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LVM MYTHSAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:36 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:59 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:04 PM
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REMINDER 👑Aksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:00 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:37 PM
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How-To High ValueAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:51 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:58 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:49 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYAksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:45 PM
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Story time ☕Aksentia_Ivanovitcha/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:23 PM
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If he really seriously considered the option youll tell him no, and he told you "no hard feelings", it makes sense youll understand he values you enough to still want to be your friend even after a "no". If that was the case he shouldve been affirming you that he still likes you even after you told him no. He may be hurt and not as easily friendly for some time but if you had a connection beyond sexual hed want to make sure you know hes okay and still wants to be in your life. Thats what i did a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 09:57 PM
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Water them once a week and dont forget to open the blinds every morning so they can get as much sunlight as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 06:05 PM
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Truly. Its def not part of the manual nor did i ever see any user claim i must maximize my looks. It is actually stated in the manual that this is not a sub that deals with appearance, as theres plenty of other subs that do it. We have here many active convos engaging with non-conventional beauty and how to navigate dating if youre a woman who resists beauty norms. So easy to take the posts dealing with "getting back at men/using men", most of which written humurously and clearly not as strategy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:58 AM
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It definitely is. Not only do they never even bother giving her orgasm, they usually expect one sided sexual acts and get annoyed they dont get a blow job whenever they want, even though they never bother giving anything in return. When you reach the point you must pester your partner for sex, it means sex with you is a bad experience. How oblivious can you be not to see it? Theyd also be the sorts to get offended when you dont "give them a chance" and be "patient". If you were good i would not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:08 AM
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Idk if i will go happily under the category of being "easy to please if you bother". True for many men to even do that is like a climb up mt. Everest. Im NASA. I just dont feel comfortable with hookups i guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:07 PM
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I dated a guy who only fullfilled part of the criteria, and i chose to focus on the parts i liked, not hyper focus on the ways hes not meeting my criteria. But i could only do that because we had a connection that was amazing. I never cared about his looks deficiancy as long as i felt like i was loved. I think if he was my precise type physically i may have had some difficulty separating? Idk. For me the moment i felt like he was not invested anymore his flaws became bigger and more difficult to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:00 PM
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I thought thats what i was doing but honstly i was just a blank slate for guys to experiment on cause i never felt comfortable or like i was given the option to explore myself by my rando sexual partners.. honestly not even by my long term partner. Men were always being really nice and they would basically beg me to say what i want to do, but i always had this icky feeling.. like, i need to really love you if im gonna let you know what i want, cause im too fucked up by body shaming and crazy bea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:16 PM
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Where were you in my twenties? I needed you 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:06 PM
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Shame he had to ruin her life till this moment. Im sure his appreciation will be expressed via flowerd and smiles and nothing substantial. I wonder where they sell "sorry i fucked up your life" cards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:40 AM
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Its not dismissal of your feelings when you ask a guy to pay you back and he mindsfu**s you into dissolving his debt. Your feelings shouldnt even be mentioned in this context. Its a matter of being decent with someone who helped you. Hes being a shit person and needs to be accountable. A judge is not mad about a person she finds guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:58 AM
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Funny how men see equality only when it suits them. Can a woman be smart like a man? Nah, here's biology explaining to you why. Can a woman's only group that is being critical about the dating world be anything but identical to the the toxic waste that is redpill? Nah, women will spiral down the rabbit hole just as men have cause their wildly different lived experiences and perspective cannot possibly affect the sort of groups they are able to form.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:13 PM
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And rightfully so. Completely agree with you that using biology to prove things about human behaviour never reachs a logical conclution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 02:58 PM
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Its not a person in charge thing, i think the best way is to spread awareness among women, not to tolerate uncaring behaviour, to see reality as it is, not to tolerate abusive behaviour in the name of vaugh biological philosophies. What fds are doing is amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 05:52 AM
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I think its pretty much the same as how animals behave only on a larger scale and some technological advancement. And thats nothing to be proud of. I dont find the animal kingdom of be a place i should draw my ideals from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:26 PM
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Yup. Not sure how we got to talk about that though. I think i shouldve made it clearer im not so much in favor of having debates that try to take direct lessons from biology / evolution theory into our complex society. I feel like engaging with biology arguments always leads to odd places and not really relevant cause nature is so random. I brought that quote because i recently found the book to be helpful in my case and because i thought it was a nice counter argument to an lv myth, but now i t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:46 PM
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That missile is def not grounded :) I am all for bettering the system or finding a new one if needed. And i love sci fi and i agree with your point about it. I do think though that the hypothetical reality you suggest would literally bind women who choose to have children to the sole role of childcare, blocking them from finding fullfillment in the workforce or outside of it. I also think the most radical change that could happen in our society, that is only slightly beginning to happen, is that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:35 PM
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Well u know im not so much in favor of recieving direct lessons from a pack of gorillas.. ageism is not okay, older ppl have alot of life lessons to teach us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:29 PM
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Lolz. Yea, idk, its the sort of thinking that is not very grounded and not very productive. Theres much more than money to raising children, no one should be subjected to doing all the labor by themselves. There is no replacement to having ppl personally invested in caring for a child. Mothers deserve to thrive and have lives outside of raising children, and thats incredibly hard for a single mom. I agree with you that women have been raising children by themselves since eternity, but that is a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:31 PM
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We could, if men will agree to pay child support for all babies. Though i still doubt it cause i think most women would rather not have children than shoulder the burden of raising them by themselves. Or idk, at least thats what im doing. Also, we could all then have all the stds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:30 PM
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Yea, the text is not so up-to-date in the way he chooses to describe some things. I still chose to bring this text because it debunks an lv myth. I personally think the goal of making claims men will sleep with any woman is to neg women, to make them doubt a man is with them because they are valuable and wanted. That way men can pretend to never be hurt by rejection. Either way its good you remind us that engaging with lv logic/myths is a downwards spiral. I dont regret posting it because i stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:14 PM
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The myth men must "spread their seed and mate with as many women as possible" is not cohesive with human history. Throughout human history the thing men care about the MOST is their name and lineage. Thats why royal bastards is a thing. The king cannot have unrecorded sexual relation, or share his mistress with other men, because then how will he know the baby she gives birth to has the almighty royal blood? Imagine if men were trying to sleep with as many women as possible while keeping track n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 05:46 PM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:02 PM
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Thats why you dont do those kind of convos on text... you gotta see the reactions a guy is having when you talk about your dreams and personal thoughts to be able to gauge if he even has the brain to percieve what youre saying. I fell for it too many times, super open convo on text, i feel like im heard and understood then i meet the guy and hes like 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:52 AM
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It is published 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:23 PM
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Kinda similar to obssesive limerence over a person you cant be with, its a safe outlet for scary emotions/needs. Very interesting, i didnt know that about porn but it makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:56 PM
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I tried to make the title clickbaity. Did it work? I know he claims to use mathematics but i think it was also relevant to say he was using biological info and all sciences are using mathematics so fine. It fitted better with the clickbait concept to say he was using biology. Sue me. Its a nice book to read for anyone suffering invasive and disruptive one-sided romances that keep them from leveling up. Kinda un-edited and male-centic, but it can give perspective, help you take a step back and pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:40 PM
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Honestly its a form of negging by men to overstate how low they can go with sexual partners, cause it can get their potential partner to always suspect she's just ugly and he sleeps with her cause he can. Its also a nice way to make their sexual drive seem like this mad beast. It really isnt. Picking a sexual or relationship partner has alot of psychological nuance and men will not sleep with a girl that does not satisfy some emotional need/fantasy for them. Stay tuned to a post im about to make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:26 PM
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They had better survival strategies because mysogeny was out in the open and not hidden under masks of liberality etc. But they couldnt have had any deep connection with their directly mysogenic partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:15 PM
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Women have never been better and it's a fargile thing that can be taken from us any moment, any social upheaval women will be among the first to pay the price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:52 AM
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Real value doesnt need lightworks. It attracts you without calling attention to itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:49 AM
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Yea, i also felt that alot with guys. I must disagree with you though, real emotional connection in relationships was never a thing. Real emotional connection wouldve made it harder for men to demand crazy cultural norms of you such as having no body hair at all time, taking on most house cleaning chores, engaging in his sex fantasies while accepting that "tHe cLIt is LIke RCkEt sCiEnce". Giving birth to his kids then raising them practically by yourself while contributing 50% of income and "mAK…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 06:38 AM
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Yea when your husband is lazy you adjust your need for sleep against your need to get your kids fed, educated and productive. Guess he doesnt have those needs so he can focus on his sleep. Dad of the year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 05:19 AM
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Id rather spend time with a person who's interested in ppl and avoid a person who sees other ppl as things any day of the week. The magnitude of self centeredness needed to see my preferance as something weird or unjust is astounding, but frankly it's what i grow to expect from most men as i gain more experience with them. Which is why im very, very suspicious of men i meet. Seeing ppl as things is sociopaty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:53 PM
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Ah, the classic "i gave up something for you, now you give up something for me and we can live the rest of our lives feeling unfulfilled but satisfies in knowing we can live alongside the one who held us back, so we can spend our days avenging our grudges in many little ways".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:54 PM
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Dude, we're down for bragging, this is the place. Idk at least i love celebrating those achievements. If anyone is feeling hurt by your achievement they have problems. Personally im in the same boat as you - dont want kids, do want a relationship. I think about the type of men you describe as being part of the weather or scenery - if the weather is bad, you go inside. If the landscape is full of trashcans and roadkill, you go someplace nicer. I tried arguing, i even had a relationship of several…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:12 PM
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Guys autoswipe on tinder, he was rude cause she wasnt his type and he's an ass-hat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:26 PM
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I think it belongs under the spectrum of agression, it certainly not a benefic thing to do when it is done in order to provoke the person youre ignoring. I accept what youre saying, i shouldve called it a form of microagression or manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 01:08 PM
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Yea, youre right. Actually part of the vetting process is to examine how he treats other women, especially those he's not attracted to, waitresses and other service providers. We dont want to be "picked" by a guy who sees other women as subhumans, because it is a certainty one day we will be seen as subhumans too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:10 PM
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And like... its so hard for them because to be able to handle their anxiety issues they must acknowledge women have agency and it makes their peepee limp so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 12:04 PM
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Makes you a sociopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:48 AM
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Or, you know, they "emotionally connect" and he can unpack some of his woes on her then ignore her for a month till he feels the need again for his sex toy/psychologist/cleaning lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:01 AM
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Stds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:58 AM
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Better yet figure out why you want him to think about you and does he deserve to be in your thoughts. Ignoring someone on purpose is a violent act, i dont think fds recommends doing that for ppl who are relationship material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:52 AM
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When you dont respect yourself self respecting ppl are repelled by you. So she basically has no access to better things till she betters herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:49 AM
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Idk why it seemed so cool in my twenties. Sounds so childish and toxic now lol. She wants to outplay the player and get what she considers to be the best guy to enrich her ego. While he's not into getting her heart, he's into enriching his ego via turning every woman he wants into his sex buddy. A match from heaven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:41 AM
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Im saying shes being toxic here too, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:55 AM
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Yea.. i mean you can see your partner's faults in a loving light when youre together for a long time, because you love and accept your partner (though routinely dropping pants by the bed knowing your wife will pick them up is more of a shitty lifestyle choice than a flaw). Adoring your partner's dropped pants is very self degrading. I always get the feeling women who make this vids do it as a way to emotionally manipulate their partner - "see how much i appreciate you publicly, now you cant leav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:24 AM
