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16

swap the sexes here and it makes perfect sense. can you spell projection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:37 AM
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I like to have both depending on the situation. One guy was driving from another city so he confirmed the day before and let me know the morning of when he started driving and gave an updated estimate on his arrival based on traffic. When guys are genuinely interested, they really do make the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 11:55 PM
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They may perform well at their position but I bet these are not the same men getting into management or even just progressing in their career. I work for an engineering firm and we have very few anti-social male engineers. Curiosity is needed to be a good problem solver. Social skills are so important for teams to function properly. Either they do that work (and therefore know how to do it it) and just don't put effort with women; or they really don't know and aren't the best engineers on their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:42 PM
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Does anyone think this guy is porn sick? I've always heard (from the women in my family) that men love the "pregnant glow" in their wives and typically don't think about this sort of "oh she's going to get so fat later". even my lvm dad was obsessed with making sure my mom ate enough when she was pregnant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:25 PM
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I think the difference here is that BDSM and prostitution is readily acknowledged as not being beneficial for women whereas makeup and shaving is seen as giving women benefits: better employment, more dating options, etc--basically more social currency. But what some fail to realize is that in the same way that normalizing BDSM and prostitution has made it harder for women to say no to those things, upholding makeup and shaving as part of "female hygiene" makes it harder for women to divest from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:29 PM
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Even before reading your post I was going to say yes it's a red flag because the moment you feel the need to post something on a reddit forum asking if it's a red flag--you know it's a red flag. And after reading your post, oh my gosh that's terrifying. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:05 AM
1

what does the air force do? i'm chatting with a guy who is in the air force and i want to know what i should be looking out for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:33 AM
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There will be pick-mes in any generation. I don't think it behooves us to be skeptical of a whole generation of women when in reality older women often have good advice (or at least more life experience to learn from second hand).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:07 PM
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The pre-date screening call should minimize the times you need to end a date early. I've saved myself a lot of time with that strategy in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:45 PM
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Is the rescue mission tag for your sister? Because you're handling this perfectly and it looks like she could use some help. I'm sorry you had to experience that. I don't think it's a sign you're not over it though. It's not dating but I have a similarish experience. My father was incredibly abusive and it's taken time to resolve those emotional issues but even now I get a little nervous when I see men in public that resemble him. I think it's our brain/body protecting us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:34 AM
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omg... I just read the article and kept thinking the conclusion would be a breakup. How do you write something that objectively portrays your partner as selfish and irredeemable and conclude that you have to "fix him"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 05:40 PM
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I don't think you can get a man to be anything. Either he is or he isn't. All we can do is move on if he's not a match. No hard feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:52 PM
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So the FDS 3 month rule is actually too lenient (: and yet some people think it's too stict
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:31 PM
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Listening to this episode I was really pleasantly surprised. Pretending men and women are the same does us no favors. Acknowledging the strengths and weaknesses of both sexes is unfortunately taboo today. I've worked in daycare as well and what this guest said about boys wanting to please even more than girls do is spot on. Redirecting bad behavior is incredibly effective at that age. I remember we had an aggressive little boy who struggled to behave. The other teachers didn't like interacting w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:38 PM
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I want a small-ish place so there's less cleaning to do but what you're describing sounds amazing too. I'd stop telling other people, tbh. Some people can't think outside the lifestyle advertised to us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:05 PM
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Sorry babe, I can't let you play with our child, use the dishes, eat our food, or put on clean clothes because that would mean you're 1. touching a child, 2 touching dishes, 3 touching food, 4 touching clean clothes which according to this meme makes me a bad wife. xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:41 PM
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This is good advice. But also reaffirms my decision not to sleep with men until marriage...this sounds exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:52 AM
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Wow! I'm just in awe of you for standing up for yourself in the moment. It's so easy to just freeze when you're being disrespected and not respond in the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:49 PM
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This is a great tik tok. Do you have a shareable link? Or maybe just a tip on how to find it online? I'd like to share it with a friend but if I link to this subreddit she won't take it seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:40 PM
