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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction04/05/26 10:06 AM
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Inner Game Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction09/04/26 09:26 AM
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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction09/03/26 10:12 AM
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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction17/03/26 08:53 AM
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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction05/03/26 12:48 PM
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Field ReportTerrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction13/03/26 10:01 AM
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ConversationTerrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction12/03/26 08:57 AM
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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction08/06/26 08:06 AM
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Inner Game Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction12/05/26 01:42 PM
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Fundamentals Terrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction11/03/26 01:03 PM
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LifestyleTerrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction02/06/26 07:42 AM
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Field ReportTerrible_Assist_1345/r/seduction27/03/26 08:24 AM
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Game is the ability to pull women. To do that there are a lot of different building blocks. One of the most important blocks is innergame.
/r/seduction08/07/26 03:02 PM
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I think most of the aspects here come down to neediness. When you're agreeig with her to gain approval, she will recognise the behalvior and it will kill the attractiveness. Whenever you like something or do something you normally would do ofcourse you can agree and do it. The difference in where the behalvior comes from.
/r/seduction02/07/26 10:00 PM
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Yeah exactly. I know, they all work the same. I am convinced that i had to learn this lesson so I am happy i have this experience now, How did he handle it?
/r/seduction21/06/26 09:29 PM
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The difference is in the reason you ask questions. Whenever you're genuinly curious about her and what she is telling you, she will feel the difference.
/r/seduction16/06/26 09:47 PM
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There is a phenomena called Pre-selection. According to pre-selection women will assume you're high value when she sees other girls falling for you. I think this can be the way to get her to chase you.
/r/seduction12/06/26 09:30 AM
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Okay, That is good because then it's easily fixable. Because there is actually no problem now. Only in your head 😄. Don't worry about it. Even IF it happens just make her cum too and it'll be fine.
/r/seduction11/06/26 01:44 PM
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Is this something that happened or something you're afraid will happen?
/r/seduction11/06/26 01:39 PM
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More context
/r/seduction11/06/26 01:35 PM
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You did not fix the problem inside you. You are confident about your skills because you've proven to yourself they work and you can succesfully use them. But inside you're not confident. You fill the void inside yourself with girls. So you have to fully accept yourself without the skills and girls and that is hard because you're not used to it. But probably when you fix this you don't need the girls anymore to feel happy and then your love for your girlfriend will be way more valuable because it…
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:35 AM
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Yeah recognising is the biggest part. By being non-responsive you neither pass or fail any test because she's trying to get you to react and if you don't get reactive it's a good way to pass. But it's clear she's trying to take a position in this frame and you can maybe make fun of that by saying something like: I thought you might've wanted a chance with me. Good ways to pass a shit test are exaggerating or don't take it serious. When she realises you're not serious she feels like she misinterp…
/r/seduction11/06/26 08:41 AM
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It's a shit test. You need to respond in your own words and own thoughts. Just make shure it's confident and funny.
/r/seduction11/06/26 07:33 AM
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True, but I'm talking about the stages before endgame.
/r/seduction09/06/26 12:49 PM
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Women don't want to be perceived as perverts but they can be. Did you ever think of the possobility that maybe you just never made them aroused enough with you to be a pervert for you?
/r/seduction09/06/26 10:20 AM
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I think the key here is to develop a positive mindset. A positive mindset will always imply positivity and not negativity. This will do both. For example: You can go to the gym to get rid of your unhealthy body. Or, you can go to the gym to become and or stay fit. The first is far more negative and that has impact on your subcontious mind. Also the positive one does. I can tell you (from experience) you will be far more happy with a positive mindset. exactly, accept the things you can't change a…
/r/seduction09/06/26 08:27 AM
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No problem. We all have stuff we can work on don't we? 😉
/r/seduction09/06/26 07:22 AM
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In this system I am talking about, there is actually a women's side. Everything that says you should act high value and high class. Throw it away. Don't act like that. It gives off the wrong signs to the men you probably want to be with. Your job is to be open to be approached. How do you do that? Have positive eye contact. What is positive eye contact? Positive eye contact is eye contact where your eyes look smiling. Now it's the man's job to approach you. After that the stages will come natura…
/r/seduction09/06/26 07:11 AM
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The key to confidence is to 100% accept who you are. Also the parts of you you're insecure about. Because you are yourself and it's okay to 100% be you. It doens't matter what you think or do. Embracing yourself 100% leads to confidence 10/10. It may just take some time, but that it okay.
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:56 AM
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It's very dependent of maybe inside jokes or something. But in general, No.
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:47 AM
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I'm talking about a system here. My point is, a lot of guys fuck it up by following their own system while she is giving the signs of what to actually do in the maintime.
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:32 AM
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I want people to engage. I know the people who will act on this insight will find what i'm talking about. The stuff I am talking about here is not meant for everybody to find. That is why I did not mention the stages. The purpose is to help the people who really struggle with it.
/r/seduction08/06/26 08:30 AM
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This was your cue to atleast come and talk.
/r/seduction08/06/26 07:53 AM
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Anything is better then nothing brother. Keep up the good work and take back the control over your life.
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:24 PM
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If you're tired do something about it. You are the only one who can change you. If you're fat, take action and go to the gym. If you want to become more social see what you can do to improve. Try things. Go practice in the real world. Take action and responsibility. The only thing standing between you and your goals is your thoughts and actions.
