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DISCUSSIONAgathaMysterie/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:56 PM
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I can’t say enough about Fascinating Womanhood, as long as you take it with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWives29/09/25 01:40 AM
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Is he asking for this? If so, this line of thinking might just be your way of trying to maintain some control.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/25 05:37 PM
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This would be a hard no from me. I would encourage my husband to see his brother, hang out with him, etc. No problems there. But the brother would not be welcome to meet my kids or spend any amount of quality time with or around them. He may be truly sorry about what he did and he may not actively want to seek sex with a little child again, but I think it’s something he will struggle with for the rest of his life. Don’t “tempt” him with your own precious children!
/r/RedPillWives01/01/23 06:04 AM
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I think this is me? Or at least it was.. I haven’t had green/pink/blue/black hair in a while, but I’ve always been pretty conservative. I wear a lot of black, combat boots, old band tees… but honestly as a mom I’ve had to put personal style on the back burner because of being pregnant all the time and having to wear nursing friendly stuff. BUT I’m finally getting into a season of life where I don’t have to worry about some of those things, so I’m getting back into building a wardrobe of clothes …
/r/RedPillWives30/09/22 02:18 AM
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I also agree… is it a place FOR us or a break FROM us? 😂
/r/RedPillWives18/08/22 11:55 PM
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And even if you did have to get a job after 15 years of marriage, is that worse than having spent 15 years working and being absent from your kids’ lives and frankly giving yourself so much less incentive to work on your marriage?
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 02:20 PM
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100% agree.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 02:09 PM
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To me it’s so obviously about money. Families can only spend as much as they make, and two people can generally make more money than one. I’m saying we’re being manipulated by our culture and the economic tiers above us to generate more spendable income.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 01:57 PM
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Oh yes, I agree married women use it for birth control - plus these days I think some see it almost as a right of passage for the modern woman. But if abortion had never been widely accepted I don’t think married (happily married) women would be clamoring for it now.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/22 03:06 PM
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For me the abortion conversation starts at what is the end of a destructive path. The conversation should start much earlier, and be about things like WHEN should you start dating, WHO should you date, and what are appropriate physical boundaries for dating/engagement/marriage. Like it or not, if the only people getting pregnant were married women who had chosen a husband wisely, abortion would be such a fringe issue that it would be rarely spoken about, and it certainly wouldn’t be the issue lo…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/22 08:14 PM
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It’s funny that you would post that on such a counter-culture sub. We’ve already had to deprogram ourselves from that sort of thinking (eg that the problem is ALWAYS the other person).
/r/RedPillWives26/07/22 03:16 PM
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I don’t have time for a long answer but I’m just throwing this out here… Could you work less on being interested in him (doting/complimenting etc) and more on being interesting TO him (have your own hobbies, research interesting things to talk about, try new things, etc).
/r/RedPillWives18/07/22 10:00 PM
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No way dude! You’re starting healthier behaviors now and there’s nothing that you can do about the past. Don’t dwell on past mistakes and don’t bother with potential partners who do. 👍🏼👍🏼 Practical advice: Don’t feel like you have to “warn” guys right away about your lurid past. It’s not deceitful to wait to share super personal information like that. When/if you do share that part of your past with a guy, emphasize that you regret it, but also emphasize that you’ve changed and that you’ve moved…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/22 05:22 AM
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I hate that feeling… I don’t have any tried and true strategy for you, but what I might do is just have a (big? 😂) glass of wine and take a hot bath and just focus on getting in some relaxation before the kids are back! Remember that while he can totally take time to himself to work out how he thinks/feels, that doesn’t mean you’re on pause or “benched” or anything. I also know that projecting anxious energy is never helpful, so really, I would just use this time for yourself! It sounds like you…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/22 12:09 AM
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The only family photo I’m willing to display in our home is my daughter’s 1st grade photo, which is so hilariously bad. 😂💕
/r/RedPillWives19/03/22 02:58 PM
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The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
/r/RedPillWives18/03/22 02:52 AM
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Congrats OP!!!!! I’m especially non-nostalgic, so I probably never look at my wedding pictures 😂, but marrying my husband was such a good move. Enjoy your life together!!
