| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 383 | Today I was supposed to be getting married and I would have been miserable forever | LESSON LEARNED | Acts1v8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:47 AM |
| 83 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister? | DISCUSSION | Acts1v8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 12:16 AM |
| 25 | Not sure how to handle this | SEEKING ADVICE | Acts1v8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 02:36 PM |
| 20 | Help me break my Pick-me urges! | Acts1v8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 08:20 PM | |
| 1 | Thoughts on Introverts | Acts1v8 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:52 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!No. We see each other a few times a week in person as it is. Only difference is we would be alone this time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 10:24 AM |
| 5 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!A good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:40 AM |
| 5 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!This is super helpful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 4 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!Food for thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!Around here it's just something you do. I never would have considered in intimate. We've gone together a few times with a group and we both enjoy it so I didn't even think about it. We don't have a lot of out door seating around here but we are rural so it maybe that's why | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!We are but I'm still cautious and even with the tables seperated I get nervous. Out door seating is an option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!I'm not comfortable going to restaurants right now except for take out. It's not a worth thing more just being mindful of safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:33 PM |
| 13 | Help me break my Pick-me urges!... oof good point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 22 | Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for themI didnt realize it was my job to raise my future husband, Gosh I thought that was his momma's job. But what do I know? I am extra confused because... Isn't it also wrong for us to try to change men? Aren't we supposed to accept them as they are? Which is it?? I do I try and fix him up or not? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:18 PM |
| 4 | Wow now this is a man who is obviously serious and committed /sWhat does 'at least something casual' even mean? Like isn't casual the bare minimum? So what's under that? What ever is less than casual hes open to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 12:17 PM |
| 57 | Men🙄🙄I always got 'Pics or it didn't happen' when I said I was showering. But on a slightly different note, Even if I get married no one else is allowed in the shower with me. I got things to do in there and I don't need grubbly little man hands trying to grope me while I'm trying to shave my legs and wash my hair... Can I please be naked alone? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 01:06 AM |
| 6 | That was a big shock to me at the time thoWith my ExFiance I was having stomach issues. Couldn't eat hardly anything, would throw up randomly, couldn't sleep because I was so sick to my stomach all the time .. we broke up and I haven't had any more stomach problems... Weird 🙃 my therapist says your body can't lie to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 01:51 PM |
| 16 | TIL Emotional Intimacy with men does not exist without tangible commitmentNever even thought of this but now looking back on how my exs emotionalled dumped on the first or second date. A redflag I didn't even think of! It also can make you feel like you need to open up also and then they have emotional ammo to use later | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 03:08 AM |
| 5 | Apart from having a separate bank account and keeping your important documents at a safe place, how else can you provide security for yourself in the case of needing to exit a relationship quickly?Have a go plan and people who know about the go plan. Like if you text your friend SOS they know to call 911 and send them to your location. Have a friend or family member who you can trust that is aware of your emergency plan and will let you stay at their home at a moment's notice. I have these same fears. That I'm gonna get in a relationship and their gonna turn out to be abusive or theyve been pretending to be someone else to get me to be with them. All the others didn't, why would this one … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:39 PM |
| 22 | UPDATE: The scrotes got mad because I commented “men will slide that age of consent as low as possible if we let you” on a post full of men who were arguing why the age of consent should be lowered. Now I’m banned for “pushing a misandrist narrative” that was responding to men’s ACTUAL COMMENTS 😒Why is a 19 year old interested in a 14 year old? Why is a 30 year old interested in a 15 year old? Their bodies have BARELY developed. (Oooh yay sex with children 🤮) Their brains haven't fully developed, not even CLOSE. Nasty nasty nasty. You have nothing in common! What you gonna do when she gets grounded? You gonna help her with her math homework? You gonna pick her up from school early and take her to see the orthodontist? NASTY! I'm so mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 02:30 PM |
| 9 | Ladies, let's talk about porn in a relationship.You get to choose where your boundaries are. to me, watching porn is the same as cheating. I'd absolutely confront him. If it's a deal breaker for you, you gotta find out now before you're in too deep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 10:04 PM |
| 45 | Anyone that’s stayed single on purpose to heal , learn, grow!? How did you do it?I am also going single on purpose for the first time and I LOVE IT. I'm planning on going at least through November cause that'll make a full year but I may extend it. First thing I did was get me some time consuming hobbies. Painting. Learning to play an instrument. Cooking. Just filling my time with things I enjoy that make me happy and feel accomplished. It's natural to feel lonely when you feel like the only attention that matters is male attention. Start making new friends. Rekindle old fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 02:57 AM |
