981AG Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
16	Do I acknowledge her birthday?		981AG	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/23 11:25 PM

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5	Separated and Struggling It’s like death and rebirth…….over and over . Don’t figure it out ……just live each day as a newborn……one day you will reading and typing to some body you never met offering bad advice.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/25 05:34 PM
3	Time for divorce? She is by your definition “vanilla”and you want some flavor in your life. There is a shelf life to passion and lust and it takes women to know that. You have an underdeveloped bored teenager that is rooming with you and being a mom {as she should} to her 2 children. There seems to be no incentive for her to make some real choices. A divorce is always dynamite and blows up all the easy choices and you cant toss it around without some damage…..an intentional separation with clear boundaries is ver…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/25 02:32 AM
4	Who's Trash is That in Your Truck? The broken parts heal stronger and feel powerful. One woman’s garbage is a man’s treasure.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/25 12:16 AM
6	She pulled the plug while it was my weekend with the kids Go contact 10 of the best divorce lawyers……Move into the house…….immediately separate the accounts and retain a lawyer. Quit writing about your mental health issues and begin seeing a therapist. Just do 1 of these and your life will change.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/11/24 07:42 PM
7	My son wants me to take care of my sick ex-wife You dont need to help your ex-wife in anyway whatsoever…….you may want to help your son with a wake up call of reality….fill in some of the details that he is un aware of and help him to see the gift of delegation of resources when dealing with health crisis. His alliance with you is a fringe benefit …..healthy care giving and boundaries are possible for his self interest	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/24 02:05 AM
3	Is a marriage with chronic issue salvageable? I have been married for 32 yrs and my wife had a doubled edged razor attitude around the divorce declaration. She would demand changes upon creating a problem and then announce my lack of understanding of the problem as the reason for the divorce….we would end up in the therapist office working on “communication” issues…..cycle this scenario around a few dozen times and mix in 2 children and life and career and you have the first 10yrs of my marriage. Therapist are very happy to keep you weekly …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/09/24 09:59 PM
10	It’s done Every word written here has some skin and heart attached to it… I have nothing to offer that will ease your pain…..except. Savor every second of this moment in your life ….die a thousand deaths drowning in your own personal hell…and wake up and do it again…..this to shall pass and one day it won t be the same as the day before. No one on the internet has a solution to anything you are experiencing…you will experience your own pain and solution and some day you will see your self in the words of …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/09/24 09:49 PM
5	My wife mentioned divorce You sound like a focused and strong willed young man…….and someone who is afraid to be lonely….. When she leaves you {she is leaving you} that is the end of your project to save her and no more will she need your focus and wisdom….. You are confusing relationships with marriage….you dont need marriage. Marriage is a business contract that sucks for men You need relationships…the place where you learn and burn….grow together and figure out the struggles that are worth your time. This marriage is …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/24 05:05 PM
11	Shitty way to bring up divorce. You don’t cope …you fall apart and come together in different directions……….this is your time to fall apart….more information to follow..	/r/Divorce_Men	28/05/24 05:15 PM
2	Divorce is final. Ex trying to come back You are dealing with hearts and brains….there is no medication for hearts except time and experience……the brains are another story….if. She has BPD there are excellent pathways to explore that SHE must willingly choose and want for herself 1st….then you have to witness and experience the changes as positive …how do I know this? 30 yr marriage broken many times with cycles of love and un-loved……I am still in the game wiser and stronger and confident that her brain was at the core of the many cycl…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/24 07:24 PM
2	Watching your wife go from your partner to your adversary is one of the most insane things I can imagine Men experience physical and psychological change …in that order. Women experience emotional and physical change….in that order Men must unwind neurons and dendritic action within the brain and that includes separation….you are feeling your brain change..with your body…it hurts…. Women change with their intuition…it very difficult for us men replace her intuition	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/24 01:25 AM
