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| 1 | Men who've never struggled with dating and hooking up, what do you do differently than the rest of us?Unfortunately, in our superficial shallow society, if you got the unlucky roll of the genetic dice, you pretty much don't stand a chance. And attractive people don't "get it" because they can't understand why just approaching and talking works for them and not anyone else. | /r/seduction | 26/07/26 03:26 PM |
| 4 | Working on your self esteem will take you a LOOOOOOOONG way compared to any tips and tricks here.This is not as easy to do as people make it sound. For those struggling or lost, I would say do something anything that you could realistically do/complete and stand back at your achievement (personal auto work, building something, improving something tangible, completing a complicated work project without asking for assistance, etc.) and feel that feeling of "Yeah, I did that, it can't be denied." Feel proud, recognize that sensation. Then you do it again and then start to apply it to your psyc… | /r/seduction | 12/07/26 12:14 AM |
| 1 | I feel invisible to womenI've been invisible to and ignored by all girls/women since I left the womb. At this point, I accepted my fate; some of us just aren't meant to be desired. | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 12:54 AM |
| 7 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sI got nothing in my 20s, complete waste of a decade. My best time was 31-33. It's been downhill since. 2 years out of a lifetime, not too bad, right? lol | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 09:27 PM |
| 1 | To those who managed to date one with 10/10 looks..Oh no, this was a long time ago when we were both younger. She's a happily married mother with her own business. | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 11:42 AM |
| 9 | To those who managed to date one with 10/10 looks..Be careful when focused on looks. Having a stunning partner is great and all, but do they excite you? Are they interesting? Are they kind? Can you connect with them on any level? If all you're looking for is a short fun time, then none of that may matter to you, but if you're wanting a regular gf, make sure she can fulfill your life beyond her appearance, and if she does, she could be your 10/10. And additionally, it's a two-way street; what are YOU doing to make yourself a valuable and desirabl… | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 05:17 PM |
| 17 | To those who managed to date one with 10/10 looks..I dated a young girl who was a Penthouse PotM and I started to get in my head about it at certain points, that I couldn't believe I landed this girl, was in bed with her having this wild time, and self-doubt was creeping in before I reeled it in hard. Gotta keep yourself in check, especially if you started to develop feelings when it's clear it's more of a fleeting short romance. | /r/seduction | 18/05/26 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Men: how often do you get approached by women at clubs?Hope you born attractive. If not, blame your parents. | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Men: how often do you get approached by women at clubs?Not once ever approached in my entire life. My brain would probably short-circuit if it happened. 😂 | /r/seduction | 01/05/26 11:55 AM |
| -1 | Im deleting dating appsThat is a good point I had not considered before. | /r/seduction | 07/03/26 08:12 PM |
| 7 | 25F Keep getting feedback I’m attractive but intimidating and hard to approachIf you're attractive, I will immediately assume you're taken, so I won't risk the humiliation. | /r/seduction | 02/03/26 03:38 PM |
| 5 | 10 Field-Tested "Man Behaviors" That Fire Up Primal Attraction With Beautiful WomenStep 1: Be lucky enough to have been a product of a lucky roll of the genetic dice. You mean you aren't? Tough breaks, there's no hope for you, get a distracting hobby. | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 12:13 AM |
| 11 | Spend more time out there, less time on here"And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds. You're not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn't perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about. Now you can know everything in the world, sport, but the only way you're finding' out that one is by giving' it a shot." - Sean Maguire (Robin Williams) https://www.instagram.com/reel/DQ_1ap-jCkx/?utm_s… | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 09:51 PM |
| 1 | How are average looking men supposed to meet women?They can't, that's just it. If you didn't get a lucky roll of the genetic dice, you're pretty much SOL. Blame your parents. | /r/seduction | 11/02/26 05:51 PM |
| 1 | The quickest way to success with women is...Then there is no hope for you. Better to get a distracting hobby. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:40 AM |
| 1 | The quickest way to success with women is...For most guys, it will never happen, so it may actually be easier to build rockets. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:39 AM |
| 8 | Why are hot girls easy to pick up than unattractive ones ?Absolutely believe it is a cultural thing. For example, Sweden - despite there being stunning-looking women there, I have heard repeatedly that it is a very anti-social culture, people just don't chat up people randomly, so finding people to date would seem like quite a struggle. And as to your point, those guys who don't care, there is going to be at least one woman is appreciates that attitude and is down for it. | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 09:19 PM |
