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In office jobs, abolishing laws around equality would also harm men. Female applicants already get more responses. And we also have higher educational attainment. And if women can't have jobs, well, then it's 100% guaranteed that any woman you're with is with you for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:53 AM
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That is a good point. When a woman has sex with some pro athlete, she similarly sees this as a reward and like something to brag about. Even if it doesn't lead to anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:30 PM
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Well, I guess this is where we have to agree to disagree. I think that as humans, there will be times when our urges and feelings should not dictate our actions. If I listened to my feelings, I'd spend most of my time laying in bed eating Cheetos and ignoring all of my friends and other obligations. But that's not conducive to a healthy relationship nor personal life, so I don't do that. And I don't think any amount of introspection or self-analysis will deprogram thousands of years of evolution…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:45 PM
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You can frame any relationship suggestion that implies self restraint as "then X revolves around your partner!" In other terribly toxic news: you shouldn't scream and shit on the floor simply because you felt the impulse to do that at that moment, as this may entail behavioral consequences on the other person in your presence. More at 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:32 PM
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You are then each significantly less gender dimorphic in your psychological traits than the average man and woman. Congrats! I'm simply speaking about the average man and average woman. And usually, the man values sex far more than the woman, and the woman cleanliness far more than the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:25 PM
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"Probably doesn't want" – yes, but there are men who would do that, thinking that maybe romancing her would make her treat him better. So would you then advise that man to just act according to his feewies to avoid being "manipulative"?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:15 PM
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How is it wiser to risk reproduction with a man after he's treated you like shit – because you happened to have the tinglies at that moment – than it is to have it after he's solved a major life stressor or cherished you all weekend?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:09 PM
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Many women also get turned on by danger and drama. Our desire is also GENERALLY (I know Reddit is full of women who are not like any other women) more responsive than initiating. And I'm simply stating that it would be beneficial for us to be more mindful of when we are being intimate and when not. Too many women are intimate in marriages where they are perpetually stressed out and overlooked, treated like maids or background characters, and then are confused why their men keep treating them tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:04 PM
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Not mutually exclusive at all. I'm just saying that you can have all the conversations you want about how what he does is wrong, but if you still have sex at the end of it, MOST men will think that things are actually great and you're just nagging to fill the silence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:00 PM
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Sure, it's pleasurable for both. But there are still, generally, sex-based differences in how valuable it is perceived to be. A man might also enjoy the result of a nicely decorated and sparkling clean apartment, but usually, the woman is the one to initiate the decoration process and also enjoy a higher standard of cleanliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:58 PM
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The best sex of your life is whatever constitutes that for you and your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:52 PM
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Do you think it'd be manipulative to say to a man "don't take your girlfriend on a romantic date if she has treated you terribly all week?". I personally don't think so. Not rewarding bad behavior is just Adulting 101.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:51 PM
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Then just try not to have it right after the man has treated you like shit or done something else you don't wish to encourage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:48 PM
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That's because you're a woman. Ask a man whether he'd rather give up travel or sex in his relationship with his girlfriend/wife. To you, they may be of equal weight, but to men, it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:40 PM
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It doesn't mean sex has to be bad for women. For thousands of years, sex just came with a risk of pregnancy. And if you became pregnant, you had to face a ~10% chance of dying in childbirth (this was the reality before modern medicine). Even though sex feels good for a man, he might still hesitate to have it if handed a revolver and asked to do a round of Russian Roulette each time he'd have it. "Is this girl really worth possibly dying for?"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:33 PM
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I'm not saying it isn't enjoyable for us. It is, but it also comes with a far scarier biological calulation. And our desire is far more responsive than initiating. We like it once we're having it, but usually don't want to initiate it as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:28 PM
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That is absolutely true! Should never make empty promises as a woman. Part of why men become so easily addicted to video games is that the outcomes are evident. You do X, you level up. If a game suddenly changed the rules right at the finish line, the man would just rage quit. So women are really doing their relationships a disservice by doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:25 PM
