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| 1 | Christian brothers, rise! Here are the Top 10 benefits of doing NoFapAs a married man it was easier for me when I deployed last year. I didn’t see my wife for 13 months and she sent me videos which allowed me to take the edge off every now and then. As a single man, I guess if you can do it without lust for any woman and you are doing it to take the edge off that’s fine, it may actually help you from falling into temptation if the situation to sin with your girlfriend before marriage(because it will). The main benefit of NOFAP is that you are in line with gods wi… | /r/RPChristians | 03/09/24 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostYup it sure did. 190 to 230 in a year. I’m 225 now but I cycle between 220-225 since I lack discipline on dieting. All the other stuff you mentioned in this post has happened as well. I bought some larger pants for work since the other ones were constricting my waist so much that my legs were getting staticy a month ago. My goal now is to fit into my old ones. Discord didn’t work for me since stuff so easily falls in the cracks but I’m gonna start posting OYS on here again. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/22 11:02 AM |
| 2 | Fixing Your OYS - Your Life Will Keep Sucking Until You Read and Apply This PostThanks bro. Weight has been creeping on me lately. No excuses. I hope you are doing well. | /r/RPChristians | 01/02/22 02:37 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/16/21)Yeah I have been gone to. Mainly for the big reason you listed which was gaining weight and not feeling like posting because of it. Beta reason for sure. My diet has been a dirty bulk for sure. It is not bad besides the sugar and snacking on cookies or milkshakes or sugary things my wife bakes and going ham and no willpower (ex. I had one cookie, might as well have two.) I also supplemented Diet Coke in and found the artificial sugar may be worse since it makes you hyper sensitive to sugar / cra… | /r/RPChristians | 18/08/21 12:49 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/16/21)Physical Weight: 215 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 25% Workouts went good this week. I have added a lot of weight to my bench in the past two months. My final set was 215 x 8. I expect to be benching 225 x 8 by the middle of next month if my cut doesn’t kill my gains. If I lost strength so be it but I think it will be minimal if I keep lifting heavy. Diet was OK but I could have been more consistent. The biggest thing is fighting my sugar cravings. I bought some Keto ice cream which is low in carbs and … | /r/RPChristians | 17/08/21 12:53 PM |
| 2 | What is Godly, masculine worship?Look up old Christian hymns on YouTube. A lot of it is better than modern worship. I personally am a fan of Carman. Especially heart of a champion. He has other good songs to. | /r/askRPC | 14/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/21/21)Physical: Weight: 205 BF: 21% Going on vacation last week and eating out a lot contributed to some weight gain. I have not had any time to work out this week since coming back because we were preparing for the George Floyd case in my National Guard unit. It seems to have slown down a lot per the verdict so hopefully schedule goes back to normal and I can eat food besides an MRE and fast food which is provided by vendors in the city. Mental/Emotional My wife is still having some issues dealing wi… | /r/RPChristians | 21/04/21 07:58 PM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/07/21)Physical: Weight: 203 BF: 20% Height: 6 ft 1 in Did better at tracking calories this week. I had some cake at a baby shower and my wife made some cinnamon rolls and I ate two of those throughout the course of the week. What has helped me here is intermittent fasting and only eating between 11 AM-7 PM. Doing that I have not really watched carbs as much since KETO was making me feel like crap and I eat what I want I just make sure to monitor my portion sizes. Worked out consistently this week so f… | /r/RPChristians | 07/04/21 02:46 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/31/21)Physical: Weight: 204 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF%:20 Lacking discipline in this area. I really have no excuses. I know it is not a good idea every time I eat something sugary which is why I say it is a discipline issue and not an I don't know what I did wrong issue. I weigh 204 but it does not look like 204 and I am 100% certain it is a diet issue since I have a bigger pouch in the stomach area. I just got home from 4 weeks of military training and we ate a lot of MRE's the whole time which is why no … | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/21 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Partner with a deep sexual past?There is no such thing as a world proof marriage. However, if you build your frame and LEAD and find a woman who responds to that then you are on the right track. I recommend listening to the RPC podcast on YouTube called “The Black Pill” It mentions some stuff that might help you. Good luck. | /r/RPChristians | 01/03/21 02:23 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/17/21)Writing these on Reddit again since feedback sometimes falls through the cracks on Discord. Physical Weight: 204 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF:20% Already down one lb since coming back home from 3 weeks of training. I have been doing CrossFit workouts with one of my military buddies burning 500-600 calories a workout as well as staying under 1800 calories on a modified version of keto. Only caved once this morning and ate a pretzel stick that has carbs but if that's the only bad thing I do I will be happ… | /r/RPChristians | 18/02/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/20/21)Physical: Weight: 204 Diet: Did better not eating as much. Being stuck at the GA Capitol had some boring moments where I ate cookies or something I should not have but I am doing better in this area. Mental/emotional: Struggling a little here since I was working 12-14 hour shifts a day and the house being a mess. I don’t have as much time to do my share (dishes, diaper changes, watching our son for her to have downtime, etc.) I became stubborn and refused to do some of them and said she has to s… | /r/RPChristians | 20/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 2 | The Story of TimThat’s the secular way of finding the one though. The issue as I am seeing it is biblical ways to find the one AKA not fornicating. Oh wait there Is a side bar for that...lol. | /r/RPChristians | 04/01/21 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Joining the military during the coronahoax?I’m assuming you are in the US? If so go into the Air Force if you can. Way better bases on the active side and less likely you will end up in the middle of nowhere. If you work hard you can have a rewarding career. | /r/askRPC | 16/11/20 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Simple Question, How Do I Know If I am Truly Red Pilled?You will be red pilled once you can live in your own frame on a consistent basis. It takes a while to kill the blue though. Start with lifting and participating in OYS which will help others identify some of your pitfalls etc. I orbited here for 2 months before I started to write their weekly and that’s when I finally made some of the changes I wanted. Good luck. | /r/askRPC | 23/10/20 12:19 AM |
| 2 | How do I handle my mistakes?I would have said something along the lines of that’s not the only thing that’s sharp with a smirk on my face. If she keeps pressing it just laugh it off. But yeah in the future just use some social intelligence (I have made the same mistakes in the past). | /r/askRPC | 17/10/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/07/20)Physical: Weight: 195 BF: 19% Baby born this week so I was at the hospital so workouts were not as frequent. Since getting home on Friday I only did my three mile routine once mainly because of sleep deprivation. Now that I am well rested I want to continue to do it every other day to aid in my weight loss. My wife made a good recommendation to use Hello Fresh which we used this week and will continue to use. I really like their easy meals and if I have a recipe I actually enjoy cooking. Mental/… | /r/RPChristians | 08/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/16/20)Weight: 197 BF: 19% I did intermittent fasting this week. Besides that I had no real plan for dieting besides avoiding sugar and ate what I wanted but kept it to a reasonable portion size. This was the rolling average of weighing myself every morning this week. Work was busy and I have a PT test coming up so I stuck to running to prepare for that. Mental/emotional My wife got pissed at me for hanging out with my family to long on Sunday afternoon since she wanted to go on a date that afternoon. … | /r/RPChristians | 17/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)Sorry I do not think I explained it properly. It was not a deployment. I am in the National Guard. It would have been a full time position at a local armory, M-F (unless we have to respond to civil disturbance), working 9 to 5 making triple what I make at my regular job working for the State of GA. I completely agree leaving at this critical point in our marriage would be a bad move. | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/20 02:13 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)Idk honestly I’m just mad and feel like a complete failure right now on multiple levels. But a few weeks ago I was fully prepared to have to go back to my regular job then it feels like they dangled a full time opportunity in front of me and it may get pulled away last second. I would rather have not have had the hope at all if it was not going to happen in the first place. But I will drive on. Life as a father is only going to get harder from here. | /r/RPChristians | 10/09/20 01:52 AM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)Yeah, it was poor impulse control. I knew it to I just made up some BS rationalizations to justify it. But the scale doesn't lie so it was enough motivation to get me back on track. | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 04:34 PM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/09/20)Physical: Weight: 198 BF: 19% Cheated a lot over the weekend at me and my wife's baby shower and relaxed too much since they gave all of our Soldiers the weekend off due to burnout. Two milkshakes and cake and just eating too much will make you gain weight. Shocker, lol. Started taking a daily average over seven days to get a more accurate weight and this is what it averaged out to. The missions have died down and at the moment it is 9-5 Monday thru Friday again. I will dial this area back in th… | /r/RPChristians | 09/09/20 03:09 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/02/20)Sorry to hear this man. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest warriors. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. | /r/RPChristians | 03/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/02/20)Physical: Weight: 197 BF: 19% Like I said in last weeks OYS, I am focused on maintaining this weight until my schedule changes. Working 12-14 hour days in body armor and a rifle in a hot humvee I need my calories to function. When the riot mission dies down again I can go back to cutting. Mental/emotional Had a rougher week this week just due to exhaustion. On Thursday night I got home and my wife was having pre labor pains so we went to the hospital that night and were there for four hours as t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/09/20 04:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/26/20)Physical Weight: 197 BF: 18% Height: 6 ft 1 in Have not stuck to my guns here as much as I would like to. I have been doing a lot of National Guard stuff as of late and have had to eat MRE's while on mission which has thrown my diet off and I caved a couple of times when Chick Fil A or Popeyes or whatever brought us food and I scarfed down hashbrowns and a chicken biscuit, etc. Doing a mission in full gear sitting in a humvee with no AC has also affected my willpower to a certain extent, or mayb… | /r/RPChristians | 27/08/20 12:47 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)I am not sure. I know that is a factor as well since I am trying to get a full time position since my "provider mode" is on overdrive as my wife's due date approaches and she will not work for at least 6 months. After my cheat meal I felt like crap as well but discipline and my goal for where I wanted to be kept me going. As for maintaining it WHEN (80% chance I have to go back at some point) I go back I have not thought that far yet honestly. I guess I would say discipline and plus I will have … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 10:29 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)Discipline is the main thing I have maintained this go round. Zero sugar besides the one cheat meal a week and actually looking at macros. It also helps that I have other soldiers doing it with me and we are all dedicated and competing and holding one another accountable. As of now my goal is to just hit 190 LBS. I may decide to keep cutting until I hit 180 LBS but I will see how my body looks once I get to 190 LBS. I think cutting carbs and sugar has been good for me and I will also need to avo… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)She believes in Egalitarianism by her actions. For example, if I do not explain myself to her she will get upset since she sees us on a equal playing field for making decisions. You kill it by saying, "This is the plan I decided so its what I am going to do." What I mean by kill it slowly is a BP guy will try to explain his authority which is the wrong answer. A leader just makes a plan and sticks to it. Red explained it better than I can in his latest post he actually just posted. Basically you… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 07:10 PM |
| 2 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"Bad job explaining stuff online. I meant her throwing test your way is inevitable. RP is deciding how you want to respond to them (STFU, NI, AA, AM, etc.) But thank you for that post as well. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 07:05 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/12/20)Physical: Weight: 197 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 18% Stuck to my diet to a T. This morning was the roughest it has been in a while. I did a 3-mile run and only ate 1300 calories yesterday so my energy levels are low. My stomach has not changed much in the past 7 LBS lost but I have lost it mostly in my thighs. 190 LBS is my goal for now. I hope to reach it before my wife gives birth (mid-Sept to early October). Mental/Emotional Did not watch porn this week so a small win there. I and my wife's relati… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | No, your congregation does not preach "biblical headship"Thanks for this. It puts the plane for where I am in reality. My wife shoots for an egalitarianism approach (with words and actions) and what I thought was headship in my mind was merely Complementarianism. "Christlike male headship means, when if conflict happens (as it will if you're a blue pill idiot), you lead in apologizing resolving it." The only caveat I have to this is that even if you are RP conflict is inevitable. When you are OYS it is just easier to handle and pass tests than in the … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/20 02:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)It’s to soon to tell. I adjusted well today and didn’t experience any significant change in cravings. Only downside which may potentially happen is my body doesn’t go into ketosis since eating carbs offsets it. I’ll know by Wednesday. If my weight keeps going down I’ll stick to one cheat meal a week. Because that spaghetti was to good lol. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 08:12 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)Biggest thing with porn (this time around) which helped me is just realizing it is impulse control. Become busy with other things and you also won’t have time to do it. Like you said if you are wasting time it makes it very easy to fall back into. Replacing the bad habits with good ones makes it easier. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 01:53 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)Physical: Weight: 200 LBS as of Wednesday BF: 19% Stuck to my diet to a T. I had a lot of negative motivation fueling me from failing on this so long which kept me going. As of today I weigh 197 which I find sceptical because I have no clue how I could lose 3 LBS in two days. Part of me thinks it’s water weight but I my progress here is motivating me to keep going. I had my cheat meal of the week last night and it was enough to make the dying feeling go away. Mental/Emotional Me and my wife are … | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 01:48 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/20)Cussing is probably just a military thing. Since I have been on orders since April I have noticed I cuss more. Not saying that makes it right but some guys in the service use a cuss word every other word lol. I can only imagine the navy. I think the saying “Swearing like a sailor” is for a reason. | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/20 12:58 PM |
| 2 | When do I first kiss a woman when beginning to date her? (27M)Just go for the kiss. When you feel like you want to kiss her kiss her (after vining and gaming, etc.) She will let you know if she does not want AKA turning away or whatever else single women do, it’s been awhile for me lol. It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than asking for permission. As you go on more dates you will also get a better feel for it. Don’t put a lot of pressure on the kiss, just have fun and go for it when you get that knot in your stomach, that’s what I used to do haha. | /r/askRPC | 05/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)My goal is to get to 190 lbs by Sept. 30th. To get there I need to stay at 1800 calories a day. And yeah i know its a series of bad decisions, but in the moment I don't care. The main thing is just to build impulse control in this area. It has helped the past two weeks to have an accountability partner so I expect good results. Thank you for the accountability. | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 05:10 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)Ok, that makes sense. I have some friends that think the same way. Believing in a false gospel is always a danger. I use https://www.scripture4all.org/OnlineInterlinear/NTpdf/mat1.pdf for the Hebrew Old Testament and Greek New Testament. I use the NLT alongside it for the more difficult to read passages. I would encourage you to just stay in the word and work on the seven basics which helped(helps) me a lot. And you say you play a lot of videogames? Do you have friends or people you play with mo… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/20 12:24 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)Everything going wrong is on me, but I still feel the temptation to blame God and that causes me to doubt salvation. This happens sometimes. Even for new converts and people who have been on this awhile. The sidebar really helped me deal with this. Especially the 300's and 400's. As for porn and losing weight, it is all discipline. I have struggled with both recently as well so I feel your pain. Mission: Carry out the great commission. Spread the gospel like everyday is the very last on eart… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 07:04 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/20)Physical Weight: 203 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 19% Over the past three weeks, I have struggled a lot here and this also bleeds into the mental section. I was doing good for a week then cravings kicked in hardcore and I gained all the weight I lost in a three day period of overeating. I never really encountered that problem before and it demotivated me for a bit which downward spiraled my emotional center and at one point I weighed 206 again. Last week I started the Keto diet with some of my soldiers… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/20 04:05 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/20)Thank you. Especially for the car advice. I was completely unprepared yesterday and learned some great lessons when it comes to this stuff but I could write like 2 full pages of the issues I encountered yesterday. Now that I am not angry anymore I am thankfull since I probably dodged a shady deal (the private seller would not let me take the car to get inspected before buying and said that they would sign a waiver saying they would fix anything after I bought it which made me uncomfortable in hi… | /r/RPChristians | 11/07/20 11:45 AM |
