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Good for you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 04:16 PM
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She has no job. Why would she get a job when she gets a big alimony check every month. If she got a job I would go back to court to get it reduced. She will never get a job. Her parents are rich. She collects alimony and gets whatever she wants from her parents.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 04:13 PM
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Good question. I don't know the answer to that. I will say I have come dependent on them as I have not even attempted to have sex without one for the last 2 years. I'm too afraid of going limp during sexy time. But I was struggling with ED for awhile before so it was worth it for me.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:51 AM
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Also, I have also taken Wellbutrin in the past and did not affect my erections. It's one of the only SSRI's that does supposed to not cause ED as bad as the others but everyone is different.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:48 AM
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How old are you? Have you had your testosterone levels tested lately? If not, you should. And get a full blood panel. There are several things that can negatively impact erections so I would check there first. Weed actually helps me for some reason. I also take adderrall and it absolutely kills my boners. On days I plan to have sex I skip it or take a very low dose. Your vyvanse may be contributing to your ED. I was struggling with ED after divorce as well. Going on TRT helped a lot. I also got …
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 05:46 AM
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I work from home. Rarely interact with women. It's work, gym, home. I hit the bar scene pretty hard for two during my Seperation and first year of divorce. I'm 48m and hooked up with a hot 29 bar tender and a smoking hot half Cuban half Irish girl. They didn't last. I'm so sick of the bar scene and don't like to drink anymore. I know that's the easiest way to bump into women but I am so over the bar scene.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 02:52 AM
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Well it sounds like both your dates liked you which is a major plus. I wish I found someone hot that just wants to fuck. I've been on the apps and get matches but it's been really hard for me to actually move forward with dates because my divorce has crushed my self esteem and confidence. I got the courage to see one date up off hinge and could tell within the first 30 minutes the girl was not into me. She unmatched me after the date. Not sure why the rejection hurt so bad but it did. So far OLD…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 02:39 AM
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Nobody nagging on me when I get home from work. Nobody telling me to clean the garage.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:21 AM
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The is is a group for divorced men. Not women. Find a different group to complain to.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 03:58 AM
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Being addicted to hookers would be worse. You would blow through so much money.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 03:24 AM
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I try. I don't enjoy anything. I'm going through the motions. I force myself to go on walks at the beach, surf, go to the gym. Went skiing a few weeks ago. Always alone. Completely numb. Everyone says, do what you used to enjoy, find new hobbies. Nothing brings me joy. Ready for my life to end.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/26 04:07 AM
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Married for 20 years. Only had sex with one women ny entire life until divorce. She filed for divorce but we both agreed that it wasn't working. It wasn't sexless but their was no chemistry. Sex maybe once a month towards the end and the last year maybe twice. After divorce met a smoking hot women that I had amazing immediate chemistry with. I fealt a chemistry I have never fealt my entire life. Mind blowing sex. Only lasted 5 months but it was amazing. My break up from her hurt worse then my di…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/26 06:32 AM
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Every day I wake up I don't want to be alive. I'm 2 years post divorce. I hang on for my kids. Ones 18 and the other is 20 and off to college. The lonliness is killing me .
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 07:04 AM
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I went through a divorce in CA and I'm financially ruined. I'm a financial slave now.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 09:00 PM
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I was financially ruined. I fear struggling financially, not being able to support my kids financially and being homeless. No savings for retirement. I fear no women will want to be with me now since I'm broke. Divorce ruined me.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 11:05 AM
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Your going to lose half of your assets. Retirement and house or house you buy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 08:40 PM
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You sound like my ex wife
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 07:47 PM
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I have two close guy friends and I've tried to vent twice and it didn't go well. One basically said nobody cares, stop having a pitty party and get over it. The other listened to me but he's sick of hearing about it. Neither of them call me to do much anymore. They are married with families. I think at some point people distance themself from friends that are depressed and surround themselves with more positive people. I try to hide my depression but it doesn't work. People can just feel it when…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:04 AM
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What are you taking? I've tried several and nothing he's helped so far. The side affects and withdrawals form coming off of them scare me.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 04:46 AM
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Yes. She was super religious. She was also sexually assaulted by a ex boyfriend prior to marriage. She had sex before we got married which didn't bother me but I think she had a lot of religious guilt from it. There were a lot of red flags before we got married that I just ignored because I was naive in thinking that once we got married, all of a sudden she would be affectionate and sexually open to me. She never wanted me to see her naked. She was always trying to cover up. 0 blow jobs on 20 ye…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:22 AM
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I did not smoke weed until the last year of our marriage. Weed was the only thing I could find to calm my mind and forget about all my worries and it helped me sleep. She considered porn cheating. I had a very high libido and was very sexually fristrated in the marriage. I just wanted to release the energy. I do think it's lame she used porn as a ground for divorce. It's not the same as cheating on my opinion. I'm definitely having a spiritual crisis though. I still go sometimes but I feel like …