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I did abstain from casual sex. My first relationship just happened to be with someone hung.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:01 PM
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People with impulsive/intrusive thoughts would be f-ed. I think some pretty horrible thoughts just because my brain kind of goes "what would be the worst possible thing to think right now" (without consciously thinking such) and then articulates it out loud in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:45 AM
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Exactly! It's actually a great point that this also connects to the whole "I'm totally not insecure or jealous" thing. I'd not thought of that before. I guess in a world of "unconditional love", the expectation is you can say and do anything and your partner will take it. When really, love is a dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 06:06 AM
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But see, that's where we disagree. I don't think it's a "high ego" thing to not want to hear your partner's "honest opinion" about your mate value metrics compared to the rest of the world. I think, in love, the healthy state is thinking your partner is the greatest of them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 05:57 AM
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Dang. Well, I hope it keeps working for you. Congrats on bagging someone who treats you like a roommate, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:52 PM
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I'm not saying to wait until marriage to have sex, I'm saying that you can't just do everything that is done in a marriage outside of it and then wonder why you're not getting proposed to. You must see the difference between living together and fucking all day vs living seperately and having sex only occasionally, ye?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:51 PM
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You may believe what you want, but love is irrational. Heck, my dad bought my mom a jacuzzi before getting his own root canal treatments. Men are willing to DIE for the ones they love, and so when he really loves you, he's not asking "Okay but can I check my Excel spreadsheet first to see if this fits my budget?".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:48 PM
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Yeah in such cases, you typically have to be exceptionally attractive as a woman. I'm speaking about ordinary women and men. And you didn't answer the question in my last message.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:43 PM
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Yeah but beggars can't be choosers. Women have always been the ones getting courted – not the other way around. A woman loving you shows in how she reacts to what you do – not in her behaving like a man around you. No man actually wants that. Take a movie character you have a crush on. If you met her in real life, would you really be asking her to come do your dishes and pay on dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:38 PM
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Oh, so if having sex isn't a wifely duty, that must mean all those people in r/deadbedrooms are upset over nothing, then? Go let them know!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:32 PM
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I have already been proposed to once. When a man really loves you, he wants to make you his before anyone else gets a hold of you. I'm not saying to never cook or clean. I'm saying that you dhould mostly keep your own apartments and spend, at most, a few days at a time at each other's place while dating. And not that you should cheat, but that you should stay open to other suitors. Because that's what dating is. If a better option comes along, you're free to leave. The whole point of marriage is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:29 PM
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Because both parties have something to lose in divorce. And you stand in front of all your acquaintances (and traditionally, God) and vow to commit to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:24 PM
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A lot more women get burned in an arrangement like that, wasting years of their life on a man who doesn't actually end up marrying them. In most cases, if a man really wants you, he'll not need these other maneuvers – like experiencing the benefits of combined finances – to make the jump and ask the question. I think doing it your way (build a life together first and then maybe marrying) leads a lot of women AT BEST marrying someone who only somewhat likes them. If a woman of their dreams had co…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:21 PM
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Well, that's unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:13 PM
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Divirces take a lot more time, effort, and money. Marriage is the most legally significant thing you can do aside from dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:12 PM
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If I get married, I want it to be with someone who genuienly desires that commitment Say that again, but slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:11 PM
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Yeah there's a whole lot of people living in suboptimal and illogical ways. I'm just saying that, for the many women and men who desire true commitment, they should not delude themselves into thinking that's what dating is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:10 PM
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That's a tad bit harder than breaking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:08 PM
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What led you to that conclusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:07 PM
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That's crazy. Getting married was too much commitment but a house and kids weren't? What...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:06 PM
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Yes. It's supposed to last just long enough to get to know each other. Now it can last decades. If you need to keep one foot out at all times, maybe you just... don't really love the person that much?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:05 PM