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Yeah if anything it should be polyandry so the men can combine their braincells and work together to please one woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:57 PM
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This should be in the handbook. Excellent advice; thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:50 PM
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oh okay yeah if you know the landlord personally and have a relationship with them that makes sense. I've almost always lived in meh apartments with horrible corporate management so the idea of doing anything to make their lives easier is egh You sound like a kind hearted and good person. I wish you the best of luck :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:35 PM
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I'm so sorry you're going through a messy divorce. Forgive my ignorance, but do you need to do all that to move out? Why can't you just take your stuff and leave? If his stuff and other random things are left in the apartment, let him pay whatever fee the apt charges. Why remind him about insurance and other paper work? Just secure yours and let him deal with it as it comes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:27 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that; sounds awful. But full kudos to you for recognizing bad patterns and avoiding it in your own life. It's not easy to break a cycle like that. Judging by other similar stories on the internet, you might have to brace yourself for when she hits old age and the responsibility magically falls on the most sensible daughter to take care of her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:18 PM
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We can have nuance. I wouldn't introduce a guy to my general circle until 6 or 8 months into being serious. However after a few months (or when able) I will definitely introduce him to my 2 closest friends and mom because I trust their judgement and other women close to us can often see red flags better than we can. It's part of my vetting strategy. If my closest friends find issues with him, he's probably not a good match for me. I would avoid introducing him to coworkers, wider circle of frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:59 PM
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Isn't law school only 2-3 years?? It's totally doable to have a LDR for those years and then move to the city where he's doing med school which is much longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:50 PM
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I'm too afraid to google this and I think this is a good thread to ask this question. Does period sex feel different? better? I heard it might help with cramps but is that true? A guy asked me if I would ever be up for it because he liked it. And, ngl, my gut instinct was "no" because if a man likes something sexually it's usually not pleasant for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:01 AM
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only one day? oh my gosh, I feel like I just met a woman from a myth. If it's not too personal, can I ask if that ever changed? I started my period early and I've noticed a change in length over the years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:56 AM
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If I understand correctly, NYC will no longer be prosecuting prostitutes--it doesn't say anything about the men purchasing sex. https://www.npr.org/2021/04/21/989588072/a-relic-and-burden-manhattan-district-attorney-to-stop-prosecuting-prostitution "Black, Brown and East Asian women and girls, immigrants, and LGBTQ+ people have been disproportionately harmed by laws like 'loitering for the purpose of prostitution' and 'unlicensed practice of a profession' – a charge that is often used to make ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:38 PM
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notice it's "misogynistic forums" but "anti-feminist podcaster". If you're "anti-feminist", you're a misogynist but heaven forbid we call a spade a spade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:15 PM
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27 is too old for a 23 year old. You're just out of college probably or just starting your career. Some men do wake up at 26/27 and realize that if they don't marry soon and have kids, they probably never will. Instead of leveling up and doing the right thing: save money for kids, move to a good neighborhood, seek out women close to them in age and life goals, date intentionally, they will try to get with a younger woman and pressure her into all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 04:12 PM
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When I was a buying a new car a few years ago, I noticed that dealerships quoted me a higher price than when my bf at the time or uncle would email them. I ended up buying a car from the dealership that my ex originally reached out to and got the lower price. Maybe using a masculine sounding name in email inquiries helps? Good luck on the purchase! I went through a ton of heartache with multiple dealerships but at the end of it I got a beautiful car. You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:07 AM
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yoga with adriene is a great one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:58 AM
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This one is my favorite episode so far. Complete line by line breakdown of why FDS is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:06 AM
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nice! probably goes without saying but if you do go for the boudoir photography/painting portrait, make sure the artist is a woman. I know a guy who does this sort of photography and lets just say his views on feminism and women are kinda yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:43 AM
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omg reminds me of the paintings La Maja Desnuda and La Maja Vestida... side note, this kind of stuff is what I originally thought "kink" meant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:02 AM
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I don't see the appeal of sending nudes either. It doesn't feel intimate or fun. I will say I liked the idea of taking nude photos with my partner. It felt intimate and a bit thrilling to take photos with each other. Like you normally take photos together, but now you're not wearing clothes. My ex always took beautiful photos of me on trips and travels so it felt nice in the bedroom too. And these were photos only for our eyes. Of course I was incredibly naive and thought we'd be together foreve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:32 PM
