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| -14 | Scrotes gonna ScroteDon't conflate a woman stating her opinion without apology, justification or excessive politeness with "combativeness." Again, I said what I said and if you disagree then that's fine, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells regardless of your personal history. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:57 AM |
| 7 | Scrotes gonna ScroteFirst of all, a mental illness is not a "mindset." If you're going to pick someone's words apart for not being ideologically pure and politically correct enough, make sure your own comments aren't also "problematic." You know what I meant and I stand by my opinion. Go to TwoXChromosomes if you want to have some libfem fight about petty semantics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:48 AM |
| 14 | Old classmate from college messaged me after 5 years asking how I was because of the pandemic. Suddenly sends these pictures. Why do men do this?"What are you, an A cup or a B cup?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:44 AM |
| 9 | Did not hang about to see if he was joking 🤢 how disgusting.Ladies, don't Tinder right now. I get the psychology of it, you're bored and want to have dudes on standby for when the world goes back to normal, but that is not what they're thinking. They want to break the law for easy sex. No dude is on Tinder to line things up for when the apocalypse has ended, they just want to risk a fine or an illness to get their peepee touched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:43 AM |
| 7 | Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger KingI guess Joe is the least vile to me. He seemed to actually really love his young lovers, whereas the other pigs just wanted trophy girlfriends they could use for sex and labor. Joe didn't even seem to make his boyfriends work, they just lounged around smoking meth and playing with ATVs and guns. Don't get me wrong, Joe is gross and polyamory is gross, but he didn't seem abusive per se. EDIT: Wait, yes he did, now I'm remembering that those boys weren't allowed to leave the grounds. Sorry, it's b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:40 AM |
| 6 | Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger KingThere's very good counter-arguments to the accusations she killed her husband. The producers trumped everything up for the documentary. Apparently he used to frequently disappear by himself in Costa Rica for weeks at a time. The idea that he stumbled drunk into a body of water or that the cartel got him isn't so far-fetched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:37 AM |
| 3 | Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger King... I kinda love Carole. In a guilty pleasure kinda way. I know, I know. ;-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:35 AM |
| 73 | Scrotes gonna ScroteYou know what pisses me off about Adele? She got down to what looks like a fine, healthy weight for her height, and suddenly everyone and their mother is accusing her of having an eating disorder. Homegirl still has hips and a butt, she just looks like she got really into fitness. But no, everyone has to concern troll her for being "anorexic." Anorexics do not have fucking hourglass figures and sculpted shoulders! How come when dudes in superhero movies get down to like 2% body fat and openly ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:29 AM |
| 25 | Home alone with my hair on fleek like...Nah. I'm in full skincare and haircare mode. Deep conditioning mask in a top-knot, so much serum and lotion from head-to-toe that I look sticky. Sheet masks galore, so much coconut oil on my body that I can't let my skin touch my furry blanket. If makeup makes you feel good, do it! Makeup makes me feel good, but I prefer to use lockdown to let my skin breathe and pamper it. Gonna come out of this thing glowwwwwwing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:20 AM |
| 1 | Breakup StrategiesDo it over text and fuck the etiquette rules that say that's tacky. Men do shit like that to women all the time, nothing wrong with turning the tables. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:34 AM |
| 5 | OH MY GOD!! I’m so damn glad that I’m single right now...Okay, he's an unstable LVM who cries when he doesn't get his way, but she doesn't quite strike me as a picnic. The amount of energy she put into this is extremely Pick Me, and also, to be frank, this sounds like the birthday party you'd throw for your teenage daughter and her friends. It's very odd to go to all this trouble to have a man who's almost 40 decorate cakes alone with just you during a quarantine. They both seem immature to the point where there might be some sort of mental illness at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:28 AM |
| 6 | Hard to apply FDS on guys I likeThis. It's about cultivating discipline to the method, not rewiring your brain so that you no longer feel emotions. What's that saying? "Motivation is a muscle, it needs constant activity to grow?" You need to constantly stay on your grind and be self-disciplined. Some of the biggest FDS rockstars are women for whom this doesn't come naturally, they've just gotten really good at discipline and self-control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:24 AM |
| 11 | I need help!!!! I feel like my boyfriend is obsessed with keeping a female friend in his life that I feel insecure about and dislike.Hi, I just traveled through space and time to this present moment from the future to let you know that this is the woman he cheats on you with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Wanted to share a HVM during COViD-18This has a real sugar baby energy that is making me cringe. Gifts are one thing, taking someone on a "shopping spree" is another. He is expecting sex in exchange for this arrangement whether you're aware of it or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:15 AM |
| 1 | I have a question for former pick me or cool girls. How do you come to terms with the things you used to do?Feel no animosity towards the girl I once was. That was how I learned and how I became the woman I was destined to become. I'm not trying to brag, but I see this sentiment all the time and I just can't empathize with it, despite being a total Pick Me in the past. People who get things right the first time aren't as interesting as people who finally master something after years of failure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:12 AM |
| 2 | There's a lot happening here, and none of it is good.It's not great. I'm sorry, I know it's a huge cultural thing for a lot of women in India and the Middle East, but I just found the experience really subpar. I went to a place to have it done by the sweetest Pakistani woman, who'd obviously been in a family where it was done for generations, and she explained that it doesn't get you fully smooth, but that it's healthier for the skin than waxing. I experienced the same irritation I did from waxing, but without the smoothness. I also got a lot of i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:00 AM |
| 5 | He offered the password to his streaming service?My elderly neighbor whose last name I don't even know has access to mine. He's not American and old so I thought letting him use my Netflix and showing him how it worked would be a nice thing to do. I got voted off the family account so having one account just for one person seemed like a waste. So ask yourself, is something that people give to friends and neighbors all the time if they have room for an extra person really that huge of a gift? Spoiler alert, it's not. (For those thinking "what t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:49 AM |
| 9 | Scrotes are self-destructive and destructive to others, because they never cultivated self-esteem through self-discipline.This reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend's husband. He has a really dumpy body and both his wife and I are fit. He made some comment about how "it seemed to come so naturally for us," and I told him, "that's because I started worrying about my weight when I was 11." He seemed flabbergasted and my friend backed me up, saying, "that's pretty average for girls." Women become aware of how their actions affect their body when they're pre-pubescent. I'm not saying that's a good thing, we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:38 AM |
| 6 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.I got out of a long term relationship in December, and now I’ve noticed that men in relationships are usually dating the most perfect girl. She’s beautiful, fashionable, outgoing, has a great Instagram. And meanwhile I have like 6 posts on my IG. Barely any photos, cause I don’t really have fashionable outfits to show off or care to take photos. Can I also give you some tough love? 25 is a little too old to be worrying about this stuff. I might catch hell for this, but I think Instagram is for k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:30 AM |
| 15 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Oh, that has not been my experience. Most of the men I've known have ended up marrying just really average women. It's because that's who they happened to be dating when the "I should get married" urge struck. I always thought Miranda from Sex and the City explained it best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:22 AM |
| 1 | RESOURCES! How to go about surviving the Coronavirus self-isolation period! Do it like a Pro!I didn't know that about Peleton! I thought it was all bike! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:19 AM |
| 2 | The advice i saw posted on here about a male telling a woman to stop being so bitchy to get her husband to not hit her reminded me of this postThis gave me chills. It'd be one thing to hear your old boomer grandpa tell a joke like this. To see it come from a bunch of millennial women who think it sends a legitimately good message is chilling. EDIT: I found the post and read "The STFU Method" in full and I swear I felt my throat drop to the pit of my stomach. Actual nausea. Jesus Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 10:58 AM |
| 2 | [ FDS Rescue Mission ] My husband thinks kissing is gross and I feel sad and resentfulHe has to be a closet case. This doesn't seem like it's just because he's an LVM. This has to be a case of gay and in denial about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 10:30 AM |
| 2 | In need of adviceDo not deal with your general or district manager directly. Go straight to corporate. Branch managers thrive on the idea that their employees don't realize that they have the power to go straight to corporate. Can I just be blunt and use some politically incorrect language? Your white male manager thinks you're a "dumb black girl." Period, sorry. He believes every stereotype there is to believe about black women. I know mediocre white middle management types and they are so racist that it's a wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 09:30 AM |
| 70 | Be a queen. Never beg. Never chase.I believe this to a point. Never do that obscenely trashy "BITCH U STOLE MY MAN!!1!" shit. There was nothing to steal, you never owned him. He broke the promise, not her. However, there is nothing wrong with regarding the other woman - provided she knew that you existed - as a massively low value woman. I find a lot of those women tend to try to "reach out" ("Like, OMFG, he was such a jerrrrrk, what were we thinking girlfriend?!") when things go kaput in their subsequent relationship with the gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:48 AM |
| 10 | What are your favorite FDS Youtube channels? (And a rant)Asha C and Anna Bey. Shallon's really popular around here and she's great, but... urghhhhhhhh, Shallon, I say this with the utmost love and respect, you could trim 70% of most of your videos. They're just so long. I can never make it to the end, and I consider myself someone with a pretty good attention span. I wouldn't mind the long videos if it was a podcast format with multiple topics, but I can't listen to a 45-minute monologue about what we can learn from this week's specific celebrity dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:37 AM |
| 90 | They never change, do they?Urgh, chubby guys gross me out so much. I'm so sick of this trend where girls talk about how they like "thicc boys" and "dad bod." No you fucking don't, you're just being brainwashed into settling because Dave over here is too lazy to go to the fucking gym. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:33 AM |
| 20 | So tempting but so not worth the aggroOne of my girlfriends is married to an HVM who's a plumber. Built a business with a focus on commercial properties cause that's where the money is. The guys who say it's their job holding them back are just making excuses. There are tons of blue collar guys who get girls left and right. I had an electrician in my rotation for a hot minute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:30 AM |
