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Where did I say anything about "chiseled face and wide shoulders?" I don't believe I used those words at all. I would not describe my husband that way and I wouldn't describe any of my friends' significant others that way, to be honest. It depends how wide of shoulders you mean I guess...wider than mine? yes. That is true but I a don't have very wide shoulders so that isn't a very high bar. They mostly have pretty average shoulders. None of them are very big and muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:29 PM
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Anecdotal, but I like Arab men, not too muscular. My husband is Arab. My sister likes the Jason Momoa type muscles but it's not my thing. One of my best friends liked skinny Latino guys. I have another friend that like heavier, biker type guys. I have a friend into black guys. The only friend I have that is actually married to a tall white guy is a Latina. I know my group may not be the norm but there are definitely attractive women out there that are into men other than the tall white guy type.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:17 PM
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I think most people born to parents over 40 would disagree with you, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Why would people live longer if they adopt? They will still die at whatever age they were doing to die and the person will be left without parents. That could happen a day after they are adopted or when they are 70 years old. It is the same as having a child. 60% of private adoptions are infants. There are older kids that get adopted but it still isn't going to be a huge difference…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:14 PM
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You said only young people should have kids, older people should never have them because they might die sooner. That implies you believe that children born to older people , or children who have lost their parents, have a life that isn't worth living. A person who doesn't meet their spouse until they are 30? Too bad, it's too late. They just shouldn't have children in case they die because their child's life wouldn't be worth living anyway. That is essentially what it sounds like you are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:50 PM
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So people over 30 shouldn't live? All the kids born to people over 30 are better off never existing because their parents might die sooner than people who's parents had them younger? People who's parents die when they are young don't have a life worth living?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:22 AM
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Maybe. Maybe not. There are no guarantees. The fear of death should not stop people from having kids, otherwise no one should ever have kids. A 20 year old could have a child and die during childbirth and a 35 year old could have a child and live to be 100. I have had multiple young donors who died during or right after child birth. A few parents have died in accidents driving to or from the hospital. The maternal mortality rate is pretty high in the US. Having a baby young does not guarantee li…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 07:57 PM
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Most people in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s don't die of natural causes or old age either. Most people who die strictly of "natural causes" (meaning the gradual failure of organs due to aging, rather than accidents or specific acute diseases) typically pass away in their late 80s to mid-90s. The average overall life expectancy, which factors in all causes of death (including illness and accidents), is 79 in the US. As long as people aren't having babies in their 60s, I don't think they have…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 05:59 PM
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Younger people die all the time too. Car accidents. Drug overdoses. Workplace accidents. Drowning. Natural disasters. Fires. Homicide . Cancer. There are so many ways. People who have kids in their 40s aren't going to drop dead of old age before the kid is an adult. I actually harvest human organs and tissue for transplant. I get young people on my table almost every day. In one day last week I had a 31 year old vegetarian who dropped dead on the treadmill and then later in the day a 74 year old…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:05 AM
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You are entitled to that opinion. I am entitled to mine. I still say it depends entirely on the individual circumstances. I have seen enough older people be incredible parents and enough younger people be completely inadequate (shit) parents that I cannot say younger is the "best and only option."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:16 PM
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No one said anything about being rich. I said they were financially stable. I never said anyone had to go to college to have kids either. I am just pointing out that in my friends situation, they have an easier time holding down a job due to their education and skills than a high school drop out. My nephew never graduated from high school (becuase his mom insisted on homeschooling him, ultra religious) and cannot hold down a job. His wife has a GED but does not work, she stays home and takes car…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 11:20 PM
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Not always. It really depends on the people, as in the example I gave you. You really think the unhealthy, uneducated, and broke couple are more suitable parents than a very healthy, financially stable, highly educated couple just because they are younger? I don't share your opinion. The proof is in the pudding, so to speak, in this example. It's not black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 05:51 PM
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Leave the reproducing to the healthy people with the means to take care of the children and the desire to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 04:52 AM
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Anecdotally, my friend's baby (the one who had him at 41) is developmentally advanced for his age and is far healthier than my nephew's children who had his when he and his wife were both early 20s. First daughter was premature, spent over 40 days in NICU, has a GI tube, uses a walker to walk, and can barely talk. She is almost 1.5 years behind developmentally. She is in therapy of every kind to try to catch up. She is sick all the time. His second daughter was also premature but not as much, al…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:12 PM
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That's probably true. Most of my friends didn't want kids. My husband and I don't want them. A couple of my friends had them when we were younger. One of my friends had a very healthy pregnancy and baby when she was 41 but the father is a year or two older. She wasn't exactly trying to get pregnant though, she was told she couldn't get pregnant so she quit taking birth control and the first month off of it she got pregnant. She and her husband were quite surprised, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:09 PM
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My husband is almost 9 years younger than me, one of me best friend's husband is almost 20 years younger than her, another good friend's long term boyfriend is about 10 years younger than her, a good friend of my husband's is 10 years younger than his wife, another friend of ours is 12 years younger than his wife, and my cousin's wife is 15 years older than him so it's definitely a thing I've noticed. We have all been in our relationships for at least 7 years (or many more) though so it's not ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 03:44 AM
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So using this logic, would you also say then that it's imposible to use a man for money? It’s widely accepted that both men and women enjoy money. If the relationship or interaction was consensual and both parties agreed than anything beyond isn't a guarantee. Just bc a woman receives money from a man, it doesn't mean she owes him anything beyond that. Relationships are a privilege not a right or entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:37 PM
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Most people are not professional athletes. The majority of people work and do hobbies until their 60s or even older. Depending on the type of job or hobby, skills actually improve with age and don't decrease untill very old age. Looks definitely fade with age. There are several posts every week here from men here talking about the "wall" and how all men prefer younger women, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 05:12 AM
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You are the only one talking about raising someone else's kids. I am saying women often choose to have and raise children with men they think will be good providers. We could talk about how many men marry a young woman, keep her until she's too old for him, dump her and then go find a younger woman, often abandoning his kids too. The woman and the kids lose in that situation. Neither of these are necessarily the norm though. usually people seek out people they think will be a good partner and pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 05:32 PM
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Why is it better to want to only make a kid than raise it? Seems rather selfish and egotistical no? Why wouldn't you, as a parent, be concerned first and foremost with actually raising your children? Why bring children into the world if you have no way to provide for them and keep them in a safe home with enough food? Women are thinking about the long term, men are thinking about the short term.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:09 PM
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Women find rich men more attractive than poor men for a similar reason. It's evolutionary instinct to find someone who can provide well. It's natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:38 AM
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Do you also leave your shoes in the middle of the floor to trip me in the dark? haha
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:45 PM
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Keeping a city afloat is hardly a minor positive impact, it's pretty major. She was one of the few people who had liquid funds and gave loans when no one else could. Shee built schools as well, her entire estate went to the public school district. She did a lot for the city She is not the only one though, the entire west was built off prostitution with similar stories. It was prevalent in many Eastern and Southern cities as well, like NYC and New Orleans. "In New York City, where we have the mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 07:44 AM
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He doesn't turn off lights. ever. Everyday every light in every room he goes in to is still on. Then he complains about the electric bill. I realize the lights don't use much energy but it does add up and it just makes me laugh. He turns up the thermostat to 80 make it warmer instead of putting on more clothes. I can't take more clothes off. I'm wearing as little as possible. we live in a very warm, humid area that is normally over 100F. He is from Egypt so he thinks anything below 90 is cold (I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:28 AM
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4 hr shower?! That has to be a joke, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 07:14 AM
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The city of Seattle was supported by prostitution in its easily years. Look up Lou Graham. In an era when cities were severely constrained in their ability to raise funds, the fees and taxes paid by Lou Graham’s bordello virtually kept the City of Seattle afloat financially. And time and again she bailed out Seattle's leading families with personal loans that a reputable banker like Jacob Furth could not touch. She even bailed out Furth's bank during the Panic of 1893 by publicly making a large …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:44 PM
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I had the same experience as you. My ex was around 5'6", a little shorter than me. He was an abusive, compulsive liar and a cheater. He was physically attractive and initially I was attracted to his personality but he slowly became abusive, started negging, lying, etc. My husband is 6'1". He is the most respectful, kind, honest, attentive and affectionate man I've ever met. He's also the most attractive. I can't help that the shorter guy was an asshole and the tall one isn't. Some men here seem …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:23 PM
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My husband also had never heard of red pill or any "pills" until I told him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:08 AM
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64% of men remarry within one to three years after a divorce. The other 4%of these remarriages occur after 3 years. 64% of divorced women *eventually* remarry. The majority of those remarriages occur after a period of several years rather than immediately following the divorce. So while a similar percentage of both genders end up remarried at some point, men generally remarry faster than women. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6450723/#:~:text=Men%20are%20typically%20much%20more,support%…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:05 PM
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What about women that don't date Chads but still get cheated on a treated like shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 03:23 AM
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A lot of women do try it. I approached men before I met my husband. My numbers are based off the pew study. https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2023/02/02/from-looking-for-love-to-swiping-the-field-online-dating-in-the-u-s/ Yes, most people meeting in person do meet through friend groups, however many meet while being complete strangers. Hobby groups, classes, stores, bars, work events (not coworkers), sport groups, etc. 50% of men haven't approached, but the other 50% have. If you don't want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:35 AM
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Are you really saying someone might actually die if you try to talk to a woman in public? Statistically, only 10% of long term relationships meet on apps (up to 30% in younger age groups, although then number is growing for overall) so most people are still meeting in person. I don't know a single married couple who met through apps. Edit: grammar, words
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 08:07 PM
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My husband approached me in public so.....it apparently works for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:55 AM
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And? Where are you sources? (Your prejudice is not a source.) There are not a lot of studies done on this exact topic so we have to go by what we have. The news article has the summary of the studies in case you are blocked by pay walls....
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 05:10 PM
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Take your own advice. Studies generally indicate that male pilots have a higher per capita accident rate in general aviation compared to female pilots, frequently attributed to increased risk-taking, inattention, and poor decision-making. One study by the NTSB found that male pilots were 60 percent more likely to have an accident than female pilots. Additionally, male pilots were twice as likely to be involved in fatal accidents. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/000368708690…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 04:10 PM
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Since the vast majority of maritime accidents and aerial accidents are caused by men, should that be considered a competency crisis on their part?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:46 PM
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yes, she had endometriosis.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:51 AM
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No. Why would the employer foot the medical bill? They employee pays their own medical bills and hopefully has insurance. The employer just has to give the employee the time off (or other accomodations) to deal with the medical issue without threat of losing their job. It should apply to men too. No one should lose their job for an illness or chronic condition but many people do because employers don't like giving people time off. From the perspective of the employer I understand but from the pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 03:18 AM
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So you think it's preferable that someone loses their job because of their medical condition and is forced to go on disability and other government aid?, Why would you not prefer them to keep working and supporting themselves? If their employers would make accommodations for medical conditions they could easily keep working.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:49 AM
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A lot of people don't get sick leave. ETA: If they do get sick leave, they probably don't get enough for a chronic condition.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:35 AM
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I have stage 4 endometriosis and uterine fibroids and ovarian cysts. I have had over 12 surgeries to treat it. It has spread to my other organs, including my bowel and my appendix both times requiring specialists to be called in to remove it when my surgeon saw it (because you can't even tell where it is, there is no diagnostic test other than slicing you open and peeking inside). The endo adheres my ovaries to my abdominal wall so when the dr goes in he has to liberate them as well. My blood pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:35 AM
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when men get prostate cancer they get time off, no? Is that no a medical condition specific to a man? Things like Endometriosis, PCOS, fibroids, and other female specific conditions can cause severe complications that require medical intervention and time off. The woman in question had endometriosis. Not bad periods.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:21 AM
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What are you, 12? "I know you are, but what am I?" lol. Wow, you really got me there, champ. Go study for your math test and take out the trash for your mom buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:32 PM
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Asked and answered already. GTF out of here with that BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:23 PM
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Nice try. The person with basic reading comprehension and writing skills is not the one who looks dumb in this situation. The level of stupidity on the Internet is not to be underestimated so when someone says ridiculous things, many times they are serious. You actually have no way to prove you don't actually believe the things you wrote. It looks a lot like you are just backtracking now. Regardless, either way is pretty pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:11 PM
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She then clarified her stance as well though.... You are clearly not arguing in good faith. The mental gymnastics here are Olympic level.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:54 PM
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No. I don't have to read minds or guess when I can just read the actual words that she typed. If you don't understand how written communication works, I cannot help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:22 PM
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I know because I can read. From The OP you replied to... >"OP literally says 18-25. You’re pretty fucking stupid if you think OP isn’t talking about teenagers. If he meant women out of college, he’d have made that first number >20" See the 18 in bold? She explained it herself. People know that most people don't graduate from high school at 25, but rather 18-19. OOP included 18 in the age range. He could have made it 20-25 or something. He didn't. He included highschool age teenagers. OP called t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:17 AM
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They were not calling out the entire age range, but just the lower end of it. Nobody is saying that the 25 year olds are just out of high school 18 is still IN high school many times. 18-19 would be fresh out. Maybe even 20 for the people who don't graduate until they're 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 06:35 AM
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https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr051.pdf https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2025/09/older-mothers.html https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/guzzo-childbearing-desires-intentions-attitudes-among-childless-adults-40-49-fp-22-11.html
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:57 AM
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Who said anything about someone not graduating highschool until 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:33 AM
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https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr74/nvsr74-09.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:27 AM
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More than 1/3 isn't exactly rare. Not the majority, but definitely not a unicorn. Also, that percentage is continually growing (and rather quickly) as more women put off having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 02:04 AM
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According to the CDC, in the US (as of 2023) approximately 37% of first births are to women over 30. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr74/nvsr74-09.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 01:01 AM
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I'm not a feminist so I don't follow them. I just know my own experience and that of my female friends and family, which is that most of us get hit on while underage by much older men, if not fully groped or assaulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 04:12 PM
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Who is this? How does this apply to the children being cat called, isn't she an adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 03:44 PM
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In which country are they not might be a better question. I've never met a woman who didn't get hit on by the age of 13 by grown men, regardless of what country they are from. I see a lot of these discussions online too. https://www.ilr.cornell.edu/worker-institute/blog/publications-0/ilr-and-hollaback-release-largest-analysis-street-harassment-date https://stopstreetharassment.org/our-work/nationalstudy/shage/#:~:text=RESPONDENTS'%20AGE:,7%25%20were%20older%20than%2016. Here are some reddit con…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 12:28 PM
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Who said I only care about that stuff? Don't put words in my mouth. My husband is the most respectful, attentive, caring and intelligent man I have ever met. We are best friends. We have a ton of common interests and we each do everything we can to make the each other's life better and easier. If a white man had ever treated me half as good as my husband does, maybe I would have been more attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:03 PM
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You are really taking I said sort of off the cuff, and making it a way bigger deal. I didn't select these men for this reason alone. It's an added bonus. I grew up in a town of 2000 people. A couple of the boys I wanted to date, that looked nothing like my family, ended up being related to me, which thankfully I found out before dating them when I asked my parents if I could. It was pretty common in that area to be related to everyone. I guess when I moved away to a big city I decided people of …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:54 PM
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They are much more predictable if I'm more genetically similar to my mate though. Bone structure can also be more similar in genetically similar individuals. The more different people look from each other, the more unpredictable the offspring will be in appearance. Genetically inherited disorders are much more likely to be passed on with genetically similar mates than with more diverse ones as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:30 PM
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As I said before, it's the predictability of it. That's it. I want to be surprised. Whether that's all of them the same or all of them different I don't care. I just know 100% what I'm getting if I have kids with someone with blond hair and blue eyes because that's what I have and they are recessive. If my husband is Heterozygous for either trait there is a 50% change at our children expressing that trait. If he is homozygous they will get the dominant gene so there is unpredictably there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:57 PM
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I wouldn't think they were boring regardless of how they looked. The features themselves are not boring. I guess I worded my original comment poorly. What I would find boring would be having kids with someone who looks like they could be my brother. I don't want to know what my child will look like ahead of time. If they all looked the same that wouldn't bother me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:20 PM
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There is less risk for inherited genetic disorders. If parents are less similar genetically, it's less likely they will carry the same defective genes that cause genetic disorders. Also, the children of parents who are more distantly related tend to be taller and smarter than their peers, according to one of the largest studies to date into genetic diversity.looked at the genetic background and health of more than 350,000 individuals from around 100 communities across four continents. Researcher…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:56 AM
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Yes, it is possible for individuals to fetishize their own race, often driven by internalized stereotypes, cultural glorification of certain traits, or the desire to affirm a specific racial identity. This phenomenon can stem from internalized racism or a desire to conform to, or overemphasize, stereotypes associated with their own group, leading to behaviors where they desire or are desired based on racialized perceptions. I never said I'm not attracted to white men. I dated plenty before I met…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 06:13 AM
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Some do. Not all. a lot of guys fetishize white women, it sounds like you certainly do. The last thing an Arab man is going to do is marry a whore and take her home to meet his Muslim family. If he had just been fetishizing white woman, he would have slept with them and married an Arab like some of them do. He had plenty of options and opportunity. "courage"? About what? We openly talk about what women he finds attractive and what guys I find attractive. It's not necessary to ask questions you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:45 AM
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Some might like white women, but it's definitely not a universal thing, especially where my husband is from. Many of them tend not to like white women, especially from the US because of political stuff. "white devil" is something you'll hear. He doesn't lie because I don't even have to ask. I can observe his preferences by looking at his preferred actresses and singers what not. It's not hard to see what kind of women men tend to like. He likes two blond actresses and the rest are brunette. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 05:13 AM
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Funny enough he usually prefers brunettes. Perhaps it's you that has the blond fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:47 AM
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His siblings have recessive traits, so there is a good chance he also carries them. If he is Heterozygous (dominant/recessive) and I am homozygous (recessive/recessive) our kids have a 50% chance at expressing the recessive trait. Do you understand how genetics work? source: I am a biotechnologist (also this is basic, jr high biology punnet square stuff). My husband likes my traits because they are mine. Some of them will be passed on and some will not because that's how offspring work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:30 AM
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It's not boring to pass on blond. It's boring to know for sure what my kids will look like. Blond hair and blue eyes are both recessive. If I have kids with someone genetically different from me they may have light eyes and dark hair or dark eyes and light hair or any combination. my husband has two nephews from different siblings with blue eyes. They both have two Arab parents with dark features but they have recessive genes for eye color. One nephew has lighter hair. Offspring with more divers…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:02 AM
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I don't find the men my friends date to be ugly, but they aren't usually my type. I can usually see what others might find attractive about them but I'm just not attracted to them personally. For example, my husband is Arab and I've always been more attracted to Arab and Latino men. My best friend's husband is white and blond which is probably my least favorite combo (I'm white and blond so I don't want to have kids with someone who looks like he could be my brother). My sister and another good …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:25 AM
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These men are more likely to lie and manipulate to get what they want. They will often tell a woman they love her, tell her he isn't sleeping with anyone else, or at least lead her to believe it is possible to become exclusive when he has no intention of ever having a relationship with her. They play games, so to speak. They feel no guilt or remorse about hurting feelings or leading women on. Good guys don't do these things. Women often think the sociopaths are good guys at first because they di…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 07:03 PM
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My husband is from Egypt, for example. In his culture, and most Arab culture in general, women do not change their names. The kids take the Father's name. In most Spanish speaking countries and East Asian countries women keep their own name as well. Also in Belgium and the Netherlands. Women taking the man's last name is not the norm world wide, but the children having the fathers name is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:02 PM
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So you wouldn't be open to marrying a woman from another culture? Even if everything else aligned this would be a hill to die on? ETA: It's cool if that's your opinion, I'm just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:21 PM
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My husband is from Egypt, an Islamic country, and women in his culture don't change their names. It's not customary in most Islamic or Arab countries. Arabs are not known for being overly feminist. It's not really a feminist thing as much as a cultural one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:17 PM
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Yeah my husband is from Egypt and women don't change their name is their culture so he didn't expect me to. I didn't legally change my name because of professional certifications and the hassle with that but I do use it informally sometimes and people refer to me as Mrs. my-husbands-last-name or they refer to us as The husband's-last-name's.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:12 PM
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If a woman is receiving no support that means she is working and making her own money and paying her own taxes (more than you can say). No man is paying for it. She is paying her own rent or mortgage. Buying her own food. I know it's hard to fathom how paychecks and bills work since you don't receive them but no one helps if you don't receive support . They are productive members of society. Women makeup about half of the overall workforce that keeps society running. 1/3 of manufacturing jobs ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:57 PM
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Men have been deadbeats for decades too. Instead the taxpayers pick up their tab. Less than one-quarter of single-mother families receive any amount of child support. Most single mothers don't receive any support. https://www.aecf.org/blog/child-support-statistics#:\~:text=Yet%2C%202020%E2%80%932022%20data%20in,include%20stepchildren%20and%20adopted%20children. Roughly 30% of custodial parents due child support receive none, and less than half get the full amount. https://www.census.gov/newsroom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:16 AM
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Again google is easy...there are plenty more. https://www.wbiw.com/2024/06/24/woman-arrested-after-violating-court-ordered-custody-agreement/ https://www.danielstaylor.com/2013/09/mother-violates-custody-order-refuses-to-return-son-to-father/ https://capecops.com/2024/06/14/woman-arrested-for-interference-with-child-custody-order/ https://www.pafamilylawllc.com/crawford-county-woman-gets-jail-sentence-for-custody-interference https://www.wbiw.com/2024/06/24/woman-arrested-after-violating-court-o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:19 PM
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I did a 3 sec Google search and easily found women arrested for not paying child support...so yes it's a non zero number. Women also get arrested for fraud if they scam fathers for child support. Perhaps they don't on your side of the pond but they definitely do over here. https://www.aclu.org/press-releases/michigan-supreme-court-orders-new-trial-mother-jailed-being-too-poor-pay-child https://www.beaconjournal.com/story/news/crime/2019/04/10/woman-sentenced-to-jail-for/5473965007/ https://kfoxt…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:06 AM
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Women don't have all the power, and men have rights. Men have custodial rights to their children, men get child support from women when they are the custodial parent and in divorces. Fathers have a say over the upbringing of their children when they choose to remain part of the child's life and they can get court orders to say so. Look, you only care about the overall numbers anyway, right. Men pay more taxes so women pay none. More babies are born than aborted so no babies are aborted. There ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:26 PM
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If a father is not helping to raise his child, he is a deadbeat. You said yourself that children need a father and on that we agree. A father should be interacting with his child, teaching, loving and raising his child. A father is more than a paycheck. If the man doesn't want to participate in the life of his child, the least he can do is provide child support. An absent father is a deadbeat. Men do have choices, which you have failed to acknowledge time and time again. Any man who's sat throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 01:28 AM
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So fathers should not be deadbeats then? if children are entitled to a father, men sould show up and do their part. They can help in ways besides child support. There would be fewer kids without fathers if fathers fathered their children. If a woman's worth is giving sex and having babies, then a man's worth is providing money, right? Women are still having babies, so men should be providing money. Why should single women do both? They did their part. The men are the ones shirking their part. Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 10:22 PM
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I quoted you. Those are your words. you can look back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:01 PM
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You said earlier thought that women's work was all worthless. According to you housework, cooking, cleaning, raising children is all worthless. Plus she raised a child to be a tax burden, a net negative on society. She failed at her job. She is worthless, in your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:00 PM
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"Unless you've worked full time and been a reasonably high earner for 30 years, you're almost certainly a tax burden. Or will be when you retire and live for another 15-20 years." Actually no, you said I was probably a tax burden so I just responded that, no I wasn't. Then you replied back about being NEET.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:31 PM
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How would your mother feel if you went and told her how worthless you think she is? You seem like the type that has told her. I feel quite sorry for her. Are she and your dad supporting you right now? or are you is public housing? Most women are doing the household chores, so it's not hard to find a woman who does them. Many are doing the chores and working full time. Apparently their house work and work outside the house count for nothing though, regardless of if they are married or single, or …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 07:24 PM
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Men are participating less in the workforce, so yes, it may very well happen. Women pay the same tax rates. We don't get a special rate, I hate to break it to you. Women who are breadwinners in their relationships already are sharing the same as a man would. The woman used to stay home because one income was enough. How many men are out there earning enough to support an entire household? Also women want financial autonomy so many of them go back to work once the child is in school but that stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 06:02 PM
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This has to be trolling. This "divine power" thing is wild. Just say "no" man. Many men do. You literally say women are divine, and yet turn around and say they are worthless the same time. How did you get here? Did your father give birth to you and raise you? Did you have all male nurses and teachers, and cooks? Obviously I was talking about couples, not single men...men don't benefit from housework? they don't eat food that is cooked? they don't wear clothes washed and ironed? they don't have …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 05:48 PM
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Consenting to sex is consenting to all the risks that come along with it. That is why sex education is important. If you have unprotected sex, you consent to the possibility of becoming a parent and getting STIs. You can always choose not to have sex at all if you don't like the odds. Or you could use multiple forms of birth control like millions of adults who don't get pregnant everyday. Sex won't go from all to nothing overnight. If the trends continue the younger generations will continue to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:46 PM
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So if sex is consensual , then men have a choice. I wasn't saying having a child is the same as drunk driving, I was saying you have to take responsibility for your actions in life even if you don't want to, or didn't mean for the action to happen. I make over 6 figures. I have for well over a decade and likely will continue to until I retire so I will probably not be a tax burden. I actually grew up on a cattle, corn, and soybean farm and I had to work from the time I could walk essentially. Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 10:51 PM
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Men don't have to be happy about fatherhood. Many women aren't happy either, even ones who don't have abortions. The only thing men have to do is write a check once a month. The mother has to everything else in that scenario. It's taking responsibility for your actions, or you could say paying for your mistakes. If you accidentally ran over a pedestrian or drove drunk and killed a family you would have to pay in both of those scenarios too. Being an adult sometimes means doing things we don't wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:40 PM
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I said AND refusing to marry (as in, not the only form of shaming). One way some men shame some women on this sub is saying that they are "ran through" and will never find a husband. Some men on this sub often say they don't want to be with a promiscuous woman and some (usually red pill) want virgins. Many men on this sub complain that they can't get experience with sex which prevents them from getting sex which is a catch 22 because women don't want virgins and only want experienced men. So I a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 02:03 PM
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So you see a lot more women preferring virgins and refusing to marry men who aren't virgins than men who want to find a virgin bride?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:39 AM
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You are not acknowledging that men have the choice to wear a condom, to get a vasectomy, or to not have sex with a particular woman at all if he doesn't trust that she is actually taking birth control. There are several choices a man can make to prevent him from becoming a father. Women do not get pregnant through osmosis. Men absolutely have choices. My husband has no unplanned children. My male friends have no unplanned children. Look at them existing and not impregnating women. It's very poss…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 08:10 PM
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I see math isn't your strong suit. The data doesn't say what you think it says. Your link is for the UK, where they have 1 year of maternity leave, which accounts for a large percentage of the fewer hours worked. If men want women to work more hours, they could start taking care of the children more. Why are men now complaining about the falling birth rate? Do they want women to work or have kids? If you want to get into self reporting, much of men's work is also self reported while they are act…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:48 PM
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That is just a lot of words just to say you don't hold men accountable. Your entire body must be hurting from the gymnastics you're doing in this entire post, not just your calf. Your link is a 13 year old source from the UK that actually proves my point about the wage gap. If you look at the embedded link https://infogram.com/Number-of-taxpayers-by-gender-and-income-bracket and click through the income brackets, you will see a large discrepancy in the number of men vs women in the larger bracke…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 07:04 PM
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Someone didn't pay attention is 6th grade biology. The man has to contribute the sperm for a woman to get pregnant. Women are not out here immaculately conceiving. How easy one gets sex is irrelevant. Ultimately two people are needed to make a baby and two people made the choice to have sex with each other. There are men that get sex easily too, should they be held more accountable than men who have a harder time? How would that be measured? Men here like to talk about accountability. Both men a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 04:49 PM
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Why not shame promiscuous men too? Wouldn't half of the blame for this "decline of society" also fall on promiscuous men? Without men to have sex with, women wouldn't be promiscuous. Doesn't it take two people to make a baby? where are the fathers of these children raised by single mothers? Why are there so many deadbeat dads? Shouldn't they be shamed as well? Them not paying their child support is costing tax payers over $53 billion per year (and that estimate was from over a decade ago). https…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:03 AM
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It's probably because while one woman thinks her husband is above average and incredibly hot, others find him to be very average. I think my husband is a 10. Would everyone else agree? Probably not. People often say that he is very handsome.... Is that a 10? I don't know. I don't care. I know how I see him. I know my best friend thinks her husband is a 10 as well, and while I can say that he is a handsome man, I would not agree that he is a 10 in my eyes. He is to her though which is what matter…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:18 PM
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Pretending all men would keep their children and not want to have abortions is the fantasy here. The fact is, many men don't want to be parents. Some men currently abandon their children. Some men currently become deadbeat fathers and fail to pay child support. Other men go as far as to kill their children. Our current system is not set up to allow them to unilaterally force government sanctioned abortions, which is the only reason why the numbers aren't higher. Believing that no men would take …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:11 PM
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Women are the ones who get pregnant. If men were the one who got pregnant the numbers would be skewed the opposite direction. You're being either disingenuous or obtuse if you don't understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:58 PM
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Men and women both do sanctioned and non sanctioned abortions. It's about people in general not wanting to be parents, not about gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:10 PM
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And? Why does it matter if it's government sanctioned or not? It's ok to kill the kid and/or the mother of it's not government sanctioned?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 05:38 PM
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Plenty have forced women to get abortions. https://www.justice.gov/usao-sdil/pr/st-peters-man-sentenced-15-years-kidnapping-his-pregnant-girlfriend-firearm-force-her https://www.ccv.org/news/ohio-doctor-allegedly-forces-mother-to-take-abortion-pill https://www.fox4news.com/news/north-texas-man-charged-capital-murder-girlfriends-forced-abortion-case https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/shawn-thomas-leigh-high-school-san-jose-lawsuit-rape-sexual-assault-settlement/ https://www.cbs17.com/news/…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 05:34 PM
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Here are just a few examples I found with a 10 sec Google search... Men killing women because they refused to get an abortion. Not government sanctioned but examples of men not wanting children. https://www.wwnytv.com/2025/11/03/man-killed-18-year-old-girlfriend-after-she-refused-get-an-abortion-prosecutors-say/ https://people.com/pregnant-mistress-murdered-after-refusing-to-get-abortion-11874635 https://www.koco.com/article/promise-cooper-pregnant-19-year-old-fatally-shot-domestic-violence-midw…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:18 AM
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Plenty would if they could. How many times have you heard of rich guys paying their mistresses to get abortions? How many times have women been murdered because they are pregnant and the man doesn't want they baby and she wouldn't abort? If you haven't seen any, go watch dateline, 20/20, or any other true crime show.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:56 AM
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Many fathers also choose abortion. It's not solely on the mothers. Even in forced marriage, if abortions were still available, people would still choose them because many men don't want to be fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:46 AM
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You think forced marriage is a real solution? Compared to child support? You are okay with conjugal slavery but think a court order is too far out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 08:47 PM
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Check garnishment and custody agreements would help more. It guarantees payment and schedules. Being married doesn't automatically mean that the man gives money for the child or spends time with them Some couples have separate accounts and the woman doesn't have access to his money. There are some women who complain that their husbands don't pay enough towards child care or do their fair share of child care. Court orders would be the best way to compel payment and compliance. If they want to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 08:11 PM
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You don't need to be married for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 05:43 PM
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Why forced marriage? That would just make a lot of unhappy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:21 PM
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Definitely, the man should have to pay her medical bills during the pregnancy and delivery and then support them financially for the next 18 years, and pay for medical care, education and college of the child. As long as the pregnancy is healthy and not forced.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:16 PM
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Men and women are both aware that pregnancy can happen if they have sex so they are both ultimately responsible then, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:09 PM
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After a certain point of the pregnancy, if the pregnancy is safe and not from rape or incest, yes, if the man agrees to support them monetarily through the pregnancy and pay child support until the child is 18, and help pay for college and provide health insurance for the child. The man does not risk his life during pregnancy. He does not suffer any ill effects so the pregnancy portion has a lot more weight on the woman. I personally would not have an abortion but I don't think we should force w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:13 PM
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I don't think you've seen your own logic failure. You have tried to put all the ones on women, claiming men have no agency. I have said nothing against both parties being responsible for pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:42 PM
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That's not what "my body my choice is." It prevents the man from being the one with sole control over the woman's body. The same can apply to a man if someone is trying to rape him. Sex is a 2 yes's or nothing kind of thing. 1 no from either party, and it doesn't happen. That is what "my body, my choice" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:34 PM
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Claiming they have no agency is wild. So men can't be raped? It takes two people to decide to have sex. If a man does not want to have a child, he should not have sex or use condoms. Birth control is not 100% effective though so there will be accidents. You know men on the sub like to say women don't take accountability but this is a great example of how many men don't take accountability for even the most obvious things either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:25 PM
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Well, it's different in every case. Some fathers abandon their children. Some mothers don't allow the father to see the children. Some judges take the children away from the both parents. Some judges say the father can only have supervised visits. Sometimes the woman does baby trap the man by lying about birth control. Sometimes the man tampers with the birth control of the woman. Some women live in states or countries that don't have access to abortion so she has to have the baby of someone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:10 PM
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I experience both. They are different but one is not necessarily more intense than the other... I've had really intense from both so it just depends on everything else going on. As for the emotional part, I don't really think it's the orgasm itself that is emotional. It's all about the person and the intimacy itself. It can be really emotional even without having an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:37 PM
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Most of the men I know are either married or living with their partner. Most of them are not exceptionally rich, but do earn a decent enough living. The nerdy type guys are usually with the nerdy girls. Sporty guys with sporty girls. Artsy guys with arts girls. There are definitely exceptions but like tends to attract like more often than opposites attracting in my observations. The single friend I can think of is divorced, and be does well enough dating. It's kind of the running joke that he is…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 02:53 AM
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It's self explanatory. There is a low desire to have sex. It varies from woman to woman what that means (how often). Any one of the issues listed can cause a woman to not want to have sex. It can be because of pain during sex or because of the actual hormonal changes that make her not even think about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:19 PM
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Endometriosis, fibroids, ovarian cysts, Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, interstitial cystitis, cervical cancer, uterine cancer, vaginal and vulvar cancers, breast cancer, organ prolapse (vaginal and rectal, often after child birth or pelvic surgery), infertility, yeast infections, bacterial infections, urinary tract infections, sexually transmitted infections, vaginal dryness, hormonal changes, irregular periods, heavy periods, perimenopause, menopause, low sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:13 PM
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The majority of women actually don't use apps, only about 30%. Only 10% of people in relationships met their significant others online. https://www.forbes.com/health/dating/dating-statistics/ I met my husband in person, I never used apps. I don't know any women who met their significant others online either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:13 AM
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You do realize that women are more likely to initiate break ups, right? Not men? There are many reasons that people end relationships. Incompatible lifestyles, different goals in life, etc. It sounds like you don't really understand exactly how relationships and dating work. You are comparing one night stands to actual relationships, which is not an accurate comparison at all. You are speaking to something on which you have no experience or real world knowledge. It's cool if you don't want to da…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:16 PM
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Isn't being with different women how men get experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:12 PM
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Around 83% of the romance genre is written by women https://wordsrated.com/author-demographics-statistics/#:~:text=83%25%20of%20Romance%20genre%20books%20were%20written%20by%20women. https://www.bwhaggart.com/blog/men-writing-romance-1#:~:text=The%20Real%20Numbers,names%20and%20social%20media%20accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 12:40 PM
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it does say about half of the users are under 30. It also says only "One-in-ten partnered adults – meaning those who are married, living with a partner or in a committed romantic relationship – met their current significant other through a dating site or app." People are meeting their serious partners elsewhere and the dating apps are not necessarily representative of the general population. Since many people use them just for hook ups or fwb-type situations (just to find the hottest people) it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:50 PM
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Most women don't use dating apps though...only about 27% so it's not a good representation. Women on apps are bombarded with messages so they have to find a way to weed out some of them. The first way is typically appearance. This leads to the most attractive men getting the most replies. This is not representative of how it works in person when things are more organic. Not every woman is going to get a top tier man. Most average women end up with average men. They have a type they like and find…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:59 PM
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With several of my friends, there are either no or very few men we agree on, haha. My top tier is different from their top tier. Like I can agree that my friends's husbands and partners are conventionally attractive, see how they think they are attractive, but I would never date them myself (if we weren't all married) because they aren't my type. They probably feel the same about my husband. I agree that the more attractive men will have it easier. I don't think that has ever been in dispute. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 07:10 AM
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A lot of men take this to mean that only 10-20% of me are attractive to women. The "top" 20%. The thing is that my top 20% is going to vary from what each of my friends, sisters, coworkers, and classmates think. In my friend group, I can't think of one guy that every single woman agrees on, not even the famous men. There are the friends that don't care for Brad Pitt, for example. I don't care for Jason Momoa but my sister does. We both really like Cilian Murphy but we have friends that don't....