| 7 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/20)Physical: Weight: 203 BF: 19% Height: 6ft 1in No change here. I did not lift at all this week either. I got switched to night shift for 4 days then back to day shift so my schedule has been kind of jacked up. On nightshift I was drinking like three coffees a night with a lot of sugar and eating pizza and whatever else the soldiers I was with ordered. Just realized this is all one big excuse so I will dial this back in. Regardless if nightshift was rough it was still my decision to eat poorly (no… | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/20 04:08 PM |
| 6 | Remarriage questionYou need to set your standards for what you find acceptable. Having an affair is a complete no go for me. I cannot even wrap my head around multiple. Even if my wife wanted to remain married I would pull the plug, but whether it is biblical or not that is where I draw a line. I would encourage you to look at Matthew 18:15-17. This is a biblical guide to leading your wife to repentance. My wife used to act physically abusive and I struggled with setting boundaries. I had to ask myself did God wan… | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/20)Yeah it was way out of character and a bad decision. Thank you for the accountability. | /r/RPChristians | 07/07/20 01:30 AM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/20)No I’m not into that stuff. I put strippers/prostitution in the same category. Even from a secular perspective I think it’s stupid. Why pay for something you didn’t have to work for? Your basically paying for a hired gun to flirt with you at that point which takes no game. They were all pissed at me and giving me crap calling me lame. I don’t really care. The only thing I bought there was drinks. | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 05:12 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/20)Physical: Weight: 203 BF: 19% Height: 6 ft 1 in Missed last week OYS so this is a two week update. Two weeks ago I ate pretty crappy and succumbed to sugar cravings and over the course of the week, drank a lot of beer one night, and I had like 3 milkshakes and other stuff such as homemade donuts on a date me and my wife went on. Weight got up to 205 and I got this back on track this week and an back down to 203. I have been able to generate some dread by saying NO in this area since and my wife … | /r/RPChristians | 01/07/20 04:14 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/20)Physical: Weight: 204 BF: 19% Diet has been great this week. Only day I cheated was last night and I had a piece of cake since it was me and my wife's anniversary (it was a pretty big slice, lol). I have also been going to LA Fitness in the mornings to work out since my civilian job doesn't seem to want me back at the moment since my military service is constantly changing my availability. Mental/Emotional Nothing really new here. My wife went back to work this week so she is not at the hotel wi… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/20 08:10 PM |
| 5 | RPC Chat - Episode 4: Christian Dead BedroomsAwesome discussion. The point I wanted to talk about more though is duty sex really better than no sex? Some may say yes and some may say no. During pregnancy my wife’s hormones have fluctuated so much that she really does not crave sex if any at all and if we do I can tell she is not into it during the act. She has said on more than one occasion “I still have sex with you because I know it is important to you and I know you need it. I may not be super into it but seeing how you are into it I ca… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexYes I agree with you on that. I have always reasoned in my mind if she is "physically incapable" then it would be wise to try another day. I will say though....even if this is the reason over a week I begin to get sexually frustrated lol. She is understanding to this and this is where her love for me compels her to fulfill my want even if she is not up to par (for clarification). If that does not work for you I understand. But yes this is my first child (she is due on Oct. 6th) and it a boy whic… | /r/RPChristians | 16/06/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Explaining the Double Standards around SexI see why this could be yuck to you. The fact of being physically intimate while not in the mood is probably rough, lol. I do not have that problem since I always am ready to go. On a caveat to what u/Red-Curious said. Sometimes you just have to lube it up. Since my wife has been pregnant, her sex drive is very low. When she does get horny, it is 99% of the time when I am not around then the feeling goes away. (THIS NEXT PART MAY BE TMI so if you don't want to read it do not.) Also, her juices a… | /r/RPChristians | 15/06/20 10:28 PM |
| 2 | What's the difference between a red flag, a red flag that can be resolved? Am I being too picky?I would say just move on. Like others have said burning with a passion is not present on her side. IMO "putting a ring on it" is not going to change that. Anything bad going on before the marriage only usually gets amplified since the exit door has locks on it. I and my wife were "lukewarm Christians" before marriage so we had premarital sex a lot but I literally could not keep her off of me at the time so the passion was definitely there. I wish I could give you an example of what Godly "burnin… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/20 06:52 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Are you doing IF? I had a lot of success with that. Plus, it’s downright fun to shove 1,200 calories down in a sitting. I was doing that before the protests started. I would get up at 7AM and have a coffee and not eat until 1PM when I went in for my military job and then eat dinner at 7 or 8 PM. It worked pretty well for a week but then cravings started to hit hard. I start that shift again on Monday but I will try to start that now. (Edit) As for scripture memorization I just looked for an app … | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 07:11 PM |
| 4 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/20)Weight :205 BF: 19% Height : 6 ft 1 in Like I said last week I was pretty sure I did not lose weight. I stepped on a scale yesterday at 205. My lifting had gone go crap from working 14-16 hour days but GA took us off of the protest missions on Saturday and we had three days off. I worked out on those days and also added some cardio like I was doing before the protests started (3 mile run every other day). Doing this adds up to like 430 calories a run so over time it helps with my weight loss. I … | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/20)Physical: Weight: 205 Almost 90% certain I did not lose weight this week. My diet has been pretty crappy. I have been dealing with this rioting shenanigans with the National Guard working 14-15 hour days and running on 4 hours of sleep a day. I have been eating a lot of fast food since we are in the city and that is often all we have time for. Once this is all over I will get this back on track. Mental/Emotional Dealing with the protests is weighing on me a bit. My wife is acting pretty bonkers … | /r/RPChristians | 03/06/20 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Do's and Don'ts on a "first date"Eh you might be able to if you just address the “unsafe ness” before she does? It shows that you are not an idiot and you understand the social implications. Contrary to keeping texting just to logistics, I was actually really good at building rapport over text. So if you already have rapport built before the first date you can say: “I’m going hiking (whenever you are going) and I want you to come. That is...if you aren’t secretly a serial killer. But if you are it’s cool. I’m pretty fast...so I… | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 03:32 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)This post is from the same guy that discipled me with that comment a while back. The post along with the sermon attached to it really helped me put disciple making into perspective. Do not try to be a Gospel salesman. All we can do is write reviews about how God has changed our lives and how he has saved us from eternal doom. But I will let the rest speak for itself. Just read it and watch. | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 2 | The way of manThe only time I get flashbacks is when I get hit on by single women and the validation high and fighting my instincts to game/flirt. Some can do that and be just fine... but in the back of my mind I know I would always want to know if I could take it further; so I just refuse to engage and the first place. When your gaming all the time (the wrong way) you end up just craving nextitis instead of oneitis. You want that next K close in 30 seconds at the bar, the next phone number, the next date, th… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 08:28 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)I am also a person who has issues with assurance from time to time. I recommend you watch the movie on Netflix The American Gospel. It really helped me with my assurance since Grace is the only reason we are saved. Of course, that does not mean keep on sinning, just read Romans 6. But bases on Grace we are free from the sting of death because of sin. And if advancing the kingdom is important to you like it is me, Some guy who is a great discipler sent me this comment a long time ago and it reall… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 02:20 PM |
| 3 | The way of manI feel for you man. When I was single I took that path and said F it and I did go screw all those chicks. During that time I also became super far from God because I knew I was sinning on purpose. How can I pretend to have a relationship with him when I am purposely rebelling against him? I didn’t. I went to the bars like 3-4 days a week for like 3 years and was into PUA and all sorts of stuff. It was fun but not worth it. Being here on this forum you already see what God wants for you. Marriage… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 12:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)This week in that particular situation it was on the fly. Everything else is just pre-planned stuff I have been saying for awhile. And I have not done any scripture memory yet. I will do some this week. | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 12:30 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)We can talk about it in the moment 90% of the time when she is irritated and get back on track; but it seems she tries to use hormones as her go to excuse when it does pop up. The way I normally handle it is just by joking around and not getting sucked into it. On the occasion she gets really heated what works best in my case is just not engaging with it at all and popping smoke for a bit. Addressing it during our bible studies usually brings about the behavior modification I want at least for a… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/20 01:26 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)Yeah I have been trying to get to 190 for over a year. I have been fluctuating between 205-212 for like the past year. I feel like a have a fire under my but right now to reach it so that’s good. I’m going to use the motivation while it lasts. | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/20)Physical Weight:205 Height : 6 ft 1 in Workouts have been inconsistent lately since I was finalizing the moving process and I have been using my spare time to unpack boxes. One thing that has been good is my diet and I have stuck to 1900 calories a day. For the past two weeks I also run 3 miles every other day and this has helped with weight loss as well. I cheated on Sunday at a coworkers party me and my wife went to but besides that I have done well in this area. Mental/Emotional Things seem t… | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | How to make sense of all this? I am scarred.Yeah that sucks. I would work on building an abundance mindset. There are plenty of beautiful women in the world and if you are a strong leader you can bring one onto your team eventually. Some will, some won’t...so what? | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/20 07:01 PM |
| 5 | How to make sense of all this? I am scarred.Bro, next this girl. Oneitis sucks and you might be annoyed and in your feelings (I can tell you are from the wall of text you wrote), but it’s not worth it. Next her and commit your time to going to the gym and whatever you decide you want your mission to be. But yeah she probably did have sex (or maybe not who knows) but who cares if she lied to you or did have sex. If you’re not married, sometimes it’s best just to cut the ties and start fresh. Especially since she has a lot of red flags. I d… | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/20 06:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/20)I was wondering why I have not seen you post in awhile. Some of your comments really helped my through OYS and dealing with frame battles with my wife. And the most Important motto for this sub IMO is that “milage May vary” for everyone using certain tools they want to add to their frame. A lot of frame is situational and every woman is different. It’s hard to put everything into words to type to strangers online. But I’m glad your sex life and frame has improved. I’m still learning/experimentin… | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/20 06:35 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)Yeah thank you for the tips. The only issue I have seen with this is you can only use the same counter/ AM / AA counter so many times before it loses its effectiveness. Basically your game has to be constantly evolving to keep her on her toes. I have been using my free time nowadays fo work out and read the Bible . Before the past two weeks I was loving around in my hotel room watching Netflix. Changing just that has helped dividends. The main thing I am focused on now is dieting and lifting. It… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)I do not DEER much. I would definitely say my biggest Hangup is still emotional roboting when she tries to get a rise out of me and all it does is piss her off at this point. I have not used dread at all. I heard using dread with a pregnant woman is not the best method lol. And I do most of the household duties. She cooks but I do basically everything else (and she tries to tell me how to do it) which is where the power struggle has come in recently. This is not our original setup but I have had… | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/20 05:40 PM |
| 2 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?Lol, I don’t think you understood what I was trying to say either. That’s the only thing that sucks about online communication. Yes, if God provides those means for you then be great full for them. The only bad thing with riches in this life or the desire for them is it leads to the preaching of the “prosperity gospel” and people falling away once the trials of life come or if they don’t get the blessings when they want them they pout and get angry with God. But I have a feeling I’m just ranting… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?I don’t necessarily think Money is bad as long as you still know God is your master and you serve him only. The main thing God wants is your heart. The problem with riches is you start to favor your comfort more than God and you lose sight of the mission God has for you. Money is a tool. You can use it poorly or you can use it wisely. Just realize that’s what it is and use it to aid in your mission. | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 06:06 PM |
| 7 | Does Man Really Findeth A Wife?Yeah, finding a Christian girl is easy. Finding a true Christian girl you have the hots for is another thing entirely. Especially if "the hotter women" are just involved with Churchianity and not truly walking out the faith and are still very much secular in regards to sexual immorality (behaviors I have seen from most 7's and up at Church behind closed doors). But from what you posted it seems like you have some good starting criteria for what you are looking for. Just go on dates and have fun.… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/20 03:07 AM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)Yeah, the issue is she is getting pretty balsy with it and is coming across as overt as possible without directly saying it. They are just warning you to be careful since even the best of men are capable of falling into the trap. Just look at David. | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)I actually think you handled it really well. It reminds me of a month ago when I had two attractive ladies say that they thought I was sexy AF at a red light when I had not seen my wife in person for over two weeks and was doing great on not watching porn and the temptation to go for the phone number was definitely there but I resisted and I just thanked them cracked a few jokes and then told them to have a nice night. I ate the validation up and it left me sexually frustrated and unfortunately … | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/20 07:00 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)Trust me I understand the porn thing entirely. Especially since I have been in a hotel for the past month and see my wife maybe twice a week it is hard not to do. The best thing that has helped me is just to stay busy and do something productive. You don’t have time to think about doing and by the time you know it you’re tired and can go to bed. When the cravings start getting bad bad just go Have sex with your wife lol. That’s what’s worked for me. | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 07:10 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/20)PHYSICAL: Weight:208 BF: 19% I have gotten this back on track. Between SkimTheDross speaking facts and my wife “trying to help me” has been the negative motivation I needed. I just have to keep the ball rolling. I have not used my fitness pal since it is hard to track hotel food, but I cut out breakfast each day and control my portion sizes a lot better. Saying “NO” as well when my wife buys crap and offers me some. MENTAL/EMOTIONAL: My wife has tried to push my buttons here in a variety of ways… | /r/RPChristians | 13/05/20 06:39 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/20)Yeah my OYS should read Weight: stays the same because I don’t care enough and have no discipline. Mental: yeah it may be that way for now. My wife is pregnant so I’m doing 90% of the work and catering to her needs a bit more. Can you clarify what you mean by that. I assumed in the second and third trimester I would have to do more because she is nearing the points she cannot do much. | /r/RPChristians | 08/05/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/20)Physical: Weight:210 BF: 20% I have failed significantly in this area and did not realize it until I stepped on the scale for the first time in two weeks. I have eaten out a lot since my wife came to stay with me at the hotel for a week since her car engine light came on and was on the shop. She often did not finish her meals and I ate that and I also woke up every morning to eat a waffle covered with syrup and butter as well as sausages on some occasions. I have definitely been overeating. I no… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/20 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Frame Fail?That’s good man. I glad you found RPC. But yeah OYS is a great place to start. Some of the Mods give advice and feedback weekly which is great in helping you see pitfalls and taking ownership week by week. Posting FRs is good to though to since it helps you analyze particular situations and where you goofed up and can improve. I’ll see you in OYS tomorrow. Enjoy your Cinco De Mayo. | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/20 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Frame Fail?Not necessarily a fail. It was a comfort test. In those situations it is best just to keep your responses ambiguous and keep the mystery going while also giving reassurance. She does not know what you want from her and she does not know how to handle it. Just lead her and tell her what you expect with some AA and AM. The way I view sex now is there will be some sessions where Emerson is 100% where both of us are into it and sometimes it will not be 100%. Just enjoy both. Great sex is rarely plan… | /r/RPChristians | 05/05/20 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Roosh V on Jessie Lee PetersonYeah one of my friends was possessed by a demon while tripping on shrooms. He typed in how to get saved from demons on Google and stuff about Christianity popped up. He says God removed the control of the demon over him and God told him to stop smoking weed and doing drugs (similar to what happened with me). He stopped for like two weeks but fell back into it. Although it is a sin and I would never recommend it, shrooms/weed made me very aware that there are indeed spiritual forces at work in th… | /r/RPChristians | 04/05/20 05:47 PM |
