Alternative-Dream-61 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-27	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men "I'm not going to give a fuck about politics because I've got mine and a woman made fun of a guy for being short" is certainly a take.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 07:26 PM
-5	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men Don't worry, you can keep voting Republican because the Dems aren't "pure" enough.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 07:18 PM
-4	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men MAGA literally presumes the worst out of anyone that isn't a straight white man.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 07:07 PM
3	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men It's not a great strategy, but it's reactions like this that are why I don't think Dems will ever be able to recover. There's always a purity test, and no one can ever pass it.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 07:05 PM
-11	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men It's why I dislike posts like these. People FINALLY give them a taste of their own medicine and we all clutch our collective pearls. Like Newsome trolling.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 05:29 PM
7	Left-wing politician body-shaming short men It's not a good look, but part of me is so tired of the "they go low we go high" approach.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/10/25 05:00 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are No. My point was I underestimated my attractiveness, opposite of the OPs claim.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 06:47 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are I said I think I'm overweight. I'm not rich.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 06:22 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Porn at a young age fucks up perspective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 05:56 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are I don't match with women I don't find physically attractive. I don't find people (in general) that don't value their health attractive. I also like being able to pick them up and put them on the counter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 05:55 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are I have never been with a woman who affirmed any of my insecurities (even after some rough breakups). Ive been told Im attractive, handsome, cute, etc. I dont feel it, and that's why I brought up my experience to the OP. Its the opposite of what they stated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 04:05 AM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Youre clearly jaded by the term. There is no moral superiority or classes here. The comparison for growth is who you were yesterday, not any other person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/25 04:01 AM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Thats true for the majority of women. Most would prefer athletic over jacked. The current roided gym bro look is for the male gaze.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 11:24 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Correct. While there will be some commonalities, my blueprint of what it is to be a man is going to be reflective of my values and my truths, which may not be shared with everyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 10:53 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are 3 books and some basics like self reflection, self awareness, and taking personal responsibility for what happens to you in life is a clear path. You chose to dismiss it because I didnt hand you a step by step guide.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 10:51 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Grow. Most of the "men" on this sub are still boys and living blueprints for masculinity given to them by advertisements and society. My advice to every guy here is to self reflect, get some self awareness, establish an internal locus of control, and read. I'd start with 3 books: No More Mr Nice Guy I Used to Be a Miserable Fuck The Way of the Superior Man	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 10:44 PM
–	Men think they are more attractive than they really are Im insecure, think Im unattractive, overweight, and have a small dick. I dont mention any of this, because why would I project my body dysmorphia into the world? Still get dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 10:32 PM
21	The reason why many men like the idea of being "sex material" isn't because they're only interested in sex. I have no idea what 90fm% of this says. I dont want casual sex. I also wont get into a relationship with a woman who isnt absolutely enamored with me and wanting sex. If Im not "sex material" for her shes not "relationship material" for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 04:15 AM
6	Why Do Many Women Make Consent Sound Like A Turn Off? Then dont date someone with a CNC kink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 03:20 AM
21	Why Do Many Women Make Consent Sound Like A Turn Off? CONSENT	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 03:06 AM
9	Why Do Many Women Make Consent Sound Like A Turn Off? That is literally what CNC is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 03:01 AM
8	Why Do Many Women Make Consent Sound Like A Turn Off? All of the fantasies you've described the women are consenting. CNC is consensual. Some women like rough sex. Some women like the idea of being "taken against their will" by a man they'd consent to having sex with anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 02:58 AM
-1	There is an ongoing war on masculinity. Make no mistake about that There is very little actionable information. 90% of this sub is just whining and pointing fingers. Theres very little attempt to change shit or get shit done.	/r/MensRights	29/09/25 12:54 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? I think you're confusing hate with indifference. In a way, I think indifference can be harsher because there's not even an acknowledgement of the other person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 05:44 PM
7	A world without men would be calmer, safer, and more harmonious What am I missing? That she's still not going to have sex with you. Are there hidden downsides I’m not considering, or positive contributions from men that are essential for balance? The Y Chromosome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 05:36 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Living in line with my values by not having meaningless sex, and not judging others for their past is me demeaning myself?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 05:06 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Yes. And I should clarify that even today, if she was enthusiastic, willing, and seducing me there's a decent chance it would still happen and I'd feel guilty and like shit afterward. Meaningless sex has never aligned with my values, and never made me feel great. I'm just human and shit happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 05:00 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? No. Not only is it not in line with my values, but a woman just being "gorgeous" doesn't do anything for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 04:57 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? No, I've thought of it. There is a moral and ethical argument against being promiscuous that is ingrained in society and religion. My comment was a generalization and isn't true of all men. There are going to be some men who are actually true to their values or are asexual. Those men are rare. I am personally no longer promiscuous and try to live to my values. I would not date a woman that is currently promiscuous for that reason, but I would not judge her if she was in her past but currently li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:56 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Being promiscuous doesn't mean she's a cheater. That's an entirely different issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:49 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Easy fix. Don't have unprotected sex outside of a committed relationship and get both partners tested.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:47 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Yea I don't really care about someone's past. I care about their present and future. I have a past too. I changed quite a bit from who I was.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:46 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? I have zero interest in a relationship with a currently* promiscuous woman. *I say currently, because people change. I don't care if a women was promiscuous in the past (hell I was too), but my current values and how I live don't align with that. So if she's down to fuck outside of a committed relationship she's not for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:40 PM
–	why do men hate sluts so much, instead of just feeling neutral? Men hate promiscuity because the women are having sex with men that aren't them. I don't know a single guy who hates promiscuous women that are willing to have sex with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/25 01:21 PM
0	I can't watch Corn anymore... I think there are plenty of studies that show how damaging it can be. In addition a lot of people use it as a drug, a coping mechanism, or escapism.	/r/MensRights	25/09/25 12:35 PM
0	Men who want casual sex, why women should want that? I dunno, there are plenty of women who want casual sex though. I get wild looks from some women when I tell them I don't have sex outside a relationship and don't want to fuck them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/25 01:02 PM
2	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) Most of the comments I saw were ESH. But yea, on a societal level it would be seen as an escalation (which means you're the bigger asshole) to attack a woman for being promiscuous vs being attacked as a man for not having sex. It's a shitty double standard. I don't see it as an escalation, more of everyone's an asshole. He was absolutely pushed into it. Justified or not, I still don't think it was the right move. I understand why he did it, and the temptation behind it. The way to win these game…	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 12:26 PM
3	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) I get that, and when I was younger I'd be the same way. I've just learned to not give a shit what others think about me because I'm confident and happy with who I am and my values. If someone wants to make fun of me because I don't value sex outside a relationship or that I'm a Christian that's their choice and reflects poorly on them, not on me. What I won't do (and I'm not perfect in this, everyone can lose their cool at times) is drop to their level and put more of that shit out into the worl…	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 12:21 PM
-9	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) I agree with almost everything you said. He didn't defend his beliefs, he attacked hers. And if he wants to that's fine. Just don't be surprised when she plays the victim and everyone views you as just as much of an asshole (or more so if you escalated). He doesn't need to ignore her, just doesn't need to sink to her level and insult her.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 12:18 PM
2	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) No, because people who do shit like that get cut off from my life and I never speak to them again. There is no reason to go "tit for tat" or teach them a lesson. I don't keep people in my circles that lack basic respect for others.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 12:15 PM
2	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) Absolutely. So is that reactive or proactive prescription? I personally think its proactive, which means you treat others how you want to be treated. You dont treat them how they treat you.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 12:01 PM
-16	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) I dont think silence is the answer. I think you directly address the behavior and what shes doing. Call her out. And if she continues cut her off. Edit: He could tell he he doesnt like the behavior and to stop. He could turn it a joke and say incel means involuntary. He could joke that shes upset he wont have sex with her. He could call out why shes so stuck on that in the first place (likely shame around her own behavior since shes from the same upbringing). I dont think the solution is to drop…	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 11:55 AM
-4	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) She shouldn't have, but she did. He sank himself to her level. Be the better person.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 11:47 AM
0	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) You can address her behavior without sinking to that level.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 11:46 AM
-38	Men’s sexual pasts(or lack thereof) is subject for cruel jokes but never a woman’s(post + comments) Most of the responses are ESH. Which I agree. Be the bigger man. Dont sink to that level.	/r/MensRights	16/09/25 11:30 AM
2	Women’s Understanding Won’t Help — Because Pity Kills Desire If we are talking about people we just met I think its even simpler. People put on masks and are on their best behavior when they meet someone new (especially a romantic interest). If putting your best foot forward is incompetence and insecurity how much worse is it gonna get in 6 months?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/25 10:19 AM
1	why is it always assumed to be a man's fault if a women gets pregnant? Not discounting your experience, just stating my own.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 06:11 PM
-2	why is it always assumed to be a man's fault if a women gets pregnant? It won't stop. Similar to toxic feminism most men's spaces are over run by toxicity and hatred. It often seems that there is less desire to raise other men up, and more desire to knock women down.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 06:02 PM
-6	why is it always assumed to be a man's fault if a women gets pregnant? Single mothers are constantly shamed, especially in men's circles. Women are shamed for not knowing who the Dad is, or not having been in a committed relationship when they got pregnant. It's kind of like the fat acceptance movement. There's been some societal movement towards normalizing it, but people still shame them overall.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 06:00 PM
-19	why is it always assumed to be a man's fault if a women gets pregnant? I'm not sure what you mean by fault? You're both at fault, and women often get shamed for it if it was unwanted.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 05:40 PM
-1	Men and women are naturally antagonistic I guess they didn't like you enough to give you the discount.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 05:20 PM
0	Men and women are naturally antagonistic Sounds like she didn't maximize her resource gain or minimize her sexual exposure.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 05:13 PM
-1	Men and women are naturally antagonistic I just get hookups only (am broke) You just disproved your own theory.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 05:11 PM
3	Men and women are naturally antagonistic Very transactional view of courtship and relationships. Disagree with the premise that women want minimal sexual exposure. The rest would depend on what you define as "resources."	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 05:06 PM
-4	My response to those who try and use “men and women are different” when a boy is SA’d. I agree with you, but in this instance I think the issue is often men shooting themselves in the foot. Every time something like this comes up there are dudes saying "Where was she when I was a teenager" or some other shit and making light of the situation. I know you say "society" but I see it being "cool" and "something to be proud of" way more from men than I do from women.	/r/MensRights	03/09/25 03:57 PM
1	“Men are expected to be attractive and/or funny, fun, charismatic, etc - women just have to exist” I dont match with women with no profile (or instagram in it). I unmatch women that are terrible at conversation, refuse a coffee date, or I just generally get bad vibes from. I expect similar things from a woman that I expect from myself. Good values and morals, a fitness and nutrition habit, etc. Build your life, focus on yourself, and find someone who adds to it, not subtracts from it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/25 09:58 AM
1	A relationship between a man and a woman cannot be equal. The woman holds all the power Have you considered just being happy on your own and not pursue women who demand everything from you? If shes not as into me as I am into her I don't want it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/25 10:25 AM
0	Shifting preferences is the root cause of bitterness and trp "Nice guy" is a specific type of man who views relationships with women transactionally and isnt authentic. Read the book No More Mr Nice Guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/25 02:08 AM
26	Men offer nothing to women but still expect women to want them Why does this read like women offer sex and men offer money?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 01:44 AM
7	birth rate is declining due to men objectifying women more than before Yep. Can't forget either that previously kids were needed to work the farm or contribute to the home. They were an asset. Now they are a liability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 11:12 PM
1	Everyone is telling men they need to work hard, everyone telling us what needs to be done , but never how? Life coaches, therapists, local mens groups.	/r/MensRights	19/08/25 09:31 PM
76	Is what my friend says about men true? She sounds single.	/r/MensRights	19/08/25 09:24 PM
13	Am I wrong for assuming she wanted sex after we booked a motel? Yea, she also could have changed her mind. It happens.	/r/MensRights	15/08/25 08:31 PM
1	The Vital Role of Men: Why Strategic Thinking Matters for Humanity’s Future The entire population decline "problem" is an inevitable result of industrialization. We overshot what would be a stable population and will need to regress. The issue is we've set up the global economy, taxation, social systems, and welfare on a system that relies on unsustainable growth. We don't need to "fix" the birth rates.	/r/MensRights	14/08/25 12:19 PM
17	Just a reminder that you're not a monster for wanting sex I don't think so, couples shouldn't exchange these things transactionally. I don't listen to and connect with my girl on an emotional level to get sex. I do it because I care about her and I genuinely want to. Whether we have sex or not does not change my desire to do so. If I don't want to, or I'm not in a space to do it I am honest and tell her that. She deserves nothing less than my 100% present and authentic self, and if I can't provide that because my head is elsewhere or I'm stressed she d…	/r/MensRights	14/08/25 11:49 AM
11	What does "Patriarchy Hurts Men too!" and other feminist responses to discrimination against really men mean. Apex fallacy.	/r/MensRights	13/08/25 11:19 PM
144	Just a reminder that you're not a monster for wanting sex Most men need sex to feel a connection in the relationship. There is no shame in that. There can (and is, in my opinion) shame in manipulating and using others for sex or punishing your partner by withholding emotional intimacy for not getting sex (in the same way it's wrong for women to withhold sex in a relationship as a punishment). None of this is transactional. No one owes sex to anyone. Nor does anyone owe anyone else emotional intimacy.	/r/MensRights	13/08/25 11:17 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? No, but I think guys who will judge you for body count and then say if you dont fuck them you arent into them are hypocrites at best.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 10:46 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? Sounds like a great way to weed out pieces of shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 10:16 PM
4	Men: tell me about your father My Dad left my Mom when she got pregnant. They were married for 14 years before that. He's since told me it wasn't a great relationship and he didn't want me to grow up in a house where they were fighting all the time. So, he left and was remarried before I was born. He didn't fight for custody, just took his "every other weekend." When I was there he was drunk. When I was sick or there was an issue he sent me back to my Mom. He's not involved with my grand kids much either. I was 8 having surge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 02:15 PM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? If you want to filter out men that just want to pump and dump don't let them pump. This shit isn't rocket science.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 01:52 PM
8	Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wife Shes made it clear thats what they have. She just doesnt want to call it that because words dont have meaning anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 08:24 PM
9	Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wife You and he are fucking other people. It's an open relationship. Edit: Its also pretty contradictory to say you have choice anxiety and fomo, but also hes the only one for you and youre committed. Oh. And men should forgive women because women are weak and can't resist temptation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 08:16 PM
6	Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wife They convinced their boyfriends to have an open relationship. To rebuild a strictly monogamous relationship after a trust break like that requires an amount of work, vulnerability, and honesty from both people that 99% of people arent willing to do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 08:15 PM
10	Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wife I didn't say you were poly. You just have an open relationship. It's not cheating if you're discussing it and both OK with that. If that works for you, great. If that works for others, awesome. That isn't my preference, and if Im in a strictly monogamous relationship and her or I violate that trust, the relationship is over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 08:11 PM
9	Most boyfriends would be happier forgiving their cheating girlfriend or wife What would it take for you to forgive and reconcile with your boyfriend if he cheated on you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 08:03 PM
2	Is it ok to Hate Women? Replace it with any other group. Is it ok for women to hate all men if a some men abused them? Is it ok to hate all black people because you got robbed? We're human, it's natural to have feelings and be upset at a group if some members of it mistreat you. However, you have the ability to think and understand that a few people aren't representative of an entire group.	/r/MensRights	12/08/25 06:08 PM
8	Respectfully decline a woman who gets off on orgies with gay men... she couldn't accept my first no Society has pretty entitled attitudes. Just block people like that, it happens on other Apps as well. Im not sure what it has to do with mens rights.	/r/MensRights	09/08/25 01:30 PM
