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Easy. “Do you agree to the recording of this phone call for legal purposes?“. Anything other than immediate “yes“ means end call. Put what you were gonna say in an email.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 12:22 AM
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I record phone calls too. I’ll play it back to jog the memory.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 07:58 PM
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Phone call is the most I would entertain
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 05:58 PM
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Great questions for an attorney
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 03:21 AM
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Просто делайте всё, что в ваших силах. На ваш вопрос существует множество правильных ответов. Мой лучший совет — попробуйте все эти разные решения и сосредоточьтесь на том, что помогает вам больше всего. Да, физические упражнения помогают. Наличие круга близких друзей тоже помогает. Даже любовь к ней — это естественно, но в конечном итоге вам придётся позволить любви к своим детям превзойти все остальные виды любви. Будьте терпеливы к себе и к своей ситуации. Примите всё как есть и не тратьте вр…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 01:34 AM
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He wants to be in love again as much as he’s scared of being hurt again. When you leave he’s scared of being alone again and wants to be back together. Every one of those things is true at once. If you love him force him to sit with himself by not letting him back right away. He hasn’t successfully worked on himself enough yet. Sounds like he’s a little bit too broken at the moment. However, if he can get to a better place then sure go for it but he’s not as ready as you are right now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 02:42 PM
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I wouldn’t give the 1k. I don’t know but I don’t want a paper trail to make it to court saying I now HAVE to pay that much. Maybe not in the form of a child support payment but now the allocation towards childcare, medical bills, extracurriculars might affect me more. The way I see it she can call me if she needs something and I’ll do what I can. It’ll be sporadic not anything that can look like a recurring payment.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 07:48 PM
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You’re right it’s not the best situation but it sounds like you’ve got some evidence that she’s losing it. I do wish you the best you sound like a great man to me. Keep showing up and fighting for your daughter and watch how it all works out!
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 02:37 PM
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If you want more than 50/50 then bring strong evidence that she’s mentally unfit. Ethically I would say only do this if she’s actually unfit to to have the kids otherwise it’s sort of cruel to take the kids just to take the kids. That’s woman behavior. After 20 years you know if it’s time to go. You’ve done all of the sticking it out you can do I think. 20 years is a long time. I’m sorry bro.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 01:41 PM
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Yeah just give it more time than you think it should take. He’s battling hard right now but with these things in place he’ll recover.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:24 PM
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Man you beat me to it but you’re dead on.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:16 PM
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Oh we’ve been there. Unfortunately, too many men died there. This is the advice I got that that I didn’t want to hear at the time but it was the truth…your only option is to barrel through it. I’m in a trade. Trust me I know your pain. I was calling out. Putting the tool belt and boots on at the crack of dawn was brutal. Nothing could take my thoughts away. Wasn’t eating right but was expected to carry more than I ever did. “Just get through it” made me want to blow my top on whoever said it. I …
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 04:16 PM
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Then it sounds to me like you’re doing about everything you can. He has a network, he has a hobby. The last thing he probably needs more than he thinks is focused therapy. I’m sorry but I commend you for doing the best you can. Therapy turned my whole view on life around.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 03:49 PM
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Get that man into therapy and get him to find a hobby. Especially one that doesn’t involve anybody related to anything he’s sad about. Some things are in your control but anything that’s not there’s usually a resource for. A question: how often does he get together with his friends?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:48 PM
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You’re cooked.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 02:08 PM
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There’s a lot of missing information here to be of help. A) What state are you both in? Some states are tougher against men than others. B) What is your occupation? Or hers? If you’re a travelling nurse or a pilot…pffffffft. C) Separate what you want/expect/hope for separate from reality if they start to differ from each other. You can’t “keep” anything as anything. You definitely can’t keep her reasonable if she one day decides not to be. The only person on earth that can agree on a parenting p…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 05:19 AM
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Yeah I was there like three or four months ago. So many men here have been put on suicide watch in a hospital. Over 50% of men report feeling suicidal during a divorce. Divorced men are 9.8x more likely to commit suicide over married men. I had to give my guns away because I thought I knew where I was headed. I was calling out of work because I wasn’t even getting out of bed. Crying until the point where I wasn’t even crying. It was a thousand yard stare in my own room at the wall at 1 am. I spe…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:57 AM
