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He just turned 44. He's being nicer to me now that I'm acceptably hot again after having the baby, I guess. 🤷
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/24 10:50 PM
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Sounds like you would be perfect as a home healthcare aide or LPN. You're essentially already doing that job for your grandmother. They're also in extremely high demand everywhere, so there's a good chance you would be able to call the shots on when/where you work so you could care for your grandmother. I would suggest getting some sort of nursing certificate like an LPN because obviously they make more than just your standard healthcare aide and, to my understanding, the training isn't too diff…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 02:20 PM
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This comment - especially the bit about DEER - is INSANELY useful! Thank you. I think explaining is exactly where I go wrong in these situations as well. Thinking back, explaining my rationale for something, even if I'm completely calm, has never deescalated a conversation if the other party is already riled up - because angry people don't want to be rational. I'm going to do some thinking on this. But on a related note while I'm thinking about it, do you have a suggestion for how to deal with a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 03:12 AM
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I don't feel I'm the controlling one, but I could stand to be corrected. Looking back, I think he was always about as controlling and nitpicky as he is now, but back when we first started dating I felt it was normal since I was only 19 and really did need to be taught a lot of things. But I've never been able to earn his respect as a fully capable adult I guess is where the problem is. 12 years of having your every minor flaw pointed out to you gets exhausting and demoralizing. And he's rarely r…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 01:29 AM
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Admittedly I could have been a bit nicer about the book question. I was certainly frustrated and it just came across as just another thing to pick at me for. I'd already spent 3 hours on a roast dinner because he always asks for me to make beef, only for me to inevitably do it wrong. I didn't get any acknowledgement (not even a "thanks") for my effort, only the assessment that "the meat is overcooked" (and for what it's worth, while I'm generally not very good at cooking beef, his son disagreed …
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:41 PM
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I'm really interested in this and I'd like to hear more about your approach. When you say "being someone approachable vs someone clingy/desperate," what does that look like for you? This afternoon I asked him for help organizing the free tub of baby clothes we got from my mom because I reasoned he's had a baby before (albeit his son is now 15, lol) so has some guidance to offer about what we need, plus he's better at organizing than I'll ever be and I told him so. He was happy to do that. But th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 03:39 AM
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Thanks for pointing that out. It didn't actually occur to me that the current issue and previous issues I had with him wanting to swing could be connected. I asked him for marriage counseling and he refused. I will try the Laura Doyle route, at least, but I'm not sure what else I can do.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 03:20 AM
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I think some info is missing. How was your relationship before the pregnancy? How did you guys handle the finances? You said you paid for everything in regards to the baby, but you also said he nitpicked on the amount of soap you used. Could it be he's worried about finances? Before pregnancy, I think in retrospect I'd say our relationship was more like that of roommates than anything else - just roommates that enjoyed having sex with each other. I can't think of any shared hobbies that we had l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 06:51 PM
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Have you discussed it with him or asked what about the pregnancy is turning him off? Hi. Yes, we've discussed, at least insofar as I can. He hasn't out and said it clearly the way I would like him to, but my understanding is just simply my pregnant belly is unattractive to him and there's nothing I can do about it. My husband is a great father and didn’t care one lick about any of the baby prep. I handled registry, items, because it was my job. I saw it as my task. I mean, I get this in one resp…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 06:07 PM
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I would say if he's saying one thing and the content he's consuming says something else, be very wary. My husband was a big Andrew Tate fan (I say "was" - he has conspicuously stopped defending the guy lately...), and while I have a chicken-and-egg question about whether his changing personality caused him to start seeking out different content or whether the different content he was consuming changed him as a person, the end result is the same: people don't keep watching and engaging with creat…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 05:28 PM
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My family didn't say anything at all about our relationship to indicate their feelings either way. His friends, though, were definitely concerned about if he was okay lol. But we had already really hit it off before either of us realized how massive the age gap was as we were both attending post-secondary (he'd gone back to learn a trade) and we met because we lived on the same bus route and I thought he was cute. I think more generally, though, as far as mindset goes, I never really gave a thou…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 04:49 PM
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I second this. I get along great with the mother of my husband's son - and she's also been extremely supportive and 100% in my corner now that I am also pregnant. I don't know what I was expecting, but I've got absolutely the best-case scenario with her.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 06:31 PM
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My husband and I got together when I was 19 and he was 31, and he had a 2.5-year-old son (kid is now 15 and we're expecting our first together because I changed my mind and suddenly wanted kids when I turned 30). In all honesty, I have zero complaints - although part of that is because we've always had a week-on/week-off arrangement with his ex (whom I get along very well with and always have). I feel I've gotten to enjoy all of the positives of having kids and very few of the negatives because …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 03:51 PM
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The most likely explanation here is that he's got Death Grip Syndrome and has destroyed his own sensation masturbating to the point that he doesn't enjoy a properly aroused or otherwise sufficiently lubricated vagina because he wants more friction Unrelated to the topic at hand (sorry, OP), but holy crap, I have never heard of this and I now understand the dysfunction of one of my past partners (in his case, though, he avoided addressing the issue by being all in on pleasing his partner). It was…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 03:39 PM
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I really appreciate the insights. Thank you for that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 03:24 PM
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I don't think there's any one-size-fits-all way to have a traditional relationship, other than the overarching principle of the man as leader and the woman who supports him and respects his leadership. In my marriage, I would say our division of labour is generally governed by 1) who has time to get the task done, and 2) who's better at the job. I will NEVER be as good at keeping a house clean as my husband is. He has an eye for detail that I just don't and never will. That doesn't mean I do no …
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 02:48 PM
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This comment raises some good points. I feel like around here we have this tendency to just sort of lump all men together and say "men want XYZ in a wife," but we struggle with nuance. One great observation I had heard recently was that you will basically never get a successful long-term relationship out of a pairing of an ultramasculine male with an ultrafeminine female - they're just too different to have any common interests. My husband and I are opposites in ways that complement each other v…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 02:35 PM
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She will be my first, yes (though my husband has a 15-year-old son, so the sibling dynamics could be... interesting lol).