2	Women care even when undesirable men are going thier own ways I don't think the primary motivation is "getting back at women." However, it does impact women's bodily autonomy and right to self-determination. If a man is truly going their own way, why would they care what others are doing? I can understand the morality argument, even if I disagree with it because it violates individual liberty. I can't understand the argument that "we aren't having enough babies" means we should remove women's rights. I'm also sure there will be men who would support forced…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/25 04:20 PM
26	Women care even when undesirable men are going thier own ways When women start pushing for legislation to reduce men's rights or force vasectomies or castrations men should absolutely have an issue and speak out about it. If you, as an individual, have an issue with some random woman saying some words on the internet I'd self reflect on why. 99% of the content and things said on here are rage bait. What I do have an issue with is the hypocrisy. If you replace "men" in most of these posts with any other group (women, or based on race) it would be an issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/25 12:55 PM
59	Women care even when undesirable men are going thier own ways If the MGTOW movement embraces reduces women's rights and eliminating reproductive choice then, yea, women will have an issue with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/25 12:46 PM
2	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. Definitely a misunderstanding. I was involved and active as a parent. We had other issues that lead to the divorce, but me showing up as a Dad (changing diapers and being up til 2 am with my sons colic so my wife could sleep) wasnt one of them. Post divorce I spent a lot of time reflecting on who I was and how I was showing up as a Dad and put in a lot of time and effort to be able to be proud of my relationship with my kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 10:43 PM
3	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. Yea, obviously, I wish I had realized it and changed sooner before resentment set in. I can't fix that. All I can do is be a better and more present father and better human in the future.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 05:22 PM
3	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. I think it makes sense. We've had women's movements to get them more involved in the workplace. We need men's movements centered around being better and more involved fathers and partners. Rather than doing that, men have chosen reactionary pushback against women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 01:42 PM
3	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. The divorce was the wake-up call and catalyst for change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 01:39 PM
3	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. Then yea, we agree. Raising kids isn't a 9 to 5. Its all day, everyday. No weekends. No holidays. And always on call.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/25 12:15 AM
6	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. My son had colic and reflux, so he was often up multiple times at night, if not all night at times. My daughter just wanted to eat every couple of hours. Have kids. Put forth the effort to actually raise them appropriately (not just putting them in front of a TV, yelling at them, or telling them to go to their room if they're upset). Shit isn't easy, and it's taxing. I would choose work every time over being a full time stay at home Dad and being expected to maintain the house. So no, based on m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 11:49 PM
15	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. I'd have to disagree. A single parent working 8 to 10 hours a day doesn't mean the other one automatically assumes 24 hours of child rearing or household chores.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 11:27 PM
28	People need to accept men generally do less parenting than women. I know you like to troll, but come on. Men didn't take care of the kids because in the past, homes existed on a single income with the Dad providing and the Mom taking care of the kids. Now, women are regularly working and contributing financially, so it makes sense for the parenting to shift to a more equitable situation. I'm a Dad. I'm 50/50 with my ex. Im involved and connected with my kids. That won't change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/25 09:45 PM
3	Male thirst is men's greatest enemy So do it. Good luck getting men to sign up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/25 10:39 AM
9	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" You're absolutely right on the stepfathers thing. And that the vast majority of homes don't have an issue. However, the relative risk of abuse in a blended home is 6x higher than a single or intact family. The relative risk of all cause mortality from smoking is 3x that of a non-smoker and we absolutely vilify cigarettes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 02:11 PM
14	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" So your defense to everything is to appeal to intuition, appeal to anecdotes, make a hasty generalization, and use circular reasoning?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 02:05 PM
7	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" I think most people acknowledge it. The data also shows that the abuse most often comes from stepfathers and is directed at step daughters. Edit: Also I wanted to add that the biggest risk is that children under 3 with a stepparent are 40x more likely to be killed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 01:46 PM
4	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" Great question. The data doesn't mention healthy relationships, it mentions high vs low conflict house holds. The rubric they used for the studies to classify a high conflict home was two of the following: One or more unresolved weekly arguments. Name-calling, mockery, or eye rolling. Physical aggression (including threats or hitting inanimate objects). Arguing in front of the kids or involving them. Ongoing lack of resolution and lack of emotional repair. Either or both parents shutting down an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 01:45 PM
1	Are today’s loneliness and difficulty finding romantic or sexual partners among men worse than ever before? Did something similar happen in any period in history? It existed before COVID. COVID quarantines made everything far worse, especially the isolation. The solution to the men's loneliness epidemic is to increase men's interactions with other men and to get out of the house. I realize you think it's an over simplification, however, I'd highly suggest trying it. Men who get off the internet, go into the real world and interact with and make friends with other men suffer from far less depression and feelings of isolation.	/r/MensRights	31/07/25 01:33 PM
8	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" Not an outlier, child abuse occurs in 2 out of every 1000 biological parent households but 5-15 out of every 1000 blended homes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 01:31 PM
44	Another blue pill lie: The romanticization of "blended families" While I agree that "evil stepparent" tropes are tired and boring, it doesn't change the fact that 8 out of 10 "blended families" are messy and toxic in some way. And I'm talking about regular toxicity, not about more severe cases of physical and sexual abuse. I'd be interested to know where this comes from. There is data showing that children from blended families are 6x more likely to be abused the highest estimate is still 0.015% of homes. 20% of total child abuse cases involve a stepparent. H…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/25 01:19 PM
-1	Are today’s loneliness and difficulty finding romantic or sexual partners among men worse than ever before? Did something similar happen in any period in history? It's men's responsibility to fix our own problem. We need to be lifting each other up, we need to be supporting each other, we need to improve our social circles and adapt to a post COVID world where isolation is increasingly the norm. If toxic feminism, or women in general, are making it harder to open up then just open up to other men. Find a men's group. Actual support is out there, I've found it, I've seen it. I used to go to a weekly men's group around a campfire every Thursday.	/r/MensRights	31/07/25 01:02 PM
-3	Are today’s loneliness and difficulty finding romantic or sexual partners among men worse than ever before? Did something similar happen in any period in history? I agree. Though not because of women. Its because men haven't adapted to a post covid world and dont put the effort and intention into friendships and social circles. Men need to be there for other men and lift each other up (not by putting women down).	/r/MensRights	31/07/25 10:54 AM
1	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. It's pretty wild. My best friend from college has an OF. She's a femme dom. Her BF runs it. Talks to all the dudes as her. Sends her the video requests, and she does them. He edits them together and sends them out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 09:12 PM
2	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. Hypergamy - The practice of dating/marrying someone with a higher social status and/or resources. Do we agree on that definition? Edit: I'm just going to assume we do, since it's the definition of the word. Hypergamy can be seen as a natural evolutionary prerogative for women to ensure resources for their offspring to survive. Having the father of your children having a lot of resources improves your chances of survival. Men's preference for women in a certain age group is the male equivalent. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 09:06 PM
2	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. The majority of men who target new OF creators are similar to men who only target young women. They are looking for someone naïve and new to get what they want. In the case of OF it's often because the new creators have no idea how to value themselves or their content, have limited experience and interactions, and are far easier to get content from.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 09:04 PM
3	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. I'm saying that the majority of men lusting after the minority of women is the male equivalent to hypergamy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 08:52 PM
1	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. No, and honestly you don't really want to know my view on men who do that kind of thing (the part about exclusively looking for women like that, not the quitting part).	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 08:47 PM
1	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. That is true but has nothing to do with hypergamy. You've just found the biological hard-wired preference that men have for young fertile women. Are you saying that hypergamy isn't a hard-wired preference that women have to find men that can provide for her and their offspring? But you are not just talking about what men lust after, you're equating "llusting after" with hypergamy, and then on top of that saying that men do not lust for women at all outside of young 18-24 year old women. Except t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 08:41 PM
7	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. So if a woman wants the top 1% of men, but they accept to be single because they don't have access to the top 1%, then they are settling. It's realistic to be single when not having the top 1% of men, but it's still settling for being single while desiring the top 1% of men. Got it. If women accept being single they aren't settling. If they accepted less just to be in a relationship then they, just like men, are settling. Why is this an issue? https://www.psypost.org/pornography-use-tends-to-hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 08:36 PM
11	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. Youre arguing semantics. If you want X and you accept Y because you dont have access to X, you are settling. I'd also call it being realistic, but its still settling for X while desiring Y. The language youre using is not consistent. Women are entitled for not lowering their standards and settling. Men are realistic and not settling if they lower their standards. The bigger issue in relationships is men settling for Y and then lusting for X through porn and OF. A woman's choice to be entitled do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 07:58 PM
2	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. I didnt say it was the only group. Nor is it the only group every man finds the most attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 07:49 PM
9	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. So.. women are entitled for not settling for less, but the men are realistic for accepting less and arent settling?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 07:44 PM
7	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. I'm going off the data that shows that the age group that every man finds most attractive is 18 to 24, regardless of the age of the man. In addition, this isn't about what women get attention, nor what men date. Its about what men lust after. Conventionally attractive 18 to 24 year old women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 07:39 PM
16	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. I didn't say men "only go" for the top % of women. I said a majority of men lust after a minority of women. Edit: If a man "settles" and then constantly consumes porn and OF and lusts after 18-21 year old women that still proves the point that the majority of men lust after a minority of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:59 PM
27	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. They can't "only" go for them. There aren't enough of them. A valid interpretation of that data is that men are far more likely to "settle" for someone they find less attractive just to be in a relationship; while women would prefer to remain single rather than settle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:53 PM
2	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. It does not fit the definition of hypergamy, and I don't know if there is another word for it. However, it is conceptually similar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:40 PM
13	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. I didn't say that the majority of men are on OF. I said the majority of men lust after the minority of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:35 PM
14	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. Some people will argue that any porn is cheating. I don't agree with that, but whether you leave your wife for an OF model or not.. Spending money on and forming a parasocial emotional attachment to a chick who pretends to be into you is cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:08 PM
60	Onlyfans proves male hypergamy. OF is cheating. A parasocial relationship with an influencer you pay to see naked and form an emotional attachment to? Yea, it's cheating. I feel like this was intended as a troll to make fun of red pill bros and their hypergamy shit, but yea, you aren't wrong. The majority of men lust after a minority of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 06:05 PM
3	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it I went to rehab years ago for drinking. When I asked some of the mentors I had and guys that helped me get through what I could do to repay them they said help the next guy. So that's my mission and purpose in life. I don't expect 99.9% of the men here to listen, or even to get it. But maybe a seed gets planted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 04:43 PM
7	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it It is a choice. It's also not the basis for a healthy, emotionally mature relationship. The only thing I get from you is that you want to choose to not be emotionally available in a relationship and not be judged for it. That will never happen. Someone will ALWAYS judge you for your choices. There are people on here judging me for advocating for being emotionally mature and vulnerable. There will be people here who will say I'm acting like a woman, I'm beta, or whatever else. I've had a woman I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:18 PM
10	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it If your women just starts dumping on you, she's toxic. If she weaponizes your vulnerability, she's toxic. Having some level of consideration for the person you are talking to and asking them if they're in a space to listen is basic human decency. If you never want to open up or be vulnerable with your woman that's your prerogative. If I can't do that and have a connection, then I'd rather be single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:07 PM
18	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it I'm personally perfectly fine being disliked by many. I'd rather have very few close friends who know me as my true, authentic self than to have a bunch of friends who like a fake me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:55 PM
10	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it So you'd prefer your listener to be empathetic and cater to your emotional needs, but you want to have zero empathy for their emotional state or needs while listening to you? That exists, it's called a therapist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:55 PM
14	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it First off, why do you think being honest about your internal state means giving up your dignity? Being vulnerable (or even let's call it venting) is sharing your emotions and internal state with consent to relieve stress and emotionally connect to someone. There's a two way reciprocity where the other person helps you process the emotions and gives feed back that you listen to. Dumping generally lacks consent (i.e. you just go into it instead of saying "hey I'd really like to talk to you about s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:52 PM
4	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it No, I just don't feel the desire to argue or defend my opinion from people who have made their minds up and aren't going to listen. I know that I find my current girlfriend to be the sexiest woman I've ever been with, that I feel safe and comfortable with her, and that she is my home base. Why would I care someone else's opinion about my own internal state?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:34 PM
6	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it I have had men tell me that now. Their opinions don't change my happiness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:29 PM
9	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it I wasn't self-aware enough at the time to not complain or realize I was a victim of my own choices. I am now, and I'm in a perfectly healthy relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:25 PM
9	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it People are not always in a space to listen or be empathetic. We all have our own things going on and our own emotional states. "Dumping" is completely disregarding the other person's capacity to handle the information or established boundaries. It's completely ignoring the listener's needs or experience in favor of the person sharing. There's zero attempt to process the emotion, it's just attention seeking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:24 PM
10	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it Men often pick women based on looks and how good they are in bed. Before I worked on myself I loved toxic women. I craved that excitement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:19 PM
45	Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle it Being emotionally vulnerable and opening up with your woman is a pretty normal part of a relationship. If she greets it with a lack of empathy or choose to weaponize it then she's not a woman I'd want to be in a relationship with. Emotional or Trauma dumping is entirely different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 01:16 PM
9	Zohran Mamdani had higher amounts of support from men(85%) than women (79%) That's funny, you're quick to defend yourself from a generalization. Yet you created a false dichotomy for Mamdani. If he refuses to condemn the phrase "globalize the intifada" does that mean he supports it and/or puts it first? Did you bother listening to his clarification that he doesn't see it as a call for violence but as a call for unification, doesn't support violence, and wants to work with Jewish residents to combat antisemitism?	/r/MensRights	30/07/25 01:05 PM
3	Zohran Mamdani had higher amounts of support from men(85%) than women (79%) The only good part about MAGA is that people like yourself finally feel comfortable taking off the mask so we can ostracize you from the community. I'm not a huge fan of his policies, but he was a better choice than Cuomo.	/r/MensRights	30/07/25 12:59 PM
5	I’ve been reading here about men’s struggles with vulnerability, manipulation, etc. Curious to hear more real perspectives. I'd rather be alone than be surrounded by a bunch of fake friends. I have a few, genuine close friends. I would not trade that for any amount of popularity or "friends" who aren't going to be there to help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 01:33 PM
1	What are the actual chances of being falsely accused? 5 to 13% result in convictions. 2 to 10% are recanted or proven false. The vast majority are the middle ground of not enough evidence either way.	/r/MensRights	29/07/25 11:02 AM
1	Women expect men to deconstruct male gender norms, but aren't willing to break away from normative femininity themselves We'd adapt. You should have standards. They dont need to be the same as she has for you. My absolute minimums are shared values, she makes me a better person, and I enjoy being around her. Otherwise Ill stay single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 10:57 AM
1	TEA app is not a big deal, men do it all the time in vanilla spaces He'd have an idea. You'd still need proof of who it was for a lawsuit. I dont have any idea on the number of false claims on the app, nor does anyone know what percent were true. I assume good faith for most people and think the majority probably used it as intended. Unfortunately, there's always that group that ruin it for everyone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 02:44 AM
2	I’ve been reading here about men’s struggles with vulnerability, manipulation, etc. Curious to hear more real perspectives. Its not worth my time to be anything less than myself. And if people dont like or value that they dont need to be in my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 02:25 AM
1	TEA app is not a big deal, men do it all the time in vanilla spaces We are both assuming its a lie for this scenario, however, it never had to get back to you to have a negative impact. If someone lies about you on the app, you have no idea, and every woman you talk to ghosts you, it's still having an impact. But let's say it has an impact and you find out. Then, the solution is the time, money, and energy to subpoena the app to find out the identify of the anonymous poster and then sue them? Thats 10 to 20 hours of attorney fees minimum. If they settle its anot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 02:23 AM
2	TEA app is not a big deal, men do it all the time in vanilla spaces "Just sue them" isn't an answer when you can't even access the platform to see what was said and it can be posted anonymously. Even if you could, thats a ridiculous bar. Similar to brandolinis law, the time, money, and energy fighting a lie in court is several orders of magnitude more than it takes the person to lie.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 02:05 AM
