Alseebee Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
57	Congratulations on your questioning		Alseebee	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 07:08 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Is being shy and awkward the most unattractive trait? Thanks for sharing. I am 29F. I see a few bias in your post if I may point them out I swear it’s out of being helpful, constructive and done respectfully. I noticed you used the word « girls ». You might want to say « women » instead, words are impactful on our minds and it’s important to make the difference between both. Since you’re 25 you’re a man and are looking for women (adults and not children). Then I think you should start thinking about what you want in a partner. Don’t be looking for …	/r/ExRedPill	17/07/26 09:05 PM
2	How do I stop the self hatred Glad I could help a bit. I’m a white woman so I don’t go through what you do but I deeply sympathise. I’m a feminist and you guys are also those I fight for for the reasons you pointed out. I know it must hurt very bad to feel like you don’t match society standards, we just shouldn’t car about those, at least I don’t. I try to keep each and every specificities and nuances of humans I fight for. Times are especially tough for non-white people. I support you in your pain guys. 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/26 10:59 PM
2	I don't get it. The only people doing and teaching cold approach and game are redpill types. Oh I’m a hetero woman not looking for anything. It was juste my view on the subject.	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/26 03:13 PM
3	I don't get it. The only people doing and teaching cold approach and game are redpill types. Oh ok thanks for clarifying. Sorry for misunderstanding. Well as an anxious person myself I couldn’t agree more. Although I do believe that society got sicker than us. I think it takes superhuman abilities to go through a day now. I chose to believe in the fact that people who don’t dig deeper probably don’t belong on my path. I think that being on dating apps, while absolutely valid, brings a huge first obvious bias to any relationship. We tend to depict ourselves in a certain manner that can t…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/26 01:36 AM
1	I found out that my male friend is part of the no-simp group. Am I wrong for not being sure if I want to be friends with him after finding that out? And as long as you are able to reflect it’s perfectly fine and honestly far from being the most harmful behaviour… I do too, I value other’s opinions too much and even though I’ve realised it for a while I still struggle with it. So I try to keep the right persons around me. We are raised this way by society and it’s very hard to escape. But you really seem like you’re making the right decisions. ❤️	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/26 12:54 AM
3	I found out that my male friend is part of the no-simp group. Am I wrong for not being sure if I want to be friends with him after finding that out? And I think it’s very healthy of you. I sincerely salute your efforts in growing. I act the same way you do with people. I try not to judge, try to be helpful, understanding and positive no matter what. Some things can get under my nerves but I do try to understand where it comes from me and my own limitations and if so reflect on it. You sound like your views are rather objective, I never doubted that even though your reply seems to validate it further. What I could fear for anyone in your situ…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/26 12:48 AM
12	I don't get it. The only people doing and teaching cold approach and game are redpill types. Thanks for sharing. I think it partially depends on what you set as your goal. I don’t think that looking actively for a partner is healthy or beneficial. I think we should view ourselves as individuals engaging with others and consider those others as each unique. If we let chemistry and life do their work without expectations we are more likely to make significant encounters Imo. We should be ourselves with anyone else. Having to go through a validating process to « master the tools of communi…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/26 12:20 AM
4	I found out that my male friend is part of the no-simp group. Am I wrong for not being sure if I want to be friends with him after finding that out? Thanks for sharing. Sadly there’s not much anyone can do but himself. And it mostly takes loneliness for them to get there. Congrats on the work you’ve done! There’s no need for you to go through it again. From what I got here it takes people to reach the bottom before they get in the right direction. I could be wrong and I guess it depends on people. As a woman who did some self work I want to warn you not to fall into giving too much energy for too long for little to no results. I’ve been ther…	/r/ExRedPill	12/07/26 11:37 PM
2	How do I stop the self hatred It’s the least I can do, this sub is great and I try to help whenever I can if I can make it positive. ☺️	/r/ExRedPill	12/07/26 10:50 PM
3	Do most feminist / left women truly desire eliminating male gender roles in relationships? If not, then why? Feminist left woman here hello. Thanks for your post. I know there are plenty of different views on many subjects including feminism and gender roles etc. Though I personally praise anything that lets people be as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. I’d say to each their own but in the meantime it really surprises me what you are saying. And I believe you 100%. What I think is that platforms are very manipulative lately and some places on the internet are very much led by bots or any kind of fake ac…	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/26 03:08 AM
