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DebateAcrobatic-Writer7734/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:51 PM
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Sounds like mysogyny to me just with another label put on it to demonise men who struggle with dating. It blows my mind that you call out incels, but not mysogyny, as your primary concern. I too can ban men from wikipedia and then shape articles to my liking. Hey why don't you go ahead and try edit that article. Even so much as changing one word of it, and see what happens to your ability to edit wiki at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:39 PM
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Blame the lack of moderation and the sudden brigading and hate I'm receiving. I expected better from this sub. I was wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:34 PM
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In the interests of avoiding "contentless rhetoric" being shared on this platform (I would hate for that to happen), I will now delete this post. If you can't all discuss like adults, and the moderators can't do their job impartially, like adults, then I won't fucking bother. I dont know why I expected more from this community especially the moderators, but colour me shocked and not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:24 PM
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Sounds very rape presumptive... You've never had a partner advance on you and decide "hmm yeah I could go for that?" Or would all such advances from your partner be a borderline sexual assault in your eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:22 PM
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What vitriol? Please point it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:19 PM
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Your job is to coddle the incels is it? How very noble of you. Not sure they'll listen to you given that inherent "men are less than I and need educating" attitude but hey keep fighting that good fight or some shit...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:14 PM
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Healthy partners see pleasing their partner as a joy, not a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:13 PM
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Hey, drop the attacks. Not welcome here. Make your own thread if you are here to insult people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:12 PM
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Or bad bedrooms lead to bad relationships. It can go both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:11 PM
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Yeah that's my essential questioning. But more which works harder to try and win over the others desire and how. It's very nuanced isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:07 PM
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O... Kay? But even in a stable long term committed relationship, do you still view sating your partners needs as "fuck you don't care not my problem"? How does dating even work for you? Do you shoot for aces or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:05 PM
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Damn I hear of this. But honestly I don't see this in my bts. I tend to watch porn where the woman is obviously into it more than her body. I don't care much for her appearance so much as her performance. So I absolutely agree that "just use her" content is out there. I can't speak for other men but I myself am not a fan. Feeling unwanted, even in porn, is a major major turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:03 PM
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No need to apologise I just appreciate you coming in here to share what you have to say anyway. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:00 PM
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Why not both? Let's leave that open for interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:59 PM
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It's funny how the partnered people here are the only ones capable of discussing nuance between genders. Its as if the others here have zero experience. ZERO!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:58 PM
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Apparantly others didn't get the message though...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:53 PM
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Why is that your insult of choice here? Like a man's only value is getting laid and anything less makes him not a man? You do understand what that says about you right? So much for an amicable discussion hey.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:37 PM
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Oh. Great. They are here among us now. This was a great safe space while it lasted...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 02:35 PM
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Seeing a lot of fucking excuses in my circle though. Lots of opportunity but just straight up excusing their own flaws as ladies. Smh mh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:34 AM
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Oh fuck offfff seriously I am not responsible for other men nor is it my fucking job to keep speaking out against the few just becuase your misandrist ass thinks those few are the many. Im not a fucking rapist and it's not my fucking job to try and defend all of men kind just because you read some toxic shit on the internet every day! Hold yourself to the same standards and start calling out all the violent hateful women I see every day! Not a fair burden is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:31 AM
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Yeah I can make any wiki page I want and get half the population to make whatever story up I want too! Especially if I block all contrary contributions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:29 AM
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Maybe you should find another word that doesn't appreciate a man's only value in life to getting laid, and thus, a woman's only value to a man as being nothing more that a sex object. Your opinion of men is self fulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:27 AM
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So what I'm hearing is women do have normally stupid standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:24 AM