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Oh i thought the rates were for prints. So hes not even an artist, just a selfie by commision where you dont really get agency to determine whatll be in the pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:26 PM
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Hehehe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:21 PM
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How original. Never saw women portrayed like that before. We are so lucky he shares his oh so innovative vision. Something women need to see in themselves = yet another reminder that the male gaze exists. Wow, i almost forgot for a second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:13 PM
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You never been with a blond? I never been with a guy who invested thought and time exploring what causes me sexual pleasure I bet he never has either, thats why only difference he finds between sexual partners is hair color, weight and boob size. Thats also how you pick a sex doll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:51 PM
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👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:43 AM
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Notice how the guy in the second pic is already slightly threatening miss pickme? Seems like she found herself an incredible feeling of camaradery with a guy that basically told her she should shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 10:27 AM
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i want to read about his passions bummer that it got cutoff.. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:13 AM
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Went into the wiki page and also columbia uni website, both say its more prevalent in men, but since medicine is male-oriented and a high pitch voice for women is considered acceptable it makes sense women will be under diagnosed. Honestly your comment helped me reflect that i see plenty of women change the pitch of their voice out of anxiety from speaking with attractive men or sometimes as default to speaking with men in general. Guess its a pickme trait - look at me, im cute, etc. I too somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:51 AM
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Yea, thats why when you want to breakup its like reality is crashing for them, they accuse you of lying or of having emotional problems etc etc. They never take us seriously then are amazed when actions have consequences. Whod want to be with a guy who doesnt take her seriously? Its tough being far away from family, i was distant from mine too during my relationship, reconnecting now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:44 PM
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I can see what you mean by "gay voice", its not about the biological tonal range they have, it how they choose to use mostly the upper range and talk kinda fast and excitedly/emotionally. I think gay men talk similarly but not precisly like that. They mostly do it ironically or as a group mannerism, while men who speak in a high pitch do it only with women while their voice lowers when they talk to other men. They do it earnestly, i guess they may not even notice that they do it. For gay men thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:31 PM
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Sure thing, glad you are working on it. Hope your family has not been swayed by his gaslighting and that they support you in getting what you need. My ex tried calling my mom to convince her im having a mental breakdown when i told him i want to separate. My mom and i spoke about my descision to separate from him prior, but she did not fight him or tell him she thinks im right, she just told him she trusts my judgement and she is knows i gave it serious thought and i know what i mean and what i …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:03 PM
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True, we must put a larger emphasis on the fact men BEG for our silence when they put on their pity plays, because when forgiven they not only gain the right to do it again, they get the undeserved grace to pretend like their misdeeds did not happen. Thats such a good deal. As long as their partner is invested in being with them she has an incentive to hide misbehaviour. As long as he listens and engages with those emotional convos he is considered a good guy, even if he never actually changes h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:29 PM
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Ill need to think about it because its an amalgamation, but ill give it a think. Basically, ive been in this type of relationship for a long time and only way out of it for me was to face those realities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:54 AM
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Poor men, so starved for love they must face the reality women are not hairless Really such a hard life we force upon them, such cruelty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:30 AM
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Especially when you feel like a person is mistreating you but you have problems standing up to yourself whenever hes not acting right so a little bit of word salad on his part and you go off to a different reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:58 AM
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Yup coping and analizing and figuring out things and processing emotions. Still though when daydreams get obsessive for me i can usually take a critical look at my surroundings and discover my room is messy, i am around ppl that are unpleasant, i have some health appointment to schedual, etc etc, all those things give me so much stress for some reason hence i daydream and regurgitate sad emotions to occupy myself instead of facing reality and changing it to suit me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:33 PM
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Im so used to daydreaming in my everyday life instead of engaging with my environment that it took time to recognize engagement is good even though daydreams make you feel better faster. I realised i cannot/dont want to completely remove this tendency from my mind and so i tried to fight it by designating times to daydream and times to engage with reality. When i recognize that im daydreaming in times im not supposed to i make sure not to be harsh on myself, just recognise "this is an invasive t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:19 PM
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Cultural criticism is okay and important but taking into account the audience who is going to directly engage with your comment is also important. Fds disabling men from this platform has given a place for important criticisms of women who wouldve gotten a bad spin had their audience not been screened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:17 PM
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Recently a guy who is trying to be a bigger presence in my life has been slow to reply to texts. We were not dating but he had something i needed and he made sure to take his sweet time and always claim to be busy. I knew this was a lost cause but i went through explaining my position anyways and ofcourse it made no difference, only gave him allowence to criticize me back without owning anything i said about him. Luckily for me i found what i needed someplace else. Several days ago he tried to c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 01:22 PM
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Yea, too "good" to be true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:20 AM
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I get that reasoning and thats a good argument, i needed that extra detail. Tnx. I guess i was just thinking seatwarmer situations only happen to extreme pickmes that follow the guy and do extra work getting nothing in return so the guy "agrees" to date. But yea, there are men who chase women indiscriminately (my ex sure was one 🤦‍♀️, before i expressed any interest in him he would say things about the children we will have etc etc and once i expressed mutual interest he was suddenly aloof, find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:02 PM
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I actually like another fds advice which is to reflect the energy you recieve - he takes forever to reply, you take forever too. Hes lukewarm, youre too. If he confronts you on lowering your effort, just say you were busy, and you both can pretend nothing happened and resume texting as you used to, unless he insists on resuming his tactics. Then i guess its hopeless. Men who try tactics will vehemently deny if you confront them because they know its lame and theyre embarrased that you caught the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:27 PM
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In what world can you ever come to someone and offer they make you a meal like theyre just dying to be of service to you in every way - and someone would accept it like, excitedly and not laugh in your face? Even if like the most wonderful person ever that i may limerent over for years would come up to me and say "make me breakfast as a date" i would laugh and refuse. Only person who can offer this passtime and i would grudgingly accept is close family members. And not all of them. Actually i wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:43 PM
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Lol im sure they have more going on behind the mask but i never bother to findout... seems like too much work, trying to discourage a guy from presenting his super alpha facade but not too much otherwise he might crumble into the other extrem and treat you like his mommy. And trying to figure out during all that work if he really has something to show behind his social mask. Makes sense men would take over the male beauty standard and make it as buff as possible because they live with this egoti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:35 PM
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Nice that you wrote that, ive been thinking of it for some time. I like parties and travel and i would appreciate to know a guy can earn for himself but its kinda not really giving me any personality... basically they all seem boring. I think its kinda childish and flat to present women with a front of "fun, casual, easygoing, financially stable guy" with nothing extra. And there are ways to show you have something extra without looking like a depressed bum, but it seems like most choose this bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:28 PM
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Yet another lovely ctachphrase. Yea, felt awful when i was doing hookups and was really insecure and had the silly notion men will ditch me if i seem too high effort. Like, on one hand i did feel a fear to lose male attention but the main thing preventing me from enforcing boundaries was that i always knew setting up boundaries and making demands of sexual partners would subject me to emotional manipulation and straight up verbal abuse by potential partners so i preferd to play dumb, let them ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:30 PM
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Be more upvoted please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:23 PM
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Yup, whenever ppl disregard male violence and plead women to be less picky, more patient, less mean, i remember ppl like him exist in the world and it really affects my will to look for a partner, just so i dont have to deal with meeting a guy like that or one of his more insidius versions, that dont broadcast all their woman-hating for the world to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:17 PM
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Nice one. Indeed why have kids at all but to each their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:25 AM
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If youre not attracted to him how can he be of value to you as a partner? I think theres plenty of good ppl out there but most were not meant to see my undies and thats okay. That being said its very weird to be back to the basics of a relationship, forming a connection again. I did not have such a great sexual attraction to my former partner but there was a pleasant sexual chemistry that grew really intimate and expressive and it feels insane to never engage in it or something similar to it aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:36 PM
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They get turned on by iciness as much as friendlieness. Theres no winning this. I think it comes from very very old traditions in which women were seen as their father's property and were not allowed to talk or even look at other men without their father agreeing to it. Not even their brothers. I think most men who will go crazy over minimal treatment are those who sympatise with such worldviews, so basically any thing you do of your own volition as a woman without your father consenting to it -…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 01:46 PM
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Glad i never met anyone who dared make the eugenics claim like that.. a heavy contender for the title of "most unsexy way to try to get sex". Also men who post that claim online seem to think the next woman who reads their opinion will let the next unattractive guy she meets impregnate her in the name of equality? Men who see women as having a duty to be "fair", basically have no sense or hope for romance and seem to me like the most boring ppl on earth. Im guessing they belong to the category o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:54 PM
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Last sentence is a suggestion for a really good vetting strategy - men who are sure they never do anything problematic and never did - it means they are not aware (or more probably they ignore) how insidious mysogenic ideas are. No woman is going to benefit from mixing with a guy that is not willing/able to recognize that simple fact... let him be lonely till he has no choice but to face reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:33 PM
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Being in a male dominated field feels really hopeless at times, like youll never get appreciated, and you have to work much harder till you gain some reputation and seniority. Then new women come along and they are so happy to see you already here, and you can make their work environment accepting and so much easier than what you had going in. That look of relief when they see theres another woman already there, and the way they look up to you, is very rewarding and empowering 😎 And then you can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:10 PM
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Seemed off while reading it not knowing he was over 10 yrs your senior, knowing it just makes him seem to me like a sort of leech. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 04:35 PM
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Srsly in desperate need. Seems like all shows who do choose to showcase in their main characters some hv behaviour towards women can never keep that harmony going in the secondery plots. I dont mind seeing nagging wives, abusive wives, cheating, cuddling, insane, whatever. But give the whole picture, because using tropes is lazy writing and alienates 50% of your audience, who see their real life experience being grossly misrepresented and being given less thought and planning than the set design…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:07 AM
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Handsom little boy? Ugh, i hate being in culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:07 PM
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A guy into casual sex is not afraid of std's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:04 PM
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Niiiiiiiiiiice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:42 PM
63

Schrodinger's douchbag is a great name
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:10 AM
3

Second this, several years ago i went to a religious woman's only gym and it was such a nice change. Nobody is dressed for show and you can focus on doing the ugly work properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:45 AM
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Well duh. Now that theres a sTUdY, can men of this world please stop crying about and start working on not looking like bags of chips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:33 AM
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The guy that wrote this is amazing and i wish him all the best. This is the kind of text i really needed to read because it describes basically everything that happened in my relationship with my ex. His final note to other narcisists - is the sort of complaints my ex had for me since day one and i had no idea what to do with them, it just made me feel like shit and it took forever to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:53 AM
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Saved that image! Your text was harsh but i saw no lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:45 PM
3

What a shitty human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:53 PM
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Loooooooool So glad men are able to "raise awareness thanks to internet" Was also intrigued to learn that "even men in the western world" live in "a womanist society" What does he mean by "use a woman's youth"? Interenting. Also interesting that he is into "high scale networking", seems like hes a real professional of networking. Love how he is predicting the future by gazing into "ism" movements. You can tell redpill is better because it doesnt have an "ism" at the end. FDS also doesnt have an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:33 PM
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Lol! Make it into a post please 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:52 AM
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Thats also kinda funny cause tattoes are basically scratches, not bullfights Never had any heavy cover tattoo though I liked your sum up of that double standart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:33 AM
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I was actually into seeing how many scrotes read into the comment section 🐾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:17 AM
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Just remembered that "resting bitch face" implies women need to always emote happiness and congeniality otherwise they are a bitch. To rest for a woman is to be a bitch basically. Another reason why men allow themself to be rude when it comes to tattooes, because tattooes are the opposite of the virginal blank slate image that is expected of women... men get offended you would messup your factory presets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:14 AM
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Theres a heaviliy tattooed guy i know, one day we talked and a 40 something weirdo came up to him and took his picture without asking. He just smiled and said hes a sort of celebrity for some ppl. Men get empowered by having tattooes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:01 AM