| 4 | Apparently now if you are just in a good mood, you're toxic.Dude the APA and the hard left is a cancer. I remember when I was in college I had to pick a dummy degree to go active duty officer. I picked psychology because it was majority women and I wanted to pick them up (pre-Christian). 99% of those women even if they were pretty were a basket case. I did like certain experiments in social psychology and I met one or two women there who also hated feminism, but the majority just hate on men. The worst were the discussion classes. It was a bunch of women… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/20 06:09 PM |
| 1 | No / Bad Sex - Always His Fault?I get what your getting at and sometimes all the RP jargon irritates me as well. It can feel like a one upper courtroom where someone claims to know more than you do or that someone is reading into something to much. It’s hard to make an assessment of someone in one block of text without knowing more information. That’s why stats and an introduction is so important. As for your wife’s sexual desire? I felt like that to. I also thought my wife lost her sexual desire. It was not until I saw my wif… | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)I was just trying to challenge some of your viewpoints. Both man and woman were perfect before the fall. I was referring to if we had remained perfect (Genesis 1:31) , how do you think man and woman would be wired differently in regards to finding “their best” mate? How does this differ from the way women go about finding their best mate now? Like you said, most women decisions in dating is complete dog crap when finding a Christlike man. It is a dilemma for them in their minds because they want… | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 06:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)I disagree with you here. Eve quotes she was deceived by the serpent in Genesis 3:13 and made a decision independent of Adam's authority (Eve's first sin). Adam's first sin is that he listened to his wife and not God. (Genesis 3:17). I wish the bible had a WHY he created women this way but there is not one directly. There are only examples of women showing the WHAT you said above. The only "true" direct answer I have is Genesis 3:16 depending on the translation you use. Because of her eating the… | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/20 07:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)Yeah that’s fine. If you don’t think it’s worth it then that is ok. However if you are a Christian the only way you can have sex is in the context of marriage. If you see women as to much of a hassle then yeah I agree. Read 1 Corinthians Ch 7. It is one of the most useful passages in pursing our mission for Christ. If you don’t think a woman is worth it then great. You are better than me and your intentions are undivided. Unfortunately before I became a Christian I was having sex...a lot. I happ… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)I have been there trust me. But what is even more irrational is trying to live out “the Blue pill fantasy “ for what love is. Yes, sometimes my wife has the emotional capacity of a teenager. AWALT. Once you come to acceptance with that you don’t care as much. This is like 100 and 200 stuff from the sidebar. You cannot just hit some magic button to change your wife’s behaviors. That’s where sanctification comes in. That’s where the Bible comes in. Some people say RPC is life on hard mode. Persona… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 08:38 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)To caveat this, let me put it this way. Sometimes...women cheat or leave. Let’s say a man is a really great construction worker and then he injured his back on the job and now for the rest of his life he is collecting disability checks and is in a wheelchair. Like you I have seen countless examples of women leaving their man in this situation. Maybe they cannot handle the responsibility, who knows. But do not let this deter you from getting married if you want to. You can be the “perfect” man an… | /r/RPChristians | 24/04/20 06:04 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/20)Physical: Weight: 207 Height: 6FT 1IN BF%: 19% My workouts have been great as of late and my numbers are actually up from before COVID closed the gyms. I guess resting actually made me stronger which is weird. I have access to a full set of free weights all the way up to 110 LBS and have access to a squat rack and bench with bar and weights. I can do basically everything I would want to do at a regular gym anyways. My diet has gotten better (no junk like hot pockets and stuff that I can store in… | /r/RPChristians | 22/04/20 11:24 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/20)It was getting a lot better before I left. She was cooking and cleaning again. | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/20 05:49 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/20)Physical: Weight: 206 BF: 19% My national guard unit got activated on Monday so I have the opportunity to work out now since the armory has a full gym. I work nightshift so it is always empty when I go. I am always busy and food is not around so my diet is around 1700 to 1800 calories a day so this will be a good opportunity for me to lose weight. Mental/Emotional Last Friday night I and my wife got into an argument because I went to my friend's house and witnessed to him. (I have found people a… | /r/RPChristians | 08/04/20 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?Trust me I tried that, lol. But when the only thing she wanted to eat was "asian cusine chicken" (the craving of the hour), what would you do if she refuses to eat what you cooked because it is not asian cusine? They are going to try to pressure you from multiple angles to get what they want. Just make sure you are ready for it. I did really great with handling the comfort tests but the compliance tests on the other hand is a different story. Just make sure you are ready. | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?That is exactly what happened with me. It is hard to judge because apparently she had "horrible nausea" and "cravings". She could not stand the smell of herself or me cooking anything she did not want to eat in the moment. If the food we had in the house did not meet her cravings, nausea became a huge issue and she said she would not eat it because it made her want to throw up, etc. (which is how she eventually pitched that she just wants to order the food she wants in any given moment and then … | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 02:49 PM |
| 2 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?Trust me she will try. The first trimester is mainly just a massive hormone influx. She will have "cravings", nausea, and be super emotional. The hardest part is setting boundaries. TBH I do not know if I even effectively set them and by the time I felt like I was getting a grip on things her "cravings" and nausea have died down. I do not know if it was "effective boundary setting" or that her body is just getting used to the extra hormones but so far the second trimester has been easier for the… | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Have you swallowed the Red Chewable Tablet?I really like this and will have to save it for when my child is actually born. The post effectively talks about how to get out of your wife's and kid's frame and how to establish your own in this chaotic environment. My child is not even born yet and she has been using him as leverage (so I can only imagine after the fact). I made a lot of mistakes the first trimester and succumbed to it at times. I know better now and over the past three weeks our dynamic has gone somewhat back to normal and s… | /r/RPChristians | 03/04/20 01:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/20)Physical: Weight: 207 BF%: 19 I will be honest I did not work out at all last week. Sitting in the house was worse than I thought too. I have been snacking on little stuff like tangerines or french fries from McDonald's when my wife buys them when I have "cravings" but I think they are mainly from boredom and working from home. Mental/Emotional: The household dynamic has been weird since I started working from home. Work for me has been kind of annoying since my wife is not working at all at thi… | /r/RPChristians | 26/03/20 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Should I respond to my ex-wife's text message?Dude it is just a text, do not stress it too much. Who knows maybe she realized the grass was not as green on the other side as she thought. If you want to text her back then text her back. Sending a text does not re-marry the both of you. | /r/RPChristians | 26/03/20 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Going to the club as a ChristianI see what you are saying. But at the same time if you are trying to run night game at a church BBQ you have no social IQ, to begin with, lol. A lot of the single guys at churches that I know just do not know how to let a girl know they are interested in them. Of course, at a church BBQ, you should not be doing intense kino moves etc. But if the confidence is already there you do not really have to do much anyways. You just talk and have fun and let the chips fall where they may. The focus of a … | /r/askRPC | 24/03/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Going to the club as a ChristianOh. I was referring to some of the good bars in Atlanta where the 20-28 year old's go. I was lucky. In midtown ATL honestly you do not even have to go to the bar. Just walk outside and they are walking around everywhere. | /r/askRPC | 24/03/20 03:13 PM |
| 3 | I thought I could get over itu/rocknrollchuck in his reply said exactly what I meant by it. But yeah man I would next this woman. Do not let it crumble your faith, however. There are many women in the world. Trust me this is not the one. Focus on building your mission. Start posting in the weekly OYS here and read the sidebar. You are in a good position BF% wise. Just focus on lifting to increase your physical attractiveness and your mission at college (leadership attributes, improve your frame, godly mission, etc.) Trust m… | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 05:03 PM |
| 4 | I thought I could get over itAlso, I accidentally gave her a hickie and she hit me twice. This right here is what stands out to me the most out of all the problems you listed. I would next this woman as relationship material. If no sexual partners matter to you then she does not meet those criteria and she has baggage that is not your job to handle. My mission is to lead college students Bible study and maybe even a pastoral position in the future. Focus on this and find a woman who you can disciple and is on board with thi… | /r/RPChristians | 23/03/20 04:05 PM |
| 1 | I’d like to talk [20M].Read the sidebar and start in the 100s and 200s. Please also post your stats and say a little more about yourself. Are you single or married? What is your body weight and BF %. Also look at our OYS thread and start one. That was the best thing that helped me in the beginning. Welcome to RPC. | /r/RPChristians | 22/03/20 05:22 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/20)The mission for every Christian (or at least one of them) should be to make disciples of all nations. I know the mission, but my struggle has been finding my place in that. I actually just ordered like 100 corona iris gospel tracts and I was going to give them out around my complex. There are still a lot of people out and about. And my lack of confidence is due to not seeing the results (the fruit myself). A year ago I was hoping I could make a lot of my non Christian friends like me and some of… | /r/RPChristians | 22/03/20 05:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/20)Physical: Weight: 208 BF: 19% I have been bulking the past few weeks due to the coronavirus and I saw some steady gains across all of my exercises. My arms did not change much but my quads have gotten bigger. Glad I did because my gym is closed until further notice. My dad has an at-home gym at his house (bench, squat rack, lat pulldown) all in one machine with some decent weights but it is a 30-minute drive. I went over there on Tuesday morning to use it but I have not been back since. Working … | /r/RPChristians | 19/03/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on Plan B and other contraceptives?In the context of marriage, I do not see a problem with it. Plan B is basically super concentrated birth control for "accidents" if the couple does not want a pregnancy at the time. Having children is a big step. If a couple wants to wait I encourage them to wait. However, I will say for a single female (Christian) I feel differently because they should not be having sex anyways and birth control only encourages the cock carousel in a secular context. | /r/askRPC | 18/03/20 12:46 PM |
| 1 | What about BDSM and Roleplay?I think what you are saying is being submissive in the bedroom at times while still being the head outside the bedroom which I definitely agree with you with. As long as the husband is not submissive outside the bedroom (which would cause attraction issues) then yeah I do not think there is a problem with it. Some of the hottest times in the bedroom I have had with my wife was using roleplays of some sort where I started in a "submissive state" (tied with my arms to the bed) and she gave me comm… | /r/RPChristians | 03/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/20)Physical: Weight: 203 BF% 19% Weightlifting has been good. My numbers have declined by about 5 LBS on each set. If I rest for 2 minutes more I can normally do more weight so I have been playing with this. My body has gotten more accustomed to skipping breakfast so my energy levels in the morning have not tanked as hard. I offset my weight loss this week by eating a big slice of cake on Saturday and Sunday. We told her mom and husband about the pregnancy by getting a cake from my favorite bakery … | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/20 04:43 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/20)OK that makes sense. Thank you. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 04:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/20)but she's trying to see what you will put up with. If this continues, make sure there are consequences. I am not sure what you mean by the consequence thing? Last night I realized that just taking charge and then asking as I am already doing it works great. I was chopping up the ingredients for dinner and I just said "Hey babe can you come in here and do this, I need some help." She got up and helped me. So who knows maybe doing this for everything will help a bit. I am not scared of my wife but… | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/20)Thank you, you are right. As of late I have only been reading the bible. I started on an old book I used to love called "Verbal Judo" and boy does it have some good stuff in there. I read Way of the Superior Man a few years ago...it has been awhile. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 03:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/12/20)Physical: Weight: 205? BF: 19% Diet was a little all over the place. After buying food and eating out my wife often did not finish the food she bought and I did not want it to go bad so I ate it most times (overate). I stepped on the scale Sunday morning and my weight was 207. I did not eat anything at all on Sunday and felt like I was dying. I cut breakfast on Monday-Wednesday. When I got on the scale last night I weighed 205 and this morning I weighed 203 so I am assuming it is water weight bu… | /r/RPChristians | 12/02/20 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.The question I would ask you is "What do you think is best for your family?" Do you have any kids? Every decision you make in life has pros and cons. In May me and my wife are moving back into my parents basement. But it will be on our terms. My relationship with my parents is 100x different than what it was when me and my wife were first living there. I put her first and my parents know this. I cut them off for like 3 months for disrespecting my wife and was prepared to do it indefinitely (They… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Pigs and PearlsYes I understand this. But this opens up the conversation trap that nobody is perfect including myself (we all sin). But this leads to people abusing God's grace and not realizing its purpose... sanctification. I agree that we all fall short, but many "Christians" use this as a cop out to keep sinning. In Romans 6 it says our sin has died on the cross with Christ (present tense). Romans 6:7 then says that we have been set free of sin and are no longer its slave. The rest of the chapter basically… | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Pigs and PearlsIt has been awhile. I think I watched it when I first stumbled across RPC. | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Q&A With an untrusting wifeIs there a regular link from GotQuestions to this. I would post it on Fb there are some good gems in this. I refuse to post directly from RPC because it's to much "talking about fight club" | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Pigs and PearlsThe closer a person is to you relationally, the more tact is needed. Yeah this is very true. it actually makes the Gospel make sense to them, usually for the first time. They may not agree, but they don't usually get angry. Yeah that is true. But only for the people who do not already have a water downed idea of Jesus in their heads. Some people think the Gospel makes sense and say they believe in Jesus and that everyone sins (i used to fall into this all of College when I was purposefully sinni… | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Pigs and PearlsWe should share the Gospel with others, including those closest to us, from a perspective of "This has worked for me, and I care about you so I wanted to share it with you as well." I see what you are saying in relating to a non-believer perspective, but this leads to the conversation that,(ex. well I am a Jew and Judaism works for me conversation). At some point they are either going to take the pearl for what it is and treasure it and submit to God's will or they will trample it. First, you ha… | /r/RPChristians | 11/02/20 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.I think your stats are pretty good actually. 10% body fat is really easy to work with. If you want to get bigger then eat more and just do the recommended 5x5 workout and gain some muscle. I wish I was in that situation. I am at 19% and working my way down to 15% before I can begin bulking. But yeah, I know for a fact I would not be able to live with my wife's family mainly because I would fall into their frame out of respect (their house, their rules). It is different if they are out of your ha… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Wife is 5 weeks pregnant (food cravings)Bad wording over online. On Sunday going into Monday I just did not get out of bed. She woke me up and I said No I have work and kept sleeping. She made herself pancakes that night by herself. Since then, the getting up at 4 AM has stopped. And thanks for the food advice. I have been looking into stuff today food wise. I want to make a plan that both of us will actually stick to. | /r/askRPC | 06/02/20 06:54 PM |