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This is a new one hahaha I'm all for it I wanna see this one crash like a lead balloon. Women without any of their support networks. , not reaching out to anyone. To quote shrek: "like that's every gonna happen! What a load of sh-" Women think they can do it alone? Be my guest. Maybe you might get a new sense of appreciation for the condition most western men live with every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:22 AM
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This and other lies you can tell yourself. I had a sex party with 3 of them just last fortnight. They couldn't shut up about it!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:20 AM
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Femcel shit is deliberately buried while incel shit is promoted to be mocked. Notice how none of the women here are even aware of the problem. They honestly think their shit doesn't stink because they have the narrative shaped in their favour every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:18 AM
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Femcels don't speak violently of men!? Ha! Are you kidding me!? I am no better than tree shredder fuel to oh so many. I report such posts to the reddit admins and I'm not being discriminated against and there was no violation of reddit policies. Not only do I face this abuse every day here, it's promoted to front page while I'm told I'm crazy for having a problem with that. Hell yes femcels are violent and scary!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:16 AM
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women are still hated more. See this is the part I'm not seeing the link for in your argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:13 AM
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Huh? Were talking about men being primarily viewed as incels but never women and you took "but women are also mocked" from that?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:12 AM
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Sure seeing a lot of women who looooves to kick men when they are down. We are fair game. Not the precious whittle women though!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:10 AM
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Are you sure about that? 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:08 AM
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This what about ism gets fucking old. What, I'm supposed to know the name of every school shooter and disavow them all just becuase they were male and I myself am a man? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:07 AM
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That's fake news. Look over there another man falling through the cracks about to lose his shit though let's poke him some more. Maybe the real issue is we have compassion for women's mental health but not men's, which means only the men fall out so violently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:04 AM
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Well that's a conceding post if I've ever seen one. Way to lose the discussion for all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:02 AM
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No. The femcels threaten to mutilate and murder me instead. The femcels advocate for false accusations destroying my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:00 AM
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You'd be surprised how many guys would go for that, myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 12:57 AM
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Fine by me! 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:59 PM
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Hm. I'm thinking more on terms of active dating in relationships. Obviously I wouldn't ask random strangers to appease each other. That's weird. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:59 PM
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Another thought: do you feel this dynamic is changing one way or another in recent years?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:55 PM
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Lots of bribes apparantly. Hey guess what: I'm married too. Beleive it. SucksToSuck Who pissed in your cheerios today? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 10:02 PM
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Damn how'd I ever get through uni then? I'd like to thank my accounting tutor for taking all those Benjamin's under the table. Its a joke, not a dick. Don't take it so hard champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:58 PM
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Count matters not to me. All that matters is the energy she can bring me. Shes into me? Great. What do I care about her past relationships I'm busy in the here and now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:57 PM
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Did... Did you just dob on yourself? 😂🤏
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:55 PM
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For what it's worth, I'm about 7" and smash my poor wives cervix often. 12" magnum dong is rarely what women actually want. Whats the saying? Not the tool, how you use it? My wife's G spot is about 2" deep. Pretty sure most guys can measure up to that. Guys, be more concerned about your performance skills, not your physical endowment. Ive watched so much porn I just fucking cringe at the male actors "performance". I wish I was born in California. I would have had a real chance to enter the indus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:53 PM
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Spotlight effect is real. No one is really judging or scrutinising us. They too focused on their own drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:47 PM
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Women need their simps for self validation. Going to suck when the abundant pool of simps gets lifted up by the rest of us. I cant speak for the rest of you, but I actively work to empower weak men with the skills and personality to flourish. Im not trying to boot their skulls in. In mass, over time, this slowly swings that pendulum. I just hope more men can get supported before they get attacked more by this misandrist society we live in. Yeah I said it. Hate that opinion all you like, I'm stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:46 PM