/r/RedPillWives18/03/22 02:45 AM
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Basically I was just not at all interested in dating anyone who played music, or might take up playing music as a hobby in the future. My dad and brother are musicians and… 1) I hate hate hate the sound of instruments being practiced. 2) playing with a band takes a lot of time/effort. I just didn’t want to deal with it. 🙈
/r/RedPillWives08/03/22 01:32 AM
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I definitely vetted guys re: video games and playing music. Both of those hobbies are repellent to me! I know some gals are into one or both, so it’s a personal thing. Also, depending on your own family goals, vet for that. I knew my husband was the one after we had a serious conversation where he told me that HE dreamed of having a lot of kids (we have 5) and that HE wanted his kids to have a SAHM (which I love being, and was always my dream).
/r/RedPillWives02/03/22 06:27 PM
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Thanks! ✨🙂💕
/r/RedPillWives05/12/21 04:44 PM
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My dyson stick vac is seriously my prized possession. I already loved sweeping/vacuuming, but this takes the pleasure to a whole new level. 💕
/r/RedPillWives01/12/21 12:05 AM
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I hear you on wishing you’d met sooner - I would wish that, but if I had met my husband instead of going to Seoul in 2010, he would have been married to someone else. 😬
/r/RedPillWives14/11/21 05:19 AM
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I actually did have an amazing relationship in Korea (we didn’t marry though), which is part of what made it so worth it. 🙈 I think all of my doings before getting married and having 4 (soon 5) kids influenced my ability to marry an amazing guy and raise kids happily and well.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/21 05:11 AM
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I got my BA in Art: Painting & Drawing. I never obviously became a working artist or anything, but I did use my degree to go to Korea and teach ESL for almost two years, and that experience was worth it!! I don’t think you can know if continuing your education is worth it or not until you’re a decade plus into the future. School debt is lame, though. I’m paid off, but it took a long time!
/r/RedPillWives14/11/21 04:32 AM
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I’m just responding to you the same way you are to me, ad nauseam. This is my final comment. Cya!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 11:41 PM
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This isn’t “just my own random preferences” pill. We’re talking about a cohesive theory here! And the reason I brought up my brother is that I actually know the facts about his career path and income - I’m not just guessing about what male nurses can achieve.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 11:28 PM
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Just hoping that other RP ladies won’t turn down a date from a nurse because a kind, well-spoken commenter on reddit called the profession girly. Like I said in another comment, the careers you mentioned aren’t deadbeat jobs… just ones that women (or gays as you said?) have been able to hold historically.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 11:21 PM
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I love all the friendly people I meet on Reddit 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 11:16 PM
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Those are jobs with ladders to climb and require degrees etc. etc. For me, the “professions” that are/were turn-offs are things like barista/musician or “comic book artist” or whatever… especially if the talent isn’t readily apparent.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 10:44 PM
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Yes, I just commented above about how my brother makes $$$$$ as a nurse practitioner in private practice. He always killed with the ladies, too (now married).
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 10:43 PM
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To be fair… my brother started as a male nurse, but is now a psych nurse practitioner in a private practice and makes $300/hr.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 10:41 PM
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When I told my friends I had started dating an architect they all commented that it was a super attractive profession. I hadn’t really thought about it but when I did, I realized it did create extra appeal. This is definitely a thing!