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:25 AM
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My husband does all kinds of things for me. He is not a danger to me, but quite the opposite. This particular man has caused me no suffering and has actually improved my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 08:38 PM
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If someone is a shitty partner, leave them. Cheating is not the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 06:03 AM
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There is no magic switch unfortunately. It's different for everyone. It will take time and work. Definitely stay in therapy. Do you have any hobbies? Any friends? What do you do with your time? What do you want to do with your time? What are your goals besides a relationship? Can you start studying something? What are you interested in? What are you passionate about? You need to find something you are interested in to focus on. Something you are passionate about. Think about your current limitat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:35 PM
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That's the problem. You can't rely on someone else to make you feel better. That's a huge burden to put on someone. You need to get yourself together before you will make a good partner. Everyone has problems to deal with. They aren't going to want to deal with your's too. It's no one else job to fix you, and once they figure out that's what you're wanting from them, that is when you'll get blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:03 PM
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There is a time and place to tell people this kind of info. No one expects everyone to be cute all the time. I think you can also tell people this without making it your entire personality. I am not sure what you are saying to them, but it's likely your actions or a combination of your words and actions, that is driving them away. Have you considered that maybe you aren't ready for a relationship? If you are so anxious and have PTSD so bad that you find it hard to regulate and it effects your re…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:13 PM
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Well, sometimes people will give other people a chance. Perhaps those issues are not automatic rule outs for those men, but once they got to know you more they were turned off by other things. The whole reason to date is to get to know someone. No one can know before knowing someone if they will like them or not. They gave you a chance and decided you weren't right for them. It's as simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:06 PM
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In general, people don't want to date depressed, anxious, unemployed people. There are of course exceptions and those exceptions depend heavily on the circumstances surrounding those issues and what the person is doing in response to them (their mindset). Not knowing exactly what you said, it's hard to know what specifically is turning them away but you should focus more on the positive aspects of your personality and less on the negative. Show people the reasons they should want to be with you.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 12:47 PM
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I don't share details with my friends about that kind of thing and they don't share them with me. There have been times they have mentioned certain issues that may come up, such as not having as much sex since the birth of a child, or they will allude to the fact that things are going well in the bedroom; surface level details. It's not really super detailed stuff. The reason we talk about any of it at all is either to get advice, or to just say how things are going in general. I couldn't tell y…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:44 AM
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"Recent analyses of physiological and archaeological evidence, published in American Anthropologist, suggest that females hunted just as much as males did during the Paleolithic era. In fact, they were well-suited to long-distance hunting, largely thanks to the benefits of estrogen. Additionally, Neanderthal remains show a sex-equal distribution of bone injuries consistent with hunting. Both males and females were buried with similar items and weapons, suggesting that there was not such a stark …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 10:41 PM
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I have never heard a single woman say either of these things, or anything resembling them, anywhere. Typically women don't know how large someone's penis is before deciding to sleep with them or not. It is not usually a deciding factor that plays into the equation. Women don't tend to focus on the "dick" so much as who owns it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:18 PM
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I chose a husband who makes my life better. We both do everything we can to make each other's lives easier and better because we want that for each other. If you find someone who is actively trying to improve your life, it is a pretty great thing. I think too often, many women ignore a lot of things and think it will get better or that they can live with it and marry someone who is just a bad match for them. There a things I see a lot of women complain about, like a man being a slob, having bad …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:50 PM
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If men don't typically marry women who make less money than them anymore, it's more than likely that the women are paying more than 20% of their assets/bills, no? Most partners who make approximately equal amounts of money usually pay equal amounts of household bills. Many more couples are going 50/50 these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:11 PM
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I didn't say it's the single thing changing it. I said it's the single thing changing it the MOST. I could have worded it better. In Qatar, the female educational attainment, at least bachelor's or equivalent of women 25+, stands at 49.1%, reflecting an increase of 7.1% (16.8%) compared to 2021, which has been steadily increasing. The female literacy rate in Qatar is 100%. What exactly are you trying to say about Qatar? (Btw, the US has a 99% female literacy rate, and 35% of women hold a bachelo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:54 AM
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Many women are choosing not to have babies, or as many babies, because they are choosing to get an education and have a career instead. They are having them later in life, after college and after getting a stable job and income so they don't have as many. Many educated couples are holding off on having babies until the are more financially stable. They are busy working so they don't want children until later in life once they have met certain goals. Many men are also choosing not to have childre…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:06 AM
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When I was single I didn't go around actively wanting or trying to meet men. It usually just happened organically through friends or social groups. I've never used apps and I wouldn't, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:42 PM
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My husband is the hottest man I've ever been with. I haven't been with many but I was just dating and trying to find a man I wanted to marry. I did get proposals before my husband but I knew I could do better. Women are told to choose better. Be more picky. Once we do, we either have too many standards or are settling. I did not settle. I found the man I wantrd to be with who was not an alcoholic, a drug addict, a compulsive liar or abusive. I married the handsome, respectful, intelligent, kind …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:24 PM
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I wouldn't even dignify that message with a response, unless it's a specific reference to something you get (that I'm not privy to). Even still, maybe don't call it brain rot. Find another way to reference whatever show or quote that is if you understand it. Do NOT ask these people out in the first interaction. That is too forward. It will seem desperate, easy, and possibly a bit aggressive. They will think you go out with every man you talk to very easily. Build up a rapport. Ask questions. Yes…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/25 11:12 PM
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I don't think one is being settled for just because their spouse still finds other people attractive. I mean, both spouses still find other people attractive. That doesn't mean either one of them is settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 10:50 PM
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After reading through the thread here I noticed you are a sex worker, yet you have had the same partner for years. So it's your partner who is the literal cuck then... At least in my relationship no one is having sex with anyone else, or wanting to. For any reason. My husband doesn't even watch porn. My husband didn't settle for me. I didn't settle for him. We picked each other out of many. We both had many options. We are best friends. We laugh together. We support each other. We both do anythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:32 PM
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She says she has had a partner for years, too. So I guess her partner is the literal cuck...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:24 PM
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Sorry, I got that after re-reading your comment. I was just about to delete it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:13 PM
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Not in my experience. I'm sorry you know so many shitty men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:02 PM
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There is a difference between settling and finding others attractive. Settling is when you aren't really interested in the person but you can't find anyone else that you really want, so you settle for them instead of being alone. Finding others attractive is just having eyes. No one stops seeing people when they get married. The faithful stop trying to sleep with those people, or seeing them as prospects. You see a person, notice they are pretty or handsome and keep walking. That's it. We aren't…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:01 PM
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Not all men are bad. Marriage can be great or it can be awful. It all depends on the two people in the partnership. There are terrible people of both genders, and there are great people of both genders. I found a great man. My dad is a great man. I have several friends with wonderful husbands. I have awesome brothers-in-law. I also have a total shit bag,ass-hat brother-law. Im not trying to sway you one way or the other, I'm just saying that you should consider that people only complain when bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:54 PM
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My husband didn't settle for me. I didn't settle for him. We picked each other out of many. We both had many options. We are best friends. We laugh together. We support each other. We both do anything we can to make each other's life better and easier. Big or small things. Companionship. Partnership. Friendship. Respectful. Loyalty. Love. Support. Passion. That's what marriage is. Finding someone who you can really trust and love and have all of these qualities out of the many is difficult. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:46 PM
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In my early twenties, I was working on a military base so I had a lot of guy friends. One day a group of us were having the "men and women can't be friends" discussion and I asked one saying it was impossible if if he wasn't my friend. He said "we are friends, but I will try to sleep with you as soon as you and boyfriend (his friend) break up." We laughed but I realized that many, if not most of them were probably the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:45 PM
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Yes. That is probably true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:59 PM
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Men and women both find people other than their spouse attractive. There isn't a person on the planet that finds only one person attractive. That doesn't mean they are going to try to fuck them all. I know my husband thinks other women are hot. It would be crazy if he didn't. He didn't suddenly go blind the day we got married. There are other men I find hot. That doesn't mean either of us are jumping into bed with anyone else. My husband has got integrity. He has too much love and respect for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:56 PM
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The being attracted to 20 year olds thing is baffling to me, as a woman. I thought that was just sort of common knowledge. There have been studies done on this and people talk about and site these studies here on this sub. Like..the sky is blue, water is wet, and men like young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:56 AM
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Almost all women were being hit on by the age of 12. Every woman I know got hit the most from the ages of 13-18. It doesn't matter how attractive or the demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:47 AM
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Personality is literally what makes you...you. It's what helps you clique (or not) with other people. The definition of personality is " the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character." It's what sets you apart from other people. What makes you interesting, or not. What makes you an asshole or kind. Fun or serious. Well read or a complete imbecile. Athletic or lazy. You get the idea. You may not be thinking about it but other people who interact w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 11:29 PM
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Who wouldn't enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 02:13 AM
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Both parties enjoy the resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:22 PM
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You just need to find more interesting women. Most of my friends have a lot of hobbies and interests, have cool jobs, are quite intelligent, and are very interesting to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 11:12 PM
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Are you trying to say that these are the only hobbies women have?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 11:08 PM
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You know most women work too, right? If you don't want to work, don't. No one is forcing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:31 PM
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No one wants to be bored. Do you want a boring girlfriend? Being confident and charming does not necessarily mean the man toxic. My husband is exciting, confident, funny, charming, and popular but he is not a toxic, abusive cheater. He is also kind, attentive , generous, respect, intelligent and affectionate. Yes, those charming, popular types are more likely to because they have the opportunity. Men who are quiet and boring are not talking to and attracting women to get the chance to be players…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 11:52 PM
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This is a good point, I added an edit to my post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:26 AM
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It will feel different after the first partner, even for the first partner, because the hymen is broken and no longer partially blocking the entrance to the vagina. The vagina is the same size though. Think of a cardboard tube (like from paper towels). Put a piece of plastic over the top of it with a small hole in it. When you puncture that hole in the plastic, it destroys it. That tube is still the same size though. That is basically what is happening with the hymen. I'm an actual real scientis…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:56 AM
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The evolutionarily point of men preferring virgins was to guarantee the paternity of the offspring. There were no paternity tests in back then. It has nothing to do with vagina "size" although I'm sure many of them found that to be a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:46 AM
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How soon after having sex with him did she have sex with you? The vagina does stretch temporarily during sex and for a short time after but it will go back. Age does make it less elastic though so it will be "loser" as woman ages even if she isn't cheating. Child birth can also affect the shape just because of the way it is sewn back together and the scar tissue. There are times that a woman's cervix will be higher than normal, depending on hormones, cycle, age, position, etc. I can see why you …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:37 AM
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My husband is from Egypt. I'm from the US. We know many foreign men married to or dating western women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:19 AM
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The fact that she was close to ovulation is what changed the position of her cervix. Not her cheating on you. During ovulation, the cervix typically moves to a high, soft, and open position, which is often described as "soft, high, and open" or "SHOW". This position facilitates sperm entry and increases the chances of conception.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:15 AM
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I just asked the same thing! His user name definitely does NOT check out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:11 AM
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The irony of your user name. It's pretty much a fact that a man's penis compresses and gets smaller with every partner he has. You see how saying something is a fact doesn't make it so? Why would having more partners be any different than than having one partner repeatedly? If a woman who is never married has 50 one night stands in her life, she only has sex 50 times. A woman who has only had sex with her husband twice a week for 40 years has had sex over 4100 times. That's not counting the hone…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:05 AM
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Most men under 40 (and many over) can't change a tire. They catch a fish, hunt or butcher an animal, cook a meal, can/preserve food, change their oil, sew a button, tie a necktie, repair a broken zipper, plant a garden, build a fire without lighter fluid, spackle a wall, or any number of other life skills either. I can do all of these things because I grew up on a farm. The farm has been in my family since well before the great depression, so tradition is just to do everything ourselves because …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:13 AM
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So you don't have any examples that apply to women who aren't on social media or OLD? (I use both because some women use social media but not OLD).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:19 AM
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So what about the women that don't have social media or OLD? Edit: or are you only applying this to OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 12:12 AM
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If she isn't giving her enthusiastic approval, it's essentially the same thing. Feeling guilted or pressured into a decision isn't the same as making a decision without any coercion. You can sugar coat or mince words to make it sound better but it's still a man sleeping with a woman who isn't his wife, while the wife is unhappy about it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/25 01:02 PM
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Right. I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/25 12:44 AM
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I re-read your post and I think you are saying that high value men wouldn't want to cheat? At first I thought the opposite. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you though, haha. My apologies if I am..
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 11:28 PM
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I would say they aren't actually high value if they are cheaters. I guess the definition of high value is subjective though. I know plenty of men who are good looking, intelligent, highly educated, well employed, highly compensated, and have great personalities that do not cheat. I'm sorry you have such a low opinion of men. I know there are so many awful men out there that it can be hard to believe there are any good ones, but they do exist.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 11:23 PM
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No high value men are like what?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/25 11:07 PM
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It's legal in Nevada. Do they not have the same issue there?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 03:56 AM
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No. Not all high value men are like that, and no, I would not accept it if my husband tried to be with other women. Would your husband be okay with you being with another man? If not, why should you be okay with him being with someone else? My husband would never want to be with anyone else. He loves me and does not want to hurt me or do anything to jeopardize the relationship. Even if I was ok with it, he would not be. It would cheapen and lessen what we have. There is something sacred (for lac…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/25 04:11 AM
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If a factory employs 100 people, and 40 of them are women, 40% of their workforce is female. If that factory is in a town/country whatever with a population of 134ish, those 40 women make up 30% of the total workforce. It's not rocket science. There is no need to take a percentage of a percentage in this situation (which by the way I do understand. You are connecting things that aren't connected here. The fact that you don't understand how 40% of a factory's workers can be only 30% of the popula…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:23 AM
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"so 10% of women working in factories" Nope. 2 is 40% of 5. 40% of the women were working in factories. "Factory work employed two out of five women." 2 out of 5. 4 out of 10. 40%. Good try though. What difference does that make?" That question was in regards to the specific industry. You said "women like textiles ignoring coal, steel and transportation." The question wasn't what industry they worked in, but whether or not they worked in factories or mines at all. They did. If the OP had said sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:13 AM
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"so 25%" Yes. 25%. 1 in 4. "The 1851 census showed that women made up about 30 percent of England’s work force. Many women still worked on the farm or as maids and cooks, but factory work employed two out of five women. https://images.carsondellosa.com/media/cd/pdfs/Activities/FR01064.pdf "Source for the numbers paywalled." Ok. And? I didn't make it that way. What questions do you have? I have access to it. Pay for it if you really want to see it. Look up the census stats for the specific years …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:31 PM
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"By 1910, one in four women over the age of 14 was paid for her work. A single income could not support most American families. Women in low-income households had to contribute financially" https://wams.nyhistory.org/industry-and-empire/labor-and-industry/waged-industrial-work/ "In 1851, 43 percent of women were reported to be in ‘regular employment’. ‘Regular’ was not defined, so that figure should be taken as a minimum of those engaged in paid employment" https://www.campop.geog.cam.ac.uk/blog…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 05:26 PM
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This would be perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:42 PM
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The act of kneeling historically stems from knights kneeling for royalty. It was done to show respect, servitude, humility, and devotion. It evolved into a romantic act, and the tradition has stuck. If you don't like it, don't do it. Many people do like marriage, but it's not for everyone. The good news is that no one is forcing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 05:07 PM
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"Not all women are psychological adults. In fact, most aren't." If you believe this, yet you still want to have sex with women, you are effectively wanting to have sex with people whom you believe to be psychological children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 05:02 PM
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I don't expect men to kiss my ass. I don't personally have any issues with men. I love men. I love my husband. I love my Dad. We have a lot of awesome male friends. I'm not sure why you think I have an issue with them. The problems between men and women in general depend on the specific men and women. Society at large has a gender war because the two genders do not understand each other and each side is trying to "win". Each side has valid arguments against the other. Women think men treat them …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:32 AM
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Women are not the problem. They are part of the problem. Both genders are part of the problem. The fact that many people on each side cannot admit that anyone on their side is wrong is also part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 01:45 AM
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I'm not a feminist, but nice try. The specific topic we were discussing was sex stopping after having children. If one doesn't have children, the sex tends not to stop. You said you aren't having kids. What's the problem? How am I shutting you, or men in general down?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:40 AM
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Problem solved then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:29 AM
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So don't have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 12:23 AM
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For me it was like 1: unattractive. Self explanatory. 2: Neutral. I don't see them as attractive or unattractive. They can move up into being attractive or down to unattractive depending on how our personal interactions go though. This is the majority of most men. 3: Attractive. Not a lot of men actually catch my attention as being attractive. If someone points out someone to me and asks, sometimes I will find someone attractive. Men in this category can easily move down to unattractive dependin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:08 AM
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I've never done ONS or casual hookups either. That being said, there are women who are good with that, possibly because they are busy with school or work, or just not wanting to settle down. Some women will go with it because they don't want to pressure the man to commit and hope that he will eventually fall for her and commit to her. They are worried of coming on too strong maybe? I don't know that it makes them sad necessarily. They just have different priorities. Not everyone wants kids and/o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:34 PM
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I never said the entire group is like that. I said that in my personal experience, most conservatives I know are opposite of what you described. I pointed out the well known groups as examples that everyone could picture. Edit: grammar, clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:49 PM
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In my experience, it's actually the exact opposite. The super religious, right wingers I know (my sister joined a cult when she got married so I know quite a few of the super conservative religious types, and I live in a conservative state) look quite scruffy like they are going for the homeless mountain man look or something. You know the full beards that aren't trimmed nicely or groomed, yellow teeth, greasy hair, dirt under their nails, dirty clothes, always wearing their work boots. There wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:39 AM
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No. I'm not just commenting on my husband. I gave that as one example off the top of my head. I'm commenting on 30+ years of experience of me and my friends. Yes it's anecdotal, but it seems to go with the general consensus of millions of other women, so we don't seem to be outliers. If a man is interested he will usually make his move fairly quickly, unless he has some sort of conflict of interest or low self esteem or something. (Not always, of course) A woman can definitely approach, there is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 11:08 PM
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There is also a good number of people in situationships, where the guy still sees himself as single and the woman sees herself as taken. There is a whole grey area of relationships where the people are in some stage in which they have not yet defined it and perhaps don't agree on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:32 PM
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With my now - husband, I just locked eyes with him a couple times at a music show, and he was there talking to me within 5 min. Men don't usually take very long to approach. Men we don't want to approach still will. There isn't really much reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 08:39 PM
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Why would any woman want a man that isn't emotionally vulnerable? Where did she say she works with bald "Chad?" You are making a lot of assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 02:57 AM
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Midwest US in the 90s. Small rural farming town. It was a huge problem because the chemicals required to manufacturer Meth were easily accessible because of the farms. Anhydrous Ammonia tanks at the time just sat out in the open with no locks on the tanks or anything. The farming crisis of the 80s had also hit the area very hard so there were a lot of people that were desperate for money. Some farmers who were licensed to buy certain chemicals that happen to be precursors for manufacturing meth …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 12:21 AM
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This is actually very relatable. Where I grew up, meth was the huge problem though. There were meth labs getting busted everywhere around our town, people's parents were using it, our teachers, the business owners, it seemed like everyone. I actually caught a guy I was dating in highschool using it and lying about it. The struggle is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 10:11 PM
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"Doesn't do cocaine." This made me laugh. Were heroin and meth cool though?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:11 PM
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I was/am very driven, opinionated, and confident, and was somewhat of a "tomboy" (I lived/worked on a farm and was an athlete) and I received a ton of attention from mem outside of my age group. I don't think they were driven away by any of those traits. Some of them seemed to appreciate those things, actually. Anecdotally. My poor dad, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:07 AM
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There are men that will always looking for a 22 year old with 36DD breasts and a 24 in waist. Just as there are women who are looking for the the "666" thing. Is it the majority of either? No. It's the superficial minority of both genders that most people who want a real, genuine loving LTR want to steer clear of. It sucks that they exist but there are plenty of others who value other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 02:29 AM
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It definitely isn't the majority. According to the #1 dating coach for men who has analyzed these trends... "Gold diggers are relatively few and far between, though, and they're probably not women you'd want to date, anyway." "I think the 6-6-6 myth persists for two reasons:" "The “6s” are easy to measure, whereas things women actually care about aren’t. It’s easy to tell if a guy is tall, has a certain income, or is in good shape. It’s much harder to assess his personality, energy, intellect, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:10 AM
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Even if that were true, it's still not the majority of women though. EDT: only 33% of dating app users are women. Most women is the US are not using apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:41 PM
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That majority of women are not using the "666" standard though. It's a thing among a minority on dating apps. Even on those apps, 80% of women are open to lowering their standards in order to meet a mate, according to recent surveys. Also, some define the "666" rule as six figures, six feet tall, six pack abs so penis size does not factor in to their definition. https://nypost.com/2024/09/16/lifestyle/women-are-using-the-6-6-6-dating-rule-to-find-the-perfect-man-but-is-it-hurting-their-chance-at…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:02 PM
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Except most woman don't care...that's the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:02 PM
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So...who is gay??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 02:57 PM
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I haven't heard any of my friends talk about dick size. I have absolutely no idea what their husbands are working with and they have no idea about mine, as it should be. I knew a couple girls in college that talked about being with guys who were too big that hurt them. Men are size queens way more often. They are the ones obsessing about penis size. Even in school, they are the ones drawing dick and balls on everything. They don't even draw vaginas. Women/girls don't go around drawing giant peni…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 12:07 PM
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I met my husband at a niche music show at a local venue. He caught my eye and then noticed me noticing him. He came over and introduced himself. After talking a bit we discovered we had a ton of friends in common and lived in the same neighborhood. He asked me out, so I asked around to our mutual friends about him and they all said he was a really cool, trustworthy guy so I went for it. For the record, my friends and family who are married or in LTR also met their husbands/SO in person. I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 09:47 PM
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I never said my group of women were the only ones on the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:08 AM
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I have a couple of friends into old guys, like much older. One friend like big guys, so if obese it's ok, morbidly obese probably not. As for the deformity, it depends. One of my friends is a veteran and really into scars and the wounded vet type so if he fits that look than he would be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:05 AM
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About that...if I'm in a room with 4 women and 10 men, yes, I'll probably only find 2-3 of those 10 men attractive. However, out of the 5 of us women, it's likely we will all like 2 different men. That would mean that all 10 men would be found attractive by at least one of the women, even though each woman only likes 20%. Now there may be some overlap, where a couple women like one of the same, and there may be one or two guys that no one is into. It's not going to be all of us after the same tw…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 02:36 AM
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The best house parties I went to were the ones with several roommates because there were several groups of friends that were meeting each other instead just the same group hanging out. More people = more opportunities to meet people you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:16 PM
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House parties are one of the cheapest options for socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:13 PM
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That just means he doesn't stand out among the thousands of others of pics women are seeing. Many guys who would probably do ok in person probably won't get a second look online. There is no charisma, no chemistry, nothing to set anyone apart. Many people don't photograph well and look better in person (the opposite is also true, some people can look better in pics). That said, yes, he might also just be ugly. Ugly men date ugly women so they are meeting somewhere. The fact that they are ugly is…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:42 PM
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If a man has never had any dates at all, there is a chance it's something other than his looks. Yes, he could just be horrendously ugly, but he could be creeping women out when he approaches them somehow instead. I've had men approach me who aren't ugly but who say creepy things so I'm obviously not going to go out with them. Perhaps he smells bad or has bad hygiene. There are several things that could be turning women off, other than looks. People typically date within their same level, do to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:04 PM
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We are talking about two different things. Ugly men, versus the 80% of men that are not ugly but average. There are the top 20% of men that are obviously conventionally attractive. Then there are the 30% who are above average. (Remember 50% is average) Then there are the 10% who are about exactly average. Then there are the 20% who are slightly below average. Then there are the bottom 20%.who would probably be considered ugly. Women are not talking about the bottom 20%. We are talking about the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:35 PM
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Women aren't saying they are attracted to men "despite how ugly" they are. They are saying there are men they are attracted to that they weren't immediately attracted to. There are men who are average or slightly above who became more attractive once you get to know their personality. That doesn't mean they are ugly or bad looking. It means they are not a supermodel or someone who automatically catches attention when he walks in a room. Not every women is super attractive either, but they are cu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 06:08 PM
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"you will the other way around." I wouldn't, actually, as I said. I didn't know he was boring and shallow until I went on a date with him. I didn't continue to date him. If I had known ahead of time that he was boring and shallow, I would have turned down the initial date, just as I turned down the subsequent dates. That's the point of dating. Getting to know someone. "That's great and all, but I'd say that's basically irrelevant, or should be." You think someone's personality should be irreleva…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 10:30 PM
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Attraction is based on physical appearance, but also personality. Attraction is dynamic and changing. If one spends time with someone and learns their personality, it can change their perception of the person's attractiveness. For example, I went on a date with a man who had been a model and was conventionally very attractive but he was an incredibly boring, vapid, shallow person which I find incredibly unattractive. Suddenly I'm not attracted to him anymore and turn down his requests for future…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 09:17 PM
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There are some members of those populations that are bi but definitely not all of them. There are straight people that look at gay porn for various reasons. Mostly it seems that it comes down to a power dynamic, dominance/submission, or taboo type of thing but there are some other reasons that people shared... "But some boys and young men find male or gay porn much more compelling than straight porn. Why? Perhaps the better question is “who.” These may be basically heterosexual boys or young men…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:46 AM
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Many women actually want to raise their children. Having a child and then paying someone else to see all it's special moments and teach them their basics is not ideal for many women. Many women feel they miss out on a lot if they have someone else raise them so it's quite common for women to stay home with the child until they go to preschool or even kindergarten. That 4-5 year gap on the resume is often looked down upon. Then there is the matter of continuing care for the child. Leaving work to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:41 PM
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I am with you there, because I myself am not into any sort of kink or BDSM and I personally hate the idea of any violence at all mixed with sex. Even spanking. I just don't want to see it and it doesn't turn me on. I wouldn't want a man who wanted to do these things. That said, I know there are a lot of people who fantasize about that stuff without actually wanting it. I have (unfortunately) seen 50 shades (I'm not sure which one) because I was with some friends who wanted to watch. None of thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:43 PM
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Mostly it seems that it comes down to a power dynamic, dominance/submission, or taboo type of thing but there are some other reasons that people shared... "But some boys and young men find male or gay porn much more compelling than straight porn. Why? Perhaps the better question is “who.” These may be basically heterosexual boys or young men who were thrown some significant developmental curveballs from a young age:" https://brothersroad.org/why-porn/ "it seems like there are some issues around …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:58 PM
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Sure, some of the dudes that watch it are bi, but I doubt all 20-25% of men that do are bi, just as many of the women that watch lesbian porn aren't bi or lesbians.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 08:01 PM
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I'm not who you are replying to but there are studies that show otherwise. "Researchers at porn website Youporn found that 24 percent of heterosexual men say they watch gay content, while 39 percent of straight women have seen lesbian porn." The first link is the actual porn site, fair warning. The second link is a ny post article about the study. https://www.youporn.com/world/heterosexual-user-preferences https://nypost.com/2018/03/01/1-in-4-straight-men-watch-gay-porn-survey/ "In respect of se…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:46 PM
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"Researchers at porn website Youporn found that 24 percent of heterosexual men say they watch gay content, while 39 percent of straight women have seen lesbian porn." The first link is the actual porn site, fair warning. The second link is a ny post article about the study. https://www.youporn.com/world/heterosexual-user-preferences https://nypost.com/2018/03/01/1-in-4-straight-men-watch-gay-porn-survey/ "In respect of self-identified straight male visitors to YouPorn, 24% of visitors watch male…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:36 PM
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So the men who watch lesbian porn are closet trans or secretly wishing they were actually women, so that they could engage in lesbian sex then? ETA: do you really think 1/4 of straight men are actually bi? That seems high to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 05:29 PM
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So you think 1/4 of straight men are actually bi? That seems a little high to to me, but who knows? So when men watch lesbian porn are they closet trans? Do they actually wish they were women so they could engage in lesbian sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 05:24 PM
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So the 25% of straight men that watch gay porn actually want to have gay sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:39 PM
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That's not at all how it goes. First of all men and women don't typically have classes together, it would be an open gym situation where they will see each other, but for this we'll pretend that they do. I know this can be applied to most groups though. The established women will not ask you to coffee. They will talk shit and spread rumors and play all kinds of games. If men do come hit on you, there is a good chance he is probably just looking for sex because one of the established women told h…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:19 PM
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You seriously just named some of my favorite things. I'm sorry the women you meet suck but I know a lot of women into all off the things you just listed, plus hunting, fishing, woodworking, beer making, welding and several other traditionally male hobbies. My cousin in Florida hunts pythons with her husband, as they get paid to help remove the invasive species. I game more than my husband, who usually only plays games on his phone, haha. I'm not a huge gamer, but I do enjoy it when I have time. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:18 PM
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That's unfortunate for you, but not true for many people. In my circle, the women I know truly love their men. Two of my best female friends are actually the bread winners in their relationship. They own their own house, which their respective husbands then moved into. My husband lived in my house when we were first married, while he finished his PhD and we would have stayed there if he didn't get a job offer in a different city. Perhaps you need to meet more educated, ambitious women? I met my …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:42 PM
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The worst looking guy I dated turned out to be the one who cheated multiple times and had a secret drug problem. My sister's husband cheated on her and he was a short, overweight, balding, ginger with glasses who barely graduated from highschool and couldn't hold a job, even at Walmart. He was super Christian which made my sister think he was decent. Being less attractive has no impact on moral integrity or one's ability to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:09 PM
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Well, they did "jump" to different types of manufacturing jobs, but no they didn't go from no work to suddenly working. There weren't as many women manufacturing military equipment before the war. Significantly more began to manufacturer military equipment during the war. Both men and women. Saying women did "nothing" is simply not true. Men and women both contributed the equipment to make war possible, otherwise it would have simply been a huge fist fight, or perhaps a wrestling match which, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 07:05 PM
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Have you ever heard the expression "don't put all of your eggs on one basket?" More money > Less money What if he gets laid off or fired and struggles to find work? What if the husband becomes disabled? Disability won't cover living expenses in most places, it's difficult to get and takes years. What happens when she is 50 and he decides to leave her? What if he becomes abusive? Manipulative, socially isolating, and controlling? What if he becomes an alcoholic, a compulsive gambler, or a drug ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:47 PM
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I never said women were chained to the kitchen and I'm not a feminist. Stop putting words in my mouth. The big change that came during the war was the types of manufacturing jobs women were doing. Instead of making clothes they might be making planes, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:39 PM
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Yet that "miserable" 5% made up 1/3 of the manufacturing jobs alone in the US. The United States manufactured the most military equipment during World War II with a workforce of 33% women. By the end of the war, half of the world's wartime industrial production was in the US, and America provided almost two-thirds of all Allied military equipment with those "miserable " women. (Many of those women were also raising children at the time.) This included 297,000 aircraft, 193,000 artillery pieces, …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 02:58 AM
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Who said the topics were European from the beginning? The topic was WW2. WORLD War Two. The US is, in fact, part of the World. The United States produced the most military equipment during World War II. By the end of the war, half of the world's wartime industrial production was in the US, and American industry provided almost two-thirds of all Allied military equipment. Here's a more detailed breakdown: United States: Produced over 190,000 aircraft, 193,000 artillery pieces, 86,000 tanks, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:50 AM
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The topic was war time production during WWII though, not necessarily which countries got ravaged the most. The United States produced the most military equipment during World War II. By the end of the war, half of the world's wartime industrial production was in the US, and American industry provided almost two-thirds of all Allied military equipment. The United States produced over 200,000 aircraft, 193,000 artillery pieces, 86,000 tanks, and 2,000,000 army trucks, as well as over 2000 large n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 12:42 AM
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"Roughly 6.7 million additional women went to work during the war, increasing the female labor force by almost 50 percent in a few short years." "Manufacturing alone accounted for more than three million more female workers between 1940 and March 1944, rising from 21 to 34 percent of total female employ- ment. https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-economic-history/article/rise-and-fall-of-female-labor-force-participation-during-world-war-ii-in-the-united-states/66C7D7FD7F6424DF40625…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 11:55 PM
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I can definitely understand your feelings. No one wants that to feel like a second choice. Anyone can have those fears. Many women marry men who have been with other women, so they can also be worried that men are still fantasizing about their previous conquests. Were they skinnier? Tighter? Bigger boobs? Nicer labia? Did she do kinky things? I read some women who get intimidated by the porn their significant others watch. So even if you married a virgin they might be thinking of the porn. It's …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:22 AM
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Not all women have been with "more attractive" men. My husband is literally the most attractive man I've ever been with, and honestly if I had seen his picture on an app I wouldn't have picked him because I would assume that he was an asshole and a cheater. We met in person and had mutual friends. The first thing people say about him when they meet him or tell other people about him is how handsome he is. Strangers like waitresses and people in line at the coffee shop tell me hot hot he is. I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:32 AM
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The study said a lot of shorter men marry younger women so those women aren't necessarily settling. Perhaps it just takes short men longer to get the confidence they need? Even if they do marry a woman their age that does not mean she is settling. Not all women marry later in life because they are settling. Most of my friends married in their thirties and none of them were settling. They were just waiting for the right guy and the right time. They wanted to finish college and get going in their …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:49 PM
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There are also studies showing the opposite. One study by NYU shows that while short men were found to marry later in life than average or tall men, they were 32 percent less likely to divorce. (this study used data from the Panel Study of Income Dynamics, which has been collecting info on 5,000 families for almost 50 years) https://www.nber.org/papers/w20402?utm_campaign=ntw&utm_medium=email&utm_source=ntw&_ga=1.186148649.1441157578.1405527496 https://www.huffpost.com/entry/link-between-mens-he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:52 PM
