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Stress kills boners. Being unemployed also affects men sexually (societal conditioning, culture, biology even, maybe we’re programmed not to have offspring if we feel resources are scarce, whatever). Manly advice? If you want something serious try being open with her, you’re going through a hard time r/n, vulnerability handled tastefully is hot.
/r/MenSupportMen08/01/25 03:55 AM
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There is no neat time frame for our emotional processes. It lasts what it lasts, but rest assured it will pass. The good thing is it only takes time, the bad thing is it takes time. It seems you could definitely afford a good therapist, they can guide you through the process, although it’s not strictly necessary. I’ll share from my own experience; I also became overly fixated on my ex for around a year after we broke up. I paid attention and noticed this internal environment inside my mind, it w…
/r/MenSupportMen28/12/24 11:18 PM
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If there are explicit times when you feel happy and confident such as those; then probably a big component in the relationship is just being with her for comfort when you feel otherwise. The moment you feel good you don’t need her anymore. Depending how big that is in your relationship, it will always repeat itself, like a cycle. You’d have to ask if living a moderately painful life long term is worth it to be with her; or if it’s worth the risk to go an try to feel better and leaving those comf…
/r/MenSupportMen14/09/24 03:08 PM
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Give him space to grow and understand it. Prepare info to educate him if needed. He also might be struggling with something, so separating that would be helpful, you could offer some support if he ever needs it. You seem to be conscious about what’s going on with you, and you also don’t make an excuse out of it. You mention you’re working on it, so reassure yourself you’re doing your best and are trying to improve, that’s an amazing thing to do.
/r/MenSupportMen31/08/24 08:00 PM
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I think you’re on the right set of mind for the most part. It’s not easy but you’ve finally decided that the best for you is to leave. And on top of that you still have some concern or awareness about how this will affect her. I’d say the best strategy is to figure out beforehand what your limits are. How far you’re willing to go. Maybe help her with the expenses for a year? 3 months? 1 week? How much $ would you spare there? Will you be leaving or expecting her to leave? Timeframes? All those d…
/r/MenSupportMen19/08/24 04:38 PM
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This is the answer.
/r/MenSupportMen01/08/24 08:04 PM
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You fought him man, you didn’t allow something you didn’t want. Violence is not the only way you can oppose something you don’t want. You should be proud of yourself.
/r/MenSupportMen27/07/24 05:35 AM
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You’re already aware, that’s a huge step. Honestly? Just move on with your life, seek to be independent and move out, preferably without them knowing. In my opinion it’s just part of growing up. At one point one has to take care of oneself like a good parent would do. And then you’re an independent adult. They just wont change, and probably can’t. Like all of us, they’re just humans. Therapy would help, but at this stage I fear it could turn into coping rather than pushing you out to take the re…
/r/MenSupportMen19/07/24 11:02 PM
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This morning I experienced what it feels to have a weight lift off your shoulders. Metaphorically, but it almost feels like a real thing is being lifted from them; like a huge hand was gripping me, and it let go. Pfff, bless my therapist, and my ability to grow.
/r/MenSupportMen16/06/24 11:04 PM
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Hmmmm understandably his focus was on the issue about his relationship, but I’d save my comments until the guy asks for some support. This seems unsolicited.
/r/MenSupportMen06/06/24 01:43 PM
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Congratulations man! Remember to get enough sleep and water, it’s easier to tame the negative voices that way. Hugs
/r/MenSupportMen01/05/24 06:39 PM
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Yesterday just talked with 2 of my friends about some issues I have. They were so supportive. I have a close group of friends I’m pulling away from. It’s been painful and difficult. And these guys and I were not so close, but we opened up and had a great talk.
/r/MenSupportMen04/03/24 05:23 PM
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Also walk on grass
/r/MenSupportMen02/10/23 12:39 AM
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Sorry bro. It’s wild when your world gets shaken up like that. All emotions are valid, and it will take a while to process them. Try not to feed them ruminating, blaming either her or yourself, do not make rash decisions, find people near you that can support you. Cheating is not the end of the world, whether you decide to continue or not with your marriage life goes on and this is a chance to learn. About yourself, your values and what matters to you in this life. Watch content about it. Feed y…
/r/MenSupportMen22/08/23 02:52 AM
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My surgery went well. And it’s a pain to have a hose sticking out of my boob. A couple weeks will be like this I guess. I had been working so hard at the gym this last year, and I feel I’ll lose all progress 😭😭😭 I also worry about the scar, and the uneven pecs I’ll have now.
/r/MenSupportMen13/08/23 11:32 PM
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Moderation and taking care of your friends are super nice things to do. She's immature and that's an idiot comment. We are all super interesting to the correct crowd, and like wise we'll always be boring to the wrong one. You're just thinking too much about what she said. Salsa and swimming are interesting hobbies, just do the things you find interesting and you'll find people there who also thing they're interesting.