5	Lower your standards- or stay single? Emotional immaturity means drama. I'll take a peaceful, single life over a toxic, drama filled relationship any day. It took a year or two, but I found someone that fits what I was looking for and also wants me. If I settled for subpar I wouldn't have found that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 01:55 AM
12	I’ve been reading here about men’s struggles with vulnerability, manipulation, etc. Curious to hear more real perspectives. Ill be honest and open and vulnerable with people. If they use it against me or shut it down? Its a one and done thing and they are no longer in my circle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 01:53 AM
16	I’ve been reading here about men’s struggles with vulnerability, manipulation, etc. Curious to hear more real perspectives. Yea. Shes not a friend. If she was. She shouldn't be anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 01:52 AM
6	What are the actual chances of being falsely accused? 2-10% are proven false. That means claims that actually get to court, are then proven 2-10% false. That does not include claims that never get prosecuted, etc. Nor does it include any false reports that were not able to be proven false. I was falsely accused by an ex. The police didn't even investigate. I didn't find out until she posted about it on social media. I contacted the police, they said it wasn't a credible story and didn't warrant an investigation but that she wanted to pursue charges…	/r/MensRights	28/07/25 04:40 PM
6	Women expect men to deconstruct male gender norms, but aren't willing to break away from normative femininity themselves So your argument is men have lower standards?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/25 03:32 PM
–	An example of a double standard, and women not realizing their capacity to harm men's mental health. How often are you talking about Trumps dick? In all seriousness, I understand what you're saying. And Im agreeing that it isn't right. I was pointing out that it doesn't only happen to men. People still get body shamed. There is a certain level of societal acceptance to making fun of men for their height or dick. I think attitudes around that are changing though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 01:34 AM
–	An example of a double standard, and women not realizing their capacity to harm men's mental health. MTG got dragged for her body. It's not just a double standard for men. Either body shaming is ok or it isn't (its not).	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 01:26 AM
1	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? I never said it didnt have an effect. Women's behavior has absolutely changed now that they have options. And some men refuse (or cant) adapt to that world. Some will self reflect and change and improve. Most wont and will maintain an external locus of control and blame anything and everything but their own actions. Most takes on Reddit are oversimplified and lack nuance because it's addressing generalities. The men on this, and other subs, that complain about women are ones that are failing to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 03:39 PM
1	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately Two things. 1) What does that have to do with holding yourself to the same standards and values you hold others to? 2) I will raise my daughter (and son) how I see fit and instill in them morals and values that I think will make them successful and happy human beings. If people have an issue with that or want to label me as something thats their issue.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 03:30 PM
5	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? One of those paradoxes in life. When you stop being desperate and needy more women want you. When you stop being a sex pest and start sharing the mental load of running a home, being a safe space, and maintaining (or establishing) that emotional connect, you get more sex without asking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 03:24 PM
3	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? Too many men value a relationship (and sex) more than themselves. If a man needs a woman for purpose and validation he will fail over and over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 03:14 PM
0	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately Everytime I try to bring up men's groups and treating other men with the empathy and attention that we want it gets shot down. Men's groups apparently will just grt taken over by women (my men's group never did). Men wont listen and will invalidate. Isn't that an issue that we, as men, should address?	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 03:11 PM
2	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? Because those men have either failed to or refused to adapt to a world where women have choice. And when they arent chosen, rather than do any self reflection, they lash out at women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 03:04 PM
3	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately Its up to women what they choose to accept. Its our choice to hold people to a moral standard and whether we follow it ourselves. I dont expect more from others than I expect from myself.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:57 PM
11	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? If anything, it makes me feel better about the relationship I have. Out of all the options she had and the guys throwing themselves at her, she picked me. I'm the first round pick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 02:54 PM
7	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately I basically said the same thing the other day that the sub is no longer about men's rights and just seems to be a space for men to complain about women. I got shit on for it. I wish this was more a space for men to help and uplift other men and discuss actual men's rights issues (inequalities in the judicial and education systems, men's mental health, etc). I think the current zeitgeist is just hatred, though.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:51 PM
4	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately I think shared values and morals are the bedrock of any relationship. If she values chastity and you value promiscuity, it isn't going to work. Higher numbers of past partners are correlated (not causal) with a higher risk of infidelity for both men and women.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:46 PM
3	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately Nope.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:24 PM
6	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately I care more about who she is now (maturity) and her values and morals and growth than a body count. I have a past as well, I dont want to be judged or defined by it as its not who I am now. I agree with you, the only caveat being that I no longer value sex outside of a committed relationship. So I'd expect the same from my partner.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:12 PM
4	Female stalker lied about being pregnant and followed her ex to the gym before nearly running him over after they broke up "She received a 12-month community order that requires her to carry out up to 15 rehabilitation activity days and pay a £292 fine as well as £85 court costs plus £114" So was there not enough evidence for the attempted murder charge? Or assault with a deadly weapon? Sentence seems pretty light.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 02:02 PM
12	Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You? Im a guy, and Im not insecure around women having more options. If she wants a different option, go for it. I know who I am and what i offer. If it isn't enough for her, she can find someone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 01:48 PM
–	The manosphere/Redpill cant detect bad men unless its super obvious. Oh I think its worse than that. They actively know the men are bad and dont care. As long as those men tell them what they want to hear. Men rarely hold other men accountable for their treatment of each other, much less women. And considering a number of red pillers seem to view women as objects and/or less than men then men's treatment of women isn't a real issue. All that to say. They see and know these are bad men. And they dont care. Edit: I know this is a troll account, but occasionally the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 01:45 PM
13	Her past matters man if she fucked 50 dude leave immediately OK, but we will hold ourselves to the same, if not higher, standards right?	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 01:40 PM
1	Woman awarded €10k for unwanted attempted kiss? You know the difference as well as I do. And if she tried to kill him, she obviously deserved a much harsher punishment. I dont know the details of that one, but based on your description she probably deserved jail time.	/r/MensRights	26/07/25 01:32 PM
3	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny You keep trying with these gotchas... Physical attraction is not inherently objectification. We've established this, but I understand you disagree. I think intent matters. You dont.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/25 12:49 PM
–	Having Parasocial Relationship with Fictional characters while being in relationship is horrible for the partner. And forcing/pressuring your partner to act like a fictional charcter without considering his feelings is similar to a guy forcing his wife/girlfriend to do porn like sex. I dont know of any evidence or studies about it. I know guys in my friend group have asked their wives to do things they saw in porn. Thats about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 09:14 PM
–	Having Parasocial Relationship with Fictional characters while being in relationship is horrible for the partner. And forcing/pressuring your partner to act like a fictional charcter without considering his feelings is similar to a guy forcing his wife/girlfriend to do porn like sex. I agree, and the women that do it should also be called out for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 08:28 PM
–	Having Parasocial Relationship with Fictional characters while being in relationship is horrible for the partner. And forcing/pressuring your partner to act like a fictional charcter without considering his feelings is similar to a guy forcing his wife/girlfriend to do porn like sex. Of course he'd be dragged. But you do realize men DO do that, right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 08:01 PM
5	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny No, thats called manipulation, and you know that. Pets have personalities and attitudes. ChatGPT simulates one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 04:22 PM
7	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny I think you and I just have very fundamentally different perspectives and philosophies on life and interactions. "Learning more" meaning wanting to know more about who she is and her values and morals and if she is compatible as a partner. Her favorite color and where she got her tank top are, again, just superficial bullshit. I have zero doubts that what you call "being a man" and what I call "being a man" are quite different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 04:20 PM
4	Woman awarded €10k for unwanted attempted kiss? I agree 100%. SA is SA.	/r/MensRights	25/07/25 04:14 PM
13	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny Initial attraction - You can find a women attractive and want to approach her and still not see her as an object and have the intention of learning more. Relationship - Yes, there are men and women who have strictly transactional relationships where the women are ok with being viewed as a sex object in exchange for what the man offers (often financial). Neither of these points negate that the majority of women don't want to be viewed as sex objects.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 02:29 PM
8	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny Yes? I doubt those people view their pets or ChatGPT as objects if they're connecting with them beyond the physical / financial. There have been dudes in literal relationships with ChatGPT.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 02:26 PM
7	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny The way you just described how those men treat their wives is the same way I could treat my car. None of those actions show that those men (who you said CALL THEIR WOMEN SEXUAL OBJECTS) view their wives as people. I work to have a nice car, I protect my car, and I miss my car when I'm not driving it. Car analogies are often used for women. After all, when you first get a car you just want one that gets you from point A to point B, you aren't really concerned about the looks, or how it runs, or t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 01:47 PM
–	I am startled at how easy it is for my female friend to get sex There are far more men seeking casual sex than women. So the women offering casual sex have an easier time getting it. The funny part is you're both probably miserable. She wants an LTR and just offers sex to guys that leave. You (seemingly) just want sex and are frustrated by having to try.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 01:35 PM
8	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny I don't know where the 20% figure came from, but if you're asking who said women's issue is being viewed as a sex object and not an entire person that came from women. The majority of the issues both genders face in the relationship market are caused by a vocal minority on either side that drive engagement with rage bait content.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 01:29 PM
36	CMV: Being attracted to women is misogyny "Sexual attraction requires that you focus on their body, breasts, ass, curves, skin. That’s what arousal is. You’re responding to physical traits, not their PhD." That's what sexual attraction for you (and a number of people) is. That isn't the only way sexual attraction exists. Most women don't have an issue with a man finding them attractive. The issue is when you view them as a sex object and not as a whole ass person. Edit: "Then tell me this, do men work 8–10 hours a day, sacrifice their f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/25 01:23 PM
1	Woman awarded €10k for unwanted attempted kiss? Initially seemed excessive. After reading the story he put his arm around her and tried to force her to kiss him. I'd rather the fine than jail time for SA. Still seems like a misunderstanding that most people would probably brush off, but he did something illegal and being drunk isn't a defense.	/r/MensRights	25/07/25 12:41 PM
1	How can I date comfortably when a woman can easily make a false claim or defame me online via Tea App or similar apps? You can either not date, accept this is the reality, or take some kind of action to try and get it taken down. Do you think that the vast majority of women are using the app or are seeking to defame you? Or reframe it. If a woman does defame you, bullet dodged. And if a woman downloads the app and immediately believes what some other random person said? Bullet dodged. In a way this isn't that much different than how things used to be. Before the internet people dated and word got around about th…	/r/MensRights	25/07/25 11:51 AM
1	Regarding the Tea app and Are We Dating The Same Guy: We are under a mass attack by feminism. The only safe path forward for men is MGTOW. Starve these women of what they need from us - attention, validation, money, and resources. As they lose their minds, remind them that they chose the bear. Women do plenty of things wrong. "You can't see how getting sites/apps shut down that are misandrist and can falsely accuse men and put them at risk of getting hurt can help solve issues for men?" Then get the app shut down. That isn't what this post is about though, is it? Edit: "If you want to see actual hatred like misandry, go on feminist/women subs and see the tons of upvotes on comments/posts involving very misandrist generalizations." I've seen plenty of it, there's a reason FDS got taken…	/r/MensRights	25/07/25 11:37 AM
-20	Regarding the Tea app and Are We Dating The Same Guy: We are under a mass attack by feminism. The only safe path forward for men is MGTOW. Starve these women of what they need from us - attention, validation, money, and resources. As they lose their minds, remind them that they chose the bear. This sub has become (or always was) just about men hating women. I've rarely seen things come up on how to solve issues or help other men. Maybe it gets posted and just not up voted enough.	/r/MensRights	25/07/25 02:36 AM
-6	Will the roll this feature out for men only wanting male drivers or no? Oh I believe it happens, I dont have stats on frequency, but anytime stats get brought up they get handwaved away anyway. I dont see the outcry from men about it to the point that the company believes it needs to change its policy. Women voiced their concerns, loudly. The company listened. If, as OP suggests, false reporting is such a concern men should be protesting and be loud about it so the company listens. Edit: Ive also had a woman make a false claim against me. An ex after I broke up with…	/r/MensRights	23/07/25 11:06 PM
-5	Will the roll this feature out for men only wanting male drivers or no? When did I say anything about not caring about it? I said if it concerns you, you should be able to get a male driver. "Enough that if you'd prefer to avoid the situation, I'm all for it."	/r/MensRights	23/07/25 11:01 PM
-30	Will the roll this feature out for men only wanting male drivers or no? Are there men complaining about being asked inappropriate sexual questions by their female drivers? False reporting is about 2-10% of cases. Enough that I get if you'd prefer to avoid the situation entirely. I'm all for it. Edit: Not sure if people understand, but I'm clearly stating that if you, as a man, are concerned about false reporting (which is what OP brings up) you should be able to request a male driver.	/r/MensRights	23/07/25 07:06 PM
5	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. Nope, I even said I know it happens. And I've seen women who state things like that on the apps. I think it's a vocal minority online that also gets platformed by Red Pill Influencers to generate rage bait and drive engagement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 04:38 PM
8	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. I don't remember all the first dates I've ever had. A number of them cost $0. Walks, getting a cup of coffee (we each paid for our own), etc. My current GF we went for a hike and then went back to her house for take out (she paid for it) as our first date. The majority of the first dates in the last year haven't had a second date because I didn't want one. The two I did want didn't want second dates (paid for neither, one was a jump park, the other was a walk), other than my current GF.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 03:17 PM
7	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. The average woman isn't expecting her man to pay for everything anymore. Social media has distorted people's perception of average.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 01:10 PM
13	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. I didn't say there aren't people who expect that. I said they were a vocal minority that post rage bait and drive engagement on social media. Edit: The ironic part to me is that the same guys who will post stuff like this about all women demanding that men pay for everything, etc are the same guys that will come back with "not all men" when women talk about men's sexual misconduct. In both cases it's a minority group within the gender that, thanks to social media, has gotten far more attention. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 12:50 PM
24	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. They won't get dates because they've already made up their mind about all women based on their social media usage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 12:40 PM
39	Common Men are unfairly equated to CEOs, Sportsmen, and Actors when it comes to pay gaps and abuse allegations. This feels like a terminally online / echo chamber take. I've never once been in a relationship or dated a woman that expected me to pay for everything, give her gifts, etc. Yea, I've seen a few toxic women before on apps, etc. I avoid them. They are a minority that is very vocal online. I understand why you think this way. The loudest and most engaging content is rage bait. Most people, in the real world, in my experience don't behave this way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/25 12:24 PM
4	Study Confirms: Men at Significantly Higher Risk of Suicide After Breakups I can't remember the study, but it was interesting that about 50% of male suicides had no previous history of mental illness. Essentially it inferred that women who unalive themselves did it because of mental health issues but men who did it, did it because they didn't see a way out of their current situation. Edit: Also yea, let's talk about solutions. It's a problem, what's the solution? I still think it's men supporting other men and growing men's support networks.	/r/MensRights	21/07/25 06:54 PM
10	Sexual liberation is inherently eugenicist Dating is just the ultimate free market. There's no subsidies, there's no hand outs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 12:22 PM
27	Sexual liberation is inherently eugenicist Breeding dogs to produce a selected trait is eugenics. Wild dogs choosing partners based on beneficial traits is evolution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 12:21 PM
11	The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men. Exactly. There are too many unknowns and real world consequences to fight outside a ring. Theres zero benefit other than a few toxic women who think its sexy. Deescalation is always the real world answer, even if it means swallowing your pride. I have kids to come home to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 10:58 AM
12	The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men. Noone wins in a fight. I have a friend still in prison for manslaughter for a fight he "won." We live in a modern society that doesnt support violence. The vast majority of men have no idea how to fight. Anyone that has had any modicum of training would destroy most men. We dont need to size anyone up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 10:54 AM
3	The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men. Napoleon syndrome is undefeated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/25 10:49 AM
4	Therapy is harmful and doesn't actually help women. Men should not go to therapy. I'm a man. I went to therapy and got coaching. Therapy helped me identify negative patterns in my life and identify why I was the way I was. Coaching helped me change things and become the person I wanted to be. I no longer need either. Therapy, like everything else in life, is a tool. It can be used properly or improperly. Edit: I wanted to add that while I do not think therapy, in general, is a scam; I do think that Freudian based talk therapy does not really have an end goal. Conspiracy theor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/25 11:56 AM
0	Have you been hated for being a man? In real life? Nope. Online? Sure, in certain circles.	/r/MensRights	16/07/25 06:24 PM
0	Dismissing women's opinions of men because they're based on online interactions is stupid (and intentionally manipulative). Female Dating Strategy	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 05:07 PM