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Agreed. However, I think it's also useful for people new to FDS or people lurking to see these types of posts and realize that this isn't okay. Some things that are obvious to us may not be obvious to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:14 PM
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stuff like this makes me wish women could leave reviews on guys's profiles....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:27 PM
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This is a good point. Honestly, for true "50/50", the biological father should pay for 100% of the biological mother's health care expenses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:10 PM
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Thank you for the explanation. It's such a weird thing to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:03 PM
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" He said I’ve neutered every man in my life, feline or human alike. " What does this even mean??? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:27 AM
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That second paragraph about "excuses" is disgusting. And to think that some idiot wrote it, and then an editor read it, probably a publisher too, and then reviewers before it hit the market. How many people read that and thought "Yes we should publish this"??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:31 AM
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That's heartbreaking. She was only 19 married to a 31 year old... Shame on him and shame on her family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:27 AM
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You got some really good advice here. One thing I'd like to add that works for me personally, if I feel the need to ask someone else (a friend, online friends, forums, etc) if something is wrong, especially early on in courtship, then it's probably wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:13 PM
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I would be gentle with your mom about reproductive coercion. I can't imagine the toll on the psyche to fully and openly acknowledge something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:07 PM
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Yeah it sucks and honestly I don't know who's actually benefiting from this or getting married like this. In my own experience 1-4 are spot on. Regarding number 5, it depends. Sometimes you just don't live in an area with a large South Asian community and you'd like to marry a South Asian or someone who practices your religion and speaks your native language so you have to look online. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with that. And I'd like to add They're looking for a US or Euro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:13 AM
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This is horrifying. 12?? I only had the vaguest notion what sex even was at that age. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 10:09 PM
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Since he's an "anti-capitalist Marxist" ask him if he's read The Communist Manifesto or Marx's Economic and Philosophic Manuscripts of 1844. Marx was against prostitution and believed prostitution needed to be abolished as part of dismantling capitalism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:54 PM
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I mean right now that's not the case. But I fear that's what will happen if we mindlessly champion the phrase "sex work is work".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:07 PM
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Flip the script. "Do you want to force a kiss on me?" "You actually like me, right? Then it shouldn't be a problem to wait until I'm ready" Make them confront how rape-y it is to make your boundary about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:01 AM
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Currently in the US, in order to collect unemployment you have to show that you're looking for work and haven't turned down any work (among other things). Taking "sex work is work" to its logical conclusion then means if a woman were to lose her job, she can't turn down prostitution without losing her unemployment safety net. This effectively creates State endorsed prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:51 AM
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This is a really good way to vet who is serious and who isn't. I once gently laughed at a guy who asked to kiss me and said "oh my gosh, everyone knows you don't kiss on the first date". He was good natured about it but we didn't have a second date when it became obvious to him I wasn't about to do anything physical quite that easily lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:24 PM
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Not sure what you're looking for here. I'd say the best course of action is to say nothing---why waste your time? If it comes up again or he says it to your face, I'd just play dumb fox. "Really? I don't get it. Why do you think that?" or something along those lines. Make them explain themselves. You don't owe anyone an explanation for your sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:29 AM
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It depends on what you mean by "good partner". If someone's not a good partner to you because their life goals (children? lifestyle? location? etc) don't match up with yours, then that in itself doesn't make them a bad person. But if despite those differences, they lead you on, try to change you, lie, etc then that makes them a bad person. Bad behavior makes them a bad person. Period. However, it's telling that your best friends keep insisting on "he's a good person" despite you speaking about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:09 PM
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interesting! How do they verify that? I've thrown away things accidentally before. What if one were to also throw away an ex's belongs "accidentally"? Or what if you were to move house?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:28 PM
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Good catch; I missed that. Looks like he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and now nothing. It could have been a wishy-washy "taking a break" where she thought they'd work it out (which full clown face time, I thought the same thing. In fact the only reason my ex asked me to ship his stuff is because I asked him to ship mine once I felt that we were done for good). In that case, all the more reason to just dump his stuff and move on with your life. OP really has too much empathy here and not enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:23 PM
