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Find an activity you like an host an event. best strategy for me so far, gather people and attract your type of women
/r/seduction29/05/26 07:08 PM
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happy to help
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:51 PM
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I wouldn’t build your next 6 months around the idea of getting her back. that’s the important part here. but yes, people absolutely can see someone differently later if the things that ended the relationship were genuinely changed and not just temporarily patched over. the key is whether those changes become part of your actual lifestyle instead of a performance to win her back. because from what you described, she didn’t leave because of one mistake or lack of chemistry. she left because she wa…
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:31 PM
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happy to help brother
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:29 PM
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yes sir
/r/seduction28/05/26 08:28 PM
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valid as well, we have different styles, all good!
/r/seduction28/05/26 05:13 PM
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two weeks is still very early, so it makes sense that the intensity is starting to scare you a bit. when you’re seeing someone constantly, sleeping together, having great sex, and both of you are saying lovey stuff, it can feel like the relationship is moving faster than your actual foundation. that doesn’t mean it’s bad. it just means you’re noticing the pace before it turns into something unstable. I wouldn’t “pull back” in a cold or strategic way. that can create confusion. she may feel the s…
/r/seduction28/05/26 05:07 PM
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being a pilot can make dating easier in some ways and harder in others. the obvious upside is that the lifestyle sounds attractive. travel, confidence, interesting stories, good career path, different cities, new people. that can definitely give you an edge socially. but the hard part is consistency. if you’re always moving, tired, on strange schedules, or only in a city for a short time, it becomes harder to build anything serious unless the woman is okay with that lifestyle. casual dating whil…
/r/seduction28/05/26 05:04 PM
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this sounds like someone who liked you, enjoyed the chemistry, but started asking herself whether your lifestyle actually fits what she wants long term. that can happen, especially in the late twenties. people can have great sex, good dates, lots of texting, and still decide the day to day habits don’t line up. it doesn’t always mean the attraction was fake or that she was rationalizing everything after the fact. the routine, spending, fitness, and weekend lifestyle stuff are not small things fo…
/r/seduction28/05/26 05:01 PM
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this is a solid reminder that cold approach works best when it’s part of a bigger life reset, not just some random trick to get girls. the biggest thing I like here is that you didn’t only focus on women. you changed your body, changed your environment, changed your habits, got out of the same dead routine, and started forcing real conversations instead of hiding behind apps. that’s why the dating results probably started changing. the approaches were part of it, but the deeper shift was that yo…
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:59 PM
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I get wanting to protect your time, but the way this is framed is going to create more bitterness than better dates. Being late is disrespectful when it becomes a pattern. That part is fair. Nobody wants to sit around for 40 minutes wondering if the other person even values their time. But the “women have the worst time management skills” angle is where this goes off. Some people are bad with time. Some women are late, some men are late, some people are flaky, some people are respectful. If you …
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:50 PM
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happy to help brother
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:45 PM
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Four dates over a month is enough time to feel potential, but it’s still early enough that someone can enjoy you and still decide the long-term fit isn’t there. From what she said, I’d take it as a real but disappointing mismatch. She didn’t say there was no chemistry. She actually said the opposite. She liked spending time with you, there was physical attraction, and things were moving. But her gut was telling her something about compatibility wasn’t lining up. That’s frustrating because it lea…
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:44 PM
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You’re trying to get back in the game, but your current setup is making it harder than it needs to be. Work is draining, your commute is long, you cut off your drinking friends, you’re not happy with your body, and your social skills feel rusty. So if you try to jump straight into approaching women at the gym, grocery store, or outside, every interaction is going to feel like a big test. I’d start by rebuilding your social rhythm first. You don’t need a huge friend group, but you do need to be a…
