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214speaking/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 09:55 PM
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What is the reason for people dodging the server?
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:21 PM
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Ok, I just wanted to confirm that with the commenter. So she’s not your ex wife, she’s your ex. Honestly, if it weren’t for the kid, I’d cut her off entirely. You make good money man, I’d definitely do 3 things. 1. See a lawyer and let them know the situation so you’re not blindsided by child support laws and whatnot in the future. 2. See a therapist and also tell them the situation so you can start moving forward. 3. Cut communication down to only what pertains your child. The longer that you’r…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:36 AM
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This ^ , men and women are very different and while a man may change his mind and want reconciliation, women don’t. Generally, they’ve been planning their exit for months (at a minimum). You need to start moving forward for your own mental health. Get a counselor for yourself as well.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 11:31 AM
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Wait, just to confirm, OP said she declined his proposal and they didn’t get married?
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 10:59 AM
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For sure, break the cycle. I don’t know how long you gave it before dating again but you’ve said it was recent. Take care of yourself man!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 02:10 AM
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Yeah OP just said he just recently exited a long term marriage too. This is way too soon to be moving this new woman in and having her family come too 😂
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:49 PM
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No problem, I think we all need to talk it out sometimes. You wouldn’t have asked the question if something didn’t feel off. If this new woman is pressuring you, then she’s got to go so you can heal. And, hey tell the truth “look I like you, but im not ready for that kind of commitment. In fact, I don’t ever want your parents to live with us if we go that route. I don’t have an issue with them, it’s just not something that I want.” And if she bounces, then so be it. Put yourself first no matter …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:46 PM
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Same omg I’m thinking of how awful it would’ve been to live with any of my ex’s parents. Imagine paying the rent/bills while they’re planning how to take everything from you and it’s just you by yourself. Why even put yourself in the situation? Nah
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:40 PM
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I think it’s a common cultural thing. My experience is a bit limited here, but Indian and Spanish culture it isn’t unheard of to have the parents live with you. At the end of the day, is this something that you want though? That’s a huge step and commitment and now if things don’t work out you got her and her family in your house
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 10:12 PM
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Exactly, don’t make her problems your problems
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 03:03 PM
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Well there are mediators that make sure no one is getting screwed and if that doesn’t pan out you can go to a lawyer after. I’m not sure exactly how the mediators work, but may be worth looking into for your situation. As you said, she said she’s completely done and you don’t even live together anymore, I’d start moving the process forward so that you can move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:59 PM
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See a lawyer, most of the folks on here will tell you to do that as well. Personally i wouldn’t care about her feelings or career or anything and move forward with the process. Do what’s best for YOU! So yeah, see a lawyer and tell them what you told us essentially
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:53 PM
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We should probably DM 🤣. You’ve actually given me some more books to check out. I read the first 2 rational male books, the unplugged alpha, the way of men, no more mr.nice guy. I would recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. I actually found the full audio book on YouTube and have listened to it about 4 times! I also went down a bit of a side path into meditative practices/books. Some more: The Art of Mental Training, Unfuck Your Brain, The Art of War, Extreme Ownership, The Dichotomy of…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:28 PM
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Lol I am shocked! Well not that shocked 🤣. Yeah, I like Better Bachelor. I think he’s got a good mindset as well. He’s kind of like out of the game, but if something comes up cool. Which is how dating should be. The issue really comes when you start putting someone else (man or woman) on a pedestal. You drop everything you enjoyed doing and then if things don’t work out, you are crushed. I cut off almost all of my friends for one of my LTRs that I was in. I look back now like wtf was I thinking …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:18 PM