2	How do I stop the self hatred Thanks for your honesty but it doesn’t change what I think. Everyone deserves to feel good and do as they please as long as no one is hurt. Don’t consider yourself over ever. I don’t believe in god or anything. But I do believe each of us belongs here and that we are plenty enough to be well surrounded. Age makes authority among humans and you could use it to try and change some minds with what you’ve learned. It’s brave to be on here, I love this sub, it’s the only place on here where I’ve foun…	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/26 02:27 AM
5	How do I stop the self hatred Absolutely right. And also the people you want in your life are those who deserve you and that you should want back. Standards are social construct, it’s nowhere near the reality. And truthfully good people don’t care about looks. We’re better off alone than poorly surrounded trust me. Be gentle to yourself, we come in all shapes and forms as humans and that’s the truth. It may sound corny but it’s the truth. We all hate ourselves much more than others do. Much much more. You’ll be alright bud 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/26 01:12 AM
5	How do I stop the self hatred Hey there bud, you’re on the right path and have done and are still doing great ok? I am a woman and what you do is very important and much appreciated. What you feel must be the remains of rp. It makes people lonely and angry. It’s perfectly normal to feel a bit lonely and resentful, it’s a lot to go through. This will pass, you have to re build yourself and meet healthy people now. You’re far from alone in this situation and you’ve done the hardest part. From now on it will be growth and self-…	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/26 01:05 AM
1	I think my friend got into red pill, how do I help him Unfortunately people evolve at their own pace and there’s not much you can do about it. As a woman all I learned from it all, especially on this sub I am thankful for, is what gets people out of rp. I posted here a few months ago asking about it and what I got was very informative. You could point out the contradiction about advice givers being men, the fact that it doesn’t talk much about women and is much more male centered. Mascs influencers doing it for money, rp not making men feel better b…	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/26 12:24 AM
6	Body count preferences: Why some men want women with little to no past I didn’t mean to quote you at all when I talked about « gold digging witches », I was trying to make a stereotype of what masculinists might picture. At least from my perspective. I think I do get your point, I went through questioning it all and never thought I needed to at first. That’s why I felt legitimate to reply in the first place. I thought my view could add to your experience since I am a woman. Absolutely not claiming to have canon life experience but still a testimony you can add to y…	/r/ExRedPill	04/07/26 11:50 AM
4	Body count preferences: Why some men want women with little to no past Ok, thanks for posting. I am a 29 y/o woman. I think you’re on the right track but still are very much or very freshly conditioned by RP thinking. No judgement here, being on this sub shows your will and it’s great. The points you want to discuss about only exists in RP. Once you take a few steps back you’ll realise it. We all have our own pace and it’s fine. The world is not made that way. We are human beings each different from each others and it’s actually a relieving thought. There is no rig…	/r/ExRedPill	04/07/26 09:39 AM
4	What should a man have before even trying a dating or relationship? Reality is the opposite of red pill ideology. We come in all nuances and it’s beautiful and reassuring. ☺️	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/26 08:55 PM
3	What should a man have before even trying a dating or relationship? I really meant it as: breathe and be yourself. I realised it may have seemed harsher at first. Of course it’s what the system sets as a standard and it’s not on any of us. If you’re on there it’s for a good reason and you’re on the right path. And you’re right it’s easier to say and apply depending on where we live. Regardless of it all true connections build from putting down our barriers. Even if you think some things about you can look or sound peculiar many people will appreciate those speci…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/26 07:26 PM
3	What should a man have before even trying a dating or relationship? Honestly and as a woman: don’t you think like it’s way too much to ask? I was always attracted to people who are themselves. Never would I ever want to change someone for my own sake. Never have I been attracted to men who seem like they « fit in ». The most they are themselves, the most it’s attractive to me. Of course like anyone I have my preferences. But a man who appears like he cares for others to put a value on himself was never attractive to me. I found myself feeling attracted unexpecte…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/26 02:23 AM
3	what are some signs that your partner is going down the red pill path? how did it start? I agree with you, but a lot of people still have common sense and critical thinking and are able to change things around. As a woman of course I am not a target for this kind of content, and whenever something doesn’t fit my values, even more if it’s unethical, wether it’s a random post or an ad I will act on it and block it or report it. So my social feeds usually don’t meet what I consider as being the toxic part of the internet. At the end of the day it’s someone’s choice to be aware or not o…	/r/ExRedPill	07/05/26 04:12 AM
2	what are some signs that your partner is going down the red pill path? how did it start? I have the same issue with my current partner, we’re at the point of no return because I’ve expressed some problematical actions on his part that he never worked on to the point I doesn’t even hurt me anymore. I feel you even though it’s not exactly the same situation. 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	07/05/26 01:29 AM