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:42 PM
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If you’re looking for a long term relationship, then yeah, you probably need to stop letting “easy wins” set your direction. Having fun is fine. Getting reps is useful. Sometimes going for women outside your usual type can teach you a lot about yourself. But if you already know these girls are not close to what you actually want, then at some point you’re just using momentum to avoid boredom or rejection. That can become a trap. Because the low hanging fruit gives you quick validation. You get t…
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:41 PM
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No, they’re not all taken. It just feels that way because the women you’re describing usually don’t stay visibly “available” for long. A cute, stable, relationship-minded girl in her mid or late twenties will often have options. If she’s attractive, emotionally healthy, social, and actually wants commitment, men are going to notice her. So yeah, a lot of them will be in relationships at any given time. But that doesn’t mean the good ones are gone. It means you have to stop thinking of them like …
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:40 PM
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8 is super important. I would add: smell good and wear a good perfume keep the conversation playful and fun. I would disagree with the 9 and 10 spot, keeping myself more mysterious works better in my perspective
/r/seduction28/05/26 04:37 PM
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this actually makes a lot of sense when you look at how you were raised. You were basically taught that normal conversation was unsafe. Asking deeper questions got framed as being nosy. Teasing got punished. Having emotional space got replaced with managing someone else’s feelings. So now, as an adult, you’re trying to do something that most people learned slowly over years, but your nervous system still treats it like you’re doing something wrong. That doesn’t sound pathetic. It sounds like con…
/r/seduction23/05/26 06:23 PM
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They are patterns. A girl looking at you once might mean nothing. A girl repeatedly looking, smiling, staying close, asking questions, touching you, and making it easy for the conversation to continue means something very different. The strongest signs are usually the ones that show investment. For example, she does not just answer you, she asks about you. She does not just laugh politely, she keeps the conversation alive. She does not just stand there, she positions herself near you. She does n…
/r/seduction23/05/26 06:09 PM
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happy to help
/r/seduction19/05/26 09:38 PM
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A one day festival is usually not about “meet her and stay glued together for 8 hours.” It is more about creating a fun moment, seeing if the vibe is mutual, and then either reconnecting later in the festival or exchanging contact to meet another time. The setting actually helps you in some ways. People are already in a good mood, there is an obvious shared topic, and the energy is more open than a random street approach. The mistake is treating it like a nightclub where the whole interaction ha…
/r/seduction18/05/26 01:00 PM
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happy to help
/r/seduction17/05/26 10:27 AM
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The main problem is not the opener. It is the angle. When people are packed at the bar, facing forward, and focused on ordering drinks, coming from directly behind or tapping a shoulder can feel abrupt. You are entering their space before they have even seen you, so the interaction starts with surprise instead of comfort. In that setting, I would not force it. The better move is to wait for a more natural opening: when one of them turns slightly, steps back, glances around, or the group begins t…
/r/seduction16/05/26 07:05 PM
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we spent 4 months together, it was perfect, now I'm dating multiple girls, she went back to her country
/r/seduction16/05/26 04:31 PM
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my mentor changed my life, dating dynamics are way more than just be a good person
/r/seduction16/05/26 04:22 PM
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nice
/r/seduction16/05/26 03:57 PM
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sure thing, for any man is a must
/r/seduction16/05/26 02:33 PM
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typical virgin incel comment
/r/seduction16/05/26 01:55 PM
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no plastic surgery, I learned game and social dynamics, I spend 4 month with that girl, I invested in a dating coach, it's works
/r/seduction16/05/26 10:20 AM
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Learning game
/r/seduction16/05/26 12:53 AM
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Wow what happened at the end?