/r/seduction04/06/26 01:17 PM
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Now it's on her to reschedule. If she doesn't go to the next.
/r/seduction04/06/26 09:41 AM
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Give her a second chance, if she does cancle again go to the next.
/r/seduction04/06/26 09:01 AM
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I think when they doubt if you're gay it lowers the resistance wich is good.
/r/seduction04/06/26 08:00 AM
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No problem let me explain. For seduction we have stages. We have to pass the stages to have a bigger chance of succes. If you want to understand this better read mystery method. I think you did not pass all stages wich is crucial for seduction so it's hard to tell what is the next step. If you did not pass attraction stage you're probably in the friendzone.
/r/seduction03/06/26 10:30 AM
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Did you pass all stages of seduction? (attraction - comfort - endgame)?
/r/seduction03/06/26 08:14 AM
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I know. You should do this in personal time.
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:44 AM
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Don't. Just accept it and be confident about it. Great things take time to make 😉
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:20 AM
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You have to build up the touch and intimacy. Not just go for it because she will refuse big jumps.
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:18 AM
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I think so too. Thanks!
/r/seduction03/06/26 07:16 AM
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You did a great job!
/r/seduction02/06/26 11:19 AM
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If she pulls away or resists don't push or make her feel like she sould do it because she gave other signals. Give her the space she needs to get comfortable. As you said, she's shy and shy people don't like big steps.
/r/seduction02/06/26 10:25 AM
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Thank you. Maybe it is as easy as that. I think I have to expose myself to it and relax. Feel what I feel. If I feel resistance accept the feeling and let it be there but still act on my feeling and not go with the trauma.
/r/seduction02/06/26 10:22 AM
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Thanks. I think indeed that is the right way to handle this.
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:39 AM
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So, as a psychology interested person, What do you think my next step should be to let go? 🤔
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:25 AM
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Thank you man! I will not be reliving this lol. After this my standards raised. I prefer being alone over a controlling toxic relationship again.
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:17 AM
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I maybe was thinking about hypnotherapy. I think it might be a great way to fix this. We'll see.
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:08 AM
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I know. It's my subcontious mind saying to me: Not again. But how do I let go? Do I still do it and find out the other side? Or do I listen to it and fix it in another way?
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:05 AM
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Just to be clear: I'm not depressed or anything. In fact, I feel great! I'm focused on growing and developing as a person, not fixing myself, lol. I have a good social life, hobbies I enjoy, and plenty of interests. I'm definitely not depressed right now 😄. I just think the next step for me is to let go of this mental block.
/r/seduction02/06/26 08:02 AM
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Yeah, it was a tough time for me. But it also taught me a lot. Now it's time for me to let it go and move on, both consciously and unconsciously. I've always been more interested in psychology and personal development than the average teenager. (I also play guitar, by the way 😄)
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:59 AM
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Thank you for that. I don't contiously blame "relationships". I feel resistance whenever I try to get closer to someone and that tells me there is something inside my head resisting it. I most certainly learned from it.
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:53 AM
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It's a pre opener. A pre opener is some sign that you're accepted to come closer and start a conversation. Think of: Smile, wink, wave. Subcontiously we all do sign to other people to let them know we are not going to attack them and we are trustworthy. It's a primal drive.
/r/seduction02/06/26 07:20 AM
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Just trying to make clear what i mean by using these words. You demonstrate something with every action you do. It's basic seduction knowledge. It's better to be aware of it.
/r/seduction01/06/26 09:17 PM
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I'd rather say he is a succesfull risk taker instead of a Bad boy according to your reason. Bad buy by itself is not a DHV. Most bad guys have DHV's like being non needy, taking risks, being a leader of men, that kind of stuff.
/r/seduction01/06/26 08:49 AM
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You don't have to be smooth. You have to be true. It's not about what you say but the delivery behind it.
/r/seduction29/05/26 11:12 AM
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Good. Moving out is not a must though. Take your time to work on yourself. Work on your physique. Work on your social skills.
/r/seduction28/05/26 11:26 AM
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What do you think your 1st step should be?
/r/seduction28/05/26 11:22 AM
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In general i'd say no. I think Game is based on first solving your problems wich indeed can be overthinking, but it can be other stuff too. It can be combinations, it can be anything. After solving your problems it's more based on skills and stuff you can learn. First innergame after that outergame.
/r/seduction28/05/26 07:11 AM
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I think you did a good job. What is exactly your goal in approaching?
/r/seduction27/05/26 09:01 AM
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Not sure yet, Maybe if you give an example i can help you identify the problem?
/r/seduction26/05/26 11:06 AM
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I think it's a great concept! The only problem is, people don't want to be stuck to a subscription before getting results. I suggest you maybe put in a free trial? This will also create trust for customers because they can try and you can prove to them it works.
/r/seduction26/05/26 10:46 AM
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Is this only with girls? Is this only with girls you like? Would you describe yourself as a unconfident person?
/r/seduction26/05/26 10:32 AM
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I see. That must've been traumatic for you. I think it's brave you recognise what your parents learned you by their behalvior and that you want to step out of your comfortzone and grow. In order to state you never had a real conversation there must be a belief of what a real conversation looks like since you state you never had one. So what is a "real conversation" in your eyes?
/r/seduction22/05/26 01:21 PM
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Good to hear! I hope it helps.
/r/seduction21/05/26 07:13 AM
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They don't know the difference between attraction and looks.
/r/seduction19/05/26 01:05 PM
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Most people think it's about "not giving a shit". I like to look at it from a different angle. I think it's about accepting yourself and who you are as much as possible. Don't strive to be anything you're not. If you're not really talkative accept it. You don't need to be talking much. The problem is you want to become something you're not. confidence is build up acceptence.
/r/seduction19/05/26 11:18 AM
