A girl completely changed the way I saw dating a few years ago.

I was seeing this Lithuanian girl for a while and I remember constantly feeling confused around her. Not in a toxic way, more like… she clearly understood social dynamics and attraction way better than I did.

At the time I thought dating was mostly about being genuine, communicating clearly and showing interest when you liked someone.

But with her, I started noticing that attraction wasn’t that simple.

Sometimes we’d have an amazing night together and then the next day the energy over text would feel completely different. I’d overthink small things constantly and had no idea why certain interactions pulled her closer while others seemed to kill the vibe.

Eventually I talked with a friend about it out of pure frustration and he introduced me to a completely different perspective on dating, attraction and male/female dynamics.

That was honestly the beginning of me getting into self-development, books, coaching, psychology, all of it.

I didn't want to miss the opportunity with that girl so I invested into coaching, and get around with guys who knew way more about me about the dynamics of dating and how to communicate properly, I hired my dating mentor

I didn't want free youtube videos, or just general advice, I wanted to invest money to stop waisting my time and don't get more frustrated.

Looking back now, I think a lot of men stay stuck because nobody actually teaches you this stuff growing up. You just figure it out through pain, rejection and confusion.

Curious if anyone else had a specific person or experience that completely changed the way they approached dating.