| 3 | So tempting but so not worth the aggroHow come I'm expected to settle with an ugly or broke guy but they aren't expected to do the same? These guys always tell us to go date the "guy who works at the tire shop." Okay, Kevin. Go settle with the obese unemployed girl with a DUI and baby daddy drama. Fair's fair, limpdick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:28 AM |
| 1 | What can a man do to improve, stay high value, or just be productive while the virus is going around?There's tons of workout videos on YouTube and you can easily access eBooks online. Honestly, the Corona virus advice is 100% identical for men and women: Turn this time into a blessing and work on yourself. | /r/askFDS | 17/03/20 12:25 PM |
| 3 | On Monday I had a great second date with a guy who lives 20 minutes away. Today he cancelled our plans he claims because of the virus? I call bullshit.Out of all four men You're not stupid at all and you're completely prepared to lose him by your own admission, because you have backups. Don't put yourself down, queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 09:12 PM |
| 2 | He owes me money. Take the hit or keep in contact?I don't think you should take the hit, but I do think you should only communicate through attorneys and the court system. You can do that and have him blocked on all platforms, you know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 08:59 PM |
| 9 | I feel so sorry for this woman. Her husband cheats in front of her with a girl he used to love and now she turns up after being missing for 10 years trying to weave herself in their relationshipYeah, it almost seems like HVM territory, if I'm being honest. Most men don't love that deeply and easily move on with whoever's around when they're ready to settle down. This man is clearly capable of very real and enduring love. The lesson to be learned here is that even if the guy is a good guy and the problems are out of his control, baggage is still baggage and it will always come back around to bite you in the ass. I pity OP, but this is a rare and extreme situation where I'm not so quick … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 07:54 PM |
| 8 | My BF is traveling for vacation while our county is on lock-down for CoronavirusDo I need to tell you to dump him or do you already, deep down, know that you have to? You will rot with this man when you could instead be flourishing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:31 PM |
| 27 | Are any of you dating during the coronavirus pandemic? And what precautions are you taking?I'm in quarantine! It's actually not terrible. I'm doing YouTube workouts, reading a lot, doing some work remotely, and doing the French Duolingo. I don't miss dates all that much. I'm pretty much ignoring texts from men because I've decided I want to turn this bad situation into a good thing, which is to say a productive vacation where I just focus on me and my needs. EDIT: To clarify, I'm negative for the virus but there was an infected person in my office. I'm not in the US, I'm kinda in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 06:43 AM |
| 4 | I received an email informing that the conference I was presenting my research at got cancelled because of CoVID-19. I posted the screenshot on my story. An LVM I went to college with found it funny. I told him it wasn’t. He told me to laugh more. How do I reply?I just had this happen with someone. A friend said she thought her cat had Corona and I thought she was joking so I replied with crying laughing emojis. She explained she was serious. She just loves her cat and we're in a country where Corona is serious and the cat seems sick. I apologized for laughing and then got to Googling, and it turns out it's apparently possible that the virus could affect dogs, which I had no idea. And if you think about it, it originates from bats, so who knows? I told … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 06:35 AM |
| 48 | My BF is traveling for vacation while our county is on lock-down for CoronavirusThis. Also, honey, you're a medical researcher and dating a guy who works at a casino? You're around extremely intellectual men all day at your job and you find satisfaction with a guy who works something so entry-level and skeezy? I'm gonna tell you something that will blow your mind: It's okay to judge men based on their careers and their ambition. Men judge us for every little damn thing, sometimes things we have zero control over, so it's completely okay to judge them for their professional … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 06:27 AM |
| 95 | And that’s how you do itEven the most bonafide FDS strategist supreme would struggle to do this after five years. Absolute queen shit, no where left to level up, transformation fully complete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:57 AM |
| 6 | After watching Love is Blind... I have a few thoughts...She looks like a model and she's losing her mind over this mind-blowingly unremarkable dude. Just goes to show you that love goggles are a bitch and the guy you think is "so perfect" probably isn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 04:05 PM |
| 7 | After watching Love is Blind... I have a few thoughts...Both Amber and Jessica are LVM in their own ways. Jessica is professionally accomplished but dependent on men. Amber is good at playing the game in relationships but her professional life and finances are in the toilet. Enter Barnett, a very LVM. This is a love triangle made up of three huge assholes. Actually, I think it might be four. I get that Mark is well-liked in this sub, but he only likes Jessica because she makes him chase her, as far as I can tell. I think he's overrated as an HVM. Mor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 04:04 PM |
| 65 | Disgraced Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein was sentenced to 23 years in prison following a conviction on sexual-assault chargesThank God. It's not a life sentence, but it's a pretty long time. Thankfully he's a big fat pig and will surely drop dead long before he has any chance of getting out. He will die in prison. Justice has been served. The world is still massively imperfect but stay hopeful, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 03:47 PM |
| 25 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.I find that "work husbands" are usually "the token man or men at your company who doesn't treat you as less-than because you're a woman." I've had "work husbands" who were HVM who treated me like an equal in a sea of bastards whose eyes would do a quick-flick-down to my chest when I was speaking. While I'll politely smile and laugh when someone uses the term "work husband," I mentally think of them more like allies. And even then, I know that seemingly HVM can flip on a dime, which is why I keep… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 05:51 AM |
| 6 | Happy IWD! Here are three of my favorite women/authors, Jessica Valenti, Chanel Miller & Roxane Gay. Who inspires you?Fair 'nuff! Happy IWD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 06:12 PM |
| 105 | How to become a racist LibFem or TradWife Pickmeisha in one helpful illustration! Brought to you by the racists at r/TradWife!I had a third date guy who was seemingly modern become scandalized that I had a black ex. It was really horrifying and obviously I ghosted and blocked after we parted ways. The black man in question was a criminal law attorney on an obvious judge track. Shitty at commitment so we were never destined to be a pair, but the idea that he was "less than" or "ghetto" was truly shocking to me. You'd be shocked how many white guys secretly judge women who've dated outside their race. It's not just the b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:38 PM |
| 77 | “Relationships are hard” is a myth spread by pickmes who find validation in struggle love."STRUGGLE LOVE!!!!!!!!!!" How have I never heard this before? Such an important day, the day a term makes its way into my heavily- and frequently-used vocabulary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:30 PM |
| 33 | Would you continue seeing a guy as a friend ?After he said he’s looking for relationship and he told me he has Romantic feelings for other girl he met for two times. No. Would you continue meeting him as a friend and he pays for all the drinks and all the bills when you two meet ? No. But he asks you out on last minute or lot of times you initiate to meet him ? No. I don’t feel good about pursuing friendship with a guy I have feelings for and being treated as second option so I don’t know what to do No. but my gut tells me even if it hurts… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:28 PM |
| 24 | Happy IWD! Here are three of my favorite women/authors, Jessica Valenti, Chanel Miller & Roxane Gay. Who inspires you?Not crazy about the three pictured here! Libfems who support TIMs and "sex work as empowerment." Dworkin, Steinem, Friedan. I like my feminism the way I like my music, old school all the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:26 PM |
| 14 | "nice guys" before & after being rejected:I think it's so funny that LVM are always shaming HVM for being "white knights," when in reality they just know that they don't have what the confidence, morals and courage it takes to pull off an act of chivalry without expecting anything in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 04:55 PM |
| 3 | More LVM Period ShamingA plastic garbage bag for every single tampon?! Greta Thunberg has left the chat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 07:07 AM |
| 5 | How to cope when you lose a queen bestie to an LVM?Thanks for the tough love, you're right and it's appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 06:56 AM |
| 16 | How to cope when you lose a queen bestie to an LVM?I mean you're right. I know you're right. Again, this is all easy to take to heart when we're talking about men. When it comes to female friends, to soul sisters, it's hard and it fucking hurts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 09:16 PM |
| 13 | How to cope when you lose a queen bestie to an LVM?And you've been enabling it by being an open ear. You're probably right. I can take and use ruthless advice when it comes to men, but my female friends are my soft spot and it's hard to toughen up when it comes to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 09:06 PM |
| 33 | How to cope when you lose a queen bestie to an LVM?She isn't your responsibility. See, I agree with this sort of take-no-prisoners ruthless approach when it comes to men, but that's just not how I feel about the women in my life. She is my responsibility. Our friendship has lasted a long time and we've been through so much together, and I know she values me as much as I value her. She's a woman, she has the capacity to love and accept love. It's just that this guy has completely blinded and brainwashed her. I think it would be fair to tell h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 09:04 PM |
| 14 | Can't believe this 🤦♀️Emily is a textbook low value woman. LVWs like to play manipulative games to hold power over other girls because it makes them feel powerful. Emily undoubtedly hates herself and plays this game with OP's girlfriend to try to get a little crumb of validation and self-empowerment. OP's girlfriend needs to walk away from both of them and let Emily finally have this LVM, only to be treated in the same shitty way and get the comeuppance she deserves. EDIT: I actually have one long-time platonic heter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 08:20 PM |
| 83 | "nice guys" before & after being rejected:One of the most HVM I've ever encountered in the wild was a bouncer who tossed an incel who wouldn't take "no" for an answer. Virgin McGee was running really bad PUA textbook moves on me and a friend, got rejected, then got really disgusting and aggressive. Started calling us "fat whores." It was awkward because the woman I was with wasn't a close girlfriend, but rather a coworker, and she and I had decided to keep the party going after a post-work happy hour event. It's so awkward to be in that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 29 | If he cheats on you, that’s mean your pu$$y is trash 🤦🏽♀️Or maybe she's spent her whole life seeing thousands of LVM refer to her as "the ugly one" and it's made her desperate for one man, any man, to be loyal to her and treat her like a queen, which leads her towards doormat/Pickmeisha behaviors, which leads to these men cheating? I've always felt horrible for this woman. The things people say about her are really disgusting. She's not "ugly" in the slightest, but that's the role she's been shoved into in a family of unusually beautiful women. To me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 07:42 PM |
| 23 | Women conditioned to equate the sexualization of themselves with loveWhy can European women sunbathe topless and not be ogled? Myth. They are ogled and often hit on. The thing that stops it from becoming too gross is that there are unspoken rules at topless beaches about what can and cannot be done (i.e. filming or being too aggressive in approaching someone), but men will go as far as they can in trying to pick you up without angering people or breaking the rules of the beach. Don't romanticize Europe as some utopia of sexual enlightenment, cause it ain't. Ameri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:52 AM |