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Because of the experiences you describe i also avoid getting more visible tattooes, though i really want to. I have one tattoo that is in a very prominent place and even that tiny thing manages to get me all kinds of unwanted attention in weird places. Im not really happy about my situation either because i feel like im giving in to opression. Recently i started exploring visual self expression because i felt so so depressed and downtrodden. The bad part of "normal signaling" is that the groups …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:52 AM
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He almost had this. He was so close. When he said "hundreds of guys compenting for what is essentially one woman" i knew that once again the message has passed him by and left nothing but more entitelment and self righteousness. No, dummy, the problem is not that all men fight for the same woman. The problem is that all men send insane amount of messages to all women with no discernment or sense of taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 05:21 AM
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Ha ha what a genuine guy so charming im charmed hope he finds a girl that would build him up to be the man he wants to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:57 AM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:40 PM
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U misunderstood me. I did not recommend hookups, i did it in the past, it was not smart and i am still suffering the reprecutions. Also, dont use the phrase "i dont do hookups cause im being a lady", thats male serving terminology, not doing something because ppl will percieve you as ladylike or not. The reasons we dont do things are because they are not healthy, not adding to our wellbeing, or when we just dont feel like it. Happy you are taking care of yourself, keep on and dont give up. ❤.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 12:36 PM
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And how are things for you nowadays? Dont worry, i had my fair share of sleeping around.. it made me feel less bored and insulted by men's lack of caring and investment. Also tried having a long term relationship with a guy that was meh thinking the situation might improve, naturally he only got even lazier. I need to find someone intelligent, caring and with emotional depth. Calling the universe ☎️ 🍀🍀🍀🍀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:46 AM
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Next time theyll call me suicidal for taking precautions against life threatening stds. Oh wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:24 AM
3

Thats a good comment 👍 you phrased it much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:18 AM
4

Am i posting too much? ✒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 11:15 AM
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Hey i got the sui**de auto message from reddit, lucky for me im a seasoned fds'er and i know redpillers do it to ppl who post things that are so reasonable they cannot argue with...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 07:45 PM
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Right. Were so obssessed with OLD conditioning, treating ppl like gold coins or xp its so dumb. All to neg us to be free prostitutes. "Oh, the veriety is so big now you have to be decisive." A guy running off to match with someone else is just giving me a clear message that he doesnt find me compatible to his satisfaction, and im happy for him he kept on looking. When someone is attractive to you they haunt your mind. You dont mind waiting for them. It doesnt matter if you met them via old or re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:46 PM
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Pickme in recovery gal here. Had i ever tried to meet anyone just via dating i can see myself caving to the stress of negging for sex just because at a certain stage i may not know what else to do with a guy. Even if we go together to all the attractions in my town and have various fun things it still feels like a too one-dimentional way to get to know a person. Only guy i managed to get into a long term relationship with, it only happened because we shared many common activities anyways and jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 05:16 AM
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Every man telling you hes not into never having sex is obviously lying. They love celibacy! Otherwise why would they make every possible effort to be a turn off to women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:41 AM
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"I have npd and youre a table!" Thats a beginning for a student art film. As if this sub doesnt have a major focus on how to recognize and cope with the understanding 99% of men are virtue signalig narcisists...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 06:49 AM
7

What if we all just decided to stop shaving? Its really absurd we all do it and pretend to like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:40 PM
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Ewe that psaudo science they use sometimes is so cringy like i feel whomever wrote it wrote it in a furry suit while watching cartoons and spying on his neighbors. That being said, im glad you turned their argument on its head. i agree with you wholly on the advantages of having knowledge and not being "bonded" to ppl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:22 PM
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When a guy is grosser than a used pad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:16 PM
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I love it, joy and peace is something we think we cant have in true love. I think no love can grow when theres no joy or peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:12 PM
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OMG, they have to be likeable to be in a relationship?? The horror! FDS are heros. "It was nothing shocking to most women but traditional dating advice has seen a resurgence in current time’s, due to the constant media propaganda aimed at women to lower their standards and expect nothing of men except a cold coffee in exchange for sterile half assed sex and potential STI’s/abuse." That's right!! That's exactly how it felt like, that's why i stopped hookups and got into a relationship, and thay's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:45 AM
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Yup. Today i had the thought ive three generations of lv ppl on all sides, men and women. Good, decent ppl that did good to the world, but lv in their relationships. Cheating, not helping, judgemental, abusive, cheap and ofcourse, pickmies (except for one grandma who divorced her husband at 60, started going to craft lessons and made me handmade gifts every birthday).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:56 AM
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Thats why you dont see ppl who sell vegetables and ppl who sell real estate hang out at the same places
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:48 AM
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idk if its worth the emotional investment.. when a person is consistently not taking responsibility for behaviour that can cause harm to himself, me or my property i dont think any amount of anger will help. Something is off, im no ones therapist, and i dont want do be around ppl who hurt themself, property or me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 04:57 PM
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Than he has to find ways to prevent himself from doing it. In OP's case, like most commenters suggested, she might have been very tired from her schedual and from her unhealthy relationship. If we suppose she did other mistakes that cause a health hazard (which we dont really know from the post, scatterbrained could be many things) its her responsibility to identify what gets her to make those mistakes, i think she already identified a major problem in her life and got rid of it in a very clean …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:23 PM
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Yea huh, he didnt call to say sorry or make up for his behaviour, wasnt even on his mind. I hate that kind of ppl that go around punishing and giving lessons to others. And whenever their "lessons" dont impress anyone they go into misunderstood hero/genious mode. My personal red flag is when a guy gives around lessons and criticisms and always has an opinion on everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:05 PM
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They'd "make" us more radical? Theyd need to understand what it is they are trying to escalate to be able to do escalate anything...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 11:22 AM
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Nice way to see your partner's priorities - a fleshlight, a stinky shirt, and not communicating. He prefered a stinky shirt to a naked dance from her. Red flag city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:59 PM
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Ty for reading ❤. Def felt like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:50 PM
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Heh. Another long comment. Hi :> So confusing too. My ex could get so defensive and emotional, make me pity him about his behaviour like im mean for asking basic things. I cant tell here the biggest one cause its too indicative of my location but like... we were on a trip together. He did most of the planing because ive no experience at planning hiking routes and he hiked solo several times in the past. He was complaining for days about how he has to do all the planning on his own because im too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:38 PM
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Im always polite but i make sure to give my voice some annoyed/curt tone and answer without much detail, unless i need something from them (like when they sell something i want to buy etc). They seem to like that approach too so not no decrease in the creep factor but at least it saves me the job of masking my contempt. Be true to my feelings while im being infantilised and objectified by creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:27 AM
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You are what you consume 💯. Last night i hade a dream of dyeing the roots of my hair even though my hair is not grey yet and i always wanted to have grey hair 🤷‍♀️ I kinda liked that dream, age happens to everybody and dreaming about my body changing and becoming older will help me deal with it when itll actually happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:30 PM
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As long as we got out of it ❤ It was a dark and lonely place to be in as a woman because this fetish culture is so uncaring about female pleasure, safety and comfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 03:22 PM
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I used to engage in fetish and watch porn excessively, basically since i became a teenager, like a compulsion. Choosing to engage with instant male gratification helped me cover up many emotional problems while making new problems - like developing a very violent mindset. Luckily i became disillusioned during my last relationship and the time was right to face some major questions about myself and my life. Excessive engagement with sexual gratification is a sign you need therapy, not a natural s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 06:32 AM
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Yup they need to get some help for their boring abusive mind. The sort of fantasies you CHOOSE to develop say alot about you. Fantasies dont come to us out of thin air. They are cultural, they are influenced by trauma, and most importantly they have to be conciously engaged with to exist. So men who consume rape porn WORK at developing that fantasy. Its not a compulsion. Its the flavore they chose to have in their life. Many men subscribe to social values as if they are god given, because they g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 05:56 AM
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It needs to be on a t shirt, framed on the wall, and basically every printable surface
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:30 PM
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Nice one 🌸 I mean the convo still has to go and you will share info he can potentially imitate, and i guess that sentence will go right over his head if he is a person who imitates as a lifestyle. So its not a real vetting strategy, just a sort of way to convey to a potentially hv man that you are also hv or aspiring to choose your partner according to hv principles. And also a nice comback for an annoying question. A guy once asked me: "who you ARE? What type of person ARE you?". "Im a fu**ing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:39 AM
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Tough love is what women needed for a very long time. 💪 This sub needs to be global. I want to see it on the news.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:20 AM
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To marry and take out his bitterness on his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:02 AM
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Completely agree, its alot of emotional investment for a guy that is not worth it. I dont think she did it for him or her. Seeing a breakup in action can give courage. I think for some women this is really progressive, daring action in itself, and some live in situations that are so punishing and unfair that punishing themselves even further for how they were decieved will make progress dificult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:22 AM
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The energies she has after the convo are really amazing. She couldve been crying but instead she is empowered by taking control of this situation. Im happy for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:00 AM
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Well since its deleted i guess probably it was fake. So i dont want to repeat it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:09 AM
3

Thats insane. Is that new? Is that a law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:47 PM
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Oh cool a guy saw in my comment that i used to like random convos with strangers so he hit me up for a random convo. That was very much in the spirit of my comment, because i just wrote how to level myself up i stopped doing random convos. Much sophistication. Very interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:50 AM
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Those convos were always lame and needy. I loved doing them and still feel the need to do them on occassion but its kinda risky, you are always tempted to share way more than you should with a total stranger you may meet some day irl and he might turn out to be not so worthy of your trust. So... i dont do emotional midnight convos with strangers and try to channel those energies to afternoon convos with ppl i actually know and have my best interest even if they are not the projection of a perfec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 06:21 AM
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Yes. This is a great observation. They act as though you can do what you like and that sex is for shared pleasure but they will do a shitty job giving you pleasure till you give up asking. But gawd forbid you stop doing your best for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:54 PM
3

What sadness but also lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:43 PM
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I always wondered how it is i seem to make so many dirty dishes while my male flatmates almost never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:49 PM
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Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:56 AM
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Crazy. What type of shitty workplace takes his workers to a strip club? So many layers of cringe and lameness and inconsiderate to the extreme. So great that they speak up about it, those men who work in "cool places" lure you in to their circles and making you imagine youll be on a level with them, learn and evolve but its all a shitty joke. They need a butt and youre it. Will read the article for sure. Also, in the fine art world so many ppl love doing "meaningful" work about male body image a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:55 AM
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Crazy. What type of shitty workplace takes his workers to a strip club? So many layers of cringe and lameness and inconsiderate to the extreme. So great that they speak up about it, those men who work in "cool places" lure you in to their circles and making you imagine youll be on a level with them, learn and evolve but its all a shitty joke. They need a butt and youre it. Will read the article for sure. Also, in the fine art world so many ppl love doing "meaningful" work about male body image a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:53 AM
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Crazy. What type of shitty workplace takes his workers to a strip club? So many layers of cringe and lameness and inconsiderate to the extreme. So great that they speak up about it, those men who work in "cool places" lure you in to their circles and making you imagine youll be on a level with them, learn and evolve but its all a shitty joke. They need a butt and youre it. Will read the article for sure. Also, in the fine art world so many ppl love doing "meaningful" work about male body image a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:52 AM
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Crazy. What type of shitty workplace takes his workers to a strip club? So many layers of cringe and lameness and inconsiderate to the extreme. So great that they speak up about it, those men who work in "cool places" lure you in to their circles and making you imagine youll be on a level with them, learn and evolve but its all a shitty joke. They need a butt and youre it. Will read the article for sure. Also, in the fine art world so many ppl love doing "meaningful" work about male body image a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:52 AM
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When a man yells he has more power than a woman yelling. He knows he can shut you up by scaring you but he pretends like he doesnt. He refuses to understand a man yelling is scarier than a woman yelling and that his yelling is an easy way to shut you up whenever you express an uncomfortable opinion, to make you cave in fear (everything else to do with the difference between men and women, he very comfortably understands excellently, and will lecture you happily for hours).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:54 AM