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 02:14 PM
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I feel like we have a few things in common. I am 31 years old, married for just shy of 10 years, and I'm pregnant and due in less than 4 weeks. I'm sure I have a different perspective than many other women around here, but I can tell you that I vastly outearn my husband. It just sort of happened organically because I love my job, am good at it, and my skills are in high demand (this will all change in the very near future due to the baby, but for now this is how things are). So with that in mind…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 06:34 PM
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In my opinion, it doesn't matter if he checks the boxes that theoretically qualify him as a HVM if the relationship is essentially one-sided. If he doesn't act like one towards you, he's not as high value as you think. Besides, you are quite young, and (again, my opinion but as someone who has been married for 10 years and got married at 21) there's no reason to necessarily look for a man who has it all together when both you and a potential partner are going to grow and change together (assumin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 03:36 AM
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I should add - I tried dating precisely one simp back when I was single because he seemed so nice. Well, problem was he was too nice (you know what I mean - "nice" in a way that comes across as weakness). I couldn't picture him being a leader I would ever want to follow. So really that was the nonstarter, I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/24 08:42 PM
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Believe me, simps get annoying real quick, and using them to your advantage is a recipe for making incels. Just avoid them. I feel like if you're inclined to consider a guy a simp, really what you mean is you're better than him, so you're just wasting your time entertaining their attention.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/24 08:38 PM
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Hoo boy is #2 ever accurate. Presenting yourself with even the most basic level of self-respect puts you light-years ahead of the average person.
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 08:09 PM
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I think both of you keeping open lines of communication and agreeing on rules you can both stick to and hold the other accountable to is really the #1 thing. I too was quite religious when I was younger, so I can definitely relate to what you're experiencing right now, by the way. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for a little over three years (high school into college, which is why we didn't get married or engaged in that time), and while initially I thought I was committed to saving myself for marri…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 06:40 PM
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I may be in the minority around here - I'm not sure - but I do believe that masculinity/femininity and submission are mindsets and attitudes rather than specific action. My husband is very good at cleaning and has extremely high standards for the state of our home. Which of us is actively doing the cleaning is irrelevant: in my view, having those high standards and enforcing them is still masculine. When it comes to finances and who takes care of who, I make substantially more, and I love my job…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:54 PM
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I don't know why you got downvoted for this because even I think that's a fair perspective. My only pushback would be that if it was that important to him, I would argue it was on him to explore it further before I married him and could no longer make the decision to walk away. Telling me 2 weeks in is one thing - waiting 3 years to act on it any further, until I'm married to him and not going anywhere, is where it starts to strike one as manipulative. And obviously staying and getting pregnant …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:16 PM
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First of all, get rid of any social media that makes you feel inadequate. To not do that first is to set yourself up for failure from the start. I don't have a lot to offer beyond that, though. I started eating well, working out, and wearing makeup, and what I found was, oddly enough, instead of directly making me feel beautiful, it made me more confident in myself and that made me just not care what other people thought of me anymore, and that confidence eventually made me feel attractive and m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:03 PM
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Yes to all of this! It sounds like you and your partner have exactly the right idea of how to form a happy family.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 04:14 PM
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Oh, for sure I got you. It's a weird dynamic to begin with, so I appreciate any perspective I can get. I posted here to get perspective from women who also see eye to eye with something much closer to my ideal relationship dynamic, but the swinging subreddit or generic relationship advice would give me different and potentially also useful perspectives. I realize another factor is that I'm now the age he was when we first started dating, and that 12 years of life experience in between perhaps ga…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 08:41 PM
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I see sooooo much of myself in what you just said here. You just described perfectly how I'm feeling right now. Funny thing to me is I know he's feeling very anxious and worried about my pregnancy (because it's my first pregnancy, not because there's actually anything to really worry about), but it seems as though he doesn't understand that the way he's approaching the discussion about his desires is directly causing me stress and hurt that can't be good for the baby. I'll give some thought abou…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 07:49 PM
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Ah, yes - I should add that I set up a threesome with one of my friends shortly after we were married. So again, I set a precedent there that's not so easy to undo. I think your assessment here is exactly right: You agreed to terms you didn't properly understand, but he still communicated his needs and desires, quite clearly. I did have in mind the intention to wait until we were settled into our "new normal" before actually taking action on this. I guess my concern about waiting to have a serio…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 07:08 PM
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