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Be also emotionally prepared for if she doesn’t say anything. If you do respond, respond kindly. And not because you like her but because anything that you say can be used in a court of law. For example in a situation with kids a response that seems like you may suffer debilitating depression going forward could be another piece of leverage in a custody battle. “The father has demonstrated in his own words that he anticipates that he will lack the mental health and emotional capacity to be trust…
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:30 AM
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The only way to really find out is to “try things”. Found out I am deeply in love with competition shooting. I love it much more than I loved being in my previous dead marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 07:05 PM
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Nope. Run. Run.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 10:51 PM
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Do not take the bait. May likely be the ol’ “bait and switch”. You get comfortable, she does something that causes you to fully spazz, click photo taken. Now she’s got you. Women are crafty like that because they have to be. They can’t fistfight us so they have to take the alternate routes.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 01:12 AM
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This is going to sound crazy but I think what works here is being happy for her and hoping she fully moves on. She was betrayed, and not fought for, and essentially told to leave. I might reach out one last time saying you didn’t meant things to go down how you did and that you wish her the best. There are long odds she’s ever coming back but that’s okay. Ask for forgiveness. As for you, you’ll be fine too. We learn from our mistakes. You never know you might find somebody else but I think the b…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 12:12 AM
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Wow. What a piece of work.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 08:02 PM
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You’re not a bad guy. You’re a man! 😅 It’ll bother you but it’s nothing. Women stick with women. They don’t care to take a man’s side or see his point of view in most cases. Just comes with it. Don’t let that knock you off your circle. Record those phone calls just in case other dude tries to buck up thinking he’s more special than he really is. Your ex was/is a piece of work. She’s not the victim. You’re doing a superb job as a father. You were the better partner. If anybody has anything to say…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 07:59 PM
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Yes, potentially. But… I am NOT a lawyer. You need to ask your lawyer. You have to act quickly. I’ll be honest without a lawyer it’s going to take a lot of intentionality and know-how on your part to represent yourself or better your situation. I’ve even know divorce attorneys to hire divorce attorneys. If it’s a BS order a good lawyer can get on this before the judge and potentially squash it. Even if he/she can’t stop the order the lawyer can make the court aware of what’s ACTUALLY happening s…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 06:27 PM
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Stressful but simple. Step 1) Lawyer up. Step 2) Remain in the house. Defend your position like the Alamo. Step 3) Either 50/50 minimum or kick all kinds of rocks. Have the lawyer fax that to her lawyer. Step 4) Buy me out this house or bust. We’re leaving it with me, or splitting it, but you can’t have it. Have the lawyer fax that too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 06:47 AM
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You get ahead of it. Don’t wait until the first birthday. If she’s telling you that then your best bet is to file first and go full “shock and awe” because if not you’re going to get hit. I bet several pay checks that she’s not going to wait until that first birthday.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 01:23 AM
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❤️
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 02:06 PM
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I don’t have an answer. May update later. 2 & 3 &4) Money problems are a pig catalyst for divorce. It sounds like when the finances are right this marriage might be saved. The trades may be his best option, at least in the interim. A good union tradesman can make more than enough money even starting out depending on the location. The main hurdle would be getting in if they too many people on the books/bench. 5) If it was known that she was lazy then she’ll feel jaded by being expected to work. I…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 02:01 PM
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Because depending on your jurisdiction if you move out you can kiss that house and anything of yours in it goodbye. You abandoned it in the divorce. It’s abandonment. Her lawyer and the judge will eat you alive on that. ANYTHING that you leave behind will be awarded to her. That includes the car you left in the driveway, the nice mower, the tools, everything. Especially if kids are in the home and “depending” on it. Kiss all that goodbye.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 11:37 PM
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I appreciate it Corpus 💙
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 10:05 PM
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Man I hope so. This is just pure grief. Never felt something like this before.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 10:04 PM
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This is insightful. Thank you for sharing brother
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:38 PM
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Amen.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:00 PM
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Yeah you and I know she’s out. But it’ll jolt OP into seeing everything for what it is, too. It’ll hurt bad but that’s exactly what it took for me. It’ll hurt worse dragging things out. That ultimatum will make things so abundantly clear there’s no denying it. Wife might even see it as her last chance and really turn things around. Unlikely after 4 years but not impossible.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 03:37 PM
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We can disagree. But not all ultimatums are bad. They’re definitive by nature. It seems like she’s saying one thing but doing the opposite and bringing confusion to the situation. The ultimatum brings clarity to OP. Sometimes it’s hard to see things for what/who they are until you make it very plain.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 02:39 PM