| 34 | Thought I’d make something.They want us to be more picky but still make an exception for them 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:33 PM |
| 13 | Beware of aggressive drivers/truck guys.Everytime I see a man in a bug truck being stupid and loud I wiggle my pinky at them and say 'Oh my condolences sir' cause we all know they are just driving that sucker to over compensate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:38 PM |
| 9 | I'm addicted to porn! How can I change?Get a porn blocker for your phone and computer. I can't remember what I use but that helps curve the impulse. Anywhere you look to find it, delete that app. Tumblr? Reddit? YouTube? Take the app off your phone. Once you know what triggers you to use, boredom, loneliness etc, find a different way to meet that need. Lonely? Call up a friend to chat. Take yourself to dinner. Journal. Bored? Get a hobby. I've taken up cooking, painting, and knitting on top of always working to keep my house spotless… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 02:23 PM |
| 40 | This sub makes me want to die a virginI have had the unfortunate experience of settling and loosing my virginity to some loser and let me tell you sex ain't even that great. Not worth it and I'll be happy my whole life not to do it again. You're not missing anything. If you need that release just get a toy it's better. I've found after my ex left me that I have never been more at peace living along, loving my own life with good friends and I volunteer with children so there's my fix of that! And even better I get to send them back t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 08:34 PM |
| 6 | First date tonight since a bad breakup and finding FDS. Met via OLD. He asked. He planned it. He confirmed days in advance. He offered to pick me up but also understands if I prefer to drive separately. So far...good signs. Any tips? Things to look for?I expect an update 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:27 AM |
| 19 | This wealthy 38M has strict requirements for the privilege of dating him. Too many to post, but “female applicants” must answer ALL questions (A-Z) to even be considered. It’s written like a business proposal, but I’ve seen less strict RFP’s in sales 🤣Oh no I'm 25! I'm too old 😭😭😭 Please make an exception for me I don't think I could live with myself if I let you slip away! /S | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 03:57 AM |
| 12 | Is my boyfriend toxic?Oh honey. I could have written this post a few years ago and it hurts to see someone go through those same pains I did. He isn't respecting your boundaries. That's toxic and should be a deal breaker. If he doesn't respect your boundaries, he doesn't respect YOU. You aren't ready to have sex yet. Saying no once should be sufficient. 'I don't want to pressure you' while actively pressuring you. He's telling you it hurts him not to to make you feel guilty. He's making you feel like it's your fault.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:31 AM |
| 38 | Asshole Father eats all his daughters food and the commenters blame the mom!So a turd of a man eats his daughters dinner then to make himself feel like less of a jerk tries to make his wife feel bad for not making their child dinner... After he ATE her dinner ... Sounds like manipulation and deflection to avoid actually taking responsibility for his actions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 12:43 AM |
| 18 | Literally MenIn the affidavit, police wrote the toys could not be re-sold and Target was forced to let it go following the incident Maybe don't use the words 'Let it go' in an article about a Frozen stuffed character being accosted... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:53 AM |
| 6 | Reminder to never tell them about past abuseHad my ex tell me that I couldn't make good choices about our future because I had PTSD from abuse 🙃 Okay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 04:45 PM |
| 30 | The most Pickme thing I’ve ever seen on Facebook 😂 Could never be meIf I wanted a project, I'd go to art school. No thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:12 PM |
| 52 | I really want to ask this man if he has a job because how do you have so much time to tweet about this BULLSHIT!!??!Virgo is toxic because our houses are clean and we won't sleep with you. 🤷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?You're right. She won't listen to me. I wouldn't have listen to me at her age so I get it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?She has a pretty high turn over rate so I'm hoping this plays out real quick cause otherwise I feel this isn't gonna go well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?I have no idea. She didn't meet him at school so I have no clue | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:46 PM |
| 5 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?That might work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 04:14 AM |
| 4 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?I may just try to do that.... Im real uncomfortable with this whole thing. I wonder if she's even care what came up on a background check | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 03:50 AM |
| 37 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?Right!? She really knows how to pick em 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:21 AM |
| 14 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?Great advice. Thank you. I'm not sure why he isn't a cop anymore but I doubt he'd tell her if it was for misconduct or being fired. He wouldn't want to look bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:20 AM |
| 28 | Why is a 25 year old man going out with my 19 year old sister?Right right right! I should have clarified that she thinks he's successful but if he's going after someone who's barely an adult I have questions ya feel me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 01:19 AM |
| 38 | Seen on FB. My LVM ex used to make me give him my card/cash so he could look like he was paying for our date.My ex used to do this when he couldn't afford to pay for dinner or something... He'd insist I had him my card so it didn't hurt is pride 🙄 Meanwhile hes making more than me, eat out for lunch everyday, and can afford the insurance and car payment on his over priced Camero that he doesn't even drive. WHY was I like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 04:11 AM |