| 0 | Wife is 5 weeks pregnant (food cravings)I did not institute the plan. I basically said we will talk about this more later instead of buying into her drama over text. But I think 100$ a month is a reasonable amount. But bro ... you set the expectation. Do you regularly get up at 4a and cook? If so, then cook on my brother. If you don't, then why are you doing it now? True. And I voiced this on Sunday and it has not happened since. | /r/askRPC | 06/02/20 06:31 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/20)You need discipline, plain and simple. Embrace the suck and get it done. What's your goal weight and BF%? Agreed. My goal for 2020 is 15% BF and weight of 190 LBS. That is what 15% will look like for me with some muscle. If I wanted to get straight to 15% without having muscle it would probably be 175 LBS based on my height (6ft 1 in). I have my mind set on 190 LBS for now and I will re-evaluate the best options (bulk or keep cutting) once I get there and how my body feels. You are correct. Adva… | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/20 08:57 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/20)Thanks man. | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/20 06:39 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/05/20)Physical: Weight: 205 BF: 19% Drank last week at a Sip and Paint and I drank and ate a lot of crap food at a Superbowl party this past weekend. I have dialed this back in and I dropped from 206.5 to 205. Diet will be key here in losing weight over the next couple of months. I am expecting to lose some strength, but that is necessary before I start to bulk. Mental/Emotional On Wednesday I went to get my sperm checked. The only reason I mention it is because I had to masturbate to give a sample an… | /r/RPChristians | 05/02/20 04:35 PM |
| 2 | Text advice - Setting up date?Just ask her out. She already knows what is up. If you find her attractive then just do it. I do not know how long your initial interaction was, but when I was single and in the process of getting numbers I normally tried to set up something to do later that week on the spot and tried to initiate at least one inside joke between us that I could reference. It makes it easier when you are texting them since you already have something fun planned. For example, I had a really dope waffle place 5 min… | /r/askRPC | 03/02/20 03:26 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/20)What really helped me with this in the last month is the 300's and 400's of the sidebar. Read the comment section as well since some of the mods have different "methods for evangelizing" etc. A mindset I have adopted is Evangelism is kind of like dating. Some will, some wont, so what? All I can do is write reviews (spread the Gospel) and go deeper with the ones who God softens their heart. It has helped me maintain OI in the situation although sometimes it does make me sad because I picture some… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/20 07:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/20)Yeah I have been there. Anger has helped me stick to my diet to sometimes but I normally give in to a craving by like day 8 or 9 and I spiral into a binge. I was mainly trying to see how you get through that phase or if you encounter something similar. But 17 days is awesome man. I am glad you are losing weight. That is the area I struggle(d) with the first year of my OYS. | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/20)17 days on a strict diet. Counting EVERYTHING I eat in My Fitness Pal. Losing weight very rapidly. My lifts have stalled, on the days I eat less than 1200 I am exhausted. Very focused on getting rid of the body fat. My plan is to continue this focused weight loss until 15% body fat. Dang bro that is really impressive. I am sticking to 1800 a day right now and I struggle with cravings some times. So do you fight through with just sheer willpower or has your body got used to fewer calories? | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/20 03:59 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/22/20)Physical: Weight: 206 BF%: 19% Weigh has averaged between 205-206 so I am just going with the higher number. I have been pretty successful in cutting back on sugar. My wife bought me a cookie from Great American cookies. I typed it in on my Fitness Pal and it was like 500 calories so I told her I was not going to eat it. She took it and gave it to the kids she babysits on Friday. Stevia has also helped me cut back on sugar cravings as well. I have used it in my coffee instead of sugar. I still u… | /r/RPChristians | 22/01/20 03:11 PM |
| 1 | I recently had a life event that tested me in ways I never again want to be tested. I feel betrayed. I feel like God is either not listening or he doesn't care.I was about to say the same thing. | /r/RPChristians | 17/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/15/20)Try Stevia instead - it tastes different so it takes some getting used to, but it doesn't raise your glycemic index at all. Stevia has been a real game-changer for me. It is funny you mention this I just bought some last night. My dad recommended it. This is a good start. What is the mission He has prepared for you? Red's book on discipleship has helped me a lot with this and has given me a lot to think about. As of right now, I am focusing on the seven basics to set the standard. I am praying t… | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/20 09:50 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/15/20)PHYSICAL: Weight: 207 Height: 6 ft 1 in. BF%: 19% I broke my diet for 24 hours on drill weekend by having a milkshake with my wife on Saturday night from Chick Fil A and on Sunday morning I got a chocolate chip frape from Starbucks after running two miles. I got mad at myself that morning halfway through it and threw it out of the window. I added both up on MyFitness pal and it was like 1000 calories. Granted, I should have done this before I drank them but it has helped me "motivation wise" to … | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/20 03:40 PM |
| 3 | FR: Dinner w/ an AlphaYes, I read it. I was mainly referring to the differences in their demeanor in displaying their "Alphaness" I see wolves as just big dogs as I said. They run around pissing on the edge of their territories to mark it and "fight for it to maintain it" They are too flashy with it and they get into pissing matches over who is more Alpha. Excuse my crappy Disney reference but on the other hand, Kerchak Tarzan's "ape dad" His mere presence was Alpha and everyone knew he was the BOSS. All he had to do… | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/20 05:09 PM |
| 5 | FR/Discussion: Race and marriageI am white and my wife is black. Yeah, there are a lot of "cultural differences" but IMO it only becomes a problem if you let it become a problem. The hurdle I have made progress in getting over is it is OK if we think differently on issues, as long as we do not "attack" each other for feeling different. My wife is very liberal in her views and when I said something that does not agree with her worldview, "What I said could be perceived as racist or wrong." For example, the topic of immigration.… | /r/askRPC | 13/01/20 03:47 PM |
| 5 | FR: Dinner w/ an AlphaWhen I think of Alpha I think more of like a Silverback gorilla. When I think of a wolf I see a really big dog fighting the other big dogs to maintain dominance. When I think of an adult Silverback gorilla I see the Alpha male just exerting his authority by default. He may be sitting there eating his banana and he hears one of his females whining. He walks over and its a young male intruding his domain. He does not even fight, he just gives the young male a look like "really bro, you better get … | /r/RPChristians | 13/01/20 03:15 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/08/20)Physical: Weight: 208 BF%: 19% Weight lifting has still been great this week. I am starting to focus a lot more now on my shoulders, back, and core since these muscles seem to be lagging behind my chest and legs. I still am not at the point where I can do more than 3 pull-ups unassisted, so I normally do sets on the assisted pull up machine (I like doing this better than pulldowns). But this is an area of my life I need to dial in and do better with. One book I plan to read again is Body by Scie… | /r/RPChristians | 08/01/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | One Year FRWhat progress have you made on this? I mention this in the comment with TheChristianAlpha above. because they were in the wrong place at the wrong time. If you really believe that this is what God wants you to do, then do it. This is something I have been praying about as well. I am not 100% sure. I have discussed it with my wife on Sunday since certain events led up to the conversation that I will put in OYS but we have agreed as long as I do it on safe terms and I do it responsibly. Like if I … | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/20 03:32 PM |
| 5 | One Year FROn the chance that they reject God and your efforts to share Him will you cut them out of your life? If not, what's the plan? This would be hard for me, but if I am being honest cutting them out would be the best decision if that is the case. Not because I do not like them or think I would relapse, but because I could use my time elsewhere. But my plan if they do accept Christ is to engage in the discipleship process alongside them. I'm guessing that your mission is to reach and disciple your dr… | /r/RPChristians | 07/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/01/20)Physical Weight: 209 BF: 20% BF Weight was a little all over the place due to water weight. It ranged from 207-211 based on the day (207-209 later in the week). I am fine with that though and it is going in the right direction. On Christmas Eve I weighed 212 so I got the kick in the but that I needed in a lot of areas (Just look at my last OYS.) Using My Fitness Pal has helped tremendously with this. If I am craving sugar, I type in that sugar cookie into the app then 90% of the time I decided t… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/20 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Do I Have a Covert Contract?You have kids? I did not know that. | /r/askRPC | 28/12/19 08:28 PM |
| 3 | Do I Have a Covert Contract?I have this thought as well all the time. My wife wants a baby so bad. I do as well but this thought makes me not want them as well at times. I saw this on MRP a while back so it’s not mine. But it’s a great post. [FR]Seduction Strategy in the Context of Married with Two or More Kids Preface: I do not believe that I have all the answers. This is an account of what I've learned, and my intention in posting this is to generate a discussion with men in my demographic. These are the things that have… | /r/askRPC | 28/12/19 04:56 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/25/19)I'm just trying to be healthy and fit, babe. Sounds like something I would have said a few months ago. I will get back there. I do have a question though. I know frame. tactics in WISNIFG, and BEING fun solves most problems, but this post always comes to mind for some reason. I know how to be the fun husband for my wife. However, often times this requires money. This helps generate affinity, but eventually I realize we need to save more money (since that is one of our goals) and then it stops. I… | /r/RPChristians | 27/12/19 10:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/25/19)Why are you letting her lead here? I am a little confused by this but maybe I was not providing enough details. I go to LA Fitness by myself in the mornings before work then I go with her 3 days a week at the APT so she did not make me decide to stop going to LA because she does not want to. But yes I agree. Everything wrong here is a reflection of me. CarelessBowler's and your commentary has helped me a lot. But yes I need to work on being more fun and providing her the emotions that she needs.… | /r/RPChristians | 27/12/19 08:27 PM |
| 2 | FR: Frame Battles without Frame lead to bad resultsThey asked about “me slaying” and what I meant by that. I just said, “Ehh, I did pretty well for myself. But I am not about to tell you any rated X stories. I am a Godly man now and there is no point in bragging about that (with a smirk)” and we all started laughing. I am re-reading some of the sidebar and this one in particular stuck out to me. It was basically a horrible attempt of overtly communicating I have "sexual value". If it would not work on a single girl it definitely won't work on th… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/19 09:42 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/25/19)Physical: Weight: 209 BF%: 19% On Friday night last week, I stepped on the scale and it said 212. Maybe I was a little bloated that day or something but it definitely put a little fire under my but. Since then it has been all over the place. It has gone from 212 to 210 the next day and now it ranges from 208-210 so I will say it is somewhere in the middle. The day I weighed 212 I refused to eat dinner that night. We did go bowling on Sunday afternoon and I had two beers there but besides that, I… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/19 03:18 PM |
| 7 | ‘Twas the night before Jesus cameDid you make this? I may copy and paste to Facebook. | /r/RPChristians | 25/12/19 04:04 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/19)Ok I’m tracking you now. Thank you. | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/19 09:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/19)Ok that makes sense. Regardless I know this will be an emotional conversation. Her trying to flood me does not really work anymore but my biggest hurdle for these situations is going Emotionless Robot. I will continue to pray on it. Praying with her about it will help her feel involved as well. | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/19 08:24 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/19)Yes I agree. I like your challenge as well. I pray every morning in my truck in silence on the way to work. Is this what you mean by meditate on what God thinks? | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/19 08:06 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/19)Thank you, your detective work has helped me formulate a clear view in my mind. IMO these outburst are also because AWALT and she does not know what she wants and I have not provided a clear vision of what I want. And yeah, sometimes I forget about the stuff in the past. 6 months ago I was smoking JULS and she was throwing remotes. We haven’t been going steady for long. As for children I told her she should get involved with stuff like you said above. But she is set on having her own and seeing … | /r/RPChristians | 19/12/19 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Maturity mode: Be process oriented and not results orientedThank you. This is exactly what I have been not able to articulate but was churning in my head as of late. The comments also add some depth to it as well. | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/19 05:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/18/19)Physical: Weight: 206 BF%: 19% I did a great job finishing up my workouts last week. I did not lose any weight because I splurged out a lot on the weekend. I ate a fair my fair share of sugar and junk food because the thermostat for the household this week was sort of in a depressed state. I and my wife also have two Christmas parties coming up this weekend so I will need to be aware and not splurge too much. My main goal right now is to just not gain any weight so that I can continue to lose it… | /r/RPChristians | 18/12/19 04:34 PM |
| 6 | How God Saved My MarriageThat’s a great testimony man. It’s funny how God can use any situation to bring people to him. So how long have you been a Christian for? Just curious. | /r/RPChristians | 13/12/19 10:57 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)Yes, I could have used the time for something more useful. I mainly used it as a tool to give her space and come to me when she was ready (which I knew she would). The main time video games is bad is if you are not OYS. Playing for hours a day can definitely kill a relationship though. Playing for 20 minutes to give her time to sort through her emotions IMO was a good move in the moment. Whether video games are a DLV or not, it showed I am not going to give you any attention until you actually c… | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 10:55 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)Wife has really stepped up her fitness, I believe this is partly due to my leadership and partly due to dread. The more I read and implement, the more I learn how sloppy I've been. A big struggle for me is my temper. I'm recognizing when it happens and building a frame that is without reactionary anger. Yeah, I still struggle with a temper from time to time as well. My biggest sticking point is passive aggression and it tends to rear it's head every now and then. Wife has really stepped up her f… | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 09:08 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)On our last day date I took her bow shooting and she LOVED it. I think she wants to hunt with me in the next couple years as her best friend already shot 6 deer this year and I can see she is jealous. I would also argue another reason why you have been successful in this area is that you are taking your wife out to do fun stuff. Trying to generate sexual energy out of nothing does not work at least in my case. You actually have to be a fun person to be around and DO stuff. That generates the env… | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 08:55 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/11/19)Physical: Weight: 205 BF: 19% I did really well on dieting this week. Staying away from candy was pretty easy. I bought some co-co powder oven-roasted almonds to snack on if I really had a sugar craving. I also gave that bag to one of my coworkers. I told her if I ever ask to give me the bag and I take a handful and that is it (do not give it to me the rest of the day) so I do not keep on snacking. I know this shows a big lack of willpower, but as of right now it is working and has kept my snack… | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Does AWALT hold for Christian women?True. I guess the point I was trying to make is it is way less likely if you are OYS. She is less likely to get with a different Chad if the husband is a Chad himself. It could still happen of course, but it is not as likely. If your wife does not have tingles for you then yeah that is very bad and Chad becomes way more appealing. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Does AWALT hold for Christian women?A high value man with game can achieve that same level of sexual freedom on the sexual marketplace. But we are talking about likeliness of cheating, not getting laid. Yes, a girl can get laid whenever she wants. But she cannot become a wife or get a LTR with whoever she wants, which is the ultimate goal of Hypergamy. Hypergamy in a woman is always trying to evaluate and look for her best option. IMO, this is the reason for the most part that women cheat. Yes there are exceptions to every rule, b… | /r/RPChristians | 08/12/19 09:28 AM |
