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Any excuse will work.
/r/seduction06/09/22 07:12 PM
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Dodged a bullet because she didn’t accept that he lied to the world? I don’t know about that one.
/r/seduction05/09/22 11:46 AM
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She’ll be bothered by his lying, though. That’s the bigger issue.
/r/seduction05/09/22 11:42 AM
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What beats everything is a when a woman is satisfied in her relationship. No amount of anything can compete with that. Too many people fall into belief traps, whether it’s about money, height, status, power, whatever. Yes, each of these helps, everything counts, but to what degree entirely depends on the individual woman. What makes anyone think that all women think alike, that they all want the exact same things? That’s crazy.
/r/seduction30/07/22 09:56 PM
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Are you sure you are actually interested in these girls for something other than nudes and such?
/r/seduction28/07/22 03:03 AM
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Chill out. Worrying too much about this is not being cool, it’s coming from a place of fear. Fear of loss, fear of lack, or whatever. You’ll have to figure out how to handle stuff like this. Find what works for you. I myself would write to women who didn’t reply within a day or two “Are you dead,” for one example. I gauge their response to that. Getting butthurt over not getting an immediate reply, in my opinion, is too exhausting. My mental health is more important to me than drama. Someone who…
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:56 AM
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Sometimes people are busy doing other things. You need more information first.
/r/seduction28/07/22 02:28 AM
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One method is to turn it around playfully, and highly exaggerate it. OMG! Did you just call me a bitch?!? This girl has balls, that’s awesome! Say it again, but this time I want you to REALLY say it! Bring it on, bring out your inner bitch. There’s plenty of ways to neutralize a lot of what people say, and save the situation just based on how you handle yourself, handle your emotions and your behavior. Even if it doesn’t work out, you can walk away with the upper hand, and you aren’t bringing do…
/r/seduction26/07/22 06:29 AM
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Each person needs to find what works good, better and best for them. This not only differs between people, it evolves over time for each individual.
/r/seduction26/07/22 03:41 AM
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A bit more would have to be noticed here, before making that judgement. She could have been checking you out, she could have been wondering why in the world you decided to wear THAT outfit, she could have been trying to avoid eye contact, etc.
/r/seduction25/07/22 10:01 PM
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That isn’t what I said. A successful and passionate relationship takes a lot more than money, things that have no relationship to money. Is money important in a relationship? To varying degrees, yes. It’s not the end all, be all for the vast majority of women, though.
/r/seduction25/07/22 04:13 AM
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I came to say this, but you said it first, and said it well.
/r/seduction25/07/22 03:50 AM
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I’m positive no woman associates only money to a more successful and passionate relationship.
/r/seduction25/07/22 03:49 AM
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And you can have your membership instantly revoked.
/r/seduction24/07/22 09:13 PM
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You wrote a post publicly, which I did read, and I replied with my opinion. That much should be obvious. You can like it or not like it, that’s your decision. You seem to be taking what I wrote as some sort of insult towards you, which wasn’t my intent.
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:19 AM
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I didn’t argue about what you bet on.
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:15 AM
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Then why are you here asking for advice? 🤷
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:07 AM
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I don’t care what you bet on.
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:06 AM
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That’s not actually true, quite often. There are varying levels of compelling reasons that motivate people. Doing what some guy she barely knows wants, for little or no compelling reason? Lower priority. Doing what her boss asks of her in work related duties, with threat of job displacement? Most people put a much higher priority on this. It’s not your job to save her from herself, either.
/r/seduction11/07/22 03:31 AM
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OP already said he isn’t interested in her as a partner, it’s in this thread, so I don’t know you say it’s different than the situation at hand.
/r/seduction10/07/22 09:03 PM
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For your question, I don’t know why you are asking me this. For your second sentence, perhaps we don’t have the same definition of ego, and from I can see we are talking about the same thing but from different directions. You are referring to how she is behaving. I’m referring to how he is feeling, how it relates to the level of respect he desires, and from someone he stated he has no interest in. From his perspective, relating to how he feels, it’s his ego that wants to “get more respected.” Ho…
/r/seduction10/07/22 08:59 PM
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If it’s not ego, then what is it? Wanting to “get more respected” in this context seems a lot like an ego thing, particularly if he “isn’t interested in her as a partner.”
/r/seduction10/07/22 08:30 PM
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Got it, February
/r/seduction10/07/22 03:43 PM
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Her stating her personal boundary isn’t letting her “call the shots.”
/r/seduction10/07/22 03:39 PM
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Confronting her is probably going to come across as weak and unappealing, or demanding and controlling. Better off, at this point, light hearted teasing her about it. Make a joke about it, get her to laugh about it. It would help to take it less personally, too. Your emotions should not be so easily controlled by others, not over minor behaviors. Lastly, it’s not your job to fix her inadequacies. Saying this is beneficial to her comes across as a bit arrogant, in my opinion. You cannot say how s…
/r/seduction10/07/22 12:28 PM
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If you aren’t interested, then what is the point in getting her to stop and feeling more respected? This sounds more like ego, rather than something that will help you.
/r/seduction10/07/22 12:21 PM
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Considering his choice in location to live and pick up women, it’s not surprising. https://www.bravotv.com/the-millionaire-matchmaker/season-7/episode-17/videos/submission-video-michael-sartain
/r/seduction10/07/22 03:20 AM
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This is actually a two fold question. The person/people I am spending time with in person get the priority for attention. I’m not avoiding or ignoring you, I’m giving my full attention to the people who are in front of me, face to face. If she cannot appreciate that this would also apply to her, well, I’ll let you form your own opinion here. To answer the second, hidden part of that question: If I’m spending time with someone, like a date, I’ll avoid using my phone unless it involves the two of …
/r/seduction10/07/22 12:15 AM
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The problem with assumptions is you probably don’t have all the information. Just like I am making an assumption here, you might be as well. When you say things took a down turn for no reason at all, this is obviously false. There is a reason. What that reason is is it’s own matter. Is her grandmother sick? Has she lost interest in you? Is she depressed about something? Is she having financial problems? Does she feel inferior? Did her cat die? There could be a million and one reasons why this ha…