2	Dismissing women's opinions of men because they're based on online interactions is stupid (and intentionally manipulative). And its still a loud, vocal minority. Edit: As far as calls for violence, there is a reason FDS got taken down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 04:56 PM
4	Dismissing women's opinions of men because they're based on online interactions is stupid (and intentionally manipulative). There are loud, vocal minorities on both sides spewing hate. It just depends on which echo chamber you expose yourself to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/25 03:21 PM
4	Ideally, how much of your value do you think should come from sex? Not when the man views it transactionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/25 02:49 PM
13	Average guys are made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire Im sure that's your perception. And Im sure if you ask most women they'd say it affects them more than men. We could argue about that. Or find common ground that both sides are being shamed and work on resolving it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 06:20 PM
9	Average guys are made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire Why does it have to be a competition? Why do you have to have it worse? Why can't we just agree that anyone who operates outside the very thin line that society deems "appropriate" gets shamed for their actions?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 06:02 PM
16	Average guys are made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire I disagree that is the majority answer. I think the vast majority of people don't give a shit what consenting adults do. I think there is a very, very loud vocal minority on social media. And it generates outrage, which drives clicks and views, which drives revenue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 06:00 PM
25	Average guys are made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire I don't personally care what two (or more) adults, who are giving consent, do in the privacy of their own home. Being promiscuous would be against my personal values and morals, and I'd feel gross dating someone significantly younger. However, I don't expect others to match my values and morals nor would I judge them for not following some arbitrary guidelines I hold myself to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:55 PM
63	Average guys are made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire Wait. So the nice guy asks a question and gets a response from the woman, and the woman asks a response and gets one from a woman? Women get slut shamed all the fucking time. Men get shamed for shit as well. It's not a competition.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/25 05:27 PM
14	The nice guy does deserve to finish last "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. "Nice" guys are often nice to get what they want. They are transactional. Being kind is different. Similarly you can put your foot down and stand up for yourself and your values with tact and be kind. Or you can be a total dick. I prefer being around people that are kind, honest, and authentic to themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/25 01:46 PM
1	I feel like being a man who is attracted to women can often give one an inferiority complex. Any power they have over you is power you've given them.	/r/MensRights	09/07/25 06:27 PM
3	Why do women ghost a man during regular, amicable conversation after both parties have shown interest? Same reason a guy will. Something better came along, they got bored, they were just seeking validation, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/25 05:05 PM
14	Advice geared towards men is circular and designed to drive you insane Pretty much, because there isn't "one answer" to the problems. Some dude like women with 6 packs, some don't. Some women want to be approached in a social setting, some don't. Some women want a man to be vulnerable, some don't. If you listen to ALL the advice it's going to be circular. If you listen to the advice for the type of person you want a relationship with it isn't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/25 03:13 PM
2	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Oh I know. The thing is the majority here believe this is all women's fault. Im of the opinion that men are a huge part of the issue and why men can't open up.	/r/MensRights	02/07/25 11:39 AM
-1	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Men make up 50% of the population. If there is an infinite double standard than some men are part of the problem as well.	/r/MensRights	01/07/25 12:26 PM
5	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. I disagree that its victim blaming. I think if men have a problem and the problem is noone is listening to them, including other men, then its a problem we as men need to fix. I dont think the male loneliness epidemic is caused by women, I think its caused by the collapse of male social circles and real life male interactions and connection.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 09:48 PM
2	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Nor did I ask him to. I ask him, just like every man here, to put the effort into being there for their brothers. I've found that the majority of men that complain about loneliness and that they are rejected when they open up are often the first to reject their brothers. Be the change you want to see. Be a better man.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 09:34 PM
-5	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. I never said there was anything wrong with it. The OP stated there were no spaces for men to complain about women. I listed examples of where you can complain about women, including places I've been to in real life. Why did you assume I thought there was an issue with it and got immediately defensive?	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 06:53 PM
-4	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Interesting. I see tons of comments here everyday that generalize women. The only time I've seen them ban is when it corsses a line into misogyny / hate speech which is clearly against Rule 10.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 06:33 PM
1	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Are you there to provide emotional support to other men who open up to you? If not, you're part of the problem.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 05:33 PM
-6	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. So listen to your brothers when they bitch? Even if 100% of women were against men sharing or showing emotions that still leaves half the population.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 05:31 PM
-5	you know there isn't really a place or space for men to complain about women is there? something not only women are allowed to do about men but also other women. Does this sub not exist? Do red pill discords not exist? I've seen plenty of places and safe spaces for men to complain. Even in real life I've been to men's only groups where its just guys bittching about their wives.	/r/MensRights	30/06/25 05:30 PM
–	It’s not misogyny to treat the women you date horribly Whatever you need to tell yourself to feel better about being a terrible human being, I suppose.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/25 06:26 PM
1	Q4M: If you only got 80% of your ideal traits in a mate... You would view that as settling, right? I think having an ideal "blueprint" of exactly what you want is pretty limiting. The best moments in my life are always unplanned. There are absolutely non negotiables. Like honesty, kindness, etc. But I never wanted to dismiss someone because "oh they dont like XYZ hobby."	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/25 06:26 PM
1	Do high value girls never get ghosted after a (casual) hookup? I don't consider women (or men for that matter) to be of high value (in a relationship) if they are engaging in casual hook ups and one night stands.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 12:03 PM
1	In this day and age, women have to be strategically bitchy to their men in order to get the best results "Nice" girls are the same as "nice" guys. They are afraid to be open and honest about what they want out of fear of rejection. So they resort to manipulation. I'll take an honest and upfront woman who helps me see my blind spots and be a better person any day of the week. Stop being nice, and start being kind. Be honest and upfront about who you are and what you want. Not everyone will like that, and that's ok. The ones who do are your people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 11:57 AM
–	Most Men will never outgrow their state of Low Value because they have “No Cards” You talk about projecting your dreams into reality, and the the second paragraph is about finding someone. If, as a man, your only purpose in life is finding someone you have already failed. In addition to that, I have zero interest in finding someone who is interested in me because of my status. How do you think those men accomplished their status? They put in some hard fucking work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/25 10:19 AM
2	The best way to attract women is to not try. Nice guys finish last because they come off as desperate and clingy. On top of that they use covert contracts and view their "being nice" as transactional but never state it and get upset if you dont return their effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/25 01:24 PM
–	Men are conditioned to be attracted to women! It just sounds like nihilism with extra steps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 05:27 AM
1	The "women and children" line is used to elicit compassion because people lack compassion for men Yes. Im speaking about the majority of women throughout history.	/r/MensRights	20/06/25 09:02 PM
5	The "women and children" line is used to elicit compassion because people lack compassion for men I think it's a lot simpler and rooted in species survival instinct. Children are the next generation and obvious. If a tribe is suffering mass causalities its much easier to repopulate when the men are killed off instead of the women. Maybe that manifests as a lack of compassion towards men because they are easily replaced with another man. While a tribe losing women makes it far harder to build back. Edit: As far as Gaza goes women and children dont traditionally fight in wars. Grown men (not c…	/r/MensRights	20/06/25 04:50 PM
-2	Can a man ever become as attractive to women as women are in the eyes of men? Agree with this. The way a woman lusts for a man she is swooning for is so much deeper and less superficial than a man lusting over a "hot" girl.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 01:03 PM
0	Can a man ever become as attractive to women as women are in the eyes of men? Maybe? The girl Im dating told me that the way I say her name her clothes fall off. I dont think it was an instant thing, but after a lot of conversations and connection its gotten there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 01:01 PM
0	Is a woman acting "feminine" a prerequisite for you getting turned on by her? And, would you still be able to find someone who didn't act feminine arousing, so long as she looks hot? It depends on the guy. I personally think polarity is a thing. For lack of better terms if you want to use masculine and feminine (could easy do top / bottom, dom / sub, whatever) we can do that. Someone has to be the giver and someone the receiver. Someone is always taking the lead when you dance, same thing in the bedroom. Sometimes I'm in the mood for a woman to take control. Most of the time I like to be in the lead. So to answer your question, no. It isn't a pre-requisite. However, I'm abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/06/25 04:01 PM
4	What do you think about the 45% of all men who have never approached a woman? Do the 45% of men who choose not to approach women know they are actively excluding 100% of women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 06:09 PM
11	Mans Imperative It means he wants women to put out more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 04:40 PM
9	Mans Imperative It's interesting to me because on the opposite side I think you could argue that women have a biological need and drive for emotional connection and safety. And women that feel safe, secure, and connected are far more likely to want and have sex with a man. Yet, men don't seem to be accepting or this or have any desire to accommodate women in that regard. Edit: I'm also going to add that sex is also a biological drive for women. Has this guy ever been around a woman who was ovulating? With that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 04:39 PM
0	Q4M: Would you date a woman who was not romantic at all? I'm a touch / affirmation guy. So not for me. Plenty of guys that would be for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/25 04:27 PM
3	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell I think that's fair. Aside from the obvious being overt misogyny and racism; I think I meant more tame that may be offensive to you but isn't considered generally offensive. I think an example I can think of would be roasting. A little light hearted back and forth I don't have an issue with, but I would be offended if my partner made fun of something I had a genuine insecurity / made me uncomfortable about and would communicate that with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 05:23 PM
3	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell So your argument is attraction is subjective?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 05:11 PM
4	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell Question on this. Is this a one and done scenario? Or do you communicate you felt offended and see if the guy actually listens? I agree there are absolutely generally offensive things that should be a one and done, but everyone also has things that are specific to them and can't be known without communication.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 05:10 PM
2	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell The feminine is the wave and the masculine is the shore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 04:02 PM
2	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell I blame the pharma industry for pushing TRT.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 03:56 PM
3	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell https://i.insider.com/63596f3ffc29ff001a5f9110?width=1000&format=jpeg&auto=webp https://images.bauerhosting.com/legacy/empire-images/articles/57f5008b0c6437272f602991/Wolverine.jpg?ar=16%3A9&fit=crop&crop=top&auto=format&w=992&q=80 More like from in good shape to shredded. Muscle mass expectations have also gone up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 03:48 PM
5	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell So someone who is outwardly healthy vs someone who is outwardly unhealthy and fat? No brainer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 03:44 PM
2	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell Standards have changed for men. Look at Hugh Jackman in early Wolverine vs now. The standard is jacked TRT.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 03:43 PM
4	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell I can understand that. I think being emotionally available and vulnerable is different though than being needed on an emotional level. I enjoy having a partner I can talk to and open up to. I do not expect her (nor need her to) solve or sooth my emotions. Consider the other extreme of a man so insecure and anxious that you need to constantly sooth his emotions because he's completely incapable of handling them. I'm not trying to mansplain, but I get it might come off that way. I think being want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:57 PM
4	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell "Hourglass figure will always be the standard." You must be too young to remember heroin chic. Or when being fat was a beauty standard because it showed you had money. The "ideal" societal standard of beauty is always changing. What an individual finds attractive is subjective, but the average person is attracted to someone who appears outwardly healthy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:53 PM
17	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell I still disagree, most women don't want a man who NEEDS them emotionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:36 PM
22	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell Completely disagree. Very few women want a needy guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:26 PM
4	Women lie about their "low" standards and the bar in hell Attraction is subjective. Being attracted to someone is a pretty basic thing. Some women love beards, some hate them. Some women like bald dudes, some women hate them. There's no definition of a "standard" of physical attraction other than, in general, people prefer someone who appears healthy. That's an evolutionary imperative. Being in shape, not appearing too thin or too fat, and being well groomed are pretty basic rubrics we use to subconsciously evaluate health at an outward level. The stan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:25 PM
2	One of the main motivations for women getting into relationships with men is resources. I wish I could. I know a number of people who make 6 figures but live paycheck to paycheck because they aren't fiscally responsible. How many fights have to happen between couples because some guy wants to put 20% of his monthly income towards a car/truck for fun when they either already have one or could buy something more practical? Oh and don't forget, he's already $20k in credit card debt from living beyond his means. But hey, he makes 6 figures. He's an absolute catch.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 02:05 PM
8	One of the main motivations for women getting into relationships with men is resources. It's mostly from terminally online rage bait content to drive men to red pill creators. As is often the case reality does not match social media. Of course there are some women out there like that, and there are even some women influenced by it from social media who think it's the norm and what they should be doing. In my experience though it's hardly close to the majority of women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 12:34 PM
9	One of the main motivations for women getting into relationships with men is resources. 100 years ago? Sure. Things have changed. Women have embraced their masculine and have more earning power. Men have embraced their feminine and are more expressive and emotional. Outwardly and societally men and women are closer to 50/50 than ever before. However, on an evolutionary and primal level most people are still going to have a masculine or feminine core and be attracted to their opposite. Most women I've met in the real world are far more concerned with a partner who is emotionally ava…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/25 12:27 PM
–	If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same arguments I don't think I communicated my point well enough there. I wasn't trying to say they won't remain single, but rather they'll be single by choice. There will always be a man willing to buy her dinner if she chose it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 12:25 PM
–	If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same arguments In reference to the guy above, I feel like the "implications" he is referring to is either remaining single (which won't happen, there are plenty of men with no self-respect and/or "nice guys") or that the woman now "owes" the man something for paying for dinner (transactional mindset, back to nice guy behavior).	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 12:19 PM
–	If dating dynamics were changed, women would not use the same arguments Pretty much. My preference is coffee or something for a "first date." It's a glorified meet and greet. I think being locked in to an hour or two long date with someone who you have never met and are buying dinner for isn't a great plan. If a woman doesn't like that, she ain't for me and I'm not for her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 12:09 PM
1	Digital dating is the cause of loneliness. https://www.psypost.org/chatgpt-linked-to-declining-academic-performance-and-memory-loss-in-new-study/	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 01:35 PM
-1	Digital dating is the cause of loneliness. And I think using Chat GPT to write a post has a negative effect on your ability to form arguments and have discussion in the future. Relying on tech to form your arguments is going to diminish your ability to critically think without outside assistance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 01:23 PM
4	Men don't take enough responsibility for male loneliness If men are "lonely" they should support each other. We need to stop talking about the only fix to being lonely is a relationship or a woman. We don't have a loneliness epidemic. We have men who think they are entitled access to sex and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/25 05:47 PM
6	Why is there so much contradictory advice for single men? Women are clearly a monolith./s	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/25 05:45 PM
2	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Why should anyone care if they get laid? Especially if, on this topic, they are being manipulative or deceptive to get laid. Fuck them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 06:47 PM
12	Which male insecurity is a total dealbreaker for you? Are there any you’re willing to work through together? No one wants to constantly reassure an insecure person. If you're with them, you're choosing them everyday.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 06:46 PM
3	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. People promise all kinds of things. Things do also change. That falls under the "generally agree" category I was referring to. There are people who genuinely feel those things in the moment when they say them. There are also people who say those things with the intent to deceive and manipulate. That's when I disagree, it's morally wrong to deceive and manipulate consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 01:15 PM
4	Most men won't succeed on dating apps Don't work in advertising. "People aren't buying it, time to give up." That's a pretty shit perspective. 99% of the time there are more improvements to make. Fashion, style, better pictures, a better profile. BETTER MARKETING. There will still be guys (and girls for that matter) that will never get a match. However, just giving up after getting a hair cut and being a healthy weight is wild.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 01:14 PM
4	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Thank you, I think most people are pretty shit and social media has just given them an outlet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 11:28 AM
3	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Whether or not someone can infringe on your rights does not make them any less a right. Your argument is that if someone else doesn't protect your rights they aren't rights. Which is completely untrue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 11:24 AM
3	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Whether others can infringe on your rights does not change that they are, intact rights. There will always be bad actors. And if they infringe upon your rights they forfeit their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 10:37 AM
4	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. I do think there is a space for the conversation that, while housing, food, etc are not human rights, not providing them in a situation that would prevent death is a violation of the non aggression principle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 02:29 AM