| 4 | Does AWALT hold for Christian women?I know a woman (non Christian) who stays with their “beta husband” and never cheats; but I would also argue that she is miserable. The guy is a career beta. The dude racks in 120k a year, but that is all. He weighs 290 LBS and this has only been going up since I have known him. He also has ZERO frame. But I would argue differently. I also think it is just as easy for a man to cheat; men just suck at reading convert communication. I was at Hooters last night talking with my friend about Evangelis… | /r/RPChristians | 06/12/19 02:18 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/04/19)Lol. That’s only because I switched up my formatting. I wrote this from my point of view and changes I noted in myself and for what “I” want in the future. My normal format is her “inventing fires “ and how I handled and reacted to the fires. The drama is still there. Women have to have it to keep it interesting. I did not mention her throwing tantrums about me not getting her a dog, which I just laughed off or her getting bit by bedbugs (probably at her friends) and going on a rampage around th… | /r/RPChristians | 04/12/19 11:01 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (12/04/19)Physical Weight: 206 BF%: 19% Slowly losing weight again after the holidays. I have ranged somewhere between 207-208 last week and now I am steadily going back down. GOAL: Get to 200 LBS by the end of the month. I got my body fat % done at drill by the medic so I am assuming it is pretty accurate. So I am not 22%, but still not where I need to be. I have been very motivated as of late to stick to a diet again which is good. My biggest weakness has been and always will be candy/ junk food in gene… | /r/RPChristians | 04/12/19 03:53 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)1) Yes she has said my phone is an issue many of times. 2) Basically everything I was doing was not involving her. No communication led to no affection which led to no sex, etc. But yeah I am fully done with the video game thing. I will admit at first I was trying to use it as a way to reach out to my friends on Call of Duty who were non believers. But that was only a 1% truth. The other 99%.... i was just lying to myself and using "I am using this to talk to my friends about the gospel" as a ch… | /r/RPChristians | 20/11/19 10:20 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)Financial I and my wife discussed a new budget throughout the week so we are both on the same page here. I am praying God opens the door for a promotion as well since it looks like at least two leadership positions will open up in my company within the next month or so. If it is in God’s will it will be done. My wife is also struggling with dealing with her crazy boss. She also feels like she does not do enough financially to help out. I think her staying in ortho would be wise long, long term b… | /r/RPChristians | 20/11/19 06:26 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/20/19)Physical WEIGHT: 205 BF: 22% My lifts have been poop this week. I am 100% sure it is because of diet. My numbers dropping has been the trend for the past 4 weeks with no weight loss. Liquid calories and the candy is still my biggest problem. My job has a big bowl of candy in the middle that gets resupplied every day. At least once a week there is usually a cake of some sort as well. My joke in the office is they are trying to give employees diabetes so we pay for their new “benefits” for healthc… | /r/RPChristians | 20/11/19 06:26 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Thank you. This makes sense. What is funny is she mentioned everything you just posted in that link when she argued with me about my OYS. Saying I need to be more vulnerable and stuff, we are a team...yada yada. She was mainly just offended because I posted my true feelings on here and never communicated them to her properly. But in regards to the argument on Monday it could have been avoided. I could have dodged the whole battle on Monday probably if I just made the dang bagel lol. But the emot… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 05:46 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)I see your point. I will take note of this next time I am in a similar situation. Only issue I see with this is it creates an instant dynamic for a power struggle. What if you tell your wife to back off and she doesn’t because she wants to be “heard” At the time I was in my underwear in the kitchen getting ready for work. I can’t just up and leave the APT within 30 seconds. Then it ends up being You tried to create a boundary but it was not respected. At that point all you can do is broken recor… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 04:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)I forgot to mention my last statement I made before I said have a nice day. I said something along the lines of if my wallet and phone is not here when I leave for work we are going to have some problems. When she left with them for the day I was in the process of figuring out the best way to handle the situation but then she threw them back. She snapped on me pretty hard yesterday to. She was snooping on my phone and found my Reddit OYS this week. Sparks were flying, but I handled it really wel… | /r/RPChristians | 14/11/19 02:25 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)Yeah good word. I kind of had this realization after the fact as well. In my mind at the time STFU was just not engaging the emotions but still responding with words (I don’t think standing there like a mute retard is the best answer either) *** then it is just seen as using silence as passive aggression **** I also agree I was deeply in her frame. Probably have been for a while I just didn’t realize it. But yeah based on her other comments throughout the week I can see I am not the attractive m… | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/19 06:08 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)(2/2) I call and she starts demanding an apology and goes into detail about all of my mistreatments. She then said she did not want to marry a man who would treat her like this etc. At this point, I refrain from saying “I am sorry you feel that way” because she saw it as a passive-aggressive antic and me dodging responsibility for my mistreatments and it was triggering her more. I say, “I recognize that the way you feel you are being treated is upsetting you. Thank you for letting me know.” She … | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/19 04:19 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/13/19)(1/2) Physical WEIGHT: BF: 22% I hit the gym pretty hard this week. I felt a fire under my A$$ I have not felt in a while. Despite my motivation, my numbers have been significantly lower than normal and I have felt more fatigue at the gym than I normally do as well. Idk what was going on? I was struggling with 185 for 8 reps on the bench press and I normally finish with 205 for 8. Besides that I did not struggle with other exercises, it was just that particular day. My priority this week has bee… | /r/RPChristians | 13/11/19 04:19 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)I agree, that is why I wanted to change the context and invite him over to my place by himself. Not at his place where “plays” and stuff are coming in. Just me and my wife cooking and inviting him to join us in our bible study after. (I was gonna tell him all this before he comes) I 200% agree chilling with them at the trap house is to tempting to relapse. That is why I wanted to invite him into my new life and at least introduce him to the gospel. Even if it’s me just planting a seed I think it… | /r/RPChristians | 09/11/19 02:59 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)She eats a lot of sweets. Basically all the stuff you listed she does not do lol. The only good thing is because of this now she wants to get healthier. And I am with you on the 80$ thing for my friend. This was the first time he asked. I still think I should invite him over for dinner. It will be a good chance to share the gospel with him. Whether he wants to hear it or not is up to him. I would not let him live with me though even for a short period. He sells weed to. Apparently his deals were… | /r/RPChristians | 08/11/19 09:31 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)It’s a culture standard for some women in America. IMO basically trying to suplicate men. I open doors and stuff for her when I’m next to her (and it makes sense to) or something but I’m not gonna walk to her side of the car, let her in, then walk all the way around to get in myself. IMO when a woman says she wants you to do these things in the first place it’s because something else is lacking in the relationship and they think this is the problem. Normally they just want some TLC (tender lovin… | /r/RPChristians | 08/11/19 03:21 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)I got you man. It’s funny you say that. Maybe that is what I’m missing from time to time. Juice is fleeting and it’s either there or it is not some days. Right now I’m definitely soldering. I don’t want to do it but I do, lol. | /r/RPChristians | 08/11/19 02:09 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)Lol I don’t get pumped about much anymore these days unless it’s a pump from the gym. It’s just something that needs to get done. Leading is something that takes time as well. It’s not some big ra ra thing that happens overnight. Progress is slow sometimes. But as they say “patience is a virtue “ I have not read WISNIFG since January and some of the concepts now seem vague. It will be a great re read. I just finished WOTSM so all of these are great goals to start with. | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 10:13 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)This post on the sidebar really helped me with this. My autopilot tendency (still is) during the confrontation is to remove myself from it or to act passive-aggressive. Since I have awareness of the issue now normally I just STFU and use Negative inquiry per the post. Over time I have gotten better with it. This is the way I see it going. Wife questions why you don't share your calendar anymore. You: It is not working for me. I don't want to use it anymore. I would just broken record that and us… | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 09:55 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)I second this and was going to say something similar. I tried the going about my business approach and still do from time to time. One it gives you a task to do and pulls attention away but it’s more subtle and sounds nothing like I’m ignoring you because you don’t want to have sex and you are actually getting something done to improve your life. The vacuum from lack of 100% attention makes my wife horny idk why. Maybe yours responds differently I don’t know your exact situation. Same thing with… | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 07:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)Lose 1 lb a week. (195 lbs by new year) increase cardio fitness , hit 15:00 two mile run time (for military reasons) re read NMMNG and WISNIFG. Lead my wife (Working out, disciple making, biblical marital roles) become strategically involved in certain Church ministries to build influence and strong relationships (actually hanging out outside of church). | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Proposal, Engagement and Marriage TraditionsGetting on one knee is just a cultural thing and only like a 5 second glimpse in time. Yeah if you really look at it it’s “a loss of frame” but like others have said it is what every girl wants and most have been thinking about it since they were 10. If it’s really that much of a NO for you my wife discussed a different alternative after I already did it that she said would be equally romantic. She watched some movie and the guy proposed by putting the engagement ring on her finger then sleeping… | /r/RPChristians | 07/11/19 02:36 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (11/06/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 203 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 22% My workouts went well this week again. I stayed consistent. Last week I did great keeping up with my added cardio and ab stuff as well. This week not so much. I did not run either Monday or yesterday. I am going to the gym in my apartment complex with my wife tonight to do these things. Per my last OYS my wife wants to start working out as well. I told my wife I would sign her up for the gym at LA Fitness. She said she wants to see if she can start… | /r/RPChristians | 06/11/19 10:36 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on kissing a girl on the first date?My thoughts are to go for it. I learned the hard way many of times and ended up in the friend zone because of it my first year of college. My sophomore year I always made a point to go for the kiss on a date no matter if I thought it was good or bad. IMO going physical puts it all on the table. A girl cannot fake attraction. That is the easiest way to find out. Who knows, if the date was going bad, a balsy mood sometimes can give you a second chance because then you are seen as assertive and may… | /r/RPChristians | 03/11/19 09:34 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)My wife told me she misses her old husband. She said she likes many of the changes I've made but feels like I've been mean. I have heard this from my wife before as well. Sometimes I do think it holds merit though. My wife told me about three weeks ago she is sad I never buy her jewelry, pay for her gas, open doors etc. Basically not showing love through acts of service. I still don't open doors, but I bought her a necklace this week and I will give it to her next week once it ships. IMO the big… | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/19 09:15 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)My wife called me at work, in tears, telling me she just couldn’t handle it anymore. Same here. My wife had a similar type of meltdown today. I am starting to find it amusing instead of getting mad like I used to. Seems like you handled it well. I realize that the traffic issues aren’t really to blame – it’s me not having everybody ready to leave a few minutes early. I also experienced this on Sunday. Basically for the 100th time. Apparently 1 hour is not enough time for my wife to get dressed a… | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/19 09:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/30/19)Physical Weight: 204 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF%: 22% I did not stick to my diet well this weekend. We had guests over on Saturday night and I drank half a bottle of wine. My wife also made dessert and I had a piece of double chocolate Hershey pie. We also went out to eat for our date for small groups and I ate half of a cookie Sunday with her at Chilli’s as well as chips and guacamole in the appetizer. My weight is again all over the place. It ranged from 203-206 depending on the time of day. I menti… | /r/RPChristians | 30/10/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/23/19)Physical Weight: 202 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF%: 22% I stuck to my diet well this week. The only time I cheated was when we went to Small Groups on Sunday night and I had a piece of chocolate pie. My weight was all over the place this week but it was motivating. On Thursday the 17th it read 207 but I am assuming that was water weight because once I started dieting hardcore (1800 calories a day) it got down to 202 by the end of the week. Since I have been doing this for some time now I noticed it is m… | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/19 03:16 PM |
| 3 | Boundaries and Boundary EnforcementOn top of what Red said I will say this. I used to struggle with boundaries as well. The post I recommend to fully articulate it is this. The best way to describe how to enforce a boundary is by using my own personal experience. I and my wife started dating in December 2017. She has always had an issue with getting physical when she gets angry with me. The first time it happened was in January 2018 at a movie theater. She was pissed at me for smoking weed and when I got fed up with her silent tr… | /r/askRPC | 18/10/19 08:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/16/19)I agree with you Squatting is hands down the best exercise for building muscle mass. Especially once you start lifting heavy. But I disagree by saying I do not think it is the only way to get strong legs. For me it is more of a longevity thing. Over time, all of that pressure on your spine over time (10-15 years) cannot be good for your body. I just think there are safer ways to build strong legs. Lifting super heavy on a leg press machine could potentially be dangerous as well. When you throw 9… | /r/RPChristians | 17/10/19 02:27 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/16/19)I just looked them up. Seems like a good exercise. I also looked into the Front Squat as well. The only issue with these two exercises is that you cannot lift as heavy since your hands and arms are holding the weight and not your back which does not allow you to lift as heavy. Lifting heavy is the whole point of 5 x 5. The main issues I have with squatting form wise is not keeping a neutral spine and rising up on my heel. When I injured myself two years ago it was because I arched my back from t… | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/19 06:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/16/19)· PHYSICAL: Weight: 203 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 22% I got to lift on an actual bench press this week since I had a spotter on my Monday workout. I was a little upset because my numbers were trash. I used to be able to bench 225 for 4 reps for my last set a month ago and I only was able to get 1 rep this time around. I dropped to 215 and was able to pump out 4 fine. My hands also hurt pretty badly since it has been a long time since I gripped a normal bar instead of using machines. All in all thoug… | /r/RPChristians | 16/10/19 03:22 PM |
| 1 | F/R Sunday's ArguementI agree. | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 12:08 AM |
| 1 | F/R Sunday's ArguementShe hid the power cord that day. She has told me she would give it back. I tell her I want it to stay right where it is. Hidden. Since then connection and sex has been amazing this week. I still need to OMS though. It’s to easy to fall into cherish mode and stop doing all the stuff that got you there. | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/19 03:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/09/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 203 BF: 22% I did well working out every day last week. I am looking at better workout regimes since my current plan is maxed out for the most part and my numbers have not increased in about a month. I was looking into Strongman 5 x 5 since it is recommended on Married Red Pill. I forget how much the paid for version is but the way I see it is that will help me get some skin in the game. Diet wise I am still struggling. It is hard for me to cut out sugar for extended periods of… | /r/RPChristians | 10/10/19 05:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/02/19)I hurt my back a long time ago while squatting and I could not even bend over for about a week. I also watched some videos from Doug McGuff and read Body by Science which says that the squat will have a lot of negative effects on your body come around 50-60 years old and it recommends the leg press since all of the weight is not being put directly on your spine and actually on your legs which you are trying to exercise anyways. And by tracking my food I have been portioning to what worked before… | /r/RPChristians | 03/10/19 10:50 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/02/19)Physical: Weight: 204 Height: 6 ft 1 Bf: 22% I stuck to my diet well (portion wise) but still only lost a pound so there are some issues somewhere. I was lazy and did not track it with MyFitnessPal so next week I will make this a priority (what gets tracked gets done). SkimTheDross also mentioned macros and I will provide the details on that once I track my meals properly. The only thing I can think of was us going out with Friends on Friday night and I should have planned better for that day si… | /r/RPChristians | 02/10/19 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I doubt God's willingness to forgive meI would also add (as porn is something I have struggled with myself) that having outside people hold you accountable IMO is useless. I caved this morning and watched porn. Before I was married (growing up) I watched porn 3-4 times a day as well at times. As well as the comments above, I fully agree with having fear in the lord to hold you back from sin. Over the past two weeks I have had two dreams of me watching porn. Although it was not real life the grip is still that strong. For about a mont… | /r/askRPC | 01/10/19 04:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/25/19)Physical Weight: 205 Height: 6 ft 1 in My weight has kind of annoyed me this past week. It has fluctuated a lot between 202-207 depending on the time of day. But I have concluded it was water weight since I was still working outside 50% of the time at my old job. Since then it has ranged between 204-206 since I started at my new job on Monday so I figured it was safe to say I weigh 205. I and my wife baked a cake this weekend for our small group and I definitely cheated a lot by eating some. I t… | /r/RPChristians | 25/09/19 11:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/18/19)Physical: Weight: 202 Height: 6 ft 1 in I did well on my lifts this week and I look forward to the upcoming weeks. At the moment I am seeing if my old workout partner is up to hit the gym in the mornings since my schedule has changed since I got a new job or if he cannot I will sign up for a new gym that had more power racks so I will not have to worry about a spotter. Only time will tell. Anyways, I have stuck to my diet consistently as well and stayed under 1800 calories on 6 of 7 days. The on… | /r/RPChristians | 18/09/19 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Just got offered a new job, but God is still testing me.I just accepted the first one last night. I have an inside guy at the one I want to work at and he just went to HR complaining that they need help in the Shipping and Receiving apartment. That is not the apartment I applied for this time but I applied there awhile back and he told me I should be expecting a call soon. He told me they need help in their sales department to which is the one I applied for this time around. Who knows though. I prayed this morning if god wants to open the door then t… | /r/askRPC | 12/09/19 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Just got offered a new job, but God is still testing me.I agree. Once I stopped stressing for no reason that became more clear. Like I said though it’s a WIN WIN situation. Either way I will be happy. That job just happens to have more perks such as military time. But I will still pray about it. If that door opens I will go through it. If not I still have a new job with almost the same pay and way more free time to advance the gospel. | /r/askRPC | 12/09/19 01:11 AM |