| 50 | a girl is MURDERED by her classmate for not having an abortion and the men of reddit of course want to make this about their imaginary ‘issues’. I can’t 🤦🏽♀️Why do people act like signing away parental rights isn't an option for men? You can do that. That's what they are discribeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 12:18 AM |
| 3 | A real conversation I have literally just hadYou should have said 'Thats fine with me, but if it goes in mine it goes in yours 🤷🍆' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 01:31 PM |
| 11 | What was your worst pickmeisha experience like with a LV ex?Girl, same! I'd be miserable if I married one of those turds. This was back to back. I thought I had done better picking until I realized my exfiance was actually the same thing as all the others he just was better had hiding it until there was pressure on him. I found this sub not long after we broke up so I'm on the right path now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 10:15 PM |
| 37 | What was your worst pickmeisha experience like with a LV ex?Oh Lord, my worst one? Was it the 5 foot 2 inch Chihuahua boy I dated for over a year who couldn't hold down a job, was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive, and who I had to have committed to a mental hospital due to threats of suicide who told me multiple times he didn't want to get married but he might make an exception for me? Or was it the boy whose name was LITERALLY Shady who never took me on a date, king of gas lighting and emotional and mental manipulation and talked me into loo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 05:42 PM |
| 2 | dont want a sex drive anymore.I am not sexually active and I continue using oral birth control because it keeps my periods normal AND it killed my sex drive so I can focus on other things. I know there are other risks that come with it, but it is an option. Edit:added a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 02:45 AM |
| 76 | "There's someone for everyone" is a myth created by men so they can all get laid.I just got in an argument with someone over this very concept. They said 'When you finally meet the right person.... ' and I corrected them to 'IF I meet the right person'. I think it's important for us to teach young women especially that being single is just as valid and good as being married. So don't settle for some mini-weenie, man baby just to avoid being alone. Learn to be comfortable being alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 02:36 PM |
| 31 | Have you noticed that 99% of bad drivers are men?Okay but when a dude is a bad driver and he comes close to rear ending someone or hitting a curb and you react accordingly and say 'Watch out' or 'Slow down' he will then turn around and say you are being more of a distraction, or over reacting, or something along those lines. Then when your driving they'll pull the e-brake on you if they think you're not driving 'safe' (true story). I just hate riding in the car with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 01:10 AM |
| 10 | What are your qualities? No, I don't mean qualities that serve others, I mean qualities about who you are as a person. We spend so much time thinking on what we should DO to be High Valued we often we forget about what we ARE! If you never thought about it before, here is your cue.This is hard for me. I have such a hard time naming things like that. It always comes back to what I can do for others. I know those are bad qualities but that's also not all that I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Men who fetish “traditional women” and obsess over women being modest, obedient, quiet, and homemakers are walking red flags. They’re insecure bitch boys who are intimidated by strong, confident women. Get a dog if you want blind obedience.You want a traditional woman? Okay. I want a traditional man. I expect you to pay me and my parents in livestock and other valuables in exchange for my hand in marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Share your goals for levelling up in 2020I want to start and stick to a work out plan. Work on taking care of my hair better to get Max curls/limited damage Update and clean out my wardrobe. Get involved in more volunteer activities Don't date anyone who can't prove to me that my life will be better with them in than it is now. No more settling for project men. I probably just won't date at all and just focus on work and friends. Solo Travel to Niagra Falls & Williamsburg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 05:17 PM |
| 10 | Not sure how to handle thisHe can't afford to leave. He doesn't work and draws disability. He's the scub Destiny's Child was talking about... He can't afford rent, or anything. Yeah I'll have to be very clear this is not an option. Ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 03:54 PM |
| 9 | Not sure how to handle thisThis is doable. For sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 03:52 PM |
| 19 | Not sure how to handle thisYeah, he's a real winner /s. I can't block him because I run this social group and the organization wants it open to anyone. I've already talked to the higher ups about it and they basically just said 'Just keep deflecting him until he gets the hint' Telling his GF may be an option though cause she probably isn't aware he's 'shopping around' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 03:10 PM |
| 5 | WEAR A CONDOM OR STFU. Birth Control is NOT 100% effective and comes with INSANE side effects that SIGNIFICANTLY impact our quality of life.I was going to get married next year. Realize now he was a super LVM. But anyway he decided I needed to go on BC to make it easier. I started coming to my senses and calling him out on a bunch of crap and he zipped off. It's for the best, but I've stayed on BC anyway. It's KILLED my sex drive, but I don't need it right now so that's not been a down side for me at least. Also cleared up my acne and made my periods regular, light and I can skip if I want. However, my Doctor didn't mention all thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 02:10 AM |
| 48 | ''Sexual compatibility'' - for the purposes of early dating, he has ENOUGH information!I had a dude try to tell me we had to have sex before moving forward because he might be 'allergic' to me and he just couldn't move forward without knowing... Men will day anything to sleep with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 01:57 PM |
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