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its not indecision, thats her default behavior. shes the type to push/pull etc. if you want to pursue an LTR with this woman you'll need to raise your SMV to the point she has no other choice but to try and lock you down. either that or you're playing a waiting game for her SMV to nosedive, whereby she'll end up with you as a safety net.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:39 PM
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could be legitimate, probably isn't lol you did the right thing. ghost her and work on your other options, if she comes around great, if she doesn't oh well, wasn't going to develop into what you wanted anyways
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:29 PM
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she doesn't want to share your dick, but at the same time she doesn't want to be locked down. and the name thing is standard, plenty guys call pump-and-dumps babygirl or whatever, just eases the interaction. the family part is anybody's guess but trust, its purely sexual
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:23 PM
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actively find another girl, and go hiking with the new girl. you won't completely forget about your lying ex, but you'll get over your negative feelings, and you'll enjoy hiking again
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:12 PM
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Cause she knew I wanted more that was the blue pilled part. and shes getting sex, you're getting sex, the situation is fine. her intention is simple, she wants sex, don't read too much into it
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:09 PM
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for some girls you're gonna have to do the bulk of leading the conversations because their social skills are shot. if you really keep running out of stuff to say, you need to get better at going off on tangents. one thing should lead to another thing to another thing and so on, -talking about music -> reminds you about a concert you went to -> -talking about the concert -> reminds you about another event you went to -> talking about another event, etc to transition, just say "that kinda reminds …
/r/askTRP10/12/19 10:06 PM
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this is top comedy honestly lol. she feels that you dont care about her (understandably) and feels that you care more about several other girls. the contacts is all she needed to come to this rationalization your explaining was a huge fuckup bro, that shit never works and its why you failed. you thought at the time you were defusing the situation but really you were just giving yourself more rope to hang yourself with. you need to re-read the DARE vs DEER thing in the sidebar so this kinda situa…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 09:51 PM
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ah i see, but you also stated that she had other behaviors that also were no-go's. i might be wrong but consider which is more likely: her changing these multiple behaviors that you don't agree with that she's already been doing or her having a useless "communication" about your relationship, relapsing into bad behaviors, and gaslighting you about how these behaviors don't really matter i'm betting on the latter, but hey go with your gut
/r/askTRP10/12/19 09:21 PM
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its over. the behavior is repetitive by your own admission. if she didn't change then why would she change now? for your response, when she comes over, just start being overly sexual. if you can end up fucking her, afterwards you can just say "are you good now?" which will likely be your best bet for her fixing her bad behavior. if none of this works, then relationship is dead-end, and you just got your confirmation.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 09:06 PM
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it does impact smv, simply because you can objectively say "id look better without acne than with acne". despite this don't let it get to your head, just because you have acne doesn't mean your dick doesn't work lol you can still get girls just be on your A-game and stay on that accutane *for directly how much, probably -3 for severe cystic, -0.5 for ordinary blackheads/pimples/whatever
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:35 PM
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"Hey this is Susan/Mary/Jennifer this is my boyfriend Daniel135790", then you say hi and they might ask some questions like where you goto school, whats your major, any jobs, regular conversation stuff
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:31 PM
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for 1) you need to progress slowly. start with reciprocating IOI's (looking back when a girl's staring at you) to innocuous openers "hey do you know where _____ is" to random compliments "hey nice shirt". i feel like you have severe hangups on basic interactions but the more you do the little things, the entire process will feel less strange. for 2) you need to understand the importance of cliques. in all groups there are mini-groups, sometimes even as small as 2 or 3 people that function within…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:29 PM
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you could try making an excuse where you have to leave early due to "-insert whatever you come up with". that way you can get to the party, be shown off by your gf, talk a little bit with the standard introductions, and leave. thats all she really wants anyways, and you won't have to waste your time with the other nonsense. as for what you should expect, ask where its being held, you'll know if its going to be hype or chill based on the venue most times. shit tests wont be overt most of the time…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:20 PM
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"yea go ahead" 2 weeks, you're both still in school, there's probably no way you can say "no" without her gaslighting you as jealous/overprotective. if you're 100% confident you can talk your way through it, then outright reject it. if you don't already have other options, start looking for some. this might be nothing, but better to be safe than sorry.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:14 PM
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try walking around with a ring. if you notice more IOI's, you have your answer.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:41 PM
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since its a behavior that shes likely done before, you're going to have to tell her or she'll never know. for the inevitable oversensitive remark, agree and amplify, ex. "you're right your snapchat story is giving me an emotional wreck" with fake crying then laughing
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:28 PM
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start stripping or become an escort lol
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:16 PM
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if shes truly naive, establish the boundary. "hey that's not cool, chill on that" if she's playing naive, this will backfire, as she'll gaslight you as being oversensitive, so choose carefully.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:15 PM
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Besides dread: Withholding affection (less kisses/hugs/etc) Withholding attention (when around her, focus on other things) Withholding time (fill in your schedule with more activities that don't include her)
/r/askTRP10/12/19 07:07 PM
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the plate's either broken or cracked. if its broken, nothing you do will matter, and she'll reject your advances. if its cracked, your arrangement will continue on, noticeably worse, with her being more annoying, more distant, and constantly reminding you of your fuck-up. either way its time to start looking for new options.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:56 PM
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i personally believe your original assumption was correct, being funny shows social intelligence. being able to fit in a group, make people comfortable, and have people value your company is huge. your described "real reason" might be correct, but only to the extent that its a consequence of the original reason.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:50 PM