2	what are some signs that your partner is going down the red pill path? how did it start? If it’s recurrent to the point you notice it it means he watches this content and might have an interest in it. Is he aware of how algorithms work? Anything you do is taken in account, even if you out your phone down for 5 minutes on a content while doing something else it will be interpreted as something you have interest in. Your worries are valid and I think the sooner you aboard it the better it will be. 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	06/05/26 11:28 PM
3	I find myself slipping into a toxic headspace and I need help Hey there, as a woman my life experience is obviously different than yours. But let me congratulate you for sharing, and for doing so in this sub which have been the best place for me to exchange with men than do questioning on Reddit. You’re already showing self reflection and semi admitting RP doesn’t meet your expectations. And that is because we should look at each others through our nuances and uniqueness. No one can claim to hold a truth regarding anyone else but themselves, and even then …	/r/ExRedPill	26/04/26 08:18 AM
2	What Exactly Is The Red Pill? Wow damn… didn’t know about black pill, it makes no sense… the others don’t either but this one is wild… thanks for the « enlightenment »…	/r/ExRedPill	21/04/26 12:27 AM
7	Brutally Honest Advice (24 M) Hey there, seems to me like you’re still very much recovering from your past relationship and red pill. You shouldn’t be saying you’re a problem and be ready to face stranger’s judgement on your looks or anything about you. You’re pretty young and what you describe here seems to be you going through a time you should focus on yourself and reflect on things. You’re pretty young can get help from a therapist if needed. You’ll be alright 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/26 08:23 PM
1	If anyone was a part of 'Black Pill' culture, how did you come across it? So from what I understand they do understand that people are people and therefore different? Would you be able to tell the difference in the way it can harm people please? Genuinely interested as a woman. I try to understand all of those, and thanks for sharing!	/r/ExRedPill	14/04/26 10:09 PM
3	If anyone was a part of 'Black Pill' culture, how did you come across it? Yes, our ideals are far from matching our actual preferences when « applies ». Also if I may, as a woman, I see a huge gap between what traits are supposed to be desirable and what traits are supposed to be unappealing. There are a lot of fetish based on « out of normal desires ». It’s almost what fetish is about (and should stop being called fetish when it starts being harmful to someone).	/r/ExRedPill	14/04/26 10:07 PM
2	Advice « Chads who get plenty of girls » are not really a thing though… there is no Alpha or Beta in women’s world, there are just people. And as for your therapist you might wanna change it for someone with better skills and comprehension.	/r/ExRedPill	14/04/26 09:48 PM
5	Why "Who Hurt You?" is Actually the Most Accurate Question to Ask TRPers. I mostly agree with you and think you make very good points. As a 29 woman my main goal on social media and Reddit specifically is to get the best, deepest understanding of how both main genders interact with each other today. After getting lost on main subs that ended up having very problematic communities I found this one to be the safest to address these matters with men because you guys are in active willing evolving and understanding. No weirdos in my DM’s, excessive downvotes for no reason…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/26 10:30 PM
2	Advice Hey, thanks for sharing. So I might not be the first to say this but it seems like besides our advice you need to talk to a therapist too if you’re not already consulting. And don’t be afraid to find the right one that makes you comfortable sharing with. As a 29 y/o woman I had my first kiss at 17 and first sexual encounter at 19. I felt ashamed at the time and all of my friends (girls and boys) were experiencing, some for a while. I didn’t feel like being desirable, wasn’t looking for dating ei…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/26 08:43 PM
1	17M about to be 18 soon, struggling with virginity Hey there, thanks for sharing. Don’t feel ashamed for feeling this way nor sharing. I’m a woman and lost my virginity at 19. I was the last one to lose it beyond my friends and viewed my virginity as un burden as well. I barely kissed a few men before like 2 or 3 and was not being hit on. I understand why people seem to overlook it: because once you’ve done your first time it feels like it was nothing as big as you thought it was. But saying this won’t make the valide feelings you’re having sudd…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/26 08:00 PM
1	Congratulations on your questioning Thanks for your interesting answer. So from what I understand those sexists ideologies can either praise singlhood or finding a woman to marry while regarding them as a whole without nuances. In any case no one should be telling anyone how to behave, feel etc. And men can’t teach other men how women feel and what they want because everyone is different and basically look for different things. Some people are manipulative but thankfully not everyone and it’s not a feminine thing. We’re basically …	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 08:06 PM
2	Congratulations on your questioning I’m started to think that red pill and assimilated are a maga thing from reading you all. Why on Earth would we mix relationships with politics if maga isn’t behind all of this? Thanks for your answer and for self reflection, it’s not easy to open our eyes about all of this. 🫶🌻	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:54 PM