14	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Yea, that's why I said I generally agree with the guy. Shit changes. I only have an issue with if it the person was intentionally misleading or deceptive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 02:24 AM
6	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 02:21 AM
8	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. You're absolutely right. You're not entitled to any of those. Anything that requires the labor or consent of another person cannot be a human right. You are entitled to access though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 02:18 AM
21	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Because getting consent under false pretenses is morally wrong. I don't give a shit what women say. I'm saying that lying to get in someone's pants is wrong. Changing your mind or withdrawing consent is another matter entirely. If the only reason you consented to have sex with her is because of her pushed up big titties the yea it was false advertising and you should be just as annoyed as when you show up to a date and the women used heavy filters on 10 year old pictures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 01:51 AM
24	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. Generally agree unless the guy was either using coercion or false pretenses. Like if someone is promising a relationship, talking about long term, and then bounces after sex thats pretty shit. If someone is upfront about their intentions and the other person is just hoping for more that's on the other person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 01:33 AM
2	Most Marriages Need Systematic Cultural, Societal and Economic Constraints to Survive Kinda feeds into the OPs point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 12:33 AM
46	Both Genders need to realize that Dating is Amoral and Unfair and that no-one is entitled to anything on both sides. People need to drop the whole fair bullshit. Life isn't fair. Noone is entitled to sex. There are aspects of life we should attempt to improve equal access to for everyone. But equality of opportunity is not equality of outcome and never will be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/25 12:04 AM
29	Most Marriages Need Systematic Cultural, Societal and Economic Constraints to Survive I would actually go a different way. Cultural, Societal, and Economic Constraints have allowed men to be not contribute as much to the home. Society has changed to women being equal to men at work. However, the majority of men are still not contributing equally in the home or with child rearing. I think most people would like to be in a fulfilling, happy relationship. However, if the majority of men aren't providing that I would expect women to choose being single. We are at a cultural inflectio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/25 06:43 PM
4	Dear women, he is not “emotionally unavailable” you are just his side piece Someone gets it! In my younger days I loved toxic, unavailable women like this who just created drama and wanted to perform. Now I just want someone who adds to my peace and calm. Someone who can be boring with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/25 12:32 PM
2	Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls" Very much disagree. However, I now know you see the world transactionally as does the OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 09:32 PM
7	Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls" No. I'm saying don't pretend to be friends and get to know someone to get into their pants. Be friends. Make an emotional connection. Get to know them. For the purpose of being a friend. If it develops into more cool, if not no biggie. Otherwise be upfront about your intentions. Noone owes anyone anything for them being nice or friendly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 07:30 PM
2	How many people here are happily married/in longterm relationships? If so, what is your perspective on the common themes and posts in this sub? Crazy correlates with impulsiveness, risk taking behaviors, attention seeking, and promiscuity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 07:02 PM
1	How many people here are happily married/in longterm relationships? If so, what is your perspective on the common themes and posts in this sub? They just need to rizz em with the tism.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 05:48 PM
2	How many people here are happily married/in longterm relationships? If so, what is your perspective on the common themes and posts in this sub? Guys are attracted to crazy. Women aren't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 05:47 PM
5	Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls" You made friends that happen to be women. You're upset because you want more. You are being "nice" with the intent to get more. You are not a genuinely kind person. Read No More Mr Nice Guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/25 05:38 PM
2	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? I agree with you. So if a woman considers me replaceable because she wants to find a guy that will pay the full bill and take her to dinner, go for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 03:05 PM
3	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? "I bring this up to highlight things such as the whole "Who pays on the first date" and splitting 50/50, and all of that. Any objection that you have at any point in the relationship, about anything can get you dropped and easily replaced with someone who will do said thing. I know plenty of women who have dropped months-year long relationships with men and been on Tinder the same day and found what they wanted." That is the hypothetical from the original OP. The woman in the specific story abso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 02:48 PM
3	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? I agree that in that specific scenario she got rejected / put on the back burner and had every reason to look for something new.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 02:35 PM
6	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? The OP was basically arguing that men should have zero objections or boundaries because they can easily be replaced. Otherwise I completely agree with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 02:34 PM
4	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? You called out the "at least 7 or 8 PPD men" of which I was one. I agree with you on this SPECIFIC instance. You are stuck on this SPECIFIC instance, where as I'm talking about the rest of the OPs post. The OPs extrapolation of that to a hypothetical where any objection or boundary a man has makes them replaceable. "I bring this up to highlight things such as the whole "Who pays on the first date" and splitting 50/50, and all of that. Any objection that you have at any point in the relationship,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 02:32 PM
13	Why do men not want women to accept their rejection? "Men found this greatly offensive. And when I explained that she was rejected multiple times and found someone else, men were arguing HARD with me that the guy was just busy and she should have waited a few days and tried again. This wasn’t one or two men making this argument. This was at least 7 or 8 different PPD men." I can't speak for the others, but I will again state that you are mischaracterizing my reaction. I have no issue with her reacting to that by going on Tinder. Good for her. It w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 02:22 PM
0	Leagues within dating are only for men I, too, can find exceptions to every rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 12:18 PM
1	Short women who want tall men are not absurd because the female equivalent is WHR, NOT height Her height / weight are numbers and have nothing to do with attraction. Either I find her attractive or I don't. I don't care about the statistics (WHR, Bust Size, etc).	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 07:17 PM
19	Men need to be aware that they are easily replaceable "I don't understand how so many men on here who seemingly are aware of this." We're well aware. I've been raised my entire life by a society that tells me I'm replaceable. I've had jobs tell me "We did fine before you, we'll do fine after you." And here's the thing. If I'm dating someone that feels that I'm that replaceable? Fucking replace me already. Go on Tinder and find your happiness if you aren't feeling it with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/25 06:23 PM
–	Most Men Do not truly want a relationship You have a world view with little to no evidence backing it. There is no reason to have a debate with you, because any evidence presented to the contrary would be dismissed as "they aren't being honest."	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 06:52 PM
–	Most Men Do not truly want a relationship Why did you immediately turn to your Mom as the source of trauma?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 06:47 PM
–	Most Men Do not truly want a relationship Sounds like you have some trauma and view relationships transactionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/25 05:09 PM
1	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women From that perspective? Nothing to be gained. Personally I like being in committed monogamous relationships and the intimacy experienced in them far more than ONS or short term dating. My ex initiated the divorce, but it was mostly because of my actions. She didn't take shit, we split amicably, didn't need attorneys, split child care equitably. Good women are out there, I wouldn't marry a shit one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/25 04:51 PM
7	Females, you're not single because a lack of quality men. Its because you're not pretty enough to get a rich one. Why? Using females is intentionally derogatory and it's pretty clear from the rhetoric that was intentional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/25 05:03 PM
–	Men have no options. That isn't within your control. Living your best life means maximizing things you have control over, you do not get to decide if someone wants to be in your life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/25 10:46 PM
1	Why is male sexuality offensive? ..except the OP is. And the example he gave was proposing a three some to his girlfriends friend after she called him handsome. Edit: if a woman is offended by you hitting on her when it's a social norm to you've either misread the situation or it's a her problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 08:49 PM
2	Why is male sexuality offensive? Because hitting on women requires a minimum of implied consent. I.E. being in a social situation where it's a norm to hit on them like a bar or a singles party. There's a presumed boundary in a public space that isn't for socialization (like the grocery store or a bus) that you aren't going to hit on them. Striking up a conversation? More acceptable. Overtly pursuing sex? No. Societal norms exist and people are often offended when someone acts outside of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 08:43 PM
1	Why is male sexuality offensive? As mentioned I think there was some level of implied consent. I would not have been upset at boobs. I like boobs. Considering what she was saying I don't think she'd of had an issue with me sending a dick Pic. I also don't send them unless heavily solicited though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 07:24 PM
4	Why is male sexuality offensive? Because even the stigma around the term fuck boy is not even close to the negative stigma around the word whore. I used it intentionally because while it can be considered an insult, most people are going to have a more judgmental reaction to "whore."	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 07:00 PM
2	Why is male sexuality offensive? I'll give you a specific example. I was talking to a woman on Bumble and it was going well. We were flirting, things were cool. She was attractive and it was pretty clear she was fine with a hook up if I was game. Then she started sending pictures and videos of her blowing other dudes. I blocked her number and unmatched her. I'll be honest in saying that had she sent me unsolicited nudes of just herself? Probably would've been good with that, I think maybe even there's some implied consent with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:56 PM
1	Everyone has the right to find a dating method repulsive but that’s your problem, not theirs I didn't include the /s, but the entire thing was sarcasm. I tried to clarify that with the second response.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:53 PM
4	Why is male sexuality offensive? I'm gonna need an example of when someone is offended. Because at this point you were from "overt pursuit of sex by men" and "overtly acting or speaking of their sexual desire" to expressing their sexuality. Those things are very different. The picture I have in my head is of a man violating societal norms and assumed boundaries to overtly ask for sex when it's inappropriate, then being upset the woman is offended. To be clear, that is a violation of the woman's consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:52 PM
0	Everyone has the right to find a dating method repulsive but that’s your problem, not theirs Any activity I disagree with morally being shamed so that I feel better on society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:46 PM
3	Why is male sexuality offensive? Oh, that's called consent. Men are more likely to consent to casual sex with a number of different women than women are to consent to casual sex with a number of different men. Refer back to promiscuity being encouraged in men and vilified in women. If a woman wants to have casual sex with a man (i.e consents) she isn't going to have a negative reaction. I would also recoil if I was being overtly pursued for sex by a woman I didn't want to have sex with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:39 PM
8	Why is male sexuality offensive? Apparently it's a lack of impulse control and overtly pursuing any woman we find attractive for casual sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:35 PM
1	Why is male sexuality offensive? I'm so confused right now. We literally have cultural norms for promiscuity in men being ok but shamed in women. We have the lock/key analogy. Fuck boys are praised and women are whores. But.. it's actually the opposite?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:32 PM
0	Everyone has the right to find a dating method repulsive but that’s your problem, not theirs Society would be better if we brought back shame.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 06:27 PM
14	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women It's mostly because they are shallow and feel destined to be alone, so project that onto the women who they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 04:04 PM
15	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women Edit: Never mind. I wanted to have this conversation and maybe try to get you to see things the other side. However, I forgot my golden rule. Which is never use logic with someone who is using emotion. You have your view, and it seems to be driven by anger, frustration, and an over consumption of emotionally negative content rather than facts, statistics, logic, or actual conversations with women. You've decided on a simple cause to a complex topic because it's an easier to manage cognitive stra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 03:59 PM
6	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women I wouldn't date a woman that did that anyway, our values don't align do it's a waste of my time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 03:58 PM
19	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women You're confusing initial attraction with wanting to be in a relationship. While initial attraction can hinge on superficial traits (like height, weight, body fat %, etc) the desire to be in a long term relationship is often determined by the person's character. Women do not want to be with a selfish, shallow man with a history or propensity to cheat. A number of them end up in relationships with them, because the men are good enough at hiding it until later OR because the women are attracted to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 03:53 PM
13	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women It's really not that difficult to keep your dick in your pants. I do it on a daily basis when not in a relationship because I don't value intimacy outside of a relationship. I will never understand how the Red Pill espouses discipline and self control in every aspect but getting laid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 03:40 PM
10	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women "Nice" guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 03:39 PM
13	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women Yep, I make no moral judgements around it. One of my best friends is poly. I think that's great for her as long as she's truly happy. It isn't for me and never will be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 02:50 PM
21	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women By a lot of their standards I'm a beta. I just don't care what they think about me so it works out. I, like most people and most women, would prefer a monogamous relationship with mutual respect and love for the rest of my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 02:47 PM
88	Women saying that very few men being "worthy" of relationships is a terrible implication for women I think that most women would agree that a man "worthy" of a relationship and kids isn't going to actively chase other women or leave her for someone younger. Doesn't mean they won't end up with men who won't do that, but I don't know a single woman (that isn't into ENM / Poly) that would say "that's a trait of a worthy man."	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 02:18 PM
-2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos I can't prove it's not anymore than you can prove it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 11:06 PM
–	A lot of women invalidate men's emotions and experiences by saying "go to therapy" in response to men's concerns about dating certain types of women. Maybe I read too far into what you typed, but it seemed you were implying she was wrong and that it wasn't insecurity. And then went on to say things that are just insecurities. I don't think she invalidated you. I think you felt offended and called out that she named the emotion you were feeling and said to get help for it. And to be fair, she isn't wrong. That insecurity is going to cause issues in your relationships in the future even if you find a woman with a 0 body count.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 02:32 PM
–	A lot of women invalidate men's emotions and experiences by saying "go to therapy" in response to men's concerns about dating certain types of women. She's literally validating it, calling it by name (insecurity), and saying go get help.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 02:30 PM
–	A lot of women invalidate men's emotions and experiences by saying "go to therapy" in response to men's concerns about dating certain types of women. You don't date women with high body counts because of insecurity. I don't date them because our values and morals don't align.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 02:29 PM
–	A lot of women invalidate men's emotions and experiences by saying "go to therapy" in response to men's concerns about dating certain types of women. So your entire premise was basically that it isn't an insecurity. And now you're saying "so what if it is?" If your entire basis for not wanting a relationship with a woman with a high body count is because you feel like a downgrade or don't feel desired when she is CHOOSING you - then yea. That's an insecurity. If you're ok with that insecurity that's up to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 02:29 PM
2	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos Oh I know. Any opinion I have is immediately written off because I'm 6'2". My height is the only reason I have success.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/25 01:12 PM
5	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? Why didn't you respond to the second part? And yes. It's a valid reason. I voted for Harris because she was the lesser of two evils, not because I liked her. You may not like the response and want a more in depth answer. But it is a completely legitimate response.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 08:22 PM
12	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? "The funny thing is that women prob have dated bi men before but never knew it since the man never told them." I'm sure they have. Sexual attraction isn't degeneracy, it's a personal preference. Being straight and preferring your partner is straight isn't a problem. It's turned into a problem by people who want access to others who don't want them. Similarly when obese women try to say it's fatphobic to not find obese women attractive. Shaming / degrading someone is very different than saying "I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:57 PM
8	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? I also can't physically tell if someone is a cheater, drug addict, financially irresponsible, abuser, or cunt. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyone with those traits. It's my preference not to be, and I don't need to logically explain why my lizard brain says no to them. The question was about relationships with bi men, not if they were physically attractive. And you're absolutely right, a bi man could just lie about it. And I'm sure a lot of them do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:41 PM
7	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? So you don't like her reason, got it. What's the reason? Curiosity? Or because you want to find some underlying bias/phobia to guilt trip them into dating outside their preference?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:20 PM
13	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? She actually gave you a reason. She said she's straight and wants to date straight men. That's her preference. Is that not enough of a reason?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 06:15 PM
21	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos I think this is an attitude that gets perpetuated by people that are terminally online and scrolling TikTok. Most women (actually most people) I've met are insecure as fuck, riddled with self doubt, and shame. They project an ego to make themselves feel better. The best odds are to worry about the shit within your control and let go of trying to control someone else's expectations, reactions, or standards. Edit: As far as individual points: 1) We already subconsciously do this. Most men filter o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 05:46 PM
84	Men must radically change to counter the current epidemic of women having inflated egos How about I just do what the fuck I want and ignore people with egos?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 05:33 PM
17	Men, how do you feel about female teachers getting away with sleeping with underage male students? An adult that rapes a kid should get similar sentences regardless of gender. Men don't come forward for a number of reasons.	/r/MensRights	14/02/25 06:56 PM
30	Women , would you hook up with/date someone who doesn't share your political beliefs? It's almost like shared values are the basis of any long lasting relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/25 04:49 PM
