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–	Men like different types, Woman like different flavors. Where did I say anything about "chiseled face and wide shoulders?" I don't believe I used those words at all. I would not describe my husband that way and I wouldn't describe any of my friends' significant others that way, to be honest. It depends how wide of shoulders you mean I guess...wider than mine? yes. That is true but I a don't have very wide shoulders so that isn't a very high bar. They mostly have pretty average shoulders. None of them are very big and muscular.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 08:29 PM
–	Men like different types, Woman like different flavors. Anecdotal, but I like Arab men, not too muscular. My husband is Arab. My sister likes the Jason Momoa type muscles but it's not my thing. One of my best friends liked skinny Latino guys. I have another friend that like heavier, biker type guys. I have a friend into black guys. The only friend I have that is actually married to a tall white guy is a Latina. I know my group may not be the norm but there are definitely attractive women out there that are into men other than the tall white guy type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 08:17 PM
1	Older women are in high demand with younger men. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Not always. It really depends on the people, as in the example I gave you. You really think the unhealthy, uneducated, and broke couple are more suitable parents than a very healthy, financially stable, highly educated couple just because they are younger? I don't share your opinion. The proof is in the pudding, so to speak, in this example. It's not black and white.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 05:51 PM
1	Older women are in high demand with younger men. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Leave the reproducing to the healthy people with the means to take care of the children and the desire to do so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 04:52 AM
1	Older women are in high demand with younger men. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Anecdotally, my friend's baby (the one who had him at 41) is developmentally advanced for his age and is far healthier than my nephew's children who had his when he and his wife were both early 20s. First daughter was premature, spent over 40 days in NICU, has a GI tube, uses a walker to walk, and can barely talk. She is almost 1.5 years behind developmentally. She is in therapy of every kind to try to catch up. She is sick all the time. His second daughter was also premature but not as much, al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/26 06:12 PM
1	Older women are in high demand with younger men. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? That's probably true. Most of my friends didn't want kids. My husband and I don't want them. A couple of my friends had them when we were younger. One of my friends had a very healthy pregnancy and baby when she was 41 but the father is a year or two older. She wasn't exactly trying to get pregnant though, she was told she couldn't get pregnant so she quit taking birth control and the first month off of it she got pregnant. She and her husband were quite surprised, haha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 10:09 PM
9	Older women are in high demand with younger men. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? My husband is almost 9 years younger than me, one of me best friend's husband is almost 20 years younger than her, another good friend's long term boyfriend is about 10 years younger than her, a good friend of my husband's is 10 years younger than his wife, another friend of ours is 12 years younger than his wife, and my cousin's wife is 15 years older than him so it's definitely a thing I've noticed. We have all been in our relationships for at least 7 years (or many more) though so it's not ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 03:44 AM
2	It’s not possible to use a woman for sex So using this logic, would you also say then that it's imposible to use a man for money? It’s widely accepted that both men and women enjoy money. If the relationship or interaction was consensual and both parties agreed than anything beyond isn't a guarantee. Just bc a woman receives money from a man, it doesn't mean she owes him anything beyond that. Relationships are a privilege not a right or entitlement	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 05:37 PM
2	Women "love" men for what they do for them, not who they are. Most people are not professional athletes. The majority of people work and do hobbies until their 60s or even older. Depending on the type of job or hobby, skills actually improve with age and don't decrease untill very old age. Looks definitely fade with age. There are several posts every week here from men here talking about the "wall" and how all men prefer younger women, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 05:12 AM
1	Younger women are just more attractive. You are the only one talking about raising someone else's kids. I am saying women often choose to have and raise children with men they think will be good providers. We could talk about how many men marry a young woman, keep her until she's too old for him, dump her and then go find a younger woman, often abandoning his kids too. The woman and the kids lose in that situation. Neither of these are necessarily the norm though. usually people seek out people they think will be a good partner and pa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 05:32 PM
1	Younger women are just more attractive. Why is it better to want to only make a kid than raise it? Seems rather selfish and egotistical no? Why wouldn't you, as a parent, be concerned first and foremost with actually raising your children? Why bring children into the world if you have no way to provide for them and keep them in a safe home with enough food? Women are thinking about the long term, men are thinking about the short term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 01:09 PM
-5	Younger women are just more attractive. Women find rich men more attractive than poor men for a similar reason. It's evolutionary instinct to find someone who can provide well. It's natural.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/26 03:38 AM
1	What things does your bf/husband do that annoy you? Do you also leave your shoes in the middle of the floor to trip me in the dark? haha	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 10:45 PM
1	If sex work was truly a job as any other, we would have no problem promoting it for high schools students Keeping a city afloat is hardly a minor positive impact, it's pretty major. She was one of the few people who had liquid funds and gave loans when no one else could. Shee built schools as well, her entire estate went to the public school district. She did a lot for the city She is not the only one though, the entire west was built off prostitution with similar stories. It was prevalent in many Eastern and Southern cities as well, like NYC and New Orleans. "In New York City, where we have the mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 07:44 AM
4	What things does your bf/husband do that annoy you? He doesn't turn off lights. ever. Everyday every light in every room he goes in to is still on. Then he complains about the electric bill. I realize the lights don't use much energy but it does add up and it just makes me laugh. He turns up the thermostat to 80 make it warmer instead of putting on more clothes. I can't take more clothes off. I'm wearing as little as possible. we live in a very warm, humid area that is normally over 100F. He is from Egypt so he thinks anything below 90 is cold (I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/26 07:28 AM
2	What things does your bf/husband do that annoy you? 4 hr shower?! That has to be a joke, right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/26 07:14 AM
2	If sex work was truly a job as any other, we would have no problem promoting it for high schools students The city of Seattle was supported by prostitution in its easily years. Look up Lou Graham. In an era when cities were severely constrained in their ability to raise funds, the fees and taxes paid by Lou Graham’s bordello virtually kept the City of Seattle afloat financially. And time and again she bailed out Seattle's leading families with personal loans that a reputable banker like Jacob Furth could not touch. She even bailed out Furth's bank during the Panic of 1893 by publicly making a large …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 12:44 PM
3	Why are yall downvoting women saying they love their husbands? I had the same experience as you. My ex was around 5'6", a little shorter than me. He was an abusive, compulsive liar and a cheater. He was physically attractive and initially I was attracted to his personality but he slowly became abusive, started negging, lying, etc. My husband is 6'1". He is the most respectful, kind, honest, attentive and affectionate man I've ever met. He's also the most attractive. I can't help that the shorter guy was an asshole and the tall one isn't. Some men here seem …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 03:23 PM
0	Why are yall downvoting women saying they love their husbands? My husband also had never heard of red pill or any "pills" until I told him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 06:08 AM
3	Men leaving for younger women is natural 64% of men remarry within one to three years after a divorce. The other 4%of these remarriages occur after 3 years. 64% of divorced women eventually remarry. The majority of those remarriages occur after a period of several years rather than immediately following the divorce. So while a similar percentage of both genders end up remarried at some point, men generally remarry faster than women. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6450723/#:~:text=Men%20are%20typically%20much%20more,support%…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 05:05 PM
0	Cold approaching women in public is pathetic A lot of women do try it. I approached men before I met my husband. My numbers are based off the pew study. https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/02/02/from-looking-for-love-to-swiping-the-field-online-dating-in-the-u-s/ Yes, most people meeting in person do meet through friend groups, however many meet while being complete strangers. Hobby groups, classes, stores, bars, work events (not coworkers), sport groups, etc. 50% of men haven't approached, but the other 50% have. If you don't want t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/26 06:35 AM
0	Cold approaching women in public is pathetic Are you really saying someone might actually die if you try to talk to a woman in public? Statistically, only 10% of long term relationships meet on apps (up to 30% in younger age groups, although then number is growing for overall) so most people are still meeting in person. I don't know a single married couple who met through apps. Edit: grammar, words	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/26 08:07 PM
-1	Cold approaching women in public is pathetic My husband approached me in public so.....it apparently works for some people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/26 02:55 AM
3	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? And? Where are you sources? (Your prejudice is not a source.) There are not a lot of studies done on this exact topic so we have to go by what we have. The news article has the summary of the studies in case you are blocked by pay walls....	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 05:10 PM
2	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? Take your own advice. Studies generally indicate that male pilots have a higher per capita accident rate in general aviation compared to female pilots, frequently attributed to increased risk-taking, inattention, and poor decision-making. One study by the NTSB found that male pilots were 60 percent more likely to have an accident than female pilots. Additionally, male pilots were twice as likely to be involved in fatal accidents. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/000368708690…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 04:10 PM
4	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? Since the vast majority of maritime accidents and aerial accidents are caused by men, should that be considered a competency crisis on their part?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:46 PM
2	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? yes, she had endometriosis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 03:51 AM
7	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? No. Why would the employer foot the medical bill? They employee pays their own medical bills and hopefully has insurance. The employer just has to give the employee the time off (or other accomodations) to deal with the medical issue without threat of losing their job. It should apply to men too. No one should lose their job for an illness or chronic condition but many people do because employers don't like giving people time off. From the perspective of the employer I understand but from the pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 03:18 AM
7	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? So you think it's preferable that someone loses their job because of their medical condition and is forced to go on disability and other government aid?, Why would you not prefer them to keep working and supporting themselves? If their employers would make accommodations for medical conditions they could easily keep working.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:49 AM
9	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? A lot of people don't get sick leave. ETA: If they do get sick leave, they probably don't get enough for a chronic condition.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:35 AM
13	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? I have stage 4 endometriosis and uterine fibroids and ovarian cysts. I have had over 12 surgeries to treat it. It has spread to my other organs, including my bowel and my appendix both times requiring specialists to be called in to remove it when my surgeon saw it (because you can't even tell where it is, there is no diagnostic test other than slicing you open and peeking inside). The endo adheres my ovaries to my abdominal wall so when the dr goes in he has to liberate them as well. My blood pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:35 AM
10	Should conditions that affect only women, like painful menstrual periods, legally qualify for workplace accommodations? when men get prostate cancer they get time off, no? Is that no a medical condition specific to a man? Things like Endometriosis, PCOS, fibroids, and other female specific conditions can cause severe complications that require medical intervention and time off. The woman in question had endometriosis. Not bad periods.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 02:21 AM
3	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father I know because I can read. From The OP you replied to... >"OP literally says 18-25. You’re pretty fucking stupid if you think OP isn’t talking about teenagers. If he meant women out of college, he’d have made that first number >20" See the 18 in bold? She explained it herself. People know that most people don't graduate from high school at 25, but rather 18-19. OOP included 18 in the age range. He could have made it 20-25 or something. He didn't. He included highschool age teenagers. OP called t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 07:17 AM
2	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father They were not calling out the entire age range, but just the lower end of it. Nobody is saying that the 25 year olds are just out of high school 18 is still IN high school many times. 18-19 would be fresh out. Maybe even 20 for the people who don't graduate until they're 19.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 06:35 AM
2	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr051.pdf https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2025/09/older-mothers.html https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/guzzo-childbearing-desires-intentions-attitudes-among-childless-adults-40-49-fp-22-11.html	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 03:57 AM
4	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father Who said anything about someone not graduating highschool until 25?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 03:33 AM
1	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr74/nvsr74-09.pdf	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 03:27 AM
5	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father More than 1/3 isn't exactly rare. Not the majority, but definitely not a unicorn. Also, that percentage is continually growing (and rather quickly) as more women put off having children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 02:04 AM
4	Going younger makes sense if you want to be a father According to the CDC, in the US (as of 2023) approximately 37% of first births are to women over 30. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr74/nvsr74-09.pdf	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 01:01 AM
1	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. I'm not a feminist so I don't follow them. I just know my own experience and that of my female friends and family, which is that most of us get hit on while underage by much older men, if not fully groped or assaulted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 04:12 PM
3	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. Who is this? How does this apply to the children being cat called, isn't she an adult?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 03:44 PM
4	Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted. In which country are they not might be a better question. I've never met a woman who didn't get hit on by the age of 13 by grown men, regardless of what country they are from. I see a lot of these discussions online too. https://www.ilr.cornell.edu/worker-institute/blog/publications-0/ilr-and-hollaback-release-largest-analysis-street-harassment-date https://stopstreetharassment.org/our-work/nationalstudy/shage/#:~:text=RESPONDENTS'%20AGE:,7%25%20were%20older%20than%2016. Here are some reddit con…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 12:28 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? Who said I only care about that stuff? Don't put words in my mouth. My husband is the most respectful, attentive, caring and intelligent man I have ever met. We are best friends. We have a ton of common interests and we each do everything we can to make the each other's life better and easier. If a white man had ever treated me half as good as my husband does, maybe I would have been more attracted to him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 04:03 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? You are really taking I said sort of off the cuff, and making it a way bigger deal. I didn't select these men for this reason alone. It's an added bonus. I grew up in a town of 2000 people. A couple of the boys I wanted to date, that looked nothing like my family, ended up being related to me, which thankfully I found out before dating them when I asked my parents if I could. It was pretty common in that area to be related to everyone. I guess when I moved away to a big city I decided people of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 03:54 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? They are much more predictable if I'm more genetically similar to my mate though. Bone structure can also be more similar in genetically similar individuals. The more different people look from each other, the more unpredictable the offspring will be in appearance. Genetically inherited disorders are much more likely to be passed on with genetically similar mates than with more diverse ones as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 01:30 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? As I said before, it's the predictability of it. That's it. I want to be surprised. Whether that's all of them the same or all of them different I don't care. I just know 100% what I'm getting if I have kids with someone with blond hair and blue eyes because that's what I have and they are recessive. If my husband is Heterozygous for either trait there is a 50% change at our children expressing that trait. If he is homozygous they will get the dominant gene so there is unpredictably there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 12:57 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? I wouldn't think they were boring regardless of how they looked. The features themselves are not boring. I guess I worded my original comment poorly. What I would find boring would be having kids with someone who looks like they could be my brother. I don't want to know what my child will look like ahead of time. If they all looked the same that wouldn't bother me at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 12:20 PM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? There is less risk for inherited genetic disorders. If parents are less similar genetically, it's less likely they will carry the same defective genes that cause genetic disorders. Also, the children of parents who are more distantly related tend to be taller and smarter than their peers, according to one of the largest studies to date into genetic diversity.looked at the genetic background and health of more than 350,000 individuals from around 100 communities across four continents. Researcher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 11:56 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? Some might like white women, but it's definitely not a universal thing, especially where my husband is from. Many of them tend not to like white women, especially from the US because of political stuff. "white devil" is something you'll hear. He doesn't lie because I don't even have to ask. I can observe his preferences by looking at his preferred actresses and singers what not. It's not hard to see what kind of women men tend to like. He likes two blond actresses and the rest are brunette. You …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 05:13 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? Funny enough he usually prefers brunettes. Perhaps it's you that has the blond fetish.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 04:47 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? His siblings have recessive traits, so there is a good chance he also carries them. If he is Heterozygous (dominant/recessive) and I am homozygous (recessive/recessive) our kids have a 50% chance at expressing the recessive trait. Do you understand how genetics work? source: I am a biotechnologist (also this is basic, jr high biology punnet square stuff). My husband likes my traits because they are mine. Some of them will be passed on and some will not because that's how offspring work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 04:30 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? It's not boring to pass on blond. It's boring to know for sure what my kids will look like. Blond hair and blue eyes are both recessive. If I have kids with someone genetically different from me they may have light eyes and dark hair or dark eyes and light hair or any combination. my husband has two nephews from different siblings with blue eyes. They both have two Arab parents with dark features but they have recessive genes for eye color. One nephew has lighter hair. Offspring with more divers…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 04:02 AM
–	Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive? I don't find the men my friends date to be ugly, but they aren't usually my type. I can usually see what others might find attractive about them but I'm just not attracted to them personally. For example, my husband is Arab and I've always been more attracted to Arab and Latino men. My best friend's husband is white and blond which is probably my least favorite combo (I'm white and blond so I don't want to have kids with someone who looks like he could be my brother). My sister and another good …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/26 03:25 AM
3	Is there any hope for "good guys"? These men are more likely to lie and manipulate to get what they want. They will often tell a woman they love her, tell her he isn't sleeping with anyone else, or at least lead her to believe it is possible to become exclusive when he has no intention of ever having a relationship with her. They play games, so to speak. They feel no guilt or remorse about hurting feelings or leading women on. Good guys don't do these things. Women often think the sociopaths are good guys at first because they di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/26 07:03 PM
3	Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name? So you wouldn't be open to marrying a woman from another culture? Even if everything else aligned this would be a hill to die on? ETA: It's cool if that's your opinion, I'm just curious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 11:21 PM
6	Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name? My husband is from Egypt, an Islamic country, and women in his culture don't change their names. It's not customary in most Islamic or Arab countries. Arabs are not known for being overly feminist. It's not really a feminist thing as much as a cultural one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 11:17 PM
1	Would you marry a woman who would not take your last name? Yeah my husband is from Egypt and women don't change their name is their culture so he didn't expect me to. I didn't legally change my name because of professional certifications and the hassle with that but I do use it informally sometimes and people refer to me as Mrs. my-husbands-last-name or they refer to us as The husband's-last-name's.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/26 11:12 PM
1	Why is slut shaming wrong? I said AND refusing to marry (as in, not the only form of shaming). One way some men shame some women on this sub is saying that they are "ran through" and will never find a husband. Some men on this sub often say they don't want to be with a promiscuous woman and some (usually red pill) want virgins. Many men on this sub complain that they can't get experience with sex which prevents them from getting sex which is a catch 22 because women don't want virgins and only want experienced men. So I a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 02:03 PM
3	Why is slut shaming wrong? So you see a lot more women preferring virgins and refusing to marry men who aren't virgins than men who want to find a virgin bride?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/26 08:39 AM
2	Why is slut shaming wrong? I see math isn't your strong suit. The data doesn't say what you think it says. Your link is for the UK, where they have 1 year of maternity leave, which accounts for a large percentage of the fewer hours worked. If men want women to work more hours, they could start taking care of the children more. Why are men now complaining about the falling birth rate? Do they want women to work or have kids? If you want to get into self reporting, much of men's work is also self reported while they are act…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/26 04:48 PM
3	Why is slut shaming wrong? That is just a lot of words just to say you don't hold men accountable. Your entire body must be hurting from the gymnastics you're doing in this entire post, not just your calf. Your link is a 13 year old source from the UK that actually proves my point about the wage gap. If you look at the embedded link https://infogram.com/Number-of-taxpayers-by-gender-and-income-bracket and click through the income brackets, you will see a large discrepancy in the number of men vs women in the larger bracke…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 07:04 PM
3	Why is slut shaming wrong? Someone didn't pay attention is 6th grade biology. The man has to contribute the sperm for a woman to get pregnant. Women are not out here immaculately conceiving. How easy one gets sex is irrelevant. Ultimately two people are needed to make a baby and two people made the choice to have sex with each other. There are men that get sex easily too, should they be held more accountable than men who have a harder time? How would that be measured? Men here like to talk about accountability. Both men a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/26 04:49 PM
40	Why is slut shaming wrong? Why not shame promiscuous men too? Wouldn't half of the blame for this "decline of society" also fall on promiscuous men? Without men to have sex with, women wouldn't be promiscuous. Doesn't it take two people to make a baby? where are the fathers of these children raised by single mothers? Why are there so many deadbeat dads? Shouldn't they be shamed as well? Them not paying their child support is costing tax payers over $53 billion per year (and that estimate was from over a decade ago). https…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/25 01:03 AM
8	Women: Do you agree with the concept of the "Chad-widow" ? It's probably because while one woman thinks her husband is above average and incredibly hot, others find him to be very average. I think my husband is a 10. Would everyone else agree? Probably not. People often say that he is very handsome.... Is that a 10? I don't know. I don't care. I know how I see him. I know my best friend thinks her husband is a 10 as well, and while I can say that he is a handsome man, I would not agree that he is a 10 in my eyes. He is to her though which is what matter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/25 08:18 PM
1	The majority of criminals are not raised by single moms. That’s just propaganda to blame women for the actions of men. After a certain point of the pregnancy, if the pregnancy is safe and not from rape or incest, yes, if the man agrees to support them monetarily through the pregnancy and pay child support until the child is 18, and help pay for college and provide health insurance for the child. The man does not risk his life during pregnancy. He does not suffer any ill effects so the pregnancy portion has a lot more weight on the woman. I personally would not have an abortion but I don't think we should force w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 03:13 PM
3	The majority of criminals are not raised by single moms. That’s just propaganda to blame women for the actions of men. I don't think you've seen your own logic failure. You have tried to put all the ones on women, claiming men have no agency. I have said nothing against both parties being responsible for pregnancy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 02:42 PM
8	The majority of criminals are not raised by single moms. That’s just propaganda to blame women for the actions of men. That's not what "my body my choice is." It prevents the man from being the one with sole control over the woman's body. The same can apply to a man if someone is trying to rape him. Sex is a 2 yes's or nothing kind of thing. 1 no from either party, and it doesn't happen. That is what "my body, my choice" is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 02:34 PM
8	The majority of criminals are not raised by single moms. That’s just propaganda to blame women for the actions of men. Claiming they have no agency is wild. So men can't be raped? It takes two people to decide to have sex. If a man does not want to have a child, he should not have sex or use condoms. Birth control is not 100% effective though so there will be accidents. You know men on the sub like to say women don't take accountability but this is a great example of how many men don't take accountability for even the most obvious things either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 02:25 PM
10	The majority of criminals are not raised by single moms. That’s just propaganda to blame women for the actions of men. Well, it's different in every case. Some fathers abandon their children. Some mothers don't allow the father to see the children. Some judges take the children away from the both parents. Some judges say the father can only have supervised visits. Sometimes the woman does baby trap the man by lying about birth control. Sometimes the man tampers with the birth control of the woman. Some women live in states or countries that don't have access to abortion so she has to have the baby of someone who…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/25 02:10 PM
3	Ladies: Do PiV orgasms feel more intense or emotionally connecting than clitoral orgasms? I experience both. They are different but one is not necessarily more intense than the other... I've had really intense from both so it just depends on everything else going on. As for the emotional part, I don't really think it's the orgasm itself that is emotional. It's all about the person and the intimacy itself. It can be really emotional even without having an orgasm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/25 08:37 PM
1	Q4W: How do you reconcile the average man's experiences with your observations? Most of the men I know are either married or living with their partner. Most of them are not exceptionally rich, but do earn a decent enough living. The nerdy type guys are usually with the nerdy girls. Sporty guys with sporty girls. Artsy guys with arts girls. There are definitely exceptions but like tends to attract like more often than opposites attracting in my observations. The single friend I can think of is divorced, and be does well enough dating. It's kind of the running joke that he is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/25 02:53 AM
6	What does "sexual health" mean to you/women? It's self explanatory. There is a low desire to have sex. It varies from woman to woman what that means (how often). Any one of the issues listed can cause a woman to not want to have sex. It can be because of pain during sex or because of the actual hormonal changes that make her not even think about sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 07:19 PM
12	What does "sexual health" mean to you/women? Endometriosis, fibroids, ovarian cysts, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, interstitial cystitis, cervical cancer, uterine cancer, vaginal and vulvar cancers, breast cancer, organ prolapse (vaginal and rectal, often after child birth or pelvic surgery), infertility, yeast infections, bacterial infections, urinary tract infections, sexually transmitted infections, vaginal dryness, hormonal changes, irregular periods, heavy periods, perimenopause, menopause, low sexual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 07:13 PM
1	Women shouldn’t complain about dating apps The majority of women actually don't use apps, only about 30%. Only 10% of people in relationships met their significant others online. https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-statistics/ I met my husband in person, I never used apps. I don't know any women who met their significant others online either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/25 04:13 AM
7	Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match?? You do realize that women are more likely to initiate break ups, right? Not men? There are many reasons that people end relationships. Incompatible lifestyles, different goals in life, etc. It sounds like you don't really understand exactly how relationships and dating work. You are comparing one night stands to actual relationships, which is not an accurate comparison at all. You are speaking to something on which you have no experience or real world knowledge. It's cool if you don't want to da…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 03:16 PM
8	Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match?? Isn't being with different women how men get experience?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 02:12 PM
6	Why do some women like to play the field with top men before settling down with their match?? Around 83% of the romance genre is written by women https://wordsrated.com/author-demographics-statistics/#:~:text=83%25%20of%20Romance%20genre%20books%20were%20written%20by%20women. https://www.bwhaggart.com/blog/men-writing-romance-1#:~:text=The%20Real%20Numbers,names%20and%20social%20media%20accounts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 12:40 PM
1	Does the 80/20 or 90/10 rule exist or does it not? it does say about half of the users are under 30. It also says only "One-in-ten partnered adults – meaning those who are married, living with a partner or in a committed romantic relationship – met their current significant other through a dating site or app." People are meeting their serious partners elsewhere and the dating apps are not necessarily representative of the general population. Since many people use them just for hook ups or fwb-type situations (just to find the hottest people) it'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 03:50 PM
2	Does the 80/20 or 90/10 rule exist or does it not? Most women don't use dating apps though...only about 27% so it's not a good representation. Women on apps are bombarded with messages so they have to find a way to weed out some of them. The first way is typically appearance. This leads to the most attractive men getting the most replies. This is not representative of how it works in person when things are more organic. Not every woman is going to get a top tier man. Most average women end up with average men. They have a type they like and find…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 01:59 PM
5	Does the 80/20 or 90/10 rule exist or does it not? With several of my friends, there are either no or very few men we agree on, haha. My top tier is different from their top tier. Like I can agree that my friends's husbands and partners are conventionally attractive, see how they think they are attractive, but I would never date them myself (if we weren't all married) because they aren't my type. They probably feel the same about my husband. I agree that the more attractive men will have it easier. I don't think that has ever been in dispute. Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 07:10 AM
8	Does the 80/20 or 90/10 rule exist or does it not? A lot of men take this to mean that only 10-20% of me are attractive to women. The "top" 20%. The thing is that my top 20% is going to vary from what each of my friends, sisters, coworkers, and classmates think. In my friend group, I can't think of one guy that every single woman agrees on, not even the famous men. There are the friends that don't care for Brad Pitt, for example. I don't care for Jason Momoa but my sister does. We both really like Cilian Murphy but we have friends that don't....	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/25 03:25 AM
1	Why do women date men at all? My husband does all kinds of things for me. He is not a danger to me, but quite the opposite. This particular man has caused me no suffering and has actually improved my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 08:38 PM
8	CMV: common fantasies of the opposite sex ≠ unspoken truths If someone is a shitty partner, leave them. Cheating is not the correct answer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/25 06:03 AM
–	why am I blocked by every single guy? 20F There is no magic switch unfortunately. It's different for everyone. It will take time and work. Definitely stay in therapy. Do you have any hobbies? Any friends? What do you do with your time? What do you want to do with your time? What are your goals besides a relationship? Can you start studying something? What are you interested in? What are you passionate about? You need to find something you are interested in to focus on. Something you are passionate about. Think about your current limitat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 04:35 PM
–	why am I blocked by every single guy? 20F That's the problem. You can't rely on someone else to make you feel better. That's a huge burden to put on someone. You need to get yourself together before you will make a good partner. Everyone has problems to deal with. They aren't going to want to deal with your's too. It's no one else job to fix you, and once they figure out that's what you're wanting from them, that is when you'll get blocked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 04:03 PM
–	why am I blocked by every single guy? 20F There is a time and place to tell people this kind of info. No one expects everyone to be cute all the time. I think you can also tell people this without making it your entire personality. I am not sure what you are saying to them, but it's likely your actions or a combination of your words and actions, that is driving them away. Have you considered that maybe you aren't ready for a relationship? If you are so anxious and have PTSD so bad that you find it hard to regulate and it effects your re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 03:13 PM
–	why am I blocked by every single guy? 20F Well, sometimes people will give other people a chance. Perhaps those issues are not automatic rule outs for those men, but once they got to know you more they were turned off by other things. The whole reason to date is to get to know someone. No one can know before knowing someone if they will like them or not. They gave you a chance and decided you weren't right for them. It's as simple as that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 03:06 PM
–	why am I blocked by every single guy? 20F In general, people don't want to date depressed, anxious, unemployed people. There are of course exceptions and those exceptions depend heavily on the circumstances surrounding those issues and what the person is doing in response to them (their mindset). Not knowing exactly what you said, it's hard to know what specifically is turning them away but you should focus more on the positive aspects of your personality and less on the negative. Show people the reasons they should want to be with you.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/25 12:47 PM
1	Why do women share so many details? I don't share details with my friends about that kind of thing and they don't share them with me. There have been times they have mentioned certain issues that may come up, such as not having as much sex since the birth of a child, or they will allude to the fact that things are going well in the bedroom; surface level details. It's not really super detailed stuff. The reason we talk about any of it at all is either to get advice, or to just say how things are going in general. I couldn't tell y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/25 05:44 AM
2	Men are not able to be providers anymore due to capitalism "Recent analyses of physiological and archaeological evidence, published in American Anthropologist, suggest that females hunted just as much as males did during the Paleolithic era. In fact, they were well-suited to long-distance hunting, largely thanks to the benefits of estrogen. Additionally, Neanderthal remains show a sex-equal distribution of bone injuries consistent with hunting. Both males and females were buried with similar items and weapons, suggesting that there was not such a stark …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/25 10:41 PM
1	Is “holiday dick” and “boyfriend dick” actual terminology that women use or am I just mindbroken by the internet? I have never heard a single woman say either of these things, or anything resembling them, anywhere. Typically women don't know how large someone's penis is before deciding to sleep with them or not. It is not usually a deciding factor that plays into the equation. Women don't tend to focus on the "dick" so much as who owns it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/25 06:18 PM
1	Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women? I chose a husband who makes my life better. We both do everything we can to make each other's lives easier and better because we want that for each other. If you find someone who is actively trying to improve your life, it is a pretty great thing. I think too often, many women ignore a lot of things and think it will get better or that they can live with it and marry someone who is just a bad match for them. There a things I see a lot of women complain about, like a man being a slob, having bad …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/25 02:50 PM
1	Men choose to have half their stuff taken in divorce If men don't typically marry women who make less money than them anymore, it's more than likely that the women are paying more than 20% of their assets/bills, no? Most partners who make approximately equal amounts of money usually pay equal amounts of household bills. Many more couples are going 50/50 these days.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 11:11 PM
1	birth rate is declining due to men objectifying women more than before I didn't say it's the single thing changing it. I said it's the single thing changing it the MOST. I could have worded it better. In Qatar, the female educational attainment, at least bachelor's or equivalent of women 25+, stands at 49.1%, reflecting an increase of 7.1% (16.8%) compared to 2021, which has been steadily increasing. The female literacy rate in Qatar is 100%. What exactly are you trying to say about Qatar? (Btw, the US has a 99% female literacy rate, and 35% of women hold a bachelo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 02:54 AM
6	birth rate is declining due to men objectifying women more than before Many women are choosing not to have babies, or as many babies, because they are choosing to get an education and have a career instead. They are having them later in life, after college and after getting a stable job and income so they don't have as many. Many educated couples are holding off on having babies until the are more financially stable. They are busy working so they don't want children until later in life once they have met certain goals. Many men are also choosing not to have childre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/25 12:06 AM
3	Do women even want to meet men? When I was single I didn't go around actively wanting or trying to meet men. It usually just happened organically through friends or social groups. I've never used apps and I wouldn't, personally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 04:42 PM
5	In online debate, women insist "Husband Material" always encompasses "Hookup Material", but in real life it's a distinct category My husband is the hottest man I've ever been with. I haven't been with many but I was just dating and trying to find a man I wanted to marry. I did get proposals before my husband but I knew I could do better. Women are told to choose better. Be more picky. Once we do, we either have too many standards or are settling. I did not settle. I found the man I wantrd to be with who was not an alcoholic, a drug addict, a compulsive liar or abusive. I married the handsome, respectful, intelligent, kind …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/25 03:24 PM
6	27F Dating for a year but no luck I wouldn't even dignify that message with a response, unless it's a specific reference to something you get (that I'm not privy to). Even still, maybe don't call it brain rot. Find another way to reference whatever show or quote that is if you understand it. Do NOT ask these people out in the first interaction. That is too forward. It will seem desperate, easy, and possibly a bit aggressive. They will think you go out with every man you talk to very easily. Build up a rapport. Ask questions. Yes…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/08/25 11:12 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? I don't think one is being settled for just because their spouse still finds other people attractive. I mean, both spouses still find other people attractive. That doesn't mean either one of them is settling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 10:50 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? After reading through the thread here I noticed you are a sex worker, yet you have had the same partner for years. So it's your partner who is the literal cuck then... At least in my relationship no one is having sex with anyone else, or wanting to. For any reason. My husband doesn't even watch porn. My husband didn't settle for me. I didn't settle for him. We picked each other out of many. We both had many options. We are best friends. We laugh together. We support each other. We both do anythi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 06:32 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? She says she has had a partner for years, too. So I guess her partner is the literal cuck...	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 06:24 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? There is a difference between settling and finding others attractive. Settling is when you aren't really interested in the person but you can't find anyone else that you really want, so you settle for them instead of being alone. Finding others attractive is just having eyes. No one stops seeing people when they get married. The faithful stop trying to sleep with those people, or seeing them as prospects. You see a person, notice they are pretty or handsome and keep walking. That's it. We aren't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 06:01 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? Not all men are bad. Marriage can be great or it can be awful. It all depends on the two people in the partnership. There are terrible people of both genders, and there are great people of both genders. I found a great man. My dad is a great man. I have several friends with wonderful husbands. I have awesome brothers-in-law. I also have a total shit bag,ass-hat brother-law. Im not trying to sway you one way or the other, I'm just saying that you should consider that people only complain when bad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 05:54 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? My husband didn't settle for me. I didn't settle for him. We picked each other out of many. We both had many options. We are best friends. We laugh together. We support each other. We both do anything we can to make each other's life better and easier. Big or small things. Companionship. Partnership. Friendship. Respectful. Loyalty. Love. Support. Passion. That's what marriage is. Finding someone who you can really trust and love and have all of these qualities out of the many is difficult. It's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 05:46 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? In my early twenties, I was working on a military base so I had a lot of guy friends. One day a group of us were having the "men and women can't be friends" discussion and I asked one saying it was impossible if if he wasn't my friend. He said "we are friends, but I will try to sleep with you as soon as you and boyfriend (his friend) break up." We laughed but I realized that many, if not most of them were probably the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 02:45 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? Men and women both find people other than their spouse attractive. There isn't a person on the planet that finds only one person attractive. That doesn't mean they are going to try to fuck them all. I know my husband thinks other women are hot. It would be crazy if he didn't. He didn't suddenly go blind the day we got married. There are other men I find hot. That doesn't mean either of us are jumping into bed with anyone else. My husband has got integrity. He has too much love and respect for me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 01:56 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? The being attracted to 20 year olds thing is baffling to me, as a woman. I thought that was just sort of common knowledge. There have been studies done on this and people talk about and site these studies here on this sub. Like..the sky is blue, water is wet, and men like young women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 06:56 AM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? Almost all women were being hit on by the age of 12. Every woman I know got hit the most from the ages of 13-18. It doesn't matter how attractive or the demographic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 06:47 AM
1	lusting after a body =/= unconditional love Personality is literally what makes you...you. It's what helps you clique (or not) with other people. The definition of personality is " the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character." It's what sets you apart from other people. What makes you interesting, or not. What makes you an asshole or kind. Fun or serious. Well read or a complete imbecile. Athletic or lazy. You get the idea. You may not be thinking about it but other people who interact w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 11:29 PM
1	Men complain about being used for resources is the same as women complain about being used for sex Who wouldn't enjoy sex?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 02:13 AM
5	Men complain about being used for resources is the same as women complain about being used for sex Both parties enjoy the resources.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/25 05:22 PM
5	Women would have less trouble finding partners if more women had personalities You just need to find more interesting women. Most of my friends have a lot of hobbies and interests, have cool jobs, are quite intelligent, and are very interesting to talk to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 11:12 PM
1	Women would have less trouble finding partners if more women had personalities Are you trying to say that these are the only hobbies women have?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 11:08 PM
7	Men who are desperate to find a woman are actually desperate for something else. A meaning to their lives. You know most women work too, right? If you don't want to work, don't. No one is forcing you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 01:31 PM
1	Men should stop listening to women idea of a good partner No one wants to be bored. Do you want a boring girlfriend? Being confident and charming does not necessarily mean the man toxic. My husband is exciting, confident, funny, charming, and popular but he is not a toxic, abusive cheater. He is also kind, attentive , generous, respect, intelligent and affectionate. Yes, those charming, popular types are more likely to because they have the opportunity. Men who are quiet and boring are not talking to and attracting women to get the chance to be players…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 11:52 PM
3	Western women preferences This is a good point, I added an edit to my post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 03:26 AM
4	Western women preferences It will feel different after the first partner, even for the first partner, because the hymen is broken and no longer partially blocking the entrance to the vagina. The vagina is the same size though. Think of a cardboard tube (like from paper towels). Put a piece of plastic over the top of it with a small hole in it. When you puncture that hole in the plastic, it destroys it. That tube is still the same size though. That is basically what is happening with the hymen. I'm an actual real scientis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:56 AM
2	Western women preferences The evolutionarily point of men preferring virgins was to guarantee the paternity of the offspring. There were no paternity tests in back then. It has nothing to do with vagina "size" although I'm sure many of them found that to be a bonus.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:46 AM
6	Western women preferences How soon after having sex with him did she have sex with you? The vagina does stretch temporarily during sex and for a short time after but it will go back. Age does make it less elastic though so it will be "loser" as woman ages even if she isn't cheating. Child birth can also affect the shape just because of the way it is sewn back together and the scar tissue. There are times that a woman's cervix will be higher than normal, depending on hormones, cycle, age, position, etc. I can see why you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:37 AM
5	Western women preferences My husband is from Egypt. I'm from the US. We know many foreign men married to or dating western women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:19 AM
8	Western women preferences The fact that she was close to ovulation is what changed the position of her cervix. Not her cheating on you. During ovulation, the cervix typically moves to a high, soft, and open position, which is often described as "soft, high, and open" or "SHOW". This position facilitates sperm entry and increases the chances of conception.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:15 AM
6	Western women preferences I just asked the same thing! His user name definitely does NOT check out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:11 AM
4	Western women preferences The irony of your user name. It's pretty much a fact that a man's penis compresses and gets smaller with every partner he has. You see how saying something is a fact doesn't make it so? Why would having more partners be any different than than having one partner repeatedly? If a woman who is never married has 50 one night stands in her life, she only has sex 50 times. A woman who has only had sex with her husband twice a week for 40 years has had sex over 4100 times. That's not counting the hone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:05 AM