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My ex liked to say "youd change your mind just wait" and smile smugly at me. Our relationship was not good on several fronts but i think that sentence was the main catalyst for breaking up becauae its so threatening... like, he is basically informing me that he wants to chip away at my boundaries and core beliefs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:53 AM
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First - imovie, next - HOLLYWOOD!!! I've a feeling this is way better than anything redpill ever produced :) i know a bit of editing though im no gen z and my knowledge is not in marketing.. still though id be happy to help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:48 AM
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I think you describe right wing viewing women being privat property vs. Left wing viewing women as Public property. Others phrased it much better somewhere on the sub. Its a nice feeling to be in a better place and be able to put into words convoluted thought processess that in the past you were unable to understand where they came from :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:36 AM
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Ppl need to just adopt if parenting is so important for them. Their genes cant be that special, its a form of narcicism to claim otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:39 AM
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That is so real. At the end of our first real breakup talk my ex cuddled up to me and called me "mummy". I was disgusted he would call me that after breakup talk, and immidiately got away from him. Things started to click. It felt so wrong to find myself in this situation and realising this is the direction our emotional bond is taking. Its really deeply embarrasing to understand your bf sees you in this way so i was not happy bringing it up, but your post really detangles this complex and helps…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 07:14 AM
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"You earned my respect by not sleeping with me"= "i think you have a need to hear that i respect you before you agree to hookup. Because every communicatiom with a woman involves guessing the password to unlock her pu**y".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:43 PM
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Im having an epic breakdown because im moving away from the city my ex lives in, i basically cried for three hours yesterday. Feeling like ill never love anyone like i loved him. Im mesmerised by those vids because they contain something that was truly missing in my previous relationship and its good to see it celebrated. That look of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:23 PM
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Hope you feel better, good luck! Its really great that you know yourself. A partner of less than two years or so really has no ability to help your daily life. He doesnt know you yet that well! Youre still observing eachother and it takes time and effort to get to know a potential partner. You want to invest that time, you just dont have it right now. He was sure he found a needy target and is upset that he was wrong. GOOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 07:43 AM
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Ty. Its a matter of consistently trying i guess. After writing this comment ofcourse i got messaged by some idiot with porn as the only thing in his post history. Is he even for real, how can someone with a functioning brain think what i wrote was a sexual invitation. Some men view female sexual troubles in such a fetishized way you cannot get any recognition of being a human with a problem when youre a woman and your problem has to do with sex. Thats why disclosing our problems and sexual inhib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:39 PM
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👑👑👑 And the more you invest time and energy in daydreams the harder it is to do the boring little things that make you feel so much better. The more you dream about others your self confidence and the dreams you have for yourself get eroded till you find yourself able to do absolutely nothing that makes you feel good, and it opens the fludgates for self punishing behaviours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:58 PM
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I find it to be kinda hard. Maybe its related to the sort of sex i had with my ex... he couldnt do anything pleasant for me without stopping mid action to tell me i have a zit or a hair or that i gained weight or whatever. I always had low body image, i was shamed for my looks since age 10, but i dont know it was ever that bad. All those commercials for skin care and hair removal and whatever are really horrible. I literally cannot enjoy my body without a random touch with a flaw activating a co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:05 PM
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Omg im so sorry i didnt realize the comment and post are the same person. I thought it was a guy saying what hed prefer to see... ill delete my comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:07 AM
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Shows he has not raped anyone or made anyone feel overly insecure. The type of person that woyld take pride in not being a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 08:01 AM
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Hi im a narwhal please pick me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:49 AM
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A friend of mine also had a guy who wouldnt hold her hand around other ppl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:53 AM
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Worms are friends. Dont remember where i heard it or in what context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 09:31 PM
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It is really so. Ive been for years so depressed because i percieved conflicts i had with men through my lenses. When i finally learned that yes, ppl can be that insensitive and stupid and still function in our society, wow, that made me so peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:41 PM
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Yesterday i was walking in the street at noon and was offered clients by a fat old guy sitting outside a store. What a toxic world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:37 PM
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Hey thats good for global warming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:12 PM
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Is this anti vaporwave? 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:57 PM
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Ewe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:35 PM
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I support mothers right to make their sons responsible for their shitty behaviour. Its not a mother's obligation to take abuse from her son. When you reach a certain age a mother's care has to be earned too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 06:53 PM
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Story time about being 'kept warm' for a guy's personal benefit. I made a very poor decision to ask a guy i work with if he liked me, and he basically said something along the lines of "we work together so doesnt matter". Very reasonable. Only, a few days later he came to work and basically told other ppl i came on to him, which made me feel very humiliated and has damaged my relationship with them. After that he moved to another place for a long time, and recently he came back. I always knew th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:50 PM
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She seems on the right track to spending some years of her life being ruthlessly critiqued and compared to other women, feeling too ugly and not worthy to be seen in public with her oh so charismatic and all knowing bf. My ex framed harsh criticisms as a form of loving, but i was unwilling to criticise him or cooperate with his harsh self-criticisms. I even tried to help him release his obsessions with bad things and see the positive side and the many talents he has. Naturally, any sane person r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:53 PM
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Oh we do it because women are irrational and need a man to explain to us how we feel and what we need and want. Duh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:43 AM
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I would watch a doco about it. Exhuming her would be a great ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:33 AM
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Meh. In my circles they would say that yes ofcourse and add in some psaudo-loving really cynical compliments ("we are already married" "yes hes hot i wish i was gay" etc.). Men are eachothers support system and give eachother respectful treatment, compliments, consideration of boundaries, because they know male friends are easier to lose if they dont act right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:24 AM
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My ex one day told me out of the blue "youre not really so versatile at sex like you think you are". Addmitedly i was not ready to think of my past experiences in a negative light yet (even though they mostly consisted of things i didnt enjoy and didnt feel like repeating), so i kinda took (silly) pride in my sexual "accomplishments" back then. That neg was meant to convince me i actually dont need any further sexual contact from him because i was not initiating weird sex things of the sort i to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:05 PM
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I like how that guy allowes himeself to rephrase "rape" to "sex on the first date with that guy". Either trolling or some freakshow muppet that vaughly resembles a human. Edit: third. But does it really matter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:48 PM
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I identify with always being told im too slow. It can really mess you up because when you do things your pace the result doesnt matter anymore because it was done too slow and ppl lost interest. Or more likely ppl just took things from your hands and did it themselves while mumbling in a very audible way "if you want something done right you have to do it yourself..." And then if you try to match up with other's pace youve no time to process and make a decision the way you need to then inadverte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:38 PM
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The boyfriend has to be pretty impressively bad/great to impress a mall employee. Those ppl are dead inside. Even if not a mall employee, if i see a woman and i dont like her, i sure dont care she has a boyfriend because most likely i wont like him too. And pickmes tend to be unlikable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:12 PM
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Ohhhhhhhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 10:11 AM
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I dont think it works that way, but i heard from a doctor clamidia is gateway to hpv or leads to hpv somehow, so he can have a fun surprise wating for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 06:56 AM
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I think its valid for when youre still not sure what you want and need from a relationship, then its good to stay openminded and experiment (within reason). Or if youre reinventing yourself at any other stage and for some reason you want to experiement with having a relationship with different kinds of ppl... but if setteling down is a goal, continuing to experiment is not helpful cause you need to keep focus on what you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:02 PM
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Hi 🌼 I have commented on podcast no. 17, regarding the subject of dating a man you dont see as relationship material for other benefits he may provide. I would like you to read my comment and reply to it because i think it might be a relevant neuance when searchig for a hwalthy relationship and id like to hear your thoughts. Here it is: "I have some doubts whether it is beneficial to continue dating a guy you know for certain is not your relationship material, because of the value he may add to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:43 AM
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Forgivness must be earned. I too maintain my right to not forgive my ex for perpetuity. Because whenever i do happen to interact with him he does not show any sign he is making an honest attempt to understand my emotions. Im not mad because i know my emotions are beautiful and deep, and he couldve been given them had he made the effort to see me beyond his narrow worldview. He was hv in many ways but still i made more effort than was healthy for several long years to help him share my worldview.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:25 PM
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Nice one. A guy who cant take a good selfie is also a red flag for me, mostly because it conveys a character that doesnt care how he looks in the eyes of others and expects to be celebrated for wearing a non stained shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:12 PM
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Im in favor of multi dating, because its really important to maintain distance before a man proved he's trustworthy and that he is compatible emotionally. Just some of us have been used to protecting our emotions and it makes it so easy to choose the distance over the real thing.. distance is a tool not a lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:12 AM
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👏👏👏 You achieved something im just planning to work on once i resume dating in about two months or so. Great to see someone who is happy about protecting her health and self dignity 😊 seems so basic, it makes me mad ppl are still pushing for unprotected sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:22 PM
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Ewe so many awards for such stupidity. If its not a man, my guess is it was written by someone who is in an abusive relationship or not in a relationship at all and completely enslaved by fear/contempt of men she cannot bring herself to imagine asking a man for help around the house or for basic companionship. So she daydreams of a woman who can be a real friend to have a real sobby clingy trauma dump pal, because thats how she probably views women's function in her world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:02 PM
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Well if the comments here give me one thing it is that though my standarts were subpar and still need fixing on many things, at least in the soft dick department i know how to manouver the situation. In the case it would start getting soft we either change position, do something else that is sexy, have a little break to chat about our day, go to the bathroom, etc, or just stop for that day. (That is in case hes hv and not the type to take offense when i ask to stop, as if hes being told hes prov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:02 AM
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If it hurts it shouldnt happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:46 AM
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Only time that happened to me we just stopped, soft d feels icky. Im really not into the sort of guy who would keep pretending something is hard when it isnt or that hes giving me something when its clear he cant. No intimacy in lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:43 AM
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Others mental health are not his responsibility. I doubt it that he cares so much for her mental state, he doesnt really talk about it in his text. I think its more like he thinks shes playing a game and trying to understand it. Clear to see shes not at her best but if he entertains that possibility hell feel bad about recieving nudz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:27 PM
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I got that too lol. He does something awful that deserves to lead to a breakup, but since you stayed and "agreed" to be in that awfulness you are not allowed to breakup for that reason, and other reasons you do have for breakup are really not such major things and did you know "nO oNe is pErfeCt"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:47 AM
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Scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:35 AM
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I have a collection from my tinder time. I found a surprising amoung of ppl who dont even show themselves in the pic - they have other pics of their face and body - but also pics of just piles of candy, boxes of food to be unpacked at the grocery store, and 5 ways to display piles of cash. A box of bullets. The tip of the gun theyre holding. So bizzare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 11:22 AM
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Yea, im like that too, zero interest in most ppl. I think for us though the best is to just keep having first dates with other guys while you date your favorite so that you can still test him against others and keep yourself somewhat emotionally distant during the first months when its not appropriate to have emotional attachment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:40 AM
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I think a good solution for this is to just keep having first dates even if you do meet a guy that is fitting - i am like you too, and whenever i do find a guy im into my relationship with him becomes too much crazy valuable to me and its a good potential for use and abuse. I liked how they described it on the podcast - you can get inspired when dating multiple men about the qualities you look for in a partner, and while many turn out to be lv on the first date you can still make notes and compa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:12 AM
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I have some doubts whether it is beneficial to continue dating a guy you know for certain is not your relationship material, because of the value he may add to your life - such as travel, physical labor, hobbies etc. I think it comes with an emotional price that is not really worth it, and id rather develop relationships with friends and family who can do all this things with me. I think theres a risk that it would become easier to date a guy youre not fully into for the things he gives you than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:44 PM