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 02:59 AM
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I was raised as a pastors kid. Saved myself for marriage because due to my faith. Married 20 years. As soon as I got married I learned my wife did not like sex, and made me feel bad for wanting it. As for the reason for our divorce, honestly just think it was a bad match. She divorced me. The final nail in the coffin that she claims pushed her to give me papers was that I made some bad choices towards the end. I was smoking weed and looking at porn. It was not right and I am not proud of it. I a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:54 AM
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I agree with the divorced dads club. I would do that. I'm in big city and shocked I can't find anything like that. There are a two but both are focused on those currently in the divorce process.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 01:41 AM
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Towards the end of my marriage, my wife told me to leave. I did. I spent close to $30k on hotels over 6 months. I had a friend who came to me and told me I needed to go home. So towards the end I went home and told her if she didn't want to be in the house with me she could leave. Worst decision was leaving the home. When I went home she left. I recommend you go home and refuse to leave. Tell her if she has a problem with it she needs to leave. The only way I could see it being different is if y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 08:17 PM
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It's over. Get ahead of her and give her divorce papers.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 08:27 AM
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Divorce rate is the same in the church as out of the church. My dad was a pastor and cheated on my mom. My ex and I were religious and she divorced me and nobody cheated.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 08:12 AM
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Why you in a divorced men's group?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 07:02 AM
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You lost your marriage at hotwifing. You gave your women to other men. What did you expect?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 06:37 AM
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Hard to stack resources when your paying through the roof on alimony and child support. I don't know how any of you do it. I'm being depleted financially.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 06:27 AM
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Are you a man or a woman?
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 06:17 AM
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I've been divorced for a little over a year now after 20 year marriage. My daughter is 20 and my some is 17. One of the hardest parts for me is that my ex seems to be doing really well and happy while I struggle and am miserable. She gets $7k in alimony and $2k in child support and won't get a job. Unless she gets married or gets a job I could be paying alimony for decades and maybe life. I struggle to pay for a shitty apartment in a HCL area. Here parents bought her a 2 million home on a golf c…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:32 AM
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She got $0 alimony with no job? You are so lucky. I'm getting raped by alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 05:21 AM
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Dragging it out is not a good idea. Get it done as fast as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 07:49 PM
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I'm 16 months post divorce. Depressed, angry, lonely and stressed out. Not adjusting well. Don't want to be alive. Seems like everyone is doing so much better than me post divorce. I just can't figure life out now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 09:21 AM
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I'm 100% commission and have been for 18 years. Top sales rep out if 43 reps. I've found and earned all the business I have. He doesn't give me anything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 06:09 AM
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My first hook up for a consistent 4 months after divorce was a 1/2 cuban 1/2 Irish girl. She rocked my world. Best sex ever. Then it ended. Surprisingly, that break up was harder on me than my 20 year marriage ending. I couldn't figure out why.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 06:41 PM
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Get a job
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 07:42 PM
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I'm still in it. 3 years seperated plus now 1 year divorced. I hate it. Super lonely.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 07:25 AM
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Do not move out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 06:36 AM
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It is slavery.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 09:14 PM
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What gear?
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:02 AM
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I'm 2 years seperated 8 months divorced. It's still painfully sad. I can't get over it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 04:59 AM
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Sons 16 and daughter is 19. I won't leave them
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:22 AM
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Your assuming you know all the details of his divorce. And infidelity is not the only biblical reason for divorce. Abuse is another reason. It's not always black and white. How about porn? Does that count as infedelity and a reason for divorce? My wife thought so. I did not cheat but she caught me looking at porn.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 06:56 AM
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I hooked up twice during my 2 years of Seperation before my divorce was final. I don't spend my days feeling guilty about it. The sex way better than I had experienced in 20 years of marriage by far. I still go to church sometimes with my son and I do feel like a hypocrite. I'll still keep going to church but I'm definitely in a dilemma. I'm drawn towards Christian women but they are definitely not my target when dieting because of the premarital sex issue. I will say that hooking up during my S…
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 06:20 AM
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I'm in the same boat. I was a PK and raised in the church. I waited to have sex until I was married. And guess what? She did not like sex. And I stayed married for 20 years, and she divorced me. I did not cheat. I think sexual compatibility is so important now. Why would I get married to have sex again? I feel like I'd be stupid to wait for marriage to have sex again based on what I just went through. It has definitely damaged my faith.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/24 06:02 AM
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I'm in SoCal as well. San Clemente to be exact. Paying $3,900 a month for rent on a 2 bedroom condo. Crazy. The marital home she forced me to sell was in San Juan and my mortgage is the same as I pay for rent!