| 21 | A valuable lesson I’ve learned from Being a Woman Online> Most women will have their likes indicator maxed out to 99+ LMFAO. Today I learned what the "99+" at the top meant. I never even paid attention to it. UPPER FUCKING HAND, LADIES! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:41 AM |
| 3 | [I don't know how to title this post]I'm a woman who likes those flowery washes and to-go wipes, but it's not because of vagina shame, I'm just a high-maintenance princess who likes the idea that my special fancy vagina needs special fancy wash. I really can't wait to try out that Honey Pot brand that was in the news recently. But if a dude told me I needed to use it he'd be ghosted and blocked so fast that it would make his fucking head spin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:36 AM |
| 5 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfDude's got "Bernie bro who drops the n-word with the hard R when he finds out that a black guy voted for Biden" vibes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 07:23 AM |
| 11 | I went on my first date in months.However, this guy is a coworker and friend I will have to continue interacting with. What's he gonna do? Go to HR and tell them you ghosted him after he requested a Venmo payment for twelve fucking dollars? Every single time a woman is nice to a shitty man, she always gives excuses about some special circumstances. Fuck that. Have the confidence of a man and don't apologize or pull punches because this situation is somehow "different." It's not. That man would've fucked you if you'd let him with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:16 PM |
| 22 | I went on my first date in months.My desire to explain myself “whether he listens or not, but I hope he gets something from it” is just so ugly and I haven’t been able to escape it except for maybe ONCE in my novella writing life. Write it and send it to a female friend. Unless your squad is comprised of sociopaths, your girls will undoubtedly be there to read what you wanted to say and to give you advice that will actually be helpful and nourishing to your spirit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 07:33 AM |
| 116 | I went on my first date in months.He tried to break the tension and admitted how awkward it is to ask, but he just "doesn't have the money." I looked him in the eyes and said, "then you shouldn't be asking anyone out." So badass! I cooled off a bit as I washed my makeup off, and then typed him a text: "So I changed my mind, I won't be venmoing you. It's extremely rude to ask me to, after you were the one who asked me out. It's also a slap in the face because what that really translates to is, "You're not worth it." Which is a sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 07:05 AM |
| 31 | Boyfriend Watches Porn Everydaywhich is our men shouldn’t be watching porn I don't like the use of "our" there. I claim no ownership for any of these boys. Im a horrible person in that I looked at his browser history. You're right. You're a horrible person. A total asshole. The worst person to ever live on this planet. Sit down Hitler, you've been replaced. ... I mean, is that what you wanted me to say? Why would you call yourself a "horrible person?" Your problem isn't this man, it's that your self-esteem is in the toilet. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:58 AM |
| 45 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedSome feel like bait, some feel like clueless girls who just found their way here after some fuckboy drama due to the rise in popularity this place has seen over the past few months. I think some younger women who find themselves here don't really understand the mentality and think it's just a catchall subreddit for girls who've had boy troubles. On the one hand, eye-roll, on the other hand, we were all that girl once I suppose. Either way, I've made the suggestion multiple times that being able … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:45 AM |
| 65 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedI tell a lot of personal stories on FDS. I ALWAYS change names/dates/ages/locations/occupations and all other information not completely relevant to the story. I don’t share my exact hobbies. All of that circumstantial information can be aggregated to get a good idea of who you are. This. Fudge little details. Telling a story about that guy from Chicago who was obsessed with basketball? Maybe make him a guy from Boston who was a baseball junkie. If anyone ever goes through your comments, they'll… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:41 AM |
| 13 | Dita Von Teese Giving Gorgeous Breakup AdviceTwo things: 1) Abusers don't abuse every person they're with, Dita may not have had the same experience with him. 2) I never blame a woman for the actions of low-value men she's been with, which is why I find you mentioning this strange. Are you saying that an abusive man's actions invalidate the opinions of a woman he's been with? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:46 AM |
| 81 | This is why we expect more! Found this in r/dating on a thread about dating on a budget.He pulls this shit and I'll say I have no money on my card. He'll lose this test of wills. He doesn't need to know I always carry an emergency card with a $20K limit courtesy of my parents. I can play dumb like a fox if I have to. Then, after he finally pays, I'll ghost him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 05:34 PM |
| 30 | “The one who loves the least is the one with more power in a relationship”Should I try to love my boyfriends less in order to retain my power? Yes. I feel that once my boyfriends know how much they mean to me they start being more rude to me and even gross (like not caring if they dress nicely for me anymore) Yes. I’m curious what y’all’s thoughts are Keep your dignity, guard your heart, maintain a rotation to ensure you don't get hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 02:53 PM |
| 19 | Dita Von Teese Giving Gorgeous Breakup AdviceI know. I completely agree. I half-debated if that aspect of her advice made this inappropriate for FDS. However, in a world of Pickmeisha celebs (you're not off the hook just because of "The Man," Taylor Swift), I found the message of confidence she was sending to be so, so refreshing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 02:34 PM |
| 17 | A Simple Rule to Live By...I once confronted a man on some porn-y degrading bedroom behavior and asked him point-blank, "dear God, how would you feel if someone treated your niece like that?!" His response? "Well it's different, she's just a little girl." ... uh, you do get that I didn't come out of my mother's womb in a skirt suit and heels with a 401K, right? I know this might be a lot for your tiny man brain to comprehend, but I, too, was once a little girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 02:30 PM |
| 54 | Dita Von Teese Giving Gorgeous Breakup AdviceNOTE: The idea that you should consider contact again after 30 days is bad advice and certainly not FDS-approved. However, it's important to note that this woman is a celebrity and the men she dates are probably celebrities too, so being on cordial terms might be important for their careers. Same goes for her advice on being friends with exes. Regardless of that, this is still, for the most part, amazing advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 02:14 PM |
| 0 | Libfems promote female empowerment by *checks notes* censoring a female content creator #SoundsAboutRight #NeverTrustALibfem #SchoolOfAffluence #IStandWithAnnaBeyI respectfully disagree. I don't feel some sense of "betraying the sisterhood" when I have beef with other women. In college a rival did something truly terrible to me to secure an internship over me. When I was working in my first job in our industry after graduation she behaved obscenely petty to me at a networking event, despite the fact that I, the person who was wronged, would've been willing to let the whole thing go. We are not sisters. I don't owe her anything because of feminism. She's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 01:54 PM |
| 7 | Libfems promote female empowerment by *checks notes* censoring a female content creator #SoundsAboutRight #NeverTrustALibfem #SchoolOfAffluence #IStandWithAnnaBeyI actually have no desire to pursue an extremely wealthy man like many of her followers; I'm too much of an alpha woman to be a billionaire's wife and I'm unbothered by that. I'll admit, when I first found her, I did kind of roll my eyes. However, the more I watched, the more I realized that she gave stupendous relationship and life advice for all women. I'm sure she's aware of the many career women who use her advice in their personal lives, despite having no interest in chasing after private j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 01:44 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/28/2020My ex was obsessed with Peterson God we've all really dated the same person, haven't we? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:45 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/28/2020Yikes. Just a random comment. Don't. Don't do that. You spoke from the heart and what you wrote was true, helpful and beautiful. You don't need to cushion the blow of your words with some sort of justification. Women feel the need to apologize before they speak or to justify it somehow - when have you ever heard a man start his sentence with, "just my two cents, but..." - and it's a habit worth shaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:44 AM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/28/2020Congratulations! However, you're not out of the woods. Now is the phase of the relationship were even the staunchest FDS disciples can backslide. I speak from experience. Keep going on dates with other people. Remember that this man is no unicorn and he could be lying to you or just telling you what you want to hear. Don't be afraid to blow him off for a weekend and go silent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:42 AM |
| 1 | Not wanting to have sexI made a joke to my boyfriend about the fact that he “didn’t deserve” sexual things since he’s been bad lately since he's been bad lately This is not queen shit. I don't even know what this is. Please tell me you're both in high school, I'll feel better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:34 AM |
| 73 | Libfems promote female empowerment by *checks notes* censoring a female content creator #SoundsAboutRight #NeverTrustALibfem #SchoolOfAffluence #IStandWithAnnaBeyI'm so sad "Be a 50/50 Lady" is no longer online. However, I'm happy that it's fairly burned in my memory, because it was great. FDS women are the enemy of mainstream "feminism," never forget it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:56 PM |
| 11 | Than you FDS! This felt really good to do. Before FDS I would have either agreed to, or felt guilty about saying “no.”I love that he's so insecure that he needs to use a laughing face emoji when nothing he said was funny. It's the mark of someone who's not confident in their words or in themselves. Same with "LOL" after something that wasn't remotely funny. Either stand behind what you said or don't say it at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:58 AM |
| 23 | FDS is now considered a controversial subreddit via Wikipedia"You see, I might give easy sex to any man who buys me a coffee and make my whole identity about my ex-boyfriends, but I don't shave my armpits, therefore I am the real feminist. Check-mate, golddigger." Literally libfems. It's so fucking warped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:52 AM |
| 19 | If a man tells you he doesn't want anything serious, please DO NOT waste your time!If the dude tells you something like that, just walk away and keep your dignity. Dignity should be the word you focus on when you're parting ways with someone. I saw an interview with Dita Von Teese where she said that her biggest priority in a breakup was "leaving with [her] dignity in tact." Even if your mind is racing and your emotions are getting in the way, just focus on that one word and it will guide you towards the right path. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:44 AM |
| 5 | 🤡🤡🤡You're absolutely right and you're getting downvoted because this sub has become infiltrated with Pickmeishas who don't practice FDS ideology whatsoever and just want a place to bitch about some fuckboy who won't text them back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:39 AM |
| 23 | 🤡🤡🤡Yeah and all the comments here are a bunch of women saying "teeheehee I actually like this! <3" I really think that a lot of new posters don't understand that this is a place for discussing dating strategy from a radical feminist perspective, not a catchall place for girls who've just been dumped by their boyfriends. I can't begin to describe how much I don't want to hear about how much some women just love men's ejaculate and I shouldn't have to see it here, nor should I have to keep my mouth s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:32 AM |