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Attraction is not something you can measure. depends very much on both persons, their appearence, their preferances, their self esteem, their mood at the moment, their past. You see? It depends on so many factors, but you can maximise the factors you have influence on such as self esteem, confidence, appearence, your mood.
/r/seduction18/05/26 09:51 AM
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I think there is a difference between shy and unconfident.
/r/seduction18/05/26 09:48 AM
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I answered the question you guys asked
/r/seduction17/05/26 07:59 PM
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Well it was a process for me where i wanted to find out what was wrong with me really bad. I begged her to tell me what was wrong with me. I started my journey at the seduction community by reading the game by neill strauss. I started following a datingcoach from my coutry. He is not really about techniques but more about developing yourself to become attractive. By digging deeper i found the keys that will lead me to succes. What I learned there is that I was a niceguy. Neediness was installed …
/r/seduction17/05/26 07:58 PM
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I had a girlfriend sometime ago. I was a nice guy. There were some situations going on with her and her ex who was jealours at me. I ofcourse set no boundaries for her in that situation. Eventually she broke up with me. When i asked her why she couldn't specify to me what was the reason. This made me rethink mostly my own situation and my way of acting in a relationship.
/r/seduction15/05/26 07:30 PM
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Exactly, you're right! When things happen we get back in our heads and try to give it a reason. Sometimes you can't know what the reason is. Most of the time it is unrelated to you but you link it to other negative situations from the past and get into fight flight.
/r/seduction14/05/26 04:07 PM
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You can actually look at this as a shit test. If the friend already is there always give her some attention by asking her name and maybe shake her hand too. If she spawns just don't get reactive when she tries to take her friend away from you.
/r/seduction13/05/26 10:45 AM
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Just accept. There is nothing wrong with not being an outgoing person and not flirting. If you'd like to see a change you can, but don't do it because you think you have to.
/r/seduction13/05/26 07:54 AM
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I think you're thinking too much about the outcome. Being depressed is really not going to bring you anything so you can stop being depressed right now. You probably give out needy vibes and that is why they leave. so stop being outcome dependent.
/r/seduction13/05/26 07:52 AM
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Exacty, so you make assumptions. But believe me, You are attractive but you need to develop the skills and mindset to get the results.
/r/seduction13/05/26 07:45 AM
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Thanks! I just see so many people asking what is wrong with them and i believe accepptance is the hidden key to growth.
/r/seduction12/05/26 10:01 PM
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You can make use of open loops. Open loops is a conversation strategy where you start talking about a subject, and suddenly start talking about something related to the first topic. talk about that for a while and you can start a new open loop or go back to the main topic. Also you can use echo technique. It is powerfull. You repeat words she said in the form of a question. This will make her talk more about it. Also it will give her the feeling there is no one who understands her better then yo…
/r/seduction12/05/26 01:52 PM
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I think you have fallen in the vicious circle. You have no positive experiences wich boost confidence so you're afraid of asking. But if we dig it deeper, What are you afraid of? Rejection? Or is it the friendship you also might lose when you get rejected? Also i'm curious, If you say to yourself: "Oh they do not like me like that", There must be a "why" right? Why do you think women don't want to go out with you?
/r/seduction12/05/26 11:34 AM
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you can act and it'll change overtime.
/r/seduction12/05/26 09:26 AM
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She's also just a human just like you are with feelings and thoughts. Not some supernatural creature.
/r/seduction12/05/26 08:06 AM
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If she keeps eye contact it'usually means come up to me.
/r/seduction12/05/26 07:28 AM
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I'd like to note that this is a process and it doesn't get fixed within 5 minutes. It may take some time to fix your shit and that is okay.
/r/seduction11/05/26 10:10 AM
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I want to challenge you to think about this: How do you know it's ego and not anxiety?
/r/seduction09/05/26 11:47 PM
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Explain to me why leading gets you poisoned? Because as far as I know it is one of the best personality traits to have for seduction.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:20 AM
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That doesn't have to do anything with this. That is another part of the game.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:19 AM
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Why?
/r/seduction07/05/26 09:24 PM
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I think it’s the other way around. They decide whether or not they want to sleep with you. That doesn’t mean that if you say something silly, you have no chance anymore. It’s more likely that a girl decides she doesn’t want to sleep with you than that she does.
/r/seduction07/05/26 11:33 AM
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All masculine have a one trait in common. It's not hard to do. The only thing you have to do is: lead.
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:55 AM
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You know that is not true.
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:41 AM
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I know. I wanted this post to reach as many people as possible. I'm sorry to break it to you but it was clickbait ;)
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:41 AM
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I understand, but don't you think your potential results will be much better when you're not acting. You will be way more satisfied when you are getting results while being yourself. Creating an act/mask is not the remedy for unattractiveness. The opposite. It will bring you further away from the goals you're searching for.
/r/seduction06/05/26 09:39 AM
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Sounds like you completely missed the essence of this game. It is not about creating a act. The core of this is becoming attractive and succesfull by being yourself and develop yourself. You have to be authentical and not acting.
/r/seduction06/05/26 09:31 AM
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I'm happy to hear it worked so well for you! Most of us know what is the problem but are afraid of confronting it, including me. But i believe not all problems will be solved within a span of time. They come one at a time and I believe we have to accept that truth. Just take your time to fix problems at their root. Otherwise they will come back. There is no shortcut, only hardwork!
/r/seduction05/05/26 11:30 AM
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Can you tell me more about where it comes from? 9/10 situations anxiety once was a coping mechanism that kept you safe. Now it's holding you back. When you understand your behalvior you can recognise when you do it. When you recognise you can zoom out and ask yourself: "Why am I doing this right now?" Also you can do the opposite of what feels comfortable in that situation and grow. I can maybe help you with that.
/r/seduction05/05/26 09:18 AM
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As long as you give honest answers it will work.
/r/seduction05/05/26 08:54 AM