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 09:50 PM
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I worked my ass off and still do. I've been 100% commission sales since college and have earned every penny.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 09:43 PM
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We fell in love in college and got married.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 09:42 PM
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This will not be a popular opinion but if you don't need the money don't take it. Let her keep it. This is coming from someone whose ex did not need my money who took me for every penny she could. I'm not a fan of taking someone else's hard earned money if it's not needed.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 08:48 PM
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The gym was helping but I just had shoulder surgery. Going to the gym and getting ripped does not work for me right. The surgery has made me sink lower in to depression.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:21 PM
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She says she pays rent on the house.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:17 PM
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No. But my ex used the Bible to justify screwing me over. I never cheated on her. I was in a dead bedroom for almost 20 years. She caught me looking at porn and that was it. I'm not oroud if the fact I did that but that was enough for her to end it. That's was cheating to her. She stressed how terrible and sinful I was for this. Still takes jabs at me how I was to Godky enough for here. Now im pretty much banished from friends a family who are religious. I had a lot of friends in the church. The…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:50 AM
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I can bring myself to date because I'm so self conscious about how fu&$ed I am financially. I'm worried it will be hard when they find out I'm a renter know who struggles just to pay child support and alimony every month. I'm so afraid to spend extra money I don't feel like I'd be able to date financially.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:45 AM
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You should be happy you don't have to pay child support or alimony. That's huge. I have to give up close to half of what I make every month.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:33 AM
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The Obsticle is The Way by Ryan Holiday
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 05:29 AM
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Wow. The was some premeditated genius
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 05:48 AM
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I have a psychiatrist and I go to therapy every week
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 05:41 AM
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Because you still need money to live. And it takes money to do that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:06 AM
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Thanks for the comment. It helps.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 06:45 AM
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Nailed it. I make good money on paper but after I give almost half of it away I'm scraping by. I want to start dating but what you've stated is exactly how it feels on the dating apps. I was never worried about money before but now I'm too financially insecure to pull the trigger for a first date.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 05:32 AM
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My highest fear is going under financially to keep paying CS and Alimony. I fear I won't have the finances to help my kids in college and to start their families. I also fear being alone the rest of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 09:04 PM
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I have not mastered this yet. 2 years living alone and I'm miserable and depressed. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 02:20 AM
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Why should I be upset with myself for disclosing everything during divorce? What does that mean? That's ridiculous. I'm W2 and work for my soon to be ex father in law so you can't hide income. I'm not down with being shit or doing things illegally.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 08:02 AM
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Yes. My lawyer said after a few years we could try to go to court to get it reduced or to get her to prove she is looking for a job. I preferred to settle out of court as I received a better deal than what I would received had we gone to court. If she doesn't get a job in the next year I may go to court.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:28 AM
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I actually got her to agree to considerably less in Alimony than what i would have paid if we went to court. And I still get to file my taxes as head of household. It's still a shit sandwhich.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:26 AM
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Very informative. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:23 AM
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I did better with the amount I'm paying in Alimony than if my case went to court here.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 04:16 AM
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I won't leave my son.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:14 AM
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I would. It's considered long term marriage once you hit 10 years and affects alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 12:13 AM
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After being bent over in what I have to pay in Alimony and child support I personally won't date anyone who is still living off their ex. Anyone I date needs to have their own job and be self sufficient.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 11:48 PM
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That solves nothing. I need money to live.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:54 PM
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My divorce is final. I can't do that.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:19 PM
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I'm familiar with it. It only states that she's obligated to seek employment. But there is nothing that forces her to actually do it. I asked my attorney what I do if we go several years and she never gets a job. He said if it gets to about 5 years I could try to take her to court and force her to start looking for one. I'm not sure how that would work. I feel like there should be stipulations in place that make her star looking or prove she is applying for jobs as soon as the divorce is final. …
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:13 PM
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Your posting this in the wrong group. Seems like every day someone's wife posts on her for advice.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 10:01 PM