| 13 | Why are hot girls easy to pick up than unattractive ones ?Typically it's believed the more desirable or attractive a woman is, it's figured she's either: 1) out of his league so why bother or 2) she's already taken so why bother And then there are the smaller reasons like "if I date her, then every guy is going to try to make a move on her..." "she's going to be high maintenance" etc | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 07:15 PM |
| – | Gym Approach During the Day, Not What I ExpectedThe gym is not the place to do it unfortunately; like fit and attractive women? Gotta find them elsewhere. Or just do it at gyms you don't plan on returning to. | /r/seduction | 25/07/25 02:26 AM |
| 13 | I find dating extremely exhausting and confusingBasically. There's no hope left. If she's attractive, she is taken, you missed the window; should have ran into her an earlier time in history. Burr put it perfectly that the attractive desirable women are like 1st round draft picks; they're in high demand, everyone wants them, and they're grabbed up quick. Either deal with having to stick with round 7 or get a distracting hobby. | /r/seduction | 19/07/25 03:02 AM |
| 2 | How do I stop building women up in my head?Every woman at some point in their life has taken a "Bridesmaids lava shit in the sink" level of movement. We're all human and we all have our disgusting moments. | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 11:22 PM |
| 0 | Why is this sh*t so hard?Don't be a 'nice' guy, be a good guy. That being said, solid upstanding guys aren't popular or desired, despite what is verbally proclaimed. Basically, you don't stand a chance nowadays if you aren't the top tier .01% of men and if you were, you wouldn't be here. Time to find a distracting hobby. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 04:45 PM |
| 56 | Things I've learned on getting girls at the bar that no one tells you aboutI like this post; it shows authentic self-awareness without the posturing of "I am champion big dick and here's how to become me." But yes, always shoot your shot. I have lots of regret; it eats away at you, don't be "if I had only...." years from now. | /r/seduction | 02/06/25 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Anyone in here get approached by girls but then as soon you start talking to them they lose interest in you?Approached? By girls? What galaxy do you hail from because I'd like to visit. | /r/seduction | 30/05/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Every hot girl you didn’t approach still crosses your mindNot necessarily. If she is hot, she is taken, so I immediately rule her out of my mind. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Is it easier to get a cougar than a girl in her 20s?I was dating a handful of 35+ women in my 20s, loved every experience (maybe I got lucky or I just have good taste). The only way you're going to know is rolling the dice and give it a shot; be realistic, be a little on guard, but be open-minded, you can have an exciting fulfilling time. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Any young guys sometimes attracted to older women?Always. Even in my teens, I was crazy about older women, dated a handful of them into my late teens and 20s. Ignore what society or culture deems 'normal;' what/who are YOU interested in? Go to that. Youre also going to make some woman's day/week/life too. | /r/seduction | 02/05/25 12:29 PM |
| 8 | Hard to get laidFrom what I've heard, Sweden is a very anti-social country, people tend to stick to themselves, not 'bother' others, so if true, I can see why it is a struggle to meet anyone. | /r/seduction | 12/04/25 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Do yall think you can date 10'sNot a chance, I'm grateful a woman would even be looking in my general direction without disgust. Dating a 10 is is about as realistic as throwing a rock into space and hitting another galaxy. | /r/seduction | 03/04/25 02:03 PM |
| 2 | As a woman, am I doing this right?Most guys are oblivious to the point you need to tattoo your introduction into their forearm and then grab their wrist to show it to them. I might even suspect that a lot of guys don't expect things to 'go well,' so they don't expect the invitation like you said in the first example, it would go right over their heads. I understand how this can be frustrating, but keep going, you're doing a huge blessing to guys being a bit flirty and forward like this; it is a breath of fresh air for us. | /r/seduction | 22/12/24 02:12 AM |
| 5 | How is the dating world after 30?As you age, you're going to find it will commonplace for everyone to either be in a relationship, going through a breakup/divorce, and/or have children already; chalk that up to it just being a phase of life that most people go through. If they're attractive, they're taken. However, just be the best version of you, whatever that entails; expanding your social circle, getting fitter/healthier and never stopping, doing more interesting things, talking to everyone you come across. This way, even if… | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 02:02 AM |
| 8 | Want to know if she has a boyfriend within 10 seconds when doing cold approaches?If she is attractive, she's taken. | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 07:35 PM |
| 1 | What's something that you have learned from getting rejectedThat I will have no idea what to do if someone possibly says yes (pitiful laugh) | /r/seduction | 10/05/24 02:13 PM |
