| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 19 | "The Tinder Swindler" on Netflix is a parade of red flags 🚩🚩🚩Exactly without women being willing to admit that they were naive and risk public embarrassment the rest of us wouldn’t get to learn from them. I watch shows:podcasts like this and take actual notes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:35 AM |
| 42 | "The Tinder Swindler" on Netflix is a parade of red flags 🚩🚩🚩Anyone who tells you/ aggressively shows you that they are wealthy without first building trust is a red flag. The truly wealthy hide their wealth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:32 AM |
| 11 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.In an extreme example, weight loss and attitude change always remind me of Chris Watts. If your man goes from not exercising to gym rat for no apparent reason… he’s for the streets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:05 AM |
| 212 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateThe opposite of getting older is dying. I always remind myself of that when my patriarchal programming tries to make me feel guilty for being over 25. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 12:59 PM |
| 160 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildThe way it becomes their entire personality is just so annoying to listen too. Also what happened to sex/your sexual side being largely a private thing and also not your entire identity? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Please don't give them any more excuses..I’m from an abusive and neglectful household. And I taught myself everything I know. If you can’t afford therapy there’s plenty of resources about parenting yourself. Past a certain point in adulthood, people need to take responsibility for themselves. I’m not here to do that for a guy I’m dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Every day the bar descends deeper into hell...I lived with this for 6 years. I fooled myself into thinking sex wasn’t a big deal and I could live without it. By the end of the relationship I was so sexually frustrated, I would scream into a pillow (he was also abusive). He would literally finish then go to sleep. My self esteem was on the floor as I felt like a walking fleshlight. Then when we broke up, I engaged in some risky behaviour as I was so damaged from being trapped in a pleasureless (not sexless) relationship. Never ever ever agai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 03:21 PM |
| 2 | What a disgusting way to think! 😣 (Opinion on women cutting their hair short)When I left my abusive relationship. I cut my hair short. It’s grown back now (thank you Pandemic). But it truly felt like it launched me into the next phase of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:05 AM |
| 63 | Friendly reminder sis 💕✨And this is no reflection on your worth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:52 PM |
| 14 | Teenage girls are proud to be approached by college guys. They really believe they are ”the winners of the game”🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️When I had just turned 17, I lost my virginity to a 28 year old. I thought I was so mature for my age. The sex hurt and was solely about him. He then told me he had a baby that his ex wife had moved to Canada with. Now that I’m older than he was at the time, it messes with my head that a 28 year old slept with me when I was 17. I’ve literally had to work through it in therapy. These men are predators of the highest order. There’s nothing flattering about their attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:14 PM |
| 31 | Wife gives him a sex coupon and the first thoughts that cross his mind are abuse and humiliation.Ugh I’d rather never get married, than give someone my body to own (even for a day). So deeply disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:27 PM |
| 126 | Reminder: Never EVER build a man up. He will throw it all back in your faceIf I’ve learned anything from life or FDS, it’s men are the biggest gaslighters and projectors: only broke men or men (like this one) who benefit financially from being with a woman talk about goldiggers only men with nothing to offer an adult woman take relationship benefits but withhold commitment (their only bargaining chip) only ugly men call women ugly And the list goes on... the main takeaway is this if a man is repeatedly calling you something or won’t give you what you’ve begged and plea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:16 AM |
| 26 | Deleted all my dating apps todayI did this two months ago. I also blocked all the random men in my phone from my previous dating life (to stop all ‘I miss you texts’). And in the time I’ve gained back from not having someone’s racoon looking son bothering me for underwhelming sex, I’ve discovered a love for hiking. And a meetup group that also loves hiking. I’m experimenting with different art mediums and loving life. It might be a struggle to ever start dating again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:23 PM |
| 7 | Con men do.Kind men don’t tell you how nice they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:23 AM |
| 5 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?I completely agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:44 PM |
| 30 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?Further info about attachment style, boundaries and being alone and healing. Information about getting your emotional house in order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:21 PM |
| 47 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.Such awful flashbacks to the decade, I spent with my abusive ex. He’d push me to loose it then I’d be accused of being the abusive one. When I finally escaped, he sent me a video of me screaming and told me he’d take me back if I got the therapy I needed for being so abusive. I was so scared that I was an abusive monster. And although I didn’t go back to him, in my next relationship I suppressed myself as I was terrified of turning into the ‘abusive monster.’ 🙃🙃 Only after therapy have I realise… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 09:39 AM |
| 135 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Trigger warning on this comment His daughter had oil in her lungs (so was still alive when she was thrown in the tank). And his loyal and beautiful wife had a still birth while he was murdering her. He is the lowest of the low. WTF is wrong with these women? Do they think they can fix him? Or love the psycho out of him? Being an extreme pickme should be put in the next edition of the DSM as a mental disorder. Go👏🏼to👏🏼therapy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:28 PM |
| 15 | I know longer care and I finally feel free 👑Preach sis 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 08:13 PM |
| 20 | I know longer care and I finally feel free 👑*no longer not know longer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:17 PM |