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Not at all. I've dated 10 people (yes, I have issues), and got over most of them in a day or two. #8 left me sobbing for months, thinking of him daily even after a year. My first true heartbreak.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:27 AM
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I agree on them doing analysis but don't believe most do the kind I describe. I see a lot of people perceiving all traits they desire as vital (and justifying this with 'biology' – as men do – or with 'matching my level' as women do), and any negatives as "red flags". For men, these red flags mean they might still keep you around for sex & a warm body to sleep next to while knowing they'll never marry / truly commit to you, while women will usually leave. But both are worse than trying to filter…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:56 AM
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LOL good one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:37 AM
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Answer: yes. Especially in the era of dating apps. Just lists of checkboxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:33 AM
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I don't think there's anything wrong with having a general idea of what makes you 'tick'. Dating is inherently discriminatory; if you just "go with the vibes" every time, you'd waste thousands of hours of your time and the other people's time. Don't like traveling? Maybe don't go out with an avid backpacker. Maybe making comparisons to real estate transactions makes my point sound colder than I intended. I just thought it made for an interesting parallel.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:32 AM
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I agree about it not being "settling", or at least that settling is not the negative thing people make it out to be. There are no perfect people – and the ones who check all the boxes for people of your gender have high standards for both themselves AND their partners. But men going to poor countries to buy wives doesn't mean they're lowering their standards – it just means they're willing to pay for them being fulfilled. Thin, young, bubbly personality, long hair, no tattoos, no promiscuous pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:24 AM
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Exactly. I guess I didn't phrase it clearly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:11 AM
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The return on their investment must be worth it otherwise women wouldn't do it. Buddy, have you seen the birth rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:10 PM
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Yeah, most of the people posting her content to criticize her seem to be men. Women mostly just seem to think "I may not like it but for millions and millions of dollars, it makes sense". I'm not sure where OP got that women would be the primary haters of her. Maybe from Bonnie herself? But she is acting a role – saying anything to side with men, like "There's nothing wrong with cheating on your wife" etc. So I would not take her assessment as fact. She's advertising herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:05 PM
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Mmm so women are the leaders, except for emergencies (which mostly don't manifest)? Seems accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:21 PM
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Coaches are actively involved in observing player performance, correcting them, and showing them the correct tecnique. This, again, sounds more so like a woman than a man in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:18 PM
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Does that apply to relationships between men, too? If a male friend of yours is stronger than you, he is your leader, as he could conceivably threaten you silent or kick your ass? I don't buy this framing. Especially since women do have the right to divorce (a right bestowed on them by people with real, legislative power).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:15 PM
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Yes! Men's friend groups can consist of people of all different ages, races, sizes, and backgrounds. A level 2 autistic man gets included, and nobody flinches at his 'odd' behavior, "That's just Todd being Todd". I think as women, our worry about how we are perceived + extreme risk aversion makes us a lot more hesitant to make new friends. This is especially devastating if you're at all autistic or otherwise 'abnormal' and a woman. Your abnormal behavior registers as a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:57 PM
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Men invented and built the modern world. I admire that. My father has the exact same level of intelligence I do (based on official testing), yet he's always been a lot more active in bringing his ideas to reality and trying out different business ventures. I envy that trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:52 PM
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I don't see it. Typically, a woman sets the family’s mission and values, does the long-term planning (education, new house, retirement plans), is responsible for risk management and contingency planning, does the financial allocation, optimizes supply chains and household procurement, directs daily operations and logistics, plans child development, has oversight on health and wellness, decides on social networking opportunities, and is the one the kids run to in moments of crisis. And, of course…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:59 PM
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Interesting point. Kind of similar to how a woman's role was mistranslated as 'helper' when the Hebrew word means more like something similar to a strong saviour. Interestingly, the same word ('ezer') is used in reference to God, so definitely doesn't imply a suboordinate role, as often interpreted.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:44 PM
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I am not conflating leadership and management. There simply is no leadership without management. The stereotype of a CEO not doing anything is untrue. They generally have an active role in tracking the overall operations of the business, intervening, making the large-scale decisions (new offices, partnerships, departments, business areas, etc.). The man seemingly does none of the equivalents of these in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:40 PM
