You’re not sad for her … you’re sad for you, and that’s ok - you were hopeful for a connection with her (not just sex) and learned that wasn’t really possible and are disappointed. That’s my read.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 09:09 PM
2	Son, 5 yo Not doing well with divorce The decision has nothing to do w making his ex suffer - it’s about making the kid NOT suffer. Secure attachment to each parent is crucial for the child’s future emotional and relational well being and should be the goal and motivation for how to proceed. Good luck managing your hurt Mr Comfortable, I hope it gets better.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 05:11 PM
2	Son, 5 yo Not doing well with divorce Your love and dedication to your son is clear. You have been places in an awful situation. His well being needs to continue to be paramount, above your discomfort in “backing her up”. I think your goal needs to be settling his distress and his nervous system by presenting it as a family decision that won’t change and is in alls best interest. This decision is not permanent. There may be a time in the future where disclosing the truth is most appropriate. Lies and secrecy are not a foundation for…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 03:28 PM
1	Canada divorce Not legal advice but I am going through this in Ontario. Not complete but my lawyers advice and hers is that spousal support is 0.5-1 year for every year of marriage AND cohabitation (ie Cohab counts). If others are getting very different advice please comment.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/24 05:25 PM
1	Post separation solo vacation recommendations Typically I would build it around the custody schedule. I have taken many vacations with my son in the last year, often exceeding my alotted time with him but that his mother is supportive of (usually to take him to visit out of town relatives). For going on my own I will book something when I know he will be with his mom. Good luck to you!	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/24 05:44 PM
6	Back to square one. I have found THE POWER OF NOW by ekhart tolley to be helpful for some of this. However you move forward, know that you have fucking got this, keep showing up for yourself and your boys. Each day that you conquer you are showing them strength.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/24 03:19 PM
5	Back to square one. There is so much richness in this and other comments. To all reading - you are not alone, you are not the first or last to walk this path. OP you are strong for reaching out for support and being open to some of the great ideas here. Good luck.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/24 03:16 PM
1	35yr old thinking about testing the waters. Hahahaha	/r/Divorce_Men	21/08/24 02:19 AM
1	35yr old thinking about testing the waters. Elaborate on the “don’t respond to messages quickly” if you (or others can)? Seeing the impact of this in my own experience and analyzing around this point lately.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/24 04:13 PM
2	Just slept with another woman again and ended up crying in my bathroom This dude fucking gets it	/r/Divorce_Men	17/08/24 12:55 PM