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it could be, or they could be socially skilled and it could just be banter. if your game is sharp, eventually they'll be pulled in if they have any interest, or the conversation will clearly become dead-end if they have no interest.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:30 PM
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there's the context you should've included in the OP. you should definitely continue doing what you're doing.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:27 PM
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or its a good amount of a push and she likes when he does it. its impossible to know which is the case without context, but i think he should stay on the side of "too much push" rather than over-correct and go to "too much pull"
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:19 PM
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i prefer: your frame = your reality. other people's frame = their reality. when you're joking and negging someone ("you're so slow i could out-race you with a broken leg") and they start reacting seriously ("there's no way you could beat me i'm a state champion"), they're entering your frame, where the jokes are real and substantiated, and they feel the need to qualify themselves to "disprove" the jokes. if they stayed in their frame, where the jokes clearly have no basis in fact, they wouldnt f…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 06:13 PM
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you're a plate lol on a serious note they probably have another guy they're talking to, just smirk and say "can't have you getting in trouble"
/r/askTRP10/12/19 05:49 PM
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ghost. she knows you're leaving, yet did it anyway. if you act chill, shes liable to do it again. if you ghost, at worst she knows you value your time, at best shes wondering if you're out with another girl. should be clear which is the better course of action.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 05:30 PM
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for the title, yes eventually you will get used to the "new you". for managing it, you need to see that the IOI's are real by talking to the girls. once you start seeing that some of them are receptive, you'll start having less doubts and more confidence. to stop being anxious around hot girls start talking to them. even if they end up as dead-end conversations, talking to them will make you realize that they're only human.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 05:12 PM
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try surrounding yourself and hanging out with people have jobs/hobbies that you respect/admire. anytime they don't show you "enough" attention or are taking too long to respond, you'll be able to tell yourself its because they're actually doing something important, unlike in the cases of your plates where you don't really know what the reason is which is causing your frame to nosedive. over time you'll be more comfortable not getting a large amount of attention, and your ego will level out.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 05:04 PM
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cart before horse man, get a better fake id. ask your friends, ask their friends, ask people in your class, whatever. you have 2 years that you're gonna almost certainly need it so may as well get it now. for how to act, relax man its pretty hard to screw up in a drunk atmosphere just have fun
/r/askTRP10/12/19 04:41 PM
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like the other person said, the downplaying of facial attractiveness. your face matters, alot. do as much as you can to improve it and you'll see huge effects
/r/askTRP10/12/19 04:33 PM
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get close to her, make her laugh or smile a few times, pull her in, kiss her. if she avoids you getting close and/or pulling her in, you know you aren't getting the kiss. you can then back off, and you won't end up looking like an idiot.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 04:30 PM
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yea its normal, just not productive. instead of feeling guilty over saving your valuable time, go back to doing what you were doing before, setting up dates with girls and seeing where those lead to
/r/askTRP10/12/19 04:15 PM
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from the op, it felt like a comfort test to me. from his reaction to maintain frame, i'm assuming he handles most things that way, and the girl has rationalized to herself that he doesnt care about her. going out should fix that without him having to actually say that he cares about her. *also i specified "if she has fun it'll blow over". if the behavior continues, he should start looking for other options
/r/askTRP10/12/19 04:04 PM
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ah you're right, you can get a boost without results. i should rephrase that if you want to raise your self-esteem & confidence long-term, you'll need the positive results that come from whatever it is that you're doing. for the discipline part, i fully believe that if you stick to something long enough, you'll require less energy to initiate it, regardless of reason. someone with a trivial reason of going to the gym (b/c they have one nearby) that has gone to the gym 3x a week for 2 years will …
/r/askTRP10/12/19 03:51 PM
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since your schedule is filled up, you'll have to talk to them during regular school hours. im going to assume you are around a few social circles that have girls in them in between or during classes. start teasing them and making jokes, you'll find openings to escalate with the girls that are into you if you can notice the signs *i didnt see the stop being a pussy part lol. start by saying stuff that has plausible deniability, then when you're sure they're into you, escalate. after enough succes…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 03:30 PM
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in the future, do this: "hey do you know where (whatever room you were looking for) is", -her response, "thanks" or "thanks anyway" then "ill see you around". and if you see her again, strike up a conversation.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 03:22 PM
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for the title, the key to self-esteem & confidence is positive results. if you see improvements in your life, you'll view yourself as a better person (self-esteem) and believe that you can accomplish more (confidence). for "am i getting this right", as long as you're doing the things that benefit you CONSISTENTLY you'll be fine. some people workout to look good in the mirror, some people workout to impress their crush, some people workout to feel healthy. the people that benefit the most are the…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 03:14 PM
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You are right that theyll keep you as a friend orbiter without any intention of fucking you ever again. The attraction can be gained back if you either: disappear for an amount of time (few months/years) and have increased your smv substantially during that time, OR disappear for a shorter amount of time (couple weeks/months) and she starts longing for the old relationship. Note that these situations aren't set in stone (she may have found a better option than you during this time). Also note th…
/r/askTRP10/12/19 02:57 PM
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take her out somewhere, concert, festival or whatever, if she has fun itll blow over. Don't try & "understand" why she's acting that way, could be a million reasons and she won't tell you the correct one.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 02:30 PM
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Short term - have multiple women, you'll get less jealous/care less knowing you have options. Long term - convince yourself the other men don't matter, self-confidence & self-delusion work equally well.
/r/askTRP10/12/19 02:21 PM
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"you're not ready" - one of my favorites, makes them qualify themself, easy to remember
/r/askTRP10/12/19 03:33 AM
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