-1	Just as women can choose whether or not to have a child, men should also have a choice? Paper abortions should be a thing. But they won't be. If the child is born it needs support, if the Mom can't and the Dad can sign his rights away then looks like it's the state. It's easier to make the Dad pay child support.	/r/MensRights	29/01/25 06:11 PM
70	Why isn’t male insecurity taken seriously? It's not, people are hypocrites and only care when something effects them.	/r/MensRights	24/01/25 02:21 PM
4	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? I'd like to think so. However, given the societal slide in morality I don't know. Porn use, OF, non-monogamy, etc has had a lot of normalization in the last decade. It sound's like your husband has a good head on his shoulders in that he doesn't engage because he knows it would hurt you and has respect for you. Edit: I'm going to add that I'm against it in general, and while I can admit I'm not perfect I make every attempt to avoid and not engage with porn or social media (with the exception bei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 02:24 PM
7	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? Having kids means I am willing to put effort into reconciliation and counseling rather than just walking away. Not that I would automatically stay. Obviously if she had zero remorse and zero interest in changing I wouldn't. I agree with you 100% on kids noticing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 08:37 PM
9	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? I would absolutely considering staying with her for the kids (if we had them). However, I could never look at them the same again. If there are no kids then it's a no brainer. As far as the "men need XYZ" - it's an obvious copout.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 08:15 PM
57	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? If I was a woman, yes. That's up to whomever it is. I realize people have different definitions of "cheating" including physical and emotional. Engaging in a para-social relationship with an OF model falls into that category for me. Also, the comments show zero respect for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 06:46 PM
65	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? Divorce, complete violation of boundaries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 06:37 PM
–	All long-term relationships require the man to do whatever the woman wants So.. you know a bunch of codependent men who found relationships that feel comfortable with their trauma response. To your last sentence, what is a relationship to you? You don't want to "give away money, listen to complain, move where they want, etc." People give each other things, sometimes that includes money. People listen to each other and vent. People compromise and move places. What is it that these women are asking for that you refuse to give and/or what do you expect a relationship is?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:03 PM
-3	CBS News did a segment about a men's retreat aimed at addressing loneliness and feelings of worthlessness many men face. The FB comments were full of people making fun of the program and women trying to make it about themselves. Yea, people are assholes. Men having issues and having an article about it in no way takes away from anyone else, but people are jerks. I'm saying people, because I see the same types of comments under women's health and issue videos. I get that in this specific situation it's women being jerks to men. I just don't think people being assholes is a gendered issue, most of the world are selfish assholes and if it isn't about them it isn't of value.	/r/MensRights	03/01/25 02:47 PM
1	When are men going to stop being hateful to other men because of a woman? It hurts to lose friends you thought you had, but there is a silver lining. They would never have been there for you when things got hard.	/r/MensRights	24/12/24 02:32 PM
3	When are men going to stop being hateful to other men because of a woman? People are assholes. There is rarely any solidarity between race, gender, class, etc. If your "guy friends" believe her without giving you the benefit of the doubt, they were never your friends. It sucks to realize, but take a step back and realize this is doing you a favor. You can invest time and energy elsewhere, because they've shown you who they really are.	/r/MensRights	24/12/24 02:02 PM
-1	Conservative commentator Charlie Kirk says men should come last when it comes to finances. From the Army, from biblical leadership principals (Stu Weber is an excellent source for this), leading multiple teams, leadership minor in college, etc. It's also pretty intuitive. Leaders who put themselves above subordinates don't last. Leaders eating first is terrible for morale. You take care of the people you lead first, then yourself.	/r/MensRights	23/12/24 07:55 PM
0	Conservative commentator Charlie Kirk says men should come last when it comes to finances. I totally get that, and I also get the old stereotype of "Dad gets two pork chops." I just view leadership differently. Leaders eat last, and if it means I go to bed hungry my kids will go to bed full. If I'm in a relationship where I don't love the other person enough to sacrifice things for them then I'm not going to bother with that relationship (and it should be reciprocal).	/r/MensRights	23/12/24 05:23 PM
-17	Conservative commentator Charlie Kirk says men should come last when it comes to finances. I mean I agree with him on that if you're talking about traditional relationships. I don't see it as a men's rights issue, I see it as a leadership issue. Leaders eat last. If you expect to be the "leader" of a relationship and the "provisioner" in a traditional relationship you should be making sure everyone else is provided for first. If you aren't looking for a traditional relationship and don't want the burden and responsibility of being the leader and provider then don't don't worry about i…	/r/MensRights	23/12/24 04:19 PM
14	Men and women don't understand each other, but smugly pretend to have the other completely figured out, locking the other gender into small boxes. Don't forget, we also like to argue on who has it worse. We constantly focus on differences, which pull groups apart, rather than similarities and common ground which could bring us together. Men and women both face hardships in life, they're just different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 07:16 PM
1	The Lily Phillips situation proves AWALT is just confirmation bias and gender flipped “Yes All Men”. Yea.. she failed the attempt because internal bleeding.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 06:06 PM
1	The Lily Phillips situation proves AWALT is just confirmation bias and gender flipped “Yes All Men”. Plenty of lube, some anti-inflammatories, and a very clear no fingers sign. I remember the "drama" around one attempt cause dudes were trying to finger the woman with hangnails.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 06:03 PM
2	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. Then I'd say we agree, the bulk of the resources should go to the ones who need the help the most (the 93%). I was getting the impression you were acting as though we should 50/50 the support, while I think it should be more reflective of the 93/7 split.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 04:33 PM
6	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. I appreciate the thoughtful post. I understand where you are coming from and I'm also against the modern feminist movement which is more focused on special rights than equal rights. I do have an issue with ignoring data and saying "let's help everyone" when it's clear the priority right now should be to help men. It's not about making men the aggressors, it's about realizing that there are issues facing men and we should be helping them, not stigmatizing them (which is what feminists do).	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 04:10 PM
1	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. I have no idea what positive masculinity. It's a space for guys to talk about what's going on in their lives and get advice and feedback from other men. Most of them have been through churches and/or recovery groups.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 04:07 PM
2	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. Deny? No. Prioritize the 93%? Yes.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 04:03 PM
3	Men Rights I'm sure other men have had other experiences, but I was falsely accused of rape by an ex and the police didn't even contact me. I found out through a social media post of hers, contacted the police, and got told she tried to press charges but there was no evidence and no reason to contact me. It seems like it is far, far worse in India.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 03:47 PM
1	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. I can only speak to my experience and what I've seen. I'm not stating that men aren't being helped, but I do think (based on upvotes and what ends up on my front page) that outrage bait about feminists and women seems to get the most interaction. As far as helping men in real life, there are plenty of men's spaces if you look for them where men help other men. I've been involved in a number of men's only groups, and I think it does far more to help than the echo chambers of the internet.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 03:40 PM
-9	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. The comment I responded to specifically said we should ignore the gender of shooters and provide help to everyone. I'd prefer to help the 93% that commit the crimes first, as they seem to be the most in need of support.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 03:39 PM
1	The Lily Phillips situation proves AWALT is just confirmation bias and gender flipped “Yes All Men”. Yea, after posting this I kind of expanded it to "I also don't know a single person who is chronically online who isn't somehow involved in one of the red/blue/black pill spaces that cares."	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 03:31 PM
-24	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. The tear down women is a comment about the entire sub, including comments. Not just this specific post. Most of this sub seems to just be anger directed towards women and feminists rather than actually wanting to help other men. Demographics matter. If we want to cut down on school shootings ignoring demographics and focusing on helping "everyone" would be pretty misguided? We'd start by helping the demographic that commits 93% of the crimes. Men, specifically adolescent men, NEED help and NEED …	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 03:26 PM
8	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. What we can do for men and as men is reach out to each other, check on each other, and normalize talking about not being ok. Instead we disregard men's feelings, isolate each other, and expect each other to be "fine." Every man should have brothers, and no man should be left behind.	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 03:04 PM
-14	USA: Schoolgirl killers: The nine females who have carried out school shootings since Columbine - as Natalie Rupnow, 15, joins roll call of horror. OP: Females get forgotten about. Depending on the source I've found anywhere from 400-1400 school shootings referenced since Columbine. Likely because the definition may vary (accidental discharge vs intent, etc). Statista specifically states 145 "mass shootings." 10 women shooters means somewhere between 0.7%-7% of school shooters have been women. People speak in generalities and without a ton of nuance. If the most "optimistic" estimate (Statista even references 4 women in their stat, and 2 by a guy and girl, and I used 10 fo…	/r/MensRights	18/12/24 02:54 PM
29	The Lily Phillips situation proves AWALT is just confirmation bias and gender flipped “Yes All Men”. I don't know a single person that isn't chronically online that cares about Lily Philips. Didn't Houston do her Houston 500 years ago? No one cared. Also if someone cares about Lily Philips being a bad example watch her documentary. She cries and talks about how terrible this is. She's just using what she has and her 15 minutes to make as much money as she can. The internet has just morphed into an outrage farm. Most of us are much better off not engaging with it or at the very least realizing t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/24 01:57 PM
1	Marriage is a substitute for love. Marriage is just a social / religious institution and the only reason for it is tax advantages. Your relationship to another person isn't defined by a piece of paper.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 05:20 PM
3	Apparently men are not allowed to question a women's feelings... She's welcome to feel that way and not invite him. The Dad is welcome to withdraw financial assistance. No one is required to do anything and people can have boundaries.	/r/MensRights	17/12/24 03:51 PM
–	Red pill men in their 30s overestimate their market value That has not been my experience with women, but I realize it's a very popular narrative in the red pill community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 02:55 PM
–	Red pill men in their 30s overestimate their market value You are absolutely right in general. Those guys tend to use the fringe / exceptions as the rule. A good looking, high earning guy isn't going to have an issue finding an early 20s something woman though, but the odds are that she values the status and financial mobility he offers more than him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/24 02:26 PM
1	had a mini heart attack bcs my accuser appeared on my dream. You have trauma, you had a panic attack. You should go to therapy and work through things and work on moving on. This has nothing to do with your accuser, and you can't / shouldn't expect them to ever apologize to you. What happened sucked and wasn't your fault, but you need to take responsibility for your future.	/r/MensRights	16/12/24 07:15 PM
4	Men understand the concept of aggression significantly better than women. If the dude wants to fight over the uber let him have it. Walk away. Go back into the venue as a group. Literally anything other than escalating and turning it into a physical altercation. I have had friends put their arms around me and pull me away from people when I was drunk and escalating. One of them threw me on the ground and told me to chill out. That friend prevented me from doing something stupid and potentially saved my life and career. For me personally that would have been the end of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 04:17 PM
11	Men understand the concept of aggression significantly better than women. I do, by being lucid enough to not escalate a potentially dangerous situation to the point of no return where fight or flight and aggression takes over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 03:28 PM
6	Men understand the concept of aggression significantly better than women. Honestly my biggest issue with the BF is he didn't step in to de-escalate when his GF was escalating. Pulling her away from the drunk guy, waiting for a new uber, and preventing her from escalating a physical altercation IS protecting her. This just reminds me of back in "my day" when a girl would start a bar fight, escalate it, and then expect her BF to jump in and "handle it."	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 03:27 PM
0	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. Agreed, the woman should have 100% say. The man should get some kind of say in it as well to surrender paternal rights / responsibilities in a similar time window to the abortion. Both had a responsibility in the creation of the child, both should get some say in their role / responsibility as a parent. As far as the who the courts favor there is a societal norm that women are the primary caretakers and it permeates the court even if it's 50/50 situation. Even your comment pushes the assumption …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 02:03 PM
4	I hate cheaters Not sure why this warranted a post here. But yea. Cheating is shitty and there's no excuse.	/r/MensRights	16/12/24 06:02 AM
3	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. Equally at fault. However, the woman gets a unilateral decision to abort (as she should). Men would like the ability to choose to be involved or not in a similar way and it should probably be a similar time window to abortion. To your second point you are absolutely right and I agree it's last time for a mens movement focused around being more involved Fathers. It's something I've advocated for and have worked towards with my own kids. Abstinence is the only solution to 100% avoid the risk of a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 05:42 AM
3	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. I read the first comment of "you don't have to ejaculate in a woman" as if the onus is somehow entirely on the man. My point with the first comment was to say it takes two to consent. That's why I phrased it that way. I don't disagree with your other points though. Paternal rights are the least of the concern at that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 05:21 AM
1	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. How is it devious? Sex acts require consent. If a woman agrees to sex but does not agree to being ejaculated in and a man does it anyway, that's rape. Stealthing is a thing and there is a bigger issue than surrender of paternal rights at that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 04:28 AM
0	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. Absolutely. She doesn't haven't to consent to it either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/24 06:26 PM
1	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. Men should absolutely fight for and be involved at a minimum 50/50. Most kids (statistically) do better in single Father homes than single Mother homes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/24 05:57 PM
5	There needs to be a movement of men that advocate for freedom for men in society. Should men get a say as to whether the woman aborts the child? If not, why should they be forced to pay child support if the woman decides to keep it? It takes two people to make the child, yet one of those people loses all power to make any choices after conception. Is that fair or equal? As far as tax payer support you could also extend that argument to say noone should have to support the child if the parent who chose to have them can't. I don't have a huge issue with the current system, but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/24 05:56 PM
2	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards I don't think all relationships are net negatives for women. I do think the guys complaining about women having high standards want women to enter relationships that would be more likely to be net negatives for the women so those men could have net positives. And that's the main issue to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 08:32 PM
3	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards No shit. I should've included the /s. I generally distrust individual studies and look to larger meta analysis for more accuracy. I don't consider a single study as reflective of reality. The meta studies I looked at show single women and married men as the happiest cohorts. Women also see a significant bump in happiness when they have children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 08:07 PM
8	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards Interesting, some meta analysis show the opposite. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201701/is-it-true-single-women-and-married-men-do-best Seems like you can find studies to support whatever we'd like to believe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 07:05 PM
2	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards Fair enough, I can't keep track. I see people tagged red pill saying it here as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 03:49 PM
12	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards Women would rather be single than settle. They are happier (and surveys back this up) single in general. Men are happier when married. You can absolutely call them unrealistic standards, but just try to look at it from another perspective and realize they'd rather be single than with someone they have to settle for. I will never understand the argument from red pillers that women should lower their standards and "help" men because men have a loneliness epidemic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 02:57 PM
11	Are women in denial about dating/relationships? Mainly pertaining to their standards It's only a problem for men. The women are perfectly happy single. Also I think it's less about physical attractiveness in a lot of cases and more that they don't want to be someone's Mom, and that seems to be what a lot of guys expect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/24 02:53 PM
2	What is the longest you have ever been in a committed relationship? 6 year LTR (not married) and then a 10 year LTR / marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 03:15 PM
1	People who look for umconditional love in relationships aren't confident in their ability to fulfill these conditions I'll probably get flak for this, but people confuse unconditional love with not having boundaries. You can love someone unconditionally and still hold them accountable for their actions, enforce boundaries and expectations (like not being abusive), and walk away when they violate you. Unconditional love is not being a doormat, it's loving someone enough to stand up to them and being open and honest with them. And if that unconditional love and understanding is not reciprocated it's loving yourse…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 02:17 PM
2	Would you want to go back to life before the Sexual Revolution? We are, despite all of our issues, living in the best times in history. In general, individual liberty has never been higher, food security worldwide has never been better, violence and wars are low, health care and modern medicine is incredible. We still have issues and things to correct, but the issue isn't casual sex here, it's the apps exploiting human evolutionary behavior to make money. Same thing every app and social media does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 02:13 PM
6	All men hold responsible for some mens crimes but the women aren't even held responsible for their own crimes Unfortunately we often over correct when we are fixing injustice. Prior to women's movements women didn't have many rights. For most of history they haven't, and in some places in the world they still don't. Now the pendulum has swung in the other direction. It's an overcorrection, and we'll settle somewhere in the middle eventually. People can be good, people can be shit. People should be held accountable for their actions.	/r/MensRights	12/12/24 02:10 PM
7	“Women Deserve Women’s Only Spaces” No, it's a right. You can have a men's only group at home. I have a men's only group at Church. You can have whatever men's only groups you want and want to enforce. If you want to run a men's only business that is also up to you, it just needs to be economically viable. You know why women's only gyms exist? Because there is enough of a demand for it, and yet still a number of them fail. In general, men don't really care about men's only gyms and if it was going to be profitable there would be o…	/r/MensRights	12/12/24 02:02 PM
3	“The bar is on the floor” for the men women consider their dating pool, which is always men above them It's almost like men control access to relationships and women control access to sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 01:20 PM