| 5 | Types of PickMes and how to heal your inner oneThankfully we’ve both seen the light ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:44 PM |
| 23 | Types of PickMes and how to heal your inner oneOmg this is amazing. I feel like I was a multi- category pickme at the height of my pickme days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:40 PM |
| 3 | American murder, family next doorThis was me. I’ve dated this type three times (slow learner lol). And each one has tried to gut my self esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:00 PM |
| 17 | Just because a decision doesn’t feel good, that doesn’t mean it’s not the right one. Just because a choice is hard to make that does not mean you don’t have choicesExactly! I try and see it as ripping off a wax strip (sudden intense pain that eventually calms down) as opposed to painstakingly plucking each individual hair. Which prolongs pain and ends up more sore at the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 01:32 PM |
| 12 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.I took up tarot at a low point in my life. It has helped me get in touch with my intuition and taught me key life lessons like: Temperance- You can only pour from a full cup aka tend to yourself before you tend to others The Devil- Duality is within all of us and it’s important to truly know myself before trying to know someone else The Empress- The feminine is bountiful and beautiful The hermit- periods of reflection and solitude nourish the soul The Tower- you can always rebuild from the rubbl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 06:16 PM |
| 62 | My experience as a 33 old woman on Tinder - The wall is a lieI swallowed this lie. And it was part of the reason I stayed in a miserable and abusive relationship. I thought I was over the hill and would be alone forever ( I was 27 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️). Now I’m in my 30s and have never felt so comfortable in my own skin. It’s a horrible lie LVM tell us to trap us and keep us trapped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 36 | Keep yourself safe at all times.I have a rule (even in my pickme days). To never let a guy know where I live until at least 4-5 months of dating. And when going to their house for the first time, to do the following: 1. Turn on my live location on whatsapp and send it to a trusted girlfriend. Who’s been asked to alert someone if I haven’t been heard from in a day 2. Tell the guy I’m expected home and I’ve left their details (name and telephone details which I’ve verified by checking linkdin etc) with my housemate or trusted fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:42 PM |
| 13 | Come share some of the wisdoms your moms and grandmothers, or other strong female role models have said to you :) <3My grandma always said ‘ when the mistress becomes the wife, it leaves a vacancy.’ And a particular gem ( doesn’t translate that well into English) whenever a man is acting up or trying to be controlling ask yourself, ‘ Is he feeding my starving children?’ If not why does his word have any weight? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:17 PM |
| 11 | 99% of men aren't relationship material, but also...When I think that I almost reproduced with my abusive ex, my blood runs cold. Oprah does a series on daddyless daughters that opened my eyes ( as a daddyless daughter) about how the cycle perpetuates. I’ve been in therapy for a year now dealing with my self worth issues. And as much as I would like a baby. I will choose not to have one rather then carry on the cycle. My next partner is being throughly vetted. And only considered a worthy sperm donor after showing at least 2 years of consistent b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 03:54 PM |
| 40 | He's a virginSo I’ve taken 2 Virginities (both guys were around 25). Guy one- negged me horrendously. Told me I wasn’t pretty enough for him ( he was far from a looker). And blamed my ‘lack of a model body’ for why he’d struggle to finish. And not the fact he’d been death gripping his penis for years. Guy two- left me in the middle of a crisis because he was sad that he’d never got to sleep around and didn’t want to settle down with the first woman he’d ever slept with. Both were nerdy and socially awkward. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 9 | Yes, because not having sex with a man is definitely the same as domestic abuse.Your 👏🏼mediocre👏🏼penis👏🏼is👏🏼not👏🏼as👏🏼important👏🏼as👏🏼someones👏🏼life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:58 AM |
| 19 | Quick rant about the language used towards the woman a man didn’t choose.Exactly. I’d be furious if I found out the guy who had just ‘committed’ to me was taking gf benefits from another woman mere weeks before. Yet as a society we’re taught that woman A must have done something wrong to not be ‘chosen’ like woman b was. When the true problem is this weak ass man who has shown himself to be a selfish person who plays on people’s feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 57 | It’s always the best ones, isn’t it? 🤣🤣🤣When I was on OLD, it was always the least attractive men who would explicitly state that they, ‘ weren’t looking for anything serious,’on their profiles. Ugh acting like they have something that any decent women would take seriously | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 12:48 PM |
| 7 | No words.This abusive behaviour is probably the tip of the iceberg. I started overreacting to self soothe when living with my abusive ex. He’s the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:16 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed about letting go of angerThank you so much. This made me cry a little. I truly feel like I dodged a major bullet. And never, ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed about letting go of angerI really needed to hear that - thank you ♥️♥️♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed about letting go of angerThanks so much ♥️♥️♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 3 | Advice needed about letting go of angerThank you ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:28 PM |
| 13 | Advice needed about letting go of angerExactly. It actually makes me feel physically sick when I remember how much pressure he was putting on me to move out. He made me cry claiming to love me and only want the best for me. Even when I said that all financial reasons aside, I have a duty to not just leave my mother during a pandemic. He lives in a room, in a rough part of town, with a collapsed ceiling. His housemates don’t allow guests. So he totally, wanted a crash pad ( as I can afford a better place than his). Ugh it makes my ski… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:27 PM |
| 9 | Advice needed about letting go of angerThank you so much. I guess anything seemed better then outright abuse so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Never,ever again. Reading my post back, made me see (again) what an absolute loser he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 04:21 PM |
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