4	How can men learn/evolve to enjoy their single life like women and not be needy of long term relationships? How can single men live like single women? Most men under 40 (and many over) can't change a tire. They catch a fish, hunt or butcher an animal, cook a meal, can/preserve food, change their oil, sew a button, tie a necktie, repair a broken zipper, plant a garden, build a fire without lighter fluid, spackle a wall, or any number of other life skills either. I can do all of these things because I grew up on a farm. The farm has been in my family since well before the great depression, so tradition is just to do everything ourselves because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:13 AM
–	In your personal opinion, what is one thing either gender does so often, that it completely discredits the "men/woman are not a monilith" statement? So you don't have any examples that apply to women who aren't on social media or OLD? (I use both because some women use social media but not OLD).	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 01:19 AM
–	In your personal opinion, what is one thing either gender does so often, that it completely discredits the "men/woman are not a monilith" statement? So what about the women that don't have social media or OLD? Edit: or are you only applying this to OLD?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 12:12 AM
3	Do you just accept his need to be with other women? If she isn't giving her enthusiastic approval, it's essentially the same thing. Feeling guilted or pressured into a decision isn't the same as making a decision without any coercion. You can sugar coat or mince words to make it sound better but it's still a man sleeping with a woman who isn't his wife, while the wife is unhappy about it.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/07/25 01:02 PM
1	Do you just accept his need to be with other women? Right. I agree.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/25 12:44 AM
1	Do you just accept his need to be with other women? I re-read your post and I think you are saying that high value men wouldn't want to cheat? At first I thought the opposite. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you though, haha. My apologies if I am..	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/25 11:28 PM
0	Do you just accept his need to be with other women? No high value men are like what?	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/25 11:07 PM
0	Explain so many involuntarily single men at a roughly 50/50 gender ratio It's legal in Nevada. Do they not have the same issue there?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/25 03:56 AM
7	Do you just accept his need to be with other women? No. Not all high value men are like that, and no, I would not accept it if my husband tried to be with other women. Would your husband be okay with you being with another man? If not, why should you be okay with him being with someone else? My husband would never want to be with anyone else. He loves me and does not want to hurt me or do anything to jeopardize the relationship. Even if I was ok with it, he would not be. It would cheapen and lessen what we have. There is something sacred (for lac…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/25 04:11 AM
3	Men are not inherently bigger losers today than they were in previous generations, there’s just finite amount of opportunity and by definition more men will lose. If a factory employs 100 people, and 40 of them are women, 40% of their workforce is female. If that factory is in a town/country whatever with a population of 134ish, those 40 women make up 30% of the total workforce. It's not rocket science. There is no need to take a percentage of a percentage in this situation (which by the way I do understand. You are connecting things that aren't connected here. The fact that you don't understand how 40% of a factory's workers can be only 30% of the popula…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/25 01:23 AM
1	Men are not inherently bigger losers today than they were in previous generations, there’s just finite amount of opportunity and by definition more men will lose. "so 10% of women working in factories" Nope. 2 is 40% of 5. 40% of the women were working in factories. "Factory work employed two out of five women." 2 out of 5. 4 out of 10. 40%. Good try though. What difference does that make?" That question was in regards to the specific industry. You said "women like textiles ignoring coal, steel and transportation." The question wasn't what industry they worked in, but whether or not they worked in factories or mines at all. They did. If the OP had said sp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/25 12:13 AM
3	Men are not inherently bigger losers today than they were in previous generations, there’s just finite amount of opportunity and by definition more men will lose. "so 25%" Yes. 25%. 1 in 4. "The 1851 census showed that women made up about 30 percent of England’s work force. Many women still worked on the farm or as maids and cooks, but factory work employed two out of five women. https://images.carsondellosa.com/media/cd/pdfs/Activities/FR01064.pdf "Source for the numbers paywalled." Ok. And? I didn't make it that way. What questions do you have? I have access to it. Pay for it if you really want to see it. Look up the census stats for the specific years …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 09:31 PM
4	Men are not inherently bigger losers today than they were in previous generations, there’s just finite amount of opportunity and by definition more men will lose. "By 1910, one in four women over the age of 14 was paid for her work. A single income could not support most American families. Women in low-income households had to contribute financially" https://wams.nyhistory.org/industry-and-empire/labor-and-industry/waged-industrial-work/ "In 1851, 43 percent of women were reported to be in ‘regular employment’. ‘Regular’ was not defined, so that figure should be taken as a minimum of those engaged in paid employment" https://www.campop.geog.cam.ac.uk/blog…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/25 05:26 PM
3	What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex? This would be perfect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 10:42 PM
1	It makes no sense for men to kneel while proposing. The act of kneeling historically stems from knights kneeling for royalty. It was done to show respect, servitude, humility, and devotion. It evolved into a romantic act, and the tradition has stuck. If you don't like it, don't do it. Many people do like marriage, but it's not for everyone. The good news is that no one is forcing you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/25 05:07 PM
3	Being hookup material is much better than being husband material. I'm not a feminist, but nice try. The specific topic we were discussing was sex stopping after having children. If one doesn't have children, the sex tends not to stop. You said you aren't having kids. What's the problem? How am I shutting you, or men in general down?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 12:40 AM
3	Being hookup material is much better than being husband material. Problem solved then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 12:29 AM
4	Being hookup material is much better than being husband material. So don't have kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/25 12:23 AM
–	Do you place men in 3 different categories? For me it was like 1: unattractive. Self explanatory. 2: Neutral. I don't see them as attractive or unattractive. They can move up into being attractive or down to unattractive depending on how our personal interactions go though. This is the majority of most men. 3: Attractive. Not a lot of men actually catch my attention as being attractive. If someone points out someone to me and asks, sometimes I will find someone attractive. Men in this category can easily move down to unattractive dependin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/25 01:08 AM
1	It has never been easier to date as a man I've never done ONS or casual hookups either. That being said, there are women who are good with that, possibly because they are busy with school or work, or just not wanting to settle down. Some women will go with it because they don't want to pressure the man to commit and hope that he will eventually fall for her and commit to her. They are worried of coming on too strong maybe? I don't know that it makes them sad necessarily. They just have different priorities. Not everyone wants kids and/o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/25 03:34 PM
2	Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you? I never said the entire group is like that. I said that in my personal experience, most conservatives I know are opposite of what you described. I pointed out the well known groups as examples that everyone could picture. Edit: grammar, clarification	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/25 02:49 PM
3	Out of all the men you meet in your day to day life how often do you meet a guy that you actually like? And why do most men not do it for you? In my experience, it's actually the exact opposite. The super religious, right wingers I know (my sister joined a cult when she got married so I know quite a few of the super conservative religious types, and I live in a conservative state) look quite scruffy like they are going for the homeless mountain man look or something. You know the full beards that aren't trimmed nicely or groomed, yellow teeth, greasy hair, dirt under their nails, dirty clothes, always wearing their work boots. There wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/25 02:39 AM
1	It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation. No. I'm not just commenting on my husband. I gave that as one example off the top of my head. I'm commenting on 30+ years of experience of me and my friends. Yes it's anecdotal, but it seems to go with the general consensus of millions of other women, so we don't seem to be outliers. If a man is interested he will usually make his move fairly quickly, unless he has some sort of conflict of interest or low self esteem or something. (Not always, of course) A woman can definitely approach, there is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 11:08 PM
6	It has never been easier to date as a man There is also a good number of people in situationships, where the guy still sees himself as single and the woman sees herself as taken. There is a whole grey area of relationships where the people are in some stage in which they have not yet defined it and perhaps don't agree on it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/25 08:32 PM
8	It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation. With my now - husband, I just locked eyes with him a couple times at a music show, and he was there talking to me within 5 min. Men don't usually take very long to approach. Men we don't want to approach still will. There isn't really much reward.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/25 08:39 PM
–	If you find Emotional Vulnerability attractive in a man, you are a Low Value Woman. Why would any woman want a man that isn't emotionally vulnerable? Where did she say she works with bald "Chad?" You are making a lot of assumptions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/25 02:57 AM
2	Q4M: to What is on your list of requirements for a wife? Midwest US in the 90s. Small rural farming town. It was a huge problem because the chemicals required to manufacturer Meth were easily accessible because of the farms. Anhydrous Ammonia tanks at the time just sat out in the open with no locks on the tanks or anything. The farming crisis of the 80s had also hit the area very hard so there were a lot of people that were desperate for money. Some farmers who were licensed to buy certain chemicals that happen to be precursors for manufacturing meth …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/25 12:21 AM
1	Q4M: to What is on your list of requirements for a wife? This is actually very relatable. Where I grew up, meth was the huge problem though. There were meth labs getting busted everywhere around our town, people's parents were using it, our teachers, the business owners, it seemed like everyone. I actually caught a guy I was dating in highschool using it and lying about it. The struggle is real.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 10:11 PM
0	Q4M: to What is on your list of requirements for a wife? "Doesn't do cocaine." This made me laugh. Were heroin and meth cool though?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 07:11 PM
2	Men are not attracted to young women because they are "naive and easy to manipulate" but mainly because they are thinner and have nicer skin. If you are a woman and you take care of yourself, you can post-pone "hitting the wall" and remain attractive even into your early 40s. I was/am very driven, opinionated, and confident, and was somewhat of a "tomboy" (I lived/worked on a farm and was an athlete) and I received a ton of attention from mem outside of my age group. I don't think they were driven away by any of those traits. Some of them seemed to appreciate those things, actually. Anecdotally. My poor dad, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/25 01:07 AM
2	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. There are men that will always looking for a 22 year old with 36DD breasts and a 24 in waist. Just as there are women who are looking for the the "666" thing. Is it the majority of either? No. It's the superficial minority of both genders that most people who want a real, genuine loving LTR want to steer clear of. It sucks that they exist but there are plenty of others who value other things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 02:29 AM
2	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. It definitely isn't the majority. According to the #1 dating coach for men who has analyzed these trends... "Gold diggers are relatively few and far between, though, and they're probably not women you'd want to date, anyway." "I think the 6-6-6 myth persists for two reasons:" "The “6s” are easy to measure, whereas things women actually care about aren’t. It’s easy to tell if a guy is tall, has a certain income, or is in good shape. It’s much harder to assess his personality, energy, intellect, s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 01:10 AM
3	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. Even if that were true, it's still not the majority of women though. EDT: only 33% of dating app users are women. Most women is the US are not using apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 10:41 PM
1	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. That majority of women are not using the "666" standard though. It's a thing among a minority on dating apps. Even on those apps, 80% of women are open to lowering their standards in order to meet a mate, according to recent surveys. Also, some define the "666" rule as six figures, six feet tall, six pack abs so penis size does not factor in to their definition. https://nypost.com/2024/09/16/lifestyle/women-are-using-the-6-6-6-dating-rule-to-find-the-perfect-man-but-is-it-hurting-their-chance-at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 10:02 PM
5	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. Except most woman don't care...that's the point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 03:02 PM
2	"Men care about penis size more than women do!" - that's bullshit. So...who is gay??	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 02:57 PM
17	Ladies, in your experience, what percentage of women would you say are size queens? I haven't heard any of my friends talk about dick size. I have absolutely no idea what their husbands are working with and they have no idea about mine, as it should be. I knew a couple girls in college that talked about being with guys who were too big that hurt them. Men are size queens way more often. They are the ones obsessing about penis size. Even in school, they are the ones drawing dick and balls on everything. They don't even draw vaginas. Women/girls don't go around drawing giant peni…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 12:07 PM
1	How did you girls meet your significant other? I met my husband at a niche music show at a local venue. He caught my eye and then noticed me noticing him. He came over and introduced himself. After talking a bit we discovered we had a ton of friends in common and lived in the same neighborhood. He asked me out, so I asked around to our mutual friends about him and they all said he was a really cool, trustworthy guy so I went for it. For the record, my friends and family who are married or in LTR also met their husbands/SO in person. I don't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 09:47 PM
2	We need to encourage young adults to throw more house parties The best house parties I went to were the ones with several roommates because there were several groups of friends that were meeting each other instead just the same group hanging out. More people = more opportunities to meet people you like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 11:16 PM
1	We need to encourage young adults to throw more house parties House parties are one of the cheapest options for socializing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 11:13 PM
2	Women, by and large, are not "settling" with guys they aren't attracted to Attraction is based on physical appearance, but also personality. Attraction is dynamic and changing. If one spends time with someone and learns their personality, it can change their perception of the person's attractiveness. For example, I went on a date with a man who had been a model and was conventionally very attractive but he was an incredibly boring, vapid, shallow person which I find incredibly unattractive. Suddenly I'm not attracted to him anymore and turn down his requests for future…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/25 09:17 PM
1	Women may be successful in education, but they are not cut out for high level white collar careers, and they should not be pushed into pursuing these professions Many women actually want to raise their children. Having a child and then paying someone else to see all it's special moments and teach them their basics is not ideal for many women. Many women feel they miss out on a lot if they have someone else raise them so it's quite common for women to stay home with the child until they go to preschool or even kindergarten. That 4-5 year gap on the resume is often looked down upon. Then there is the matter of continuing care for the child. Leaving work to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 10:41 PM
3	Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date? "Researchers at porn website Youporn found that 24 percent of heterosexual men say they watch gay content, while 39 percent of straight women have seen lesbian porn." The first link is the actual porn site, fair warning. The second link is a ny post article about the study. https://www.youporn.com/world/heterosexual-user-preferences https://nypost.com/2018/03/01/1-in-4-straight-men-watch-gay-porn-survey/ "In respect of self-identified straight male visitors to YouPorn, 24% of visitors watch male…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 07:36 PM
9	Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date? So the men who watch lesbian porn are closet trans or secretly wishing they were actually women, so that they could engage in lesbian sex then? ETA: do you really think 1/4 of straight men are actually bi? That seems high to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 05:29 PM
3	Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date? So you think 1/4 of straight men are actually bi? That seems a little high to to me, but who knows? So when men watch lesbian porn are they closet trans? Do they actually wish they were women so they could engage in lesbian sex?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 05:24 PM
16	Why Do Unsuccessful Men on this Sub Focus So Much On Women They Don’t Want To Date? So the 25% of straight men that watch gay porn actually want to have gay sex?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/06/25 03:39 PM
–	American men are becoming disinterested That's not at all how it goes. First of all men and women don't typically have classes together, it would be an open gym situation where they will see each other, but for this we'll pretend that they do. I know this can be applied to most groups though. The established women will not ask you to coffee. They will talk shit and spread rumors and play all kinds of games. If men do come hit on you, there is a good chance he is probably just looking for sex because one of the established women told h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/25 03:19 PM
6	Women are in business while men are looking for love. That's unfortunate for you, but not true for many people. In my circle, the women I know truly love their men. Two of my best female friends are actually the bread winners in their relationship. They own their own house, which their respective husbands then moved into. My husband lived in my house when we were first married, while he finished his PhD and we would have stayed there if he didn't get a job offer in a different city. Perhaps you need to meet more educated, ambitious women? I met my …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/25 09:42 PM
–	Recent Wizard Liz stuff, Andrew Tate equivalent but for hypergamous females that's really popular who got cheated by 6ft+ millionaire boyfriend when she was 4 month pregnant. The worst looking guy I dated turned out to be the one who cheated multiple times and had a secret drug problem. My sister's husband cheated on her and he was a short, overweight, balding, ginger with glasses who barely graduated from highschool and couldn't hold a job, even at Walmart. He was super Christian which made my sister think he was decent. Being less attractive has no impact on moral integrity or one's ability to lie.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/25 12:09 PM
14	Why do some women seek Egalitarian marriages instead of partial or full Financial dependence on a man? Have you ever heard the expression "don't put all of your eggs on one basket?" More money > Less money What if he gets laid off or fired and struggles to find work? What if the husband becomes disabled? Disability won't cover living expenses in most places, it's difficult to get and takes years. What happens when she is 50 and he decides to leave her? What if he becomes abusive? Manipulative, socially isolating, and controlling? What if he becomes an alcoholic, a compulsive gambler, or a drug ad…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/25 03:47 PM
5	The orgasm gap is because women genuinely need fantasy level attraction towards the man they’re having sex with and physical stimulation There are many short men that are married or in relationships. There are many short guys that are very attractive. Being shorter doesn't automatically make someone unattractive to many women. They do have a harder time, but what one lacks in height they can make up for in other areas. Physical attraction is definitely important, but having an awesome personality actually makes you more attractive. Before I was married I dated men who were shorter than me, and l didn't have a preference for tall …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 03:59 PM
6	The orgasm gap is because women genuinely need fantasy level attraction towards the man they’re having sex with and physical stimulation If women are repulsed by you, blame your parents for having a repulsive child and/or blame yourself for not being able to become non-repulsive. Don't blame women for not being attracted to someone who is repulsive. Blame shifting is not attractive. Are you attracted to repulsive women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 01:57 PM
2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos So then when it becomes normalized to have transactional sex instead of relationships and the majority of women start charging for sex, wouldn't that inflate their egos even more? I see a lot of men blaming OF for the current culture (among other things).	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 09:08 PM
2	How common are gangbangs actually? I don't believe they are common. I personally don't know anyone that has participated in one. I'm not sure where your friend got that number but it's way too high.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 08:24 PM
2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos It's been legalized for a long time in most these places though. It is the social norm there. It seems many men actually want relationship and intimacy, because they still seek out LTRs in the places were prostitution is legal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 07:06 PM
2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos It is legal in 86 countries total: Canada, Belgium, Germany, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland, Luxembourg, Greece, Hungary, Latvia, Turkey, most of Australia, most of Mexico, Argentina, Colombia, as well as several other South American, Asian and African countries. It doesn't really seem to be a factor in the dynamics between men and women for the most part. Edit: grammar and spelling	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:14 PM
2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos Sex work is legal in many countries (and in Nevada in the US), and the same dynamics between men and women exist in those places. It changes nothing. ETA: Canada, Belgium, Germany, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland, Luxembourg, Greece, Hungary, Latvia, and most of Australia all have legalized prostitution, as well as several South American and Asian countries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:01 PM
2	Is it true that women are 100% content on being alone for life? It's hard for many women to adjust to the change in their body, even if someone is telling them they are beautiful. It doesn't help that a lot of the media puts pressure on women to be thin and young. This was especially bad in the past, think about women today who grew up with Kate Moss and young Brittney Spears as the body types they were told are the most desirable. Stretch marks are normal. So is aging, wrinkles, weight, gain, cellulite, and everything else but women are often told by media …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/25 03:46 AM
2	Is it true that women are 100% content on being alone for life? It's not weird at all. Everyone has their own preferences. After having a child, the hips gets broader and the breasts get fuller, which are traits many men tend to like in women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/25 01:21 AM
3	Is it true that women are 100% content on being alone for life? As women age, their hormones change and their sex drive change. On average, it peaks in their 30s and then begins to decline. Once perimenopause and menopause begin the libido drastically dips off in most women. Combine that with the changes to the body from child birth, endometriosis, fibroids, cysts, PCOS, and numerous other conditions that can cause pain during intercourse which can make sex difficult and stressful for many women. Then add the stress of caring for the children, the household,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/25 09:28 PM
2	Until men are allowed male-specific and non-feminist spaces the sex war will not end. Approximately 93,000 sexual abuse claims were filed with the US bankruptcy court before the deadline. It's public record.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/25 02:46 AM
4	Fit women, what body type are you most attracted to in a man? NOT the body builder. Other than that I'm ok with any of the others. I know some women like that but I'm just not into it. My husband is toned, but not overly so. Before I was married I dated men with a variety of body types. I was a gymnast growing up and I worked on my family's farm, so I was usually around a bunch of toned guys so that is what I gravitated towards, but I think shared lifestyle and interests contribute some to that. It wasn't super important to me what body type a man had thou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/25 07:19 PM
1	Why doesn't porn seem to warp womens' perceptions of sex the same way it does for men? Even when considering a retroverted uterus (which has a 20% prevalence rate), the statistically average phallus physically isn't capable of reaching the cervix, or even the anterior fornix." "I was low-key insinuating that most aren't fully aroused most of the time" So you agree that women are not thoroughly aroused, meaning the vaginal canal is even shorter, around 3-4 in on average when not aroused. The average penis is 5 in which is more than 4 in. I guess math isn't your strong suit so I'll …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/25 09:11 PM
2	Why doesn't porn seem to warp womens' perceptions of sex the same way it does for men? You are simply wrong. (See links below) Don't forget that not all women are fully aroused while having intercourse which leaves the vaginal canal shorter. The dig at my partner also makes no sense, as it is the exact opposite of your own argument. In your own words, a below average "Johnson" wouldn't reach the cervix, so if he is hitting my cervix, his "Johnson" is obviously above average. For the record, my husband does happen to be above average, especially in the US, as he is from Africa wher…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 04:34 PM
7	Why doesn't porn seem to warp womens' perceptions of sex the same way it does for men? So it seems that you may be experiencing the dunning Krueger effect. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect You are using a lot of anatomical words to sound educated on the subject, however you are not educated enough to know what you do not know. You've just said a whole lot of words to say that you've never hit a woman's cervix. Most women I know have experienced it though. Some of my friends in college called it "bottoming out". It is a real thing. Some women say it hur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 04:54 AM
2	Feminists somehow acknowledge men being expected to be breadwinners, stoic protectors and pursuers under "patriarchy hurts men too" while they simultaneously tell men their dating issues have nothing to do with society or women. Yeah, a lot men truly see things differently in that way. It's very much about honor. My husband is Arab and talking him down when someone made him mad has sometimes been a challenge, lol. I'm sure there are some women who would want a man to fight. I'm just at a point in my life where I want as little drama as possible. The women I know are of a similar mind set. Especially in this economy... Ain't nobody got time for that, haha	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 02:57 AM
7	Feminists somehow acknowledge men being expected to be breadwinners, stoic protectors and pursuers under "patriarchy hurts men too" while they simultaneously tell men their dating issues have nothing to do with society or women. I think it might depend a lot on age, maturity, and education levels as well. In highschool a girl might have called a man a bitch for that, possibly even college, but as a fully grown adult who has to pay bills and face consequences it's a lot different, haha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 02:35 AM
5	Why doesn't porn seem to warp womens' perceptions of sex the same way it does for men? The cervix does move in correlation to a women's cycle, however almost 1/4 of woman (20-25%) have a tilted uterus (retroverted uterus) and often experience the exact opposite cervical movement so their cervix may be lower at fertile times. https://www.healthline.com/health/cervix-before-period#cervical-changes-chart Women can experience the penis hitting the cervix (usually causing pain) at certain times of her cycle, as it's not always high. However even if it's higher than normal it may not be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 02:30 AM
9	Feminists somehow acknowledge men being expected to be breadwinners, stoic protectors and pursuers under "patriarchy hurts men too" while they simultaneously tell men their dating issues have nothing to do with society or women. You mean her being relieved because he did the mature, responsible thing and she won't have to go bail him out of jail later or worry about hiring a lawyer because of criminal charges or a possible lawsuit just because some guy had too much testosterone and a fragile ego?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/25 01:01 AM
2	In the long run, there's nothing that fulfills most women better than having kids Why do you think kids are the only thing fulfilling women's lives?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/25 12:17 AM
16	In the long run, there's nothing that fulfills most women better than having kids If kids are the only thing fulfilling your life...what a sad life. I have a very close circle of friends and a huge family, I won't be alone when I'm old. No need to make a baby to try it to force it and guilt it into taking care of me when I'm old. I also have career, hobbies, interests, ect. The one thing I have no interest or desire for is having my own children. My husband and I both have no interest at all. Plus we want to be able to afford to retire so we will actually be able to save the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/25 02:12 PM
1	Most provider men do not end up with traditional women All else being equal we are talking exclusively about their sexual views, behaviors, etc. If a conservative man is prude and has no sexual experience he is probably going to be boring which isn't very sexy or masculine. A more liberal man with experience would be more exciting. Also, I wasn't necessarily saying liberal and conservative in terms of political views but just in terms of their sexual views although the two things do frequently align. If a politically conservative man is experienced …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/25 04:09 PM
0	Most provider men do not end up with traditional women Wouldn't it be more likely that the conservative prude would be more boring and less masculine and sexy than the liberal, sexually-free partner? As someone more sexually experienced and open, the liberal would be more masculine, sexy, and exciting in this situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/25 02:58 PM
2	Most provider men do not end up with traditional women Considering the "male loneliness epidemic", it seems they must actually be doing a decent job at filtering them out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/25 12:45 PM
–	Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated Do you have a link to the original where it says that? All I am finding is the one with the graph showing that women go on to contact approx. 20% of men ranked below "medium". Perhaps men are just worse at taking photos on social media? Isn't that kind of a trope? It may be that many women need to see men in person to find them attractive or that many men aren't very photogenic, or a combination of those two things. This was published in 2009. People using dating websites back in 2009 were still…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 02:15 PM
–	Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated That same study also showed that women also largely went on to initiate contact with that same block of men they just rated as physically below average. Look at the graph. In terms of who women are actually willing to pursue they don't seem too picky in regards to looks. This study could also just prove that men on ok cupid are really bad at taking pictures. Has it ever been repeated in the general population?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 12:33 PM
3	Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated How do you know that they do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 01:38 AM
3	People on this sub don't understand what being in your Prime or the Wall actually means There are men that say nobody wants an expired woman, past her prime, etc. I think women are responding to those types of comments when they say they still get plenty of dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/25 01:22 AM
1	How comes jocks and street boys don't get the "inc*l" label? I don't know, he sort of looks like he is like melting sometimes, or something it just off about him. He is like a 4 on his best day day in my opinion but we all have different opinions of what is attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/25 01:23 PM
3	Men of PPD, if you only had two choices, would you rather date a woman from today (modern woman) or a woman from the 1950s (traditional woman, minus the racism)? Explain your reasoning. So you're a racist?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/25 02:33 AM
–	The reason women loathe the passportbro movement is because it threatens their position in the dating market I don't think most women think about these men. Something I believe some of these men don't really realize is that the women in many of those countries except or want more traditional roles. Someone posted a clip from one of those reality shows where Americans go overseas to find a mate (90 day finance?), and this guy was so outraged and put out that the women in Morocco expected him to be the breadwinner and did not want to work. Dude. He said something along the lines of them being golddiggers…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/25 01:12 AM
–	Its very rare for a man to find a woman who genuinely likes him for who he is as a human being, instead of what he provides. It's not necessarily just age that changes looks though. Someone can gain weight, have an accident and get a giant scar, have an arm cut off, get burned in a fire, get a full sleeve tattoo, or even just cutting their hair is enough for some people to not like their look anymore. There are so many ways looks can change very quickly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 04:12 PM
–	Its very rare for a man to find a woman who genuinely likes him for who he is as a human being, instead of what he provides. If a man loses his job, a person who is attracted to them only for money will lose interest in them, just a person who is only attracted to someone for their looks loses interest when the looks change or fade. If superficial qualities are the only factors keeping someone in a relationship, it probably isn't going to be a long or genuinely loving and pleasant relationship. It will be transactional, and once spent up they will move on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 01:31 PM
–	Its very rare for a man to find a woman who genuinely likes him for who he is as a human being, instead of what he provides. Looks are not permanent. They will fade fairly quickly. If someone only likes you for your looks, they will replace you with a 20 year old by the time your 40.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/25 01:12 PM
5	Do you ever get tired of compliments? I don't know if "tired" is the right word. Apathetic maybe. I know that often men give compliments with a motive so they are not genuine compliments and I just don't even accept them as being valid. Women will sometimes give false compliments if they are the fake type and have a motive of their own, like trying to make you think you look good in an outfit that actually looks bad. I often tell my husband that the only valid and genuine compliments, aside from close friends and family, are from ga…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/25 04:14 PM
–	Women don’t want men to form real “male friend groups” to solve male loneliness. Yes. My husband served in the military in a country with conscription in the Middle East that is always in some sort of conflict or war. He and most of his male friends from his country have had to literally fight for their lives, and each others. Have you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 04:15 AM
–	Women don’t want men to form real “male friend groups” to solve male loneliness. How could you possibly know this without knowing her husband or his friends? My husband absolutely has "ride or die" friends. ETA: do you have any "ride or dies?" Any friends you hang out with regularly?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 02:23 AM
–	In relationships where couples choose not to have children, explain why spousal support exists? There are men who want a stay a home wife or "trad" (traditional) wife even if they don't have kids. He wants the house clean and meals cooked, laundry, shopping, and errands done and doesn't want to help with any of it so that is her job. There are women with disabilities and ssdi is not enough to live off alone in many places. There are women who are still in college and not working yet. Especially women in grad school as a thesis or dissertation takes a lot of time there isn't much left over …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 01:04 PM
2	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit I never said there aren't women that sleep around. I know there definitely are. I'm talking about the ones who don't, because a lot of men seem to think all women are promiscuous and there is no way any woman could only sleep with 4 men or even less. I'm a little older but my husband is younger, most of our friends are younger and many of my colleagues are younger, and all of my cousins (early-mid 20s). None of them use apps because they meet people in person. There is just a difference in how p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 01:48 PM
3	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit 30 dates in one year is less than one a week. Considering many first dates a just coffee or lunch dates that last less than 2 hours, that isn't much time. 30-60/8760 hrs is a pretty small fraction. I'm not sure why some men have a hard time believing a lot of women don't have one night stands. I guess because every man would jump at the opportunity to have a one night stand. It's not the same for women though. Even with protection and birth control there is still a risk, even though it's small. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 01:19 PM
2	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit She can go on 30 dates a year and still only sleep with 4-5 ever. Some will sleep with many more than that but many won't. Most of the women I know only sleep with men they are in relationships with, not men they only go on dates with. The number of dates doesn't really matter if they are actually picky about who they are sleeping with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 12:33 PM
12	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit There is a big difference between going on a date with someone and having sex with someone. You seem to be using the term interchangeably. Most women don't sleep with every man they go on a date with. She could have dated 30 but had sex with 4.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 12:28 AM
–	“Single men just want to fuck supermodels & 10s” is completely wrong. They don't actually. It is literally the opposite of your point. Women are not little girls. Men into little girls are not into women, so saying men being pedos proves that men are into average woman is blatantly false.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 03:59 AM
4	Don’t Fear The Wall - Use Time to Your Advantage I married the most amazing man in my mid 30s. I didn't settle for the men that proposed to me in my 20s because I didn't let this "wall" stuff scare me and I knew I deserved better, and I got it. And then some.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/01/25 07:25 AM
1	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. Do most think that? I guess almost everyone I know is a doctor or has a PhD so it's just assumed that you spent most of your 20s and maybe some of your 30s in college. Haha. I guess people do usually say grad school... I was wanting to emphasize the fact that he was on college campus around college girls everyday that annoyed the shit out of him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 02:07 AM
2	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. He was working on his PhD at the time. He was 28. I don't really see how that is "predatory" for a man or a woman. He was grown ass man. He was old enough to have served in the Egyptian military, earn 2 college degrees in Petroleum Engineering, and move to a different hemisphere alone. He was old enough to decide if he wanted a relationship or not. People need to stop infantilizing full grown adults and get a grip.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/25 01:54 AM
9	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. I think it depends on the man. I know several who also like older women. My husband could have his pick of women and he chose me even though I'm nine years older. My cousin was very popular and everyone wanted to date him and he married a woman almost 20 years older than himself. One of my best friends is married to a man almost 20 years younger. My husband's best friend's wife is 10 years older than him, and he is someone who could also have his pick of women. I still get hit on quite frequentl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 06:26 PM
3	Perhaps women no longer being attractive to men as they get older is a good thing. Most men probably but not all of them. I know several men who have the choice of younger women but want older women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 06:14 PM
4	When You’re On a Date with a Woman, She Usually Has 3 Other Guys Already This is your problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/25 06:09 PM
3	The issue with promiscuous men wanting non-promiscuous women is about his hypocrisy around pious conservative values Wow, don't take things so personally, lol. If you don't want people to reply to you, don't comment on a public forum, haha. Comments on assholes, and then gets butthurt that someone comments back about assholes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 07:22 PM
5	The issue with promiscuous men wanting non-promiscuous women is about his hypocrisy around pious conservative values Having a visible asshole is much different than "spreading" it. Maybe you don't know this but men in 69 position have a visible asshole too. Anytime a man is in missionary his asshole is visible, so if you've ever had sex in front of a mirror, she's seen your asshole. Considering missionary position is one of the most common positions, a man's asshole is exposed as often, if not more, than a woman's during sex. I'm not really sure what the significance of that is though. It makes no difference t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 06:55 PM
12	The issue with promiscuous men wanting non-promiscuous women is about his hypocrisy around pious conservative values The ones who do spread their assholes are the ones who do it on purpose...what about it? It's not something that happens involuntarily. They might do it because they think it's what men want to see, I don't know. Ask next time. How do I see them? I don't see women spreading their assholes. I see naked people (men and women ) everyday as part of my job because I work in healthcare. Women's assholes don't spread open just because they are naked, not even when their legs are in up stirrups. It just…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 01:59 PM
19	The issue with promiscuous men wanting non-promiscuous women is about his hypocrisy around pious conservative values Ok? Most women don't spread their asshole open when they have sex either. It sounds like you're watching too much porn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/25 01:28 PM
1	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? The fibroid is gone and the kidney is fine but I still have severe Endometriosis that keeps returning. I have to have surgery about once every 1-2 years, sometimes a couple times a year because the Endo spreads to other parts and causes problems. It's gotten into my bowels, to my appendix, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 02:42 PM
1	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? Yeah, my first obgyn told me it was normal and the pain in between periods was probably just ovulation or something. Never bothered with an ultrasound. I eventually ended up in the ER where they found a fibroid so large it had begun infarcting on my kidney and taking it's blood supply so I had to have surgery to fix it. My new obgyn (the one who was on call that day at the ER, who has done all of my surgeries, he has been a lifesaver!) says it's not normal to have that type of pain and fainting.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/25 06:05 PM
1	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? Thank you. I've learned to manage it better as I've gotten older, and I've had several surgeries to try to control it. Some months are just worse than others for no apparent reason. You are correct, he was a total dickhead, that's why he is an ex. No offense at all, lol. Thankfully my husband is not a dickhead at all. You are already ahead of many men just by asking what you can do. It what mean a lot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 09:51 PM
5	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? As long as you believe her you'll be fine. I have severe Endometriosis, uterine fibroids, and adenomyosis, which cause extreme pain and very heavy bleeding. Enough bleeding that my blood pressure gets so low that I may pass out and the pain is so intense I vomit sometimes. I have to go to the hospital for IV meds and fluids to get my blood pressure up some months. I had an ex once that didn't believe my pain was that bad because "his ex didn't have bad periods". Even after the doctor in the hosp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 08:13 PM
3	Whats a way for a man to understand periods and make it easier for women? For me, it's during the period that's the worst. I have so much pain I actually vomit and I have fainted from blood loss a few times because I bleed so heavily. The mood swings are the least of my concern. I have horrible endometriosis. My husband knows has learned to know where I am in my cycle and how to deal with the specific issues, haha. He makes me coffee or tea and cooks the meals or brings home food during the really rough times. He takes me to the hospital and sits with me all day and s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 08:07 PM
–	Your survival rate during life-threatening emergencies or critical incidents directly correlates to the number of biological men on the scene. The average woman is not a firefighter, so we aren't talking about average women. We are talking about a small percentage of women who could be firefighters or rescuers. There are some who probably are not very good at their job, just like there are men who suck at their jobs but there are also some that are great at their jobs. I'm not upset at basic biology. (I'm a biotechnologist actually.) I was simply asking was getting pregnant had to do with rescuing you from a fire (which you still haven…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 03:41 AM
–	Your survival rate during life-threatening emergencies or critical incidents directly correlates to the number of biological men on the scene. I'm aware that men have more upper body strength. I'm also aware that there are women capable of being firefighters. No, it's not the norm. No, not all women can do it. It crazy ignorant to think it's impossible though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 03:18 AM
–	Your survival rate during life-threatening emergencies or critical incidents directly correlates to the number of biological men on the scene. I helped cut a trapped child out of his car seat at an accident I came upon with my knife. I stopped, and there was a man already there who didn't have a knife. I carry one in my purse. You know how many hurricanes, floods, tornadoes and other life or death disasters I have helped in, along with other women? Yes men help. So do women. The majority of nurses are women. They often tend to jump in and help at accidents and disasters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:47 AM
–	Your survival rate during life-threatening emergencies or critical incidents directly correlates to the number of biological men on the scene. Are you saying you would be thinking about getting her pregnant how does that come into play? Why does being able to get pregnant matter in this context? As long as she can carry you weight, it doesn't matter, does it? Firefighters have to pass pt tests to ensure they are able to do their jobs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:34 AM
–	Your survival rate during life-threatening emergencies or critical incidents directly correlates to the number of biological men on the scene. 39% of first responders in the US are female. https://www.zippia.com/emergency-responder-jobs/demographics/ ETA: Over 23% of the Air Force, 21% of the Navy, 19% of the Army, and 10% of the Marines Corps are female.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:22 AM
2	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act Of course you are allowed to ask, but you said the tone of her post suggests that so I am just curious what gave you that impression.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 01:28 PM
5	Guys Usually Have Problems With Dating Because of Money, Not How They Look or Act Where did she imply that she is better looking?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 04:43 AM
9	Downplaying men fear of false allegations, make women fear of men is inconsistent. Men are not getting locked up for calling women names. There is nothing hypocritical about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 12:48 PM
22	Downplaying men fear of false allegations, make women fear of men is inconsistent. Yes, that is the treatment given to women. Words are not illegal, unless a threat is made. Women also get called all sorts of names like bitch, whore, slut, cunt, etc. Cat calling is annoying, but most girls over the age of 12 are pretty used to it. It would be great if people would be nicer and more respectful to each other but unfortunately I don't hold out much hope of that happening anytime soon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 04:56 AM
36	Downplaying men fear of false allegations, make women fear of men is inconsistent. No. If a woman gets groped by a stranger in public it isn't rape. It's sexual assault. She should definitely complain about it because there are laws against sexual assault. Rape and sexual assault are two different things, hence the reason there are two different sets of definitions and laws regarding each. I understand that being called names is hurtful. That sucks. He can definitely complain about it if he wants. I'm saying it's not the same as spending time in jail and going on trial for som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 04:30 AM
36	Downplaying men fear of false allegations, make women fear of men is inconsistent. Did the police come to question you because she said that? Were you arrested? Did you spend any time in jail? Did you have to hire a lawyer? How much money did it cost you? Did you lose your job? Did you have to change schools? Did you have to move? Did your name get published in the paper? Were you and your family hounded by the media? Did your property get vandalized? Did you have to register as a sex offender? Did you lose any friends? Did any of your family turn against you? If none of these…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/25 04:08 AM
–	What % of men fail to meet reasonable hygiene or grooming standards? Yes, they should have the "DECENCY" to wash their hands after work. It literally takes 30 seconds. It's not difficult. I grew up on, and worked on, a farm. I also detasseled corn, worked in a large animal vet clinic (helping in births and other very messy things), dug graves for a cemetery (family friend's business), helped my dad work construction and carpentry jobs, worked on cars and farm equipment, and now I cut up deceased people for a living (I'm licensed. I do have to wear sterile gloves …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 04:10 PM
4	Both men and women who want to be strict about condoms are kind of screwed in the dating world. I was wondering the same thing, haha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/24 08:26 PM
–	Men of all ages prefer women between 18-30 simply because it is their physical prime, absolutely nothing to do with manipulation or power dynamics The number of elderly people with STIs have more than doubled in the last couple decades. Nursing homes and retirement communities are having outbreaks. That shows that even women in their 70s and 80s are having sex. Old people get with other old people. Would they both prefer someone that looked like a 25 year old movie star? Probably, but most people are realistic. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna145332 ETA: my grandma passed away before my grandpa. He started going to the "senior center"…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 01:38 PM
10	A Woman’s Age Is an Important Metric for Stable Men To Consider For A LTR You think that prioritizing a stable future is being narcissistic? In my experience the woman who waited until their late 20s or 30s to get married, after college and career, are the happiest and most stable. The women I know who got married earlier are mostly divorced and either single moms or remarried now. They were mostly the girls that partied a lot and got married early because they got pregnant accidentally. That doesn't show great decision making skills. Neither one is necessarily narcis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/24 09:02 PM
2	Is it true that women give sex to have love? That the end goal for women is emotional bonding, not any sort of physical fulfillment? I have wondered this too. She is so fake and generic looking. Often times, she actually looks sort of like a video game character to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/24 12:11 AM