2	If Ukrainian men are locked in the country and forced to fight, Ukrainian women should also be locked in and either forced to fight, be pregnant, or be raising a child under 3 I don't think anyone is disposable. This is a conversation about generalities. Most women aren't lesbians. Most women aren't infertile. Most women are smaller and not as strong as the average man. You didn't specifically mention trans women, does that mean you don't think they are women? Or that they are disposable? What about non-binaries? Doesn't make anyone more or less of a person. The reality of an actual real war, like a WW3 is going to mean significant casualties. It means societal collap…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 11:20 PM
1	If Ukrainian men are locked in the country and forced to fight, Ukrainian women should also be locked in and either forced to fight, be pregnant, or be raising a child under 3 I never said they couldn't. The standards should be what they are for a combat unit. They should not be lowered to improve gender diversity. If a woman can fulfill that requirement that's awesome, I'd welcome her. If she can't she would lower the effectiveness of the unit as she doesn't make the minimum standard. It's not an attack on women. It's acknowledging that men and women are on average different and have different strengths and weaknesses. I don't care about the gender, sexuality, or gen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 11:05 PM
5	Women have more Ick’s than men Women also have a significantly higher investment involved in reproduction, so it makes sense from a evolutionary standpoint for them to be more selective (which would show up as "icks" in the modern era).	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 08:13 PM
6	If Ukrainian men are locked in the country and forced to fight, Ukrainian women should also be locked in and either forced to fight, be pregnant, or be raising a child under 3 I think people are looking from this from the lens of their warm, free, idealistic couch. Which is great. We have the privilege of security and the ability to discuss problems of equality in men and women. When shit gets real we lose the social niceties. When your reality is a daily struggle for survival you aren't worried about gender roles or equality. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but women don't belong in combat roles unless they can fulfill the requirements expected of that role without lowering…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 06:46 PM
4	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Aside from my experience growing up as a man (pre-internet), my conversations with other men? Absolutely not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 06:36 PM
1	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Most people aren't super high in emotional intelligence. But if you are stating you can honestly look at statistical data that completely contradicts your experience and accept it no questions asked you are a very rare person. The average person will find a reason to be able to dismiss it (conflict of interest, source, etc). Edit: And conversely, if they see data they agree with that is in line with their experience, they are more likely to accept it EVEN if there is a conflict of interest or it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:43 PM
4	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Red Pill is just an extremist version of an ideology that has existed for a long, long time. I grew up before the internet, I still got taught that. The more women you got the "cooler" you were. At some point it transitions to an expectation to support a family.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:33 PM
1	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Every man should have a purpose, and his purpose cannot be a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:24 PM
3	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Doesn't everything? You can show whatever data you want, if it doesn't match an individuals experience or feelings they'll have a much harder time accepting it. Men and women both have emotional needs. They can fulfill them in different ways. Women have a tendency to want to talk about their problems and be heard and listened to, not just have them "solved." In general they recharge their batteries by getting stuff out. Other women can absolutely fulfill this role and often do it better than men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:22 PM
7	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. I think he means the ease with which one can get validation and attention from the opposite sex. It's perceived as easier for women to get. If it's considered an emotional need than it would be easier for a woman who is alone to receive validation / attention (wanted or unwanted) than a man who is alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:13 PM
3	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Sure, in a different way. Philia vs Pragma.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 03:05 PM
8	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. Yea, I wonder how much of that is nurture vs nature. Society still teaches men that their value is how many women they can get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 12:53 PM
36	Instead of being desperate for a girlfriend, men should focus on bonding with friends. I have a close knit men's group. I still have moments of loneliness where I miss having a woman in my life. Sex is part of that. "Intimacy" is more than just sex. For me it's cuddling, caring about each other, affirming each other, etc. If you want to it on a societal level. Women have had entire movements around independence and being told they don't need men. Men have not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/24 12:34 PM
1	Q4M: Would you date an attractive "loser"? I don't want someone lazy, who lives in a messy space, doesn't care about their health (fast food), and is addicted to porn. It doesn't matter how hot she is. And it doesn't matter if she's "willing to change for me." Changing for others isn't lasting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/24 08:51 PM
1	Ladies do you agree with this hot take? 100%. Robert Glover is a great resource on that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/24 05:47 PM
5	Ladies do you agree with this hot take? Calling myself an asshole keeps me humble. Besides, words don't mean shit. Actions speak.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/24 05:46 PM
2	Q4M: Would you date an attractive "loser"? No. She doesn't match my values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/24 04:17 PM
2	Life and society used to be so good for us. What the hell happened? Can you name that time? Do you mean pre-2020? Or are you talking like 1950s?	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 11:05 PM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? Maybe. It was the third time we'd spoken on the phone. Talked for a week on DMs and she never mentioned it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 10:26 PM
8	Misandry & the self-fulfilling prophecy cycle: how boys grow up to become the negative stereotype of men they always hear about They also can't define woman.	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 02:48 PM
5	There's so much deficiency in male upbringing Absolutely agree, and I'd like to add that it's important for the kids to see positive social interactions between the parents and them having conversations as adults separate from the interactions with the kids.	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 02:28 PM
7	There's so much deficiency in male upbringing I wish that I had an answer for you, but I don't. I have volunteered in the past at Big Brothers Big Sisters but it's a limited time of engagement. I think the best option would be to find some healthy modern takes on masculinity from books. Involve them in some "traditionally" masculine activities where they will be around other boys and male role models (coaches / instructors). Do your best to empathize with them and understand as best you can what they go through as they get older. Edit: Also…	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 01:40 PM
17	There's so much deficiency in male upbringing Education is a traditionally woman dominated field. We have a tendency as a society to think men doing traditionally women's work is weird (education, nursing, etc).	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 01:30 PM
26	There's so much deficiency in male upbringing I absolutely agree and think that Fathers being more involved in the raising of their children (including daughters) is crucial. I'm 50/50 with my ex and if she didn't want me involved I'd be fighting her (but she does and also thinks it's important). Sons and Daughters need good, solid masculine and feminine role models. Look at the statistics of single Father vs single Mother homes. It is far, far easier in society and schools to find "replacement" feminine role models as education is dominate…	/r/MensRights	04/12/24 01:07 PM
5	What screams wife material to you? I have 3 requirements. 1) Similar values (I'm a moderate Christian, I value health, I want a clean home, etc). 2) Mutual respect - Meaning we can have a conversation about our disagreements and not have it turn into a fight. 3) Learning and showing love in your partners preferred language - I'm an affirmation/touch guy. I want to hear some genuine compliments, get some cuddles, and have an active intimate life. I also expect myself to learn her love languages and show her love. All the other stu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 01:00 PM
1	Would you date a broke woman? Situational. If she is fine with a lower-middle class modest life with traditional gender roles where I am the bread winner and she makes the home, makes meals, etc - sure. If she wants to live high on the hog I can't afford it and it ain't gonna be for me. My preference would be a women with her own income so that we can combine incomes, split house hold tasks, and live an upper-middle class life with a few more vacations. However, I would not say no to a woman simply because of her status. I h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 12:53 PM
40	South Korean president declares martial law. Gender war may have been a contributing factor. The dude was being investigated. Claimed it was pro NK anti government forces and declared martial law. The parliament (including his own party) over ruled him unanimously and he has at this point backed down. This has nothing to do with gender rights or 4B. He tried to seize power and use a narrative as a scapegoat.	/r/MensRights	03/12/24 11:52 PM
8	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? My masculinity isn't tied to the approval of anyone. So in essence I don't care. If someone wants to reject me because I'm not masculine to them, thats fine. I got rejected one time because I told a woman I didn't like porn, tried not to watch it, and talked about how bad it was for relationships. She told me every man she knew watched porn and if I didn't I wasn't one. Her loss.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 11:08 PM
64	South Korean president declares martial law. Gender war may have been a contributing factor. When you have a bias and agenda you see it everywhere.	/r/MensRights	03/12/24 05:15 PM
2	Alot of guys here want women to be considerate to them but never desire to be considerate to women. My honest response to this might be a bit triggering, just FYI. I think most people are self-centered because it's my experience and it's what the studies have generally shown. The current balance of evidence is that people are self centered. Not every person, but the majority. It's also more likely for men to be self centered than women. I'm going to take this post as an example. You yourself would identify as considerate and not self-centered, yet you posted this in bad faith. You've dismissed…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 02:09 PM
1	Alot of guys here want women to be considerate to them but never desire to be considerate to women. I know people like that as well. But knowing people who are considerate to others does not discount the majority of people who are selfish and self-absorbed. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say people want others to be MORE considerate of them than they are for others. There have been numerous studies showing that the average person is more self-centered than not. Those same studies have shown that men are more likely to be self-centered than women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 01:49 PM
1	Alot of guys here want women to be considerate to them but never desire to be considerate to women. It's a two way street. If a guy dumps a girl because she's depressed and wallowing in self pity people would shit on him too. If a guy wants proof the girl isn't cheating he's controlling and toxic. You can gender swap either example and get the same result. In general, people want others to be considerate of them but aren't considerate of others. Someone else posted about men being expected to provide emotional support. In my experience that is 100% the case. Every girl I've been with expects e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 01:38 PM
4	If you are a smart, hard-working, and kind man, that didn't receive much attention or support from women growing up, you should start a business to protect yourself from exploitative women If it was easy everyone would do it. There's a reason that everyone isn't self-employed. Edit: Not everyone is an entrepreneur and quite often business's fail because a technician, who was very good at their job, decided to go into business for themselves and never changed their mindset.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 12:52 PM
0	Endless Buffet Perspective Modern Dating; It's unlikely to work for Majority of Men. Over the last year or so I've lost 60 lbs, built healthier eating habits, re-established healthy exercise patterns, worked on healing anxious attachment and codependency, read a TON of books, worked on being a more active and involved Dad, started going back to Church, etc. The work started 3 years ago with rehab and getting sober. The past year I've just really focused on it and brought it to the forefront. I spent some time imagining the "ideal" me and who I wanted to be. Then started creating…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 12:37 PM
0	Endless Buffet Perspective Modern Dating; It's unlikely to work for Majority of Men. Then be alone. Or wait until you find a woman who doesn't demand shit from you. I make under 6 figures, I'm not a supermodel. I did just fine on the apps before I decided to get off them and work on myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/24 12:31 AM
4	Endless Buffet Perspective Modern Dating; It's unlikely to work for Majority of Men. I said strictly transactional because I would say it's synonymous with your "overly" transaction model. My point is if you only give with an expectation of something in return that isn't a healthy relationship. People have needs, and compromises get made, and things aren't always 50/50. Sometimes someone gives more than the other, sometimes it reverses. People should give because they want to, not to get something in return. Nor should they give because the other person "demands" it if they don'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 07:13 PM
18	Endless Buffet Perspective Modern Dating; It's unlikely to work for Majority of Men. You have to abandon the idea of "investing" money in a woman. That is a strictly transactional relationship model. You either give because you want to or you don't, you should not give with the expectation of something in return. If a woman "demands" money and that you take them out grow a back bone and tell them no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 05:25 PM
0	What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to? Yea, edited it to say body fat. He's made other posts talking about wrist size, etc. I was making the comment that you can't really use it as a factor unless you're at a relatively healthy body fat %. Being morbidly obese does increase wrist size.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 02:09 PM
3	What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to? Wrist size is only relevant in relation to body fat. Unfortunately being morbidly obese can pump up those numbers. Similar to bicep size it's just not impressive when it's 18" of fat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:40 PM
5	What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to? Both of those extremes are a horrible basis for a relationship and more than likely come from trauma responses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:30 PM
4	Random male (looks like a kid) approaches you and says he's having a bad day and asks for a hug, is it okay to reject him? Is there stigma relating to this? Yea, this is the problem now. I assume anyone coming up to me is a bit. Unless I can see a camera, it's very very unlikely that it is a bit. Thanks to repetition bias and social media for that one.	/r/MensRights	02/12/24 01:19 PM
6	What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to? Being whiny and negative aren't endearing. Most people don't want to be around that. I don't care if you lose weight, but if you want to increase your chances that is the lowest hanging fruit. I asked if you were honestly happy with who you are and your weight. Edit: Going to add that PEOPLE, not just women, but people in general want to be around others who are happy, well adjusted, and positive. If you aren't happy and are negative all the time it's going to come out, even if you're faking it.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 01:00 PM
6	What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to? You're self-deprecating, filled with negativity, and certainly don't seem like you'd be a joy to be around. You ask questions, and ignore the advice given. You've made up your mind, why bother asking? Are you honestly happy with who you are or your weight?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/24 12:46 PM
1	On Male Lonliness Yea, but this isn't a women's rights sub. There are other spaces devoted to them.	/r/MensRights	29/11/24 07:28 PM
0	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women Jokes on you I have 0 sperm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 07:37 PM
21	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women So older people are less malleable? I'd agree with that. Which would also make sense for why an older man wants a younger woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 07:20 PM
24	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women They'll stay as long as she's still naive, caters to him, has sex with him, and deals with bullshit. They might cheat, but that's different, right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 07:17 PM
12	On Male Lonliness Want to end loneliness? Get the fuck out of your house and join some men's groups. A big part of the epidemic is because of the isolating nature of the internet and men not hanging out with and supporting other men. Edit: Oh and support other men and empathize with them. Don't just shit on each other.	/r/MensRights	26/11/24 07:08 PM
54	Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other women As a late 30s guy, I can only speak to my experience, but older women are less prone to put up with bullshit. They are more direct, don't cater to a man's emotional state, and expect maturity from their partners. Younger women are a bit more naive, more prone to people please, and easier to manipulate. These are just generalities and you can take from it what you will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 06:50 PM
–	AI girlfriends are going to completely change the dating game, and it's going to happen very soon. Free will is limited. Our System 1 reactions are out of our control. We exercise some limited free will in System 2 and can impact our System 1 processes over time. I believe consciousness is more than the sum of it's parts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 05:48 PM
7	Women would become less picky if men increased their parental investment Higher parental investment makes sense if there is a single provider. If both parents are working they should be splitting parental and home investment. I actually like my kids, think it's important for a Father to be involved in raising his kids, and so I do it. If my ex didn't want me to I'd be fighting her in court, however, we get along well and 50/50 is great.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 05:23 PM
–	AI girlfriends are going to completely change the dating game, and it's going to happen very soon. Maybe for some. I can also guarantee some people will prefer real human interaction over AI, even if AI is indistinguishable from human interaction. Simply because knowing it isn't real is enough to ruin the illusion. There will be people who are satisfied with lab grown meat. I'd rather eat beef.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 03:20 PM
3	im so done Why do you care what some biggot thinks?	/r/MensRights	26/11/24 03:03 PM
–	AI girlfriends are going to completely change the dating game, and it's going to happen very soon. I don't think AI Girlfriends change anything other than giving gooners and incels an outlet. Maybe it helps the male loneliness epidemic. It doesn't matter how good AI Girlfriends are, it's still not "real."	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 02:57 PM
9	If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expected Then leave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 10:34 AM
8	I choose the bear. As a man myself I know what men are capable of. Debate me "The bear won't for sure kill you, that's a stereotype." But the man will because... stereotype? Apply the stereotypes equally or don't at all. The choice is a bear that will kill and eat you. The man is.. going to do whatever stereotype you pick for the exercise. Murder, rape, kidnapping. The statistical answer the odds of being attacked by a bear are 1 in 2.1m. The odds of a woman being raped are about 1 in 5. Neither of those stats take into account encounters / proximity. I wish I had statis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/24 01:20 AM
43	If in today's society, sex is not expected in a relationship, then faithfulness should not be expected I'll never understand the argument of "if you don't put out I'm going to cheat on you." Just fucking communicate and if it's that bad leave.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 11:21 PM
6	I choose the bear. As a man myself I know what men are capable of. Debate me Debate what? That'd you'd prefer to take a sure gruesome death over the chance that the guy might be a socio or psychopath?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 11:19 PM
–	Why do men show up smelling bad on dates? I'm sure some of them do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 06:38 PM
–	Why do men show up smelling bad on dates? I can't speak for others, but maybe if this is a consistent issue it's the type of man you're dating? I shower everyday, use deodorant, have a collection of colognes, moisturize everyday, keep my beard trimmed, and have a skin care routine. I can even ask you what your favorite scents are before a date and probably have one to match.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 06:35 PM