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I do like Coach Greg Adams, although admittedly I’ve only seen a few videos. I do not like fresh and fit at all. It almost feels like a Jerry Springer show type feel or something, plus I think it was Fresh tried saying he met this girl that was really into him when it was exposed that she’s a sugar baby and in it for the money. I wouldn’t have had much of an issue with it if he was just honest. There was a really awkward clip of him trying to kiss her and she’s like nah… Glad you’re doing better…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 02:13 PM
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Thanks man, for me it was all about breaking the cycle. Back to back LTRs that didn’t work out and me feeling like a mess after and watching my friends and coworkers go through horrible divorces. Some people think you read these books and hate women after, I really don’t. I’m just more focused on having fun right now and accomplishing my goals as opposed to chasing rn. I used to just keep jumping into the next relationship 😂. If loving myself is jaded and misogynistic, then hey shrug
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 01:55 PM
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Wow…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 12:43 PM
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Take everything with a grain of salt. Rollo tells us not to get married, yet he’s married. He calls his wife a unicorn, meaning what he has is very rare. Rich Cooper is also in a relationship (not married/divorced once). I believe the books are still worth a read, mainly because you learn to put yourself first and see that many other men have been put in a similar position. That Disney happy ending isn’t real for the majority, look at divorce statistics. The books don’t need to be taken as law, …
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 11:57 AM
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It sounds like you make good money. Can you afford daycare? And, do you have family that can pop in on the days when you can't bring the kids to daycare or have a daycare provider in the home? As you mentioned, only two of the kids are yours so those two are your responsibility. She will have to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 01:02 PM
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Hey bro, I don’t have experience with this, but I’ve been following the forum for a while and have watched friends go through divorce. Obviously, as you know you won’t have the full picture until speaking to the attorney, but what I believe happens is since you make a great deal more, that you’ll have to pay alimony (depends on your state laws/how long you were married). I also believe that you will split the accounts 50/50. If you have a pension, I believe she’ll be entitled to a portion of tha…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 02:32 PM
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Honestly this is a brilliant idea, some sort of package that she has to sign for and then bam “you’ve been served”
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 11:33 PM
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Im aware some people can do this and not feel anything, but I know for me I couldn’t do it. I hooked up with most of my long term ex’s after the breakups and it made me feel way worse when it ended… again. Guess I’m a glutton for punishment. Personally, I’d say you’re better off finding someone else/anyone else to have sex with after you feel you’ve healed.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 10:22 AM
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I don’t think OP ever said he was permanently cutting his kid off, he’s just stating there are consequences to his kids actions.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 01:50 AM
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Shit I really need to edit my proof folders…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 05:00 PM
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Pretty cold here, but you’re not wrong it’s either that or some mental issue. No one, especially woman just walks out and leaves their kid
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 04:22 PM
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Wtf red flags everywhere
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 04:18 PM
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Holy shitt…. And did she expect you to help pay it?
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 01:44 AM
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With so many stories and the high rates of divorce nowadays these are fewer and farther between, hence the unicorn concept yeah
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 05:00 PM
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Yeah, I think as with anything else take what works for you and discard what doesn’t. Ironically, he’s married but he tells the reader not to because marriage is a bad deal for men in its current form. He does state that his wife is a “unicorn,” I.E., very rare. In my case, I’ve absolutely seen red flags that I could’ve avoided and stupid things that I’ve done, I even once asked a woman I was dating once what we were facepalm and I should’ve known better since I had that reaction when a woman as…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 02:56 PM
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A better love story than twilight! Seriously though happy for you. I feel similar (never married but back to back LTRs that ended badly). Each time i saved money and got into way better shape. It’s tough at first of course, but man I feel way better. There’s only one obvious thing that I’m not getting while single, but once I achieve my goals I’ll throw myself back out there. Nothing serious though. Have you read The Rational Male?