/r/seduction09/07/22 11:59 PM
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Have fun and make it enjoyable for the both of you.
/r/seduction09/07/22 11:38 PM
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Care to explain this more? I don’t think I understand what you are saying here.
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:03 PM
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Partly, it depends on how it is asked. Flirty? Genuine curiousity? Matter of fact? You don’t need to be super creative here. Simple, truthful answers work just fine. “I’ve been wanting to watch xyz movie and I bet you’ll like it, too” “I learned a new song on my guitar, I’ll play it for you.” “I taught my cat how to juggle, you’re going want to see it! No, really, I saw this really cool book the other day and I thought you might like to read it.” Or whatever your interests happen to be. Those ar…
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:00 PM
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It’s often a softener for a more serious question. Some questions people don’t typically just blurt out, so asking if you can ask a question can sort of prepare someone for a heavier question.
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:17 PM
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Learn to turn up the sexual energy, and less of the friend energy. Also, you might be asking them out way too soon, the first one definitely too soon. You didn’t give her chance to get to know you first.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:50 PM
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Is it important to confront her about it then? Why not just keep the original plan instead of extending her stay and move away from the situation?
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:40 PM
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Got it. I would ask her about it and relate your suspicions, as you said. It’s up to her to clear things up at that point.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:32 PM
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If they are leaving the interaction right off the bat and you pursue them in an unwelcoming manner, you are harassing them. It will probably not turn around from that point by walking with them. Ideally, you walk away and record your approach. What worked, what didn’t, how she reacted, what adjustments you think you need to make, etc.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:27 PM
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Why confront during the trip at all? Why not wait until get get home, to avoid an uncomfortable trip home (assuming you are traveling together)?
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:22 PM
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This is not anything new. This has been a series of long asked questions. The best advice I can give is don’t ask women what they want, find out what they actually respond to. That’s the truth.
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:49 PM
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Changing mannerism takes a lot of conscious attention towards them. If you are not aware of them, you cannot change them. As for confidence, it helps to remember a time when you felt confident and feel that sensation now. When you can remember and access a sensation, it can be used any time you want it, with enough practice. Just feeling certain sensations you want more of every day, with conscious effort, makes them stronger, easier to access, and more generalized to more situations. You get mo…
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:14 PM
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If being horny was all anyone ever needed, there wouldn’t be dudes living in their parents basement, virgins into their 30’s. I understand what you are trying to say, but you appear to be a bit extreme in your advice. A better message would be somewhere in the middle. No, don’t forget everything you learned from dating resources. Also, don’t make learning about pick up a purely intellectual exercise. That’s just another form of masturbation, mental masturbation. Take what you learn and apply it …
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:16 PM
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I think you misunderstood the advice you were given. The advice is meant to give the message of having fun while talking with women, rather than making it into a task to be performed. Making anything into a task can make it unappealing.
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:08 PM
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People with very little to lose to this. People with wacky priorities in life do this. Someone making $80k a year is less likely to do this. Plus, court judgements in the USA can follow you nationwide, and issue arrest warrants. It’s possible to evade all that by either paying, or living one crappy life.
/r/seduction04/07/22 03:34 PM
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I didn’t say it was a good plan, I only offered a possible scenario, which does happen in real life.
/r/seduction04/07/22 03:31 PM
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Average across ALL jobs, yes. When you break it down by specific field, the numbers can change quite a lot. Plus, you have account for over a dozen reasons for income equality, job choice being one significant factor. Using the idea of income equality across all people is an inappropriate use in an individual case. Here, you should only use her income compared to his.
/r/seduction04/07/22 02:43 PM
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Getting pregnant can bring the security of a child support payment
/r/seduction04/07/22 02:38 PM
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If you get dates, there isn’t too much to worry about.
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:39 PM
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You don’t know that for a fact.
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:39 PM
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That entirely depends on the individual. There’s no way anyone could say all women want to be texted all day, or every ten minutes, or four hours, or whatever. Women are individuals with individual preferences. That being said, I’ve know many people, including women, who dislike texting, or just plain suck at it (and know it) so they prefer to talk. If your texts lead to more dates and whatnot, I see nothing to worry about. Ideally, you would provide your thoughts on her responses to your textin…
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:15 AM
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I didn’t say Reddit, I said online. There’s plenty of places to do that sort of thing, I’m sure. If you did use Reddit, you can make a throw-away account anyway, and blur/block out your face.
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:31 AM
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Better off taking some decent photos and asking people’s opinion online.
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:24 AM
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Ok, go talk to someone else, or perhaps check on your approach. I sent this link in another thread, but here it is again. https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x7qg8k It’s a good start. When you approach, your energy should be slightly higher than hers at that moment. Anything else will seem boring in comparison. Make it fun from the start. That means you are talking loud enough, and you probably aren’t. A lot of guys think they talk loud enough, but they don’t. Can others hear you? Yes. Do they wan…
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:18 PM
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There’s a million ways to do that available online. Old school back pocket openers are amazingly simple. https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x7qg8k
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:13 PM
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Why would you ever say that line? I mean really, why? How about giving the woman the opportunity to get to know you a little bit first? Basically to find out if you are a weirdo or a creep or not first, someone who isn’t going to do something stupid or dangerous? Learn to have fun conversations first, then go for a date. 10-30 minutes is all it should take to get a date, if it’s fun for you both.
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:07 PM