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Absolutely not. Ghosting after a 7 month relationship is incredibly cowardly. And no matter how kind he may have been during the relationship, this cowardly hurtful behavior negates all that. My ex (who broke up the relationship horribly) asked me to ship his things back to him 3 months after the breakup (we were LDR) as a "courtesy" because he shipped my things back to me. I told him I would never do that. You don't have to be kind to people who treat you like sh*t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 06:04 PM
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People still stand way too close to me where I live. More like 2-3 ft instead of 6ft. Lately I've taken to "casually" stretching my arms behind my back as if I don't see them and that's helped maintain a bit more space. Throw back to elementary school when kids would stick out their arms for their personal bubble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:53 PM
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Everyone's talking about how to circumvent this or prevent it (which is good!) but on a more basic level: How is the school even planning to enforce this? I can imagine this turning into some sort of "he said she said" situation. Is the school going to keep some sort of database of girls and have boys register who they're going to ask?? What if two boys ask one girl at the same time? Not only is this a disgusting prom rule, it doesn't even sound practical or enforceable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:41 PM
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The oldest is literally just 10. A child. How has he already learned to be "sexually inappropriate"?? Something is seriously messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:38 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing--it is so needed. This will wake a lot of women up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:25 PM
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"probably the hardest thing I have ever done, as we both still love each other I still love him" I don't think he can claim to truly love you if he is lying and disrespecting your boundaries. We show love by our actions; not by our words. Kudos to you for leaving. It's a difficult thing to do and shows a lot of maturity on your part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:44 PM
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Please tell me the comments are roasting him. He wanted the kid, got full custody, and is even getting 125% of the court mandated child support. What more does he want? The only person deserving of sympathy in this situation is the child. And his post isn't even about that! It's still about his "struggle as a single parent". Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 12:51 AM
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I think Ovarit has good resources on that. But you need an invite code from their twitter so if you don't have a twitter account, you'll just have to lurk like me haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:01 PM
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liberals and and conservatives are equally misogynistic in different ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:14 PM
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This seems so obvious. And yet I shared something similar (a twitter thread critiquing pseudo-empowerment and choice feminism) with a fairly feminist friend and she just brushed it off because "OP is a t e r f "...like what does that have to do with anything? Why are seemingly intelligent people falling for this :\
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:41 AM
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I think women should stop using hormone disruptors as birth control. Take the pills for medical conditions if you need to, but for the explicit purpose of avoiding a pregnancy? That should be on the man. And if you can't trust the man to take the necessary precautions or to step up as a father incase it doesn't work (no method except abstinence is 100% after all), you can't trust him for anything--let alone sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:37 PM
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This is the best advice on this post right now. I really hope OP listens to this. Stop dating. The other stuff about self help books and books on abuse/narcissism is okay but I honestly wouldn't waste my time with that and dating right now at 17. Read books on science, history, art, or your passions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:00 PM
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oooh I'm filing this away for later. Really good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:18 PM
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Agreed. At this point I just use these type of weird dreams as an indicator that I'm going to start my period soon and try not to give too much importance to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:00 PM
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Yeah I low key wish it was serious. Some countries have sex segregated train cars and buses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:23 PM
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But she did do something terrible. He's young enough to be her son--that's ridiculous. She also should realize this younger guy just wanted sex and in no world is a 20 year old guy "her way out" of an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:12 PM
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There is a difference between loving a poor mentally ill man and aligning yourself in a marriage or LTR with a poor mentally ill man. You can believe that everyone is worthy of love and that not everyone is worthy of your romantic relationship. The two are not mutually exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:06 PM
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oh. my. gosh. there's a sentence I never thought I'd read. deplorable man. I'm so glad you're free of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:47 PM
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Sounds like this is actually the *best* surprise gift because it freed you of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:38 PM