1	Congratulations on your questioning What the actual fuck? There’s no such thing as « better ». People belong in other’s life or they don’t. He should have taken that in account when marrying her… Marriage also isn’t something that fits everyone. To me it doesn’t truly make sense at all but not judging. Getting married is supposed to be about commitment and acceptance of the other. It’s really on him and absolutely not on her that’s so wrong. I am so sorry for her. Thanks a lot for sharing! She deserves happiness and so do you. Kee…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:50 PM
2	Congratulations on your questioning Thanks for thanking me lol. I see humans as constantly evolving which is a very good thing. What is important is questioning things as much and as deep as we can always and never consider ourselves as achieved ever. It’s a beautiful thing to always remain open-minded and listen to what the worlds teaches you. Things make more and more sense as we grow. Keep up the good work! 🫶🌻	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:45 PM
2	Congratulations on your questioning Thanks for sharing! From what many of you are commenting what stands out is the hypocrisy of the influencers, most of you being lefties and eventually realising how it pushes you from us and us from you. Because no woman wants a man that sees our gender as one entity while despising all of us. Everyone is to be considered as an individual, I can’t speak for all women for instance, only for me and my close ones and none are looking for wealth, bad guys, pretend nice guys or anything particular. F…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:41 PM
2	Congratulations on your questioning Yes I heard that from several man. It validates the feelings some already have and they’re way more likely to throw themselves into an « ideology » that comforts them in their thoughts and it’s totally understandable. Very human because sometimes opening our eyes can feel painful at first but from most of your testimonies you guys seem to feel better overall after you reflected on it and escaped. 🫶	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:29 PM
1	Congratulations on your questioning Thanks a lot for your reply, I love it. Being a lefty myself in politics I care a lot for people. I’m a feminist and view feminism as very similar to humanism. The name of it might sound misleading to a lot of person even to the old me. I was one of those who thought it was about women taking over the power and grew up in a safe environment that didn’t make me feel like it was a legitimate fight until I understood suddenly thanks to friend that is was all about making the world a better place fo…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 07:25 PM
1	Congratulations on your questioning Thanks a lot for sharing your personal experience on the matter. I am happy that you are in a healthy relationship and about the way you grew as a person. Your testimony is proof that we should care about ourselves first, not necessarily become de best version of ourselves because we’re always work in progress and should never stop the questioning. I love that listening to yourself led you to happiness instead of being « taught » by misogynistic men how to behave with the ambient obsession of da…	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/26 06:47 PM
2	How to hookup and date as a guy with severe social anxiety? Hey, so as a woman I really think that anyone should just be honest in relationships in general. Never pretend to be someone you’re not, don’t try to become what you think the other person views as an ideal. If you do so truth will eventually show. What we need in the long run is meaningful relationships, true exchange. Even if it doesn’t work out it is how you build up from experience. A whole lot of us experience social anxiety. And those who don’t can still be able to understand it. Just be y…	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/26 12:30 AM
3	The Biggest Problem with the Red Pill: The Disease of Generalization The system is actually biased in my point of view but to all of us. Those who benefit from it are those in charge keeping the money. Also the idea of money is to blame, with money sadly comes power, value and possession. Lots of people would go against their said morals and principles for money because it gets your life way more comfortable. I’m a feminist and I consider men to also be victims of the system. We call it patriarchy because it was set to be more gentle to men because those who most…	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/26 11:04 PM
5	The Biggest Problem with the Red Pill: The Disease of Generalization Damn… as a woman I’m stunned… you said it so well. I do kinda know what red pill and incel are about but never have I seen it so clearly expressed. It’s crazy to learn how to be manipulative to someone you suspect to manipulate you based on nothing. We are not like this at all, I really don’t know any woman around me viewing men as providers, love/ fuck interest or anything. Mostly we just meet people and some alchemy can happen resulting in friendship or love/sexual relationship or something in…	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/26 10:37 PM
6	Even Ryan Garcia got cheated on… Ok so my thoughts on this is that men and women are no different and you can’t be certain about what others can do. Communication is always key. My input is that we evolved to achieve other goals than reproduce. And there’s no such think as hierarchy regarding people. It’s all about communication and ne alchemy. And you always need to get some time before fully trusting someone. If some feel like there’s no hope it’s because they are too focused on finding someone instead of thinking about thems…	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/26 05:50 AM
1	Congratulations on your questioning The snake bites his own tail eventually if I understand what lol from several answers. Thank you so much for sharing 😇	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/26 05:24 AM