8	What are you guys thoughts on “black cat” energy on TikTok? Stop playing games. Interact with your husband in a genuine way, not a manipulative way. Stop trying to label every interaction. Get off of tick tock.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/24 05:58 AM
2	Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women? I also think most of the Victoria's secrets models are too thin. Plenty of men go wild for them though. And Margot Robbie. That is because attractiveness is subjective. The thing I don't like about Megan Fox is her face.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 12:30 PM
3	Why does the perception that "most men are physically unattractive or below average" exist among women? This is funny to me. I personally think Megan Fox is mid (on a good day), and Margot Robbie is super hot. It shows attractiveness is subjective. Evolutionarily, men want to spread their seed to as many women as possible. Women need to be choosy about who they mate with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 03:03 AM
–	We can at least agree that that too many women are addicted to taking pictures at the expense of ruining a moment Honestly, my husband is more like that than I am. He is the one making me wait to touch my food. Making me repose. There is even a collection of photos he has of me being annoyed by having pictures taken. I don't really take many pics. It just doesn't usually occur to me. I don't use social media, unless you count Reddit, but no Ticktock, FB, Twitter, Insta, or anything like that. My husband is several years younger than me so that might account for some of his fascination with photography and s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 05:42 AM
1	How often would you say you meet friends of friends? Extremely common. That is how I met my husband. I introduced my best friend to her husband. My other good friend met her husband through our friends. Our social groups frequently have gatherings and events, both large and small, and we meet people at almost every one (unless it's just a small gathering of our close group). Many of our friends are very active in our local music scene which has a huge network and community with many events, my husband is from Egypt and has an "Arab meetup" group w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 12:40 AM
2	What do you think about the idea that women may put men into two groups- those who are “hookup/ONS” material and those who are “relationship/husband” material? My husband is a fantastic partner AND he's incredibly attractive. I didn't hookup with people I wasn't in a relationship with, I never had a ONS. So I only had one category.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/24 01:51 PM
–	AI girlfriends are going to completely change the dating game, and it's going to happen very soon. The men that would turn to AI girlfriends are not the men that women would want anyway, that's the point. The men most women want are the ones who want an emotional connection, not just to use her as bang maid. If a sex bot can fulfill his needs, and he wants no deeper emotional connection, he isn't the type of man most women want. On the flip side, if a woman just wants a man for sex, she can get a Chad bot. She doesn't need a sentient man with feelings and a connection. AI will make it easier …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 04:39 PM
2	Conventional attractiveness vs your partner's taste My husband is the same way. He is Arab, and has told me that in his culture they tend to prefer "curvier" women. I was a gymnast growing up and have always had a muscular, athletic build. I have gained a bit of weight as I stopped competing and training as much so I have some breasts and hips now, which my husband adores, but it's hard for me to adapt to seeing my body that way and accepting it. I decided to try to accept my body as it is instead of as it was, as long as my husband is happy with…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/11/24 08:24 PM
2	Why Splitting the Check Should Be the New Standard for Dating I didn't accept dates with men I didn't know either. I dated men I knew on some level, usually through friend groups. I never used dating apps or OLD or anything like that. I don't know if the men wanted the dates more than I did or not. I'm not sure how to quantify that exactly. I'm guessing there were some who did. I didn't date a whole lot, I mostly had long term relationships. The times I did, it was usually the men asking though, so does that mean he was more excited?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 09:29 PM
7	Why Splitting the Check Should Be the New Standard for Dating If it's a strange man I don't want to eat with him, haha. If it's a man I'm interested in, then it's nice to spend time with him. I'm not really they type that would go out with a guy I'm not interested in just to get a free dinner. I guess that's what I mean.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 08:45 PM
3	Why Splitting the Check Should Be the New Standard for Dating I guess the way I see it is, I can buy my own dinner. I need him to woo me with his personality. I'm not interested in his money. I know many women are different, which is cool, that's just not my preference. It's also hard to know sometimes who is more interested in who. Especially if it's a first date, the man could be really excited to take the woman out and then find out he's not into her during the date or vice versa. There are just a lot of variables. Dating is such a personal thing, there…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 08:15 PM
10	Why Splitting the Check Should Be the New Standard for Dating I'm not understanding what one thing has to do with the other I guess. It's not about connecting or rejecting. I want to spend time with the person, not for them to buy me something. I have money so I don't need them to pay for me. I don't want to feel like a freeloader. To answer your question, yes. In most cases, I was as interested in the date at the man was. I offered to pay with my now husband. Which, funny story, led to our first disagreement, haha. He was fine when I offered to split, but…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 07:40 PM
31	Why Splitting the Check Should Be the New Standard for Dating Before I was married and I was dating, I always wanted to split the check, or even offered to pay. It's just fair that way. Plus I don't want anyone to feel like I owe them anything. I don't see the big deal in men wanting to split the check.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 05:17 PM
1	Question For Women: How often in your entire life would you say you saw a guy that you were attracted to whose number you would’ve liked to have, but he didn’t make a move/direct IOI and you also didn’t with him? When I was single, I was the type that would just ask a guy if I was interested so I can't really think of any, except for maybe way back in highschool. There were a couple guys I went to highschool with that eventually told me after we had graduated that they had a big crush on me when we were in highschool. I also had had big crushes on them (not at the same time, haha), but never acted on it. I think this was more because if it was rejected, we had to see each other everyday and we were in th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 09:33 PM
2	There is no excuse to let yourself go in a relationship. I agree that there is no reason to deliberately let oneself go just because they are in a relationship. That said, people age. They get sick. Get injured. Have surgeries. Have babies. Hormones change. For both genders. If my husband gained some weight or became disabled, I wouldn't love him any less. I wouldn't leave him. He is my favorite person. He is my life. That won't change. We will adapt to any changes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/24 09:17 PM
18	Is this okay? No. That's is not okay. Ever. No matter how long the relationship is. I'm so sorry that happened to you. You never have to submit in a sexual way, or do anything you are uncomfortable with, especially if it's with someone you hardly know. A man doesn't require your body, or taking advantage of it, to be successful. Edit: grammar	/r/RedPillWomen	12/11/24 07:01 AM
1	Love doesn’t really exist and it’s detrimental for most people to seek after it Invaluable actually means extremely valuable, just so you know. (Not trying to be rude. People can be very superficial. People can use each other. People can be with each other just for what the other person can do for them or what they get out of it. Those relationships aren't valuable. That's not real love. It's lust, and perhaps like, at best. Other times there are people who truly connect with each other on a very deep, personal level. They stay together their whole lives and sometimes they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/24 04:46 AM
1	why do cheaters ALWAYS have multiple partners if nobody "wants" to date them? Cheaters don't typically advertise that they are cheaters when they first start dating someone. Many times the person in a relationship with someone doesn't know they are cheaters, at least not at the beginning.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/11/24 04:15 PM
1	WOMEN ARE THE “MAIN ISSUE”IN MODERN DATING 8 is 80% of 10. There are 10 dots total, representing men. Each different color circle represents a different woman. Only two dots have no circle at all. The 8 other dots are circled by at least one woman, several dots have overlapping circles indicating more than one woman found that man attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 12:54 PM
4	WOMEN ARE THE “MAIN ISSUE”IN MODERN DATING Yet according to this drawing, 80% of the men were found to be attractive by at least one of the women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 05:56 AM
–	The 4B Movement isn't going to happen en masse I haven't heard much about it. I definitely won't leave my husband, haha. We had already planned long before all of this not to have children. I have heard no actual women speak of this but almost all of my friends and family are married with no plans of divorcing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/24 01:26 AM
1	q4w: what is a skill that you learned that makes you insanely hot? Yes, happily.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 03:34 AM
2	q4w: what is a skill that you learned that makes you insanely hot? It's definitely interesting and rewarding. I am one of those lucky people who actually loves my job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 02:16 AM
1	What dating standards are fair for women to hold? So what about the ones that actually end up with their standards? The handsome 6',6",6 with a great personality that treats her well? Do you think those women should have settled sooner or do you understand why they waited? Do you think it's worth it to try to wait or to settle?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 12:56 AM
2	q4w: what is a skill that you learned that makes you insanely hot? Cooking and baking (everything from scratch) Gymnastics Dancing ballet and belly dance (but not in front of people lol), and salsa dancing Working on the farm (baling hay, driving tractors, the combine, tending the animals etc) Harvesting human organs and tissues for a living Changing the oil in my car, changing my own tires, etc Basic housework like painting, framing, hanging dry wall, spackling, etc I speak Spanish, some Italian and French, and I'm learning Arabic. Sewing and embroidery, I can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/24 11:53 PM
2	q4w: what is a skill that you learned that makes you insanely hot? I can also do all 3 of these things!	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/24 11:46 PM
1	Men are attracted to women who are good for themselves, Women are attracted to men who are a danger to themselves and others Many women pick men with high earning potential, theoretically to provide for themselves and their offspring. Other women pick men with traits similar to the qualities of the men they were raised with. Others pick the opposite. It largely depends on how they were raised. I grew up in a rural farming community but I live in a city now. I can tell you the rural women tend not pick men for the same reasons that the city women do. It may be because they don't have the options available to them. It m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 02:19 PM
11	Men are attracted to women who are good for themselves, Women are attracted to men who are a danger to themselves and others When did men lose free will? Men make the choice to stay in a relationship or not. It's often the man who proposes marriage or decides if a situationship will become more serious. It's ridiculous to say men have no choice in who they date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 05:09 AM
20	Men are attracted to women who are good for themselves, Women are attracted to men who are a danger to themselves and others "I’m not here to debate the outliers." Says the man who claims women pit men against each other in death matches. Okay Buddy. Have a nice night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 04:31 AM
23	Men are attracted to women who are good for themselves, Women are attracted to men who are a danger to themselves and others So you aren't familiar with the crazy-hot matrix of evaluating women then? S/ Seriously though, a lot of men are attracted to women that do crappy things. A lot of women are attracted to men that do crappy things. Some people just seem to have bad taste in their mates. Others are better at choosing. It's not really a gendered thing. Side note, have you ever actually seen a woman ask two men to fight to the death?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 02:29 AM
3	Q4M: You meet the perfect woman but you find out about her ex Double Styrofoam cups? Is this a euphemism?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/24 12:20 AM
1	Curious what women view as "good guys" So are we all supposed to stop using the word "guy" too? They are two separate things. There is a phrase, and there are the two words in the phrase. The two words both have their own independent meanings. When the two words are used together in a phrase, they have a different meaning, apart from their independent ones. "Mother fucker". Do you still use the word "mother" on it's own? When someone refers to their mother do you think they are calling their mom an obscene name?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 09:32 PM
1	Q4W: would you like being apporached in a bar when you are with your girl friends for a night out? If so, how? That's how I met my husband.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 08:15 PM
1	Curious what women view as "good guys" People can still use the word nice to describe an action without labeling a person as a "Nice Guy" in the parlance as it's understood in this sub. The definition of "nice": agreeable, pleasant, satisfactory; attractive. If I say it was nice of you to carry that heavy box for your mom, does that mean you are a "Nice Guy"? A doormat? No. It means you performed a pleasant, agreeable act.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 07:42 PM
2	Curious what women view as "good guys" Ok but the OP is defining a "good man". Not a "Nice Guy". I never said "Nice Guy" and neither did op. There is being nice and doing nice things and then there is being a "Nice Guy". We aren't just going to quit using one word entirely because it became part of a phrase to describe something else. We still use the word "son" to mean male offspring even though we use the phrase "Son of a Bitch" to describe an unsavory person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 06:37 PM
2	Curious what women view as "good guys" No. Being nice does not mean one has to be a doormat. My husband, for example, does nice things for people all the time. He will see an old lady on the street carrying something heavy and offer to help her, but expects nothing in return. He helps our family and our friends all the time with all kinds of things. However, he is no pushover and does not tolerate being disrespected either. If you upset him, he is going to let you know. He isn't going to let anyone walk over him or take advantage. I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/24 05:50 PM
2	Women don’t want to be in a relationship or marriage I had that feeling for a while until I met my husband. Now I can't imagine life without him. Life is just exponentially better with him. I don't feel like I'm missing out or sacrificing anything at all. It probably sounds cliche but that's my experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/24 01:26 AM
0	The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own Fault So you are familiar with the expression?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/24 05:41 PM
-1	The Orgasm Gap Is Mainly About Biology and The Rest is Entirely Women's Own Fault The OP never said "dead". You did. You are the one that brought up dead animals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/24 05:36 PM
3	'Men going to fuck everything' is a hate speech. I am not the person you were commenting to earlier. I never denied women have sex with horses and dogs. You said the things the other person claimed were urban legends and myths and asked for sources. I provided sources.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 04:14 AM
2	'Men going to fuck everything' is a hate speech. https://www.worldhistory.org/article/89/herodotus-on-burial-in-egypt/ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incidents_of_necrophilia https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna957611	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 03:11 AM
2	Anal and blowjob only way man can be safe in abortion situations. How is any of that satisfying for the woman? You have said nothing about doing anything to satisfy women. You have only focused on satisfying men. Yes, some women enjoy anal, but the majority do not get off from it. Many women only do it because their man wants to. It comes with many risks for the woman. Also, most women don't enjoy giving random dudes blowjobs with nothing in return. Your solution is to pleasure men with no regard for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 02:51 AM
1	Anal and blowjob only way man can be safe in abortion situations. Are you going down on the woman in return?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 02:42 AM
2	Let's say women's standards are too high. Now what? Not really. Some men will still say she settled. I've seen it on here. They will say she still wishes she could have "Chad". She only married the "safe option" but is dreaming of chads and will probably cheat with a better looking man someday. Sometimes it's even worse if she has little to no sexual history because then they say she will worry about missing out on Chad and is more likely to cheat. I've seen those comments. There really is no winning with some men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 05:44 PM
7	Dating harder more now then ever I think a big problem with dating is that people are using apps and meeting online. I have never actually used any of them, so I am only going off what I hear from others and what I read, but it seems very superficial. You see a pic a decide if you want to meet them. In person you can see a lot more about someone, even just by observing them, than you can't really see online. You don't see someone's body language. You don't see how they carry themselves or their charisma. You don't necessarily g…	/r/ExRedPill	24/10/24 04:04 PM
2	Let's say women's standards are too high. Now what? So men are upset when women go for the hot guys (women only want the "top 20% chads"), and they are upset when they go for the not-hot guys (women are just "settling"). What would men prefer for women to do? No matter what age a woman marries the "unattractive" man, men here say she settled because he was the "safe option" and no one wants to be "safe".	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 03:47 PM
1	I ruined my life by being horrible to women. Where do I go from here? You said you got fired from your programming job, can you find a remote programming job with a company in a different town? Can you finish your college classes remotely so you can move to a different city and find work there? If you cannot finish college remotely, how hard would it be to transfer to a different college so you can move? Honestly the best thing to do is figure out a way to move to a different city and start fresh. You messed up in a huge way. You recognize it and want to correct y…	/r/ExRedPill	24/10/24 03:00 PM
4	Men are just as irrational/emotional as women. (If anything, they are arguably more so on average.) Yes, women are typically more sensitive to pain but they often have a higher threshold for pain, according to many recent studies. https://www.jpain.org/article/S1526-5900(23)00289-4/fulltext#%20 https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/01/190110141806.htm https://www.nccih.nih.gov/research/research-results/acute-pain-tolerance-is-more-consistent-over-time-in-women-than-men-according-to-new-research https://nypost.com/2019/01/11/women-have-a-higher-pain-threshold-than-men-study/ (this is an ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 01:38 PM
7	Men are just as irrational/emotional as women. (If anything, they are arguably more so on average.) It's not a weakness. Women have a higher pain tolerance than men. Several studies have shown that. Tolerating pain for several days a month does not make one weaker. Men and women have different strengths.One isn't better than the other. Obviously both are necessary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/24 02:52 AM
3	"Most Women Don't Love Most Men" is natural - Most HUMANS don't Love most Humans BTW, some studies show women least prefer blond men. https://www.yourtango.com/self/study-reveals-women-least-attracted-hair-color	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 10:15 PM
3	"Most Women Don't Love Most Men" is natural - Most HUMANS don't Love most Humans And? The phrase is still referring to appearance. Not personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 10:11 PM
3	"Most Women Don't Love Most Men" is natural - Most HUMANS don't Love most Humans Dark doesn't refer to their personality. Not originally. In india, for example, the phrase tall, light, and handsome is used. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 07:25 PM
5	"Most Women Don't Love Most Men" is natural - Most HUMANS don't Love most Humans Only certain women. I know many women that don't prefer white men or blond men. "Tall, Dark, and handsome" is a thing. I don't like blue eyed or blond haired haired men. I'm blond with blue eyes. It's seems so boring to find someone who looks like they could be my brother. My husband is Arab.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/24 05:16 PM
1	Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option? That's fair. I haven't had anyone explain why they don't like it. I don't really know anyone that has heard this in person or who has said this to someone so it's just something I see online. I do understand why that would be upsetting to men used in that context.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 04:46 PM
1	Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option? Are you sure it's not men that have paired "husband material" with being second place. A lot of women would mean it as a compliment if they called someone husband material. I would. I wouldn't call anyone husband material that I wouldn't date. I don't know any woman that would say it about a man they wouldn't date. Perhaps it's an OLD thing? I've never used apps or online dating so I can't speak to that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:47 AM
2	Do women on here understand why men don't like being seen as the "safe" option? Most of the women I know would take it as a high compliment to be told she is "mom material". It's almost like being told she is wife material.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 12:47 PM
2	The fact that the majority of blue pillers not only downplay but outright deny that women have become delusional in their standards or that there is a serious issue in dating is a huge red flag and tells you they are not interested in an honest debate I could have written this myself. I didn't settle for the men that proposed to me in my twenties because I knew I could do better, and I did. The wall doesn't really exist for most women. ETA: I will say I haven't done much therapy but I am all for for it if one feels they need it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/24 12:55 PM
0	Ladies, how would you feel/react to a situation like this? I would definitely want to split the bill. I surgeon of almost any kind would probably have very little time for dating or a future family though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 04:12 AM
4	What about class? Well, it depends how old the op is. 20, 30, 40 yrs ago the pay was much different. It also depends if her mom was an LPN, an RN, full time, part time, small town clinic, trauma center ER, ect. Her father may have worked for a very small town fire dept where they make much less. I grew up in a small town and currently in 2024 our firefighters make about $29,000 per year, even though it's a pretty high cost of living area. I also had friends who's mom's were nurses growing up and they were definit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/10/24 12:26 AM
1	Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental. So what is your solution?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 09:21 PM
2	Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental. What would be your solution to this? Would you be happy if a woman settled for you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/24 03:47 PM
1	Normal men don't care about women who are attracted to terrible people. The women attracted to drug dealers are usually drug users or addicts themselves. You don't often see doctors and church choir leaders rushing out to date drug dealers. Drug dealers have access to to a larger than average number of people which is how they meet women. The women usually attracted to or impregnated by drug dealers aren't exactly the pure type, high achievers, or the type that the men here are usually saying they would be attracted to. Often drug users are one of the things men her…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/24 03:41 PM
2	Normal men don't care about women who are attracted to terrible people. What does that have to do drug dealers? I am confused which you actually want (or men on general). If a woman settles for a man who doesn't meet their requirements, she is just settling and it's the end of the world. If she won't date anyone who doesn't meet her standards, it's the end of the world. What is your ideal solution? What are your ideas to make things better?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 12:53 PM
2	Normal men don't care about women who are attracted to terrible people. According to a lot of people on here, women are all dating the same man so there wouldn't need to be. Really though, the majority of women are not attracted to drug dealers. ETA: The women who are attracted to drug dealers are usually drug addicts themselves, not the "good girls" that the men here complaining would want to impregnate themselves anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 12:40 PM
5	Normal men don't care about women who are attracted to terrible people. The majority of women are not dating or impregnated by drug dealers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 03:31 AM
0	Liberal Society Makes It Extremely Hard To Date And Find Quality Relationship For Men and Women So what do you suggest as a solution? No one is discouraging dating. Divorce has gone up because religious views have changed, for one thing. There are other factors but that is a big one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 10:19 PM
1	Liberal Society Makes It Extremely Hard To Date And Find Quality Relationship For Men and Women I think the reason people got married young was because women didn't go to college as often so there was no need to wait until she was done with school. It was expected that after highschool, one got married. I think another factor was that premarital sex wasn't really acceptable at the time so if people wanted to have sex, or if they already had and there was a pregnancy (birth control wasn't as effective or available either), they basically had to get married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 10:06 PM
15	Rich, Handsome, and Faithful Hands down. No question, this is the option I would pick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 09:52 PM
–	Is it frustrating being physically weak compared to men? More men are overweight but more women are obese.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 11:49 AM
1	If you believe that humans are children until 25 years old, why are you ok with them doing s*x work at 18? Shouldn't this apply to both men and women though?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 05:25 PM
-2	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. There are women who don't have the means to travel to another state. It sounds simple but it isn't always. Birth control is not 100% effective so the only way to make certain one won't have a child out of wedlock is not to have sex at all. No one knows for sure which time will be the time that they will get pregnant. There are many women who have had abortions when they would've preferred not to, just because the father didn't want the child. There are many who didn't. You are correct that it is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 12:55 PM
-1	CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother. If a woman gets pregnant, in many states, she doesn't really have any options. So are you saying sex before marriage is a bad decision? That decision is (hopefully) equally made by the man. Why is the woman only at fault for out-of-wedlock pregnancy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 04:33 AM
–	Women: What do you bring to the table? Oh don't feel bad about it. It's a non-issue. He is far-and-away the most respectful, kind, and attentive man I've ever known. He is cleaner and helps way more around the house than any Western man I ever dated and he is an excellent cook. He makes sure to help all of our friends and family with anything and everything he can. He, nor, his family, has ever tried to make me dress differently, cover my hair, or convert. I told him when we married that I would not be and he knows how I feel about i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/24 01:11 PM
6	Followed RPW advice a lot, but no dating success :( 21F This is probably a big part of the problem. Most men don't make over $200k. Most men are not going to be taller than you because you are a tall woman. Your standards are for the top 1% of males. However, it's not impossible. My husband is in the top 1% but I didn't meet him quickly. I did meet him in person, I've never used apps or OLD. You have to decide if you want to hold out for the rare find, or be open to more options by accepting men making less and/or shorter men. You will have more opti…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/09/24 05:32 PM
1	The reason men are so obsessed with virginity and sexual performance is because most women are Single moms aren't necessarily whores. Some of them are, yes, but many of them just chose to have children with the wrong man, usually believing he was in love with her and would stay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 04:49 PM
1	Women: What do you bring to the table? 5 years. We don't have, or want, any kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 02:49 PM
3	Women: What do you bring to the table? Lol. Thank you! Honestly, I think my husband might bring even more, but that's a different topic. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like a king. I can't imagine what I would do without him. We do have a very good relationship and I'm thankful everyday for it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/24 09:10 PM
15	Women: What do you bring to the table? I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier, better, and happier. Whatever he needs from me at the given moment, I'll do for him. I am a former gymnast and I've stayed in pretty good shape. I've maintained my flexibility. I'm often told that I'm very attractive. I am usually guessed to be 15ish years younger than I really am because I've taken good care of my skin and body and I have good genetics (my family members are all the same). I don't smoke, drink, use drugs, and I protect my sk…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/24 09:00 PM
6	There is a difference between showing weakness and wallowing in self-pity all the time. That's awful. I'm so sorry that you had to suffer such a horrible loss, and then had to endure the torment from what sounds like a pretty terrible person. No one deserves that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/24 03:00 PM
2	Men are worse off than women in all developed countries. This is so controversial that UN falsifies the Gender Development Index to hide this fact Usually because women do the shopping for groceries along with clothes for the family, home supplies, school supplies, gifts, and pretty much everything else instead of the man. It's not uncommon that if a man needs something, he often asks his wife to pick it up for him. They are also usually the ones in charge of paying bills for the household and organizing finances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 11:04 PM
–	Why did so many Modern women decide they don't want kids? So a question for you is, why do you think a woman should want to have children? What do you see as the benefit to her?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 10:48 PM
–	Why did so many Modern women decide they don't want kids? Why would a woman who doesn't want kids marry a man who does? That is something that should be figured out before marriage. If he changes his mind, it's probably a good idea to end the marriage so that each person can find someone they are compatible with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 10:36 PM
–	Why did so many Modern women decide they don't want kids? Same for me. Personally, it's just not something I'm interested in doing. I don't want to ruin my body. There is a history of complications during pregnancy/birth in my family and I don't want to take that risk. I don't want to spend the money it would cost to have a child. We travel a lot and that would be very difficult or impossible with children. Also, I hate the sound of babies and children crying. I myself was born 2 months early and had to spend 2 months in an incubator in the NICU. There…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 10:32 PM
17	Positivity Time! Say something nice about the opposite sex, or say something you feel bad the opposite sex has to deal with! I feel bad that men often can't really interact with kids who aren't their own without someone giving them the side eye like they are a pedo. I also feel bad that men are feeling so confused as to how to approach women now. Many are worried to approach a woman in fear of being seen as creepy. Holding the door or helping a woman could also backfire. Many times it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 11:40 PM
4	Widespread internet usage killed romance, not feminism or the economy There are definitely a lot of dumb people. The go-to answer for basically any question about why someone did something or how a situation happened is that people are stupid. "People are stupid, individuals are intelligent."	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 01:04 AM
1	CMV: males often use the ol "I'm not a mind reader" to excuse their laziness Not all love is irrational. Some people are mature enough to actually communicate their needs instead of playing games. Talking to each other can keep both people on the same page, which is a huge step towards a successful relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 03:55 AM
9	Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue? Same. I was even engaged to an abuser. The ironic thing is, he was shorter than me and not conventionally attractive. (I say ironic because people here think "chads" are the assholes and short guys are nice). I thought he was super attractive, but most of my friends did not agree, which didn't bother me at all. We had a great connection at first but eventually he became emotionally and physically abusive and was a compulsive liar and manipulator. I left him before the wedding. I met my husband a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 02:02 AM
–	Women complaining from not getting approached anymore I agree. My husband cold approached me but we had first made eye contact from across the room. I have never used apps or OLD but he had been on the apps before we met. I still get approached by men fairly often. Not as often as when I was in my teens, especially from older men, but I think that's pretty much the norm. Some men on this sub also like to lump all women together to say this shift is what "we" wanted, assuming every woman is a hardcore feminist that hates men. The type that think hol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 05:59 PM
1	You're on a date & everything is going well, then they tell you they were falsely accused in the past... That is understandable, but the problem with doing this is that eventually the woman will find out there is no chance at a real relationship. It will be exponentially worse (especially if another woman is involved) than if you had dealt with it earlier on. Like cooking your pet bunny or stalking your new girl level of crazy. Or potentially worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 04:34 PM
0	Q4W: Do you find your male partner attractive? I'm incredibly attracted to my husband. I have been since they day I met him. He is very conventionally attractive and most women say he is very handsome. My previous relationship though was with a man who was not as conventionally attractive. Some women thought he was very attractive and others didn't. He was shorter than me but I didn't mind at all. I found him to be very attractive as well. The more I got to know him, the more attractive he became to me. I dated a couple guys who I didn't nec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/24 05:13 AM
6	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman https://www.drvetranolaw.com/blog/2024/june/the-rise-of-married-single-moms-understanding-th/#:~:text=What%20is%20a%20Married%20Single,manage%20everything%20on%20her%20own. https://nypost.com/2024/01/24/lifestyle/married-single-moms-worrying-new-marriage-trend-emerges/ I forgot to add these to my last comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 05:53 PM
6	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman Now days, most women work. That means the mother and father are both supporting the kids financially. It's not all on the men's shoulders. So you don't think a man should work and be asked to help around the house, but you think a woman should work full time, do all the house work, and raise the children? In the "married single mother" scenarios the woman is doing all the cooking, all the cleaning, the laundry, the child care. She is the one up in the middle of the night with the kids. She is dr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 05:49 PM
8	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman That's not true. https://www.runnersworld.com/health-injuries/a20793992/bmis-of-champions-womens-edition/ I, as a former gymnast, have a much higher BMI than what I look like. When I was still a gymnast, my team lived going to those "guess your weight" things at the carnival because they could never guess. We were wearing size 0 or 2 but weighing 135 - 140 lbs. My job now is very physical and I stay in shape. Most of my coworkers are women. We have to lift and move 300 lbs people. (I harvest hum…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 05:41 PM
8	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman Many women prefer to be a single mother than to be on a relationship with a man that doesn't pull his weight. If the woman is having to do more work to care for the husband, it's like having an extra kid. There are many "married single mothers" because the man doesn't help at all. The ones that do leave usually say it's easier. More women going to college does not prevent men from going to college. There is room for both. Women also have to provide for themselves and sometimes their children whi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 05:27 PM
8	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman Yes, women can take care of themselves and age well but they cannot "stay younger". Women are not the only ones overweight. In fact, more men are overweight than women. 34.1% of men are overweight compared to 27.5% of women. 43% of men are obese compared to 41% of women. However, severe obesity is more common among women, with 11.5% affected versus 6.9% of men. https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity ETA: you should tell all the short men on this sub you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 05:14 PM
7	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman Most women do reciprocate, and the ones complaining that men aren't helping enough are often women working full time and raising kids. The men think they just need to provide a paycheck. That's not enough unless they just want to be used for money. Yes, there are women who are lazy and use men. There are also men who are lazy and use women. The reasons may be different but the result is the same. This is not the majority of either gender though. I know a lot of people in happy relationships and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 04:58 PM
8	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman So then we should tell men to work more on being taller. Using your logic that would be the solution for many men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 04:51 PM
4	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman My husband is 9 years younger than me. He was 26 when we met and I was 35. In my circle, of those in happy relationships, most of them are younger men with significantly older women. Of course they are women who look younger than they are, my husband thought I was younger than him when we met, but they still make the decision to get married to these women. My husband's theory (he used dating apps, I never did, we met in person) is that the younger woman on the apps have a totally different outlo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 02:02 PM
16	Women should not complain about being left for younger woman The same reason men value women based on house chores. This post is basically the OP saying that women don't do enough around the house to make their husbands stay with them instead of leaving them for younger women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 01:47 PM
–	The case of Gisèle Pelicot has me wondering, what percentage of guys would rape if they thought they could totally get away with it? There are 3 confirmed cases of women escaping from him. The first two told people but no one believed them, including law enforcement. The judge threw out the tape of him detailing his own crimes. The survivors have said he played a tape for them detailing what he was going to do and if you read the transcript it's the most horrific thing. He even had his dog rape them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 12:54 PM
–	The case of Gisèle Pelicot has me wondering, what percentage of guys would rape if they thought they could totally get away with it? 3 women escaped from him. The first one was found on the side of the road by an off duty law enforcement officer but he didn't believe her story so he dropped her off at a bus stop. She also called police but they never investigated. Another one told her husband what happened but he didn't believe her and sued for divorce, thinking she had been out partying and cheating on him. She was only gone a few days, as she was an acquaintance of the rapist and his family. The one that made it to a neighb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/24 12:42 PM
13	The case of Gisèle Pelicot has me wondering, what percentage of guys would rape if they thought they could totally get away with it? Most of the men were recruited by her husband from a chatroom dedicated to nonconsensual sex called “Against her knowledge". It seems highly unlikely they thought it was consensual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/24 06:23 AM
2	q4w: In your opinion, without deflecting, is there anything a woman could do to lower her overall value in the dating market? I think you are looking in the wrong circles. I know many cf men who are highly educated, well employed, respectful, good looking, etc. To be fair, I live in a large city and our circle consists mostly of people we met in grad school or at work. My husband is a petroleum engineer and I am a biotechnologist. Most of our friends are highly career driven and do not want kids. For me, I definitely know more men that do not want children than those who do. I know that isn't the norm but it's not supe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 04:45 AM
3	q4w: In your opinion, without deflecting, is there anything a woman could do to lower her overall value in the dating market? Your sources say the same as mine so there is no need to argue. Although, your second source only has info about women which is irrelevant to the number of men wanting children. According to your first source 19% of men don't want children. "Another 19% have not had children nor want to have children". Again, 2 out of 10 is fairly common. Often times (especially for research purposes) anything over 10% is considered very common. For example https://i-base.info/qa/812 I'm not sure what age gap re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 04:13 AM
6	q4w: In your opinion, without deflecting, is there anything a woman could do to lower her overall value in the dating market? A lot of men don't want kids, and that number of them who don't is increasing steadily. There are plenty of men who wouldn't care if a woman did not want to have children. https://nypost.com/2022/10/17/why-childless-men-are-saying-no-to-fatherhood/ I think you are correct with most of the other things you listed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 02:46 AM
3	q4w: In your opinion, without deflecting, is there anything a woman could do to lower her overall value in the dating market? I don't think the wanting to have kids thing is as universal as you think it is. I know many men that never want kids, my husband included. Most of our friends don't have them or want them either. Most of our friends are highly educated and career driven though, so it could be a demographic thing, but the number of men wanting children has been on the decline in recent years. Between 2012 and 2018, the percentage of childless men ages 15 to 49 responding that they did not want children doubled f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/24 02:43 AM
1	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men The weight thing is definitely an issue, but I was speaking more about the skincare. Women now tend to have fewer wrinkles as early. Their face looks younger. If you look back at movies or TV from the 70s and 80s and see the ages and compared them to people today, 30 looked older than it does now. There are also studies that show that people who are educated age more slowly. There are a lot more women getting higher education. So if the study is correct, that could explain some of it. It's proba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 11:53 PM
1	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men Yes, I know it is not common or the norm, but I personally know several women like me. The women I referred to here also look much younger. It can't be as rare as people here seem to think. One survey found that 81% of women are open to dating someone 10 years younger than they are, and nearly 90% of men are interested in dating someone 10 years older. https://www.today.com/today/amp/tdna231858 12% of marriages in the US are between older women and younger men, although not all of those have as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 10:33 PM
9	Both men and women entertain people they have no intention of marrying while ignoring the ones they would. Then she wasn't wife material.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/09/24 12:37 AM
0	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men I am not saying it's common necessarily but I think it happens a lot more than people on this sub think. There are definitely men that will stray but that happens to younger women too. The big thing is whether they want kids. None of the couples I mentioned want kids. It all comes down to what one wants out of a relationship. The men I know in these relationships are good men, not the type to cheat. They are old enough now to know what they want from a relationship, and they know what they have.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 08:45 PM
3	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men I know many men married to older women, with significant age gaps. Many guys do see them as marriage material, even if it's not the norm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 06:09 PM
3	Being a woman in your late thirties or forties is not the handicap it used to be. I’ve noticed they’re dating more and more young attractive men I have witnessed the opposite. Of the women I know who dated younger men, they have all turned into marriage. My husband is 9 years younger and several of our friends have similar age gaps with the woman being older. This is my first marriage and I have no kids, and we never want kids. We met when I was 35 and he was 26. I was engaged to a sociopath before we met and I'm so happy I didn't settle for that because I knew I could do better. And I did. My husband's best friend married a woman 10 yea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 06:08 PM
1	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Not if they don't want their wife or girlfriend to find out. There are many guys who try to hide it, and lie even when caught.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 10:46 PM
0	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires The same can be said for men. There are different studies that claim men cheat more often so it just depends which study you read. In reality it is probably close to the same percentage of each gender that are unfaithful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/24 10:26 PM
3	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Yes it does. What is your point? Are you trying to say that just because other things kill people, murder doesn't count? Lots of things kill people. This particular conversation is about honor killings and sexual violence. If you want to talk about lightning, there is probably a forum for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 09:18 PM
4	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires It depends what part of the world one lives in. Take India, for example.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 07:26 PM
7	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Honor killings are real and do happen, even in the US.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 07:20 PM
12	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Yes, among other places. One of my best friends grew up in a very Catholic country, then her whole family immigrated to the US when she was in highschool. She got married at 17 to a man who turned out to be abusive. Her family pressured her to stay with him so she wouldn't be "divorced". Infact, they kicked her out of the family home and let the abusive, cheating husband continue living with her parents after she separated from him. She can't possibly be the only one this has happened to. It's m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 07:17 PM
22	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires Except in reality many of those cultures are actually saying women have to cover themselves because men cannot control themselves if the see a woman. It's very hypocritical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 06:39 PM
25	Men are shamed for basically having sexual desires What's interesting though is that in those cultures, they blame the women for not covering themselves properly because men cannot control their urges if the see any skin. So in essence they are really saying men have no control over their actions and have no accountability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/24 06:36 PM
6	Women don't want to be breadwinners, or do domestic labor. At least there we get something in return for our tax money. We don't feel like we are just paying to start wars.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/24 12:14 AM
9	Women don't want to be breadwinners, or do domestic labor. I'm not that attached to my country (the US). My country does very little for me while still taking 30% of our income. Healthcare and education are ridiculously expensive. I'm not even asking for free HC or education but at least make it more affordable. My husband is not from the US and does not want to become a citizen. He is a Petroleum Engineer and works for a company based in the EU so we live abroad part time and are both in the process of getting citizenship in the country his company is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 11:52 PM
10	Women don't want to be breadwinners, or do domestic labor. They are contributing to society by working and paying taxes into social security and Medicare (if in the US or other social safety programs if outside the US). There are 8 billion people on the planet and many cities are overcrowded. Resources are finite. Reducing the burden on resources is actually helpful to society. There are other ways to make up the money for social security/social safety net programs. In the US for example, military and DOD spending is out of control and could be reduced …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 11:35 PM
7	Women don't want to be breadwinners, or do domestic labor. Perhaps they shouldn't share "equally" in domestic duties but they should definitely pitch in. Taking care of young kids is a 24/7 job. No weekends or holidays off unless you leave them with someone else. It's not exactly fair that a man can clock out and go have a drink or play video games while the woman never gets a break.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 11:25 PM
1	Is going soft momentarily that big of a deal? If it is with a long-term relationship it wouldn't be a big deal but if it is just a hook-up, they probably just don't want to deal with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 07:07 PM
2	How often do women prioritize chemistry over money and status? Most of the women I know don't care that much about money. They make their own. Two of my best friends are the breadwinner in their marriages. My dad wanted to buy my mom a Cadillac and she refused because it was "too fancy". She ended up choosing a Kia instead. Yes there are women who care a lot about money and I would say it seems to me like the younger generations care more, possibly because of social media, but there are plenty of women who are happy just to have a good man and have practica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 04:54 AM
3	How often do women prioritize chemistry over money and status? No. Especially if he was enlisted. The only time there would be any prestige in the military is if the person is extremely high ranking and active duty. I grew up in a rural area with many poor people and many of the poorest kids (men and women) joined the military to be able to afford college. It wasn't seen as prestigious, it was almost the opposite. It was a means to an end.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 04:46 AM
4	The false idea that your spouse has to be your "best friend" makes many people prioritize finding an "interesting" spouse over other potentially good qualities and this likely leads to many broken marriages My husband and I don't ever want kids. We are married because we want to be. Sure, we could just be in a relationship without marriage, but so could people with children. Marriage shouldn't be about kids, why put that kind of pressure on the children? Obviously, marriage means different things to different people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/24 02:31 PM
11	The false idea that your spouse has to be your "best friend" makes many people prioritize finding an "interesting" spouse over other potentially good qualities and this likely leads to many broken marriages I know a few people who don't like traveling. They have never been out of the country and have barely been out of their state. One is scared to fly. People like this would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone who loves to travel internationally and wants to explore new places. It's best if they find other homebodies. Interesting is subjective. What I find interesting won't necessarily be what someone else finds interesting. If I didn't find my husband interesting, what would we …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/24 02:20 PM
2	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. One way to reduce the amount of welfare given to women is for more men to step up to pay their child so that the rest of us don't have to. Most states consider child support as income so it's counted against what assistance, if any, the family can receive. As of January 2021, total child support arrears certified by states and submitted to OCSE totaled $113.5 billion. Billion. Arrears occur when scheduled child support payments are missed, meaning child support is owed. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 03:33 PM