| 83 | The real reason why LVM want to go Dutch and why they prefer drink dates over meal dates.My grandmother once started crying because I was talking about The Rules with my cousin and it upset her. I felt just awful. Like sick to my stomach. I was talking about blocking a guy who didn't text back and she was upset that I had potentially hurt this boy's feelings or missed out on my future husband. I felt terrible not because she was making any sort of valid point - she wasn't, obviously - because that's my fucking grandma, you know? But she didn't know any better. Her generation was bas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 08:24 PM |
| 20 | Don't use OLD, definitely if you're lonely or anxiousThe apps are amazing, if you have zero emotional attachment, swipe ruthlessly and unmatch without giving it a second thought. This comes very naturally to me. I'm always shocked when people have to consciously disconnect emotionally from OLD. To me it's no different than using Amazon or DoorDash. Of course if a date is successful and the guy joins the rotation, things become different and I'm not completely cold about him, but until we meet, I feel nothing. Just faces and words on a screen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 08:14 PM |
| 21 | How to turn your FWB/fling into a HVM boyfriend!Some girls need baby steps to securely and genuinely leave their pick-me ways behind, and that is totally okay. Again, what? No, it is not "totally okay." You're talking about embarrassing yourself as if it's a drug that a person needs to wean themselves off of. You are not a former pick me if you think this, you're a capital P Pickmeisha. No one needs just one last little taste of humiliating themselves. FDS isn't a marathon you need to train for or a language you need to learn, it's something … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 08:01 PM |
| 31 | How to turn your FWB/fling into a HVM boyfriend!send a lengthy emotional paragraph if that’s your style What? No. Never do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 07:38 PM |
| 14 | How is this normal!?! *waves arms in every direction* 30+ yo Men need to be told to shower and brush their teeth before a date!?! WHY DO THEY NOT KNOW THIS!?After slamming my beer I said “well, this has been weird” and walked out. I'm reading on my phone right now while waiting on my dry cleaning and I just had to stop myself from screaming "QUEEN!" in this little mom and pop laundromat. Holy shit, you're amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 02:27 PM |
| 6 | Be a 50/50 LadyYeah, I don't show the opposing team my playbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 12:45 PM |
| 11 | I’m Not Having Sex Until I Love You“omg I literally can’t experience arousal unless I’m emotionally attached” Fuck it, I'm just gonna be totally politically incorrect and risk downvotes: That's called being a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:36 AM |
| 3 | ‘My “Perfect” Boyfriend Started Choking Me During Sex’ - A reminder that violence and love NEVER go together (trigger warning)Me too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 08:30 AM |
| 3 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Sometimes I act outside of FDS-approved thinking, who would have thought. It's a guide, not the sacred scriptures of femalekind. It's definitely the sacred scripture of not ending up crying and brokenhearted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:49 PM |
| 5 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Sometimes the line between romance and friendship gets blurry I've never experienced this. If I wanted to be more than friends, I would have pursued that from the beginning. a male friend becomes a boyfriend when he shouldn't I'm not going to deny another woman's lived experience, but I just cannot comprehend suddenly feeling attraction for a man who I decided should just be my friend. I've always thought that scenario was yet another Hollywood myth designed to convince hot women to fuck losers.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:26 PM |
| 8 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?You're going to be okay. Today's heartbreak is tomorrow's funny story. Trust me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:23 PM |
| 91 | There is something we can do to improve the dating poolJust be fucking vocal. Say "no man of value would waste time masturbating in front of a computer screen when he could be with a real woman instead." Say it in a cool, even voice while looking him dead in the eye. He's not going to challenge you on that. He has no fucking argument. I can't deal with the porn-free relationship subs, however. They're Pickmeisha City. A porn user is not a HVM, period, end of sentence, full stop, and I don't care if he's "trying to change" or "recovering." Honestly, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:21 PM |
| 19 | We need a sub called "Am I With An Asshole".And every day I am thankful that my parents never allowed me to play video games as a child. No, you would've been fine, trust me. I played various children's games like Mario and Sonic when I was younger, but I'd usually play for an hour or two and then be like "bored now" and turn it off, only bothering to save my progress half the time. I'd lose interest and not come back for a few weeks. Whereas my mother would have to literally pull my brother off of the fucking Nintendo. (I do remember get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:10 PM |
| 23 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?Don't be friends with a man who was ever, ever, ever even slightly in the "romance" folder in your brain. It always ends badly. I cannot stress this enough. The only reason an ex will ever ask you to be his friend is because he wants to keep you on the back burner for sex. Cut him off completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:00 PM |
| 19 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?this subreddit is against this but maybe sleep with a guy you plan to never see again. This subreddit is iffy on this. If a woman chooses to have a FWB (with the knowledge that it will never, ever become anything more) I think that's kinda viewed as her business around these parts. Most FDS ladies don't recommend it just because it has the potential to become a fucking mess, so you're right, we're mostly against it, but no one to my knowledge gets banned for having a FWB, and I know plenty of wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:56 PM |
| 19 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?it says HVM knows early on that they’ll be keeping you as gf or not Link? I don't have the handbook memorized, but I define "early on" as the first six weeks of interaction, at which time your FDS game is the most crucial. Also, what do you mean "keeping you as a GF?" If you have any doubts about this man's intentions, he should not be your boyfriend. He isn't your boyfriend. But he and I, we’re like friends and he wants to stay as friends but I’m not sure about it. Friends don't want to have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:53 PM |
| 56 | What do you do when you feel like you’re being clingy to a guy?I think I should just take a step and cut him off for a while ? It sounds like you already know the answer to your own question, sweetie. <3 My friend told me to text this guy a week later while I gather my emotions about him. The next time you text him should be 24 hours after he's texted you. In the meantime, go on a date with someone else to remind yourself that this man is not the be-all end-all of your prospects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:24 PM |
| 10 | Are men only HVMs for women they actually want?Are HVMs born or made? Bit of column A, bit of column B. How do you not be bitter when he was a HVM to her and not you? Because I don't know how good her girl game is or if his Mommy and Daddy pressured him to settle down lest he be written out of the will. Not my monkeys, not my circus and I'm not going to blame myself for some man's bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:40 PM |
| 12 | “I’m pretty sure having sex is not the problem. BuT ThANkS” “I feel insecure because he never initiates”...why would he bother when he knows he doesn’t need to sis??!!!Right, but didn't you know it was internalized misogyny to reject sex without commitment? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:37 PM |
| 4 | How do you deal with situations where the ex really IS "crazy?"he's loving the drama Correction, he loved the drama. Fuckboy is long gone from my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020So damn good to be home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:07 PM |
| 34 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.You are not missing out on anything special and it is shameful that we live in a society where so-called feminists would have you believe that there is something wrong with you for wanting to guard your intimacy from men who would only use and abuse it. Stick to your guns, go at your own pace and feel no shame for what you choose to do with your body. Proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:06 PM |
| 8 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.Keep those legs and wallets closed for business on dates if you want to be happy, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:03 PM |
| 9 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?Gotcha, queen. ;-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:01 PM |
| 8 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?Not all men suck in bed because they don’t try That is why all of them suck, actually. Absolutely some do suck because they are lazy I’ve been with those too. Some guys are just clueless on how to get women off, granted in this day and age with the internet that isn’t a great excuse If you care about your partner's pleasure, you make an effort. that tried textbook what to do and just weren’t good There is no such thing as "textbook." There are basic tips, but every woman's body is different. Wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 07:35 PM |
| 16 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?Right, but the problem is that they didn't try in the first place because they didn't feel the need to. You're missing the point. I'm being cruel to be kind, you're giving these guys too much credit. If you got off because "you knew how to use it," you didn't need them in the first place, you could have had the same experience with a dildo with far less drama, risk and resentment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 07:13 PM |
| 9 | How do you deal with situations where the ex really IS "crazy?"You know, I never really asked because it felt LVW to interrogate a dude about a crazy ex. My mistake was not running from him at the first glimpse of this shit. It's certainly not a mistake I will make again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:57 PM |
| 23 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?"I went to a pizza parlor and the pie was lousy, but I don't blame the workers because I was able to give it some flavor with hot sauce and salt." ^^ That's you girl. Re-read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:55 PM |
| 27 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.I dated a 9/10 once who was the worst most illiterate lover I've ever had. All of the pretty ones are like that. Trust me. I've had an actual male model and "mediocrity" doesn't begin to cut it. I've always had a weakness for pretty things, unfortunately, be it clothing, art or scrotes. But without a doubt, the more gorgeous = the more incompetent. It's depressing to think about, but all of the famous Hollywood heartthrobs that women lose their minds over are probably the shittiest lovers. It's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:53 PM |
| 34 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.I'm not denying your lived experience and if anything I'm jealous. But I think you're the exception, not the rule. The world is full of sexually disappointed women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:41 PM |
| 30 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.I've never had what I consider to be a competent lover and I think that has to do with the fact that I'm only willing to fuck 8s and above. I don't say that as a flex. I think it's actually hugely problematic to my own sexual happiness. Pretty boys never need to learn to be good at it because women have been throwing themselves at them since high school. I don't have it in me to bone an uggo, but I don't know, maybe I should give a 6 or 7 a try to see if some chump who needs it more would be mor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:36 PM |
