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As long as you don't notice yourself beginning to establish a pattern of berating yourself or your self esteem lowering, I think that's a great idea to go ahead and try out!
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 06:19 PM
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I read this in a willpower book. Sometimes we try to get ourselves motivated to do things via things that don't motivate us because we THINK it should be motivating, and vice versa not indulging in sources of motivation we THINK shouldn't be motivating. There are some stories of women who tried to motivate themselves to quit drugs by using their children as motivation but it didn't work for them. Life sometimes is like that. If you using your man as a source of motivation is not working, look el…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 04:55 PM
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It depends. How many children do you have, how supportive is your husband, how rich is the household, how big is the house, what are some house values that may make housewifing harder (no microwave, only doing home cooked meals, homeschooling), do you have a garden you need to tend, are the children well trained or do they leave messes everywhere? Etc. When I was married, I had one step son and my husband, and he was an overall clean man. I trained my step son to clean his things before bedtime …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 04:41 PM
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I appreciate your clarification. I hope I didn't come off as hostile. Of course I don't like it when I feel misunderstood but I also didn't take it personally against you if that makes sense, I just wished to be clear. You're likely right. It was very hard for me when I was younger because I had very low self esteem and not very good vetting power, especially with having never really had good male examples in my life. So when I'd gotten those comments, it wasn't something where I could just go "…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 12:52 AM
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You misunderstand me quite a lot. Firstly, when I quoted, it was a real quote of exactly what men would tell me after I'd tell them that I'm not a virgin. "If you were actually unwrapped, that makes sense. But why would I wait for something already used up?" So I didn't misrepresent any facts. These are things I was told multiple times directly to my face by men. Secondly, it's really not about my conscience or guilt. It's more about morality. I don't know what the right thing to do is. If I'm c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 12:35 AM
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I am starting to wonder if that's the case. The sweetest, gentlest man I am dated never even hinted to ask, my best friend doesn't care in the sense that it's OK, and my last partner even though he had a lot of issues (he was self aware of), he also told me it was ok and that the past is in the past, and everyone's life is fucked up or can easily get messy. So I guess these sorts of mindsets are so much more comforting to me than being very gung ho about it. Idk.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/25 12:30 AM
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Awww. Hahaha, I really appreciate that. These sorts of sentiments help. As long as some people get it or don't mind, I feel like I'll be ok. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:59 PM
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That's an interesting perspective. That's actually true in the sense that: the guy I'm dating right now is not Red Pilled. He's probably no pilled. Seems just like a completely normal, wholesome guy, and terribly sweet and good to me. I can't wait for him to come back from his Christmas celebrations out of state. :')
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:57 PM
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Thank you so much. It is helpful, yes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:56 PM
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I really appreciate this. Thank you so much. You're very comforting. :) I'll keep all of this in mind. It makes a lot of sense.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:54 PM
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That's true... I suppose if I was a man, I would not want to know a woman's past in detail.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:40 PM
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Hahahaa it's quite unfortunate. I have two married men I highly respect and love who are in my life. One alongside his wife housed me when I was almost homeless and helped me get my first full time job and car. The second helped me a lot to get out of being into certain toxic relationship traits and remove my fear of having children. I've been making lots of friends in general, and I've been trying to get close with this one girl specifically that I met. Overall, as a tremendously social person,…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:39 PM
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I think that makes sense... I think I should at least mention my marriage since that was a big part of my life, but otherwise, the rest is not relevant. If he never asks, then I guess maybe there is no point bringing it up either... I want him to feel good and confident rather than have it permanently etched on his mind... I have to think.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:23 PM
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Hahahaha I should've been more specific. I only told one trusted person there. The rest I just heard and/or read rather than it being a response to ME, if that makes sense. But you're right, that's why I came here instead of try to get advice there. I don't feel comfortable doing that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:21 PM
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4, not 5. I'm not fundamentalist so I'm religious but my purity complex moreso comes due to men mistreating me rather than religious beliefs... I appreciate your concern for me. I've been a lot better at vetting men, and I've only been keeping around me good people like my best friend who has a marriage I really respect and want for myself. He is very wise and gives me a lot of good advice and talks me through who I want, etc. He helped me get over liking dark triad-esk traits so that helps a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:20 PM
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Decade is a really long time. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you two eventually find more peace in regards to this. Best wishes.♥️
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 11:13 PM
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Thank you... I appreciate your honesty a lot. I hope if I do tell him everything he also understands. I feel like more than outrage, he's more likely to feel really disturbed since he seems sort of more innocent and simple compared to me. I don't know. For now, I sort of hope I've misjudged that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 10:36 PM
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How did he cope and what kind of conversations did you guys have?
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/25 10:30 PM
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What else did you do? I would like to convey more concrete things too, but I'm not sure how. I guess my more intangible qualities just y'know, would help him feel heard or be at ease. He has a very hard time relaxing, so I try to be a good space for him. I'd be very patient when he tells me about...really anything, good, neutral, or bad. And it would help with building intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/25 03:48 PM
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Yes, for the most part. Mainly the first month or so before he left. Which I know is not much. Honestly, just now it occurred to me that he might be stressed out recently about something he is not telling me about that's unrelated.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/25 01:50 PM
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I'm rather patient, intelligent, very understanding, I take the time to listen to him and try to cater to any emotional needs, I'm submissive, I'm very thoughtful I guess, and often cheerful. But I guess I can get neurotic too though. We already know what we look like. He sometimes gets frustrated because I don't seem to realize I've said something that bothered him, or if I did, I'm not really good at recovery. I'm still trying to learn the balance of having boundaries without coming off too ag…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/25 01:23 PM
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I mean that I cried easily over just people's stories and movies and such. Like I was sensitive and easy to get moved. That was me before abuse. I should probably consider therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 03:57 AM
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