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People are actually pretty simple. They can't hold a lot in their heads. Our brains are not built to make decisions, but are expert at justifying the ones we've already haphazardly made. No one wants to live with moral nuance. Everyone has an opinion about you and they are all wrong and there's nothing you can do about it. Put all that together and it's not about you. She's just doing what she needs to do to get through the day, and that means putting all the blame on you. It's best not to dwell…
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 12:05 PM
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I'm 55 and recently divorced and I have no interest in dating. I'd do it if I met someone organically and we clicked, but it really doesn't seem to be worth the effort of seeking out potential dates.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 04:25 AM
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I think a lot of people feel that way right after a divorce. I certainly do. I'm curious how many people feel that way five or ten years after a divorce. That would be more telling.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 05:23 AM
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There are also people you can trust to put themselves first. That's a kind of dependability. For example, my business partner stabs me in the back and is no kind of friend, but I can count on him to drive profits because he likes money.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 01:48 PM
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Yes. We can even enjoy using each other when our interests align.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 01:46 PM
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Ask my wife my son's favorite anime, or the backstory of any of his D&D characters, or how much he can bench press.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 08:28 AM
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I only had four million, and she never worked a day, but I'm thankful that there was enough money for each of us to still feel comfortable with half of it. Imagine how much worse it would be if you were both fighting for your lives.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:55 PM
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You've got a lot to learn, and fast. But you know how to do that.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:15 PM
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Small world, my ex is the same. But that's not our problem anymore. Stop thinking about it. She can put it under her pillow. She can burn it. Not your problem anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 07:47 PM
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I felt that way six months ago when my wife of 26 years did the same. Now the divorce is finalized, I'm happy with my share of the assets, and I have new friends and new hobbies. When I reflect on my marriage, I realize how many red flags I was ignoring in order to avoid being alone. Instead, I was living with someone who didn't care about me. I won't do that again. I'm also uncomfortable with the idea of dating again, so I don't. If it happens, it happens.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 03:07 PM
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If this is what gets you sober, finally, than it's worth $40k. One is money; the other is your life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 08:56 PM
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I just use her name now. Ex-wife feels like a different kind of relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 08:27 AM
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Why would I do that?
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 08:16 PM
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My ex is not the right person for me, but she's not a narcissist by a long shot. I don't think it's a good idea to diagnose other people as anything other than a) good for me or b) not good for me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 07:32 AM
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I said some unkind things to my wife twenty-five years ago. She never forgave me. It gnawed at her for decades, then she divorced me. We all make mistakes, and we grow and change. I'm a much better person now than I was twenty five years ago, but that doesn't matter. It was my fault, but it's her problem and this is how she choose to solve it. I wish her the best. I've moved on. Maybe now she can, too. It's not my business anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 09:58 AM
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I could take or leave the ring, but once the decision was made to divorce, I couldn't wait to lose the tan line on that finger.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 06:19 PM
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Boundaries.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 05:52 AM
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I put all my free time away from work into my family, while my wife put all her free time (she didn't work) into her friends. In retrospect, I realize that I have made a mistake, and I am working to rectify it. So far, no male acquaintance that I know has said no when I've invited them for a coffee or a meal. I am trying to do that at least once a week.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/25 06:59 AM
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I also still live with my wife as we're going through the divorce. There's no point in creating animosity, and asking someone who's already making eggs to add another one to the pan is a reasonable request. In my case, I'm getting along with my wife much better since we decided to divorce. I think getting the decision behind us just took a big weight off her, and she's much more relaxed at home. In any case, as long as you still live together, you might as well be civil. Who wants more stress at…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/25 05:11 PM
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A friend of mine has a lovely way of treating people he despises. He's polite. He's not kind, authentic, friendly, or open. If he hates you, he's polite.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:43 PM
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I cannot wait to come home to a clean, quiet home in which everything is where I left it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 11:31 AM
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That's why I didn't catch it at first. Thanks for clarifying. It's so easy to keep going based on what I thought I read, even when the words are right there in front of me. Oops.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 01:52 PM
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This is the one I follow: https://coachingfederation.org/credentialing/coaching-ethics/icf-code-of-ethics/ I think it's fair for the OP to ask their coach what their code of ethics is. Any coach should have some answer for that question.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 11:11 AM