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Consult with a physician. You wrote you have a health condition, meaning no one should be giving you advice except a qualified medical professional.
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:37 PM
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I’m not looking for reasons why it’s inappropriate, I know my reasons for it and I’m aware of other peoples reasons for it. It’s called TMI, Too Much Information. Yes, some people are much more open than others, and this level of sharing is going to hit most people a bit hard. I’m also acknowledging that tact exists when it comes to topics such as this, as well as timing. I think it was lacking at that moment in time, at least.
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:18 PM
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It’s an odd thing to say after only one date, though. Typically, having a bit more emotional investment is when a person reveals the more intimate details
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:48 PM
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It depends on the look. Did Jim just get done talking with Michael or Dwight kind of look, or after some sort of prank, or good news?
/r/seduction28/06/22 03:38 AM
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This isn’t necessarily true. A lot, if not most people aren’t aware of some differences in speech patterns (to varying degrees) until a third person points them out. This is particularly prominent in people who learn another language, when it comes to sounds that their native language doesn’t contain.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:14 PM
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Yup. Be tall. Like anyone really gets a choice in that department.
/r/seduction27/06/22 10:10 PM
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I suggest getting off apps like tinder and learning how to interact in person first. Second, quit focusing on getting laid. This just screams of desperation. Learn to be a bit more socially savvy first, getting laid will come with that as a natural side effect.
/r/seduction26/06/22 12:44 PM
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Yes, and there can be a difference between short term versus long term success. I wouldn’t discount having a lot of short term success entirely. Some of that might not apply to long term success, but a lot will. It really depends on your own criteria, what you mean by quality women, how you interact with women, present yourself, and to some degree where you are meeting women. Typically, people associate day game with meeting higher quality women and longer term relationships, and night game with…
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:53 PM
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A person’s right is a fine point. Still doesn’t mean anyone has to agree with it (I joke) Ultimately, I think it’s better to find people (I’m not going to single out women on this) who are less likely to flake. There are differences in personalities and behaviors. In terms of dating, I do believe men in general could use a bit more observation skills and patience, in order to really know that a plan to meet is more serious, and less likely to end in being ghosted. That won’t stop men from compla…
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:31 PM
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I disagree, in part. Women do have the right to choose, but women don’t automatically deserve a pass on ghosting. It’s rude, arrogant, lazy and/or just plain unable to handle confrontation to not let someone know your plans have changed. It’s not difficult to send a text letting someone know plans have changed, and to end it there. Ghosting is just plain disrespectful, in my opinion. EDIT: I do understand there are plenty of situations where there was never really a date to begin with, or where …
/r/seduction22/06/22 11:00 PM
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Being shy is not the same thing as reclusive. Being shy simply means it takes a little more effort to approach, usually because of negative self talk, negative beliefs, or negative perceptions on outcomes.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:53 PM
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Social circles and social skills. Having a bigger social circle of men gives a greater potential to meet more women, as well as to gain more experience with different people in general.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:50 PM
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Not play off, but play off of. What that means is not to pretend to be something else, but to base your interactions based on how your are more naturally. It could be as simple as saying you are shy, or telling an elaborate story of being shy, jokes, or whatever. Use your natural tendencies as strengths, it makes life easier.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:48 PM
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“Being with” means sex. “Sleeping around like a madman” means a lot of sex.
/r/seduction22/06/22 10:44 PM
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Welcome to world of inner game
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:43 PM
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Why butter? And how much butter?
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:42 PM
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Look at the question you asked here. If you confidence is solely based on others, you aren’t really confident. I’d suggest asking more useful questions than that, such as “if I could, how would I be confident even though being good looking and muscular don’t get me the attention that I want?”
/r/seduction29/08/21 07:40 PM
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Are you trying to say it is negative to be honest, and positive to lie and deceive?
/r/seduction21/06/21 02:59 PM
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It’s impossible to tell you why she mentioned this to you so many times, and I don’t know how you expect anyone to be able to answer it correctly. Apparently it is an important piece of information for her to tell you, and that’s as far as anyone here can truthfully go. Anything beyond that is up to you to find out from her, being that you are the only person in a position to find out.
/r/seduction20/06/21 05:01 PM
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If she was willing to use this as a way to try to win an argument, or to hurt you in some way, it shows a lot about her line of thinking and how she reacts under these circumstances. For me personally, if someone needs to resort to this level in an argument: 1) They are vindictive in nature. Chances are it won’t get better over time 2) Reveals what they are already thinking about you. Are you willing to accept what she really believes about you, if what she believes about you is low? Knowing how…
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:40 AM
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If your intent is to be dominant and damage self esteem, you might have issues of your own. This is how immature children act, possibly apes. Being assertive is not the same as being dominant. Being assertive is standing up for your values, ideals and principles, purposely being dominant is essentially actively lowering the value in others, generally because of an inflated ego or as a compensation for weak confidence in oneself.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:30 AM
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If your intent is to be dominant and damage self esteem, you might have issues of your own. This is how immature children act, possibly apes. Being assertive is not the same as being dominant. Being assertive is standing up for your values, ideals and principles, purposely being dominant is essentially actively lowering the value in others, generally because of an inflated ego or as a compensation for weak confidence in oneself.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:23 AM
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If your intent is to be dominant and damage self esteem, you might have issues of your own. This is how immature children act, possibly apes. Being assertive is not the same as being dominant. Being assertive is standing up for your values, ideals and principles, purposely being dominant is essentially actively lowering the value in others, generally because of an inflated ego or as a compensation for weak confidence in oneself.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:23 AM