| 5 | What's the worst way you've ever fumbled a babe?And you haven't jumped in front of moving traffic yet... | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 01:26 AM |
| 15 | Girls WILL put themselves in positions to let you make a moveYou're more than likely a very handsome fella, which makes you an anomaly; your experiences are unique I feel. | /r/seduction | 18/03/24 04:44 PM |
| 1 | I find it hard to catch feelings for girls that I’m dealing withI think no one has really challenged you, more like just "going with the flow" of it all? | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 04:55 PM |
| 37 | Why is it that a girl will desire you more when you’re toxic?I think my ex was like that (aside from having narcissistic tendencies); I was a genuine good guy to her and I guess it confused her, she was perplexed by being with some authentic and kind and attentive to her needs (maybe she had been deprived so long of it?). | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:27 PM |
| 5 | After 15 years of being in the dating pool, I'm finally calling it quits.When working out at the gym or wherever, focus on the benefits solely for you; better strength, faster speed, improved appearance, more energy, better sleep, better health. The favorable effects of attention gained from this is a secondary, a perk, a part of the bonus of being fit and health. Hell, even if I lived alone in the mountains in a cabin for the rest of my life, I would still be hauling trees up and down hillsides ('Rocky IV-ing it'). That being said, I absolutely understand what it is… | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Went on a date, kissed, ghosted. Wtf?You will drive yourself crazy making up all these scenarios in your head, which probably 99% of them aren't even true. So, get it out of your head, take a breather, and get back on the plate again. | /r/seduction | 21/10/22 07:56 PM |
| 7 | Are women overly picky from all the options they have with modern dating?Adding to this, I think people, on both sides, are rejecting these experiences and people because they say, "There just wasn't any spark/chemistry." You know what it takes to genuinely create that? Time. Time and effort. I think most are impatient, in a rush, and want that confirmed "oh this person is perfect" immediately. Life, for the most part, doesn't function that way. Women will discuss with their friends the date they went on and make a remark about something so minor and insignificant, t… | /r/seduction | 19/10/22 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Men who are unsuccessful with women share two characteristics: they self-victimize and make excusesIt's a cap and "cap" is a stupid term to mean "lie/lying." | /r/seduction | 13/10/22 12:03 AM |
| 3 | I cold approached a femboy and got publicly humiliated, what did I do wrong?The "I don't hookup with short guys" stuff is so stupid; the dick still fucks whether they're 5 feet or 7. You're not marrying the person and not attending public events with them (even so, not a reason to disregard someone based on something they can't change). He, and they, did you a favor. Instead of feeling embarrassed, thank them for showing their true colors. Cunts. | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 07:30 PM |
| 52 | Men...this is the main reason you aren't getting laidI look at it like this and I'm paraphrasing Bill Burr here because he nailed it with this analogy. The attractive, desirable, worthy girls/women, they're like 1st-round draft picks. Everyone wants them and they're grabbed up fast and if they suddenly become available, another team was already waiting in the wings to grab them. | /r/seduction | 10/01/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | ShallITinder's advice for all guys in their 20s.As someone is turning 34 this year, this is a most depressing read. I gave up trying for women in my 20s after much disappointment and received zero attention, of course. Around 29 is when loneliness and desires crept back in deep. I'm extremely built, in good health, but after reading this, it seems like the good times are over. Time to walk into the ocean I suppose. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/07/16 01:41 PM |
| 5 | 4 passive game rules that save time meeting women, with examplesI could be naive about this, but regarding rule 3, I remember I was sitting at a roulette table at the Bellagio in Vegas, playing a few rounds and chit-chatting with the dealer. I am the only one there, the other players have since moved on to other tables. This stunning Italian woman, dressed very smartly, knows how gorgeous she is, plops down in the seat right next to me. There must be at least 8 other empty seats around us, yet she chose that one. This was during a time when my mental fortitu… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/16 04:05 PM |
| 7 | First Date: How To Keep The Conversation Going [x-post from /r/OkCupid]Going on a first date tomorrow night, useful stuff to keep in mind. | /r/seduction | 22/03/16 05:25 AM |
| 1 | I asked out 100 women in real life and got 14 numbers and 4 dates. I asked out 100 women online and got 0 responses. Online dating is a fail.Very helpful thanks. I'm very built, active, healthy, so I may as well present what I work so hard for. I continuously read that a shirtless pic is a highly unwise idea, but perhaps the evidence of success from other guys contradicts this? I see Tinder/Bumble as more of another source of possible amusement/opportunity, but it's I don't rely on it. I get warmer responses from good eye contact and valuable conversation in the 'real world.' | /r/seduction | 03/03/16 01:15 AM |