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Mine was somewhat amicable until we signed the final divorce agreement. I became angry and resentful and I don't know if I'll ever be able to get over it. The fact that we have been separated for over two years and she has done a nothing to find a job does not sit well with me. Now that I have to cut her large checks for Alimony while she continues to live a vacation lifestyle does not sit well with me. Her parents are loaded. She gets what she wants from them, the rest from me and continues to …
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 09:48 PM
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I've tried several. I don't like how they make me feel. The side affects and withdrawals I read about when you stop taking them scare the hell out of me too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:33 AM
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It's for an indefinite amount of time. Unless she gets a job or gets married it could be for life was married for 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:15 AM
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I make really good money otherwise I would quit. I can't pay bills and pay my cs and alimony if I quit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 01:01 AM
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My kids. That's it. If it was not for them I'd be gone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:56 AM
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I'm struggling to understand how to have an abundance mindset when my divorce financially devastated me and I've been bent over in the amount of child support and alimony I have to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 12:46 AM
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I won't move because I want and need to be close to my son. A career move might be good but at 46 I'm not sure what else I would do. I work for my ex father so it adds a huge amount of stress on me. I get ptsd just going to the office.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:42 AM
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I'm seeing a therapist. I don't feel like it's helping but I'll continue to go.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 06:39 AM
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I don't understand when people say you are a free man after divorce. It's not freedom to have to provide spousal support for an indefinite amount of time. I'm in California and was married for 20 years, so unless she marries or gets a job it will never end. That's not freedoms
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 04:23 AM
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I'm not looking for a wife. I would like a girlfriend. I'm super lonely. Work from home and home all the time by yourself can make you go crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 04:22 AM
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I'm struggling with this. I'm still calling her every day and it needs to stop.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 08:35 AM
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I wish I picked up the banging women bad habit. I'm still trying to pick that one up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 06:43 AM
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I work from home which does not help.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 05:21 AM
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And financially. That's the worst part. I'm terrified to spend money now. I don't feel like I have the disposable cash to date right now.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 05:20 AM
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I did this twice during separation. The first one was a one night stand. The second, was awesome while it lasted. She was a 10 in my book. Lasted 4 months then after she broke it off I felt more devestated than my actual divorce. Since that situationship took a dive I've had issues with my self esteem and self confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 05:18 AM
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I don't know how I'll ever recover from the financial loss. Had to sell my home, give up half my 401k, half the equity in the home sell, and now between alimony and child support I'll pay $10k a month. I make $307k annually but after taxes, cs and ss payments I can barely cover my rent and bills. It's demoralizing to make the money I make and barely make it. I won't be able to pay from my kids college and have no retirement. I'm so broke I have no extra money to date. I'm lonely but too scared t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:26 AM
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I do talk to her and feel like shit every time. She likes to take me down memory lane on everything I did that was wrong. It's just so hard not calling someone who was your best friend for 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 06:46 AM
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I walk the beach trail every day.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 09:52 PM
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I used to lift. It does help however I just had shoulder surgery and surgery on my foot all in the last 6 months. Lifting is not an option for me right now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 08:39 PM
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I'm 2 years into separation and a few months from divorce being fianilized. I've read many books, go to the gym, go out to bars, and spend a lot of time alone. I've dated for 4 months. I go to church occasionally. I've gone to therapy. I've tried 4 different anti-depressants. I try to get lost in my job but I work for my ex father-in-law which does not help. I'm being wrecked financially. still feel hopeless and don't want to live every day I wake up. Everyone says it gets better but so far ever…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 05:08 AM
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I found it very hard to focus at work. I don't go in the office any more because I work for her father. I would not wish working for your father in law while going through divorce on anyone. Now I work from home and am extremely isolated.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:58 AM
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I asked a question referring to women in dating over forty sub and got banned for being mysogonistic. And bonbarded by angry feminists
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:46 AM
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I'm in California 47 years old. Was married 20 years and she never worked. Divorce is final in a few weeks and I have to pay $3k in child support and $7k month in Alimony. The Alimony is indefinite so if she does not get married again (which she won't). And she gets half my 401k. I'll most likely be paying her alimony the rest of her life. I can't even think of retiring now. She will be in a nice home (her parents are rich) and I'll be scraping by to life on a 2 bedroom apartment close to my son…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 06:42 AM
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$20k a month where I live in Orange County CA isn't much.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 02:25 AM