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So basic they needed to add a negative group to the periodic table of elements. Tradcons. You get what's labelled on the tin.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:42 PM
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There's a lady from Kenya at my workplace, late 50s, anti male attitudes but still convinced Mr right is just around the corner. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:40 PM
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Or sex slavery. Take your pick. Both not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:37 PM
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Getting those vibes hey.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:36 PM
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Is this that rugged individualism creeping in again that you can't even empathise with the question? "oh I got mine so-" So why are you here then?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:36 PM
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Wow. How very informative. Im with her: why not? Don't leave it there. You've got something to say, say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:35 PM
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Not a passport bro myself but if I could do over, I would highly consider. The Western world is not male friendly compared to the rest of the world. Men aren't inherently hated or called rapists elsewhere. We're the builders, the workers, the sources of strength and security elsewhere. Not here. Here we are just public enemy number one. So I would actively seek it now days. I never used to be this way but over the last 15 years I've given up on ever being respected by this society just for being…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:33 PM
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I think the difficulty comes in defining social network. Facebook? Don't give a fuck. Meeting with friends at least once a month or two? That's maintaining my social network. One is work, and a waste of time. The other is leisure, and fills my cup rather than empties it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:29 PM
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Men only want bang maids to cook and clean up after them, don't you know? No, ignore all those posts about men being lonely and wanting human connection and to be seen as people and not penises on legs. Thoae posts don't count / I'm selectively blind to those ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:26 PM
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Well you and I are clearly not in the same reddit are we? 😅 Its all I ever see promoted to front page by the sites administration. Never pro men or anti women posts. Just pro women and anti man. Seriously, check for yourself. Sign out, open the front page. Physically tally the posts one way or another. Youll find that hidden misandry you can't seem to find staring you right in the face. Tjme for you to re-evaluate that purple label because everything you just said was very very pink.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:23 PM
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We heard you the first 20 fucking times. Time for a new auto mod.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:20 PM
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Masculinity being misunderstood by those that don't express masculinity, once again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:18 PM
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I mean it's definitely right up there with red pill opinions that's for sure. You sure you on this no pill diet?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:18 PM
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So? I'd sooner pick her over miss "urhhh all other woman are pick me's!" What do you bring to the table besides negativity?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:16 PM
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That's right men it's all your fault. Shipped to war? Your fault. Passed over in the dating market because you don't abuse steroids? Your fault. Mass corporatised attacks against your entire gender? Have you tried thinking maybe that's all your fault? I dunno just seems like a whole bunch of weak men can't take take accountability for their actions. /s in case that wasn't abundantly fucking clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:00 PM
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Would you say that this is a common attitude or perhaps just the attitude of a few men on the internet? For example. I see lots of angry pink pullers around here that have every negative things to say about men that could be said. But I acknowledge they are a very small angrybperdentage of women. What I'm saying is : could it be possible that these voices you are seeing are only a select few of them, just as I am seeing about women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 02:53 AM
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My opinion on this is if you fill a thirsty person's cup, they will drink it all then beg for more. Its hard work, but it's very much possible to break these insecurities. And the rewards are well worth it. I would say to anyone with a new partner that's insecure like this, keep patient and keep filling their cup for one month. If they can't calm down on one month, then something deeper needs work. Unmet relationship needs can make people insecure for a long time. Finding the root of insecurity …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:37 PM
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I get it. But even if they are, find another word. You can reach these people in other ways. It may be productive to Ca it out but it also radicalise others observing the fray. Whats that saying? You trap more flies with honey? Im not saying don't call it out. I'm saying try a different approach. Ky approach to social shame "that's disappointing because we can and should do better, here's why." I man it's not perfect but I find it brings more people over the line than attacking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:26 PM