| 5 | I asked out 100 women in real life and got 14 numbers and 4 dates. I asked out 100 women online and got 0 responses. Online dating is a fail.Well that settles it then! No hope, I knew there had to be a reason. | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 05:34 PM |
| 13 | I asked out 100 women in real life and got 14 numbers and 4 dates. I asked out 100 women online and got 0 responses. Online dating is a fail.I honestly don't get how so many guys have so much success on Tinder, it must be the area I live in. I'm in great shape/health (with a few pics to represent that), I'd say I am about a 6.5 in the face, my profile doesn't reek of a desperate high-schooler, yet I'm lucky if I get a match, let alone a message back, in months. Hell, when I first installed the app, it took over a year to get the first match. Lol. | /r/seduction | 02/03/16 03:14 PM |
| 2 | Female comedian says she's NOT victim of male harassment; feminists harass herI've met and spoken with Jessica, an absolute sweetheart and does some more 'controversial' musical comedy, including a "don't rape me" type of jingle, complete with a 'rape whistle' you blow in sync with the song. It's a real blast and something overly sensitive feminazi types just love. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/02/16 04:25 PM |
| 1 | How many of you actually fuck 4's-5's?The only women I could seem to attract are 5s and below; anyone rated higher is just out of reach. Seeing this girl now you could probably put at a 7. It's going well so far. I pretty much take what I can get, it helps satisfy years-long dry spells. | /r/seduction | 05/03/15 04:03 PM |
| 5 | 100% Tinder Response RateStill working on tinkering mine. Been using it for close to 10 months, not one match. | /r/seduction | 27/09/14 01:05 AM |
| 6 | I don't get effected by Rejection, as it happens too often for me to noticeShit, I've gotten rejected by virtually every single attempt ever and it's almost comical at this point. Other guys collect bedpost notches, I collect turn-downs. Because of this, I'm fully prepared mentally to be disappointed yet again and I just kind of shrug them off now. It's when something works out, someone keeps their word, or reciprocates that catches me off-guard. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/04/14 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill pearls of wisdom from my fatherSame. All I got was criticism, that is how I "learned;" until I made a mistake. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/09/13 08:59 PM |
| 13 | Red Pill pearls of wisdom from my fatherGood on your father. Very solid advice. Mine didn't tell me one thing when it came to the opposite sex. I had to learn (and am still learning) through trial and error, humiliation, rejection, etc.; all that nasty uncomfortable stuff. It was the equivalent of just shoving me off a cliff into the ocean at 5. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/09/13 08:44 PM |
| 2 | How to Date Women At Your Work Without CatastropheI have done this and succeeded while avoiding gossip and drama, something that is very tricky to dodge. Aside from all the tips, which are valuable in their own right, one of the most important is keep your mouth shut. As tempting as it may be to tell a colleague or ask for advice ("So, [woman] is into [activity], what do you think I should do here?" - even something as simple and harmless as that), don't do it. In any work environment, retail, food, or professional, talk spreads like a forest b… | /r/seduction | 12/01/13 05:22 AM |
| 1 | What is your greatest fear that is preventing you from becoming who you want to be?That I am not clever enough or lack the foresight to become truly successful (i.e. wealthy). A very common cliche desire, I know. | /r/seduction | 17/08/12 10:04 PM |
| 4 | 47-year-old male virgin looking for pointers (no comments from whiners who have given up please)I'm nearly 30 now and when I was approaching my mid-20s, even then 18-year-olds put me off greatly. A 47-year-old man trying to make something work with one seems inconceivable to me. | /r/seduction | 09/06/12 02:55 PM |
| 20 | When asking a girl out.. (works great)This is a phenomenal idea and I'm stealing it. Found such a park nearby. | /r/seduction | 13/04/12 12:26 AM |
| 4 | As a female bartender, what can I do to help male customers with the women they're attempting to flirt with? In return I'll answer any questions you have about picking up cute barmaids!You are an awesome bartender, good sport. | /r/seduction | 06/04/12 12:35 AM |
| 3 | As a female bartender, what can I do to help male customers with the women they're attempting to flirt with? In return I'll answer any questions you have about picking up cute barmaids!Bonus points if you know of somewhere good to go at that time of night. Guys who have a confident air of knowing what they're doing and where to go, who just lead the way, that's very attractive. Yes on this. Just knowing you're way around a town earns you major points. Did this with a recently with an attractive female friend. Despite her living in the city, she was still very oblivious to its offerings. I invited her out for a drink somewhere and knew exactly to go to this wine bar in this soc… | /r/seduction | 06/04/12 12:34 AM |
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