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Lol. I bet the piercing is the only thing he felt he can fight her for cause its clear he doesnt understand how any of the other things she did work, but negging about looks is probably something he learned well in his redpill academy he must have attended after finishing college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:29 PM
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Yea, the type to get jealous are also rarely really intereated to get to know how somebody did what they did. All they look at is the outcome because theyre too insecure to ever believe theyll achieave something similar and maybe they dont have the intelligence to understand the thought process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:24 PM
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Right, the sort that compliments himself for not... preventing her from dating other ppl? Looks violent imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:10 PM
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Sure there was no man to give you notes at any stage? Did you check under the table?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:03 PM
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Oh we must put our life on hold anytime a man is at risk of feeling not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:01 PM
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Ive a feeling he wrote his text purposefully to look like she did all those things in a weekend though it probably took her several years to do all that. I get the feeling most of the information he has on her descisions comes from social media and that they were not such good friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:59 PM
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I want a shiny dog sounds awsome. I wonder if the guy can show me where she found that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:56 PM
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I was put down by my ex, family and friends many times when i was sharing my choices with them. I can totally get why she prefers to make her choices by herself. I avoided making many descisions because my ex and others derided me when i shared with them. Many times it turned out i was right to choose what i wanted, but i became so depended on listening to them that it took a long time for the other shoe to drop - Some ppl are able to see things faster and better than others, have guts to experi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:48 PM
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Thats why i rather not game than pretend im a guy. It just seems disheartening. In my few months of gaming I recieved sexual invitations in wow at least three times by users approaching me. I cant remeber if theres an option to know the user is female on wow or if it was just because my character was female. The latter seems like a very odd behaviour (though not unlikely) so i must have registered as female 🤔. Also one time i tried to be tank in a doungeon (really dont know how this works sorry)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 03:12 PM
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Handbook material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:59 AM
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Wouldve been a little bit more reasonable than taking a second job, but youre def right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:41 AM
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He couldve loaned her the money and have her return it at her own pace. But as it is clear to see this psycho jangles in front of her nose the prospect of being a part of his family just for fun. Ive a suspicion his goal in posting the question is to get some attention to his "achievement" in basically making his gf work extra and not eat to please him while he saves his money for his hobbies. Its like a sort of humble bragging or indirect bragging. He knows exactly what hes doing to her and he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 12:23 AM
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Not on my level, under my level :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:56 AM
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My biggest disappointment in life was gettig a cat for my 6th birthday and it scratched me when i tried to hug it too hard :( i wish someone could teach me how to approach a cat sooner. After like two decades of hating cats i finally learned how to approach them. I wonder if we do a survey among former pickmes how many of us hated cats at a certain stage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:50 PM
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I am sad that i read the word fuzzy teeth. Just wanted to say. Ugh. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:51 PM
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Its because they have lots of armpit hair 😑 men should shave their armpits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:47 PM
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How can you even eat or drink when you smell bad breath from the person sitting in front of you? Some unnecessary endurance skill we can all happily unlearn as fast as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:45 PM
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I think i hate more the guys that like it when you call them out. Like, "oh, smart woman im a dumb man please show me how to clean". No. Learn it in by yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:41 PM
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Thats so lame :( what an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:37 PM
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Thats why demanding for a man to give more on a first date is reasonable - he has to prove himself as soon and as convincingly as possible that he is worthy of not being the target of that fear. Many women are educated to ignore their instincts about dangerous men, the fear is never gone, it is logicked away. Thats why so many women are murdered by their husbands. Men have to acknowledge our fear and be willing to dissuade it, not whine about it. They have more physical power and social advantag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:35 AM
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I think women who pay 50/50 do it because of a trauma born precaution - if you dont split the bill, the man might turn out to be the sort of guy who will attack you for paying without getting sex. On the surface level, this seems like a very fds friendly strategy. Men are raging for years now over women who are "gold diggers", because they go on dates and dont give sex. But those same type of men are the ones who offer to split the bill. They use feminist reasoning and virtue signal how they res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:58 AM
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What, isnt it every young girl's dream to be the has been's consolation prize?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:26 PM
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Its so rad you were going to a bar to read a book and listen to music. i also dislike eating out with a guy i dont know. i dont like it when strangers watch me eat. Idk what kind of activity is better, i would like to say maybe a visit to a museum.. but its not really clear in that situation that the man is expected to pay so might be not successful. Anyways, i also dont date at the moment🙃. Congrats on quitting drinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:53 PM
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If you get into circles of therapy etc its worse cause you get ideas of doing it not to be liked but to help men overcome sexual inhibitions. Its not something that really happen either when youre treated like commodity. Many intellectual men speak about prostitution from the angle of therapy, but really, its just sugar coating a dirty industry that is much more causing trauma than healing trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:11 PM
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Yea. I said it because thats what my mom told me when i thought of going to therapy with ex. "You dont have children, its not for you, just break up from him". She and my dad are in therapy for years, they medicate for depression, she does all the house work and he does nothing. So yea. Another evidence why couples therapy is bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:51 PM
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I guess its helpful in cases where theres children involved but i read opinions that state you shouldnt do it ever if a man is abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:27 PM
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Revealing the ugly a little bit more every day. For a long while i was pro porn, not for the reason that i was engaging with porn, or knew anyone in porn. But because when i imagined myself being a prostitute i had a vaugh feeling itll be like doing something good for others, and i was also extremely accustomed to shut down my critical mind during sex, so life as usual (bad sex as usual). Ofcourse i never had any interest to engage in prostitution or porn because it is so unsafe. Reading content…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 03:20 PM
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Thats why they say never go to couples therapy and that therapy only benefits abusive men by giving them some professional jargon to justify their abuse, so its more difficult to argue with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:52 AM
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That should be on my wall to look at every morning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:10 PM
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I actually had a preference to meeting guys via dating apps because i get super stressed when meeting guys at a casual gathering and just talk nonsense, while i can be much more chill in text. But it happened to me several times that i was interacting with a guy one on one from the start only to find out all the social flaws they have that made them prefer dating apps. I have ended up being friendly to a guy who behaves horribly in public. I guess i better spend my days learning how to be chill …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:01 PM
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I still feel like i gained a mini story and i dont judge the author too harshly (unless theyre contemporary). I feel like i mainly do it because it feels better to drop it than force myself through the murky waters of misogeny to see some pearls. Some authors/creators i consider to be worthy of this effort, because they made a thing that is so meaningful and the misogeny is not a crucial part of the message/dumped in unexpectedly for a lame pun/shock value. Its a complex conversation that requir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:47 PM
2

For me the sad separation is with books. I get recommended books and they seem so great but there always has to be this shitty character that ruins it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:45 PM
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Lol dont ever forget his name in case you come by his resume
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:34 PM
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Being with a woman who belongs to a race that is culturally considered to be more something is also a form of trophy in some circles. In others being with a woman of a marginalized race is giving golddigging men an exotic appeal + a gold star for multiculturalism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:32 PM
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Cleansing is the most important. I always feel bad for not being able to consume all the staple classics in every medium but truth is most of what is deemed classic and good has lv marks on it and i am physically repulsed by that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:22 PM
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I make a daring assumption that when they talk about "doing better" they only talk about looks because personality and goals in their partner are to be subdued and matching their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:11 PM
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So many men do things that are threatening to gain things more easily with women then pretend like they didnt know or neg us for thinking they tried to threaten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:08 PM
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Saying "im being nice" is just a way to say "you are not the type of person who invokes in me the natural will to be nice". Also when a guy gets to the stage he is stating his niceness it means he is warning you your behaviour is on the verge of revealing his not nice side. So basically its a form of threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:39 AM
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Reading men are from mars women are from venus front to back and back to front for six years is not called working on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:30 AM
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You take into account that ppl with asperger can have a not so solid view on social norms. He actually talks in his channel about how as a kid he couldnt understand why kids learning a dance from the teacher make the same movements together... I guess if there are ppl who are really not bothered by embarrasment and the weird intimacy a surprize snoozer creates than its okay.. i just found his assumption that he can only function in one way while others can adjust quite baffling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:11 PM
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Yea, he is preaching that to the general crowd without taking sexual harrasment and autistic vulnerability into account. An autistic woman is more likely to be unaware she is in an unfriendly place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:02 PM
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Recently watched this youtuber who has aspergers and is calling himself a relationship coach. He goes on explaining how he would go to social events and just fall asleep and be shocked and insulted when ppl told him he was being inappropriate and rude. Now, im no medic, but going off his own descriptions it sounds as though its a condition he can manage and control but chooses not to. He desecribe his normal way of action as - making himself super tired by engaging in social interaction till he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:37 AM
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Some men shouldnt be parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:01 PM
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Yup! yup yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:19 PM
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Some men claim to not believe women are capable of telling truth/be reasonable, therefore nothing women say has to be treated seriously. I know it is the most natural thing to assume that this man has mental problems but it is damaging for us to think so, its important to learn that an overwhelming amount of men act crazy for a purpose. Those men are well known for their hypocricy, they would state women dont know what they want or never tell the truth, but make note that there are "pickup farti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:14 PM
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The women who post to fetish social media the most horrific irreversible dangerous things they did to their bodies or somebody did to them - are mostly overweight women. 😔 the men pride themselves in that they have consent from the women and the know how to do dangerous things without it having any consequences, but these men dont care for safety, they only want extreme stimulation. Many times they do harmful things they cannot fix. The women get to know all this as the bdsm "relation" progresse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:05 PM
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What a cartoon character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:54 PM
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If its their stupid knee i tolerate it or sometimes push back with my knee - it can work and they shrink back to their respective seat but sometimes can lead to uncomfortable situations so i dont do it anymore. I tolerate if its low key knee touching. Never had anything more severe happen to me. I focus mostly on prevention and being hyper alert when ppl get on the bus. Whenever i go on the bus i put my bag or rest my knee (in a polite way, crossing my legs diagonally so that just my knees are r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:56 PM
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Omg "use your real voice" is such a funny sentence. Guess looking at men necks is my new hobby now. Spot the faker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 PM
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Lol i work in this place for two years and this new guy comes in, gets taught by a guy who quits. Two months after a new person comes in. Who is given the role to teach her the job? Three guesses. After a year and a half that this guy is there it is suddenly "discovered" all this time he did almost nothing, spend most of his shifts on personal websites. While i still get micromanaged to hell on occassion. Nobody bothered till just recently to check if he does the job properly, everyone just assu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:49 PM
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No porn can beat having means to extort a woman. Oh sorry, i meant to write "trust". Damn autocorrect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 12:31 PM
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The fact he was willing to drive hours just for a first date with you hints at an empty life. Also wasnt like you told him he must come all the way just for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:55 PM
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Lol or they may recover only to disaapoint women in other ways. Because theres no way theyll be decent humans with that outlook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:13 PM
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Jumped back in to say that doing physical things (even things that are meant to feel good) when knowing theres not consent for them is gateway to violence, so take care about this guy. He might be enjoying the negative feelings his action elicits in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:20 PM
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It was also something similar for me - only in doing all the things he said im not good at by myself, better than how i did them before, sometimes better than how he did them. Theres this kinda spiritual mindset that doesnt work for everyone but might as well say it - when you stop wanting something, itll come. As long as you feel like you need a relationship you will always fall on bad ones. Only when you are whole in yourself will you "get from the universe" the opportunity to try yourself at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:26 PM