–	In your opinion how do we bring the sexes back together? Yeah, honestly we just don't want the responsibility or the cost of children. We travel a lot which we couldn't do easily with children. He is from Egypt, and it's a long journey from where we live. Multiple flights. 24+ hours total. I can't imagine doing that trip with kids. My husband has 16 siblings so there are plenty of nieces and nephews, plus I have a few nephews and nieces so there is no shortage of children or family. Many of the older ones come to talk to me when they have problems the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 07:24 PM
–	In your opinion how do we bring the sexes back together? Birth rates are plummeting because many people are deciding not to have kids or to only have 1 child. Most of my friends are married but only a couple of them have kids. My husband and I don't have or want kids. In the recent years the marriage rates are going back up and the divorce rates are down. https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/17/health/marriage-divorce-rates-wellness/index.html https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/articles/the-states-with-the-highest-marriage-rates#:~:text=Overall%2C%20the%2…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 03:50 PM
6	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. So that means they are around for a shorter amount of time and still receive almost the same amount of benefits as women do in a longer time frame.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 02:31 AM
3	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. If men want to complain about the women that get welfare to care for children, maybe they should complain about the men who aren't paying child support because most states count child support as income so it affects the amount of benefits they can receive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 02:29 AM
3	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. That's not how percentages work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 02:22 AM
27	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. Men receive 49.2% of the total social safety net benefits compared to 50.8% of women in the US, so the idea that significantly more women get help than men is not correct, according to the US census bureau. https://www.census.gov/library/visualizations/interactive/social-safety-net-benefits.html	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 04:40 PM
1	Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant? In 2021, the proportion of foreign-born workers in STEM occupations (26%) was greater than the proportion of U.S.-born workers (24%), with more naturalized citizens in S&E-related occupations (11%) than noncitizens (5%) or U.S.-born citizens (9%). https://www.nsf.gov/nsb/news/news_summ.jsp?cntn_id=309769&org=NSB&from=news#:~:text=In%202021%2C%20the%20proportion%20of,%2Dborn%20citizens%20(9%25). The percentage has been increasing every year and the trend will probably continue. ETA: basically eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 03:21 AM
1	Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant? Foreign-born workers accounted for 43% of scientists and engineers with doctorate degrees in 2021. In 2019 and 2020, 49% of all STEM master's degrees and 57% of all STEM doctorate degrees were conferred to international students. There may be men leaving but we have more coming in to replace them.. There are a lot of intelligent men from other countries moving to the US. My husband is from Egypt and came here as a Fulbright scholar to get his PhD in Petroleum Engineering. He graduated from a lar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 12:09 AM
1	Do you think men leaving the west for better dating prospect will create a significant brain drain and negative economic consequences in the west? Or will it remain insignificant? Foreign-born workers accounted for 43% of scientists and engineers with doctorate degrees in 2021. In 2019 and 2020, 49% of all STEM master's degrees and 57% of all STEM doctorate degrees were conferred to international students. There may be men leaving but we have more coming in to replace them.. There are a lot of intelligent men from other countries moving to the US. My husband is from Egypt and came here as a Fulbright scholar to get his PhD in Petroleum Engineering. He graduated from a lar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 12:05 AM
9	CMV: The requirement that your spouse be your best friend is gendered My husband and I consider each other our best friend but that doesn't mean we don't have other friends or are joined at the hip. We spend a lot of time with our friends both together and separate. He goes on "guys trips" with his boys and I go on "girls trips" with my ladies. We each have our own projects and hobbies we do alone as well. We both like to have our own time and understand that about each other. We trust each other completely, more than anyone else. We talk to each other about every…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 02:29 AM
–	CMV: women aren't empathetic caring individuals But you didn't like the advice that was given. He literally only has a few options. He either has to lie about his experience and pretend he has some, he could find someone who doesn't care about his lack of experience, or he can pay for experience. There is no way he can magically get experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 01:21 AM
0	For the men who have tried the common dating advice of joing hobby groups, expanding your social circle, taking a class, join a co-ed sports league, join a book club, etc... how long did it take until it actually bore fruit? It is different for every person. It largely depends on you, as well as the other people in the class. You may click with someone the first time you go or you might never meet anyone there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 12:07 AM
–	CMV: women aren't empathetic caring individuals What do you expect women to say though? There is no magic answer that would help him that women are keeping secret. There isn't much a stranger online can do to help in that situation. I think people are much less empathetic online to strangers than they would be in person. They are definitely more blunt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 12:03 AM
1	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating Many people here are saying women in their 30s have to settle. Many times it's the opposite. That's my point. The wall doesn't really exist for many women and a lot of men like older women. The men don't have to settle either. They also have lots of options. My husband gets hit on constantly. Random strangers like waitresses tell me how handsome he is. My friend's husband is a professional musician that has groupies. My cousin dated a lot of women before he met his wife. He had no trouble at all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 08:45 PM
2	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating I do not really think I'm an exception. Most of my friends also got married on their 30s or older to men they actually want, not ones they settled for. I have several friends and family members who are in relationships where the woman is significantly older than the man. My cousin's wife is 13 years older and they met when she was in her late 40s. One of my best friends is in her 50s and engaged to a man in his early 30s. My best friend got married at the same age I did. My husband's best friend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 08:00 PM
1	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating It was opposite for me. I didn't marry the men who proposed to me in my 20s because I didn't want to settle and knew I could do better. In my mid 30s I found my handsome, rich, tall intelligent, caring, respectful, attentive husband. He is younger than me. He was in his 20s when we met. I am so happy I didn't settle. My wants didn't change really, it just took a while to find what I was looking for. I suppose if I would have had kids or gained weight it may have been harder iny 30s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:42 PM
1	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:14 PM
1	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating It does. Lol. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:14 PM
2	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating "Dark" in "tall, dark, and handsome" actually applies to their appearance not their personality. Dark hair, dark eyes, tanned or dark skin. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:13 PM
5	There's a huge difference between what younger women want and what older women want which I believe causes a lot of confusion between what works best for dating I'm a woman who got married on her 30s. You have it backwards. I didn't settle for the men who proposed to me in my twenties. I knew I could do better, and I did. My husband would be considered "top 10%" according to red pill although I don't like that phrasing. However, he is a very handsome, tall man who is also a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD, and a Fulbright scholar. He is also the most respectful, caring and attentive man I've ever met. If I had settled in my twenties I would be with an alc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:06 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Well, I agree I could have phrased it better but I was trying to describe it without medical terminology which is difficult for me. The glans of clitoris is just proximal to the opening of the the urethra where the labia majora meet. This is often what many people refer to when they say "clit." It's also because many people on here actually don't know women's anatomy at all. They think women urinate out of their vaginas, the refer to the entire vulva as the vagina, etc. It's easy to assume someo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/24 12:35 AM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? Why don't you? My job is to dissect deceased people. I literally cut up bones for a living. I obviously have an interest in skeletons and anything anatomical. The lovers are amazing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 09:20 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? I'm a biotechnologist that specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have dissected the pelvis of women. I know where the nerve bundles are. There is debate about what the g spot is or of it even exists, but it's accepted that it is nerve stimulation there. While that area is an extension of the nerves that reach the clitoris, it's actually the pudendal nerve that would be stimulated by anal sex. The pudendal nerves branch into the clitoral nerves. The dorsal nerve of clitoris is one of t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 09:11 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? I'm a married woman who works with human anatomy for a living. I'm a biotechnologist that specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have dissected the pelvis of women. I know where the nerve bundles are. They are not next to the anus. The vagina is actually between the two so there is no direct stimulation. Maybe you should check out this link and refresh your knowledge of women's anatomy. There is debate about what the g spot is or of it even exists but it's accepted that there is nerve …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 08:54 PM
–	Why do so many straight men seem to want anal sex with their women? Will you be in an LTR with a woman if she says she abhors the idea? I think you mean g spot, not the clit. The g spot is internal and can be reached from both sides. The clitoris is external above the vaginal opening, and while there are internal nerves there, they cannot be accessed from anal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/24 07:38 PM
3	Women grossly exaggerate the prevalence of drink spiking Some studies show that GHB has a lower detection time than previously thought. It varies widely from person to person depending on the individual metabolism. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2257868/	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 11:51 PM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships I don't have any friends that enjoy behaving that way so that is probably why I don't know any that like using the apps. My friends are almost all married or in monogamous LTR. Of course there are women that use the apps in the ways in which you are talking about. That is not they way all women behave though. It all depends on what one is looking for from the app, which is why some women love them and some women hate them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:12 AM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships I know several women who tried apps but hated them because of the creeps that they inevitably run into. I don't know a single person who has met their partner on an app. I also don't know a single woman who likes dating apps. They really do not enjoy them. I have never used an app. I met my husband at a local music venue. We had the same social circle before we actually met which is how we ended up at the same place. Every woman I know who is married or in a LTR has met their partner in person, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 12:12 AM
1	Do we have gender flipped passport bros Yes, when I said "basically" I should have actually said something like "pretty much" or "almost no other". I knew there were a couple of others but it is uncommon. I'm not surprised about Israel but considering they are my husband's mortal enemy (he had to serve in the Egyptian military because conscription) I am guessing we will never have to worry about it, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 04:16 PM
8	Do we have gender flipped passport bros My husband is from Egypt, but I didn't go there and bring him back and I didn't seek out a man from another country. We just happened to meet because he was in the US on a Fulbright scholarship for his PhD in the city where I lived at the time. We were both at a music show at a local venue, he noticed me noticing him, he came over and introduced himself, we began talking and we realized we have several friends in common (which is how we both ended up at the same show, we both had friends in the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 11:58 PM
3	Cold Approaching will always be one of the most ineffective ways to meet women and most men shouldn't bother. That is really the same thing as some of the dating apps though, no? You only have a picture to decide if you swipe left or right. It might seem less scary than doing it in person but it terms of deciding to talk to them or not, you can tell more in person than from a photo, imo. You can see how they carry themselves, who they are keeping company with, their mannerisms, ect. It is slightly more context than a photo. If you do approach and realize there is no chance or nothing on common, it's not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/24 06:18 PM
–	Doesn't Elon, Nick Cannon etc. prove that TRP is partially right about hypergamy and about how women are willing to share certain men? So you would prefer if your mother had just left you as an infant to die alone and neglected? Its not important that she raised you? That she gave birth to you? She probably even provided food from her own body for you. Women quite literally produce food from their own breasts for their babies. Providing people and raising them is incredibly important, as without people there would quite literally be no society. No jobs to have. No one to provide for. Nothing. Claiming one gender is more importa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/24 07:24 PM
0	Doesn't Elon, Nick Cannon etc. prove that TRP is partially right about hypergamy and about how women are willing to share certain men? You can look at any post here to see that men are usually trying to say that women are more shallow, less intelligent, less talented ect. You just implied that yourself. Most men would say that women are better looking than women, you might be in the minority saying men are better looking. If men are better at child care, housekeeping, nursing, etc, why have those roles traditionally fallen to women? There are things men are better at and things that women are better at. Both good and bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 09:35 AM
6	Doesn't Elon, Nick Cannon etc. prove that TRP is partially right about hypergamy and about how women are willing to share certain men? More ignorant? More dishonest? More lazy? More weak? Men here often spend a lot of time arguing the exact opposite but that must just be because they are more wrong?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/24 07:54 AM
1	Q4M: How often do you do the following chores? Flossing? I don't use the mirror to floss or brush my teeth but there happens to be one above the sink where I brush my teeth and floss. Stuff get on the mirror unfortunately.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/24 06:10 PM
2	As a woman (and who will qualify as a liberal no less), I feel there are way too many posts here trying to guilt trip cuckolded men to bring up kids that are not theirs. I say I have to disagree with Blue Pill on this one. Shouldn't they pay for birth control as well then?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/24 02:54 AM
3	As a woman (and who will qualify as a liberal no less), I feel there are way too many posts here trying to guilt trip cuckolded men to bring up kids that are not theirs. I say I have to disagree with Blue Pill on this one. Are you wanting the state to pay the cost of the tests too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 10:12 PM
1	Genuine attraction does not exist Exactly, because he was attracted to her and not random people. Are you saying people aren't genuinely attracted to everyone on earth? That is obviously true, people are attracted to specific other people for various as you said yourself. I'm not even sure what point you are trying to make.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/24 06:20 PM
1	Should I stay or leave him? My best friend and her husband have this exact dynamic. They have done some couples counseling but they have figured out how to manage it. If you really love each other and you can communicate like adults, you can work through it if you want to. It all depends how much energy you want to devote and how committed you are. It will take some work but it would be worth it if you do truly love each other. You can learn to complement each other instead of clash.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/24 10:16 PM
18	How is life like for women who are post wall? Do men treat you different? I'm 40 and got asked out twice in one day a couple weeks ago by younger men. I still get hit on quite often. And I'm married to a younger man. I found my husband "post wall" and he is 9 years younger than me. We didn't know the age difference at first, he thought I was 23-24 based off my looks but I was 35. We were dating 2 months before we discovered the age difference. We just laughed and moved on. I had been engaged twice before to men that ended up being pretty awful. One became an alcoholic…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/24 07:07 PM
12	Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With? Me too! I'm so thankful for my husband.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 08:59 PM
7	Question For Women, Which Of These Men Would You Rather Get Into A Relationship With? I'm not trying to save humanity. It has run it's course. In this scenario, no one would be here to miss humans anyway so what does it matter?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 08:56 PM
0	There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STD Where did I say providing sex work is ok? I personally wouldn't do it. I don't see it as "empowering" or encourage as some do. I am not going to tell someone else what to do with their body though, so if that's what they want to do, so be it. There are many people who are forced into sex work and I obviously have a lot of sympathy for those people. I hold female johns to the same standards as male johns.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 03:28 PM
6	There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STD Exactly. So if men didn't provide the demand there wouldn't be a need for the supply. Sex workers typically don't dream about being sex workers. They do so because they see the opportunity presented and have limited other options.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 02:47 PM
2	There’s a reason why regular women do not want to date a man who has used the service of a lot of escorts, and no, it’s not just the possibility of STD About 20% of sex workers are Male. You do realize that males pay other males too, right? https://iusw.org/sex-worker-statistics/ https://www.vice.com/en/article/evm5vw/nearly-one-in-five-sex-workers-are-men That 20% is world wide. Some countries have more and some estimates are higher.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 02:33 PM
1	Do Childfree HVM exist? Perhaps it depends on the type of engineer? My husband is a Petroleum Engineer as are many of our friends since he met them in college. A few of our friends are chemical engineers. The computer science friend we have isn't socially awkward but he is Arab. I would say the most socially awkward of our friends is a theoretical physicist he is working on his PhD right now. I'm a biotechnologist and met my best friend at work, she is a biochemist. I know many of my friends don't want children because…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 06:07 PM
1	Do Childfree HVM exist? We enjoy our lifestyle as it is. We travel a lot. We have a very active social life. A child would limit that greatly. We don't want to spend the money. It's very expensive, especially in the US. Healthcare alone is crazy expensive, then education is alone thing. Basically we feel far too selfish and irresponsible to have children, lol. We want to spend our money on ourselves and have our time to ourselves. He has 17 siblings and almost all have children. One of my sisters has 3 kids. We have mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 05:56 PM
1	Do Childfree HVM exist? Higher education is more often pursued in the Arab culture than in the US. It's expected that they become engineers or doctors in their culture, so it's not just the "autistic" types to use your words, as it is in the US. Having higher education does not automatically mean you are socially awkward. In many cases it is the opposite. My husband is the life of the party type. Very charismatic. Everyone calls him "charming". Most of our friends are married or in long term relationships. We have a bi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 05:38 PM
2	Do Childfree HVM exist? No. We don't want kids at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 02:27 PM
1	Do Childfree HVM exist? My husband can have any woman he wants. He is an incredibly handsome petroleum engineer with a PhD so money will never be an issue. Literally 6'6,6. Lol. He gets hit on constantly. He chose me. We we dating 2 months before we ever realized the age difference. Our ages never came up. He assumed I was younger than him because I look much younger than I am. We laughed when we found out and moved on. It's never been an issue. I am a former gymnast. I've stayed in shape. I get told I'm beautiful and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 06:16 AM
2	Do Childfree HVM exist? Of course I've been to Egypt. We are married. His entire family lives there. We have lived there for a while. He is a Petroleum Engineer and the Suez has a lot of oil. I never said all Egyptians are handsome. I said the Egyptian friends my husband has are. I said people asked me if they are all like this. Of course they know they aren't. They are making a joke about how my husband and his group of friends are all good looking. There isn't a single country where every person is good looking. We a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 04:23 AM
3	Do Childfree HVM exist? People won't lie if you don't ask. I never ask what they think of him. Or his friends. It's spontaneous comments. I was standing in line for coffee and the women behind commented to her friend how "hot' he is and how sexy his voice is, and that she could listen to him talk all day. We had dinner a couple week ago and he left to go to the bathroom and the waitress was like "daaaammmn, he is fine." Our wedding coordinator met him and said "GURL!!!! He is Haaandsome!!" My sister made some comments …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 01:52 AM
7	What’s the point of telling women they’re expired? Tom Cruise doesn't look nearly as good as his 22 year old self. No one in their 50s or 60s looks as good as they did in their 20s. Male or female. It's a fact of life. Aging is an inevitable part of life. Most reasonable people accept this fact and aren't too bothered by it. Other people spend tons of money on plastic surgery and often end up looking worse than if they had just aged naturally. Plastic surgery often looks terrible after a few years, it just looks so... unnatural. The post is abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 01:05 AM
11	What’s the point of telling women they’re expired? Men's faces also age. The average man is not Tom cruise or Henry Cavil. Some hair transplants may look okay, but there are many that look terrible. They don't look natural and you can see the individual plugs. Rogain doesn't work for everyone. My husband is almost 10 years younger than I am. We met when I was 35. My cousin's wife is 13 years older than he is. They men when she was in he early 50s. One of my husband's best friend's wife is 10 years older than he is. They met when she was 35. One …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/24 12:36 AM
–	Women in their 20s usually like guys our/their own age The funny thing is that we had no idea we had such an age difference until we had been dating for a couple months. Lol. It just never came up. He thought I was 23-24 and I thought he was 32-33. He was actually 26 and I was 35. Once we did find out we just laughed and moved on. It's never been an issue at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 11:54 PM
9	Do Childfree HVM exist? I've noticed the opposite. In my circle almost none of our friends have children. Almost all of our friends have PhDs in the sciences or engineering, or are MDs, and are high earners. I get told how good looking my husband is, and also his friends, quite often from random strangers, acquaintances, and my friends and even my family.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 09:44 PM
–	Women in their 20s usually like guys our/their own age Kind of like all these men telling women that men will never seriously date older women when I'm literally married to a man almost 10 years younger than me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 09:36 PM
7	Women want sex robots, so why do women make fun of men who want them? I am a woman who would never use a sex robot. I don't even own sex toys. I need the intimacy and human connection that a toy or robot could never provide. My husband is all I need and he keeps me very happy. I don't care at all if men have sex robots. Go wild.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/24 10:09 PM
16	Flirting is a learned skill by men. I actually saw a theory recently claiming that the reason the younger generations are having trouble dating is because they don't know how to flirt. Men or women. They grew up with most of their communication being online, through social media, text, etc. The flirting in that context is vastly different than it is in person. There is a disconnect. Many of them have anxiety to talk in person. I don't know how valid it is but it's an interesting theory to consider. https://www.aol.com/news/gen-z-b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/24 04:33 PM
2	Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter. Women birthing children is a positive though because society would not exist without it. You are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. So because there are some single moms, and some of the children from single mothers are bad, mothers are not a net positive? That's like saying that because some men are rapists, men are not a useful net positive to society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/24 03:24 AM
0	Ethically sex shouldn’t be considered a fundamental need like food, water and shelter. Not all mothers are single. Literally every person that is born is born to a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/24 03:02 AM
1	It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookup Dead bedrooms don't usually start off dead. They end up that way as couples grow distant. Typically relationships start off with a honeymoon period of a lot of sex. There are many LTRs that never get to a dead bedrooms stage though and continue to have healthy sex lives. The question here regarding hook-up or ltr is going to be whether it's a one night stand or perhaps a friends with benefits type of situation; or if it's going to be a serious committed relationship. The two things are not hard …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/24 06:57 PM
3	It's important to distinguish between looking for a relationship vs looking for a hookup The topic is regarding hook-up only vs an actual relationship, which are in-fact two very different expectations to have that should be addressed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/24 03:58 PM
1	For the tradcons/red pillers who think that the current Western ideologies is responsible for high divorce rates- why is that socially conservative Middle Eastern countries have high divorce rates too? Islam has always allowed women to initiate divorce. It's in the Quran. It's called Khul'.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 09:32 PM
1	For the tradcons/red pillers who think that the current Western ideologies is responsible for high divorce rates- why is that socially conservative Middle Eastern countries have high divorce rates too? Women are allowed to initiate divorce in many Islamic countries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 03:12 AM
1	For the tradcons/red pillers who think that the current Western ideologies is responsible for high divorce rates- why is that socially conservative Middle Eastern countries have high divorce rates too? It depends what country they are in. Many Islamic countries allow women to initiate divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 03:07 AM
–	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. I tend to agree, hence my disclaimer at the bottom. I am just using the parlance of the group I am speaking to prove a point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/24 01:53 AM
–	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. The incentive is internal. The men I know that prefer monogamy prefer it because they like the intimacy. They like that trust and closeness. They want to have the married life. Or maybe it's for moral reasons, and the way they were raised. My husband, for example, is a "high value" "6,6,6" in Redpill terms, which I didn't know was a thing until recently from this sub. Anyway he was raised Muslim, and values that family life and is very respectful of women. He wanted to get married so he could in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 10:06 PM
–	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. So how is that "you go girl" if I'm replying to a man? I'm not going to tell anyone what to do. If these women are sleeping with this man without commitment, that is in them and that is their choice. They could choose to wait until they have commitment to sleep with someone if they are worried about it. If he is lying to these women and they think they have commitment, that is completely different and he definitely should not be doing that. It's not healthy for anyone in that situation. But if a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 08:48 PM
–	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. The "countless hours of work" part leans toward whining. The entire comment doesn't come across as being completely content with your situation but I guess it's hard to tell people's intent through text.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 08:42 PM
–	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. I never have said any about "slay" or "be selfish" or anything of the sort. Why attribute things to me that I've never said?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 08:35 PM
16	Over 85 percent of dating problems would solve itself if women didn’t go for men out of their league. If you have a rotation of women, why are you complaining? Do whatever you want. Not all men are like you. Many good looking or "high value " men could have a rotation of women but choose not to and choose to be in a monogamous relationship. My husband is one of them. My friends husbands are more examples. Do whatever makes you happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 08:10 PM
3	Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories. Well, I obviously have no idea how he is hung. Woman would also have no idea until they agreed to message with him and exchange pictures at the very least, or went on at least one date with him. So there are women who are talking to and going out with short, bald, overweight, unemployed men which already contradicts what many people say here. I can only tell you what he looks like and that he has no money. They live in a small rural farming community where there are very limited options so even …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 06:15 PM
3	Men see women as partners/companions; women see men as disposable accessories. I don't know, my brother-in-law cheated on my sister constantly and he is 5'7", balding (bald on top but still has hair on sides and back, like a horseshoe), red headed with freckles, middle aged, slightly overweight, no muscle tone, wears glasses, has no real personality and worked at Walmart when we wasn't laid off because he only had a GED. He had no money to speak of. My sister dated way down for him and none of us know what she saw in him. He was the first and only guy she ever dated so she…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/24 05:29 PM
3	Women on Reddit downplay men's contributions by choosing to focus on housework, and ignoring earnings. I'm not the op, but personally I would, and have, split common expenses 50/50. Before I was married, I was engaged to a man who earned significantly less than I did, and was in a serious relationship with another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 04:45 PM
4	Femininity is largely considered inferior to Masculinity and there are no good reasons for women to embrace femininity Yes. You are wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/24 02:11 AM
–	So...RP Man Inversion on Man Vs Bear That's the point right there. He blends in. He drives a taxi. Yes, most men are safe and even protective but the serial killers and rapists tend not to announce themselves. Women are guarded because they don't know which men are the protectors and which are the attackers. Any man they see could be either, theoretically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 03:48 AM
1	Older women over 30 and revenge fantasy I get asked out by younger guys often and they think I'm their age. Twice in one day last week. My husband is almost 10 years younger than me, when we met he thought I was younger than he is. Everyone always thinks I am younger than he is. People don't believe me when I tell them how old I am. Most of y'all can't tell with me apparently. It depends largely on the person. Some people show their age, some don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 10:46 PM
0	Older women over 30 and revenge fantasy I'm in my 40s and people still think I'm 24. I get hit on by young guys all the time. I got asked out twice in one day last week by men younger than me. My husband is almost 10 years younger than me. Everyone thinks he is older than me. People never believe me when I tell them my age, I've had to show my ID to prove it. My mom and sisters are the same way. I was a gymnastics and stayed in shape and I take good care of my skin. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs or wear a lot of makeup. If someone ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 10:38 PM
5	Older women over 30 and revenge fantasy TL/DR: happy people don't complain, you only hear from the unhappy people. A lot of people use antidepressants off-label for chronic pain, migraines and other things that aren't depression. Even if it is used for depression, women can actually be depressed about the death of a loved one, health problems of themselves or a loved one, financial issues, problems at work, problems with their children, a long distance move, etc; they aren't just depressed about the lack of a relationship. Most women …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/24 12:12 AM
1	Are women lying to themselves and others when they answer bear question. Because nothing is ever black and white.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/24 07:27 PM
4	Are women lying to themselves and others when they answer bear question. My husband and I have had the same conversation. We also can't believe how few people ask the really important clarifying questions. What kind of bear, and what kind of man? That makes a big difference. Polar Bear vs David Attenborough? Obviously David. Black bear vs Ed Gein? Bear hands down, because it will probably run away (*unless it's a mama bear protecting her cubs) but Ed probably wants to wear my kidney as a hat a turn my nipples into doorbells (he actually had a human nipple doorbell at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/24 10:04 PM
1	Nothing makes many western women more angry than women in other countries, especially non-western countries, having happy relationships with men that those western women think they shouldn't be dating. I think the same goes for Western women in relationships with foreign men. Often times, in my experience and that of my friend's, Western men seem put-out or upset that Western women are choosing foreign men over them. I am a woman from the Midwest and my husband is from Egypt. I have several friends from the Midwest also married to men from Egypt or the Middle East. We joke about the Egyptian coming to the US for the Midwestern women, even though we all met and live in the south. I also have fr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/24 10:03 PM
2	“Beta uprising” threats from men who aren’t farmers, mechanics, etc. doesn’t make sense No one said anything about farmers being poor did they? If you're referring to the blue collar comment someone made, that just refers to the type of work. Blue collar workers can often be rich.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 12:45 PM
9	“Beta uprising” threats from men who aren’t farmers, mechanics, etc. doesn’t make sense Same. I grew up on a farm in the Midwest. Almost everyone I went to highschool with is married with kids. Most are farmers or work in construction. I don't think many are on Reddit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/24 12:35 PM
–	Where are the feminist women? Apparently math is not your strong suit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/24 04:38 PM
–	Where are the feminist women? There are only 2.1 million content contributors (ETA: about 70% female, so about 1.4 million females) worldwide out of a population of 8 billion people. The US alone has a population of 320 million. Approximately half of any given population is female. Also only about 70% of the content is adult content, so that would be about 980,000 women making adult content worldwide. https://www.enterpriseappstoday.com/stats/onlyfans-statistics.html Edit: The adult population is roughly 75% of a given popul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/24 03:12 PM
9	Women posture here just to disprove redpill, they'd rather lie and shame than prove redpill right Clearly she didn't if she isn't satisfied.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/24 03:28 PM
–	The fact that women well into their late 30s and 40s maintain their inflated egos and high standards, even as their value decreases shows how delusional they truly are I got married in my late thirties to a man 9 years younger than me who is incredibly handsome, tall, and is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD who makes well over 6 figures. More importantly he is the most respectful, kind, and intelligent man I've ever met, who treats me far better than any other man ever has. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like my king. I wasn't looking for the "666" thing and didn't even know it existed until recently from reading the sub but I got it. I would not have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/24 03:34 AM
1	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's So? Women still know what it feels like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/24 12:37 AM
0	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's I don't disagree. People in general need to work on many things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/24 12:32 AM
12	There is honestly no need to have kids, enter a long term relationship or become married anymore as a man I never said no women do this. I said fewer do. Fewer women are getting married which means fewer women are settling. There are still women using men. That will always happen. There will always be men using women too. It doesn't happen as often as it used to though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 08:14 PM
45	There is honestly no need to have kids, enter a long term relationship or become married anymore as a man There is no need for women to do those things either, which should be a good thing. Men here are always saying that they don't want a woman to settle for them, but if a woman felt she needed a relationship/child and couldn't find a man she wanted she would have to settle for someone. Many women used to settle for men they didn't love because he was a good provider. Now fewer women do that because they can provide for themselves, and men complain about that too. I don't really understand what the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 07:20 PM
1	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's So instead of using that as an example you went to nonconsensual anal??? Did you think you were the only women who has had pimples popped? This is so wild.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 05:10 PM
1	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's Those aren't contradictory. Something that mostly women do and almost no men do would be gendered. Quite a lot of men say they do this. It's not rare. It might not even be more women than men, we just might hear about women doing it more. Both genders cheat but pretty much every reliable study done has shown that men do it more often than women. Does that mean cheating is a male gendered thing? No. Women tend to be more insecure as a group. This isn't new knowledge.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 05:06 PM
1	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's I very rarely post on social media, maybe once every few years. What I do post is stuff I wouldn't mind if the public sees, even though I have it set to private because some people have ways around. If they still find something they don't like, I'm probably not a good fit for the company and I'm completely fine with them not hiring me. If someone is offended by my wedding photo, I don't think I would be happy working for them anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 04:46 PM
24	Do you prefer liberal men versus conservative men? Do you prefer liberal women vs conservative women? Are you sure? Is seems many want a partner and an equal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 05:39 AM
2	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/12/pimple-popping-husband-is-obsessed-with-my-skin-care-advice.html Just because you haven't heard of something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. This is just one example. If you want more, Google is your friend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 01:40 AM
1	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's Exactly. Employers do it. Why wouldn't a potential date? I expect people to look through my sm and I wouldn't mind if anyone looked back through it. I really don't use it much at all and I don't put anything on there I wouldn't want the public to potentially see. I think many people may not realize that when they apply or interview for a job, someone at the company usually tries to look them up on social media. I have worked at several different companies, and I have been asked to do this at all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 12:48 AM
2	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's A lot of guys do vet women that way. There have been questions about it on different subs. Women probably do it more often but men admit to it as well. It's not a gendered thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/24 06:40 PM
3	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's Of course you haven't, because if you had, you would never compare it to popping a pimple. Anyone with any empathy knows that the two are nothing close to appropriate to compare to each other, without needing to experience both. You might as well have compared it to getting shot or stabbed. Those are both painful, nonconsensual things that happen to one's body if that's all you're going for. You could have picked several other things that would be better equivalents. Tickling. Snapping a bra. Pu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/24 06:37 PM
8	A great article about the opportunity cost between staying single and settling down in the modern world There are people who kill themselves because they are lonely, which isn't exactly dying because they are single, but it is similar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 11:14 PM
2	Does the existence of two fairly dating/sex markets account for much of the 'Red Pill' v. 'Blue Pill' debate? I wish I could upvote you more. I feel like I'm having a stroke trying to read some of these titles sometimes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 10:39 PM
13	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's How can you compare groping to penetration? The two aren't even in the same ball park.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 12:57 PM
12	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's You don't remember correctly. Men don't get acne and blackheads more often than women but they do tend to be larger when they do get them since men have larger pores. Regardless of who gets them more, how does one go from pimple popping to anal rape, of all things? You could have used a man popping pimples on a woman without consent to have an equal, apples to apples comparison. Instead you went way out with apples to nonconsensual anal comparison. Wild. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 12:52 PM
1	The way women test their Lover's love is so wrong Many men have the same inability. It's not a gendered thing. "Similar to the prior study, men were 30% less likely to report feeling love than women. Additionally, men and women were about equally likely to report feelings of partner love, but men were 43% less likely to report feeling love toward a child and 38% less likely to report feeling love toward another family member." https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/2024-february-love-gender-gap.html#:~:text=Similar%20to%20the%20prior%20study…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 07:42 PM
2	The way women test their Lover's love is so wrong Even if she isn't on the spectrum, why are you taking the behavior of one woman and applying to every woman? Using that logic, we know a man raped and murdered a woman, so all men must be rapists and murderers, right? That's ridiculous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 07:35 PM
21	Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claim I've also done this, and I've had women I've never met approach me. When a stranger comes to you acting like she is your best friend since grade school, you just know to go along with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 06:45 PM
3	What exactly do women mourn after a heartbreak? In my experience, mostly for love. None of my friends or family members married for money. I have heard some stories about women using men for money and I have one friend who is in the middle of a divorce from a woman who was possibly using him. She may have loved him though. It seemed like she loved him while they were together. No one except for her knows for sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/24 06:32 AM
10	What exactly do women mourn after a heartbreak? If it's not love or money, what else would it be? Those are the two main things people marry for. You either love the person and want to be with them no matter what, for richer or poorer; or you settle for someone you don't love but who has money/resources to provide that you need/want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 06:10 PM
5	What exactly do women mourn after a heartbreak? It's possible. I have a friend who is a bartender at a fancy country club and the women there hit on him a lot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 05:56 PM
6	What exactly do women mourn after a heartbreak? Yess, it can happen . About 30% of of low income men in the US are married. It's not the norm, but not out of the realm of possibilities either. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://aspe.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/migrated_legacy_files//44931/rpt_DemographicSnapshot.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj2h8y0-4-FAxUk4ckDHc0jCUYQFnoECBkQBg&usg=AOvVaw3S_22ljG0yKNCoXU37IdgC Anecdotal, but my nephew is married and he never even finished highschool because his mom is super religious a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 05:54 PM
1	The critique of niceguy/nicegirls (or more generally a "nice X™") is ironically a validation of niceX™ and also an ignorance of human nature. I think that's kind of true actually. Think about the women who think they are a 10 that aren't actually 10s that men are often talking about on this sub. The more someone says, "you can trust me," the less you should trust them. If you have to be told someone has a trait, it's more likely they don't actually have the trait. If you're nice, people will know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/24 04:18 AM
5	The reason relationships are so heavily skewed towards women in America is because of its stance on prostitution This is off topic, but out of curiosity, did you have any security clearance and if so, did your seeking therapy affect it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/24 10:35 PM
12	The reason relationships are so heavily skewed towards women in America is because of its stance on prostitution I'm not the OP, but there have been some studies done on this. Some do tend to show that an overwhelming majority of women want out of prostitution. "Nearly 95 per cent of those involved in prostitution report wanting to leave but feel they have no other option for survival." https://www.lsbu.ac.uk/stories-finder/exiting-prostitution "The Scientific Journal of Trauma Practice found that 89% women in prostitution want to escape" https://2001-2009.state.gov/r/pa/ei/rls/38790.htm "% of women who sa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/24 10:24 PM
3	A lot of women have an exponential amount of dating/relationship experience in their life, which simultaneously helps them reach their full potential, but men have far more untapped potential that exceeds women when it comes to knowledge in dating/relationships. Some women do. Some women don't. Regardless of which role she is taking, she is experiencing the relationship and participating in it. She is getting experience, learning what she likes and doesn't like, what she wants from a partner, what is expected of her, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 06:32 AM
3	A lot of women have an exponential amount of dating/relationship experience in their life, which simultaneously helps them reach their full potential, but men have far more untapped potential that exceeds women when it comes to knowledge in dating/relationships. Yes. Most passengers probably know how to drive. When you get in the passenger seat of a car do you suddenly forget how to drive? It's wild if you do. I don't. I could drive the car or be a passenger because I know how to do both and my mind doesn't erase when the engine turns over. Are you saying women aren't active participants in their relationships but merely captives? If a woman has been in a relationship, she has experience in a relationship. Every relationship is different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 04:42 AM
3	There's just as many low quality Women as Men If they are just wanting to hook up, of course they don't. But for a wife, that stuff matters to many men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 07:04 AM
1	There's just as many low quality Women as Men That person would be, yes. But what of someone was intelligent and attractive but disagreed with you on having children and politics? There are variants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 07:02 AM
1	There's just as many low quality Women as Men Where did I say most men don't want children? Or that 20% is most? I never said that. 20% is 1 out of 5, which is a significant amount (not most), and the number is growing. You can't say every man wants children or that's it is rare that they don't. Most men do want kids, but that doesn't mean that some don't, so people have to be compatible on that aspect. How can you not understand that? "Nonsense cop out. This is just cope from women with shitty personalities. Men largely date within their i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 06:58 AM
5	There's just as many low quality Women as Men You think your opinion applies to everyone. It doesn't. "Most men want kids." About 20% of men don't want kids according to studies. https://nypost.com/2022/10/17/why-childless-men-are-saying-no-to-fatherhood/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2021/11/19/growing-share-of-childless-adults-in-u-s-dont-expect-to-ever-have-children/ https://www.menshealth.com/trending-news/a36741056/adults-do-not-want-children-study/ My husband doesn't and most of or social circle is child free. Almost all of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 10:25 PM
12	There's just as many low quality Women as Men Wouldn't the quality depend on who is rating it? Looks are subjective. Some men want a woman who makes a lot of money and has a good career but some don't care. Some want a woman who will be a stay at home mom and has no career. Does she want kids or not? Some men do , some don't, that would have to match Some men really value intelligence and ambition in a woman, for some men it's actually a turn off. Many men want a woman who cooks well but what if she only cooks Mexican, Asian, Mediterranean,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 08:42 PM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? I think it all depends on the individual and the circumstances of the relationship. I've known women who grieve relationships for a very long time and I have know men that move on easily, and vive versa. That being said I also know people who outwardly appear to be fine, but they are very hurt on the inside. Part of the coping and defense mechanism is to appear fine and to move on. I remember after one of my hardest breakups one of our mutual friends told me I seemed to be taking it better than …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 06:41 PM
7	All men are predators? Or irrational fear? The ones under 50, 000 are not considered moderate. One on that list has 11, 000 people. Population is not an indicator of the probability of rape. Women get raped in small towns and in large cities. You were naming NYC, Chicago, as examples as though only women in large cities had to worry. All of those cities on that list are small in comparison to those cities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 05:07 AM
6	All men are predators? Or irrational fear? Most of them have a population of under 100,000. A few have under 50,000.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 04:48 AM
9	All men are predators? Or irrational fear? Metro areas with highest rates of rape per capita Anchorage, AK Rapid City, SD 3.Pueblo, CO 4.St. Joseph, MO-KS 5.Carson City, NV 6.Jackson, MI 7.Farmington, NM 8.Jonesboro, AR 9.Danville, IL 10.Casper, WY https://www.statista.com/statistics/605581/us-metropolitan-areas-with-the-highest-rape-rate/ Edit: formatting	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 04:38 AM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? I have a lot of sympathy for men who have a genuinely hard time dating even though they are actually good men. The thing about a lot of the men on these subs is that they basically hate women and treat them like garbage but then wonder why they can't keep a woman. I have no sympathy for guys like that. Some of it comes from being treated badly by women and I can understand being jaded but eventually one needs to heal from that. Treating all women badly because a few were mean is not the way to g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 03:21 PM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? Dating is harder for men, I'm not saying it isn't. Only about half of women under 30 use apps. About 30% of total women. So no, men don't have to use apps. Half of the women out there aren't on them. I don't know anyone that has met their partner on apps. Of course I think my husband is a 10. In every way. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't. Shouldn't women find their husbands attractive? Men are on here complaining about how women settle and don't actually find their husbands attractive bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 06:23 AM