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Couldn't tell how easy I had it. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to all my privelege. Hey is it my turn to make the equivalent "all women don't understand shit about men's struggles!" post, or would that be down voted to oblivion too? I think people visiting here need to get it clear in their minds. Ppd is where we all meet to reconcile ideas and discrepancies. We're not here to just mindless bash one sex or another. Presenting such posts that are all encompassing with zero nuance or tact …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:24 PM
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And though I present my opinions, you are not wrong either. Definitely some real sour men out there making sour comments. But what I observe is a stronger oppression of men's incel voices but not a strong oppression of women's. Both are speaking. One is decried. One is ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:20 PM
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Love and acceptance is work. It's something I have to work for. It's something I work to maintain. Thats what healthy relationships look like. We work for each other. I fell for my now wife not because of luck, but because of circumstance and then effort on my part. I saw opportunity, I moved on it. I think I tried like 3-4 relationships for my wife. You can just tell fast when putting in initial effort if it's worth your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:16 PM
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I- you- Like, how do you know what I feel or think at all? I express my concerns, but they are not emotionally loaded half the time. Im usually the one trying to calm others down.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:14 PM
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I have no need to threaten anyone. Pleas step back from the wall of hatred today, it's it going to help you heal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:13 PM
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You don't. But you'll have a much better day mentally if you put down the hatchet for a moment and realise I'm trying to talk you off the wall,not encouraging you to pour gasoline off of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:12 PM
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Not sad at all honestly I think you might be reading into. Im actually in a really positive mood today.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:10 PM
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Red leaning. But because I identify mostly purple I might get pinged by automod. I'll reply under it... Im involved in the kink scene. Most girls I know are subs but there is definitely Dom girls in our scene. So, gender dynamics well understood and fluid here. I don't agree that fem dom is inherently oppressive. As I say in my other posts. It's a game. It's play and some adopt that 24/7 becuase that's what they seek. Same for the sub women. I can say I've definitely felt more push back against …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:06 PM
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Not a based take. Please cool it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:00 PM
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"No because men are threatening us-" Okay, credibility deleted. Thanks for Playing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:00 PM
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Don't attack them or call them incels for it would be a real great start honestly. I would like for women to start treating words and attitudes like "incel" with much trepidation as the N word. It's used the same way: only to hurt people. Hes acting incelly? He's hurt right now. He's not this way all the time. I lash out. Women have never lashed out? We are all guilty. I see women burnt out and struggling with the dating market I don't think "ha suck it femcel." I want to know why it is a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:57 PM
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Yep. No trust in what you do outside the room and that you are a faithful partner is straight death sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:53 PM
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My wife has to tip toe around my bipolar from time to time. I do a good job keeping myself in check but I definitely feel it pressures here and makes things harder at times. She's said words to the same effect re feeling on eggshells at times. I really wish to express healthier coping mechanisms. If you can, in any capacity, could you share more on how you perceive men's insecurity in this manner? What's the most obvious signs you see? How does it affect how you think and feel as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:50 PM
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God I like you. So right. It's not on the other partner to fix insecurities in yourself. It is on that partner to not provide a damaging environment sure but it's not there job to fix anyone. We must come into relationships knowing ourselves and our values and vulnerabilities, and be able to self manage accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:47 PM
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I like this. We are all vulnerable at times. Healthy boundaries about how one deals with vulnerability is what makes someone relationship material or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:46 PM
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I think you should take these thoughts over to mens rights where they are more welcome. I can agree with different parts of what you say but because of the very one sided, victim based nature of the opinion it's going to sink like a lead balloon here. Lets keep our most extreme thoughts segregated for now. Let's not trigger people in this space if we can avoid that. If a woman goes out of her way to seek men's rights opinions, then that's on her if she gets triggered the fuck out. Here should no…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:43 PM
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This is a hot topic for me because I can come on a bit strong myself compared to others, I see many women start to tense up near me at times so I pull back and leave them be. It's not hard to judge if she or he is into you or not. I try hard to express confidence in all a person is. Not just their body, buy how they think, what makes them unique as a person. Holistic. Because as a man I should not like to be viewed for just one part of me. I think the pressure comes from women only often ever se…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:39 PM