/r/seduction16/05/26 12:53 AM
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good share
/r/seduction15/05/26 07:02 PM
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fair enough
/r/seduction15/05/26 06:44 PM
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nice share
/r/seduction15/05/26 06:44 PM
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just fixed it thanks
/r/seduction15/05/26 06:44 PM
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What happened is not that depression made you attractive. It sounds more like depression removed your need for approval. Before, you wanted her, so you were probably more aware of yourself, more reactive to her interest, and more concerned with how you came across. Once you mentally gave up on “getting” anything from her, your energy became much less needy. You dressed how you wanted, stopped chasing attention, and were not trying to win anyone over. That can read as calm, self-contained, and ha…
/r/seduction15/05/26 11:08 AM
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A lot of men eventually hit this point. At first, game can feel exciting because it gives you freedom, proof, and experiences you did not have before. But after enough hookups, the reward can start feeling smaller while the process starts feeling more tiring. The logistics. The texting. The timing. The performance. The constant “how do I move this forward?” At some point, you may realize you do not actually want more random sex. You want depth, peace, and a woman you genuinely enjoy building wit…
/r/seduction15/05/26 10:32 AM
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When a woman says she likes mental stimulation, she usually means she is drawn to the way a man thinks, speaks, and makes conversation feel alive. On a dinner date, that does not mean trying to sound intellectual or turning it into a debate. It means creating a conversation that has depth, personality, and a little spark. She is likely looking for things like: interesting opinions, good storytelling, playful back-and-forth, curiosity that goes beyond basic interview questions, and the feeling th…
/r/seduction15/05/26 10:29 AM
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Are you carrying this much pain? This does not sound like a simple “just approach more” problem. Maybe you're dealing with loneliness, repeated rejection, severe ADHD, anxiety in the moment, and a lot of built-up frustration. When all of that stacks together, approaching women stops feeling like a social skill and starts feeling like walking into another emotional beating. That is why “just get more reps” has not helped much. Reps matter, but only when your brain is calm enough to learn from the…
/r/seduction14/05/26 11:24 PM
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happy to help
/r/seduction14/05/26 10:44 PM
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It might be that real problem is not that you do not know what to say. It is that you are waiting for the fear to disappear before you move. In that moment, your mind started trying to protect you: “What if I seem weird?” “What if I make her uncomfortable?” “What if this gets awkward?” Those thoughts feel important, but they are usually just hesitation dressed up as caution. The setting you described was actually fairly natural. You had seen each other twice, made eye contact twice, and ended up…
/r/seduction14/05/26 11:30 AM
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Happy to help
/r/seduction14/05/26 07:05 AM
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This is not a curse. It is a skill gap. You are getting the hard part for free: women are already showing interest and creating openings. Your problem is that when the moment arrives, your brain overloads and you freeze instead of responding. That usually happens when a man thinks he needs to suddenly become smooth, witty, or perfectly flirty on demand. Then every second feels high stakes, and he says nothing. But when a girl is hovering, staying close, looking for eye contact, smiling, or creat…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:30 PM
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If she is clearly in a rush, I usually would not chase or try to force a full conversation. That kind of approach often feels awkward because the timing is bad from the start. She is already focused on getting somewhere, checking out, finding an item, or leaving. So even a decent opener can land poorly. The better skill is learning to read whether there is actually a moment available. If she is walking fast, avoiding eye contact, on the phone, or moving with purpose, let it go. If there is a nat…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:29 PM
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You are not wrong for creating distance. You told her how you felt. She said she wants friendship. You also told her that staying close in the same way does not work for you. That is a fair boundary. The part that makes this hard is that she still wants the friendship to stay normal, while your feelings make “normal” painful right now. So when she reaches out, you are torn between being polite and protecting yourself. That is not you being cruel. That is you trying not to keep reopening the woun…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:28 PM
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happy to help
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:02 PM
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Yes, cold approach can help a lot with warm approach, but not because it is always the best way to meet women. It helps because it trains the exact part you are struggling with: making a move when you feel attraction and there is still uncertainty. In warm environments, you already have more going for you. She can see your personality, your reputation, your social proof, your skill, and how others respond to you. That absolutely can make attraction build more naturally than a random street appro…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:12 AM
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You sound like someone who has learned to measure himself by output: work harder, achieve more, get ahead, stay disciplined. That mindset can build a strong life, but it does not automatically create inner calm. Confidence is not just knowing you are attractive, fit, smart, or ambitious. It is feeling at ease in your own skin even when you are not proving anything. That may be the part you missed. You spent much of your teen years working and carrying responsibility. While other people were expe…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:11 AM
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This is a real win, nicely done. Not because you got a number or a date, but because you did the part that actually builds the skill: you opened anyway. A lot of people judge a session only by the outcome. That is a mistake. Early on, the biggest success is teaching your brain, “I can feel fear and still act.” You set a goal, exceeded it, and stayed in enough interactions to learn from them. That is solid progress. The first conversation is especially important. She stopped, laughed, asked why y…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:10 AM