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Do you enjoy to approach? You have to feel excited and happy. Light yourself up with happiness. If you get into that vibe people will feel it. You have to create the feeling from within. Having a good confident posture is really important for this. Take something in mind that makes you feel happy. Something you achieved or did or anything else. Practice this.
/r/seduction05/05/26 08:10 AM
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Trying to develop yourself is never a waste of time.
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:17 AM
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You have to know where it comes from. These behalviors probably once were usefull for you and it kept you safe. Now they hold you back. Do you have any idea where these behalviors started?
/r/seduction05/05/26 07:14 AM
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All I'm saying is that AI can be a good tool to get to the root.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:51 PM
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I think this is interesting, but it's not personal. AI will never be human. You can use it as a tool though.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:49 PM
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Maybe i should've lol.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:43 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:38 PM
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I don't agree with that. The problems will reveal but not the root.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:37 PM
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I'm not trying to convince you.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:28 PM
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I'm not here to convince you. If you've figured it all out you don't need this.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:26 PM
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Why would i post if it didn't improve?
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:23 PM
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I know and i did. to give you insight of my process. I started with what i thought was the root. chat analysed it and came with some conclusions. That made me think and i came across other situations that created my behalvior. I don't use it as my therapist. I use it as a tool to get new insights. I agree with you in some way. You have to try to figure it out yourelf first but still chat can help you very good. I'm not here to convince you. You are free to try or not.
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:21 PM
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I think you're right in that. LLM's are very intelligent but not human. They understand and recognise behalvior because someone told them it works that way and not because they really understand you. Because LLM's don't have emotion they can give a better insight in your behalvior i think. But it can be tricky indeed. That is why i kept the framework of 10 questions and a reframe in it. To minimize the misunderstanding
/r/seduction04/05/26 01:17 PM
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I think your wrong. Most people have no idea what to tell you when you tell them you don't feel confident. They will probably try to tell you there's no need to feel that way. They try to compensate. That is not the cure for anxiety. Chat is not a verified therapist indeed, but it will be able to write you a reframe and bring clarity to you. Once you understand why you feel that way you can let go. I challenge you to try it 😉
/r/seduction04/05/26 12:40 PM
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Test it and see if it works for you. Also if you notice a girl is in a hurry or just doesn't feel it just leave.
/r/seduction04/05/26 12:31 PM
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I don't mind you thinking about it that way. In my openion it's good if someone wants to develop and fix their problems. It can be hard to identify the root and Chat gpt can help with that. That is all i'm saying.
/r/seduction04/05/26 12:29 PM
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First of all you're doing very good. Most of the people never take action. I personally think you cannot build enough comfort and interest within 30 seconds for her to give you her number. You can test with longer conversations and see what works best for you. It is all about the feeling you give her. People don't act on rationality. People act on feeling and emotion. Most people think giving a good feeling is giving a compliment. Compliments are common for her. But how can you deliver a feeling…
/r/seduction04/05/26 12:10 PM
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It worked for me. I cannot predict what chat gpt tells other people but i can say it definetly helped me identify my own problems and it provided me reframes that put everything in a perspective that changed me.
/r/seduction04/05/26 11:59 AM
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To take action you need confidence. If you lack confidence you need to fix that first. You cannot fix it without a honest view on it and that is why i posted this.
/r/seduction04/05/26 11:58 AM
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Most of the time the internal beliefs people have are also not reality. If Chat gpt can understand what you need to feel confident or fix other problems and provide it to you for free, why not take it?
/r/seduction04/05/26 11:55 AM
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There must be a place where you can post it anonymously and it doesn't get shut down
/r/seduction16/04/26 02:05 PM
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How about google drive? You can upload it to a file and post the link if the file
/r/seduction16/04/26 01:54 PM
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What is good about this mindset is that it puts you into self improvement mode. What is bad is that it makes you passive in situations. In my openion it's best to do both. Start improving yourself and after that you can take action.
/r/seduction16/04/26 09:25 AM
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I think the reason most of the nice guys become manipulative is because they've lived on the opposite for a long time. It feels like you have no control over something you should have control over. Once you find the problem and be able to control it you're happy and want to keep that control. But that still comes from insecurity from within. The problem is not solved in that chase.
/r/seduction16/04/26 07:54 AM
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I want you to know everything is learnable. It'll take time and you will have to confront yourself with stuff you never knew was in the way for you getting laid. I'd recommend you to start reading books about seduction, Learn the theory and start practicing.
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:18 AM
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If you wait too long taking action with her, her self esteem will drop and she will get dick somewhere else to raise her self esteem again. The thing is, I was already taking turns with another (attractive) girl. So when I finished my set I didn't know who to let use the machine next. You're falling into a moral trap there. Did you realise it could bring up your attractiveness to both if they know the other is chasing you?
/r/seduction15/04/26 08:02 AM
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First of all you are not living in abundance. That is what drives your neediness and that is what kills the attraction 90% of the times. also a woman will never want to be responsible for sex. This means you have to take the responsability. Also you cannot mention it, but you have to create every crucial factor for the woman to have sex with you. (after you created attraction and comfort for long enough). Will you be able to do that?
/r/seduction15/04/26 07:12 AM
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What you actually are saying is: "I'm not commited enough to put work into it and my ego is too high to make this conclusion". If you think it's easy and you don't want to change anything in your live just go back to your room and jerk off like the rest of the losers do.
/r/seduction15/04/26 07:05 AM
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I agree with you. I just wanted to share the core of the problem and the book that helped/helps me a lot with fixing it for myself.
/r/seduction09/04/26 01:00 PM
13