| 2 | Just got offered a new job, but God is still testing me.Thank you I appreciate it. Regardless it’s kind of a win win ;). I’m looking forward to more free time and having my weekends. I’m about to start taking this disciple/evangelism stuff seriously. God has opened the door. | /r/askRPC | 11/09/19 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Just got offered a new job, but God is still testing me.True. Thank you. I would be very upset if I had to stay at my current job. I’m just here collecting a paycheck. Only other issue is the one that sent me an offer I had two of my moms friends there who referred me so she would be mad if I hurt their names by accepting the offer then bailing for something better. But now that I think about it my mom does not pay my bills. I’m probably just letting her frame affect mine which I shouldn’t. | /r/askRPC | 11/09/19 04:47 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/11/19)Physical: Weight: 206 Height: 6 ft 1 in I have failed a lot in this area. My goal weight is 185 and I have gained 4 pounds over the past four weeks. I cannot 100% blame it on having to eat MREs and gas station food last week since that is all we had and I will start tracking my calories to 1800 a day again. My biggest issue is once I get around 200 lbs I get lax in my diet since I am going well and it comes back. I need to remain consistent. Besides that my workouts are doing well and I am consi… | /r/RPChristians | 11/09/19 03:53 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (09/04/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 204 Height: 6 ft 1 in BF: 21% I hit the weights and I was a lot sorer after my workouts this week. I got a good pump in on my workouts and I was talking to a guy at the gym and he showed me some different ways to perform bicep curls to hit different parts of the muscle. I was going to incorporate them this week at the gym but my National Guard unit got activated for hurricane Dorrian so I may be dealing with that for a while. MRE's also are not the healthiest but thats what I w… | /r/RPChristians | 04/09/19 09:05 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/28/19)Weight: 205, 20% body fat, Height: 6 ft 1 in Married: 1 1/2 years | /r/RPChristians | 28/08/19 05:19 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/28/19)Physical: Weight: 205 Did not lose or gain any weight this week. I ate out twice on the weekend and ate more than I should have instead of taking to go boxes so I failed here. Someone bought a candy box at work and I also smacked on kit-kats throughout last week. Since my sex life has not been the best this week, that has been part of my motivation for getting back on track at both the gym and dieting. Since Monday I have been back on my plan of 1800 a day and I have cooked some meals myself tha… | /r/RPChristians | 28/08/19 03:31 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a whileThat's actually concerning to me. You should be teasing out little arguments here and there. Give her small reasons to be mad so it can come out and she never builds up to exploding moments. Correction, this is the first time I lost frame in the past few weeks where I allowed the anger to get to this point. Now that I am home from work (one of my goals this week was also to work at work and not BS texting or on Reddit as much) and have read your potential responses I see how that could help. I h… | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 06:40 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a whileIt’s very good you will enjoy it. | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 04:25 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a whileThank you man I appreciate it. This is definitely the spot I am at right now as well. The only difference is I get sex sometimes but it’s not the sex that I want which is also a problem. | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 04:25 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a while13 reasons why | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 04:07 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a whileThank you I found this very encouraging. I actually have stopped masturbating which is partly why I have been angry. We are not having sex that much which led to me taking away a lot of comfort on my side (partly why she says I have been a jerk lately) I know it’s a covert contract but at the same time I refuse to give fuzzies because they are worthless without tingles. That’s what I need to bring back to the relationship by focusing on improving myself. I have just been going about it the wrong… | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 03:21 PM |
| 3 | First argument in a whileVery true. I thought 20 extra minutes would be enough to account for it. I did not want to wake her up to early since we were up till 11:30 AM watching a show we binged the last episodes of because it got really good. I set the alarm for 6:40AM. But because we were up late I didn’t wake us up to early. Poor planning on my part for sure. I need to work on me taking out my poor planning out on her. In the moment I considered it to be her fault but even IF it was in the end I’m responsible for ever… | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 03:18 PM |
| 1 | First argument in a whileI agree. Only thing is we don’t argue that often. That’s probably a good thing but I always default to these sorts of responses when poop hits the fan. Yeah I definitely still have some stuff to figure out. I have really started to resent her nowadays. | /r/askRPC | 27/08/19 01:16 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/21/19)Physical: I have felt very drained this past week. This has probably been the most physically demanding/mentally demanding week I have had at Enterprise. I only made it to the gym for two days this week. Ever since I have returned from my training I have not lost weight mainly due to snacking and liquid calories. I know STRESS is not an excuse. Next week with Labor Day weekend will not get any easier. I need to have discipline and make the time for my workouts and diet better. Mental/Emotional… | /r/RPChristians | 21/08/19 09:19 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/14/19)Physical I have been doing well on my workouts this week. I saw some people I knew from high school at work and they commented that I have gotten bigger (muscle wise). I also saw one of my old friends and talked to him in my APT complex for 20 mins. I told him when I go to the gym at 5AM M-Thursday. He is going to start going with me. I will see if he is interested in Strongman 5x5. That will benefit the both of us. Mental/emotion My wife was on her monthly this week and she threw a lot of tests… | /r/RPChristians | 14/08/19 04:12 PM |
| 1 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyI can agree with that. My next question is will Red-Curious include examples and structure for how to go about this in the modern world in his book? A lot of conversations I have had with nonbelievers for the most part go nowhere. In the past year I maybe brought one person to God, and even he now is going down wo-wo lane and Into “spirituality” and not “Christianity” I really need to incorporate more of the requirements under Spiritual for OYS. I can communicate proper concepts to people but I … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 11:55 PM |
| 1 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyI might actually do some research and try to find the church he spoke about in the book that went out on Sunday for an hour and a half and tried to get people to come to the service at 11AM. I would like to know how effective pulling randoms off the street to the service worked in the long term and how many showed up again next week. But the author mentions similar experiences to what you mentioned above in the book. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 10:19 PM |
| 1 | The Kingdom of God is a PartySorry I guess the title and my commentary is a little confusing. “Partying” by the books terms is mainly expressing one of the fruits of the spirit. Joy. Not only in church but everyday life. It gives some biblical examples such as Paul who brought the jailer to Christ because he praised him despite his life circumstances. Other things I was not entirely on board with. For example he says that the 10% tithe God means we should use that for a party “to celebrate God” I thought that part was kind … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 09:29 PM |
| 0 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyTrust me some of it I found to far fetched and he tried to stretch some points. But I found the gems in it that I needed. This one did not talk about feminism at all. The best gems I drew from it were creating “the party” within yourself so you can draw others in. If you are going out this is a great attribute to have and he listed several examples I thought were good. The family part had some decent aspects to it although I found it to be incomplete. And the example of the church I mentioned ab… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 09:04 PM |
| 0 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyMaybe not now, the book was from 1990. He probably gave into allowing their culture to interfere with scripture because of the pressure with it nowadays. One part that I did like in the book was about the going out culture and seeing a real life example of it. He mentioned a church that used to socialize for an hour then from 9-10:30 they went out into the city and spoke of god to anyone who would listen. Then they invited them to the 11 o clock message and preached the gospel. I think that’s an… | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 08:33 PM |
| 1 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyI just finished the rest in the break room since not much is going on at work. One chapter talks about the impact of the family and how they are supposed to function as a unit and “party” together. Another talks about getting into the partying spirit and how bringing followers to god is the greatest party of all and how being joyful and fun with strangers can set you up for situations to bring people to Christ. I actually really enjoyed it and recommend it. | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 08:15 PM |
| 1 | The Kingdom of God is a PartyChapter one talks about how the church should include everyone in the church and not judge people based on social class. He gives a personal example and then talks about how Jesus treated leapors and prostitutes the same. Chapter two talks about how he believes God wants us to spiritually party about him, not only in the church building but out in the world (going out like Jesus did). He also mentions shalom and jubilees. Chapter 3 talks about physical parties in the Bible and their importance. … | /r/RPChristians | 12/08/19 07:23 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)Yeah it ended up not being covered but it is what it is. 1000$ down the pooper. I pulled up our warranty and it wasn’t in the define print and all that Jazz. I’m just trying not to be mad about it although I am. It’s just a life lesson I suppose. But at least it’s getting repaired. | /r/RPChristians | 08/08/19 06:25 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/07/19)Physical: Weight: 202 Lifts I have been very satisfied with my workouts this week and have pushed myself a little harder and now that I am on my regular machines each has jumped up between 5-10 pounds. Adding the cardio to my workouts has also helped me blow off some steam. Monday was a very long and stressful day at work and when I went to the gym to run after I ran out my anger instead of taking it back to the apartment. This is just one example but running when I am angry has helped me a lot … | /r/RPChristians | 07/08/19 06:49 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/31/19)I felt that pressure for like 2 seconds but once my hand was on the chair and I was talking it was gone. If I was a single Christian I think the most important thing is to act despite the pressure. The more you do it the more you get comfortable with the pressure. That’s really the main thing I was trying to let them see that night. They were paralyzed by it. Granted a bar is probably not the best place to meet a Christian at 2AM on a Friday night, but one thing a bar can teach you is to get ove… | /r/RPChristians | 01/08/19 04:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/31/19)Physical: Weight: 202 Weightlifting: I did very well on my workouts this week and got a good pump on each of them. One thing I am stuck on is how to proceed with bulking/cutting phases. At the moment I am trying to lose weight so I think that is the reason I am beginning to plateau. For the past month, I have been stuck in the same weight ranges across the board. Anytime I try to increase it I end up doing fewer reps for each set. Since I am currently losing weight I try to keep my rep range bet… | /r/RPChristians | 01/08/19 12:07 AM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/24/19)have fun with it I did a pretty good job of that. I was just saying it happens more often, and my eyes linger longer when she is not around. | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/19 10:23 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/24/19)This is a good approach. What's your target weight? I want to reach 195 by October, but overall I want to reach 15% bodyfat by the end of the year. Idk what weight that is but it is a goal I have in mind. I am somewhere between 21-23% now give or take. I assume you're NoFap as well? Yes my goal was to not watch porn for 30 days. I am 19 days in. The only byproduct is it is making me notice other women more. My wife even called me out on it saying she caught me "looking at the waitresses but" bef… | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/19 10:01 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/24/19)Did not post last week since I was dealing with a lot of stuff so I was OYS before I left making sure the show would run without me while I was gone for 2 1/2 weeks of Hazmat Transportation training with the Army. Physical Weight:204 Lifts: The gym at my Army school in Arkansas is great but the machines are a little different so I cannot really post improvement until I get on the ones back at home. Every time I went after class the power racks were all taken. That’s the only part about a free mi… | /r/RPChristians | 24/07/19 05:11 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/10/19)Could it be that this is where God wants you right now, and maybe He is using these difficulties to develop your character? I was thinking the same thing. Were they things you were already supposed to be doing anyway, or were they things she wanted you to do but was telling instead of asking? It was telling not asking. She wanted me to help her dye her wig and stuff but was bossing me around about it. But I am getting better with this stuff. No where near I want to be but I think it is importan… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/19 01:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/10/19)Physical: Weight: 205 Update: I just reweighed myself and I was 203, I think I need a new scale lol. I was off on my weight last week. I got on the scale on Thursday and it was 206.7 so I guess my week of eating BS hurt me more than I thought. Anyways I got back on track since 4th of July. I have had a cold this week so my energy levels were pretty low and I have felt drained. I have still hit my workouts consistently though although I showed no improvement. Like I said I haven’t really had that… | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/19 03:37 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/03/19)Physical: Weight:205 This week in this area was kind of a idc week and my will power snowballed worse each day and became non existent. I did not gain any weight but I did not lose any weight either. I was Stress eating snacks at work and I ate out a lot since my wife had family in town and at most dinners I drank either soft drinks or juice. Tomorrow was also going to be a idc day since it is the 4th but after that I will get back on track. My gains have actually dropped since last week. I’m as… | /r/RPChristians | 03/07/19 06:27 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/26/19)It’s definitely still hard because like you said it is still not that fulfilling and I like meat and poultry products a lot more (I am feeling those cravings now in the second week) , but mixing it with carbs has helped for me.. My wife makes a really good pasta salad and it usually got me through until the next meal. So I’ll eat like 3/4 on break then snack on it at work until I get home. I am also trying blue valley co co covered almonds now but after two days and tracking the calories almonds… | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/19 03:44 PM |
| 6 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/26/19)Physical Weight:205 Workout routine Monday Chest press machine 95 x 8 100 x 8 105 x 8 110 x 8 Incline bench press machine 50 x 8 55 x 8 60 x 8 70 x 8 Chest fly ( machine) 3 sets of 8 (70 lbs) Preacher curls (machine) 90x 8 100 x 8 110 x 8 Tuesday Leg press 270 x 8 360 x 8 360 x 8 450 x 8 Leg curl 115 x 8 120 x 8 130 x 8 Leg extensions 115 x 8 120 x 8 120 x 8 Calf raises 50 lbs x 50 reps (3 sets) Wednesday Shoulder press 60 x 8 70 x 8 80 x 8 Row machine 100 x 8 115 x 8 115 x 8 Rear felt machine 7… | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/19 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.Yeah I also figured that was part of the reason. But she knows I want kids she just was not happy with my timeline. Anyways, she has an OBGYN appointment on Friday. Then at least she knows she is able to bear a child and they can figure out why she is having a pain in her left ovary. That is another reason she has been panicking. Once a doctor says she is good, Then it’s just a matter of when. | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/19 12:07 PM |