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Does it matter? If someone doesn't think you are the most attractive person in the world, you aren't going to be with them? You are probably going to be alone then. Most people understand that they are not the most physically attractive person in the world. They know there are celebrities and models and other random people that are probably more attractive. It's not a big deal. Once you fall in love with someone you are attracted to them over everyone else. If you haven't been in love, it's hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:56 PM
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My husband being tall has nothing to do with why I married him. If he was short, and everything else about him was the same, I would have married him anyway. I was engaged to be married to a shorter man who turned out to be a compulsive liar and a cheater. Should I say that doesn't bode well for short men? No, because it doesn't make sense to use one anecdote to characterize all relationships, just like it doesn't make sense to say me marrying a taller man is evidence of that short men can't get…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 07:43 PM
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There are many short men that are married or in relationships. There are many short guys that are very attractive. Being shorter doesn't automatically make someone unattractive to many women. They do have a harder time, but what one lacks in height they can make up for in other areas. Physical attraction is definitely important, but having an awesome personality actually makes you more attractive. Before I was married I dated men who were shorter than me, and l didn't have a preference for tall …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:59 PM
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If women are repulsed by you, blame your parents for having a repulsive child and/or blame yourself for not being able to become non-repulsive. Don't blame women for not being attracted to someone who is repulsive. Blame shifting is not attractive. Are you attracted to repulsive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:57 PM
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So then when it becomes normalized to have transactional sex instead of relationships and the majority of women start charging for sex, wouldn't that inflate their egos even more? I see a lot of men blaming OF for the current culture (among other things).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:08 PM
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I don't believe they are common. I personally don't know anyone that has participated in one. I'm not sure where your friend got that number but it's way too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:24 PM
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It's been legalized for a long time in most these places though. It is the social norm there. It seems many men actually want relationship and intimacy, because they still seek out LTRs in the places were prostitution is legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 07:06 PM
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It is legal in 86 countries total: Canada, Belgium, Germany, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland, Luxembourg, Greece, Hungary, Latvia, Turkey, most of Australia, most of Mexico, Argentina, Colombia, as well as several other South American, Asian and African countries. It doesn't really seem to be a factor in the dynamics between men and women for the most part. Edit: grammar and spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:14 PM
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Sex work is legal in many countries (and in Nevada in the US), and the same dynamics between men and women exist in those places. It changes nothing. ETA: Canada, Belgium, Germany, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland, Luxembourg, Greece, Hungary, Latvia, and most of Australia all have legalized prostitution, as well as several South American and Asian countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:01 PM
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It's hard for many women to adjust to the change in their body, even if someone is telling them they are beautiful. It doesn't help that a lot of the media puts pressure on women to be thin and young. This was especially bad in the past, think about women today who grew up with Kate Moss and young Brittney Spears as the body types they were told are the most desirable. Stretch marks are normal. So is aging, wrinkles, weight, gain, cellulite, and everything else but women are often told by media …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 03:46 AM
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It's not weird at all. Everyone has their own preferences. After having a child, the hips gets broader and the breasts get fuller, which are traits many men tend to like in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 01:21 AM
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As women age, their hormones change and their sex drive change. On average, it peaks in their 30s and then begins to decline. Once perimenopause and menopause begin the libido drastically dips off in most women. Combine that with the changes to the body from child birth, endometriosis, fibroids, cysts, PCOS, and numerous other conditions that can cause pain during intercourse which can make sex difficult and stressful for many women. Then add the stress of caring for the children, the household,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:28 PM
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Approximately 93,000 sexual abuse claims were filed with the US bankruptcy court before the deadline. It's public record.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:46 AM
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NOT the body builder. Other than that I'm ok with any of the others. I know some women like that but I'm just not into it. My husband is toned, but not overly so. Before I was married I dated men with a variety of body types. I was a gymnast growing up and I worked on my family's farm, so I was usually around a bunch of toned guys so that is what I gravitated towards, but I think shared lifestyle and interests contribute some to that. It wasn't super important to me what body type a man had thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:19 PM
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You said it isn't possible. It is absolutely. possible. The end.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:30 PM
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Some of your skills, experience, and knowledge would be applicable, yes. No, you would not be able to go directly from one career to the other There is direct overlap in the knowledge base.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:17 PM
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It's applicable to this discussion, as this discussion is about human anatomy and the standards and variations, which I literally see everyday. For example, I collect the placenta from vaginal births, as we isolate the amnion to use in several surgical applications. The fewer people that handle it, the less chance of contamination. During this procedure, vaginal anatomy is often discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:52 PM
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I assumed as much. I'm a biotechnologist who specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have dissected more bodies than I can count. I know and understand human anatomy and physiology. Plus, I own and operate a vagina daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:26 PM
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That is strange 🤔 May I ask what your qualifications in female anatomy are?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:21 PM
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Just out of curiosity, was this comment to me or to the other person, because some comments appear to have been deleted so it's hard to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:13 PM
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Even when considering a retroverted uterus (which has a 20% prevalence rate), the statistically average phallus physically isn't capable of reaching the cervix, or even the anterior fornix." "I was low-key insinuating that most aren't fully aroused most of the time" So you agree that women are not thoroughly aroused, meaning the vaginal canal is even shorter, around 3-4 in on average when not aroused. The average penis is 5 in which is more than 4 in. I guess math isn't your strong suit so I'll …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:11 PM
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You are simply wrong. (See links below) Don't forget that not all women are fully aroused while having intercourse which leaves the vaginal canal shorter. The dig at my partner also makes no sense, as it is the exact opposite of your own argument. In your own words, a below average "Johnson" wouldn't reach the cervix, so if he is hitting my cervix, his "Johnson" is obviously above average. For the record, my husband does happen to be above average, especially in the US, as he is from Africa wher…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:34 PM
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So it seems that you may be experiencing the dunning Krueger effect. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect You are using a lot of anatomical words to sound educated on the subject, however you are not educated enough to know what you do not know. You've just said a whole lot of words to say that you've never hit a woman's cervix. Most women I know have experienced it though. Some of my friends in college called it "bottoming out". It is a real thing. Some women say it hur…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:54 AM
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Yeah, a lot men truly see things differently in that way. It's very much about honor. My husband is Arab and talking him down when someone made him mad has sometimes been a challenge, lol. I'm sure there are some women who would want a man to fight. I'm just at a point in my life where I want as little drama as possible. The women I know are of a similar mind set. Especially in this economy... Ain't nobody got time for that, haha
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:57 AM
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I think it might depend a lot on age, maturity, and education levels as well. In highschool a girl might have called a man a bitch for that, possibly even college, but as a fully grown adult who has to pay bills and face consequences it's a lot different, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:35 AM
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The cervix does move in correlation to a women's cycle, however almost 1/4 of woman (20-25%) have a tilted uterus (retroverted uterus) and often experience the exact opposite cervical movement so their cervix may be lower at fertile times. https://www.healthline.com/health/cervix-before-period#cervical-changes-chart Women can experience the penis hitting the cervix (usually causing pain) at certain times of her cycle, as it's not always high. However even if it's higher than normal it may not be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:30 AM
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You mean her being relieved because he did the mature, responsible thing and she won't have to go bail him out of jail later or worry about hiring a lawyer because of criminal charges or a possible lawsuit just because some guy had too much testosterone and a fragile ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:01 AM
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Why do you think kids are the only thing fulfilling women's lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:17 AM
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If kids are the only thing fulfilling your life...what a sad life. I have a very close circle of friends and a huge family, I won't be alone when I'm old. No need to make a baby to try it to force it and guilt it into taking care of me when I'm old. I also have career, hobbies, interests, ect. The one thing I have no interest or desire for is having my own children. My husband and I both have no interest at all. Plus we want to be able to afford to retire so we will actually be able to save the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:12 PM
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All else being equal we are talking exclusively about their sexual views, behaviors, etc. If a conservative man is prude and has no sexual experience he is probably going to be boring which isn't very sexy or masculine. A more liberal man with experience would be more exciting. Also, I wasn't necessarily saying liberal and conservative in terms of political views but just in terms of their sexual views although the two things do frequently align. If a politically conservative man is experienced …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:09 PM
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Wouldn't it be more likely that the conservative prude would be more boring and less masculine and sexy than the liberal, sexually-free partner? As someone more sexually experienced and open, the liberal would be more masculine, sexy, and exciting in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:58 PM
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Wouldn't it be more likely that the conservative prude would be more boring and less masculine and sexy than the liberal sexually free partner? As someone more sexually experienced and open, the liberal would be more masculine, sexy, and exciting in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:58 PM
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Considering the "male loneliness epidemic", it seems they must actually be doing a decent job at filtering them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 12:45 PM
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Do you have a link to the original where it says that? All I am finding is the one with the graph showing that women go on to contact approx. 20% of men ranked below "medium". Perhaps men are just worse at taking photos on social media? Isn't that kind of a trope? It may be that many women need to see men in person to find them attractive or that many men aren't very photogenic, or a combination of those two things. This was published in 2009. People using dating websites back in 2009 were still…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:15 PM
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That same study also showed that women also largely went on to initiate contact with that same block of men they just rated as physically below average. Look at the graph. In terms of who women are actually willing to pursue they don't seem too picky in regards to looks. This study could also just prove that men on ok cupid are really bad at taking pictures. Has it ever been repeated in the general population?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:33 PM
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How do you know that they do?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:38 AM
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There are men that say nobody wants an expired woman, past her prime, etc. I think women are responding to those types of comments when they say they still get plenty of dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:22 AM
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I don't know, he sort of looks like he is like melting sometimes, or something it just off about him. He is like a 4 on his best day day in my opinion but we all have different opinions of what is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:23 PM
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So you're a racist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:33 AM
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No, I didn't say that. Not all men only want sex, but there are some men that only want sex. If a man finds a woman too unattractive to have sex with, he will not have sex with her, and therefore cannot use her for sex. To quote you : "Find a 500 lbs, balding, stinking woman and nobody's gonna wanna hit that, regardless of how much sex she offers." It's the same reason that a poor man has nothing to provide to a woman seeking to use him for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:57 PM
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It is moving the goalposts, as it wasn't the original argument. Women provide sex and they get used for it all the time. Men will sometimes fake interest in a relationship to get sex and other times they are honest that all they want is sex. It's an age old problem that women complain about, just as men complaining about getting used for money. Sometimes they get used for other things, but it's usually sex. An unattractive women is the equivalent of a broke or poor man. They don't get used much …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:07 PM
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Well you moved the goalposts, so I replied to that pivot in a honest way. The original argument was never about if everyone had to chose, which would they pick. The original argument was about whether or not women also get used for what they provide, instead of who they are. That turned in to argument about which is more innate, looks or the ability to make money. Also, there is a difference between killing time replying to comments and starting some kind of poll. It's interesting enough to disc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 01:58 PM
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I would remain single if my only two options were to be used as either a wallet or a Fleshlight (or whatever sex toy). I believe many people would also choose to be single over being used, although there are definitely people that would chose to be in a relationship knowing they are being used. I can't guess the percentages.. I don't care enough about other people's opinions to create a poll. You feel free to create a poll though, if it means that much to you to find out. I'm totally cool just a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:19 PM
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"there are people with money who don't have any special qualities" That is my point. Those people will still be desired solely for their money, even though they have no other special qualities. Just as the people who are good looking will be desired only for their looks. Someone can be born into a wealthy family and be inherently wealthy, just like someone can be born attractive; or someone can do something to become wealthy (like getting highly educated in the right fields, investing wisely, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:28 PM
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If they look fake, they don't look good but there are a lot of people with natural looking surgeries that most people would never be able to tell. As I said, I was using breasts as an example but it could be anything. If the whole package looks good, real or not, they will attract people. It's like if the money machine printed easily detectable fake money or the real thing. Being desired solely for being a piece a meat isn't any better than being used for any other quality. It's superficial. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:03 PM
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I don't think most women think about these men. Something I believe some of these men don't really realize is that the women in many of those countries except or want more traditional roles. Someone posted a clip from one of those reality shows where Americans go overseas to find a mate (90 day finance?), and this guy was so outraged and put out that the women in Morocco expected him to be the breadwinner and did not want to work. Dude. He said something along the lines of them being golddiggers…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:12 AM
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Just as a woman with fake breast implants will be just as sexually successful as a woman without any "innate" or natural breasts. (This could be any quality a man is attracted to, fake nose, tummy tuck, butt lift, etc). She may be even more successful than a woman without naturally large breasts or attractive features depending on the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 09:30 PM
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The argument is about what's more innate - looks or money. The ability to make money is just as innate as looks. One is born with their intellectual capacity and body. Those are the two things needed to earn a living. You develop those two things and learn new skills and get educated but you were born with the main foundation, just as with looks you can wear makeup, get surgery, workout, or do other things to enhance the looks. Someone born into a wealthy family is wealthy from birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:10 PM
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You brought up drug dealers specifically. Addicts are attracted to drugs more than money. Women without drug addictions will be attracted to both money and the ability to earn money. Look at how many women get with men in grad school for high earning careers..law school, med school, MBA programs, engineering, etc. Many of these men wives or girlfriends (if they want them) before they even graduate. Many others have no trouble getting dates. My husband is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD...most of…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 07:18 PM
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Nobody cares. You are the one that brought up occupation. Drug dealers are usually getting drug addicts. If you want to sleep with hot drug addicts, why don't you become a drug dealer? Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:15 PM
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What does that have to do with anything? I never said anything about where men make their money from. It doesn't really matter. Drug dealers possess and retain skills just like an engineer or a carpenter. It's just a different set of skills. Drug dealers are a bad example though because most of the women flocking to drug dealers are addicts and are more interested in the drugs than the money. How many straight-laced, sober accountants and yoga instructors do you see banging drug dealers?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 05:46 PM
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The ability to earn money is just as much a part of you as looks. In fact, it's usually harder to lose your ability to earn money than your looks. Once you have skills and knowledge you keep them barring any major traumatic brain injury or loss of limbs. If you lose a job, you can get another. If one gets burned or ages, they can't come back from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:23 PM
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That's what I'm saying. The same thing will happen if someone is shallow and oy with someone for superficial and transactional reasons. It has nothing to do with gender. Both genders are equally guilty of using the other. On the flip side, both genders are equally capable of being in a meaningful relationship too. It completely depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:16 PM
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It's not necessarily just age that changes looks though. Someone can gain weight, have an accident and get a giant scar, have an arm cut off, get burned in a fire, get a full sleeve tattoo, or even just cutting their hair is enough for some people to not like their look anymore. There are so many ways looks can change very quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:12 PM
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If a man loses his job, a person who is attracted to them only for money will lose interest in them, just a person who is only attracted to someone for their looks loses interest when the looks change or fade. If superficial qualities are the only factors keeping someone in a relationship, it probably isn't going to be a long or genuinely loving and pleasant relationship. It will be transactional, and once spent up they will move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:31 PM
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Looks are not permanent. They will fade fairly quickly. If someone only likes you for your looks, they will replace you with a 20 year old by the time your 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:12 PM
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I don't know if "tired" is the right word. Apathetic maybe. I know that often men give compliments with a motive so they are not genuine compliments and I just don't even accept them as being valid. Women will sometimes give false compliments if they are the fake type and have a motive of their own, like trying to make you think you look good in an outfit that actually looks bad. I often tell my husband that the only valid and genuine compliments, aside from close friends and family, are from ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:14 PM
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Yes. My husband served in the military in a country with conscription in the Middle East that is always in some sort of conflict or war. He and most of his male friends from his country have had to literally fight for their lives, and each others. Have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:15 AM
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How could you possibly know this without knowing her husband or his friends? My husband absolutely has "ride or die" friends. ETA: do you have any "ride or dies?" Any friends you hang out with regularly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:23 AM
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There are men who want a stay a home wife or "trad" (traditional) wife even if they don't have kids. He wants the house clean and meals cooked, laundry, shopping, and errands done and doesn't want to help with any of it so that is her job. There are women with disabilities and ssdi is not enough to live off alone in many places. There are women who are still in college and not working yet. Especially women in grad school as a thesis or dissertation takes a lot of time there isn't much left over …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:04 PM
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I never said there aren't women that sleep around. I know there definitely are. I'm talking about the ones who don't, because a lot of men seem to think all women are promiscuous and there is no way any woman could only sleep with 4 men or even less. I'm a little older but my husband is younger, most of our friends are younger and many of my colleagues are younger, and all of my cousins (early-mid 20s). None of them use apps because they meet people in person. There is just a difference in how p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:48 PM
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30 dates in one year is less than one a week. Considering many first dates a just coffee or lunch dates that last less than 2 hours, that isn't much time. 30-60/8760 hrs is a pretty small fraction. I'm not sure why some men have a hard time believing a lot of women don't have one night stands. I guess because every man would jump at the opportunity to have a one night stand. It's not the same for women though. Even with protection and birth control there is still a risk, even though it's small. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:19 PM
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She can go on 30 dates a year and still only sleep with 4-5 ever. Some will sleep with many more than that but many won't. Most of the women I know only sleep with men they are in relationships with, not men they only go on dates with. The number of dates doesn't really matter if they are actually picky about who they are sleeping with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:33 PM
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There is a big difference between going on a date with someone and having sex with someone. You seem to be using the term interchangeably. Most women don't sleep with every man they go on a date with. She could have dated 30 but had sex with 4.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:28 AM
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They don't actually. It is literally the opposite of your point. Women are not little girls. Men into little girls are not into women, so saying men being pedos proves that men are into average woman is blatantly false.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:59 AM
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I married the most amazing man in my mid 30s. I didn't settle for the men that proposed to me in my 20s because I didn't let this "wall" stuff scare me and I knew I deserved better, and I got it. And then some.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/25 07:25 AM
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Do most think that? I guess almost everyone I know is a doctor or has a PhD so it's just assumed that you spent most of your 20s and maybe some of your 30s in college. Haha. I guess people do usually say grad school... I was wanting to emphasize the fact that he was on college campus around college girls everyday that annoyed the shit out of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:07 AM
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He was working on his PhD at the time. He was 28. I don't really see how that is "predatory" for a man or a woman. He was grown ass man. He was old enough to have served in the Egyptian military, earn 2 college degrees in Petroleum Engineering, and move to a different hemisphere alone. He was old enough to decide if he wanted a relationship or not. People need to stop infantilizing full grown adults and get a grip.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 01:54 AM
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I think it depends on the man. I know several who also like older women. My husband could have his pick of women and he chose me even though I'm nine years older. My cousin was very popular and everyone wanted to date him and he married a woman almost 20 years older than himself. One of my best friends is married to a man almost 20 years younger. My husband's best friend's wife is 10 years older than him, and he is someone who could also have his pick of women. I still get hit on quite frequentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:26 PM
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Most men probably but not all of them. I know several men who have the choice of younger women but want older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:14 PM
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This is your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:09 PM
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Dude, listen, I'm not sure what makes you think I'm any more invested in this than you. It's just entertainment for me to kill time while I'm on call. I don't any of this personally. It's reddit 🤣 I've only been replying to you because you keep replying to me. If you don't want to talk to me, stop talking to me, lol. Good luck with your spiritual cleansing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:38 PM
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Apology accepted. I am definitely not the only one. Several other people did comment on this. I am not sure what you were thinking I need help with, as I don't need any. You are the one that dislikes people talking about something you wrote in your comment on a forum to talk about what you write in your comments. It depends on the woman. Ask one if you ever get one on top of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:14 PM
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It's not a sensitive topic. You said something that is incorrect. I corrected it. Simple. I don't know why you keep bringing it up again and again. Lol. If you want to make a point, make your point without the extraneous stuff if you don't want people to talk about that extraneous stuff Men also get into submissive positions. Some men prefer women on top. Yes, women are more often in the submissive positions, but it's not exclusive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 07:51 PM
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Wow, don't take things so personally, lol. If you don't want people to reply to you, don't comment on a public forum, haha. Comments on assholes, and then gets butthurt that someone comments back about assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 07:22 PM
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Having a visible asshole is much different than "spreading" it. Maybe you don't know this but men in 69 position have a visible asshole too. Anytime a man is in missionary his asshole is visible, so if you've ever had sex in front of a mirror, she's seen your asshole. Considering missionary position is one of the most common positions, a man's asshole is exposed as often, if not more, than a woman's during sex. I'm not really sure what the significance of that is though. It makes no difference t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 06:55 PM
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The ones who do spread their assholes are the ones who do it on purpose...what about it? It's not something that happens involuntarily. They might do it because they think it's what men want to see, I don't know. Ask next time. How do I see them? I don't see women spreading their assholes. I see naked people (men and women ) everyday as part of my job because I work in healthcare. Women's assholes don't spread open just because they are naked, not even when their legs are in up stirrups. It just…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:59 PM
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Ok? Most women don't spread their asshole open when they have sex either. It sounds like you're watching too much porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:28 PM
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The fibroid is gone and the kidney is fine but I still have severe Endometriosis that keeps returning. I have to have surgery about once every 1-2 years, sometimes a couple times a year because the Endo spreads to other parts and causes problems. It's gotten into my bowels, to my appendix, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:42 PM
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Yeah, my first obgyn told me it was normal and the pain in between periods was probably just ovulation or something. Never bothered with an ultrasound. I eventually ended up in the ER where they found a fibroid so large it had begun infarcting on my kidney and taking it's blood supply so I had to have surgery to fix it. My new obgyn (the one who was on call that day at the ER, who has done all of my surgeries, he has been a lifesaver!) says it's not normal to have that type of pain and fainting.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 06:05 PM
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Thank you. I've learned to manage it better as I've gotten older, and I've had several surgeries to try to control it. Some months are just worse than others for no apparent reason. You are correct, he was a total dickhead, that's why he is an ex. No offense at all, lol. Thankfully my husband is not a dickhead at all. You are already ahead of many men just by asking what you can do. It what mean a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 09:51 PM
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As long as you believe her you'll be fine. I have severe Endometriosis, uterine fibroids, and adenomyosis, which cause extreme pain and very heavy bleeding. Enough bleeding that my blood pressure gets so low that I may pass out and the pain is so intense I vomit sometimes. I have to go to the hospital for IV meds and fluids to get my blood pressure up some months. I had an ex once that didn't believe my pain was that bad because "his ex didn't have bad periods". Even after the doctor in the hosp…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:13 PM
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For me, it's during the period that's the worst. I have so much pain I actually vomit and I have fainted from blood loss a few times because I bleed so heavily. The mood swings are the least of my concern. I have horrible endometriosis. My husband knows has learned to know where I am in my cycle and how to deal with the specific issues, haha. He makes me coffee or tea and cooks the meals or brings home food during the really rough times. He takes me to the hospital and sits with me all day and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:07 PM
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The average woman is not a firefighter, so we aren't talking about average women. We are talking about a small percentage of women who could be firefighters or rescuers. There are some who probably are not very good at their job, just like there are men who suck at their jobs but there are also some that are great at their jobs. I'm not upset at basic biology. (I'm a biotechnologist actually.) I was simply asking was getting pregnant had to do with rescuing you from a fire (which you still haven…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:41 AM
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I'm aware that men have more upper body strength. I'm also aware that there are women capable of being firefighters. No, it's not the norm. No, not all women can do it. It crazy ignorant to think it's impossible though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:18 AM
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I helped cut a trapped child out of his car seat at an accident I came upon with my knife. I stopped, and there was a man already there who didn't have a knife. I carry one in my purse. You know how many hurricanes, floods, tornadoes and other life or death disasters I have helped in, along with other women? Yes men help. So do women. The majority of nurses are women. They often tend to jump in and help at accidents and disasters.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:47 AM
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Are you saying you would be thinking about getting her pregnant how does that come into play? Why does being able to get pregnant matter in this context? As long as she can carry you weight, it doesn't matter, does it? Firefighters have to pass pt tests to ensure they are able to do their jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:34 AM
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39% of first responders in the US are female. https://www.zippia.com/emergency-responder-jobs/demographics/ ETA: Over 23% of the Air Force, 21% of the Navy, 19% of the Army, and 10% of the Marines Corps are female.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:22 AM
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Of course you are allowed to ask, but you said the tone of her post suggests that so I am just curious what gave you that impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:28 PM
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Where did she imply that she is better looking?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:43 AM
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There is an epidemic of STIs in nursing homes. According to the CDC, STI rates in Americans age 65 or older have risen by as much as 260 percent since 2008. That shows that even women in their 70s and 80s and up are having sex. Someone is seeing them. There is always someone older. Most 80 and 90 year olds can't pull 20 year olds (or even actually want to, talk to some older people. Many want mature women) so they will be after the people their own age. Even if they do want younger, a 60 year ol…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 01:26 AM
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I'm not a feminist. I don't live in Canada. When I was a kid we learned in school, and from our parents, that sometimes people say mean things. They say hurtful things. Vulgar things. Part of life and growing up is learning to deal with hurtful things in a healthy way. Yes, getting called names is awful. It happens to pretty much everyone at some point in their life. It's horrible but people have to move on with life. This guy said it happened once. She isn't running around to the entire student…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 01:27 PM
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Men are not getting locked up for calling women names. There is nothing hypocritical about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 12:48 PM
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Yes, that is the treatment given to women. Words are not illegal, unless a threat is made. Women also get called all sorts of names like bitch, whore, slut, cunt, etc. Cat calling is annoying, but most girls over the age of 12 are pretty used to it. It would be great if people would be nicer and more respectful to each other but unfortunately I don't hold out much hope of that happening anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:56 AM
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No. If a woman gets groped by a stranger in public it isn't rape. It's sexual assault. She should definitely complain about it because there are laws against sexual assault. Rape and sexual assault are two different things, hence the reason there are two different sets of definitions and laws regarding each. I understand that being called names is hurtful. That sucks. He can definitely complain about it if he wants. I'm saying it's not the same as spending time in jail and going on trial for som…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:30 AM
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Did the police come to question you because she said that? Were you arrested? Did you spend any time in jail? Did you have to hire a lawyer? How much money did it cost you? Did you lose your job? Did you have to change schools? Did you have to move? Did your name get published in the paper? Were you and your family hounded by the media? Did your property get vandalized? Did you have to register as a sex offender? Did you lose any friends? Did any of your family turn against you? If none of these…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:08 AM
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" those men who overwhelmingly work in factories/construction jobs etc etc compared to women to not have the DECENCY to clean their dirty nails after having worked in the dirt all day before going to get some grocery." No, it's not. However, in this thread we were responding to the above comment specifically about cleaning their nails and hands. So this discussion just do happens to lean more into the topic of hand hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 08:16 PM
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The point I was making is that you don't have to go home to to wash your hands. Fast Orange and GOJO (and similar) are waterless cleaners, many construction crews keep it on their trucks with paper towels. The blue shop towels. Or shop rags. Factories usually have bathrooms with sinks. Grocery stores and gas stations and convenience stores have bathrooms with sinks. There is no reason one cannot take 30 seconds to practice basic hygiene. I grew up working on a farm and helping my Dad in construc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:45 PM
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I know a lot of men with very dirty jobs that have very good hygiene. They wash their hands after work. It's not difficult. It's a choice. GOJO or Fast Orange, Lava soap, and a nail brush are very easy things to find and simple and quick to use. .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:20 PM
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Yes, they should have the "DECENCY" to wash their hands after work. It literally takes 30 seconds. It's not difficult. I grew up on, and worked on, a farm. I also detasseled corn, worked in a large animal vet clinic (helping in births and other very messy things), dug graves for a cemetery (family friend's business), helped my dad work construction and carpentry jobs, worked on cars and farm equipment, and now I cut up deceased people for a living (I'm licensed. I do have to wear sterile gloves …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 04:10 PM
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Maybe they should try staying home after dark and never leaving home without a chaperone?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:15 AM
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I was wondering the same thing, haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 08:26 PM
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The number of elderly people with STIs have more than doubled in the last couple decades. Nursing homes and retirement communities are having outbreaks. That shows that even women in their 70s and 80s are having sex. Old people get with other old people. Would they both prefer someone that looked like a 25 year old movie star? Probably, but most people are realistic. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna145332 ETA: my grandma passed away before my grandpa. He started going to the "senior center"…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:38 PM
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Dead serious. About all of it. Which part is unbelievable to you? I'm sorry if that does fit your narrative. I can prove it if you want. Do you want me to DM pics of our marriage license? His PhD? (He is a petroleum engineer) His Fulbright Scholarship? Pics of how tall he is? Texts with family and friends taking about how handsome he is? (I'll have to block out most of his face in the pics). I'll also have to block put out names and identifying info on the documents but I can put a tag with my u…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:01 PM
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You think that prioritizing a stable future is being narcissistic? In my experience the woman who waited until their late 20s or 30s to get married, after college and career, are the happiest and most stable. The women I know who got married earlier are mostly divorced and either single moms or remarried now. They were mostly the girls that partied a lot and got married early because they got pregnant accidentally. That doesn't show great decision making skills. Neither one is necessarily narcis…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:02 PM
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I have wondered this too. She is so fake and generic looking. Often times, she actually looks sort of like a video game character to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:11 AM
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Stop playing games. Interact with your husband in a genuine way, not a manipulative way. Stop trying to label every interaction. Get off of tick tock.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 05:58 AM
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I use Germanic for where I grew up because that's what it is. Germany is specifically where the people in my area are from. I realize that Germanic does mean just German, lol. A lot of the Amish are from Switzerland. They speak German though. I say "white men" hit on me because I have no way of knowing the ancestral lineage or background or random men that hit on me. As you said, "Germanic is not synonymous with white." I can't just assume every white man in the world is Germanic. My point was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:52 PM
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How am I using it interchangeably? I grew up in an area that is literally mostly Germanic. 2nd-3rd generation German. I am 3rd generation. There is a large population there that still speaks German, my grandparents and parents do, I speak some. There is also a sizeable Amish community a few miles from where I grew up that almost only speaks German, they don't go to "English" schools. My town was about 2000 people, so everybody knew everybody. The surrounding areas were also Germanic, it's well k…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:58 PM
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Seal is a black man. Entrepreneur Bernard Smith is dating model Joan Smalls. He is black. DJ Sunnery James is married to Victoria's Secret Angel Doutzen Kroes. He is a man of color. Most of the very famous VS models are Brazilian, (Giselle, Adriana, Laid, Alessandra, etc) and have a very large Brazilian following. I have found than non blond men tend to like blonds more than "Germanic" men. I grew up in a very Germanic area full of blonds. The brunettes are more popular there. I have lived sever…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:04 PM
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Seal, Adam Levine, Tom Brady, and many, many other men. Those are just the men I can remember of the top of my head that were married to VS models. There have been countless others that have dated them over the years that you can Google. There are tons of other men that like them. Lots of others don't. https://www.girlsaskguys.com/guys-behavior/q1823994-do-guys-find-victorias-secret-models-attractive That is not a scientific link by any means but it shows the men having the same debate. It's alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:30 PM
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I also think most of the Victoria's secrets models are too thin. Plenty of men go wild for them though. And Margot Robbie. That is because attractiveness is subjective. The thing I don't like about Megan Fox is her face.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:30 PM
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This is funny to me. I personally think Megan Fox is mid (on a good day), and Margot Robbie is super hot. It shows attractiveness is subjective. Evolutionarily, men want to spread their seed to as many women as possible. Women need to be choosy about who they mate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:03 AM
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Honestly, my husband is more like that than I am. He is the one making me wait to touch my food. Making me repose. There is even a collection of photos he has of me being annoyed by having pictures taken. I don't really take many pics. It just doesn't usually occur to me. I don't use social media, unless you count Reddit, but no Ticktock, FB, Twitter, Insta, or anything like that. My husband is several years younger than me so that might account for some of his fascination with photography and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:42 AM
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Extremely common. That is how I met my husband. I introduced my best friend to her husband. My other good friend met her husband through our friends. Our social groups frequently have gatherings and events, both large and small, and we meet people at almost every one (unless it's just a small gathering of our close group). Many of our friends are very active in our local music scene which has a huge network and community with many events, my husband is from Egypt and has an "Arab meetup" group w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 12:40 AM
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My husband is a fantastic partner AND he's incredibly attractive. I didn't hookup with people I wasn't in a relationship with, I never had a ONS. So I only had one category.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 01:51 PM
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The people you are describing aren't successful in the dating pool though. That was the key word of my last comment. People who are successfully dating. Not getting ignored. So yes, these people who are getting used and ignored will turn to AI and it will be good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 01:53 PM
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If the men turning to AI aren't in relationships anyway, it's not really going to change much in terms of the dating pool. The people in good relationships and having success with dating aren't going to suddenly leave their relationships or the dating pool for AI. The flip side of the coin will also be true. There will be male companion robots and male handyman robots and whatever other variations for women. They have already been developing them. So the women having no luck in the dating game w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:30 AM
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It's not real though. A robot isn't a human. It's not sentient and is not capable of having feelings. The robot doesn't actually feel anything for anyone. It doesn't love anyone. It can say it does. It can mimic human speech and actions but it's just regurgitating whatever it's programmed to say. AI provides alternatives for a man who just wants an object to do what it is programed to do and say what he wants it to say and tell him that it loves him to pretend there is a connection there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:06 AM
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It's not even that it's "weird." A robot will not be a substitute for a human relationship because it's not human. It's not a sentient being with human feelings, thoughts, and opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:51 PM
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I didn't mean Chad bot to mean an actual "Chad", just a play on words. It will basically be a dildo, because she is just wanting sex. If a woman is just wanting sex, she isn't going to care about social status. If she wants social status, she'll find a real person. Again, robots are not a substitute for a relationship. They are a substitute for masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:30 PM