| 40 | You do not "miss sex." You miss a fantasy.I figured out how to do the job in three minutes or less with my bare hands and my imagination when I was like thirteen. I need no assistance, neither of the male or plastic variety. However, props to all the queens whose one true love is her magic wand or vibrator. You do you queen. ;-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:33 PM |
| 7 | A small reminder :)So I've actually decided to really commit to a six-week fitness and makeover challenge because I just blocked a fuckboy and I'm really, really, really into myself right now. Carving yourself like a statue is such a fierce fucking act of self-love. Question for the queens: Has anyone ever had lip fillers? I've been toying with the idea a lot recently. I do not want to look "Instagram-y." No offense to women who go for the baddie aesthetic, but it's just not my jam. However, I would love to add a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:26 PM |
| 16 | How do you deal with situations where the ex really IS "crazy?"Predatory fuckboys who don’t care love “crazy” or broken women. Easier prey, usually more willing to engage in degrading sex, and more likely to tolerate or engage with toxic dynamics in the relationship I needed to hear this. You hit the nail on the head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:45 PM |
| 14 | How do you deal with situations where the ex really IS "crazy?"Everything has been taken down thanks to police involvement and she's seemed to have lost interest in me as soon as he and I parted ways. But trust me, I will take any legal action necessary if she decides to pull a stunt again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:44 PM |
| 30 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?You know, we all occasionally say things and then think "oh shit that was actually pretty fucking profound," and I think I just had that moment. Considering turning this into its own post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:35 PM |
| 38 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?A queen is no man's whore, and a queen can see that most of modern liberal feminism is in the best interest of men, not of women. Fox News telling women not to control their own reproductive rights serves the interests of men, not women. Broadly encouraging women to let mediocre men jackhammer their pornsick dicks into you while you pray he finishes in the name of "sexual empowerment" serves the interests of men, not women. Liberal feminism and sex-positive feminism is just old fashioned misogyn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:40 PM |
| 87 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?How many women can actually have sex with their crush and not feel attached or lose feelings? I don't mean this glibly, I mean it with complete respect to any mentally ill sisters, but a woman who could actually sleep with a man she has feelings for without connecting any emotion to it would be a woman who probably needs serious therapy. I mean there would be an unhealthy disconnect there emotionally and psychologically. And yet society wants us to think that this is the norm and "yaaaaaass quee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:35 PM |
| 157 | "H*e culture is wonderful" --> Can we dump this narrative in 2020?Sex for women is like going to see fireworks. Great in theory, glamorized on film. It's super exciting when you're getting ready to go to the event and things are starting to happen. Fun for the first few minutes. Then the whole thing gets real boring real fast and you're just secretly waiting for it to be over. Most women who say they're missing sex aren't missing the sex they've actually had, they're missing the realization of a fantasy that they've never even experienced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:32 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Also always remember that The Rules authors give a "let four hours pass before you reply" rule, and whenever they say that on talk shows and Pickmeishas groan, they always yell "we wanted to make it 24 hours but no women would agree to it!" Be the queen who agrees to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020Never be social media friends with a man who you'd theoretically have sex with, period. School of Affluence just did a video on why you shouldn't even add a boyfriend. Keep your mystery and only be friends with men if they're family members, coworkers and a tiny handful of "dude friends" who you know don't have incel tendencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:59 PM |
| 19 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020These people are so strange. Society and culture have fucked up young women so much, it's disgusting. I just posted about a relationship where I accidentally slipped into old Pick Me habits, but thankfully I'm bouncing back like a boss. However, when I tell some of my girlfriends "it doesn't matter because I can find another ten men tomorrow," they look at me like I have three heads. It's like media just really promotes desperation and this obsession with "the one," and it's seriously damaged a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:56 PM |
| 32 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 2/20/2020I haven't been here since fall because I totally slipped into Pick Me mode with what should have been such an obvious fuckboy. I have no idea what the hell happened (well, that's not true, I have really mentally worked through what happened, and the truth is that I just let my guard down and fell in love and made some extremely by-the-book mistakes cause not my Nigel). I've been catching up on all the posts I missed for the past few months. Honestly, it's been a few days and I'm starting to thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Backstory in comments. I’ve encountered my first low-effort man-child.Okay, I can't be nice anymore. LADIES. Stop with the paragraph-length replies to Tinder fuckboys. Just unmatch and leave them wondering forever how their childish little tantrum was received. "Feel free to unmatch" is essentially reverse psychology-ing him to not unmatch. Don't give him the power to decide the outcome of this dynamic when he's already insulted you with his pushy manipulation designed to pressure you into sex he knows damn well you don't even want. OP, I appreciate the heart of w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:52 AM |
| 10 | HVM right thereEh, I don't think Barack is a unicorn. I think Barack could very much have the potential to cheat or not bring his share to the table. The thing is, Michelle is extremely FDS. If you read about their courtship or her role in the family, it's plain as day. The Obamas aren't an example of a unicorn man, it's an example of an extremely successful FDS woman who engineered a power couple dynamic that suited her wants, needs and values. He'd be nothing without her. Sorry not sorry to my Obama die-hard… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Have any of you guys came across any genuinely good guys?Can I ask what brings you to FDS if you're in a healthy and happy marriage? I don't mean that in a challenging way or a gatekeeping way, I'm genuinely curious what the motivation would be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Pick me! Pick me! Im so unique compared to other women!I actually was saying "I'm not a feminist!" up until very recently, but what I meant was "I'm not a libfem." I didn't realize saying "I'm not a feminist!" meant some Pickmesha/RPW bullshit. What I actually meant was "I'm not a feminist, I'm a radical feminist." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:27 AM |
| 7 | Do you use these strategies on friendships?No, not at all. I wear my heart on my sleeve in my female friendships, am open, honest and generous. I'm not afraid to text first and I love randomly reaching out, have no fears of looking desperate. All my female friendships are strong and thriving and I always feel like I get the same love back that I give. Women aren't men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:13 AM |
| 11 | Two YouTube Channels you should followAsha C! I share her videos so much that I'm afraid people are going to think I am her, LOL. I can assure you I'm very much a little white girl who'd never get in front of a camera. But I love her videos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 21 | Why do they need to be so pushy??? 🙄English better be this boy's second language. Scratch that. English better be his third language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 01:02 AM |
| 5 | How to train WomenIt's Milton from Office Space trying to convince you he's Patrick Bateman | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:38 PM |
| 3 | How to train Women"Sure, he used psychological tactics to manipulate her into consenting to sex that she didn't want, but she had the audacity to let him buy her a sandwich." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:36 PM |
| 3 | How to train Women"Bitches are built to obey" I've read so many TRP posts where they're bitching about their female managers but okay Kyle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else think that shows like the Bachelor are absolutely disgusting?UnReal is AMAZING. Anyone with an FDS mindset should watch it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:22 PM |
| 2 | FDS is Phasing Out Femcel LanguageYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS I just think it was really beneath us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 03:15 PM |
| 37 | Man rejected by 30 year old and later trying to save face by only saying he dates 27 and under. Ladies, keep rejecting LMV men!I bet he's including his margin account in that "100k in securities." Also 50K in gold?! Is he 85 years old? Yeah, I don't buy when dudes say "I COULD buy my own place, I just choose not to!" Bull-fucking-shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/19 10:23 AM |
| 7 | Honestly, let’s not pretend like Red Pill strategies don’t work.Well, I think this is an interesting conversation to have, but I respectfully disagree with the title as a definitive thesis. What do we call a "red pill strategy?" Any ugly, sloppy man can not red pill his way into being sexually appealing. If you go to YouTube and search "pickup artist fail" or "pickup artist cringe," you will get thousands of results, but trigger-fucking-warning ladies, they are so cringey that they will make your toes curl. Like that kind of cringe where you're not even laug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 08:55 AM |
| 3 | Asshole waits an entire decade to embarrass a girl from HS ... AFTER HE FUCKED HERIncel fanfiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 09:23 AM |
| 39 | Accurate.This is one of the worse things that a male celebrity has done in the past five years and I'm not just being dramatic. I consider this a serious crime. His daughter is now 18 and he suggests he's been doing this for years, which means he was forcibly inspecting his teenage daughter's vagina via a doctor. The gynecologists involved should be stripped of their licenses and he should be charged with child abuse and dropped from his record label and all of his contracts. The victim has been liking T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 09:00 AM |
| 24 | Multiple Subs on reddit are using unsolicited pictures of women for sexual comments. Sometimes their own SISTERS and MOTHERS.Seriously, what is wrong with them? The misogyny aside, how could you do that to someone you love? The idea of doing that to my brother is so unfathomable to me. I love him and would never want to hurt him that way. My girlfriends think he's hot and even with them, the women I adore and love, it's like "alright ladies, c'mon, don't objectify the man I grew up with." But we're the hateful ones. Okay. Sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 06:10 AM |
| 11 | “You pass lookswise...” Gotta love dating apps!But also, y u text first? You have to on Bumble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 05:58 AM |
| 5 | Leave them on read if they’re not going to make any effort at all. Don’t settle for “Netflix and Chill”YES. Remember, you are always busy. You're in high demand. You MIGHT be able to see him, but only if he proposes something good and you decide to move your schedule around for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 05:57 AM |
| 8 | Apparently this needs to be spelled out to males explicitlyMeh. I don't trust "woke" dudes who say shit like this. "Look at me, I'm so enlightened, not like those other boys! Now may I please have a crumb of pussy, Miss?" It's just the boy version of a Pickmesha. Let the libfems have these broken wimps. I have a feeling Ryan "resists" a lot of shit, such as picking up the tab or taking "no" for an answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/19 05:50 AM |
| 7 | Another reason Why Liberal Feminism Is Not compatible with FDSOh, we must have different interpretations of it, I've always found SATC to be pretty FDS-approved. I mean obviously there's exceptions and Pick Me moments, but for the most part I think it sent a good message. If nothing else it promoted sisterhood. Now Girls on the other hand... fuckin' YIKES. A show about four Pickmesha libfems who backstab each other at every single turn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 12:34 PM |