1	Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically? Overall, the majority of men are married and the stats don't take into consideration long term relationships, couples living together without being married, situationships, dating, or any of that. One reason the stats show the men under 30 are single could be because so many people are waiting to get married until they finish school and get their career going. Many men don't want to marry that early and want to play the field, so to speak. So the stats look grim but it doesn't tell the whole sto…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 09:24 PM
1	Unsolicited dick pics The definition of lewd is "crude and offensive in a sexual way." Sending someone an unwanted and unrequested picture of your genitals is considered offensive to many adults. Considering that the penis is most likely erect in the picture and it was sent with explicit sexual intent, that makes it sexual. By definition, sending pictures of your junk to someone who doesn't want it is lewd.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 02:48 PM
0	The relationship zones chart explains how 'situationships' occur A man having a job doesn't automatically make him is a good partner. I think what happens to many women is that they find men who don't contribute enough to the relationship. It used to be men provided the money and that was all that was expected. Women provided the housework and childcare. Now that women are working the balance hasn't necessarily shifted for a lot of people. I'm not saying there aren't a lot of good men out there that do their share, or more, because there are. My husband is on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 06:30 AM
6	Do men not care about having female friends? With that perspective, if everyone thought like you think men do, humans would still be living in caves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 05:49 AM
1	The relationship zones chart explains how 'situationships' occur The article you linked is mostly about women who are either happily single, or chose to be single instead of with the wrong partner, but society is putting pressure on them to be in a relationship. Some quotes from the article... "Whereas now, I probably just say that it is irrelevant whether I'm single or not. I'm happy. I'm doing lots of things with my life." "I was single until I was 35 … people would try to set me up with the reasoning, "You're single, he's single. So it'll have to work out.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 11:44 PM
1	The relationship zones chart explains how 'situationships' occur Most of the women I know got married in their thirties to men far better than the options they had in their twenties. The options never dried up and didn't become lower quality, they actually improved. We've talked about what a mistake it would have been to settle for the men that proposed to us in our twenties. To be fair though, the demographic of my social circle is almost entirely highly educated, attractive women without children who had good careers and never used OLD or apps. They met oth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 06:02 PM
1	In your experience, is it more common for partners to adopt the girlfriend’s or the boyfriend’s friend group? Both. Our friend groups became one big group. We already had a bit of crossover which is how we met, but our groups really just messed into one. I became friends with his friends, he became friends with my friends and a lot of his friends started hanging out with my friends and vice versa. We still go hang out with our friends separately of course but there are a lot of parties, music events and things where most of our social circle is there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/24 05:02 AM
3	When dating, why do people claim to speak a foreign language? Just a little FYI, you should be using ser instead of estar and your word order is incorrect. Any Spanish speaker will understand what you are saying perfectly fine, but it sounds a little yodaish. They will definitely consider you to speak broken Spanish if you make mistakes like this often.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/24 04:10 AM
0	"Every woman is unique in their taste in men" no they aren't Someone in an earlier comment was using pizza as an analogy so I'll continue it here... Most people like pizza. Everybody likes different toppings on their pizza though. Everyone has a favorite combination, whether it's just cheese and sauce, everything but the kitchen sink, or something in-between. It's what goes along with the features that specifically attracts a woman to one man or another. If a woman likes tall men, she doesn't automatically like every tall man. There are other factors at p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 09:32 PM
-1	"Every woman is unique in their taste in men" no they aren't So you're saying that you if you find blue eyes and blond hair attractive, you think every woman with blue eyes and blond hair is attractive? Why is there the "butterface" term then? What if the hair is short but you like long? What if she wears really horrible makeup? What if she refuses to wear deodorant and smells really bad?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 09:27 PM
8	"Every woman is unique in their taste in men" no they aren't I see it more like this...yes, most people like pizza, but everyone likes different toppings on their pizza. So while most women like a certain type a feature, it's what goes along with the features that attract her. Women who like blue eyes don't automatically like every man that has blue eyes, for example.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 06:28 PM
1	In dating, as a man, it's demanded that you be confident and socially skilled. Meanwhile, women are allowed to be as neurotic and anti-social as they please I wouldn't say the majority of women are antisocial and neurotic. Perhaps on dating apps they are, or maybe the younger generation? Dating apps often attract a certain type of woman who know that there are way more men than women on the apps and can exploit that. They aren't necessarily looking for serious relationships either. The majority of women aren't on apps though. It's anecdotal but most of the women I know are socially well adjusted and happily married. I don't know anyone who used dati…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 05:12 PM
7	In dating, as a man, it's demanded that you be confident and socially skilled. Meanwhile, women are allowed to be as neurotic and anti-social as they please When did I ever say this sub is the rest of the world? ETA: I find it hard to believe you've never heard a man complain about women in real life. I'm using this sub as an example because it's something you can also see. If I use my own experience you would just say it's anecdotal and doesn't matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 04:25 AM
14	In dating, as a man, it's demanded that you be confident and socially skilled. Meanwhile, women are allowed to be as neurotic and anti-social as they please They do get dragged. Pretty much every day there is a post here dragging women for their behaviors, preferences or standards or whatever else men find to complain about. They are getting dragged right now. Both men and women complain about each other. It's nothing new.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 03:39 AM
17	In dating, as a man, it's demanded that you be confident and socially skilled. Meanwhile, women are allowed to be as neurotic and anti-social as they please Because they aren't dating themselves. Many men have different standards in women than they have in themselves. For example a lot of men are promiscuous but don't want to be with a promiscuous woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 02:56 AM
1	Marraige is a net loss move for men. Tell the other person exactly what's on you mind, don't expect them to be a mind-reader but do it in a calm and tactful way. Don't yell or raise your voice. That immediately makes the other person defensive and zone out so you've already lost their attention. Think about what you want to say and how before you say it. Don't ever call names because it's immature, it's not productive and you can't un-say something once you've said it. That will stick with the other person, even if you don't really…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 12:19 AM
2	Marraige is a net loss move for men. It is not the norm but it is becoming more common. In about 16% of marriages the woman is the sole or primary breadwinner which is up significantly from the past and it only expected to climb. It's not that rare. That's not counting women who out-earn their husbands who make near equal salaries, but aren't considered breadwinners, which is nearly half of women in same sex marriages. Either you love the person and you want to be with them because they make your life better or you don't. If you ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 04:42 PM
1	I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex" I fully agree that it all comes down to the individuals involved, in both circumstances.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 02:51 AM
3	I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex" Yes, there is a difference between saying "I love you" and feeling it. That's the point. There are tons of dead bedrooms but there are tons of highly active healthy ones too. I make my husband feel like my king because he makes me feel like a queen. He's my world. He feels that. Not every relationship will be like that, which is why I said not all men would prefer to be married over paying for it. It all depends on the people and their relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 02:28 AM
2	I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex" That's not the same as the real desire of someone who is actually in love with you though. It's just lust. Some men are fine with that. Some want the emotional connection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 01:40 AM
3	I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex" Even if a man doesn't want kids, he can still want a partner. My husband doesn't want kids and is very happy to be married. He would never want to pay for sex because he would never want to have sex with someone who doesn't actually desire him. It's his biggest turn off. He enjoys having the emotional connection and intimacy. There are men that like to feel desired. He also likes the companionship, the friendship, the support, the cooking, cleaning, and everything that I provide. It's not just s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 01:09 AM
2	I think paying, if possible, is much better for rich smart men than marrying or even "free sex" For some men, they enjoy the emotional connection of sex and enjoy pleasing the woman. Generally, the more often two people have sex, the better it gets because the more they get to know about what pleases the other, plus the intimacy and emotional connection builds. Not all men are like this, of course. Some men would be perfectly happy, and prefer, to pay for sex and don't care for the emotional stuff or building a rapport. Do whatever makes you happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 12:57 AM
8	Marraige is a net loss move for men. It all depends on the individuals. It depends who they marry. One of my best friends is the breadwinner in her marriage. She is a biochemist and he is a musician. So that would be a gain for him. She owned a condo when they got married that they now rent out for extra income, another gain. She's a great cook and makes him his favorite foods and offers all sorts of emotional support that cannot be calculated. I have another friend who supports her husband that owned her home that he moved into. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 09:01 PM
–	Should We All Just Quit Dating Period That is weird. I'm not just messing with you or anything, lol. It really doesn't show any. It just says "1" like when any comment is posted. I wonder why they are different?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 08:00 PM
–	Should We All Just Quit Dating Period About 20% of men don't want children according to the latest studies, so it't not that rare to find them. I know several men that don't want children. My husband doesn't. Most of our social circle is child free. To be fair, it might be because of the demographics of our social circle. Almost all of them are highly educated and high earners. Statistically more educated and wealthier people have fewer children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 07:56 PM
–	Should We All Just Quit Dating Period No. There are no upvotes on that comment. ETA: My comment asking "what upvotes?" currently has 5 upvotes so apparently other people are wondering the same thing. It isn't showing up to anyone else either. Perhaps you're looking at the wrong comment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 06:04 PM
7	Should We All Just Quit Dating Period What upvotes?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 01:32 AM
3	Do women have a wall for men but they are too embarrassed to admit it? I know it's not the norm but my husband is younger than I am. My grandma was older than my grandpa (married over 50 years), my cousin's wife is significantly older than he is and 2 of my good friends are married to younger men. So it does happen. I think it's much more common now than it used to be and maybe the stigma is (slowly) dying. I think in general it comes down to maturity levels. Some younger men are mature enough for the relationship a woman wants and others aren't. Men used to typica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 06:55 PM
–	People can't blame men for the " procedure" of dating when it wouldn't exist without their actions To be fair my husband is Middle Eastern and he spoils me and his family and friends spoil their wives, but as a whole the culture itself is not known for being great to women by any means.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/24 06:17 AM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? We lived in Egypt for a while. I know what it's like. With the currency crashing like it is right now many women are having to get jobs to help support their families. Sidenote: His sister fixed my crown for me for $75 and it was going to cost over $2000 in the US. It was done "beautifully" too according to my dentist on the US once I came back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/24 02:15 AM
1	Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps? You apparently care enough to comment about it. I never said he's a 10 in looks alone (although he is, in my opinion). He is a 10 all around. He is perfect for me. Yes, I know there are no perfect people which is why I said for me. He's the most intelligent, respectful, kind, generous, and caring man I've ever known. I never said being conservative is why men fail. I prefer a somewhat conservative man which is why my husband and I work. I would bet all the money in the world that you are not bet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 07:22 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? That is true. It's not just men from conservative cultures that do that though. Interesting that they see the kid getting influence from the mother and don't think at all about the influence they would give they child themselves. If they truly value conservative culture they should actually practice it themselves and not whore themselves around. A very strict Muslim man isn't supposed to have premarital sex at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 03:33 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? Actually, no. When I spoke of immigrants I wasn't speaking about a specific gender because there are both. At the University where there are more POC than whites, there are also more women than men. 54.9% of the degrees last year were awarded to women, and 45.1% were awarded men. While female breadwinners are not the norm it's becoming more common, especially as women are becoming more educated. I do have two good female friends that are the breadwinners in their relationships. One is a Biochemi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 03:27 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? I couldn't care less who white men marry. I don't see a problem with it as long as both people are happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 03:08 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? I didn't convert to Islam and I'm not a stay a home wife. I'm a biotechnologist who specializes in human organ and tissue banking and my husband is very proud of me. Btw, you know most Muslim countries allow women to work, right? My husband's sister is a dentist in Egypt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 03:05 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? I never said there is definitive proof of causation. I said there is potential to consider. I'm not really sure what you are getting at by bring up Muslim cultures to begin with. The same can be said for most any conservative culture. Think of Mormons or Jehovah's Witnesses. Some hyper religious people will stick to their own religion. Some will branch out. It just depends on the individual person and their personal beliefs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 06:21 AM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? The previous links and the following are all links to articles about the study. You need a subscription to see the study itself which you're welcome to get. https://socgen.ucla.edu/2015/07/02/diverse-parental-genes-lead-to-taller-smarter-children-finds-extensive-study/ https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn27816-want-tall-smart-children-find-an-exotic-stranger/ https://www.thehealthsite.com/news/children-of-parents-from-a-mixed-race-tend-to-be-smarter-p715-306720/amp/ https://www.nature.com/nat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 04:49 AM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? As a biotechnologist who has studied genetics I can tell you that it potentially does hold some weight. It's not a huge factor, but it is something to consider. https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/new-study-finds-genetic-diversity-may-be-key-taller-smarter/ https://www.ssc.uwo.ca/news/2019/health_of_multiracial_children_is_more_than_just_black_and_white.html https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201905/the-biracial-advantage Edit: these are just a few studies I found with a very quick Google …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 11:49 PM
0	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? How did you get that from anything I said? First of all, not all people in the US are white. For example, one of my best friends is Mexican American and she is married to a Palestinian immigrant. Another friend is Black and she is engaged to a Brazilian immigrant. My Iranian friend who came here as an immigrant is married to a Mexican American. Second not all immigrants are male. One of my good friends is a Palestinian woman who came here as a refugee in the 80s and now is married to a white man…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 11:39 PM
1	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? You're correct about that. However, my husband is from a very traditional Muslim family. His father has 3 wives and 17 children total. When my husband arrived in the US he had very different ideas than he does now. The key is that he was willing to learn, adapt, and assimilate. Not everyone will be and that can be a challenge. There are a surprising amount that do though. Our social circle is almost entirely interracial couples. The key is the willingness to accept and either compromise or toler…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 07:47 PM
1	Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps? There are a lot of married people on this sub. Getting married doesn't mean you stop caring about social dynamics or the changes to said dynamics, or your single friends and the struggles they are enduring. We have some awesome single friends that should be able find a relationships but are having trouble with the current dating scene which drew my attention to the "pills" in the first place. Edit: grammar	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 04:20 PM
–	Is settling a widespread common occurence? What about it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/24 02:46 PM
2	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? No, he arrived as a Fulbright Scholar for his Master's in Petroleum Engineering and then stayed for his PhD which is when we met.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 10:00 PM
2	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? It's interesting, my husband is from Egypt and he came to the US for grad school as a Fulbright Scholar. He is a Petroleum Engineer. We live in a very large city and he went to a major university and there are now more POC students than white. Especially in his program, like STEM programs. So now there's a lot of rich and attractive immigrants in my city now and they are mostly marrying and dating people from the US. Most of our social circle is interracial couples. I know that this isn't what i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 09:58 PM
5	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? Yeah, my husband is from Egypt and we have several friends who are Middle Eastern that are married to Westerners and there are no problems. If there is a difference in culture it gets discussed and worked out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 09:28 PM
4	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? My husband is Middle Eastern and we have no issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 09:24 PM
2	How will mass immigration affect dating and relationships? My husband is from Egypt and he is the most respectful, kind, and attentive man I've ever met. He's one of the most intelligent and hardest working. He's a petroleum engineer with a PhD and a Fulbright scholar. His family is traditional conservative Muslim. They weren't very happy about the idea at first but after I went to Egypt and met them, the really love me. They are so happy he found someone that makes him happy and takes care of him. My family are conservative farmers from the Midwest. I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 09:23 PM
5	I think men simply find me repulsive and I have a hard time finding out why You are very pretty. Without knowing you it's hard to says what's going on. It's probably a confidence issue though, based off of your post history because you don't sound very confident with yourself. When you say "meaningful conversations" what exactly are you talking about? Perhaps something you are wanting to talk about is coming off as too intense or too deep for a first or casual interaction. Those are conversations you usually build up to and can sometimes be off putting if not in the pro…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/02/24 07:17 PM
4	I think men simply find me repulsive and I have a hard time finding out why She is pretty. There are pics in her post history.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/02/24 07:03 PM
1	Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps? I know a lot of alpha men that hang out with women. That is one of the reasons they are alpha. By definition you're not actually alpha if you're not hanging with women because the alpha is the leader of the social group and the women want to hang around him which is why they have access to many women. Sports. Music. Art. Outdoors. There are tons of women into the same things men are. If you're too macho to hang out with women, you're only limiting yourself which is cool but don't say online is t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 05:00 PM
0	Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps? Doing stuff to get off social media and dating apps and meet actual real people is not disingenuous unless you have absolutely no interest in the activity you're doing except to try to sleep with someone. It's cool if your fine at the "Club and bars with drunkies" (in your words) but don't make it seem like it's the only option, as you did when someone else suggested you get off the apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 01:17 PM
2	Is it even possible to "fix" the issues around dating apps? Why are bars the only place to meet people? Join a co-ed sports team like soft ball, soccer, rock climbing, rowing, biking, etc Take dance lessons and/or go to social dances. My city has free ones all over. Salsa, two step, swing, etc. All different kinds. Take an art class. Painting. Pottery. Glass blowing. Join a book club. There are usually a lot to choose from. Volunteer at an animal shelter or homeless shelter or something else you're interested in. There are many ways to meet people that a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 10:06 PM
1	Is settling a widespread common occurence? Because I'm not a narcissistic sociopath.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 09:40 PM
1	Men are more likely to support their partners in the event of a job loss. Why don't women do the same? A lot of the men I know don't have wives that have abandoned them when the have financial troubles. Usually they help pick up the slack. Two of my best friends are actually the bread winners in their relationships to begin with. Their husbands are both musicians that go through ups and downs. Especially during the pandemic. Of course there are gold diggers but most women are not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 09:30 PM
1	Is settling a widespread common occurence? This is the real cope right here. Whatever helps you sleep at night. Looks fade. People like other people for more than looks. If you have never experienced that I'm sorry for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 08:44 PM
–	Why do people not want to accept the reasons modern dating isn’t working? Also, most Middle Eastern countries are way down too. 5 are already below replacement value, and most are predicted to follow in the next decade or so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 03:27 PM
5	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". I personally don't agree, I would take the 5'8" athletic over the taller obese guy any day, but I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape so that's something important to me. I actually dated men that were shorter than me and it didn't bother me but I know that it's a thing a lot of women want. I don't really get it to be honest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 05:50 PM
2	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". You are absolutely correct. Attraction is very subjective so trying to put any sort of objective scale on it is basically useless. I think most average people just want someone they feel attracted to, who makes them feel attractive as well. Most don't care what others think unless they are the type to obsess about social media and that kind of thing. I have heard the argument that women file more for divorce because they are usually the ones that handle that kind of thing for the household. The …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 05:38 PM
4	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". Many women don't, but there are a lot of men that don't either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 05:01 PM
6	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". I am not doubting there are women who will say it, but often when I say women here describing this experience they say something like "he wasn't conveniently attractive" but usually add that they became attracted to him when they got to know him. I had an experience in highschool where I was in a relationship with a guy who I didn't meet the first time and think wow, he's super hot but as we hung out, I really started to fall for him. I mean head over heels. I started to find him incredibly sexy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 04:51 PM
2	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". That's fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 04:28 PM
1	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". That's not the only reason. Many men don't want to marry anymore either. They just want hookups. Apps have made that more possible. No, most women don't lock down a chad, but many do, especially the stacys. Most women date average men. Most women are average, hence the word average. 62% of men under 30 are having sex, regardless of relationship status, as of last year. Almost 70% of the men in in the US are married. That doesn't count people in long term relationships, or dating, or divorced or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 05:54 AM
1	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". It really depends on the woman. You are correct about some of them, but others are not like that. There are normal women that date men below their league. There are men in this sub talking about dating women out of their league. If she goes on to get or marry a better man, he really was below her league. She isn't delusional or narcissistic if she normally is actually getting better men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 03:57 AM
4	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". To be fair, I did say many, not all, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 02:36 AM
10	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". So men want women to give men below them a chance, but then they are not supposed to talk about it, while they also aren't really supposed to give men below them a chance at all because they are a just being a bitch who is going to use them if they do. If women only date men who meet their standards or above the woman is just a stuck up bitch who doesn't know what she's missing that should give someone below her a chance. That's what I've heard from the men in these subs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 01:59 AM
15	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". But according to many men in this sub it's also toxic to have standards that cut that guy out of the running and to refuse to give him a chance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 01:30 AM
10	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". That isn't really the same as them bragging about dating a mid while they are dating them though, like the OP is talking about. They are just talking about what happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 01:23 AM
8	This is how women sound when saying "I'm giving the ugly guy a chance". That's not really the same as them bragging that they gave him a chance though. It's just them describing their experience. If they were bragging to their friends while they were with the man that would be different. That's what the OP is talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 01:21 AM
–	'Better than real men': Young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriends Men have 2% MORE consumer debt than women, on average in the US. Men hold 42% of student loans in the US. So actually, yes, the men are racking up billions in consumer and student debt. Every tax-paying woman is paying for men in one way or another, and often several ways at once. https://www.nasdaq.com/articles/men-vs.-women:-who-has-more-credit-card-debt https://www.debt.org/faqs/americans-in-debt/demographics/ https://www.bankrate.com/personal-finance/debt/men-women-and-debt-does-gender-matte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 11:07 PM
3	Men who don't like women, why do you care if women don't like you? I definitely understand your frustration. I don't think it's fair that men get so much heat for venting any hint of feelings regarding the issue. Another big problem is that even if you manage to find an eater egg that has something inside, you might not be compatible with it, lol. I mean I have some male friends that are really great catches and they get dates but then they just don't click with the people. They aren't socially awkward. They aren't unattractive or mean. They are very interestin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 03:56 PM
1	Men who don't like women, why do you care if women don't like you? I'm guessing the OP used the word doughnut because in most countries, especially the US where I believe he is from, one cannot purchase women to bring to work to share and pass out to their coworkers. Prostitution is illegal in the US. Also that would not appeal to the women he was trying to make understand because even if prostitutes were legal, most of the straight women would probably pass on being given a prostitute by their coworker. A doughnut works because almost everyone has been given a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 02:24 PM
4	Men who don't like women, why do you care if women don't like you? I get your analogy, but the problem with it is that the donuts were being shared by the owner, and passed out. You were skipped over and feel slighted, and rightfully so. You got left out. The difference with women is that there is no single owner that is refusing to share them with you but is sharing with everyone else. It is all individuals. To work your analogy has to be that you came to work and found that some of your coworkers had all been finding delicious donuts hidden all over like East…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 02:09 PM
9	Woman really don't like most men sexually I am sexually attracted to my husband. I don't want to have sex with other men or women. I don't watch porn. Before I was married it took me a while to become sexually attracted to a man. I wasn't just walking around wanting to jump everyone. I need a level of trust before the attraction grows.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/24 01:41 AM
–	Woman really don't like most men sexually Women behave much differently on apps than they do in the real world. Women often are using them only for hook ups and therefore only care about looks. You can't attribute the behavior of a few women on the apps to the behavior of all the women in the world. I don't like men that are super muscular. My sister loves Jason Momoa, but he doesn't do a thing for me. I like Benedict Cumberbatch, she doesn't. Attraction in subjective. Most of the guys I was in relationships with didn't stand out to me …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 10:29 PM
1	The root of the gender war is birth control There are plenty of relationships and children still happening. Almost 70% of men in the US are married. 14% are divorced and 3.5% are widowed which means they were able to find someone to marry them at least once. This doesn't count the number of men in long term relationships that are not married. The overwhelming majority of men in America are in relationships or have had a serious relationship at some point in their lives. The decline in children doesn't mean people aren't having relationshi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 03:46 PM
4	The root of the gender war is birth control There are plenty of people that want to live in America and plenty of jobs for them to do, considering the labor shortage. Immigrants can pay taxes and support you children just like natural born citizens can. ETA: population redistribution is a much more reasonable solution for everyone involved instead of just adding more people to burden natural resources even further.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 07:03 AM
12	women seriously dating men to whom they arent attracted? where? I don't think she is an outlier. Most women do tend to grow more attracted to a man as they get to know him more. Love at first sight happens in Disney movies, not so often in real life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 06:43 AM
9	The root of the gender war is birth control You do realize there are 8 billion people on the planet right? BILLION. With a B. Just because there are declining birth rates in some countries doesn't mean the overall population is decreasing. It's an exponential thing. We have limited resources, many of which are already getting stretched. It's not a bad thing for people to control themselves a little. Imagine the population crisis we would have if birth control hadn't been invented.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 05:57 AM
3	What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with? I went on a date with a guy who was in his early twenties who just kept talking about how he was a model, how he played football in highschool, and his "cool" winter clothes. Telling me you played football is fine but giving me the rundown of all the games is ridiculous. Highschool was 5 years ago. You don't play anymore. I don't really care about football. This was very much like a glory days kind of thing. I think that was probably going to be the highlight of that man's life. As for modeling,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 11:00 PM
4	Do you think this experience mimics what an attractive woman can go through? Actually the more attractive a woman is, the lower her body count tends to be according to studies. For women, the number of sexual partners decreases with increasing physical attractiveness, whereas for men, the number of sexual partners increases with increasing physical attractiveness. Very physically attractive women are more likely to form exclusive relationships than to form purely sexual relationships; they are also less likely to have sexual intercourse within the ﬁrst week of meeting a …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/02/24 01:41 PM
3	Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continue My grandparents were married for over 52 years, Grandpa was holding Grandma's hand when she passed. My parents have been married for over 53 years. My husband's parents and grandparents are each other's first and only marriages. I have no reason to believe it's not possible. We both had great examples of how healthy relationships work. We don't really fight. When we have disagreements, we discuss them like reasonable adults and then come to an agreement or compromise. We don't yell. We don't ins…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 01:02 AM
18	Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continue They still aren't poly though. There is a difference. Having a relationship with one person, said relationship not working out, and then moving on to another relationship with someone else is completely different from having multiple relationships with multiple people simultaneously, which is what the OP is talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/24 07:30 PM
1	FEMINISM WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD You think men deserve more than women or you think they deserve more than they are currently getting? I ask for clarification because your flair says egalitarian.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/24 06:57 PM
1	Please help me, redpill is making me suicidal It depends on the study. Current research indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have fantasies in which they are forced into sex against their will, and for 9% to 17% of women these are a frequent or favorite fantasy experience. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18321031/#:~:text=Current%20research%20indicates%20that%20between,not%20appear%20to%20make%20sense. It depends on the parameters of the study, the demographics, the size. So many things. One thing that is certain is that just because…	/r/ExRedPill	13/02/24 06:06 AM
2	Women face no significant penalty when dating in their 30s You don't know my standards so you couldn't possibly know that. All you know it that I don't have a standard for income or height, which are shallow things. The only reason I mentioned my husband's height, income, or looks is because everyone thinks that women in their thirties end up with the bottom of the barrel that no one else wants. From what all the red pillers say, the only men women want are handsome, tall, and making six figures. So by that metric, that means most women would want my hu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 02:36 AM
4	Women face no significant penalty when dating in their 30s I didn't get married until I was 38. My husband is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD. He's also a Fulbright scholar and he's younger than me. I realize that I'm an outlier but it's not impossible. I actually have several friends that didn't get married until their thirties. I also have a few friends and a couple family members married to younger men. I had a few opportunities to get married earlier but I didn't want to marry those men. You could say my standards were too high, but here I am, marri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 07:22 PM
1	Is porn addiction a factor in how negatively women see the average man? It's a problem everywhere. Do you consume news from any eastern outlets? Have you actually researched the topic and it's effect on eastern countries? Saudia Arabia launched the Gulf's first web based treatment. India is trying sex education to keep children from getting addicted to porn. The middle east countries consume the most porn over any other countries in the world according to porn hub. Here are a few links but let me know if you want more because there are tons and I just did a quick Go…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 05:35 PM
5	Is porn addiction a factor in how negatively women see the average man? Many men that are addicted to porn cannot orgasm without porn, hence the addiction. They cannot get it up for a real woman, or if they do they cannot finish. There is a big difference between looking at porn sometimes and not being able to get off without it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/24 02:10 AM
2	Metal illness and loneliness is now a joke, glamorized by sexless teens. (Reposted) Friendship and relationships are important at every age, but they are especially significant for adolescents. They are just learning to shape their identity, developing their sense of place and belonging. They are learning social skills. It's an incredibly important time developmentally. https://www.arnoldpalmerhospital.com/content-hub/why-your-teenagers-friendships-are-more-important-than-you-realize https://personalexcellence.org/raising-worldchangers-blog/the-importance-of-teen-friendships#:~…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/24 06:18 PM
24	Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDs *intents and purposes /r/BoneAppleTea	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 10:18 PM
2	What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will change If the only way to get women is to be a redpilled Chad, and women only want the top 20% of men, how exactly is it that almost 70% of the men in the US are married? That doesn't include the men who are in relationships, dating, widowed, or divorced that also got women at some point in their lives.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/24 05:18 PM
5	What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will change 70% of men in the US are married. 70% aren't red pill chads. That doesn't even count the percentage that are in relationships and dating. That is the overwhelming majority. I'm going to be brutally honest here. You sound whiny and immature. You sound like you're worshiping "chads". Stop worrying about chads. Stop focusing on them. Life isn't fair. Some people are better looking than others. Some have more money. Focus on what you can control - your attitude.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/24 03:39 PM
15	What's the point of ditching the black/red pill when nothing will change Most of them don't do fine with women. Many of them lie about their success. If they are doing fine it's usually because they aren't honest with the women about their views. They are seeking out women with self esteem and emotional problems that they can easily manipulate. Attractive people will always have an easier time finding than unattractive people but that doesn't mean that they will be able to find a relationship. Being attractive doesn't automatically make you compatible with everyone.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/24 03:01 PM
2	There is often criticism targeted at women for dressing provocatively - sometimes at a moral level. What about men who do the same? "overwhelming majority of births to children are from never-married and unmarried women. " As of 2021 about 40% of births are to unmarried women. That is not an overwhelming majority. https://www.statista.com/statistics/276025/us-percentage-of-births-to-unmarried-women/#:~:text=This%20statistic%20depicts%20the%20percentage,has%20increased%20to%2040%20percent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 05:58 AM
4	Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low? You are correct that currently most of them are, however Lebanon, Tunisia, U.A.E, Bahrain, and Qatar are already at or below replacement value and most of the others are predicted to fall below replacement levels as well within the next 1-2 decades. They are dropping quickly. https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Total-fertility-rate-in-the-world-and-Arab-countries-1980-2050_tbl1_292346687	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 05:05 PM
7	Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low? Nordic countries have a high cost of living though, regardless of their high quality of life though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 03:03 PM
7	Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low? Women in those Muslim countries are having far less children now though. In many places, like Egypt for example, right now their Economy is so weak that many women are having to get get jobs to help support the family. The economy isn't weak because more women are working. They are working because the economy is weak. They have been struggling for a while. ETA: There is if course an increase in women who want to work because now they are actually allowed to in many places they weren't allowed to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 03:01 PM
5	Why do you think Western Birth Rates are so low? I think religion is a big factor. It used to be that many people did it for religious reasons. Children were seen as gifts from God and birth control was against the rules in many religions, especially the in the Catholicism. Now there has been a large shift away from religion so maybe not as many people feel obligated from a religious standpoint.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 02:41 PM
15	Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us? I've also have never even heard of a "go bag", at least not in this context. (I have one for work because I work in the medical field on call and travel with time constraints - so my colleagues and I have "go bags" packed in the locker room). I have no problem with prenups or paternity tests. My husband and I signed prenups. We both had assets going in. We don't have kids. I guess if a woman feels like she needs a go bag, that is her choice but she shouldn't feel upset about a man having a simil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 07:14 AM
7	My bf says I’m selfish and disrespectful. Am I overreacting? I want to do better. No.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/24 02:54 PM
–	If two guys go for a woman at the same time, what could you do to make her choose you? That's definitely not going to win in my book but I know everyone has different preferences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/24 06:45 PM
0	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD A vagina doesn't actually get looser from having sex. Not permanently anyway. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325890 https://www.health.com/condition/sexual-health/loose-vagina	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/24 06:13 PM
–	Which is easier, being a man or being a woman? What do you mean by "manlet"? Are you using it as a diminutive suffix or is that a typo? If you are using it as the diminutive form, you know how women feel. We also have to be hyper vigilant because keeping ourself safe is our own responsibility. Even women who are married and have a man to protect them aren't always with their spouse, and often their attacker is their spouse. Everyone is responsible for their own safety. I think that is why sometimes women feel intimidated when they are around…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/24 03:46 PM
3	Which is easier, being a man or being a woman? It's not just the middle east. 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. 1 in 4 women in the US have been victims of SEVERE physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime. 15 - 20% of women in the US have been victims of rape, depending which study you read. https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/#:~:text=Over%201%20in%203%20women,intimat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 08:20 PM
1	Which is easier, being a man or being a woman? Globally, 1 in 3 women experience physical violence or sexual violence. That isn't a small number or unheard of. https://www.who.int/news/item/09-03-2021-devastatingly-pervasive-1-in-3-women-globally-experience-violence Some women do live in war zones. However those women may not be the women that have it the worst because the men might be distracted by the war. In others, the war might exacerbate it. https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/most-dangerous-countries-for-women You are r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 06:46 PM
6	Which is easier, being a man or being a woman? I think the physically weaker is brought up because women are still preyed upon in many places and being physically weaker makes it more difficult to fight back. Even in the Western world there are areas that have a high rate of domestic and sexual abuse, not that it doesn't go both ways, but knowing that you're statistically physically weaker than the other half of the population can be quite intimidating for some people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 05:15 PM
5	Which is easier, being a man or being a woman? Depends where they live	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 05:07 PM
2	Men do not have high beauty standards There definitely is something to be said for having different tastes but the average women in the US in overweight (by medical standards), which is one of the things men complain about most. That alone puts those women above mid level since they are in great physical shape. ETA: over 30%, 1/3 are actually medically obese, not just overweight. Over 65% are overweight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 04:53 PM
23	Men do not have high beauty standards Right? I saw a post a while back where men were calling Lisa Bonet and Eva Mendez mids, as in mid level in looks. A surprisingly high number of men agreed to this. If those aren't high standards, I don't know what are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 01:22 AM
1	TV shows makes a comedy out of a 29 year old woman sleeping with a 17 year old boy. She gets pregnant and he is the bad guy! The key part you seem to be missing is the "16 or younger" part. The age of consent is 17 so it only applies to 16 and below.	/r/MensRights	02/02/24 07:47 AM
–	CMV-Men are more emotionally monogamous and attached than women The thought literally never even crossed my mind to worry that my ex talks shit about me. Why would I care what my ex talks about? I haven't seen him or spoken to him in almost 10 years. I've been married to the most awesome man I have ever known for 5 years. I couldn't care less what my ex talks about. Full stop. I am not sure if he is married or if he has a girlfriend or what. I don't know if he still lives in the same state. If he is still talking shit, let him. It's no skin off my back. It d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 06:42 AM
–	CMV-Men are more emotionally monogamous and attached than women If your boyfriend is always talking about his ex, even if it's negative, it means she is still on his mind. He is still thinking about her. He's not completely over her. He is overcompensating trying to show that he is. My exes don't even come into my mind to talk about. My husband has never once mentioned an ex except for the one time I asked about his previous relationship. He told me about it. That was that and I never heard about her again. I don't even know her name.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 06:01 AM
3	Society is finished, terminal stage They do have a high birth rate but they also have a lower chance of making it adulthood. Many just don't get the chance to grow old, dying early either in conflicts, or due to a struggling healthcare system that's been hampered by a 16 yr blockade imposed upon them. https://www.npr.org/2023/10/19/1206479861/israel-gaza-hamas-children-population-war-palestinians	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 03:13 PM
3	Society is finished, terminal stage So do I. I just helped organize a fundraiser Sunday that raised over $20,000 for them. I personally raised over $650. By calling them lucky, it seems like you have absolutely no idea what is going on over there. It's tone deaf at best. My husband is from Egypt. We have many friends from Palestine, both here in the states and some still trapped Palestine. We are trying to get them out of there. It not nice there. They aren't lucky to be there. People are actively trying to kill them right now. ET…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 06:03 AM
1	Society is finished, terminal stage You should move to Gaza then. I'm sure you'll enjoy it there since it's such a "healthy" society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 04:39 AM
2	Society is finished, terminal stage Asking for statistics doesn't mean they have decided anything. It means they want information and data to make an informed decision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 04:34 AM
4	Red Pill analysis of relationship power dynamics between men and women inevitably leads to supporting ‘traditionalism’ or ‘patriarchy’ as it only thing that can theoretically limit or destroy ‘womens power.’ Do you mean when the graduate from Harvard they are virgins or do you mean later in life? One reason for this statistic, if correct, could be because the average age of a Harvard student is lower than the average age of a prisoner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 04:21 AM
-1	What’s the hate with hijabi women? I can understand what you are saying but it's not really an equal comparison. In your scenario, medication kills people. It's the medication's fault. A Hijab doesn't oppress women. Men oppress women. So while it may be a symbol of a woman who is oppressed it's not the fault of the hijab itself. It's a great thing to be concerned for the women who are being forced to wear them. It's horrible and it's a perversion of the religion. Please just try to understand that some women are more comfortable …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 04:08 AM
2	What’s the hate with hijabi women? Not all Islamic women are under Shari'a law. Not all Islamic countries enforce Shari'a law. Not all Muslim women are forced to wear hijabs, some of them choose to. My husband is from Egypt and is Muslim. Some women in his family wear them and some don't. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely some Muslim women that are oppressed, like in Afghanistan. It's just that it's not a universal thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 02:27 AM
1	What’s the hate with hijabi women? Not all Islamic countries require women to wear hijab. Egypt for example, does not. My husband is from Egypt and is Muslim. Some members of his family wear them, some don't. It's personal preference there. The problem comes in places like Afghanistan where they are forced to wear them. It should be a choice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 02:22 AM
3	Why do so many female offenders get a boyfriend/husband easily? They find any of the other approximately 4 billion men on Earth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/24 01:58 PM
1	“I’ll take Anyone at this Point” I think people mean that having hobbies gets people out of the house and opens up opportunities to meet people. It's hard to meet someone sitting in your living room, man or women. Women have hobbies that overlap with men. That's where you want to start if you are looking to meat someone. Women play musical instruments, sing, go social dancing, take art classes like painting, glass blowing, making pottery, jewelry, making, cooking classes, gardening clubs, book clubs, join a co-ed softball or so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/24 03:16 AM
–	Women, Have all your straight male friends tried to sleep with you? Or do you think they would given the chance? In college one of my male friends actually came out and said he would try to sleep with me as soon as my boyfriend (also his friend) and I broke up. Many of my male friends had tried things before I was married. Now that I'm married and most of my male friends are married it doesn't really happen. I haven't had a single one try anything since I've been married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 08:59 PM
7	Odds are you won’t be your partner’s “sexist” or “best in bed” - and that’s okay This is probably true from the opposite side too. Most men don't know what to do in bed either. Many of those that bother to learn think the best way to learn is by watching porn, but many women don't like many of the things shown in porn. So basically the majority of the population has no idea what to do in bed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/24 07:35 AM