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The men that would turn to AI girlfriends are not the men that women would want anyway, that's the point. The men most women want are the ones who want an emotional connection, not just to use her as bang maid. If a sex bot can fulfill his needs, and he wants no deeper emotional connection, he isn't the type of man most women want. On the flip side, if a woman just wants a man for sex, she can get a Chad bot. She doesn't need a sentient man with feelings and a connection. AI will make it easier …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:39 PM
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My husband is the same way. He is Arab, and has told me that in his culture they tend to prefer "curvier" women. I was a gymnast growing up and have always had a muscular, athletic build. I have gained a bit of weight as I stopped competing and training as much so I have some breasts and hips now, which my husband adores, but it's hard for me to adapt to seeing my body that way and accepting it. I decided to try to accept my body as it is instead of as it was, as long as my husband is happy with…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/24 08:24 PM
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I didn't accept dates with men I didn't know either. I dated men I knew on some level, usually through friend groups. I never used dating apps or OLD or anything like that. I don't know if the men wanted the dates more than I did or not. I'm not sure how to quantify that exactly. I'm guessing there were some who did. I didn't date a whole lot, I mostly had long term relationships. The times I did, it was usually the men asking though, so does that mean he was more excited?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 09:29 PM
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If it's a strange man I don't want to eat with him, haha. If it's a man I'm interested in, then it's nice to spend time with him. I'm not really they type that would go out with a guy I'm not interested in just to get a free dinner. I guess that's what I mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:45 PM
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I guess the way I see it is, I can buy my own dinner. I need him to woo me with his personality. I'm not interested in his money. I know many women are different, which is cool, that's just not my preference. It's also hard to know sometimes who is more interested in who. Especially if it's a first date, the man could be really excited to take the woman out and then find out he's not into her during the date or vice versa. There are just a lot of variables. Dating is such a personal thing, there…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 08:15 PM
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I'm not understanding what one thing has to do with the other I guess. It's not about connecting or rejecting. I want to spend time with the person, not for them to buy me something. I have money so I don't need them to pay for me. I don't want to feel like a freeloader. To answer your question, yes. In most cases, I was as interested in the date at the man was. I offered to pay with my now husband. Which, funny story, led to our first disagreement, haha. He was fine when I offered to split, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 07:40 PM
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Before I was married and I was dating, I always wanted to split the check, or even offered to pay. It's just fair that way. Plus I don't want anyone to feel like I owe them anything. I don't see the big deal in men wanting to split the check.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:17 PM
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When I was single, I was the type that would just ask a guy if I was interested so I can't really think of any, except for maybe way back in highschool. There were a couple guys I went to highschool with that eventually told me after we had graduated that they had a big crush on me when we were in highschool. I also had had big crushes on them (not at the same time, haha), but never acted on it. I think this was more because if it was rejected, we had to see each other everyday and we were in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:33 PM
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I agree that there is no reason to deliberately let oneself go just because they are in a relationship. That said, people age. They get sick. Get injured. Have surgeries. Have babies. Hormones change. For both genders. If my husband gained some weight or became disabled, I wouldn't love him any less. I wouldn't leave him. He is my favorite person. He is my life. That won't change. We will adapt to any changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:17 PM
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No. That's is not okay. Ever. No matter how long the relationship is. I'm so sorry that happened to you. You never have to submit in a sexual way, or do anything you are uncomfortable with, especially if it's with someone you hardly know. A man doesn't require your body, or taking advantage of it, to be successful. Edit: grammar
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 07:01 AM
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Invaluable actually means extremely valuable, just so you know. (Not trying to be rude. People can be very superficial. People can use each other. People can be with each other just for what the other person can do for them or what they get out of it. Those relationships aren't valuable. That's not real love. It's lust, and perhaps like, at best. Other times there are people who truly connect with each other on a very deep, personal level. They stay together their whole lives and sometimes they …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:46 AM
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Cheaters don't typically advertise that they are cheaters when they first start dating someone. Many times the person in a relationship with someone doesn't know they are cheaters, at least not at the beginning.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/24 04:15 PM
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8 is 80% of 10. There are 10 dots total, representing men. Each different color circle represents a different woman. Only two dots have no circle at all. The 8 other dots are circled by at least one woman, several dots have overlapping circles indicating more than one woman found that man attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:54 PM
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Yet according to this drawing, 80% of the men were found to be attractive by at least one of the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 05:56 AM
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I haven't heard much about it. I definitely won't leave my husband, haha. We had already planned long before all of this not to have children. I have heard no actual women speak of this but almost all of my friends and family are married with no plans of divorcing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 01:26 AM
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Yes, happily.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:34 AM
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It's definitely interesting and rewarding. I am one of those lucky people who actually loves my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:16 AM
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So what about the ones that actually end up with their standards? The handsome 6',6",6 with a great personality that treats her well? Do you think those women should have settled sooner or do you understand why they waited? Do you think it's worth it to try to wait or to settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:56 AM
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Cooking and baking (everything from scratch) Gymnastics Dancing ballet and belly dance (but not in front of people lol), and salsa dancing Working on the farm (baling hay, driving tractors, the combine, tending the animals etc) Harvesting human organs and tissues for a living Changing the oil in my car, changing my own tires, etc Basic housework like painting, framing, hanging dry wall, spackling, etc I speak Spanish, some Italian and French, and I'm learning Arabic. Sewing and embroidery, I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:53 PM
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I can also do all 3 of these things!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 11:46 PM
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You keep going on about autonomy, but I have not tried to "erase your autonomy " in any way. Are you sure you are using the word correctly? Are you sure you are replying to the correct person? Autonomy is having control over your own decisions. How have I tried to control your decisions? In fact, if anyone has tried to erase autonomy here, it would be you by trying to censor language. You got your panties in a twist about a word even though the word I used was not directed at you or used in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 08:47 PM
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Calling my behavior creepy is laughable. We are debating on a debate sub. I have given you definitions and linked support of my claims. If that is too much for you, maybe take a break for a while. Writing novels spouting nonsense in response doesn't accomplish anything. Perhaps that is the red flag you're talking about. We disagree on the use of a word. Nothing you say is going to change my mind. Nothing I say is going to change your mind. We are at an impasse. We can agree to disagree or contin…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 07:12 PM
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Those are a lot of words to say you don't understand morality. Now THAT response is a shining example of the dunning-kruger effect. Morality is often tied to emotion. Most peoples's morals are directly tied to their emotions. Why is murder illegal? Because it's makes people feel bad when their loved one is murdered. Why is stealing illegal? Because it makes people feel bad when their stuff is stolen. There are of course other factors at play, but at the end of the day, feelings plays a large rol…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:09 PM
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"no logical or moral incongruities" You are the one that brought up the morality of using certain words. Morality is usually tied to emotions and feelings. If you feel there is a moral reason not to use a certain word, that implies you have feelings about it. I have never talked about nice guys. I never mention them. Why does no one get to use the word "nice" because some other people rant about "nice guys". It's not hypocritical of me, as I have no tie to the word. It looks like I'm not the one…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:47 PM
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Many women pick men with high earning potential, theoretically to provide for themselves and their offspring. Other women pick men with traits similar to the qualities of the men they were raised with. Others pick the opposite. It largely depends on how they were raised. I grew up in a rural farming community but I live in a city now. I can tell you the rural women tend not pick men for the same reasons that the city women do. It may be because they don't have the options available to them. It m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:19 PM
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When did men lose free will? Men make the choice to stay in a relationship or not. It's often the man who proposes marriage or decides if a situationship will become more serious. It's ridiculous to say men have no choice in who they date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:09 AM
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"I’m not here to debate the outliers." Says the man who claims women pit men against each other in death matches. Okay Buddy. Have a nice night.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:31 AM
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So you aren't familiar with the crazy-hot matrix of evaluating women then? S/ Seriously though, a lot of men are attracted to women that do crappy things. A lot of women are attracted to men that do crappy things. Some people just seem to have bad taste in their mates. Others are better at choosing. It's not really a gendered thing. Side note, have you ever actually seen a woman ask two men to fight to the death?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:29 AM
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Double Styrofoam cups? Is this a euphemism?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:20 AM
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So your feelings are really so hurt by the term "nice guy" that you can't even bear to see the word "nice" used in a sentence without being triggered and associating it with the negative connotation of "nice guy"? I wasn't using "mother fucker" in regards to the qualities that make up a good man. I am asking if you can use the word "mother" to refer the woman who gave birth to you or others, or if you are also triggered by that word.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:46 PM
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So are we all supposed to stop using the word "guy" too? They are two separate things. There is a phrase, and there are the two words in the phrase. The two words both have their own independent meanings. When the two words are used together in a phrase, they have a different meaning, apart from their independent ones. "Mother fucker". Do you still use the word "mother" on it's own? When someone refers to their mother do you think they are calling their mom an obscene name?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:32 PM
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That's how I met my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:15 PM
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People can still use the word nice to describe an action without labeling a person as a "Nice Guy" in the parlance as it's understood in this sub. The definition of "nice": agreeable, pleasant, satisfactory; attractive. If I say it was nice of you to carry that heavy box for your mom, does that mean you are a "Nice Guy"? A doormat? No. It means you performed a pleasant, agreeable act.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 07:42 PM
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Ok but the OP is defining a "good man". Not a "Nice Guy". I never said "Nice Guy" and neither did op. There is being nice and doing nice things and then there is being a "Nice Guy". We aren't just going to quit using one word entirely because it became part of a phrase to describe something else. We still use the word "son" to mean male offspring even though we use the phrase "Son of a Bitch" to describe an unsavory person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 06:37 PM
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No. Being nice does not mean one has to be a doormat. My husband, for example, does nice things for people all the time. He will see an old lady on the street carrying something heavy and offer to help her, but expects nothing in return. He helps our family and our friends all the time with all kinds of things. However, he is no pushover and does not tolerate being disrespected either. If you upset him, he is going to let you know. He isn't going to let anyone walk over him or take advantage. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:50 PM
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Right, you just assume that it's rape instead (and state it as fact). So when you asked where I got all this rape stuff from....this is where.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:45 AM
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Rough sex is often mutual. You said you would assume that's rape though. "Dead fish" sex is often mutual, as much as you may not like the term. There are a lot of sex terms and acts that I don't like or agree with, but the participants are consenting adults so I am not going to claim that they are rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:32 AM
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Not automatically. I never said I did. Context matters. That's the entire point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:24 AM
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Your words. You automatically assume rape unless someone specifically says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:03 AM
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If what is more common than rape? What are you comparing and why? My point is that you seem to think all sex is rape so there really is no point in continuing the discussion. If you are unwilling or unable to see the distinction between sex and rape, I cannot be the one to teach you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:16 AM
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I had that feeling for a while until I met my husband. Now I can't imagine life without him. Life is just exponentially better with him. I don't feel like I'm missing out or sacrificing anything at all. It probably sounds cliche but that's my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:26 AM
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Because a lot of people like consensual rough sex. It's one of the most popular "kinks". So using that logic, you consider pretty much all sex rape. When most people speak about their sex lives, they don't say, "when I was having consensual sex with my wife..." It's usually just "when I was having sex". The consent is usually implied if they are telling other people about it because most people don't go around saying "so when I was raping this woman, she didn't orgasm. What am I doing wrong?"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:04 AM
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I didn't say anything about a dead fish. I asked about rough sex. If you automatically assume someone describing a woman as a "dead fish" as rape, then do you automatically consider someone describing their sex as "rough" as rape? Forget about the dead fish. We're done with the dead fish now. It's a dead horse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 12:51 AM
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In your opinion. So is all rough sex also rape them too, in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:01 PM
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I'm saying it's not necessarily. I believe that if you think dead fish conveys that, you should also think pillow princess does. We have to agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:36 PM
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This is a completely different topic than the meaning of an expression. You are moving the goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 08:49 PM
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Yes, most people think is how communication works. Language can be defined as a socially agreed-upon, rule-governed system of arbitrary symbols that can be combined in different ways to communicate ideas and thoughts. People agree on terms to effectively communicate. With your logic anyone can assign any meaning to any word the want, and reject the meaning of any commonly known words they don't like. There world be no language if that's how it worked. You can think potato means rape if you want …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:39 PM
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You are twisting a known expression into something it's not. Consent is not necessarily implied in the expression "pillow princess" either. I don't agree with much the OP said but most people understand the "dead fish" expression to be equivalent to "pillow princess." They are not saying they actually had sex with an unconscious dead animal because it's an analogy. Just like they aren't saying they had sex with a pillow who is a princess of the pillows. Why are you not accusing anyone of having …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:46 PM
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How do you know it is? There are a lot of women who just lay there during sex, even though they are there perfectly willing because they either don't know what to do or are low energy or whatever other reason. Sometimes it might be about rape but the description itself isn't. One can not discern without having been present or having much more detail whether or not it is rape. Implying a woman who consented but just lays there is rape trivializes actual rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:17 PM
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Then you know it isn't usually used in regards to rape, but rather about a partner that doesn't really put in much effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:49 PM
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So you are familiar with the expression?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:41 PM
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The OP never said "dead". You did. You are the one that brought up dead animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:36 PM
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Lol. I simply offered proof that claims you said to be Urban legends were actually real things. Obviously that doesn't make all men rapists. Using your logic, you must believe all women have sex with animals then? That's obviously not true either. BTW, I'm not a feminist, I've never been on twoX and I definitely don't support Trump. (Or Harris for that matter.) Although I'm curious why you lump the feminist and the MAGA together? Is that a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:45 AM
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What have I been saying about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:32 AM
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Actually it does, because my point was that the claims the OP made were not Urban legends. Providing proof of said claims validates the stance. You keep going back to women committing bestiality as well, which no one has disputed, as if that somehow negates the acts of the men. It doesn't. Both genders are capable of pretty heinous stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:23 AM
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I am not the person you were commenting to earlier. I never denied women have sex with horses and dogs. You said the things the other person claimed were urban legends and myths and asked for sources. I provided sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 04:14 AM
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https://www.worldhistory.org/article/89/herodotus-on-burial-in-egypt/ https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incidents_of_necrophilia https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna957611
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 03:11 AM
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How is any of that satisfying for the woman? You have said nothing about doing anything to satisfy women. You have only focused on satisfying men. Yes, some women enjoy anal, but the majority do not get off from it. Many women only do it because their man wants to. It comes with many risks for the woman. Also, most women don't enjoy giving random dudes blowjobs with nothing in return. Your solution is to pleasure men with no regard for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:51 AM
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Are you going down on the woman in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 02:42 AM
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At a music local music show. As he describes it, he noticed me noticing him, so he came over to talk to me, haha. He asked if I had heard the group before. It was a Middle Eastern jazz show, so it's kind of niche. I told him I had actually been friends with them for a decade and travelled to Istanbul and Greece with them. He said he played in the Middle Eastern ensemble at the University with them. So we started talking and discovered we had many common friends, lived in the same neighborhood, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 06:27 PM
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That's not really true. It all depends on the relationship. My point was that some men will be mad no matter what women do. The same can be said for women. On the flip side, there are many people in good relationships and marriages. They just don't go on the Internet to complain about it so you don't hear about it as often. I do feel bad for the younger generations though because online dating seems like the worst. I believe that is one of the reasons they are having problems, among other things…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:57 PM
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Not really. Some men will still say she settled. I've seen it on here. They will say she still wishes she could have "Chad". She only married the "safe option" but is dreaming of chads and will probably cheat with a better looking man someday. Sometimes it's even worse if she has little to no sexual history because then they say she will worry about missing out on Chad and is more likely to cheat. I've seen those comments. There really is no winning with some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 05:44 PM
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I think a big problem with dating is that people are using apps and meeting online. I have never actually used any of them, so I am only going off what I hear from others and what I read, but it seems very superficial. You see a pic a decide if you want to meet them. In person you can see a lot more about someone, even just by observing them, than you can't really see online. You don't see someone's body language. You don't see how they carry themselves or their charisma. You don't necessarily g…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 04:04 PM
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So men are upset when women go for the hot guys (women only want the "top 20% chads"), and they are upset when they go for the not-hot guys (women are just "settling"). What would men prefer for women to do? No matter what age a woman marries the "unattractive" man, men here say she settled because he was the "safe option" and no one wants to be "safe".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 03:47 PM
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You said you got fired from your programming job, can you find a remote programming job with a company in a different town? Can you finish your college classes remotely so you can move to a different city and find work there? If you cannot finish college remotely, how hard would it be to transfer to a different college so you can move? Honestly the best thing to do is figure out a way to move to a different city and start fresh. You messed up in a huge way. You recognize it and want to correct y…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/24 03:00 PM
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Yes, women are typically more sensitive to pain but they often have a higher threshold for pain, according to many recent studies. https://www.jpain.org/article/S1526-5900(23)00289-4/fulltext#%20 https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/01/190110141806.htm https://www.nccih.nih.gov/research/research-results/acute-pain-tolerance-is-more-consistent-over-time-in-women-than-men-according-to-new-research https://nypost.com/2019/01/11/women-have-a-higher-pain-threshold-than-men-study/ (this is an ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:38 PM
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It's not a weakness. Women have a higher pain tolerance than men. Several studies have shown that. Tolerating pain for several days a month does not make one weaker. Men and women have different strengths.One isn't better than the other. Obviously both are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:52 AM
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No one believed them. They were dismissed. It's impossible to force someone to believe you if they choose to think you're crazy or lying. It's sad and tragic and happens way too often. In most serial killer cases, there have been victims or witnesses that tried to tell someone what was happening much earlier than when the killer was caught, but they weren't believed. If they had been, many lives would've been saved.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 01:53 AM
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BTW, some studies show women least prefer blond men. https://www.yourtango.com/self/study-reveals-women-least-attracted-hair-color
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:15 PM
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And? The phrase is still referring to appearance. Not personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 10:11 PM
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Dark doesn't refer to their personality. Not originally. In india, for example, the phrase tall, light, and handsome is used. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 07:25 PM
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Only certain women. I know many women that don't prefer white men or blond men. "Tall, Dark, and handsome" is a thing. I don't like blue eyed or blond haired haired men. I'm blond with blue eyes. It's seems so boring to find someone who looks like they could be my brother. My husband is Arab.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:16 PM
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That's fair. I haven't had anyone explain why they don't like it. I don't really know anyone that has heard this in person or who has said this to someone so it's just something I see online. I do understand why that would be upsetting to men used in that context.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:46 PM
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Are you sure it's not men that have paired "husband material" with being second place. A lot of women would mean it as a compliment if they called someone husband material. I would. I wouldn't call anyone husband material that I wouldn't date. I don't know any woman that would say it about a man they wouldn't date. Perhaps it's an OLD thing? I've never used apps or online dating so I can't speak to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:47 AM
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Most of the women I know would take it as a high compliment to be told she is "mom material". It's almost like being told she is wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:47 PM
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I don't know. I ended up marrying a man under 30, who makes 6 figures and is handsome and tall so it is obviously not delusional for everyone. They do exist. It's not going to happen for everyone, but making it sound like it will happen for no one is also not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 01:13 PM
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I could have written this myself. I didn't settle for the men that proposed to me in my twenties because I knew I could do better, and I did. The wall doesn't really exist for most women. ETA: I will say I haven't done much therapy but I am all for for it if one feels they need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 12:55 PM
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I would definitely want to split the bill. I surgeon of almost any kind would probably have very little time for dating or a future family though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:12 AM
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Well, it depends how old the op is. 20, 30, 40 yrs ago the pay was much different. It also depends if her mom was an LPN, an RN, full time, part time, small town clinic, trauma center ER, ect. Her father may have worked for a very small town fire dept where they make much less. I grew up in a small town and currently in 2024 our firefighters make about $29,000 per year, even though it's a pretty high cost of living area. I also had friends who's mom's were nurses growing up and they were definit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 12:26 AM
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So what is your solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 09:21 PM
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It all depends on the person. Everyone is different. I've had boyfriends that no one else could understand what I saw in them or why I was with them. They did not have good social skills. They were not conventionally attractive. I liked them though and that was all that mattered. The relationships fell apart because we were not compatible. One was a conclusive liar and the other became an alcoholic. I can't tolerate either of those things. You aren't going to be be appealing to everyone. It's ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:30 PM
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I just have to chime in that, as a woman, I find men that contribute to society far more attractive than men who spend their time at the gym or playing video games. I am a biotechnologist. I would only consider men who are scientists, doctors, engineers, etc. Someone who is too vain is an absolute turn off in my opinion. That's just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 04:13 PM
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What would be your solution to this? Would you be happy if a woman settled for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 03:47 PM
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The women attracted to drug dealers are usually drug users or addicts themselves. You don't often see doctors and church choir leaders rushing out to date drug dealers. Drug dealers have access to to a larger than average number of people which is how they meet women. The women usually attracted to or impregnated by drug dealers aren't exactly the pure type, high achievers, or the type that the men here are usually saying they would be attracted to. Often drug users are one of the things men her…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 03:41 PM
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What does that have to do drug dealers? I am confused which you actually want (or men on general). If a woman settles for a man who doesn't meet their requirements, she is just settling and it's the end of the world. If she won't date anyone who doesn't meet her standards, it's the end of the world. What is your ideal solution? What are your ideas to make things better?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:53 PM
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According to a lot of people on here, women are all dating the same man so there wouldn't need to be. Really though, the majority of women are not attracted to drug dealers. ETA: The women who are attracted to drug dealers are usually drug addicts themselves, not the "good girls" that the men here complaining would want to impregnate themselves anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:40 PM
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The majority of women are not dating or impregnated by drug dealers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 03:31 AM
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So what do you suggest as a solution? No one is discouraging dating. Divorce has gone up because religious views have changed, for one thing. There are other factors but that is a big one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:19 PM
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I think the reason people got married young was because women didn't go to college as often so there was no need to wait until she was done with school. It was expected that after highschool, one got married. I think another factor was that premarital sex wasn't really acceptable at the time so if people wanted to have sex, or if they already had and there was a pregnancy (birth control wasn't as effective or available either), they basically had to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:06 PM
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Hands down. No question, this is the option I would pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:52 PM
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More men are overweight but more women are obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:49 AM
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Shouldn't this apply to both men and women though?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:25 PM
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There are women who don't have the means to travel to another state. It sounds simple but it isn't always. Birth control is not 100% effective so the only way to make certain one won't have a child out of wedlock is not to have sex at all. No one knows for sure which time will be the time that they will get pregnant. There are many women who have had abortions when they would've preferred not to, just because the father didn't want the child. There are many who didn't. You are correct that it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 12:55 PM
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If a woman gets pregnant, in many states, she doesn't really have any options. So are you saying sex before marriage is a bad decision? That decision is (hopefully) equally made by the man. Why is the woman only at fault for out-of-wedlock pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 04:33 AM
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Who's insecure? I obviously don't have to convince myself. I live it everyday. I know my man is happy and I see it all around me. My cousin's wife is 13 years older than him. My husband's best friend's wife is 10 years older than him. My good friend's husband is almost 16 years younger. Every one of these men are attractive, tall, and earn 6 figures. These are also some of the healthiest relationships I know. Where did I say it was a "significant" percentage? I just said there are many men who p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:31 AM
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My husband is 9 years younger than I am so I guess you are the one that will just have to deal with it. Your own data shows that there are marriages between men with significantly older women, meaning there are obviously some men that prefer older women. I never said it was a majority of men. You said it never happens, as an absolute, which isn't true. No it isn't a silly argument to point out that something you claim it never happens actually does.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 12:58 AM
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There are many men that don't prefer younger women. Yes, they are physically attractive but so are many older women. According to several of my male friends who are married to, or in long term relationships with older women, they prefer older women because younger women tend to be obsessed with social media, less mature, unsure of what they want or how to get it, they like to play games, they seem more entitled (their words, not mine), etc. There is a big difference in the dating and relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 12:13 AM
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Oh don't feel bad about it. It's a non-issue. He is far-and-away the most respectful, kind, and attentive man I've ever known. He is cleaner and helps way more around the house than any Western man I ever dated and he is an excellent cook. He makes sure to help all of our friends and family with anything and everything he can. He, nor, his family, has ever tried to make me dress differently, cover my hair, or convert. I told him when we married that I would not be and he knows how I feel about i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:11 PM
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This is probably a big part of the problem. Most men don't make over $200k. Most men are not going to be taller than you because you are a tall woman. Your standards are for the top 1% of males. However, it's not impossible. My husband is in the top 1% but I didn't meet him quickly. I did meet him in person, I've never used apps or OLD. You have to decide if you want to hold out for the rare find, or be open to more options by accepting men making less and/or shorter men. You will have more opti…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/24 05:32 PM
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Single moms aren't necessarily whores. Some of them are, yes, but many of them just chose to have children with the wrong man, usually believing he was in love with her and would stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:49 PM
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5 years. We don't have, or want, any kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:49 PM
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Honestly, that is why I'm on this sub. I hope I can help people see that maybe there is some hope. I realize that many of the people here are set in their thinking and it won't change anything but I was once very jaded myself and had sworn off dating. I was in bad relationships before this, and the last one before my husband was exceptionally bad. I never wanted to deal with that kind of thing again. It had happened with multiple men, men I thought were good who turned out to be liars, cheaters,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:21 PM
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Lol. Thank you! Honestly, I think my husband might bring even more, but that's a different topic. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like a king. I can't imagine what I would do without him. We do have a very good relationship and I'm thankful everyday for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:10 PM
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I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier, better, and happier. Whatever he needs from me at the given moment, I'll do for him. I am a former gymnast and I've stayed in pretty good shape. I've maintained my flexibility. I'm often told that I'm very attractive. I am usually guessed to be 15ish years younger than I really am because I've taken good care of my skin and body and I have good genetics (my family members are all the same). I don't smoke, drink, use drugs, and I protect my sk…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:00 PM
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I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier, better, and happier. Whatever he needs from me at the given moment, I'll do for him. I am a former gymnast and I've stayed in pretty good shape. I've maintained my flexibility. I'm often told that I'm very attractive. I am usually guessed to be 15ish years younger than I really am because I've taken good care of my skin and body and I have good genetics (my family members are all the same. People can't believe my mother is a grandmother, let …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:56 PM
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I do anything I can to make my husband's life easier, better, and happier. Whatever he needs from me at the given moment, I'll do for him. I am a former gymnast and I've stayed in pretty good shape. I've maintained my flexibility. I'm often told that I'm very attractive. I am usually guessed to be 15ish years younger than I really am because I've taken good care of my skin and body and I have good genetics (my family members are all the same. People can't believe my mother is a grandmother, let …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:48 PM
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That's awful. I'm so sorry that you had to suffer such a horrible loss, and then had to endure the torment from what sounds like a pretty terrible person. No one deserves that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:00 PM
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Usually because women do the shopping for groceries along with clothes for the family, home supplies, school supplies, gifts, and pretty much everything else instead of the man. It's not uncommon that if a man needs something, he often asks his wife to pick it up for him. They are also usually the ones in charge of paying bills for the household and organizing finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 11:04 PM
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So a question for you is, why do you think a woman should want to have children? What do you see as the benefit to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 10:48 PM
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Why would a woman who doesn't want kids marry a man who does? That is something that should be figured out before marriage. If he changes his mind, it's probably a good idea to end the marriage so that each person can find someone they are compatible with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 10:36 PM
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Same for me. Personally, it's just not something I'm interested in doing. I don't want to ruin my body. There is a history of complications during pregnancy/birth in my family and I don't want to take that risk. I don't want to spend the money it would cost to have a child. We travel a lot and that would be very difficult or impossible with children. Also, I hate the sound of babies and children crying. I myself was born 2 months early and had to spend 2 months in an incubator in the NICU. There…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 10:32 PM
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I feel bad that men often can't really interact with kids who aren't their own without someone giving them the side eye like they are a pedo. I also feel bad that men are feeling so confused as to how to approach women now. Many are worried to approach a woman in fear of being seen as creepy. Holding the door or helping a woman could also backfire. Many times it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 11:40 PM
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There are definitely a lot of dumb people. The go-to answer for basically any question about why someone did something or how a situation happened is that people are stupid. "People are stupid, individuals are intelligent."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:04 AM
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Not all love is irrational. Some people are mature enough to actually communicate their needs instead of playing games. Talking to each other can keep both people on the same page, which is a huge step towards a successful relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:55 AM
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Leave. Girl. Wtf? Ungrateful if you leave?? Are you f-ing kidding? He is ungrateful to you. Period. What would he say about you cheating on him? I'm sure there are plenty of men that would want to sleep with you, so that should be no big deal, according to him. Right? I'm sure it's very difficult and I'm sorry you're going through this. But you need to cut your losses and leave now. Find a real man that will respect you. Your husband is not a man, he is a little boy playing around. Real men are …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 02:27 AM
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Same. I was even engaged to an abuser. The ironic thing is, he was shorter than me and not conventionally attractive. (I say ironic because people here think "chads" are the assholes and short guys are nice). I thought he was super attractive, but most of my friends did not agree, which didn't bother me at all. We had a great connection at first but eventually he became emotionally and physically abusive and was a compulsive liar and manipulator. I left him before the wedding. I met my husband a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 02:02 AM
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I agree. My husband cold approached me but we had first made eye contact from across the room. I have never used apps or OLD but he had been on the apps before we met. I still get approached by men fairly often. Not as often as when I was in my teens, especially from older men, but I think that's pretty much the norm. Some men on this sub also like to lump all women together to say this shift is what "we" wanted, assuming every woman is a hardcore feminist that hates men. The type that think hol…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:59 PM
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That is understandable, but the problem with doing this is that eventually the woman will find out there is no chance at a real relationship. It will be exponentially worse (especially if another woman is involved) than if you had dealt with it earlier on. Like cooking your pet bunny or stalking your new girl level of crazy. Or potentially worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:34 PM
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Gender roles are obviously not an effective form of conflict resolution if one gender is unhappy with it. Forcing women into servitude is of course a good solution for some men, but not for the women. Should men take care of the house and kids alone, potentially also working full time, if the woman is the breadwinner? (which is becoming more common) Should the gender roles switch? No, because that's not fair to the men either. Gender roles aren't the solution because there isn't a "one size fits…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 03:25 PM
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Many women have to work because their husband's salary is not enough. Yes, there are some women who work because they want to, but many others don't have the luxury of choice. Especially in cities where the cost of living is high. Most women do value the work that their husbands do. The problem comes when they cannot agree of the distribution of chores and other tasks. Often the man sees the woman as nagging and the woman sees the man as lazy. Instead of having effective conflict resolution, res…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:25 PM
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It's possible the same difference in standards that causes disagreements about house chores and what not is the same reason that some men think a relationship is fine while a woman thinks it's bad. Many women make the mistake of marrying a man thinking they can change him. They know he is sloppy but insist they can "fix" him. Even worse I've heard women use the word "train" as if he is a dog. I personally don't want to change anything about my husband. I married him because I love him as he is, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:46 PM
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The problem is that many men and women don't agree on what is perfectly fine. Many women get tired of feeling like they have an extra child instead of a husband. It would be less work for them to be single. They try to bring this up to their husband but he doesn't take it seriously and then they act completely blindsided when she leaves. Or it could be any issue really. Often times you hear the woman say she tried telling the husband and the husband says he had no idea she wasn't happy. It happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:44 PM
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The reason I married a conventionally attractive man is because he just happened to be the most respectful, attentive, kind, and intelligent among other things. My previous long term relationship with the conventionally unattractive man ended because he was an abusive narcissist and a compulsive liar. We were engaged but thankfully I found out before the wedding who he really was. I honestly found him to be the most attractive man while I was with him though because I was in love with him. I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:39 PM
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The reason I married a conventionally attractive man is because he just happened to be the most respectful, attentive, kind, and intelligent among other things. My previous long term relationship with the conventionally unattractive man ended because he was an abusive sociopath. We were engaged but thankfully I found out before the wedding who he really was. I don't think men really see themselves as using women either necessarily. They'll make up some excuse as yo why they can continue sleeping…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:25 PM
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I'm incredibly attracted to my husband. I have been since they day I met him. He is very conventionally attractive and most women say he is very handsome. My previous relationship though was with a man who was not as conventionally attractive. Some women thought he was very attractive and others didn't. He was shorter than me but I didn't mind at all. I found him to be very attractive as well. The more I got to know him, the more attractive he became to me. I dated a couple guys who I didn't nec…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:13 AM
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I think what people often mean when they say this is that many women would be more happy to be single than to be in a bad relationship, while they would prefer a happy relationship to being single. Being in a relationship with someone that isn't attractive to them would be revolting and exhausting for most women. It would not be a good relationship. Yes, there are women who will use men but I don't think it's the majority of women who do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:04 AM
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What are your sources to say that most men are muscular and not overweight? According to a new study, BMI misses a lot of cases of obesity. Researchers looked at data from almost 10,000 U.S. adults collected from 2011 to 2018 and found that almost 36% had obesity based on their BMI. Use of a different measure of obesity — a person’s body fat percentage — put that figure at 74% https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna89309 Going by BMI only, most studies show that it is still a good predictor for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 09:14 PM