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 02:39 PM
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Jesus… I remember one of my ex’s had maxed out cards over 10 grant Discoverit, Old Navy and more. She went through a credit rebuilding thing after, but man I’m happy we kept separate accounts
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 02:04 PM
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Oof that’s a lot of debt
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 01:32 PM
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This guy knows whatsup, read it bro
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 03:27 AM
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Good point, OPs friend likely knows his feelings regarding marriage if they’re good friends. Just be positive when around this friend and congratulate him etc. In the very likely chance it ends, OP should just be ready to listen.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 12:03 PM
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wow sorry, hope you're feeling much better now
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 03:04 AM
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yeah thats the quote, thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 03:04 AM
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reminds me of a quote I read last week. It was something along the lines of the best revenge isn't revenge, its indiference.Something like that, but its true just takes a long time to get to that point
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/22 09:54 PM
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god i couldnt imagine having to live together after
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/22 09:53 PM
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Sorry you feel that way bro, I sent you a DM
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 08:03 PM
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Whoa those things need oil changes and maintenance 😳
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 02:24 AM
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If she says she still wants to be separated I’d start moving on now/today.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 12:25 AM
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I would also add being careful of who you tell if you don’t want others to know. I have a specific coworker in mind that is in everyone’s business and shares everyone’s business.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:41 PM
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Get a lawyer ASAP. Get therapy if you need it, meditate, lift and read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. Never get married again. Good luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 03:44 AM
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It’ll just get worse if you get married. Her clock ticking isn’t your problem. Can you live with sex 2-3 times a year and her being hot and cold in the likely chance of divorce (50% of marriages end in divorce). I haven’t been married, but every time my long term gfs and I moved in together sex tapered off. It’s not going to magically get better when you get married.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 02:42 AM
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Yeah bro it sucks, believe me I did it and all of my close friends that I saw go through bad breakups and divorces did the same sh*t. It’s almost crazy how common the situation is for men. Your brains going to put you into a cycle of what if? Don’t live there bro. Lift, meditate, consider therapy if you need it. If you’re having trouble eating do some soup, protein shakes etc light stuff. If you can’t sleep take some melatonin or whatever. It could take weeks/months/years, but you’re going to be…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/22 11:21 PM
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I’ve never been married, but have watched a lot of my close friends go through divorces and I’ve had brutal endings in back to back long term relationships. I’d find myself in my head running in circles, what if I did this or that different? Why did I do this or that? There’s nothing man. After my last LTR ended I did a lot of research and found The Rational Male. It’s dangerous for us to believe there’s only one person for us (oneitis) because you end up a mess in the very likely chance it does…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/22 11:11 PM
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Right 😉 lol I’m jk bro, but yeah I think you have to show everything. I suppose your lawyer will let you know
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/22 09:36 PM
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What you trying to redact OP 👀
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/22 10:52 AM
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Shout to all you great dads!
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 07:04 PM
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Friend married for about a decade. Married her, they have multiple children. She goes to school, gets a good job and starts banging one of her clients which is a huge no no. Still watching to see how this plays out, but after watching his situation I have no interest in marriage
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 07:15 AM
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Wow…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 07:13 AM
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Get a lawyer regardless. Her lawyer represents her. It will not be fair unless you have someone representing “YOU,” and the only way that can be done is with your own lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 03:12 AM
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You think she’d be okay nice if the shoe was on the other foot? 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 06:11 PM
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Oof 50k…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 08:36 PM
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Checkmate 🔥
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 08:35 PM
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I see someone else has read The Rational Male and knows whatsup fist bump
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:08 PM
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Yeah and don’t forget to read The Rational Male! Should be mandatory for all guys to read
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 03:30 PM
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Wow that’s honestly insane, I could see treating yourself every now and then but $25,000 worth of treating yourself and thinking it’s no big deal wow
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 02:25 AM
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Wtf did she buy?