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 10:40 PM
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Ovulation sex 🙌🏻
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 03:25 AM
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Do you have access to these type of guys? Have you had any success dating them?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 05:10 PM
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One of the ways a woman can be “child-like” (in the good sense) is by having a general sense of curiosity about things and asking questions. My husband enjoys hunting/fishing and I’m not exactly interested in those activities but when he talks about them I really let myself hear him and then I ask him literally anything that comes to my mind. And actually, that can lead to a much more interesting conversation!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/21 04:16 PM
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I’m not saying everything in this book is perfect advice, but to get something of an idea of what the RPW life is about, I want to suggest Helen Andelin’s The Fascinating Girl. Like I said, read it with a major grain of salt, but it hits a lot of the big concepts. It’s crazy dated to the point of being laugh-out-loud funny in parts, but it really helped my thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 07:04 PM
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I guess that’s why you lurk this sub? 😂
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 05:32 PM
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The easiest way is to just not reach for the check. 🙂 Then thank him profusely, of course!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 05:31 PM
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Ooohhh you have MUCH to learn. 🙈 Let the man buy you dinner!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 05:14 PM
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I had a boyfriend who talked like that to me constantly, but when obstacles came up (he had to move) he wasn’t willing to fight for our relationship and it really hurt me because I was 100% in for him. I think that’s part of why I set the “I love you” boundary with my husband. I hope you work things out with your bf! Sorry I don’t have better advice. 💕
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 10:44 PM
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Then maybe it’s possible he’s one of those people who doesn’t want to appear to be more committed than the other? Like he’s waiting for you to seem 100% about him before he will let you see that he’s 100% about you? I think you’re doing the right things!! And also… I think it is appropriate to have conversations like “how would you parent” and “what are your economical expectations” etc etc… as long as they don’t foster a false sense of “these things will definitely happen for US”.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 06:24 PM
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To be fair, I told my now husband not to say he loved me until he proposed marriage. To me it felt like there would be no point otherwise. I think if I were you I would stop initiating any talk about marriage/kids/deep future. If he brings it up, I would put it back in his court, like… BF: I wonder what our kids will look like. You: Whoever you have kids with, I think they’ll probably have your [distinct feature]. Don’t indulge him, basically. He’s getting off on an intimacy he’s not ready to ba…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/21 05:36 PM
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I was a virgin when I got married, and I dated a lot of guys. I think for me, I was so locked into my boundaries that I could make out without it leading to sex. I’m sure it’s different/harder if you’re used to going all the way? I wish I had some good advice! Actually, one piece of advice I do have is to let your date know ASAP (without being awkward) that you do not want to have sex. I did this and a couple times guys let me know they were “just looking for some fun” and ended things - but tha…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 05:34 PM
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I think it’s one of those things that unfortunately just isn’t realistic. If you’re 30 and he’s 60… I just don’t really see it working. Marriage is about going the distance, not just scratching a current itch.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 09:20 PM
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Honestly, a really ugly guy can become hot to you if the connection is there. I think the fact that you’re not attracted to him physically means that you’re not that into him in general. End it now before you waste a bunch of his and your time!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:45 AM
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I don't think you have to make this an all-or-nothing thing right away... but I do think you can start taking some steps towards what you want (whether it's with your BF or some other man). First, it was a mistake to move in with him in the first place. Not to be all "why buy the cow...", but I think the reason I had three men propose to me early in our relationships is because I was up front about not willing to co-hab/put out before marriage. And yes, I also 100% had dudes cut off contact with…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 12:05 AM
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Embrace and nurture your feminine side but don’t make the mistake of swinging into a caricature/stereotype sort of womanhood. I’m not the sweetest, gentlest, warmest person on earth (INTJ/enneagram 5) but I am feminine - because I just follow the age old advice of “be yourself”! Authentic femininity is you, a woman, being true to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/20 03:23 AM
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Such an amazing response, I just had to thank you for sharing it.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/20 10:26 PM
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I think you have to go into each new relationship with a "virginity" mindset. Even though you have had sex with an ex, you haven't had sex with the new dude you're seeing - and DON'T. Yes at some point you will have to cop to the fact that you've had sex with a previous partner, but part of the "virgin" allure is sending the message that "you can't have sex with me right now/whenever you want". Plus new dude will probably get the picture that you take sex and commitment super seriously, even wit…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/20 04:07 AM
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I think we can rest assured that it was meant sarcastically. 🙈
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:07 PM
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Yes, exactly this. I know redpilled-ish women who won’t message first, and my thought is always that he probably doesn’t even see your profile! You don’t know what the algorithm is doing on his end! I messaged my husband first on okcupid years ago, and he told me that he had never seen my profile (but would have messaged me if he had).