They're very simular. They both try to exchange things for love. They both don't believe that they on their own are enough and deserving of love. But i'm just talking out of my own experience.
/r/seduction09/04/26 12:58 PM
1

Sent you a DM
/r/seduction07/04/26 01:01 PM
1

read This
/r/seduction07/04/26 09:52 AM
6

Good comment. Can i add 1 imprtant thing? When you live in a state of abundance automatically this gets easier. Living in a state of abundance doesn't mean you literally need 10 chicks who want to fuck you anytime. Just the mindset is enough to make a change in your behalvior. Innergame is hard to do because you can fake a lot in life and game, but not the way you feel. You cannot fake it but you can change it.
/r/seduction07/04/26 09:50 AM
1

There is no problem. Nobody naturally knows how to do stuff. We all try and learn. The point for you is probably becoming confident. Innergame is really important.
/r/seduction07/04/26 09:37 AM
1

Most problems start when guys don't follow the phases of seduction. Attraction -> connection -> seduction She needs to be attracted to you first because if she's not the flirting will not make her attracted. It will show neediness and that will kill all attraction. As you say you have acces to a lot of women to talk to. If you can get one of the attractive girls attracted to you, You can get almost all of them because of pre-selection. You can do this brother!
/r/seduction07/04/26 07:56 AM
6

Demonstrating lower value. It is something you do that tells a girl you're low value.
/r/seduction03/04/26 12:10 PM
1

That is true. Most of the time when you cross a line you can make it up by apolagizing but still you want to try to not pass the line.
/r/seduction03/04/26 12:10 PM
1

Don't worry about getting canceled. Just try not to say stuff like that anymore. There are other ways to pass tests way better and lose no attraction. The damage depends more on the situation you were in. Maybe you can give more context in the post. What did you reply on or what was happening? What is your relation to the girl you said this to. What is your relation to the target?
/r/seduction03/04/26 12:08 PM
4

Its not really that black and white, but yes it's a DLV. I don't know what the situation was but you were reactive wich is a DLV and shows low confidence.
/r/seduction03/04/26 11:14 AM
2

The trick to do this is about having more and better options then the girl you like now. Also don't be outcome dependent.
/r/seduction02/04/26 07:29 AM
3