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Giving advice to be a trash human being is not solid advice.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:16 AM
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Or get taken for a ride, and not in a good way.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:13 AM
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That’s too much of a wild generalization, and a pretty negative one at that. Take each individual as an individual and judge them as one.
/r/seduction03/06/21 03:11 AM
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If someone’s idea that game is about convincing someone to be attracted, they have no idea what game is to begin with. “Game” has a two-fold purpose, that cannot be separated. First, it is to improve oneself. Anything from better communication ability to more subtle social skills to greater confidence and courage to better fashion choices, you name it. Second, it is to be more attractive to others. How do you become better at being more attractive to others? See the first part.
/r/seduction27/12/20 01:02 AM
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To sum up what you wrote, guys aren’t getting laid because they are ugly. Anything you have to say after that regarding getting women for the average or below average guy seems pretty much worthless, since you really cannot go anywhere after that.
/r/seduction10/10/20 05:23 AM
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The potential backlash in today’s climate doesn’t make it an easy business.
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:26 AM
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I don’t know what you mean by saying plain clothes vs nice outfit, but it could be the context of the situation. In an exaggerated example, wearing a tuxedo to a seedy biker bar won’t fit in quite as well as a rugged leather jacket, jeans and boots. It could also be a difference in what you consider nice, and what others consider to be a better look for you.
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:24 AM
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It should not be about creating the impression of high value. It should about creating actual high value, which can be a multitude of things. Each person has their own criteria, man or woman.
/r/seduction02/10/20 08:04 PM
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It’s been done, as seen in the video. There will be some adjustments to fit your situation, compared to people in different situations, though. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bmav517MQJc
/r/seduction02/10/20 08:02 PM
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It would make more sense if there was an actual numbered list of rules, simply stated, instead of having to attempt to guess what this rule 4 is in reference to.
/r/seduction27/08/20 12:06 AM
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The reason I ask about the initial no, is that there are a lot of factors that could lead her to say no. Sometimes a woman is just having a bad day, maybe her grandmother died, she lost her job, she woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Or maybe it’s just her automated response. Who knows? It’s not always about you. You could push the conversation here, and make her prove she doesn’t want to talk to you. As for the number, how well does this work for you? I’m actually asking here. Maybe you have…
/r/seduction23/07/20 06:49 AM
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Most everything seems fine to, as a basic outline and model. I do have two questions, though. First, if she says no on your first question, why are you leaving? The point is to have a conversation, and you could use her answer here still. Have a follow-up as a contingency. Second, what is your reasoning for entering your number in her phone, instead of at some later point having her enter her number into your phone? Most women don’t do anything with a guy’s number.
/r/seduction22/07/20 03:11 AM
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You don’t improve yourself by remaining incompetent, unless you’re somewhat delusional.
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:05 PM
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For myself, I find calls to be superior in situations like this. Not only is it a bolder approach, you can get a 1,000 times better idea of how they are feeling. Any form of text can be deceiving when the response isn’t crystal clear. It doesn’t matter if she’s expecting a call, and it’s kinda strange to avoid a phone call because someone isn’t expecting one. It’s not a business transaction. I would call, and if there was no answer, leave a very brief message about why you’re calling. One or two…
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:47 AM
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There is no real way for any of us to know how not sleeping with her effected things. Women aren’t all exactly alike, you’ll have to find out on your own. Her not responded to a single text doesn’t mean much, either. She could be busy, she could have lost her phone, her grandmother could have died. Again, we have no way of knowing. Contact her, find out the only way to find out.
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:06 AM
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I fail to understand how you jumped clear over to “Hopefully not an alcoholic yet.” What makes you expect that this woman will be in the future?
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:02 AM
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Simply being friendly goes a long way when talking to guys.
/r/seduction19/07/20 11:32 PM
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It’s never about intellect or smartness that later leads to disinterest, it’s other factors. Any number of them.
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:10 PM
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I agree, there is a lot of bad advice, and a lot of good advice given poorly or just plain misunderstood. Losing who you are is not the best strategy. Becoming a better you should be the entire point.
/r/seduction19/07/20 06:57 PM
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Your opinion is fine. What I mean to say is that a lot of men don’t feel natural, don’t feel attractive, don’t feel confident, and want to change that. Gaining social skills by approaching women is not about being like everyone, it’s in fact the opposite. It’s about bringing your natural self out and shine because a guy becomes more comfortable with himself and around other people. No one with any brains advocates to be a robot, but rather to be a better self.
/r/seduction19/07/20 06:04 PM
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What do they socially awkward guys do? Or boring guys? Or a creep? Live their lives alone because the vast majority of women are not only not attracted, but turned off? Keeping track of the data is simply to get an understanding what works and what doesn’t. For example, if a guy uses a conversation opener and 10/10 women simply walk away, that’s a pretty big clue to ditch that conversation opener. He’s out getting an education to find what women want and enjoy, and not only is there nothing wron…
/r/seduction19/07/20 05:00 PM
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What does this mean, exactly?
/r/seduction19/07/20 04:20 PM
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Inner game is largely worked on by gaining social skills. Competence leads to confidence.
/r/seduction19/07/20 04:17 PM
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This should be the first thing newcomers should read, as well as anyone working on getting better, and giving themselves an honest assessment based on this. Excellent post.
/r/seduction06/07/20 09:18 PM
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Yes it is. I suggest doing this in easier locations, where people aren’t sitting down.
/r/seduction04/07/20 09:19 PM
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If she’s with a group, she went there to be with that group. By you sitting down with her, you just intruded in her space and her time. She doesn’t know who you are, and you expect that she’ll automatically see the great guy you are. You’re coming in too strong with this approach, and need to give her the impression you’ll be leaving soon. That isn’t done by sitting down very easily. This type of setting presents more difficultly to begin with. It’s not a typical social atmosphere and the girls …
/r/seduction04/07/20 09:05 PM
0

