Feel like I'm mentally blocked

ControlGood8979 · 2026-06-02T07:52:14+00:00

That was heavy. I don't know what to say.

I crashed my car seriously a decade ago. The first thing the doctor said was to get into a car and drive again asap or I would have great difficulty driving again.

I took his advice. It wasn't easy doing so.

Later on I understood why I needed to do this because the trauma came later but didn't prevent me from driving.

When I was 17, 18 or 19 neither I or none of my friends even thought of mental health.

I played my guitar, girls liked that and life was good. Different times.

vertascend · 2026-06-02T07:58:33+00:00

Buddy; it’s the generation, no offense, social media has ruined it; depression is at an all time high, there’s so many things messed up and people aren’t willing to work on themselves if takes longer that one minute to improve the person they are…. You have to slowly chip away at it till you find yourself, I was the same, went through similar situations during Covid, got heartbroken and immersed in toxicity, I blamed myself; but I realized that that’s what people do no blame others to make themselves not feel guilty so I spent time finding myself, I became good at pulling, and haven’t had a girlfriend since; I’m ready for one but I know myself enough to know now that the right one hasn’t crossed my path yet… so stay in there…. Work on it chip away bit by bit …. It’ll happen

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-02T07:46:30+00:00

You are partially on the way there. Right now you're blaming her, yourself, and "relationships".

Blaming yourself is good to some extent = that is where the learning happens. Overlooking her red flags and coming to grips with your neediness.

Blaming her is also fine = she had problematic behaviors and treated you poorly in certain ways.

Blaming relationships as a concept = this is where you still have some healing to do. It makes no sense to blame "relationships" as being inherently problematic.

One relationship is not equal to others. Even if you are the same person, you will be with a different woman that is completely different from the first (at least if you learned your lessons from the first relationship).

I understand it's uncomfortable to imagine trying a relationship again, but that discomfort is exactly what you have to break through in order to experience relationships that are different. Retrain your mind to understand healthy relationships not only exist, but are also possible for YOU. It's normal to be scared when the first relationship flops badly. But you get back out there and try again. This time with a different understanding and mindset.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-06-02T09:56:57+00:00

You can't solve it mentally, it's not a mental issue - if you could choose to stop thinking about it, you would.

If you put your hand in a fire, it burns. If I tell you to do it again, you hesitate. If I really push you to do it, you would be physically 'bracing' for the pain before it occurs. That's 'trauma'.

People walk around 'bracing for impact' continually. Often it's so chronic that they're perpetually tense, stifled, can't focus, etc. ("the loser effect") but people can note a problem with "x" situation. That specific situation is what you're 'bracing' towards due to the pain of negative feedback - hence, "feeling of resistance". It's an unconscious, conditioned response towards 'the burn of the fire', perceived negative consequences.

In this situation, obviously, you're not putting your hand in fire - you're 'bracing' towards pain that isn't necessarily there. Your body feels danger, your mind (ego) becomes active and tries to 'fix' it. Most of the time, there isn't anything to 'fix' or control, it's not about managing the external environment, it's about correcting your internal sense of 'safety' and 'comfort' fundamentally by remaining relaxed (Loose jaw, neck, chest, shoulders, gut) throughout all of these situations.

It's not an immediate fix because it's based around conditioning and habit. When your natural 'autopilot' response is to remain relaxed to this type of situation, is it a problem any more?

If you want more information, you can look into 'Somatic Healing', 'Muscular Armouring', 'Bioenergetics', 'Letting Go by David Hawkins', but that's my general overview.

*not a therapist

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-06-02T15:48:52+00:00

David Hawkins letting go. Likely need to let go of the dense trauma energy inside you from this. It’s a spiritual thing but it’s actually practical and works

futur3isnow · 2026-06-20T15:54:06+00:00

This happened to a friend of mine also. Let me guess: She did nothing to herself when you wriggled free of her emotional blackmail?

Title	Feel like I'm mentally blocked
Author	Terrible_Assist_1345
Upvotes	4
Comments	28
Date	June 2, 2026 7:42 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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