My game mentor learned me this: Keep prolonged eye contact. this shows you're not affected by a women's beauty. Keep non needy bodylanguage (keep torso and feet not pointing at her). This shows you are not all over her and not needy for her attention Keep dominant bodylanguage. This shows confidence and dominance. If you do all of this the right way and continiously it'll have a special type of pre-selection. It will tell her you get attention from girls more beautiful then her. This works reall…
/r/seduction31/03/26 01:03 PM
1

exactly that is what i think i'm going to do.
/r/seduction27/03/26 11:40 AM
0

Is that ethically seen acceptable?
/r/seduction27/03/26 11:36 AM
2

Thanks. I'm going to let it go. Do you think i should tell her? I already tried to slowly stop interacting but she will reach out to me everytime.
/r/seduction27/03/26 09:14 AM
4

I was thinking maybe i could be honest to her and then she could decide if she wanted to try it with me. In that story there will be a moment where i am going to have to turn her down. if i stop interacting i'm also turning her down but not verbally.
/r/seduction27/03/26 09:13 AM
2

Doesn't sound like there is any attraction. just connection wich leads to friendzone.
/r/seduction26/03/26 10:38 AM
1

It's your choice
/r/seduction25/03/26 01:55 PM
10

Do you realise you're catching feelings for someone you will never be with in real life? It's way more beneficial for you to go for someone in your city probably as or more gorgious.
/r/seduction25/03/26 01:30 PM
1

Not a good idea while in friendzone man.
/r/seduction25/03/26 12:00 PM
1

Yes i think you're friendzoned. It is hard to get out of the friendzone. Really hard. You almost have to be manipulative to get out. Depends on what intensity of physical contact and how frequent and if she accepts. You can send message. Just don't give her too much of your time and don't give her the oppertunity to let you down. What i mean by that is, when you ask a question that requires her input or investment, she might let it down and it'll devalue you. questions like: Do you want to go ou…
/r/seduction25/03/26 11:31 AM
2

You did good until the date i think. She took the lead when you actually had to. You looked at this as "initiative", but leadership is actually one of the things girls like. When you do not show it she thinks you don't take the lead. She obviously knew you liked her, and she liked you too, but because you did not communicate clear what you wanted she perceived that as low confidence. Also not taking the lead shows low confidence. With this your value dropped for her and that is why she is not re…
/r/seduction25/03/26 10:02 AM
1

Keep in mind she is in a vulnerable position. You have to really be carefull of not scaring her off. If she feels uncomfortable it might be the end.
/r/seduction25/03/26 08:56 AM
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It's really complicated. There are also multiple ways to look at it. If you want to learn it and know how this works start at mystery method and after that dig deeper in topics you like.
/r/seduction23/03/26 11:30 AM
1

That is WAY too short. There was no connection. That is the problem.
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:24 AM
-2

social status is a part of status. status is buildup from multiple area's in life. social status has nothing to do with your job. Calling it made up nonsense is a limiting belief. You clearly don't understand the way this works. I can explain it to you but you have to be open for other perceptions.
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:23 AM
1

How long did the comfort stage take? That might be the problem. If you go too fast through comfort stage she might het buyers remorse.
/r/seduction23/03/26 10:09 AM
0

There is a foundation every girl has. They're all hardwired the same way. Some of them developed different and you have to tap into that first. You now know when there is trauma in a certain topic, you have to be carefull for that. Otherwise it will backfire.
/r/seduction23/03/26 09:13 AM
1

Don't walk, RUN! (joking) Maybe it's better to just move on man. Ususally when there's this much drama about nothing it'll not be better in relation.
/r/seduction20/03/26 02:38 PM
10

Then become him man. You have all the recourses to do it and become him. Just take the action.
/r/seduction20/03/26 01:58 PM
2

You already mentioned a few bad "habits" you have. Try to fix the root of the problem. Ask yourself some questions. Why are you a people pleaser? Why am I taking myself so serious? Once you answer some of the questions you have for yourself try to understand your behalvior, you can let go the emotional blockade. Also mindset is very important. You have to have a positive and powerfull mindset. You can find reframe's online but also develop your own that works for you. This process might be exhau…
/r/seduction20/03/26 01:43 PM
2

You don't have to be someone else. In fact: You have to be yourself more!
/r/seduction20/03/26 12:56 PM
1

You could've tried to schedule later? Maybe she was busy doing her masters for real. Improvement comes from reflection and take that knowledge with you next time.
/r/seduction20/03/26 12:34 PM
11

It's not about the dancing. It's about the confidence and the fun
/r/seduction20/03/26 12:28 PM
2

It's all about the process bro. It's a skill you have to give time to learn just like any other skill. You tried and that is more then 99% of the guys do. We all fumble. Also be happy that you learned from it. Take the stuff you learned and go on.
/r/seduction20/03/26 09:36 AM
2

Unless you seriously misbehalved i'd say this is not because of you. It's hard to tell what is wrong. Maybe she's crazy or something. that is also possible. I think it's better to move on before you burn on it.
/r/seduction20/03/26 09:12 AM
1

If you don't change anything you cannot expect your life to change. Just get out and practice. It'll help you.
/r/seduction19/03/26 10:46 AM
1

I'm currently using mystery method to get the basics and after that i can extend.
/r/seduction19/03/26 08:47 AM
1