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Now that's a very great and well considered response. Eq is a big one, and yes I hear men's lack of it criticised a lot. I shall put a closer ear and eye on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:14 PM
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Correct. Statistics don't care about your feelings on this one ladies. The algos are set up to have the men validate the women, keeping them on the platform for the other men who actually pay for gold to come see. Womwn are fed matches. Men are feed false promises of a potential match. And all the matches we do get? Bots. Its a wasteland out there for men. We throw a million darts at the wall not ever expecting a response because we have been trained for that. Dating apps are not where high valu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:12 PM
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They eliminate the positive men from approaching them with such sweeping comments, then complain only the shit heads that don't care remain. Show men you value those of us who can do it right. Show us you want not the player. We are not seeing that. We see you get 200 matches on tinder and barely speak with any one of them."oh my life as a woman is soooo hard it's just horny men everywhere!" The good ones never even swiped right on you. They had one look and saw the field playing attitude and wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:09 PM
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What should we bring to the table that we already don't? What would you say we are missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:05 PM
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I really like this reply. Well spoken thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:04 PM
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My concern though is coming on too strong or not strong enough. I should not ever want to upset someone but I feel that just by the act of trying to express myself, I'm painted with that brush. As a man today, I feel there's just way too much personal risk to my reputation should I try. Today a lot of dumb men feel entitled to a woman's attention, and that paints us all in a bad light. So good men like me try and reset the curve and give you all space. Problem is, now you only see these bastard …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:57 PM
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Are they? My wife is definitely not the type to seek more powerful or expressive men in her life. She's not really been the type ever. I honestly haven't seen this hypergamy in my real life circles. Just online.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:54 PM
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Thankfullu the blown out cost and failure of mental health care systems is front and centre in my country now. Probaly will take another 10 or so years to correct, but here we are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:51 PM
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Pavlov. Absolutely repeat prior exposure affects anticipation of future results. My thoughts gravitate how we can provide healthy healing for the thoroughly radicalised. I have no answers yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:38 AM
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Now that's a really interesting take to me, given I'm the exact opposite and come here to heal! I love how this place surprises me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:36 AM
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Dating no I'm spoken for lol. But mental health yes. It's nice meeting the crazy at a place where they are somewhat receptive to new ideas and communicating their own wiring and vulnerabilities. It help us all heal really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:35 AM
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Life long learner mentality. Non stagnant energy. That demonstrates early if a man is likely to give up and let you down in my eyes. I would definitely keep that caution on your radar. That's a healthy flag check to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:32 AM
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I've seen some highly qualified idiots in my time that's for sure. It's generally a good correlation but it's not perfect is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:31 AM
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In my experience, as much as I hate to agree, I agree. There can be some smarter ones but all in all I find a certain immaturity, a larikenness that is just incompatible with the highly regulated energy that is working professionals. As an educated man, I also find this type of tradesman hard to work with or befriend at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:30 AM
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Yep that's right on. As a double bachelors I agree anyone with such a high level of attainment is going to struggle with intellectual stimulation in the relationship otherwise. You can accept a few layers less, but not straight up disparity. Recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:27 AM
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God love you girl, thanks for existing! 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:24 AM
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Love the topic OP, thanks for asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:22 AM
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Can I applaud the topic OP? Spicy one, gets people talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:21 AM
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In this case I think it's just a case of unfortunate framing. I feel OP inherently understands that both sexes are accountable in their own ways and equally. Ie no holier than thou gender or fairer sex bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:19 AM
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Hahahahahaha gosh it's like texting theory wandered over here or something. The parrallell dimension gambit is not a book opening you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:16 AM
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I agree with this. 6 dates turned down. He wasn't busy. He just plain doesn't want that. If he was interested, he would communicate clearly about when he's next around, and what they could do then. But he didn't. HE moved on. HE rejected HER. And the women's minds a breaking at the thought that a man can and would do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:14 AM