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Yeah, I removed that part because I mixed it up with the waist to height circumference, which is thought to be more reliable than BMI and still has similar percentages of overweight and obese men and women. You gained muscle because you are working out and supplementing. Most men do not. Just like me, I have a high BMI even though I'm thin because I trained my entire life. Most women do not. You said no women could get enough muscle which is kind at not correct, as there are many women who do , …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 07:43 PM
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I never said there weren't any fat women. The vast majority of men won't get heavy enough without intensive training or steroids either. It's mostly only athletes that have enough muscle to tip the BMI, for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:30 PM
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And? Do you know how many fat ass men sit at their desk and never set foot in a gym? Who can't be bothered to walk around the block?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:20 PM
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The vast majority of men will never exceed the BMI due to muscle either. No, moving heavy people does not automatically make one fit, but it does contribute if someone if already in good shape, much more than sitting at a desk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 06:16 PM
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https://www.drvetranolaw.com/blog/2024/june/the-rise-of-married-single-moms-understanding-th/#:~:text=What%20is%20a%20Married%20Single,manage%20everything%20on%20her%20own. https://nypost.com/2024/01/24/lifestyle/married-single-moms-worrying-new-marriage-trend-emerges/ I forgot to add these to my last comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:53 PM
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Now days, most women work. That means the mother and father are both supporting the kids financially. It's not all on the men's shoulders. So you don't think a man should work and be asked to help around the house, but you think a woman should work full time, do all the house work, and raise the children? In the "married single mother" scenarios the woman is doing all the cooking, all the cleaning, the laundry, the child care. She is the one up in the middle of the night with the kids. She is dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:49 PM
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That's not true. https://www.runnersworld.com/health-injuries/a20793992/bmis-of-champions-womens-edition/ I, as a former gymnast, have a much higher BMI than what I look like. When I was still a gymnast, my team lived going to those "guess your weight" things at the carnival because they could never guess. We were wearing size 0 or 2 but weighing 135 - 140 lbs. My job now is very physical and I stay in shape. Most of my coworkers are women. We have to lift and move 300 lbs people. (I harvest hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:41 PM
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Many women prefer to be a single mother than to be on a relationship with a man that doesn't pull his weight. If the woman is having to do more work to care for the husband, it's like having an extra kid. There are many "married single mothers" because the man doesn't help at all. The ones that do leave usually say it's easier. More women going to college does not prevent men from going to college. There is room for both. Women also have to provide for themselves and sometimes their children whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:27 PM
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Yes, women can take care of themselves and age well but they cannot "stay younger". Women are not the only ones overweight. In fact, more men are overweight than women. 34.1% of men are overweight compared to 27.5% of women. 43% of men are obese compared to 41% of women. However, severe obesity is more common among women, with 11.5% affected versus 6.9% of men. https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity ETA: you should tell all the short men on this sub you…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 05:14 PM
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Most women do reciprocate, and the ones complaining that men aren't helping enough are often women working full time and raising kids. The men think they just need to provide a paycheck. That's not enough unless they just want to be used for money. Yes, there are women who are lazy and use men. There are also men who are lazy and use women. The reasons may be different but the result is the same. This is not the majority of either gender though. I know a lot of people in happy relationships and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:58 PM
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So then we should tell men to work more on being taller. Using your logic that would be the solution for many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 04:51 PM
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My husband is 9 years younger than me. He was 26 when we met and I was 35. In my circle, of those in happy relationships, most of them are younger men with significantly older women. Of course they are women who look younger than they are, my husband thought I was younger than him when we met, but they still make the decision to get married to these women. My husband's theory (he used dating apps, I never did, we met in person) is that the younger woman on the apps have a totally different outlo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 02:02 PM
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The same reason men value women based on house chores. This post is basically the OP saying that women don't do enough around the house to make their husbands stay with them instead of leaving them for younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 01:47 PM
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There are 3 confirmed cases of women escaping from him. The first two told people but no one believed them, including law enforcement. The judge threw out the tape of him detailing his own crimes. The survivors have said he played a tape for them detailing what he was going to do and if you read the transcript it's the most horrific thing. He even had his dog rape them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:54 PM
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3 women escaped from him. The first one was found on the side of the road by an off duty law enforcement officer but he didn't believe her story so he dropped her off at a bus stop. She also called police but they never investigated. Another one told her husband what happened but he didn't believe her and sued for divorce, thinking she had been out partying and cheating on him. She was only gone a few days, as she was an acquaintance of the rapist and his family. The one that made it to a neighb…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:42 PM
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It's all on video. He recorded the assaults. She was unconscious. The men were given instructions to leave if she "so much as moved an arm." They were also told to warm their hands to help avoid waking her up. They sometimes had to wait up to 90 mins in a nearby parking lot for the drugs he secretly administered to her to take full effect. The were also told not to wear cologne or smell of tobacco to avoid leaving their scent on her. All of the was discussed in chatroom where members discussed p…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 10:15 PM
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Most of the men were recruited by her husband from a chatroom dedicated to nonconsensual sex called “Against her knowledge". It seems highly unlikely they thought it was consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:23 AM
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They were recruited from a forum dedicated to nonconsensual sex called "without them knowing". It seems likely they knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 06:14 AM
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I think you are looking in the wrong circles. I know many cf men who are highly educated, well employed, respectful, good looking, etc. To be fair, I live in a large city and our circle consists mostly of people we met in grad school or at work. My husband is a petroleum engineer and I am a biotechnologist. Most of our friends are highly career driven and do not want kids. For me, I definitely know more men that do not want children than those who do. I know that isn't the norm but it's not supe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 04:45 AM
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Your sources say the same as mine so there is no need to argue. Although, your second source only has info about women which is irrelevant to the number of men wanting children. According to your first source 19% of men don't want children. "Another 19% have not had children nor want to have children". Again, 2 out of 10 is fairly common. Often times (especially for research purposes) anything over 10% is considered very common. For example https://i-base.info/qa/812 I'm not sure what age gap re…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 04:13 AM
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A lot of men don't want kids, and that number of them who don't is increasing steadily. There are plenty of men who wouldn't care if a woman did not want to have children. https://nypost.com/2022/10/17/why-childless-men-are-saying-no-to-fatherhood/ I think you are correct with most of the other things you listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:46 AM
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I don't think the wanting to have kids thing is as universal as you think it is. I know many men that never want kids, my husband included. Most of our friends don't have them or want them either. Most of our friends are highly educated and career driven though, so it could be a demographic thing, but the number of men wanting children has been on the decline in recent years. Between 2012 and 2018, the percentage of childless men ages 15 to 49 responding that they did not want children doubled f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:43 AM
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The weight thing is definitely an issue, but I was speaking more about the skincare. Women now tend to have fewer wrinkles as early. Their face looks younger. If you look back at movies or TV from the 70s and 80s and see the ages and compared them to people today, 30 looked older than it does now. There are also studies that show that people who are educated age more slowly. There are a lot more women getting higher education. So if the study is correct, that could explain some of it. It's proba…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 11:53 PM
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Yes, I know it is not common or the norm, but I personally know several women like me. The women I referred to here also look much younger. It can't be as rare as people here seem to think. One survey found that 81% of women are open to dating someone 10 years younger than they are, and nearly 90% of men are interested in dating someone 10 years older. https://www.today.com/today/amp/tdna231858 12% of marriages in the US are between older women and younger men, although not all of those have as …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:33 PM
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Then she wasn't wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:37 AM
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I am not saying it's common necessarily but I think it happens a lot more than people on this sub think. There are definitely men that will stray but that happens to younger women too. The big thing is whether they want kids. None of the couples I mentioned want kids. It all comes down to what one wants out of a relationship. The men I know in these relationships are good men, not the type to cheat. They are old enough now to know what they want from a relationship, and they know what they have.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:45 PM
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I know many men married to older women, with significant age gaps. Many guys do see them as marriage material, even if it's not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:09 PM
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I have witnessed the opposite. Of the women I know who dated younger men, they have all turned into marriage. My husband is 9 years younger and several of our friends have similar age gaps with the woman being older. This is my first marriage and I have no kids, and we never want kids. We met when I was 35 and he was 26. I was engaged to a sociopath before we met and I'm so happy I didn't settle for that because I knew I could do better. And I did. My husband's best friend married a woman 10 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:08 PM
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I was asking you directly about the survey, what you said about the survey. It has nothing to do with feelings. You said men wouldn't lie. I said there will be some who do. You then got defensive and started deflecting. It seems like you are acting on emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:26 AM
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You should take your own advice. Can you really not understand how discussing men bragging about conquests is related to saying men boast about conquests? The context is directly related.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 12:43 AM
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You literally said: "Men are valued by their ability to get women, they would boast about the fact." You made the point. Me asking if men would brag (a synonym for boast) about cheating is not off topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:34 PM
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Nice deflection. It's not a strawman. You brought it up and I am addressing it. Obviously men are not all the same. There will be some that feel differently than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 11:18 PM
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Possibly. It depends how it is done and how much the woman digs into things. You honestly think every single man would brag about cheating on his partner? If you were correct, doesn't that prove the opposite of what the OP is saying? Men's sexuality is celebrated, not shamed? There are men that do feel shame about cheating, often because of religious reasons, and won't admit to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:57 PM
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Not if they don't want their wife or girlfriend to find out. There are many guys who try to hide it, and lie even when caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:46 PM
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The same can be said for men. There are different studies that claim men cheat more often so it just depends which study you read. In reality it is probably close to the same percentage of each gender that are unfaithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 10:26 PM
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So you are saying that men in general are rapists? Because that is the only way that you could have an equivalency there. Personally I don't believe that either gender are "rapists in general", but both genders have individuals capable of being rapists. It's also a false equivalency to compare starting wars to people being rapists. It's comparing apples to cinder blocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 01:30 PM
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It kind of is actually. As of Feb 2024, Zelinsky said 32, 000 troops had been killed. There are 38 million people in Ukraine, about half of them men, so we'll say 19 Million men. 32,000 is 0.17% of the population. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-68397525
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:33 PM
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Well, it didn't work. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:25 PM
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War is actually very niche. It only happens to certain people, under certain circumstances, in certain places. When was the last time someone died on US soil in a war? Based on your definition, it seems war deaths are irrelevant too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:24 PM
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Do you really think women conceive children on their own, without men? If so, I've got a bridge to sell you, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:20 PM
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Yes it does. What is your point? Are you trying to say that just because other things kill people, murder doesn't count? Lots of things kill people. This particular conversation is about honor killings and sexual violence. If you want to talk about lightning, there is probably a forum for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:18 PM
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Who said the men don't matter? There are protests worldwide against the war. You are comparing apples to racehorses here. Wars (started by men, btw) are quite different than a family killing one of their own. The horrors of war is a conversation to have in another forum on another topic, not in this conversation about sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:15 PM
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It depends what part of the world one lives in. Take India, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:26 PM
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Honor killings are real and do happen, even in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:20 PM
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Yes, among other places. One of my best friends grew up in a very Catholic country, then her whole family immigrated to the US when she was in highschool. She got married at 17 to a man who turned out to be abusive. Her family pressured her to stay with him so she wouldn't be "divorced". Infact, they kicked her out of the family home and let the abusive, cheating husband continue living with her parents after she separated from him. She can't possibly be the only one this has happened to. It's m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:17 PM
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Except in reality many of those cultures are actually saying women have to cover themselves because men cannot control themselves if the see a woman. It's very hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:39 PM
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What's interesting though is that in those cultures, they blame the women for not covering themselves properly because men cannot control their urges if the see any skin. So in essence they are really saying men have no control over their actions and have no accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:36 PM
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Trump has said he is willing to cut Medicare and Social Security. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna143475 https://www.cnn.com/cnn/2024/03/11/politics/trump-entitlements-social-security-medicare Yes, some women choose bad men. Other women choose what they think are good men and then get screwed over. My sister, for example, married an extremely conservative, ultra religious man. She wasn't even allowed to wear pants, had to wear skirts or dresses, so many other restrictions but you get the id…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:07 AM
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Social security and Medicare usually don't benefit single mothers as much as the benefit the retired. Wanted to cut those two things is a big issue for me. I don't want to see more 85 year olds working at Walmart because their SS got cut. They need to go after the fathers of the children who are not paying child support, as child support counts as income in most states and affects the amount of benefits they can receive. Someone has to take care of all the children, it should be the parents, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:50 AM
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So he can make things worse? He wants to cut social welfare programs. For FY2021, the Trump Administration requested $3.3 billion in FMF for Israel and $500 million in missile defense aid. That is after approving the largest ever aid package to Israel in 2018. Plus, let's not forget that he literally turned Afghanistan over to the Taliban. I am all for the US being out of there but giving it back to the terrorists was one of the worst things he could do, and Biden is complicit for going along wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:36 AM
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At least there we get something in return for our tax money. We don't feel like we are just paying to start wars.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:14 AM
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I'm not that attached to my country (the US). My country does very little for me while still taking 30% of our income. Healthcare and education are ridiculously expensive. I'm not even asking for free HC or education but at least make it more affordable. My husband is not from the US and does not want to become a citizen. He is a Petroleum Engineer and works for a company based in the EU so we live abroad part time and are both in the process of getting citizenship in the country his company is …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:52 PM
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They are contributing to society by working and paying taxes into social security and Medicare (if in the US or other social safety programs if outside the US). There are 8 billion people on the planet and many cities are overcrowded. Resources are finite. Reducing the burden on resources is actually helpful to society. There are other ways to make up the money for social security/social safety net programs. In the US for example, military and DOD spending is out of control and could be reduced …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:35 PM
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Perhaps they shouldn't share "equally" in domestic duties but they should definitely pitch in. Taking care of young kids is a 24/7 job. No weekends or holidays off unless you leave them with someone else. It's not exactly fair that a man can clock out and go have a drink or play video games while the woman never gets a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:25 PM
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If it is with a long-term relationship it wouldn't be a big deal but if it is just a hook-up, they probably just don't want to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:07 PM
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Most of the women I know don't care that much about money. They make their own. Two of my best friends are the breadwinner in their marriages. My dad wanted to buy my mom a Cadillac and she refused because it was "too fancy". She ended up choosing a Kia instead. Yes there are women who care a lot about money and I would say it seems to me like the younger generations care more, possibly because of social media, but there are plenty of women who are happy just to have a good man and have practica…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:54 AM
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No. Especially if he was enlisted. The only time there would be any prestige in the military is if the person is extremely high ranking and active duty. I grew up in a rural area with many poor people and many of the poorest kids (men and women) joined the military to be able to afford college. It wasn't seen as prestigious, it was almost the opposite. It was a means to an end.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:46 AM
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My husband and I don't ever want kids. We are married because we want to be. Sure, we could just be in a relationship without marriage, but so could people with children. Marriage shouldn't be about kids, why put that kind of pressure on the children? Obviously, marriage means different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:31 PM
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I know a few people who don't like traveling. They have never been out of the country and have barely been out of their state. One is scared to fly. People like this would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone who loves to travel internationally and wants to explore new places. It's best if they find other homebodies. Interesting is subjective. What I find interesting won't necessarily be what someone else finds interesting. If I didn't find my husband interesting, what would we …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:20 PM
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One way to reduce the amount of welfare given to women is for more men to step up to pay their child so that the rest of us don't have to. Most states consider child support as income so it's counted against what assistance, if any, the family can receive. As of January 2021, total child support arrears certified by states and submitted to OCSE totaled $113.5 billion. Billion. Arrears occur when scheduled child support payments are missed, meaning child support is owed. https://www.acf.hhs.gov/c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:33 PM
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Yeah, honestly we just don't want the responsibility or the cost of children. We travel a lot which we couldn't do easily with children. He is from Egypt, and it's a long journey from where we live. Multiple flights. 24+ hours total. I can't imagine doing that trip with kids. My husband has 16 siblings so there are plenty of nieces and nephews, plus I have a few nephews and nieces so there is no shortage of children or family. Many of the older ones come to talk to me when they have problems the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:24 PM
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Birth rates are plummeting because many people are deciding not to have kids or to only have 1 child. Most of my friends are married but only a couple of them have kids. My husband and I don't have or want kids. In the recent years the marriage rates are going back up and the divorce rates are down. https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/17/health/marriage-divorce-rates-wellness/index.html https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/articles/the-states-with-the-highest-marriage-rates#:~:text=Overall%2C%20the%2…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 03:50 PM
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So that means they are around for a shorter amount of time and still receive almost the same amount of benefits as women do in a longer time frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:31 AM
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If men want to complain about the women that get welfare to care for children, maybe they should complain about the men who aren't paying child support because most states count child support as income so it affects the amount of benefits they can receive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:29 AM
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That's not how percentages work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:22 AM
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Men receive 49.2% of the total social safety net benefits compared to 50.8% of women in the US, so the idea that significantly more women get help than men is not correct, according to the US census bureau. https://www.census.gov/library/visualizations/interactive/social-safety-net-benefits.html
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:40 PM
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In 2021, the proportion of foreign-born workers in STEM occupations (26%) was greater than the proportion of U.S.-born workers (24%), with more naturalized citizens in S&E-related occupations (11%) than noncitizens (5%) or U.S.-born citizens (9%). https://www.nsf.gov/nsb/news/news_summ.jsp?cntn_id=309769&org=NSB&from=news#:~:text=In%202021%2C%20the%20proportion%20of,%2Dborn%20citizens%20(9%25). The percentage has been increasing every year and the trend will probably continue. ETA: basically eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 03:21 AM
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Foreign-born workers accounted for 43% of scientists and engineers with doctorate degrees in 2021. In 2019 and 2020, 49% of all STEM master's degrees and 57% of all STEM doctorate degrees were conferred to international students. There may be men leaving but we have more coming in to replace them.. There are a lot of intelligent men from other countries moving to the US. My husband is from Egypt and came here as a Fulbright scholar to get his PhD in Petroleum Engineering. He graduated from a lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 12:09 AM
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Foreign-born workers accounted for 43% of scientists and engineers with doctorate degrees in 2021. In 2019 and 2020, 49% of all STEM master's degrees and 57% of all STEM doctorate degrees were conferred to international students. There may be men leaving but we have more coming in to replace them.. There are a lot of intelligent men from other countries moving to the US. My husband is from Egypt and came here as a Fulbright scholar to get his PhD in Petroleum Engineering. He graduated from a lar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 12:05 AM
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My husband and I consider each other our best friend but that doesn't mean we don't have other friends or are joined at the hip. We spend a lot of time with our friends both together and separate. He goes on "guys trips" with his boys and I go on "girls trips" with my ladies. We each have our own projects and hobbies we do alone as well. We both like to have our own time and understand that about each other. We trust each other completely, more than anyone else. We talk to each other about every…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 02:29 AM
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But you didn't like the advice that was given. He literally only has a few options. He either has to lie about his experience and pretend he has some, he could find someone who doesn't care about his lack of experience, or he can pay for experience. There is no way he can magically get experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 01:21 AM
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It is different for every person. It largely depends on you, as well as the other people in the class. You may click with someone the first time you go or you might never meet anyone there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:07 AM
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What do you expect women to say though? There is no magic answer that would help him that women are keeping secret. There isn't much a stranger online can do to help in that situation. I think people are much less empathetic online to strangers than they would be in person. They are definitely more blunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 12:03 AM
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Many people here are saying women in their 30s have to settle. Many times it's the opposite. That's my point. The wall doesn't really exist for many women and a lot of men like older women. The men don't have to settle either. They also have lots of options. My husband gets hit on constantly. Random strangers like waitresses tell me how handsome he is. My friend's husband is a professional musician that has groupies. My cousin dated a lot of women before he met his wife. He had no trouble at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:45 PM
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I do not really think I'm an exception. Most of my friends also got married on their 30s or older to men they actually want, not ones they settled for. I have several friends and family members who are in relationships where the woman is significantly older than the man. My cousin's wife is 13 years older and they met when she was in her late 40s. One of my best friends is in her 50s and engaged to a man in his early 30s. My best friend got married at the same age I did. My husband's best friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:00 PM
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It was opposite for me. I didn't marry the men who proposed to me in my 20s because I didn't want to settle and knew I could do better. In my mid 30s I found my handsome, rich, tall intelligent, caring, respectful, attentive husband. He is younger than me. He was in his 20s when we met. I am so happy I didn't settle. My wants didn't change really, it just took a while to find what I was looking for. I suppose if I would have had kids or gained weight it may have been harder iny 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:42 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:14 PM
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It does. Lol. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:14 PM
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"Dark" in "tall, dark, and handsome" actually applies to their appearance not their personality. Dark hair, dark eyes, tanned or dark skin. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall,_dark_and_handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:13 PM
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I'm a woman who got married on her 30s. You have it backwards. I didn't settle for the men who proposed to me in my twenties. I knew I could do better, and I did. My husband would be considered "top 10%" according to red pill although I don't like that phrasing. However, he is a very handsome, tall man who is also a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD, and a Fulbright scholar. He is also the most respectful, caring and attentive man I've ever met. If I had settled in my twenties I would be with an alc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:06 PM
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Well, I agree I could have phrased it better but I was trying to describe it without medical terminology which is difficult for me. The glans of clitoris is just proximal to the opening of the the urethra where the labia majora meet. This is often what many people refer to when they say "clit." It's also because many people on here actually don't know women's anatomy at all. They think women urinate out of their vaginas, the refer to the entire vulva as the vagina, etc. It's easy to assume someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 12:35 AM
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Why don't you? My job is to dissect deceased people. I literally cut up bones for a living. I obviously have an interest in skeletons and anything anatomical. The lovers are amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:20 PM
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I'm a biotechnologist that specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have dissected the pelvis of women. I know where the nerve bundles are. There is debate about what the g spot is or of it even exists, but it's accepted that it is nerve stimulation there. While that area is an extension of the nerves that reach the clitoris, it's actually the pudendal nerve that would be stimulated by anal sex. The pudendal nerves branch into the clitoral nerves. The dorsal nerve of clitoris is one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 09:11 PM
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I'm a married woman who works with human anatomy for a living. I'm a biotechnologist that specializes in human organ and tissue banking. I have dissected the pelvis of women. I know where the nerve bundles are. They are not next to the anus. The vagina is actually between the two so there is no direct stimulation. Maybe you should check out this link and refresh your knowledge of women's anatomy. There is debate about what the g spot is or of it even exists but it's accepted that there is nerve …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 08:54 PM
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I think you mean g spot, not the clit. The g spot is internal and can be reached from both sides. The clitoris is external above the vaginal opening, and while there are internal nerves there, they cannot be accessed from anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 07:38 PM
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It's pretty common for women to get shamed about their labia. Labiaplasty is becoming more common worldwide.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 12:52 AM
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Some studies show that GHB has a lower detection time than previously thought. It varies widely from person to person depending on the individual metabolism. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2257868/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 11:51 PM
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I'm sure they do. I personally don't know anyone that they have worked for, and we are sharing our personal experiences here. I have heard of it working and I don't doubt that it does, but I've never personally observed it working out well for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:50 PM
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I don't have any friends that enjoy behaving that way so that is probably why I don't know any that like using the apps. My friends are almost all married or in monogamous LTR. Of course there are women that use the apps in the ways in which you are talking about. That is not they way all women behave though. It all depends on what one is looking for from the app, which is why some women love them and some women hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 03:12 AM
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I know several women who tried apps but hated them because of the creeps that they inevitably run into. I don't know a single person who has met their partner on an app. I also don't know a single woman who likes dating apps. They really do not enjoy them. I have never used an app. I met my husband at a local music venue. We had the same social circle before we actually met which is how we ended up at the same place. Every woman I know who is married or in a LTR has met their partner in person, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:12 AM
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Yes, when I said "basically" I should have actually said something like "pretty much" or "almost no other". I knew there were a couple of others but it is uncommon. I'm not surprised about Israel but considering they are my husband's mortal enemy (he had to serve in the Egyptian military because conscription) I am guessing we will never have to worry about it, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:16 PM
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My husband is from Egypt, but I didn't go there and bring him back and I didn't seek out a man from another country. We just happened to meet because he was in the US on a Fulbright scholarship for his PhD in the city where I lived at the time. We were both at a music show at a local venue, he noticed me noticing him, he came over and introduced himself, we began talking and we realized we have several friends in common (which is how we both ended up at the same show, we both had friends in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 11:58 PM
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That is really the same thing as some of the dating apps though, no? You only have a picture to decide if you swipe left or right. It might seem less scary than doing it in person but it terms of deciding to talk to them or not, you can tell more in person than from a photo, imo. You can see how they carry themselves, who they are keeping company with, their mannerisms, ect. It is slightly more context than a photo. If you do approach and realize there is no chance or nothing on common, it's not…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:18 PM
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So you would prefer if your mother had just left you as an infant to die alone and neglected? Its not important that she raised you? That she gave birth to you? She probably even provided food from her own body for you. Women quite literally produce food from their own breasts for their babies. Providing people and raising them is incredibly important, as without people there would quite literally be no society. No jobs to have. No one to provide for. Nothing. Claiming one gender is more importa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:24 PM
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You can look at any post here to see that men are usually trying to say that women are more shallow, less intelligent, less talented ect. You just implied that yourself. Most men would say that women are better looking than women, you might be in the minority saying men are better looking. If men are better at child care, housekeeping, nursing, etc, why have those roles traditionally fallen to women? There are things men are better at and things that women are better at. Both good and bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:35 AM
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More ignorant? More dishonest? More lazy? More weak? Men here often spend a lot of time arguing the exact opposite but that must just be because they are more wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:54 AM
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Flossing? I don't use the mirror to floss or brush my teeth but there happens to be one above the sink where I brush my teeth and floss. Stuff get on the mirror unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:10 PM
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Is this why?? Lol. Thanks for the explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:05 AM
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For the record, I agree with you but I have to point out one thing... It's sweetie. Sweaty = to have an excess of sweat, as though one has just done a hard work out. I see this mistake a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:34 AM
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Shouldn't they pay for birth control as well then?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 02:54 AM
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Are you wanting the state to pay the cost of the tests too?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:12 PM
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Exactly, because he was attracted to her and not random people. Are you saying people aren't genuinely attracted to everyone on earth? That is obviously true, people are attracted to specific other people for various as you said yourself. I'm not even sure what point you are trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:20 PM
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My best friend and her husband have this exact dynamic. They have done some couples counseling but they have figured out how to manage it. If you really love each other and you can communicate like adults, you can work through it if you want to. It all depends how much energy you want to devote and how committed you are. It will take some work but it would be worth it if you do truly love each other. You can learn to complement each other instead of clash.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/24 10:16 PM
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I'm 40 and got asked out twice in one day a couple weeks ago by younger men. I still get hit on quite often. And I'm married to a younger man. I found my husband "post wall" and he is 9 years younger than me. We didn't know the age difference at first, he thought I was 23-24 based off my looks but I was 35. We were dating 2 months before we discovered the age difference. We just laughed and moved on. I had been engaged twice before to men that ended up being pretty awful. One became an alcoholic…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 07:07 PM
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Me too! I'm so thankful for my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:59 PM
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I'm not trying to save humanity. It has run it's course. In this scenario, no one would be here to miss humans anyway so what does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:56 PM
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Perhaps you should work on your reading comprehension. I never said anything implying that at all. Did you even read it? I said I have sympathy for people FORCED into sex work. That includes men because they are also forced into it. You are projecting your own beliefs onto me, and putting words into my mouth. You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:18 PM
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What argument? The person I replied to said people here have sympathy for female johns. I don't. Simple. I don't know what is hard to understand about that. It's a fact, not an argument. Since you brought it up though, are you just as opposed to males aborting babies as you are to females? Often times it's the male that first asks the female to get an abortion. Especially if it's a rich, powerful married man and the pregnant woman is his mistress. Abortion isn't necessarily a decision made by on…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:47 PM
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Where did I say providing sex work is ok? I personally wouldn't do it. I don't see it as "empowering" or encourage as some do. I am not going to tell someone else what to do with their body though, so if that's what they want to do, so be it. There are many people who are forced into sex work and I obviously have a lot of sympathy for those people. I hold female johns to the same standards as male johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 03:28 PM
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Exactly. So if men didn't provide the demand there wouldn't be a need for the supply. Sex workers typically don't dream about being sex workers. They do so because they see the opportunity presented and have limited other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:47 PM
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About 20% of sex workers are Male. You do realize that males pay other males too, right? https://iusw.org/sex-worker-statistics/ https://www.vice.com/en/article/evm5vw/nearly-one-in-five-sex-workers-are-men That 20% is world wide. Some countries have more and some estimates are higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:33 PM
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Perhaps it depends on the type of engineer? My husband is a Petroleum Engineer as are many of our friends since he met them in college. A few of our friends are chemical engineers. The computer science friend we have isn't socially awkward but he is Arab. I would say the most socially awkward of our friends is a theoretical physicist he is working on his PhD right now. I'm a biotechnologist and met my best friend at work, she is a biochemist. I know many of my friends don't want children because…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:07 PM
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We enjoy our lifestyle as it is. We travel a lot. We have a very active social life. A child would limit that greatly. We don't want to spend the money. It's very expensive, especially in the US. Healthcare alone is crazy expensive, then education is alone thing. Basically we feel far too selfish and irresponsible to have children, lol. We want to spend our money on ourselves and have our time to ourselves. He has 17 siblings and almost all have children. One of my sisters has 3 kids. We have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:56 PM
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Higher education is more often pursued in the Arab culture than in the US. It's expected that they become engineers or doctors in their culture, so it's not just the "autistic" types to use your words, as it is in the US. Having higher education does not automatically mean you are socially awkward. In many cases it is the opposite. My husband is the life of the party type. Very charismatic. Everyone calls him "charming". Most of our friends are married or in long term relationships. We have a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:38 PM
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No. We don't want kids at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:27 PM
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My husband can have any woman he wants. He is an incredibly handsome petroleum engineer with a PhD so money will never be an issue. Literally 6'6,6. Lol. He gets hit on constantly. He chose me. We we dating 2 months before we ever realized the age difference. Our ages never came up. He assumed I was younger than him because I look much younger than I am. We laughed when we found out and moved on. It's never been an issue. I am a former gymnast. I've stayed in shape. I get told I'm beautiful and …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:16 AM
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There isn't just one shade of brown. People's eyes differ a lot from person to person. From deep brown, almost black to very light brown, amber, hazel and everything in-between. There are also people who have blue, grey and green eyes even though they aren't as common. No, all Arab men don't fetishize white women. I have Arab friends that are not into white women. Yes, a lot of Arabs do, but not all of them. Using absolutes in arguments basically invalidates your stance because there are always …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:03 AM
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Of course I've been to Egypt. We are married. His entire family lives there. We have lived there for a while. He is a Petroleum Engineer and the Suez has a lot of oil. I never said all Egyptians are handsome. I said the Egyptian friends my husband has are. I said people asked me if they are all like this. Of course they know they aren't. They are making a joke about how my husband and his group of friends are all good looking. There isn't a single country where every person is good looking. We a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:23 AM
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The definition of man crush is : a strong feeling of liking and admiring, usually NON SEXUAL, that a man or boy has for another man or boy. There is nothing homosexual about it. Otherwise I would have just said "crush" as in a regular crush if I was implying you had sexual feelings for him. Learn the definition of things before getting offended by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:38 AM
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You have been disrespectful the entire conversation. I addressed the points. You kept bringing up Tom Cruise for no apparent reason. No one else brought him up. I know no women who find him attractive anymore. Man crush isn't a bad thing. It's a just a description. If you take offense that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 02:23 AM
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I do care about the original post which is why I addressed it. I also addressed your Tom Cruise man crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:58 AM
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People won't lie if you don't ask. I never ask what they think of him. Or his friends. It's spontaneous comments. I was standing in line for coffee and the women behind commented to her friend how "hot' he is and how sexy his voice is, and that she could listen to him talk all day. We had dinner a couple week ago and he left to go to the bathroom and the waitress was like "daaaammmn, he is fine." Our wedding coordinator met him and said "GURL!!!! He is Haaandsome!!" My sister made some comments …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:52 AM
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Tom Cruise doesn't look nearly as good as his 22 year old self. No one in their 50s or 60s looks as good as they did in their 20s. Male or female. It's a fact of life. Aging is an inevitable part of life. Most reasonable people accept this fact and aren't too bothered by it. Other people spend tons of money on plastic surgery and often end up looking worse than if they had just aged naturally. Plastic surgery often looks terrible after a few years, it just looks so... unnatural. The post is abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:05 AM
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Men's faces also age. The average man is not Tom cruise or Henry Cavil. Some hair transplants may look okay, but there are many that look terrible. They don't look natural and you can see the individual plugs. Rogain doesn't work for everyone. My husband is almost 10 years younger than I am. We met when I was 35. My cousin's wife is 13 years older than he is. They men when she was in he early 50s. One of my husband's best friend's wife is 10 years older than he is. They met when she was 35. One …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 12:36 AM
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The funny thing is that we had no idea we had such an age difference until we had been dating for a couple months. Lol. It just never came up. He thought I was 23-24 and I thought he was 32-33. He was actually 26 and I was 35. Once we did find out we just laughed and moved on. It's never been an issue at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:54 PM
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That we agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:29 PM
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No. The point is that there is always someone saying "x" can't get with "y" even though there are always plenty of examples of the exact thing happening, so obviously the people saying is can't be done are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:58 PM