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 02:14 AM
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Soviet style parade of red flags 😂
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 01:09 AM
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Idk bro, is your family aware of the situation? Parents/brother or sister maybe? I haven’t been in the situation but I’d think about speaking with a lawyer although you’re stay at home so I’m sure moneys tight especially considering the situation…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 03:30 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you’re so positive about everything, I couldn’t even imagine. But yeah good that no kids. Where the heck did she come up with $500k? Just pulling numbers out of thin air? Lol
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 11:54 AM
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Don’t do it bro
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 10:55 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_seven-year_itch still pretty damn close, but considering the stats are 50% chance of divorce odds stacked against you. There’s also a survey I heard about that said of the 50% that stay married only about 10% are happy (years down the road)
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 12:39 PM
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Very close to the 7 year itch they talk about
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 12:18 PM
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If you feel this way imagine being married to her except she takes half your shit when she “ghosts you”
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 12:18 PM
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I don’t don’t feel bad for him. I can understand why he did what he did (not saying I condone it at all). I think it’s one of those situations where everyone can see the problem, but him because he’s in the situation and in his feels while we can look at the situation objectively. He’s a grown man, he decided to slap another grown man on Live TV, whatever consequences he faces from that so be it…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 09:52 PM
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Not sure exactly where you need help since you didn’t say, but generally: Read The Rational Male, lift heavy shit, meditate daily and fill your mind with positive things (stay away from Disney and romance movies), make sure to eat and drink plenty of water. If you’re having trouble getting stuff down, consider protein shakes, nature valley bars, soup. Hang out with your friends as often as you can, don’t just sit and sulk, get out of the house! Some days will be harder than others, forgive yours…
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 11:25 AM
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Thanks, I will
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 01:47 PM
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Glutton for punishment 😅. All jokes aside, I hope it turns out ok
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 01:46 PM
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I feel you man, I remember growing up and hearing from the men in my life “don’t get married.” I thought they were all joking. I see in this forum and my close friends and family that it wasn’t a joke, don’t get married. Plus enough LTRs that I couldn’t imagine adding losing half of everything when it ends. It still sucked when things ended, but at least I don’t have a house, kids and a bunch of retirement money taken along with a woman’s departure from my life…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 01:37 PM
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I never knew that most are settled out of court. Good to know, do you have kids and a house? I feel like that may send him to court
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 10:43 PM
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From what I’ve read, it’s like painting the story before the other person does. If they file first, then you’re almost playing catch-up? I don’t know how to describe it, but yeah
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 10:38 PM
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Yeah, I tried mentioning that, he’s still trying to win her back. I think she’s 100% done and he’s telling me this isn’t her first time saying that, but it is her first time saying she doesn’t love him anymore, very cold… but yeah I’ll mention it to him again that he should file first
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 10:21 PM
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Never married, but it’s different for everyone. After my last LTR ended I jumped right back into dating through the dating apps and tbh it didn’t make me feel better. Now I’m taking a break from the apps and just enjoying time by myself. I’d say if you’re still thinking about your ex a lot, then I wouldn’t date just yet and focus on your own interests. If it’s been sometime and you’re not crying everyday, have worked on yourself, got a new place etc., then sure see what’s out there. Def wouldn’t…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 05:35 PM
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Will have to check it out, thanks for the recommendation!