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So the bank, is in fact, the real 'leader' of most families, not the men? Since there can't be two leaders, what is the man?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:35 PM
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What big picture things *is* the man responsible for? CEOs are still involved in the day-to-day operations. They track and guide fundamentals, respond to the most urgent issues, represent the company at events, decide on company event location, decide on office location, etc. All of this sounds more like what the wife does than what the man does.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:30 PM
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I'd disagree with that phrasing. CEOs still have an active, day-to-day role in the operations and metrics of the business. It seems to me like the woman is the CEO and the traditional man desires to be an overstepping bank, saying he can inflict financial damage on the family/CEO if he feels unhappy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:24 PM
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So it's similar to bank and a borrower? The bank can take your house if you don't abide by specific, set terms? Does that make the bank the boss of most men who have a mortgage? I'd say no, since the bank has no direct involvement in the day-to-day processes of the man's life, similar to how these traditional men don't have involvement in the family's.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:20 PM
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What things does he take the lead in?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 02:16 PM
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If women offered nothing besides reproduction/sex, men who don't want children would just use prostitutes instead. Many of them are quite cheap, especially if average-looking. Yet such men do still want a relationship, often desperately so. Statistics and anecdotal experience show that just mere female companionship has a positive effect on men. It allows them to live longer, healthier, wealthier and with better social lives. Divorce is devastating to men even when no financial loss occurs. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 09:28 AM
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Apps should stop limiting male interaction. Have you considered why they don't do this? The answer is: it would render the apps immediately unusable for women. It's already hard enough to find people who genuinely like you amongst a sea of thousands of men who simply swipe right on everyone. With your suggestion implemented, a woman would now also have to swim through thousands of spam messages to find people they already had great conversations with. Because you are thinking about your perspect…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:07 PM
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This was simply to point out why regulation is needed. With a crackdown on shady tactics meant for preventing people finding a mate, dissatisfaction with dating would likely decline, as more people would find a mate. Yes and no; I think they are the core issue with modern dating, and I believe that many frustrations do stem from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:01 PM
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Their business model may encourage keeping people lonely but practically, when there's actual competition, there's only so far they can take it. I think that, especially in this age of AI and phone addiction, that's untrue. Even if the field became more competitive, I think without regulation, most apps would still employ ever shadier tactics. In the early 2000's, the situation was entirely different: much of the developing world didn't have internet access (meaning, there were less romance scam…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:57 PM
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You also don't have to succumb to their shady practices, you don't have to buy premium, you don't have to buy unlimited swipes, you don't have to swipe until you find a date. Yet, most people do. This is kind of like saying "just don't get addicted to gambling, bro". As a society, we regulate things when we notice that something is detrimental for the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:49 PM
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That is a great point. Match Group does fulfill the criteria of a monopoly – at least in individual countries. I know that for my country, Tinder is really the only app that people use for both short and long term dating. As for With competition, dating apps will have to innovate and actually make people happy. I'd disagree. Dating apps, to me, are comparable to gambling companies. There's plenty of competition in gambling, yet that doesn't mean outcomes are any better for the customers. When yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 06:43 PM
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True. Many feminist countries have higher birthrates than the more 'trad' countries (see: North vs South Europe). Really it is just about economic incentives. In countries where children work (at a farm or otherwise), having kids is a net positive. In countries where children are only a financial net negative and laws regarding raising them are stricter, birth rates are lower. And divorce rates also boil down to incentives. For men, the most important part of romance is sex, while for women, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 08:51 AM
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I am a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 09:41 PM
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I don't believe it is just dopamine, though. Like the bot in these replies said, a lot of "love hormone" level stuff goes on during sex more so for men than women, as well. And of course, if it's just something that feels good – why is it that most men leave otherwise excellent relationships when sex is lacking? Almost no man would eagerly stay in a relationship where there are lots of other fun experiences, cuddling, and dopamine, but no sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 08:27 PM
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Yeah honestly, I thought the same thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 08:21 PM