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I could reply the same to your comment, as I said essentially the exact same thing as you. It obviously went right over your head. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:12 PM
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I've noticed the opposite. In my circle almost none of our friends have children. Almost all of our friends have PhDs in the sciences or engineering, or are MDs, and are high earners. I get told how good looking my husband is, and also his friends, quite often from random strangers, acquaintances, and my friends and even my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:44 PM
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Kind of like all these men telling women that men will never seriously date older women when I'm literally married to a man almost 10 years younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:36 PM
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I am a woman who would never use a sex robot. I don't even own sex toys. I need the intimacy and human connection that a toy or robot could never provide. My husband is all I need and he keeps me very happy. I don't care at all if men have sex robots. Go wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:09 PM
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I actually saw a theory recently claiming that the reason the younger generations are having trouble dating is because they don't know how to flirt. Men or women. They grew up with most of their communication being online, through social media, text, etc. The flirting in that context is vastly different than it is in person. There is a disconnect. Many of them have anxiety to talk in person. I don't know how valid it is but it's an interesting theory to consider. https://www.aol.com/news/gen-z-b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:33 PM
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I never said it didn't require men. I strongly believe both equally important. You can't have one without the other. You said women provide nothing to society and are a net negative. They obviously provide something important to society if it would cease to exist without them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:41 PM
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That still requires women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:10 PM
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So your preference is what? To have no people at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:41 AM
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Women birthing children is a positive though because society would not exist without it. You are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. So because there are some single moms, and some of the children from single mothers are bad, mothers are not a net positive? That's like saying that because some men are rapists, men are not a useful net positive to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:24 AM
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Not all mothers are single. Literally every person that is born is born to a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:02 AM
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Dead bedrooms don't usually start off dead. They end up that way as couples grow distant. Typically relationships start off with a honeymoon period of a lot of sex. There are many LTRs that never get to a dead bedrooms stage though and continue to have healthy sex lives. The question here regarding hook-up or ltr is going to be whether it's a one night stand or perhaps a friends with benefits type of situation; or if it's going to be a serious committed relationship. The two things are not hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 06:57 PM
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The topic is regarding hook-up only vs an actual relationship, which are in-fact two very different expectations to have that should be addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 03:58 PM
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Islam has always allowed women to initiate divorce. It's in the Quran. It's called Khul'.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 09:32 PM
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Women are allowed to initiate divorce in many Islamic countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:12 AM
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It depends what country they are in. Many Islamic countries allow women to initiate divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:07 AM
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I tend to agree, hence my disclaimer at the bottom. I am just using the parlance of the group I am speaking to prove a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:53 AM
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The incentive is internal. The men I know that prefer monogamy prefer it because they like the intimacy. They like that trust and closeness. They want to have the married life. Or maybe it's for moral reasons, and the way they were raised. My husband, for example, is a "high value" "6,6,6" in Redpill terms, which I didn't know was a thing until recently from this sub. Anyway he was raised Muslim, and values that family life and is very respectful of women. He wanted to get married so he could in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:06 PM
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So how is that "you go girl" if I'm replying to a man? I'm not going to tell anyone what to do. If these women are sleeping with this man without commitment, that is in them and that is their choice. They could choose to wait until they have commitment to sleep with someone if they are worried about it. If he is lying to these women and they think they have commitment, that is completely different and he definitely should not be doing that. It's not healthy for anyone in that situation. But if a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:48 PM
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The "countless hours of work" part leans toward whining. The entire comment doesn't come across as being completely content with your situation but I guess it's hard to tell people's intent through text.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:42 PM
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I never have said any about "slay" or "be selfish" or anything of the sort. Why attribute things to me that I've never said?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:35 PM
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If you have a rotation of women, why are you complaining? Do whatever you want. Not all men are like you. Many good looking or "high value " men could have a rotation of women but choose not to and choose to be in a monogamous relationship. My husband is one of them. My friends husbands are more examples. Do whatever makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:10 PM
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Well, I obviously have no idea how he is hung. Woman would also have no idea until they agreed to message with him and exchange pictures at the very least, or went on at least one date with him. So there are women who are talking to and going out with short, bald, overweight, unemployed men which already contradicts what many people say here. I can only tell you what he looks like and that he has no money. They live in a small rural farming community where there are very limited options so even …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:15 PM
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I don't know, my brother-in-law cheated on my sister constantly and he is 5'7", balding (bald on top but still has hair on sides and back, like a horseshoe), red headed with freckles, middle aged, slightly overweight, no muscle tone, wears glasses, has no real personality and worked at Walmart when we wasn't laid off because he only had a GED. He had no money to speak of. My sister dated way down for him and none of us know what she saw in him. He was the first and only guy she ever dated so she…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:29 PM
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I'm not the op, but personally I would, and have, split common expenses 50/50. Before I was married, I was engaged to a man who earned significantly less than I did, and was in a serious relationship with another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:45 PM
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Yes. You are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:11 AM
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That's the point right there. He blends in. He drives a taxi. Yes, most men are safe and even protective but the serial killers and rapists tend not to announce themselves. Women are guarded because they don't know which men are the protectors and which are the attackers. Any man they see could be either, theoretically.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 03:48 AM
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I get asked out by younger guys often and they think I'm their age. Twice in one day last week. My husband is almost 10 years younger than me, when we met he thought I was younger than he is. Everyone always thinks I am younger than he is. People don't believe me when I tell them how old I am. Most of y'all can't tell with me apparently. It depends largely on the person. Some people show their age, some don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:46 PM
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I'm in my 40s and people still think I'm 24. I get hit on by young guys all the time. I got asked out twice in one day last week by men younger than me. My husband is almost 10 years younger than me. Everyone thinks he is older than me. People never believe me when I tell them my age, I've had to show my ID to prove it. My mom and sisters are the same way. I was a gymnastics and stayed in shape and I take good care of my skin. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs or wear a lot of makeup. If someone ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:38 PM
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TL/DR: happy people don't complain, you only hear from the unhappy people. A lot of people use antidepressants off-label for chronic pain, migraines and other things that aren't depression. Even if it is used for depression, women can actually be depressed about the death of a loved one, health problems of themselves or a loved one, financial issues, problems at work, problems with their children, a long distance move, etc; they aren't just depressed about the lack of a relationship. Most women …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:12 AM
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Because nothing is ever black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 07:27 PM
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My husband and I have had the same conversation. We also can't believe how few people ask the really important clarifying questions. What kind of bear, and what kind of man? That makes a big difference. Polar Bear vs David Attenborough? Obviously David. Black bear vs Ed Gein? Bear hands down, because it will probably run away (*unless it's a mama bear protecting her cubs) but Ed probably wants to wear my kidney as a hat a turn my nipples into doorbells (he actually had a human nipple doorbell at…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:04 PM
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I think the same goes for Western women in relationships with foreign men. Often times, in my experience and that of my friend's, Western men seem put-out or upset that Western women are choosing foreign men over them. I am a woman from the Midwest and my husband is from Egypt. I have several friends from the Midwest also married to men from Egypt or the Middle East. We joke about the Egyptian coming to the US for the Midwestern women, even though we all met and live in the south. I also have fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:03 PM
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No one said anything about farmers being poor did they? If you're referring to the blue collar comment someone made, that just refers to the type of work. Blue collar workers can often be rich.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:45 PM
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Same. I grew up on a farm in the Midwest. Almost everyone I went to highschool with is married with kids. Most are farmers or work in construction. I don't think many are on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:35 PM
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Apparently math is not your strong suit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:38 PM
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There are only 2.1 million content contributors (ETA: about 70% female, so about 1.4 million females) worldwide out of a population of 8 billion people. The US alone has a population of 320 million. Approximately half of any given population is female. Also only about 70% of the content is adult content, so that would be about 980,000 women making adult content worldwide. https://www.enterpriseappstoday.com/stats/onlyfans-statistics.html Edit: The adult population is roughly 75% of a given popul…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:12 PM
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Clearly she didn't if she isn't satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 03:28 PM
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I got married in my late thirties to a man 9 years younger than me who is incredibly handsome, tall, and is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD who makes well over 6 figures. More importantly he is the most respectful, kind, and intelligent man I've ever met, who treats me far better than any other man ever has. He treats me like a queen so I treat him like my king. I wasn't looking for the "666" thing and didn't even know it existed until recently from reading the sub but I got it. I would not have…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 03:34 AM
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So? Women still know what it feels like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:37 AM
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I don't disagree. People in general need to work on many things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:32 AM
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I never said no women do this. I said fewer do. Fewer women are getting married which means fewer women are settling. There are still women using men. That will always happen. There will always be men using women too. It doesn't happen as often as it used to though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:14 PM
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There is no need for women to do those things either, which should be a good thing. Men here are always saying that they don't want a woman to settle for them, but if a woman felt she needed a relationship/child and couldn't find a man she wanted she would have to settle for someone. Many women used to settle for men they didn't love because he was a good provider. Now fewer women do that because they can provide for themselves, and men complain about that too. I don't really understand what the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:20 PM
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So instead of using that as an example you went to nonconsensual anal??? Did you think you were the only women who has had pimples popped? This is so wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:10 PM
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Those aren't contradictory. Something that mostly women do and almost no men do would be gendered. Quite a lot of men say they do this. It's not rare. It might not even be more women than men, we just might hear about women doing it more. Both genders cheat but pretty much every reliable study done has shown that men do it more often than women. Does that mean cheating is a male gendered thing? No. Women tend to be more insecure as a group. This isn't new knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:06 PM
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I very rarely post on social media, maybe once every few years. What I do post is stuff I wouldn't mind if the public sees, even though I have it set to private because some people have ways around. If they still find something they don't like, I'm probably not a good fit for the company and I'm completely fine with them not hiring me. If someone is offended by my wedding photo, I don't think I would be happy working for them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:46 PM
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Are you sure? Is seems many want a partner and an equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:39 AM
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https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/12/pimple-popping-husband-is-obsessed-with-my-skin-care-advice.html Just because you haven't heard of something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. This is just one example. If you want more, Google is your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 01:40 AM
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Exactly. Employers do it. Why wouldn't a potential date? I expect people to look through my sm and I wouldn't mind if anyone looked back through it. I really don't use it much at all and I don't put anything on there I wouldn't want the public to potentially see. I think many people may not realize that when they apply or interview for a job, someone at the company usually tries to look them up on social media. I have worked at several different companies, and I have been asked to do this at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 12:48 AM
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A lot of guys do vet women that way. There have been questions about it on different subs. Women probably do it more often but men admit to it as well. It's not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:40 PM
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Of course you haven't, because if you had, you would never compare it to popping a pimple. Anyone with any empathy knows that the two are nothing close to appropriate to compare to each other, without needing to experience both. You might as well have compared it to getting shot or stabbed. Those are both painful, nonconsensual things that happen to one's body if that's all you're going for. You could have picked several other things that would be better equivalents. Tickling. Snapping a bra. Pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:37 PM
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There are people who kill themselves because they are lonely, which isn't exactly dying because they are single, but it is similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:14 PM
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I wish I could upvote you more. I feel like I'm having a stroke trying to read some of these titles sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:39 PM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8133465/ https://amp.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/in-the-quest-for-love-personality-matters-but-only-to-women-20181126-p50ifc.html
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:32 PM
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How can you compare groping to penetration? The two aren't even in the same ball park.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:57 PM
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You don't remember correctly. Men don't get acne and blackheads more often than women but they do tend to be larger when they do get them since men have larger pores. Regardless of who gets them more, how does one go from pimple popping to anal rape, of all things? You could have used a man popping pimples on a woman without consent to have an equal, apples to apples comparison. Instead you went way out with apples to nonconsensual anal comparison. Wild. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 12:52 PM
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Many men have the same inability. It's not a gendered thing. "Similar to the prior study, men were 30% less likely to report feeling love than women. Additionally, men and women were about equally likely to report feelings of partner love, but men were 43% less likely to report feeling love toward a child and 38% less likely to report feeling love toward another family member." https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/2024-february-love-gender-gap.html#:~:text=Similar%20to%20the%20prior%20study…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:42 PM
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Even if she isn't on the spectrum, why are you taking the behavior of one woman and applying to every woman? Using that logic, we know a man raped and murdered a woman, so all men must be rapists and murderers, right? That's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:35 PM
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The birth rate is falling even in conservative cultures. The birth rate is below replacement value in 4 or 5 middle Eastern countries and the rest are predicted to follow the same trend within the next decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:56 AM
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I've also done this, and I've had women I've never met approach me. When a stranger comes to you acting like she is your best friend since grade school, you just know to go along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:45 PM
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In my experience, mostly for love. None of my friends or family members married for money. I have heard some stories about women using men for money and I have one friend who is in the middle of a divorce from a woman who was possibly using him. She may have loved him though. It seemed like she loved him while they were together. No one except for her knows for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 06:32 AM
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There are women who want to date him. Some of them just want sex. It all depends on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:34 PM
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If it's not love or money, what else would it be? Those are the two main things people marry for. You either love the person and want to be with them no matter what, for richer or poorer; or you settle for someone you don't love but who has money/resources to provide that you need/want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:10 PM
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It's possible. I have a friend who is a bartender at a fancy country club and the women there hit on him a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:56 PM
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Yess, it can happen . About 30% of of low income men in the US are married. It's not the norm, but not out of the realm of possibilities either. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://aspe.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/migrated_legacy_files//44931/rpt_DemographicSnapshot.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj2h8y0-4-FAxUk4ckDHc0jCUYQFnoECBkQBg&usg=AOvVaw3S_22ljG0yKNCoXU37IdgC Anecdotal, but my nephew is married and he never even finished highschool because his mom is super religious a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:54 PM
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I thought "nice guys" were guys who genuinely think they are nice but actually aren't nice, so then they don't understand why the girl doesn't want to be with them. Like they literally don't understand that they aren't being nice, they aren't just pretending to be nice but know they aren't. Is that not right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 04:24 AM
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I think that's kind of true actually. Think about the women who think they are a 10 that aren't actually 10s that men are often talking about on this sub. The more someone says, "you can trust me," the less you should trust them. If you have to be told someone has a trait, it's more likely they don't actually have the trait. If you're nice, people will know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 04:18 AM
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I've wondered about that myself. Drug addiction may play a role in that they may not be able to hold a regular job. I'm not saying all prostitutes use drugs, but there is a high percentage that do in many areas. I think some of it may have to do with not being able to get hired at those types of jobs, although these days in many places, almost anyone can. I don't know the real answer. I was just showing stats from both women who hate being a prostitute and women who like it to show the discrepan…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 05:08 PM
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That's good to hear that it has changed. I had friends several years ago that were Marines in SigInt, who had top secret SCI clearances and one of them had a really hard time when they got back from Fallujah. They sought counseling which caused them to lose their clearance, and because of that, lost their contract position they had lined up for when when they were getting out in a few months that was going to pay over $100,000. That scared everyone else with a clearance out of seeking any help. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 05:03 AM
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It is irrelevant to this post. I was just showing were that person may have gotten their stats from.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:50 PM
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Yeah, I can see your point about that. The ones I have sympathy for are the ones that are being trafficked against their will. Men, women, and children. There needs to be less of that all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:44 PM
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This is off topic, but out of curiosity, did you have any security clearance and if so, did your seeking therapy affect it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:35 PM
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I'm not the OP, but there have been some studies done on this. Some do tend to show that an overwhelming majority of women want out of prostitution. "Nearly 95 per cent of those involved in prostitution report wanting to leave but feel they have no other option for survival." https://www.lsbu.ac.uk/stories-finder/exiting-prostitution "The Scientific Journal of Trauma Practice found that 89% women in prostitution want to escape" https://2001-2009.state.gov/r/pa/ei/rls/38790.htm "% of women who sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 10:24 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 03:49 PM
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My husband did say that to me, and continues to leave the the choice up to me. I continue to work because I like my job. It's extremely rewarding and fulfilling to me. I harvest human organs and tissues for transplant. I get thank you letters and cards from the donor's family and recipients. Every year we host a donor family gathering where we arrange for the recipients to meet their donor's family if both parties agree to it. It's a really special thing to witness and be a part of. Plus having …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 11:17 PM
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Some women do. Some women don't. Regardless of which role she is taking, she is experiencing the relationship and participating in it. She is getting experience, learning what she likes and doesn't like, what she wants from a partner, what is expected of her, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:32 AM
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Yes. Most passengers probably know how to drive. When you get in the passenger seat of a car do you suddenly forget how to drive? It's wild if you do. I don't. I could drive the car or be a passenger because I know how to do both and my mind doesn't erase when the engine turns over. Are you saying women aren't active participants in their relationships but merely captives? If a woman has been in a relationship, she has experience in a relationship. Every relationship is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:42 AM
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If they are just wanting to hook up, of course they don't. But for a wife, that stuff matters to many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:04 AM
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That person would be, yes. But what of someone was intelligent and attractive but disagreed with you on having children and politics? There are variants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:02 AM
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Where did I say most men don't want children? Or that 20% is most? I never said that. 20% is 1 out of 5, which is a significant amount (not most), and the number is growing. You can't say every man wants children or that's it is rare that they don't. Most men do want kids, but that doesn't mean that some don't, so people have to be compatible on that aspect. How can you not understand that? "Nonsense cop out. This is just cope from women with shitty personalities. Men largely date within their i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:58 AM
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Research by University of Texas and California Lutheran University concluded that many men find the prospect of dating intelligent women intimidating. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167200262001 https://www.huffpost.com/entry/men-like-the-idea-of-a-smart-woman-but-they-may-not-be-interested-in-dating-one_n_5627a564e4b02f6a900ed2aa (this article describes above study in case) https://academiccommons.columbia.edu/doi/10.7916/D8FB585Z https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/why-…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:20 AM
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You think your opinion applies to everyone. It doesn't. "Most men want kids." About 20% of men don't want kids according to studies. https://nypost.com/2022/10/17/why-childless-men-are-saying-no-to-fatherhood/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2021/11/19/growing-share-of-childless-adults-in-u-s-dont-expect-to-ever-have-children/ https://www.menshealth.com/trending-news/a36741056/adults-do-not-want-children-study/ My husband doesn't and most of or social circle is child free. Almost all of …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:25 PM
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"Why are they still with them?" I asked the same question. The woman I asked said she really loves her husband and he is great in every other way, he is a great father. They really need some sex therapy or intimacy coaching or something. That can't continue. I don't think she is very proactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 09:39 PM
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I think loyalty is a big thing for everyone. I was going to mention those traits but those are things that are not as tangible or visible. You can't really look at a person and tell. There are clues but some people really surprise you. There are women that don't care about body count but this question was asked to women on a different sub a while back and most said they wanted lower body counts too. High body counts are often more indicative of cheating. High quality men would be a man that is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 09:19 PM
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Wouldn't the quality depend on who is rating it? Looks are subjective. Some men want a woman who makes a lot of money and has a good career but some don't care. Some want a woman who will be a stay at home mom and has no career. Does she want kids or not? Some men do , some don't, that would have to match Some men really value intelligence and ambition in a woman, for some men it's actually a turn off. Many men want a woman who cooks well but what if she only cooks Mexican, Asian, Mediterranean,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 08:42 PM
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I think it all depends on the individual and the circumstances of the relationship. I've known women who grieve relationships for a very long time and I have know men that move on easily, and vive versa. That being said I also know people who outwardly appear to be fine, but they are very hurt on the inside. Part of the coping and defense mechanism is to appear fine and to move on. I remember after one of my hardest breakups one of our mutual friends told me I seemed to be taking it better than …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 06:41 PM
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This study included all ages. The age group between 42-58 is the one that has the best success overall online regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 04:42 PM
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Rape is still more common than robbery in rural areas. You're probably fine. https://www.ruralhealthinfo.org/topics/violence-and-abuse#prevalence
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:16 AM
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The ones under 50, 000 are not considered moderate. One on that list has 11, 000 people. Population is not an indicator of the probability of rape. Women get raped in small towns and in large cities. You were naming NYC, Chicago, as examples as though only women in large cities had to worry. All of those cities on that list are small in comparison to those cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:07 AM
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But what are the chances of someone breaking into your house? It sounds like you don't live in a major population center (since you don't care about them) so the chances that someone breaks into your house are even smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 05:00 AM
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Most of them have a population of under 100,000. A few have under 50,000.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 04:48 AM
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Metro areas with highest rates of rape per capita Anchorage, AK Rapid City, SD 3.Pueblo, CO 4.St. Joseph, MO-KS 5.Carson City, NV 6.Jackson, MI 7.Farmington, NM 8.Jonesboro, AR 9.Danville, IL 10.Casper, WY https://www.statista.com/statistics/605581/us-metropolitan-areas-with-the-highest-rape-rate/ Edit: formatting
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 04:38 AM
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You'd be surprised what men say to women. I had to ask. Dating apps actually work better for men than women according to a pew study done last year. Men seem to feel more positively about them too. Males were more likely to have met someone on a dating app and have it lead to an exclusive relationship (75%), compared to 66% of females[3]. When asked how they currently feel about dating, nearly 36% of respondents stated “somewhat positively” and 24% said “very positively,” while almost 23% felt i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:45 AM
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I can't speak for all women. I only know what I want and what the women I know want. According to a lot of men on this sub the only requirement is that you be 6ft+. How do you start a conversation with a woman on an app? What kind of things do you talk about? I'm guessing you don't share your negativity with your dates do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 03:18 AM
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I have the experiences of myself and the people around me. No one is having a great time dating. I don't know any women that sleep around. I know they exist but I can't talk about the experience of those type. I see both my single male and female friends struggling to find a relationship. My male friends are hooking up through apps but not getting relationships. We have one close male friend who is going through a divorce and we see him with a different woman almost every time we see him. He's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 02:41 AM
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No. That's not correct. Women experience struggles and hopelessness in the dating scene as well. In fact the majority of women are now single. 52% are never married or divorced. https://fortune.com/2023/03/18/record-number-american-women-single-costs/amp/ Women will never know what it's like to date as a man and men will never know what it's like to date as a woman. It's difficult for both because it's toxic out there. Each has its own struggles. It varies depending on the individual. It's harde…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:19 AM
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I understand that. But saying it's the majority I don't think is true. It's a lot, yes. It's a big problem, yes. It could be the majority soon if it keeps going like it is. Women's issues with men are why there are so many feminist groups and think like that and I believe red pill is basically the response to that. The pendulum will just keep swinging back and forth unless we can somehow find a balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 12:24 AM
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The studies all find that sexual activity has fallen, but the studies all seem to agree around ~70% or 2/3 of men are having sex. That's just a smaller number than before which is alarming people. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7293001/ https://www.healthline.com/health-news/young-adults-especially-men-having-sex-less-frequently https://news.iu.edu/live/news/26924-nearly-1-in-3-young-men-in-the-us-report-having-no
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 12:14 AM
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Also, I should add this. You keep saying most men, but the majority of young men are having sex and the majority of all men are also in relationships. "Both men and women are most sexually active between the ages of 25-29, with 74.4% of men and 74.3% of women reporting at least one sexual encounter in the past month." https://sexualalpha.com/frequency-of-sex-by-age/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 12:01 AM
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There are decent men that do have a hard time dating. But it's not super easy for women to find good men either. Just because there is abundance doesn't mean there are good options. It's a quantity over quality thing. Many women are giving up too. Yes, some women's standards are too high. But even for women who don't have the crazy high standards it's hard to find someone compatible. Many women in my generation are finding that they have to do everything. Work full time, come home raise the kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:39 PM
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I empathize with those men but I don't think that turning against women completely is the way to go. I have been in their shoes. I was very jaded against relationships before I met my husband. I had been in a couple really bad relationships. One was a drug addict (who lied about it and hid it until well into the relationship) who cheated on me repeatedly. Another was a physically and mentally abusive alcoholic (who hid his drinking and didn't become abusive until later on). I was absolutely conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:53 PM
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I see some good debates on this sub, but more often it seems it's just one gender talking trash about the other. I have noticed that it's spreading more into the real world and I think it's because of social media. I also think the fact the men feal scared to approach women anywhere plays a big part. "Me too" addressed a very big problem but it also turned non-issues into issues. In the past if a man asked you out and you weren't interested you said "no, thank you" and that was that. It was only…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 07:55 PM
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The black tag. Many of the people with the black tag think the situation is hopeless and debating with them is pointless because they are sure they are screwed no matter what and that everyone should just give up and quit trying. I get it if that's how they feel, but why come to a debate sub then? I think you're resentment right now is just that, resentment. However, there are a lot of men who's resentment has gone on for so long that's it's grown past the point of that into something bigger whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:02 PM
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I have a lot of sympathy for men who have a genuinely hard time dating even though they are actually good men. The thing about a lot of the men on these subs is that they basically hate women and treat them like garbage but then wonder why they can't keep a woman. I have no sympathy for guys like that. Some of it comes from being treated badly by women and I can understand being jaded but eventually one needs to heal from that. Treating all women badly because a few were mean is not the way to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:21 PM
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Dating is harder for men, I'm not saying it isn't. Only about half of women under 30 use apps. About 30% of total women. So no, men don't have to use apps. Half of the women out there aren't on them. I don't know anyone that has met their partner on apps. Of course I think my husband is a 10. In every way. I wouldn't have married him if I didn't. Shouldn't women find their husbands attractive? Men are on here complaining about how women settle and don't actually find their husbands attractive bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:23 AM
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Overall, the majority of men are married and the stats don't take into consideration long term relationships, couples living together without being married, situationships, dating, or any of that. One reason the stats show the men under 30 are single could be because so many people are waiting to get married until they finish school and get their career going. Many men don't want to marry that early and want to play the field, so to speak. So the stats look grim but it doesn't tell the whole sto…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:24 PM
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Yes, I'm sure that's that what it was. She also probably tired of being cooped up with the kids with no windows and having soot all over everything from the fire with no chimney. It may have been a longer walk to go get the water and do the gathering too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 05:48 PM
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The definition of lewd is "crude and offensive in a sexual way." Sending someone an unwanted and unrequested picture of your genitals is considered offensive to many adults. Considering that the penis is most likely erect in the picture and it was sent with explicit sexual intent, that makes it sexual. By definition, sending pictures of your junk to someone who doesn't want it is lewd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:48 PM
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Humans don't live in caves because humans think like humans. The commenter I replied to basically implied that all anyone should think about is sex, and that men only think about sex. Nothing is going to get done if that all anyone thinks about. Men think about sex a lot but they think about other things too. BTW, Woman also had a hand in the development of civilization. A pretty large one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:07 AM
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A man having a job doesn't automatically make him is a good partner. I think what happens to many women is that they find men who don't contribute enough to the relationship. It used to be men provided the money and that was all that was expected. Women provided the housework and childcare. Now that women are working the balance hasn't necessarily shifted for a lot of people. I'm not saying there aren't a lot of good men out there that do their share, or more, because there are. My husband is on…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:30 AM
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With that perspective, if everyone thought like you think men do, humans would still be living in caves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 05:49 AM
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The article you linked is mostly about women who are either happily single, or chose to be single instead of with the wrong partner, but society is putting pressure on them to be in a relationship. Some quotes from the article... "Whereas now, I probably just say that it is irrelevant whether I'm single or not. I'm happy. I'm doing lots of things with my life." "I was single until I was 35 … people would try to set me up with the reasoning, "You're single, he's single. So it'll have to work out.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 11:44 PM
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Most of the women I know got married in their thirties to men far better than the options they had in their twenties. The options never dried up and didn't become lower quality, they actually improved. We've talked about what a mistake it would have been to settle for the men that proposed to us in our twenties. To be fair though, the demographic of my social circle is almost entirely highly educated, attractive women without children who had good careers and never used OLD or apps. They met oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:02 PM
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Both. Our friend groups became one big group. We already had a bit of crossover which is how we met, but our groups really just messed into one. I became friends with his friends, he became friends with my friends and a lot of his friends started hanging out with my friends and vice versa. We still go hang out with our friends separately of course but there are a lot of parties, music events and things where most of our social circle is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 05:02 AM
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It's not being anal, it's the correct way. I was just saying if you speak like you write, you aren't fluent. That doesn't mean you can't have conversations and be understood though and I would think you would want to know the mistakes to improve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:24 AM
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Just a little FYI, you should be using ser instead of estar and your word order is incorrect. Any Spanish speaker will understand what you are saying perfectly fine, but it sounds a little yodaish. They will definitely consider you to speak broken Spanish if you make mistakes like this often.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:10 AM
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There are all kinds of tall famous men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 05:53 PM
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About half of women will date shorter men, according to at least one study. I have dated shorter men. So yes, a lot of women want taller men, but a lot of women don't care. To use famous people as examples since we both know them or can reference them... Zendaya and Tom Holland, Tom Cruise and pretty much everyone he's been with, Daniel Radcliffe and Erin Darke, Nicole Kidman and Kieth Urban, Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden, Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas, Gigi Hadid and Zayn Malik, Mark Wahlberg and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:02 AM
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Women don't all find the same men attractive. What point are you trying to make by pointing out similarities in three very different men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 01:47 AM
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Those women refuse to grow their hair out and wear deodorant, that's just who they are. What about a blond woman who is missing most of her teeth? Covered in tattoos? Some people might be into it but say you aren't? I hear men complain about women being unattractive and reaching out of their league but now you're saying that men find all women with certain characteristics automatically attractive. Emma Watson is mid. Eva Mendez is mid. (Men have said that on this sub) Which one is it? I don't th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 12:32 AM
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Someone in an earlier comment was using pizza as an analogy so I'll continue it here... Most people like pizza. Everybody likes different toppings on their pizza though. Everyone has a favorite combination, whether it's just cheese and sauce, everything but the kitchen sink, or something in-between. It's what goes along with the features that specifically attracts a woman to one man or another. If a woman likes tall men, she doesn't automatically like every tall man. There are other factors at p…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:32 PM
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So you're saying that you if you find blue eyes and blond hair attractive, you think every woman with blue eyes and blond hair is attractive? Why is there the "butterface" term then? What if the hair is short but you like long? What if she wears really horrible makeup? What if she refuses to wear deodorant and smells really bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 09:27 PM
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I see it more like this...yes, most people like pizza, but everyone likes different toppings on their pizza. So while most women like a certain type a feature, it's what goes along with the features that attract her. Women who like blue eyes don't automatically like every man that has blue eyes, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 06:28 PM
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I wouldn't say the majority of women are antisocial and neurotic. Perhaps on dating apps they are, or maybe the younger generation? Dating apps often attract a certain type of woman who know that there are way more men than women on the apps and can exploit that. They aren't necessarily looking for serious relationships either. The majority of women aren't on apps though. It's anecdotal but most of the women I know are socially well adjusted and happily married. I don't know anyone who used dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 05:12 PM
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When did I ever say this sub is the rest of the world? ETA: I find it hard to believe you've never heard a man complain about women in real life. I'm using this sub as an example because it's something you can also see. If I use my own experience you would just say it's anecdotal and doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 04:25 AM
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They do get dragged. Pretty much every day there is a post here dragging women for their behaviors, preferences or standards or whatever else men find to complain about. They are getting dragged right now. Both men and women complain about each other. It's nothing new.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 03:39 AM
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Because they aren't dating themselves. Many men have different standards in women than they have in themselves. For example a lot of men are promiscuous but don't want to be with a promiscuous woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:56 AM
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Tell the other person exactly what's on you mind, don't expect them to be a mind-reader but do it in a calm and tactful way. Don't yell or raise your voice. That immediately makes the other person defensive and zone out so you've already lost their attention. Think about what you want to say and how before you say it. Don't ever call names because it's immature, it's not productive and you can't un-say something once you've said it. That will stick with the other person, even if you don't really…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 12:19 AM
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It is not the norm but it is becoming more common. In about 16% of marriages the woman is the sole or primary breadwinner which is up significantly from the past and it only expected to climb. It's not that rare. That's not counting women who out-earn their husbands who make near equal salaries, but aren't considered breadwinners, which is nearly half of women in same sex marriages. Either you love the person and you want to be with them because they make your life better or you don't. If you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 04:42 PM
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It is not the norm but it is becoming more common. In about 16% of marriages the woman is the sole or primary breadwinner which is up significantly from the past and it only expected to climb. It'd not super rare. Uncommon, yes but not rare. Either you love the person and you want to be with them because they make your life better or you don't. If you are looking at them wondering solely what financial and other gains you can get out of them, it's probably best not to be in a relationship. https…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 04:35 PM
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I fully agree that it all comes down to the individuals involved, in both circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:51 AM