Just practice by doing it. Both text and irl.
/r/seduction19/03/26 08:46 AM
1

It's better to learn it and not copy from rizz app. I can tell you what i know but i'm also not mastering it.
/r/seduction19/03/26 08:26 AM
1

It's not mind games. It's biology. You're the one asking what signal it was. So you did reject her?
/r/seduction19/03/26 08:20 AM
1

Those skills didn't disappear. It's just rusty. Get out and just practice and it'll come back in most chases. If not, you have to work on yourself. Just like the rest of us ;)
/r/seduction18/03/26 11:11 AM
3

Are you a complete beginner? If you are i'd recommend you to consume a little material just to start and understand. After that you can analyse your interaction and see where it went wrong. If you need to you can also do fieldrapport in this reddit and you'll get feedback from us.
/r/seduction18/03/26 10:15 AM
11

There are many ways. I found a guy who mastered it all and helps me. Thanks to him I'm learning it pretty quick. It's best to have 1 source and follow it because there is so much material out there. But it doesn't work if you follow multiple sources mixed. Eventually when you understand the way it works you can mix it because you understand how it's related to eachother.
/r/seduction18/03/26 09:37 AM
2

Depends on how good her looks are. If she looked really good she was shit testing you. you failed shit test but because of the preselection on the phone she interpreted it as you having no interest because of your option of maybe more beautiful girls. After you rejected her her self-esteem was hurt.
/r/seduction18/03/26 08:54 AM
1

I understand what you're dealing with. You're afraid to open yourself and show your intent because and you don't really know why. It feels uncomfortable. But why? No one has zero self-esteem. Maybe it's low but there are things in your life you believe you're good at. That feeling of confidence has to be there somewhere. I was there. One of the things that really helped me was change my posture. It subcontiously tells your mind: Hey, you're confident remember? Just wal chin up, chest up front, b…
/r/seduction18/03/26 08:40 AM
1

Thanks. This is indeed what I also think but i needed that confirmation from outside.
/r/seduction18/03/26 08:19 AM
1

So how do you look at it? Do you think they were lucky or is this the standard?
/r/seduction17/03/26 12:28 PM
2

Yeah that is right but now society decided it's weird to get out of your comfortzone at this field
/r/seduction17/03/26 10:59 AM
5

That is true you're right.
/r/seduction17/03/26 10:22 AM
2

Can you explain a little deeper? I don't really understand.
/r/seduction17/03/26 10:18 AM
2

I'm hyperfocussing on it on purpose. I want to internalise some idea's and beliefs.
/r/seduction17/03/26 09:34 AM
1

The principles still work the same way.
/r/seduction17/03/26 08:17 AM
38

I agree to this, but you need to understand a little of the game to get started.
/r/seduction16/03/26 09:17 AM
1

It's not really like that, But if this belief helps you getting laid who am I to tell you how to think instead?
/r/seduction16/03/26 08:43 AM
1

Online now!
/r/seduction16/03/26 08:33 AM
2

Field rapport is posted!
/r/seduction16/03/26 08:32 AM
1

please tell me how....
/r/seduction13/03/26 04:16 PM
2

Thanks man, I really hope this goes well. She explicitly told me her friends were hot lol. She was like "Let's go out with your friends and my hot friends"
/r/seduction13/03/26 04:14 PM
1

i'll give field report when it happened. I'm going to meet them in 3 hours. (it's 5 in the afternoon here)
/r/seduction13/03/26 03:43 PM
2

Thanks for the advice! I was already thinking about escalation and how I should do that right.
/r/seduction13/03/26 03:30 PM
1

Yeah that is a good one. I heard if you lead the men in the group, you also lead the women wich both is DHV
/r/seduction13/03/26 12:45 PM
1

Good advice! Thanks.
/r/seduction13/03/26 12:45 PM
5

They're all hot. I have seen a picture and they all look good.
/r/seduction13/03/26 11:43 AM
3

Did you have a plan?
/r/seduction13/03/26 11:42 AM
1

I'll be able to handle it. i've seen a picture and there is no fridge. they're all hot. I can just be nice to the fridge because i'm not approaching. I'm already hooked so that is good.
/r/seduction13/03/26 11:42 AM
5

I just want to fuck one of them. hopefully a hot one
/r/seduction13/03/26 10:25 AM
1

yeah but now she will refuse earlier because she can choose out of a lot of men
/r/seduction12/03/26 02:16 PM
1

I personally think internet is one of the reasons people are having less sex. before internet the value was mutual because we all had the same amount of options. No porn. Internet fucked up the "market". Now any girl can always find a guy that will like her and that increases her market value. That makes it harder to do game irl (my openion)
/r/seduction12/03/26 11:24 AM
1

It's not really a skill you can learn. You can optimize your profile and hope you get liked in the sea of men girls can choose from.
/r/seduction11/03/26 08:25 AM
1

I understand your trauma, but the only way to overcome it is by experience that it is possible. You will always find proof of what you believe so try to get a positive en good mindset.
/r/seduction10/03/26 11:53 AM
2