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Wasnt really that difficult cause he had a bunch of fetishes i didnt like and a micro penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:12 PM
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A guy once gave me the most amazing orgasm i ever had with someone in my life then refused to do it again unless i wait and beg and do a bunch of things for him i didnt want to do. Told him thanks no thanks, i dont have sex with ppl who withhold good things to manipulate. And i dont regret it for a second, he was a weird one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:47 PM
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What is it with men and reusing socks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:38 PM
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Youre not a failure, you are very aware and even so it is incredibly difficult. Being inconsiderate about flashback inducing behaviour is very alarming, because it shows a lack in emotional connection. Give yourself allowance to love him, its okay to still love a person you might need to separate from. I love my ex to this day. Separation does not have to mean you negate everything about that person and what you had with him. But consider if it is not better to separate (gradually) for your own …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:00 PM
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Some will proclaim to stop watching porn and you get to think for a second "oh they do it cause they see how its fake, the women are not really enjoying and most acts are abusive and degrading". One minute later you are reassured they stopped cause they have erection problems, or emotional problems caused by the fact that women in porn are not available to them irl. They cannot see women in porn are faking it all the time, or they see it and think its their due to recieve fake admiration and org…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:50 AM
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The last one is the best one. No. 4 is super hard to visualize for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:51 PM
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My dad never did anything around the house (had to be begged to even do "manly chores"). My mom tried to teach me to help her around the house but i never agreed to work while my dad did nothing. I was very aware that it was somehow justified that he does nothing while i help with home chores, but i never saw it as fair and it always angered me. What was amazing was that my mom respected that and gave me my space to feel not-a-woman-who-does-chores. Idk if she realized she was being abused. Perh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:12 PM
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I like the idea of not seeing who is active on fb but couldnt find how to do it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:30 PM
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Same story here - had no problems with rommates till ex moved in with me for a few months "to sort himself out". Was constantly talking badly of my roomate, frowned every time i asked him to get groceries, had to be convinced to pay his share of rent and bills. Ofcourse he did not earn a proper salary too. Unfortunately this experience did not inspire me to breakup with him, only to kick him out of my flat. He found himself a nice service room in a friends house where he slept next to a washing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:54 PM
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Looks like you had some bad experiences, its good to get a view from someone who was there. I have heard before and sensed before from gay/bi men, that they fetishize/minimize me, but they are always so nice, and they show feminine mannerisms that gets you thinking "they must think like me or experience life like me". And they always have my sympaties for the struggles the gay community has gone through that i deeply identify with as a woman. But struggling does not mean you recognize another's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:16 PM
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They think were some sort of army, whenever commander MOD tells us not to date someone we immidiately stop dating them. Unrelated, i thing bi men have greater sympathy for women and better understanding becauze they too engage with men. Am i wrong? Never had a relationship with a bi guy. (Ofcourse, well tested and trust worthy).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:05 AM
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At least he didnt sue you for not giving promised (in his mind) threesom service
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:54 AM
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Fds is helpful on so many levels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:45 AM
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In my pickme days i think i had a friend who looked at me like that lol. As time went by i noticed i was the only one talking about myself and she was very interested asking questions etc like she was in a freak show lol. I can get it, mustve looked funny on the outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:55 AM
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Now thats true progress. Finally we are over that silly stage of "all women are my sistrs" so we can be keeping ourselves to the highest standart in all ways that really advance our gender. Being lovey to all women wherever they be serves patriarchic ideas that females are the compassionate gender that will accept everyone no matter what. No we wont, we have standarts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:48 AM
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Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:21 PM
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He just went looking for someone thats more emotionally available is my bet. Ppl say theyre not into anything serious but if the possibility presents itself with someone whos more compatible why not take it? Its way healthier than what shes trying to have with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:16 PM
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Yea for me too much more than giving birth. But i dont want to raise a kid by myself, i need a hv man :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:22 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing. My ex told me that some women have no problem giving birth and going back to their previous body and he made it sound as if it would be my choice and responsibility and not something genetic you cannot really control. I bet making women feel guilty for the changes their body goes through after childbirth is a way to convince women they must overcompensate by servicing the men sexualy while they are still in pain. It was a major clue for me that my ex will be a bad …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:25 AM
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Several years ago i couldnt understand women who choose to have a child by themselves but as i get older i understand them much better. I know of one mom who had a girl by herself, i was sure she would be miserable, several years later seems like she is having a very special parenting experiance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:13 AM
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Vetting for genetic conditions is commonsense and healthy. I know of a girl that decided to check for possible health conditions before getting pregnant (with her husband and 5 years boyfriend). She found out that she has a 25% chance to give birth to a child with an illness that causes death few years after birth, and now they check to see if the husband has the same condition. If only they did it sooner. I couldnt really imagine doing that when you start dating but seems to me a healthy relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:56 PM
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Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:45 AM
2

Hes a man??! Omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:43 AM
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I kid you not it was a moment that changed my perspective of life when i found out i had hpv. it really broke me because it so effectively shattered my pink pickme glasses. It took over a year and a half till i realized what i have and how it works! Even doctors were not giving full information, treating it like it was something not important, you know, just my health, self esteem and body image. Who cares. Doctors were encouraging me to not tell future partners i had symptoms! Even the nurses w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:12 AM
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They mention in the article that average time for outbreak in women is three months. I wonder if its the same in men, does anybody know? I think nobody should be able legally to have sex with multiple ppl. There should be contracts or something. Or at least a strong texting evidence stating you will have sex only when exclusive. If texting is something valid in court? Seems like it shouldnt really matter when outbreak of illness happen randomly some time. But its a deterrant i think. Btw, hpv ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:36 PM
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My ex would be in a strange mood occasionally and ask me to admit hes ugly to his face, which i found to be odd. He always had to deliver the """objective truth""" because god forbid we enjoy eachother's company without first checking how we relate to the standarts of beauty for men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:51 PM
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I speak about ignoring the sort of comments made by ppl that are not meaning to hurt you/your feelings/your access to things. Just random ppl that like to engage women in "feminist" conversations, to provoke or give advice and are not really looking for dialogue. You lose the argumeng the moment you engage them and if they cant cause you any harm ignoring is best. I know i made this comment from a place of privilege. Im aware that there are situations that are directly insulting of you personall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:18 PM
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Nice my next read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:12 PM
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Im sure it was all done in private and among "friends". I remember studying this concept in high school... at 15. Such a great idea, let's teach a child that children want to seduce adults. Educators sometimes have no brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:41 PM
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A child can imitate his abused mother's fawning behaviour towards her dad or the abusing father's possesive behaviour towards his mom, without ever understanding the full meaning behind his/her actions. I guess that's what freud initially observed before he changed his mind. I cringe to imagine the sort of friendly lounge conversations he must have had with his esteemed clients who were also pedophiles, that got him to change his mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:18 PM
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I disagree with a few things. If you have a strong opinion about something chances are you are well informed on the subject and you can tell via conversation when someone is trying to copy you without really possesing the same passion. Talking about subjects you feel strongly for is essential to find a person you can be compatible with. You just have to make sure you have a well rounded understanding of the subject and not let a guy gaslight you into thinking you dont. I think its important to i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:03 AM
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There political resistance and theres day to day small human interactions. When youre part of a group with a clear agenda aiming for social change you must explain and complain. When youre an individual talking about your small life choices i think its great advice to filter who you have to justify yourself to, because youre not a political group of ppl thinking together, just one person trying to figure themselves out while living and its hard enough without having to take into account every ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:00 AM
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What you say is very valid and as i learn more to de-program cultural sickness i identify with those statements more. Prostitution is a sick way to have therapy without acknowledging that anything is wrong. I think that sex therapists and basically ppl whos job is to teach touch can help in areas that regular therapists cant, in more effective ways. I think many men go to sex workers claiming they come to purchase a toy to hide their need for therapy from themselves and others. A sex worker is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:07 PM
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I meant more in the direction that workers in such institutions are exposed to violence from their patients/students. I suggest sex work is not something that can be only one thing. Just requires men who seek sex workers to acknowledge they do it because they have some emotional inhibition they need to solve, and not pretend it's a valid hobby, physical need or valid therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:29 PM
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That's why many couples allow themselves to sleep in separate bedrooms after the kids move out of the house. Im also extremely introverted and couldnt imagine sharing my space with someone.. it was really something i grew to love and need even if it was invading my privacy at times. it feels safe and cozy to sleep with someone youre used to, and you stop minding so much about privacy once you realize that lots of things dont really require privacy, but mutual respect for personal space and alone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:18 PM
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Nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:54 PM
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I loved the parody, very on point :>
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:09 PM
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I think its not so correct to discredit all of fanfiction as written by ppl with no skill. Many famous writers admit to writing fanfiction and smut. Marguerite duras is very known for writing incest stories. In my 5 years of consuming fanfiction i read some intense dark moving stories that had impressive amount of work put into them. Idk if they hold up to today but i think they might. They did not fit my age and were very traumatising, for sure. Every dada expressionist surreal uber sexual artw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:00 PM
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<3 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:50 PM
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It still introduces themes of abuse, hardcore everything etc into a girls vocabulary and that's traumatising. Reading and imagining is very powerful. Some may say more powerful than seeing. It does creat a sort of readiness for women to accept a man's request to do kink, promiscous sex etc because in the past they read a well written story that moved them and had an element of hardcore something. There are several fanfictions who are well written and anatomically correct, i always searched those…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:47 PM
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What if sex workers will limit activity only to the sort that has near zero risk to spreading desease, the whole session will be centered around respect and boundaries, the sex worker is assuming the role of a teacher/psychologist, a session is not a place to indulge in fantasy but a classroom, that is meant to help a person get out to the world and make a loving relationship with someone. Another kind of eutopia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:05 PM
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Part of the utopia must be medicine winning against all desease.. There are other care giving professions in which safe working conditions are not guaranteed, such as being a caretaker in a disabled institution or a mentally ill institution, even being a teacher is not a safe occupation. Ppl who work in those professions are crucial to our society. They run a risk of being hurt severely, though most don't, and i do agree with you that the health risk is wayyy higher in sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:48 PM
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Yes i very relate. Don't feel bad because your friends treated ppl who were more assertive better. I think it's always a choice to mock and put down a person. Some ppl are never going to stop being agressive if you start asserting yourself, theyll most likely just up the agression because they dont like to give up their punching bag (and just recently there was a post about the advantages an abuser gains from abusing). Maybe some do change, i never stayed around to see. I kinda loose the will fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:58 PM
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I like this advice. Its valid advice for any life choice in general. Never do stuff because it's easy, do stuff because you want to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:41 PM
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Interesting. Two hours ago i was on the bus listening to the fds podcast about the onlyfans tweets. when lilith described how she was "taught" what sex is at 14, i was thinking i was taught about sex at the age of 14 by reading fanfiction written by women. The fanfiction that i read contained lots of hardcore porn acts. in my mind it was a legitimate learning experience of what sex really is about because i didnt have a clue. i saw the women who wrote this stories as older and experienced, thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:20 PM
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Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:33 PM
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Thats actually the way my mom tried to convince me to have kids, by saying i have a moral duty to pass on my good genes and education. I struggled with it for some time but nowadays i think of all the talented ppl who were born to poor, uneducated families. Genetics is a wonderful thing. No guarantee my genes will be passed on so wonderfully, and if educating kids was my thing i could always adopt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:24 PM
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Isn't that sick Its one of the hardest concept for a woman who percieves herself as worthy while having a pickmisha education. It's easier to invent stories in your head how he's troubled or how thats his love language or hes a scorpio or whatever. I admire the way sex work can be like an active form of psychology, helping ppl overcome sexual insecurities is such a great goal. Theres lots of ways in which women can be a good to this world in the area of sex studies, precisely because we were so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:52 AM
