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That isn’t the point mate. It wasn’t about whether or not to cry in front of women…it was about criticizing OP for that instead of focusing on the real issues. It’s blaming OP for something emotional and it’s obnoxious. Stand down.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 03:34 PM
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“Stop crying in front of women” is your view based on your experience. Other people have different experiences. Either way, telling someone what to do (or not do) is judgment. You may not see it that way, but stop doing it because it’s obnoxious (there, does that feel like judgment)?
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 10:25 PM
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My STBXW is dating her version of the same guy (who was booted by his wife years ago for cheating - and is broke - a real catch), and they were away with my kids this weekend. It’s maddening but as everyone says, there’s nothing we can do about it. I keep working on acceptance but damn it’s hard. Stay strong and you’re not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 07:41 PM
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I disagree with this…don’t criticize the OP for crying when his wife walked in and dropped an atomic bomb on him. Come on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 07:29 PM
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Been there.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/23 12:12 AM
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Great post…and so on point.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 02:18 PM
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mine were 7 and 4 when it began. I was exactly like you. Now it's been two years. it gets better. never good, but better. Unfortunately, there's no good answer. Time and focusing on them and knowing they need you...will be key.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 10:22 PM
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Your ex and mine moved onto the same dude.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 10:15 PM
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She left. By definition, she's not thinking about their well-being. Mine did the very same thing and the scumbag was on the scene in front of my kids almost out of the gate. Also, don't believe a word she says about the situation, even with what she tells her mom. Ask me how I know.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 10:14 PM
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Amen.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 02:46 PM
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I agree. He is clearly a victim but he’s also an adult and the time is now for change. I would characterize it as an opportunity for both of you, and for you to be vulnerable a bit. “I will always be here for you, but I’ve been hurt by your decisions and I feel strongly that our sitting down to discuss our relationship will benefit both of us tremendously. I want to listen to you and also share my perspectives.”
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 02:46 PM
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Amen. If they loved us, they couldn’t have done these things. I remind myself of that every day when I fall into a trap of putting her on a pedestal. She’s not the person I thought, and maybe she used to be or maybe she never was, but it doesn’t matter: she’s not that person now.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 10:29 PM
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Listen, a lot of us have been there. Mine cheated and walked out with no warning or effort, taking 50% of my kids time with me, which is my life, and financially dropped a bomb on me. Your child NEEDS you. You have to go inside yourself and remember who you are, and how important you are - not just to your child - but your family and friends. It is not an option to give up. So once you take that off the table, you now move into, “OK, how can I make this better?” And it’s effort. It’s finding spi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 10:25 PM
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It’s not a gender thing…the reasoning applies to men and women. That’s why aI said “people who file” rather than “women who file.” Good people who have children and make commitments to their spouse - real commitments - don’t just walk out on those commitments without giving their very best effort. If you call that “bending over backwards,” then you’re destined to fail. I call it living a life of integrity, honoring your obligations and putting your kids and family ahead of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/23 12:16 AM
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History does matter. There are people who file who are abused, dealing with addiction, etc., and I get that…but just filing because you’re bored with your family or because someone else shows up that you think is better, is so selfish and horrendous that there are no words. How about that fool that just dumped his wife that he’s been dating since high school and young kid (less than a year old) for Ariana Grande? What a horrendous person. So again, the history matters.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 02:02 PM
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You are 100% on point. Someone who puts zero effort into their marriage - never communicates an issue, never looks back - to hook up with an AP and destroys their family, marriage and kids’ childhoods is by definition a horrible mother, and there are no amount of fun days, trips, etc., that can redeem a person like that. The kids know. You have to be the rock, and you have to advocate for them. People like your ex screw up their kids (ask me how I know), and you’ve got to stop being nice (also a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 02:01 PM
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Agreed. Mine actually started sleeping in the same bed with her sleazy AP in front of my young kids before they even knew what was going on. Also making out with him and telling my son not to tell me. Never previewed it for me, never discussed it. There are some f***ed up people in the world. I married one.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:58 PM
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I love your attitude! And yes, time is a huge factor along with zero alcohol and exercising.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:30 PM
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I’m two years in…for over 6 months, she swore to me there was no one else. All of it were lies. The stuff I found out later was beyond the pale. The mask came off and I’m now dealing with Medusa. But I still tried for months and months to inspire her to value her family and the life we had (which was pretty amazing) because being away from my kids was too much for me to bear…but now I’m working on acceptance. She is, in fact, choosing to be with a broke-ass 50 year loser instead of her husband a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:29 PM
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Words of wisdom.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:24 PM
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I’m two years in and there are “okay” days and horrendous days. Accepting that the person I married was a complete mirage is no joke. Accepting that she lied, cheated and is now going to steal half my money is also no joke. Accepting that I don’t see my kids half the time is the worst of all. I keep reminding myself that yes, I deserve better, but that doesn’t always help with the feelings of emptiness, loss and being alone when I know my kids are running around with her and her absolute scumbag…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:23 PM
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I’m sorry brother. I’m going through this and have two good buddies going through it too. It’s insanity.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:20 PM
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one of the best comments I've ever read, and so spot on it's scary. not one word of discontent - in fact, just the opposite - and then gone with no regret or remorse - instead, I became a villain instantaneously and AP was the white knight. when pressed about never raising one issue, it was like watching a computer glitching.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:55 PM
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This comment is spot on. The difference a year can make with totally throwing away a family, including becoming a terrible mother, has taken 10 years off my life in terms of stress and worry about my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:53 PM
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Good to see you back brother! As you know, we're living the same life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:48 PM
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Same here.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:47 PM
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Exact same story. Hang in there brother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:45 PM
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Your ex is my ex...to a T. Even doing that stuff with AP in front of my young kids. Even never talking once about being unhappy, and then rewriting history after the affair. It's horrendous.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:44 PM
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same here
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:42 PM
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Easy Beta. You lose half the time with your kids for years to a person who has destroyed your experience as a father and husband to hook up with some jackass and also taken that time away from the kids, and you're in here criticizing someone's anger about that as "hate speech"?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:41 PM
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AMEN.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 01:36 PM
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I’ve been there and went through that same conversation and its aftermath. Horrendous. Beyond horrendous. And I live for every second with my kids. I was blindsided by a liar and cheater. I’m two years in and I’ve become an even better father. My kids and I are closer than we ever could have been because our time is about us and nobody else, and they know I’m their stable parent. You’ve got this!
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 03:05 AM
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Please don’t do this. I’m in the same boat, with two kids…but you matter so much to them. You have to remind yourself that you would only be causing them worse lifelong pain than you’re feeling right now, and I promise it gets better. I’m 2 years in and relatively functional during the times I don’t have them. It’s not easy but it’s worth it. You can do this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 02:58 AM
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