1	Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most men I'm obviously not growing up now though. I am an adult. I have been grown up for 20 years. I grew up before social media and online dating thankfully. I swim and I still dance regularly, both solo and with my husband. So I stay in shape that way, among other things. Also my friends and I take dance classes together. You seem to find it hard to believe that people can have friends and use the Internet at the same time, though I don't know why. Do you not have any friends? It seems like if you did…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 07:16 AM
0	Why do girls tend to arrange social groups in terms off attractiveness, whereas boys tend to do it in terms of interest? I think maybe younger girls do this. In my experience, older women don't really. After college it's been by social interest. I have taken several types of dance classes and participated in dance troupes. There is a whole community for that. This group overlaps a lot with the World music group in my city. I am friends with a lot of musicians because I participated in a middle eastern ensemble. I started a cross stitching group to make things for a fundraiser and it has turned into a weekly thing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 04:57 AM
5	Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most men You proved my point exactly 😂. Believe me or not, it doesn't make it any less true. I'm still married regardless of what believe. Many women are athletes growing up so it shouldn't be hard for you to believe that there are women that stay in shape as adults. I'm already very thankful for my husband but seeing what men say in this sub and who is left out there makes me so much more thankful that I don't have to date in today's market. It sounds like a shit show.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 03:40 AM
3	I think this is a good definition of a “high value man”. What do you think ladies? Such a good point. We don't all find the same men attractive. Like the Kardashian example. I wouldn't go near any of the men she has been with. She finds them high value. I find them low value. As for my husband, yes other women find him attractive. Strangers like waitresses and people in line at the coffee shop comment on how handsome he is. How sexy his accent is. Etc. My friends and sisters comment the same. Sometimes it's amusing to see the little girls on campus flirting with him and thinki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 11:03 PM
2	Women, how often do you make a guy (you like) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side? Why? My husband is almost 10 years younger than I am and it's never been a problem. We didn't even know until we had been dating for about 5 months. It had just never come up. Then he had a birthday. I originally assumed he was a few years older than he actually was, because he was working on his PhD and is really mature. He thought I was younger than he is because I look really young. We found out the age difference, laughed, and carried on. It didn't change a thing. We have some friends who ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 10:24 PM
9	Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most men I'm here because I find it almost unbelievable that some men actually believe the things they say here. It is so far away from my personal experience. It's interesting to me to see the how the other half lives, if you will. I'm married. I am not here because I'm "struggling to find a mate". I never used online dating. I am told quite often that I'm very beautiful. Not just by my husband. I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape. Considering that I have a happy marriage, successful career, a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 09:25 PM
7	Women on Reddit do not represent normal, every day girls and so the dialogue and “blue pill” opinions here are irrelevant to most men Yes, this is me. I'm married. I've never used online dating. I've never had a one night stand or FWB. I'm often told that I'm very beautiful. I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape. We have a large social circle and are quite active in our community and local music scene, as well as our respective professional associations. I'm just very interested in these topics and find it interesting that so many men say it's impossible to find women who will not cheat or who are not shallow, while I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 08:34 PM
1	Do women in traditionalist countries have better morals than western women? It depends on the woman. There are women in the West that have high morals. There are women in the East that have low morals. I was just reading an article yesterday about how more Muslim women are cheating on their husbands, usually arranged marriages. Indian women too. Apparently Thailand has one of the highest rates of infidelity. But on average women have more sexual freedom in Western countries. That doesn't mean every western woman is a slut. I don't know a single person that has participa…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/24 06:19 AM
4	Women wearing revealing clothing That's not how it works though. The moisture cannot be simultaneously trapped and evaporated. It works by air flowing through the fabric and evaporating the moisture, or by fabric wicking the moisture off of the skin and transferring it to the outer most layer, which is exposed to the air, which then acts to evaporate the moisture.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 05:47 AM
7	Women wearing revealing clothing Are you aware of what "trapping" means? It's the opposite of evaporating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 05:32 AM
10	Women wearing revealing clothing Except that you are wrong about how sweat works. Sweat will not evaporate if it's "trapped." It will only evaporate if it has direct contact with the atmosphere, airflow. Either the skin is exposed and sweat evaporates directly, there is airflow through breathable material such as cotton, or the sweat is wicked off of the skin with "moisture wicking" materials and evaporates from the upper levels of the fabric that are exposed to the atmosphere. Think of trapping moisturize in a jar or a sealed …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 05:13 AM
1	Prenup a red flag? Well I use the term take, as in trying to get her share. Regardless, in Texas, she is not entitled to any portion of the house. ETA: A house purchased before marriage is considered separate property, and the owning spouse retains full ownership in the event of a divorce. https://familytexas.com/community-property-and-home-ownership/#:~:text=For%20example%2C%20if%20you%20ask,the%20event%20of%20a%20divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/24 08:57 PM
1	Prenup a red flag? Depends what state you're in. In my state, if you own the house before marriage, it can't be taken in the divorce. I have a friend who is going through a divorce. He owned the house before he got married. It's off the table, not that she didn't try though. Only the assets he accumulated after being married count. Thankfully.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/24 04:41 PM
–	Prenup a red flag? It can. You can have it include anything you want as long as both parties agree to it and sign it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/24 04:29 PM
1	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? A lot of women wait to get married until later in life, especially now days. Many want to finish college and get their career going first. Many women don't want to settle for the first man who asks them. I know several women who got married later in life, in their 30s, and they are far from rejects. They have the healthier and happier relationships than the women I knew who got married right after high school. They are the most successful and very beautiful and probably have fewer flaws because …	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 01:43 PM
1	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? I think Disney where "love is all you need" type of stuff is Bullshit but the actual act of falling in love is very real. Although I think many people confuse lust for love, especially when young and still in school. I'm so happy for you that you're finally enjoying life though.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 01:24 PM
1	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? You keep saying I imply most people cheat. Where? I never said that. I said his marriage would most likely be resentful. I say that because he can't just go buy a bride from another culture he knows nothing about and think she is going to automatically love him. He was acting like cheating and divorce don't exist among Eastern and arranged marriages. They do. It's a fact. You are correct when you say every single culture cheats. Not every single person cheats though. There are terrible people in…	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 04:20 AM
2	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? The survey was conducted on 75,321 respondents in 10 cities. Women talk. Their friends will cover for them. One example I know of was a friend let her friend use her apartment (while her husband is working) to meet her boyfriend so that from an outside perspective it looks like she is going to see her friend. They arrive at different times and stuff. One of our male friends was seeing a married girl once and he would pay off the doorman of the building not to tell. As long as the doorman was get…	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 01:50 AM
2	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms Try this one. It is working for me.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 01:20 AM
1	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? You're welcome	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 07:24 PM
5	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? Where did I say all arranged marriages are like this? He thinks he can just go pick an eastern women he doesn't know, and she will be a loyal servant to him, which is ridiculous. You may find this interesting... According to a survey by the times of India, over 70% of Indian women believe cheating is not immoral or a sin. 80% of respondents were in arranged marriages. https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms Muslim women are also che…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 07:15 PM
1	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? There aren't really scientific studies or but I found a few things. The Times of India article did a study and found 76% of Indian women didn't think cheating was immoral, 61% of men didn't think so, while 80% of the total respondents were in arranged marriages. There is also an article about how Muslim women are cheating more. https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms https://www.teamblind.com/post/Are-women-from-arranged-marriages-l…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 06:56 PM
7	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? Yes. They do. My husband is Muslim, from an Islamic country. They have very strict rules. However humans will human and find a way around these rules. The men and women both are very good at sneaking around because they have to be. They get very harsh legal punishment for getting caught, especially the women. We have lived there before. I obviously spend a lot of time with the women. Behind closed doors with the hijabs off, many are very similar to Western women. There are some that actually bel…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 06:33 PM
14	The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage? My husband is from a culture that traditionally has arranged marriages. He married me to get away from it. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes the parents do a good job considering who would be compatible but most often it's just about the money and you're left married to someone you don't even like very much. There is cheating in these cultures too but it is much more discreet. It's possible you could find someone you will actually love and who loves you back, but most likely you will…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 04:13 PM
5	What are your "sexual standards" for a man? Most importantly I care that he cares about my needs too. I take care of him, he takes care of me. He listens to feedback. And I really care about hygiene. I can't say that enough. Size: not so big that it hurts, so probably no more than 8 in (I'm estimating because I haven't actually busted out a ruler) My husband is right on the cusp, some positions do hurt and he can't penetrate the entire length which sucks for him. Big enough in diameter that I can feel it. Not so big that it hurts. Time: I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/24 06:08 PM
1	Women tell men how to be attractive not sexually attractive and men struggle because of it Perhaps because women don't have as uniform of preferences as men do. They tend to have more of a type. For example my sister loves Jason Momoa, but he does absolutely nothing for me. I like Benedict Cumberbatch and my sister isn't into him. We both like Cillian Murphy but our friend doesn't. She likes Kim Coates and I'm not a fan. I could go on but you hopefully get the point. There isn't one man that I can say all my friends agree on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/24 01:13 AM
–	The Past Does Matter. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way, as long as you aren't a hypocrite. Were you ever or will you ever be promiscuous? Did you have a hoe phase? If so, why is it ok for you but not for her? If not, cool. There is nothing wrong with sticking to your values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 08:08 PM
2	“Women/men aren’t a monolith” Most men also want a conventionally attractive woman. People are attracted to attractive people. They will generally pick the most attractive person that they can get. That varies from person to person and attractiveness is subjective but there are common traits that are conventionally attractive. It's not rocket science. If he has the choice, a man is not going to pick the ugliest woman, he will pick the most attractive he can get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 07:55 PM
21	"You have to work 10 times harder than your grandfathers for women 10 times worse." My grandmothers both had to drop out of high school to work to help provide for their families too. My paternal grandmother never went to school past the 8th grade but she was one of the smartest women I've ever known. She worked in meat packing plant and on the family farm. She then got married to my grandpa when he got home from serving in WW2 and had kids. She worked on her new family's farm, helping to plant and harvest crops, tending the chickens, milking the cows, selling milk and eggs, te…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 07:53 PM
3	Sexual Selection in Men and Women Some women. Not all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 01:00 AM
3	The vast majority of men should NOT be performing oral sex It can be passed through any sexual contact, even close skin to skin contact. Vaginal and anal sex are the most common modes of transmission. It can also be passed from man to women if she is performing oral sex on the man. Just some info for you since you said you didn't know. Source: https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm#:~:text=You%20can%20get%20HPV%20by,have%20no%20signs%20or%20symptoms.	/r/MensRights	18/01/24 12:34 AM
5	Getting commitment after sex We first had sex after about 6 months of talking and dating. Decided to be monogamous about a month later. We moved in together after about a year later, and then got married about another 1.5 years later. I didn't pressure him. He will commit when he is ready. He told me he didn't want anything serious because he was still trying to finish his PhD and was very busy with that. I was just supportive of him with that and understanding. Then once we were seeing each other a while and really connect…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/24 08:15 AM
2	Do men even like women anymore? You mean like as heads of state? The US has never had a female president, but 59 other countries have. https://www.statista.com/chart/amp/3994/which-countries-have-had-a-female-leader/ https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2016/06/politics/women-world-leaders/	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 07:35 AM
3	Do men even like women anymore? Practically everyone you see around you was developed, delivered, and raised by women. From the scientist and engineer, to the dude at the machine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 04:00 AM
9	Prenup fights make me want to reconsider marriage This man is not trustworthy. He is lying and manipulating already. He is not high value. Don't put up with this. You deserve someone who will stand up for you, be honest with you, and who respects you. He does put any value on a SAHM. There is no reason to waste time with a person like this.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/24 03:33 PM
3	Women who haven’t settled and are over 30, how do you feel? I didn't get married until I was 38. I had several chances prior to that but none of them were who I really wanted. I can't imagine how unhappy I would be if I had settled for any of the men that tried before I met my husband. Prior to getting meeting my husband I I had some bad relationships and I was single for a while and I will tell you that I was much happier to be single than in the bad relationships. Settling for someone isn't fair to either person. Let them find someone that really truly…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/01/24 05:21 AM
6	I dont like dating promiscous men I would not want one personally. Especially if it's a man that goes on about how he doesn't want a woman with a high body count, I don't care for that double standard. It is just a turn off to me.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/24 09:05 PM
7	Should fat women date? Changing your diet. Even plastic surgery won't work to keep you thin unless you change your diet. You will just put weight back on after the surgery if you don't change your habits. Many doctors, any good doctor, will tell you this. Change the portions you eat. Learn to cook or at least prepare your own food, even if it's just making salads or sandwiches. Eat yogurt, oatmeal, low sugar cereal, fruits, nuts, air popped popcorn, salads, sandwichs on whole grain bread, red lentil pasta instead of r…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/24 08:42 PM
3	Should fat women date? That all depends on you. How hard are you willing to work? You have time.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/24 04:32 AM
3	Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix dating Anyone is allowed to have sex with whomever they want. What I was saying was that women with a low body count are likely having better sex, and more sex, than those with a high body count. I am married. I have never had a one night stand. I have always been in LTR and have a low body count. However, I have sex with my husband often. Hundreds of times. So even though I haven't been with hundreds of people I've experienced a lot of sex, and it's extremely satisfying because we know what each other…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/24 07:35 PM
12	Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix dating Most women I know say the sex is exponentially better in a LTR. I've seen it echoed on this sub repeatedly. I saw on commenter giver an analogy a while back that was something like this... men always complain that they are starving and that women have plenty to eat. They can eat whenever they want. And women say "but all we have to eat is literal dog shit. We don't want to eat dog shit." And then men say, "yeah but you could if you wanted to."There were lots of upvotes and other comments agreein…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/24 04:06 PM
–	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? You asked how she was ever an asshole. I'm just telling you where she acts like an asshole. I don't think she deserved all the hate she got and it's insane that Anna Gunn received death threats but you can't say that her character never acted like an asshole, regardless of reasoning. One could say everyone in the show had reasons for acting like an ass to some degree which I think was kinda the point. You speak of Walt's lack of interest but how could he be interested in that? There are some men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 02:23 PM
1	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? I don't think most people handwave his actions. Most agree that he is seriously messed up. Convincing the audience to root for the villain is pretty classic antihero writing. Skylar isn't as bad as people make her put to be but she definitely has her issues as well. I don't really agree that the hand job thing was normal. I mean, it probably is but only if there is a problem to begin with. I can't imagine doing that to my husband or how upset he would be if I did. Especially if it was his birthd…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 05:27 AM
1	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? Also, in my other reply I forgot to say that Walt adopted the Heisenberg alias in Season 1. Jane wasn't until season 2, neither was the assault in the kitchen or the death of Combo. All of his terrible behavior comes after he started cooking meth, which was after his 50th birthday. The question people had from the pilot was why Skylar was already treating him so coldly when he hadn't actually done anything wrong yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 02:55 AM
1	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? None of that happened before he "broke bad". His 50th birthday party was when Hank showed him pictures of a bust and Walt realized how much money could be had buy cooking meth. That part of the pilot was set up to show that she was distant from Walt before he ever started his life of crime. By all accounts he was fine before then and was working two jobs to take care of them. It all went downhill after his 50th birthday when he went on that ride along with Hank. In season 3 Skylar tells Walt "I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 01:53 AM
1	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? And this was before he had become Oppenheimer. He was a good man, by all accounts, that worked hard to take care of his family. She had no reason to be so cold to him. He wasn't already a drug kingpin and lying to her regularly. If he had been, it would be more understandable that she would distance herself but there seems to be no reason that she treats him poorly in the beginning, if I remember correctly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 04:16 PM
1	When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too? I think the scene in the first episode when she gave him a half-assed hand job while checking her online bidding, on his birthday, turned a lot of people off on Skylar from the beginning. Then she did eventually start cheating on him, which if I remember correctly she had done before. I'm not saying Walt was an Angel but they made her out as someone that was cold, unaffectionate, and nagging towards her husband who worked 2 jobs to support the family. Up until he "broke bad" he had been a good m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/24 10:10 AM
2	Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating? Yes. Kids can't even stay home alone until they are teenagers and don't go anywhere alone until college basically. I was a latch-key kid so from the age of 7 I got myself up for school, made my lunch, got to the bus and went to school, and then got home again all by myself because my parents were both working and left very early in the morning, and my siblings were all older and had left the house by then. I could ride my bike several miles to town alone to meet my friends by time I was 9. We wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/23 10:55 PM
2	Why aren't large age gap relationships the norm? No there isn't, for most people. Your previous comment just made it seem like you have something against women over 30. I was just curious how you would treat your wife once she was over 30, if your attitude would change or if you would treat her poorly because of it. There are some men that are rude to their wives just because they had the audacity to age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 07:39 PM
11	Why aren't large age gap relationships the norm? Ok. You just seem to really dislike women in their 30s so I thought I would ask. Will you treat her the same as she ages?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 04:05 PM
10	Why aren't large age gap relationships the norm? What are you going to do in 5 years when your wife is in her 30s?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 03:54 PM
0	The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening. We were talking about friend groups. We were not talking about meeting new people. I asked what resources women take from friend groups. You replied that it's hard to plan things they like to do, presumably for the friend group. Otherwise, if you're speaking only about meeting new people, how is it affecting the group? It would only be affecting you. However, you can meet new people at most of the places I mentioned. Bars, clubs, parks, beaches, public places, etc are where one meets people. Bas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 06:40 PM
1	The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening. Yes. I am in their wedding pictures. We still hang out all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 03:22 PM
2	The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening. You need to hang out with different women (or men) then. Why not go to restaurants, bars, clubs, movies, parks, bowling, laser tag, paintball, museums, hookah bars, local live music, festivals, sporting events, etc.? Maybe it's a generational thing? Or perhaps it's a regional thing. I grew up in a rural farming area where plenty of girls liked to go out and shoot guns and drink. But even if you don't have girls that want to shoot there were so many other options it's not that difficult. We never…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 03:20 PM
1	The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening. My best friend married the guy I introduced her to. She said she wouldn't have gone out with him if I hadn't "talked him up" because he can come off as being a bit arrogant at first if you don't know his sense of humor but I told her this and to trust me. They been together for over a decade now. Often times set ups are just about vetting someone, especially for beautiful women. My friend is a gorgeous woman who works as a biochemist and dances tango competitively. She is around men all the time…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 02:40 PM
1	The Rise Of Male Subcultures is Disheartening. May I ask what resources women are sucking the group dry of, and how?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 02:31 PM
–	For those of you who think women can get anything for free? I have had strangers pick up my bill and say nothing before. While I was dressed professionally too, not for a club or anything like that. It happens. We're not gold diggers, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 05:27 AM
10	This entire sub is based on one thing and one thing alone. 90% of men have to put in work to get laid and 90% of women don’t need to do anything other than show up. That's what a lot women are doing but some men, especially here, have an issue with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/23 05:16 AM
8	he doesn’t want me to solo travel and say it’s wrong. now i want to end relationship My husband doesn't mind if I travel alone, however, traveling over Valentine's Day is where this is wrong I think. He probably wants to spend that time with you. There is also something to be said about the new interest in makeup that he might think you're cheating as that is usually considered a sign. If you really want to go explore new cities talk to him about it and do it at a time that he agrees with. Asure him that he is the only one you want. The reason my husband and I can travel indepen…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/12/23 03:51 PM
1	Why is there a shame in expressing your masculinity? Do you really think football players are having a hard time getting girls? I just use football as an example but women don't mind aggressive sports. It's a healthy outlet for aggression. I don't know what to say about the beard thing. Do you look attractive with it or homeless because there is a big difference. Many women find facial hair incredibly attractive. I don't know what the link between beards and aggression is, I've never heard this. It largely depends on your female friends what you c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/23 02:41 PM
2	Is 3 years younger too big of an age difference? Don't worry about it. My husband is 10 years younger than I am. He is from a culture that frowns upon this as well but it honestly hasn't ever been an issue. We were seeing each other for 4 months before we found out the age difference because it just never came up until he had a birthday and I asked how old he was turning. He told me and I asked how old he thought I was. He guessed 12 years younger than I really am. I told him my real age and we laughed. Then we moved on. That's it. We get alon…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/12/23 04:32 PM
3	Worried about potential red flag body count He didn't do very well at planning this then. He should've been trying to find someone to settle down with years ago if that was his goal. Did he just now decide this so he is trying to rush and force it with the first person he met since the decision? That would be my question if I were in your position. Does he really want you or does he just want someone to fit into his timeline? Can he really know you that well this soon? I'm not saying it isn't possible, it's just something I would really w…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/23 05:49 PM
5	Worried about potential red flag body count So he wants 2 kids by the time he's 35 but hasn't made any attempt until almost 30 to settle down? That's 5-6 years to meet someone he wants to be in a relationship with, date long enough to know he wants to marry that person, get married, and then have the children. Let's hope there are no problems or delays trying to conceive. It's healthier for women to wait at least 2 years between pregnancies to fully heal, so the first one should be born by the time he is 32 so she can get pregnant again w…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/23 04:11 AM
1	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? The person I replied to expected there to be fewer white men than there. There are more white men than they were expecting there to be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/23 07:15 PM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/ https://www.yourtango.com/2017299689/15-signs-youre-single-married-mom It does sound like you would be doing women a favor to stick to prostitutes. It's no skin off an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 10:48 PM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds They look worse to you. When you're older you might not feel the same way. For example when I was in my twenties, other twenty year olds were attractive to me. Now they look like babies and I can't find them attractive. Not to mention their immaturity is a turn off. I know a lot of older guys with money. My husband works in oil and I'm a biotechnologist so our circles have a lot of money. I've heard a lot of them say they wouldn't want to date really young women (like a twenty year old,) they ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 06:17 PM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds You are making a lot of sweeping generalizations. Not all women are that shallow and superficial. Many women make their own money. In fact, there are an increasing number of women now that make more money than their husbands. My best friend supports her husband and it doesn't matter to her at all. Another good friend of mine is the primary earner. Several of my coworkers out earn their husbands. One had problems with a boyfriend because he was insecure about it but that wasn't her issue. I reali…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 05:52 PM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds I guess I was speaking in a general sense and not about you in particular. So while you haven't experienced any of those benefits personally, they do exist. Did you only try to date the same women that knew you before and after? You're right if they didn't want you before you were a surgeon, don't bother with them. But unless you tried to date every woman on the planet before you were a surgeon, you can't say none of them wanted you. If you believe women are a monolithic hive mind, you need to g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 09:44 AM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds The question was about what benefits a wife provides that a prostitute doesn't. Not whether or not you can get a wife. If a man has a wife she is probably providing more than a prostitute. Not everyone has a good wife, but the people in good marriages are getting a lot more benefits. There are some people that just shouldn't be married though. If you automatically write everyone off before you even give them a chance, then of course you will never find anyone. You are probably better off with a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 05:59 AM
1	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds I think if you asked most older men if they still find their wife or other women their age to be beautiful their answer will be yes. Sure, he still finds those young women attractive too but that doesn't mean he thinks older women are ugly. Most people's taste in attractiveness ages with them. So while younger people don't necessarily find older people attractive yet, older people find other people their own age attractive. My husband is 10 years younger than I am. Everyone always thinks he is o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 04:18 AM
3	The red pill men on youtube have 30 and 40 YEAR OLD WOMEN terrified of aging. Can we please normalize older women being just as beautiful as the 20 something year olds How so? Other than sex, what is the prostitute providing? In a good marriage a wife provides so much more than just sex. Love, intimacy, companionship, friendship support, partnership. A confidant. Someone who literally gives birth to your children and raises them. Not to mention She probably cleans and washes laundry. There's a good chance she cooks. There are so many things. If the only thing you think a wife provides is sex, marriage just isn't for you. Edit: words	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 03:44 AM
3	Advice on how to handle issues with husband It's definitely time to seek counseling, if not together, at least by yourself to learn how to cope with these feelings. Can you think of any way you could get through to him the seriousness of this? Do you think he would care if you do get him to understand? If the answer is no, I hate to say it, but it may be time to think about getting out of this marriage and finding someone who will actually participate in a partnership with you. There is no point being married to someone who gives you noth…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/23 03:11 AM
4	Advice on how to handle issues with husband I'm sorry you are going through this. I have had some medical issues too so I know how much of a struggle it can be to deal with. It must be so difficult to go through without any support from your husband. I'm guessing there is no way he would participate in couples counseling? Do you think he realizes how bad it actually is for you, or do you think he thinks you are just nagging about something stupid?	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/23 02:04 AM
6	Advice on how to handle issues with husband There is such a thing a single married parent. There is a difference between serving your husband and being treated as a maid/mother/hired hand. I serve my husband and treat him like a king because he treats me like a queen in return. He helps so much and is so attentive and affectionate even though he is so busy. There is no excuse for your husband not to prioritize his family and his household other than immaturity and laziness. It sounds like possibly his parents never taught him how to do an…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/12/23 01:55 AM
2	Why do women never blame Married women for their persistent support of the GOP and the Pro Life Movement like they do sexless/dateless men? Do you have any examples of what you're talking about? I haven't heard society make those claims. I've heard conservatives as a whole get blamed by society, especially conservative lawmakers. They do happen to be mostly men but seem to be mostly married. I'm sure there are some women who have alluded to what you're saying but it's not the majority of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/23 02:57 PM
15	Why do women never blame Married women for their persistent support of the GOP and the Pro Life Movement like they do sexless/dateless men? The people on this sub arguing about it are male though. So that is who we respond to. If there were conservative women here I would argue with them too. There just aren't that many conservative women posting here so you don't see it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/23 04:57 AM
1	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? I don't necessarily think it's going to be exactly proportionally representative, but someone was asking why there are more white guys. It seems pretty reasonable to think that a survey answered by people from countries with a lot of white people would have a lot of white people participating, no? That's all I'm saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/23 04:39 AM
8	Are women turned off more by guys being okay with their pasts than they let on? Yeah I find that really strange as well. My husband and I never discuss that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/23 06:08 AM
3	Grey’s Anatomy perfectly captures how women perceive and evaluate men Just FYI, it should be "caught" not "catched." I speak one other language and I'm learning a third and I always appreciate when someone points out my mistakes so I can learn the correct way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/23 05:54 AM
–	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? Well my experience is anecdotal but the demographics of my city are factual, as are those of many other cities. I live in a very big city with a large and well known university whose student population is only 36% white, and 44% male. Many people meet their partners in college. Many women want college educated men. In my city the majority of men in college are not white so it makes sense that more women are starting to date POC instead. I know that it's not that way everywhere but it is becoming…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 11:00 PM
–	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? That's why I said it's only my experience and not everyone's. My point in sharing it is to show that POC are becoming the larger portion of the population in many areas and the demographics are changing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 09:00 PM
–	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? Yes, the people who took the poll had internet service.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 08:23 PM
–	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? I don't know how accurate this is, but this poll says that it's mostly white men. https://www.adl.org/resources/blog/online-poll-results-provide-new-insights-incel-community	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 08:17 PM
–	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? Yeah, I don't know where the disconnect is exactly, I just know my personal preference and that of my friends, family, colleagues, etc. I know that most of them prefer non-white men. In my area, POC tend to be the higher educated ones. In my husband's PhD program for petroleum engineering, there were only 2 white guys out of about 35-40. The other graduate engineering programs have similar demographics. The med school is only about 34% white and 48% male. The entire college is only about 36% whi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 08:09 PM
6	What is your take on the PPD survey/demographic results? It's probably just a demographics thing. The majority of the population of the US is white. The majority of the people posting are from the US. So it kinda fits. Also, it depends on the woman. Some women like white men, some don't. I am a white woman who is married to an Arab man. I know a lot of women attracted to POC. It may not be the norm but it's not unheard of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/23 06:23 PM
10	Are assumptions around women based on lack of exposure? There are way more women than there are content creators. In the US alone there are approximately 125 million adult women. As of Nov 22, the most recent I could find, there were 3 million content creators worldwide on Only fans. https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/LFE046221 https://www.variety.com/2023/digital/news/onlyfans-creator-earnings-fiscal-year-2022-1235703824/amp/	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/23 03:03 PM
11	Are assumptions around women based on lack of exposure? What makes you say that? As of Nov 2022 there were 3 million only fans content creators, World wide. There are about 167 million females in the US and about 75% are over the age of 18, so approx 125 million adults. Even if every single content creator was in the US, 3 million is only 2.4% of 125 million. Several countries allow people to be content creators though so the US is not the only source of that 3 million.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/23 02:52 PM
4	CMV: Most young guys struggle in dating because of the society and time we live in, not because of themselves The majority of children do have fathers in the home. https://www.statista.com/chart/21655/share-of-children-living-with-single-parents-worldwide/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2019/12/12/u-s-children-more-likely-than-children-in-other-countries-to-live-with-just-one-parent/ ETA: Even the country with the highest percentage, the US, only has about 25% single parent homes. 25% is not a majority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/23 05:00 AM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. "I do love how you ignore the woman's side of the data." How did I ignore the data? I didn't ignore either side of the data. The first part of my reply was verbatim quoted from the source you provided. 46% is less than half (half is 50% of 100%), which is less than the majority (majority is the larger number) of 54% of women who either do not think a man should pay or don't care if a man pays. 46% is still a large amount of women who want men to pay which is exactly what I said, and why I said b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/23 05:23 PM
1	The reasons for women to want marriage and children are often outweighed by the reasons not to, despite children being necessary for society as a whole "The resources required to test 100 pregnant women and testing 10000 are different, you cannot test a large population in the same way you would test a smaller one." What tests are you talking about? MMR is determined by stats taken from death certificates and other data. There are no tests needed. Reporting those stats is the same regardless of population size. Do you have any proof of what you are saying? Smaller populations and territories don't seem to have anything to do with it. There have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/23 12:00 AM
1	The reasons for women to want marriage and children are often outweighed by the reasons not to, despite children being necessary for society as a whole "geriatric pregnancies and the large US population" The MMR is a ratio, per 100,000. The difference in population is accounted for. Every other developed country is also having an increase in geriatric pregnancies. In fact, the US is still at the lower end of the average age of first birth compared to most other developed countries. https://www.oecd-ilibrary.org/sites/9d985dd0-en/index.html?itemId=/content/component/9d985dd0-en#:~:text=In%202016%2C%20mean%20ages%20at,%2C%20Greece%2C%20Italy%20an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 04:01 PM
3	The reasons for women to want marriage and children are often outweighed by the reasons not to, despite children being necessary for society as a whole Globally, maternal mortality has decreased 43 percent since 1990; the United States is the only developed country where it has gone up. Why are the preventable deaths not being prevented as they are in other developed countries? Why are women in the US getting more preeclampsia, infections, and blood clots than women in countries with lower quality health care? Several studies have found that black women have poorer outcomes even with socioeconomic and educational parity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 03:32 AM
4	The reasons for women to want marriage and children are often outweighed by the reasons not to, despite children being necessary for society as a whole CDC data show that Black women are two to three times more likely to die from pregnancy-related complications than white women, with most of the maternal deaths being preventable. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2021/maternal-mortality-rates-2021.htm https://publichealth.jhu.edu/2023/solving-the-black-maternal-health-crisis ETA: also, you mentioned in a previous comment that maternal mortality rates were calculated using any death within one month which in not correct. Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 11:20 PM
2	What is your experience with women who earn significantly more than their partners/husbands? It largely depends on the hospital. Level one trauma centers in a large metro areas often require at least one on staff at all times due to the high probabilty of patients needing emergency surgery coming in several times per "shift". It will depend how often they are needed on average if they are staffed or just on call. Serious car accidents, shootings, stabbings, etc happen at all hours and happen pretty frequently in large cities. Most hospitals are not given the level one trauma rating so t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/23 02:40 PM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. Egypt, Lebanon, Jordan, Turkey, Morocco, Bahrain, UAE, Tunisia, Turkey for example. There are places within those countries that are more traditional and conservative but it's not forced by law. Yes, Arab and middle eastern countries still suffer a lot of misogyny but many Arab countries allow women to get educated, have careers, vote, own property, choose who they do or don't marry, choose what to wear (modestly), go out alone, have bank accounts, drive ect. They are not treated as second class…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 11:14 PM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. If you had actually read your own source carefully, you would see that it's mostly men who think that men should pay. Less than half of women think that men should pay. From your source below the pie chart... "As you can see in the chart above, nearly two-thirds of men (63%) think that the man should take care of the check on a first date. Women don’t agree. Less than half of the women in the study (46%) think that paying for the date is the guy’s responsibility." I've lived and worked in 7 stat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 03:05 PM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. In you're experience. In many other people's experience it is. Perhaps it's the type of women you're dating or some other demographic that is making your experience that way. There are millions of women. Both types are common. Women don't all behave the same exact way. Women who have good paying jobs are probably more likely to offer to split than a woman living paycheck to paycheck. Culture may affect their attitude about it, as well where they where brought up. There are many variables.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 01:15 AM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. You can't really say it isn't common just because of your own experience. There are men and women saying they experience both in this thread. Perhaps it's the types of women you are dating, or some other demographics or factors contributing to your experience being different from other people's. It's almost as if different people have different experiences. Even though I don't know many women who demand the men pay, I know that they exist so I won't say it's uncommon. It's also not uncommon for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 02:53 PM
2	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. In many Arab countries that is true in a lot of ways, but where My husband is from they are treated mostly like women are in the US with the exception of how they dress. They don't have to cover their hair (if they don't want to) but they have to dress pretty modestly. My husband's sister is a dentist. His sister-in-law is a biochemist. I was just pointing out that his comment that foreign women split the bill isn't exactly accurate. There are many foreign women that don't. US women aren't the o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 12:22 AM
7	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. It's not normal in all Arab countries. Not where my husband is from. Women have their own careers and money just like here. His sister is a dentist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 12:04 AM
1	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. Most of the women I know in the US offer to split the bill on dates. They don't want to feel like they owe the man anything. I offered to pay on the first date with my now husband and he actually got offended because he is from an Arab country where women would never offer to pay. He thought it meant I thought he was too cheap or broke to pay. I had to explain that in my culture it's pretty normal for the woman to pay, because in my experience it is. Interesting that it's different for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 11:20 PM
3	The best way for men to weed out the women only interested in free meals and using men is to split the bill. In many Arab countries it's seen as an insult to offer to split the bill. My now husband is Arab and I offered to split the bill on our first date and he was actually offended. I had to explain that in my culture in the US, it is normal for women to pay and it doesn't mean that I think he is cheap or broke.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 11:15 PM
13	Red pill traits but no luck with women help You should get some hobbies that would allow you to meet people. There are so many to choose from. Take some cooking classes. Go to dance classes. Learn to play an instrument and/or get involved in your local live music scene (any genre). Take to painting classes or make pottery or jewelry - something artistic. Join a gardening club. Or a book club. Or a bicycle club. Learn a new language. Try different sports than you're already involved in like volleyball or softball that tend to have a lot of…	/r/ExRedPill	30/10/23 02:01 AM
10	Double standards are valid since... men sleep with women they would never date and women sleep with men they can never date. It actually happens quite a bit that men want more of a relationship than women do. I have a couple of friends that complain that they can't find a man that just wants sex. The men end up falling in love with them and they have to stop having sex with the guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/23 06:51 PM
1	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond I'm sorry. That must be hard. If he loved you, you would probably know. If you're happy that's great, but it would be hard for a lot of people. Love isn't as shallow as you're making it out to be. I think there are times when someone really lets themselves that they may start becoming physically unattractive to their partner but simple aging isn't usually the thing that does it because everyone ages.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 11:47 PM
2	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond I didn't need to. I preferred to. There is a big difference. Two non-foreign men proposed to me, with rings and all. Several others were in love with me over the years, and I could have married them. I just didn't want them. You say foreign as if it's some sort of disadvantage? You just can't comprehend that some women aren't racist? You can't fathom that a foreigner could possibly be preferable to a white man? Or what? Do you know how prestigious a Fulbright scholarship is? Companies Worldwide …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 10:14 PM
1	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond So the man you love doesn't actually love you back and is just using your body while it's young? Locking down is a strange way to refer to it. My husband is with me because he wants to be, he doesn't have to be. He could leave whenever he wants. He loves me. He values me as a person and what I contribute. He thinks I'm beautiful and tells me so all the time. He has told me he thinks I'm more beautiful now than ever before. He doesn't want some little girl. My value doesn't drop in his eyes. It h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 05:28 PM
3	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond I had a lot of options twenties but I didn't want any of them. I still had a lot of options in my thirties and I found the perfect one for me so I'm incredibly happy I waited instead of settling. Many of my friends waited until their thirties actually. I think it's different for everyone. Sometimes you meet the person for you in preschool and sometimes you don't find them until much later in life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 03:19 PM
3	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond I married in my thirties because I waited for the man I wanted instead of settling for the men that wanted to marry me in my twenties. My husband is the best husband I could imagine. He is the most kind, handsome, and intelligent man I know. He's a Fulbright scholar from Egypt with a PhD in Petroleum engineering from one of the best universities in the world, so money will never be an issue. He speaks three languages. He's an amazing cook. He loves music and dancing. He treats me like a queen so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 03:10 PM
2	Thoughts on “the wall” and beyond So you've never been in love?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 03:01 PM
–	Men scaremonger women about being old and alone because that is their fear It sounds like they do need help. They need help to learn how to stand on their own two feet and stop being dependent on someone else for their own happiness. Co-dependency is not a healthy thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 04:16 AM
–	Men scaremonger women about being old and alone because that is their fear So you're saying men just kill themselves instead of taking medication? Seems dramatic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 04:04 AM
–	Men scaremonger women about being old and alone because that is their fear The suicide rate for men is about 3x higher than that of women. It has been increasing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 02:47 AM
–	Men scaremonger women about being old and alone because that is their fear My husband is 9 years younger than I am. I know it's not the norm but it does happen. We happen to know two married couples that are close friends of ours, where the women are older and there is a large difference. One is a 10 year difference and the other is 20 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/23 02:29 AM
1	Q4W: If women are afraid of getting attacked on dates, why not go for smaller guys so you have the physical advantage? Size doesn't matter much if one is drugged, which is the main concern for most women when first meeting people anyway I was in a relationship with a shorter, smaller man prior to meeting my husband and he was physically violent. I also had a boyfriend in highschool that was short and he once pushed me. He dated a friend of mine later and ended up hitting her at a party. My husband is 7 in taller than me. He has never been remotely violent with me or anything close to it. He makes me feel incredi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/23 04:20 AM
1	How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating? Have sex with a man while wanting no further commitment. Very simple. ETA: my sister and a couple of my friends have been complaining to me about how hard it is to find a man that just wants sex, and doesn't want a relationship. At first he is cool with it just being sex, but inevitably ends up wanting more. A few women I know don't want relationships for various reasons but want a FWB type situation instead of a random stranger every time they want sex and they cannot find it. It's quite surpri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 03:45 PM