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 06:06 PM
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Guys, go easy on this one. Honesty is always the best policy. If you want a big-ass ring just show him the one you want. But trust me when I say this: on the bad days a giant rock is just going to mock you when you look at it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 04:54 AM
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Opinions on this are going to vary, but if following the golden rule I would consider telling the gf a favor. I would want to know so that I could stop wasting my time. Definitely.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 11:38 PM
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OP please provide links to good aprons!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/19 10:47 PM
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I think on the current trajectory your kids will remember their smug, envious parents who cared more about judging others and what others thought of them than building true intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 07:29 PM
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Dunno, 100+ karma for this sub is pretty respectable, so maybe I’m on to something.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 03:54 PM
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The rarest of all reddit comments! 💕
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 02:06 AM
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Maybe it’s that some women migrate here FROM trp??
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 11:24 PM
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My bff’s mom, saving me from marrying a dude who would have been really bad for me (we didn’t share faith or family goals): You can fall in love with the wrong person.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:39 PM
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Ok, I know this is an old(ish) post but I have to chime in. He’s super smart and talks a ton about math/engineering etc? Ok - I hate to break this to you, but he’s the boring one. 🙈 One practical thing I think you could do is spend an hour or so every day reading news blogs or magazines (have you ever read Wired mag? I’m not a STEM person in any way but I love that one, it always has fascinating articles!)... then every so often you can start a convo with “hey have you ever heard about XYZ?” or …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 10:38 PM
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Definitely go for it OP! Every RPW dreams of this scenario. It’s 100% ideal, real, factual, and actual.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 07:04 AM
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sweet!! i’m gonna check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 06:17 PM
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You’re getting so much good advice and I can’t read it all, but here’s my two cents... or rather, here’s what I do. I’m a sahm of three kids under 4, and I don’t have a lot of time. I’ve also never really been a salon/spa kind of person, so the high end treatments don’t play into my life at all. But what I have done that works really well for me is to hold tightly to a simple morning routine of putting myself together. I shower every morning, and then do skincare/makeup right after. In my opinio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 11:27 PM
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Interesting comment! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 02:02 AM
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Yes, I love this. All of it. To me, positive masculinity is... ...when my husband works all day at the company that he’s building, comes home and plays with them/helps with dinner and bedtime, then when the rest of us are in bed, works on side projects or fixing up the house. ...when my husband brings his unique point of view to our conversations, no matter the topic. He always has insight and ideas that are different than mine. ...when my husband carries our two older kids upstairs in his arms,…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 06:10 PM
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Do you know your enneagram type? You sound like an 8 (like me 😂🙈). Learning more about that might help you in your introspective endeavors.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 06:04 AM
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On my first date with my husband (who I met on okcupid!!) I wore bright (BRIGHT) green skinny jeans and a vintage wool thermal long sleeve shirt that was navy/red/white striped. Probably not very RP-approved. But I was a Portland hipster and my husband was super into it. He wants me to find a pair of green jeans to wear now! As far as how to “present” yourself to a potential dude, I recommend the Fascinating Girl (not F. Woman) book by Helen Andelin (spelling?). She lays it out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 05:59 AM
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Mm. Interesting post, but I don’t totally agree. My husband is my best friend. I’ve always felt strongly that that is the case. Our personalities just... mesh, resulting in a strong sense of companionship. I know many happily married couples who do not call each other best friends. But I honestly don’t know if I ever could have married someone who I didn’t feel BFF vibes with! It was something I sought out.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 04:30 AM
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Omg, yeah. Great question, OP. For me, it was the night we were talking about fantasy futures and he very hesitantly said that he hoped to be with a woman who would stay home with the kids. He was hesitant, I think, because we live in a super liberal city where SAHMs seem to be in the minority (or, at least, are not celebrated in any way). I was sold. He was the first guy I’d dated who had that desire. He’s also just such... a MAN, but in all the positive senses. 😍