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Oh my gosh! I was also a little excited to change my name after marriage. My friends joked that I'd only go for a man with a boring common last name like "Smith".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:06 PM
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Even if you're married but have doubts on the relationship, don't give the children his last name. Having been the child of such a relationship, it's disheartening every time I see my own full name written out. To make it worse, my middle name is my dad's first name. When I bought my first car I had to sign for it with my first name and his full name at the end. You can usually avoid signing your middle name but I guess for big loans like a car loan you have to write the whole thing. A memorable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:03 PM
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Thank you so much for writing this. And thank you to the mods for all your work in keeping this space meaningful, worthwhile, and safe. Its disheartening that this female writer would tear down other women. And for what? Male approval? I read the article on archive (https://archive.is/RS7Lm why give VICE the clicks??) and it was crazy to me that someone spent the time to write this when there are so many real problems facing both women and men that they could have focused on. Thank you for writi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:10 PM
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This is incredibly insightful and really hits home for me; I'm in tears. When we were teens, a friend lightly poked fun that I wanted the "stereotypical" life of a house in the suburbs with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. Even as a teen I thought, "Well yeah, because I don't have that now" whereas my friend did (to an extent). And as an adult I can objectively acknowledge that being single can lead to a just as if not happier life than a marriage. However, it's hard not to mourn the fact that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:48 PM
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From this poor woman's perspective, if your options are unhappy arranged marriage in a small Indian village vs unhappy arranged marriage abroad, this seems like a no brainer. Sadly. The second to last paragraph is telling. "She's quite pretty now and until you hear her accent, you'd never know she's a fob". ABD men want a wife that looks "western" but will still put up with a regressive marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:41 PM
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all of this is ridiculous but the lollipop one seems more like a metaphor for using condoms than virginity imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:29 PM
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Then what's the point of having sex with men? lmao If you have to pleasure yourself then it's masturbation with a male viewer, not sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:39 PM
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This so so much. My mom tells my sister not to make the same mistake I did by dating in college. Which while I understand the sentiment, all I did was a date a decent guy in college who turned out to not be long term husband material. Kinda stings every time it comes up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:58 PM
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I wish I could hug you; this is so upsetting. I had a similar experience growing up. I remember freezing up whenever the front door was being unlocked because it meant he was coming home. I'd stop talking as soon as he entered a room. Then one day he just left us--no warning, no explanation. And even though it was a little nerve wracking (He was the sole breadwinner), it immediately had a positive impact on my mental health. Right after my parents separated I'd still be anxious that he would com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 10:03 PM
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Thank you for sharing! This is really inspiring. We need more stories of women succeeding in life and thriving--outside of marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:33 AM
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They have been dating for less than 2 months... It's not even an FDS thing. If a relationship is not working in the first 2 months, it's definitely not going to work later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:47 AM
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Honestly, I think it'll be easier if you don't earn as much. I work in an office with some high earners: The men are all almost always married or engaged to women who earn less than them and the women are often single, or married to an even higher earner outside the office. I rarely see equal income couples or single men. But there are a lot of single women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:40 AM
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"I do it with all my friends" loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:09 AM
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Easy answer: "I am cool with it because we're no longer dating." I'm sorry you have to go through this painful experience. One year is a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:53 AM
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so "I can have everything I can offer myself" ? Then yeah, you can "have it all" but I don't think that's what people mean when they say "you can't have it all". There are naturally going to be some things in your life that you wish you could have but you may not get it (for a multitude of reasons).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:37 AM
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That's cool but also gives me the heebie jeebies (AI facial recognition). I have a very old phone lol .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:32 AM
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Good job on enforcing your boundaries! I would read the parts in the handbook about not bringing up commitment first or asking where things are going b/c men will just say what you want to hear and it sounds like that's what this guy did for a few months. Still good on you for recognizing this relationship wasn't worth your time and acting on it. Love to see women leveling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:26 AM
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Great work! I can't bring myself to cull through all the old photos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:15 AM
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I couldn't resist commenting on this post because I just threw away a couple origami knick knacks my ex made for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:33 PM