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Rhetorical reply to the situation in general here... Not you specifically... Imagine if I asked a lady out five times, then made a "how dare the reject me then get upset I moved on" post. I imagine that would land like a wet balloon, and rightly so. Thats some incel shit yeah? pulls a contorted, "really?" face, like "you can't see the problem with the double standard here?" Ladies. Get real.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:10 AM
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Link me to this please. I'll sort these alleged men out. Doubt. Smashing X.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:07 AM
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I suffered so you have to also! Wow. Not what I'd want from a partner but go on. That doesn't make you noble. It makes you a pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:58 AM
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Ah yes the "you're a creep!" gambit. You either wait and make a move respectfully and you're too passive and not dating material. Or you move too fast and your just a horn dog, not dating material. Men can never make a right move because any move is worthy of critique.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:54 AM
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And you are red pill and not pink pill you say? Because your hypergamy focus is not red pill compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:49 AM
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This. We cannot force any one individual to do anything, but as a society, we should discuss disparity and try and reconcile that. Do we present unbalanced and unrealistic standards of physique and relationship standards in our media? Does that affect people? Is it resulting in negative social outcomes? Then perhaps it is right to discuss not contributing to that. That doesn't mean line all men and women up, rank them, then force them to be mates for life. That means simply saying "if we all aim…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:31 AM
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I come off somewhere in between gran autismo and perfectly adapted genius. It throws a lot of women off. I have a lot of social skill but my mannerisms can be a bit much. All in all I would say the reception is positive, welcoming objectively but subjectively I'm stuck in my heard a lot. I think we all are to a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:25 AM
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It's sadly the result of the hypergamy system that is dating. These guys aren't getting anything and are throwing darts at the wall, they are not invested emotionally in the play. Heres the thing though: I've done that. We're taught to spin plated and be direct and assertive. This is what I want. If that's not you, fine, but I'm not going to waste your time or mine if what I'm after is sexual engagement. Do you want honesty or not? Just put up on your profile a subtle sign that you are open sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:22 AM
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Take a walk and come back later. No hard feelings here. Now, can I actually talk to you? You are the type of person I'm trying to reach. What do you see day to day in your feed? What's the typical stories you see about men or women that upset you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:16 AM
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I agree with that. Social media is a mistake. I think dating apps will always be a thing. I think what we need is reform. We need dating apps that don't shun male or female sexuality. We need apps that promote connections, not hypergamy. Women want boyfriends to love them, they should be able to filter for that. Men want women to party with? They should be able to filter for that. Right now the algorithms don't give a fuck about your personality or what you are seeking. It's only about keeping y…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:08 PM
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My wife chimes in: personality is how you relate to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:06 PM
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Okayyy? Confidence is being comfortable with your differences compared to others. Confidence is being comfortable and not being emotionally knocked over when someone criticises you. Look, I get it, it may sounds like I'm being condescending but I'm am honestly not, I just want to communicate my ideas and how I've come to grow as a person. Sorry if I'm upsetting you. I will reiterate: personality is your points of difference to others, and confidence is how you take ownership of those points of d…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:59 PM
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Me saying your are boring is just like you calling me a deviant. Aren't personal attacks against the rules? The answer: it's not a personal attack. I can call you boring. I can't call you a bitch. That's the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:52 PM
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Ah very good, carry on. Hard to tell who's talking directly, metaphorically so on sometimes :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:45 AM
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Ah. In that case... Confidence! My uniqueness is special!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:44 AM
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What is a transaction but an equivalent exchange of value? Product or service for consideration? Product or service for a product or service is also a transaction. I give you me, you give me you. Transaction. Market hypothesis holds. Thanks for coming to accounting 101. Next week: is land in the 21st century depreciable? You be the judge.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:43 AM
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Correct! Shes flirty. She's got energy. She's open. She all that positive life loving energy any man would fawn over. Queen bee types? Or just bubbly extroverts? If I look at the sky wearing yellow glasses, it looks green. You're looking for miss in charge but what your seeing is miss energy, just under the wrong lenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:39 AM