1	CMV: you don’t have to take a girl on a fancy date or spend money on her if she’s into you The first date with my husband was at a very casual little wine bar/coffee shop. No food. We just each bought our own drink. Then we went for a walk to another place we knew had live music because mutual friends were playing there. We each had a coffee there. That was it. We didn't go on a really expensive date until our first anniversary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/23 11:35 PM
6	How is it that some people see being used for sex as sexually liberating? It's not very rare though. I happens all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/23 11:13 PM
1	What are your standards to date guy ? I am a biotechnologist who specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have a master's in biotech, a minor in chemistry, and a special certification in human tissue banking. I am a former competitive gymnast who has stayed in good shape and maintained my flexibility, which my husband really appreciates. I'm often told I'm very beautiful (not just by my husband). I am constantly told I look 15 years younger than I actually am, and people don't believe I'm as old as I am. I'm careful of the s…	/r/AllPillDebate	29/09/23 04:01 PM
2	What are your standards to date guy ? No. I'm from the Midwest, US. I'm white.	/r/AllPillDebate	29/09/23 04:24 AM
2	What are your standards to date guy ? My husband is Arab. Tall, dark, very handsome. He has PhD in petroleum engineering and is a Fulbright scholar. He speaks 3 languages. He is the most kind and caring and person I know, not just to me but to our family and friends as well. Very attentive and affectionate. Prior to getting married my preferences were... Looks: Darker skin, dark hair, and any color eyes though light eyes are particularly striking with dark skin. The hairstyle really depends on the man, I've dated men with long and s…	/r/AllPillDebate	29/09/23 04:15 AM
–	If tinder existed 20 years ago ,most of us wouldn't exist today. It might go both ways, in a sense. I've never used online dating, but my husband used apps before we met and he had his filters set to only show younger women. I'm older than he is. We never would have met online based on his filters. We just happened to be at the sane place at the same time and he came over to introduce himself. He thought I was younger than him and guessed me to be about 15 years younger than I actually am. So we laughed and here we are. People set certain parameters to help f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/23 04:49 AM
–	If tinder existed 20 years ago ,most of us wouldn't exist today. In the early 2000s, it was still seen as something only desperate people or losers did. People didn't really openly admit to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/23 04:33 AM
2	CMV : You may as well just be yourself because women will all interpret your personality differently Depends what context you're talking about. When it comes to what attracts them them to men, there is no reason at all to need to agree with one another. It's an individual choice made about individual men. When deciding where to go for lunch? Maybe they fake agree that Karen's brother's vegan restaurant is super delicious and agree to go there so she doesn't feel bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 02:06 PM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Yes, that is a huge factor. My husband is Muslim and was raised in a traditional family. They think he was a virgin until we got married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 07:21 AM
1	Are the Red Pill statistics true when it comes to mens struggles? This data isn't reliable though. If you are talking about the study I believe you are, he only used data from 27 women which is not a good sample size to represent the general population of women. He also didn't let the study go on for a decent length of time. He didn't mention that women still messaged the men the found below average or get any data about what happened after the messages. There are more men than women on OLD. Women filter those men more harshly because they basically have to. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 04:50 AM
1	Are the Red Pill statistics true when it comes to mens struggles? It opened the door at least. If they had never messaged back, there would be no possibility of a conversation or invitation to a date. They're leaving the door open though so it's a possibility depending how things go.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 04:18 AM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD This is a very healthy view. A lot of men are romanticizing "eastern" women, not realizing that many of the eastern women either do act or would act just like western women when given the chance. My husband is from Egypt and is Muslim. They aren't really allowed to date there like we do in the US. You basically get engaged immediately. While he was in college, he had a secret girlfriend for 3 years and they had sex. His family doesn't know about her. She wanted to get married but he didn't. So s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 03:01 AM
1	N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD You sure? Women talk, and I'm assuming she can read (but correct me if I'm wrong). She probably knows the average penis size, and what range you fall in. She knows if she is having orgasms or not. She knows. She is just too polite to say anything apparently, one way or the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 02:48 AM
2	What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'? I never had one. Most of my friends didn't either, although I do know a few people who did. In my experience, it's not the norm but I'm a bit more conservative by nature and grew up in an area that was pretty conservative. I moved to a city that was very liberal and I did see it happening with the younger women using social media. They partied very hard, used a lot of drugs, got some STIs, one got kicked out of college for drugs. I don't know why exactly. I guess it's just want each individual p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 01:19 AM
1	CMV : You may as well just be yourself because women will all interpret your personality differently Thank you for saying this. I've been trying to say this but men don't seem to believe me. I usually get met with an attitude that implies women are all the same hive mind that want the same things and cannot possibly want different things. The same about what we find physically attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/23 05:05 PM
8	Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV. Most don't want to see their man with other women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/09/23 06:06 AM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you Why do you think that attractive people can't have problems? I have an attractive friend right now that's going through a divorce. I know it's hard to believe, but there are actually some attractive men who have some standards. They don't want to use online dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 08:54 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you Actually I have. Attractive men can have the same problems. Attractive women too. Being attractive doesn't mean your life is perfect. It is easier for sure but not perfect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 08:48 PM
-4	How the fuck do blackpillers/redpillers stay sane? It is. I didn't seek him out. We met by chance. He happens to be the most respectful and most caring man I've ever met. He is from Egypt so he treats women differently. He also happens to be a Fulbright scholar with a PhD in petroleum engineering so he is extremely intelligent too, which is something I like because I'm a biotechnologist. As I said before, I was engaged to a man who was shorter than me but he turned out to be a compulsive liar and a sociopath. He was very emotionally abusive and …	/r/AllPillDebate	12/09/23 08:08 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you They do all the time. If you aren't successful with women, I'm willing to bet 9/10 it has something to do with your personality. Men never want to believe they aren't as nice/great/amazing as they think they are and never want to improve their personalities but they insist on improving their looks and income. It's wild.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 07:51 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you Personality does matter, greatly. But being attracted to the person is also very important, in my opinion. I think their are some women that can have sex with men they aren't no necessarily attracted to but I am not one of those women. I have to feel the attraction. However, the conventionally attractive guys that men think are what woman want are not what I want necessarily. I become more attracted to men after I realize I like his personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 07:24 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you The same way you keep anyone, any age from straying. It's dependent on the person. There are loyal people and disloyal people. Younger women may want to experiment and experience more but not necessarily, that is something you'll have to discuss with the woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 07:19 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you I'm a 39 year old woman that married a 30 year old man. We don't talk about body counts, but for the record I was engaged before and he is a Muslim from an Islamic ruled country so it's safe to assume his BC is low too. Why so much emphasis on body count though?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 07:17 PM
–	Personality does not matter to women as much as everyone tells you A toxic relationship is not better than no relationship. Believe me. From a woman's perspective, it's far better to be single than to be in an abusive relationship. At the time it doesn't seem that way but it definitely is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 07:06 PM
0	How the fuck do blackpillers/redpillers stay sane? In my experience, it's usually because of their preconceived attitude about their height, not their actual height. It's their own self esteem issues. I just had this discussion with a group of women over the weekend. Most of us have dated shorter men and it doesn't bother us. It doesn't become a problem until he thinks it's a problem. He thinks it's a problem when the Internet tells him it is. I'm in my late 30s and I've never tried online dating, I met my husband at a music show. He happens to …	/r/AllPillDebate	12/09/23 06:55 PM
0	Guy finds out his wife cheated and his 5 year old son isn't his. Comments berate him for not wanting to father the child anymore. Sure sound like one. So you're voluntarily celebrate or just a misogynist. Either way you can't handle reading something that proves you wrong, especially when it's written by a woman. It doesn't make it any less true whether you read it or not.	/r/AllPillDebate	09/09/23 02:05 AM
0	Guy finds out his wife cheated and his 5 year old son isn't his. Comments berate him for not wanting to father the child anymore. Expected. Incels will incel. Lol	/r/AllPillDebate	09/09/23 01:50 AM
0	Guy finds out his wife cheated and his 5 year old son isn't his. Comments berate him for not wanting to father the child anymore. Most would consider my husband a "chad" and I'm several years older than he is. He's 6'1", incredibly handsome (even strangers like waitresses comment on it all the time), physically fit, and is a Fulbright scholar from Egypt with a PhD in petroleum engineering so he is exceptionally intelligent and makes great money. He is also the most caring and respectful man I've ever known, plus he's a great cook as a bonus. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like a king. He thought I was younger tha…	/r/AllPillDebate	08/09/23 09:09 PM
2	The solution to the Deadbeat Dad is simple! How are they supposed to do that exactly? People can lie. My sister married a man who was super religious, nice, respectful, etc. They didn't even drink, listen to music, go to movies, swim, play cards. Went to church 3 times a week. Homeschooled their kids. He ended up leaving her with 3 kids for his girlfriend. There had been other women for years. She never told us until he filed divorce. He refused to pay child support or keep a job to let the kids have insurance. The church didn't really li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/23 07:36 AM
4	The solution to the Deadbeat Dad is simple! That can't always be done. My sister married a man who was ultra conservative religious, was raised in a fundamentalist church and brought her into it. They didn't drink, listen to music, dance, go to the movies, swim, play cards, anything that could be considered amoral by the church for any reason. He seemed to be a really nice guy and a good, attentive father. Never saw him upset. He left her with 3 kids after nearly 20 years of marriage for his girlfriend whom he had been cheating on her wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/23 07:20 AM
3	"You'll find someone when you least expect it" is only true for women and boomers I never said they can't. Infact, I said there are some that do in my first comment. I am saying that if the men (chad's as you called them) would step up more, they wouldn't/couldn't milk the system as much because in most places child support impacts the amount of welfare one can receive. So if a man pays child support, less welfare will be paid by the state. It's very simple. So you can actually also blame those men for the fact that you have to pay for these babies now. ETA: just curious, are…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 08:34 PM
2	There are good reasons why birthrates are falling Interesting. The only people I know that are having kids have many money issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 08:28 PM
3	"You'll find someone when you least expect it" is only true for women and boomers What states are you referring to? Because the states I looked at, it's either/or. Even California which is known to be more liberal with it's welfare system. I didn't look at them all, so I'm curious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 08:22 PM
3	"You'll find someone when you least expect it" is only true for women and boomers In many states they have to open a child support case to get benefits. For example.. Federal law requires all parents who receive TANF or Medicaid benefits through the Texas Health and Human Services Commission to cooperate with the Office of the Attorney General’s efforts to identify the child(ren)’s noncustodial parent, establish paternity, settle child support orders, complete child support modifications and enforce child support. TANF recipients assign their right to child support collection…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 08:08 PM
4	"You'll find someone when you least expect it" is only true for women and boomers Maybe the Chad's should pay their child support? In most states it's quite difficult to get welfare if one is receiving child support payments. It takes two to make a baby. I'm not saying it's right for anyone to take advantage of the welfare system, and yes some do, but most are not taking advantage, they are just left with no choice when the father is a dead beat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 08:02 PM
1	Getting a relationship made me more redpilled Are you sure she was ever really pregnant?	/r/ExRedPill	05/09/23 02:58 AM
2	I feel like most of the relationship burden is on men Men usually want women who are in shape and complain if she is overweight. Men often leave their partners for younger women. Men here constantly complain that women don't find men attractive, so going by that logic, women aren't interested in hooking up with these men that are into them anyway. Women are usually busy with the child care and house care and her full time job. They are constantly improving as well, it's not just a male thing.	/r/ExRedPill	05/09/23 02:42 AM
2	Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese? People who were never athletes but weight train on a regular basis or have a highly physical job run into the same problem. Even former athletes have the same problem, so while they may not be an athlete anymore they still have a higher percentage of muscle than average, however they may not have stayed as toned so it's not actually obvious. I have a job in which I cut people open for a living. You can't always tell how much muscle is under there, that's all I'm saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/23 05:10 PM
-1	Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese? BMI can be misleading, especially for people with high muscle mass, like athletes. Muscle weighs more, or is more dense, than fat. I was a gymnast and many of us had higher BMIs, even though we were a size 0. There are professional athletes that are considered obese. ETA: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/02/04/465569465/if-bmi-is-the-test-of-health-many-pro-athletes-would-flunk	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/23 11:40 PM
1	If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment? Not in my experience. I'm much happier in my marriage than I was being single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 08:42 PM
1	If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment? Marriages the people are happy in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 08:39 PM
1	If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment? Same. I'm much happier in my marriage than I was being single. However, I was happier being single than being in a bad relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 08:24 PM
0	Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce. I can do both. He does actually leave the house sometimes. I worship him when he gets home. Normally I don't use reddit often but I had surgery recently so I have been quite bored and not able to get out and do anything or sleep well. I'm actually in bed next to him right now. He's sound asleep and I can't get to sleep because I'm still in some pain and it's hard to get comfortable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 09:46 AM
2	Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce. Why do you assume it either/or? There are a lot of intelligent, good looking, educated, kind, and classy people who are socially adept in relationships out there. I know many. People aren't necessarily one thing or the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 02:42 AM
1	Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce. This is like my husband. He's a Fulbright scholar with s PhD in petroleum engineering. He grew up in Egypt and came to the US for college. He is also very social and outgoing, the life of the party. He's charming, kind and respectful. Attentive. Helpful. He's very handsome. Most of his friends are very similar. It's not necessarily and either/or type thing. I don't know why so many people on here tend to think it's one of the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 02:23 AM
2	Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce. Yeah, my husband is assertive, dominant, social, fun, AND kind, polite, and respectful. He's the most intelligent and respectful man I've ever met. He's a Fulbright scholar with a PhD in petroleum engineering but also the very handsome social butterfly and life of the party. They can be both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 02:06 AM
1	Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce. They are usually too busy going to college and pursuing their careers. They hold off on kids to accomplish other things. They are still having kids but not as many.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 01:57 AM
1	CMV: The most reasonable explanation for the disparity between the number of young men and women who report being single is that women are "sharing" the most desirable men. It's possible that age gaps account for more than you think. Yes, 2 years is about average and the most common, accounting for about 33 percent of most married couples but when you account for the other age difference range brackets of more than 2 years, they account for more than 35 percent. It's just that they fall into different brackets so they are smaller percentages on their own, according to this data at least. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships ETA: whe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/23 06:01 PM
1	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not You'd have to be OJ to get a prenup tossed. Any half decent family lawyer can put together a decent prenup that isn't going to fall apart. People who try to do it themselves without an attorney are the ones that run into trouble. Lawyers will tell you that challenges to prenups are difficult to get granted. The main reason prenups are so solid is the Uniform Prenuptial Agreement Act, which was adopted by the majority of states and makes it very difficult to toss out a prenup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/23 01:14 AM
15	If women want high status rich men, then why do poor people often have the highest birth rates? Access to birth control and education about how to use it play a large role. Also, people who make more money tend to hold off on having children more in lieu of pursuing their education and career.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:48 PM
1	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not Not with good a good lawyer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 03:27 PM
1	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? Well most people don't go on the internet to complain about being happy in their relationships, so the posts you see are mostly going to be from unhappy people. The majority of the people in the world do not belong to these forums. You are seeing posts from the minority. In regards to the study, if you look at the actual wording, the men didn't say they don't feel desired at all, it's says they don't feel as desired as they would like to feel. In many cases, men want sex more than women. This co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 03:26 PM
5	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? I'm sorry to hear that. I have never used online dating but I've heard it really bad, like women just using men for free meals and stuff. I actually do feel for men in today's society because it's hard to know exactly how to treat a woman. Some women like to be treated more traditionally, like having the man open doors, carry things, give up his seat of public transit, but other women actually get offended by this so men are often left in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. This…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 02:08 PM
1	If the 80/20 rule is true aren't most women having unwanted sex since women are viscerally disgusted by sex with unattractive males Just remember that these comments are online from a small group of women that don't represent the entire population. The majority of women don't belong to those subs and aren't online complaining about men. I can find an equal number of posts of men basically saying they hate women. Does that mean all men hate women? No.	/r/AllPillDebate	27/08/23 01:26 AM
1	If the 80/20 rule is true aren't most women having unwanted sex since women are viscerally disgusted by sex with unattractive males These are comments from a very small sample of women. Women who don't have dating issues aren't complaining about it online. The majority of women in the world don't belong to those subs. It does seem bleak but it's not representative of the entire population.	/r/AllPillDebate	27/08/23 01:20 AM
5	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? If he's a Chad I usually think "he's probably a douchebag" and go on about my business.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 01:17 AM
3	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? I am a white woman who married an Egyptian man, and I can say that outsourcing is sometimes the best option, lol. He makes me feel like a queen so I make sure to make him feel like a king. I find that he is much more respectful of women and treats me much better than US American men did. Several of my female friends from the US are also married to or dating men from Egypt and find the same thing. I don't know why but I think it might be because there seems to be growing resentment between Americ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 01:07 AM
2	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? This isn't most women in my experience. I wouldn't associate with any women like that. Most of my friends barely use social media and definitely don't have a "brand". I am a female scientist, a biotechnologist. My best friend is a biochemist, and many of our friends are scientists of some kind. It largely depends on your social circle and demographics. I know there are women like you describe but I don't think it is the majority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 12:58 AM
2	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? Those posts are from a small sample of a very specific group of women on the internet that doesn't necessarily represent the views of the general population. Women who have trouble finding men attractive are going to talk about the problem. Women who have no trouble finding men attractive aren't going to talk about it because it's not an issue. Of course if you go to a forum about women with dating problems you will find women with dating problems. The overwhelming majority of women in the world…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 12:48 AM
2	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? It's pretty varied. To use famous people for reference, my sister thinks Jason Momoa is the hottest guy alive and he does nothing for me. I like Benedict Cumberbatch and most of my friends and sister don't. My sister and I agree on Cilian Murphy but our other sister doesn't and my friend thinks he's ugly, she likes Kim Coates. I have a friend who isn't into Brad Pitt. I didn't think George Clooney was hot until he got older, but women were going crazy over him when he was younger. These are just…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 12:15 AM
2	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? That is a small sample of a very specific group of women on the internet that doesn't necessarily represent the views of the general population. Women who have trouble finding men attractive are going to talk about the problem. Women who have no trouble finding men attractive aren't going to talk about it because it's not an issue. Of course if you go to a forum about women with dating problems you will find women with dating problems. The overwhelming majority of women in the world do not belon…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 11:46 PM
1	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? Why do you assume they are pretending?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 11:38 PM
4	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? This is accurate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 11:09 PM
2	Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners? I can see conventionally attractive men and not be attracted to them at all. In fact, a lot of the conventionally attractive men I know have terrible personalities that make them completely unattractive. I'm thinking back to the jocks in school, for example. I never dated one even though they tried multiple times to get me to go out with them. Most of the men I dated were not necessarily conventionally attractive but they became extremely sexually attractive to me once I got to know their person…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 11:08 PM
2	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not Many women would not like what you did if you were a complete stranger to her. Many wouldn't like it even if you weren't a stranger. You had a rapport with the women so you could take that next step. It's not something you would start with ideally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 06:14 AM
7	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not There is a huge difference between doing it in the bedroom with someone you know, who has consented to it, vs doing it in public to a stranger without their consent. Groping someone is not a great way to "lead'.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:31 AM
1	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not Unless you have a prenup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:22 AM
1	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not In many states you can declare a domestic partnership to get benefits like health insurance and taxes incentives while being protected from losing assets if the partnership is dissolved. In my state it doesn't even require a lawyer. Then again, if one is so worried about their assets they can just file a prenup if they do want to get married. All of the things you are worried about can be solved with an attorney and some simple paperwork.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:16 AM
1	Misbehaviour in male's sexual game is being shamed, in female's it's not Prenups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 05:08 AM
–	Nightclubs are not the right place to meet women As a woman who married an Egyptian man, I think sometimes outsourcing is the best option, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/23 04:28 AM
4	At what age did you first receive sexual attention from adult men? 10 - My friend and I (she was the same age) where at a local carnival and some of the carnies were heavily hitting on us and trying to get us to leave with them, etc. That's the first I remember. After that it became a common thing everywhere. The same friend and I were staying a few nights at a hotel with my parents when we were 12ish while a college baseball team was also staying there. A few of them saw us and started harassing us so much day and night, they wouldn't stop even after my dad ye…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 05:46 AM
1	Redpillers: "ALPHA FUCKS BETA BUCKS! ALPHA FUCKS BETA BUCKS!" There are still traditional women today, they just aren't the norm. Treating all women as non-trad isn't going to get them the trad woman they desire, is it?	/r/AllPillDebate	20/08/23 11:24 AM
0	Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”? I find it a bit hypocritical when men want to marry a virgin while they themselves are sleeping with dozens of women and frequenting prostitutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 04:24 PM
0	Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”? Not as long as you both consent to everything and agree to the terms, and you treat her with respect. I have no moral issue with it personally, if aforementioned conditions are met. It's actually much better than using women for sex and/or lying to them to get it, in my opinion. The murky area comes up when the women who are working are not doing so voluntarily and are beholden to a pimp or madam somewhere. Then it becomes a human trafficking issue which is much bigger issue than being misogynis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 04:14 PM
1	The unavoidable corruption of dating apps. I worked in the dating industry for a dozen years and it is an probably the most intrinsically fake legal industry in existence. The entire thing is built on misconceptions, half-truths, and flat out lies, mostly about men and their chances of success. Thank you! I have had my suspicion that online dating is responsible for a lot of the toxicity in the current dating culture but I haven't used it and I'm a little older (in my thirties) so I don't know if maybe it is just a generational thing or change in the social climate instead. I know that the happiest and healthiest couples I know met in person, usually through their social circle or by way of some sort or shared interest or hobby. People complain that others seems more shallow now and it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 03:28 PM
7	The unavoidable corruption of dating apps. I worked in the dating industry for a dozen years and it is an probably the most intrinsically fake legal industry in existence. The entire thing is built on misconceptions, half-truths, and flat out lies, mostly about men and their chances of success. I married an international man from Egypt. He treats me far better, and has more respect for women than any man from the US I ever met. He's successful, charming, handsome and incredibly intelligent. We met through our social circle. Outsourcing is sometimes the best option, lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 12:41 AM
1	What do you hope to gain from the red pill? I understand wanting the family values. Does it also teach men to love and value their wives and daughters? A lot of what I've seen men say seems to be only valuing a woman for what services she will provide and her virginity. I'm not saying that's how all RP is, but what does RP teach men about loving and caring for a woman specifically?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 04:20 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread I think perhaps you replied to the wrong person. I answered the question quite directly. I said "no, it's a preference." First line of the reply. I'm not sure what you are talking about. If the person in question likes men better he should date men. Simple. Everyone has a choice as to who they do or do no go out with, but attraction is a preference, which is something we can't necessarily choose. You can choose to go out with women because society tells you to even though you're attracted to men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 06:55 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread No, it's a preference. If his preference is men, he doesn't have to date women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 04:42 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread If he finds men more attractive than women it seems like a valid option.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 04:29 AM
–	What do you hope to gain from the red pill? Don't they? Often it seems like they don't see women as people. Women are just some sort of game to try to conquer and then maybe own. Foids? Isn't that what they call women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 03:46 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread That would probably be best for everyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 03:25 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread You can date men if you want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 03:20 AM
8	If you have ever complained about men only wanting sex and being unwilling to commit, have you tried lowering your physical standards? I'm married and I post here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 03:15 AM
1	Self Improvement WEEKLY DISCUSSION TOPIC Not every Western woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 02:47 AM
1	Self Improvement WEEKLY DISCUSSION TOPIC It's funny, I actually prefer men that are not from the US for similar reasons to what you're saying. My husband is from Egypt and he is far more respectful, considerate, mature, intelligent, loving, appreciative, attentive, etc than any of the men I had met in the US. It's a joke in our social circle now because almost every one of our male Egyptian friends is dating a woman from the Midwest. It happened independently too, we didn't set each other up with friends or something. I think the small…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 02:43 AM
2	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship In what way? You seem to be assuming all women are the same which is a mistake, just as all men are not the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 07:08 PM
1	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship No. That was never part of it. If he never finished that wouldn't have made a difference. I had my own house and my own money. I didn't need his. I still pay all of my own bills and we live in the house I had before we met. ETA: I would happily pay all of his bills for him if he wanted me to, but that's not what he wants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 06:47 PM
1	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship Sure. Why not? My best friend is the breadwinner in her marriage and the world is still spinning. I actually know several women who are breadwinners. I made more money than my husband until he finished his PhD and it didn't bother me at all. Women can carry guns. Pepper spray. Take self defense classes. There is no reason the man needs to be the sole protector. Every person should know how to defend themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 06:11 PM
2	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship Presumably she isn't the only one living in the house, eating the food, wearing the clothes, etc. Based off your logic one could ask why men shouldn't do most, if not all, of the chores.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 05:34 PM
3	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 05:06 PM
5	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship That's not always the case. Many physical labor jobs pay less than desk jobs. People picking crops, construction workers, paramedics. Nurses get paid well but still less than say computer coders who sit at a desk and it's a much harder, more physical job. Teachers have a very stressful job. On their feet a lot. Very low pay. The amount of money doesn't necessarily equal the amount of work put in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 04:58 PM
2	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship Why do you focus do much on the amount of money but not the actual amount of work? Money isn't necessarily a very good indicator of how much work someone is putting in to something. Think of all the things that have to be done every day for each person in the house. Cooking, cleaning, laundry. Think of child care if there are children. This isn't paid work but it's necessary work. COVID has shown us that many of our "essential" workers are the lowest paid in our society. That doesn't make them a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 04:53 PM
4	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship How do you know someone is working harder just because he is earning more money? Many times the physically harder jobs are lower paid. The less earning partner is usually still contributing what money they can afford. Imagine both partners work the same number of hours per week away from the house. The man makes more money at a desk job. The woman makes less money but is on her feet all day like nursing or a teacher. Why should she have to come home and do all of the house work on top of her oth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 04:13 PM
1	Doing household chores do not make men sexually attractive, but they're still important for a relationship Are you talking about women who stay home without kids? What hobby are you speaking of? Side note, my husband is from a culture where men having multiple wives is common. His dad has three wives, and he says there's no way he would ever want that. More women, more problems. Aside from having to support that many people (his dad had to support 21 people single handedly, although women are allowed to work here so that wouldn't be the case necessarily) he said they get jealous of each other so what…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 03:38 PM
1	Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive He needs help getting a glass of water? I mean it's cool if you're into it. I might be interpreting it wrong but it all comes across as strangely controlling. As long as you're happy, it's all good, but you do know that you can make your own schedule right? If you want? I know that some people don't want to. I'm just making sure you're not just doing what he says when he says so because you think you have to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 01:13 AM
1	Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive I see. My husband just tells me he is ready for bed and then I know what I need to do to get myself ready to join him. So does does your husband say it in more of a playful way, and not like ordering you around?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 12:54 AM
1	Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive As a woman, I have to agree I think. I wouldn't treat my husband like this. I wouldn't have married him if I had to, I don't want kids. He should make his own decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 05:09 PM
1	Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive You don't just automatically do this on your own?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 05:05 PM
3	Is the gender war mostly zero sum? You can deny that math though	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 05:02 PM
2	Is the gender war mostly zero sum? https://www.aamc.org/news/more-women-men-are-enrolled-medical-school https://www.ama-assn.org/education/medical-school-diversity/women-medical-schools-dig-latest-record-breaking-numbers#:~:text=During%20the%202019%E2%80%932020%20application,the%20number%20of%20students%20matriculating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 04:50 PM
2	Q4W: Would you date/marry a guy who doesn’t want kids AND isn’t career-oriented? Absolutely. If I wasn't already married. Before I met my husband that was basically my criteria for dating. I didn't really care if he had a high power job or not, as long as he doesn't come home bitter and angry at life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 04:31 PM
1	The standard rejections of "no spark, not enough chemistry and not feeling it" is just a nicety of 'I didn't find you sexually attractive.' Nope. Being physically attractive doesn't determine the type of chemistry one will have with anybody. I went on a date with an actual model once and all he talked about was how he used to play football in highschool and that he is a model. He was so boring! No spark there for me. Yes, my eyes found him appealing at first glance but that was were the attraction ended. I didn't go home with him and I didn't see him again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 04:25 PM
1	Women select Men differently on dating Apps compared to In Person Everyone does. It's quite different to predetermine a set of parameters and then make a selection from the best set of the matching results, than to encounter people organically in the environment and be attracted to their natural charisma and body language, their pheromones, etc. My husband and I joke because we would not have met each other on a dating app. The age ranges wouldn't have matched. I'm almost ten years older. Also, I would have swiped past his pic because he is too good looking an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 04:00 PM
1	There's no point for a man to get married in a western society For some couples, it might be more beneficial from a financial standpoint to get married. Tax and insurance benefits are can be better when married. It's easier to join assets. These types of things. Plus if they want kids together it's more stable for the kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/23 04:22 PM
1	Women will have learn to share attractive richer men and their privileges I'm not going to share mine and he has no interest in being shared. Interestingly, he is Muslim, from Egypt where it's allowed to have up to four wives and his dad has three. He says it seems terrible to him, like nothing he would want for himself. Too much responsibility to support them all, they get jealous of each other, it's hard to spend time with them all equally; more women, more problems basically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/23 04:10 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated No	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:33 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated That's the truth. I am not a celebrity. I am a former gymnast and I'm a dancer. I look like I'm in my early twenties. He thought I was younger than him when we met and I thought he was older. We had been dating a couple months when we actually found out the age difference. Everyone always thinks he is older than me. No one ever believes that I'm older than him. I don't smoke, do drugs, drink, wear heavy makeup, party hard or any of the things that age people hard. I have no wrinkles. My hair is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:32 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated He is 6'1". 190. Very toned. I get told by strangers (like waitresses, receptionists, etc) how handsome he is all the time. Just a couple days ago some lady in line at the coffee shop told me how sexy his accent is (he is from Egypt) and how she could listen to him talk all day. He is a petroleum engineer with a PhD from a top school in the field. He is a Fulbright scholar that gives lectures regularly. He is an amazing cook. He cleans. He loves to dance. He is the most respectful, caring, and a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:16 PM
2	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated My husband is almost ten years younger than me. He is considered high value by red pill standards and could have any woman he wants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:06 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated My husband is almost ten years younger than me. ETA: I should add that he is considered "high value" by red pill standards and could have any woman he wants.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:04 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated One, I doubt this is true. Two, if it is true it's very sad for you. Do you know how much more amazing sex becomes when you actually get to know what the other person likes and they know what you like, and you have that intimate connection with them? You'll never experience that the first time you have sex with someone. If you are just going from one to the other, your having lower quality sex with a higher number of people which also opens you up to a higher chance of STDs. Also, women over 30 …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 09:01 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated It doesn't make a difference for the people that don't want kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 08:46 PM
3	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated Because AI can be any age you want it to be? Even your chat bot doesn't want to talk to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 03:55 AM
3	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated This guy made a previous post asking about why his Replika bot wouldn't act loving to him anymore. I don't think he's actually getting anything close to college girls unless it's AI.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 03:50 AM
5	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated You need to get out more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 03:32 AM
–	CMV: This Medium Article from a middle-aged female author asking 'Where are all the good men' perfectly explains men's dating complaints Do you also believe that almost all men cheat?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/23 04:08 AM
–	Men don’t get to have male spaces https://nypost.com/article/inside-americas-men-only-golf-clubs/ ETA: While there don't appear to be be many left, there are some. I don't know about any other sports, if they have men out clubs left. Regarding the supreme court ruling, it seems that a private club does not fall under their umbrella, according to the article.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/23 04:53 PM
–	Men don’t get to have male spaces https://nypost.com/article/inside-americas-men-only-golf-clubs/ This is an article about all male golf clubs in America. ETA: It does say that there are very few left that only allow men but there are some. If I understand correctly (which I may not because I just skimmed the article very quickly) private clubs are allowed to distinguish who they allow into their club because they don't fall under the ruling of the supreme court.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/23 04:52 PM
–	Men don’t get to have male spaces What statistics are you using? I couldn't find any to support that specifically but I just did a quick search. I did see that Curves once had the Guinness record for being the world's largest fitness center franchise, so there must be some demand out there for women only gyms. Granted, Curves is targeted to older women, but still.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/23 01:57 PM
1	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. It is true that looks are the first thing you see in real life too, so for someone you just walk past it is the basically same thing. However for people you have some sort of interaction with, like someone you work with, take the same class as, have the same trivia night with, dine at the place the work, etc you can begin to know each other, at least a little. You see mannerisms and the way they carry themselves. Facial expressions, body language. Voice inflection and intonation. A lot of things…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/23 06:11 AM
3	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. I don't really think they are anomalies though. I think there are just certain types of men that cheat and those that don't. I don't think looks play into much, other than their ability to cheat easier. Sure, it will be easier for the good looking guy to cheat, but that doesn't mean the the below average guy doesn't want to any less, and won't take the opportunity if he gets it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/23 03:00 AM
3	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. I'm very disappointed that they aren't picking the second as well. It's so superficial. "Only an engineer" is a sad sentence. My husband is "only a petroleum engineer" and I don't really worry about money. Lol. I prefer a modest house in the suburbs to a "hip condo" for so many reasons. Condos are apartments. You have people on all sides of you, no privacy. Neighbor noises. City noises. HOA. Parking hassles. No yard. I could go on. I love my house and I would not trade it to live in a filing cab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 10:41 PM
4	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. It doesn't really seem to matter what percentage the men fall into. I've seen really unattractive men cheat on really attractive women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 10:24 PM
2	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. As a woman, hands down, the second guy. No question. I can guarantee that most of my female friends would choose the same. The first sounds like a douchebag. Is there any consideration in the difference between long term and short term relationship choices? If a woman just wants to hook up she would probably just pick the more physically attractive attractive guy. If she wants a long term relationship she will probably pick the more financially stable, less likely to cheat-on-her man. The dating…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 10:20 PM
2	Dating in the Modern Age is Analogous to Wealth Inequality in Later Stage Capitalism. It seems that people who don't use dating apps are less focused on looks. It's makes sense. On apps, it's literally the thing you look at and decide to match or not. In person there are many different factors people notice. Personality goes a long way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 10:05 PM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. Women find all different types of men attractive. There is someone out there that will find you attractive, you just haven't found them yet. That is the really difficult part. Apps are probably not the best place to meet people. It all seems very superficial.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/23 04:52 AM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. Where did I say I feel anxious? I'm fine. I'm married so I don't date. I am saying there are women who don't like to date super attractive guys because many of them have awful personalities and don't know the meaning if the word monogamous. Maybe daunting is a better word. I never would have gone out with my husband if I had just seen him on an app or something. He is too good looking. I knew him from my social circle, which is how I knew he was actually nice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/23 04:47 AM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. So who should settle first?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/23 01:05 AM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. So basically what you're saying is that all the good ones on both sides are waiting for someone better to come along?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 11:12 PM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. In one study I saw recently, it found that women prefer average-looking, wealthy men over the attractive, wealthy men. They actually regarded attractiveness as a hindrance to a long term relationship. This study was on the "hot/crazy matrix" that went viral. Turns out that it's actually pretty accurate for men, in this study at least. Personality and wealth drove women’s long term dating priorities.They presented careful rationale in their decision making, prioritizing the long-term view. Financ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 11:06 PM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. I definitely think this is a thing a lot of women do. I know that I am that way to an extent. I will say that my type has changed dramatically throughout the years but I definitely have a zone that registers for me and then everything outside of that is just kinda there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 08:28 PM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. Way to miss the point entirely. I said there are women (including myself) who DO NOT FIND THOSE MEN ATTRACTIVE. ETA: The point is each woman has different preferences and even the most popular guys have women who don't find them attractive. As in the given examples in my previous post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 08:18 PM
–	The entire pill debate has been obscured and distracted by a bizarre fixation on unattractive men’s struggle. While this sucks, it actually makes logical sense unlike the main problem, which is average and above average men struggling to the degree they are. Uniformly if the key word there I think. As a woman who knows a lot of women, very few of us agree on the same men. We all have different types. One of my friends likes the nerdy type. One likes the biker type. Another likes the preppy kind. It all varies. So there isn't necessarily one reality. Beauty is all in the eye of the beholder. Even with the really popular stars, I don't know if there is one that is universally agreed upon. There are the Brad Pitt types that a lot of women like but I kn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 07:36 PM
–	Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some? Correlation does not equal causation. Finances are a point of contention but not necessarily because the man doesn't earn more. It could be that one has a gambling or drug problem, credit card debt, expensive hobbies, shopping addiction, maybe they disagree about how much to spend on housing or education for kids, etc. There are lots of reasons for financial contention. Some women are fed up with having to do more housework and childcare while earning similar or more than their husband. Many wom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 06:22 PM
–	Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some? It seems to largely depend on which generation yours talking about. The younger generations are much more likely to have women either outearning their partner or being the sole breadwinner, although they are still not the majority in most demographics. According to one study by Wells Fargo, about 52% of women in certain demographics outearn their partner. A little over 30% of Gen Z and Millennials are the breadwinner for their relationship. https://www.wcnc.com/article/money/more-women-breadwinn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 03:57 PM
–	Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's Doing Many men will sleep with anything they get the opportunity to. Young, old, fat, skinny...doesn't matter. They will say they like one thing but then sleep with something else. It's basically the same as women saying they like something but then sleeping with something else. People can have specific things they want but may not be able to find at a certain point in time or may see other things they like too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 04:19 AM
1	Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women? Most of the women I know are currently in the lower end to middle of that age range. I know a lot of them are still dating but they don't use dating apps. I know they are not the type that would care about something like who makes more money. Perhaps the type of women you are talking about are more likely to use the apps than some other types? I met my husband in person. I don't actually know anyone that met their spouse online. I'm in the middle of that age range you gave, my husband is younger…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 09:25 PM
3	Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women? I know several women that either support their husbands or make more than them. Are you telling me I just happen to know several of the very few women? I will say that because I am a biotechnologist and I have worked mostly with women who get paid very well, it's more likely for me to know these type of women. But I think they may be more prevalent than you think. They may not on dating apps and many are probably already in relationships. They are out there though. We can agree to disagree thoug…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 08:38 PM