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 10:26 PM
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Def agree with a lot of the points people brought up here. Stop following her on social media, better yet, get off social media! Also, I recommend reading The Rational Male if you haven’t already.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 07:15 PM
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Totally agree on all of these. Def want to highlight step 2! We all have friends/family that post great moments on social media, but we know them personally and their life is a train wreck. Social media is a persons highlight reel. Aside from Reddit and a few YouTube channels for learning/fun, I think we should all be doing our best to get off social media. It’s been proven to be awful for our mental health.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 07:13 PM
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This ^ , I don’t understand why anyone feels like they have to be friends with their ex’s especially on social media. If you have kids, then I understand you have to be friendly, but you still don’t need to follow them on social media. Also, the texts need to just be relegated to kid related matters. For the record, I don’t speak to any of my ex’s. When I attempted to, I felt like I had that glimmer of hope and followed them around like a puppy dog while they started banging my replacement. If t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 07:04 PM
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Yeah, I agree. It sucks because regardless you’re losing out. I’ve seen stories of men going to sell the engagement ring after being told no and it’s barely worth anything. So even if you get the ring back, you’re losing money 😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 06:55 PM
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Hey, sorry that happened to you. When you can, I suggest reading The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi and hitting the gym. You may want to consider seeing a therapist as well, I know I was recommended daily meditation which probably took 2-3 weeks to really have an effect. Wish there was a magical pill to make you feel better faster, but it’s just time. I have more book recommendations as well, it really helps to re focus your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 12:31 PM
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A gift given for the marriage contract. If she said no to the proposal, she wouldn’t have been given the ring. I assume you’re joking though? Sorry, just waking up now lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 12:18 PM
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I agree, especially if she breaks it off which I read 70-80% of the time that’s the case. The ring was given for the marriage which is supposed to be life long. If you break the marriage, you should have to give it back.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 02:02 PM
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This guy knows whatsup! I was about to DM OP The Rational Male to read. Also, from what I read talk to a lawyer asap and don’t leave the marital home until this is all straightened out.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 01:37 PM
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Keeps talking about their ex and how much of an asshole they were in unrelated conversations
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 06:41 PM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 03:34 PM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 03:34 PM
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Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 03:31 PM
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I was born on Valentines Day, yet during all of my relationships I've still been expected to do the romantic gestures of Valentine's Day. I've always said that if you're with someone that you shouldn't need one particular day to show it! Plus the holiday was basically created out of thin air! As a newly single person (not divorced, but back to back LTRs that didn't work out), I can say that this year it was nice to just enjoy my birthday and not have to run around for gifts/chocolates and sit in…
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 02:11 AM
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Yeah, I’m sure easier said than done, but first and foremost see a Lawyer and book an hour, bring all your questions. I believe they will tell you “don’t leave the marital home.” You may end up doing what my friend did and have separate rooms or whatever until she finishes up. Idk how people do it that would be so tough for me. I’ve read on here something called Grey Rock where you disengage and limit your interactions. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201911/the-price…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 02:41 PM
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I’ve been leaning more heavily towards CF lately. If I completed my main financial, career, and life goals, I might be open to having children if I could know with 100% certainty I’d have no issues with the mother. It’s just so risky because even if you don’t get married, if things don’t work out then I’d have to worry about another man trying to raise my kid, child support, custody…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 02:22 PM
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One of my much older friends told me that he spoke to a lawyer about divorce while his wife was still in college (she cheated 3 times. 2 of the times it involved people at the college). The lawyer informed him that he should wait until she completed her degree to file, otherwise he would be on the hook the rest of her tuition so this is something to think about. Consult a lawyer ASAP. In my friends situation they slept in separate beds and didn’t touch each other, she finished her degree and the…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 01:26 PM
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Dropped the links above, I didn’t expect so much interest 😂
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 04:53 AM
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That sucks, tbh it sounds like she wants boyfriend/husband benefits still, but she’s not your problem anymore
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 03:06 AM
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No kids and not divorced on my end, but I hope you’ve made it clear to her that you two only need to be in communication if it’s regarding the kids. I don’t talk to any of my ex’s, but unfortunately you have to because of the little ones, I’d def limit it for your mental health
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 01:42 AM
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Check your DM bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/22 12:32 AM
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Hey, I’ve never been divorced but have had some bad breakups and that’s how I found “The Rational Male,” and some other content. I think they’d say the first thing you should do is consult a lawyer as soon as possible. Bring all of your questions and let them know the situation, you should be able to consult for about an hour. This is going to suck, but at least you can be prepared and better for you to file than her. Edit: I’ll just drop the links here since people keep asking lol. First off I’…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/22 11:27 PM
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Glutton for punishment
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 06:22 PM
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The kids are adults so I don’t see any reason why you have to do this 😂. I suppose if they get married, then you may have to see him at major family functions….
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/22 02:38 AM
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Wow wtf… sorry man, that’s awful. I def agree using all that energy that you would’ve used on them on yourself
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 02:37 PM
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How old were you/are you when you decided that you just wanted platonic relationships going forward? Also will you still be doing FWBs or just out completely?