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Yes, there is a difference between saying "I love you" and feeling it. That's the point. There are tons of dead bedrooms but there are tons of highly active healthy ones too. I make my husband feel like my king because he makes me feel like a queen. He's my world. He feels that. Not every relationship will be like that, which is why I said not all men would prefer to be married over paying for it. It all depends on the people and their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 02:28 AM
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That's not the same as the real desire of someone who is actually in love with you though. It's just lust. Some men are fine with that. Some want the emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:40 AM
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Even if a man doesn't want kids, he can still want a partner. My husband doesn't want kids and is very happy to be married. He would never want to pay for sex because he would never want to have sex with someone who doesn't actually desire him. It's his biggest turn off. He enjoys having the emotional connection and intimacy. There are men that like to feel desired. He also likes the companionship, the friendship, the support, the cooking, cleaning, and everything that I provide. It's not just s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 01:09 AM
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For some men, they enjoy the emotional connection of sex and enjoy pleasing the woman. Generally, the more often two people have sex, the better it gets because the more they get to know about what pleases the other, plus the intimacy and emotional connection builds. Not all men are like this, of course. Some men would be perfectly happy, and prefer, to pay for sex and don't care for the emotional stuff or building a rapport. Do whatever makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 12:57 AM
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It all depends on the individuals. It depends who they marry. One of my best friends is the breadwinner in her marriage. She is a biochemist and he is a musician. So that would be a gain for him. She owned a condo when they got married that they now rent out for extra income, another gain. She's a great cook and makes him his favorite foods and offers all sorts of emotional support that cannot be calculated. I have another friend who supports her husband that owned her home that he moved into. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 09:01 PM
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That is weird. I'm not just messing with you or anything, lol. It really doesn't show any. It just says "1" like when any comment is posted. I wonder why they are different?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 08:00 PM
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About 20% of men don't want children according to the latest studies, so it't not that rare to find them. I know several men that don't want children. My husband doesn't. Most of our social circle is child free. To be fair, it might be because of the demographics of our social circle. Almost all of them are highly educated and high earners. Statistically more educated and wealthier people have fewer children.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:56 PM
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No. There are no upvotes on that comment. ETA: My comment asking "what upvotes?" currently has 5 upvotes so apparently other people are wondering the same thing. It isn't showing up to anyone else either. Perhaps you're looking at the wrong comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 06:04 PM
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What upvotes?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 01:32 AM
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I know it's not the norm but my husband is younger than I am. My grandma was older than my grandpa (married over 50 years), my cousin's wife is significantly older than he is and 2 of my good friends are married to younger men. So it does happen. I think it's much more common now than it used to be and maybe the stigma is (slowly) dying. I think in general it comes down to maturity levels. Some younger men are mature enough for the relationship a woman wants and others aren't. Men used to typica…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 06:55 PM
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To be fair my husband is Middle Eastern and he spoils me and his family and friends spoil their wives, but as a whole the culture itself is not known for being great to women by any means.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 06:17 AM
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You were wrong. I never referenced same sex relationships. I never edited it, as you can see because it doesn't say "edited" next to my comment. There you go talking about interracial marriages again. You obviously want me to reply to it so you can say that I'm the one that keeps talking about it. Stop bringing it up if you don't want to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 06:15 PM
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You jumped into a good faith conversation to brag that you were taller and more muscular than my husband and than say I'm the arrogant one? Hello pot. This is kettle. I wasn't being arrogant or bragging until you came in with your arrogance and attitude. It's called reciprocity. I'm not going to be nice and polite to someone who it bitter and rude for no reason. You are apparently not happy with how your face looks because you said you are upset people only judge on facial looks but you would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 06:15 PM
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I omitted nothing. You aren't understanding the data. 19% are MARRIED opposite sex couples. 29% are UNMARRIED opposite sex couples. I ignored same sex couple info. This data isn't that hard to understand. Basic reading comprehension. Who's the dolt? The direct quote from the census... "About 31% of married same-sex couples were interracial in 2022, much higher than the 19% of married opposite-sex couples that were interracial. Interracial couple households were also more common among same-sex (3…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:53 AM
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I don't know anything about you except that your attitude about women is why you are single. I don't care to know anything else. There are some men I do feel bad for because the dating scene is toxic but there are others like you that just bring it on themselves that I can't feel any sympathy for. I replied to your comment which went way over you head. I was saying no, it's not just facial attractiveness, its everything. Don't comment to me and then you get all put out when I reply back. I didn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:43 AM
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"let’s just take your anecdotal experiences about immigrants and women and take it as fact" This is the comment I replied to where you clearly say immigrants. Look back through the whole thread. You have been talking about men from conservative cultures marrying Western women. I never claimed a specific number of Arab - white marriages. Anywhere. I simply said they are not counted in the census and therefore the number represented in the census is off, which is actually something you pointed out…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:26 AM
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Obviously I know because my husband is Arab. Therefore the amount of interracial marriages is actually under estimated in the census. For example my marriage is not counted as interracial. So the actual numbers would be higher. I don't have a thing about interracial marriages, but you keep bringing them up. If you don't want to talk about them, stop bringing them up. It's very simple. If you don't want someone to reply to you, don't comment in the first place. It's not rocket science. That was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:59 AM
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" I’ll give you an example, i’m 6’1” good chance i’m also stronger and have more muscle than your husband, " That's in your first comment in this thread. What did you expect? For me to say "oh yeah, your right let me leave my husband for you?" No. You came to the thread and commented on my life with no provocation but then get so butt hurt when I comment back. Then you go on some tirade about how awful all women are, and how I didn't "earn" my husband without knowing a thing about me. It's good …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:51 AM
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Almost 70% of the men in the US are married. 20% of married couples that were interracial. 29% of unmarried couple households are interracial. Over 70% of men 25 - 30 are having sex regardless of relationship status, and 60% 18 - 24 year olds. The overwhelming majority of men are getting laid. The majority are not interracial yet but nearly 30% is hardly a rarity. https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2023/11/same-sex-couple-diversity.html https://www.statista.com/statistics/242030/marital-stat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:37 AM
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Apparently no one cares about you, how much money you make, or what you look like because you're on here complaining about how no one cares about you. Judging by you attitude, no one ever will. I will go home after work to my husband that cares very much about me. You will probably never have that. And we'll hang out with our family and friends tomorrow who also care very much about me and not how much money I make, although we make plenty so I'm not worried about it and I don't care at all how …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:16 AM
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Okay. Well mine and plenty of other people's experiences disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:50 AM
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Woman who's bored while on call at work (I can't be more than 10 min away from the OR) doesn't back down to some rando who started a pissing match with her because she likes to debate. (Debate team in highschool) Doesn't seem that off. Replying to comments on Reddit is kinda what it's there for, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:46 AM
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In my experience immigrants are having no trouble hooking up and having lasting relationships with people. Sometimes other immigrants, sometimes citizens. Usually they don't meet online. I don't think I know anyone who has met online. We have a running joke in our social circle about all the Middle Eastern men marrying the Midwestern women because we know 5 couples like that. Those from the Midwest tend to be a bit more conservative and that seems to work well. So many people use dating apps tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:28 AM
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We lived in Egypt for a while. I know what it's like. With the currency crashing like it is right now many women are having to get jobs to help support their families. Sidenote: His sister fixed my crown for me for $75 and it was going to cost over $2000 in the US. It was done "beautifully" too according to my dentist on the US once I came back.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:15 AM
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Seems like I struck a nerve. You sound jealous and bitter which is what is so revolting about you people. You know nothing about me or what I earned yet you are making all kinds of baseless assumptions. You know what they say about assuming? Seems you are the one who looks like an ass. I might be pretty but I worked hard at school, at my career, at sports, and even before that learning how to be a wife from my grandma and mother. How to cook, clean, sew, garden, etc. I grew up on a farm and had …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:06 AM
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You apparently care enough to comment about it. I never said he's a 10 in looks alone (although he is, in my opinion). He is a 10 all around. He is perfect for me. Yes, I know there are no perfect people which is why I said for me. He's the most intelligent, respectful, kind, generous, and caring man I've ever known. I never said being conservative is why men fail. I prefer a somewhat conservative man which is why my husband and I work. I would bet all the money in the world that you are not bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:22 PM
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It's all about values. If that's something your friend truly valued he should not have married who he did. My husband and I share the same values so this is not an issue. I was never promiscuous and would never raise my daughter to be. My husband knows this and trusts me just as I trust him to make the correct decisions about our future.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:59 PM
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That is true. It's not just men from conservative cultures that do that though. Interesting that they see the kid getting influence from the mother and don't think at all about the influence they would give they child themselves. If they truly value conservative culture they should actually practice it themselves and not whore themselves around. A very strict Muslim man isn't supposed to have premarital sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:33 PM
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Actually, no. When I spoke of immigrants I wasn't speaking about a specific gender because there are both. At the University where there are more POC than whites, there are also more women than men. 54.9% of the degrees last year were awarded to women, and 45.1% were awarded men. While female breadwinners are not the norm it's becoming more common, especially as women are becoming more educated. I do have two good female friends that are the breadwinners in their relationships. One is a Biochemi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:27 PM
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I couldn't care less who white men marry. I don't see a problem with it as long as both people are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:08 PM
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I didn't convert to Islam and I'm not a stay a home wife. I'm a biotechnologist who specializes in human organ and tissue banking and my husband is very proud of me. Btw, you know most Muslim countries allow women to work, right? My husband's sister is a dentist in Egypt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 03:05 PM
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I never said there is definitive proof of causation. I said there is potential to consider. I'm not really sure what you are getting at by bring up Muslim cultures to begin with. The same can be said for most any conservative culture. Think of Mormons or Jehovah's Witnesses. Some hyper religious people will stick to their own religion. Some will branch out. It just depends on the individual person and their personal beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:21 AM
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The previous links and the following are all links to articles about the study. You need a subscription to see the study itself which you're welcome to get. https://socgen.ucla.edu/2015/07/02/diverse-parental-genes-lead-to-taller-smarter-children-finds-extensive-study/ https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn27816-want-tall-smart-children-find-an-exotic-stranger/ https://www.thehealthsite.com/news/children-of-parents-from-a-mixed-race-tend-to-be-smarter-p715-306720/amp/ https://www.nature.com/nat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 04:49 AM
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As a biotechnologist who has studied genetics I can tell you that it potentially does hold some weight. It's not a huge factor, but it is something to consider. https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/new-study-finds-genetic-diversity-may-be-key-taller-smarter/ https://www.ssc.uwo.ca/news/2019/health_of_multiracial_children_is_more_than_just_black_and_white.html https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201905/the-biracial-advantage Edit: these are just a few studies I found with a very quick Google …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:49 PM
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How did you get that from anything I said? First of all, not all people in the US are white. For example, one of my best friends is Mexican American and she is married to a Palestinian immigrant. Another friend is Black and she is engaged to a Brazilian immigrant. My Iranian friend who came here as an immigrant is married to a Mexican American. Second not all immigrants are male. One of my good friends is a Palestinian woman who came here as a refugee in the 80s and now is married to a white man…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 11:39 PM
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You're correct about that. However, my husband is from a very traditional Muslim family. His father has 3 wives and 17 children total. When my husband arrived in the US he had very different ideas than he does now. The key is that he was willing to learn, adapt, and assimilate. Not everyone will be and that can be a challenge. There are a surprising amount that do though. Our social circle is almost entirely interracial couples. The key is the willingness to accept and either compromise or toler…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 07:47 PM
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There are a lot of married people on this sub. Getting married doesn't mean you stop caring about social dynamics or the changes to said dynamics, or your single friends and the struggles they are enduring. We have some awesome single friends that should be able find a relationships but are having trouble with the current dating scene which drew my attention to the "pills" in the first place. Edit: grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 04:20 PM
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What about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:46 PM
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No, he arrived as a Fulbright Scholar for his Master's in Petroleum Engineering and then stayed for his PhD which is when we met.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 10:00 PM
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It's interesting, my husband is from Egypt and he came to the US for grad school as a Fulbright Scholar. He is a Petroleum Engineer. We live in a very large city and he went to a major university and there are now more POC students than white. Especially in his program, like STEM programs. So now there's a lot of rich and attractive immigrants in my city now and they are mostly marrying and dating people from the US. Most of our social circle is interracial couples. I know that this isn't what i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 09:58 PM
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Yeah, my husband is from Egypt and we have several friends who are Middle Eastern that are married to Westerners and there are no problems. If there is a difference in culture it gets discussed and worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 09:28 PM
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My husband is Middle Eastern and we have no issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 09:24 PM
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My husband is from Egypt and he is the most respectful, kind, and attentive man I've ever met. He's one of the most intelligent and hardest working. He's a petroleum engineer with a PhD and a Fulbright scholar. His family is traditional conservative Muslim. They weren't very happy about the idea at first but after I went to Egypt and met them, the really love me. They are so happy he found someone that makes him happy and takes care of him. My family are conservative farmers from the Midwest. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 09:23 PM
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You are very pretty. Without knowing you it's hard to says what's going on. It's probably a confidence issue though, based off of your post history because you don't sound very confident with yourself. When you say "meaningful conversations" what exactly are you talking about? Perhaps something you are wanting to talk about is coming off as too intense or too deep for a first or casual interaction. Those are conversations you usually build up to and can sometimes be off putting if not in the pro…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 07:17 PM
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She is pretty. There are pics in her post history.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 07:03 PM
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I know a lot of alpha men that hang out with women. That is one of the reasons they are alpha. By definition you're not actually alpha if you're not hanging with women because the alpha is the leader of the social group and the women want to hang around him which is why they have access to many women. Sports. Music. Art. Outdoors. There are tons of women into the same things men are. If you're too macho to hang out with women, you're only limiting yourself which is cool but don't say online is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:00 PM
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Doing stuff to get off social media and dating apps and meet actual real people is not disingenuous unless you have absolutely no interest in the activity you're doing except to try to sleep with someone. It's cool if your fine at the "Club and bars with drunkies" (in your words) but don't make it seem like it's the only option, as you did when someone else suggested you get off the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 01:17 PM
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Why are bars the only place to meet people? Join a co-ed sports team like soft ball, soccer, rock climbing, rowing, biking, etc Take dance lessons and/or go to social dances. My city has free ones all over. Salsa, two step, swing, etc. All different kinds. Take an art class. Painting. Pottery. Glass blowing. Join a book club. There are usually a lot to choose from. Volunteer at an animal shelter or homeless shelter or something else you're interested in. There are many ways to meet people that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 10:06 PM
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Because I'm not a narcissistic sociopath.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:40 PM
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A lot of the men I know don't have wives that have abandoned them when the have financial troubles. Usually they help pick up the slack. Two of my best friends are actually the bread winners in their relationships to begin with. Their husbands are both musicians that go through ups and downs. Especially during the pandemic. Of course there are gold diggers but most women are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 09:30 PM
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This is the real cope right here. Whatever helps you sleep at night. Looks fade. People like other people for more than looks. If you have never experienced that I'm sorry for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:44 PM
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Also, most Middle Eastern countries are way down too. 5 are already below replacement value, and most are predicted to follow in the next decade or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:27 PM
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Sexual inactivity went up 7% after a pandemic. Is reason to be concerned but it's not as dire as people are making it seem. Also, the two studies are not comparing apples to apples as the two links include data from various studies that look at men from different age groups. They aren't a head to head study which will affect the results as different age groups have different results. I didn't say that it's not a problem. I said it's not as bad as so many men on this sub make it out to be, as we …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:33 PM
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I personally don't agree, I would take the 5'8" athletic over the taller obese guy any day, but I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape so that's something important to me. I actually dated men that were shorter than me and it didn't bother me but I know that it's a thing a lot of women want. I don't really get it to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:50 PM
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You are absolutely correct. Attraction is very subjective so trying to put any sort of objective scale on it is basically useless. I think most average people just want someone they feel attracted to, who makes them feel attractive as well. Most don't care what others think unless they are the type to obsess about social media and that kind of thing. I have heard the argument that women file more for divorce because they are usually the ones that handle that kind of thing for the household. The …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:38 PM
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Many women don't, but there are a lot of men that don't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:01 PM
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I am not doubting there are women who will say it, but often when I say women here describing this experience they say something like "he wasn't conveniently attractive" but usually add that they became attracted to him when they got to know him. I had an experience in highschool where I was in a relationship with a guy who I didn't meet the first time and think wow, he's super hot but as we hung out, I really started to fall for him. I mean head over heels. I started to find him incredibly sexy…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:51 PM
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That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:28 PM
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Here is one from last year. It's down slightly to 62% but still the majority of men under 30 are still having sex. The way men talk on this sub you would think only 20% or less are getting any. https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2023-08-03/young-adults-less-sex-gen-z-millennials-generations-parents-grandparents
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:28 PM
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While there are obviously some women who do settle, I don't think most women do. Most women these days would rather stay single than be in an unhappy relationship. Women waiting until later in life to marry is not because they are "getting smashed by chads". Many are focusing on education and career. Many just don't meet the right person in their twenties and don't actually want to settle, and don't feel the pressure to do so they once did. Don't get me wrong, there are women who are doing what …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 04:24 PM
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How many men between 18 and 29 actually want to be married that young? Many are single but choice. Many are just using apps for hookups and pushing marriage until later, if at all. Considering that the number of resources we have are finite, a decrease in population is not necessarily a bad thing. We went from 3 billion to 8 in about 50 years. That's not sustainable with our current resources. Slowing down the population growth is actually a good thing. It's not like it's dropping down to 50 or …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 07:54 AM
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That's not the only reason. Many men don't want to marry anymore either. They just want hookups. Apps have made that more possible. No, most women don't lock down a chad, but many do, especially the stacys. Most women date average men. Most women are average, hence the word average. 62% of men under 30 are having sex, regardless of relationship status, as of last year. Almost 70% of the men in in the US are married. That doesn't count people in long term relationships, or dating, or divorced or …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:54 AM
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It really depends on the woman. You are correct about some of them, but others are not like that. There are normal women that date men below their league. There are men in this sub talking about dating women out of their league. If she goes on to get or marry a better man, he really was below her league. She isn't delusional or narcissistic if she normally is actually getting better men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 03:57 AM
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To be fair, I did say many, not all, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 02:36 AM
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So men want women to give men below them a chance, but then they are not supposed to talk about it, while they also aren't really supposed to give men below them a chance at all because they are a just being a bitch who is going to use them if they do. If women only date men who meet their standards or above the woman is just a stuck up bitch who doesn't know what she's missing that should give someone below her a chance. That's what I've heard from the men in these subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:59 AM
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But according to many men in this sub it's also toxic to have standards that cut that guy out of the running and to refuse to give him a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:30 AM
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That isn't really the same as them bragging about dating a mid while they are dating them though, like the OP is talking about. They are just talking about what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:23 AM
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That's not really the same as them bragging that they gave him a chance though. It's just them describing their experience. If they were bragging to their friends while they were with the man that would be different. That's what the OP is talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 01:21 AM
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Men have 2% MORE consumer debt than women, on average in the US. Men hold 42% of student loans in the US. So actually, yes, the men are racking up billions in consumer and student debt. Every tax-paying woman is paying for men in one way or another, and often several ways at once. https://www.nasdaq.com/articles/men-vs.-women:-who-has-more-credit-card-debt https://www.debt.org/faqs/americans-in-debt/demographics/ https://www.bankrate.com/personal-finance/debt/men-women-and-debt-does-gender-matte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:07 PM
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I definitely understand your frustration. I don't think it's fair that men get so much heat for venting any hint of feelings regarding the issue. Another big problem is that even if you manage to find an eater egg that has something inside, you might not be compatible with it, lol. I mean I have some male friends that are really great catches and they get dates but then they just don't click with the people. They aren't socially awkward. They aren't unattractive or mean. They are very interestin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 03:56 PM
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I'm guessing the OP used the word doughnut because in most countries, especially the US where I believe he is from, one cannot purchase women to bring to work to share and pass out to their coworkers. Prostitution is illegal in the US. Also that would not appeal to the women he was trying to make understand because even if prostitutes were legal, most of the straight women would probably pass on being given a prostitute by their coworker. A doughnut works because almost everyone has been given a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:24 PM
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I get your analogy, but the problem with it is that the donuts were being shared by the owner, and passed out. You were skipped over and feel slighted, and rightfully so. You got left out. The difference with women is that there is no single owner that is refusing to share them with you but is sharing with everyone else. It is all individuals. To work your analogy has to be that you came to work and found that some of your coworkers had all been finding delicious donuts hidden all over like East…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 02:09 PM
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I am sexually attracted to my husband. I don't want to have sex with other men or women. I don't watch porn. Before I was married it took me a while to become sexually attracted to a man. I wasn't just walking around wanting to jump everyone. I need a level of trust before the attraction grows.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 01:41 AM
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Most women know abs aren't important in a relationship. They go for men they vibe with. That's why almost 70% of men in the US are married. It's not because 70% are the top 20%. It's not because 70% are the top 10% making over $100,000 a year. It's not because 70% are the 10% that are over 6ft tall. Many women actually do like men. They enjoy their company and companionship. And vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:50 PM
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Women behave much differently on apps than they do in the real world. Women often are using them only for hook ups and therefore only care about looks. You can't attribute the behavior of a few women on the apps to the behavior of all the women in the world. I don't like men that are super muscular. My sister loves Jason Momoa, but he doesn't do a thing for me. I like Benedict Cumberbatch, she doesn't. Attraction in subjective. Most of the guys I was in relationships with didn't stand out to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:29 PM
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Men are often the ones not wanting relationships. They want sex, to be sure, which is easier now than ever with apps, so they don't need they relationship. They don't see the point of marriage and don't want to risk a divorce. Many people are quite happy having a "friend with benefits" situation or just finding random hookups. They get the rest of their social needs from their friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:49 PM
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My parents retired to Mexico and couldn't be happier. They have a view of the Caribbean from their living room and bedroom, steps from a white sand beach. They have a pool, all the same appliances and amenities, a maid, laundry service, and building security. They have world class health care nearby and public transit so they don't even need a car. They feel like paupers whoever they come back to the states and don't live like kings. They complain about how expensive everything is. My parents we…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:40 PM
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So? Most of the people wanting relationships are still having them. Many people just don't want them anymore now that society doesn't essentially force them on everyone through religion and public shaming. If someone doesn't want to have a relationship and is happy without one, why should they have one? People have always struggled to find relationships. There will always be that group of people. Not everyone is compatible with everyone else. It can be challenging so I'm not trying to diminish t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:34 PM
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You should consider moving to Mexico then (or any country that has a weak currency against the dollar). You will get a much higher standard of living for your money. More bang for your buck if you will. You would be getting super high end gated communities and private schools for what you would be paying to barely scrape by in the US. Pools, maids, gardeners, laundry service, tutors, country club memberships. It's attainable there more easily than in the US, if you have the US salary. If you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 04:25 PM
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There are plenty of relationships and children still happening. Almost 70% of men in the US are married. 14% are divorced and 3.5% are widowed which means they were able to find someone to marry them at least once. This doesn't count the number of men in long term relationships that are not married. The overwhelming majority of men in America are in relationships or have had a serious relationship at some point in their lives. The decline in children doesn't mean people aren't having relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 03:46 PM
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There are plenty of people that want to live in America and plenty of jobs for them to do, considering the labor shortage. Immigrants can pay taxes and support you children just like natural born citizens can. ETA: population redistribution is a much more reasonable solution for everyone involved instead of just adding more people to burden natural resources even further.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:03 AM
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I don't think she is an outlier. Most women do tend to grow more attracted to a man as they get to know him more. Love at first sight happens in Disney movies, not so often in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 06:43 AM
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You do realize there are 8 billion people on the planet right? BILLION. With a B. Just because there are declining birth rates in some countries doesn't mean the overall population is decreasing. It's an exponential thing. We have limited resources, many of which are already getting stretched. It's not a bad thing for people to control themselves a little. Imagine the population crisis we would have if birth control hadn't been invented.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:57 AM
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I went on a date with a guy who was in his early twenties who just kept talking about how he was a model, how he played football in highschool, and his "cool" winter clothes. Telling me you played football is fine but giving me the rundown of all the games is ridiculous. Highschool was 5 years ago. You don't play anymore. I don't really care about football. This was very much like a glory days kind of thing. I think that was probably going to be the highlight of that man's life. As for modeling,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:00 PM
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Actually the more attractive a woman is, the lower her body count tends to be according to studies. For women, the number of sexual partners decreases with increasing physical attractiveness, whereas for men, the number of sexual partners increases with increasing physical attractiveness. Very physically attractive women are more likely to form exclusive relationships than to form purely sexual relationships; they are also less likely to have sexual intercourse within the first week of meeting a …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 01:41 PM
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I'm sorry you went through that. I don't ever remember seeing my parent fight. They had some minor disagreements. They always resolved it quickly and calmly. They did have problems like everyone does, they were farmers in the 80s during the farming crisis so money was tight. Both had to work full time jobs plus run the farm and keep the house and raise kids so it was a lot, but they got through it. They are retired now though and doing pretty well. My husband is from Egypt, his family is Muslim.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:30 AM
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My grandparents were married for over 52 years, Grandpa was holding Grandma's hand when she passed. My parents have been married for over 53 years. My husband's parents and grandparents are each other's first and only marriages. I have no reason to believe it's not possible. We both had great examples of how healthy relationships work. We don't really fight. When we have disagreements, we discuss them like reasonable adults and then come to an agreement or compromise. We don't yell. We don't ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 01:02 AM
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They still aren't poly though. There is a difference. Having a relationship with one person, said relationship not working out, and then moving on to another relationship with someone else is completely different from having multiple relationships with multiple people simultaneously, which is what the OP is talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:30 PM
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You think men deserve more than women or you think they deserve more than they are currently getting? I ask for clarification because your flair says egalitarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 06:57 PM
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Here is one study Key by Elizabeth McClintock at Notre Dame... https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19485565.2011.615172 Key Findings: Very physically attractive women are more likely to form exclusive relationships than to form purely sexual relationships; they are also less likely to have sexual intercourse within the first week of meeting a partner. Presumably, this difference arises because more physically attractive women use their greater power in the partner market to control outco…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:35 PM
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It depends on the study. Current research indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have fantasies in which they are forced into sex against their will, and for 9% to 17% of women these are a frequent or favorite fantasy experience. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18321031/#:~:text=Current%20research%20indicates%20that%20between,not%20appear%20to%20make%20sense. It depends on the parameters of the study, the demographics, the size. So many things. One thing that is certain is that just because…
/r/ExRedPill13/02/24 06:06 AM
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You don't know my standards so you couldn't possibly know that. All you know it that I don't have a standard for income or height, which are shallow things. The only reason I mentioned my husband's height, income, or looks is because everyone thinks that women in their thirties end up with the bottom of the barrel that no one else wants. From what all the red pillers say, the only men women want are handsome, tall, and making six figures. So by that metric, that means most women would want my hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 02:36 AM
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I didn't get married until I was 38. My husband is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD. He's also a Fulbright scholar and he's younger than me. I realize that I'm an outlier but it's not impossible. I actually have several friends that didn't get married until their thirties. I also have a few friends and a couple family members married to younger men. I had a few opportunities to get married earlier but I didn't want to marry those men. You could say my standards were too high, but here I am, marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 07:22 PM
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It's a problem everywhere. Do you consume news from any eastern outlets? Have you actually researched the topic and it's effect on eastern countries? Saudia Arabia launched the Gulf's first web based treatment. India is trying sex education to keep children from getting addicted to porn. The middle east countries consume the most porn over any other countries in the world according to porn hub. Here are a few links but let me know if you want more because there are tons and I just did a quick Go…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:35 PM
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Many men that are addicted to porn cannot orgasm without porn, hence the addiction. They cannot get it up for a real woman, or if they do they cannot finish. There is a big difference between looking at porn sometimes and not being able to get off without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 02:10 AM
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Friendship and relationships are important at every age, but they are especially significant for adolescents. They are just learning to shape their identity, developing their sense of place and belonging. They are learning social skills. It's an incredibly important time developmentally. https://www.arnoldpalmerhospital.com/content-hub/why-your-teenagers-friendships-are-more-important-than-you-realize https://personalexcellence.org/raising-worldchangers-blog/the-importance-of-teen-friendships#:~…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 06:18 PM
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*intents and purposes /r/BoneAppleTea
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 10:18 PM
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If the only way to get women is to be a redpilled Chad, and women only want the top 20% of men, how exactly is it that almost 70% of the men in the US are married? That doesn't include the men who are in relationships, dating, widowed, or divorced that also got women at some point in their lives.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 05:18 PM
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70% of men in the US are married. 70% aren't red pill chads. That doesn't even count the percentage that are in relationships and dating. That is the overwhelming majority. I'm going to be brutally honest here. You sound whiny and immature. You sound like you're worshiping "chads". Stop worrying about chads. Stop focusing on them. Life isn't fair. Some people are better looking than others. Some have more money. Focus on what you can control - your attitude.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 03:39 PM
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Most of them don't do fine with women. Many of them lie about their success. If they are doing fine it's usually because they aren't honest with the women about their views. They are seeking out women with self esteem and emotional problems that they can easily manipulate. Attractive people will always have an easier time finding than unattractive people but that doesn't mean that they will be able to find a relationship. Being attractive doesn't automatically make you compatible with everyone.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 03:01 PM
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"overwhelming majority of births to children are from never-married and unmarried women. " As of 2021 about 40% of births are to unmarried women. That is not an overwhelming majority. https://www.statista.com/statistics/276025/us-percentage-of-births-to-unmarried-women/#:~:text=This%20statistic%20depicts%20the%20percentage,has%20increased%20to%2040%20percent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:58 AM
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You are correct that currently most of them are, however Lebanon, Tunisia, U.A.E, Bahrain, and Qatar are already at or below replacement value and most of the others are predicted to fall below replacement levels as well within the next 1-2 decades. They are dropping quickly. https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Total-fertility-rate-in-the-world-and-Arab-countries-1980-2050_tbl1_292346687
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:05 PM
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Nordic countries have a high cost of living though, regardless of their high quality of life though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:03 PM
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Women in those Muslim countries are having far less children now though. In many places, like Egypt for example, right now their Economy is so weak that many women are having to get get jobs to help support the family. The economy isn't weak because more women are working. They are working because the economy is weak. They have been struggling for a while. ETA: There is if course an increase in women who want to work because now they are actually allowed to in many places they weren't allowed to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:01 PM
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I think religion is a big factor. It used to be that many people did it for religious reasons. Children were seen as gifts from God and birth control was against the rules in many religions, especially the in the Catholicism. Now there has been a large shift away from religion so maybe not as many people feel obligated from a religious standpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:41 PM
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I've also have never even heard of a "go bag", at least not in this context. (I have one for work because I work in the medical field on call and travel with time constraints - so my colleagues and I have "go bags" packed in the locker room). I have no problem with prenups or paternity tests. My husband and I signed prenups. We both had assets going in. We don't have kids. I guess if a woman feels like she needs a go bag, that is her choice but she shouldn't feel upset about a man having a simil…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 07:14 AM
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No.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 02:54 PM
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That's definitely not going to win in my book but I know everyone has different preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:45 PM
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A vagina doesn't actually get looser from having sex. Not permanently anyway. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325890 https://www.health.com/condition/sexual-health/loose-vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:13 PM
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What do you mean by "manlet"? Are you using it as a diminutive suffix or is that a typo? If you are using it as the diminutive form, you know how women feel. We also have to be hyper vigilant because keeping ourself safe is our own responsibility. Even women who are married and have a man to protect them aren't always with their spouse, and often their attacker is their spouse. Everyone is responsible for their own safety. I think that is why sometimes women feel intimidated when they are around…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:46 PM
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Well I didn't mean the men are taking averages. What I meant by bringing up averages is just that being above average is higher than mid. Average is mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:20 PM
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It's not just the middle east. 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. 1 in 4 women in the US have been victims of SEVERE physical violence (e.g. beating, burning, strangling) by an intimate partner in their lifetime. 15 - 20% of women in the US have been victims of rape, depending which study you read. https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/#:~:text=Over%201%20in%203%20women,intimat…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:20 PM
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Globally, 1 in 3 women experience physical violence or sexual violence. That isn't a small number or unheard of. https://www.who.int/news/item/09-03-2021-devastatingly-pervasive-1-in-3-women-globally-experience-violence Some women do live in war zones. However those women may not be the women that have it the worst because the men might be distracted by the war. In others, the war might exacerbate it. https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/most-dangerous-countries-for-women You are r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:46 PM
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I think the physically weaker is brought up because women are still preyed upon in many places and being physically weaker makes it more difficult to fight back. Even in the Western world there are areas that have a high rate of domestic and sexual abuse, not that it doesn't go both ways, but knowing that you're statistically physically weaker than the other half of the population can be quite intimidating for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:15 PM
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Depends where they live
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:07 PM
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There definitely is something to be said for having different tastes but the average women in the US in overweight (by medical standards), which is one of the things men complain about most. That alone puts those women above mid level since they are in great physical shape. ETA: over 30%, 1/3 are actually medically obese, not just overweight. Over 65% are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:53 PM
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Right? I saw a post a while back where men were calling Lisa Bonet and Eva Mendez mids, as in mid level in looks. A surprisingly high number of men agreed to this. If those aren't high standards, I don't know what are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:22 AM
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The key part you seem to be missing is the "16 or younger" part. The age of consent is 17 so it only applies to 16 and below.