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I think we need to acknowledge the gender differences still. I am still very much the manual worker and she the nurturer in our relationship. Im hot headed and powerful. She's calm and gentle. Both have merits.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:35 AM
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This person understands marriage. Can vouch. My wife is my life partner. She's a part of me. I could never separate from her. To do so would be to destroy a part of me. Yeah, she's my equal. Not beneath me. Not above me. I don't think of my friends as lesser or greater than I either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:34 AM
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I dunno I'm making neurodiveregence for me. Its about developing social skills around that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:31 AM
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Personally is what makes you unique, not the same. Im tall. I dye my hair. I have piercings. I have unique tattoos. I have an interesting career. I have niche hobbies. I enjoy a niche music taste. If you are finding carbon copies everywhere you look, then you need to look elsewhere. Every man I have ever met has been different. From each other. From me. Look harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:30 AM
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Womanese to me is the subtle expressions women make at each other not thinking men can't read faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:28 AM
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I was wondering how you got such a high score so fast lmao. Scene guys gunna scene guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:26 AM
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That's... Something. Is this a common occurrence with the new generations?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:25 AM
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Wouldn't it be lovely? And Facebook too? I don't think we can put the genie back in the bottle. Dating standard won't heal overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:24 AM
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That's rhetorical, not directed AT you. ;) My point is, women love to bitch about not being proposed to, but they'll not do it themselves. If you proposed and he declined until later, and then he never does? Then you can be a little shitty. But honestly probably should have left by that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:23 AM
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You know what? Fair. I saw a hot girl once, crushed a bit while she was just an all around shitty person. I cooled off and saw how... Gross, she is. And I learned a valuable lesson about myself, and won't be doing that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:21 AM
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Or he is just straight up not Interested? Thats allowed too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:18 AM
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Oopsie? It's in my flair. I'm straight honest on that. I'm not here to date. I'm here to observe how you all think and act.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:17 AM
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Every woman's face of disappointment when I proudly talk of my wife... When they already know I have one. In the past I would scoff and think "ha! Doesn't feel great does it?" But lately? I just feel sad for them.i know what it's like to want and find a miracle only for that miracle to be either a taken or b reject her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:15 AM
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Left on read or no return energy. "what did you get up to today." "nm." "whats for dinner then?" "nothing special really." "well what are you up to now?" "nothing." "okay bye." "no wait don't go why do men always abandon me!"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 10:08 AM
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Why hasn't he proposed yetttt? ... Why haven't you? Thats how my mindset always goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:59 AM
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No. Glad we had this discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:57 AM
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I should encourage you to keep seeking alternative opinions. I see mysogyny content, but I'm not inundated with it. It's usually contained and isolated, and what I do see is at least 50% shut down. Hell I express one opinion and people rush to doubt my marriage or sincerity, calling me a mysognist for the most bland statements. Sorry, red pill leaning guys can get married too? Sucks to suck?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:54 AM
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You think I don't see the hardships or women? Is it misandry to say that the hardships of men can't be acknowledged because I haven't first paid my respects to the fairer sex? Nah, miss me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:52 AM
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I know. Shoooockibg right? Your singleand I'm not? That's rough buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:51 AM
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No, what I'm after is a women who actively wants a date. Paying for it is the last of my wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:47 AM
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Agree. I think there's still a lot of negativity in men's responses. It's healing, but it's still not there. Focusing on positive framing and avoiding negative connotations can hell us all greatly, on both sides of this shitty gender war.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:59 PM
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Look I'm really cautious to throw the mysogyny label on negative opinions like this. I hate how society allows and empowers women but not men in the dating market. I shouldn't need to spell out the abstract here with a thesis to defend the feeling men today know so well. I can dislike the social dynamics without hating women as a group or individual women. They get a lot of grace that we don't. Men are all upset about that. I don't know if that's mysogyny though...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:57 PM