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Bet thats the undercorrent to that made them think this is a valid comparison. So, not pretending to be stupid, hiding racism and homophobia. While virtue signalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:08 PM
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Interesting how one of their arguments was that gay and interracial relationships were not allowed in the past. Age gap relationship were historically allowed and encouraged. Just as we learned to recognize the humanity and right to equality of ppl from other races and the lgbtq so we have learned to recognize the harm in age gap relationships..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:09 PM
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Forcing women to give birth is just the type of solution that gets a politician fast results and shows their public they do a job so they get their career developed faster. And since most of them are conservative men they did not raise their children, so they dont have the in depth view mothers have about the wide spectrum of problems that need fixing. All they know is to punish and prohibit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:35 PM
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I would be very happy to see a post about the subject of empowering women who oppose contemporary beauty rituals and maybe giving practical safety advice for women who conider going in the path of non-conforming appearance, such as not wearing makeup dayly or not shaving. Maybe itll help clearing this connection newbies make between makeup and high value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:08 PM
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A face with no makeup is more complex and not as contrasted or expressive, but thats the main thing about being a personality. A personality is never on the surface. I am against woman feeling obliged to show the world a coherent image of what they are on a dayly basis, unless it promotes self protection or better work conditions. Ofcourse i am in favor of wearing makeup for fun :> I don't think wearing makeup is something that should be under the category of self-care like exercise or meeting g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:54 PM
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Up i had ton of excuses too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:03 AM
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If youre thinking about ways to have less sex with the bf its a sign that the quality of sex is not good :/ It really is the way some women who approve of porn percieve porn, i guess. As babysitting. So gross. Myself i never had any rational such as that behind approving of porn b/c i never saw my ex watch porn... but there were plently of hints in hindsight that his porn consumption was too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:56 PM
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To a certain degree its great when you have ppl who love you tell you when youre not in tune with reality. Its important for being mature. More important is to know when someone is losing sight of reality in their quest to show you their perception of truth. It's hard, especially in things like body image, that are socially tought in a distorted way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:48 PM
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Only thing that means hes not with her cause hes very attracted to her, he likes how she looks and likes how she gives him sex and validation whenever needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:39 PM
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Mine would say crying is painful to him, i never saw him actually cry only his eyes would glisten. He claimed it's painful for men to cry. As is evident by the comments here it is really not a problem for men to cry lol.. i think that a man who claims he cannot cry is also a red flag. They withold their emotions to a sick degree, prevent actual emotional connection in order to maintain control over their partner (and their life in general, but no woman has to take part in this).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:06 PM
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Very egotistic of you to have an ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:16 PM
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Theres a youtube channel that is trolling politicians and racists etc with pics of shirtless old men. Which, i know is maybe not the same but maybe similar to what happened in yoir feed. Good riddance for you to unfollow that 👍 I did not need to see will smith shirtless :<.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 03:14 PM
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I'm usually too busy avoiding eye contact to see that 🤠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 02:56 PM
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When there's a will there's a way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:25 AM
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I recommend you to read about hpv in men - this std has no practical test for men and women. And the worst strain of it - that can give you cancer - has a test for women but not for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:51 AM
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About the first - they say it on the post i mentioned - not every shape fit. I do agree you can get a general clue. And sure, but when you do casual / first date sex ppl always say they get tested but can you trust them? Also some sti/d (not sure whats the difference) dont show up on tests/can be dormant and "awake" randomly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:48 AM
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If i may add - as someone who had lots of first date sex - when the D is good on first date theres higher risk of being emotionally attached to a guy that does not satisfy, because casual sex is so draining you are just eager to end it and if sex is given such a high place in relationship you will end up choosing a guy for his D even if the sex was not fully reciprocal or satisfactory in some other way (if youre desperate enough you get attached to a guy when you dont even share his values and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:22 AM
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If i had the money for it i would definitely get a house with multiple rooms where i can spread out and give proper place to all my hobbies and projects. Your house sounds awsome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:35 PM
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There was a recent post about not every di** fitting any vagina. It would seem to contradict this post, because surely if not every dick does the job for you it is important to check out the dick on first date. At least that was the way i used to think, but i dont think so anymore, for two reasons: First reason, you can only find out if the sex will be good given enough time, as op clearly mentions in her post. Second reason is STDs. Having them sucks, getting one from sex that wasnt even satisf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:36 PM
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There was a post here a few days ago about a woman experimanting with ignoring men on the street. I think it has value, many men when you make eye contact with them straight away start giving you dreamy eyes or creepy eyes, and there's higher risk of being approached/catcalled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:55 PM
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I really like to dress down but with a very artsy vibe. I dont like being girly/womanly (most days), i'm really into projecting a look of being always messy and busy with something creative. Its a great way to immidiately expose ppl who don't share an appreciation for art (it's important for me in any person). The average LV guy would also neg me about creative occupations being not a real job and how they cant understand contemporary art etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:39 PM
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I can get that from the point of view of being the one doing the breaking up- i was getting to the realisation my ex has some kind of emotional problem preventing him from empatising with me and that he cannot give me the emotional care i need, and i dont want to spend my life fixing him. Its something i cannot really explain to him because he cannot undestand. After the breakup he contacted me and wrote me long texts, visited my work place unsolicited etc etc. Never ever ever will i share stori…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:38 AM
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Oh because you don't give sex and house cleaning services in exchange for gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:26 AM
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Honestly the guyz are more likely to be removed from the friday thing for being discovered as abusers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:30 AM
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Pretty sure that no man featured is suspected of being trafficked or taken advantage of. And if he somehow was the pic wouldve gone down quick... Unlike the majority of straight porn that features women performing self degrading acts dayly with the fakest smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:35 PM
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Those deceptive lions are proof that good looks does not equal high value. Edit: does not always equal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:05 PM
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My ex would complain whenever he did something by himself, and constantly loom behind me whenever i did anything. Thats what you get when you go for the LV who will not be a lazy ass :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:09 PM
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Well lucky were not in a zoology subreddit 😄. They do spend time with their cubs though right? Idk my only info is lion king
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:59 PM
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Also experiment with upping the volume of your voice without him noticing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:50 PM
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Trust your instincts and take good care to not antagonize him, you'll need him cooperating if you ever have a problem related to his territory. If you're comfortable with being portrayed as mercurial/moody this can work as excusing the times in which you cut him off after two minutes of convo and ask to be left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:48 PM
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Always felt weirded out by older men but most women in my country don't get it and treat them like puppies and its gross. Nice to know i'm not the only one with an automated yuck reflex whenever i talk to older men. Theyre almost all wrinkled smelly perverted peter pans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:44 PM
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:(. be extremely polite, and tell him after two minutes of convo "was very nice talking to you, lets talk some other time" and if he doesnt stop try saying you want to be alone/with your dog right now, as he must understand. I suggest also that whenever you talk with him from now on be just a tiny bit too loud and ponounciate your words carefully. it's a kinda way to make the convo feel a bit more strained and a bit more of an effort. And if he asks why youre being too loud gaslight him. Its als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:26 PM
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Talked with a girl from Uganda once, she told me in her country making eye contact with a man is to challenge them and is considered an agressive act 🤢. Anyways, i'm not from Uganda but i don't make eye contact with creepy men on the street since i'm 12-14.. and it mostly works. I just have a glazed look in my eyes and look past them in an indifferent way, and it is making them less inclined to comment and call me on the street vs when i do make eye contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:55 PM
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🤘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:47 PM
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Liked the last sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:45 PM
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Yup it's just rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:36 PM
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Im sure just as there are men into women of different sizes so there are woman that are into overweight men. We recently switched from the thinking: "women are not visual creatures therefore doesnt matter how a man looks", to thinking: "women do care about the visual". When men try to be a part of the body positivity movement and say: "dad bods r sexy", it's problematic, because there are so many men on media that are not conventionally attractive (and most importantly - were not chosen for thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:54 PM
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Though i bet they dont read what they downvote, so there may come a time that itll seem like posts and comments both get less upvotes... auto-downvoting every piece of content here is not dissimilar to the sort of video games im sure some of them play. There should be an option that only members of the subreddit can upvote/downvote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:55 AM
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Its funny how the post has 0 upvotes but the comments upvotes in the dozens. Perhaps it shows that people come here only to downvote and never bother digging inthe comments.. because the comments here are the real challenging stories and experience that automated downvoters dont want to handle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:23 PM
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Thanks for writing that. I was not thinking about that aspect. Men chasing is not really a promise of genuine interest too... Some just chase all sorts of women with no discrimination. My ex did that, and when he changed his behaviour (did some self care, said he stopped chasing) i felt attracted to him, because he was so obviously looking better. Maybe because i was the one who initiated sort of, i was super convinced i was in control, and because i did the choosing, i did not want to admit tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:22 PM
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The most annoying tendency of my ex was to take work tools out of my hands. Ah, memory lane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:56 PM
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This is actually very good for women too. Adulting is scary and i like lists. I'm able to do all 101's, but need some work on the 201 (and i am already working on it). Thank you for making this list <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:51 PM
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My mom gave me this advice too! The holy bill lol..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:31 PM
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Guys that think less of a woman who makes the first move are probably suffering (enjoying) the madonna-whore complex, and whenever possible i would be happy to weed them out of my life. Condescending assholes. I wouldnt like to be dating a guy and find out some time later thats how he views women who initiate. Taking initiative can be a good way of vetting, but it is risky. You dont do it in your circle of friends, with clients or co-workers, there it is very likely to do you harm (cause most me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:33 PM
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Now i'm reminded mine tried to convince me i need to get checked for autism. Because he wont shut up we saw a youtube video about it. While watching he reveals he doesnt even know what are the charecaristics of autism. And he fits the criteria better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:54 AM
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Or being called "idiot" but he does it in a cutesy voice. Retrospectively i think im realizing the pet name my ex gave me was "idiot". Stayed 5 years 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:33 AM
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Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:33 PM
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It seems like most of the behaviours she describes are somehow related to the culture of cunsumption and waste, and a sort of brand loyalty mindset - as if women were the apple company and men are the customers. I don't think men see women emotions as something deeper than an emotional apple add or a sympathetic apple emploee helping them fix a problem. Same love-hate-dependence-cheating relationship people have with brands, on the one hand you really love the apple company products but if you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:28 AM
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Just for the future, is it possible sometime to consult a moderator about a post before posting? regardless ill make sure to read again the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:13 AM
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Hi, sorry 😶. deleted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:07 AM
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😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:31 PM
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Creepy. You handled it pretty well, i think i wouldve been rude (in an unprovocative way, you know, just act a bit less educated and polite, and also in a hurry and as if i have a headache) way sooner then how you describe it. Imagine if it was not a woman and an autistic man but a woman alone and a little child- no man of good intentions follows around a woman and child like that. Edit: im kinda sad about the advice to act as though youre less educated and therefore naturally rude, unpleasant a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:35 PM
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Thats sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:26 PM
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When i had a dating app I used say that i dont want to talk about logistics. I find the term to be a kind of double warning: 1. I know you are not asking me this just to make conversation and get to know me, youre asking me because you want to gain something. 2. The word "logistics" always equated in my mind to boring. So not only am i feeling manipulated, i am also bored. This is a pretty vague term in relation to dating, so that means that the unintelligent people and uncaring people will be c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:19 PM