| 17 | Reminder From RPW: If you're ever tempted to go the "traditional" relationship route because it seems quaint or sweet, remember that it involves sacrificing all of your self-worth, dignity and happinessI learned to stand up for myself, got into the queen mindset, and now I have guys worshipping the ground I walk on. I know which woman I’d rather be! Same! Most women here have a similar story. Hopefully in the future, a woman won't have to crash and burn before coming to her senses, i.e. hopefully we'll live in a world where women are raised to understand this shit from the time they first start dating. I am endlessly jealous of all the girls coming to FDS at like 19 or 20. You're so lucky!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 11:17 AM |
| 14 | Reminder From RPW: If you're ever tempted to go the "traditional" relationship route because it seems quaint or sweet, remember that it involves sacrificing all of your self-worth, dignity and happinessAnd once again, I repeat myself... this is why you date even when you're committed. I believe in this when he's a boyfriend. Unfortunately I don't believe in it once the ring comes out, then I do believe in monogamy. Not judging women who do things differently. If he starts withholding sex or pulling away, however, then you need to go nuclear. Wouldn't judge a married woman for dating in that context. Even if she wants to honor the marriage vows - there's a certain nobility to that, I think, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 11:11 AM |
| 18 | MOID LURKERS: You better 👏🏼 shut 👏🏼 the 👏🏼 fuck 👏🏼 up until you PM at least 5 TRP PIECES OF SHIT that advocate literal violence against women before you address one more fucking FDS woman. YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT GENDER EQUALITY, YOU JUST HATE WOMEN."Ghost him." That's it. That's the advice. No emotional manipulation, no abuse, no trying to use psychological tricks to get what you want from someone unwilling, just... quietly up and leave. They're mad because they know that they barely stood a chance before, now they really don't stand a chance. "YOU BITCHES WILL DIE ALONE AND NO ONE WILL WANT YOU!" You've created an entire internet subculture devoted to obsessing about how much you want us. You all want us. It's all you fucking think about.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 10:38 AM |
| 44 | Reminder From RPW: If you're ever tempted to go the "traditional" relationship route because it seems quaint or sweet, remember that it involves sacrificing all of your self-worth, dignity and happinessThe comments are just as shocking as the post itself. OP is blaming herself because she once refused to give him a blowjob that he asked for through a text. After her refusal, she sat him down to apologize and promised it "would never happen again." She was afraid of "nagging" a man who was having an affair. The handmaids of RPW say that nagging is what leads men to have affairs. Yet every other day, one of them posts about being cheated on, despite all of her attempts to be the best little sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 10:19 AM |
| 7 | How to remove rose coloured glasses off of my friends??Please don't say ignore them or anything. They're my very good friends and have helped me when the conditions were terrible and I want to them to be happy. Oh my God only a sociopath would tell you to ditch your girlfriends for something this innocent! You ghost bad men because they're never going to change. You sit down and talk to "bad" women because we naturally want to do better and be better in our interpersonal relationships. My best girlfriend and I actually call this "swifting," i.e. Tay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:29 AM |
| 15 | I dated a rich guy and screwed it up - a case studyI wish we didn't say things like "plated" and "n-count" if I'm being honest. We should make our own lingo instead of losing manosphere terms. "Plated" implies this guy was spinning multiple plates, which he probably wasn't, he just didn't want to commit because he wanted to roll the dice on something better. I call these guys dice rollers, actually. Doesn't commit because he's hedging his bet that he could get someone different/better/whatever. This is why they come crawling back months later, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 09:18 AM |
| 21 | Another reason Why Liberal Feminism Is Not compatible with FDSBeing a libfem is just being a good little girl for men, but rationalizing it as feminism. That's it. That's all it is. If a man wants to pay an impoverished girl $40 to suck his tiny little knob? Yaasssssss queen, get your paper! Sex work is real work! What you're doing is actually super good for your mental health! It's empowering! If a man with autogynephilia wants to be nude in a female-only space? It's called tolerance, sweaty! Men are women if they say they are! Let them in our shelters wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:20 AM |
| 16 | British women are killing themselves over revenge porn - please never trust men completely even if they are your long term husbands,mots of these victims thought they are in love with those men,never share a nude no matter the pressureYou're not wrong and this is a hard pill for libfems to swallow. Teaching girls to go on the defensive doesn't mean that we're saying it's their fault, it means we're accepting the reality that men simply aren't going to change. I've said it a million times, the types of men who are receptive to anti-sexual harassment training are probably not the ones who were going to do it in the first place. We recently had a seminar on it at my job and most of the men who should have been fucking listening … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:57 AM |
| 12 | A way to combat fuck boys sliding in your DMsI'm assuming it's a sensation no one but Gene Simmons' wife is familiar with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 06:35 AM |
| 87 | Amal Clooney, 41. Don’t listen to people who tell you that women peak in their 20’s.I've noticed the examples of famous "wall women" are always women where there was something else going on besides just natural aging. Take for example Britney Spears, who I've seen cited a million times as an example. No, she didn't age how we thought she would. Severe mental illness, years of drug and alcohol addiction and tanorexia in youth will do that to you. Lindsay Lohan is another one. Yes, if you are doing literal fucking meth, you might hit a "wall," but that's not exclusive to any gend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 04:51 PM |
| 10 | FDS Success StoriesI'm in a similar place. I'm being lukewarm, but the weirdest thing is that it's not forced. FDS is starting to just come naturally. I think a year ago if I'd tried to do this, I would've been forcing myself not to text guys while secretly pining for them. Now, I can really like a guy but still be very tepid and wait to text back. It's like I've learned to love the slow burn and have stopped being so dependent on instant gratification in the form of any text. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 04:30 PM |
| -2 | I'm learning how to hold myself outside of the male gazeYeah, I'm confused by this post and confused why these replies are getting downvoted. "Body positivity" is libfem nonsense. All of the books listed in the sidebar talk about making improving your appearance a priority, not just to attract men, but as an act of self-care. "Look good feel good" is real shit. I mean I'm not going to judge another woman for her lifestyle choices, but this isn't FDS, it's libfeminism. "Following beauty standards is oppression!" No, no it's not, wage discrepancies, fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/19 05:36 AM |
| 36 | The only way to respond to unsolicited dick pics!!So confused, the title says it's of a dick pic but all I see is a black rug? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 09:51 PM |
| 3 | Advice. I want to look my best.Or the best skin and beauty routines to use so that we never hit a wall? Plain soap and water will do if that's your only goal, because "the wall" isn't a thing. ;-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 03:25 PM |
| 1 | We made plans for Saturday night, haven’t spoken since Tuesday. Do I need to text him to confirm?And online dating is on pause for now. Over one bad match? Do you understand how abundant matches are? How cheap the cost of dick is? This is like biting into an M&M that was a factory glitch and had no chocolate inside, so instead of just grabbing another handful, you throw the whole bag away and say "well, I guess I'm done with candy." Honey, your tag isn't lying, you seem incredibly new. Nothing wrong with that. But I implore you to read the sidebar and also get "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 03:13 PM |
| 2 | We made plans for Saturday night, haven’t spoken since Tuesday. Do I need to text him to confirm?This was the wrong way to handle it. You should have just unmatched him, blocked him and left him wondering. You didn't owe this douchebag closure. Don't take OLD matches so seriously. They're a dime a dozen. Furthermore, don't get into long chats with OLD matches, especially before you've met. Texting is for planning dates, period. EDIT: Also, because I didn't notice this before: You seem like a really great guy and I hope you find what you’re looking for. He did not seem like a great guy and y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 03:08 PM |
| 36 | Typical male dating experience in online dating. They get fewer dates, fewer matches, fewer messages. Not women. Men. Don't let men make you feel like you can never find something betterI'm 29 and I like to keep a college boy toy in the FWB mix. They are extremely not hard to find and always really enthusiastic about hooking up with an older woman. I hooked up with a 19-year-old I met organically when I was 26-ish and thought I'd feel gross the next morning - yes, this happened on a drunken night, obviously - but I was actually into it. Now I really love younger guys for FWBs. We're both in our sexual prime and it goes without saying that it won't move into the relationship zon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 02:31 PM |
| 36 | Typical male dating experience in online dating. They get fewer dates, fewer matches, fewer messages. Not women. Men. Don't let men make you feel like you can never find something betterIt's crazy to me how much men stress out about matches and messages. I have like a hundred unread messages in Tinder right now because my rotation is full at the moment. Sometimes I'll check in and I realize that they've been sending like a million "heys" and demanding to know where I am. Dude, I swiped right, I didn't accept your marriage proposal. Fucking chill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 02:25 PM |
| 13 | Wow you're really selling it to me Dan. I suggest a gym membership and grammar lessonsHe is 33, can't spell, only listed very mundane boring hobbies, has two kids already and is proudly stating his dad bod Yup. He's a major "NEXT." I'm also surprised by all the "awww he sounds sweet!" You're looking for a man, not a kitten. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 10:45 AM |
| 8 | Do better. Expect better. Accept better.You are reading her to filth and I’m here for it!!!! Your comment history is gold. Thank you honey! <3 I’m no longer wasting my time extending advice to those that are willfully ignorant- although they need it the most. I'm no longer wasting my time in giving gentle, euphemistic, sensitively phrased advice. I actually find giving blunt no-BS advice really great for reaffirming my own FDS principles. If I can make other queens laugh while doing it, that's just a bonus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:27 AM |
| 8 | He follows a bunch of IG models, most of which are local (acceptable behavior?)Imagine a 50-year-old dude who acts like a 19-year-old fuckboy on Instagram. Dear God, this guy has no dignity. There are men his age who've raised college-aged children and built businesses, but he's a permanent adolescent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:20 AM |
| 16 | Do better. Expect better. Accept better.Hey female dating strategy go fuck yourself have a great day BYE! LMFAO. What a child. One baby deserves another. Her post history is a disaster and her living situation sounds insanely white trash. I want to support other women, but dear Lord, some Pickmeshas are just straight-up doomed. Women like this who shove their hands on their ears and scream "LA LA LA LA LA LA NOT LISTENING!!!" when someone points out that their garbage man is garbage don't realize the error of their ways until they're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 09:09 AM |