Hot woman also are just human who want connection. The fact that they look good doesn't mean they have more value. Did you talk to her?
/r/seduction10/03/26 10:28 AM
2

It's clear she had interest. It's akward if you make it akward. Just be confident about it. It would've been easier if you did it back then, but that is not usefull now ;). You can always shoot your shot. If she responds good will depend on a few things: Does she remember you? Does she have a family now? Is she open to a fwb?
/r/seduction10/03/26 09:43 AM
2

Yeah just message her. Maybe point out that it's a little weird but you kept thinking about it.
/r/seduction10/03/26 09:18 AM
2

What is your goal with her? There is nothing to lose at this point so you can add her.
/r/seduction10/03/26 09:15 AM
2

I look at the friends as obstacles you can disarm by befriend them. If you start talking to them and vibing with them they will definetly not be bothered when you take their friend.
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:46 PM
0

It takes longer and also you probably still passed all the phases.
/r/seduction09/03/26 10:08 AM
1

The model is timeless. It's based on the psychology of women. It's foundation of game. Most of the time when you struggle with game read m3 model and it'll clearify what is going wrong
/r/seduction09/03/26 10:06 AM
1

I can tell you are not happy with how things are going right now. The only advice i can give is: start working on yourself. Sign up at a gym and start working out because the body and the mind are connected. It will make you feel better. You are the only person that is able to change your life. If you want your life to change in a positive way focus on that. Change your mindset to a positive mindset and you will be unstoppable.
/r/seduction09/03/26 09:05 AM
3

How many approaches do you do in one night? Do you stay long with a girl or do you just ask something and go on?
/r/seduction09/03/26 08:38 AM
1

I can give you the pdf or you can look it up for free. send me private message if you want from me.
/r/seduction09/03/26 08:20 AM
1

I think mystery method is just good to read for everyone because it has good principles in it like DHV and Congruence test and the structure of game. It prevents a lot of mistakes. Also the model is timeless.
/r/seduction06/03/26 02:37 PM
5

That is not exaclty what it's about. It's process over outcome always. You can find a free to download pdf of everything. I look at it as the foundation of game and attraction.
/r/seduction06/03/26 02:27 PM
1

That is true. I also read a lot of stories on reddit where guys do nice guy stuff and expect the woman to become attracted. That is why i posted this.
/r/seduction06/03/26 02:21 PM
1

Don't you think it is also important to be confident about yourself as a person? It's good to believe you are the prise. i know it is a trend to look at status as value but it's not the same. Maybe the missing piece you're searching for is confidence about yourself and not the value you think you get from having money?
/r/seduction06/03/26 08:23 AM
3

It shure is! This is a powerfull believe because it is the foundation of confidence.
/r/seduction05/03/26 01:03 PM
1

Very good post!
/r/seduction05/03/26 12:52 PM
1

I only meant to say, If you act like you want a long term relationship she thinks you want a long term relationship and then you will hurt her. Just be clear about your intentions when she asks for it.
/r/seduction05/03/26 11:58 AM
2

It is best to just avoid unless a girl asks about it.
/r/seduction04/03/26 02:21 PM
7

You have to manage someones expectations the right way or they will be hurt. If she's trying to find out if you casual or a long term relationshit she will also filter. Just be honest about that.
/r/seduction04/03/26 01:57 PM
18

I think it is better to only be clear when she specifically asks about it. I don't know if she did that. Now it seems like there was a vibe and it was ruined by saying that.
/r/seduction04/03/26 01:46 PM
7

Sounds like something happened. Is this about a situation you were in?
/r/seduction04/03/26 01:36 PM
2

She is testing if you get stressed by her saying that. She wants / wanted to see if you care that she might put you in friendzone. If you care too much she will interpret it as if you have no other options. However, if you stayed cool and react confident it will raise your value.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:36 PM
1

She's actually testing you to see if you're needy or not.
/r/seduction03/03/26 10:53 AM
0

60% of the approaches is initiated by women.
/r/seduction03/03/26 08:24 AM
1

women don't care about looks. It helps with confidence and other things mentally for yourself.
/r/seduction02/03/26 01:05 PM
3

Your body and mind are connected in a way. It doesn't matter what mental state your in, your body will align to it with bodylanguage. It also works the other way around. Whenever you feel bad put your chest out, chin up. You'll feel a change and it will take less then 2 minutes for you mind to align with your body. At first it will feel a little strange but if you know this and use this trick, you'll be able to control your state anytime anywhere.
/r/seduction02/03/26 11:53 AM
3

First question i ask you is: What makes you think she has high interest? My second question is: What phases of seduction did you pass? Did you do it the right way? I think you make a mistake by thinking interest and attraction is the same thing. It is actually different. Also there might be a chance she interprets not getting her socials as low value.
/r/seduction02/03/26 11:46 AM
2

could be anything honestly. maybe she lost interest because you did not take action. Maybe her ASD went off. might be something else, it depends on the details. There is nothing wrong with texting in general. You're chasing when you are more available then she is in my eyes.
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