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Or sleep in a nest with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:59 PM
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The villains yet again are the cause of their own fall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:34 PM
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Woody Allen is the lord of creeps, it's disturbing how many normal looking men are really into his movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:59 AM
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Sorry i edited my reply alot, probably it has changed since you read it >< I agree, a great topic. The pee bit is kinda pornified, especially since the girl saying it is just, again, not weird. Meg is my beacon for true cringeworthy behaviour. When the girl who says it looks cute and had a cute voice its not doing anything for women, mostly serves grandpa-minded folks wanting to tsk about the depravity of our generation. The type that sees all women as a sort of cardboard cutout, "the fair sex",…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:12 PM
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I can understand the concept, I just think that its anachronistic. This idea that men alone turn into baboons is a very old chauvinistic idea, intended to guilt women into codependent behaviours. The society that the women live in is definitely not idealistic in my view - theres public court held for women who have bad bangs. Its insidious stuff about women being superficial, i dont like it. They chose the lazy route. About the other episodes you mentioned, yea theyre good, i forgot about them. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:56 PM
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Rick & morty have neat moments but in general when they do choose to face gender differences as a theme they go by the rule of 50/50 - laugh at everyone the same way regardless of inequality, that's because they lack the ability to recognize inequality between men and women i think. For example, the cringe episode when Rick takes his granddaughter on an adventure to a planet where women control men, by living in seclusion and interacting with them only through sex robots. Although the episode co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:37 PM
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No. 7 99% best one. No, 100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:59 AM
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Yes, lol! This should be a meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:54 AM
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I love how he came to u like youre a service provider. Or like if he has ur nudes then he's ur ex now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:31 AM
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Omg what an idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:19 AM
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I love duck analogies! Btw ducks are really violent creepy animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:49 PM
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I love duck analogies! Btw ducks are really violent creepy animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:49 PM
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And everyone so obsessed with orgasming. Theres this myth men dont enjoy sexual contact without argasming, as if they go from feeling 0 to 100 in the second of orgasm. And women should bend over backwords to help the men orgasm because our orgasms are so plentyful and better. Theyre really not. Especially when theres an awful asshole involved like the asshole starring in this post. An orgasm does not have to happen at every sexual encounter, you cant force it. Also, i don't think that making noi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:22 PM
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I actually like bringing up those subjects (lightly) to test if his view on the subject is realistic or escapist. If he's talking likt it's still 1980 then i know to take every nice thing he says with a grain of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:02 AM
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The ex tried to convince me to go to couple's therapy. I was about to agree when my mom told me not to do it, that counseling is for couples with children and assets and there's no reason why late 20s-early 30s couples would go to therapy. Glad i listened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:33 PM
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Was wondering why i got two fuckboi texts today. Good observation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:23 PM
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Was glad to be an audience to your talk! you have healthy behaviour and you can find the people who understand and respect that. 💮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:04 PM
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I think invalidating others experiences is also a knee jerk reaction for ALOT of people, it's a power move, based on survival instinct. The thinking is thusly: if the person who is calling you out for doing them wrong is acknowledged to be right, it makes you weak. I grew up in an environment where it was alright to be wrong and nobody was above apologizing for the smallest insult. But at a certain age i got into places in which being wrong meant the worst. If you admit to hurting someone or mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:01 PM
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Ive had a headless profile on OLD for a few months frankly because i had a fear men would recognize me from the app and assume im dtf or horney or wtver (because im on the app) and harass me on the street. This post is so important because i felt my standarts being lowered but couldnt stop my downward spiral. It gets addictive. So after reading this post and all the comments im really given a positive reinforcement to my descition to delete the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:45 PM
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If you needed to delete and block, meaning you felt that you cant just break contact in a civil way, then seems like its a good thing you blocked him. It's natural to doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:35 PM
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Gotta love those that let you know youre their second best option. You know i even hate it when there's no ambition on the side of the man to "get" another woman, they just make sure their partner knows they are "the best they can get". As if i'm supposed to apologize to him that he can't get better, supply him with my inferior womanly services and not expect the best treatment from him because that treatment is saved to a woman that is superior than me in some ways. It's a nice compromise - ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:17 PM
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Lol this thread keeps getting better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:32 PM
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Word word word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:52 AM
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Cook him for us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:30 PM
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Same ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:29 PM
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Anyways most of them define the no-makeup-makeup look as "natural", expect a "natural" woman to be "naturally" hairless and don't you dare burst their bubble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:25 AM
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Epic stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:23 AM
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Actually first time i saw a post about fds selling something it was via redpill. They are finally doing some free labor for womenkind 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:24 AM
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Lol i am active in fds for two months now (i think), never even saw publications for buying stuff. U are underselling, if anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:52 PM
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Good job fds. Its amazing to have this platform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:36 PM
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Lol post murder activity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:40 PM
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But i must say alot of this reverance came from me as much as from the partner, probably out of the ingrained distress iwas taught to feel at the sight of a man losing his erection (blueballs being a very prevalent complaint of men that made it seem like not giving them what they want when they want it would mean absolute physical turture for something they cannot control and is invoked by me and therefore my fault and my responsibility). Even today i am fucked up about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:18 AM
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alot of them really need to perform to some societal standart, so the question of pleasure and connection of the partner is not as important as that they will not see their erection wane. I felt my pleasure was somesthing i was almost expected to fake, or if i didnt find pleasure in any of the acts he learned from porn (and performs like a machine with no sensitivity to pressure and timing) i was percieved as a disturbance to the holy erection that has been achieved and all must be done to prese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:06 AM
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Lol that i am reading this now. Today my ex came to bring me some stuff i left at his house a year ago. We sat and had a chat, i didnt really want to but i felt like testing my resolve. All throughout the conversation he was saying hes sorry and that hes had a rough year and hes changed etc, and trying to get weaknesses out of me in a gaslighting way, trying to make the conversation about problems i have like all our conversatioms used to be in the past. I stood up to it. I told him repeatedly i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:54 PM
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Thank you. i was mostly made curious if its a kind of word mashup or if its just because it sounds cute that way or something else. Because i wondered about that in general, not related to other people's observations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:44 PM
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On fds redpill (which i follow out of curiosity or something idk) they claim pickmisha is racist because "misha" sounds like afro american names. Which i am rather sure is bullshit but would be happy to know how the "misha" happened
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:49 PM
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"Be weird and be sincere" - im into hardcore porn looking for insecure people with no boundries because im not creative and boring so i need everything simplified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:52 AM
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For sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:00 AM
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Oh tnx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:59 AM
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Didnt get it 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:14 AM
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Madonna/Whore complex I think is one of the things I learned here and helped make sense of so many weird inhuman interactions I had back when I was into random hookups. Srsly men can be so emotionally barren in hookups, it's weird. Glad I'm not there anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:06 AM
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I dont like the idea of women doing sexual favors for men. I try to teach myself that sex is for me first, must be something i enjoy, otherwise its never worth having.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:59 AM
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I actually like walking because i can judge a guy better in an environment that is less eye contact intensive. Eye contact disrupts my thinking. also i dont like being in a cafe with someone i have known only through text, because you never know how weird or embarrasing they might be in person. I never go walking too late or in places that are abandoned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:43 PM
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Not tall. I also carry less than men. I did not say there is no difference, but that the difference is not as extreme as some women/men think it is. I wouldn't be able to compete with men in physical labor, but it doesnt mean I cant contribute/ do some things by myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:56 PM
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I suspect most women who proclaim to not be able to lift heavy etc usually exaggerate out of fear of those same dumb comments. In my experience I was able to lift just as well as any average man in my fitness categoty. The muscle mass difference is really not that meaningful, unless u spend ur life never attempting to challenge yourself phisically so that nobody would think youre a man :/ Or maybe I'm superwoman idk Edit: Like, for example, I carried with my (male) roommate a washing machine up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:57 AM
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It's not really that interesting. Just he had medium sized speakers he wanted to tweak, and slowly but surely our little aparement became full of his equipment. I really like creative mess around the house in general so I didn't mind that, and it was interesting to sit with him and help him listen to minut differences in the systems he built. It became this ritual every evening I would listen with him for an hour or more and talk over the differences. It got to a stage all he did was basically t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:58 PM
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Can I add don't date audiophiles?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:00 PM
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I had men explain to me women don't care about looks like men do. They are so confident when they say it, and what's worst most women I knew ACCEPTED it as fact. Made me feel like a pervert for caring if a man I'm seeing is fit and dressed well .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:20 PM
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I second this. At first he tried and it was meh but I thought he cared and would make an effort to improve. Tried waiting for him, giving him time, several years later & he just got worse. Maybe there are guys that are bad at first but make an effort to improve. Idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:26 PM
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It's a really interesting question. I would guess the process is related to the sexual liberation movements who happened paralel to feminist rights. Sexual liberation is often mixed with feminism. The birth of the strong feminist woman who wears a tight skirt, high heels, full makeup, works, shaves, raised the kids is I think a sort of compromise. For many women who grew up highly indoctrinated by their moms and grandmas (who had a very reasonable mentality born out of decades experience on how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:10 PM
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Good for u. My leg hair always shows, also arm hair. Actually the hair on my arms is as thick as the hair on my legs. But my ex never complained about arm hair, only leg hair. Weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:45 PM
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Isn't it better karma to just let assholes be and use your time in developing a healthy relationship with someone you love? U can use your developed observation skilles to level up economically in ways that contain less ppl of the type u hate. Hanging around ppl we don't respect is emotionally taxing, from my experience. Choosing to have them as a spouse just seems like self-abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:20 PM
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<3 Though I wouldn't phrase it like that. His abuse & the way society guides him to deal with it is just a very sad situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:49 AM
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U were downvoted? Yea, I agree with u on standing up to trivializations..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:07 PM
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I had only one SO in my life, so there is a chance I would find a more "generous" guy. Hopeful 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:58 PM
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Not phisically, probably emotionally.* Have been hurt emotionally by so for not shaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:42 PM
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Maybe it depends on country norms. Where I come from female body hair is not discussed the way it is in the US, only in terms of shaming / when the occasional hipster reveals her armpits while her legs and arms remain flawlessly hairless (If there ever was a more annoying imagery...).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:06 PM
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I had to stop giving my ex bj's to make him see his lack of effort has reached critical condition. He is a very smart guy, but when he deigned to touch me he was being really weird, blaming me for giving bad instructions, never putting his soul in it. He was sexualy abused (or raped, he never said) as a child. Never went to therapy about it - actually refused to go. And made it all about me and my bad instructions. His compromise was to say his failure to give pleasure is something that can't be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:18 AM
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Same. Let's nope not though ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:57 AM
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I wish it was just pubic trimming. My ex trimmed his regularly, to show me I am lazy for not aspiring to have smooth legs&hands all the time. I consider myself a sucess because I did not agree to go through permanent hair removal sloutions (I have far better things to do with my money&time than yearly laser). And for insisting to talk to him about those subjects. We lived together. I was constantly insidiously shamed by him. He never acknowledged the difference between shaving his beard&pubes (e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:11 AM
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And she didn't even mention how women are expected to have no body hair and how those hair removal "beauty rituals" leech the joy out of every sexual encounter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:45 PM
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