| 15 | Do better. Expect better. Accept better.What a lucky dude. Seriously, he won the jackpot. He found a woman who will financially support him so that he can play video games, smoke pot and stuff his face for the rest of his life, and no matter what he does, she will absolutely not leave him. As a bonus, she cleans up after him and fucks him. He got a forever mommy and never has to grow up! Yay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/19 07:01 AM |
| 48 | He follows a bunch of IG models, most of which are local (acceptable behavior?)> He blocked me on instagram NEXT! I don't even need to read the rest of your post (I mean, I did, but I didn't have to). Girl, don't walk, run. In fact don't run, UBER. Get the fuck out of there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 04:59 PM |
| 7 | So what's wrong with hypergamy?MAN BABIES: Women are all hypergamous! FDS: Yes, yes we are. MAN BABIES: Shocked_Pikachu_Face.jpeg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 03:18 PM |
| 5 | Maintain your hobbies throughout a relationship.I would be in awe and extremely shocked if there was any woman here who hadn't made mistakes or broken all the FDS rules. I fully intend to raise some of those women in the future though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:50 PM |
| 18 | Holy shit grab the popcorn 🍿 😎 here’s a rundown of the drama on FDSHate us cause they ain't us EDIT: Also, because I love a good shit show, I put the RPW post into a word counter. ONE THOUSAND AND ONE WORDS. Seriously, what is up with RP incels and handmaids and the novel-length posts? I've noticed this every time I've lurked on either of their dumb subs. Like they're incapable of telling a short story. Get to the point already Offred, don't you have to go wash the skid marks off your captain's undies?! EDIT2: Holy fucking shit at the comments from men in the R… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/19 02:23 PM |
| 11 | Friendly reminder to ALWAYS keep a mani/pediI don't like paying for things I can do myself, so for me waxing and facials are the only thing I'll spend money on. I do my own manis and pedis. IT'S A DRAG AND I HATE DOING IT, LOL. However, by forcing myself to do it, I always look polished and put together. Remember, if you use a pumice stone each time you shower, you won't need pedicures. I actually don't WANT my feet to be 100% perfectly soft because I run and hike, and I actually find working out on really really really soft feet uncomfor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 11:21 AM |
| 108 | Us: Brag about not letting a dude fuck us over Them: Brag about happily watching a woman get fucked overIf I saw a man being robbed I would absolutely call the police, without a doubt. Surely most women here agree? But keep calling us "the most hateful sub on Reddit," microdicks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 11:14 AM |
| 35 | Claiming to be a 'feminist' or left wing is a red flagI don't date male feminists because I find the hipster aesthetic on men to be about as sexually arousing as watching my grandma knit a blanket and that's the look most "feminist" or "woke" boys tend to go with. However, I've heard from my girlfriends who live in New York (Brooklyn specifically, of course) that the more a dude tells you how woke he is, the more likely he is to lose his fucking mind and get dangerous when you tell him "no." Echoing libfem talking points is definitely a huge red fl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 11:07 AM |
| 7 | “FDS is the most toxic space on reddit, even worse than redpill subs.”While there are ABSOLUTELY men who behave like this, most manosphere posts are just unloveable ultra-losers writing fan fiction depicting how they wish they could behave if they were ever around actual human women. Remember, the types of dudes who post on incel/red pill/MGTOW forums are very maladjusted, unattractive and socially awkward large boys with nothing going on in their lives. Go watch a documentary on the subject or one of their YouTube channels if you need to be reminded. The next tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 10:56 AM |
| 2 | Pickme-itisYou can project onto me all you want, I’m typing lmao cuz I’m laughing at this. You just told me your life story and I didn’t ask for it. Meanwhile you just dig through my shit to try to insult me on shit I already have no shame about. So lmao this shit is funny as fuck lol You should be ashamed of your life though. You're an easily amused shelf-stocker who blames women for his problems and seems to struggle with a massive case of adult illiteracy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 06:07 AM |
| 4 | Pickme-itisI’m 20 Like I said, a grown man who works a job meant for teenagers. When I was your age I was a senior in college and at a paid internship in my field. My shelf-stocking days were long behind me. Why don't you have any ambition? You do understand that trolling women online won't make you any more of a man, right? Actually taking charge and doing something with your miserable life might, however. Also, you attach an "lmao" and an "lol" to every post. Nothing that I'm saying is that amusing. It's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 06:01 AM |
| 7 | Pickme-itisHaha digging thru my profile y’all really are some crazy fat bitches You're a grown man who works a job meant for teenagers. A crazy fat bitch is the best you could hope to get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:53 AM |
| 5 | Pickme-itisThat’s your response? He’s right. Dieing or dying, you’re gonna be lonely lol Your last post was about how miserable you are at your job at a Kroger grocery store. I'm going to guess that life has not been kind to you. If you need to tell yourself that the meanie lady will have a horrible life to make yourself feel better, I'll let you have it. Also clean-up on aisle three! :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:50 AM |
| 8 | Pickme-itisDeep down you know you are dieing inside. It's "dying." A fucking red squiggly underline appeared when you wrote "dieing." The machine literally told you that you were wrong and yet you still didn't correct it. Even with technological intervention, your illiteracy found a way to make itself known to the masses. That sort of willful pig ignorance is almost impressive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:43 AM |
| 4 | Pickme-itisThank you, "EndlessPatriotism." If I was low-IQ and low value, I'd probably need subs like The_Donald and MGTOW too. Keep blaming women and minorities for all your problems, though! It's totally their fault, has nothing to do with the baseline laziness and general mediocrity you've had since birth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:40 AM |
| 14 | Pickme-itisI can see that. I think libfeminism attracts a lot of narcissists, i.e. "I'm ALWAYS perfect just the way I am, even if I have the same hygiene as a gross dude incel and have more hair in my armpits than I do on my head." Conversely, like you pointed out, RPW snatches up the low self-esteem crowd, i.e. "you have no value outside of what you can do for a dude so your whole damn life better be about maxing out your 'femininity,' because we know that brain of yours is defective by virtue of your gen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:31 AM |
| 6 | Ditching RedPillWomen for this sub. I think I’ve finally found my people.For a second I misread your post and thought the bullet points were you giving a (supposed) rundown of FDS logic and was about to be all oh-HELL-naw. :-P | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Ditching RedPillWomen for this sub. I think I’ve finally found my people.I just posted a comment about how I wish RPW would find there way away from that bullshit and into FDS. WELCOME SIS! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 05:03 AM |
| 13 | Pickme-itisI read The Surrendered Wife - okay, I skimmed it, also it was from the library, no I absolutely did not pay that author money - out of curiosity because sure, I'll look at things from different perspectives. They worship an era in history that only existed for like two decades, i.e. the late 40s post-WWII into the late 60s, and act as if it's the true way men and women were meant to live. This was an era of extreme financial prosperity for the country at large, which meant only one spouse needed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 04:59 AM |
| 6 | Pickme-itisbecause their SMV is declining I respect your perspective, but this is manosphere propaganda not rooted in truth. Relevant sidebar link. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 04:40 AM |
| 12 | Pickme-itisDo they know what a "queen" is? They do understand that real life queens throughout history have ruled empires on their own, right? They know the queen of England is the one calling the shots and not her husband, right? They don't want to be queens, they want to be princesses. I was fine being a "princess" when I was 5-years-old and the person who saw me that way was my father, but I'm grown now and would prefer to be a queen, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/19 04:35 AM |
| 12 | Pickme-itisI mean, I think in another life, we all could have ended up RPW. Something happened to give us the self-esteem and confidence to pursue an FDS way of thinking. Not all women were as lucky and society is fucked. Hate the ideology, pity the women who fell for it (with a caveat: I have less sympathy for the mods/thought leaders). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 06:33 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to this situation in a high value way?Yes, but should you not tell someone what went wrong when dumping them? No. He went three weeks without seeing her. He treats her time and emotions as if they belong to him. He knows what's wrong. She owes him nothing and she owes herself everything. If she has never spoken up about this means he feels shes contempt and has never needed to change his behaviour. If thats the case should we not tell the dude ? No. We shouldn't. Ever. He knows what he did and he kept doing it because he thought he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:25 PM |
| 4 | Girl Game: Can we talk about First Date outfits - what are your bombshell outfits that lets the guy know you're the prize?If we can afford it why not. Because your money could make more money instead of depreciating in your closet. Blowing cash on frivolous shit is Pickmesha nonsense. Spend your money how you want, I would just never spend my own money on designer shit. Any designer shit you obtain should be a gift. Let's just say I own diamonds and nice jewelry but the only jewelry I've ever purchased with my own money was of the $2 flea market variety. If no one is buying your expensive stuff yet then fake it 'ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to this situation in a high value way?But, you need to tell him your boundaries. This would sound more like a demand of what you expect from him rather than how he made you feel. No, I'm sorry. Have an upvote because I don't like the downvote-to-disagree trend on this sub, but this statement is wholly incorrect... and I say that with respect. If you have to tell a man your boundaries, it means he's not respecting your boundaries, which means you shouldn't be bothering with him in the first place. Never. Fucking. Chase. Ever. Period.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 04:54 PM |
| 12 | Girl Game: Can we talk about First Date outfits - what are your bombshell outfits that lets the guy know you're the prize?I have a dress I've worn to many an expensive restaurant with many an expensive man. Always get compliments, always get told what a fucking goddess I look like in it. Local thrift store, $10, then I had it tailored for another $15. Can't believe it's not Gucci! XD Invest in your appearance, but do it the smart way and save as much moolah as possible. Men want us to blow our money on the fancy $500 serum when the $10 one does the same job and they want us to spend half our income on fashion when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 04:37 PM |
| 17 | Girl Game: Can we talk about First Date outfits - what are your bombshell outfits that lets the guy know you're the prize?Expensive accessories are a must. You want it to be clear you are at least upper middle class and will be receiving appropriate gifts from him. I agree and disagree. I don't think any woman who's in a lower tier financially should be spending her own money on designer goods. That's how society keeps us down, by telling us we need to buy the luxury good even if we can't make rent this month. Men are told to invest their extra cash, we're told to blow it at Sephora. My best "beauty advice" to any … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 04:21 PM |
| 27 | Pickme-itisI don't even know. Maybe the ones who are new to it could be persuaded. I clicked over there out of morbid curiosity and clicked the top post, their "self-improvement" monthly thread. It's time for confession y'all! Have you made any oopsies that you need to talk out? How are your monthly goals going? Do you have any accomplishments that you worked hard for and want to share? This thread is for owning up to what you've done this month so far. Check in and let us know how your goals from "Monthly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 03:52 PM |