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It's crossed my mind but never executed. I talk to my therapist to talk me down in these times. Honestly it's because if worked so hard for change that I feel I have given enough effort. If I do pull that pin eventually, there will not be regret for lack of trying on my part. It will be hers that I regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:53 PM
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My relationship is quite egalitarian but I step up and perform the more intricate planning parts when needed and she steps up to handle more advanced organisation and time awareness. Find your strengths, and have courage to defer to your partners leadership where they are stronger. That builds trust and open safe communication. Consider cockpit leadership gradients: too steep head hocho mentality and people get killed. A relationship is two people. Not one person "buying" into a mother and seein…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:51 PM
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Great question, happy to bite. Everywhere in the media today I see very misandrist comments. I can't seem to escape it. Reddit. YouTube. Tik tok. Facebook. Workplace conversations. Im finding anti male sentiment is growing. I started to react negatively to all this, and I got red pilled hard. Because I have such a loving anchor in my life though it's quite the whiplash. We have relationship issues like other couples, mostly in relation to... Relations. I grew to resent how women view men on the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:44 PM
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... Whhhhaaat? Some wild takes here on this sub at times, I'll give you that hahaha..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:37 PM
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Personally I'm sick of having to walk women to the dating line. If you don't want to be here don't come. I'm not here to warm you up and I'm sick of the "men have to chase us" attitude. No. I'd rather withdraw from chasing because I'm not bearing 100% of the rejection burden anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:34 PM
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I want a good man. Hi. Oh sweet new best friend! Cool. You want options in your back pocket then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:31 PM
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Not one that's emotionally available, apparantly. They say they want us but they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:18 AM
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I mean I'm not going to pain all women with the actions of one if she sat in the car and stated at me... Some people are psychos lol. That's all there is to it. I don't think this is a man/woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:15 AM
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I want a nice guy. But he also must be really hot. Heres the thing. Testosterone drives fearless behaviour and also physical size. That's just what test does and how it works fellas. I don't write the rules of biochem and nature, wish I did. The girls go for aggressive giga Chad for some reason in today's age, thinking he can provide for her when it's the smaller male who instead is resourceful and maintains peace and social order that gets ahead instead. If women believed in small ans skinny gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:03 PM
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To me it also sounds like hypergamy on the males part, but also... No different to any other relationship? It's very aggressive in the coldness of it, such is the nature of aspd. It. Would be very welcome and clear communication for someone with asd. Some want this. Some dont. This 1% guy can and probably should screen for his 1% woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:57 PM
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Okay how about this: Why would you search for love and acceptance in a place that prioritises abuse and hypergamy? Don't withdraw from dating. Withdraw from dating apps. You'll find the one in third space.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:51 PM
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We can do that gently and not so overt... I find nuance helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:59 PM
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Jeez that's dark. Blackpilled but not based. Sort it out "men"...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:58 PM
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Nope not worth the risk.That's how destructive false accusation culture is. It destroys good relationships and people before they even start
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:56 PM
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As a skinny guy I got no attention. As a toned athletic guy, much much more. Its not twinks. They just don't go for obesity. Like most of us. I think there is a cultural appreciation for the slender, gentle man in Asia, rather than the bear woodcutter from Alaska. But all in all power and strength preferences hold. It's just how it's presented and worn in my eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:23 AM
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You started in one place but went somewhere else but I hear what you say... You aren't wrong wrong perse, but what you fail to see is the same scrutiny on women. Ozempic this, weight watchers that! Wear lingerie! Are you even good in bed? buy the latest cosmo to find out! Remember that guy who said you don't smile enough? We're all hurting mate. And as an MRA myself I feel it. But you gutta channel it. What exactly do you hate? Is it all women? Just the power hungry hypergamists? The unapologeti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:20 AM
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Confidence is earned through practice. Go into your first flirtatious interaction attempt with the intent of fucking it up and blowing it. Push it till you learn the limit. Great, sorry if I upset you, moving on. Repeat. After time, you learn yourself and others and find what you want or do not. Fake it means fake the comfort until the comfort is natural. You don't fake your credibility, that's stupid and reckless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:12 AM
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??? What even is going on here? Did I miss the memo for penis inspection day or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:06 AM
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