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 11:50 PM
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A lot of my late 20s early 30s coworkers are doing the same
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/22 01:10 AM
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I’m not divorced, but I’ve had some nasty breakups. I’ve also been checking out some new content about relationships and whatnot. I’d say since you’ve already been through the ringer you know more of what to look for, take your time, date non-exclusively for a good amount of time and see what’s out there, don’t cohabitate (unless you’re planning to remarry).
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 11:39 PM
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Will def check it out, thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 12:26 PM
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Sounds like an absolute nightmare. I hope it gets better soon
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/22 12:11 PM
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Sounds like you’ve read The Rational Male 👀. I’m starting to realize that as I look back, I’ve gotten so sidetracked at times putting other people above myself . Now I’m pivoting and making my career first while I take a break from dating (had back to back LTRs)
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 07:00 PM
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“The woman you marry is not the woman you divorce.” Be careful and meet with a lawyer ASAP. Do not leave the matrimonial home (unless the lawyer says it’s in your best interest). Also, it is in your benefit to be the first to file. I haven’t gone through this, but I’ve been learning a lot about divorce lately. Talk to a lawyer ASAP, book a 1 hour consult and come with all your questions.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 02:42 AM
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I’ve heard this from so many men when I was a kid and when I was a teen. I thought they were all joking, but as I’ve watched some of my older friends go through brutal divorces and as I read stories on reddit and learn more, idk how anyone can honestly tell a man to get married
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 02:34 AM
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It’s crazy how cold people can become. I hope you’re feeling better after all that.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 02:33 AM
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So true, I think a lot of us fell in love with the Disney movie ending Of “Happily Ever After.” Unfortunately, this isn’t the case more than half of the time. NGL I almost fell into it myself, but I’ve seen so many of my older coworkers go through tough divorces and I’m all set with that. Too risky in my opinion.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 02:28 AM
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Look at the tons of stories of men getting cleaned out, plus the fact that she’s putting these things on a spreadsheet. Don’t be nice man, if the shoe was on the other foot, she wouldn’t be
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/22 01:45 PM
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One of my fav content creators likes to say “don’t make your problems my problems.” I think that fits here. See a lawyer, follow the law and let her problems be her problems.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:20 PM
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Facts bro
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:17 PM
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I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:15 PM
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I just recently found out about the pick me dance. I’m sure a few of us went through this at some point and after I know for me, I promised I’d never do it again. Reading all these stories makes me never want to get married. Thank you for the lessons.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:14 PM
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I’ve never been through a divorce, but I’ve heard it’s a huge issue if you hide assets and lawyers are good at figuring out where they are. They look back at everything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:12 PM
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I think you should see a therapist as soon as possible. Don’t push it down the road.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 06:26 PM
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sounds like a nightmare
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 11:47 PM
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What made you get the divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 09:56 PM
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This ^ and The Unplugged Alpha
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 08:22 PM
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My thoughts exactly
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 08:12 PM
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You may not be ready to date just yet. I’d definitely consider therapy first. Pick up your old hobbies, maybe some new ones.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 08:09 PM
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Rule # 7 Never root through the garbage after you’ve taken it to the curb. It’s never as valuable as you thought it was.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 08:07 PM
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Geez… wtf…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 08:03 PM
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I heard something similar before “the woman you married is not the same woman you divorce”
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 07:59 PM
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Can confirm whiskey dick, def a thing
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 07:57 PM
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Lift Heavy Sh*t
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 07:47 PM
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Just looked this up and wow. I’m ashamed to say I did a bit of a pick me dance at the end of my highschool relationship, promised I’d never do that again no matter how much it hurt. One week after we broke up we messed around and I got the “that was a mistake” response from her. Never again. Live and learn.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 07:02 PM
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Good on you, Rule #7 “Never root through the garbage after you’ve taken it to the curb. It’s never as valuable as you thought it was.”
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 06:58 PM
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This lol 😂
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 06:49 PM
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