| 1 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.I want a kid, maybe even soon. I just want to set up our lives in a way that when we do it is less stressful. | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/19 11:53 AM |
| 1 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.Lol my wife is 21 which is why I say she needs to slow her roll. I say it is because everyone in her side of the family has a kid or just got pregnant and she feels left out. | /r/RPChristians | 26/06/19 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.Already planned. A surprise weekend cation. I actually just said a version of what you just suggested on the way home on FaceTime before I read this. Thank you. | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/19 07:37 PM |
| 4 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.You are both right. It has already died over and she said she just wants to "spend more time together" and "feels neglected". I need to get better at noticing seriousness vs. cries for attention. Dang I suck at this stuff... | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/19 05:10 PM |
| 7 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.I wouldn't care or would find it amusing. | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/19 03:53 PM |
| 5 | Changes starting to get traction. Wife starting to become insecure.Yes I have, I told her I at least want to wait until October. My criteria is I at least want to have a new job and that aspect will be more clear by then. Her response was even if you have a new job there will always be something preventing you, three months is not really a difference, life will always throw stuff your way regardless, etc. She then said she is a nurturer and she wants to nurture something. She said she wanted a dog, at first I said NO to that to but it might not be a bad idea. T… | /r/RPChristians | 21/06/19 03:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/19/19)My bad I meant this week meaning after Sunday for the diet. And she doesn’t take birth control anymore I just pull out and we track ovulation days. She took it for a little while and she ended up having like a 23 day period so it really messed her up. She gets really bad cramps that’s the only thing it helped with. She is already hormonal as is so I don’t think birth control would help with that. I recommend your suggestion just now for the Bible reading plan and then she started crying saying I… | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/19 10:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/19/19)then I realized it's her boundary and YOU want YOUR male friends to respect HER boundary. Is that right? Well the thing is it is important to her and it is nothing new. She voiced it before we even got married so it is something I should respect. So to answer your question yes they need to respect her boundary...as do I. Is bench the only workout you do? Have you tried others like squat, dead, ohp, etc? I do other workouts I just have not listed the stats for them. I did some overhead presses to… | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/19 06:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)Thank you for clarifying. I was watching a sermon some time ago and that is what the pastor was preaching, sex with a woman = marriage in the eyes of god because they are becoming "one flesh". This article cleared it up for me a little as well. | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/19 05:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/19/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 207 Bench workout: 8 x 135, 8 x 175, 8 x 185, 6 x 205, 4 x 225 I don’t want to say there is much of a change in my bodyweight this week because depending on the time of day it alternates between 205-207. It was doing the same thing last week so no change here. It was our anniversary weekend and we did some father’s day stuff at her parents’ house so I grubbed out. I will get back on track next week. What has motivated me on my lifts this week was my wife getting all hot and bot… | /r/RPChristians | 19/06/19 04:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)If we want to go by God’s standard technically me and my wife are both adulterers since we were not each other’s first sexual partners (Me 11, her 4.) The Bible does not have any scripture on physical abuse directly so my grounds for divorce would definitely be Sin, but which is worse...separating or divorcing, or (if this becomes repeat behavior) living in fear with each domestic case becoming worse and worse until one of us is in jail or actually injured. The only reason I mentioned my sexual … | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/19 08:25 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)Over the past two weeks, the biggest thing I have internalized is you are not responsible for HER actions. There is no meet all end all "realistic" next step. Just figure out what your values are, what your threshold for divorce is, DEFEND the boundary if it is crossed (Mine: No negotiation on physical abuse). My Plan I will present on Saturday is this. The next time...I will just leave. I won't tell her how long, I will just go. She might flip out on me leaving but that is her reaction and not … | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/19 02:54 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)You are right. Thank you for keeping it real with me. I feel stronger today about the situation. I will bring up what I will do if/when it happens at the meeting on Saturday (I like what you have recommended and your link on abuse in relationships in last week's OYS has changed my mindset). We will see how it plays out. All I can do is pray for her to control her impulses and improve my frame in general and become the OAK. | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/19 02:38 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)We are meeting with the church elders on Saturday who did premarital counseling’s with us and married us together as one. I will say though I really don’t feel like it will do anything. I understand the importance of boundaries but who is to say it won’t happen again. Maybe my mindset is just wrong on it. The boundaries post about it not being a boundary unless it is defended is definitely in play, but to be honest I have been fighting my own hamster because part of my thinks it’s only a matter … | /r/RPChristians | 13/06/19 01:09 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/12/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 207 I have done well sticking to my diet and not snacking, changed it to 2100 calories a day to make up for not having energy. I also hit the gym consistently this week and I was not as drained during my workouts and got some good reps in. Once June is up I will switch over to Anytime Fitness since they have a better set up and more power racks so I can get off machines. I also just found out they have a side gym at the Armory with a power rack, so I also will be able to get so… | /r/RPChristians | 12/06/19 04:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)I just talked to her on the phone, she has agreed to meet up with the elders and discuss the situation. But yeah like I said it made me aware of a lot of things in general. I’ll have to baby step it. I need to re read No more mr nice you and WISNIFG because I have clearly forgotten the concepts. Ecg6 also just gave me some valid feedback. The only thing that sucks with the Red Pill sometimes is I’ll think I’m getting the hang of things then I realize how I’m actually failing on a lot of stuff. M… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 04:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Yes I did. | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 04:36 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)YEP, lol | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 04:34 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Yeah I just opened the can of worms and presented her the option above. It’s actually humbling me and making me aware of a much bigger picture. I haven’t really set boundaries on anyone in my life. She just brought up like four other instances I did not set a boundary with other people in my life and she feels like I am attacking her for a single instance. It reminds me of a post I read on here talking about setting boundaries with your spouse but nobody else in life. (Probably why she thinks sh… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 02:52 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Trust me I have tried. They open at 5AM and even when I show up then someone is on it. Usually a trainer and a client. They have regular benches in the middle they just don’t have self spotters on the benches. My membership hits the one year point next month (so I can quit that gym without any fees) and my goal then is to sign up for anytime fitness again (they have more power racks and Tehran their regular benches have self spotters. Only thing they don’t have there is a sauna but a better work… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 12:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)I agree. This morning before coming to work I brought up speaking to the elders and she agreed. First thing she said after the fact though was that I could not mention her throwing the remote. Apparently she had told nobody and she is “ashamed” about it. I’m actually surprised she hasn’t told anyone. I’m pretty sure it’s because she speaks very highly of our marriage and she doesn’t want to change other people’s perceptions or her own fantasy of our marriage being the best thing since the intern… | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 11:45 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Yes they have one power cage, every time I am in there it is occupied. They do have a dumbbell bench though. | /r/RPChristians | 06/06/19 10:31 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Thank you. Honestly lifting is an area my MAP sucks in. The LA fitness I go to does not have self spotters on their racks so I just use the machines so I don’t need one. I still try to push myself as close to muscle failure as I can though. I do chest on Monday’s, legs on tuesdays, and shoulders/back on Wednesday’s. Each workout takes me around an hour. I started swimming for 30 minutes on Thursday’s for extra cardio as well. I can list my machine stats if you would like, but until I either swit… | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/19 10:44 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)I’m not going to ask for a “what would you have done scenario” the post you linked sums it up enough (I read it yesterday). My autism had me believe I was handling a comfort test not enabling bad behavior. Egc6 also left me some decent gems behind on my last OYS for handling these situations better. I agree with you on the housing situation. This is also why I mentioned in my last OYS I want to hold off on having a child as well. I know I am walking a fine line between I want to make it work wit… | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/19 10:35 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/05/19)Physical: Weight:208 Stuck to my diet pretty well but I snacked on almonds or candy a few times from boredom eating at work. Will fix this next week. On the days I was consistent though my energy levels tanked a few times at work and I felt like a zombie, especially with the GA heat. I also felt it a few times when I went to workout in the mornings on my lifts. Normally what I could do for 8 reps and struggle I would get to five, then halfway through the next rep my muscle would just give out an… | /r/RPChristians | 05/06/19 04:33 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/29/19)Thank you for your input. I actually have been hoping for the day MRP and RPC give each other valid feedback on OYS. A question I have then would be if RESPONDing to her threat is validating it then what would have been the proper action. After she threw the remote should I just gone Acta Non Verba without saying a word and left for a few days? (Following the trend, actions speak louder than words) then came back and gave her the same talk I did. I also see how building stronger frame in general… | /r/RPChristians | 04/06/19 07:31 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/29/19)Part 2 Sexual: Mainly just a few make up BJ’s since she is on her monthly. Financial: One job lead fell through. The other is still up in the air to become available within the next month or two. The Republic of Ga mission is also still a maybe. My wife caught a flat tire this morning. I drove to her work to pick up the car because she panics over silly situations like this. I drove it to the shop Enterprise takes their cars to and they put a new tire on since the hole was to big to plug. Spirit… | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/19 03:25 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/29/19)Physical: Weight: 209 My diet has stayed consistent and I am still making progress in the gym across the board. I did overeat a little on Memorial Day and I drank with my friends on Saturday night, but besides that it was the norm and I stuck to my guns on my diet and lifting. Mental/emotional: For this category a lot of stuff happened this week and I need to give some backstory for it all to make sense. It is quite large. Me and my wife have been together for about 1 year and six months and mar… | /r/RPChristians | 29/05/19 03:24 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/22/19)Physical: Weight 210 My diet has stayed consistent and I am still making progress in the gym across the board. I still have a small belly but even my wife and friends have commented on it saying I’m slowly losing my gut. Her exact words are “she can’t feel my gut digging into her back anymore when we are having sex.” Mental/emotional: This week things have been pretty smooth especially since Sunday which I will mention in the spiritual section. We argued over silly stuff but nothing that went be… | /r/RPChristians | 22/05/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/15/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 212 Very happy with my lifting this week. It was a huge stress reliever and I have seen a steady improvement in strength. However, i know my gains will begin to plateau shortly. I am about to buy Eliott Hulse's Strongman 5 x 5 program. I used to use his Lean Hybrid Muscle program in college so I am expecting similar results over time. I have done well with sticking to my diet and am again learning My Fitness Pal is my best friend. This week I have stuck to under 1800 calories… | /r/RPChristians | 16/05/19 11:11 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/08/19)· PHYSICAL: WEIGHT 214 I had ARMY training again for half the week and we were shooting a lot on the ranges so we ate a lot of MREs (loaded with calories). We got a lot done and everyone qualified so I was happy with the results my platoon achieved there and we came back home and came back home Sunday afternoon. Since Monday I will be in Kennesaw, GA until Friday doing more military stuff. But it is very laid back. 45 mins from home so I can go back at night, a gym right next to the Armory I can… | /r/RPChristians | 08/05/19 06:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/01/19)Physical: Weight: 213 Hit the gym consistently this week every morning and I am proud of myself in this area. Sometimes I feel a little tired come the third of fourth day losing an hour of sleep at night but the results are worth it. Also went to a new barber who was 15$ more but it made a huge difference. My wife has commented on it a few times and so has everyone else I see on a daily basis. But it definitely makes me look 10x better. Mental/emotional: Last Thursday I DEERed a lot and victim p… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/19 06:20 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/24/19)I am 25 and she is 21. But we actually discussed this in more detail last night. I want to wait till Octoberish or Novemberish before we even start trying. Mainly just for financial reasons. I don’t think you can ever truly be ready for parenthood, but if you try to time it right and prepare for it you can make the situation a little easier. And yes a low or no sex marriage is definitely a fear of mine. From what I read on here it goes from playing dating your wife on hard mode to insane mode si… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/19 07:59 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/24/19)Physical: Weight: 214 Went to a wedding this weekend with my wife and ate out like 3 times and was eating and drinking all weekend. Now back to the grind. (Caribbean food is my weakness) Hit the gym consistently and one of my buddies started going with me in the mornings so it’s good to get away from the machines and do actual bench press with a spotter. Mental/emotional: This week my wife was slightly irritable most days, especially Thursday-Sunday while during the Wedding trip. Her mother and … | /r/RPChristians | 25/04/19 02:42 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/17/19)Physical: Weight: 212 I was gone all last week doing military stuff so I did not get many workouts done in the field. I have been hitting the gym consistently since being back though. My weight loss is going well and I have stuck to my diet pretty well. Only thing that messed me up a little was eating MREs during military training since they are jam loaded with calories. Mental/emotional: One day last week I was driving and was stressing in my head about finances and my future. What happened nex… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/19 07:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/03/19)I picked up with Romans just now and will keep going with the plan from there since that is where I left off. Seems like a great book so far. Paul seems like he was a great man. | /r/RPChristians | 05/04/19 06:45 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/03/19)I did not. My wife called after with some things she needed help with. But I won’t make excuses, it’s on me to make time for him in my life. | /r/RPChristians | 05/04/19 06:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/03/19)PHYSICAL Weight: 214 Stuck to my diet consistently and lost two pounds. Just have to make sure I keep sticking to it and not cheat since I am starting to lose weight. Discipline is everything. Hit the gym consistently either in the mornings or afternoon depending on how I felt that day. I also ran up Stone Mountain one day this week which was a good cardio session. MENTAL/EMOTIONAL Me and my wife are still getting along very well. Taking the leadership role and not being passive has paid huge di… | /r/RPChristians | 04/04/19 05:56 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/27/19)As for weight loss I do good one week then backpedal and start snacking which is why I have cycled between 215-220 for the past few months even before I started posting in the OYS. And I don’t feel like I have the balls to do that honestly. If me going down the street to chick fil a and that happened I couldn’t even imagine that. Hopefully it never gets to that point. | /r/RPChristians | 27/03/19 09:21 PM |