/r/MensRights02/02/24 07:47 AM
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The thought literally never even crossed my mind to worry that my ex talks shit about me. Why would I care what my ex talks about? I haven't seen him or spoken to him in almost 10 years. I've been married to the most awesome man I have ever known for 5 years. I couldn't care less what my ex talks about. Full stop. I am not sure if he is married or if he has a girlfriend or what. I don't know if he still lives in the same state. If he is still talking shit, let him. It's no skin off my back. It d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 06:42 AM
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If your boyfriend is always talking about his ex, even if it's negative, it means she is still on his mind. He is still thinking about her. He's not completely over her. He is overcompensating trying to show that he is. My exes don't even come into my mind to talk about. My husband has never once mentioned an ex except for the one time I asked about his previous relationship. He told me about it. That was that and I never heard about her again. I don't even know her name.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 06:01 AM
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They are always at unrest but not necessarily in an official, active, all-out war. "Based on the polling data, the majority of Israeli Arabs like being Israeli" That's exactly the point. They don't want to move out of Israel. That is their home. Their families are there. Their friends. Their communities. Their roots are there. Their culture is there. The Israelis are trying to remove them from their homes. The actual question about whether or not it is actually Israel or Palestine. That is the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 05:07 AM
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Of course they are in the middle of a war. That's the whole point of this conversation. Some clown claiming people who are living in the middle of a war zone right now are lucky just because there are a lot of kids, nevermind so many of those kids are being killed. Never mind that they basically live in an open air prison even when they aren't at war. They cannot move freely. Palestinians love their country and their homeland but I don't think they feel lucky right about now. My Palestinian frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:59 PM
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There is a food shortage in Gaza right now, even if there hasn't been in the past. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaza_Strip_famine However, just because some people are obese doesn't mean there was never a food shortage. It all depends where is Gaza one is. 25% of the population is obese. That leaves 75% that aren't. An older study carried out by Johns Hopkins University (U.S.) and Al-Quds University (in Abu Dis) for CARE International in late 2002 revealed very high levels of dietary deficien…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:58 AM
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Several factors contribute to the high population of children, as highlighted in the article I posted previously. Yes, there are people who live to become elderly in Palestine. 4 percent of the population is elderly, or over the age of 65. Unfortunately many do not live as long and that brings the average age expectancy down though. Their life expectancy is 8 years less than Israel's even though they are living in the same geographic region. Why are Israelis living so much longer? One reason, ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:39 PM
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They do have a high birth rate but they also have a lower chance of making it adulthood. Many just don't get the chance to grow old, dying early either in conflicts, or due to a struggling healthcare system that's been hampered by a 16 yr blockade imposed upon them. https://www.npr.org/2023/10/19/1206479861/israel-gaza-hamas-children-population-war-palestinians
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:13 PM
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So do I. I just helped organize a fundraiser Sunday that raised over $20,000 for them. I personally raised over $650. By calling them lucky, it seems like you have absolutely no idea what is going on over there. It's tone deaf at best. My husband is from Egypt. We have many friends from Palestine, both here in the states and some still trapped Palestine. We are trying to get them out of there. It not nice there. They aren't lucky to be there. People are actively trying to kill them right now. ET…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 06:03 AM
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You should move to Gaza then. I'm sure you'll enjoy it there since it's such a "healthy" society.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:39 AM
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Asking for statistics doesn't mean they have decided anything. It means they want information and data to make an informed decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:34 AM
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Do you mean when the graduate from Harvard they are virgins or do you mean later in life? One reason for this statistic, if correct, could be because the average age of a Harvard student is lower than the average age of a prisoner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:21 AM
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I can understand what you are saying but it's not really an equal comparison. In your scenario, medication kills people. It's the medication's fault. A Hijab doesn't oppress women. Men oppress women. So while it may be a symbol of a woman who is oppressed it's not the fault of the hijab itself. It's a great thing to be concerned for the women who are being forced to wear them. It's horrible and it's a perversion of the religion. Please just try to understand that some women are more comfortable …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:08 AM
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Not all Islamic women are under Shari'a law. Not all Islamic countries enforce Shari'a law. Not all Muslim women are forced to wear hijabs, some of them choose to. My husband is from Egypt and is Muslim. Some women in his family wear them and some don't. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely some Muslim women that are oppressed, like in Afghanistan. It's just that it's not a universal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:27 AM
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Not all Islamic countries require women to wear hijab. Egypt for example, does not. My husband is from Egypt and is Muslim. Some members of his family wear them, some don't. It's personal preference there. The problem comes in places like Afghanistan where they are forced to wear them. It should be a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:22 AM
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They find any of the other approximately 4 billion men on Earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 01:58 PM
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I think people mean that having hobbies gets people out of the house and opens up opportunities to meet people. It's hard to meet someone sitting in your living room, man or women. Women have hobbies that overlap with men. That's where you want to start if you are looking to meat someone. Women play musical instruments, sing, go social dancing, take art classes like painting, glass blowing, making pottery, jewelry, making, cooking classes, gardening clubs, book clubs, join a co-ed softball or so…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 03:16 AM
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In college one of my male friends actually came out and said he would try to sleep with me as soon as my boyfriend (also his friend) and I broke up. Many of my male friends had tried things before I was married. Now that I'm married and most of my male friends are married it doesn't really happen. I haven't had a single one try anything since I've been married.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:59 PM
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This is probably true from the opposite side too. Most men don't know what to do in bed either. Many of those that bother to learn think the best way to learn is by watching porn, but many women don't like many of the things shown in porn. So basically the majority of the population has no idea what to do in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 07:35 AM
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I don't think I'm a 10 at all. My husband says I am, but that's his opinion. It's all subjective. Obviously not everyone is a 10. I have a connective tissue disorder that causes problems with my joints (among other things). I also have stage 4 endometriosis, along with some residual injuries from gymnastics so I have to have a lot of surgeries and hospitalizations. I have to see a pain management doctor regularly, as well as several other specialists, and I can usually manage everything pretty w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 08:34 PM
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I'm obviously not growing up now though. I am an adult. I have been grown up for 20 years. I grew up before social media and online dating thankfully. I swim and I still dance regularly, both solo and with my husband. So I stay in shape that way, among other things. Also my friends and I take dance classes together. You seem to find it hard to believe that people can have friends and use the Internet at the same time, though I don't know why. Do you not have any friends? It seems like if you did…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 07:16 AM
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I think maybe younger girls do this. In my experience, older women don't really. After college it's been by social interest. I have taken several types of dance classes and participated in dance troupes. There is a whole community for that. This group overlaps a lot with the World music group in my city. I am friends with a lot of musicians because I participated in a middle eastern ensemble. I started a cross stitching group to make things for a fundraiser and it has turned into a weekly thing …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:57 AM
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You proved my point exactly 😂. Believe me or not, it doesn't make it any less true. I'm still married regardless of what believe. Many women are athletes growing up so it shouldn't be hard for you to believe that there are women that stay in shape as adults. I'm already very thankful for my husband but seeing what men say in this sub and who is left out there makes me so much more thankful that I don't have to date in today's market. It sounds like a shit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 03:40 AM
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Such a good point. We don't all find the same men attractive. Like the Kardashian example. I wouldn't go near any of the men she has been with. She finds them high value. I find them low value. As for my husband, yes other women find him attractive. Strangers like waitresses and people in line at the coffee shop comment on how handsome he is. How sexy his accent is. Etc. My friends and sisters comment the same. Sometimes it's amusing to see the little girls on campus flirting with him and thinki…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:03 PM
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Why? My husband is almost 10 years younger than I am and it's never been a problem. We didn't even know until we had been dating for about 5 months. It had just never come up. Then he had a birthday. I originally assumed he was a few years older than he actually was, because he was working on his PhD and is really mature. He thought I was younger than he is because I look really young. We found out the age difference, laughed, and carried on. It didn't change a thing. We have some friends who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:24 PM
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I'm here because I find it almost unbelievable that some men actually believe the things they say here. It is so far away from my personal experience. It's interesting to me to see the how the other half lives, if you will. I'm married. I am not here because I'm "struggling to find a mate". I never used online dating. I am told quite often that I'm very beautiful. Not just by my husband. I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape. Considering that I have a happy marriage, successful career, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 09:25 PM
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Yes, this is me. I'm married. I've never used online dating. I've never had a one night stand or FWB. I'm often told that I'm very beautiful. I'm a former gymnast and I've stayed in shape. We have a large social circle and are quite active in our community and local music scene, as well as our respective professional associations. I'm just very interested in these topics and find it interesting that so many men say it's impossible to find women who will not cheat or who are not shallow, while I …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:34 PM
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That is not how it works though. Here is some reading material for you, as I do suggest you read more about the topic before "mansplaining" it incorrectly. If you don't believe me, believe the experts. "Ventilated, flowy and breathable clothing allows for more air to pass through, and helps prevent heat or perspiration from being trapped against the skin. Less breathable fabrics like polyester or wool, on the other hand, can keep body heat confined between your body and the material and make you…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:56 PM
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But that's still not how it works. You don't what the sweat trapped. That is why they say to wear breathable fabric in the heat, like cotton, otherwise the moisture will not be able to evaporate as quickly. There are special moisture wicking fabrics that are relatively new, they didn't have them in ancient Egypt, for example, that work by transferring the moisture off of the skin to the outer layers of the fabric. As sweat evaporates, the process of the phase change of water from liquid to gas r…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:01 PM
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That's not what you originally said though. That's literally what I just explained to you. You said the sweat gets "trapped." Which is not true. You used the word multiple times. Now you are just repeating what I have to you back to me. I am a biotechnologist who has studied physiology. I know how the endocrine system works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:37 AM
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It depends on the woman. There are women in the West that have high morals. There are women in the East that have low morals. I was just reading an article yesterday about how more Muslim women are cheating on their husbands, usually arranged marriages. Indian women too. Apparently Thailand has one of the highest rates of infidelity. But on average women have more sexual freedom in Western countries. That doesn't mean every western woman is a slut. I don't know a single person that has participa…
/r/ExRedPill23/01/24 06:19 AM
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That's not how it works though. The moisture cannot be simultaneously trapped and evaporated. It works by air flowing through the fabric and evaporating the moisture, or by fabric wicking the moisture off of the skin and transferring it to the outer most layer, which is exposed to the air, which then acts to evaporate the moisture.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:47 AM
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Are you aware of what "trapping" means? It's the opposite of evaporating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:32 AM
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Except that you are wrong about how sweat works. Sweat will not evaporate if it's "trapped." It will only evaporate if it has direct contact with the atmosphere, airflow. Either the skin is exposed and sweat evaporates directly, there is airflow through breathable material such as cotton, or the sweat is wicked off of the skin with "moisture wicking" materials and evaporates from the upper levels of the fabric that are exposed to the atmosphere. Think of trapping moisturize in a jar or a sealed …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:13 AM
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Well I use the term take, as in trying to get her share. Regardless, in Texas, she is not entitled to any portion of the house. ETA: A house purchased before marriage is considered separate property, and the owning spouse retains full ownership in the event of a divorce. https://familytexas.com/community-property-and-home-ownership/#:~:text=For%20example%2C%20if%20you%20ask,the%20event%20of%20a%20divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:57 PM
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Depends what state you're in. In my state, if you own the house before marriage, it can't be taken in the divorce. I have a friend who is going through a divorce. He owned the house before he got married. It's off the table, not that she didn't try though. Only the assets he accumulated after being married count. Thankfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:41 PM
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It can. You can have it include anything you want as long as both parties agree to it and sign it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:29 PM
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A lot of women wait to get married until later in life, especially now days. Many want to finish college and get their career going first. Many women don't want to settle for the first man who asks them. I know several women who got married later in life, in their 30s, and they are far from rejects. They have the healthier and happier relationships than the women I knew who got married right after high school. They are the most successful and very beautiful and probably have fewer flaws because …
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:43 PM
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I think you meant to reply to the other poster, the one that I was replying to.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:26 PM
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I think Disney where "love is all you need" type of stuff is Bullshit but the actual act of falling in love is very real. Although I think many people confuse lust for love, especially when young and still in school. I'm so happy for you that you're finally enjoying life though.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:24 PM
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You keep saying I imply most people cheat. Where? I never said that. I said his marriage would most likely be resentful. I say that because he can't just go buy a bride from another culture he knows nothing about and think she is going to automatically love him. He was acting like cheating and divorce don't exist among Eastern and arranged marriages. They do. It's a fact. You are correct when you say every single culture cheats. Not every single person cheats though. There are terrible people in…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 04:20 AM
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The survey was conducted on 75,321 respondents in 10 cities. Women talk. Their friends will cover for them. One example I know of was a friend let her friend use her apartment (while her husband is working) to meet her boyfriend so that from an outside perspective it looks like she is going to see her friend. They arrive at different times and stuff. One of our male friends was seeing a married girl once and he would pay off the doorman of the building not to tell. As long as the doorman was get…
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:50 AM
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https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms Try this one. It is working for me.
/r/ExRedPill22/01/24 01:20 AM
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You're welcome
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 07:24 PM
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Where did I say all arranged marriages are like this? He thinks he can just go pick an eastern women he doesn't know, and she will be a loyal servant to him, which is ridiculous. You may find this interesting... According to a survey by the times of India, over 70% of Indian women believe cheating is not immoral or a sin. 80% of respondents were in arranged marriages. https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms Muslim women are also che…
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 07:15 PM
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There aren't really scientific studies or but I found a few things. The Times of India article did a study and found 76% of Indian women didn't think cheating was immoral, 61% of men didn't think so, while 80% of the total respondents were in arranged marriages. There is also an article about how Muslim women are cheating more. https://m.timesofindia.com/india/most-indians-feel-infidelity-not-a-sin-survey/articleshow/44353938.cms https://www.teamblind.com/post/Are-women-from-arranged-marriages-l…
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 06:56 PM
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Yes. They do. My husband is Muslim, from an Islamic country. They have very strict rules. However humans will human and find a way around these rules. The men and women both are very good at sneaking around because they have to be. They get very harsh legal punishment for getting caught, especially the women. We have lived there before. I obviously spend a lot of time with the women. Behind closed doors with the hijabs off, many are very similar to Western women. There are some that actually bel…
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 06:33 PM
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My husband is from a culture that traditionally has arranged marriages. He married me to get away from it. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes the parents do a good job considering who would be compatible but most often it's just about the money and you're left married to someone you don't even like very much. There is cheating in these cultures too but it is much more discreet. It's possible you could find someone you will actually love and who loves you back, but most likely you will…
/r/ExRedPill21/01/24 04:13 PM
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Most importantly I care that he cares about my needs too. I take care of him, he takes care of me. He listens to feedback. And I really care about hygiene. I can't say that enough. Size: not so big that it hurts, so probably no more than 8 in (I'm estimating because I haven't actually busted out a ruler) My husband is right on the cusp, some positions do hurt and he can't penetrate the entire length which sucks for him. Big enough in diameter that I can feel it. Not so big that it hurts. Time: I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 06:08 PM
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Perhaps because women don't have as uniform of preferences as men do. They tend to have more of a type. For example my sister loves Jason Momoa, but he does absolutely nothing for me. I like Benedict Cumberbatch and my sister isn't into him. We both like Cillian Murphy but our friend doesn't. She likes Kim Coates and I'm not a fan. I could go on but you hopefully get the point. There isn't one man that I can say all my friends agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 01:13 AM
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There is a labor shortage in the US as it is. Companies are going to grow and add jobs. If women don't fill the roles, they would just be filled by more immigrants and you would probably complain about that. Companies aren't going to stop growing and stop expanding the economy just because some men don't like change. https://www.uschamber.com/workforce/understanding-americas-labor-shortage-the-most-impacted-industries I don't believe most women don't act the way you are describing. Only 15% of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:01 PM
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Looks will fade. Of course being attractive is a plus but that isn't everything. I dated a guy once that had done some modeling, very conveniently attractive, and it was like having a conversation with a doorknob. He was shallow. He had no real interests beyond his clothes and talking about his high school sports career. He was in his twenties. He asked to see me again but I declined. Looks only carry a person so far. My husband is the most carrying, attentive, and generous person I've ever met.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 10:38 PM
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I get what you mean and there is definitely some validity to that. However, attraction can develop with people unconventional looks. I am married now but when I was dating there were many times I wasn't attracted to someone initially but once I got to know them, I found them to be incredibly attractive. In high school, the boyfriends I had wouldn't be considered conventionally attractive. One of them worked on my farm with me, one was a neighbor. I spent time with them and I really got to know t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:36 PM
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There is nothing wrong with feeling this way, as long as you aren't a hypocrite. Were you ever or will you ever be promiscuous? Did you have a hoe phase? If so, why is it ok for you but not for her? If not, cool. There is nothing wrong with sticking to your values.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:08 PM
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Consider that many men take bad photos and look much better in person, so someone eating photos over people in real life is different. There is also a difference once you talk to someone and they have charisma or chemistry that is attractive for one reason or another. So while this info does show that women (I couldn't find how many women) rated these men as below average, they are eating them based solely on a photo. I can't say for sure but I think the number would be different if they were ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 08:04 PM
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Most men also want a conventionally attractive woman. People are attracted to attractive people. They will generally pick the most attractive person that they can get. That varies from person to person and attractiveness is subjective but there are common traits that are conventionally attractive. It's not rocket science. If he has the choice, a man is not going to pick the ugliest woman, he will pick the most attractive he can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:55 PM
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If women joining the workforce was truly at fault for high inflation, then inflation would have been at it worst rates between the 1960-2000 when women were joining the labor force at higher rates than ever. While we did see high inflation in the 1970s, it dropped to record low levels right as women's labor force participation rate hit it's highest rate around 2000. Since then the rate of women in the workforce has actually trended down a bit on average. https://www.macrotrends.net/countries/USA…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:59 PM
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The statistical norm is that women work. About 56% of all women work. 56.9% of married women work. You are working harder because you don't want your partner to work. https://www.bls.gov/opub/reports/womens-databook/2022/home.htm#:~:text=Never%2Dmarried%20women%20had%20the,married%20women%20(56.9%20percent). https://www.bls.gov/opub/ted/2023/labor-force-participation-rate-for-women-highest-in-the-district-of-columbia-in-2022.htm#:~:text=For%20the%20nation%20as%20a,was%2056.8%20percent%20in%20202…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 01:14 PM
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You chose to work harder. You chose a shallow woman. You chose a freeloader. No one forced that on you. Is it easy to find some else? Probably not. Is it easy for anyone to find a good spouse? No. It's easier for some than others but everyone has struggles. Just because someone is attractive that doesn't mean they will automatically be compatible with someone else. If you don't want your wife to work, don't complain that you have to do all the work. You don't have to, you choose to. If they only…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 07:33 AM
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I am bringing up labor because you keep saying you have to work 10x harder. You are bringing up labor. My husband makes more than enough money to support us (he is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD). He told me that I don't have to work if I don't want but I choose to because I like my job (I'm a biotechnologist), it gives us even more money to play with, and it takes some of the burden off of him. There are plenty of unattractive people that have relationships, and not where the man is paying the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:56 AM
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So you have what you want, a marriage of convenience to a freeloader. I don't understand what you are complaining about. I could be wrong, it's just that your wife doesn't seem to care much about you because she doesn't do much to help you out, so it doesn't sound like a marriage of love. I want to do anything I can to make my husband's life easier because I love him. He does the same for me. I can't imagine doing nothing and thinking he had to work harder to support me. To each their own though…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:34 AM
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If you don't mind freeloaders, why are you complaining? Sounds like you got exactly what you want and expect. Pretty much everyone in the past had to work harder at everything. More physical labor. Computers didn't do all the work and calculations. Women didn't have all the appliances in the house. There wasn't as much premade food. A lot of people even made their own clothes. If you are talking about effort to get a woman to sleep with you, it is probably easier now because many back then would…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:45 PM
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Your expectations of your partner are on you. If you want more out of your relationship, tell your wife that - expect more from her. It's not on anyone else. If you view your relationship as a competition, and you are losing, who's fault is that? Have a discussion with your wife and tell her to do more. Find a different wife. Do something else. Or keep "losing". The choice is yours. It's no skin off anyone else's back. There are many people who have much more equal relationships because they com…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:04 PM
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My grandmothers both had to drop out of high school to work to help provide for their families too. My paternal grandmother never went to school past the 8th grade but she was one of the smartest women I've ever known. She worked in meat packing plant and on the family farm. She then got married to my grandpa when he got home from serving in WW2 and had kids. She worked on her new family's farm, helping to plant and harvest crops, tending the chickens, milking the cows, selling milk and eggs, te…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:53 PM
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No, I don't agree with. You said orgasm is not the reason woman engage in sex. For many women it is the main reason. Just because I said there are other aspects to sex doesn't mean that I'm saying many women don't engage in sex with the main goal of climaxing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:45 AM
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Yes, women definitely want to orgasm during sex. I wouldn't have stayed with someone that I couldn't orgasm with. I don't own a vibrator because I don't need or want one. My husband knows exactly what to do, in multiple different ways. Women don't necessarily want to have to use vibrators. They do because they have to, because their men are failing them. Of course there are many women that do like to use them, but that doesn't mean they don't want their man to be able to bring them to climax. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:18 AM
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Some women. Not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:00 AM
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It can be passed through any sexual contact, even close skin to skin contact. Vaginal and anal sex are the most common modes of transmission. It can also be passed from man to women if she is performing oral sex on the man. Just some info for you since you said you didn't know. Source: https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm#:~:text=You%20can%20get%20HPV%20by,have%20no%20signs%20or%20symptoms.
/r/MensRights18/01/24 12:34 AM
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We first had sex after about 6 months of talking and dating. Decided to be monogamous about a month later. We moved in together after about a year later, and then got married about another 1.5 years later. I didn't pressure him. He will commit when he is ready. He told me he didn't want anything serious because he was still trying to finish his PhD and was very busy with that. I was just supportive of him with that and understanding. Then once we were seeing each other a while and really connect…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 08:15 AM
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You mean like as heads of state? The US has never had a female president, but 59 other countries have. https://www.statista.com/chart/amp/3994/which-countries-have-had-a-female-leader/ https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2016/06/politics/women-world-leaders/
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 07:35 AM
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Practically everyone you see around you was developed, delivered, and raised by women. From the scientist and engineer, to the dude at the machine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 04:00 AM
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I'm an western women and I've never met a single women who "loves hooking up nonstop". I was raised that it's not ok to be promiscuous. It's risky. Pregnancy (bc isn't 100%), STIs, etc. Not to mention, most women don't want to sleep with a bunch of strangers. Yes there are some that do but I don't believe it's the majority as you are making it out to be. I never had a one night stand. I wouldn't want to. My friends don't do that kind of thing. Perhaps it's a generational thing if there really is…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:51 PM
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This man is not trustworthy. He is lying and manipulating already. He is not high value. Don't put up with this. You deserve someone who will stand up for you, be honest with you, and who respects you. He does put any value on a SAHM. There is no reason to waste time with a person like this.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 03:33 PM
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I didn't get married until I was 38. I had several chances prior to that but none of them were who I really wanted. I can't imagine how unhappy I would be if I had settled for any of the men that tried before I met my husband. Prior to getting meeting my husband I I had some bad relationships and I was single for a while and I will tell you that I was much happier to be single than in the bad relationships. Settling for someone isn't fair to either person. Let them find someone that really truly…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 05:21 AM
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I would not want one personally. Especially if it's a man that goes on about how he doesn't want a woman with a high body count, I don't care for that double standard. It is just a turn off to me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 09:05 PM
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Changing your diet. Even plastic surgery won't work to keep you thin unless you change your diet. You will just put weight back on after the surgery if you don't change your habits. Many doctors, any good doctor, will tell you this. Change the portions you eat. Learn to cook or at least prepare your own food, even if it's just making salads or sandwiches. Eat yogurt, oatmeal, low sugar cereal, fruits, nuts, air popped popcorn, salads, sandwichs on whole grain bread, red lentil pasta instead of r…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 08:42 PM
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That all depends on you. How hard are you willing to work? You have time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 04:32 AM
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That's not what you said though, initially. So I was responding to what you initially said.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:12 PM
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No one said it isn't. You said: "Well. I mean - yes? Sex feels good, so women with a high body count are, presumably, having the most pleasure from sex?" So I was saying that no, that isn't true.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 07:52 PM
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Anyone is allowed to have sex with whomever they want. What I was saying was that women with a low body count are likely having better sex, and more sex, than those with a high body count. I am married. I have never had a one night stand. I have always been in LTR and have a low body count. However, I have sex with my husband often. Hundreds of times. So even though I haven't been with hundreds of people I've experienced a lot of sex, and it's extremely satisfying because we know what each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 07:35 PM
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Most women I know say the sex is exponentially better in a LTR. I've seen it echoed on this sub repeatedly. I saw on commenter giver an analogy a while back that was something like this... men always complain that they are starving and that women have plenty to eat. They can eat whenever they want. And women say "but all we have to eat is literal dog shit. We don't want to eat dog shit." And then men say, "yeah but you could if you wanted to."There were lots of upvotes and other comments agreein…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 04:06 PM
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You asked how she was ever an asshole. I'm just telling you where she acts like an asshole. I don't think she deserved all the hate she got and it's insane that Anna Gunn received death threats but you can't say that her character never acted like an asshole, regardless of reasoning. One could say everyone in the show had reasons for acting like an ass to some degree which I think was kinda the point. You speak of Walt's lack of interest but how could he be interested in that? There are some men…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:23 PM
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I don't think most people handwave his actions. Most agree that he is seriously messed up. Convincing the audience to root for the villain is pretty classic antihero writing. Skylar isn't as bad as people make her put to be but she definitely has her issues as well. I don't really agree that the hand job thing was normal. I mean, it probably is but only if there is a problem to begin with. I can't imagine doing that to my husband or how upset he would be if I did. Especially if it was his birthd…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:27 AM
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Also, in my other reply I forgot to say that Walt adopted the Heisenberg alias in Season 1. Jane wasn't until season 2, neither was the assault in the kitchen or the death of Combo. All of his terrible behavior comes after he started cooking meth, which was after his 50th birthday. The question people had from the pilot was why Skylar was already treating him so coldly when he hadn't actually done anything wrong yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:55 AM
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None of that happened before he "broke bad". His 50th birthday party was when Hank showed him pictures of a bust and Walt realized how much money could be had buy cooking meth. That part of the pilot was set up to show that she was distant from Walt before he ever started his life of crime. By all accounts he was fine before then and was working two jobs to take care of them. It all went downhill after his 50th birthday when he went on that ride along with Hank. In season 3 Skylar tells Walt "I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 01:53 AM
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And this was before he had become Oppenheimer. He was a good man, by all accounts, that worked hard to take care of his family. She had no reason to be so cold to him. He wasn't already a drug kingpin and lying to her regularly. If he had been, it would be more understandable that she would distance herself but there seems to be no reason that she treats him poorly in the beginning, if I remember correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:16 PM
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I think the scene in the first episode when she gave him a half-assed hand job while checking her online bidding, on his birthday, turned a lot of people off on Skylar from the beginning. Then she did eventually start cheating on him, which if I remember correctly she had done before. I'm not saying Walt was an Angel but they made her out as someone that was cold, unaffectionate, and nagging towards her husband who worked 2 jobs to support the family. Up until he "broke bad" he had been a good m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:10 AM
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Yes. Kids can't even stay home alone until they are teenagers and don't go anywhere alone until college basically. I was a latch-key kid so from the age of 7 I got myself up for school, made my lunch, got to the bus and went to school, and then got home again all by myself because my parents were both working and left very early in the morning, and my siblings were all older and had left the house by then. I could ride my bike several miles to town alone to meet my friends by time I was 9. We wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:55 PM
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No there isn't, for most people. Your previous comment just made it seem like you have something against women over 30. I was just curious how you would treat your wife once she was over 30, if your attitude would change or if you would treat her poorly because of it. There are some men that are rude to their wives just because they had the audacity to age.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 07:39 PM
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Ok. You just seem to really dislike women in their 30s so I thought I would ask. Will you treat her the same as she ages?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:05 PM
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What are you going to do in 5 years when your wife is in her 30s?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:54 PM
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It's a simple conversation. If you can't follow it, I don't know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:18 PM
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I was saying that if it's hard to get your friends to hang out with you, hang out with different people. If people actually like you and enjoy your company it won't be hard to arrange to spend time with them. They will contact you and invite you to hang out. If you invite them to something they accept and show up. If people are being difficult it's probably because they don't really want to see you. Find people who actually want to be around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:01 PM
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We were talking about friend groups. We were not talking about meeting new people. I asked what resources women take from friend groups. You replied that it's hard to plan things they like to do, presumably for the friend group. Otherwise, if you're speaking only about meeting new people, how is it affecting the group? It would only be affecting you. However, you can meet new people at most of the places I mentioned. Bars, clubs, parks, beaches, public places, etc are where one meets people. Bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:40 PM
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Yes. I am in their wedding pictures. We still hang out all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:22 PM
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You need to hang out with different women (or men) then. Why not go to restaurants, bars, clubs, movies, parks, bowling, laser tag, paintball, museums, hookah bars, local live music, festivals, sporting events, etc.? Maybe it's a generational thing? Or perhaps it's a regional thing. I grew up in a rural farming area where plenty of girls liked to go out and shoot guns and drink. But even if you don't have girls that want to shoot there were so many other options it's not that difficult. We never…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 03:20 PM
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My best friend married the guy I introduced her to. She said she wouldn't have gone out with him if I hadn't "talked him up" because he can come off as being a bit arrogant at first if you don't know his sense of humor but I told her this and to trust me. They been together for over a decade now. Often times set ups are just about vetting someone, especially for beautiful women. My friend is a gorgeous woman who works as a biochemist and dances tango competitively. She is around men all the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:40 PM
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May I ask what resources women are sucking the group dry of, and how?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:31 PM
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I have had strangers pick up my bill and say nothing before. While I was dressed professionally too, not for a club or anything like that. It happens. We're not gold diggers, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:27 AM
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That's what a lot women are doing but some men, especially here, have an issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:16 AM
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My husband doesn't mind if I travel alone, however, traveling over Valentine's Day is where this is wrong I think. He probably wants to spend that time with you. There is also something to be said about the new interest in makeup that he might think you're cheating as that is usually considered a sign. If you really want to go explore new cities talk to him about it and do it at a time that he agrees with. Asure him that he is the only one you want. The reason my husband and I can travel indepen…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 03:51 PM
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Do you really think football players are having a hard time getting girls? I just use football as an example but women don't mind aggressive sports. It's a healthy outlet for aggression. I don't know what to say about the beard thing. Do you look attractive with it or homeless because there is a big difference. Many women find facial hair incredibly attractive. I don't know what the link between beards and aggression is, I've never heard this. It largely depends on your female friends what you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 02:41 PM
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Don't worry about it. My husband is 10 years younger than I am. He is from a culture that frowns upon this as well but it honestly hasn't ever been an issue. We were seeing each other for 4 months before we found out the age difference because it just never came up until he had a birthday and I asked how old he was turning. He told me and I asked how old he thought I was. He guessed 12 years younger than I really am. I told him my real age and we laughed. Then we moved on. That's it. We get alon…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 04:32 PM
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My husband is 10 years younger than me. And before you ask, he is a Petroleum Engineer with a PhD, is a Fulbright Scholar, and is so handsome that strangers (like waitresses, etc) comment about it to me, and he is the kindest and most attentive man I've ever known. When we met, our ages didn't even come up until about 4 months after we had started seeing each other. When we found out we just laughed and moved on. I am not upset about Leonardo Decaprio, or anyone like him at all. Date whomever yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:12 AM
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He didn't do very well at planning this then. He should've been trying to find someone to settle down with years ago if that was his goal. Did he just now decide this so he is trying to rush and force it with the first person he met since the decision? That would be my question if I were in your position. Does he really want you or does he just want someone to fit into his timeline? Can he really know you that well this soon? I'm not saying it isn't possible, it's just something I would really w…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 05:49 PM
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So he wants 2 kids by the time he's 35 but hasn't made any attempt until almost 30 to settle down? That's 5-6 years to meet someone he wants to be in a relationship with, date long enough to know he wants to marry that person, get married, and then have the children. Let's hope there are no problems or delays trying to conceive. It's healthier for women to wait at least 2 years between pregnancies to fully heal, so the first one should be born by the time he is 32 so she can get pregnant again w…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 04:11 AM
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I didn't give proof of something unrelated. I said women I know make more money than their husbands and than I gave you statistics about women who make more money than their husbands. If you cannot see how that is related, I cannot help you. I obviously am not going to give a stranger on the Internet access to bank account or tax information. If you do not believe me, it changes nothing. We still exist in loving relationships, living dual income, no children lifestyles (nice houses, cars, clothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 09:26 PM
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The person I replied to expected there to be fewer white men than there. There are more white men than they were expecting there to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:15 PM
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Moving the goal posts is not a good faith discussion. I gave you evidence that supported my point and you don't want to accept it. Which is fine, you can deny it all you want, it doesn't change the facts. Egalitarian aside, you are completely glossing over the percentage of women who out earn their husbands, which is more than 1 in 10. 16% isn't exactly unheard of or incredibly rare. Definitely not the norm, but not some miniscule fraction of a percentage that a lot of people here make it sound …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 04:22 PM
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So you're asking to see the W2s of my friends and their spouses? https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18d3l8q/advice_on_how_to_handle_issues_with_husband/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 02:06 AM
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You asked for proof and I gave you proof. 45% of women earn about the same or more than their husbands. They are contributing significantly to the household expenses and usually also doing more of the housework and childcare. Saying that most women contribute nothing but sex is just incorrect. Also from the link I shared, "The public thinks married men and women have different ideas about which spouse should earn more money. About half of Americans (48%) say most men who are married to a woman w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:44 AM
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In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/ https://www.yourtango.com/2017299689/15-signs-youre-single-married-mom It does sound like you would be doing women a favor to stick to prostitutes. It's no skin off an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 10:48 PM
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They look worse to you. When you're older you might not feel the same way. For example when I was in my twenties, other twenty year olds were attractive to me. Now they look like babies and I can't find them attractive. Not to mention their immaturity is a turn off. I know a lot of older guys with money. My husband works in oil and I'm a biotechnologist so our circles have a lot of money. I've heard a lot of them say they wouldn't want to date really young women (like a twenty year old,) they ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 06:17 PM
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I'm sorry you feel that way. It's very sad to hear you speak that way about yourself. I'm sure you aren't worthless. You had what it takes to become a surgeon which means you're intelligent enough to get through medical school which is no small thing. You are dedicated enough. You are talented. Everyone has value.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:58 PM
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You are making a lot of sweeping generalizations. Not all women are that shallow and superficial. Many women make their own money. In fact, there are an increasing number of women now that make more money than their husbands. My best friend supports her husband and it doesn't matter to her at all. Another good friend of mine is the primary earner. Several of my coworkers out earn their husbands. One had problems with a boyfriend because he was insecure about it but that wasn't her issue. I reali…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:52 PM
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I guess I was speaking in a general sense and not about you in particular. So while you haven't experienced any of those benefits personally, they do exist. Did you only try to date the same women that knew you before and after? You're right if they didn't want you before you were a surgeon, don't bother with them. But unless you tried to date every woman on the planet before you were a surgeon, you can't say none of them wanted you. If you believe women are a monolithic hive mind, you need to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 09:44 AM
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The question was about what benefits a wife provides that a prostitute doesn't. Not whether or not you can get a wife. If a man has a wife she is probably providing more than a prostitute. Not everyone has a good wife, but the people in good marriages are getting a lot more benefits. There are some people that just shouldn't be married though. If you automatically write everyone off before you even give them a chance, then of course you will never find anyone. You are probably better off with a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:59 AM
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I think if you asked most older men if they still find their wife or other women their age to be beautiful their answer will be yes. Sure, he still finds those young women attractive too but that doesn't mean he thinks older women are ugly. Most people's taste in attractiveness ages with them. So while younger people don't necessarily find older people attractive yet, older people find other people their own age attractive. My husband is 10 years younger than I am. Everyone always thinks he is o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 04:18 AM
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How so? Other than sex, what is the prostitute providing? In a good marriage a wife provides so much more than just sex. Love, intimacy, companionship, friendship support, partnership. A confidant. Someone who literally gives birth to your children and raises them. Not to mention She probably cleans and washes laundry. There's a good chance she cooks. There are so many things. If the only thing you think a wife provides is sex, marriage just isn't for you. Edit: words
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:44 AM
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It's definitely time to seek counseling, if not together, at least by yourself to learn how to cope with these feelings. Can you think of any way you could get through to him the seriousness of this? Do you think he would care if you do get him to understand? If the answer is no, I hate to say it, but it may be time to think about getting out of this marriage and finding someone who will actually participate in a partnership with you. There is no point being married to someone who gives you noth…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 03:11 AM
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I'm sorry you are going through this. I have had some medical issues too so I know how much of a struggle it can be to deal with. It must be so difficult to go through without any support from your husband. I'm guessing there is no way he would participate in couples counseling? Do you think he realizes how bad it actually is for you, or do you think he thinks you are just nagging about something stupid?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 02:04 AM
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There is such a thing a single married parent. There is a difference between serving your husband and being treated as a maid/mother/hired hand. I serve my husband and treat him like a king because he treats me like a queen in return. He helps so much and is so attentive and affectionate even though he is so busy. There is no excuse for your husband not to prioritize his family and his household other than immaturity and laziness. It sounds like possibly his parents never taught him how to do an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/23 01:55 AM
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Do you have any examples of what you're talking about? I haven't heard society make those claims. I've heard conservatives as a whole get blamed by society, especially conservative lawmakers. They do happen to be mostly men but seem to be mostly married. I'm sure there are some women who have alluded to what you're saying but it's not the majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:57 PM
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The people on this sub arguing about it are male though. So that is who we respond to. If there were conservative women here I would argue with them too. There just aren't that many conservative women posting here so you don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 04:57 AM
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I don't necessarily think it's going to be exactly proportionally representative, but someone was asking why there are more white guys. It seems pretty reasonable to think that a survey answered by people from countries with a lot of white people would have a lot of white people participating, no? That's all I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 04:39 AM
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Yes. But it's safe to assume the people who participated in an online poll probably did. This discussion was about the results of the poll, meaning the people who took the poll. How many participants of the online poll do you actually think did not have Internet access?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 01:34 AM
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