Do you read a lot of fantasy novels or anything like that?
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:47 PM
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Meet in person as soon as possible, assuming she’s local, that will go farther than any texting tricks. Your intent must be backed up with congruent action.
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:26 PM
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I particularly like the second one, because she’s not denying or rejecting you, she’s denying where you’re going/what you’re doing. It’s much easier to deny an invitation like this than it is a direct invitation, and you don’t look like you got rejected if she says no.
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:20 PM
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You need to establish your intent as soon as possible. Make stronger moves. Ask her out, make plans to hang out together. You end up being a friend because you demonstrate that’s what you want.
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:15 PM
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I’m all in for upping the flirtation, I’d be very cautious about the confessing your feelings. I don’t know you or your relationship, but these things have a typical outcome of not going well. A quick internet search will show very few cases where it worked out as planned, and thousands of times it didn’t.
/r/seduction04/07/20 07:07 PM
1

Confessing feelings is probably the most awkward way to go about it for everyone involved. Everyone is under direct pressure, and if things don’t work out well, everyone is uncomfortable and likely embarrassed. It’s actually very confrontational, and if she doesn’t like being confronted with heavy subjects like that, it won’t go well. Probably better off making light jokes or light teasing about it that can easily be played off to test the waters. For example, if she’s says something sarcastic, …
/r/seduction04/07/20 06:24 PM
1