4	What are some signs you saw in the beginning but ignored that later contributed to the reason to your divorce If the captain of the Titanic had the exact location of the Iceberg could he have avoided it….is that is what you asking? You want the warning signals are of a troubled marriage on a divorced site ? The gift of marriage is it takes you in directions you would never choose and you happily go The best advice would be given by consulting an attorney who would explain the marriage license contract. As a couple go to a family law attorney for 2 hrs and have them [in detail] explain exactly what you a…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/24 11:35 PM
11	My wife Nobody needs to help this person have an easy life……send her walking	/r/Divorce_Men	07/01/24 02:19 AM
7	Wife asked me to move out this morning… It won’t be easy ….stay put …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/24 06:41 PM
3	Unsure how to move forward or if the situation is salvageable No you dont have the strength to do all that will be asked of you ….nobody goes into a marriage with the intent and full wisdom needed to leave that marriage. You have everything needed to develop a new compacity to do what is right for yourself and project that to your 4 yr old. I am sorry that this is a possibility in your life at this moment…..it is not comfortable to be with the person you hoped would always be your life partner…..	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/23 02:28 AM
7	Unsure how to move forward or if the situation is salvageable This marriage is over…..the dream time is done and its time to wake up. No joke ..your gonna shed some skin and grow into someone you never thought possible. End this with the kindness of a consultation of a good family lawyer…..give her the freedom to make any and all choices without you dragged into her chaos	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/23 08:48 PM
10	Wife wants me to move out for the month of January, anything I should be concerned about from a legal perspective? Do not move out …under any circumstances. Another suggestion might be an treatment program to support her alcohol issues…. This would serve on multiple levels as a treatment baseline moving forward in any child custody issues.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 11:47 PM
10	I sat on a bench for 7 hours One day at a time……you will fill that empty shell with a man that has experience with emotional strength. You just put some time in on growth…its gonna happen for awhile…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/11/23 03:34 AM
4	I GOT MARRIED TO PROCREATE... now I have a beautiful child but realize there's no connection (AT ALL) with my wife. The world will provide what you ask for and what you need….a sense of grandiosity of self often aches for real connection but lacks emotional bandwidth to receive……..if you really want some connection then you must provide some room within. You wanted a baby mama and arm candy …you got what you wanted ……indulge your self some more with your titles and family accolades…..lets see where that takes you,	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/23 07:37 PM
1	I am no longer attracted to my wife. Should I leave? You should definitely not be married	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/23 04:00 AM
2	Terrified of failing OK it seems like you may be ahead of yourself….do you want to end the marriage or just feel appreciated? If you are looking for support for divorce this would be the place and you will get plenty with facts and figures on how to win. You mentioned bipolar and that is a another subject all unto itself…she sounds like she is triggered and having some mania and you are too burnt out from working long hours to respond in the language she responds best. Nothing good will come from that place and it i…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/23 12:33 AM
2	Do I acknowledge her birthday? This simple question of acknowledging her birthday has been a journey for me. I have found every emotion exists truthfully in each person. There is no answer that is correct or right. Your position with your wife is probably impossible to reconcile in your brain and yet there it is stuck on your heart. I feel for you because I am in a similar position. Human beings are messy and perfect all at once. The birthday was acknowledged and because of that we are talking on a new level. A kinder and mor…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/23 06:49 PM
1	Do I acknowledge her birthday? The follow through on this question is …I did email Happy Birthday and I am still feeling my own autonomy and boundaries. There was a relief in knowing I am moving …maybe forward or sideways but i moved. By reaching out to y’all and accepting my own fate I found a part of living that I have missed. So maybe the question isn’t just in need of answering. The asking was a big work. A lot of y’all have been further down the road of divorce and have wisdom that I may be unable to witness ……thanks for…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/23 11:46 PM
2	Do I acknowledge her birthday? It goes back to “Just say No”	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/23 09:11 PM
5	Do I acknowledge her birthday? The words could be said to anybody …its the fact that we said them to each other for so long they took on a different meaning. I will give it a go.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/23 01:41 AM
2	Do I acknowledge her birthday? Thanks …..the simple experiences of living in a relationship get confusing	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/23 11:44 PM