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 05:15 AM
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I’m sorry OP! Dating is hard. I lived in Portland in my 20’s so I was in a similar boat. I dated a lot of guys who didn’t share my faith, which was dumb and a waste of time. But at 26 I met my husband on okcupid (ha!) and he is amazing. So, don’t delete your profiles online, you never know who might turn up! Also, are there ANY younger congregations in your area? I feel your frustration about there seemingly only being married couples... but maybe they have single friends or brothers? Making [fe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/19 05:06 AM
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I was in a similar relationship years ago and while I was in it, it felt like I was living in this grand romance that other people must be jealous of because it involved so much passion and returning to each other over and over... now I look back on it and I am genuinely embarrassed. It was a hot mess. Sigh. Don’t be me! 💕
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 12:05 AM
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I just want to add... I feel like there will be much better options for you. This is not a “great love story” with a sad ending. This is two people, at varying levels of relational dysfunction, hurting each other. You’re well to be out of it (I don’t even think ghosting was that bad of you), and you’re well to STAY out of it! I wish you all the best!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 11:35 PM
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Thank you very much :}
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 07:26 PM
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Ooh, yeah. I think we all have a sort of subconscious expectation that our path will mirror our parents’. My mom had me at 30 so that’s probably why I didn’t sweat it. I perceive that there are pros and cons for both having kids younger and having them older... but either way it will be great and you should do whatever makes sense for you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 07:25 PM
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Hmm! I had my first at 29, second at 30, third at 32, and I’m planning on having a fourth at 34. My fertility is bomb! I don’t think you need to worry very much, unless your OB has given you reason to believe that your fertility has an early exp. date.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 07:00 AM
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Yes, thank you. I've never heard someone express an opinion on Rand so close to my own. 💕👌🏼
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/17 01:26 AM
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Hey, just FYI I didn't see your comment as negative or aggressive at all! Ugh, I wish I could elaborate with specific examples, but my memory for tv shows is so bad, AND I'm super nauseous from morning sickness, so it's hard to think at all, period. I guess in general I felt like there were a lot of scenarios where one of the women would try to "fix" something about a man, and it would blow up in their face. Or they would adopt some feminist principal, and at first it would make them feel powerf…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 06:26 PM
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That's funny because I actually think the show has some good RP wisdom, if you're willing to learn from the characters' failures... both in maintaining long term relationships, and choosing men in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:14 AM
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Never ever speak of the movies!!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/17 04:12 AM
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Seconding - go for it (again!). Just be realistic, you still have to keep your wits about you and make sure he's good mate material. I think past relationships are easily romanticized, so just keep that in mind. You say you've changed in 3 years, and he may well have too, so make sure you were growing in the same direction!
/r/RedPillWives23/11/17 05:27 PM
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It's not that our kids are the family focus, it's that our family is. Right now, that involves very needy small children. We're best friends, don't worry!
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 06:53 PM
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My two tips: Whole 30 Barre
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 06:41 AM
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The thing I didn't expect was how absolutely obsessed I would be with my kids. Before I had kids, I was hanging out with one of my cousins and she said something off hand along the lines of, "I mean, I love [husband], but I LOVE my kids." At the time, I was kind of put off. I was of the mindset that I could never love someone more than I love my husband. WRONG. I don't know if it will change as my kids get older (they're 1.5 and 2.5), but they are my world. But my husband feels the same way. It …
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 06:39 AM
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Yes, exactly. I acted as comfortable as I could with being "just friends". No clinginess! No begging/badgering. I put myself in the position to be pursued. RP 101.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 03:12 PM
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I got my husband to initiate "the talk" with me, when we were dating, by introducing him to people as "my friend".