I can’t rule this out, and I don’t see how you can either. The possibility is small, but still possible. Don’t assume.
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:50 PM
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I think we’re missing the context here. It sounds like complete gibberish otherwise. Might be complete gibberish anyway, but context is still required.
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:28 PM
1

The pants aren’t flattering, they look more like yoga pants than jeans, like something a woman would wear.
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:24 PM
1

You need a smile, a relaxed, natural smile. The pictures look preplanned and unnatural. Get someone with good photography skills to take a ton of pictures of you, in a variety of situations and outfits. Pay for a professional if you have to. Do you think the most popular girls on Instagram take one picture and call it a day? Do you think professional photographers take a few pictures and choose from there? They don’t. They will take dozens if not hundreds of photos. A professional will help you …
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:22 PM
2

She regretted her decision to attend with him and was probably scared to make a scene. This is really common. What she was doing was trying to get away from him any way she could without having to confront him directly. She tried initiating a conversation with you in an attempt to get him to go away, by introducing competition. You didn’t get the hint. Not getting the hint is also a common problem, not exclusive to you or autism/Asperger’s. Most guys are clueless here. Most women want to avoid c…
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:14 PM
1

Go do it.
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:14 AM
1

The reason they would tell you you are just friends is because you didn’t do anything beyond being friends, nor did you do it quickly enough. Women won’t wait forever, they have a lot of options. Usually, if you didn’t make a move after they showed some signals, they assume you aren’t interested or that you are completely clueless. Either way, you lose. Learn to escalate early on, and pay attention to her signals, positive or negative. If she’s throwing good signals, it’s game on. If she throwin…
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:11 AM
2

It tends to people on the defensive and make them why you want to know their name when they don’t know who you are. It makes a lot of people think you want something from them, like you want to sell them something. Do you really care what everyone’s name is, all the strangers you pass by every day? Probably not. Neither does she. She only cares when it’s someone she sees as fun and interesting. You’re much better off just having a casual opener and casual conversation where they don’t feel they …
/r/seduction04/07/20 05:02 AM
3

I don’t like the opening line of “Hello, what’s your name?” Are you a salesman? Why are you asking this question first? You haven’t demonstrated a reason to know her name at this point.
/r/seduction03/07/20 11:51 PM
2

They are flirty and seem attracted, but you don’t know if they are attracted? The only thing holding you back here is your insecurity. Make a move. If they ghost you later anyway, the worst that will happen is they ghost you later, so no change.
/r/seduction03/07/20 11:12 PM
0

You’re better off talking about your future plans before the topic of “your place or mine” comes up. It should be a casual conversation, not as an excuse. Make your situation a strong point, that you’re planning and doing something towards your future. The better women understand where you’re coming from and find having goals in life that you’re working towards to be attractive.
/r/seduction03/07/20 11:07 PM
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You need a lot more in-person interaction, because the persona you are displaying through text doesn’t match the persona in person. To the girl, it’s false advertising. Go meet women in person first, not on tinder. You need to get your in-person game to match your text game, or you’re going to have the same problem for a very long time.
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:57 PM
3

What is wrong with getting positive (or negative) feedback from an external source? It’s an important consideration when interacting with others. External versus internal validation is a topic written about a lot in psychology. You can easily find 100 articles about it online. As a suggestion, when you are doing something on the most difficult level and don’t quite reach your goal, realize two things: First, that tells you what you need to work on. If you achieved everything you set out to achie…
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:53 PM
2