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That's another great point; if sex is really more emotional for women, how would cheating hurt us less and not more?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:41 PM
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Fair enough, maybe I have a blind spot about this. I've only lived in two European countries, in both of which sex work is legal and sex workers are not all that expensive, unless you're seeking a very attractive woman. Plenty of ordinary-lookin women offer the services for rates similar in cost to 2-3 restaurant dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:39 PM
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Well, yes. I should've maybe said 'generally'. Because there are, of course, women who also partake in activities that are emotional/romantic for most women (dates, deep conversations and the like – with men) for reasons other than romance. But that doesn't negate the fact that those things are still emotional in nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:38 PM
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Understandable. Yet isn't it interesting that women don't generally exhibit this behavior with the content they consume?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:35 PM
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Yes! I believe this is also about status which for women is often tied to their fitness and beauty. If you have those traits, it is understandable to want to show them. There's a reason why men in sports cars and women in mini skirts often go hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 07:04 PM
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There are typically women in the comment section, being supportive. I do not appreciate the ad hominem attack. No need to talk down to others; keep it civil!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 10:10 PM
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Yeah yeah, the good old "Who hurt you?" comeback.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 07:27 PM
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You make an interesting point about historical male ideals. And I'd agree – the aversion to color, extravagant hairstyles, and flashy clothing is definitely a recent phenomenon and shows just how much of what we often assign to some inherent evolutionary biology is just trend. What I would say though is that a similar case about genuine false belief could be made for women as well. Many, if not most, women do believe that a specific hair or face type means that short hair increases your attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:43 AM
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Then why is it that balding decreases a man's attractiveness in virtually every research paper done on the topic? Why don't the men in women's romantic movies act or look like Bosnian truckers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:36 AM
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Great point! And the men who do manage to become these stone cold 'heads' of their families eventually become bitter about it. They all want to be truly desired but refuse to be part of the 'dance' that romance is. Flowers? Vain. Ring? Vain. Endless infertile sex, long hair, dresses, stay-up socks? An objective necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:33 AM
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No, there a lot more Bosnian truckers on dating apps than there are those 'pretty men', or even those who would even try to appear as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 09:27 AM
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I'm 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:59 AM
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You could similarly then say that 'average' for a single woman would mean "average for my education, height, and income level". You can't just conveniently re-classify terms according to what's advantegous for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:59 AM
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Actually, it is. If it was easy to eat less, we wouldn't have an obesity epidemic and no-one would be taking ozempic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 08:55 AM
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That, too! 32-year-old woman wants children and can't find a suitable partner -> "You shouldn't have waited so long!" 45-year-old man wants children and can't find a suitable partner -> crickets
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:23 PM
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Men could similarly use one of the readily available methods to stop and reverse hair loss but here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 03:18 PM
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Interesting angle... I would've thought there'd now be a lot more that would go into status, which would simultaneously decrease the importance of your partner's external appearance. A lot more toys to play status games with to more overtly show your value. And it seems to me like the ultra-rich are a prime example of this. Not many of them are with young Stacies, because the external wealth and success they have is all the proof needed of their value. I'd think this would apply to regular folks…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:19 PM
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If that were the case, most young women would be dating wealthy, hot men. You could similarly say that if young women were average, young men would pair up with them easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:06 PM
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Well, that is true. Though there's of course a very valid reason for why men's reproduction has not been socialized; there'd be a massive increase in the risk of CSA. And the socialization of provision and protection benefit men just as much if not more than women; they're more often unemployed and are already at an elevated risk of muggings etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:00 PM
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Average means average. There has been plenty of snark about women rating the majority of men undesirable, we should try to stick to the true meaning of the words we use in order to not exacerbate perception issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 11:53 AM
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