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This is a nice thought but a few things Does she already have a ton of origami stuff he's made in the past that just take up a lot space and collect dust? Has she said before that she'd love origami earrings and did he keep promising to make them but never did? It's very easy to identify LV behavior from a post, but not HV behavior. This is a sweet post but the only answer to the question is another question "Is your girlfriend the kind of person to enjoy a dozen origami roses?".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:31 PM
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Learning about Britney breaks my heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:18 PM
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If OP wants to stay in this industry/company, then this is the best advice. All the other advice about confronting or "communicating" to men how they should feel or behave is just plain dangerous. I think this is a good situation to use the handbook's dumb fox approach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:26 AM
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Firstly, you shouldn't be splitting drinks. As others have said, read the handbook. But more importantly, don't downplay yourself. It's not rude of you to find something to be a turn off. If dating someone for just a month starts stressing you, then they are not compatible with you. If you feel the need to ask/google his behavior within just a few months of dating, then something is wrong and you should listen to your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:36 AM
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You're right that most women would agree on that, but unfortunately most men don't. Men without a college education often see women with a college education as a threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:29 AM
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Love the grip you have on it! Looks way cuter than any sony alpha series I've seen. What kind of photography do you usually do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:55 AM
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I'm surprised no one has mentioned this but also watch out for those looking for a green card marriage (if you're a US citizen).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:19 AM
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I would say 20s is the safest. Any younger and it really is a gamble isn't it? We should be encouraging girls to fully devote their teen years to education and learning as much as they can. You have your whole life to vet, date, and marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:15 AM
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This is a really good point. I haven't thought of it in that way before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:06 AM
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I had some friends like this in high school. We're in our 20s now and some have changed, some didn't. Like with any other relationship in life, match their energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:55 AM
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It absolutely is. Even pleasuring yourself is technically a sin because those acts are supposed to be done with your spouse. I "get" that these sorts of addiction is challenging and common in men, but that's no excuse to encourage it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:04 AM
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You've articulated this very well, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:39 AM
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I'm not but I never heard of another culture doing that too! So cool! Is it the case for all Latin countries? If you have/want kids, will they get your name or your husbands name? Every since I decided to take my mom's name, I kinda want to pass it on to my future kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:33 AM
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They can break up and he can tell people he got divorced. People have a lot of sympathy for divorced men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:23 PM
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In my culture, women do not take their husband's name; they keep their own. The children take the father's first name. This was to avoid passing along caste information that used to be in family last names. It's not a perfect system, but I think it's preferable to changing your name. My father turned out to be hella abusive so I'm planning to change my last name to my mom's first name. A spin on tradition while honoring my incredibly strong and amazing mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:14 AM
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This is a quality post! Thanks for sharing the statistics. We absolutely have to be wary of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:42 AM
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This tweet helped me get some perspective when I was fresh out of a painful breakup. After the breakup I had 4 grad school acceptances (1 with full tuition funding), and a promotion + raise at work. I have so much going for me--I shouldn't be hung up on a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:03 PM
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Not at all. After my breakup, every time I had a thought edging towards him I would force myself to think of something else. This short TED talk really helped me get through the first few months after a very painful breakup: https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_how_to_fix_a_broken_heart/transcript?language=en The line that resonated with me was "withdrawal of romantic love activates the same mechanisms in our brain that get activated when addicts are withdrawing from substances like cocaine or op…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:31 PM
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Vetting your friends is just as important as vetting men. That said, I think it's important to remember that there is a hierarchy to you friendships and that's okay. Not every woman is going to be your closest friend. And just as this sub says not to give wifey benefits to a boyfriend, don't give close friend benefits to an acquaintance or casual friend. Close friends - The friends you know and care about the most. Most of your values are aligned. They'll often end up being the ones you've known…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:39 AM
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