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Make a list of every complaint there is about the marriage. Show her the list. Plead one last time that work be done. If she refuses or gives a fluff reply then substitute that list for divorce papers. Because honestly if she doesn’t want to do the work it’s going to end the same way with her filing - maybe many more invested moons from now when the kids leave. If not that then you’re both stuck in a dead marriage for life. She’s gotta fix or sign.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:07 AM
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Nah don’t let that bum you out. If you were good to her and she’s not dumb then of course she feels that way. However, stay the course if it’s really for the best and enjoy your holiday.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:42 AM
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This is a tough one for me because this marriage, how I see it, could still have been salvaged. But like you said it takes two. This has been a four year deal and it appears that you’ve done more than your part. Consult with the attorney and see what your life will kind of look like to his/her best estimate. Of course consider the impact on your kids before filing. Line things up for the sort of custody agreement that best suits them. Pain is unavoidable here. Divorce is miserable but it also so…
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 05:40 AM
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Respectfully, the apps are your friend for this. Would hate to see this subreddit get flooded with divorced women looking for a quick rebound…right after a short-lived marriage. Literally a nightmare situation for us.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 04:56 AM
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Oh wow. Honestly good for you man! And I really mean that. I think so many men would love to get to the place that you’re at. I know that I would. Are you “atypical”? I don’t know, I would think maybe so but I don’t have evidence of that. But are you healthier? Maybe healthier mentally and emotionally? I would say certainly. I wish I could genuinely be so unaffected. I’m sure that you care for yourself and for your family, so this isn’t some sly remark of a comment I’m trying to make. But to get…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 11:19 PM
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Do you have kids? That plays a big part.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 11:07 PM
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Get a lawyer. Trust literally everyone here who’s been through it and knows what’s about to happen next.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 02:53 PM
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Hold that man tightly. First, see if he has any “favorites” give him plenty of it. This means favorite foods, favorite movies, favorite attraction in town, or even favorite thing during intimate times between you two. Pour love into him. If he does want space, allot that space. But just keep an eye on him. Please don’t get offended if he’s still a little bummed after your best efforts. It’s going to sting and it’s nothing you did. There are men that go through this with nobody around. They’ll si…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 12:36 AM
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The first thing that had to go for me was social media. Especially when it honed in on me and the keyword “divorce”. Like every other reel is some depressing reel about divorce or some mopey post about the girl or guy leaving. Ditch it. Best advice I got was to delete social media for a bare minimum of two weeks. I kept Reddit because it doesn’t spit depression at me unless I specifically look for something sad. Instead I find forums with men of a like situation with helpful advice. Social media…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 10:35 PM
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That’s awesome! Where did you meet her?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 12:38 PM
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FILE. FIRST. You’ll have plenty of time for reconciliation after filing but FILE FIRST AND FILE QUICKLY!!! The more time you leave, the more time she has to strategize and find any loophole she can to screw you. For example, if she decides to move states away and files before you then you’re cooked. You may have to go to court wherever she filed. File first. Get that out the way and then go from there. When you affect her bank account she will not remain civil. I don’t want my stbxw money but on…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 11:23 PM
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Man if you reach out I’ll get on the phone with you.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 11:16 PM
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Unless you did something egregious here then YOU didn’t fail. She did. Nobody’s perfect. If perfect is the metric to go by then every single man and woman is an utter failure. She likely has her own issues. She makes her own poor decisions. She puts herself in less than ideal situations based on being led by her own emotions. If these things are true then none of that is a reflection of YOU being the failure. You can control none of those things. You’re going to feel pain for a while. You’ll won…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 03:44 AM
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I fully respect that. Me too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 01:02 PM
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I though prostitution was illegal
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 03:55 AM
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A part of me wonders if it’s worth it to try. Was she your first match? Or the first match you met in person? If I may ask. And were matches frequent for you? I know some say they have difficulty matching.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/25 12:13 AM
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I’ll take your advice. Good looking out!
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 10:56 PM
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I…am in a small town 🙃 Two big cities an hour or less away though!
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 10:55 PM
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