8	Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women? I'm sure what you say is true for some women but please don't lump us all together. There are a lot of women that do make more than their men, or are taller, higher status, whatever, and they still respect and love the man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 07:38 PM
2	What % of women actually go through a “hoe phase” This is the article the cites the study I was talking about... https://earthweb.com/how-many-relationships-start-online/ This is a recent study from pew research showing about 30% of adults in the US have used online dating, and it says it was the same percentage as in 2019 when the did the same study.. https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2023/02/02/key-findings-about-online-dating-in-the-u-s/ The discrepancy is percentages between studies you've seen and these may be the ages they covered in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 05:49 PM
5	What % of women actually go through a “hoe phase” According to a joint study conducted by Stanford University and University of Mexico sociologists participated by American adults, about 39% of male-female relationships in the United States start online as of 2022. I know it all depends which study you look at but even if it a little higher than 50%, that still leaves almost half of all relationships not starting online. I understand why you would feel the way you do though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 02:02 PM
8	What % of women actually go through a “hoe phase” I think it's possible that the type of women that use online dating sites are more likely to be looking for hookups instead of relationships. Women that don't sleep around are probably not going to use an app known for hookups as often as women who are looking for easy hookups. Many of these women are typically in long term relationships most of the time so they aren't going to be on a dating site. You aren't seeing or meeting the LTR girls so it seems to you like all women are just hooking up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 04:52 AM
1	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. Do you guys love you wives/girlfriends unconditionally?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 04:26 AM
3	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. I notice you insult others because you have no real argument and nothing of substance to say. No one asked me for an analogy previously. Even though you weren't very nice about it, I'll rise above and provide one now. Here you go ... Would you still love someone if they became completely broke? Homeless? If they had literally nothing to offer or provide to you monetarily or emotionally? The OPs post is basically saying that people only love others for what can be provided to them. What if they c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 12:04 AM
1	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. Do you understand that dementia is a terrible analogy? Please do better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 11:32 PM
2	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. You don't have to lose half your stuff just by getting married. Get a prenup. My husband and I both wanted one, even though we don't even fight or argue so I really don't see us ever divorcing. However, just in case, I wanted to protect what I brought into the marriage as well: A house, some beach condos in the Caribbean that get rented out (and used for our vacations), and a large amount of prime farm land that I will inherit from the family farm that I will rent out per acre, which will provid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 11:21 PM
5	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. I definitely wouldn't stop loving my mother, my husband, or anyone else I love if they developed dementia. Why would anyone stop loving someone because of dementia?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 11:01 PM
2	What are some good standards men could have for women they date? These are great attributes to have regardless of gender. One more thing I would add to your list is the ability to accept the other person for who they are, don't try to change them. My husband has all of these qualities and he says I do as well. We never fight. If we have any sort of disagreement we just discuss it and figure out a solution. We get along really well and have a lot of fun together. I think it's because we know how to show genuine appreciation and respect for one another, along w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 04:22 AM
4	Since we live in artificial times why don't we implement artificial solutions? Make a dating app which allows women 50 swipes per day while men are only allowed 1 swipe per day. Aren't dating apps basically the same way though? There will be women on them that aren't suitable to you and you still have to vet them. In person, you can see how they are interacting with others, how much they drink, how they carry themselves, etc. On the app you have very little idea about any of that until you meet them in person anyway. That is just my perspective though. I have never actually used apps so I don't really know too much about them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 01:38 AM
1	How do you all have these PurplePillDebate conversations and not get depressed/triggered? Genuine question (New Here) Many people will probably disagree with me, but this is my personal opinion based off my experience... The real world is not as hard or toxic as the online world, which is pretty much what everyone on this sub is referring to. By that I mean people going out in the world to meet people (like before the internet) vs online. Full disclosure, I've never used any online dating. I was still dating when the apps came out, I just didn't want to use them. To me the idea is unsettling. I met my husband a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 10:49 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? Average men are part of both groups. They are always complaining about the issue and they are actually the reason this issue in this post exists. If they didn't complain about not getting these women and losing out to the top men, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. So what, should we tell them to stop complaining? To make themselves better and more attractive to be part of the other group? I mean it's basically the same thing as telling the women to lower their standards, and stop tal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 04:41 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? Of course they aren't going to complain. What would they possibly have to complain about? They are getting the best of both worlds. Women are complaining because men are lying to them and using them. No one likes being manipulated. Men are making them think they are the only woman they are seeing. Making it seem like a relationship. But then it's not true. If a beautiful woman told you that you are the only man she wants to see, she wants you to sleep with her, are you going to turn her down? Sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 03:41 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? You are basically saying the same things I said. The only difference is I think the men should held accountable too. I never said anything about the majority of men so I don't know what that part is about. We were talking about the top percentage of men. Why is it always the woman that gets the blame for dating above their league but not the men for sexing below theirs? If a beautiful woman makes you think you could have a relationship with her or at the very least sleep with her, are you really…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 03:10 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? If that were true women wouldn't date anyone. Not in the lower leagues either. Average and below average men can be jerks too. Even when a woman knows a man is seeing someone else when they meet, he'll tell her that he stopped seeing other people and she will believe him. Then she thinks it's a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 03:01 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? So isn't that the fault of the men? Often when a woman thinks her relationship is more serious than it actually is or she doesn't know she's the side chick, it's because the man is lying to her. Then he keeps stringing her along, keeping her from dating anyone else. It also makes her think she is in the same league as he is. If those men would stop lying and using women, there would be more women available to the other men. They also may not overestimate their league as much if they weren't actu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 02:33 PM
–	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? The issue kinda is the guy though, isn't it? If those men would stop sleeping with the women below them, wouldn't those women stop thinking they are more attractive than they really are and realize what league they are really in? If a woman is getting a ton of attention from men, that is reaffirming their attractiveness in their mind, as you say. And why wouldn't it? A lot of women have self esteem issues so they base their attractiveness off the attention they get. So men should stop leading wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 01:41 PM
1	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? It is if he has to lie to her or use false pretenses to get her to sleep with him. If the woman just wants to hook up too, cool. They are on the same page. No harm, no foul. But if he leads her on and she thinks it's something other than what it actually is, he is using dirty tactics to get her. He is using her for what he wants with no concern for her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 09:19 AM
2	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? Are you sure you aren't overestimating your league, just like the OP is claiming women do? Why don't you want to hold the "hot' men accountable for leading women on and using them and lying? What I have witnessed is that most women think they are in a more serious relationship than the actually are because the man lies to them; or they think a relationship is possible, usually because the man lies to them. Average guys can often turn out to be jerks that are just using women too. How is one supp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 08:40 AM
1	Is casual sex ruining dating for the average man? A lot of times, woman don't know they are being used for sex and either think it is more serious than it actually is or they think that it will turn into a relationship. At least that is what I have witnessed. Women aren't going around saying "he is just using me, but he is so hot" unless they don't really want a relationship either and are just using him as well. Shouldn't the hot men take accountability for all this as well? For using women and sexing below themselves? I see a lot of guys blam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 08:28 AM
1	Q4W: Can you list and describe all your “types”? I definitely don't prefer white men. I'm white. I like traits opposite of what I have. (Plus genetic diversity is likely to produce healthy offspring; although we don't want kids) My husband is Arab and has medium dark skin. Dark eyes and hair. Women (random strangers and women I know) are constantly telling me how handsome my husband is, so I guess he would be considered conventionally attractive. I have dated men who aren't though. Intelligence is one of the most important things to me. I am a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 06:29 PM
1	The problem with dating isn't women being hypergamous, it's men (trying) to be polygamous The survey is only accounting for men and women under 30. Wouldn't women sleeping with older men account for some of that discrepancy? If any women under 30 are with someone over 30, the men wouldn't be accounted for in the survey would he?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 08:58 AM
1	The problem with dating isn't women being hypergamous, it's men (trying) to be polygamous This survey only includes men under 30 though. Isn't it possible (even probable) that some women are having sex with older men? Wouldn't that account for some of the discrepancy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 08:47 AM
2	9% of young women are single and sexually active. It's not your fault. I never said it was. You would be a hypocrite for blaming and judging others for their past relationships not working out they way they want just because you can't have a relationship work out the way you want it to. You can't necessarily predict or control what others are going to do and neither can anyone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 10:27 PM
2	9% of young women are single and sexually active. Many men, especially younger men, don't want committed relationships. Many women will have casual relationships with these men, (naively) thinking they will turn into committed long turn relationships. Or, quite often it happens that the woman thinks the relationship is much more serious than the man thinks it is. He thinks they are casual, she thinks they are committed. Haven't you ever heard of men using women for sex and then the woman getting upset when he leaves? The women slept with him th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 08:05 PM
1	9% of young women are single and sexually active. Perhaps some of the woman who previously had casual relationships could only get casual relationships even though they wanted more. In that case, I think you would probably be a hypocrite.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 07:01 PM
3	The idea that men's dating issues is merely the result of them having to treat women as an equal now is to reductive and dismissive of their actual dating issues. Not if they are dating men that actually meet their standards. Perhaps the man's standards are too high if he can't get a date. Yes, some women have standards that are too high but so do some men. My husband exceeds my standards, just for the record. We didn't meet online though because I don't use online dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 10:32 PM
1	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… I have friends who used apps and have nowhere near triple digits and we live in a large city. I'm not dismissing or doubting your experience, I'm just pointing out that it's not necessarily true for all women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/23 09:31 PM
5	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… Yes, spinsters supported themselves. I think that is why 'spinster" is s term for an older single woman. It is unfortunate that it has become such that most households need two incomes to survive and that people have to pay someone else to raise their kids just go be able to pay their bills.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/23 12:47 AM
3	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… I agree with you. I am married now but when I was dating I never expected the man to pay and I always offered to pay half, or even the whole bill sometimes. I only dated guys I had genuine interest in so I didn't want anyone to think that I am just a freeloader or golddigger or something. I don't want to feel like I owe anyone anything and I don't ever want to feel like a burden on anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/23 12:07 AM
5	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… I am married to a Muslim man but I am not Muslim myself. On one of our dates early on in the relationship I offered to pay and he actually got offended and told me he didn't appreciate me saying that. So I told him I'll never offer to pay for anything again, so I haven't. That's how he likes it, although I would be more than willing to pay for myself. So it works out that his money is my money and my money is my money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:54 PM
-1	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… There are a few recent studies that indicate that even when the woman is the main breadwinner, she still does more housework. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2022/03/220331101532.htm	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:47 PM
3	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… Where are you getting your numbers? https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:14 PM
4	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… According to the CDC, the average n number for women is 4. I am not sure where the other person is getting their info https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm Who knows how accurate it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:13 PM
1	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… This is a good point. It can add a ton of stress to a relationship if one is dependent on the other. It's much better if both parties can be independent if needed, imo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:08 PM
12	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… That is true, but because it wasn't paid work they didn't have the option to pay their own way like women do now. I think that is what people mean here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:07 PM
2	Modern women who want to be treated traditionally… I always offered to pay my half, or even the whole bill if I really liked the guy. I don't understand why some women except the man to pay for every date if they have their own money. It actually backfired though when I was first dating my now husband. He is Egyptian, born and raised there, and it's an insult to a man in his culture to offer to pay. It's like saying you don't think he can afford it. I didn't even think about the cultural difference and told him I would pay the bill on one of our…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 10:57 PM
4	63% of men under 30 describe themselves as single, compared with 34% of women in the same age group As a woman who knows many other women, I can honestly say I don't know any that have been with "dozens" of men. Edit to clarify: I obviously know that some women do sleep with a lot of men, I just don't think that is the average. I'm not saying that my experience is proof of one thing or another. I'm saying that in knowing a lot of women, I am likely to know some average women and none of them fit the description given by the OP. I find it hard to believe that I just happen to know women who all…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/23 09:18 AM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Who's mad, baby cakes? I'm certainly not mad at all. Why would you think that? My feelings don't get hurt by some nobody on the internet. Are you so fragile that internet banter really upsets you? I actually have a life, so I don't check Reddit regularly, so it can take me a while to reply. Do you actually have time to check it everyday? It must be hard for you to imagine real life friends, family, and professional engagements, but I assure you there is life beyond reddit sunshine. If you think …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/22 10:08 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Says the little boy who has no argument, doesn't understand the meaning of "work" and actually started the personal attacks but can't handle the reciprocation. Lol. Those who throw stones... I very much doubt that you'll ever learn to speak English properly or comprehend what you read, but good for you for trying, tutz. I also refuted your points already. Better luck next time, baby doll. "I am sure your sufferable ego" Sufferable actually means tolerable and endurable. Some synonyms are accepta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 02:13 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Ok doll face, why doesn't housework count as total work? If it's not work why is it such a big deal for men to do it when they get home? This entire conversation has been talking about total work done, not just one or the other. Try to keep up, sugar. In regards to you talking about overall income and not in a relationship, learn to read. I was talking about in a relationship. We are talking about relationships here, not the entire economy. Why does it matter what everyone else makes when it's t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 09:06 AM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? You said woman work less hours then men and I provided several links that proved you wrong. Look back at the beginning. From your first comment... "Women on average work less hours than men " So there is one example of where I proved you wrong. "Congrats you just proved you don't understand what the term wage gap means." Congrats you just proved that YOU don't know what wage gap means. 😂 😂 😂 Wage gap is the average difference between the remuneration for ALL working men and women in the sample c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 08:37 AM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? I absolutely understand what equal work means. You seem to be confusing money with work. Yes you get money for working but the two things are not the same. Yes I said each person should do half the housework because 50x2=100. It's basic math. I did add caveats. But assuming both people work 40hrs per week or equal hours. Do you really think that if a woman works more hours than a man but brings in less money, she should do more housework? What if the tables were turned? Let's say you meet a woma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 07:47 AM
1	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? "Why do you have such a thing for incest?" I obviously don't. You are actually the one that keeps insisting that intimate sexual relationships are like parental relationships. It's disgusting to think but you keep obsessing over it and insisting it must be so. Our very first exchange was me disagreeing with your little Freudian type theory so you were obviously thinking about it before I came along. "Strawman. Asl why are you so sick in the mind? " Learn what Strawman means. You have not actuall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 07:27 AM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? "Even though I actually did disproved various claims you made" You disproved absolutely nothing but it's adorable that you think so. Is English your first language? You don't seem to understand things very well. You contradicted yourself because you tried to say that women don't really do more housework anymore and then later said that they do. The context is that you are trying to prove me wrong but it is a fact so you can't prove it wrong. "Can you read?" Yes I can, quite well actually. Much b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 09:28 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? "Point where I said anything about men having to be the sole provider." You keep claiming that women expect men to be the providers as if women don't work. You're whining that women want men to be the providers and then come home and do half the housework. How is that unreasonable if the woman is providing too? So you must be thinking that the women aren't providing anything. That you think women should provide more than men. "Look at you agreeing with me and contradicting yourself." How am I co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 08:19 PM
1	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? You need to work on your reading comprehension. Are you even reading? Is English not your first language? "Oh so your husband and you are roommates, not a couple" NO. How did you come up with that? I specifically pointed out some of the things that make our relationship different from roommates because my husband and I are NOT ROOMMATES. The reason roommates got brought up is because I asked why you don't think roommates are each other's "mommys and daddy's" if you think that cooking for each ot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 07:56 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? You proved nothing wrong. You contradicted yourself and agreed with my point, and then made up words I never said. Women doing most of the housework may be in decline, but it's still currently happening. In fact your own comment further down says... "I never denied nor said women did less housework than men." So then we agree that women currently do more? Even if you don't believe in the wage gap you must realize that women often hold positions that are not paid as much. Men are more often CEOs …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/22 11:16 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Point to where I said women do all of the housework? I said they do most of it because on average they do more than the man does. Obviously there are exceptions. "But don't get the point that men are suppose to be the ones providing but then do at least 50% of the housework if not more" You don't get the point that men are NOT supposed to be the sole providers, and are usually NOT the sole providers anymore. Sole provider means the only one providing. Women work and provide money too so the man …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/22 10:52 PM
2	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? How am I his mommy and he my Daddy? By your logic people's roommates would be their mommy or daddy too. They share costs and split housework. How is that different? My husband and I share costs and split housework. Except we are also best friends, we sleep together and have an intimate relationship. Most roommates don't do that. Is that what you think parents do? Did you sleep with your parents? Were you intimate with your parents? Were you best friends with your parents? Is that why you think a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/22 10:21 PM
1	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. You said you wanted to continue dating her though, and that your attraction could grow. That is what happens with me. It's not all about looks. I'm not saying they don't matter at all, just to me they aren't the most important thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/22 08:02 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Can you read? Where did I say the relationship should be centered around the woman? If both of people work 50 hrs a week, why should the woman do all of the housework? Why should they work more than men? What about kids? Women do most of the work there too. Why do some men want women to do most of the work? Men are considered breadwinners if they make more money than the woman but that doesn't mean the woman isn't working at all. She might make $5000 less and he would still be considered the pri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/22 07:59 PM
2	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? My husband and I take turns cooking for each other. He usually makes his own breakfast. He usually washes the dishes while I load the dishwasher. He doesn't like me having to scrub pans. We take turns doing the laundry then usually fold and put everything away together. He takes out the garbage. I clean the bathroom. We both vacuum and sweep when we see it's needed. We don't have or want kids. He doesn't pay any of my bills that we don't share. In fact I pay for his cell phone because I get a di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/22 07:48 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Too bad you are totally wrong. Women make up more of the workforce then men. https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2020/01/13/women-now-hold-more-jobs-than-men/?sh=61ec1c2f8f8a https://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2022/employed-women-more-likely-than-employed-men-to-work-at-home-on-days-they-worked-in-2021.htm https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2020/01/14/why-more-women-are-working-in-the-us-than-men.html https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2018/10/women-are-more-productive-than-men-at-work-these-days https://www.was…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/22 07:35 PM
0	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? I believe you are confusing my directness with hostility and I am probably confusing you annoyance and crassness for hostility. You said women should bring more than their body to the table, then suggested housework. My point was that men also need to offer more. They need to contribute to the housework and be a real partner. You didn't mention men, your whole post was talking about women. You don't seem to have anything positive to say about women or relationships. Obviously you've had negative…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/11/22 02:45 AM
2	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? I already have a dad. I want a partner. And I want to be a partner to my husband, not a mom. My husband and I work well together because we both want the same things so that works for us. I'm sure there are women that do want more of a father figure but I don't think it's the majority of women. Everyone is different so people just need to communicate to figure out if they are both looking for and needing the same things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 10:18 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? That's so nice to hear. My husband is like you and helps a lot. He also wants to do the harder, dirtier jobs so that I don't have to. So then I want to do things to take really good care of him like he does for me. It's amazing how well a relationship can work when both people try to take care each other instead of acting like someone is forcing them to do something, lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 09:52 PM
1	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? I was actually echoing exactly what you said and turning it around to ask the same thing in regards to men instead of women. Obviously I read what you said. You never answered the questions. Also, I'm not raging and it's strange that would get that from what I wrote. Most of the other replies are civil as well. It seems like maybe you are angry though and projecting that to everyone else, because some of your comments seem pretty hostile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 09:46 PM
1	I see countless times women say they are cool with not being in a relationship. Then why even date? If that's how you feel, you are doing it wrong. All of it. But that's your choice so no one is forcing you. Sex and intimacy are not the same as masturbating. Not even close. If you've ever had good sex or head, you would understand. Companionship is not just 'a warm body." You should find someone you actually enjoy spending time with. Someone you care about. Someone you can laugh with and trust. Your partner should be your best friend. Again, if you've never felt that connection to someone you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:57 PM
2	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? Overall, women do more housework than men and also do most of the child rearing. But unlike in the past women are now doing this while working full time outside of the home, often working even more hours than her partner. Men often think that if they work and provide some money to the household, they are doing their share. But women are contributing money too, sometimes even more than the man so why should they have to do more housework? When men get home and are tired and want quiet and need to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:47 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? What about the 40% of husbands who are not the provider? Should they do housework? If the woman makes 50% of the income or more, shouldn't they both split the housework? Or even if she doesn't make as much but works more hours. For example a woman who is a nurse working 60-70 hrs a week, making $90,000 per year. She is on her feet dealing with difficult people and situations and it's a very physical job. Her husband is a computer programmer, works from home and sits at his desk. He works 40 hrs …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:34 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? If the woman makes 50% of the income, shouldn't they both split the housework? Or even if she doesn't make as much but works more hours. For example a woman who is a nurse working 60-70 hrs a week, making $90,000 per year. She is on her feet dealing with difficult people and situations and it's a very physical job. Her husband is a computer programmer, works from home and sits at his desk. He works 40 hrs a week, but makes $110,000. Should the woman still do more housework even though she works …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:23 PM
1	Women: Can you expand on or give examples of men not "getting it"? What men don't seem to realize is that many women work just as many hours, or more, than men do. They are often earning almost equal, sometimes more and those women still have to go home and take care of the house and kids if present. So think about how tired you are and how much you don't want to do housework and then realize women are doing that work after working 12hrs a day or more while the man is whining about how much he works and is too tired to do anything. Most women aren't asking men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 07:12 PM
1	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. So what happens when their looks change? Because they will. People age. Some people get into accidents, get burned, get skin cancer on their face or any number of things that cause their looks to change. I've dated people I didn't find attractive initially but found very attractive once I got to know them. The more I like someone's personality the more attractive they become to me. I have also dated guys that I found attractive initially but lost attraction for once got to know they had a terrib…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 03:42 PM
1	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. Do you honestly think looks are more important to a happy marriage than getting along well and having a strong connection? Looks are definitely a bonus, but just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they will make a good partner or be compatible with you. You could get into a car accident tomorrow and wreck your face even before time catches up to you. It's better to value personality more than vanity for the long term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 10:38 AM
1	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. No, he doesn't really say stuff like that. An example of the sexist jokes is like when we were about to get married, he joked to my Dad that he would bring him 10 camels in exchange for me. (Since people here often think that is how marriages are set up in his home country) My dad thought it was hilarious, so when he walked me down the aisle and shook my husband's hand at the alter, he leaned in and said something to him. Everyone thought it was something sentimental like "take care of her" but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 03:02 AM
2	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. But jokes aren't serious. The things he jokes about have to do with him being an Arab Muslim and people in the US thinking he must be a terrorist. Basically all self deprecating. He can either laugh about it or get upset about it. He doesn't get upset easily so he makes jokes out if it. So it's actually because other people are jerks, not him being a jerk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 02:28 AM
1	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. But how do you know she chose him for his looks? It sounds like she chose him for his personality. Hotness only goes so far.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 02:11 AM
2	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. Proof that you don't understand jokes. Lol That or you are implying that Arabs are jerks? For the record, my husband is the nicest, most respectful, most generous, and most considerate man I have ever known. Everyone that knows him comments on how nice and thoughtful he is. He is not a jerk by any stretch of the imagination. I'm not sure how you got that from what I said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 02:03 AM
2	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. I'm not feeling anything. You seem to be the one who has a hang up about this for some reason. I did analyze what was said, and I simply don't see how the scale of her husband's attractiveness correlates to the level of her credibility at all. It doesn't seem "convenient" or wrong for someone to say that it's important that their spouse is also their best friend, even if their spouse happens to be very attractive. I would think it's strange if she doesn't find her husband attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 01:51 AM
2	Most men would have sex with women they find physically attractive regardless of their personality. But women don't always want to have sex with men they find physically attractive That's not exactly true... I think it's true to an extent, like in certain fields or to be a super billionaire or something. However there are some good, competent and confident men that aren't toxic, maybe they are just be harder to find. My husband is very successful, competent, and confident and he is not at all toxic. He is the nicest, most caring, respectful man I have ever known. He has a PhD in petroleum engineering from one of the best colleges in the world for that field and he is a Ful…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/11/22 01:16 AM
5	Most men would have sex with women they find physically attractive regardless of their personality. But women don't always want to have sex with men they find physically attractive Most of the women I know gravitate towards confident, successful, respectful, supportive guys. Not toxic or narcissistic. I think if choosing between the two options you gave, narcissistic and toxic or shy and unassertive, I would pick the shy one. I also think there is a difference between younger high school/ college age girls and a little older, more mature women. The younger girls may be more shallow. Or more hopeful that they can change the man or that he will treat her well even though the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 10:11 PM
2	Most men would have sex with women they find physically attractive regardless of their personality. But women don't always want to have sex with men they find physically attractive I was just explaining this to someone on a different post!	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 09:53 PM
0	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. What does that have to do with anything? Looks don't last forever but friendship does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 09:48 PM
0	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. I'm sorry, I misunderstood your comment, I thought your whole comment was facetious and you were implying that alpha men can't be friends with their woman. Basically like the person you were replying to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 09:46 PM
2	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. I am not op but I just want to throw something out there...For me, and many women I know, the more we like someone's personality, the more attractive they become. In the past I dated people who weren't conventionally attractive but I liked their personality and that made them very attractive to me. I have also dated people who are really attractive conventionally (one was actually a Model) but they have awful personalities so I was very turned off by that and then found them to be unattractive. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 09:41 PM
2	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. Why wouldn't they be able to? My husband is an alpha and he is my best friend... So apparently they can. He also has lots of male friends. The OPs husband is an alpha and a best friend. I don't understand what one has to do with the other	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 09:02 PM
4	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. That is one of the most harmful parts of RP I think. It shouldn't be a competition of who has less feelings than the other. Nothing in the relationship should be a competition, you should be on the same team and work together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 08:55 PM
4	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. I love my husband's politically incorrect sexist jokes, haha. He is Arab and I'm white so we have some good jokes. You wife can be your best friend, while you still having your other best friends too. They don't cancel each other out. They can each have their unique functions. Think of these questions... When anything happens (good, bad, funny, sad, etc) who is the first person you want to tell and talk to about it? When you are going somewhere new, (whether it's a new restaurant in town or a ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 08:52 PM
9	Your partner should be your best friend. Everything else is just details. My husband and I are best friends and partners. I wouldn't have it any other way. It's absolutely wonderful. It's not at all complicated. We aim to make each other's lives easier, which we actually accomplish. I have noticed the same things you mentioned in your post. I don't understand why they make things so complicated and then complain that it isn't working, while blaming the women for everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 08:03 PM
1	Were Women Lied To By Society? There are still respectable men and women in the world. If everyone shared your attitude there wouldn't be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 10:56 AM
2	Were Women Lied To By Society? I just watched that episode last night :)	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 10:12 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread The ones about women living rapists? Edit: *women liking rapists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 06:06 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Which one?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/22 05:47 AM
2	What’s wrong with me??? I don't know too much about dating apps but I do know they can be difficult. Do you have any hobbies or interests? You could maybe join a group or meetup and meet people who share your interest and then go from there. It could be anything...sports, beer brewing, wine making, restoring vehicles, cooking classes, painting classes, wood working, pottery, music shows, guitar lessons, video games, board games, foreign language, metal working, etc. I'm not sure what's available where you live but if y…	/r/AllPillDebate	22/11/22 02:35 AM
2	What’s wrong with me??? Its hard to say without actually meeting you in person. On paper you sound great. When it comes to ethnicity, I actually prefer someone different from me. My husband is a different ethnicity than me. I'm sure there are plenty of other women out there that are like me. Most of my female friends have partners that are a different ethnicity from them. In fact there is a group of us where all the women are from the same region in our country and all the men are from the same region in their home cou…	/r/AllPillDebate	21/11/22 11:05 PM
1	There are two types of men that women hate the most: men with options and men with self control. My husband was a man with tons of options and that is something that I really liked about him. It was a great boost of sell esteem and confidence because of all the options he picked me. He is tall, dark, and extremely handsome. I get random strangers in public telling me how handsome he is. More importantly he is extremely intelligent. He has a PhD in petroleum engineering from one of the best schools in the world for it. He is a Fulbright scholar too. He is also the sweetest, kindest, most gen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/22 10:11 PM
2	Single Men vs Single Women Are you...are you saying men should be provided a woman? Like as part of a governmental program?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/22 07:38 PM
1	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls No. People just have different preferences. Some men like super skinny girls, some like a lot of big curves, and then there is everything in between. I know men that don't like super defined muscles or 6 pack abs on women because it looks "too manly." I know others that don't like women that are super skinny with no curves because they "look like 12 year old boys." I know some men that love these things. It's all subjective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/22 12:32 PM
16	Who tf does she think I am? He was also being honest so she shouldn't have gotten upset with him.	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	20/11/22 07:22 AM
5	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Not really. A lot of men like women with "more meat on their bones." Your fat is someone else's voluptuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 11:44 PM
4	It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically. Most of those women also complain about the men not helping enough. Most of the women I know like this aren't baking cupcakes and making thank you cards just because they want to, but because they feel like they have to. For example bake sales at school to raise money for extracurricular activities or making cards for some type of fundraiser. Many schools in the US don't provide uniforms or equipment for certain sports or activities so money has to be raised to pay for the kids who's parents can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/22 04:55 PM
4	It's not enough for a man to THINK he is pulling his weight domestically. In the US there are actually women like the OP described, not just on TV. I have known several.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/22 03:21 PM
2	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? I went ahead and checked, as he said to do...his ex wife cheated on him and left him for a taller, richer man so it seems someone is a little salty. The really funny part is that he doesn't even realize it was his own attitude that probably caused it. He just wants a woman to be loyal to him while he treats her like garbage. I hope his ex is much happier now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 07:29 PM
2	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? Cumming is a binary experience if you do it right. You can't feel what they feel but you can feel their body reacting, you can hear them, see them. It's hot. So while it doesn't have to be a binary experience it's much better when it is. Especially when both people get off at the same time. That's the best.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 07:21 PM
2	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? What was your intent in making the aforementioned comment? It seemed a lot like you were complaining that women want oral.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 05:24 PM
3	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? So you only have sex to make babies? You're ok just jerking off the rest of the time when she isn't ovulating? Do you expect the woman to raise the kids on her own? To form lasting relationships, and therefore families, both partners need to be happy and satisfied. Women usually don't want to stay in a relationship where there aren't getting their needs, including sexual needs, met. When a women has an orgasm, oxytocin (the "love" hormone) and other hormones are released that actually produce fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 05:10 PM
12	Outside of the normal "romance" things, what is something that your man does for you that melts your heart? I have a weird one! He makes me my latte every morning and tries to make a heart in the foam, sometimes it doesn't turn out but it's the thought. He saves the last bite of any dessert for me, or anything I really like, as well as my favorite part of the bread (the puffy edges of flat bread). He tells me to save any of the really dirty pans or dishes that need scrubbing for him to do. There are so many little things.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/22 04:19 PM
5	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? I can understand what you mean, but in your previous comment you said "Women can orgasm from fingering but they still want you to give them oral." So if you change the wording a bit it becomes "men can orgasm from sex but they still want you to give them oral." Edit: why is it ok for men to want oral if they can orgasm other ways but it's not ok for women? Especially since many women don't come from fingering, but ONLY from oral.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 04:01 PM
6	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? Why are they irrelevant? Are you saying that a woman wanting to have an orgasm is shellfish? Is it selfish if a man want to get off?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 03:27 PM
8	Why is it when men don't go down on a woman, they're unacceptably selfish lovers, but when women don't go down, it's an acceptable choice for something she doesn't enjoy doing? You say handjobs aren't enough for men so why should they be enough for women? Just like men, not all orgasms are the same for women either. Women want oral for the same reasons men do. The difference is that most men can get off from penetrative sex but not all women can. I also know a lot of women, including myself, that cannot orgasm from fingering. I never ever have and don't care much for it. Thankfully I do orgasm from sex alone, almost easier than from oral, but my partner actually loves …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 03:21 PM
3	Age gap experiences/pros and cons? My man is actually 9 years younger than me. We don't notice at all. Everyone thinks he is older than me. He looks older than he is and I look quite a bit younger than I am. We didn't even realize for a couple months after we started dating because strangely age never came up. It was just like we got along so well I never even thought about it. His birthday came around so I asked how old he was turning and that's how we found out. We just kinda laughed and that was it. I seriously haven't noticed…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/22 04:53 AM
1	If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap. "I think this commenter said it best: /r/PurplePillDebate/comments/vnhtbf/comment/ie90ube/" I never expected men to do the asking. Most women I know don't. When I was still dating I often initiated dates. I make plenty of money so I didn't need anyone to pay for me but most men insisted on paying. Infact, when my husband and I were first dating he actually got offended when I tried to pay. He wasn't mad or anything but I noticed his mood shift so I asked what was up. He said he didn't appreciate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/22 03:44 AM
1	If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap. How would you feel if you got paid less to do the same exact job as a women, even if women were expected to pay for dates? You do the same type and quality of work but get paid less. That basically means that you are less valuable than a woman and they don't value your time as much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 09:12 PM
8	If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap. Yes! My partner got upset with me back when we were dating the first time I tried to pay. He wasn't mad but his mood changed so I asked if something was wrong and he said he didn't appreciate that I said I was going to pay. He is Arab so it was very insulting to him. I'm white so it was just normal to me to offer. We discussed it and I told him I would never offer to pay for anything ever again, haha. To this day I don't offer to pay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 09:01 PM
1	If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap. I don't know any women like that either. A couple of my female friends are the breadwinner in their relationships and they have no issue with their partners not being able to pay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 08:55 PM
3	If you expect men to pay on the first date, then you don't get to complain about the wage gap. The wage gap has nothing to do with dating though. You are comparing apples to racehorses. The wage gap regards people of different genders getting paid different amounts to do the same job. Who pays on a date is something else entirely. Would you be happy if you did the same job as a woman but got paid less for no reason other than you are a man, even if women were expected to pay on dates? I'm guessing not because it basically means that you are less valuable than a woman even if you are doing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/22 08:46 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? "I wish more people had this mindset, but i suppose the loudest feminist are being heard and showing the bad." That is exactly what is happening. Just as how most men aren't sexist jerks but those are the ones getting the most attention. Or cops. The small minority makes the entire group look bad. Most of the women I know just want to be free to pursue their interests and have a man that respects them and treats them well. They don't want to feel superior. They just don't want to lose their free…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/22 06:04 PM
6	How do your men treat you? As their partners? Wives, girlfriends? Mine treats me as an equal partner. We share house work and bills. We don't want kids so they don't come into the equation He does like me to look feminine and loves my long hair but if I want to cut it off he wouldn't stop me. I would never though, haha. He doesn't mind if I just wear comfortable clothes around the house and he actually prefers me without makeup so that's nice. Women should not be controlled as the red pill men want. They are just angry they are losing power and trying to compe…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/22 05:06 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Just because they don't want to doesn't mean they can't. If all of one gender suddenly were gone or "tapped out" the remaining gender would figure out how to go on. Nobody should be pushed into any career. Many women want to be in the STEM field. Their reasons for wanting to vary, just like with men. I get what you're saying about lowering standards. I don't agree they should. A woman should be held to the same standards as men for doing a job, or don't do it at all. There are things women are b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/22 04:53 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Yes there are some some careers that will always probably be male dominated but women could do them if men decided to suddenly stop. Just like female dominated careers, males could do them if they have to. There isn't some magic skill the only one gender can do. My partner is actually an oil reservoir engineer and more and more women are entering the field. Yes most of them are in engineering positions, and not as many in the field but there are some working as roughnecks so it is possible. I wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/22 01:25 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Male dominated careers, like mine, are such because women were prevented or at least discouraged from doing them before. More and more women are getting into these types of careers now and can do them without men. It takes time, but its happening that women are increasingly getting those jobs. If you aren't physically alone, you are emotionally and mentally becsuse she doesn't love you. She settled for you. Or at least that's what you believe. You are apparently trying to cheat on her or replace…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/22 02:01 PM
1	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? How did you get that I don't like white men? I grew up in the Midwest where there was only white men. I have nothing against them. My dad is white and I love him. My point was that people stereotype Arabs (and others) a certain way and from what I've experienced with him and our friends they are not anything like the stereotype. They all moved here as adults so it's not because they grew up in the US culture. Stereotypes can be true but many times they aren't. I don't judge people on their appea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 08:15 PM
2	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Before I was married I tried dating less attractive guys because I'm more attracted to personality, regardless of how you say it's impossible. I gave them a chance and they turned out to be assholes just like the attractive guys. My partner is so attractive I almost didn't go out with him because I thought he would be a jerk. He is the nicest, most considerate and caring man I have ever met. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like a king. People, perfect strangers, tell me constantly how h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 05:05 PM
2	Are most modern women's standards for men too high? Why or why not? Are you saying you know what women do better than they do? If a women wants to sleep with a Chad that's her business. Maybe she doesn't want to get married yet. Sometimes a woman may sleep with someone knowing full well it won't be a relationship just because she thinks he is hot. Just like how men sleep with hot women with no interest in having a relationship. If she is looking for marriage, she would look for the marry-able men. Good personality, nice, caring. It's not really settling. It's th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 03:27 PM