3	I'm ditching RPW ideologies Cause the red pill men are productive? Lol I see what you mean but men are also victims of the system and manipulation knows no gender sadly. It may be easier to some women to lie to themselves instead of seeing how wrong the system is to them. Men teaching each others how to manipulate women is also wild to me… hence this sub.	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/26 12:37 AM
3	Hi, has anyone noticed “red pill” content spreading in other languages/cultures ?? It’s not a mistake, I added this to point out that the « AskMenAdvice » sub is very problematic and that shows that the « AskMen » sub is even more or just as unhealthy. I just checked the « AskMenRelationships » sub and even if it’s better there are still douchebags on here seeing women as a whole and not being helpful at all. It seems like it doesn’t really matter which sub we post on to have men’s input we will always get hate. Except this one because the title implies that men on here are ca…	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 11:03 PM
2	Hi, has anyone noticed “red pill” content spreading in other languages/cultures ?? I noticed that the « AskMen » sub stated that relationship related posts are forbidden. So the « AskMenAdvice » sub appears like a sub dedicated to those but they complain about women and men posting such subs and even that some moderators are women. I did a second post (after deleting the first one) telling them how misleading the name of their sub was and even though I came prepared I still got tons of hate. It didn’t hurt the second time but it was so useless. I got comments like « how about …	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 10:37 PM
1	Hi, has anyone noticed “red pill” content spreading in other languages/cultures ?? Omg that’s so interesting… and sad of course. Thanks for your answer, I am glad that a man noticed this and it’s crazy that I had to end up on this sub to find safe men. I am so surprised (in a very bad way) that they act this way on a sub that is supposed to reach mainstream audience, they’re not even trying to hide. I posted on there to try and understand why so many men posted on female oriented subs about subjects they could address on male related ones and it was the biggest mistake I ever …	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 10:24 PM
1	Hi, has anyone noticed “red pill” content spreading in other languages/cultures ?? Omg yes! Thank you for talking about this sub! I have not been on Reddit for long (a month and a half) and since I am actively trying to find out how to stop all this sexism I like to check subs where I can find a wide variety of men to get an idea of the general thinking and behaviours. I ended up in the « AskMen » and « AskMenAdvice » subs and got so much hate here. And I found out I wasn’t the only one. Do you mind if I ask your gender just to see if they harass men too? You really don’t need…	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 10:10 PM
3	Hi, has anyone noticed “red pill” content spreading in other languages/cultures ?? Hi, I am a woman and never was a red pill but I know it is present in France since as a woman I have heard of it many times. I think the British show « Adolescence » put light on it for the best and worse. I really got aware of how deeply rooted it is thanks to this show. But for some it might have been an entrance I suppose. Along with social media’s algorithms of course and people’s vulnerability during Covid as you said.	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 09:43 PM
7	Congratulations on your questioning Thank you so much for your reply. I wouldn’t have minded the longer version don’t worry. I am asking because I am trying to find a way to prevent people from falling into this. I truly appreciate to witness men getting out of this by themselves. The hardest part is truly to look at ourselves and accept that we were led into thinking a certain way. I never was sexist but have also been led by society into thinking a way that was not particularly healthy so I went through self reflection and know …	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 08:33 PM
1	Was the red pill so wrong or right? I was looking for an internal pov, do they actually use the word « manipulation » or do they make themselves believe that it’s something else.	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 07:51 PM
3	Was the red pill so wrong or right? Thank you so much. I knew a bit about this but didn’t actually know what was the actual goal of it. Like when red pill people would consider being « achieved ». Thanks 🌻	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 07:49 PM
2	Was the red pill so wrong or right? Someone? Please?	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/26 07:03 PM
3	Guys do you think red pill will decline in the coming years? Hope I didn’t come out to strong and also need to point out that I don’t actually put every men in the same category. I know things are actually more nuanced. Thanks for taking my point of view in account with a constructive comment. I meant that loneliness might be the only way for some to escape from this way of thinking. Eventually it will probably become obvious that pushing women away as if they were a whole other species is what scares women away. I am genuinely interested in today’s relat…	/r/ExRedPill	15/03/26 11:03 PM
12	Was the red pill so wrong or right? I think it’s 100% wrong because nothing good can come out of an ideology that relies on hate. Just curious what is the point supposed to be about redpill? Like what’s the main goal of it? (Genuine question)	/r/ExRedPill	15/03/26 10:38 PM
3	Guys do you think red pill will decline in the coming years? Men are already complaining about their loneliness and sadly I think their narcissism might be the thing that makes them hopefully realise their masculinist shit doesn’t make sense…	/r/ExRedPill	15/03/26 10:30 PM
6	Did jail reform you? Jail is just a worse version of society. If anything it makes you normalise things that shouldn’t be normalised…	/r/ExRedPill	10/03/26 10:37 PM