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I’m glad you said those darkest thoughts have passed. That part matters. What I hear in your post is not just dating frustration. It is years of disappointment turning into bitterness, and now that bitterness is starting to shape how you see women, your country, yourself, and your future. That is dangerous, because resentment feels like protection, but it slowly poisons the person carrying it. It makes every couple feel like an insult. Every rejection feel like proof. Every woman feel like part …
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:08 AM
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You have a story in your head that shuts things down before they can begin. You can approach. You can talk. You can get numbers. That already tells me your social skills are not the main issue. The block shows up at the moment where you would need to believe, even slightly, that she could be interested back. So your mind protects you with thoughts like: “She would never date me.” “She is just being nice.” “There is no point asking.” Those thoughts feel like facts, but they are really fear trying…
/r/seduction13/05/26 11:07 AM
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You have already solved the looks problem. What is left is the identity problem. Part of you still reacts like the younger version of yourself who assumed women would not want him. So even when you get signs now, your mind does not treat them like an opening. It treats them like validation from a safe distance. That is why glances feel good, but action feels scary. As long as you only receive attention and never act on it, you get the ego boost without risking rejection. The problem is that this…
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:58 AM
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What you are describing sounds more like your body has learned to treat intimacy as a threat, even though part of you deeply wants it. That creates a painful split: high desire in your mind, but fear and shutdown when real closeness becomes possible. That is why porn can feel easier. It gives sexual release without pressure, uncertainty, touch, performance fears, or vulnerability. It fills the gap for a moment, but it does not resolve the fear underneath. I would be very careful with the idea of…
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:54 AM
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Four “no romantic connection” messages in a short stretch can mess with your head, especially after you were getting better results not long ago. But I would be careful about turning this into, “I lost it” or “something is wrong with me.” What may be happening is simpler: you are getting dates, but the dates are landing as pleasant rather than emotionally or romantically distinct. That can still include good conversation, drinks, and even making out. A kiss does not always mean she felt enough d…
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:52 AM
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In the moment, it can feel like her friend is saying, “You’re a problem,” even when you were just having a normal conversation. But most of the time, this is not about you being ugly, creepy, or low value. In nightlife especially, friends often run a loose “buddy system.” They check in, pull each other away, or interrupt conversations for reasons that have nothing to do with the guy. Sometimes the friend is protective. Sometimes she is bored. Sometimes she wants her friend back. Sometimes the wo…
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:50 AM
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A lot of men confuse “the date went well” with “sexual tension was strong enough to lead to sex.” Those are not always the same thing. You can have good conversation, flirting, kissing, and still be creating more of a safe dating vibe than a strongly sexual one. That does not mean you are doing terribly. It just means the interaction may be moving toward “I like him” more than “I want him now.” At the same time, yes, the type of women you date matters a lot. Some women are naturally more open to…
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:41 AM
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I tried to find yours socials but they are outdated as well, also not ig, I have a message for you
/r/seduction10/05/26 01:01 PM
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share you ig brother
/r/seduction10/05/26 12:47 PM
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great share brother, I would love to connect with you, you have instagram? here mine
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:50 AM
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so stop doing game? I'm a dating coach so I teach this to men, I don't know how to think about it
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:47 AM
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thanks for sharing my man, i feel i cannot stop gaming because I work as a dating coach, so inside of my mind there's a real conflict
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:45 AM
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thanks for sharing brother
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:43 AM
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great share brother, I would love to connect with you, you use instagram? here my instagram
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:42 AM
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I agree as well, I feel macedonian culture more similar to albania than serbian. In albania was the same hard time, it's like they don't mix with foreigners, they don't trust strangers, you have to work and carry the interaction way too much to get something
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:47 PM
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I agree, but when the girls liked you she makes everything easy for you, I had great experience in Serbia, right now in north macedonia is super hard, insane
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:42 PM
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Love US girls, so many and so diverse, quite fun to hang out, there are good girls still for sure
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:23 PM
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I love australians, just met a few
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:22 PM
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I love eastern europe, as a latin I got the shock factor
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:22 PM
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got it my man, I'm quite short and latin brunet.