| 15 | Just some Incels discussing doxxing women on reddit, nbd.I've always been so amused by men (and libfems) who get pissy about The Rules. It's literally a self-esteem manual. The tl;dr of it is "don't put up with bullshit and respect yourself because you're worth it." Whereas, what is the tl;dr of The Game or shitty pick-up manuals? "Break down a woman's self-esteem and use psychological manipulation to trick her into sleeping with you even though you're aware it's not really what she wants." Seriously, society is mad about our dating strategy shit? The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 03:44 PM |
| 13 | Pickme-itisI see your point, but I never defended "trad" women, just said that I understood the psychology behind how that whole movement came to be five years ago or so when liberal feminism was having its moment unchecked. I was just playing devil's advocate. Here, I'll do it for libfems: After women being completely shit on in committed relationships for literal fucking centuries, they adopted a very extreme ideology that was a result of extremely bad behavior on the part of men. Don't agree with them, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 03:35 PM |
| 23 | Pickme-itisYes, yes, yes. Huge yes energy to everything you just said. Libfems are a lost cause in my humble opinion. But I'll be honest, when I see a naive clueless girl making her first post on RPW, I see a potential FDS rockstar who just needs to be steered in the right direction. You're frustrated by the current hell that is dating as a woman? Cool, so are we, but we're no one's doormats. Come this way honey. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 03:17 PM |
| 1 | How to respond to this situation in a high value way?I respectfully disagree with "do not contact me again!" That'd be fine if you were ending a friendship with a woman (although tbh I'd never be that callous to a woman) because she'll take you at your word. Men just hear a challenge when we tell them to fuck off. The "do not contact me again" is implied when he eventually hits you with a late night "wyd" and gets an automated reply that this person cannot receive his messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 03:14 PM |
| 115 | Pickme-itisIn a way I almost pity this brand of Pickmesha, the Red Pill Woman/"traditional" type, because I think it's a weird reaction to liberal feminism. Like all of a sudden there's these women telling them to not have relationships and instead just have tons of casual sex, when they've spent their whole lives fantasizing about being a wife and mother. They're on the defensive because they think someone is coming for their dream life. And let's be real, the libfem bashing of homemakers or SAHMs is disg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 02:46 PM |
| 20 | Pickme-itismister2inchdriller I can't roast you any harder than you've roasted yourself champ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 02:36 PM |
| 8 | Girl Game: Can we talk about First Date outfits - what are your bombshell outfits that lets the guy know you're the prize?My style muses are a mix of 50s actresses and 90s models. Thankfully, both of those looks are quite in vogue at the moment. A high waisted trouser and a scoop neck form-fitting tee is great for drinks. A little black dress will never fail you as well. I don't really gravitate towards that Kardashian-esque Insta baddie thing, but I respect the hell out of any woman who can pull it off. I like to mix retro silhouettes with modern styles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 02:27 PM |
| 9 | How to respond to this situation in a high value way?You should tell him what you wrote here. That you were looking forward to your date, seeing him and giving him is present and it felt like he pulled the rug from under you when he cancelled. What? No, no she should absolutely not do any of that. This goes against all good advice in this sub! If he gave a shit that he was hurting her, he wouldn't have done shit that hurt her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 02:15 PM |
| 13 | How to respond to this situation in a high value way?I had his birthday presents to give Do you have the receipts? Get your money back. Otherwise either keep them for yourself or give them away if it's something like a cologne. Got a cool brother or father? Make his day. His access to those gifts expired when the clock struck midnight and it was no longer his birthday. I think it's my fault, as I never speak up when I'm upset and always pretend I'm okay. You think it's your fault, but I have some great news: It's not your fault. How do I respond i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 02:07 PM |
| 6 | Whether I’m an “alpha widow” or an idiot... I really, REALLY need help getting over this dude.alpha widow Sweetie, no! No no no no no no no! Please never use manosphere lingo again. Flush it all out of your big smart brain because you're better than those basement dummies. You're no one's widow and he was no fucking alpha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 06:02 AM |
| 12 | liberal feminism taught me that casual sex is “empowering” and all it did was lead to me feeling crushedSex empowerment types are so fucking privileged while being the same types of people to scream at others to check their privilege. They think sex work and casual sex is empowering because they grew up rich in the suburbs where they were at a very low risk of being trafficked. Go to a very low income neighborhood and ask an impoverished woman who was coerced into sex work as a girl how "empowered" she felt about the ordeal. You'll probably find her in a shelter or under a bridge high on drugs bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:55 AM |
| 19 | liberal feminism taught me that casual sex is “empowering” and all it did was lead to me feeling crushedAm I supposed to pretend watching an 18 year old get sexually abused on film is “empowering” because y’all said so? "Sex work is empowering!!!" is the absolute worst mantra of mainstream feminism. How about "I'm no one's fucking whore?" (Although I'm sure the handmaidens of the "sex positivity" movement would see that as slut-shaming, which is sheer lunacy) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:48 AM |
| 5 | liberal feminism taught me that casual sex is “empowering” and all it did was lead to me feeling crushedthat casual sex is not empowering for men Oh no, it's absolutely empowering for men, that's just how their brains are wired. But they're empowered enough and we should empower ourselves by not giving it to them freely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, don’t tell men about how bad your ex treated you.Oh my God, this, everything you just said. Also thank you for making me have to go look up a word in the dictionary, "acculturated" has now been added to my vocabulary. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:38 AM |
| 29 | Always an occasion to treat yourselfMight be an unpopular opinion, but I'm not into this. Too much energy for someone I'm thank-you-next-ing. I'll do a salon and spa day to prep for the girl's night I'm going on after I've dumped and blocked over text. Petty is never cute, mostly because it's a sign that you really really really care while yelling to the world about how you don't give a fuck. Queens aren't petty, they're ruthless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/19 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Some MRA posted, downvoted, and screenshot a his own post and called us out on FBI love this subreddit for the advice and the fixing-each-others-crowns energy, but I can only pop in once or twice a day, usually during morning coffee and maybe before bed. I would not have time to run some Facebook group or to try to dupe some MRA subreddit for screenshots. I've said it before and I'll say it again, these "Alphas" sure do have a lot of fucking time on their hands. XD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:46 AM |
| 6 | Some MRA posted, downvoted, and screenshot a his own post and called us out on FBThere's literally nothing we're saying that's hateful. > Although we encourage valid criticism of our male counterparts, any “KiLL AlL tHe MeNz” posts will be removed and you will be banned. You can say the most heinous shit about women in a Red Pill/MGTOW/Incel form and you will literally get upvoted. I'm also pretty sure that most of us are saying "moid" tongue-in-cheek and ironically, since it's literally a play on what they call us! I can't. I can't with their lack of self-awareness. However… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Some MRA posted, downvoted, and screenshot a his own post and called us out on FBMaking up false allegations about false allegations LOL, I didn't even clock the irony of that. Good catch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:38 AM |
| 12 | Some MRA posted, downvoted, and screenshot a his own post and called us out on FBMEN: Spend a decade creating multiple internet subcultures with convoluted strategy guides on how to fool women into sleeping with them, in addition to sub-subcultures devoted to suggesting that women should all be raped, forced into sex slavery or killed. Most of them genuinely hate women. Many posts are about how much they hate their own mothers and sisters or how every single woman in their life proves their hateful ideology to be true. WOMEN: Create a handful of small forums devoted to advic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:36 AM |
| 6 | Gen Z ladies making us proud 🥺🥺Absolutely agree, but using the term slut-shaming doesn't suggest that the woman in question is a slut, but rather shames the bad players involved for accusing her of being that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/19 06:18 AM |
| 103 | Sisters from those generations deserve betterImagine being so pressed that your ex-wife took the lake house and the Buick in the divorce that you join a sad internet misogynist subculture full of virginal 19-year-olds despite the fact that you're a 55-year-old man with three adult kids. Put the Bud Light down and do a fucking sit-up, Richard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Thanks to TRP and FDS, I deleted all of my OLD profiles> I'm not going on another date until I've lost at least 50 pounds. Men think of me as either subhuman or just a cum rag, and I find myself settling for shitty attention over no attention. That won't change until my weight does. That's just a reality. Loving the realness of this sentiment because "you're perfect the way you are!!1!!!" pick me feminism is bullshit. Humans are visual and we all deserve to be the absolute best versions of ourselves. Life's too short to not feel like you're making t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Should I break it off with him?I even DMed a girl from his Instagram profile who he was friends with in Highschool and she said he’s one of the nicest people ever Honey. Don't do stuff like that. It makes you look desperate and weird. Your goal is to be cool and aloof, not a private investigator who's been on the case for weeks before the first date. Sometimes I leave his snapchats on read just to see how he reacts and he usually double snaps me, so it gives me the vibe that he cares I know nothing about Snapchat because I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Sympathy For Pickmeshas?When you try to tell them 'sis, he's not interested leave it', they get all defensive This | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 05:08 AM |
| 28 | Moid wrote me a long, angry message lolHe's mad at older women because he's sick of his mother yelling down to the basement for him to get a job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:57 AM |
| 55 | Gen Z ladies making us proud 🥺🥺Love the energy of this, but if this were my little sister or niece, I would want the boy's mother to hear his slut-shaming abusive bullshit. (Although, then again, the world is full of Pickmesha Mommies who say "not my pwecious angel!" to anything their pimply little sons do.) Definitely something the school should hear about too. Women have to deal with enough of this bullshit in adulthood with virtually no recourse, girlhood should be a safe zone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:47 AM |
| 11 | Do you want closure or do you want to see if he came up with enough lies to get you to settle?Ehhh. I respect the IDGAF energy of a good "K," but if you have read receipts on, he knows you got it. But that's not to say a "K" is bad. A "K" is still pretty great. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 04:41 AM |
| 37 | Do you want closure or do you want to see if he came up with enough lies to get you to settle?Without a doubt. This is why the best response to a breakup text is silence. Don't feed his ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/19 05:40 PM |
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