/r/MenSupportMen05/07/23 03:27 AM
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Dating in general it’s an unhealthy practice. It implies people are disposable and also implies the existence of someone “just right” out there. Instead of letting us discover and create our own models of treating people and forming relationships with people around us. We all have value if we choose to see it. Nobody is perfect and no relationship will ever match the ideal fantasy bs in our imagination. Love and connection are not something anyone rehearses for. With that in mind I’d say it’s un…
/r/MenSupportMen27/06/23 10:37 PM
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My therapist had a very interesting view on both ED and premature ejaculation. Both would seem like diametrically opposite problems, one cumming too fast, the other completely denied of the possibility of cumming. But for her it was the same single issue. She would ask her clients, "at that moment, do you even want to have sex?". It sheds light onto the fact that us men put sooo much pressure on having sex and performance and expectations. Just asking at that moment, "do I even want to have sex …
/r/MenSupportMen25/05/23 12:29 PM
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This. Is the healthiest answer, and at the same time the hardest I think. For many reasons it can be brutally hard to speak up. There's a lot of background behind being able to address these behaviors calmly and kindly. But in the end it's the healthiest and best option.
/r/MenSupportMen27/04/23 06:25 PM
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Well, from my experience, I've felt that way for almost all my life. And I came to realize that loneliness (at least in my case) came from emotional neglect. Neglect in itself seems harmless, it's not directly abusive or aggressive. It's just being left alone or unnoticed for the most part. You could look into that if it rings a bell.
/r/MenSupportMen15/04/23 03:32 AM
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I'm not sure if I got it right, but you mean you lacked physical human contact for a while? Like, being neglected or abused for a period of time in the past? If so, I'm in the same spot now. After processing much of it, now I'm trying to figure out how to give and receive that myself (I don't have a relationship I can trust enough to supply for that need of touch). And I've seen a lot of ideas, implemented some of them and they work great. Ideally it could be done with someone we trust, but when…
/r/MenSupportMen14/04/23 11:42 PM
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I'm scared of changing my habits, because I would grow apart from my group of friends (they like parties, drinking, etc). I would still like them, I would still hang out with them. Just not that often, and not that late. I'm almost certain they won't get it given the way they are. And I'm so attached to them, it's hard man.
/r/MenSupportMen24/03/23 05:26 PM
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Relax man. For what it seems you're handling things super well. Despite those feelings it doesn't seem you're being rude or aggressive. On the contrary, showing this level of concern shows great care for them. That being said, there is nothing wrong to be annoyed and wanting not to spend time with people. Even being angry or irritated around them is OK. There is no wrong way of feeling. Just try not to let those feelings make you say or do rude or hurtful things you might regret later. Recognize…
/r/MenSupportMen27/01/23 10:28 PM
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Biochemically speaking, what you need now are wins. Small wins that will release dopamine and help you clear your mind and think of new solutions. Tbh, if anything may help you rather than some sympathy is to watch this video, it explains it in further detail. Search on YouTube for: Change your brain: Neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman Rich roll podcast. It has key concepts that have helped me out in the past to untangle unfavorable situations.
/r/MenSupportMen17/05/22 07:11 PM
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I quit my job last week and haven't found a new one. I've been looking for a job online for months now and nothing comes. I'm afraid I'm letting it get to my head, and that when I get an interview I'll get nervous and won't get the job, despite being a good employee.
/r/MenSupportMen23/02/22 02:22 AM
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I just declined a job offer. I'm worried all jobs in my country may be underpaid like this. "cheap workforce" is what we have going on for us. I'm worried :c
/r/MenSupportMen19/11/21 08:26 PM
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It's... not appropriate, as my therapist would say. Not wrong or unfair. You already noticed it, does bringing it up has done anything for you? Will he go to the past and change what happened? If he suddenly changed into a completely different person would it fix how you feel? At some point we can look at our parents and feel sad for them rather than angry. We can be grateful for all they did, because in their own twisted way they did the best with what they had. It's not hard to imagine how the…
/r/MenSupportMen07/11/21 03:11 PM
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It's perfectly fine to feel bad about a situation like this. Boundaries were definitely crossed carelessly. The way I see it, she did something she really wanted to do. She went as far as to hide it from you to do it. That tells me it's something she actually enjoyed. Looking at it that way, does it sound so bad?
/r/MenSupportMen02/11/21 02:57 PM
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I just realized I'm a cruel, cruel person. And it's such a breakthrough for me. Now that I'm no longer in denial I can do something about it.
/r/MenSupportMen22/10/21 04:17 PM
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A thing that helped get rid of shame was conscious observation. Whenever I felt it I asked myself "what am I using this shame for? What do I gain from it?". Sometimes I used it to mask fear I felt, or to play the victim in an unfavorable situation, or was just a sequel of my childhood traumas. Taking some distance helps with perspective. In the end it was a question of "I'm all of these bad things, and I most feel bad about existing because of them". I saw it as a matter of me vs the world, and …
/r/MenSupportMen16/10/21 01:50 PM
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