How do you meet these women in the first place?
/r/seduction03/07/20 10:27 PM
1

Don’t worry about it. Keep doing what you are doing, and make easier progressions. It’s the smartest thing you can do, to know your own capabilities and go from there.
/r/seduction03/07/20 03:17 PM
1

Shy, 100%.
/r/seduction03/07/20 04:14 AM
3

Do rabbits even drink coffee?
/r/seduction03/07/20 04:05 AM
1

A few moments of silence... or when you want to change the topic... “Hey! Check this out... Me and my friends went to Santa Barbara to go surfing a few summers ago. Tell me if this is messed up. So we get to the beach and get our boards and we head out. We’re out there for a few minutes and I look over and see some guy throw a huge bag in the water and run away. I’m thinking, what’s wrong with this guy?!? I ignored it at first and paddle out away from the shore, but something about it makes me w…
/r/seduction03/07/20 03:54 AM
1

Sweet and short, so she has no clue if you are a creepy stalker? A psycho? Would you give your number out to random dudes after a 1-2 minute conversation? Women get the impression that you want her number, instead of wanting to get to know her. One pretty easy thing you can do is tell some interesting and unique stories and involve her with them. You’re better off knowing these stories in advance, and only need to be 30-60 seconds at the most. No 5 minute stories here. “Hey, check this out, last…
/r/seduction03/07/20 02:24 AM
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Set up a date first, when possible. That means having some sort of a plan for a date in advance. Getting the number becomes an obvious thing at that point At what point is she more likely to agree to a date? When you’re with her right then and there, having fun, or later when she half-forgets who you are? If she isn’t into going out with you then, the likelihood she’ll change her mind later is a bit slimmer. Figure out why this happens. EDIT: Why would ask for her phone number like that? It soun…
/r/seduction03/07/20 02:04 AM
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Great report. I suggest working to make these interactions longer over time, so she gets to know you better. It makes giving out phone numbers much more comfortable for her, because she’s had time to figure you out a bit, that you aren’t there for just a number, and fun to be around. Excellent work.
/r/seduction03/07/20 01:58 AM
1

Take bold, confident action to get her or drop her all together. You won’t be happy riding the middle and she’ll dump you if you don’t.
/r/seduction03/07/20 01:08 AM
1

It’s an old trick that tricks used, too.
/r/seduction03/07/20 12:52 AM
5

Her making you breakfast in the morning seems like a pretty cool end goal.
/r/seduction03/07/20 12:39 AM
1

I like chicks.
/r/seduction03/07/20 12:38 AM
6

Or lack of competence, hence learning strategies.
/r/seduction03/07/20 12:37 AM
2

Seriously.
/r/seduction02/07/20 06:40 PM
3

50 cold approaches is not a lot in the grand scheme of things. This is still beginner level, and quite frankly, this guy has balls of steel for doing it. Probably most guys quit before this point. You mentioned changing approaches. Well, that does take a good number of approaches to figure out, doesn’t it? Besides, it goes WELL beyond just approaches. What happens before the approach? What happens after the approach? (A lot) Even learning just which women are more likely to be receptive to you i…
/r/seduction01/07/20 11:20 AM
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I find exponentially better success in setting up a date first, then asking for the number. If she’s not willing to set up a date when you should have her at a high point, getting her number is pretty much a waste of your time, and it clearly shows you need some work on calibration.
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:19 AM
2

That’s often a matter of the age bracket.
/r/seduction21/05/20 11:04 PM
5

Most of these course creators care about one thing. Not your success, but rather your money. Do a lot of research before sending the jokers any money.
/r/seduction14/05/20 08:14 AM
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Figure out if your friend brought this up as helpful advice or as a subtle suggestion to be her FwB.
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:40 AM
1

I would take it that she saw you as a friend to help her through a difficult time. If she is doing better now, she doesn’t need the emotional support nearly as much. I’ve gotten into this before years ago, and in my experience they tend to disappear. At first I was disappointed, but I’m glad it happened. I did learn a lot. If you want to keep things going, you really have to make it compelling and it might take some patience. That means staying cool if she doesn’t answer right away, as well as n…
/r/seduction06/05/20 04:37 AM
2

Yes, I commented. Hope you feel like a winner now.
/r/seduction20/01/20 01:43 AM
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I don’t care
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:11 AM
0