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Exactly, a real narcissist wouldn't consider for a moment that something might be wrong with them.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 11:06 AM
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As a coach myself, this should have been a huge red flag. Any coach who pretends to be a therapist is acting highly unethically.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 11:05 AM
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You didn't think very long about that one, did you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 10:59 AM
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My therapist told me that a narcissist would never ask that question.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 09:09 AM
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If there's one rule on the list you can't enforce, then the whole list is useless. I suspect that a different strategy, based on mutual agreement and respect, would serve you better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 04:20 PM
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It may be that the only thing you did wrong was make a poor choice of partner.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/25 09:03 AM
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Now I'm sure this is a scam. This post is from the OP on a different account.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 05:28 AM
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I bought the book, but didn't get it. This may be a scam.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 05:27 AM
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My S2BX tells me the horrible things her friends say about me. I don't know them. But they hate me. My wife has created an echo chamber for her complaints about me. Just a group of women eager to reinforce anything negative.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 10:03 AM
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Twenty years. From my son's birth until he moved out. Then we divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 10:05 AM
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I was joking with my soon to be ex that I used to fear dying alone, but it was easier to deal with when I imagined her at my deathbed, checking her watch and tapping her foot.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 09:30 AM
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My first week was bad. I couldn't sleep. I got claustrophobic on buses. But our human brains have a wonderful defense against crippling sorrow, and it's sleep. During sleep, our brain rewrites memories with less emotion each time. So I'd suggest prioritizing sleep. Don't drink alcohol. Don't eat too late. Dim lights in the evening. Go to bed early. Let your brain work its magic. In my case, I started to see the bright side of my new future after about five or six days. Now, two weeks in, I'm eag…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 05:57 AM
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My wife also waited patiently until she could have exactly what she wanted: a house to herself and plenty of money. She waited 26 years until there was $2M in the bank, a nice house, and then divorced me the minute our son moved out. I gave all of my free time to my family, until I didn't have one anymore. That was a wasted investment. I've taken that time back as an opportunity. I'm now spending my free time volunteering, learning new skills, creating additional income streams, and socializing.…
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 06:48 AM
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I'm so lucky to live where I do. My lawyer quoted a flat fee of $1250 for the whole divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 07:42 PM
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My lawyer advised a stipulation in the asset split offer that it's only valid as long as we persue an expedited no fault divorce. If she makes trouble, the deal is off the table.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 07:41 PM
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I get that, but who's arguing? Is it me and my wife yelling at each other in front of a judge (God, I hope not), or does it mean my lawyer offering me a coffee in her cozy office and asking me what I want to get out it and then letting her go off and do the paperwork and negotiate with my wife's lawyer while I get on with my life?
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 09:34 AM
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You have a vision for your future. She has a vision for her future. Persue yours. Let her pursue hers. You are as different now from her as you are from any other person. If you must compare yourself to anyone else, do it for inpsiration, not for self-flagilation.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 07:12 PM
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I've journaled for decades, but my lawyer said that nothing in my journal is admissible in court.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/25 06:13 AM
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My wife asked for a divorce on Monday. By Friday, I was on a solo trip to the mountains. I went cheap. $5 bus ride to a lodge that was just $40 a night. I spent two days hiking. I can see a lot more weekends like that in my future. It was just what I needed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 06:06 PM
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I was listening to Bill Maher interview Carol Burnett, and a joke she made was sobering. She's been married several times, and she said something like, "There comes a time in a marriage when one of you is traveling alone, and the other one thinks it wouldn't be so bad if the plane crashed." I'm pretty sure my wife and I have both had that dark thought at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 07:58 AM
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I did it on a bus today and it helped. I'll incorporate it into my mindfulness practice. Thank you. I always just associated Wim Hoff with ice baths, which I would rather not do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 04:43 PM
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I made it to 20 and started to get dizzy. I think it requires practice.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 07:09 AM
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I'm glad she didn't wait longer. I've got ten working years left before retirement to rebuild.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 06:33 PM
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I hit the gym three times a week with my adult son, run on the off days, and ride horses. Those are my best times.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 05:38 PM
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Luckily, I'd signed up for a half marathon before this happened and I'm in training. Long runs are the best therapy. But now I'm worried about my 20 year old son. He just moved out. It's probably not a coincidence that my wife waited for him to move out to get rid of me, too.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 05:36 PM
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