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/17 01:34 AM
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Hmmm. My advice given your specific concerns/anxieties would be twofold. One: don't act clingy/nervous. Two: have more sex (while you can) and talk about sex in a sexy way while he's away. I would be so overwhelmed if my husband and I were long distance for a while, and he is very loyal/I'm the only woman he knows exists. I imagine it's much harder for you!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 04:00 AM
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Yes, this is what I got from it as well. Just... maybe a slightly too verbose and enthusiastic expression.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 12:07 AM
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Boom. This. Men love to earn things.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 12:03 AM
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I messaged my now husband of 5 years on OKCupid first. Ha ha! It was kind of my only option, because I couldn't have been sure he would ever have seen my profile. But I did wait until he asked to meet in person!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/17 11:47 PM
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ugh, I wish I could tell you... we just started attending a new church, and while I do hope to make friends there, most of the women there seem to be... just... not on my level. That combined with some deep convos with close friends who it turns out do NOT agree with me on many topics has left me feeling pretty lonely. Sigh. Good luck to us both!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 04:50 AM
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I'm gonna go out on a limb and suggest that it's not that men are intimidated by your academic conversations - it's that they're bored by them. I dated a few guys in STEM and a lot of the time when they started talking about it, I would find my interest flagging in a major way. It didn't impress me or make me feel alienated - it just made me feel like the dude was not able to read his audience (me) very well. If the guy you're dating isn't coming from the same academic background as you, I would…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 07:23 AM
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Virgin til marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/17 02:52 AM
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I am religious, just fyi, BUT... in my 20's I dated (stupidly) a lot of non-christian guys. Only once did a dude end the relationship because I wouldn't have sex with him. The other 6ish guys didn't mind AND I was the one who ended the relationship. Also TWO of them asked me to marry them. I happily married my same-worldview husband at age 27, after dating for one year (so, engaged at 6mo. of dating). We met on okcupid, ha ha! We have two kids now. I honestly think that if you're confident with …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 10:58 PM
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I'm gonna slightly go against the flow and say this: you totally don't have to know if you want to have kids yet. Think about it. Take your time. Also.... I always wanted to have kids, and had my first when I was 29. BUT - "wanting" a kid, and the emotional effect of having a kid are SO disproportionate. Like, I wanted to have a kid at a desire level of probably 8-9/10. How much I care about my kids now: 1000000000000000000000000000/10. If BAM you woke up tomorrow and were 39 weeks pregnant and …
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 10:12 PM
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I think everyone in this thread is [projecting their personal morality], actually. That's what internet commenting is all about, and I'm surprised that it... well, that it surprised you. :}
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 09:59 PM
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Ok. I'm just going to say this: don't marry him. Literally do whatever it takes to cancel the wedding. Like ask your bff to send out cancellation notices, and have the conversation with your fiance today. This is not a RPW issue. This is a "woman about to marry a man she WANTS to love, but doesn't ACTUALLY love" situation. And the best advice in that situation is always abort mission. Think about waking up a month from now, free to do what you want, where you want, with whomever you want. You'll…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 08:41 PM
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You get me 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 03:54 PM
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Seconding the dude poster that you're being too cool about this. Not that you need to instantly divorce him, But I would say it would be fair to ask him to stay somewhere else until he's ready to talk to you about it. Do not go on as if nothing is amiss. Something huge is wrong. And: NONE OF IT IS YOUR FAULT. Your comment, "I get it..." is really disturbing. There is nothing to "get" here. Again, I'm not saying you have to hate him, or leave him. In fact, I would suggest not doing those things. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 08:39 PM
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I totally feel you. I am 31 and we have 2 kids under 2, and sooo often we look at each other and one of us will say "why didn't we do this 5+ years ago??" Well, one reason is that we didn't even know each other 5 years ago.... So, while I totally get the emotional side of it, I also think you're in a fine fine fine place to have kids, and I can't think of a reason why you wouldn't be able to! :} The only tip I can give, just because it worked for us both times, is pre-seed lube. Sperm friendly a…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 12:14 AM
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What's weird is that a lot of us are married? 😘
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 07:12 PM
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I dunno. I see it a little different. My husband and I are one in marriage, and as "one", we prioritize our children. So, when I have to deal with the kids before him, or he has to deal with them before me, it's US putting THEM first, even if only one of us is acting. Because honestly, if we're talking about percentages of time and/or energy... I'm definitely closer to the 99% mom end of the spectrum. Especially since I'm a SAHM. I literally do more for the kids and spend more time with them. So…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 10:35 PM
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