What I don’t understand is your complete imbecilic idea. Pretty much everyone except you know what that phrase means. I still don’t know why you keep hurling insults. They have, quite literally, zero effect on me. Just because you hurl an insult, does not mean that I am insulted. Do you use insults as compensation for your own self worth?
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:11 AM
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You cannot even reply without insults and berating. This alone puts anything you have to say into question, because you emotions seem so fragile. This leads me to believe that your skills are rather stunted, because well-adjusted women tend to be attracted to well-adjusted men. That, in part, has to do with social skills. That’s a large part. There are obviously other considerations to make. Yes, hygiene and how well someone takes care of themselves do have importance. Does being being model lev…
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:57 PM
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The topic was the fact that the OP struggled in the past, and with some help, learned and improved himself and entered into a relationship. This was his goal. Explain how cutting ones losses applies here? He achieved at least one of his goals, yet you keep harping on failure. How does this make any sense?
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:25 PM
1

You didn’t read it but it’s actually cringe. Yeah, you’re not lying about something in there. Lmao
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:08 PM
0

You play strange game, no matter which field or court you’re on. I must have watched all the wrong basketball games. What was Kobe thinking when he scored from the 3 point line? Why didn’t he dunk it? It’s only about the effort of dunking, right? Why did he waste time doing a lay up?!? JUST DUNK IT! What’s this nonsense about a jump and fade?!? JUST DUNK IT! Personally, I think you’re stuck on the foul line.
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:07 PM
0

Are you sure that I’m the one with the disorder? There is more than one way to score in basketball. There is more than one way to score with women. I still don’t think you actually know much about women. You seem very young and very angry.
/r/seduction13/01/20 06:08 PM
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I’d read this but it’s extremely painful. Please learn how use paragraphs properly at least. It just looks like a giant drool filled anger filled rant by some guy who does not have the first real clue about walking out the front door and meeting women. If this is your example of social skills, you need some work. Of what little I did manage to get through before my brain decided it was a waste of time, there was “women define attractive as anything not ugly.” Fair enough. Now, do you mean that o…
/r/seduction13/01/20 06:06 PM
1

Women want attractive men, yes. Now define what every woman interprets as attractive. I’ll wait. I’ll give you a hint... that’s an impossible task. How do you define a 1/10? How does anyone else define it? The sad part is you don’t actually realize that half-way intelligent and mature men and women look for qualities outside of just facial features and body size and shape. How many gorgeous women have you actually talked to? How many less than stellar women have you talked to? Assuming you’ve do…
/r/seduction10/01/20 08:19 PM
1

I’m glad you are proud of yourself. Unfortunately, you still don’t understand how analogies work. A much better analogy would have been to talk about playing against a certain player versus another. Why is that? The reason is that your analogy was an all or nothing scenario. Either you dunk or you don’t, either you get a woman or you don’t. Now, had you used the player analogy, you could make the case you won’t outplay some people, while others are closer to your equal and others are just plain …
/r/seduction10/01/20 07:50 PM
2

It might be a lot of work to get things back to where they were, because it seems like you did a lot of talking and flirting, but took too long on escalating to where she explicitly talked about. With a comment like that, a day or two tops is what she was looking for. It appears you waited waaaaaay to long. She wants someone who takes action, and changing her mind in that will be difficult. I’d venture to say it’s not even worth it. Not right now anyway. First off, it’s a work environment. You d…
/r/seduction30/12/19 06:01 PM
1

You are presuming that you know what every woman is thinking. Shame on you. Do you know how many women would LOVE to simply have a conversation with someone, a REAL conversation, that is fun and meaningful? If your belief is that you are inconveniencing a woman, well guess what? It’s likely to come across that way, despite the fact that she might have been receptive otherwise. Keep it light and drop the expectations of getting laid. That’s putting the cart before the horse. First, you might want…
/r/seduction30/12/19 05:49 PM
2

I highly doubt it’s the speech pattern itself, but rather the emotions behind it. Accessing your own emotions is critical in order to convey and share emotions. Notice how a great storyteller evokes the emotions? That’s because they know how to express a touch of those emotions as they tell the story. That means they’ve practiced feeling those emotions. For those people who don’t have flexibility in emotions, it will take some effort, but the results are a game changer. An old drill for this is …
/r/seduction30/12/19 05:29 PM
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What was your point in writing this? That’s not even close to relevant to the topic. No one was talking about basketball even sports at all. Not the slightest hint of it. You were using a very poor analogy to compare a short basketball player to the original poster? How is this even slightly useful here? I think you were just trying to be a Mr. Smarty-pants to show how you can come up with an obvious exception all on your own, even when it is off-topic. Congratulations, you did it.
/r/seduction30/12/19 05:10 PM
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