4	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? It's something I advocate for. I'm all for equality and equity in modern relationships. I'm 50/50 with my ex with our kids. I think having an involved Father and masculine role model is crucial for children. One day when they are older and I have more time I'd love to do more advocacy work on men's issues and redefining masculinity in the modern era. However, I do not have the time to do it now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 04:22 PM
4	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? If I get manipulated or discarded that is on me for trusting and putting my heart into a woman that clearly did not have good intentions and likely had red flags that I overlooked. The OP asked for advice on making someone feel masculine. A core part of masculinity is being useful and having a purpose. This isn't about me or what I'm looking for in a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 04:19 PM
6	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? It's a last gasp to cling to an archaic definition of masculinity in modern society. We've had progressive women's movements that has redefined femineity and encouraged them to be strong and independent. We have not had substantial men's movements moving the needle of masculinity toward being equal partners, being emotionally intelligent, or more involved as Fathers. Men that still believe in a societally dated form of masculinity may need to be "catered" to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 04:11 PM
8	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? Then don't. We've had a generation of women raised to be strong and independent and not need a man. That's totally fine, but also if you bring everything to the table yourself and have no needs or use for a partner then you probably aren't the target audience for how to make a man feel more masculine in a relationship. Or, maybe as I mentioned elsewhere, you are able to find someone who fills the gaps in your skillsets and is useful and needed in your life. Then you have the best of both worlds …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 04:04 PM
5	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? I agree. I think the entire point is you don't know it's not real. She's not saying "hey I can open this but can you do it for me?" From your perspective is no different than if she couldn't do it in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 03:54 PM
5	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? It was intended as a silly example to illustrate the point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 03:28 PM
4	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? Hence why I said "feel" useful and needed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 03:12 PM
2	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? I absolutely agree with that as well. Someone else had mentioned praise and being thankful in the first comment, so I was trying to go a different direction to create opportunities for the OP to have their partner feel masculine as well. Everyone loves praise and appreciation. And if you want a happy partner who does things you like that's the way to do it. Want your partner to start putting the toilet seat down? Ask them and then thank them when they do and explain the importance of it to you. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 02:54 PM
9	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? I think most men need women more than women need men. Without going into stereotypical tropes (like her being needed to cook or clean) it would depend on her strengths and skills and what she brings to the table that he can't. I think most women are more emotionally intelligent and adept at identifying needs and acting on them before being asked. They know they are needed, but the challenge is making sure they feel valued and appreciated for their contributions. Not letting it become the expecta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 02:45 PM
11	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? That's fine, you don't have to. The OP asked how to make a man feel more masculine. Most men feel most masculine when they are needed and useful. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't fall in that group, or maybe he has skills you don't and you don't need to feign it. I saw you in another comment talking about the insects. I would argue it's not about killing the insect, it's not about the man feeling powerful cause he took a life. It's because he's useful. He's doing something his partner needs him to d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 02:03 PM
27	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? Most men want to feel useful and needed. Putting aside your ego and letting your partner do something that you know you could do so they feel useful is one way to do that. It's meant to be a silly example.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 01:58 PM
1	Feminists call for "vulva diversity" but shame small dicks in mainstream media Some women like being fat. Obesity and facial hair fall more in the category of "something you can control" than not. Shaming someone for a small dick or small tits is different than shaming people for something they have some modicum of control over. Should we be shaming in general? Maybe not. However, I certainly see shaming something someone has zero control over as different than shaming something that is within the realm of control.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 01:43 PM
42	How to make a man feel masculine in a relationship? Ask him to open jars even if you can do it on your own. Don't belittle him / compare him to other men in a negative way. Let him take the lead on things you don't care about (joint decisions can still be discussed, I mean inconsequential stuff). The Way of the Superior Man or The Masculine in Relationship could be good reads.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 01:04 PM
8	Chinese Men Would Rather Play Video Games Than Pursue Women, Making Modern Women FURIOUS I'll add an /s next time. It was a joke. I will say that in my experience there was far, far less drama from my ex than there was playing competitive vidya games.	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 05:31 PM
10	Chinese Men Would Rather Play Video Games Than Pursue Women, Making Modern Women FURIOUS You ever play competitive online games with other men? Cause I got news for you.	/r/MensRights	22/11/24 05:18 PM
6	Above Average Men Chase the Top 10% of Women I'm either attracted to a woman or not. Looks and personality play a part. Personality, vibe, and not being a hot mess of drama goes a LONG way. I'd rather date a 6/10 cool woman who helps bring me peace of mind than a 10/10 drama queen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/11/24 03:00 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships 100%, this is just what I've seen some of the Red Pill spaces suggesting. Want to get more women? Wear platform shoes. Don't take them off til you're horizontal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 05:12 PM
–	Feminists and redpillers comes to same conclusion. It is a violation of their free speech. They just don't have a right to freedom of speech from anyone but government entities in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 05:09 PM
–	Feminists and redpillers comes to same conclusion. The "in your league" thing is all bullshit physiognomy. Sure, there are some traits and people that the majority agree are attractive, but not everyone will. "Leagues" are entirely subjective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 05:06 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships Platform shoes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 04:56 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships Shocking that guys with attitudes like the above aren't getting any interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 04:55 PM
2	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships Then don't talk to those women. You sound pretty jaded because you've experienced some negativity from some women and are applying it to all women. If I took what I saw on social media and projected it onto everyone it'd be a pretty shit experience. I've absolutely met women who want a more traditional relationship and a provider. I've met women who are selfish and want to be spoiled. I've also met women who want an equal relationship (or even equitable). If I meet a woman and she doesn't have t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/24 02:46 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I completely agree. However, I refuse to give up or do nothing and adopt a nihilistic attitude. I can try to cut off the generational trauma as much as I want, but the reality is I will somehow fuck up and damage my kids. That doesn't mean I'm not going to try my absolute best, educate myself as much as possible, and be there for them emotionally when things go bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 07:13 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I think finding common hobbies / activities and introducing each other to new worlds (because you don't have the same hobbies) is a great part of a relationship and can help both people grow. I don't think it's super important to share hobbies at the start of a relationship, at least not as much as base values. One of the values I have is taking an interest in what the other person is interested in, so I'd have free time with my partner and do some of what they want to do, because they genuinely…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:39 PM
1	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I don't insist that. I think compatibility on values and morals are one of the cornerstones to a successful relationship. Hobbies / activities? Not so much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:32 PM
3	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I randomly saw some dude on Youtube talking about "heightmaxxing" but I didn't watch it long enough to see what he was suggesting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 05:00 PM
2	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships That I completely agree with and it reminds me of the basic incompatibility I had with an ex when it came to equality vs equity. And I look back on that and realize how petty it was and how we were really just incompatible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 04:30 PM
1	I need a trad husband I think a lot of men would agree to that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 04:05 PM
3	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships The only part I disagree with is the leaving part. Relationships are work. Hard work at times. If you've had those hard conversations and there is no change, empathy, or attempt from the other side? Absolutely leave. I just don't think it should be the first option.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 03:49 PM
2	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I appreciate that. I think my generation is one of the first to grow up without Fathers being present. It left a pretty giant imprint on me. About 80% of single parent households are Mother only. It rose over 100% from 1970 to 1990 and leveled off. I grew up in the 90s as a latch key kid with a single Mom working 60 hours a week to make ends meet. I've seen first hand what lack of a strong male role model leads to and I think it's one of the biggest problems facing young men today.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 03:47 PM
7	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I think it's a duty as a man to be a positive role model and be involved in raising your kids. It's not about being nice or kind. It's my responsibility for having brought life into this world to take care of it, protect it, and help it grow. Edit: I appreciate your takes, and it got me thinking about the historical role of Fathers. While households were together, the role model was not one of equality or equity (I am more of a fan of equity in the home). I wonder if my view / philosophy on Fath…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 01:31 PM
33	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships I think that's an excellent question. I'm in my late 30s and was raised by a single Mother. My Dad "gave up" because it wasn't worth the fight for custody and figured it was better for me to see him every couple weeks than fight my Mom. Unfortunately was also an alcoholic. I learned "how to be a man" from culture. It was toxic and took a lot of unlearning and relearning. I don't have a specific answer for "then." My answer is always going to be Fathers. Children need active and involved adult ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 01:19 PM
60	Nowadays women usually have the upper hand in relationships We have done a horrible job of equipping young men and teaching them to be partners. If both partners are working and contributing, both need to be contributing at home as well. I know far too many men who are fine with their "partner" working the same number of hours but the cooking, cleaning, etc is on the woman at home. Leads to resentment and burnout.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/24 01:09 PM
4	do you have a women in your life who supports men, you and your rights as a man? 1) It's culturally normalized genital mutilation based on religious practices. 2) It's not medically needed. 3) I can't support circumcision and bodily autonomy/pro choice. Those stances are logically inconsistent. 4) It reduces feeling in the penis and can make sex less enjoyable. 5) There are risks of infection and bleeding. 6) While there are rare medical issues that could develop the risks and drawbacks are not worth the benefit. Also want to be clear I'm also pro women's rights. I have a da…	/r/MensRights	20/11/24 11:32 AM
7	do you have a women in your life who supports men, you and your rights as a man? Yes. My ex. We split everything including child support equitably and have 50/50 custody. We did not circumcize our son (and she was pro when we met, I explained it). Her concern mostly grew because we have a son and he's going to have to face new challenges as he grows up.	/r/MensRights	20/11/24 11:05 AM
1	A traffic researcher in Germany has called for men to be allowed to obtain a driver’s license only after the age of 26. That's good supplementary data I wasn't aware of. Do you have a link to the sources? I'm happy to update my view on it when presented with evidence. The only evidence I've seen was the DOT numbers which don't adjust for drive distance.	/r/MensRights	14/11/24 01:39 PM
-14	A traffic researcher in Germany has called for men to be allowed to obtain a driver’s license only after the age of 26. So post the correct representation of data?	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 08:21 PM
2	i can understand why men would wanna switch gender. Who said I wasn't pro-men's rights? There are absolutely issues that need to be addressed. Divorce, custody battles, etc. Male unaliving, harsher sentences toward men, etc. Just because I don't think men are being actively oppressed in real life (right now) doesn't mean men aren't facing real, legitimate issues that they need help with. I think there are pros and cons to being both genders, and things we as a society can do to better help both genders. Since I am a white man, and that is my expe…	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 06:52 PM
0	i can understand why men would wanna switch gender. I think a generation of young men have grown up without a masculine influences because they were raised by single mothers and women are over-represented in education. As a result, lots of men grew up without strong masculine role models and turn to people like Andrew Tate to guide them. I think both boys and girls need the influence of two parents when growing up to be well adjusted (both a masculine and feminine influence). Lacking one (or the other) makes life more difficult. However, because …	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 06:28 PM
1	i can understand why men would wanna switch gender. I've been treated poorly online. My entire point wasn't that I haven't been treated poorly, it's that when I'm in the real world and I'm not actively looking for it I don't see it. Your state of mind is going to influence your perception. If I left the house thinking "I'm a white man everyone hates me I'm going to be discriminated against today" I would probably interpret every interaction differently and feel oppressed. Almost every complaint I read on this sub is about some ridiculous take onl…	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 06:15 PM
-21	A traffic researcher in Germany has called for men to be allowed to obtain a driver’s license only after the age of 26. So first, take a step back. This is data driven. I'm not saying I agree that men should not be allowed to drive, but it is actually a fact that men in that age group do cause more traffic fatalities. Does that mean we should restrict them from driving? Probably not, but maybe more education and awareness would help. Men are involved in 362% more fatal accidents than women (adjusted for number of licensed drivers). It's why men in that age group also pay more for insurance. Edit: Honestly my reac…	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 06:09 PM
1	i can understand why men would wanna switch gender. Outside of some silos online filled with ridiculous takes I've never had an issue being a man or feel like I was treated poorly because I was a white man. I have never had a desire to be a woman.	/r/MensRights	13/11/24 05:54 PM
10	"Your body my choice" 90% of the election cycle was shit most people could care less about. People just want to afford groceries and live.	/r/MensRights	12/11/24 05:53 PM
19	"Your body my choice" There were some dudes wearing shirts with it. Some guys with signs stating types of property and slaves / women were included. Some alt-right guys are saying it. It's dumb and less than 1% of an issue. But that is the culture we are in, we take super, super small things that less than 1% of people are saying and blow it up into a giant issue.	/r/MensRights	12/11/24 05:40 PM
2	I just wanted to spread some facts to this feminist, and them she said this (look at slide 2 and 3). When I’m asking her what made her said that, she didn’t reply to me. It's the internet, and more importantly it's X. Why would you expect any good discourse to come from it?	/r/MensRights	12/11/24 05:30 PM
-1	I think women on Reddit are complete garbage and do not represent reality as much as they like to make us think that’s the case Same with the men. We could just say "people on reddit are mostly radical left."	/r/MensRights	09/11/24 04:50 PM
3	So like.. are we ready to bring back a certain "go your own way" movement yet? Cause Reddit is left leaning and is OK with some open misandry (FDS eventually got the hook as well) but not misogyny.	/r/MensRights	08/11/24 11:43 PM
3	So like.. are we ready to bring back a certain "go your own way" movement yet? Why does there need to be a movement for it? Do what you want. Why do we need headlines?	/r/MensRights	08/11/24 11:06 PM
5	Why Does Reddit Allow Subs (the one with 15 Million women and others) That Promote Open Misandry? FDS eventually got crazy enough.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	08/11/24 07:51 PM
11	4 women have died since 2021 because of the abortion ban. By the lowest estimates (CDC refuses to track cases) circumcisions kill 10 boys a year. We need to stop allowing women to control the narrative. Mens rights are human rights. Yea, I didn't have my son or daughter circumcized. Not sure why this needs to be an either or situation when it's a both and. I don't expect women to be overly concerned with men's issues, and I don't expect men to be overly concerned with women's issues. Maybe we just protect everyone's bodily autonomy?	/r/MensRights	08/11/24 06:13 PM
84	"There hasn't been a draft in 56 years" -- Do they realize we'd like to keep it that way? In the interest of equality women should have to register too. I also totally understand them not being comfortable around men. So we can have all women combat brigades ready to send to the front lines.	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 02:12 AM
8	Seriously. Be Careful Fellas! Trust me, I'm aware. I had an ex try to accuse me of rape after I broke up with her, she continued to live with me (on the lease) for 3 months and refused to leave. The day she finally moved out she reported me to the police. I found out via social media, contacted the police. She tried to get me arrested, then posted on social media how she just "reported it" so if it happened again there was a record. She then continued to shit on me and my new GF on social media. Then a few years later when I…	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 01:27 AM
12	Seriously. Be Careful Fellas! Sure, but I'd rather not live my life in perpetual fear or victimhood.	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 01:12 AM
14	If there really was a Patriarchy, then why do we have these? Everyone wants to be a victim.	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 12:59 AM
10	Seriously. Be Careful Fellas! For me it's less about risk and more like.. I have two kids. My focus is on them and continuing to grow and focus on myself. I enjoy the peace and calm that is in my life. If I found a woman that added to my peace and calm I'd be all for it. But I'm not looking, and don't expect that.	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 12:29 AM
23	Seriously. Be Careful Fellas! Easy, I just don't have sex.	/r/MensRights	07/11/24 12:26 AM
15	Noticing a bit of a shift At some point Dems will have to reach across and bring men back into the fold. Marginalizing a group isn't going to work and most men don't want to marginalize women and most white men don't want to marginalize minorities. I don't know what the answers are, but they'll need to go back to the drawing board. This large of a landslide in both the EC and popular vote is a mandate for the Republican Party from the American people and it can't be ignored or brushed aside as racism and sexism.	/r/MensRights	06/11/24 04:49 PM
1	What happened to "we know it's not all men, we just don't know which ones?" Bodily autonomy is pretty high on the list when there is a national abortion ban scare. I think it's something that can be left up to states and I don't expect a national ban, however, Republicans now have control of the Executive, Legislative, and Judicial systems for 3 years.	/r/MensRights	06/11/24 03:04 PM
4	Pray for their husbands y'all I'd leave. Using their own logic I would view their with holding of intimacy as a form of punishment (especially for what people OUTSIDE the relationship did) as a form of abuse.	/r/MensRights	06/11/24 02:03 PM
32	Pray for their husbands y'all I'm confused. I thought the point of feminism was they didn't need men anymore?	/r/MensRights	06/11/24 01:40 PM
4	Men of Reddit, have you ever been shamed for expressing emotions such as sadness or coming out with your struggles? Yea. By other men and specifically my Dad.	/r/MensRights	05/11/24 06:03 PM
1	African man who died in the midst of being gang raped by his 6 wives. Pretty much, any time I feel an emotional reaction I take a moment to consider the source, examine it more thoroughly, and examine if I'm being manipulated.	/r/MensRights	05/11/24 12:08 PM
43	African man who died in the midst of being gang raped by his 6 wives. Because people have an ingrained automatic reaction that can be a double standard. My immediate automatic reaction was Death by Snu Snu, followed by "ah man that sucks." For me that's pretty much the same reaction if the genders were flipped. "That sucks for her" and then I move onto the next Reddit post. Because that is what the internet is. There are basically an infinite amount of things to be outraged about on a daily basis. Edit: Just want to add that if you are going to be upset whenever t…	/r/MensRights	04/11/24 01:59 PM