| 5 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/27/19)Physical: Weight: 216.7 (on scale) Lifts: No change Lifted every day last week since I had all the time in the world once I got out of class. I went for Chest day on this Monday and I got a good workout in. Skipped Tuesday because I got 4 hours of sleep the night before because I worked a 13 hour shift then went to the Dates for mates thing with my wife. When we got home Tuesday after work I knocked out. I feel a lot better today after a good nights sleep so I will do my leg day this afternoon. … | /r/RPChristians | 27/03/19 05:47 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/20/19)PHYSICAL: Weight: 217 BF%: 22% Hit the gym 4 days last week and it has increased my energy levels (diet has contributed to this as well.) I told my wife to start including more vegetables and less carbs while cooking and this has contributed to both of our diets being well-balanced. One thing I have realized was just finding my motivation to work out and diet (it shouldn’t be just because it will get me laid more) and I realized it was partially because I haven’t set any define goals for myself.… | /r/RPChristians | 20/03/19 06:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/13/19)Physical: Height: 6 ft 1 Weight: 218 Did not go to the gym at all this week besides the weekend when I was at drill. My brain is very silly sometimes. My brain tricked itself the past week to hang around my wife more because I know she is ovulating and I want to have sex more and figured she would to. She convinced me a few times to not go when I got home from work to “cuddle” which it actually only ended up being just that. I still got rejected 90% of the time and I was a dummy for skipping wor… | /r/RPChristians | 14/03/19 01:11 AM |
| 1 | I may have messed up (F/R)That’s understandable, but I’m not gonna walk on eggshells anymore. I handled that argument very poorly because it should never have escalated to that point. I definitely screwed up trying to play verbal judo...but I’m not gonna just do it her way to avoid conflict. I probably just need to take a breather and refocus. Thankfully I have drill this weekend and will have downtime to develop a game plan for situations like this in the future. It’s not even a matter of winning the argument. Her mothe… | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 09:36 PM |
| 1 | I may have messed up (F/R)This is your first mistake. You broke frame from the moment you walked in the door. This is what we mean by STFU. Her telling you to do something like that shouldn't bother you. I thought it was time to nip mommy mode in the bud? Normally it doesn’t affect me that much until I became aware of it in the OYS. and should I have apologized? Again this goes back to mommy mode. I wasn’t gonna apologize when she was acting crazy. Like you said yes all of the stuff I did was very passive aggressive main… | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 07:24 PM |
| 1 | I may have messed up (F/R)We have been together for almost two years now and the trend is they tend to happen every time I try physically remove myself from the situation or remove my attention from her. Her go to tactic is silent treatment (which has stopped working because idc and I have better things to do)...so she goes to this when that doesn’t work which is more frequent now because I won’t entertain the bad behavior. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 06:40 PM |
| 1 | I may have messed up (F/R)She works but only 3 days a week as a ortho-assistant. She was doing part time nany stuff as well for a married couple but then they couldn’t afford it anymore. Now she is looking for part time nanny jobs Friday-Sunday. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 05:44 PM |
| 1 | I may have messed up (F/R)My plan was to go somewhere, she took my credit and debit cards out of my phone case and I wasn’t just gonna sit somewhere . I still could have left though. And how can I threaten my wife with divorce if god prohibits it? And I try to enforce that boundary. When she starts getting physical I try to remove myself. But then she just stands in front of me wherever I go and I have to physically remove her from my way and that’s how the wrestling matches start. Me trying to get away and her clinging … | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 05:39 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/19)Nvm you gave a lot of examples in the post i was tagged in thank you. That’s almost exactly what I have been doing, just leading more, trying to get a better job, etc but not really calling her on some of her nastiness she can have when it comes. I can see how he handled it with grace and the areas where I would have faltered. Mainly in either apologizing or trying to get her attention, or asking her why is she mad, etc. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/19 12:00 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/19)I have read the sidebar one time in full, but that was over two months ago. I will add it on top of my bible reading each day to internalize the concepts in full. And yes I have read that post a few times and can already see how that applies here. In the end it’s the same action but the place it’s coming from. . Basically it would come down to do I go on about my business after she hangs up as if nothing happened and do the things I already planned on doing despite her feelings , or do I activel… | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/19 11:49 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/19)I just downloaded “Thru the Bible” each session is around 30 mins long. My plan is to do this from now on with my wife every night. I just got the idea from another posters OYS and think it would be good for us. And I’m not insulted I just am lost a little. Her being upset about what I said about her friend is one thing because she is on the chubby side and the dudes wife was gorgeous so I have no idea why he cheated. So she felt as if I was calling her friend ugly which I subvertingly was and c… | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/19 10:56 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/19)Bad wording...yes I will make it happen. She knows it is important to me so I will hold her to it. Again bad wording. This is a church about an hour away from where I live but is not the church we attend. Last I heard her friend told an elder of the church and they are issuing disciplinary action against the man and her. My wife does not hang around her often because of the distance, she just happened to be the first one she talked about the situation with because she felt guilty...and rightfull… | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/19 05:23 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/06/19)Physical: Weight: 215, Bench 5x5, 190 Leg Press 5x5, 4 plates and a 25 each side, shoulder press machine, 5x5 70 lbs While benching on Monday I tried to increase the weight by 20% and do 5 instead of 8 reps and the heavier weight irritated my shoulder a little but it was endurable. I am debating if I should start lifting on machines since In one set I couldn’t lift the weight and some dude on the bench next to me had to run over and help me get it up otherwise it would have been a bad scenario, … | /r/RPChristians | 06/03/19 04:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/27/19)I’m already hitting some friction. My mom wants to do it sometime next week when my dads mother and brother leave back to Pennsylvania on Sunday. I told her that’s not a wise idea because my wife will take it as it must not be that important to them. The fact that she even wants to go over there it should be dinging in their heads to do it but they say they want to wait. Of course I call my wife right after and she says it’s now or never. I’m thinking about just popping by at this point and givi… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/19 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Difference in priority with spousesYeah I cut it out since it was worded poorly. I was mainly trying to use it as an observation not implying it for use as a manipulative tactic. At least for me as a dude, I can be pissed off and mad as can be, dead tired, stressed, it doesn’t really matter I’m always ready to go. Granted I might be immersed sometimes more than other times but I’ll never deny sex. My wife on the other hand if I want it, she reaches into her body and either says yes or no depending on how she is feeling in the mom… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/19 05:26 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/27/19)PHYSICAL: Weight 215 Height: 6ft 1 Bench: 185 x 8, 190 x 8, 195 x 8, 200 x 8 Leg Press: 3 plates each side x 8, 4 plates each side x 8, repeat, 5 plates each side x 8. Have done well not snacking on BS. Sex with my wife has been minimal this week but I have not given in on initiating. Financial: Just read Dave Ramsey’s total money makeover, I’m going to start looking into investments and initiating a proper savings plan. Mental/emotional: Found out this week me and my wife operate on different w… | /r/RPChristians | 27/02/19 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Difference in priority with spousesThis is an awesome reframe, thanks for the input. | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/19 11:16 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/20/19)Thanks man I really appreciate it. I’m kind of slapping myself in the head right now because I can’t believe I didn’t realize that yesterday because now I see it clear as day and could have handled it way better. Overcoming not knowing womaneze is a kicker. But honestly I wouldn’t mind starting a channel. I do think our testimony would inspire a lot of people. One of the things that scared her was once you get into YouTubing and meet other entertainers and stuff all the people who DNGAF and stil… | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/19 08:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/20/19)https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhYvOKkFVSGt1Impq3TEBxrSpw3rbdbz6 | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/19 08:36 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/20/19)Yeah I can definitely see the boredom now that you bring it up. One thing she has said this past week is that she doesn’t want our life to be on autopilot I wasn’t seeing that connection and you just made it click. She recommended going on one day excursions every two to three months to keep our dates fresh. I was kind of hesitant because of finances but I will find a way to work with it. And I ended up getting her a mount for the phone and found a way to record iPhone in portrait mode so it’s v… | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/19 08:34 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/20/19)PHYSICAL: Weight 216 Height: 6ft 1 Bench: 185 x 8, 190 x 8, 195 x 8, 200 x 8 Leg Press: 3 plates each side x 8, 4 plates each side x 8, repeat, 5 plates each side x 6. Diet was crappy this week and I fell back into snacking a little at work. Wasn’t using my fitness pal like I should. I’ll get back on it. Didn’t watch porn at all this week except for once. Had sex with my wife every day this week (sometimes multiple times) except for one. Wasn’t really anything I did in particular she was just su… | /r/RPChristians | 21/02/19 03:11 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/19)Yeah he does have a really strong frame, but he doesn’t do a good job with handling people testing it. Only real issues he has is not knowing how to control his anger and a victim mentality. Like if he lashed out it’s your fault because you shouldn’t have pushed him etc. But overall he was a good parent and I respect him for that. The only thing that was hard for me was my wife has only seen the bad side for the most part and her perception as of now is basically set. But getting out from undern… | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/19 04:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/19)Thank you trust me I know. I am 24 and my wife is 20 and another thing that frustrates us both is he treats us like children. Granted last December is when there was drama because i wanted to go to both families but she didn’t want to because at the time I wasn’t sticking up for her. And I actually just read those verses yesterday and made sure to put them in my Valentine’s Day card which was my goal for yesterday. Letting her know she is my number one and my mistakes from before are now just va… | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/19 02:54 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/19)He said he wished we never married and acts like a child most of the time. We lived with them for 3 months until we moved into our apartment and dealing with his nonsense every day kind of did it for her. But my father was kind of expecting my wife to be his best friend or something and my wife wasn’t having it. There is Mello drama beef on both sides. | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/19 12:30 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/13/19)Physical: Height: 6 ft 1 Weight: 216 BF: 21% (I will get proper stats for next week I swear) Did not hit the gym as consistently as I wanted. My main focus this week was handling the tax situation and trying to implement a 30-minute quiet time each day. My wife sent me a photo on snapchat on Thursday night that I saw when I woke up that morning before going to work. It says “Look at my chubby little munchkin with heart faces.” I wasn’t mad, just took a good look at myself in the mirror and my gu… | /r/RPChristians | 14/02/19 04:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/06/19)Physical: 21% body fat. Just downloaded my fitness pal and have imputed everything even to individual items. I have known this before I even downloaded the app but I have a problem with snacking and it helps make me accountable and see where I am slacking. A cookie here and a cookie there at work from stress eating adds up. I’m going to start trying rock and roll chucks suggestion to hit the gym at night since getting up super early is hard for me. May need to find a new gym though since LA fitn… | /r/RPChristians | 06/02/19 05:36 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/30/19)Physical: 21% body fat, tried going to the gym 4 times last week and only went 3. It’s hard to go in the mornings when I work 12 hours. It’s hard to balance wife, work, and lifting but luckily those are the only things I have to worry about. One thing that has motivated me though was for example watching the super bowl last night seeing my wife go crazy for Adam Levine. Goes to show how lifting can really help. My chest looks nice, all I gotta get rid of is the stomach and do some curls and pull… | /r/RPChristians | 04/02/19 07:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/23/19)This is awesome! What's your BF% right now? I will have to get back to you on that. I was at 22% when I weighed 225, but I was also lifting a lot more then as well. How do ya'll get an accurate test? I always thought the Army's way of using a tape measure has a lot of variables that don't lead to a super accurate rating. Agreed, No More Mr. Nice Guy is a perfect place to start. After that, When I Say No I Feel Guilty should be next. I have started reading when I say No I feel Guilty and I cannot… | /r/RPChristians | 26/01/19 03:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (01/23/19)· PHYSICAL: I have just started lifting again this week and honestly it feels amazing and increased my own self-esteem and self-worth. The only hard part is getting out of bed, but the way my marriage has been going is one of my motivators. I work out from 5:30AM to 6:30AM then head to work from 7AM-7PM. I have lost two pounds this week and now weigh 216 mainly because I have cut out breakfast. Since I have started lifting on Wednesday though I may start drinking a protein shake in the mornings … | /r/RPChristians | 25/01/19 01:19 AM |
| 4 | The romance is deadUpdate, my wife was off work today and she stopped by the office to have lunch with me as a surprise. I talked with her about it since the topic was on my mind and she says the only reason she said that was not because she condones me cheating, but if I was in a life or death situation who knows what I would do. I come from a Christian framework and that would be the last thing on my mind and explained that to her. I was like if I have an hour to live I’m not gonna spend it railing some girl I d… | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 06:55 PM |
| 3 | The romance is deadI know I have been around women enough to know that. What’s crazy is I thought my marriage was great until now and it made me complacent. Hopefully it’s not beyond the point of no return. Back to STFU, lifting, eating right, and AM. That’s my plan for now. Just pray for me. If her thoughts are already like that then I need to prepare for the worst. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 04:42 PM |
| 2 | The romance is deadWell I’ll start with the gym and dieting. Sometimes it’s hard to get in after a 12 hour day but people make changes for things important to them. Then instead of dicking around watching YouTube on lunch breaks I will read the sidebar and some of the books on game to bring some of the spice back. I need to start posting in the own your stuff weekly as well to keep myself accountable. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 04:07 PM |
| 1 | The romance is deadI know it’s a big red flag, that’s why I’m worried. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 03:57 PM |
| 1 | The romance is deadLook that’s just what good sex is sometimes. Having sex like rabbits sometimes is good, other times it’s slow and passionate. I love my wife to death and love her for many reasons besides her body. But I would be lying if I said sex was not important to me. And I have read the sidebar but I should definitely revisit it since it was like a month ago. It’s easy to forget and fall back into old patterns. Thank you for your input everyone. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 03:49 PM |
| 3 | The romance is deadIdk really thinking about it, it goes a lot deeper than that. I work 12 hour shifts Monday-Saturday and sometimes I’m just burnt out and sex isn’t even on my mind since I’m just tired, like I’ll want it but I want sleep more type of deal. Then my wife said sometime last week if I ever get deployed if I cheat she would forgive me but I would have to get tested when I got back from overseas. That made me question her mindset because if she would be OK with me cheating, somewhere in there she might… | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 02:41 PM |
| 1 | The romance is deadThat may be part of it but I’m primarily referring to my own libido. Like the sex just isn’t as good for ME anymore. So it makes me think I am the problem. But thank you I definitely need to work out more lol. | /r/RPChristians | 15/01/19 02:30 PM |
| 3 | Is overlooking a female's sexual past foolish?Before I got married and found my faith in God again I didn’t judge women based off of how many people they slept with and some of the women I met had been with a lot of men and they were the most enjoyable to spend my time around. I do think however looking for someone more serious n-count should not play a huge factor, just what their relationship with the lord is. My marriage has some problems that arise occasionally but because I found a godly woman it is way easier because I can frame any p… | /r/RPChristians | 02/01/19 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Caught wife wanking offI thought if females used vibrators it made it harder for them to orgasm during intercouse because it makes them insensitive? At least that’s what I heard in White Tiger Tantra with Stevie P. He basically recommended female keggels and full body massage which helps with the relaxation side of it. | /r/RPChristians | 16/11/18 06:25 PM |
| 2 | A question about tears in front of your LTR.I think it’s good to cry as a man once in awhile. It’s a human emotion that gets shut down in men because it’s seen as weak. As long as you arnt crying everyday over silly things I don’t think it is a problem. But yeah I cried with my wife one time apologizing over something I severely goofed up on. And then we made up afterwards and she doesn’t see me as a lesser man because of it. It probably actually helped because she could tell I was sincere. | /r/RPChristians | 05/11/18 12:52 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/24/18)Didn’t really make an introduction but I’ll start by writing a post here. I have been married to my wife for about 5 months now and we have been together for almost a year. Surprisingly the marriage started as a dead bedroom and once I found RPC and started “doing the work” without worrying about the outcome the relationship not just sex wise has gotten way better. We are working as a team which I love and I have god to thank for that. PHYSICAL: I used to be religious about lifting 5 days a week… | /r/RPChristians | 29/10/18 05:23 PM |
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