/r/seduction08/05/26 11:20 PM
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Germany was easy for me, but I don't like german girls in general now, super boring and lame people in general, so korea and japan was easy?
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:56 PM
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uff interesting, I did meet a few iranian women but in europe
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:33 PM
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nah, you just need practice
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:33 PM
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thanks my man
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:33 PM
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ufff afghanistan is impossible
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:33 PM
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yes super hard for sure I think
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:32 PM
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uffff pakistan, also I don't think there are a lot of attractive women there
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:32 PM
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Didn't understand
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:31 PM
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France is pretty easy in my opinion, I do speak basic french but french people just liked me
/r/seduction08/05/26 09:31 PM
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I think every real man needs to know how to cold approach, if not, you're just a coward being dishonest pretending you don't want to talk to a beautiful lady, just a coping mechanism
/r/seduction08/05/26 08:35 PM
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nope
/r/seduction28/03/26 06:29 PM
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Nonsense comment to me
/r/seduction25/02/26 05:34 PM
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No I'm not planning to go back, she's not my type and never considered something long term with her, it's just than I don't like to hurt people, she's sweet and a good girl, I did my best, this is just inevitable.
/r/seduction24/02/26 11:15 PM
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social skills are a must, where did you find your therapy for confidence issues? public speaking is very good as well
/r/seduction17/02/26 10:08 AM
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Strongly disagree
/r/seduction13/02/26 11:30 PM
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why you think is that?
/r/seduction13/02/26 01:44 AM
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interesting perspective
/r/seduction07/02/26 05:49 PM
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super comment brother thanks for sharing this, can I dm you?
/r/seduction07/02/26 05:35 PM
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preach brother great comment, can I dm you?
/r/seduction07/02/26 04:56 PM
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you are the man bro!
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:39 AM
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states is huge! I was in florida, texas and california
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:38 AM
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nice my man thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:38 AM
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that's exactly why I'm asking, you don't know anything about me or people traveling to assume things, share positivity and stop criticize everything on internet, jesuschrist
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:38 AM
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Great post my man, don't listen the loosers, great insights and also unique approach yours, keep sharing stuff, have a great day
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:34 AM
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whispering is always a good one
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:25 AM
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nice one man, I don't know the 3 animals one, I also agree about holding her hand, where are you located?
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:24 AM
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nice one, how you find them? share your perspective
/r/seduction07/02/26 02:23 AM
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congrats brother I'm happy for you, we attract what we are, hopefully some dating and relationship content I do might be helpful for you, I helped similar men like you
/r/seduction27/01/26 01:03 AM
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interesting perspective brother! you do content about it? would like to learn more
/r/seduction27/01/26 01:02 AM
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what is that? can you share it to me?
/r/seduction24/01/26 12:06 AM
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bite and love the pain, pain is what reshape your character, pain is not bad, is a friend. Not taking action and being stuck in your head is the real devil. Also support from a brotherhood would be ideal.
/r/seduction15/08/25 03:56 PM
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''great advice'' here
/r/seduction18/05/25 05:52 PM
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innergame is everything I agree
/r/seduction18/05/25 05:50 PM
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for average men could sounds high effort, for men who knows social skills is just the standard
/r/seduction18/05/25 05:44 PM
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