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Had to pay $450k from home sell $55k in lawyer fees Now I have to pay $3k a month for two years of child support and $7k a month in alimony most likely for the next 20 years. Alimony in California is indefinite. I'm financially ruined and life seems impossible
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 01:46 AM
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I'll check out the videos. Thanks for sharing
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:38 AM
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Well I'm not completely ruined financially but it's made things tight. There is nothing to address. It's math. I know what I'm facing but there is no way around it. Married for 20 years and she didn't work. When it's final I'll have to pay approx $3k in child support, and $7k in alimony. Alimony is indefinite amount of time so unless she gets married or gets a job I'll be paying that for a very long time. Maybe the rest of her life. And I still pay way more than that to continue to support my da…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:23 AM
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I'm being financially destroyed in my divorce. No money to travel. Just had shoulder surgery so the gym and surfing are out for 6 months. Just trying to not drink and smoke weed to numb the pain. Literally just taking it a day at time. The guys in this group seem to being dealing with things better than I am. I feel completely lost and defeated in all this.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:28 AM
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I'm 46. I don't plan to get married again. I don't want to do life alone though. In full disclosure I did have some amazing sex after a year into my separation. It lasted 4 months. After that ended it just left me feeling more empty. For those 4 months I felt great. But now my self esteem and self confidence are lower than they have ever been. Hard to imagine I'm 46 and have only had sex with 2 women in my lifetime.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:16 AM
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Like I said, I should have had sex before we got married. I married when I was young and was brainwashed by the church. I thought I was doing the right thing. It's causing some issues for me now. While I like the church for many things, I don't agree with this belief anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 06:50 AM
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Wow. Shocker. My ex is very conservative and uses religion as a weapon against me. I did not cheat on my wife. She claimed I cheated on her because she knew I looked at porn sometimes. It was a sexless marriage for years. I'm not proud of what I did but I don't consider it cheating. She did. And she made it a point to let others know at the church. Funny how people can use the Bible when it's convenient. Now she will get a hefty alimony maybe for life. Not sure where that's justified in the Bibl…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 06:39 AM
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I'm in California. I make pretty good money and she didn't work for 20 years. I'm going to have to pay $3k child support and approx $7k in alimony per month. And it's indefinite unless she gets a job (she says she will never get a job) or gets married. I'm financially ruined. She's in a nice house by the beach in a gated community and im left renting a shitty apartment. I'm her work slave for many years.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 05:58 AM
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I won't leave my son and want to be close to my daughter.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 07:12 PM
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Thanks. I should not have stated for life. It states indefinite. I don't want mine to go to court. In order to avoid court I'm going to have to convince my stbxw to take less which probably won't happen. In my lawyers defense he can't really do much for me if I'm trying to settle out of court. It's up to my stbxw and her lawyer. Did you end up with a better settlement going with a second lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 07:27 AM
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What's a TPO?
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 05:20 AM
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I would have kept her. She gave me the papers. Seriously. California rewards women in divorce who don't get jobs. And the longer your married, the more you pay in alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 04:54 AM
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I make $25k a month before taxes. I earn my income as a salesman. 100% commission
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 04:50 AM
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I know I'm screwed. Every day I wake up I don't want to be alive.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 04:49 AM
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Thanks for the input. I've done a lot of therapy in the past. The therapist my ex and I used to go to were all Christian therapists. I'm a pastors kid and had issues with the church and realized the religious theralist were usually not a good fit for me. They usually always ended up telling me that my issue was my relationship or lack of relationship with God that was the issue. Not what I need right now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 04:10 AM
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Yes. I work for my soon to be ex father in law. I'm screwed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 03:17 AM
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Why?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 03:01 AM
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Good advice. I found a situationship early after my legal separation. Was great for 4 months with mind blowing sex than she bolted and made me feel even more depressed and damaged than I was from the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 02:58 AM
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I was raised in the church as a pastors kid and married a very conservative Christian women and she gave me divorce papers after 20 years. I'm in a situation where I'm looking for someone who is not in the church. My wife used religion against me in many cases. I made mistakes but it always made me feel like I was not good enough. She was the only one i had sex with my entire life. I waited until marriage and soon realized she had intimacy issues. It was a pretty cold marriage when it came to se…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 05:52 AM
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I make $340 k a year and between spousal support and child support she gets have my income. We were married for 20 years and she never worked. She will never work and won't get remarried. I may have to pay her alimony for the rest of her life. Her parents are rich so between what she gets from me and her parents she's loaded and I'm now in a shitty apartment. California divorce laws are brutal. And I work for her father. It's hard to believe life will get better. I feel like a money slave for my…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 05:28 AM
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